4 Things: Man offers women "advice", Sister doesn't want to donate kidney, Pest Relationship, & more

[@toscadonna]

First guy: “I’d rather write an entire essay than to help my wife around the house.”

[@briana14333]

💯🎯‼️

[@briana14333]

And I bet if she did all that, he’d still find issues 🙄

[@NubianNarrator]

Make it make sense 😂😂😂😂 the effort he put in to write this foolishness could have been invested in changing 😒 😂

[@thepoliticalcat]

They're not "helping" you around the house. They live there too. They're doing their fair share of the work it takes to keep your shared living space clean, hygienic, and livable at all times.

[@penandpapercliche]

Lol dude think we're "making ourselves unattracted" to our husbands when they won't partcipate in the family and then threatens us with another woman?

[@nameunknown1519]

Oh no! You’re her problem now. Whatever shall I do??? 😂😂😂😂

[@Revelwoodie]

And the kids, too. His main argument seems to boil down to, "If you don't let me live like a Roman emperor and be my servant, then the kids will HATE you for taking their fun dad away!" Dude, when you actually talk to kids who grow up with fathers like this, most of them have nothing but contempt for him. Their negative emotions toward their mother, if they have any, are all about, "Why did she put up with this our whole lives."

[@CatloafCreative]

Like is this new woman here to do your chores? Bet. *Feminist commune intensifies*

[@vanaphill2454]

If he opens the marriage. He will f*ck around and find out.

[@thepragmaticexistentialist]

LMAO 😂😂​@@nameunknown1519

[@ana-nim]

"Life is hard" and then he gave list of reasons why men make it even harder (and easier for themselves ofc).

[@ashlee616]

The funny thing about that statement is that life doesn't have to be hard or as hard when you find the right person who's willing to support you.

[@clownetto981]

The first dude is definitely getting divorced, and he's so angry about it. But he's too much of a coward to say this to his wife who's had enough of him.

[@ayemad]

💯

[@caseyjude5472]

I agree. I bet she made a hundred “Honey Do Lists” over the years & he ignored them &/or deployed weaponized incompetence.

[@brandy4530]

He wants women to make videos on how to do housework. That is just so ridiculous. I would be embarrassed to be married to someone like that.

[@hippie1252]

​@@brandy4530I laughed at that. He wants corporate training on how to help out in his household. For free!

[@joeshmoe0136]

@@brandy4530 and also to translate the "How to manage a new baby" manual we all get after giving birth

[@west913]

It amazes me that the advice men provide is always more work for their partners. Never any self reflection or accountability to do better, just more reasons to justify and weaponize their incompetence. 😞

[@intentionalgreatness]

Girl keep your own kidney and keep it moving bc she def wouldn't do the same for you.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

l Agree💯

[@aurora8749]

My sister physically, mentally and even sexually abused me. I never once hit her back. The worst thing I said to her is that she is so dumb the fact I'm related to someone who's that stupid makes me want to puke and that was after she tried to attack me with a wine bottle and bit me because I pinned her down. I know she was embarrassed but she shouldn't have tried to attack me in the first place lol that's why I never hit back I always knew I'm stronger than her. Anyways it really gives me pause when I hear or see kids that bully their siblings. I know it's been normalized in the media but it's really not normal. All throughout my childhood I never once wanted to hurt someone that didn't hurt me first, whether emotionally or physically and I think it's a really bad sign if a kid does, they are bidding psychopaths.

[@gabriellemeche992]

I don't even understand how much gall they have to even ask her to help her abuser. My sister and I are incredibly close and if it would happen to her, I'd donate no question. She wouldn't have to ask but on the flip side, I, as her big sister, would NEVER let her donate to me. We have a five year age gap so I feel like she has more life to live and I wouldn't let her risk her life for me but I would gladly give her a second chance at it over and over again.

[@jenndesharnais6101]

First guy... she says she's exhausted, and his advice is to have more physical activity with him.🤔🤢🤮🤢🤮🤡🤡🤡

[@beekyw8716]

Nonono, his advice was to SHUT UP and have more physical activity with him! 😂

[@RuminatingRaptor]

He is literally advocating for women to be bangmaids.

[@TimelessErsy]

​@@beekyw8716 THIS!!!!! imagine the audacity 😂😂😂😂😂

[@jenndesharnais6101]

The dude actually said "imagine if a man was hovering over you critiquing your every move!" As if men don't do this to women every day. 😂 The ignorance, hypocrisy and lack of self awareness of there own behavior in men is astounding!🤢🤮🤡

[@thepoliticalcat]

Wifebots are supposed to keep their masters well-fed, well-cared for, and well-pleased. Know your place, woman! /s

[@thesecretshade]

Funny how men complain about women nagging but that's a lot of projection as the first post shows a tirade of nagging and unwanted advice 😂

[@TheePrincessBrat]

It’s never nagging when they do it. It’s justified and you better listen unless you wanna be cheated on *finger wagging* 🙄

[@NeverYours-c5g]

They are the worst about nagging… straight up libido killer lol 🥴🥴

[@maam-yj8ph]

Yeah it's funny to me how it's somehow never nagging when it's about sex.

[@Lokian_Mermaid]

If they'd just LISTEN and/or do the tasks the first time, or even better, do it without being told, there'd be no "nagging". Their definition of nagging, "I didn't do it and she reminded me and I don't like that". 🙄

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

YES! Hypocrites 🤡🤛🏾

[@passionliving]

It's hilarious how this man is complaining he is incapable of making lists - all while making detailed lists! Clearly men know it's a successful strategy to make their partners take on the additional mental load of managing them as well. Inevitably, women will - out of frustration - end up doing the chores themselves!

