"5 Reasons Dating in Japan SUCKS as a Foreigner"

[@ThatJapaneseManYuta]

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[@anaghasapre7735]

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[@Anvilshock]

3:03 "… because if you don't speak Japanese, …" Viewers: Ohhhhhhh, here it comes, here it comes! Say the line, -Bart- Yuta! Say the line! 3:57 "So, if you want to learn Japanese, …" THE CROWD GOES WIIIIILD!!

[@J-W_Grimbeek]

Bro same i was waiting for the plug and he kept me hanging for almost an entire minute. Best release I've had all day

[@Fatihkilic075]

HAHAH YES

[@madafaka8784]

He just keeps evolving

[@stargirl7646]

Same hahaha

[@Anvilshock]

@daenackdranils5624 You seem to be having trouble with English already. Wonder what plague you've been fleeing …

[@krahnjp]

My problem is I rarely get approached by women who find me exotic, instead it's usually 75 year old men who want to speak English lol.

[@In.New.York.I.Milly.Rock.]

Why would you ever expect to get approached, especially in Japan of all places? You're the one who's supposed to do the leg work

[@CeToxihuitl]

Dōgen's uncle magnet video

[@junztermax4387]

@@In.New.York.I.Milly.Rock. because western shows represents us Asians like that..... Now westerners have think all Asians are like what they watch in shows

[@layedbackthomas]

@@junztermax4387 Idk I feel its pretty common knowledge that isnt the case.

[@MalynVirth2]

​@Mina M I think girls get approached anywhere more than guys thanks to straight culture

[@muttlanguages3912]

This guy goes to Japan and complains that women treat him different because of how he looks. But who wants to bet that he wanted to date the women there simply because they were Japanese and how they look?

[@TTIOTT]

You described 95% of cringe weebs that move to Japan. They just have an asian fetish.

[@zoan23456]

This. Lol

[@maegalroammis6020]

how they could know he would date them for that?

[@IzzyChopChop]

probably the main reason he came to Japan xD

[@budleysulterton7931]

I totally agree with Yura that the indirect aspect of Japan is exaggerated. I feel that Japan has "fake" politeness and the west has "fake" intimacy. I guess that westerners hear the politeness and mistake it for intimacy then navigate the relationship based on that. About the "fake" intimacy, I'm American and I usually struggle to know what Americans are really thinking. Every time I meet someone, they seem like they want to be friends, but in reality they are just being nice. I struggled to date and even make friends in America. I have had no trouble leading a fulfilling social life in Japan. Everyone is different, I guess that my personality type works better here. Speaking Japanese helps too.

[@MrShadowThief]

This. A lot of people seem to think the West is a welcoming place and Japan is merciless, but it seems to me they're just merciless in different ways.

[@Anvilshock]

"the west has "fake" intimacy" Kindly not conflate US with The West, thank you very much.

[@heavenlypath1065]

"Japan has fake politeness" That's been known, Mann. Japanese avoid head-on conflict as much as possible

[@thetafritz9868]

That is a really good way of putting how it is in America, and I am definitely one of those people who would just be nice for the sake of being nice even though I don’t have an interest in becoming friends most of the time

[@lainiwakura1776]

They call it fake politeness, but is it really fake if the point is not to make a scene or just not giving attitude to make everyone's life easier? It's just everyone being nice because they just want to get on with their day and not worry about making fools out of themselves or other people.

[@savagebrie]

I think it is pretty silly to go to a foreign country and expect anyone to adapt their ways to you at all. It you want things to be like your native country, then stay there.

[@tenkotatsu]

As an Asian living/studying in Japan, I REALLY appreciate what Yuta says at 2:16, about the word 'foreigners'.

[@gbormann71]

Yuta, you by far have always the smoothest segue into your business proposition of all YT channels I watch 🤣🤣

[@tiarabite]

Around 3 and a half mins I was anticipating the ad to drop and then it didn't come, but then suddenly it did and I was like, "aw yiss there it is".

[@LukasVokrinek]

Not understanding the language and culture, while waiting to date people IN THAT country is naturally the biggest hurdle. As Yuta points out, if you learn the language, be intentional with respecting and understanding the culture, you can actually turn being a foreigner to your advantage and impress. Probably easier to do in cities rather than the countryside though. But definitely doable. Be a good person, be attentive and be open-minded and hope for the best!

[@maegalroammis6020]

japanese are heartless in genral.

[@usagiroxie]

I wouldn't be worried about dating if you go to Japan or any other country for that matter (men or women). If it feels right, let it happen. But I would say focus on why you're there in the first place. :)

[@Anvilshock]

Thank you.

[@vincenzobassano9295]

This. 100% true.👍

[@andrebaxter4023]

Absolutely.

[@maegalroammis6020]

how does that mean?

[@thomasfitz]

The approach is just different... so many things are "by association" in Japan so if you want to find someone to date seriously try to be introduced to someone by a mutual friend or someone who can "vouch" for you. Everything seems to need "approval" first in Japan.

