4 Things: Man won't compliment his wife, Nice Guys™, Househusband cheats, Dating question

[@Ms_Introvert_4_Life]

The man who doesn't want to compliment his wife wants a divorce! When my partner used to walk in the room, especially when she was dressed up, I would fake faint everytime and she loved it. If you won't compliment her, someone surely will.

[@Wonderwoman79G]

💯

[@AB-qv9ku]

Lol I love the fainting 😭 so cute!💖

[@thandondlovu5392]

So true, Anything you aren't willing to do for your partner someone else will.

[@uwilberforce4628]

This is exactly the solution.

[@TititoDeBologay]

Worse, He realised SHE'S the Prize and he's feeling insecure and jealous.

[@EmyN]

“While men may deal with the initial rejection more, I believe women deal with more rejection within the relationship” woaaaah so true 👏

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

Absolutely...

[@YourMajesty143]

🎯🎯🎯

[@thesecretshade]

"i dont want her to think too highly of herself and become more vain" you mean leave your behind... because you suddenly realized she has way more options than you have. Hence the sh1t talking.

[@nameunknown1519]

Stay away from their homes. Keep them out of your homes. Public spaces only!

[@GardensFlowers-f7k]

Avoid them when possible!

[@nameunknown1519]

@@GardensFlowers-f7k that part! I don’t deal with men at the moment, but for the ones that still insist on dating them, at least try to be safe about it.

[@chorizoramen93]

Or just stay away from them

[@sabrinamystified]

Ignore their He-motional existence

[@allegrap1054]

The first guy is insecure and worried his wife will “upgrade” to another man

[@emem6935]

He's probably just plain old jealous too. I bet people don't compliment him much or give him gifts. There is also the added sting that most men expect to be the main character not a supporting role to a woman.

[@videofan1010]

And his behavior will make that happen. He sucks 😅

[@briskettacos]

Rather than leveling up himself, he chooses to be jealous.

[@leehalloway8787]

​@@emem6935Being jealous of your spouse seems crazy to me.

[@kimleemoon]

She will if he continues to never compliments her. “So she won’t get vain” basically so she won’t be too CONFIDENT! These men are pathetic.

[@vikki8699]

That same "nice guy" would also say; "You should have known better then go to a guy's house you don't really know, and expect him not to take advantage of that situation." ;to a girl SA'd by a guy who expected the same thing the "nice guy" does when dating. 🙄

[@nubiankhaleesi2945]

EXACTLY

[@c.g.bspendersashtray3037]

This is what was said about the victims of Weinstein. "Well, what did they expect? Meeting him alone like that?" These were for work meetings.

[@elipotter369]

He's not a nice guy. are women supposed to know who's nice and who's wearing the mask of nice guy?

[@onepiecestudio1797]

"Nice guy's apartment" sounds like a good horror movie... on a lighter note

[@Uke2405]

Dhamar looks like a good guy

[@TheePrincessBrat]

I was gonna say I’m so glad dating apps didn’t exist back when those crazy serial killers were roaming free

[@TheePrettyPrincessLife]

They should make the "nice guys apartment" into a haunted house somewhere lol

[@ana-nim]

​@@Uke2405 tedd bundy looked like such a helpless gentleman

[@daughterofyemoja]

​@@ana-nimYes, he sometimes faked a broken arm exploiting women's empathy.

[@hmmmbrilee]

"The least you can do for my effort" Sir? What effort are you putting in? You won't put in money, time, etc. And you won't even leave your house?? Stay looking forever, bye.

[@greenytaddict]

For real 😂

[@MsCuteangel44]

Him pretending to be genuinely nice IS the effort

[@vanaphill2454]

Stay home sir!

[@sabias3932]

@@vanaphill2454that’s what he wants! 🤣

[@myvids718]

Nice guy 🤦🏽‍♀️ men really don’t realize how much women have to think about their physical safety.

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

They do, but they just don't give a s--t.

[@angygremlin4423]

It's also dumb on his part. She could've shown up with a weapon, or brought more people who were gonna force their way in and rob/hurt him. Unless it's someone you already know and have some trust in, it's just not a good idea to bring a first date to your place. I guess his ego and weird beliefs are more important than his safety and his date's comfort 🤦 It makes me realize how little a lot of men think about safety. I thought I was pretty naïve but I still have more self-preservation instincts than these dudes. I find it even weirder considering how a lot of the men I know are the complete opposite and are very cautious people.

