8 Signs of An Abusive Parent

[@Psych2go]

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[@layzeesuga7047]

Nice! Thank you

[@ItsKim_Him]

Thx you

[@oof2950]

Thank you

[@haechansboogers4496]

Thankyou⊂(◉‿◉)つ

[@ashleythehooman]

Thank you ❤️

[@iloveseals0]

Governments: child abuse is illegal Parents: imma pretend I didn't heard and saw that.

[@tired.5123]

What’s sad is that the government doesn’t even do anything about it (in Australia anyway)

[@charmaine7781]

@@tired.5123 that's terrible 😔

[@strawberryshortdrake]

Fr

[@strawberryshortdrake]

@@tired.5123 same goes with my country

[@patheticgirl5919]

In my place the government doesn't care abt child abuse lmao 🙃

[@emsub1199]

“Every children deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child” “There is no what if to loving and supporting ur child”

[@Milkywayschannel]

Earned a Like and a well-respected, "Agreed".

[@kanishkarastogi9637]

that's true my parents just don't deserve me

[@creaderdeed6932]

that is soo true

[@lfn4p829]

@yourlocalanimefan I'm not trying to get attention, but my story is exactly same.. I only told my friend a few days ago... I hope your friend is feeling better :D

[@Watchthiswatchthis]

@@Milkywayschannel S-A-M-E

[@internetpurple]

“Parents should love and support their kids no matter what.” this made me cry

[@Oscar4y]

What how

[@mahiaahmedbornali469]

My dad want me to be a doctor when I grow up I don't know if it's right or wrong but he always scold me for opening a KZbin channel it was my dream to be a youtuber guess I have to be a doctor...

[@atiqaislam7896]

You're not alone .☹️

[@Inyourmom77]

This says the comment was posted one month ago but it says the video was posted 20 minutes ago🤔💀

[@mahiaahmedbornali469]

@@Inyourmom77 oh my gooooddd and one comment was 3 weeks ago what the hell is going on

[@oregonhockeyfan]

One lie I was told as a kid was, "If you report this to the police, you will be taken away, put in foster care and someone else far worse will hurt you even more." I still wonder what my life would have been like if I had called the police to report the abuse.

[@kpopstanner4978]

Really? I still believe it.. would life really be better if I reported my dad? I'm scared to go to court, etc.

[@oregonhockeyfan]

@@kpopstanner4978 trust me. One regret I have is that I didn’t confront him earlier in life. Waiting is just mean you have more emotional baggage to deal with in the future. I highly recommend reading the book Boundaries by Dr Cloud and Dr Townsend.

[@kpopstanner4978]

@@user-pj4gp1cj2o yes. it is.

[@oregonhockeyfan]

@@user-pj4gp1cj2o That is abuse. No person should ever be treated like that. Is there somewhere safe you can go? Look into an organization like CARDV, (Center Against Rape and Domestic Violence) in your area and ask them for help.

[@oregonhockeyfan]

@@user-pj4gp1cj2o It sounds like abuse. Call someone for help.

[@R_ylee]

I envy those parents and children who has a friendly relationship between them. My mother literally won't talk unless I have to do something or there's a visitor.

[@Attackontrashcan]

Same

[@Amaranthine56]

Same

[@ohnod1488]

Same, she even said to me than she wasn't there to be my friend, that she was there to educate me and nothing else. Even if that meant I would fear her or hate her now or in the future.

[@StopCopCity1312]

+

[@Nobody-tj6gr]

Same. My cousins always tell me how they play games with their parents and could talk to them about anything. I wish I could just be happy for them, but I always feel a strand of jealousy in my heart.

[@deckmanbestie9772]

Im a chinese. My parents say: “Its just our culture” If its our culture then I dont want to be apart of my culture.

[@lamarasawyer850]

R u ok? Do you need to vent?

[@deckmanbestie9772]

@@lamarasawyer850 Thank you for asking :) Im fine atm, but thanks for asking, ur very sweet.

[@Beanssss_]

Yeah that type of culture is hella toxic. Cut off all ties with them if you can. Proud if you ♥️

[@deckmanbestie9772]

@@Beanssss_ thank you ❤️❤️ Ill try my best when I become financially stable etc etc and turn 18

[@hdphonector8434]

@@deckmanbestie9772 i already am 18 n still in control of my fam... My culture is the same too (India) n i wanna move out too

[@i.p.4139]

I really can't stand the fact that parents give birth to their children, when they are not able to take good care of them. A message to all abusive parents: Your child's mental health is more important than their grades.

[@tessarae9127]

Wow, yeah... Mental health is WAY more important. Idk if you're a minor currently but I mean, that's some truth right there. I grew up with those expectations and I'm 26 now. Started as soon as I started going to school haha. I'm working on not RESENTING my shitty parents for that among other things. Lol it gets easier the more I build myself up tho. Parents only care about grades because they want you to get a job and shit later. But the thing is, it's really hard to get and keep a job if you're depressed as fuck or struggling with your mental health in another way, could be anxiety. Whatever it is, you're doing your future self a HUGE favor the more you allow yourself to start the journey of discovering yourself and how to regulate your own difficult emotions. Speaking from experience, it wasn't until I cut myself off energetically speaking from their BS expectations of me (expectations that were disconnected from the truth of who I am) and started prioritizing my own mental health (which they weren't capable of doing) that I started to really see life open up for me in those "outwards" ways... For me I found regulating looks outwardly 'crazy' to most people haha. Sometimes I need to scream. Jog. Break things. Safely, of course... I didn't separate myself physically, I was still living with my abusive mom but yeah, I grey rocked her for over a year and she slowly stopped expecting me to be all happy and fake around her. Landed my dream job at the same age that she was when she got her first "real" job. But I'm way ahead of her as far as emotional maturity goes. When I look back on my life, I never regretted what I invested in myself. I did end up regretting sacrificing myself and my values for other people who had nothing or very little to give in return. Bet on yourself. It's not gonna be a guarantee other people will be there for you but if you can be there for yourself? Fucking golden. You got this, whoever is reading this. You got this. EDIT: Update, y’all! I moved out and am investing in revamping an old trailer to live in 😊🙏💗 The place I’m at is going through a housing crisis so thought I’d be the change I want to see in the world. Thanks for the likes! 😃🤙

[@XNAROTO]

@harits fadhilah omg so true

[@notactuallywill3620]

Thank you.

