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5 Shocking Signs You have Trained The Narcissist

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Danish Bashir

Danish Bashir

Күн бұрын

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@narcabusecoach
@narcabusecoach 3 күн бұрын
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@58-7q
@58-7q 2 күн бұрын
Train me daddy
@sequeira1104
@sequeira1104 3 күн бұрын
Im one of the few who "knows" how to play the game. And once they are seen. They can't be unseen.
@tracylmathis4714
@tracylmathis4714 3 күн бұрын
🤔 Hmmm
@andya2636
@andya2636 3 күн бұрын
Been there burned that
@NashvilleNative3113
@NashvilleNative3113 3 күн бұрын
Absolute facts... I know how to play the game too. 💯💯💯
@janicedaniels5333
@janicedaniels5333 3 күн бұрын
I'm proud of you it is very hard😊
@jurepotokar6218
@jurepotokar6218 2 күн бұрын
Same here ​@@NashvilleNative3113
@monicarai1497
@monicarai1497 3 күн бұрын
Yeah. They are not as smart as they want people to believe they are. They can only fool you if you trust them. But having said that,it's best to leave them and not look back. It's not worth it. Value your peace 😊
@tracylmathis4714
@tracylmathis4714 3 күн бұрын
Yessssz☺️Ny Words exactly
@Private-wj4nd
@Private-wj4nd 3 күн бұрын
This is very difficult, but it can be done. If you are trapped, you have no choice. The hardest part is regulating your emotions when they are being horrible.
@QuinnMarie222
@QuinnMarie222 3 күн бұрын
Agree. Otherwise, we end up turning into a version of them.
@anuradhasunil5263
@anuradhasunil5263 23 сағат бұрын
Need to detach and look at the situation as an observer as if it's a stage with oneself on it included. Then it helps to control and regulate our emotions.
@tzivier3061
@tzivier3061 3 күн бұрын
Rewarding his good behavior with positive attention has worked for me. And stonewalling for bad behavior is very effective in getting the message across. This is a toddler in training.
@Me_di
@Me_di 2 күн бұрын
Hmmmmm
@helenachiquele3800
@helenachiquele3800 2 күн бұрын
Hummmm
@andreadenisemolina
@andreadenisemolina Күн бұрын
Toddler in training 😂🔥
@anitaholst7671
@anitaholst7671 Күн бұрын
But what about being relaxed, unguarded, non-manipulative? Does that EVER happen?!
@bobbyoldsmith9425
@bobbyoldsmith9425 17 сағат бұрын
Pavlova dog 😂
@CreativeCrumbles
@CreativeCrumbles Күн бұрын
It’s like having to develop sociopathy just to cope with a narcissist
@csc8697
@csc8697 Күн бұрын
Lol
@anitaholst7671
@anitaholst7671 Күн бұрын
It's giving up hope for a real and loving relationship with the narcissist, which is realistic and frees one to be real within other relationships. It's like this: "THIS is what YOU (the narc) are constraining - through YOUR nature - our relationship to be. I accept. And you NO LONGER HAVE POWER OVER ME."
@naturalist369
@naturalist369 9 сағат бұрын
Detachment and no remorse for them 👏🏼
@irshikha
@irshikha 3 күн бұрын
🔥 Our empathy is their power. The day we become intelligent enough to know who to give it to or if we become discerning of the situation and leave the person when they've fooled us twice or thrice, that's when narcissists will have no power over us. They're selfish to the core. Let's leave our codependency and become inter-dependent. ✌🏼
@tonilane2609
@tonilane2609 Күн бұрын
OMG! This is my life right now. I have been watching you for two years now after deciding to leave after 30 years of abuse. I am being financially abused so I can't leave. I have mastered all 5 until I can move out. You are one of my life lines. Thank you.
@anitaholst7671
@anitaholst7671 Күн бұрын
Dont know your financial circumstances but believe in yourself to survive - and even thrive.
@orjadagjoka583
@orjadagjoka583 3 күн бұрын
Whatever you do with them, you never win. Just ignore and move on.