[@leehalloway8787]

​@@angygremlin4423That's why many Passport Bros are getting unalived so much in Columbia. Many men give no thought to their safety. I know of one man who had a first date at his place. His date pretended to order a pizza, a half hour later the woman opened the door for a group of men who ran into his apartment and robbed him.

[@Kay-kg6ny]

​@@angygremlin4423a lot of guys disregard their own safety in the pursuit of sex and thus expect women to do the same.

[@TheePrincessBrat]

Oh they do. They never want you to say no to _them_ . If it was someone else and the woman got hurt, he’d probably be one of the people victim blaming

[@Hopdog230]

Xys don’t deserve benefit of the doubt. Too many have shown they are dangerous.

[@ann3923]

"I'm more comfortable at home" Well I'm more comfortable being alive soooo...

[@MelissaThompson432]

"Nice guy's apartment": nope, nope, nope-nope-nope. Nope. NO. And that ^^ was before the screenshots....

[@greenytaddict]

The "you're tiny and I can just throw you through a wall" comment...wth😭

[@fantym1633]

If he says it - it came from somewhere in him. How long b4 saying it turns into doing it?

[@kimleemoon]

Yeah his text were becoming more and more aggressive

[@ADR-xn6dg]

It was his way of pre warning her he is violent so when it happens he can’t be blamed because he pre warned her when they first met. He was setting it all up.

[@heyhey439]

Those screenshots were fucking wild... I keep picturing some dusty ass guy talking to a wall with a vague woman shape painted on it as if they are in a drug induced couples quarrel.

[@ana-nim]

Men are unhinged

[@MelissaThompson432]

Women asking men out: in my experience, they seem to take it as a hookup. If that's what you want, go for it. But don't expect a _relationship._

[@availanila]

And when you make it clear it's not a hookup they get offended by how desperate you are. Even when being nice they'll take it as flirting or asking out then turn it against you extremely rudely. It's like this trending hashtags awhile back where lots of women were saying how badly they got treated by guys who weren't attracted to them.

[@jenbodhi1133]

💯

[@leehalloway8787]

They take it as a solicitation for D.

[@TheePrincessBrat]

Hmm i usually approach first. I think it’s a control thing tbh. But i don’t ask them out, they’ll usually take it from there 🤔 I don’t get them taking me as a hookup as much as them thinking I must be soo into them and will put up with whatever. That doesn’t happen as much now because I’ve changed a lot about myself and how I date.

[@misspriss2482]

In my experience, they see it as desperation. Even if they aren't interested, they'll say yes in the hopes of getting sex. Regardless, they will take you for granted and go after women that they have to pursue.

[@kyrabarr2846]

There is no way that any woman should go to a man's home on the first date. It is not safe, nor is it wise to meet a man you just met in his home for a "casual date". A man who respects himself, and a woman he is interested in will at least plan a meeting at a local coffee shop .

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

The bar is in hell.

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

This.

[@foxy2796]

Yup and it just shows that men obviously don't think women are a risk to them. That's why I say if a woman goes to a man's house for a first date she better rob him

[@Chechi-yf9lz]

Literally...they only want the cheapest option with the prettiest girl they can fool...smh

[@MelanatedHomesteadher]

​@@dumfriesspearhead7398 it's past hell

[@Oll_704]

Nope she can sue her husband for infidelity and violating their marriage contract. Her name is not on the birth certificate and she did not legally adopt the child. His attorney is bsing. He cheated she maybe able to get out of alimony due to his infidelity.

[@Southern.Nappiness]

Yeah...I was thinking the same thing. He cheated. He should be lucky to get anything.

[@LoremLipsumz]

Yep, cheating should invalidate any alimony when he was giving her money to another household.

[@lemoncholyme]

In some states cheating doesn't invalidate claim to alimony. She should still give it a try and also have herself removed from child support.

[@jaebyrd4608]

I commented the same they might make her pay temporary spousal support but I doubt child support is going to fly he will have to get off his lazy ass and get a job

[@martibee8984]

I agree. I would definitely also argue that he swindled her out of money for a second family, and that he should have to pay her back at least half. Even if they stick with the shared finances defense it may still be enough to convince the judge to reduce alimony.

[@blacknbougie8021]

This is sickening. Why be with someone if you want them to feel low about themselves?? You don't need to be married to anyone that you seek to bring down a notch. Her glow up is real, he's a hater & I hope she leaves him.