[@pollyandrade2125]

I mean there's such thing as a c section.....😏😏JKKJKJK on a serious note very true.

[@AlwaysHaveFaith07]

@@Compunctious_me yeah if I fail gym I won’t be able to zoom with my friends and my iPad will get taken away

[@chetnaverma1062]

I was literally crying watching this video because I didn't know I was being emotionally abused and it just hurts me that I don't have a friendly relationship with my parents and I envy those who have 😢

[@itzmeweebyweedz]

Gurll i am a 12 yr old and I have been abused since I was 9 and they say contact someone bitch I can't

[@notFLIBAR]

Me too I Just realized I was physically and emotionally abused

[@yeminheinephein8551]

Me too and I'm not even in middle school yet. I don't know what to do but I hope everything will turn out fine.

[@ummhithere5756]

Me too I was crying so hard that's why I want to leave as soon as I get a job and cut every single connect with my dad

[@sohajahir8724]

Oh no!! Are you okay? 👌

[@aayushisingh2940]

I'm here after getting verbally abused, emotionally abused and physically abused, cried for hours and now finding my comfort. This happens almost every day

[@bbdn5123]

My Aayush clan, I find myself here as well. For me it's been years ago, although the feels are present like it's happening right now. It's extremely awful, it debilitates my life. Please seek help now. Wish you much healing and a loving happy care free life 🌌💖💫

[@manuelkaduthuse497]

Same here too

[@preethi1920]

Same here..😪

[@janewillams8056]

Experienced same thing.. I spent most of night in tears.. hoping one day everything will be alright.. but no it never stopped.. n this has affected me while growing

[@GooseWithAPassport]

Yeah and then they wonder "why are they saaaaaad" *mmm I wonder*

[@xrast1215]

As a 32 year old man just figuring his past out, my heart goes out to anyone this has affected.

[@josephhoover4542]

I think I am affected and just recently too my dad told me I am a pour reflection of him just for the simple reason I didn’t want to shave my beard before school yet he doesn’t shave his receding hairline and goes to work with it evreyday ik this might sound funny but it’s the genuine hypocrisy that’s grinding my gears

[@guestguests603]

Definitely me! and I struggle everyday with this in my life as a 32 year old right now and the pain is still there.

[@Aeterny]

I didn’t know until I was informed at 19, my entire family is abusive and it goes back generations. Now at nearly 24 I’m still stuck with my mother.

[@varneee1]

):

[@monicafox3737]

Only Jesus saves He can heal

[@martaabrami3113]

I don’t even feel safe in my own house, I’m literally terrified, especially when my dad comes home from work.. But it’s ok, in three years I’ll be able to leave, I can do this, we all can do this. I send a hug to everyone Update 12/6: I hate my parents they took away my kitty and the only things that made me happy, My kitty was the only one who gave me love in this house Update 17/6: I’ve got my kitty back! :) and I passed this school year, so now they’re a more calm since I’ve got good grades 21:12: my dad is mad at me I’m hiding in the bathroom I’m scared I hope he doesn’t come and yell at me 04/07/21: I’m doing good everyone is pretty chill :)

[@darkangelkate3950]

Get help!! You dont have to deal with an abusive person. I am sending you hugs💓💓⚘🧚‍♀️

[@vijayeville8704]

Stay strong

[@fionafoxXscourge4eva]

Damn....I feel that 🫂

[@thaokim12]

I get to leave in 8more years I’m 10 now i want to leave now.

[@chickennuggets-sn6vo]

You have it good,I am 10 and I have no idea when the abusing started🤨😐???!!!

[@aahanasenxic382]

I really appreciate the fact that you included verbal abuse here as someone who has always been very sensitive and emotional I can totally relate with emotional abuse

[@alexred829]

Are you also hughly sensitive? My parents destroyed me emotionally

[@Nwarmp]

I have a question I’m 12 but I think my mom is abusive she is a single mom my dad was abusive and he left me but sometimes I make small mistake and I get hit with a broom sometimes it breaks she thrown a spoon at me slapped me more than 20 or more I get verbally abused and threatened sometimes But she still loves me

[@guineapig5858]

​@@Nwarmp hate to break it to you but yes, she is still abusive

[@foxinettegacha1099]

my dad : "you’re so incompetent" "you’re so lazy" "why are you like that" "one day im gonna leave this house" *why did you even have kids* ?

[@ms.aesthetic2166]

True

[@ii._.astn1717]

Like I wonder is this the way parents treat their children, like just because some kids are raised like this doesn't me we should. We are not dolls for you to play with.

[@l3niwww843]

"One day I'm gonna die and- " And what? I hate this phrase

[@galaxykelexa162]

The first two lines, my dad tells me every day. My dad can't even realise the only reason I wake up late is that I struggle to fall asleep every night because his words and actions fill my head up until they clog my brain and now I can't even fall asleep until two-three in the morning 😒

[@curiouscork6302]

i dont want to be that guy, but accidental birth?

[@FreakoLeeko]

"IM GONNA HIT YOU" "STOP CRYING OR I WILL HIT YOU" "Why won't you talk to me?"