@annaburns2865
@annaburns2865 3 күн бұрын
I didn’t think this was possible, but I think the student has finally become the master.
@b8akaratn19
@b8akaratn19 3 күн бұрын
10:15 at this point, im sitting here saying to myself, "Yeah, surviving a Narc means doppleganging their own tactics," because 😅 ...these tactics ive used, and imo, they were things i learned FROM him & his treatment of me.
@movingsaudade6028
@movingsaudade6028 3 күн бұрын
I wish you all freedom from this life of bondage.😢
@royalpitamamma
@royalpitamamma 3 күн бұрын
I have talked to my son about some of my husband's behavior in the past...rarely. When it was clearly abusive, I would tell him, "he is being abusive to you. DO I do X thing to you?" My son could see the difference in the behavior. I would tell my husband not to do this thing again, but without fail eventually he would. To be clear, it is not abusive in a way that would get the courts to do anything, but calling him names like lazy while he is working on a project but his father is standing and watching.
@monicarai1497
@monicarai1497 3 күн бұрын
I find that counter manipulating a narcissist is a waste of time. Might as well invest that precious energy into building a better,more healthier life for yourself and your kids. Why get in the mud and play their game? Best to pick up their pieces and move on. They are not worth it
@user-lt3yb4fm6q
@user-lt3yb4fm6q 3 күн бұрын
Sometimes you're tied up by finances, joint custody, lack of backup or stupid misogynistic laws. Not everyone can avoid them or just leave
@Me_di
@Me_di 2 күн бұрын
@@user-lt3yb4fm6qTHIS
@srividyakannan6739
@srividyakannan6739 2 күн бұрын
Yes definitely. Well said​@@user-lt3yb4fm6q
@srividyakannan6739
@srividyakannan6739 2 күн бұрын
​@@user-lt3yb4fm6qyes definitely well said.
@tonilane2609
@tonilane2609 Күн бұрын
That's very true. I can't leave yet either. In my case I have been married for 30 years. I wasn't allowed to work or establish credit. I don't know anything about building a life from scratch at 50. It's taking me longer and I'm being financially abused. I'm struggling but I won't stop. I want to peacefully enjoy the rest of my life. Alone.
@Cheesey48
@Cheesey48 3 күн бұрын
I’m so glad you mentioned about the children. Im open and honest with my children and they are both very clued up on their father’s games. I’d rather that than them grow up allowing that kind of behaviour because they had to take it as a child.
@sudhashukla8149
@sudhashukla8149 2 күн бұрын
Danish by God's grace my strategy remained similar as you are guiding..4points I used..and I was at win place when my children settled in their professional career...I never used him Narc...10 years ago I was unaware abt this...mind game I played just to save me&my children... Thankyou Danish .ur approval is a p
@bizzyb8734
@bizzyb8734 2 күн бұрын
Though I am stuck (right now), I have no interest in training my narc husband. My focus is on getting out and getting on with my life😊
@QuinnMarie222
@QuinnMarie222 3 күн бұрын
I was never even asked where the kids should go to school....as their mom. A former straight A, honor roll student......He just decided & decided & I wasn't given any other option. I just Pray for my kids.
@tilly9169
@tilly9169 Күн бұрын
Same here! I pray for my kids for the kind of father I gave them.
@QueenJessica-z5j
@QueenJessica-z5j 2 күн бұрын
Cool-videos! My five-year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, (but I really miss him)
@MarilynChen-j1k
@MarilynChen-j1k 2 күн бұрын
Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.
@QueenJessica-z5j
@QueenJessica-z5j 2 күн бұрын
It's interesting! How can I contact a spiritual counselor most efficiently, and how did you find one?
@MarilynChen-j1k
@MarilynChen-j1k 2 күн бұрын
Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual counselor who has the ability to bring back your ex.
@MarilynChen-j1k
@MarilynChen-j1k 2 күн бұрын
He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers.
