5 Reasons Why You Glow Up after Leaving the Narcissist

[@narcabusecoach]

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[@proanimaluver6487]

You are so saturated with their poison and when they leave , it slowly dissipates and your able to thrive again❤

[@Dayandthelifeofjohaunnaalize]

❤exactly 🎉😊

[@joseenoel8093]

Glug glug! 1st they find out what would bother you then they go in for the kill!

[@popmonika]

Don't know about that. Sadly there are some after affects... Migraines, nautia, concentration issues. A positive thing is that you'll be able to recognize and solve any narcissistic issues without ending up being considered a supply.

[@proanimaluver6487]

@@popmonika I do

[@hope5443]

Or for the first time ever if the narc was your parent!

[@veema5211]

You are absolutely right,after leaving a narcissist husband after 25yrs,now all my stress and burden are gone,it's take me about 2yrs to balance myself,thank you

[@PaintingandExercise]

I cannot say that my glow up happened suddenly but I can say that it happened and is still happening. It has been 1 1/2 years since I cut off my family and I could not be happier. Gradually, I am finding myself and becoming happy from deep inside. I should have done no contact decades ago.

[@joseenoel8093]

Let them be horrible without you, they're pros, you owe the trouble makers nothing at all! Cut your losses and count your blessings, it's the best you can do!

[@cynthiacle1553]

Same here😊

[@snowqueen24]

It's not your fault you didn't leave sooner.

[@shirleyvanderheijden5934]

When he went missing for afew days it was peaceful,like having a holiday away from turmoil!

[@lorimiller7261]

If you want a face lift - leave the narc! It’s shocking how much better you look and feel 😊❤ Great insight Danish.

[@joseenoel8093]

Ha ha you're going to put them out of business! 😊

[@PolinaB.G]

My narc mother wanted a face-lift at the age of 47 and wanted me to pay for it! Ignored and left

[@anncrosby6157]

It takes time to heal and rebuild your life again from narrissistic abuse once you have support and guidance from someone who specialises in narrrisstic abuse the trama bond breaks and you will never regret leaving a narrissist you will rest well look better and feel better you will never regret leaving a narrissist

[@76482]

🥰

[@life-rethought]

I just months from being freed from the Narc husband. and I cycle through ups and downs of PTSD., chronic fatigue, epstein barr virus when my fears and dreads come around. yet I feel myself getting stronger. I see steady consistent improvement in my home and property. such a contrast to the 2 years of rages and sabotage. my life is slowly blooming in so many ways. and yes I was raised by a criminally abusive narc father. I used to say to myself "there is no safe place" as his behaviors were transferred to my sister. I was "gang stalked" for decades. it eventually broke me at 54 years old.. my shattering into a full ptsd seizure and blackout. another turning point in my life. where I got counsel and set boundaries as an adult. yes this abuse cause stress that takes us down. mine went from obsessive work to distract myself ... to 2 years disability with chronic fatigue, then breast cancer. then the outright PTSD. now I stand on the idea.. that my wellbeing is above any one else's... Nita comes first.

[@sexytechreviews_]

After happily leaving/fleeing the narcissist I went from having large waist from high cortisol, bad hair and nails from eating wrong, having a sad "thousand yard stare" to losing weight and being told I now look 20 years younger. I glow inside and out now. Thanks for all the videos.

[@cassiebennet4262]

Sounds like me. I want my freakin health back.

[@Muhammad-u]

Because you feel good about yourself then you glow

[@dervish108]

My father said I looked better and had less wrinkles on my face after I moved away from my narcissistic ex. Not only that, but when I’d walk with my narc ex, I’d always be tripping on my feet, and when I’d try to have a serious conversation with her, I’d constantly be stammering or stumbling on my words but I wouldn’t have those problems otherwise.

[@sherrymurphy855]

Stress kills - the sleep deprivation - healing almost never comes instantly. Sometimes it takes God - a higher power in the universe to intervene and take these wicked individuals to the eternal place they need to be. For some, only then does healing become easier for the survivors.

