4 Things: Ex Husband is in his Find Out Season, Man texts list to woman on how to improve, and more

[@monikapp3981]

Story #2 : If a man doesn't stop when you tell him to stop ...RUN !

[@TiondaRae]

Right. It’s basically SA.

[@xletragedyx]

I learned that the hard way. I ended up dating him for over a year, moved in with him...I ended up having a friend help me move out while he was at work.

[@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066]

​@@TiondaRae It's absolutely SA!!!

[@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066]

And if he tells you "don't tell me to stop" then he's just a straight up grapest!!!

[@user-yup-you-are-human2]

@@xletragedyx sorry you went through that ❤ i hope things are better now. Glad that friend helped you move out

[@charliebslilgurl1132]

Welp. I understand why the 35yrs old man is not dating within his age group. That was disgusting

[@claudettedawes6703]

utterly disgusting and disrespectful. no concerns regarding pain just sees her as a sex doll to perform his pleasure and then brag to his male friends about taking her v card and turning her into a p star.

[@leehalloway8787]

Women in his age group would have laughed in his face and blocked him.

[@charliebslilgurl1132]

@@leehalloway8787 bingo

[@IvyNV50]

He was blockt one too many times so he went to find a young one he can groom…..the ICK of it all🤢

[@janjanl1812]

He’s so bad at smegg that woman of his age will go 🤮 Young ladies don’t have the experience to know bad smegg as what it is and have no idea that bad smegg can be deal breakers.

[@lemoncholyme]

Men tell women to "make noise and moan louder" and then complain that women fake it.

[@AmberColeman-gq1wn]

They don’t care if she’s faking or even enjoys it.

[@angelag6667]

The ones wanting all that noise are the dirty flick watchers. They usually only have the films and their hands, so when they're actually with a live woman, they can't function properly without the sound effects. 😂

[@melchiorlise2466]

I didn't understand in the beginning but now I understand men want us to lie to them. But they also demand the respect and dignity that cannot coexist with us treating them like children.

[@fortyshorty2459]

Omg yes yuck 🤢 🤕

[@monikapp3981]

@@melchiorlise2466 yes , they act like children who mess up doing the laundry (weaponized incompetence) and then demand RESPECT lmao

[@Hopdog230]

35 yr old dating a 20 year old old is a red flag. And you can tell he watches corn. He doesn’t care about her wants and needs. Dump him now and date someone your own age. This man is trouble.

[@May-nt3ow]

There are jerks like that in her own age group too.

[@breezluize3282]

Let's start turning red flags into stop signs already.

[@JB-bl6qo]

Please omg

[@AmberColeman-gq1wn]

Amen. Enough already. As upset as I am that men are seriously like this, I find myself more aggravated by the women who put themselves through this mess over and over and over again.

[@sonja4164]

​@AmberColeman-gq1wn women have been conditioned in a patriarchal system. It's going to take time for a mass awakening.

[@Tigerlily_Fresh]

Like yesterday!

[@mrens2024]

THIS!!!!

[@monicasalyer8875]

Second story: Dude's a predator. OP needs to get checked for STDs AND pregnancy.

[@Tigerlily_Fresh]

Yes and I hope it comes back clean.

[@AmberColeman-gq1wn]

And he will definitely deny that pregnancy as well. Men like him use a woman ‘s “consent” against her and will even shame you. Shame you for their perversion

[@dawndreamweaver8373]

💯 His “list” describes elements of coercive grape. Predator!!! Hope that poor girl gets tested, gets therapy for the SA she endured, and finds a safe man that deserves her and actually cares about her safety and pleasure. 🙏

[@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066]

@@dawndreamweaver8373 exactly! He's a grapest! Doesn't like her , let alone love her!

[@kgs2280]

In story #2, the guy was probably excited that he was “breaking in a virgin” because (bad) men love the idea of “getting there first”, then he complains that she wasn’t like a pro at it. WTF? That poor girl. Run for the hills, GF!

[@trichmomma]

The milk incident: the "nice guys" are watching, filming, and laughing. That is why i dont believe in "nice guys", they are cowards. Trust no man.

[@TheCakeIsALie-1]

Self proclaimed "nice guys" bullied me in Highschool.

[@OGfromQueens]

Sometimes the nice guy is the one pouring the milk over our heads!!

[@fantym1633]

The guys standing around laughing, filming or just ignoring it are exactly why it IS ALL hems

[@ElizabethGeiger-ye1sf]

They have no integrity

[@jsChelimo]

💯. I also don't entertain 'not all' nonsense because it is all of them

[@lmn1516]

Wow. What a charmer that 2nd one is 🙄. He's trying to train his own little cornstar.