[@kingrobotnik6950]

And honestly in many situations that’s a good thing. We’re too lax in America. Just sloppily going into something and hoping it works. That’s how MANY people get in trouble dating here. I do think actual relationships can be a bit rigid in Japan but other than that, it’s great for preparing for the severity of a relationship. Now if more Americans can understand how severe relationships are…

[@thomasfitz]

@@kingrobotnik6950 on the other hand the problem with this approach is people can treat each other very coldly. You can be or have a new co-worker for example; see them in the office, say hello, etc. and they will ignore you a dozen times... until that moment someone introduces you and then all of a sudden they start treating you like a human being. Selfishness comes in many forms.

[@kingrobotnik6950]

@@thomasfitz Is it selfishness or lack of trust. Honestly, I can understand to a degree, in terms of not just talking to everyone. Personally, I find people who are too friendly to be annoying. I like to suss out people first. But maybe it’s because where I’m at, too friendly people are what you would call obnoxious. But when I can see you aren’t someone who would be a bother, I’m ecstatic to meet you. Especially if we have something in common. When I was in Japan, I had friends who were more reserved but I also had 1 named Riku(shout outs to Riku lol) who I could feel was trying to come out of his shell. But he was different from people in the US. I didn’t sense obnoxious. Just a tired soul lookin to make some friends. Just seems to depend on the people more than the culture honestly…

[@MazilessMan]

だいぶ間違ってる。

[@byronspence1]

34 years ago last month my future wife came up to me in a starbucks and we were married 9 months later and still together now.

[@Aerolupus]

I started dating my (now) wife in university, and at the start we only communicated in whatever Japanese I could muster, because Japanese was what I had come here to study. It was about half a year later that I realised she could actually speak very decent English and just felt too inconfident to use it with me (how the hell do you think I feel talking Japanese to you?! lol). She's great. I undeniably owe the largest part of my Japanese conversational abilities to her.

[@imNimbi]

Heyy I’m looking to move to Japan soon to study jap. What university did u go to bro?

[@solisimperium1203]

I agree with Yuta, adjust to the culture and respect it.

[@Deedric_Kee]

Japanese ppl are awesome,you just have to get used to be around them. We hang out and laugh and I've had friends there for years and it's fun. I hope it doesn't suck to anyone who visits. Good 🤞 everyone. Good fun stuff "Yuta 👍

[@pietrodelacuesta756]

​@daenackdranils5624yeah I agree

[@Cotfi2]

It's nice to see a list of personal dating failures that doesn't start with "you're old, ugly, weird, hairy, fat, huge, and poor." "Foreign, illiterate, and clueless" are refreshing changes! 😁👍

[@shanegraham2500]

Oh man! "...you're old, ugly, weird, hairy, fat, huge, and poor." Those are my STRONG suits!

[@kingrobotnik6950]

Best part other that foreigner, those are easy fixes. And if anything, you can wear your foreigner status proudly. Ladies’ll love the confidence lol

[@markdelles5745]

Japan and the Japanese language are a lot more approachable than when I first was there in the early 1970s. One thing hasn't changed, women are women, and their reasons for liking you, or not, are unique. Hey, you might get lucky and meet the one. You might get your heart broken. The more you know about the language and customs, the better off you'll be (whether it's finding someone or dodging a disaster.) You might be as lucky as I was, but don't count on it.

[@beepbeep5153]

And now they are less likely to be brainwashed or find westerners 'special' and provide privileges

[@akiyajapan]

Thanks for the thoughts, Yuta San. I do think you're being a bit nice by agreeing with some of the points, as I don't really agree with much of anything he says -- but I used to. The main point I noticed here is that this guy hasn't been in Japan a long time but has already begun making videos about the suckiness of dating in Japan. However, his title should be changed to something like "Initial challenges of inexperienced white foreign men dating in Japan." To be exact, he's inexperienced, so he's leaving out a lot of information (both about dating/life/culture in Japan and one's home country), and also lacks any type of grounding or longterm experience in Japan. The result is obvious that he's going to struggle for a while until he can begin to make real sense and truly understand the lay of the land on a deeper level. How many women did he date back in the US? How many Japanese women here? How many girlfriends has he had? What are his credentials to be telling us that Japanese women won't like us if our home country women don't like us? Also, how many women must a man ask out before he determines that "no one" likes him? I wouldn't say that his video is just a joke or that he's not being serious. While it isn't purely serious, it is most assuredly made with his experience in mind, or at least his beliefs if nothing else. My experience in Japan is a drop in the bucket compared to some other foreigners and even less to yours, Yuta San. I've lived here a total of 3 years, and 7 years in China. Still, I know for a fact that much of what he says is only the experience of a "noobie" type person who lacks the time necessary to understand or see certain things. His intentions aren't bad but I'm in my 40s and after living abroad independently in East Asia for 10 years and having had a couple of serious relationships, many friendships, and numerous colleague relationships, it's humorous to me to see a guy of this age making what is a light but authoritative style take on why dating in Japan "sucks." My #1 complaint, actually, is finding a woman to date who ISN'T married! Last year alone, I went out with 3 different women who all turned out to be married, claiming to be either separated and/or filing for divorce soon. One of them was trying to hide it from me and accidentally let it slip. I'm not challenged by dating itself, but I am annoyed at the amount of women who are looking for either a foreigner to turn into their side piece or someone to "jump ship" for. I just want a good single woman.