[@TheSnerggly]

exactly

[@saturnstits]

my dad ...

[@Iameverywhere124]

True..

[@ms.aesthetic2166]

Sameeee thing

[@jaidend8349]

Bro your pfp is funny lmao

[@sz3541]

I'm just a toy to my parents . When ever they are angry,they just come and hit me and release their anger

[@sz3541]

@¿Ťhe_Řoyals? oh

[@bungeetsubasa3139]

When i told to my mom that i thought i was lesbian bc my most crushes was girls she hitted me with a dumbbell just bc i thought.....today i was with my friends one of my friends called jane when jane leaved i didn't know that i need to leave after her my mom come to the park when whe were we get home and she starts to hit me and saying that if i do that again she will cut off ally friendships.....i got scared every day that im gonna do something that i didn't know it was wrong.I don't wanna lose my friends i accidentally did that and i didn't mean it...she is saying that she wants to protect me from things but she hurt me with her words....i wanna live with my grandmother bc when i do something wrong she comfort me and not hurt me with words but i can't say i don't love my mom i kinda love her she is just scared to loose me but shs can just comfort me and not hurting me with her hursh words....

[@sz3541]

@@bungeetsubasa3139 it's ur life mate u must live it freely. What ever u like u can do. Just have hopes and trust bc one day u gonna have everything. :) Ur not the only one sad dude the whole youth is suffering. Ngl I've don't so many suicidal atteemts but nothing worked.. I think it's not the time for me to die. And I believe too that one day everything is gonna change

[@sz3541]

@Jennie Ruby I just pray for permanent sleep

[@sz3541]

@Jennie Ruby tqsm.. I don't even think I deserve any happiness

[@sethallison5682]

Abuse is bad enough, but the really tough thing was the randomness of it. It’s one thing to get hit for being bad, but it’s terrifying when it just happens for NO reason. That’s fucked me up for life.

[@artratengo]

same here i would be playing Minecraft on a friday night, with classmates i was already not good friends with because the fked up things i would get punished for i didn't even do, or someone made a half truth and i got in trouble, granted i did some bad things but i wasn't in control it was like my parents hijaked my brain and did their evil through me.. anyhow i got slapped in the back of the neck full force by my dad as i was just trying to be with the guys and play something .. i still can't process why he did that.. says distractions are only a waste of time.. and leaves 2 weeks for work, then the other 2 is mental hospital at home with narcissistic manipulation sprinkled in.

[@urmother1212]

Even when being bad, children should NEVER be hit. If a parent can't parent without hitting you, they're lazy, unbothered or lack self-control or emotional control. All signs of a parent who isn't fit to parent.

[@marty15879]

​@@urmother1212 Absolutely. Why was I ever given a demon for a father? Sigh!

[@urmother1212]

@@marty15879 I'm sorry to hear that...I really am. Never forget though, it was never your fault, you never deserved any of the abuse.

[@justastrangeroninternet5785]

As a Mexican child, I can say most of us have abusive parents, but since it's "normal" to abuse your kid here, most people don't do anything when they see abuse

[@Monicalia]

This is so messed up. I'm always deeply concerned when Mexicans talk casually about being beaten or having specific objects thrown at them and then not call it "abuse". Like...wow

[@name9039]

abuse is different from your parent hitting u or something. my dad is mexican and he did abuse my sisters. it wasn't ok. i think people sometimes don't realize the difference between culture and just abuse

[@name9039]

(and I agree with u)

[@juliuskingsley4434]

@@name9039 there is no excuse. Zero. Culture doesn't matter. Should still be treated as abuse even if most people do it.

[@deadleaves9991]

I am not Mexican and I can relate

[@jojomania9601]

whenever my parents hit me and my siblings they always say, "I'm just teaching you a lesson" or "you where being a brat, you deserved it". But then when my sister hits another sibling and says "its because they where being annoying" she gets yelled at and hit again. Our parents are so hypocritical.

[@jojomania9601]

Its gotten to the point where I don't feel safe here, like if anything goes wrong I'll start to freak out. I absolutely hate it here, its not a suitable living situation either, I live in a camper and at my grandmothers house, where I'm scared that my family will hurt me. I don't like it here at all.

[@crystalplayz1922]

@@jojomania9601 Hey, I hope you are doing okay ;(

[@lukaurbankitek6019]

Forget the hipocricy! Child beating is not okay!

[@Isabel-sr8ep]

@@lukaurbankitek6019 Thats true and if the parent is black or Asian or Mexican everyone thinks it’s normal cuz it’s their culture-

[@lukaurbankitek6019]

@@Isabel-sr8ep No cap. Totally agree

[@bhimusarvaiya2088]

Having abusive parents taught me how not be a bad person. If you've gone through a rough time, my heart goes out to you. Love and ✌

[@Angelik_]

As a person who lives with a ab*Sive parent,thank you and I do the same others as they went on this

[@Nameksfan]

Thanks ☺️

[@sylvie9420]

Having abusive parents isn't good for me.. they just hurt me for the sake of enjoyment and because my siblings tell lies about me. I've been abused ever since I was 2 and I'm almost 14. I have rarely done bad things to deserve abuse. I'm glad your OK now though :)

[@SharlenesJourney]

Thanks 🙏🏾

[@livi3135]

Having an abusive mom taught me that I wanna die 😄

[@nomikonomio]

The abuse started at 4 years old and went on for 7-8 years 🙂 my inside is screaming "LET ME OUT!" and crying shouting for help but no one notices and because my outside looks all "perfect" and "happy" but no one knows the truth.