[@queenreg7]

Wow. Let that 2nd guy GO! He’s a creeper.

[@valned3776]

Groomer

[@rn2787]

That poor girl got drug into bed with a psyco. Sex is supposed to be about fun and pleasure for both people. If they aren't enjoying it and they don't finish at all, but you finish and enjoy it than there's a big problem and it's probably you.

[@Thekimmooreshow]

He's doing it to break her confidence. That way he can cheat on her and she'll blame herself for it

[@rn2787]

@thekimmooreshow I wish we could hug and help this poor girl. It's really hard to hear this stuff sometimes. If she turns to religion they'll tell her it's her fault and sadly many of the people in her life would too. It's not her fault that he's a manipulative monster. I hope she heals from this. I hope she knows that she deserves better and that sex can be good when the other person is a good person.

[@brandy4530]

Why isn’t the jug of milk guy being charged with assault? He is on video doing this.

[@heathervidal3206]

It could have been acid 😮

[@islandgirl8067]

1st story, Why does she care about hurting his feelings? He didn’t care about hers. 2nd story is why XYs want much younger inexperienced women. 4th story, BW, please stop caping for these demons. Let them get their karma.

[@kyaos_Meteor]

Oh its a thing in hispanic/latino culture the women would often coddle and service the men while the women were tossed aside and expected to grow up without any complaint whether or not they get unconditional support (I should know I lived through it and seen it first hand) they'll get disrespected,berated,neglected but still stay in the marriage out of loyalty ever seen the George Lopez special on Netflix? he talks about it in a funny way (obviously because he's a comedian) but when you really listen to him,you realize how he's telling the truth and it's ingrained into us (thankfully ladies all over are waking up and realize they can do better and deserve better)

[@islandgirl8067]

@@kyaos_Meteor Wow, thanks for this informative comment. 😮

[@kyaos_Meteor]

​​​​@@islandgirl8067 No problem ive seen it all the time growing up since i lived in the poorer/ghetto neighborhoods because thats all we could afford and almost always the men would face zero repercussion but thankfully i do have some women in my life that refuse to put up with it because of how educated they are they had children and families yes but they are highly respected figures so that im grateful for.

[@kgs2280]

I love your term “their wife appliance”.

[@Vanessa-ii7cc]

A 35 with a 20 old is pdo. Sorry not sorry.

[@maenad1231]

No way it’s Pdo. Predatory? I can understand that argument but Pdo? No.

[@susanplatt5331]

​@maenad1231 he'd go younger if it was legal. Most men would. Law's of consent were invented because of most male's like of children.

[@Vanessa-ii7cc]

​@@maenad1231 a 20yo is legal, but barelly an adult. To me, yes, is pdo. At legal age.

[@stolenart9290]

​@@susanplatt5331 I don't know why people refuse to accept this simple fact.

[@shaypope4732]

It really is disgusting

[@Bri-q2k]

The second guy is a predator. I hate that she made her feel that way. He was grooming her to be a victim. Guaranteed he has small package. Poor lady. She's gonna hate him.

[@xletragedyx]

He's awful. Everyone knows the first time is uncomfortable and painful. Mine was with a random frat guy and even he said "if I'd known it was your first time, I would have gone slower and make sure you were okay"

[@janjanl1812]

Small and weak package that goes limp when “the mood is ruined” 😂

[@Bri-q2k]

@@janjanl1812 Accurate!!!

[@vayas09]

That poor woman. This is so enraging. And of course, not a single man passing by gave a shit, but they want us to have sympathy for them.

[@fantym1633]

"... they want us to have sympathy for them." Let them find sympathy somewhere between 💩 & sys Phyllis in the dictionary - I'm all out

[@inprogress5210]

1st story He only regrets because he found out the grass isn't greener on the other side. 2nd story He's a predator. He's just using her. 3rd I call them empty bottle friends. They're only friends until the bottles are empty. They never truly build friendships and they use women as their therapists. 4th story Absolutely disgusting, these men are so evil and they wonder why we choose the 🐻

[@passionliving]

These menfolk are perfectly fine with a woman's misery - as long as she does whatever makes HIM happy. In the first scenario - that husband did what he wanted, including cheating on her. Now he is suffering the consequences. Leave him to his own devices. The second scenario sounds like an extremely dangerous scenario. The 35 year old chose her because she had No experience. Now he feels he can shame her into doing whatever HE wants as an expectation of what it is to be intimate. If that young Lady stays with him - she will never discover that her OWN needs, comfort and pleasure is just as important. Get out and wait to enter another relationship. Men will claim that she no longer has a reason to say "no" since she has now been intimate. Be safe Ladies.