[@aprilfox9205]

This, this is the answer...👏

[@Revelwoodie]

And that's exactly why "men don't notice these things." If you've spent your whole life having other people clean up after you, you don't need to "notice these things," do you? I am 100% positive some woman came to her senses and divorced this guy, and that's why he's posting this garbage. He literally lost his family and he's still trying to prove he's right, even if the only ones left who might listen are internet strangers.

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

@@RevelwoodieI agree, and I wouldn’t be surprised if she left him and found another man, which is why he’s so bitter.

[@Lysistrata2025]

Make it make sense!

[@joylastname3035]

All the while as I was I reading it. I thought, "Great, I have to hold his fkng hand." 🙄

[@gardnerhill9073]

Men have been using women to prop up their artistic lifestyles for centuries. Guarantee that if Mr. Struggling Painter Dude ever actually struck it rich with his stuff, he'd dump his "muse" in a heartbeat because Serious Artists deserve a hotter girlfriend.

[@seabreeze4559]

parasitic lifestyle is the technical term

[@briana14333]

I briefly dated ONE man who made me realize that all the attention and nurturing that he needed was something I couldn’t give. It only took that one stint to realize how broke and needy the lot of them are.

[@nopenope9118]

So that guy thinks men need women to make them lists, but then goes on to make his own list for women. Seems like if he thought really long and hard he could make his own list of chores and things that need to be done.

[@MoldyWarts]

It's even funnier that he listed off house chores in his essay, but "men don't notice what needs to be done."

[@mirand0la]

Ladies, if a man makes mean jokes, he simply doesn't like you. It's as simple as that. You're not too sensitive. Just leave.

[@seabreeze4559]

degrading jokes

[@sarahcover7248]

9 years ago I quit my dead end job and became a homemaker. It gave me chance to persue my art. But here's the thing, my husband agreed to it. He was making enough money for me to not have to work. Nothing wrong with having your S.O. as your artistic patron but it has to be agreed to. I never was commercially successful. But it was still wonderful to have that much free time. I was able to provide a lot of unpaid labor for our families and community because he was paying our bills. But he was always so supportive and appreciative of that unpaid labor. In 2019 i went back to school for architectural drafting which he supported and paid for. He said i deserved it because it was my work at home that allowed him to get to a place career wise, where he could afford to pay for my associates degree in the first place. This is how you tag team success. Not by being a mooching starving artist. There has to be reciprocity.

[@_Ridethemaverick]

Reciprocity and appreciation is the key. Kudos to your husband for treating you like a partner and not a maid/tool. Many males agree to have their wives stay at home then abuse it.

[@lesleyannroberts4301]

I LOVE THIS FOR THE BOTH OF YOU!!!!!!! Now this is how you support each other!

[@zadarasimoleons1019]

Oh thank God, a man finally weighing in to let us all know how to keep our husbands. And I thought we'd have to figure it out on our own... Whew. What a relief, right?

[@BurbNBougie]

Correct. Now we can follow his list 🤠

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

They will still make excuses 😹😹😹🤦🏾‍♀️

[@teal1010]

His “tone” is a threat to women that dare to consider divorcing their inconsiderate husbands! Fail 🤡

[@em7937]

Like it would be any good to keep a man like that....😂😂

[@ToniDaniels1275]

The video just started and I’m not reminding no grown man how to adult!!!! Noooooooooooooooooo!!! From kids to dishes!!!! This is general thinking!!! Nooooooooooooooooooooooo. Men are not slow -he wrote out a whole list on this comment board!!! Imma stay single frfr

[@BurbNBougie]

He said Make a list and make him some videos as well. Lol

[@ToniDaniels1275]

@@BurbNBougieabsolutely not ma’am 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@starstorm1267]

Love how the first guy tells women to not have anymore kids if they’re going to consider themselves more important for the kids then their father is, but his last tip of ”advice” was for women to sleep more with their husbands. Does he not see how those two things can clash with each other?

[@divineapology818]

That would require critical thinking.

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

😂😂😂 The lack of self awareness and emotional intelligence is just jarring.

[@Indyawillis85]

I had that same thought lol. He didn't think about how sex leads to children because he doesn't have to be responsible for them.

[@HauntedCadaver]

​@@Indyawillis85 he probably cries like Steven Crowder when she tells him to wear a condom

[@theevildeaddy2352]

It doesn't have to clash if he convinces his wife to live on contraception and the shitty side effects for his pleasure.

[@mariapaz6379]

That list of advice for women was crazy. It boils down to "yes, do everything in the relationship and more, then be grateful he even remains with you" edit. For the story of the woman who "cant take a joke". The man she was dating is commonly known on the internet as a Schrödinger douchebag, a person who says offensive stuff and decides its a joke depending on the reaction.

[@NellyMariaArt]

Growing up my older sister went out of her way to tear me down. She took pleasure in making me miserable. I wouldn’t give her a kidney.

[@Ourown311]

You shouldn't. Honestly, people need to suffer the consequences of their actions.

[@MelissaThompson432]

I don't give mine the time of day. And I'm going to need that kidney when I'm older.

[@MelissaThompson432]

​@@Ourown311of course, she'll die, so there is that....

