We know some of you requested videos on toxic family, so we thought we go ahead and release this. Perhaps, it will help someone out there feel heard. Let us know if we've been posting too much as well and we will slow down.
@mohdamaankhan89972 жыл бұрын
Noo keep on posting
@s3_davyestabaya8832 жыл бұрын
hi can u do shout outs?
@katrinamendoza44672 жыл бұрын
I think that the rate at which you are releasing videos is okay with me, as long as its not exhausting for you and the team
@rosimp67352 жыл бұрын
Thank you for posting this.. 😊
@rosimp67352 жыл бұрын
But please keep posting 🥺❤️
@itsPizzaberry2 жыл бұрын
I have a toxic family. I relate to all of the points shown in this video. It surprises me to even think that some people actually have caring parents. I wish I could know how it feels to have a loving family. I don't even know what being loved feels like.
@shakurwonders52162 жыл бұрын
Same like bre, its like my mom is my step mom since most of them are evil.
@shakurwonders52162 жыл бұрын
And thats y i get confused when or if the love i ever wanted approaches, ofcs nobody cares now since am a nobody , 0 friends and a dysfunctional family and ive been depressed for weeks having suicidal thoughts but im still here. i hope soon to get a job and collect enough money never to crawl back in this shell of hell
@itsPizzaberry2 жыл бұрын
@@shakurwonders5216 I wish you the best of luck in your life and I really hope things get better for you
@itsPizzaberry2 жыл бұрын
@Making Memories Collecting Moments Thank you.❤️ It feels good to know that there are people who know how I feel ❤️
@izzy64822 жыл бұрын
SAMEEEE I always tear myself down thinking I’m doing something wrong bc it’s just like why can’t you love me like what did I do wrong
@nj56972 жыл бұрын
I think the absolute worst thing about being raised in a toxic environment is competing with the ones who weren't. They just have a different, positive energy to them, they have big plans for the future, and they think the best about themselves. They don't have to spend hours and hours crying or recovering from all the emotional abuse.
@mymentorjane67052 жыл бұрын
I get you. I’ve always wondered what it would be like to grow up in those “perfect” homes. Is there such a place? I wonder about that. Or are they just not talking about it?
@x._Bunn-Y_.x2 жыл бұрын
I still have a lot of problems considering have a loving family and you still will. Everyone will and I have a lot too and it's hard, you just need someone to help you vent, it makes a HUGE difference wether you have a loving family or not
@raycutler25242 жыл бұрын
MAN I can't tell you how much I think about this so much. Ones who didn't grow up in an abusive home truly do have a huge advantage over someone who did grow up in an abusive home. It's even more depressing when you think about it...
@x._Bunn-Y_.x2 жыл бұрын
@@raycutler2524 That depends though I have a loving family I still have one too many problems and even family ones at that, and even if I still feel love they're still way too many problems for me to focus on.
@ScoundrelChestnut2 жыл бұрын
dude your comment opened my eyes a bit, comparing myself to people who have so much support when my own family try to put me down at every turn isn't good for me, hope you all the best !
@SunBunz2 жыл бұрын
I know it’s easier said than done, but I assure you, it’s *NOT SELFISH TO LEAVE THOSE WHO **_CONSTANTLY_** HURT YOU.* You are not a punching bag, you are a human being with a life, and it’s never too late to leave, and in the end, it’s YOUR life, not theirs. You don’t belong to anyone.
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this
@SunBunz2 жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go thank YOU for these videos. 💜💜💜
@jacobyearout96545 ай бұрын
I am a punching bag for my family except for my father
@anelijamilosevic3364 ай бұрын
I am a punching bag for all of my family. They will never understand. They will never support. They will never love me. They don't love me. They show that they don't. As much as I had love towards them, I cannot trust them anymore. I was SA-d by the boy in i think 6th or 7th grade. And I was beaten up because of that. I was cut out from my dream college, cut out from having driving lessons, cut out from social life. At one point I thought I will never find a person to love me because of them. Now I know I won't. I have a husband who I assume that he will leave me when he gets a chance to. And our families are mostly in that relationship. I hate my life every single day. I'm pregnant with baby 2. And I think it became somehow my safezone. Until it wasn't because we're in my family's house. And my husband is great with them. I'm scared that they'll complain about me not going out of the house, I'm too depressed to go out. Life with them now is making me depressed. Everyone has their own reasons. But hell no me. I'm always a punchbag for their issues. Still I am. And I want to move out as soon as possible, but we are struggling with money. I hope we will somehow get out of that situation. I can't take it anymore.
@joban49632 жыл бұрын
I was never shown respect because "respect is earned, not given", however I was forced to show respect at all times because "you're supposed to always give your parents respect, they don't need to earn it."
@derekmaullo28654 ай бұрын
Family members are dumb and aggressive over anything. They know nothing
@trwn872 ай бұрын
😬 Feel that one. 😬
@caseyd8569Ай бұрын
I absolutely understand
@AfterthymeGaming25 күн бұрын
And it's all because religion.
@nikili123458 күн бұрын
this is so true i was always told to respect my elders even when they dont respect me
@meowikoru2 жыл бұрын
TIMESTAMPS 0:38 #1 Communication 1:23 #2 Respect 2:22 #3 Criticism 3:15 #4 Privacy 4:10 #5 Affection Hope this helped!
@then00btitan962 жыл бұрын
Thx
@davidliu22432 жыл бұрын
Mine is toxic for each one of them lol
@pinkmeadows2 жыл бұрын
Thx u 💕 xoxo
@kenliu8082 жыл бұрын
@@davidliu2243 Ditto all those. Must run in lius
@elishacanny87932 жыл бұрын
Mine is very toxic for all. I have distanced myself.
@KazkanAntram2 жыл бұрын
Everything on this list hits home, and actually today I decided to have “The Toxic Talk” with my mom. It was a mess as you could imagine. The toxic habits I’m trying to shake off to this day are the same ones my parents have failed to deal with. My mom is not open to reason at all currently. I want to speak with my dad on this too to hear his side. My parents are acting aloof as well. My mom is becoming very defensive towards expressing myself, and I keep getting my word turned against me, guilted, and yelled at. I hope we can all come to a close on this eventually.
@uurbubs2 жыл бұрын
I wish you so much luck! Doing this step is not so easy sometimes, and you're really brave for this.
@izzie43672 жыл бұрын
Good luck
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this
@larkaraniakim78322 жыл бұрын
For anyone struggling in toxic homes: Once you find your way out. Learn to reparent yourself. Acknowledge the ways that you may have been affected and how it’s affecting you in your life. Provide yourself the space and the grace to work diligently on yourself. Everything won’t be perfect once you’re out of the home, it actually may be worse due to unhealthy upbringing. But know that it’s only a stage if you allow it to be. Work on your morals, values, and passions. Find people who will love you, but make sure your love for yourself isn’t compromised. Use your weaknesses as a challenge to overcome, and definitely find someone to support you (I.e. a therapist). If you’re in college take advantage of the counselors ( it’s in your fees). Life is what you make it. No one else can make the decisions for you, not even if they try.
@georgelopes45892 жыл бұрын
I appreciate this. Thank you.
@ctlinx59832 жыл бұрын
Any ideas for imposter syndrome when i leave my house
@mushroomlava34912 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this💕💕💕💕
@yin-yangaoi56572 жыл бұрын
thanks
@trollingtrollfaceandtrollge2 жыл бұрын
yea this advice could really work for people who need it and can access it because i'm pretty sure there are those people who are denied the ability to speak out about their problems either by fear or force
@lorilu4512 жыл бұрын
After all these years of trying to tell myself I'm just seeking excuses to be special, I am finally able to accept that, as much as my family has given me a good life, they have also caused a huge impact on my mental health, and are the prime reason of all my insecurities and issues. Not all toxic people act toxic all the time, and as much as you feel you owe them love for all the good stuff, you're also entitled to feel bad about them, and that's okay
@autumnautumn8305 Жыл бұрын
thank you
@emmasuo2722 ай бұрын
Point plus facts
@melanielopez36572 жыл бұрын
My parents ticked off a lot of the toxic traits, but what I most lingered on was the affection. We do show affection, but most times it feels forced, fake and empty.