[@MayDay-yn3bw]

You nailed it

[@Butterscotch550]

Why should the victim be ashamed? The problem is we never shame the perpetrator in this community.

[@greenytaddict]

Whoever is working on the segs bots needs to hurry up and refine them. These menz out here wilding!

[@Liz-wz8dh]

Yes, please. It would save so many of us from having to deal with them.

[@DearDivorcee]

They won’t enjoy them they’re not real 😂

[@stephe1506]

Where do I donate to the research program, for the sake of humanity 😂

[@Tigerlily_Fresh]

​@@stephe1506 You ain't lying!

[@daughterofyemoja]

That won't help, it will only further dehumanise women. These men will eventually want to do everything sick thing they do to those robots to actual women and girls.

[@KenniseL]

Of course 1st man misses his own life.... because she did everything.

[@niax782]

#2 has me speechless. I’m disgusted. Major ICK. WTF 😤

[@FunkyLittlePoptart]

#5 on that list scared the crap out of me. That girl stays, next time he's not gonna stop, and she's going to find out what the R word means. He's not only gross, he's dangerous. Run, girl! Run!

[@Cynophileandavianenthusiast]

#6....let him do what he wants. They love those submissives.

[@toscadonna]

Guy #1 was cheating the whole time and thought he’d get away with treating her like a slave for life. Guy #2 is a card carrying member of Future SerialKillers of America club. Guy #3 is so hateful that nobody wants to be his friend or lover.

[@MelissaThompson432]

The milk woman has no reason to be embarrassed. She wasn't wearing milk because she _deserved_ to be wearing milk; no, she was assaulted with dairy products. HE should feel embarrassed.

[@cocoace7587]

If she would've turned around & poked him or pow powed him , that's self-defense. 😢 # Ladies plzzzzz protect yourselves # fight back ❤

[@kgs2280]

All I could think when I saw the photo of the man dumping his drink on that woman’s head was too bad she didn’t take martial arts classes, because he left his whole body open to get hurt, especially his ribs. A punch or a kick to his ribs or even the side of his knee, or the side of his head or face, could have taken him down. Yeah, I know that kind of thinking comes up in your mind after taking martial arts classes. A guy I once worked with thought it would be “funny” to shove ice down the back of my shirt. He was in front of me, facing me, and as I was reaching toward his hand behind my head, my training kicked in, and I brought my fist forward and down onto his nose. And, no, he couldn’t have gotten me in trouble because he was off the clock and drunk and he came behind the bar (I was the bartender) to get me, and as he was kitchen staff he should not have come behind the bar at all. He was lucky I didn’t break his nose because I knew when to stop the punch. But he never bothered me again. I highly recommend martial arts classes to all young women, preferably starting when they’re still young girls. Especially now when they think they can easily get away with this s**t.

[@t.happycake4906]

9:25 the young lady that shared the texts after losing her virginity was triggering. I hope she leaves his selfish a$$!!! He is a horrible human being.

[@ijustneedausername6742]

I said this in another post the other day somewhere, but I will say it here: you can get a free Google Voice phone number. Create an email address with as little information connected to you as possible, and then, if somebody approaches you for a number and you don’t feel comfortable declining, you have this phone number. It will ring to your phone, and if they decide to stalk you, it will be harder to track your information down since it’s not connected to a phone plan

[@joanhall9381]

Guy with "no good friends" needs to choose better.

[@Medial-branch-block]

Number 2 needs to send back a text on what he did wrong too. Constructive feedback is a two way street

[@ethereal3333]

She needs to leave immediately

[@ShineOnBenevolentSun]

"Learn the alphabet. I come before U"

[@carlahaiduk1878]

If you think that is normal decent communication I fear for you

[@blkberrymolasses]

She has no experience therefore she doesn't know what to critique him on

[@DanaAgenbroad-pw4zw]

Text that list of what he needs to improve on, then block and drop. I found a sweet guy for my first experience, TG!

[@aprilfox9205]

That 2nd guy....I threw up in my mouth a little...🤢

[@Liz-wz8dh]

Second guy is a control freak. It's NOT good to continue to date guys who critique your performance like that. It should be a conversation that BOTH parties have, not a LIST that a guy sends you. That just says SO much about his personality.

[@Xena395]

Story #2 wants a saint with experience, you can’t win with these men. I was told I was difficult for what I’m offering, aka I’m 34 I shouldn’t require a man to work for me, to put forth any effort. I should be accessible to men for them to treat me like a lady of the night.

[@janerecluse4344]

Y'all make me gladder and gladder to be gay.