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

My sister was the same way. Mean and Cruel for NO reason

[@lemonadelexus]

My father just told me my sister is jealous of our bond (my father & i). I asked him why he didn't try to stop the offenses I've experienced from my older sister. He said, "Stand up for yourself." I know I may not be sane if I'm offended as an adult at this point & snap. You are mistreated by a sibling, and then you realize the hatred towards you as an adult. After transplant sibling might make her life hell until the end.

[@teambitesandkicks]

The last guy being like “Here we go again” when she cried - so glad she left. I had an ex who would mock me and belittle me when I cried. It’s a horrible feeling and indicative of a serious lack of empathy on their part.

[@ADR-xn6dg]

I had a guy tell me that women’s tears are manipulation and that if we argue I shouldn’t cry. I left him alone shortly after that.

[@Ourown311]

​@@ADR-xn6dg women need to start treating men like that. It's all projection because everything men do is manipulative.

[@alexyssaubrie1606]

@@ADR-xn6dgI had an ex tell me that too! Where does that idea come from? I’m a terrible actor and can’t force tears if I tried

[@BlackRaven000]

​@@alexyssaubrie1606they're projecting, they use emotions to manipulate women

[@Mithreniel]

Dang yall did we date the same dude? 🫂💝💖❤️‍🩹

[@victoryv116]

These men are not delusional..they know what they are doing ..they are just entitled and if they don't get something from you , they will hurt you ..they will break your soul and body both ...

[@GwendolynPorter-w6c]

I had two that tried to break me body and soul! One is deceased, (not by my hand! ) 😂 The other I was married to, we divorced in 96 and now HE needs a kidney and had the nerve to ask for one of mine 😂! I'll give u 3 guesses what I said and the first two don't count!😂

[@Lokian_Mermaid]

​@@GwendolynPorter-w6c You basically told him to go take a short walk..... on a loooooonnng highway. 😂😂😂

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Weaponized Incompetence is what it is😡

[@no_peace]

You're totally right. But the fact that he's having this meltdown in public and thinking anyone will buy it

[@dharma6481]

Uber driver, who was so irresponsible that he didn’t even keep his car payments up, WTF. Seems like he let the car go so he didn’t have to do it anymore. She shouldn’t spend another dime on him, no food, no supplies and get him out of her house. He’s a painter, he should start painting rooms inside houses and make actual money instead of imaginary money from future “projects”.

[@Revelwoodie]

"Imagine, for example, you had to change the oil in your car, with a judgmental husband standing over your shoulder critiquing every mistake you make...for YEARS." Dude, it wouldn't take anyone YEARS to learn how to change their oil. Just like it shouldn't take you YEARS to learn how to wash dishes. The fact that you pretend it does is EXACTLY what we're talking about when we say "weaponized incompetence." But really, what we're talking about here is your warped idea of 50/50, right? You change the oil, something that only gets done once every three months and she could get done herself at the Quickie Lube for $26.99, therefore she needs to do EVERYTHING ELSE? You're on standby mode to defend her if someone breaks into the house, therefore when she gets home from work she has spend the rest of the night doing EVERYTHING while you "decompress" in front of the TV? GTFO.

[@lucindabreeding]

Men: You are my world. I would take a bullet for you and our children. Women: Awesome. Hey, could you unload the dishwasher? Men: Absolutely not.

[@Lokian_Mermaid]

​​@@lucindabreeding 😂😂😂😂 Or, (in extra whiny voice) "But, Honey, I don't know howww...."

[@no_peace]

They don't even wake up to defend anybody. They don't even do any of the stuff they sell themselves with lol

[@RuminatingRaptor]

@@no_peace They also conveniently forget that it’s other men that they are pretending to defend us against. Then, when you are afraid of men, they whine and complain about “not all men”.

[@islandgirl8067]

I guarantee you the 1st man is bitter because his wife is leaving him, or has already left, so he's trying to fearmonger women into staying in bad marriages. If the lady in the 2nd story marries this hoboseggsual, she'll be supporting him for the rest of their lives while he's waiting for his art career to take off.

[@c.worldoffields]

List guy: Tell me your wife divorced you without telling me your wife divorced you Organ Donor: Good advice for those telling them to disclose coercion. The individual should make sure that family members do not go to their medical screening with them. Non working Boyfriend: he needs to work as an art curator while working on his art on the side. He is too old for inconsistent income Jokes: agree, directed jokes are how someone feels about you. He was being manipulative

[@chanson8508]

Liked your summary of hot n accurate takes/advice 🔥🙌🏾🔥

[@MelissaThompson432]

First guy: #1) "I make a lot of mistakes." 2) "I have a poor memory." 3) "I'm a slow learner." 4) "Hey, at least I like my kids!" 5) "...I like my kids...?" 6) "...that's all I got, man..." 7) "I'm not getting any!"

[@Egh0127]

😂😂😂

[@affsteak3530]

Why does women just treat men like wallets? 😢

[@MelissaThompson432]

@@affsteak3530 but do they, though?

[@jdawgb7642]

@@affsteak3530 Why do men treat women like property??? 😰

[@cookee888]

​@@affsteak3530...... we all require resources and yall insist on hoarding them. U force us to deal with u in order for us to survive then complain that we ask yall for anything. 😓😓😓😓😓

[@greenthumbs01]

I bet the boyfriend in the third story doesn't do any housework. He sounds like the kind of guy that would look her in the face after she comes home from work and ask, "What's for dinner, babe?".