@subscriptions0072 жыл бұрын
Relatable experience indeed
@Inactive200002 жыл бұрын
Relatable
@forestduffe55762 жыл бұрын
Relateable
@yutanakamoto70692 жыл бұрын
Relatable
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
And when someone shows real affection, you know instantly.
@FairPLAYER2 жыл бұрын
I just want to say that I'm never gonna treat my kids the way my parents did to me. The way they raised me is just some kind of hell i went through, yet I've managed to learn the good habits from the good people I meet around outside my home. Whenever i go out, I feel like I'd never come back. I talk to my friends about their families, how they treat them what are they like, and I really envy them. I'm just waiting till I go out for my studies in a different city. It's not nice here :)
@catladylion51862 жыл бұрын
The older I get, the more I have come to realisation that my family is very toxic. It’s breaks my heart everytime when I think back that my parents used to read my diaries and go through my drawers, and the smirk my mother had when I confronted her, she would always say things like “ so what , I went through your things, I’m your mother, I have rights to know what my child is up to.” My dad, till these days, still doesn’t believe mental health. His mindset about mental issues is that as long as no one in the family is known to have such a “thing”, then I’m not supposed to have it. It’s “ other people’s illness” . I spent years going to therapy and I can’t even tell them about what I think. I stopped talking to them a few years ago, and I’m slowly healing. It’s a long and difficult process, some days it gets so hard to get through, And I feel alone during these difficult times. I just wish I could have a family that could respect me and love me instead of putting me down all the time and dismissing my feelings.
@gabrielleTS132 жыл бұрын
Same here. I tried and still try to fix, but sometimes, you can’t fix a cut that is already in too deep. But I still have to endure this. My parents said that I need to finish college and get a good degree, have a good job that *they* accept, but until then, I can’t leave the house or live by myself.
@JFoch80142 жыл бұрын
Remember, your family does not have to be related by blood. Sometimes, your friends become your family.
@Waterbaby.2 жыл бұрын
Girl i know this might be difficult, but you should move out or just think of moving out < 3
@freetobree53232 жыл бұрын
I wouldn’t have minded if my mother just read my diaries but she would read them and mock me and slut shame me for literal thoughts 😐 I’m an eleven year old little girl like how unnecessarily cruel is that And she wonders why we don’t talk
@Supershark832 жыл бұрын
You are right to go no contact, even though it's always hard, but it's a vote for YOU. It feels weird to see families where parents care and show respect and validate their kids' feelings, and you see it and know you had nothing like it. You will always mourn that but you can't change your family or teach them anything. Move on. Surround yourself with loving, respectful and kind people, even if you might be alone sometimes before that happens- an opportunity to think, to be good to yourself. In your life you will find other caring individuals who provide what your parents failed at, people who mother you or father you in the best way, who show respect and think of your feelings. It happens at the most unexpected times.
@jackcarraway47072 жыл бұрын
An underrated of toxic family: not helping you with anything.
@JinxRin2 жыл бұрын
I totally agree on the toxic family points. I’m raised in the toxic life. It’s not helping with my mental health, my impulsive suicidal thoughts. But I don’t stay at home most of the time. I just walk around and head home late to sleep haha. To avoid communication and all.
@adnanaddu76adnan352 жыл бұрын
Just ignore them and build yourself
@JinxRin2 жыл бұрын
@@Unknown-wb1bf that’s why I just head out of my house and do what makes those negativity be out of my body with doing what I love. Hehe. I should be okie.
@JinxRin2 жыл бұрын
@@adnanaddu76adnan35 yeahh I will thanks
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
Stay strong! We love you!
@citygirlingraham2 жыл бұрын
Please don’t hurt yourself, suicide is a way of ending your life but you will be missed greatly, get help asap! Talk to a counselor at school, the school nurse, a trusted teacher. Ask for help!!! It can get better, don’t give up!!!!!
@nicolejansen9782 жыл бұрын
Watching this made me realize that I was truly in a toxic situation concerning my family. When I finally decided to speak up about how tired I've grown of being blamed for everything and not heard, they made it seem like I was crazy. I love with my dad now so at times I visit my mother and her husband but 2 weeks ago the trauma hit me. It made me realize that we never truly discussed the fact that our home was not a healthy one and it hurts because they choose to not be open minded. I know parents have their own trauma to deal with but its no excuse to take it out on your children.
@inyouall2 жыл бұрын
*FRIENDLY REMINDER* | Every day is a new opportunity, so get going and make the most of it.
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing! :D
@inyouall2 жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go I'm Honored 😊
@unknown112152 жыл бұрын
Not that easy
@upat5am3682 жыл бұрын
I never realized the way I was raised was toxic. I thought it was normal. So anytime I'd open up to other people about my home life they would give me a concerned look. All 5 of these, came out as toxic for me. They aren't as bad as they used to be. But, the hurt is still there and that fear is. I'm 23 and still can't be too open about my feelings and opinions in that household. I love my family, but they are very overwhelming. Going through this, I never had access to being able to take control of my life or my anxiety and depression. Its gotten worse over the years, but I'm getting help .
@M9557-h7m2 жыл бұрын
I want to move out from my parents home, but every time I bring up the idea to my mom, she starts saying that she will ignore me as if I never existed only because I decided to "abandon" her first. I really love my mom, and I wish to do everything I can to make her happy, but ever since she told me that, I've been having a lot of panic attacks and no apatite for weeks.
@imnotreallysure41772 жыл бұрын
i wish you the best
@larkaraniakim78322 жыл бұрын
Follow your goals, honey. You can’t live for her and you CAN live without her. Do not become victim to this. Not to sound harsh, but give her the same energy. It’s much easier said than done, but if she threatens to ignore you, ignore her. She can’t control you for the rest of your life. I’m not saying that you can’t love her. Please still love her and keep a good heart. But also live for you. One day you’ll get older and wish that you did. She living her life, it’s time you live yours.
@tipperella2 жыл бұрын
Your mom sounds selfish and controlling :(
@bibianazelinska30662 жыл бұрын
That's manipulative tactic because your mother thinks she owns you or as extension of herself. You're not abandoning her, just leaving the nest. I'm sure u care about her. It's time to care about yourself. You can't make her happy in any way.
@ADesolateAngel2 жыл бұрын
Move out it's not her life it's urs if ur mom truly loved u she wouldn't ignore u
@emilykershey17062 жыл бұрын
I can totally relate to this 100%. I have been in a toxic family for a majority of my life, so thanks so much for sharing this info. ❤️
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@wallacewarrior232 жыл бұрын
This video came at a perfect timing because I am going through that right now. I try to be happy and smile for once, but then my family HAS to go and ruin my good day. I don't understand why. I have been depressed, anxious, and more mixed emotions since I was 15 just 2 months before my 16th birthday. I will be 18 in a few months and I will NEVER stop having panic or anxiety attacks, nor will I ever probably stop being so depressed. These videos are amazing keep up the wonderful work!
@thirstonhowellthebird2 жыл бұрын
Try to find a way to leave them and sever ties. I know that sounds impossible but it is the only way your central nervous system will calm down and your anxiety will stop. You’re a beautiful and normal human being and they are the ones who are messed up. They look at you and you remind them of what they are not and will never be. Try and leave them and give yourself a few years to heal and you will see these people in a much different light and more than likely you will never want to see them again. Family means nothing when they treat you like dirt.