[@sohajahir8724]

Me too 😢 I am actually the happy and crazy one in my friends group but they don’t see my other side which I wish they can see

[@Zoe_EK]

This is an absolute classic! I am known as the one who always smiles and brings the positive energy!!! We are masters of disguise and masking! That is what we developed as a safety strategy - eventually over the past few years (and it is still a process) I started to open up to a few people and that relief is like an elephant 🐘 has taken one of its feet of my chest… suddenly there is more air to breathe and space to figure out who you actually are! Time to live instead of just surviving and functioning! You’ll get there! Sending lots of love ❤

[@quickhallsshow576]

And I'm just expressionless on the outside but I'm in pain all the time in the inside:(

[@honeybun-q4p]

"Your child's mental health is far more important than their grades" Say that to my mom. edit; ya'll need therapy or sum wtf,to anybody who has family problems,come to me i'm your new mom

[@hdphonector8434]

Ikr

[@hdphonector8434]

I hav almost half the stuffs listed here in my family But whats weird is i dont feel like calling hotline or anything coz... 1. I feel like my problems r small ... 2. Im 18 years old and have been dealing with this since 9 years old..

[@spike1351]

Right, parents are also humans not supercomputers that whatever they think or doing is the best, even it's ruining their life. Pressurizing kids can cause counter effects than any good

[@wendyliu5118]

When I was in primary school, my grades were horrible and my parents used my grade as the reason for abusing me. But later when I went to secondary, my grades improved so much that I ranked 1st every single year at school and eventually got in one of the top 50 universities in the world. But even when my grades improved, it never stop them from abusing me both emotionally and physically. They just used another reason for abusing me. My original plan was to get a PhD placement after my graduation but this pandemic just force me to live with my parents for an extra year

[@_.sweettearz._4001]

My dad, he always yells when I don’t understand something I’ve gotten one C In my whole life when online school started and my teacher barley told us what to do last year and they were so Mad about it that’s why I now am upset if I even get a 80 percent

[@itisflora8958]

Idk how much abusive my parents are, but i will never be like them when i become a parent. Every time i see someone else with loving parents, i immeditly start bursting out a tear of jealousness, like i did this afternoon at the store when i saw a mom and her girl acting like they we're bffs and laughing at eachother.

[@maxel4635]

Very relatable but with my foster family

[@Jasmine-md6cp]

Same :(

[@theblurryviewfinder]

It makes me very upset each time I see a mother and her kid(s) giggling and laughing together and ACTUALLY getting along, I just wish that, well, my parents could be like them too - sometimes atleast.

[@Kuman_00]

I'm 23 years old and live in an indian family. My parents shouts at me every single day from day to night. I moved out of house when I was 19 for the college and lived in another state. After three years of graduate studies. I worked for 2 years that too in another state. Now I had to leave my job due some reasons. And came back home. I forgot to mention I have 2 siblings as well. Nd I'm the second child. My both parents think my other two siblings are very much capable in every way. And I'm the one who is good for nothing. I was soo happy when I was living outside home. I barely smiles at home. Whatever I say turns into an argument. When I was a kid I tried to kill myself multiple times. Nd now I just wish I move out of this house as soon as soon possible.

[@adi_makesmusic]

hopefully you can get out of that household, good luck!

[@sarahjoesph9284]

That really sucks! But hopefully, it gets better. Sending a big virtual hug! You are so kind and brave enough to share this experience in the comment section bringing awareness.

[@langyd4518]

It never gets better. You have to watch your parents decline and get worse with age. But you will find that they effect you less and less the older you get. It never gets easier - but it becomes manageable for you and what you are capable of handling from them. Remember that your never can control or even change them- if you can you are luck and that is rare. Mostly we have to endure and stay strong for ourselves- to for anyone else - this is the key to surviving abusers. Remember that they have the problem, not you, but self care is essential and key, because their behavior actively drains the life out of you.

[@hdphonector8434]

Imma Indian too... Especially a south indian lesbian... I hav almost half the stuffs listed here in my family But whats weird is i dont feel like calling hotline or anything coz... 1. I feel like my problems r small ... 2. Im 18 years old and have been dealing with this since 9 years old..

[@sarahjoesph9284]

@@hdphonector8434 you deserve to talk to someone n pain doesnt discriminate and be like oh urs is trivial. Your problems are not small they are urs.

[@Curlytails12]

I'm a 18 year old girl and three days back my father beated me ..he threw me out of the bed by grabbing my leg ..he grabbed my hair and dragged me across the room then he tried to strangle me and pointed a knife at me ...that was very traumatizing and forever will be

[@semi_dott]

Girl, My advice is just run away or just complain Child survices, that's horrible, ur dad is a spawn of satan ( sorry, if u feel bad) ur dad about to kill u, btw, What did u do that makes him so angry?

[@marianamariana4040]

May God help you with these problems and heal you. Praying for evrybody in these types of situations! 🙏🏼

[@sohajahir8724]

Are you okay????

[@okoroifeanyichukwu8762]

An idiot will now say you should just forgive and ignore this shit in the future because your parents trained you in school and fed you , bullshit!

[@purpleabdorangefan]

Report your father he is a monster is person!!!

[@priyadharasini1102]

Having these type of parents is bad, I would hug every kid who has these types of parents

[@Coincollector81]

If you're an adult that can mark you as a pedophile.

[@priyadharasini1102]

@@Coincollector81 what does that mean bro

[@ameeramela-kamara6669]

Thank you so much

[@Coincollector81]

@@priyadharasini1102 Hugging children.

[@laincoubert9657]

guess i have a hug today

[@sw1tchbl4de_]

My dad: *yells at me for 30 minutes straight and takes everything that makes me happy* Him 10 minutes later: sorry Edit: I’m so sorry that all of you have to go through what I am going through or worse. But an update on my dad, he doesn’t even apologize anymore and just makes a joke out of it later and gets upset when I don’t want to talk with him. He also tells me I should focus more on my grades than my mental health, and tells me I am faking my anxiety when he is the reason I have anxiety in the first place.