[@pomelo9262]

I've also had a Japanese person (in my case a guy) be interested in me - later turning out he isn't single. It sucks

[@akiyajapan]

@@pomelo9262 There's a reason why cheating is infamous in Japan. I understand why it has become this way, but you're right, it still sucks.

[@V0YAG3R]

@@akiyajapan Indeed, more common than anyone thinks. What does that tell you/tell people? That many or most Japanese are certainly very duplicitous, more so than other cultures, contrary to what many people throughout the world have been led to believe, and they hide it with their diplomatic niceties, decorum. Also, from experience, there are many goldiggers in Japan! That was my first shock, surprise about the women there, especially given their economic status, but that’s the truth and nothing but the truth.

[@長谷川静也-w9j]

They're the worst for you, but they're serious. Maybe he's naive and got married without thinking too much about it and now regrets it. At first, they will hide their identity in order to get to know you. When I confess that, it's because I really like you. They want you to save me from my miserable life. That can be called a selfish woman, and you have no obligation to save them. However, it can also be said that love is only possible because of misunderstandings. In the love market, everyone tries their best to mislead.

[@HoshiMiddayDelusion]

It's weird to me that anyone would go to a different country to teach a language without being able to speak the native language there. How are you gonna teach if you can't explain to the student what things are? Also if you go to Japan with the intention of dating Japanese people, you have no right to complain when they want to date you because you're exotic to them because you're literally doing the same thing. Not saying that's what he did, idk him, just talking in general.

[@pheunithpsychic-watertype9881]

You're so correct. It's a dumb mindset that they think because they set foot in a different place that they're entitled to everyone else bending over backwards to serve them and their expectations. But then we're called racist and xenophobic for that which is also stupid. That's why I'm doing my darndest to learn japanese and what the right customs are.

[@knofear8859]

Japan, South Korea, and a few other East Asia nations actually encourage English-speaking people to come over and teach without needing to learn the native language. Hell, back when I was applying to teach in SK they specifically DISCOURAGED learning Korean beforehand.

[@TheZakana]

@@knofear8859 Interesting

[@In.New.York.I.Milly.Rock.]

@@knofear8859 linguistically, that is extremely stupid. Having a good grasp of both languages will invariably make the speaker more capable of translating the "grammatical logic" to their students, which tends to be the greatest barrier to any form of language learning

[@HoshiMiddayDelusion]

@@knofear8859 That's so weird, it makes no sense at all to me

[@sorenkazaren4659]

I firmly maintain that in general Japanese culture works best with particular personality types. Sort of like how in the U.S. extroverted people are overall going to do better. Now you /can/ be introverted in the U.S., but the society isn’t going to reward you for it. Whereas in Japan oftentimes being a bit more passive, polite, and restrained is rewarded. (Keep in mind that one cultures “introvert” might be another cultures “extrovert” perceptions vary by culture)

[@In.New.York.I.Milly.Rock.]

I disagree. I consider myself an introvert, but I'm very passionate about things I care and tend to be respectfully confrontational, which are personality traits that are very characteristic of my cultural upbringing. Despite this, I have a pretty great social life over here. I have found that as long as you're respectful and actually care about your interlocutor, people tend to be very understanding of your differences as a foreigner.

[@sorenkazaren4659]

@@In.New.York.I.Milly.Rock. I’m not saying it can’t work. I’m saying that some personality types fit in better in some societies/cultures. And that from a logical standpoint Japan’s culture is different from the U.S., ergo they will have different optimal personality types/traits.

[@layedbackthomas]

@@In.New.York.I.Milly.Rock. Yeah, it seems ppl think being introverted automatically means you're a quiet person and low key person. When that isnt necessarily the case.

[@Seanathin]

Hey, I appreciate the feedback and your comments on my video, it's always good to hear different opinions. But when a KZbin channel with 1.25 million subs reacts to a channel like mine with 440 subs, it can sometimes hurt more than help, especially when the topic in question is something that many viewers have very strong opinions on and will attack me for. It's a very light-hearted video and I hope people will watch it (in it's entirety) for themselves and not just base their reaction to my video and my channel solely from this. Especially since I actually address some of the points you didn't like about my video (just not in the clips that you showed). I make videos for fun, exclusively as a hobby. It will always be impossible to make something that everyone likes and agrees with, so all I ask is people be civil toward me and my channel.

[@skoolwifi3835]

Good for you for responding with 100% honesty. I found myself scratching my head at a few of Yutas takes because his perspective is that of a Japanese national, not a foreigner, and I think that he probably forgets that. He doesn't know what it's like to not be from Japan and try to fit in. It's very monoculture in comparison to the states which isn't a bad thing but if you don't fit in with one group, your chances of fitting in with another are just as slim.

[@southcoastinventors6583]

@@skoolwifi3835 Must be really slim picking after filthy frank, dunking on a guy that is teaching in aomori prefecture a area with very few people. Maybe he doesn't want anyone cutting into his book sales on dating Japanese.