@then00btitan962 жыл бұрын
My sister always ruin my day too :’(
@davidliu22432 жыл бұрын
Hey, you've got this :)
@junaakarin77422 жыл бұрын
@@then00btitan96 Same :"
@HikaruYamamoto2 жыл бұрын
Some toxic parents hate seeing you be happy and will do what they can to ruin your mood. Once you leave, you can go off and be happy and good parents will be happy for you but bad ones will be angry and jealous.
@sunshinesara7847 ай бұрын
Being raised in a toxic household, it took 19 years for me to leave that house and realize it wasn’t a home. I spent my whole life defending my family to anyone who dared question their motives, but with the help of therapy and physically being removed from the environment, I have finally found my freedom. To anyone who also relates to the points made in this video, please know that your feelings are valid and you don’t deserve the treatment you receive. One day you can leave the environment and spread your wings. Stay strong and have hope, I know it isn’t easy. I’m still reeling from my own toxic family, but I can tell you that my life has significantly improved by acknowledging that my family is indeed toxic. Thank you for this video and for validating my feelings ❤ I hope this video helps everyone as much as it did me :)
@LayLow_-sg6iy2 жыл бұрын
That’s why as a 16 year old I don’t have a family we separated from them becuase they love money and they don’t value family and love and my dad left me for another women and my mom was by herself and she managed my whole childhood and then my mom passed away when I was 12 which was tough for 12 years she looked after me on a teachers salary and my brother worked in America to earn more money to look after us so it’s only me and my brother and I’m grateful for everything he’s done and sacrificed for me Value your loved ones everyday ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@JenayWhoQuit2 жыл бұрын
I am so sorry for everything that had happened. I’m wishing the best for you ❤️
@LayLow_-sg6iy2 жыл бұрын
@@JenayWhoQuit thank you so much may god bless you and your family and stay safe sending lots of love ❤️
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
Aww thnks for sharing your story. Your brother is hero and your mom must had been a very strong angel!!
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this
@petalswirls2 жыл бұрын
I came from a toxic family, and I identify with most of the toxic traits you mentioned, especially in my childhood. Now, things are changing and I think there are a couple of things that are on a healthy side, such as Privacy, Communication and Affection. Criticism and Respect is still a work in progress. What's tough is that with my parents, one of them has mostly outgrown the toxic traits and turned them into healthy traits, while the other one is still mostly around the toxic side, hence I can't have a complete change. Anyway, I really like this topic, so thanks so much for the insight! :)
@blightchip42362 жыл бұрын
The 2nd one is so incredibly true my mom was always a “shut up I’m right your just a kid” type of parent I was the biggest mamas boy growing up but when I realized how much she thought she deserved respect and didn’t give me any in return I slowly started to hate her we are still on bad terms 5 years after I moved out but I’m glad we are still on bad terms because it shows that she only “loved” me when she had power over me
@HikaruYamamoto2 жыл бұрын
Sadly many parents only have kids to have someone they can feel they have control and power over. I'm sorry this happened to you.
@chocolattefeverdreams42282 жыл бұрын
I relate to this. I always was the best daughter who did everything right. And this is what my parents were like to me. And now I'm not the perfect daughter since I've grown and understood that my parents were not the all-knowing people I thought they were, and they know I noticed and don't like it.
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
Oh i see :( Glad you are doing well now!
@victorsmith49752 жыл бұрын
my mom thinks she is superior and knows everything cause shes an adult.
@Killua_Zoldyck34072 жыл бұрын
Exactly how my mom isssssss 😭😭😭 i can't move out i don't wanna move out i mean i do but my parents make me feel like i need them and i have to stay. 😭 I'll feel guilty for even clicking the block bottom 😭
@mocatree2 жыл бұрын
Cool video I grew up with a very toxic mother. This video summarized my upbringing. The constant yelling , the belittling , the lack of anything positive to say, the overall lack of respect, the lack of any positive reinforcement , the physical abuse , it was all there. My mother is the template for all women as far as I am concerned. Even at my age I keep women at a distance and cannot form any romantic relationships ( no , I am not gay).
@lunadust80172 жыл бұрын
I experienced this toxic treatment at home which is also now playing out in my "marriage". It's horribly unsafe emotionally, spiritually psycholigically and mentally. I am working on myself to build up the self worth and self compassion to leave. Staying is definitely like drinking poison, slowly dying. No point being a martyr.
@MyNameIsDeezSir2 жыл бұрын
My best friend has a toxic parent and a healthy parent. The mom is somebody who looks like a good parent but is a manipulative monster. The dad is stuck helping her and her kids. Her little sister is a mini version of the mom and makes her sisters life a living hell. I will send this to her and show her she's not alone ♥️
@justinedoge45572 жыл бұрын
This video helped me a lot. I'm 24 and the stress of extremely toxic parents has token a toll on my mental and physical health for years. I've been to the ER, cardiologists looked at everything to have them figure out why i've been fainting and horrendous chest pains and palpitations and I finally realized it's all because of my parents and the stress that they add onto my life. Constantly being put down, always told that I'm wrong, being raised in nothing but chaos every day and being blamed for it all. No care, no support. I would literally break out in stress hives all over my body. It's so friggin crazy how much your emotional health can affect your physical. I'm so glad my step dad finally came and saw how awful my mom treated me and told me I am not wrong for anything that occurred and now he copletely understands. One thing I do wish P2G would touch on is what to do if youre in these situations. Like maybe make a separate channel for it? I feel like that would be super helpful. Absolutely great video regardless tho
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
Glad we could help you!
@goreysins2 жыл бұрын
Growing up in a generational toxic family opens your eyes to a lot of things
@mariannekoroleva64952 жыл бұрын
When they hide their hatred it is even more toxic than any direct abuse... It is venom pure. Many Thanks!!🌏🌈💗🌞💚👍🎁!!
@CircmcisionIsChi1dAbus32 жыл бұрын
I donno, I think I'd prefer passive aggressive over actual aggression.
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
Glad we could help!
@attablet13222 жыл бұрын
My father shows 4/5 of the toxic things. My dad always feels the need to criticize everything that i do if its not what he thinks. Im not allowed to think for myself on front of him and he never considers the feelings of anyone else, being the narcissist he is. I constantly have to hide everything, since i know i would just get yelled at again, so my only comfort is with my friends, or somewhere that isn't home. He supoorts me sith physical needs like food and shelter, but destroys me emotionally of the inside. He also has the feeling that I have to be like him, think like him, and have him the one that has to be in power. Watching this video taught me alot, so Thank you for that :)
@Rachel-tp3or2 жыл бұрын
~>time stamps!!!! 🌸 1- 0:38 Communication • 🌸2- 1:22 Respect • 🌸3- 2:21 Criticism • 🌸4- 3:14 Privacy • 🌸5- 4:10 Affection • the animations are so adorable as always 😭 ty for the daily uploads
@starfire732 жыл бұрын
Hey! Where do you get those emojis?! They're so cute 🥺
@hugs4dee2 жыл бұрын
@@starfire73 You have to get the channel membership.
@CircmcisionIsChi1dAbus32 жыл бұрын
@@hugs4dee ha! GAAAAAAAAAY
@LetsCommentator2 жыл бұрын
:_PSICheers:
@starfire732 жыл бұрын
@@hugs4dee ohh ok.tq💗
@daychild_2 жыл бұрын
My family is all of these 😃 it’s so accurate I’m honestly scared, the last one actually made me cry knowing that my family usually pays no attention to me or barely interacts with me outside of the basic stuff like “come eat dinner” or “wake up for school”
First time I don't get at least one topic of a psych2go video u,u all those 5 are dysfunctional in my home
@graceguerzon83472 жыл бұрын
@@eltiobry3859 Its so sad to hear that. Sometimes i am experiencing some toxic traits too. I just focus on me and my goals and mind my own business and i limit my interaction unless they are not saying attacking words and not violating my boundaries. Stay kind and gentle with yourself. Cut off people and circumstances that doesnt give you your best interest at hand.