[@creepydollie9078]

same but cut the sorry and make it worse everytime, 5-8 times a day.

[@avacadotoast5571]

Same Sometimes my mom just expects me to forget what happened and "move on"

[@creepydollie9078]

@@darkangel2758 listen I go through the same thing but you CANT tell them their dad is nice. NO. What their parent is doing is gaslighting PLUS you telling them they are lucky is also abuse. STOP.

[@MIZUKIISMYWIFETRUST]

@@darkangel2758 Do NOT say their dad is nice. That invalidates their emotions. And even if they do say sorry it’s STILL. FUCKING. ABUSE. If you use what you’re going through as an excuse to invalidate someone, you are toxic. I understand you’re going through something terrible, but because of that, instead of comparing it and making the other person feel like shit for feeling this way, you should be able to empathize or understand how they feel.

[@MIZUKIISMYWIFETRUST]

@@darkangel2758 I’m starting to think you might be lying, if you are that’s fucked up

[@chaseatlanticfan9048]

At some point, you’ve been abused for so long, it doesn’t seem so bad after a while. You learn to live within the environment and develop survival skills that help you get by. My mother exudes all of these traits. I guess because abused (whether physical or emotional) has been normalized for so long, it doesn’t really bother me that I am abused anymore. I’ll live

[@bubbles9329]

Bless you🦋🦋🦋.. I can feel you and your every word cause I've gone through the same.

[@thesaddestdude3575]

What if theyw ere really good for a long while, but then, suddently ebcame emotionally abusive?

[@Zamiiz]

what’s even worse is when you’re so accustomed to that environment of abuse and toxicity that any other environment that doesn’t involve those things makes you anxious af, because it’s unpredictable and scary, you’re not familiar with that environment like the one you’ve known how to navigate for years. and even worse worse, is when you sabotage that healthy environment by causing some form of chaos or disruption between or with the people in that new environment because *thats* what you know how to deal with, it’s familiar.

[@Zamiiz]

@@thesaddestdude3575 …in the words of my therapist “they’ve been abusive your whole life, its only now that you’ve become aware of it”

[@EmCrazy]

I only just realised how "abusive" my mum can be... she's not too bad but when it's in the moment, it's kinda terrifying and upsetting. She would threaten go leave us, she says that we are stupid sometimes, she companies us to other people and sometimes gets physical, she ignores us if she is on facebook or talking to someone on the phone, or anything else and then blames us for anything that happens. But yeh your right you end up just learning to deal with it and it becomes normal. I now get very stressed in any situation involving arguments or shouting and I break. Start crying and panic. But it's very hard to accept that your parents are abusive, especially when you love them even though they are abusive.

[@kalliskivike]

Having been through this from both parents, there is one thing I know and that is that I would be a wonderful parent one day, the one I never had :) Verbal abuse along with neglect with no affection other than hate made me very insecure person and it took awhile to be confident in myself...

[@Jim-pq6lr]

When I dissapoint them: "You're worse than I imagined the worst in having kids" When I make them proud: "You know that you got to be the child we always wanted"

[@GlaceonStudios]

Mood. Luckily, I do whatever I can to not disappoint them. But the few times I have, especially the bad times, they've said I disgust them.

[@Jim-pq6lr]

@@GlaceonStudios I'm so sorry that you're still going throught this (as I took it out of your comment)

[@Jim-pq6lr]

@@Eixart-s9w And later on complaining that SOMEONE raised you to only doing things for rewards lmao

[@anugyasharma1649]

It's called selfishness

[@Spacefool1]

Narcissist alarm.

[@saltytoshiro3685]

"Do you struggle with abuse in your family?" This...This had me crying right away. Just knowing that someone even sounds like they care is enough to get tears swelling inside my eyes. Thank you so much for being amazing people and posting this kind of content.

[@kumarsatyajit7873]

Same here

[@Khaleesi_Jack]

'Just knowing that someone even sounds like they cares is enough to get me crying.' Jesus.. I've never heard anyone else say this but me.

[@imjm5647]

This makes me sick to my stomach. I hope it will get better soon, try to reach out to someone or search help if possible. You deserve the world and you should never have been treated like that, ever. I’ll be wishing you the best and i love you. I hope you have a wonderful day

[@abhayk1602]

Parents : *BASICALLY TELLS ME I AM SHIT BY COMPARING ME WITH OTHERS* Me : Becomes suicidal Parents : YoU HavE No RiGhtS to Die

[@Connor_312]

Parents are so wierd

[@an_alien3586]

Oh my god dis fricking comment section gets me more than my parents 0_0. Also I remember the same thing happening to me. Like how da hell you expect me to not be suicidal if you make me question my goddam existence every day y comparing me to others. ""ebich You are the cause of dis. Don't play around -_-"" - Me 2021

[@lilgoosey-lc9zg]

"yOu cAnT kiLl oUr bAbY" Well maybe you shouldn't have made your baby feel trapped in the ninth circle of hell and actually loved and supported him :/

[@ArminsFuton-b7h]

@@Connor_312 fr

[@JOOSEBOXES]

I think it happened once with me And please dont tell me this happens to you often because OH NO

[@msdixieblues]

At 40, I finally realized how my father's mental and emotional abuse fit so much of what is in this video. It amazes me how much I was able to compartmentalize and think was okay. Lots to unpack here

[@aradhyaaaaaa21]

The worst part of depression (given by your family) is that no one believes you - pari , 2020

[@silverspeedbro]

True

[@ghostofsilence2697]

best part? even if you present a gargantuan amount of irredutable evidence to back up your claims, they still wont believe you. I tell you, denial is one hell of a drug

[@StopCopCity1312]

+

[@Psych2go]

That's so hurtful :( How are you coping with depression right now?