[@FireSilver25]

That first one makes me glad I’m single! And can change my own oil, do basic carpentry, do some plumbing, etc. When I gained those skills a magical transformation occurred; I saw a lot men for the insecure toddlers they are. I’m a professional artist and AVOID dating other artists. Female artists are usually grounded with more discipline while male artists are often narcissistic AF. Which is why many are “artists”. They don’t want to adult and choose an occupation where they can use being uninspired/misunderstood as an excuse. And a lot of women think artists are more sensitive or whatever. Avoid those guys, please! I don’t have an older sister but I grew up with an older girl cousin I worshipped. She seemed so cool but she was sooooo mean and bullying to me. I haven’t heard from her for decades but if she asked me for a kidney I’d probably laugh in her face. That mean sister probably has health problems because she’s mean. And that family sounds like they don’t care how she abused her little sister. Screw that!

[@trinketeerrine6674]

Being an artist is only a career when you're succesful, otherwise it's just a hobby and should be treated as such. He needs to get a job and can indulge in his hobby on the side, once his expenses are paid. I can't believe this has to be explained to a 42 yo !

[@existentialgamer9206]

lol I’ve heard of list and chore charts, but asking women to produce videos for their incompetent husbands is a new one. That’s some next-level weaponized incompetence

[@24goodbuddy]

Chore charts are for children

[@MelissaThompson432]

Second poster: has she actually been verified as a donor match? If not, and chances are she hasn't been tested, this sounds like just another form of abuse. "We don't know if you match, but we're using this as an excuse to beat up on you."

[@Carameldamour]

You recognize a man who is using you by how entitled he feels about supporting him,often time he does nothing to help you, because he assumes doing so doesn't break your bank. I had that experience and the man had the audacity to say he doesn't trust me in the relationship. I showed him the door and he got mad at me for not fighting for the relationship. I laughed hard and told him there is no fighting for suffering 😅😅, at least I don't do that.

[@sarajuanaict]

Lmao in the time it took that first loser to type up his list (he doesn't know how to write a list though 😂) he could have loaded the dishwasher and the washing machine 😂😂😂

[@oanaion4899]

This 😂

[@taurusDIVA1979]

The audacity.... I literally can't even find the words (except expletives) to begin to address this "man's advice"....

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

All I came up with is😡😡😡🤡🤛🏾

[@hubabaloop]

I didn’t realize Mothers just think abt housework 24/7 to the point they could whip out a list without thought in less than a minute.

[@lucindabreeding]

Don't forget an instructional videos! God.

[@Callimo]

Add on the suggestion for "more sex" after all of that. Amazing.😂

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

It's childish and ridiculous. If you see it needs cleaning, clean it😡😡🤡🤛🏾

[@intentionalgreatness]

Artist bf is on his way to being fully dependent on her. He'll propose to her to lock her in to taking care of him under the guise of marriage.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

He's a Leech and a Parasite.💯

[@nki5ikni5i45]

8:36 NTAH... one of those family members that's pressuring her should donate their organ. How heartless if them not to sacrifice when they feel so strongly 😒

[@deborahfrederick916]

There are a LOT of compatibility factors for a kidney match. The other family members may not match her blood type, also they have to have two working kidneys in order to be able to sacrifice one. Either way, the psychological Willingness to sacrifice a kidney is pretty much a requirement to proceed with further tests.

[@nki5ikni5i45]

@@deborahfrederick916 okay Deborah 😂

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

l Agree💯

[@TheMotherofTacos]

@@deborahfrederick916anyway, as we were saying, the family members who are so pressed about the toxic ahole getting a new kidney can go ahead and get themselves tested for health and compatibility. No one is stopping them. ☺️

[@NubianNarrator]

So what they are saying is bodily autonomy doesn't exist when a sibling needs an organ. 😮 what a load of rubbish!

[@Lokian_Mermaid]

I had a friend that was home on disability. He had heart problems and literally did have a few neurological issues from an accident so he actually did need a list to remind him of things. Guess what? He actually looked at the list a few times a day and got stuff done. His health, including his heart problems did NOT prevent him from doing basic household care. His wife, eldest daughter, and stepson all worked. I think his stepson had school and work. His granddaughter was in daycare and his youngest daughter was still in elementary school, so he was the only one home all day. I think everyone prepared the meals together. So, this guy literally had some physical and mental limits, but they didn't make him forget HOW to do things even though he needed the list simply to focus a little better. This was 25 years ago and his was already in his 50's then.

[@beepbopboop7727]

Imagine expecting a husband will be an provider and protector, when really he is a depedant.

[@taurusDIVA1979]

He said.. "make a short video explaining how" to do household tasks ........ because explaining to you in person the first time isn't enough? If you needed this much babying and handholding in a job, you'd be fired. If you can keep a job in good standing, then you are capable of learning how to function in your own home and as a parent....

[@silververnallbells191]

There's already videos on KZbin on how to do household chores. I looked up how to clean a glass top stove, cuz I never had 1 b4 & the people (the meth heads!) who moved out b4 me left it a crusty mess & I didn't want to scratch it. Watched a couple different tutorials to see what all products & methods they were using then I cleaned up the stove. You can also watch those types of videos for background noise when you sleep. I usually watch cooking shows when I'm trying to sleep.

[@Sunny-tc3ul]

The woman that’s feeling pressured to spend money on her bf needs to watch Acrimony. No ma’am she will find herself struggling with him. He is leeching and he needs to find a side hustle to make his ends meet and get him out of her house.