[@yuu_miran]

That is exactly my case. Also praying to Holy Mary truly made wonders in my life. It is such a misfortune for human kind to disregard how much being with narcs is a spiritual warfare and how much entrusting yourself to God can save you and enhance healing.

[@ericb8413]

Psalm 83:18

[@konradm7776]

Today I broke up with a man who turned my life upside down for 7 years. I warned him that this will be our last meeting and today was the day. My body was telling me not to go. But I went, I survived that day, I managed to break up and I don't know what I feel. I thought i would feel a huge relief that there would be fireworks and a festival of happiness. But I don't feel anything at all, I'm empty inside, I don't understand why I was stuck in this toxic system and I just saw this episode at the end of the day... Thank you!

[@anneofgreengables1619]

Give it time. The meeting must have been stressful.

[@joseenoel8093]

Keep watching and learning, this stuff is fascinating, you're stronger than you know, maybe you're just that drained that you feel nothing, possibility, stay no contact, it wanes, the wee hours are the worst! Best wishes!

[@konradm7776]

@@joseenoel8093 Thank you

[@76482]

I'm doing it tomorrow..FINALLY calling a divorce lawyer. Today was 44th anniversary and I'm honestly scared because old with no job. Should've realized what I was dealing with when young and working. Years are still gonna pass so hopefully 24 months from now I'll be ok and living a peaceful normal life. Please wish me good luck! 😇

[@theladyamalthea]

I didn’t feel instantly amazing after leaving my narc, either. Give yourself three months minimum. There will be cycles of grief and depression, but you will also have increasing joy and health. Learn all you can about self-love and practice it! Congratulations on getting out!!

[@terriarnold4364]

Been about 6wks since I gave him his walking papers!Best thing I ever did.👍

[@khamxoxi5536]

Basically put they want you unalive yourself. They get great pleasure from your pain. So when they are no longer present in your life you will have more chance of healing and will want to remain alive.

[@IsabellaPiesch]

💯

[@italianlover2007]

I am in my glow up phase right now! 😊🙌✨💖

[@Gurlll350]

Me either❤

[@IsabellaPiesch]

You can be yourself again. You don´t have to follow anyone anymore. You don´t need to care what you say and do. And you realize it is better alone than with a controlling and tyrannic person. (I needed too much time to realize that but now finally I do ...). I will never go back that is for sure.

[@anneofgreengables1619]

This is so true. 5 mos. out & my face is already coming back to life. I was looking gaunt under all the stress.

[@joseenoel8093]

🎶 " This little light of mine I'm gonna let it shine, let it shine let it shine let it shine 🎶

[@paintressmaya1450]

❤I truly KNOW what that means...It was the first song I learned st Sunday school, but finally at 45 yrs old, I've experienced my shine! Narcissists try to kill or steal your shine✨️!

[@joey5816]

I'm am so blessed to be sleeping again. It feels wonderful!!!!?

[@kozubart]

Upon 24+ years living chained, bound, and stuck in a narcissistic abusive home environment, I am now breaking the cycle forever. Yeah, you may have a narcissistic love relationship, but having bboth parents be like this can be exruciating. Sometimes I've had moments where I question God things like "Why me?" "Why did I have to go through so much Lord?" "Did you have to birth me into this family Lord?" By breaking the cycle, you can understand that narcissistic personality types have an evil demonic spirit within them. It is that evil spirit that you are really up against. If you do not break the cycle, that spirit will continue to follow you. And even when you do, it will still follow you to tempt you into reactive and acting out of character as it tried to steal, kill, and destroy you and your life. But please, remain strong and know that the only reason that spirit has power over you is because you allow it to. Do not make the mistake of giving your power away to someone like this who only wants to destroy you. You are so much more than that, and you deserve so much more than what you are settling for!

[@melissaflood3276]

​@@AmberKR-xg9ugKeep Praying ❤️🙏

[@crystalclarity4318]

So true my muscles were always constantly so very tense. I’d get so many muscle pulls in my back. 9 years. Horrible sleep. Now no contact Not going through that now!