[@Yoongiluvbot]

People think I can't be sad because my parents took to me abroad and my father is a millionaire. People say your family is a millionaire you can't be sad. My father doesn't pay my tuition fees unless begged

[@michaelaackerman-asterssta5063]

“It’s all your fault!” “I hate you!” “You disgust me.” As a child growing up I was scared to even speak. My grandmother lost her temper so often that I would just stay in my room. To this day I am still scared to talk to anyone because I am scared of them yelling at me or getting mad.

[@JordanAaliyahBrown]

nobody in my family would agree with me so im alone i feel ya

[@AppleDash19]

Same with me

[@ii._.astn1717]

exact problem of how I had

[@michaelaackerman-asterssta5063]

@Kamiya Frazier Yes, yes I do.

[@idonthaveaname6029]

My mom is the same, i feel ya girl

[@normal5852]

I remember when my mom told me if I died she wouldn't care, she calls me fat and sl- shames me, I 17 and I have 1 more year left till I leave I waiting I hope I get out of here and find happiness

[@rocky-jy5nx]

ur lucky u can leave in my country u cant leave ur parents house

[@adachi4043]

@@rocky-jy5nx same, but I'll ghost them if I graduated senior high. I'll come back when they repented or after reaching my dreams.

[@patheticgirl5919]

luckyyy.. I still need 3-4 years

[@mehakscreativearts5571]

@@rocky-jy5nx same its sad that ill probably get arrange married to a male person even though im bisexual but i like girls more and tbh lifes just shit

[@heavenlyplayz2393]

@Bruce Rivera now thats extremely sad. im so sorry :(

[@iliketrees.0_0]

Worst thing is when they gaslight and they’re like “I help you so much and I love you so much you don’t know how much I’ve done for you and how you much should be grateful”

[@botaccount6929]

The Psych2Go community basically: 2%: My parents are ok, but I'm so sorry for everyone that had to go thru these things :/ 98%: Oh shit my parents screwed up lol

[@an_alien3586]

dats true UvU

[@ImaPizzaK]

Cut the "lol" and you get exactly how

[@tishey1675]

@@ImaPizzaK I think the “lol” was a kind of coping thing, and i can relate…some people use humor as a way to cover up their problems, so just leave it be.

[@ImaPizzaK]

@@tishey1675 oh ok

[@idonthaveaname6029]

True in a spiritual level, and so true ghandi would make it a quote

[@REMASSS]

My parents relate to three things 1=excessively angry 2=verbal abuse 3=physical abuse

[@darcywalker4463]

I love you Your the real king in this world the fact that your still with us today shows how strong you are. Your a hero ❤

[@sylviastrawberry7663]

I agree with all the points except for the excessively angry and verbal abuse part … parents can get so angry at the children and say harsh things because how much they love and worry for the children … if they don’t worry about their children then they wouldn’t even get so angry to begin with… isn’t it?

[@darcywalker4463]

@@sylviastrawberry7663 I think your from a different planet you could not be more wrong

[@moumounelife6346]

​@@sylviastrawberry7663 not an excuse they can learn to be calm and explain the wrong to the child with autority not foolish anger

[@yoyieedroso2947]

same

[@littlesage.5857]

Mom: (apologizes) Me: “Maybe this time she changed?” Mom: “So what did I say to hurt you?” Me: (thinks) “Hmm, I guess she changed! I’m gonna tell her” Me: (tells Mom) **time passes** (Fighting again) Me: “Please STOP!” (Runs to room) Mom: “DON’T TALK BACK TO ME!” Mom: (walks to my door) Mom: “You’re always hiding in that room, that’s why you’re so mentally messed up” fools me every time…

[@CoolGamerzVlogs]

@Bruce Rivera What they said isn't a joke

[@ms.aesthetic2166]

True for the middle child.......

[@ii._.astn1717]

This is the way my mother do to me almost for 3 years. My parents always say sorry to me, and when I was little around the age of 5-8 years, I always forgive my parents for what they did. But after for almost years of being like this, my parents say sorry to me but always redo the same mistakes again at the age of 10 I think I was making a fool of myself for always believing what they say about sorry. It's like parents say sorry and promise they won't do it again, but after a few weeks things turned back to what it is, and they started calling you names again and abuse you. So all those sorry they said equals to 0% so equals to also not saying sorry. My mother: "Sweetie I am sorry I won't call you those names again" *Not even 1 day had passed* My mom: "Your such a lazy pig!!!"

[@justbert.5679]

my parents dont respect my personal space . If i go to hide in my room they are going to come in and probably hit me

[@ii._.astn1717]

@@justbert.5679 My parents just treats me like a 5 year old who doesn't know how to take care of herself, I mean my dad just keeps on watching me every single time when I was on the computer or walking. It makes me so uncomfortable.

[@GotJay713]

The verbal abuse and withholding love were always an issue in my relationship with my mother. I could be in class and miss her phone call and shed take it as a personal insult and get everyone else food but me. She'd tell me I'm not as smart as I think I am and often offer something in my time of need and hold it over my head. If you suffer from an abusive parent, get as far away as possible as soon as possible.

[@zyx7478]

As a father I never yell, hit, or punish my 3 children All 3 of them turned out great. Children live what they learn. If something goes wrong I explain why it’s wrong and move on. It was WAY different than when I was a child

[@crystalplayz1922]

You're a great dad :)

[@teewee2743]

You are a great dad , God may bless you 🙏

[@QwertyUiop-no4pf]

They are so, so, lucky. I'm 12 and the social workers don't believe me 😞

[@avshshhaba273]

Thank you for being a good parent. Not alot are out there but I'm proud of you and your progress.