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
Ty!
@meapo71842 жыл бұрын
I relate to all of the points in terms of a family dynamic. I understand it’s because they’ve had bad stuff happen to them but it doesn’t excuse the fact they project that fear onto me. I feel kinda sad cause I’ve had to act like an adult for them essentially and I’m only 17 years old. I just wish that if I have a family, it won’t be the same because i got my childhood robbed from me…
@scarasan64402 жыл бұрын
It's so sad how all the Toxic points shown on the video relates to my family. At first, I thought it was a normal life I'm currently in, but after watching this and searching, I think otherwise. Thank you for this amazing video, stay safe :)
@jaykriss7242 жыл бұрын
Toxic in all categories and yet I can send my siblings this video to try an understand me but they tell me not to send them this. My parents are very old fashioned and unfortunately I check yes to all the toxic things you’ve mentioned in this video. It really breaks my heart because they always put me down and compare me to others. Because of that i drink a lot and smoke a lot of cigarettes I wish my family understood me. I’m losing faith and just feel depressed all the time. I really don’t know what to do anymore
@marion-v6o2 жыл бұрын
Consider this: why are your siblings thoughts your responsibility? You've tried to convince them but they decide to ignore it. Families can be messed up (like mine) but you've gotta consider yourself and your own happiness.
@emerdigiorgio35942 жыл бұрын
@ Jay Kriss:💑💪🤝🙏💌
@lolhope34052 жыл бұрын
Related to all of these in some way. I grew up in a toxic household, and it was only after I moved out last year that I started to learn and realize how toxic it was. I'm sure it wasn't as bad as other people go through, yet it still had negative impacts on me. My mom is a narcissist who believes in comparative suffering, and my dad just became a punching bag for her verbal abuse when the kids aren't around. I was demanded to give respect but never got any, was criticized more as I got older, felt no sense of privacy, showed very little affection, and my parents are terrible at communication. I'm still healing, learning to pay attention to my inner child, and hope to seek out therapy soon.
@excelself2 жыл бұрын
“Why don’t you ask me for things you need?” “Cos my mom would yell at me when I asked” Healing someone with trauma is hard but doable it just takes time.
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
This hits home...
@lillydevil24862 жыл бұрын
Haha, ya, my parents and most of my extended family is like this I realized early on that normal families are supposed to express affection in some form, but all I was told is 'our family's British, we're just like that.' I also grew up not understanding how to deal with stress, and every time I would approach my mother about being stressed out, she'd say 'What do you have to be stressed about?' in a tone that made it seem like I was uber ungrateful for what I had. It took me sitting at work in my early twenties, deciding to read a downloadable survival booklet on my phone (where the first thing they detailed was the symptoms of extreme stress) to realize I have been horrifically stressed for YEARS. I marvel at how everyone else with a even slightly normal family say they still love their parents/family after arguments or whatever, even if they do f*cked up sh!t, but, like, I do not feel that. I've never felt that for as long as my early teens. It's mindboggling to even consider, considering what they've done. I'm always told 'but they're your mother/father/etc', 'you only have one', 'always be there for family.' And I'm like 'No, why would I choose to just keep accepting toxic people in my life?' It's practically an abusive relationship. I don't gaf if they birthed/raised/fed/sheltered me. I will not be Pavlov's dogs stuck with negativity but praying for those brief respites of positivity. Sorry for rambling💚
@GetYourLifeBetter2 жыл бұрын
Living with toxic family dynamics can feel overwhelming at times. It's important to know that being in a toxic family is not your fault, and it's not something you should be ashamed of. If you’ve recognized toxic patterns in your family, consider reaching out to a therapist who can help you explore the effects of toxicity and offer guidance as you consider how to manage the situation.
@Mar_Mar12122 жыл бұрын
growing up i always knew i was in a toxic household. i would go over to my friends house and see how they function as an actual unit while allowing their kids to be an individual. my parents simply think of their kids as an extension of themself and think they own their lives just because they brought a child into this world.
@soumen662 жыл бұрын
We need more of these type of videos. Toxic parents r growing to be more common and yet these topics are avoided most of the time by some people thinking "children are just being lazy and ungrateful" A healthy family will provide you space as well as fulfil your emotional needs, and you really won't have any complain against them. Wish society cared more about children's and teens' mental health, lots of us are depressed and going through a tough time by ourselves and we don't even have anyone to talk to about it😔 I just want y'all to know that you will get through this tough time and will be able to move out once you're older. For now focus on yourself, motivate yourself & work hard for your career so that u can be independent. And if possible avoid your parents as much as u can, don't give them your precious time and attention if they don't deserve it. I tried this & my mental health is much better than before, I'm now more confident too and i don't need my parents to do everything for me. I hope everyone in the comments will find people someday who truly loves and respects them. Stay strong. Fighting☺❤💜
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
Sounds good!
@Friskthedumbass. Жыл бұрын
Is so sad, we need higher standards for parenting Parenting requires a lot of effort in understanding children you can't just tell a kid to shut up just because they don't agree with you, we need to realize that are kids aren't smaller versions of us we should allow them to grow happy and healthy we should want our kids to respect but not fear us, or feel like we're treating them like servants
@SmtoonStory2 жыл бұрын
*When they hide their hatred it is even more toxic than any direct abuse... It is venom pure. Many Thanks!!🌈*
@BudBot-wz6bg2 жыл бұрын
Wanted to see how bad my family was and think them hitting every toxic point is more concerning than I expected -w-‘ So yeah definitely going with cutting off, thanks for making it clear just how bad they are
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
Understandable
@zaaraahmed25742 жыл бұрын
Turns out i live in a toxic family… i always HATED my family but never expected this to be the truth. It is rly painful to know…
@sammy2742 жыл бұрын
I'm usually afraid to talk about this kind of stuff, but all of the 5 signs of a toxic family mentioned in this videos literally sums up my family relationship and dynmaic. At this point I dont even want my Family to show me affection, I just want them to at least understand how I feel and know what I want.