[@multicrafter639]

The only reason he poured milk was because that was what he had at hand. I guarantee if he'd had something more dangerous, he would have used it. I'm glad she's okay. #TeamBear

[@continuousself-improvement1879]

Pouring milk seems like an "innocent" prank, until you consider her possibilities: she could be going to a job interview, a parent teacher meeting, the doctor, any kind of errand. And she could be living far away that to get back home in her soggy state might require taking public transport➡️ it would be uncomfortable and humiliating to take the bus, but she would be rejected from taxis and ubers because she would make the car dirty. 🙍🏿‍♂️Choose better ➡️ 👩🏾 I choose not to date YOU ➡️🙍🏿‍♂️ gets angry and harms the woman ➡️ 4B (how is this hard to understand???)

[@sheelfjohnson]

It's still assault.

[@justliza4eva]

35 year old is trying to groom the 20 year old and does not even know how to do it himself! Being her first, he should have shown her so much passion that she would have lost her mind in bliss! Red flag galore.

[@cocoace7587]

Exactly. He's inexperienced & tried to put all of the blame on her . He didn't know how to " heat " things up , so how was she supposed to know ? 😂🎉

[@stefaniebraun3319]

Two virgins and one of them used corn as an instruction manual ...

[@JusRaeDae]

Story #2 was so triggering. I’m recovering from a 14 year age gap relationship that nearly ruined me

[@TheePrincessBrat]

I feel you. These kind of stories were really triggering for me (the age diff was ~18yrs). I’m better now. Thank god I believe in therapy, or I wouldn’t have made it. But to this day, I still can’t watch Law & Order SVU, and I really loved that show. One episode, during my title ix case no less, had a suspect that looked JUST like the professor. Similar situations. Yeah…that’s the last episode I can remember watching 😂. Stuff like that could send me in a downward spiral for a week. Idk why people use exceptions to vehemently defend a grown azz adult pursuing a child/young adult. If they truly saw you as a peer, they’d take advice from you, and would probably have purely platonic friendships with people your age…but they don’t. Like we’re really saying the HUGE risk of trauma is worth someone’s 🍆 and ego feeling good. Quite patriarchal

[@getreworkd]

8:54 when you read the list I literally had shivers in my shine. I feel like some of these Segg stories have just been so uncomfortable and scary honestly. I’m glad they are sharing and they you are too, we have to keep repeating to these ladies not to deal with this. If he could do this on her “first night” and say “don’t say stop” I can’t even imagine.

[@Rogue-bt4wp]

What the hell is going on with black men in NYC?

[@Iknowwhatiknow-r9e]

and Florida too.

[@beautyininsanity421]

They've always been over-the-top aggressive in NYC, but it looks like they've gotten worse.

[@Rogue-bt4wp]

@@beautyininsanity421 yea I live minutes away from NYC..and I've had the "I didn't like you anyway you ugly b****" but never been physically harmed. Or had things thrown at me. And that is me hanging out there in the mid 90s and early 2000s. I stopped hanging out there cuz I hate being in big crowds and I feel claustrophobic.

[@fantym1633]

I agree with the guy with the lil sign. It IS time and past time. It could very easily have been something exceedingly harmful or infected bodily fluid.

[@bellavega8048]

In every state

[@louhortonsculpture]

Omg I hate that poor woman had milk dumped on her. If it was a hot day and she’s far from home -omg so gross.

[@luesbabygirl]

some men are not worthy of being with *any* woman. but u can never tell just by looking at them which are which! sometimes, even after talking to them u don't know. it takes TIME and exposure in all kinds of circumstances to see who a person really is. jmo

[@TheePrincessBrat]

It’s gonna hurt when she realizes she had her first time with a predator. This could’ve been me, cause I used to think there’s nothing wrong with being with an older man in my early 20s. When I realized how predatory and exploitative it is, my mind was blown. Now it’s kind of a trigger, but its gotten better. The bs about them being better in bed is just that, BS. You have nothing to compare it to. They can be mediocre with a young girl because they can get away with it. Or they can try to be impressive for their own ego and gratification. It’s gross to promote girls having their first xesual experiences with older, ran through men 🤮 I tried initially with a 31 yo and he _literally_ just tried to shove it in! It was painful and I just shut it down. He didn’t ask if I was okay or anything, but was grossed out by the little bit of blood 😐😑. He likes the stupid fantasy about virgins but not the reality. His squeamishness and being bad at LITERALLY EVERYTHING, made me cut him off. I could give him clear directions and he’d still find a way to do it “his way” (read: bad). My standards *shot up* after him and he was the last older man I wasted my energy on. And I got off the apps 😂 🥂

[@May-nt3ow]

I had a 45 year old ask me out when I was 25. I told him bc I was uncomfortable with the age gap. His response was that he wasn't. Implying I shouldn't be. Later he told me he started dating a 20 year old after I said no. I really had to watch my facial expressions THAT day.