[@TheePrincessBrat]

Because they want someone they can easily control and who will never leave them. Men love being treated like the prize

[@DorothyZJ]

​@PickleMePls why wouldn't they? Everyone else tells them they're not and unworthy of shit.

[@Ourown311]

​@PickleMePls I think men like being slave masters, not so much being treated as the prize. They don't even treat themselves as such..

[@avelynn5976]

​@@DorothyZJ those people would be right 😊

[@fayepatrice1672]

It’s exactly the nice guys that ask you to trust them that you absolutely should not trust. He is definitely out there drugging women…

[@paigenicholespeaks6172]

With the first guy, he reminds me of my ex. My ex didn't want to compliment me because other people would. Long story short, he's an ex for a reason.... he was very insecure and he was my real enemy. Funny part is after I left him, all of a sudden he wanted to compliment me. 😂

[@Indyghurl]

Ditto. Mine did the exact same and would also try gaslighting me by saying that he told me all the time during our marriage. Smh

[@brandy4530]

With the first guy, they have been together since they were very young. Their dynamic was set before either of them were fully grown. Now the wife is growing as a person, and exploring other things and expanding her identity. This has turned him on his head, because he thought he knew who she was, and who they were together. He wants to hold on to what he knows instead of letting her grow, and maybe growing with her. This is not a good sign for their marriage if he doesn’t start putting in the work.

[@ADR-xn6dg]

That was my ex. He NEVER complimented me. When I started being more into changing up my look he got mad and stated why all of a sudden when I never used to do it for him. I told him he never complimented me and at that time I didn’t even care if he did anymore.

[@EmyN]

Well said 👏

[@cloveless18]

Insightful and concise❤

[@DorothyZJ]

​@@GreatOutdoorSerenity and y'all don't care about social status?

[@hevabmore]

My ex-husband didn't compliment me but complimented everyone else. Just one of many reasons he is my "ex".

[@wellknown1204]

Yeah, thats not it! If dudes stingy with their compliments, they will be stingy with everything else(financial, emotial and time and much more)

[@hevabmore]

@wellknown1204 and that was my experience. Had the nerve to say I was spoiled and needy because I wanted the basics and I brought in the most income.

[@jsChelimo]

everything men do is deliberate

[@OGfromQueens]

Nice guys are the worst guys

[@NobodyImporttant]

Safety aside regarding the apartment first date guy… he’s also showing that he’s lazy and entitled He wants 🐱 to be delivered to him. I assume a guy would make exual advances on me if he were to invite me to his place Ladies don’t even take rides from men until they have earned your trust

[@briskettacos]

You know you done goofed when she responds "This is going on reddit"

[@paolaree8004]

The apartment guy is definitely a cereal ender. I hope women keep rejecting him

[@Lambeh]

As a short woman, I get really uncomfortable when guys straight-faced say shit like "I could throw you through a wall" and "I could just pick you up and carry you away." Z E R O situational awareness on their part. Like if we've been exclusively dating bf/gf, it could be part of playful banter. But not when I first met you. Come. On.

[@constancemercedes701]

A guy I used to date said that I was the perfect height to be abducted. I'm petite at 4'11 and I was around 120lbs then. I look back on that situation ship today and I wonder what was I thinking?

[@Lambeh]

Right?? That's 100% me. I'm 4'11". Used to be 120lbs... now 180. But they STILL sometimes come out with this random shit on dating apps. Like SIR, you keep your mouth wide open if these are the thoughts coming out if your mind. Every woman needs to be able to see your red flags from across the country.

[@rossothecrimson7]

Wife will definitely leave him! We want to hear it from our significant other more than anything! I literally had this conversation yesterday about how mostly men cry about lack of sex after being together or marrying their woman. But they leave out about how they completely stopped wooing and showing appreciation to their woman as well. Lmao, the door swings both ways, sex stops when you appear to lose interest and treat them like just a body in the house that cooks, cleans and should be ready for sex lol usually one sided sex.

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

Isn't it proof that they just pretend until they have you clear? 😄

[@rn2787]

Dude and his attorney have lost their minds. He may not get the alimony he thinks he's getting because she has undeniable proof that he cheated for years and took money behind her back. She may have to pay some alimony, but child support is never going to happen with modern laws.

[@ForUsNaturals]

He literally was stealing!!