@사랑-p7o3j2 жыл бұрын
Ikr
@kevin-josephcruz81822 жыл бұрын
This came at a perfect time. I grew up with my Mom's toxic family after my Dad died. Always gaslighted, shamed, and everytime I opened up to them I get backstabbed. I even am the escape goat to their problem. From 11 yrs old-22 years old, I felt like I was a puppet. Then I made the decision to go abroad to study in Nursing School. The best decision I have ever made in my life! After nursing school, The pandemic hit and it took me 2 years to fix my papers in order to return back home with my degree. During the two years, I lived independently and focused on fixing all of my bad habits & past traumas. All the negative thoughts I had about myself were originated from my Mom and her sibblings. When I returned home, there was the one week honey moon phase... then it just began to turn to what I feared. It's like nothing has changed! No matter what I did or done... I always get ridiculed. Like I taught myself how to survive in a foreign country and I return home and they treat me like a piñata. The only difference is that this 29 year old man lived life during the pasy 6-7 years away from them.. and that I can stand up for myself. That and I have a social support team that understand my situation. Finally, I am no longer shacked with the fear of failure. I use my mistakes and screw ups as an opportunity yo grow. Lately, I have been distancing myself from my family especially my Mom. She rather be correct than to fix the problem. She has no clue about her surroundings. Always puts the blame game and always picks fights with everyone. As for my mom's sibblings... everytime I open up to them I get backstabbed. I'm like their escape goat for all their problems that are beyond my control. As of right now my back is up against the wall. I'm 29 years old with no career (Trying to be a Registered Nurse with my degree I worked so hard for), I live with my toxic non-loving/non-supporting family, failed the NCLEX ( had pneumonia & omicron + family drama projected towards me affected my performance), no money (Still getting allowance from my step dad because I am strictly focusing on retaking the NCLEX), and I'm a bit out of shape. (My body is still readapting to the weather here in NY compared to the Philippines.) I'm doing everything in my power to keep me sane. Journaling, reading the bible, praying, listening to podcasts, sleep hypnosis, calling my friends & love ones that loves me & appreciates me, working out, yoga, and just walking outside to appreciate nature outside because the weather is getting better. Even distancing myself from my own family. Lately I've been going out to the library more to study and have that peace of mind. Despite all of that, there have been times that my anger fluctuates and I have thesr unnecessary revengeful thoughts that I would not dare even attempt... let alone to my bloodline... even though they are all narcisstic pricks. My only ticket to get out of this toxic environment is to pass the NCLEX so I can work as a Registered Nurse. Eventually I'll buy myself a car and get myself an apartment. It's been a long journey and I'm still recovering from that 2 week emotional rollercoaster. (Heck I'm being labeled as a failure for passing the NCLEX and I know nothing). I pray that I never be like that or succumb to all the bad habits that negative people that I had to deal with. I also pray that nobody goes through what I have been going through since I was 11 years old and I'm now 29 years old. Time flies. Wish me luck and God bless this channel and everyone here trying to heal. 🙏🏼
@yabitch69492 жыл бұрын
you shouldnt call them narcissistic pricks though, people cant help being narcissists and it is very stigmatizing!
@Walklikeaduck1112 ай бұрын
I hope you got out and found independence and peace of mind.
@pluto92232 жыл бұрын
This came up as soon as I was talking to my partner about how horrible his family is. His family is all the toxic things this has said. and I try to tell him it's not ok, but he just ignores it and won't accept it.
@brianmcconnell18172 жыл бұрын
My “family” ticks off every toxic box in this video. Because of this my siblings and I are estranged. I’ve reached a point where I feel the “healthy” family dynamic is fake or forced. I have a friend who comes from a good family. He finds it very hard to understand my background. I get frustrated with him and constantly having to explain that I don’t want to talk about it without going into detail as to why.
@Demongirlperla15802 жыл бұрын
Toxic family for me-- My mom, aunts and cousins will always criticize me for my body and for my dreams and what I want. Overtime I've learned to hate my mom side of the family (I never met my dad's side) and I'm so happy that they started to cut communications with us once a fight between me and one of my older cousins broke out. Things are slowly getting better with my mom but sometimes things would probably just go off the haywire. I'm happy she's slowly learning to take faults and apologize. doesn't mean I'll forget everything that she's done to me but I forgive her. At the moment I'm trying to help my other friends that live in toxic families giving them comfort, being there when they need me and telling them that once they're older they'll be able to leave their toxic family. It's not much but it's the best I can do. And to anyone reading this if you're going through a hard time at home. It's going to be okay you'll get through this you're strong in your own way! Light will always shine through even when it seems impossible. Don't give up and stay strong! :) ❤️
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this
@holaife352 жыл бұрын
I have a very toxic family and unfortunately have nowhere to go so I have to live with them. I'm 27 and dealing with depression. Everyone judges me because I'm this "old" and have nothing achieved like most people, it's hard living this way with so much toxicity around me but if I don't live then what? Please pray for me 😔 I wish to myself and to anyone who's dealing with mental health problems and depression to go through it and find peace and if possible to be truly happy. 🙏
@Walklikeaduck1112 ай бұрын
I hope u found a way...and are in a better place now. Sometimes depression is situational.
@purpls252 жыл бұрын
In my family there are serious issues of respect and criticism. Usually the criticism is overblown and communicating and giving advice respectfully is a problem. Communication of your needs easily turns into an invitation for disrespect or a yelling match. Thanks for this video though. Still helps.
@billy77412 жыл бұрын
My family is quite toxic and sadly I haven’t felt them as a real family for a while now. Especially my mother. She always overthinks, creating those fake scenarios in her head and fights with my dad over it. My dad on the other hand, has a very poor understanding of feelings and how relationships work. He often prefers to keep himself busy with his job, instead of spending time together. He’s not good with words at all, and putting those two personalities together brings nothing good. I share almost nothing about my personal life with them because I know they would judge me. Besides I can’t expect a quality conversation by neither of them.
@THE_OFFICIAL_DARKMASTER072 жыл бұрын
I’m just gonna put this out there. If you want advice on how I still handle this, comment below: I grew up with a single mom. She separated from my biological dad when I was 2 and I grew up with my younger sister. She tried to hide the existence of my dad when I was a teen, but saw right through her & when I turned 20 I finally met him (she was mad as Hell along with her side of the family). I still resent her to this day for that as well as other things I won’t mention she did to me as a kid and how she wanted me to be a person that I didn’t want to be (basically I couldn’t be myself with her, I had to be what SHE wanted me to be). I still live with her because of circumstantial reasons & would like to move out or find a trusted person to live with. 1. Communication - she is demanding, you can’t have even a simple conversation because it quickly turns into a yell fest, anything she says is just criticism of you or judgement, and she is a bad listener. Sometimes she cuts you off when you talk or won’t listen to what you have to say. “It’s my way and that’s it because I said so”. She’s still bad at communication to this present day. 2. Respect - it was the “you respect me because I deserve it & im the parent…”blah blah blah BS. We could never talk back, ask no questions, question her authority, etc. It was her way and her way only. She’s very closed minded and continues to be today. 3. Criticism - I remember in middle school I got an F on a fractions test & the teacher said my mom had to sign it. I didn’t want to go home that day because I knew she was gonna yell at me. My teacher made me go home & I faced the music. It wasn’t pretty. She’s also told me things like “you’ll never amount to anything” and…”you’re never gonna get a drivers license” and laughed in my face (I found out later the doctors told her this when I was a kid). All my certifications I have she’s like “what are you going to do with those? They’re useless if you don’t have a job with them?” “Why do you keep changing your careers? Why don’t you make up your mind!!” - Never supportive, always degrading and chastising me and judging me and everything around her. She even criticizes commercials! “That guy looks stupid why is he in a commercial” “what a dumb commercial I hate it”….ugh it’s like vomit always comes out when she talks 4. Privacy - Never had it. Always on me about where I go, who I be with…when my sister would run away I wouldn’t say anything and she’d try to get the truth out of me. I had notebooks and toys and stuffed bears as a kid. I would hide them under the bed. When I’d be at school she would go through me and my sisters stuff and throw it away. When she said what she did, I would cry for hours under the empty bed. I hardly have anything but a few things from my childhood. 5. Affection - Hardly. Whatever I felt as a child were just the motions I went along with because I was stupid. She and her family also take me for granted because I do favors and help them, but what’s the thanks I get? Being alienated, the disgrace, the embarrassment, & the black sheep of the family. This is the definition of a toxic PARENT. I have friends whose families treat me BETTER than my own BIOLOGICAL EGG DONOR!!! it’s pathetic. She’s never happy with my decisions & what I do, will never accept who I am as a person and will only do so to save face in public. But I’ve come to accept who I want to be, my beliefs, my values, morals, ethics, and learned that you either hate me or love me.
@sergiovalencia36072 жыл бұрын
I went through something familiar. I learn that all my emotions are valid, there are no bad or good emotions, just pleasant or uncomfortable emotions, when you learn to not judge yourself and accept you pace will come, just let go of all the anger by letting yourself feel. It worked for me.