@QueenJessica-z5j
@QueenJessica-z5j 2 күн бұрын
I just sought him up online thanks to your helpful information. remarkable I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤
@rossanderson5243
@rossanderson5243 2 күн бұрын
If you're at your best and they are mirroring you like a thief stealing who you are, then they've got something to live up too because when you're gone there's a power vacuum they need to fill. They have to live up to your image if they are going to copy it.
@cindys.9688
@cindys.9688 3 күн бұрын
#4 "Discovering Their Truth" really hits home for me regarding my sister and mom. You said that it takes time to be able to do that and since it's my family, I had that time (from childhood). My narcissistic sister. Where do I begin? So many examples. She's absolutely hateful to me. A glaringly obvious one: she loves calling me a b-tch. She'll yell it in a growlingly angry tone. "B-TCH!!👿" Guess who's the "b-tch" in life in general? Yep. Her. She's a mean 'ol thing. She's embarrassing to be with out in public. She flips people off. She's loud, rude, and obnoxious. Confrontational. Blatantly breaks rules. I wish I was exaggerating or making it up. Unfortunately, I'm not. I doubt I have to add this, but I'm not that way. OMG...I'd be too mortified. Plus, it'd hurt my heart to be that mean to people. I know that any accusations she makes of me are her stating the obvious opposite. Thank you, Danish, for revealing them as liars. For teaching us the truth. And for helping us to heal.🌹
@TheCelestialhealer
@TheCelestialhealer 3 күн бұрын
This is advanced level!!
@dvash6231
@dvash6231 9 сағат бұрын
11:29 - "if you want to know truth in any situation where a narcissist is involved" - thank you for this, this is really helpful. Thank you so much for the part about the children, it gives me hope.
@naowright9308
@naowright9308 3 күн бұрын
I learned that when I want something, I have to mention it, then do a 180 and say how it could never be, or how it is wrong for me to want it. Then they are more likely to give it to me. It is just like the vacation example.
@umaadhish
@umaadhish 2 күн бұрын
This is a unique narcissist post ! and indeed u have nailed al the points.. which are very crucial ..and guess what if implemented we can also live a happy life except milignant... to have a happy life with NPD or BPD.. which i adopt ..!
@JackOP93756
@JackOP93756 3 күн бұрын
On certain subjects they are smart on a surface level, but they always fail at the root level. Jesus in the wilderness is an excellent story that demonstrates the differences in surface level knowledge vs. root knowledge.
@lizaddison5751
@lizaddison5751 2 күн бұрын
I call truth on my own truth. Let them be them and no problem.. But o will be me... I will not take the bait anymore.. I just say my truth nicely..do not respond when the gaslight... My boundaries were completely walked over... Now.. I just don't care what they do or say.. literally leave the phone on the table while they talk and walk away and Pray for Grace... pick it up when they have finished trying to get a reaction and say, anyway love You gotta go....
@donnamason6522
@donnamason6522 Күн бұрын
Brilliant.
@TamekaBuckley-h8e
@TamekaBuckley-h8e 3 күн бұрын
Yes Sir saving yourself from any further abuse.
@tracylmathis4714
@tracylmathis4714 3 күн бұрын
So true... It doesn't b so easy but it WILL B DONE
@Michael-vp9gs
@Michael-vp9gs 3 күн бұрын
Many of these magnet schools for narcissists are not the best schools; but are rather looking like they are the best.
@lolxd9396
@lolxd9396 9 сағат бұрын
Thank you Danish Bashir for your indight on how to tame toxic narcissistic behavior.
@TheCelestialhealer
@TheCelestialhealer 3 күн бұрын
Oh my sister had to learn this conditioning until their son grew up.
@KotobukiGirl
@KotobukiGirl 2 күн бұрын
With a covert narcissist mother and an over narcissist father, it's a wonder to me, with all I know now, that I'm still alive. My siblings are alive, to my knowledge, but they are mentally ill. I have never once shed a tear or missed them a single day since before their deaths.
@carolinekamarinos2898
@carolinekamarinos2898 18 сағат бұрын
OMGosh. I could write TWO books on just the LAST Narc I was with!!! It was MORE of a SHOCK to find out WHO He REALLY Was - because we were (what I thought) BEST Friends (clearly NOT really) for 11-years, before we crossed the line!!!!