[@amyb5808]

This was the perfect content for me to find ! I am leaving my narc this weekend while he is out of town. I’m scared to death! Please pray for me ..

[@theladyamalthea]

I prayed for you, but do you have anyone helping you leave? You should be able to notify the police, and they can assign someone to be nearby just in case. Do you have any friends or family? God be with you. 🙏🏻

[@amyb5808]

@@theladyamalthea thank you for your prayers . I’m going to my brothers house who lives in a gated community. I should be safe there until I find an apartment.

[@italianlover2007]

WOW, on a more serious note, after watching this it really makes me realize just how strong I am for surviving the Narcissist relationship and then even having the strength to leave, whilst my body is just in survival mode! 🙏 It really puts things into perspective! Thank you so much for creating this video and discussing this topic!

[@etaokha4164]

I noticed my face glowing everday and looking younger and younger everyday and beautiful.

[@therealaayan]

Thank you Danish! Enduring the challenges posed by a narcissistic individual, I've faced setbacks, but I'm on a journey of healing and growth. Despite past obstacles, I'm now experiencing remarkable progress in various aspects of my life. As I continue to heal, I recognize the importance of resilience and self-belief. Despite efforts to undermine me, I remain steadfast in maintaining control over my life's direction. To fellow survivors, remember, your strength transcends the manipulations of narcissists. Believe in your ability to rebuild and overcome adversity. Keep the reins of your life firmly in your hands, for your journey is a testament to your inner strength and resilience.

[@padmajavijayakumar3608]

1 was a beautiful girl at the time of marriage. Long time with a sadist Narsist | have lost My charming &years after fell into trauma. After decades | Came out. Now Ihave no illness. My hair beganto grow. Sking. Aging stopped suddenly. Now I am a beautiful lady.Ladies around me asking the reasonand staring at me. I am happy as young with my parents❤

[@MakedaMix]

Another beautiful and great episode. I decided to just get all the health I can get now that my narcs are gone. Thank you, Danish.

[@prophet1782]

All true. I'm from a narc family. I'm going no contact., I can see the same difference. 100% correct. Thanks Danish. You are leading the world .

[@dakoderii4221]

The drug addict, alcoholic narc will say you're high if you're tired and everyone will believe them, especially with the extra charisma from the booze and coke in their system.

[@Seraphim7]

When they abuse me and unleash their demons, I’ve had to recover and recover again. Now, that I’m firm w my boundaries and taking care of myself. They deteriorate. Demonic and strange how they thrive on hurting you.

[@76482]

We need a narc survival forum to share escape tips, new learnings, and encourage each other along our narc free journeys. We deserve to live happy healthy lives. 💜

[@katherineraquelle1930]

It took me nearly two years after leaving my toxic narcissistic family…. I glowed up and I felt like Bella Swan from a corpse to a vampire in the Twilight series 😊 I glowed up so hard it became legendary. I am now Raquelle from Barbie as a human!

[@dakoderii4221]

I learned to disconnect my body language from my emotions because my dad would read them and wouldn't leave you alone until he thought he has destroyed you and crushed your spirit into a million pieces. Then everyone says how ungrateful I am because I'm not smiling and he's a great father because "he's your father". It feels good but kind of weird having things connected back up normally again. Been away from the madness for a few years now. Still lots of work to do.

[@joseenoel8093]

You don't owe nobody nothing, when mom's doc wouldn't take nor return my calls (woman hid dementia then diva was finally locked up) the nurse said "But she's..." Well I think she can still kill me, onto adult protection... We're stunned, we're shocked 😲, if they're so kind then how could they ever and we are undeserving to say the least, save yourself you're the only one who can! ❤

[@naomireid8833]

I am experiencing my glow up right now. The pain in my deep muscles in my shoulders is gone. No more anxiety. Deep relaxation in my body. I feel my muscles slowly waking up. I'm not as tense. Deeper sleep. I feel joy and I laugh a lot out loud. I'm surprised by the ease in which I'm able to handle my emotions, to remain stable. I have more energy as well. Thank God.

[@kathymorris4553]

I FEEL FREE!!!!!!