[@mapulemaake7129]

Young girls don't want to listen, how many times are we telling them stay away from old guys

[@Lotus77777]

They think older women are jealous 😂 They unfortunately will learn the hard way, in every generation.

[@mapulemaake7129]

@@Lotus77777, just wondering y must we be jealous like really because of youth. We have experience (trauma hard way experience). It break my heart when u see a young girl go in that road, easyly avoided but noooo. Such is life. Glad I stayed away from these vampires (older guys)

[@Lotus77777]

@@mapulemaake7129 you are right, it is so sad. I’m happy I avoided that as well.

[@Meganthamac]

They think old is 80 but for a man it’s any age that you yourself have not reached yet! Men are born old and pervy. They’ll find out one way or another!

[@lNoWayAroundItl]

8:50 The dude is critiquing because he doesn't want the woman know he is bad at sex. It is deeper than that, with his corn addiction expectations. But what a horrible experience to have with someone, and the partner just be such a butt.

[@gabriellemeche992]

Number 3: now I know why his 'friends' won't bother

[@nature95]

Story 1: Oh well. Story 2: RUN. FAST. FAR. NOW!!!!

[@MadamKaiju]

Story #2: he chose a person that much younger than him because he knew a woman his age would laugh in his face or decide to never talk to him again after such a selfish performance. The one with the milk: and we're blamed or told we're the ones overreacting. Meanwhile..........

[@stefaniebraun3319]

Just call the boys and girls in blue. It is assault.

[@shalgal795]

The girl in the second story needs to send the want a be Christian Grey, a blow up doll as a parting gift with a card or message we are through! Then block, delete, and loose his number. What a POS.🤨

[@Liz-wz8dh]

That would be great.

[@MissAce-tq9xu]

I wouldn’t send him sh** lmao. Would have posted his number in the comment section of cornhub. I’m sure a man or woman will reach out lol.

[@Maderlololohio]

Who has the money to splurge on it though 😂

[@moniquej369]

Women need to start making examples of these dudes. Without consequences nothing’s going to change.

[@lovelee1772]

Wait so going to JA makes you a 304? Say what?! 😂😂 That 2nd guy is a real pos and it's obvious why he's with someone 15yrs younger.

[@CS-bu7lo]

I'm from southeastern Europe, so I don't know much about Jamaica. Why is he so afraid of women going there? Are there so many handsome men or what ?!

[@itsjustmeagain5751]

I’m going to JA in Oct. guess I better start charging dudes to talk to me. I just wanted to attend a friend’s wedding.

[@gwendolynmccall211]

I’m so wore out with these horrible men!

[@HEAVENLYSONGBIRD777]

That’s 35 year old with the list was so insensitive 😮 They’re going to breakup soon! He’s disrespectful and degenerate…

[@insideAdirtyMind]

He is also delulu. Like moan and scream? He watched too much porn. I faked moans when I was younger and it was just awful. No one tells men to moan and scream.

[@cognisuns]

Sad....that girl's first time sounded horrible 😢 I hope she finds someone that cares for her needs.

[@ViraL_FootprinT.ex.e]

1:59 We live in an era where the most toxic guys in the world accuse everyone they don't like online, or in pop culture, of coming "from a fatherless home." It's their new favorite echo chambered buzzwords at the moment. It also doubles as a way to blame women for why kids turn out messed up. But I do love that she brought up how it's highly possible for one parent in a two parent household to be a complete waste of space. Some of the worst people we all know *definitely* had a father in their lives. Hence the reason they're so horrible.

[@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066]

Story #2 just made me absolutely sick to my stomach 🤢 He doesn't love her! And by that list in a TEXT??!?!? he's absolute trash!!!

[@J0knows]

Story 2 Tell him how bad it was and how he should improve block him and find a partner who isn't an AH. What a PO💩 hold off on fun times and find a better partner you deserve it.

[@ljljlj9263]

I PRAY #2 GETS OUT!!! IMMEDIATELY!! 😢

[@stoneyhighhigh3677]

*NOTICE ALL THESE REJECTION VIDEOS ARE MEN FROM N.Y.C -THE KNOCKOUT GAME -THE "POKING" OF THE TWINS -THE MILK

[@electron-Volt]

might have something to do with strict gun laws? If these ladies had a 9 mm on them and it was a stand your ground state, well very different scenario...

[@MelissaThompson432]

The guy in #2 is acting like he's adding her to his stable. I may be overthinking it; but he's not simply talking about "I like." He's talking about _"men_ like." It's just creepy. RUN. DO NOT WALK.