@sidrakhan-b8w
@sidrakhan-b8w 2 күн бұрын
Want more of these please!! Needed this video!
@tracylmathis4714
@tracylmathis4714 3 күн бұрын
I hv been doing this very well on my out °EXISTING °jsr certain things n the way but im handling him... anything & all knowledge im willing to obtain...your phenomenal i listen to u jst about Everyday .. what I hv learned to do sense his mask came if is just what your talking about today...
@lynnebvinson2888
@lynnebvinson2888 3 күн бұрын
Love this! It works for me!
@bobbyoldsmith9425
@bobbyoldsmith9425 17 сағат бұрын
I can't disentangle at the moment. I have processes to go through to separate fully. I need to do all these right now.
@naturalist369
@naturalist369 9 сағат бұрын
#5 is so important! Unfortunately I didn't realize this when the children were young, so their narc dads manipulated them both against me (9 yrs apart - 2 different narc dads )
@BUCKAldana
@BUCKAldana 3 күн бұрын
stuck on repeat? ebook Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki actually changes the game
@Zoya288z
@Zoya288z 3 күн бұрын
Hi sir thank you so much some i have used and hes stingy narcissist bcoz he gives little back and unfortunately im still inlove but distant in way bcoz of the abuse trying to get my kids sorted out, legally bcz we only traditionally married they cant do anything for free here on SA, some women are truly helpless..❤
@donnamason6522
@donnamason6522 Күн бұрын
That's appalling. So sorry for your situation. I wish you all the best.
@Zoya288z
@Zoya288z Күн бұрын
@donnamason6522 thanks just living like that without many options...
@donnaT-ti8vj
@donnaT-ti8vj Күн бұрын
I'm an expert at grey rocking. It's just natural now. I hv more energy doing this
@anitaholst7671
@anitaholst7671 Күн бұрын
What is it please?
@donnaT-ti8vj
@donnaT-ti8vj Күн бұрын
@anitaholst7671 Less indepth responses to the narcissists' verbal games to get a rise out of u. Find that inner peace. Don't let ur buttons be pushed!
@ericalbright7210
@ericalbright7210 3 күн бұрын
Christine Albright Thank you❤
@kathyfarley2773
@kathyfarley2773 20 сағат бұрын
Thank you for this.
@rajashreepalani4798
@rajashreepalani4798 2 күн бұрын
Sir 1000% correct five signs Thank you so much sir you are my God father
@csc8697
@csc8697 Күн бұрын
My bro has been complaining about his side. It was a pulled muscle. I said , oh its nothing serious. He said if I broke my arm it would be nothing serious.
@robyndakat4552
@robyndakat4552 2 күн бұрын
That was perfect 🎉
@sheelas-zl2pj
@sheelas-zl2pj 3 күн бұрын
Pls plz 🙏 😢 more videos in hindi.tqsm sir
@pragaya3
@pragaya3 3 күн бұрын
Danish, I'm out of it, but i get too angry for wasting my last 10 years and for not taking this decision sooner.. how do u i overcome this ...
@TiffanyRedGreen
@TiffanyRedGreen 3 күн бұрын
Self-blame is normal, it's the ghost of that narc still haunting our minds, 'Well why didn't you just leave? Why did it take you that long?' I get this too, and I hate it but what would I do differently? Always assume the worst of people? Be suspicious of their every action? assume everything they say is a lie? never consider their feelings or ever help them out? Being deceived in a relationship means you valued relationship over self-interest. So you didn't waste those years; they molded your empathy, with your ultimate awakening being the firing of that clay---only done when you were ready. It's yours to keep now for the rest of your life: stronger, steadfast and wise.