[@denkikaminari1268]

I would love you as a dad, but I guess my experiences with mine turned me stronger so I will not try to change my past or forget it :)

[@louiqsc]

I don't know why but when I heard them say "Parents should love and support their kids no matter what" I started to cry really hard, and I couldn't stop after 2 minutes. They sometimes make threatening jokes whilst holding onto a sharp object, now I flinch and scream out of reflex everytime they come near me with something sharp.

[@supersaga24-f3k]

both of my parents have threatened to starve me and my dad actually tried to one time. he just took my food as a "punishment" hurting your child is not punishment, thats abuse

[@thebutterscotchkid2481]

Jesus Christ...

[@seansswamp]

omg.

[@seansswamp]

that’s not okay pls get help from someone who can help you. omg

[@seansswamp]

@@bellehelene7898 same Amen

[@blurry_face2740]

Just a quick reminder for all parents there: You chose to have children not them so you have no right to control them with there life choices

[@Flaming_Jaytherian]

This made me cry so hard because this just confirms my concerns: my mum is abusive. Just before I watched this me and my mum had a huge argument I’m not going to give to details but she false accused me a hit me twice. She keeps saying I’m a bully and that I’m abusive and it’s not true. She wouldn’t leave me alone until I literally screamed and yelled for her to go away. She always says that I’m so rude and I’m really not, my mum went completely out of control as she usually does and was saying all these terrible things about me. I didn’t listen but I fear what I would have heard if I had. The terrible thing is, is that I have nowhere to go… my dad lives far away and is also abusing. What’s worse is that my mum said that it’s over between me and her and I can go live on the streets or get adopted and I fear she really meant this. Btw this all happened because I said four words and she completely overreacted. Idk why I shared this but I did.

[@69_natalia_420]

My mother "refuses" to accept the title of an abuser.

[@vanomloser5606]

then she's even more of an abuser

[@nikifmradio]

SAME

[@carolina1358]

same

[@spiderjuless]

Same 😔

[@69_natalia_420]

@Daniel Kluk basically yes, she doesnt act as much of a mother figure and constantly is yelling and/or threatening to "beat our asses" or "give us a reason to cry." She also doesn't feed us, I've had to make my own dinners since I was 7 ish and I mostly do all the stuff a mother normaly does for her child. And my older sister has called her out for being abusive but she flat out said she "doesnt accept that because she would NEVER hurt her children who she ALWAYS takes care of."

[@GooseWithAPassport]

when your parents are abusive but then your like: *hey wait. thats illegal*

[@prasanakumarimahapatra5241]

Ikr

[@aena5995]

No in my shitty country

[@Apple-mm9ml]

Fr

[@Apple-mm9ml]

And then you can’t do or say anything bc then you’ll get taken your parents away or worde

[@GooseWithAPassport]

@@Apple-mm9ml when you can't do or say anything because your dependant on your parents but got a job and are gonna save up to leave :)

[@natashal.3764]

Growing up with an abusive father always made me wish I was never born. Such an emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive up bringing I was brought into this world to and it’s all I’ve ever known. Makes me wish I never existed.

[@sarahhawke5729]

Stop looking at the past find people, that care about you forget to waste any of your precious time on the man that didn't want you you're splendid in what you do unfortunately your dad will never see that side just so you understand, he's just a oblivious dipstick and in time he'll realize what he missed out on and he'll regret it with every passing day like my dad did

[@kalindipatil8576]

Same here😞

[@aliyapareek1605]

same

[@shubhi5612]

Same

[@arnoud666]

Same😢

[@ambarrose]

Perhaps the hardest part about abusive parents is that they don't realise that they are abusive in the first place.

[@marty15879]

Yeah. My father always think that he's always right & never wrong. He has never said sorry nor admits that he was so abusive to us growing up.

[@nikifmradio]

All 8. I didn’t even realize that my mother locking me in my room & never letting me go out as opposed to letting my twin sister do what she wanted was just her making sure no one found out

[@he1di_]

Same

[@mariajin5214]

This is sad.

[@AiyanaaMusic]

I'm sorry for you! 😟

[@bunille]

Are you sure you didn't do anything dangerous? That could be a sign.

[@coelhaacapivara1532]

Take care, if you can report to someone like a teacher or a family member do it, or talk to someone like a friend that you trust, this makes all the difference

[@lemonwedge6664]

when i try to tell my parents about stuff like this, they always try to find a way to prove their innocence

[@sleepyraven413]

Honestly I tried to do the same but my dad always tells me to "not listen to stupid people on the internet" and "oh I'm not like that" when he literally caused an aniety attack for me once.

[@havanadaurcy1321]

Honestly my mother was more abusive (calmed down) because her father was a alcoholic who developed a serious problem with adult movies.

[@hdphonector8434]

I hav almost half the stuffs listed here in my family But whats weird is i dont feel like calling hotline or anything coz... 1. I feel like my problems r small ... 2. Im 18 years old and have been dealing with this since 9 years old..

[@tahminarahman1457]

True 👏 True 👏 True 👏

[@tealwashablemarker8886]

because they know everything you say is true, but they explode because they don’t want to get caught and they want to keep you under their thumb

[@mediocrebanters]

I'm having awful flashback memories because of the list. It hurts.

[@Psych2go]

Sorry to hear :( You don't have to watch it if it's triggering! How are you feeling right now?

[@mediocrebanters]

@@Psych2go I'm doing Ok I think. Frankly it amazes me how some families are just so, well, "family-like." It's as if each of their family member knows each of their needs and just do their best to help. Each provides encouragement without mockery, condescention nor spite, just the genuine honest care. TBH I really envy those that grew up in a functional family. They've got some wonderful memories to carry til the end of their life.