@rositasubliminals13382 жыл бұрын
omg i went through the same thing. i also met my father when i was 20 because my mom tried to keep him away from me. i also still live with her. ur comment is reading about my own life.
@izzy64822 жыл бұрын
That happened to my dad and my step brother!
@itsuki15092 жыл бұрын
I can totally relate to all of it i even thought of leaving the house or wanting to disappear from this world but i just can't do it for some reason
@itsuki15092 жыл бұрын
The only thing that keeps me going is playing games, watching anime and reading some Manga/LN/WN
@nguyethauong99252 жыл бұрын
I'm really glad that my family is a healthy family. Thank you for letting me know that! I love my family even more now 😊
@rskayuy_2 жыл бұрын
you are very lucky, not like me🙂
@Ixabelly2 жыл бұрын
you are so lucky to have a Healthy family 😭🙂
@user-moongirl21pro2 жыл бұрын
You're very lucky dude Not all people get healthy environment and life. I'm happy for you
@Ril_sillyart1st2 жыл бұрын
@@flqr2019 aw tysm ^^
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
Glad to hear that!
@theiascreation5902 жыл бұрын
Toxic! I have known this for a long time but whenever I get to the point that my family is toxic, it just feels so normal.
@siyona36162 жыл бұрын
Same 🙃
@Siapagani Жыл бұрын
Being around my family and relatives is so suffocating. I swear, when I grow up, I am going to move out and I am going to break all connections with them. And to be honest with all of you, they are at a point of no turning back because they are just not ready to accept that they are the ones in the wrong because they think that they are always in the right and the person who is pointing out their mistakes is the person who is wrong and I know that this is really toxic and trust me it very much is. And because of all this I hate them but all of them hate me twice as much without a reason. My aunt, my grandparents my uncles, my parents my cousins all of them are so so so toxic. This has made me want to avoid any relationships that I may potentially have in my future, like friends and lovers. Just the idea of a relationship makes me sick to the stomach because of them. And that is also why I want to be alone forever and not have a relationship ever again in my life.
@leeann43292 жыл бұрын
I'm experiencing this right now because I'm about to graduate college. leaving positive support systems at college to a lonely and toxic home. It's very sad leaving such a happy place but I have to move on.
@ChocolateLabPerson-vb8zw7 ай бұрын
All of the toxic points you put in I related to and I’m now realizing that my family life has put a toll on me. 1 I have such low confidence and self esteem that my teacher has pulled me aside and talked to me about it 2 I’m incredibly sensitive to where any criticism makes me want to cry 3 I have a hard time expressing love and affection and I end up pushing people away (for example my friend and I go to every dance together and he wants to date but I’m terrified to and don’t feel like I deserve it)
@somegamer22932 жыл бұрын
I have gone through a lot of stuff through my life. Separation (Forced to leave my mom at the age of 3), family members dieing (Father died of overdose), vast amounts of moving (around 8 ish times), Being sexually assaulted and eventually being told my mother is living her life with 3 other kids without much care for me anymore. That's a brief background across my 15 year and counting life. This video in particular hits in multiple aspects perfectly, for example the first point in the video shows what I wish my house hold was like but I go to school just hoping it last as long as possible, dreading coming home due to how I am both treated and forced to do. First point Communication - Yes I am texted once in a while about where or what to do, my opinions are almost invalidated and ignored along with my concerns and feelings.(This has caused many headed arguments and or fights about how I should be treated/or feel). Of course the fights almost never end well, I leave exhausted and more distraught as before and she walks off as of nothing really happened. I of course am forced to ignore the problems and act as if all is OK... Second point Respect - I my self am forced to give respect and act under her rules as if I'm a servant, cleaning, taking care of pets, watching sister, mowing lawns, ext. To an excessive point- like if i have free time it will be spent doing chores for her at any moment. The respect part is ignored for me but I must treat her as a queen because she is my guardian. (Everything in this section past 2:10 is true.) Third point Criticism - This one is less of a problem for my step mom and rather my sister using my flaws as a weapon and a ploy to do her bidding. (Aka minor black maligning me). Fourth point Privacy - When I talk to my grandparents or anyone she doesn't know extremely well she tends to listen on in to my conversation and in some cases question me on my statements. I can also no longer make any new contacts on my phone because she has found a way to stop me from making any others. (Stopping me from keeping in touch with friends.) And lastly Affection - They (my sister and step mom) both guilt trap me by using this by making me feel bad. For example I wanted to relax for a sec at the house while they went shopping but if i chose not to they would say they need me and would want me to go, it will be fun , do you just want to sit home alone. (BTW yes I do). This is barely scratching the surface of what I normally have to endure if any one has a question either reply with a comment or email renewedlocket64@gmail.com P.S. I have had yet to sleep tonight I've been writing this for an hour its 2:33 rn so don expect a immediate response and good bye.
@somegamer22932 жыл бұрын
I am aware it is really long.
@Laura-vn5xf2 жыл бұрын
@some gamer can we be friends?
@Laura-vn5xf2 жыл бұрын
🙁💔💔
@somegamer22932 жыл бұрын
@@Laura-vn5xf Sure id be glad to make a friend or two.
@VishnuPandey932 жыл бұрын
I feel so bad for you :( I hope everything will get better 🙁💙
@user-kj8wx2ng4s Жыл бұрын
Even though I know my family dynamics are toxic I still wanted to watch this video for the comments, just to relate to someone, my parents aren’t that toxic but it’s my grandparents and we pretty much live with them I feel I’m going insane because of the games they play and the worst part is that no one is allowed to confront them so basically they can do whatever and say whatever and it just slides I’m so exhausted I just want to move out. I don’t know who to talk to because no one understands or they’ll just say you need to confront your grandparents when I literally can’t and I don’t want to trauma dump.
@EllenCPickle2 жыл бұрын
My ex turned my children away from me by basically kidnapping them and using parental alienation against me. I am surviving well, but it has meant blocking all those family members. My children are grown now, and I believe they are finally seeing the truth. But they are still so brain washed. I am the targeted parent that cries myself to sleep every night. I hope my children will know one day just how much I love them. I never talk bad about their toxic father but he is so cruel about anything related to me. Being a survivor sometimes means life gets very lonely. I message them every day telling them how much I love them. I am healing and I pray my children do too!!!
@ahmedalhamadi12312 жыл бұрын
🤲 that it happens and your children become close to you and be confident that they be a strong support for you all the life and after it. Just be calm and relax it’s hard but it could change. I was sad that one of my family members didn’t get treated well and get far from us in some shape. But your comment made me realise that I am not alone.
@EllenCPickle2 жыл бұрын
@@ahmedalhamadi1231 JazakAllahKheir☮
@ahmedalhamadi12312 жыл бұрын
@@EllenCPickle You too JazakallahKheir.
@EllenCPickle2 жыл бұрын
@@ahmedalhamadi1231 you are not alone. I had to look a second time at my comment. I thought I posted on mufti menk. SubhanAllah. Everything happens for a reason.
@ahmedalhamadi12312 жыл бұрын
@@EllenCPickle Now that made me smile and laugh. haha. Barak allah Pheik (God bless you).
@KhoiruunisaRF2 жыл бұрын
In my family : 1. Miscommunication that leads to misunderstandings 2. One-sided respect 3. Swearing & mocking at me almost everyday 4. Privacy only applicable sometimes 5. "Affection? What is that?" I learned all of those important points in this video outside my house. I'm struggle to understand those points from friends or even strangers. That's why I often prioritize them more than my family. Look, I'm thankful for family provided place to live, food & other material necessity... But I often feels like a livestock who treated badly emotionally speaking.