[@smalcal6365]

I truly hope she has ultra powerful lawyers so he doesn't get a DIME in the divorce.. The actual nerve to have a child while cheating and asking for support 😒

[@rn2787]

@smalcal6365 some people are truly entitled a$$holes. They only know how to take, take, take. I feel bad for the kid because they are stuck with a selfish monster. It's not her problem, but I still feel bad for the kid.

[@DorothyZJ]

​@@smalcal6365women do that all the time...

[@fburnsDubstepEnderFox]

1: Call me kooky but if someone (the woman in this case) doesn't feel good around you, they're going to leave. Making someone feel bad... affects their health. 2: No woman who values her health and life is meeting you in a private place. Women get blamed for what happens to them for so many reasons and this is one of them. 3: You're not really a good guy if you have to say it. Actions mean more than words, but sometimes words support actions. 4: Get your OWN divorce lawyer. You're going to want to stop him from digging anymore gold out of you. 5: I have asked out guys who were interested in me. They were too passive to take multiple green lights from me and I quickly moved on because I didn't want to waste my time.

[@FallacyBites]

Nice Guy: "She ahould respect my effort!" Not leaving the house is effort?

[@TheePrincessBrat]

Im always shocked seeing men 30+ following redpill bs. I thought it was just young guys. I’m shocked grown men don’t know better. Wtf. They’ll take advice from anyone but a professional or a woman with sense I love that his sister called a spade a spade. That is emotionally abusive behavior!

[@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066]

Yeah she's getting "hyped up"from the rest of the world so he's stingy with his complaints.... You know, if he's NOT going to, someone else will!

[@EmyN]

You know, it’s interesting that these dudes describe themselves as a “nice GUY” as if they are the best you can get from a dude, and not “a good person”, they are unknowingly showing it’s not the same thing

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

In the first story, he’s mad because he now has competition, and he’s trying to humble her. Here’s the deal - if he doesn’t step up and make her feel like she’s the most important person in his life, she has options now, so she’ll easily dump his sorry ssa for a man that WILL love and appreciate her. These “nice guys” wonder why they’re incels…😂 I wouldn’t be surprised if some of them are still virgins.

[@EyekanonlyBme]

Every time a man tells me he's a "Good Guy," my reply is always, "So is Chucky!"

[@askajk5895]

Women often don’t cheat or leave, until they feel unloved. They leave when they feel under appreciated and not valued. You need to give the love and she will return it!!!

[@shaypope4732]

Ladies please remember any man you meeting is just a representative

[@rn2787]

Not treating your wife like she's a beautiful and complex person is hurting her. If you feel disconnected from her, insecure, or if you need to find yourself outside of being a husband and father you need to express that. Men always hide their feelings in some other "manly" feeling or actions. We won't look down on you for expressing your feelings in the proper way and it will save your relationship with your spouse as parents (even if your marriage ends).

[@greenytaddict]

Perfectly said

[@fantym1633]

The problem is *so* many guys display Alexithymia; a great many can't even define anger in themselves unless expressed physically

[@rn2787]

@fantym1633 even when it's not physical, they don't seem to understand that sometimes their words are violence either. There's a way to express your feelings, even in a way that holds the other person accountable, without intentionally hurting them. I wish they made interpersonal communication a mandatory class in K-12 because so many people have bad communication skills.

[@VirgoGoddessXxo]

Wow, cheating and having an outside child, while being an 11yr stay at home husband, is a different type of disrespectful smh that is crazy AH

[@Twinkie989]

First guy is going to be "blindsided" when she files.😂

[@kyrabarr2846]

The man that you described as the husband is insecure and has low self-esteem. If he loves his wife he will want to naturally encourage, love, and support her. Encouragement from your spouse is important for a healthy relationship. If he does not value her, or compliment her ,eventually he will lose her. These red pill talking points are keeping men single, alone, and without wives or friendships.

[@EmyN]

It’s crazy because some of these dudes already have girlfriends and wives, but they probably were never content to begin with, their entitlement itch wasn’t being scratched 😂 so in the pursuit of it they lose the relationship

[@kyrabarr2846]

It is unfortunate that some men find themselves in situations where the love that they desire or want is not attainable because they refuse to look inward at themselves.

[@nelblahblah]

Complimenting you're wife is just another way of showing love not giving her a big ego. It's the making for good sex.

[@shantavanee]

Story 1 is about to make a Reddit post on how he was (BLINDSIDED) by his wife asking for a divorce!🙌🏽💯👏

[@tadams827]

That good guy is a sociapath. 😮 I don't know how that conversation went on do long.