[@cocoace7587]

The husband had it tooooo good , he took it for granite. He had EVERY weekend off 😂 & still wasn't happy . Karma said " ok , bet." Now he has zero weekends off 😅. I guess many have forgotten # you don't ever miss YOUR water , until YOUR well runs dry .🤪 # live & learn # he won't ever make that mistake again . 😅# 2024 # FAFO 😔💅

[@Whet-wb9jt]

#2 is crazy and scary

[@patremagilbert682]

I would say run a 35 with 20 year old. Terrible.

[@YmustTh3w0rldG0r0und]

He was 15 years old when she was born.

[@EmyN]

He’s 35 with a 20 year old… enough said

[@I.am.hooked]

First story: what!!, 16 and 18!!!??😳😳 Also the religious parent thing. Why would you let your child be with a person who got her pregnant at 15!!?

[@MsVakong]

Culturally, this can be normal.

[@I.am.hooked]

@@MsVakong culture isn't always right. It's still p@edophilia, and terrible parenting. Biologically it isn't. Mental maturity is very different.

[@DanaAgenbroad-pw4zw]

Always amazes me how girls from religious families, end up having sex and pregnant at such young ages. But then, my mother only said, don't let a boy see your panties. Talking about sex was taboo. I got pregnant at 18, because taking bc meant I was planning on doing it, and that meant I was a bad girl. TG for abortion, which had just become legal. Vote for yourselves and your daughters!

[@I.am.hooked]

@@MsVakong doesn't matter. Culture isn't always right. Biology it's not okay. The mental maturity is very different between a 16 year old and an 18 year old

[@I.am.hooked]

@@DanaAgenbroad-pw4zw exactly. They are repressed and not given proper sex education. And the parents think they are " protecting" them.

[@danidiaz2377]

These men need to realize if they don’t want to be monogamous fully participating partners who do their share with out having to be asked they are going to end up in the old bitter man mojo dojo and o amount of insults will change that for them

[@nicolem2877]

Just wild.!! “Wife appliance”. What do u want for Christmas little boy? I want my own wife appliance. Everyone’s advice was true. It’s sad. The guys stay telling on themselves!

[@nobullshiit9615]

He wants hissid back. He realized how much work she was doing and he cant do them by himself.

[@Tigerlily_Fresh]

These are all disgusting, but #2 takes the cake. Where is her mother, father, grandparents to let her, at such a young age, be with an older man like that!? I need a shower after reading that! These younger, newly legal women better wake up and watch out!

[@TheePrincessBrat]

I’m assuming the absence of those figures is what’s led her to being with an older man

[@WanderlustHomebody]

And she's barely legal at that. Old enough to fight and die for her country, old enough for legal xes, but still not old enough to drink.

[@WanderlustHomebody]

And she's barely legal at that. Old enough to fight and ⚰️ for her country, old enough for legal xes, but still not old enough to drink.

[@stoogie375]

Nothing sucks more than when your authority is underminded in front of children

[@-talwer]

“Half your age + 7” is the absolute youngest i heard people should go. I hope for the best w that girl. I turned 20 myself and idc about how bad my daddy issues are or how attractive i find some older men, when THEY are attracted to ME it never feels right. Id refuse to date them at the age im at (maybe when im 25, but im still using the “half my age” rule)

[@TheePrincessBrat]

This. Even when I used to entertain it, a little part of me was concerned tbh. Then paranoia would set in like, “well does that mean he likes her too. How young would he really go…” Sooner or later those questions start swirling in my mind, and there’s no comforting answer. It never 100% sat right, but I had a lot of cognitive dissonance. I feel a lot of regret and shame for ever letting my little sister witness that. But luckily she has actually heeded my warnings and I’m so glad she learned from my trauma, instead of learning for herself. (I’d prob be posting this from prison if that happened 😂😂) I’ve heard of that rule, but why. Like I meet people in that range, and just can’t see myself taking it further. Idk how people do it and I’m still in my 20s… How are you pushing 40 and able to go that far with a 20yo? It’s weird to me. Sorry not sorry

[@melchiorlise2466]

If you like older men don't worry, you'll get to date them when you're in your thirties. Your twenties are for you, give yourself the opportunity of experiencing your youth without dealing with older adults with baggage.

[@xletragedyx]

Reading about all these awful men makes me miss my husband so much. He's away for work for another 6 weeks 😢

[@livethatlife1830]

When do adult women need a handler to go on a vacation

[@Rkld34]

Because when single men go to vacation in third world countries they sleep around and that’s why they think women to the same on girls trips, not realizing its too dangerous for women to sleep around in foreign countries. Men think by having a man follow the girls trips this will some how stop the sleeping around they imagine women engage in

[@kimleemoon]

They are so obsessed with the non-existent “passport sisters” going to Jamaica for s3x.