@quocbinhhoang75382 ай бұрын
Honestly about point three, I can really really relate. My parents explanations are based on some stories they get from close friends, many of them don't paint the whole picture. And they keep ranting how bad my mistakes are, and that "it is up to you to decide to change or not" but not telling me how and not care about my reasons.... My reasons are often told to be bad, without suitable evidence or explanation...
@_junghoseok45882 жыл бұрын
I hate having to feel uncomfortable with my family, even my mom who is honestly much better than my dad. I never tell them anything, and I'm always upset when after-school events or practices are cancelled, because I like hanging out outside of my home. I hate coming home from school on a regular day because it's only my dad there, because I swear as soon as I step foot inside the house I get yelled at for something. I really want to be able to be comfortable with telling my parents stuff and not be yelled at for accidentally shutting the door too hard lol
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this
@chantelbarrios25022 жыл бұрын
Wow I guess you just helped me figure out how toxic my parents are and how respectful my brother is
@mummyZEL82 жыл бұрын
My husband had a bad experience with his family that's why when we get married, he makes sure that we'll not have the same toxic relationship he experienced. I'm grateful that he's consistent through our 10years of marriage. It's just sad that until now his relatives still expects that we will turn out to have the same toxic relationship that he had. And that's why we're also dedicated to prove them wrong💕
@CircmcisionIsChi1dAbus32 жыл бұрын
He's lucky, that's often not the path people take. It's interesting how toxic parenting has the ability to show a child exactly what they should avoid, yet at the same time, imprint on them those qualities that they themselves learn to associate with love that they have to unlearn. In my family for example, one of my sisters is a narcissist like my parents, the other is the golden child who gets praised for every small task, becoming a massive pushover, but also the most socially extorverted (extroversion is linked to happiness), my younger brother is dead from suicide (the males were largely neglected raised by our mom) and i'm only now starting to recover, 30 years in. I hope to follow in your husbands foot steps. I guarantee I won't be having 4 kids after knowing a person for 6 months. What pricks.
@mummyZEL82 жыл бұрын
@@CircmcisionIsChi1dAbus3 you can do it too! Like my husband you have the power to change your situation specially when building a family of your own. Doesn't mean that you were love and raised the wrong way, that you'll end up to be like them. Have faith in yourself...like how I continuously having faith in my husband. I have been blessed to grew up in a loving family that's why it's easier for me to help my husband. I'll pray that you wouldn't be as toxic as your other family members. BEST of luck! I know you can do it❤️
@CircmcisionIsChi1dAbus32 жыл бұрын
@@mummyZEL8 The trick is finding someone with stable attachment, like yourself. When you're socially isolated, it becomes quite difficult, but I can certainly try. I just need to watch out for the red flags. I need someone compassionate, but not a push over who can stand up to me if I do something stupid or mean, but not in a confrontational way, aka communication skills. As someone with high functioning autism, I was frequently physically punished for my behavior. If you're physically abused for being yourself by your mom and dad, it tends to leave traces. but I think I can do it, I've studied enough psychology to know my flaws and try to work on them. thanks for the encouragement. I clearly need a woman that isn't like my mother, the polar opposite of how it usually works. I imagine you don't get along with your husbands mother.
@mummyZEL82 жыл бұрын
@@CircmcisionIsChi1dAbus3 YES communication is the key. Well I met his mom before when we were just dating. Sadly she died bcoz of cancer before we got married. Even though we have a lot of differences, I'm okay with his dad and siblings, maybe bcoz I was raised by my parents to love the good and the bad side of people. What truly matters to me is my husband and our own little family💕 I know someday you'll be blessed with the love and care you deserve🙂
@CircmcisionIsChi1dAbus32 жыл бұрын
@@mummyZEL8 thats what I think true love is, loving the person for who they are, while simultaneously encouraging them to be the best version of themselves you know they can be. If there's a mutual exchange of that, it's a pretty strong relationship.
@mof16212 жыл бұрын
The last point, there’s also the toxic showing of “love”, saying things like ‘I love you’ are mandatory, you HAVE to hug your parents, even if you’re clearly uncomfortable with being touched. It’s hard to think about and hard to spot when it’s normal to you especially when it feels like a routine, it was even harder to realize it having been through it as well.
@DoRa-o2.1112 жыл бұрын
0:38 Communication 1:23 Respect 2:22 Criticism 3:15 Privacy 4:10 Affection Hope its helps♡ Stay strong ☆
@-nany-97722 жыл бұрын
When I saw this video I know I was going to relate to all the toxic family traits ... honestly I know my parents love me and want whats best for me. But I can't handle the fact that they always find a way to control everything I do, to the way I dress and choose the people I spend time with, they invade my privacy and always go into my room, there have been comments from them that will always hurt me and I don't know what to do about it except wish that one day I'll leave :-(
@awkwardgamingdude21982 жыл бұрын
My mom always showed love and support when she was alive. My stepmom and my dad are polar opposites and basically root against me. It sucks but therapy helps me be able to not feel so alone
@kimkoya56732 жыл бұрын
It's actually a misfortune of mine that i have been born and living in a toxic family... It's like paying for a crime i haven't even committed not to mention constant beating if not listened and threats to give me poisen and kill me off
@lordgino20062 жыл бұрын
5/5 on the toxic side. Yikes. At the same time, I'm fully aware I cannot be 24h under the same roof with my parents. Too many differences between them and I on too many aspects.
@bradleygrant35312 күн бұрын
Very very insightfull and sugar coated just enough to to explain this once apon time a boy was ra I raised in a NPD family always lost and confused but always tried! and succeeded yet over looked abd under mindedness became a survivor once a broken empath raised in hell dragged thru the lava pits abandoned and broken. Sum how he managed to see the light and not only crawled and faught his way up now still crawling THRU with his children on his back stating I AM STRONG I AM BRAVE WE WILL BE HAPPY! 😄
@Rozannna2 жыл бұрын
I’ve went through all the signs. I’m gonna be 22 now and I’m not sure if I’m too emotionally numb or crying easily is a way of comforting myself.
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
You are very strong it is okay to cry!
@BlackwoodOak2 жыл бұрын
My family is extremely toxic and I had to cut every last one of them off. It hurts that I did and I feel so so guilty. My mother used to hit me with closed fists and I still have scars on my hands and arms that all show they're defensive scars. My biological father was never in my life, not even when my mother was pregnant. I always resented him for it. My mother was the worst part of my family. She could be so fake and show an overwhelming amount of affection just to get what she wanted from me. To this day she's fake nice to me and Zelle's me money to guilt trip me into letting her spend time with my kids. When I had my first child, she took her away from me and told me I was never going to be a good mother. I fell into the worst anxiety and depression of my life at that time. I was only 19 when I had my child. I haven't been the same since. I'm turning 29 next week and I still haven't been the same. I have siblings but all they care about is having money and they think I am a waste of their time. I really wish my family wouldn't have had me, my mother said the same, because they never wanted me. I'm the black sheep. I grew up to have so many issues only because of such a messed up family. Thank you for this video.
@logeyperogi18052 жыл бұрын
My mom used to be a very toxic part of my life Limiting time with her to just visits has really helped all of us
@wati512 жыл бұрын
I definitely relate to this video. I dont know how it feels to have a loving family who love and support you. My parents are always blaming me about my past and keeps talking about the past and how I m always wrong.
@FlameSlayer19012 жыл бұрын
my parent's idea of respect is basically "listen to whatever I say without bringing up a counterpoint because I'm your parent", and I know this obviously ain't it but I have a bad feeling these misconceptions they bring up so goddamn much are gonna screw me up bad
@FlameSlayer19012 жыл бұрын
@@Unknown-wb1bf no cap
@garnetjohnson7632 жыл бұрын
TOXIC!!! Mine was SO bad my mother is dead and i SCREAM at the ceiling how crappy a mother she was!😠They IDOLIZED my younger sister...calling her the pretty one ect. While i was the cook, maid, babtsitter and emotional mental punching bag.