[@Jill_P]

This (first story) is exactly the "nothing" reason for which women leave marriages. Wanting to see your partner happy and fulfilled, and knowing how to make them feel that way, is and should be the bare minimum for a relationship. That some men think they can soley control how much value a woman sees in herself, and will ACTIVELY try to keep it low (while telling us they love them🤔🤨) speaks volumes on top of volumes. Like pretty much all of the red pill "wisdom," I find that level of emotional ignorance to be unbelievable and unconscionable.

[@cheffner68]

Why was he a house husband?

[@LetsTalkAboutItWithMara]

Right ! For 11 years and to my understanding they didn’t have children together.she’s making half a mil a year and no prenup

[@mariegiardini]

@@LetsTalkAboutItWithMara right! That was her first biggest mistake right there.

[@shaypope4732]

He doesn't want her to be vain n realize her true worth and realize she can do better than him

[@KatrinkaGivens-yh1fh]

The nice guy is going to alone! He sounds like a creep!

[@Philosophicalpaperti]

For the amount of money that dentist lady is making she could hire the best law firm in the world. Why is she asking a bunch of random internet strangers???

[@popejaimie]

​@elizekelly That is not a good reason

[@kmc1994]

Or maybe the story isn’t 100% true/honest. I enjoy Reddit but I take the stories being real with a grain of salt

[@-tomi-]

She said she had a meeting in two weeks and just needed some advice while she was waiting. I do kind of agree with you, though, because if I had that kind of money, I would not be waiting, I would move on until I find the best law firm

[@user-kpkxgtj]

You have a point there. In the time she took to type that post, she could have engaged Shark and Pitbull Associates who would have come up with a way to keep as much of her money as possible out of his cheating hands 🤔

[@Twinkie989]

The divorcing woman should be able to claim the money he spent of his mistress and deduct it from alimony owed. I don't know the alimony laws in CA, but I know my state is one of the few states that has permanent alimony- and you have your be married 20 years for that.

[@Lambeh]

I ask men out all of the time. I get rejected a lot. These chronically online menz refusing to believe that women get rejected when they ask men out are telling on themselves more than anything else. Although I've come around to the idea that I'm basically done pursuing first. It doesn't seem to make that much different anyway - whether I was asked first or did the asking, they always want me to do all the heavy lifting.

[@inprogress5210]

1st story : the man who refuses to compliment his wife is too focused on competing with her and humbling his wife. Eventually she'll feel unappreciated and go where she's loved. 2nd story: Nice guy, straight up dangerous. Going to a man's place on the first date is too risky. Don't let them pick you up either. 3rd story: She needs a new lawyer before her house husband builds a solid case against her. As for the child support it might have to do with the fact he hasn't worked in 11 yrs. And she is the one who has her finances in order in terms of taxes, insurance, etc. But also she needs to make sure she gets custody of the children to avoid paying. Not sure but correct me if I'm wrong in the comments. 4th story: Don't pursue a man. Especially if you're desperate. They hate you for it. Alot of these men don't even like themselves or see themselves as worth being asked out.

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

Yes, pursuing a man is not a good thing. The real men are turned off by it, and the manbabies start believing that they’re “the prize” or that you’re so desperate that you’ll be willing to give away the 🍪 for below bare minimum effort and price.

[@sj5218]

I came here specifically for the last topic but I wanted to speak on the first one as well,m. That guy is insecure and jealous of his wife, he thinks he’s humbling her but what he’s really doing is pushing her into someone else’s arms; if you’re not your spouses biggest cheerleader you’re a hater and need to get out of their way and let them shine. Now on to the last topic. In my experience (I have approached guys first in my past) this is why I have stopped being the one to approach: 1) he will probably think you’re easy, desperate, or masculine for approaching him 2) he may entertain you cause you approached him and not out of genuine interest (he thinks you’ll put out quick or he think you’ll make him the center of your world; it’ll be an ego trip for him (circle back to #1) 3) There becomes a weird power/control dynamic, such as, he’ll possibly expect YOU to court him and take him on dates versus the other way around since YOU approached him or he’ll treat you like crap cause he thinks you’re desperate (circle back to #1) which will eventually cause a riff in the relationship. 4) He’ll reject or resent you cause you came off “masculine” to him or you made him feel feminine (circle back to #1, one more time 😂.) I don’t know why men think this way. I know the things I listed don’t only happen if you approach a man; I know these things can happen regardless but I just wanted to give my take on why I think it’s useless. Unless you’re purposely interested in men who will not value you or want to be treated like princesses approaching them is not a good idea (in my opinion), men are hunters and will go after what they want; if that’s you, you’ll get him and honestly any man who PREFERS women to approach him is probably in his “soft girl era” anyway and as stated previously, unless that is what you want, you will not be happy in that situation.