[@NgoziKOka]

it a sweet feeling... Feeling the same 😂

[@dianedoyle-mccahon4979]

I can identify with the frozen , I have aged ten yrs in one.

[@narcicide8814]

When you forget how to truly breathe until they finally disappear from your life...

[@prernaofficial2724]

I will never glow up until and unless I get 97% prarabdh and closure from caste community and unknown warrior irrespective of ALL All all political parties without getting married

[@pattyrooney1323]

Glow Up is real! Thank you, Danish!

[@no.9961]

I think we learn to channel our anger into positive things … takes awhile to get there but it’s worth it 👍👍💪💪

[@Mechanically_Speaking]

She would start fights by text right at 10pm, she would drop a bomb and disappear. Not just to make sure i was upset, but so she could justify the cheating she was about to do to herself. Now that im so educated about her disorder i see a lot of things i missed, and im dusgusted by her

[@user-q992]

After 2 months of staying away from the narc husband, my hair has stopped falling, less grey hairs and growing nicely. Every new friend I made has commented how different my face looks already. Laughing with and loving my new friends ( I can make beautiful relationships very fast). My IBS has improved significantly. Sleep also better and my usual nightmares are beginning to be replaced by happy dreams. Can't wait for another 4 happy months of seperation and who knows, maybe finally a complete break up 🤗

[@Alicewonders828]

How long before the narcissist gets bored harassing you and moves on, after you have left them?

[@XOChristianaNicole]

The eyebrow furrows and the tension in the forehead! I have dealt with that, my entire life. I was 18, in beauty school, and my instructor told me not to move my forehead, because I was already getting wrinkles. I had never NOT had forehead wrinkles, and I didn’t realize that the majority of people I knew didn’t - even those older than me. I was severely ill, for the nearly the entirety of the past decade, under the “care” of my mother - who’s own mother was diagnosed with NPD. I look in the mirror, now, and have a difficult time not feeling like I have lost my youth, in some capacity. Which, is so frustrating - being I have dealt with morbid and morbid obesity, largely (no pun intended) due to the excessive cortisol I have been exposed to, my entire life (symptoms starting around the age of 6). Hell, I became bedridden/housebound, due to bariatric troubles, because of the undiagnosed hormonal imbalance. I have been living on my own for 6 months, now. I know I am in process of my glow-up, though, I still have been praying to be delivered from this heaviness of worrying about my looks/image. I look at photos from the five years I lived in Los Angeles, with minimal contact from my mother, in my early 20’a, prior to falling ill.. And hot damn, I looked good. I can’t believe I was so hard on myself, back then. Thankfully, I’ve always helped the mentality, ever since I was a teen - “I only get/look better, with age.” So, I am trusting the process. My focus is on getting healthy and strong, as well as learning skills to allow me to effectively, consistently, and sustainable earn money - and get off of disability, for once and for all; and never have to depend on her, ever again. Your timing was perfect, with this video, Danish. Thank you.

[@user-wm5jc3vl1y]

I think the glow up happens because the life conditions of the victim are going to be better.

[@Shawn-q3x]

What did Jesus say about himself? Jesus said he came not to be served, but to serve (Matthew 20:28), meaning we are not to serve Jesus as if he is God. In Luke 4:8, Jesus explicitly says that we are to worship God, and him ONLY shall we serve. Jesus also said “no man can serve two masters” and “the servant is not greater than his lord; neither *he that is sent greater than he that sent him”* (John 13:16). We are to honor and respect Jesus above all others because he speaks the true words from God. In John 16:25-28, Jesus tells us he will show us PLAINLY of the Father, but only to those who believe that he *CAME FORTH FROM God.* In John 5:24, Jesus tells us having everlasting life is hearing his word, but believing in God; this is how we will overcome death, just as Jesus did.

[@TorahisthetruthPsalms]

Jesus is a idol. And only a narcissist is ok with an innocent dying for their sin. Keep the noahide laws for mankind and be blessed.