[@pastelthedevil2662]

Hmm... Very interesting to see your concerns. Personally, I've found Yuta's community to be incredibly respectful and open to the idea of "disagreements without disparaging". I was curious as to whether or not you actually had any such encounters or if this comment was more pre-emptive and proactive. Should you have any such issues with your channel I would like to say that they would not be representative of this community, and instead are a known and occasionally unavoidable consequence of creating public content in general. I hope you do not focus on any such instances. Furthermore, I would point out that while Yuta may have disagreed with some of your takes or opinions, I don't think he specifically stated that he disliked any of them, as there is a difference. In fact, I would venture to say that if he didn't like your video he probably wouldn't have featured it on his channel and reacted to it in such a casual and fun way. There are discussion videos he's done about topics and issues he has disliked, but never directed towards a single individual in a directly negative manner, as far as I'm aware. I as well really enjoyed your video, even though I don't necessarily agree with every aspect of it. I thought it was light-hearted, fun, and enjoyable to watch. Cheers, and I hope your experience with the community is as positive and uplifting as mine has been.

[@Gamerlingual]

Yuta also has his points, and he wasn’t attacking your videos. I’m not Japanese, but agree more with Yuta than your view. It doesn’t mean yours is worse, but your take on Yuta’s aspects was far from attacking you.

[@layedbackthomas]

Dont mind that mean ppl, its the internet so they are unavoidable. People will come to many strange conclusions based off of a 5 min video. I dont think Yuta ever comes at something with the goal of being harsh. Its just the reality of putting anything on the internet opens you up to being scrutinized .

[@MrInuhanyou123]

I am always early for yuta videos.

[@gillmsnfillman1691]

The truth is most western (white) men do very well in Japan dating. The issue with many western (white) guys is that they have been sold the lived experience their fathers and even grandfathers had, getting Asian women with absolutely no effort. Now, white guys need to at least learn the language and they’ll have the same benefit but most don’t even want to do that.

[@deadby15]

The thing is, Dating in Japan sucks even worse as a Japanese.

[@ccbowers]

I disagree slightly with your point on communication styles, because it is not just culture that influences this, but also personality and maturity. It is strange to say that foreigner (whoever they may be) have burden of adjusting their adjusting to the other person's communication style. There is such a thing as a person not being forthright, and in the process causing confusion that needs to be deciphered. This is also sometimes seen in younger people. At some level it may be a communication style or preference, But at another level it can be immature and an actual failure to communicate effectively.

[@jecrazyversion2413]

Japan is not like this, this is reality in others countries such as Phillipines, Thailand, girls there are 800% more like this, Japanese have lots of prejudice against "gaijin" very few girls will approach them compared to southeast Ásia.

[@長谷川静也-w9j]

Do women in your country pick up foreigners?

[@thetafritz9868]

The plug was perfect this time 😂

[@marcello7781]

I guess long hair and facial hair are probably a big turn off over there and in other East Asian countries. Or perhaps people from certain urban subcultures will find them attractive.

[@adrigl3371]

I would be screwed then because I’m balding and to save some dignity I’m using a beard

[@toby182]

Westerners love telling others how to live life... please, other culture exists in other parts of the world too. Some more traditional and more grounded than others. We don't want another Jake and Logan Paul.

[@lukelaser5397]

No, I call bullshit on that. Most of us hate Jake and Logan Paul. They are punks. They don't represent alot of us.

[@gapedandamazed6988]

I mean.. dating in general just sucks ass if you ask me.

[@extremepsyche3135]

Dating is basically a marriage interview - it's not suppose to be easy.

[@herman1francis]

Yes It sucks

[@gapedandamazed6988]

@@extremepsyche3135 I really can't say for Japan 100%. however, America got them girls acting a lil bratty ngl... now Japan really loves America. let's hope that they don't try to imitate any "woke" girl...

[@xandocommando]

@@gapedandamazed6988 i think i’ve figured out why you’re having trouble dating lol

[@gapedandamazed6988]

@@xandocommando I never dated though and never tried and honestly... my current schedule is busy asf ngl.

[@nny2055]

I like Yuta' angry face（＾ω＾）

[@ayth81]

I really don't think being "exotic" and attracting people because of it should be considered a disadvantage. As a foreigner, you necessarily have some disadvantages compared to locals in many things. So you should definitely be grateful of the few advantages you may have. I am sure not all foreigners benefit from the exoticism perk by the way.

[@jamesnoonan9302]

I know not to say anata lots, and that snot is considered more gross than it is elsewhere; hanakuso. I have really bad alergies and normally a few days each year my nose runs uncontrollably. I mean even if I use a klenex every minute, I would go through more than a whole box in a day and my nose would still be running, no matter how much came out. It seems impossible but I swear. It just won't stop. OK maybe not all day, but at least 3 hours of the day where no matter how much I drained my nose it would literally be running like a faucet.

[@Truekaruminmr]

Dating sucks everywhere in the western world. Not only in Japan.

[@aeris4393]

Back in 2016 Japan tinder was pure gold. As a single male, I got date like a ton of married women. They didn't say at first tho... I think the cheating culture in Japan is insane.