[@yaoilover0]

It’s so funny that guys don’t want to be asked out, when many of them say and are oblivious to women being interested in them 😂😂

[@leehalloway8787]

I hope that woman does not have to pay alimony since there is proof of her husband cheating.

[@AlexisMitchell87]

These dudes are going predator vibes. Yuck!

[@sheillanyakato2153]

"Nice" guy could be a serial killer so umm No.

[@TheePrincessBrat]

That’s what it sounds like. Little dahmer jr. Who in 2024 is going to believe a man is not a threat. They get offended over you being scared of them, but not worried about the very real issue of violence against women.

[@chubbychan5950]

House husband......💀.....That lady set her damn self up. House husband? And not keeping regular tabs on your money? You can't be that tired to not check on your money. She has it and wanted to give some away. So charitable.

[@kmc1994]

I feel the same way!! I actually don’t feel bad for her at all.

[@kimleemoon]

And no prenup

[@chubbychan5950]

@@kmc1994 Not one bit.

[@CharlieApples]

It’s crazy to me how these men will get a hot wife, a wildly successful wife who provides you with a luxurious work-free life, and they somehow think that makes them a victim of something

[@LGrian]

First insecure man is lining himself up for a divorce where his own family takes her side 😂

[@rtphotos4691]

Yep, I used to ask m-n out and was mocked for "throwing myself at them" and "being desperate." I stopped and the only ones who approached me were inappropriate ones. "Wait until the good ones expose themselves." They never do. And if you are what the world considers an "attractive woman" you will only attract shallow ones because they want what they see, not you. I lost count of the number of them who said to me, "you're a deep person, aren't you?" or "you're very smart, aren't you?" as if being attractive and enjoying being stylish can't exist if you're also intelligent.

[@chorizoramen93]

Womans story. Im petty. I would stack as much bread as possible and then quit my job.

[@toscadonna]

Me, too. I’d quit my job and go work for free in “Doctors Without Borders.”

[@AccordingToWillow]

“testing whether you’ll give me the benefit of the doubt” oh so that thing abusers do lmao

[@greensciencegeek]

6:39 lol his money supersedes a woman’s comfort and safety!

[@DianaPrinceitiswhatitis]

There’s plenty of men that will compliment her. She needs to divorce his jealous black hearted behind! This is abuse period! She’s making plans to bounce. He has been breaking her self esteem down. It’s going to backfire. He is also ungrateful and selfish. He’s about to divorced and single real soon! That next to final story she should have filed for divorce long ago. She’s not responsible for child support for a child he had a child outside the marriage. She’s divorcing him and she’s not responsible he is. He’s going to have to get a job or use his alimony to pay the child support. She needs to hire an attorney handle the cheating house huzzband.

[@bcottony]

" The Nice Guy" What I've noticed with some of these "new" nice guys Is that they try to role play to women like they are the jock from a 1970/1980s revenge of the nerds type character. And I think it's because they interpret that as being what "alpha males" act like. It's sort of a "fake it till you make it" type of thing. The problem seems to be that they don't understand how corny they sound and how phony their attempts at bravado and confidence come off. They end up sounding like something from a 🌽

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

A lot of these fools are listening to bad advice from podcast bros and pick-up-artists, and they’re wondering why it’s not working and they’re still single.

[@melissam6037]

The guy who doesn’t know the difference between “to” and “too”…

[@thesacredbombshell]

Bruuuuhhhh these text messages. What's crazy is THIS IS how quick some men switch up.

[@videofan1010]

They are delusional and they get in the zone, lol.

[@DelphineTheWorstBladeEver]

I don't ever hear women have to reassure men that they're good women. That would be creepy.

[@kyrabarr2846]

The terminology "nice guys" should really be removed from the English lexicon. A man just being a "nice guy" does not mean that they will have good character, integrity, or can be honest . I would rather have a man who is thoughtful, considerate, and kind. Look up the etymology of what "nice" means. It's not a good thing at all to just be a "nice guy". Be very careful of a man who also wears his religion on his sleeve. If you are a spiritual person you don't have to say that you are. Your spirituality will be reflected in your actions not just your words.