@Sound-Eater
@Sound-Eater 3 күн бұрын
I think the best thing to do is to tell yourself that you were fighting a monster that was at level 100 and you had to gather your strength to be able to start fighting. It was hard, because they constantly take your energy and you have to go to the next level again. They leave you in a state of confusion, and an empathetic person always hopes that conflicts will be resolved and that someone will change. Have compassion and love for yourself. I have read comments from people who have been with narcissists for 60 years or their whole life. Now you are free and can rest and enjoy life 😊
@bleelee4566
@bleelee4566 2 күн бұрын
Struggling with this myself. I just kept telling myself I had no idea what it was that I was dealing with and that I was learning what they were and how to deal with it. This can take decades for some poor souls so that we got out after only 10 years is very good. Be the friend to yourself you never had. Literally speak to yourself as you would speak to a friend who was in your position. Guaranteed you will be far less hard on yourself. We need to learn how to be normal and stop demanding a fully trained psychiatrists understanding of one of the most nefarious minds that we were confronted with. A psychiatrist with 40 years experience to boot. We never stood a chance. Be kind to yourself
@Sound-Eater
@Sound-Eater 2 күн бұрын
@bleelee4566 That's true too, I've used this 'method' of being own friend. I think it helps especially people who have always had a hard time taking care of themselves, because they've always taken care of others more. Such people are also easy targets for narcissists or generally used
@donnamason6522
@donnamason6522 Күн бұрын
​@Sound-Eat❤❤❤er
@colmanlong1032
@colmanlong1032 17 сағат бұрын
Also i have never seen one of them to change ,only get worse with age.Do not agree wit no 1,the more you answer them the more they pester you day after day,Completely blocking them out works after a while.
@LLOYDBritton
@LLOYDBritton 3 күн бұрын
this is cool and all, but ebook Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki shows the whole picture
@Rania-x9e
@Rania-x9e 2 күн бұрын
You are talking about some ideal situations....mostly narcs are very very cunning...just leave them AsAp
@c16621
@c16621 Күн бұрын
Yep - I'm stuck at a job working for a Covert Narc with Malignant Overlap, until the beginning of the year, when hiring will begin again. Need tools to deal with this Cluster B Monster until I can escape this Gulag I'm currently working in - he, and this environment, is misogynist AF too.
@anitaholst7671
@anitaholst7671 Күн бұрын
Sounds like its time for a new work environment.
@reenarai6118
@reenarai6118 20 сағат бұрын
I have learned to play with their game very lately, but I didn’t Mine Narcissist is shameless and selfish.He doesn’t care what others think about him and how children suffer. All three of his characters are contact less with him coz they have recognized his character towards them.
@WARNERKeeney
@WARNERKeeney 3 күн бұрын
nobody talks about the ebook Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, but it’ll flip how you see everything
@toddnoble1000
@toddnoble1000 2 күн бұрын
YES!!!!
@EmelHande-ho1lv
@EmelHande-ho1lv 3 күн бұрын
trusting this over the ebook Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki? no wonder the same cycles keep happening
@LeciaRitter
@LeciaRitter 3 күн бұрын
you’re missing out if you ain’t read the ebook Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, it breaks it all down
@MARTINHoover-y7c
@MARTINHoover-y7c 3 күн бұрын
why stick to surface-level stuff when the ebook Magnetic Aura hits you with the real truth
@aleksandrakettner905
@aleksandrakettner905 3 күн бұрын
☘️
@deekshaspreadingfitness6536
@deekshaspreadingfitness6536 2 күн бұрын
Ye video Hindi me bnado please
@olib4936
@olib4936 Күн бұрын
Dont you think that you may educate people to become generally manipulative or even narcissistic ? I get why you do this, But I fear you educate people to become themselves narcissistic ...
@anitaholst7671
@anitaholst7671 Күн бұрын
It is manipulation. That's anathema to we who want so much to be real - to have truly close and equal and trusting relationship with them. His suggestions are for survival when you cannot leave or will not leave for the time being. Raising children, wanting to be part of grandchildrens lives, etc. For your sanity AND empowerment his suggestions will keep you whole, self-respecting, and hopeful.
@DUDLEYKoehn
@DUDLEYKoehn 3 күн бұрын
not saying this is bad, but ebook Magnetic Aura makes it look basic
@ColleenHogan-v6p
@ColleenHogan-v6p Күн бұрын
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