[@KimiChanJapan]

There is a 25 year old foreigner (westerner) that kept thinking that the women were his age and then they were like 40+ lol 😆

[@BLACKSTA361]

I mean to be fair Japanese Women once they hit 25 look nearly the same into their 40s. I don't know if it's the genes, skincare or something else but it's very impressive. Taking you as an example you like you're 28?

[@blume0121]

Maybe he got approached by 40 years old women because he looks like 35 😅

[@blume0121]

As a german woman, i never had problems to date japanese men. Its important to speak the language and to know the culture

[@thomasdahl2232]

MY biggest problem is getting to move there with my own company placed in another country. It seems a demand to work for a Japanese company. Unless I marry someone - but dating guys that's not currently an option in Japan, even though Tokyo accept reistred gay partnerships - kind of.

[@VinVin21969]

japanese company has alot of problem like unpaid overwork.

[@In.New.York.I.Milly.Rock.]

I couldn't disagree more with the dude Yuta is reacting to. I'm in Tokyo atm, which, yes, makes it much easier, but I find it insanely simple to get some action here. The only thing I'd say is actually considerably harder is going into something serious, but that doesn't seem to be a foreigner oriented problem. The "indirect PR-like speak" thing is something that you can very easily establish a middle ground when people interact with you. Belive it or not, part of being seen as a foreigner is that people tend to be way more forgiving of you having a different communicational vibe. I find that a lot of dudes that come here sometimes need to be realistic about what they bring to the table and what they are being offered. Being a "handbag boyfriend" could very well be something you turn into a casual fwb relationship, if you actually put some game in instead of feeling sorry for yourself. If you tryna start a family and don't live in a big city, tho, you might just be fucked.

[@DaLastMonster]

Are you black? Asking because people say it is easier for white folks, so you getting attention as a black male would be interesting to hear.

[@bobjohnson5557]

It all depends on your mindset going in

[@VanillaCoke1956]

Anyone who is above average in looks or has no standards can get "some action" in Japan. Moreover, nobody needs to bring anything more to a casual FWB relationship than looks and the the bare minimum of decency. And dear god, I thought the word "game" has finally died out in this context but it seems like I was just wishfully thinking...

[@VanillaCoke1956]

@Daenack Dranils because most of what you said is utter horseshit that reads like a compilation of redditors who never went to Japan talking about Japan.

[@bobjohnson5557]

Dude looks like he belongs in Portland, Oregon.

[@Fede45454]

When i was in japan I was honestly shocked at how many women told me that I was good looking. I think I’m decently good looking but in japan I felt like a model

[@mathiaslist6705]

Dating is horror --- probably everywhere

[@daintygamer]

I've lived on three Japanese islands (including near Tokyo) and my overwhelming experience is that western guys do quite well dating, I know many western men who married Japanese women (or found boyfriends) but for girls it's a real struggle, and imo it's because of Japanese men typically preferring Japanese women, both physique and personality. They like a stick thin girl who will cook and clean for them and blush and be girly. Western girls I know who have succeeded often fit this character/appearance. And one girl friend I have married a very nontypical Japanese guy who has very western views. I think Japanese girls tend to go after western men because they are starting to reject the notion of being a housewife and want to be more equal. Just my two cents

[@carlotaylor3419]

Oh so I wouldn't really have a bad time dating in Japan "ain't getting my hopes high Dou"

[@hastamanana8696]

Stats say the exact opposite.Most common international couples in Japan are Japanese men and foreign Asian women.

[@carlotaylor3419]

@@hastamanana8696 okay if you say so

[@hastamanana8696]

@@carlotaylor3419 Okay if media sheep can't read one simple stat.

[@carlotaylor3419]

Because I know my friend live in Japan he has a well trimmed beard and moustache and good looking and still get girls

[@tenkotatsu]

I think Americans would find it difficult to understand people in most countries they go to, not just Japan, because most of them are so clueless about different cultures and they don't even try to adapt. It just happens to be that a lot of westerners are interested in Japan, so we hear more about Japan being this and that.

[@moon7994]

Me ,who can't afford traveling to the Capitol city of my country ..also me worried about dating in Japan ...

[@mathiaslist6705]

Well, the problem is English ... try to date in German or Danish and you are probably more successfull --- even dating in Esperanto is more promising .... not even job interviews are working in English, so why not skip English at all --- most people can't speak it anyway in China or Japan

[@長谷川静也-w9j]

Japan's policies, including education, are not created by the Japanese government. There is an American-led body above the Japanese Diet that makes fundamental decisions. It is an occupation policy. It means that foreigners are coming to the colony called Japan. When I was in the early grades of elementary school, we were noisy and aggressive, just like in other countries. However, after a few years, the classroom becomes quiet and the students no longer express their opinions during class. They are extremely afraid of making mistakes and are only concerned about how others will judge them. This is clearly educational domination. And it's not Japan that does that. It robs the Japanese of the ability to think. As a result, a lack of communication occurs. This is not a criticism or anything like that, but an issue that needs to be overcome.

[@briancrosby152]

Ganjin hunters are the worst, I know it's not easy to date a Japanese person. Separate bowls for Rice, soba, ramen etc. Men's bowls are bigger. Shower b4 bed sometimes several times a day. Clean the bathtub before they enter. Slippers on before entering bathroom. Some expect you to change clothes b4 entering the house. FLUFF THE RICE UNLESS YOU WANT TO PISS THEM OFF!