[@KangwithoutaKangdom]

Lmao he got mad about ppl calling their husband's kids and then described basically everything mothers do for their kids when helping them navigate the world. They say they build the world, but their too slow to figure out running a household. Unbelievable😂😂😂

[@strawbraryliberry4604]

The last guy using that classic line: "you're going to throw away 2 years together over this?" I mean, it probably should have been sooner if you have these kinds of struggles- with insulting, belittling & dismissing each other- but in this case he just did that to her. 🧐 Not worth putting up with or spending time on.

[@TheePrincessBrat]

They need you to think everything is a joke do they can get away with mental abuse and passive aggression. If you aren’t laughing, it isn’t funny. Period. So he should stop. This particular story sounded like a build up to an even more abusive relationship. Him wanting to cuddle after really sounds like the “honeymoon/makeup” part of the abuse cycle.

[@imweakfordeaky]

**Kidney Donation story - IMPORTANT** If *anyone* ever tries to pressure and guilt-trip you into donating against your enthusiastic consent, and you feel unsafe or unsupported in saying No - Go ahead and schedule your “prospective donor’s evaluation and testing” Once in private with the doctor(s) *TELL THEM YOU ARE BEING PRESSURED AGAINST YOUR WILL* and that you do NOT want to donate. The transplant doctor will “find the tissue incompatible” or “discover underlying issues that disqualify this prospective donor” - because taking from an unwilling donor is a legal and ethical violation that could see the doctor stripped of their license. EDIT : I wrote this out before the video covered the comments saying the same thing

[@brandy4530]

Donating a kidney is no simple matter. I love my brother, but no, I wouldn’t do this. The only people I would do this for is my children, and my husband. The only reason I would do it for my husband is because he is the primary breadwinner, and he needs to stay alive for my kids stability. People act like it’s no big deal to throw a kidney around.

[@kathyk2777]

Also, did the rest of the family see the bullying? Did no one defend the one sister, and tell the bully to stop? Was the same presure put on the bully to protect her sister's mental and emotional life as they're putting on the sister to protect the bully's physical life?

[@Lokian_Mermaid]

Exactly! I was a teenager when that Golden Girls ep first aired about Blanche's sister needing a kidney. Dorothy said she would definitely do it for one of her kids but not sure if she would for a sibling. That got me thinking this: I have no siblings but I have other family I love and treasure. However, if I had kids, I doubt I'd want to donate an organ to other relatives in case one of my kids needed one from me some day.

[@ragsrare3771]

I wouldn’t give my husband because sure as hell if I was the one need it, he would divorce and replace me, let him die and take the money yeah it is harsh but I treat the people the same way they treat you

[@nkreseknowledge2241]

I would only do this for a kid, and they would have to really be living their life for me to consider. I would never consider for anyone else, sorry not sorry 👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽

[@rarejewel9678]

I wouldn't give my husband my kidney, breadwinner or not. I can survive on life insurance and getting a job.

[@joeshmoe0136]

I thought men were more visual than women? 🤔

[@divineapology818]

Only when it comes to looking at women, and even that varies.

[@lucindabreeding]

They see unrelenting chores as static. They have selective eyesight.🙄

[@monikapp3981]

Good one 😂

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

more lies they tell😒😑

[@blackcherry07]

Even that’s a lie . I’m sure going to notice a hot guy if I see one .

[@Rubylox]

I would give this speech to potentially abusive guys when there were red flags and this is what I would say to the OP's boyfriend; "We have a different sense of humor that isn't going to work in the long run. You should have the girl of your dreams who enjoys you thoroughly in a way that I cannot. Us staying together only delays the two of us finding the people who truly would make us happy..." or something to that effect..

[@dangermauz754]

The first story: it's obvious why his thread was taken down. He's using the thread to lash out at the community because he's being defiant. He's obviously gonna go down swinging for doubling down on his refusal to help his wife. What I say to that is, pride goes before the fall. She's gonna leave him.

[@teal1010]

💯 The best way to deal with men like him is to leave!

[@Twinkie989]

Man who made comments about her outfit was displaying narcissistic tendencies.

[@peacefreedom4930]

The fact that kidney disease usually runs in families would be a cause for concern to me. Now what happens if the sister donated one kidney and a year or two later her remaining kidney is failing? I don’t think it’s a good idea even if the sister was a perfect angel to her. Personally the only person in this world who could make this request from me is my child. Anyone else can kiss my a and call me TAH. What they won’t call me is: their donor.

[@Franciscaharrison1978]

Shouldn't his parents and himself have prepared himself for adulthood, why is the wife meant to leave prompt notes around the house? Stop cuddling your sons and bringing up daughters to be servants. There is no way i am working long hours and then coming home to making lists and videos to teach a man what he should have learnt before he met me and had children in the first place. My first bully was my younger brother. He made my life hell so if heaven forbid either of us were to be in that condition of needing kidney etc I just hope we would not be a match. I can't see him doing it for me , neither would I for him. The artist guy is just a kept man and she a sugar mummy. I'd rather stay single then develop high blood pressure.

[@trinketeerrine6674]

Yup ! I don't care if he's 50 yo or more, a man baby like that needs to go back straight to his parents so that they can both teach him how to be a functionnal adult.

[@Vanessa-ii7cc]

14:00 As a former struggling artist, don't walk sweet, RUN. Art is a street of pain and tears when you do it for a job. And 40 is too much old to not figure it out yet!

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

I'm an artist too, but I was not stupid enough to make it my mainstay.

[@Vanessa-ii7cc]

@@VeeKayGreenerGrass i was young, that's my only excuse 🤣

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

There are very good jobs In Advertising and creating Web pages. But I do agree do it for the love not a job if you haven't tried other Avenues in art. But Yeah he's using her. And why TF is he watching her pockets.