[@Wonderwoman79G]

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[@sabrinamystified]

It's like they're advertising by calling themselves "nice guys", like PR Department of a muti- billion dollars corporation, which is making this kind of profit, only becuase - they exploit their workers by underpaying them, avoid paying taxes, and exploiting resources of a natural - resource - rich foreign country. But they want to boost their image through their PR stunts (lying and faking).

[@copperredd]

I have a hunch that the first dude was the one who was low key making his wife feel less than because he knew she was too good for him. It helped that she was already timid and lowkey in nature... but years later, he did too much and pushed her the other way completely. So where before she was shrinking herself in response, now she was going out of her way to build herself up....the last thing he wanted... He is trying to damage control, but its not working...that guy is toxic...

[@cvzdez]

Funny thing these men would never advise their daughters to go to a nice guys house.

[@tlrcarroll]

Sounds like the husband is afraid the wife looking better and getting compliments from others will eventually make her realize that he isn’t such a prize and he’ll either have to step up his game or he might even lose her.

[@tanyadelaney8455]

It's a big mistake that women make. I DO NOT need validation from a man. Knowing that you are gorgeous, REGARDLESS of what a man thinks. IS THE SIGN OF BEING A HEALTHY WOMAN!!! And here's the part that most women don't comprehend. IT PISSES A MAN OFF, WHEN YOU DON'T NEED THEIR VALIDATION! 🤭 And that is the icing on the cake. 😈🤣🤣🤣😉

[@acstewart4]

So I should negate my safety to make u feel comfortable? And he is also probably cheap.

[@bcottony]

#1 He sounds like one of my ex's he would become literally anxious being in public with me because he did not like that I got attention at all. He wanted me to be constantly seeking his approval and was upset if anyone interfered with that. I noticed a similar dynamic with his mother and father. He would nag her quite frequently and sometimes she would call me up to ask my opinions because she didn't trust her own reality and experiences anymore.

[@Geospasmic]

House hisband was stealing her money to make chold support on another woman's child and wasnt even staying at the house during the day?? What was he even doing besides cheating and spending her money? She really didn't notice?

[@MidnightAndLuna]

I have recently went through the same thing the OPs wife went through. But, mine was because I was depressed for many years. I’m a mom and wife, and my husband would always tell me I was beautiful no matter what I looked like. I just started recently doing my makeup and hair every day. My husband always compliments me and I always compliment him. OP is a major AH and she deserves better.

[@virgo_hershey_kisses2990]

12:19 It’s the “This is going on Reddit” for me 😂😂😂😂😂

[@donabeth4561]

First guy: total Ahole. There’s a reason why she needed outside validation of her worth because he gave her zero. Just took her for granted until she had zero left. She’ll probably leave what’s there to stay for 🤷‍♀️

[@thesacredbombshell]

😂😂😂😂 the person that said "mask not completely off but dangling by the ear" I cannot!😂😂😂

[@amilllion1]

I hope the nice guy in the tiny apartment gets set up by the nicest woman and her boys

[@shaypope4732]

The husband lawyer can't contact the wife directly that's illegal he has to contact her through her lawyer and him cheating is a breech of there married contract I hope she has a prenup

[@heyhey439]

Mad when women don't look their best and mad when they do. I'd be so hyped if my wife glowed like that wtf dude

[@sabrinamystified]

He sounds like he wants to be the main character. So he felt jealous of his wife, when he found out that he's not

[@sg5720]

Damn to have your own husband jealous of you is insane. My hubby buys my outfits and I’m the one telling him- it is too much. My hubby loves when I dress up, loves to o buy me new things, the smile on his face when anybody compliments me. He always smiles and say “I did good” with his chest puffed out. Lol . He gets upset with me if I ever downplay myself. This dude is so weak as a male. I feel sorry for her to be married to such a sad weak man. He acting like she ain’t his wife, dummy, he should be proud. If she leaves him- she is justified. 🤷🏽‍♀️😌

[@A.D.I.I.D.A]

Your husband sounds awesome! Lucky 🍀 Lady 😊

[@sg5720]

@@A.D.I.I.D.A thank you- 21 years happily married this year. It is luck and continued blessings, and I am so grateful especially today with people unable to foster healthy happy relationships. This is my blessings and for some women their blessings come in the form of being single and nothing is wrong with that. ☺️

[@vanaphill2454]

The Nice Guy is never taking women out because he's comfortable at home.