[@Miss_Kisa94]

I do find the fact people in Japan don't wear wedding rings a problem 😅 I don't know how to politely ask if someone is single

[@WANDERER0070]

Just say dokushin desuka ? Why waste time bsing

[@shady965]

Actually dating in Japan sucks but for very different reasons…

[@zooropa414]

the problem with English teachers is that they didn't come to teach English

[@長谷川静也-w9j]

🙂

[@hastamanana8696]

Same/similar attracts, not opposites.Simple.

[@mu_cuts9902]

I find a lot of these "dating in Japan" video kinda creepy. Most of these guys just want to date in Japan because they want to date someone who's Japanese and that's their only criteria. Like, surely you'd want to date someone who you're physically attracted to but also someone who has the same values and world view as you? I guess the same can be said about Gaijin hunters...

[@KageumiUmikage]

Do people still use the label weebs? Cause that's what these people secretly are. Even girls sucked up to me cause I'm japanese, shit gets creepy and weird after awhile

[@iclicklike3397]

"Having a thing" for certain nationalities or people from certain region is not necessarily the same as Gaijin hunters. Women from my country for example like the kind of Mediterranean phenotype more often than not. I'm a European and the black marker pen painted kind of eyebrowed women is an instant turn off me, just like the fake talons. This crosses out a large portion of women around you. Meanwhile I find east asian women facial features attractive more often than that of western. Same goes for the overall more reserved feel of people in east asia.

[@unstoppable5417]

If you are looking to date ( in any country) to other people you look almost desperate. People can sense your intentions and they will most likely keep you at arms length or creep them out. Being open to dating and seeking out a relationship is totally different and the vibe you give off is how people will view you. Learning to Be happy while you’re single first is the key, developing hobbies,learning about yourself and being open to change. But no matter what you do or think, if you’re not happy by yourself, than your not going to be happy with someone else. The whole - the other person I get involved with will meet all my unmet needs and complete me is not only unhealthy, but a lie. There’s just one you, I could search the entire universe or go to the center of the sun looking for another you and never find that other you. Past or future in all of creation there is just one you and that’s how special you are, so value yourself more.

[@mouthfulgames8681]

No, tbh that is a very western way of looking at things where openly showing intereset puts you in desperate/creep/crazy category. In a lot of cultures it's actually encouraged when you're single and the whole work on yourself till someone deems you worthy mantra doesn't exist.

[@John-hp2hg]

I'm Korean American and I've dated a Japanese woman before. In fact, she was the one that approached me at the mall. Like with all women, if they like you and their first impression is good, they will be more open and honest with you. This white guy has trouble with Japanese women, because he's just not that good a catch. Besides Koreans, I'm the most comfortable with Japanese people and find that I can relate to them the most. I actually get a little excited when I see random Japanese people in the States haha.

[@KageumiUmikage]

I feel the same way whenever I see a fellow japanese brother and sister

[@長谷川静也-w9j]

In Japan, especially women, their expressions when refuging are so roundabout that I can't understand well what they're saying. There are even commentators who explain what they mean. They use meaningless expressions because they don't want to be known as women who say bad things, but behind the scenes, their purpose in life is to say bad things about others. Because they don't clearly say no to things they don't like, they may be persistently followed by people they don't like. I think it is very important to adapt to the local culture. But as a Japanese person, there are things I don't very like about Japan. I think it would be better to correct the expressions that are too roundabout or the voice that sounds like a child's.

[@izzyjamm4]

im surprised you're not popular in japan yuta, you're super handsome

[@KageumiUmikage]

You live outside japan, that's why any japanese speaker seems bigger than they are to you

[@izzyjamm4]

@@KageumiUmikage bigger?

[@BT.70]

i love japan really want to live there 🇨🇳

[@mariaitch1768]

@@harutokimura4576 period

[@carlotaylor3419]

Deadass🇿🇦

[@EnderVoice]

Oh don't worry, your facial hair is VERY attractive ! ;)

[@carlotaylor3419]

How do you know you live that side in Japan?

[@LeoXcs7]

6:20 you missing the point from having a relationship with someone and just being interested in someone’s background. You don’t lose anything from a stranger asking about being Japanese, whereas find a girlfriend is different you’re trying to have a connection with someone

[@Deedric_Kee]

Depends who you are,just saying. Nice vid though. 👍

[@Paul-yk7ds]

What if my Japanese is like... low intermediate (B1)? I can have conversations, but honestly, there are tons of words I don't know, and I can't understand most native Japanese media. How would that affect my ability to date casually in Tokyo? How many Japanese girls are willing to tolerate that kind of level haha

[@Greenforrest7342]

speak english and enjoy dating with her.

[@J-W_Grimbeek]

I think blond guys might have it easier than brown haired guys lol

[@Crippleyatchy]

*sad noises because I have facial hair*

[@andrebaxter4023]

He sounds like he's not a happy person. Best to be glass half full and make shit happen. Besides, all women like a man to be confident. Irregardless of culture.