[@gardnerhill9073]

Besides, the day job may inspire your art. The first fiction story I sold came from an idea I batted around with my co-workers at my minimum-wage job.

[@Vanessa-ii7cc]

@@kayshawnsimmons5585 nah, AI ''art'' will end everything for everyone. When AI gained momentum a couple of years ago, that's when I said "this is it." Working as a freelancer, plus other things in life, was already hard enough without competing with a computer.

[@beeautifuldreamer2211]

😂😂😂this first dude must've just gotten a divorce he sounds bitter as hell. I just thought of an app idea rate your husband/boyfriend. That'll stop all this superiority bs they try to spew sir let me read your yelp reviews I'm sure their at a 1😂😂😂

[@dharma6481]

The gaslighting of the first dude lol😂 You (the mother) will never be the favorite parent? Sorry, 90%+ the mother is the favorite BY FAR, because the father is not engaged with the kids. And after divorce (from what I’ve observed) the kids have to be forced by the Mom to talk to or go with the dad. Adult kids rarely call/see the dad but usually call the mom once a week

[@oanaion4899]

He is straight up delusional.

[@morighani]

there’s multiple street interviews where every single kid chooses the mom lol. what happens when you’re in a life or death or mentally distressing scenario? you yell out “mommy!!”, even grown ass men do this, it’s an entirely subconscious reaction that proves that whatever superior value society places on fathers, we instinctively cling to mothers

[@Lee-ks1en]

There is a reason why every man who wins an award or receives accolades thanks their mom. I have never once heard them thank their dad.

[@silververnallbells191]

@@Lee-ks1en Oooof that's true. And they YELL it from the podium, too "LOOK MA, I MADE IT" or "I LOVE YOU MOM"

[@thepoliticalcat]

@@morighani This always bothered TF outa me as a child, because Dad was the gentle, reasonable, loving parent, while my mother (who used to be a nurse) would coldly examine us, determine the remedy to apply, and apply it with a vigor that made it clear she was annoyed at having to do it at all. Yet, when anything bad happened, we screamed for Mom, not Dad. I think it hurt his feelings, too. I've heard that soldiers on the battlefield cry out for their mothers if they think they're dying.

[@thegreylady7797]

Tell me that he did NOT actually suggest that women make tutorials for their husbands 😳

[@GardensFlowers-f7k]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 they are f--king nuts!!!

[@GenieBee]

Another one that makes me think/ hope they've got to be JOKING! First fella is straight out of a 50s ad for household chemicals; all grinning with his pipe and newspaper 😂

[@rene3759]

😂 Spot on description

[@Lokian_Mermaid]

Exactly what I was thinking 😂

[@Egh0127]

💯💯

[@shantavanee]

Best part of waking up is BurbnBougie in my cup ☕️💛

[@TititoDeBologay]

This man is projecting. Either from his current or past relationships.

[@TheePrincessBrat]

Same vibe I got. There’s a reason those posts triggered him

[@GwendolynPorter-w6c]

Sitting there lonely looking at his used KY jelly tubes!!!😂😂😂OHHHH WELL!

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

I agree. He’s probably even more bitter because his ex found a new guy that’s better than him.

[@thepoliticalcat]

@@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living Yeah, that level of vitriol does NOT come from knowing your ex's life is hell.

[@LetsTalkAboutItWithMara]

He wants to be favorite compared to kids that stood out to me also

[@ccannon1]

He tried to say taking care of your kids won’t make them like you more 😂😂😂

[@KangwithoutaKangdom]

​@@ccannon1Funny part is, it won't. Loving them will. My kids live with dad. I'm still the favorite cuz mommy did all the heavy lifting in early years and now I'm fun weekend mommy. I give them love and discipline and nurture their curiosity. I love them tons and they know it

[@Lokian_Mermaid]

​@@KangwithoutaKangdom Same. My kids love me more. Kids lived with ex after our divorce because I was too sick to have them live with me alone. Right now, our son lives with me and isn't talking to his dad and our daughter wants to hurry and finish college and come be with us.

[@KangwithoutaKangdom]

@@Lokian_Mermaid us for the win! Lol

[@ccannon1]

@@KangwithoutaKangdom you don’t think you doing the heavy lifting when they were younger was you taking care of them?

[@dugongsdoitbetter]

My eyes about popped out of my head !!!! That first guy is.....wow !!! Excuse me, sir, please Google trauma bond. That doesn't mean what you think it means.

[@tlrcarroll]

The first guy actually is pretending that weaponized incompetence is a myth. 🥴

[@melstarr1864]

My husband resents lists. He says to just accept what he does, when he does it, however he wants to do it. Lists are out of the question.

[@nki5ikni5i45]

3:32 skipped to the end.. couldnt listen to anymore of that man's list

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

l Agree💯

[@lucindabreeding]

That first one. Yikes. My parents have lived in a traditional Christian marriage for almost 60 years. I have almost no connection with my father.

[@Lokian_Mermaid]

OP #1 mentioned nookie but NOT anything he could do to make it more enjoyable for his wife, in and out of the bedroom. He's a millisecond wonder, no doubt and can't be bothered to be better both physically and emotionally for her. Also, dude sounds like a whiny Boomer or "Silent Gen", saying something so stupid as basically putting Him before the kids, yet says no man will love another man's kids as much as their own father. It sounds like HE isn't loving his own kids much. The kids will never love him more if he thinks his selfish, entitled wants come before their needs. Don't want to do right by your kids? Don't have them.