[@jackiekittle1668]

Yes I just broke up with my husband last Sunday and it feels 😊

[@pocahontas4583]

Because you always had the ability to be great but they narcissist burns out your light.

[@erickanorris567]

my heart rate during my high conflict divorce from narc was in the 90's, my labs were horrible. Now my heart rate ins in the low 70's and my blood work is excellent. My insomnia is gone etc.

[@theresaalbano4363]

5yrs gone. 2 yrs divorced and he is still bringing me to court, refusing to pay child support and now completely denying his child!!! I’m still so traumatized!!!!😰

[@IsabellaPiesch]

Stay safe! Narcissists refuse to take accountability. You are right they won´t pay voluntarily. Give yourself time - you will see it get better (you will feel better).

[@aprilraines5591]

Im so sorry you are dealing with this. In the long run it will be better for your child if the narc completely disappears from both of your lives. This hurt and trauma will only carry over to your child. As a mother to a 3 yr old son, whose Narc father, who has constantly ignored him practically since birth and treats him as invisible most of the time, I know how deep the hurt and trauma can go. It's better to turn the Narc loose. At least if he doesn't claim your child, you won't have to share custody or let him have visitations with your child, which in and of itself would be a healing gift for yourself and your precious child.

[@alastairjamesmainland2497]

Wonderful video Danish, thank you for joining yet more mysterious dots from the mystery of my past, due to meeting a friend who shared a similar experience , I have found a great deal more confidence and direction.

[@barbaramiprince5724]

This is absolutely True ,,💯👌👍❤️

[@Sahdemir94]

By the way, I am stil broken

[@IzabelaWaniek-i1x]

Let the healing begin from deep within! Super 🙌 thank you for your help and support Danish. Everything you said is spot on ❤

[@Shve18-o6x]

Danish ...I could see it in your face 😅

[@MissNancy]

Wow!! Great message! I can see the changes in my face in photos ❤

[@marekm9647]

Thanks!

[@Lyrielonwind]

I think that if you have been in such a miserable state for decades, you might go from sympathetic fight or flight to parasympathetic freeze or fawn (dorsal vagal) response... What I don't know is how long it takes to come out. I guess it depends how much you feel you are still in danger.

[@winifredokolo1861]

I was extremely tired and exhausted when I was involved with them, or you finish talking to them on tje phone and you feel drained like they suck your energy, since I dont have them around I feel free and energized

[@winifredokolo1861]

*the typo

[@monicarai1497]

Yeah. I felt that ALOT until lately when I felt like I just stopped caring altogether. I think also it takes time esp if they are family members or co-workers or spouses. It takes a lil bit of push and pull until you finally get to the point of "Fuck it"

[@Jonathan-rr1we]

They will try to control how you leave them so they drag it out to…. Just hell to deal with

[@mehmettolgataner8878]

Excellent lecture.

[@jayashreek-v9p]

Very true, I got compliments for my glowing face after leaving my narcissistic husband

[@judyyates2763]

Let the light in!

[@tamihunt3659]

I will close the book for good..i will thrive..you are on point describing everything 👌 thanks Danish

[@miriamhavard7621]

TOP NOTCH!!!! 😃🏆

[@Ab-abovetheFirmament]

It happened to me or should I say it happens to me every time... but my narcissist always finds his way back. So yes.... Don't know what to say about that.

[@shoneekagupta7710]

Thanks to u i realised I was in an abusive relationship for 7vyrs...off n on.. its over. Thank u. God bless u.

[@mrdeshonline]

5 months leaving my narcissistic mother I am Rich and wealthy

[@dr.muhammadamin1554]

Mostly survivers get rid of one narc and stuck with another. 😢

[@Sahdemir94]

But a narc also glows op after leaving you and being with there new supply

[@prophet1782]

2:57 My narc mum wud always mock at me taking a nap. She'd peep into my room and go Huh !

[@rgjr.6055]

Being able to have friends again also helps heal your body.

[@rodahmusyoka831]

❤❤❤❤❤Best video ever thankyou so much ,goodbye pain usher in the glow🎉❤

[@SachiDan-b8c]

Why did my narc encouraged me during studies ?