[@TTIOTT]

Nailed it 100%

[@ItsShaz1]

Ayyy Yuta

[@NeoNeko99]

I can give you 50 reasons dating sucks in my native country, lol XD

[@Apice.]

I think he struggled dating in japan cause he looks like a huge nerd

[@KageumiUmikage]

Definitely fits the liberal soyboy look

[@3210vca]

I want to date Yuta!!! I hope he's not yet taken!!!!!

[@christiansnaturestudio6599]

Then do it 頑張ってください

[@HqrvqrdDropOut]

My boy Luis got a wife in Japan, he holding it down for the all the Mexican Americans 😂

[@mrwolf9779]

Japanese is same women the other countries only thing Japanese women is different is they culture date a lot Japanese girl and I can say they hide the true personality until u become close to them they might show u her true personality if she dont show it u it’s mean ur dating with her might end soon. Only thing women like about foreigner they don’t need to hide they true personality so they can act freely witch make Japanese want to date them cause they want to experience how to be free cause most Japanese people very shy and like to keep everything to them self,

[@uropy]

Dating is same in most countries. Have a nice pic (tinder) or 10pic (for Instagram), you are good to go. It’s that simple.

[@alfjones6377]

Japanese women love me. I see no problem here. Godspeed, chaps, Godspeed!

[@carlotaylor3419]

Tell me more my brother i want to really know cause KZbin videos focus just on the bad side of dating in japan

[@blume0121]

Same for me. I never had problems to date japanese men

[@G0dgrave]

Cap! All the ladies love me! (I have 0 game)

[@carlotaylor3419]

Dammmmmmmmmmmm boi the only positive dude In this comment section

Picking on a kid who just arrived to Japan and is starting with KZbin, not cool Yuta. There are plenty of very well produced and way more deep videos about not being able to date Japanese people as a foreigner.

[@KageumiUmikage]

Cause the dude is weird as fuck

[@xandocommando]

american men don’t be creepy challenge: impossible difficulty

[@Narukami5006]

Oh yeah, cuz we all know that fucking Europeans could never be freaks. Also non Japanese Asians have no games unless you are a feminine Korean Male. If your a Chinese forget about about it.

[@somethingedgy2185]

Harsh

[@mews8812]

Sadly most Americans are like this. I like in the US and I see it all the time. And, its getting worse.

[@somethingedgy2185]

@Mews The US is a gigantic country, kinda hard to put nearly everyone inside of it into a tiny little box like that.

[@mews8812]

@@somethingedgy2185 I'm well traveled in this country. Its mostly the same shit. Especially republican states. I speak from a ton of perso al experience. Where i see your point in general, the US is full of garbage people.

[@robertschrader]

"Dating" in Japan is awesome as a foreigner! Anything more than that is what's hard.

[@アレックスの部屋-s9h]

I would say it is easier to date in japan as in e.germany... first you have so many sports e.g o daibai omotesandou , marunouchi etc. 2nd if you have immersed yourself into japanese colture for the last 16 years its is a second nature to communicate japanese and getting the trends/jokes etc. it is more of a piece of cake.. than in germany.. where I am pretty much ignorant towards the trends 3rd there are always things to do with your Crush.. even afreaking aquarium in soramachi or so is sick

[@TheBombayMasterTony]

Alright.

[@dazdragon445]

I think it's just that guy. Never had a problem meeting women in Japan. For sure wouldn't say dating in Japan sucks. I found it much easier in Japan

[@DoctorX101]

He is a Seahawks fan. That is his problem.

[@dazdragon445]

@@DoctorX101 😆

[@KageumiUmikage]

Definitely just the guy. Japanese girls are pretty easy to get along with, since many are conservative and love to have fun

[@ellebrook3413]

His last point.....nope. I have seen some true undatables who somehow managed to get dates/spouses here. Even worse, they get all egotistical because of that....yet deep down, they probably know it's cos their J Partner a. may not have the experience to judge a good vs bad gaijin b. may not be dateable themselves among other Japanese or c. had a ticking body clock or social pressure to just get married to...anyone.

[@layedbackthomas]

I don't think undateable is a real thing personally.

[@Nihonbunkaotaku]

I had better experiences with Japanese in Toronto is than japan

[@phuquymaile8394]

Note to self: don't date them because they are Japanese, date them because you and they have the same vibe. Don't force someone having different style from you to be like you. And don't think that real life Japanese people act like characters in Shounen animes. Watch more daily life anime (my recommendation is "Just Because", characters in that anime act way more same as real life Japanese, forget about Naruto or Luffy, it's hard to find someone like them in real Japanese society)

[@hikageniko]

Japan has a lot more media than just anime too, for those who don't know.

[@warungmaduracakmus]

That's why i love SoL animes more than any genre. Romance is my #2. I've been full w/ shounen & fantasy stuff when i was teenager. SoL is filled w/ real things, chara's actions are mostly relate to rl, but not 100% bcs there's still a lot of SoL & romance that "too good to be true". So i'm always keep my logic on despite it's a daily life / SoL shows. Btw, i've finished "Just Because" 2 mo ago. It's a nice calming show, similar to "Tsuki Ga Kirei" (both are 2017 anime & same genre)...