[@KilonovaBurst]

Interesting point in the first thread is the sister. Most sisters let their brothers act up and disrespect girlfriends and wives.

[@Tydye09]

Yes, my ex stopped complimenting me. I felt that he didn't have eyes for me any longer. Allbi wanted is for him to notice me. He would go out of his way to find something that he didn't like about me but would be sly about it. All the while I'm being noticed and complimented by other men. It became clear that he didn't wante any longer. It's all good though.

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

I’m sure he had the surprised Pikachu face when you dumped him and told everyone that you dumped him “for no reason”. I hope you have someone that’s appreciating you if that’s what you’re looking for.

[@naediggs4816]

🤯 if that dental firm partner wants a live-in female partner, I'll volunteer. I'll cook, clean, and I promise no outside children (I'm child free). Her bath water will be run every evening 😭😭 she ain't even gotta be monogamous! But seriously, he entitled ex is SUCH a prick.

[@annmarieknapp]

Well, if the so-called nice guy is anything but, how can women even be involved with a man at this point? Ladies I will always say do what works for you. But, no one can expect their partner to make them whole. And given how so many men view women in such negative terms, I don't see much value coming from focusing your energy on centering a dude. It's up to each person, but I am so much happier not making my focus around what a man thinks of me.

[@mistyvance4544]

No, Serial Killer. Ain't nobody going to your "small" place for a date. Stay home by yourself and be comfortable.

[@creolenola]

I am not opposed to asking men out but I am a bit more of a direct person. But with that I have or had clearly in my mind what I meant by a date and if it did not match with my prospective date's thoughts then it was a no. Example one guy I asked out always want me to come over the his place or he come over to mine and that was a no. I liked asking men out (don't do it anymore because at 50 I am not interested in men or relationships) because it helped me control the situation. I knew what I was looking for physically and personality wise and when I saw it, I asked. I am not a fan of being asked out because I have found that men and some women don't take a gentle but firm no easily. I suspect because I am a fat woman the thinking was that I would be 'over the moon' with the offer of a date or interaction with someone or anyone....not my cup o tea.

[@ccv_ca_cm]

She spoke w him for a long time. Wow.

[@sheilac3836]

Nice guy… how to say I am broke without saying I am broke

[@4blueland]

How heartbreaking not to have a partner who thinks you are beautiful and tells you often! (I've been there; it's awful)

[@LanDominiq]

One of my good friends is a male who needs a woman to make the first move. He is a good guy, very introverted and pretty innocent as far as life experiences. He rarely, absolutely rarely, ever gets hit on. He has lived in 2 states and basically just waits for them to make a move or befriends the women before asking. He listens to no one’s advice and is content being alone. I know no one else like him.

[@ras-nts]

I just love that we can see people’s thoughts. Take them out of the gene pool ladies.

[@peacefreedom4930]

It’s not a good idea for a woman to ask a man out, in most instances. Men and women do not think the same. Men will take stock of all the potential benefits a woman is offering up on a silver platter and make a decision on whether or not to use her as a placeholder, if he isn’t attracted to her, or interested in her. So, even if a man doesn’t like you, but you’re willing to serve his needs in some way, he might still date you. Men are extremely motivated by physical attraction. So, the only thing you have to do is look your best and put yourself in his line of sight. If a man you are interested in doesn’t approach you when the opportunity is presented, it’s likely he isn’t attracted to you. Just accept that and let it go. You will not receive romantic adoration from a man who isn’t genuinely attracted to you.

[@annnee6818]

I'm sorry but guy 2 thinks a woman needs to risk her safety to "respect" him is delusional

[@itsmebrittney-b]

“Never punish behavior you wish to see repeated”

[@Nosteponsneksss]

I don’t understand the logic behind trying to lowers your partner’s self esteem to keep them in a relationship. It’s not gonna stop her from getting complimented outside of the home. People outside of the home are going to make her feel good about herself, while her husband makes her feel unworthy. This will just cause her to drift away emotionally from him because who wants to feel unworthy when the rest of the world is telling you otherwise. She will just start associating her husband with negative emotions. If only he expressed gratitude for having a beautiful wife and great mother to his children, their relationship has a better chance of growing stronger, but he lets his own insecurities hurt both of them.