[@afgyhujkj4765]

There were so many times I gave out my number, or a fake one, for fear of violence from rejecting them.

[@maeberriepie]

That poor girl with the 35 year old needs more vocal aunties in her life to show her the truth. Hopefully she dips and finds someone closer to her age

[@Wednesdaywoe1975]

Second guy is a predator.

[@dionneayanna5215]

I go to Jamaica to visit my grandma tf? He seems pressed he can’t afford to go 😂😂

[@bcottony]

#1 I low-key felt like this could have been written by my ex-husband. The undermining, the entitlement, the wanting better(But never actually doing better) , and of course the missing his lifestyle provided by his wife's labor but not his actual wife. The amount of emotional labor that we do and we are expected to do is unreal and sometimes we are so involved in getting through the day that we don't have time to actually breathe. And when we finally have time to breathe we realize that we don't want it. She can feel as bad as she needs to but the reality is he's jealous of the amount of freedom she has, because it's has come at the expense of his. I have more free time now than I did in the entirety of my marriage. They really think we're going to miss all of the invisible, unpaid labor and having king baby to argue with.

[@kaydubya6347]

Same here w the sabotaged discipline, and emotional abuse. Funny thing is he's a so called "mental health professional (at a psych hospital)

[@Virgoflower-h2w]

That 20 yr old that gave up her v to that piece of $#!+ OMGGGG I'M SO HURT BY WHAT HAS HAPPENED TO HER. and that was her first experience omg😢😢😢😢😢😢. That baby😮😮😮😮😮

[@traciemccall3324]

The 35 y.o. sounds like simon cowell.

[@Tigerlily_Fresh]

Ewww, he's already weird w/o even trying.

[@Arabella391]

15:44 this is so heartbreaking. 💔 Bears would never! I hope this woman got home safely and is going to be able to recover, this is really humiliating and traumatizing. I know luckily he didn’t hurt her but this is so psychologically and emotionally damaging. I can’t believe people were walking by and taking videos and laughing.

[@MN-hv5xv]

So for story 1; she did the right thing, I hope she doesn’t go back to her ex-parasite, and I really hope she gets some strength and stop WORRYING ABOUT HOW HE FLIPPING FEELS!!😂. Story 2: has me disturbed cuz OP didn’t address this moron as her Ex-Boyfriend!!! How absolutely ridiculous is it telling her these things by text-or at all? No wonder women his own age don’t see value in him! He has none! Also, he doesn’t want to be told no during the bump n grind, which gives me grapey vibes…also, with a text like that indicates to me that he talks fly ish, and many younger women take this kind of madness as a joke or “being real” but many of these goofies can bring harm to women , be more assertive OP😊. I don’t even care about story 3, so I’ll move on to the final story: I have some suggestions for women especially once they’ve turned down a goofy, don’t turn your back on them, don’t stare into your phone unless you’re calling in the Calvary or recording this pukebag, and….simply move out of his grasp so you don’t get an entire bottle of milk poured on you, there’s no need to martyr yourself!! And it’s pretty telling of the public to walk by and offer no help to her, film her etc! Y’all still wondering why birth rates continue to plummet and women would rather have the bears???😊

[@Jiinx123]

2nd Story: My first major romantic relationship actually had a pretty significant age gap. My ex was handsome and looked a bit younger than he actually was, and we had a very loving and healthy relationship. He was also a WM, which made things interesting, as I was the first BW he ever dated, and he was a genuinely solid human being and great partner. While my relationship was great, it was also RARE, thus I don't recommend age gap relationships. They can be healthy as long as there's not a power imbalance between the ages and women date with standards, boundaries, and expectations. With that said, GF needs to run away from her BF asap! He's a horrible human being with no tact who doesn't value her feelings. She's still young and can date other more attractive men who have better blood pressure and common sense.

[@FunkyLittlePoptart]

So you got groomed and are out here justifying it? Nope. The whole point of age gap is that the woman doesn't enough experience to "date with standards, boundaries, and expectations." (I also had an age gap relationship when I was very young, and I no longer call it that. I got groomed, plain and simple, and that dude should have gone to jail, even if I did like him.)

[@Jiinx123]

@@FunkyLittlePoptart are you seriously projecting right now? Bold of you to automatically assume that I was groomed just because my relationship had an age gap. I'm sorry that happened to you, but just because you were abused sexually by an older man doesn't mean that everyone else was. Not that I owe you an explanation, but I was a grown, fully functioning adult, over 25yo, when I entered my relationship. You also didn't read my post: despite MY positive experience, everyone else's is NOT the same, as proven in your comment. I still DON'T condone age gap relationships regardless of gender, race, religion, ethnicity, culture, etc. because they 9 times out of 10 are almost ALWAYS toxic!