[@phuquymaile8394]

@@warungmaduracakmus Yeah I feel U bro. But it also depends on personal taste. Even I know that Shounen animes are not real, and how different Japanese people act in real life, but but I still enjoy watching it. I just talk about shounen anime with someone who loves it like me. Because it has more meaningful inspirations than just fighting blad blad blad that you can hardly find in SOL anime. SOL anime just something that I watch when I need chilling emotions. I feel a bit jealous with characters in SOL anime because their life is so "too good to be true" to me haha. So I just keep focus and do real thing on my God damn real life hahaha :v thank you anyway for sharing, bro

[@KageumiUmikage]

Don't kid yourself brother. You all go to japan to find a japanese partner

[@KageumiUmikage]

@@hikageniko Thank you. I'm tired of people conflating my ethnicity with anime, it's insulting

[@lenguyenthanhhuy4149]

I think one japanese guy is attractive with south east asia womans. Japan is nation so rich and high tech, they like it..ha ha

[@Greenforrest7342]

I always wonder why single foreign men do not try to find partners in their hometowns or surrounding areas. In a foreign country far from their home country, they risk encountering language barriers. Even if English is the global language, it's not uncommon for it not to be understood deep in the mountains or in small island countries. After all, when considering the development of a relationship based on shared values and smooth conversation, the man and woman who become intimate should be of the same ethnicity and race as each other.

[@BLACKSTA361]

@Mike P yea Western women have totally lost it over the past few years

[@KageumiUmikage]

I don't blame american men. The USA has gone off the rails

[@offworlder1]

Most men in the USA don’t want the entitled selfish, and insanely high maintenance women who are “strong and independent”. If there were a decent amount of women worthy of being girlfriends men would not be going over seas for love. The average western woman can’t cook, hates to clean, and does NOT cater to a man seeing that as oppressive. Like a spoiled child the western woman only wants to do what she wants, has zero loyalty to any man(except her loser bad boy with no job), yet wants a traditional man while being a modern woman.

[@heavenlypath1065]

I would never date outside my country. I am blessed with women from many ethnic groups and backgrounds. 🇨🇦

[@Nihonbunkaotaku]

I respect the Japanese that fought died in ww2 more than the current Japanese that survived and current generation

[@Angellady11]

You are good looking

[@shutensarubachababa5072]

I started to undrtand why you are kinda hated

[@SyntaxWyntax]

Bro that guy wouldnt get girls in the west or in japan ok lmao

[@Rob_strange]

Let's be honest, this guy would have trouble dating anywhere.

[@LoneGh0ste]

This guy is not attractive or likeable, I think he’s the problem not Japanese women lol

[@OCV102]

Asian women were his last straw

[@layedbackthomas]

@@LoneGh0ste Why be so disrespectful to him. You saw a few clips of him and make all these assumptions..

[@Anvilshock]

@@layedbackthomas He consciously chose to make this video and present himself suchlike in said video for the world to see. He gets exactly what he asked for.

[@LoneGh0ste]

@@layedbackthomas He made a bunch of assumptions about a foreign country then made a video claiming it's rough to date in Japan. The problem is his self awareness, and he needs to work on himself and not put blame on the people turning him down or assuming a culture he's not apart of will be somehow more welcoming to him. The way he chose to present himself shows a level of disrespect in of itself.

[@jecrazyversion2413]

In southeast Asia girls are far more receptive than in Japan, and they are mucho more likely to approach, and most of them speak English and have no problem with that, instead of the Japanese, the only bad thing, they are poor countries but most people speak English that's impressive.

[@majibento]

Since I’m lesbian my dating life sucks anyways, I’m prepared ✌️😌

[@4ngel_w1ngs7]

Haha, I wanted to say this as well. I can't even find someone in my country T_T

[@pheunithpsychic-watertype9881]

Maybe not in japan but I managed to convince a foreign lady to serve me for a free session. The only reason I went to a legal brothel in the first place was because I misunderstood a chapter of an ecchi manga I read that I let spiral me into a depression

[@mariaitch1768]

Mental illness

[@In.New.York.I.Milly.Rock.]

Seek help

[@carlotaylor3419]

@@In.New.York.I.Milly.Rock. lol 🤣🙏

[@motivatedguy4102]

Be unshakeable. Follow the Way. People will come and go. I too will have a hard time (209 cm/6'10"), who wants to study at HICS. But like a legend once said, "We're all gonna make it brah that's it!" 🔱🔱

[@JohnMiller-zr8pl]

👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

[@ccbowers]

"We can't just have the benefits of being exotic without having some inconveniences" That is strange to attempt to bulletproof the objectification of others by saying there are also advantages. We should provide criticism when they are due and not be making a package deal of objectification to shield it from criticism. And I realize this happens everywhere and in many context but I wouldn't use that to downplay the issue.

[@frez8141]

it is really difficult for Europeans to understand her 15 or 27 and more. It’s especially dangerous when it’s just 15, I imagine you flirt and then she shows a pass from high school (a meme with Pedro Pascal who first laughs and then cries comes up)

[@Senaru]

Oh I know why this dude has a hard time dating… his look/build 😂

[@layedbackthomas]

Looks like a pretty average build for someone in japan.