[@SakuraMoonflower]

It's worse: if he didn't lie about his age, he's Gen X. *Shivers* proof that this mindset can and does infect younger people. I know a few millennial sexists and I've met Gen Z sexists. The funniest thing to me about the Gen Z sexists, though, is that they can't keep girlfriends and they're big mad at women for being the reason why. 😂 They're mad at their girlfriends for leaving them at the first sign of disrespect; they're mad at women for encouraging each other to leave their boyfriends and husbands. Remarkably, not one of these dummies is mad at losers like Fit And Fresh or Andrew Tate for giving them bad advice on how to keep a girl in the first place. 😂

[@msj793]

After he made that whole list and I sat here and read it I swear I’m tired just thinking about all that! No one feels like seggs after working like that. Why is it only the woman who is responsible for not having more kids? It’s too much in this foolish post.

[@oanaion4899]

They don't see us as human. That's why.

[@Blech-h9z]

It's a joke is the bully national anthem.

[@2006glg]

Artist is going to leave her if his project is profitable. It's not an if...its a when.

[@no_peace]

You don't have to have a good reason not to like jokes. If you don't like them you don't like them and he should stop making them to you. It's not negotiable, he doesn't have to think it's reasonable

[@Tracy_555]

Good morning Burb & good morning all 😊

[@BurbNBougie]

Hey hey!

[@thesecretshade]

Good morning 😊

[@Lokian_Mermaid]

Good morning 😊

[@silververnallbells191]

7/13/24 11:36pm .. Good evening! 🌚

[@Sonovakei_31]

To the last one, men have a terrible habit of joking and being sarcastic towards each others. I like to make jokes and be sarcastic, but men take it to a whole other level. I guess the ex boyfriend didnt understand that girls aren't homies who will suck up to jokes like that.

[@deboracopeland4795]

He’s been doing this for awhile to her. She thinks she sensitive but I bet it’s a build up of so many ‘jokes’ in the past. My ex would make jokes and embarrass me all day doing things like rolling his eyes when I was talking to someone else. Then when we got home and I was cooking dinner, that’s me cooking and cleaning with no help, he LITERALLY started humping my leg saying let’s eat fast so we can have sex. As if.

[@RomanfillVerne]

If someone abuses me, I will not donate anything! What will happen if I get sick years later! 3rd story,guy got upset bc he was jealous and ashamed. He definitely can move to his parents

[@talkingtochapri]

No, don't donate your kidney. Look what happened between Selena and Francia, after donation she called her "a girl who donated me a kidney" 💀 some people don't change. They take, and take, and take like a vampire and then drop you like a hot potato. It's their karma, let them deal with it. Women need to stop being savior of anyone and everything 🙄 i will never donate my kidney to my sister or to anyone 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@availanila]

The worst thing with this situation is that Francia confessed she didn't want to donate, Selena manipulated her. They weren't friends then all of a sudden they are so close then she comes crying about how they're soulmate and it's destined and the universe only to drop the bomb she'd had her secretly tested and just came to her assuming she'd agree and acting as if Francia would be vile if she said no. When I heard that story I sat my sisters down and told them they cannot donate anything to anyone but plasma and blood and if they need a meanie enforcer I'll be it even if they're stupid enough to agree I'll be coming in hot on the kibosh, *_they are not donating the unreplenishables and I'll make sure of it_* even of I'm the one dying.

[@laurah2831]

Ah, I made this comment. Just when I decided to give Selena a chance I heard this story. And then Selena’s out drinking after and they fell out. This is why donors shouldn’t know each other. Whoever tested that sample needs to be struck off. I can imagine the pressure but if someone told me they went behind my back on something like this we are done

[@Lee-ks1en]

George Lopez wife donated a kidney to him, then he divorced her. Absolutely not!!

[@silververnallbells191]

That's EXACTLY who I was thinking of. Selena dogged the girl who gave her the kidney & they were supposedly friends. More like she love bombed her in a platonic way to get what she wanted then ditched her just as soon as she got the kidney.

[@BigBiteDoughnut]

I remember as a kid... i would literally get punched or slapped in THE FACE for not doing chores. If i didnt do the chores that were expected of me. I was never given a LIST! And then these dudes say boys have it worse growing up. Bc aw they get spanked. Girls get spanked and punched in the face for not washing dishes. And they claim were just better! We just naturally know.... no they just werent forced to be tamed into servitude. I remember being taunted with the song Cinderella by my family. I dont talk to my family anymore. Havent really for like 10 years.

[@silververnallbells191]

I wasn't punched, but I was slapped more times than I even want to count.

[@soniakorchynski]

Comparing cars to kids, yup. Poor kids are unsafe with men who can't human. OMG.

[@BigBiteDoughnut]

Males say that women should give up sx for a 20$ dinner. But get mad if we with hold it for them not doing 20$ worth of work around the house.... why is it only transactional for them but not for us?

[@MelissaThompson432]

Third poster: being "sweet" and "good company" is a very nice job description, and he's getting an all-expenses-paid life out of it AND the authority to judge her spending practices. If he works it just right, he'll have her handing over her checking account and cards before long. Wait---has she already given him a card to use for "expenses"? If not, that's coming.... ... She has, hasn't she? 🤦

[@Egh0127]

Ikr she booboo the fool. He has zero right to be a leech and then also be a judge on how she spends 😂whole situation is just a big mess

[@ebonyblack7272]

All of the stuff the first guy listed, were things my mom did for me as a child. His entire post is essentially saying that instead of making men adult, we should make women mother them and the children. If you need to be parented into adulthood, you have no business being in a relationship or having kids.