[@amberinthemist7912]

Age gap relationships aren't healthy. There's always a power imbalance.

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

The age gap relationship is weird when one partner is 24 and younger and the other partner is over 35. It tells me that the older partner wanted a younger and impressionable person to be able to manipulate and “sculpt”. HOWEVER, the older that the two people are, the age gap doesn’t really matter anymore. There was an age gap between my late husband and I (I was 25 when I met him, he was 40), and it was a good relationship. There is an age gap in my current relationship (I’m 52, he’s 62), and there really isn’t an issue because of our experiences.

[@Jiinx123]

@@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living Exactly! I was merely sharing MY experience to pretty much convey your exact point. I'm glad you and your late husband had a great relationship. Age gap relationships can be abhorrent for a plethora of reasons, but the older partner having major power over the younger is typically the biggest culprit, which is one of man reasons I don't condone them (I was 25, he was 42, and I was VERY skeptical). But even young women can know what they do and don't want at an early age. A lot of young women between 18-25yo across the country/world are engaging in 4B as well because they're not settling for less than whatever it is they want when it comes to men (among other reasons). There wasn't an issue with my ex and I, because we each fit the other's criteria for a good long-lasting partner, despite the age gap.

[@leeroyjenkins05]

My mom was a single married wife. She basically married the oldest child in our family and as the eldest daughter, I became the second parent of the family. Yes, my deadbeat bum father is the kingbaby we have to walk eggshells around or else. Hell, we don't even have to do anything and he'll get triggered and take it out on us.

[@starojunes]

The second story is so bad. My heart breaks for all the women who didn't have an enjoyable first time. I'm glad my first time was enjoyable. I didn't realize it was so common for women to have terrible first times. I bet a lot of women can relate to the 2nd story. It's also super normal to be awkward even during the second or third time. He shouldn't be demanding that she should not be awkward that is not creating a comfortable environment for her. I hope she leaves him. He only cares about his own pleasure.

[@robind7352]

Story #2 is sick and sad. WTF is wrong with these men???!!!

[@vrichards4363]

Love that second list. Whoever wrote that is awesome.

[@wrappedaroundmyfinger]

16:11 The most dangerous males in America asking this question is hilarious.

[@cynthiavaldez5941]

Yeah I learned the hard way about feeling sorry for a dude who ended up being toxic as f. Blocked and moved on with my life. They can sit there and cry by themselves.

[@AskDarlingNikki]

XY 3: go meet Jesus. Today XY 4: check yourself into a psych ward. And then reserve your one way trip to hell Cell Phone Spectators Laughing: BURN 🔥

[@catorce9027]

Hence, the 🐻

[@celinamorrison4824]

I literally just had read that first story and thought about you covering it!

[@ec9833]

3:56 it’s a very very very very valid point where she doesn’t know how to reject him without upsetting him. That equals MORE PUNISHMENT. It’s a double, triple edged sword because no matter what you do you do not win. And win as in, win the peace and autonomy every human deserves. He will continue harassing, belittling, attacking etc…and this is what they mean when they say they baby trap you. YOU! They had kids w you to trap YOU. -I’m dealing with this, now, in some different and even frightening ways, myself…divorce did not free me, did not free my children from him. He still thinks the kids, even, accept him and everything he’s done…it’s complicated and I can’t find one legal thing to do that actually keeps him away from us. SMH. It’s beyond valid.

[@widget0028]

You're right about everything I can't even add any additional comment

[@Lysistrata2025]

If you could have any of these men, which meal would you cook for a Grizzlybear?

[@fantym1633]

Poached salmon

[@teresaw9668]

Lady of the night shaming 😂😂😂 brilliant ❤😂🎉

[@jokraemer3516]

Thanks!

[@grimadean3432]

Get his number and never call, so he doesn’t get yours. Or a dummy phone to just ignore.

[@Greenplanet949]

I had this problem with my late husband ignoring my son, then undermining me. An example: I told my son to do his homework. Then my husband started doing imitations of me in Homer Simpson’s voice. This led to him and my son laughing and my son not doing his homework. Needless to say, the end result of my husband’s behavior year after year was my son barely graduating high school. He also has had a rough ten years afterwards, working dead end jobs. My son is only now starting a decent paying trade job. My son blames himself for not working in school but I also blame my husband.

[@LuvsTruth]

1st part: Being a weekend dad is how he was in the marriage. Why go back to interfering with disciplining the children and waiting on him hand and foot? And, she should ignore his body shaming. 2nd part: OMG! This guy! He is a neon sign of a red flag. He is giving signs of a person capable of SA. She needs to run as fast as she can.