[@bossytruthy1573]

My mother always embarass me and try to destroy my image

[@kerrytaggart8206]

Thank you so much for your encouraging words. Not only does it give motivation but also a goal to seek.

[@monicarai1497]

Just let them believe that they won. Thats it. Of course thats the farthest from the truth one can go 😂

[@janlouisemakiling3474]

This is sooo trueee.. My skin and mental health got better 😂

[@monicarai1497]

Oh totally. No contact is the best. When they are gone they bring everyone so much peace. The crap took itself out.

[@duke3229]

I don’t. Too much good hormones are bad too.

[@bluetulisia3]

Yes. So true.

[@totolabine3153]

All very true!

[@smallsteps123]

True words...

[@alo3728]

77$ is a bit expensive for me

[@theladyamalthea]

Four months out, and I feel the most attractive I have ever been. I went to hang out with one of my friends, and she said, “Oh, you look radiant! You’re glowing!” It’s so ironic, because my ex always made me feel unattractive, even as he complimented me on my appearance. He had a way of making me feel bad even when he told me I was beautiful. I now feel so confident and secure in my appearance. I’m spending less time on my hair and make up, but people are noticing my glow. And I notice yours, Danish! I’ve been watching your videos for about a month now, and you are looking happier and more alive and more confident, too! May the healing continue! ❤️‍🩹

[@ralph4370]

On the timeline only shows 1,2,3 and 5 no 4.

[@Free_spirited_wildsunflower]

6:55 absolutely..... I'm constantly hyper... My eyes open wider. But i couldn't visual anything properly....... That level stress

[@samanthawest2162]

Thank you 😊

[@CindyLocherTheRelaxationWorks]

Almost 2 years past the narc relationship now for me. I can't believe how peaceful my mind and house and life are compared to before. I've lost 30 pounds and can finally focus on my own spiritual, emotional, mental and physical health. I'm sure there's still growth and healing in front of me but I'm so happy sometimes now I could burst! Light & love to all fellow survivors.

[@MeCynthiaAnn]

Some do this and some do not but boy the ones who do are horrible, horrible horrible when they do this for sure. Also, they’re very creepy. Thank you always for your videos. From JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA

[@fondacormier4773]

Thanks!

[@n23391]

so good

[@2mathfacts]

Wow! This is so true!! My weight had dropped drastically, I was down to 94lbs, my face and cheeks drooped, it is almost a year I am well and healthy thank God and just yesterday I noticed that my glow has come back😊

[@DaniellesMicoMarley]

I look at old pic of myself when I was around my family and I look bleh. I haven't really seen them in like 3 years. I get compliments A LOT now that I look young. I feel great. My back pain has diminished immensely.

[@alwayssparks9165]

Thank you for all of your videos, Danish. You helped thousands of people in the world, I came to a realization what was happening to me, and now I can finally glow up 🎉🎉🎉

[@yourbodyandu]

Thank you. I feel so much better. My skin has some radiance that it lost. I enjoy flavors and smells again. My laundry is cleaner. My dishes are cleaner.

[@piscesmoon0909]

Hey Dude, I watched several of your videos. I didn't find you as if you have dealt with one. I greatly appreciate it that you create and educate people about how dangerous the narcissistic people are.

[@goobygoo2]

Very important video. Thank you. This is the first time that I have seen anyone talk about the furrowed eyebrows. The first I noticed them was when I was dating the particular narc that I learned was a narc. (Now I've learned that is all I've ever dated). When I see the brows now in some people I get a big clue as to what's going on in their life. There are a number of excellent films on KZbin that address npd and all the accoutrements it brings to relationships. What has struck me is how good these films and their actors are a portraying these relationships as they really happen as these relationships are so hard to explain to anyone who has not experienced it. The actors even have the furrowed brows, the tense mouth - quite accurate and impressionable. Kudos to the directing and acting. Thank you, again, Danish for bringing up these five points.

[@KatarinaP81]

I'm being told over and over for the past 6 months since leaving that I'm having a glowup

[@audreyzapata6445]

🦄