[@jsChelimo]

The 53yo man's 'advice' just further proves the point he's trying to disprove

[@ADR-xn6dg]

It’s weird how they can hold jobs but this is slipping past them….

[@beautymarc510]

For the guys that make the mean-spirited jokes, make sure that you unload on him and make him feel like ish before you dump him; also make sure you’re in a safe space before you do this. These emotionally stunted people are conditioned to only respect someone after they’re made to look stupid.

[@sayewashere5894]

The first dude had me laughing . Cant tell if he's oblivious, sarcastic, densed or just a mix of the 3.

[@kjones8747]

We evolved to do more than our moms and grandmas and this list implies his kind can’t. So sad😂

[@Diana734]

The first poster...if someone is not cleaning up after themselves like a responsible adult why do they deserve an adult relationship? 😒 You all living nasty AF before you get married?

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

First dude adding mental load to his spouse 🤦🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

[@MelissaThompson432]

Fourth poster: this is my sisters: "don't be such a baby!!" And I deeply understand rage-crying. If I cry and it's not Hallmark tears, it's rage. That's why comedians whose humor is always at somebody's expense infuriate me. They know words can generate a sense of encouragement to other people to be ab×sive. They _know._

[@oanaion4899]

The first man is out his ever loving mind. I am NOT doing all that for my 14 year old sister let alone a grown man! Tf is wrong with you?

[@KatrinkaGivens-yh1fh]

I would not donate my kidney to her because you did not damage them! Forget the family!

[@inprogress5210]

The 1st guy is either divorced or getting divorced. He is radiating bitterness. 2nd story I can relate to this one with bullies in the family. She doesn't have to give that menace her kidney. 3rd story - this 40 something year older man is already living off of her. He needs to find a job. His car is *his* responsibility. He should not be tapping into her finances. She should get rid of him. 4th story Men are mean by nature. Most men are not good comedians. In her case he is trying to knock her down a peg (negging) to prep her for his future abu$ive behavior. He is not joking. She is smart to leave him. Wishing her well 🙏🏾

[@blaackberry]

He is the sexist 🤣 I cant imagine a person hating nagging so much he has to resort to nagging to get what he wants 💀💀💀

[@d53380]

I will say this over and over. I will never stay with someone that is mean to me.

[@bec7080]

The sister probably doesn't realize how seriously she inflicted trauma on OP because she said growing up. This does not mean OP is required to donate an organ and i think that it should be given willingly. I think that it would be helpful for OP to speak through this with a therapist and not the Internet.

[@laughingshaman1]

Most artists have to have another job to live on. Especially if they want to live well.

[@silververnallbells191]

I got paid for performing in theatre, but it was minuscule. I always had to have another job.. Last year, I moved to a small town w/o a professional theatre, but I cherish all the shows I was in!

[@dalmalifemore]

Yeah changing oil and rearing children - def on the same level 😂😂😂

[@AuntieThree]

1:44 I have a car and a child, I can take care of both.

[@karmAnonymous]

Unfortunately the dying sister is laying in the bed that SHE made. I personally do not believe in the whole "oh they were only children".... Yoooo I never acted with such deliberate malice as a child... Also... I believe in karma even if others don't want to (I'm sure y'all believe but I've seen some delusional axxholes lol claiming that karma doesn't exist because they don't like it.... Okay but that doesn't make it go away 😂☠️). I don't believe her medical issues are by chance. She is reaping what she sewed throughout her life. Again, I do not believe in blaming children for nasty hearts. My 3 daughters aren't nasty little shxxts EXCEPT a period of time my oldest to the middle was awful. But there were outside issues causing it. I was able to step in at ages 3ish & 1ish & from that point there hasn't been that kind of deeply awful issues. & especially not with the youngest against the older 2. (7,5,3 years old with the 2 oldest birthdays coming up late April & early May, youngest isn't until November) I would never turn a blind eye to mistreatment between my daughters if ever it comes up again, parents need to intervene & not allow shxx like that poor woman literally traumatized by her bully axx dying sister 🤦‍♀️ you may not be able to change the child (by the grace of God it was genuinely outside issues causing problems & not seemingly a truly ill-willed heart naturally) but you sure as hell better not allow mistreatment between the children. If one wants to be a hateful bitxx then they can do that in their own home one day & not in yours! It bothers me when I hear stories like this because there can't be anything other than willful blindness from the parents 🤦‍♀️

[@CometianGoddess]

I wouldn't donate if i was her. But i don't mind my family ostracizing me and calling me selfish, because i am.

[@mizzmolly7649]

I'm so glad I live alone. ❤

[@MarcustheWu]

I refuse to believe that man was not trolling. I know it is probably 50/50, because men be whill'in, but I choose to believe he was trolling for my own sanity.

[@dugongsdoitbetter]

Just to inform many who don't know about oragan donation. Things aren't the way they use to be. Now, ANY member of the family can now donate!! You don't need to be a match. So it's a "pool" system where someone donates somewhere and someone somewhere else donates. They check the donor list and match people accordingly. My cousin's husband did this. He and my cousin were not matches, but he donated his kidneys. Someone else got his, and my cousin received one of the donation "pool". I say all this to say, ANYONE IN THE FAMILY CAN JUMP TO DONATE !!!!