@sergiovalencia36072 жыл бұрын
I don't talk with my mom anymore. I tried so many times to fix the relationship after I realized that she was being toxic, but I guess a lot of people doesn't change or don't want to change, I tried for years but it didn't get better. I'm much more happy now, and i don't miss her anymore. It's sad at first but I already accepted it.
@victorialaing422719 күн бұрын
This video reminds me of Horrid Henry. His parents are very toxic and authoritarian. They always punish him for no reason, yell at him, blame him for things that were never his fault, and his feelings opinions and thoughts don’t matter. They don’t show him any love or encouragement, all they do is punish him and they aren’t there for him, while they love his brother Peter and are always there to show him love and support. Playing favorites is another example of toxic parenting
@GalacticSlob2 жыл бұрын
Yeah the first one was immidiatly one that happens with me the communication aspect...they straight up say I'm not allowed to have an opinion at. 15...yet...they are tryimg to treat me like an 18 year old. As well as the privacy and beimg ordered around and its a do as I say,but not as I do
@deevlogs99452 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@GalacticSlob2 жыл бұрын
I cry quite often because i get my feeling basically proven wrong and told its my fault that I'm feeling that way when I express things to them...it makes me feel ragefull and resentful.
@sahithya37802 жыл бұрын
so relatable. they don't practice what they preach but expect us to be "perfect"
@GalacticSlob2 жыл бұрын
Facts
@GalacticSlob2 жыл бұрын
@زِ oh god no...
@victorjun24212 жыл бұрын
I relate to all of these, and at this point i prefer to say that i was completely alone for my whole life than to say i had a family. It wasn't a family, they just abused my mental and made me feel like a worthless tool, and that they could get rid of me anytime they wanted. I don't know how long i can hold it anymore, so i'm trying to get away from here before things go south. I don't want to ruin anyone's life, including my own, but my mental gets worse and worse the longer i stay here. I have to escape while i'm still alive.
@iluvedhelms2 жыл бұрын
🙇♂️this helped me understand my family a bit more ty !!
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
Glad it helped!
@trwn872 ай бұрын
Too many expectations, constant projection and more. But remember: There are no bad people, only limiting beliefs.
@seasonsofsunoo2 жыл бұрын
I'm having a problem like right now with family yes... and my chest hurts so bad. This is so timely. Gdi. I love this page so much. I feel like I'll be okay and I'm not alone. (I want to just leave whenever there's a problem but still feel bad about it).
@williamscharles11522 жыл бұрын
Good day my dear friend,, How are you feeling today my dear friend and how is the weather over there. ??
@Jhereckk2 жыл бұрын
My father doesn't care about my problems or tries to make them into a joke and play them off. My mother, every time I tell her something, always turns it against me. Even if it's not a problem. Like, I'll say I got a good score on a quiz and she'll yell at me over how I should have studied something else because I clearly understand what I was tested on.
@leonhardtjoestar63572 жыл бұрын
*5 signs of a toxic family members:* 1. Communication 0:41 2. Respect 0:21 3. Criticism 2:23 4. Privacy 3:20 5. Affection 4:10 I personally have this like #1, 2and 3. Sadly I tend to have these kind of things. So here are the time stamps
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
@joey64172 жыл бұрын
I feel like I have no people who I can healthily vent this out to. We have extended family members living with us. It feels like they’ve been leeching off of us ever since my dad died. I just want to get it out of my chest that I fucking hate my older cousin. So fucking entitled to his own opinion, constantly talking down on me for not being able to play sports, not taking up STEM, etc. I can’t even have a moment of respite when I’m playing video games since he’ll sometimes hover over me and say shit like “the only thing you’re practicing by doing that is your fingers”, “why don’t you study to be a lawyer?”, “I feel like uncle (my dad) would be pretty disappointed, honestly”. Holy shit it get’s tiring. The worst part is that my immediate family doesn’t seem to be doing anything about their presence. This year I just spent some time with my siblings and mom trying to mend bridges and actually finally develop relationships with them. I finally got the courage to actually spend more time at home and socialize with family in my free time only to be reminded why I fucking hated being here in the first place by my extended family. Now I feel lost, I don’t think I can stand living under the same roof as these people anymore. As much as I love and respect some of my family members, as soon as I get a job I’m leaving and not speaking to any of them ever again.
@assuma04112 жыл бұрын
Ah yes I'm living with my parents ignoring my Depression.
@assuma04112 жыл бұрын
Thanks, I've been enduring this for 4 years
@eliesapphire2 жыл бұрын
To all soon to be parents or parents with kids, this video is so important to learn how to nurture a healthy relationship with you and your kids. I grew up resenting my mom for all the toxic abusive language she use or the violence she did to me. As she age, she starts using depression as an excuse, blames for her horrible or day, belittle you anything bad that is mention in this video. It's impossible for me to forgive her since she keeps disrespecting me as a human being.
@CelineOng2 жыл бұрын
I had discomfort sometimes with my mum too. My dad can be really strict sometimes and my mum could be critical of my dad and I. All it takes is communication and boundaries
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
Yes.. and empathy and understanding. What are your thoughts on the topic how to encourage parents to seek therapy?
@Rand0m27 Жыл бұрын
It’s hard growing up the way I did. Not everything was touch on as in this video, but a enough was. It’s really hard to look at my family immediate family and the looking at my S.O. Family dynamic. I am often jealous of his families dynamic. It makes me so sad sometimes, to I avoid having to interact with his family because of it. Not because I can’t handle it, but because I’m stoping myself from crying the whole time. I’m getting better, but some days it’s still hard.
@stellargay2 жыл бұрын
living with a mom who did all of these things and more has caused me to feel unable to express my feelings without literally gaslighting myself. im constantly doubting myself and feeling like im being overdramatic, that im blowing things out of proportion, and sometimes i even question if things in my memory are actually real or if they're made up. i even have convinced myself that my husband merely tolerates me and feels obliged to stay with me even though i am a ball and chain around him. if anyone has any tips on how to deal with these issues (aside from therapy) pls let me know.
@Walklikeaduck1112 ай бұрын
Inner child work. I hope you found some peace by now. And no contact with toxic people.
@anthonyphan70212 күн бұрын
My mom died of cancer at 53. I didn't even know that my dad was seriously dating a woman until he invited me to their wedding reception a couple weeks before it happened. I was glad that he found a partner, but he and I rarely talk. My sisters are geographically not too far away, but I cannot share any deep feelings with any of them. I feel like I have roommates and old coworkers that are closer. It tears me up.
@makitty_makeupxo2 жыл бұрын
This video couldn’t have came at s more perfect time thank you sm
@williamscharles11522 жыл бұрын
Good day my dear friend,, How are you feeling today my dear friend and how is the weather over there. ??
@Psych2go2 жыл бұрын
@nicknugget9978Ай бұрын
Thanks to my family I always end up destroying myself for people. Thanks to my family I am constantly pumped with anxiety and doubt. Thanks to my family I have become desensitized to yelling and threats. Thanks to my family can never understand someone loving and accepting me. Thanks family.
@sahithya37802 жыл бұрын
i am still scolded for wearing a crop top (that doesn't show ANYTHING!) by my mom, even at the age of 18. and she goes like, she's gonna have control over me forever. why do toxic families exist?
@sahithya37802 жыл бұрын
@زِ I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that. but I think the best part of it all is that we know that this is toxic. there are still many kids out there who think that this is normal and blame themselves...