[@mharlanoocorrall6484]

Sameee

[@silentlymischeavous2698]

@@mediocrebanters Sameeeee like they can be happy and achieve their dreams without hiding em from their parents and how their parents support em in almost every thing...this just feel so unfair idek why

[@lemonadebones4631]

yeah me too, it's like vietnam flashbacks

[@Red_Eggie]

"I'm going to give you a reason to cry" is etched into my brain

[@ItsAndresWorld]

I can’t even count how many times my parents yelled at my older brother because of his grades, and I don’t know how to tell them to stop. It really hurt how much I relate to this video. Things like this are not okay and shouldn’t be joked about.

[@ItsAndresWorld]

@Barok Espinoza Thank you, that made me feel a bit better :)

[@ItsAndresWorld]

@Barok Espinoza Ty :)

[@ilikeanime9150]

Don’t worry you should confort your brother in every way possible create beutiful memories with him and make sure he feels loved i think this will make him for courageous and maybe when the day comes confront your parents and tell them that this isn’t right and that they should go to hell

[@ItsAndresWorld]

@@ilikeanime9150 I’ve been thinking about confronting my parents recently, I just need to build up the confidence to do it..

[@ms.aesthetic2166]

Ture

[@arcticani1787]

Although my parents aren't physically abusive, they are emotionally. My mom is very munipulative and takes her anger out on us. She also throws insults at us ever since we were little and it has severely affected my mental health. And my dad used to be physical, but isn't really anymore. But he still makes threats and uses fear to control what I do. I remember he was mad one day and he came into the house while I was cleaning. He only came in for a second then left, but I had my back turned to the door so I didn't watch him. And when he left he slammed the door and I just felt my heart drop. I got so scared, thinking he was about to smack me or something. But because of my parents, I have depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, I have issues of starving myself and not allowing myself to feel happy or good enough. So yeh. Now I know what kind of parents I don't want to be

[@deepar4010]

I've similar mental issues. I'm self destructive which I feel is better than loving myself. Loving myself is embarrassing. It's weird to many people but this is how I truly feel and I know there are a lot of people like me.

[@Numberonehater67]

My dad and mom emotianaly abuse my brother and im scared its coming for me next. idk about my other siblings but i love my parents and it makes me so sad

[@Flightkitten]

I use fear to control MYSELF lol

[@karandesai3784]

My parents are mentally abusive. They want me to do like what they said.they compare me to others. Sometimes I think about suicide, but then i think about them.

[@RJ-vj9ws]

00:01 Intro 00:51 They're physically violent 01:19 They're verbally abusive 01:52 They get excessively angry 02:17 They make you compete for love 02:52 They neglect responsibilty 03:12 They isolate you from others 03:29 They abuse drugs or alcohol 03:57 They threaten your well-being 04:24 Outro

[@ingridaholmes]

Was looking for this, thanks so much and be safe ♡

[@xynium.]

1: Sometimes 2: Yes 3: Absolutely, my dad is calm tho, my mom isn't. 4: I don't have siblings lmfao 5: Not really, although my mom fails to teach me hygiene in a way where I actually learn 6: No, what my mom does though is tell me "Why don't you go outside?" and "Stop talking with your damn online friends and start talking to real people" 7: My mom and dad both smoke and my dad drinks on a weekly basis, very rare that he doesn't drink every week. 8: They threaten me in general.

[@1nfinit3]

The only thing my parents don't do is drugs or alcohol, so that means they're well aware of what they do wrong to me

[@Denken-b]

@@1nfinit3 same here, I never miss my parents

[@boguslav9502]

Physically abusive, violence is very different.

[@aaronpeters9759]

Sometimes in my reflection I really wonder if I'm over reacting by I don't know how my mother is able to bring this level of anger out of me when no one else could

[@iamqafka]

lol my dad doesn't even apologize after beating me

[@lamarasawyer850]

R u ok?

[@zorroliu5490]

Rasta same thing right here. he doesn't even apologize for once when he insults saying he wish that I died or he hitted me in the face.

[@illegallyapollo1637]

Same but with my mom. To me that probably makes everything hurt more because you want to trust that your parents aren't doing anything wrong bc they don't admit that they are.

[@jkeke2828]

@@illegallyapollo1637 same she hits me hard in head lmao and she uses beltsss

[@jkeke2828]

@@illegallyapollo1637 she even doesn't give me privacy

[@sunnii_01]

My mom: *gets physically abusive and insults me* Me: *cry’s and runs to my room with my door shut* Also my mom: *why is she sad?, hMmM i WoNdEr*

[@spoiled_birthday_cake]

*It'S bEcAuSe Of ThAt DaMn PhOnE*

[@maxxit_co7977]

@@spoiled_birthday_cake Fr that’s all they say.

[@spoiled_birthday_cake]

@@maxxit_co7977 sometimes I think parents (toxic ones) are all the same but with different skin packs and names.

[@mostafawatchs4483]

Toxic players are like toxic parents which makes them both stupid

[@fardinshahriar6404]

I used to ran to the bathroom and lock the door to escape from her. Then she had invented a way. I bought some novels and had placed them on my table. I loved those books and she knew it. When she started to beat me and I ran into bathroom to escape, then she would through away my beloved books and tear them apart; so that I could see and get out of the bathroom to save my books. Then she would grab me again to teach lessons again.

[@meowrius9516]

man i remember my mom telling me if i ran away from home, she would break my legs so i couldn't go anywhere. i was literally 8 ish and extremely terrified.

[@tudosaalessandra3405]

and that is why I was always yo scary to run away. I was thinking if I run and they find me they'll kill me. ( I still think this )

[@sazanamijun]

@@tudosaalessandra3405 same 😌

[@jeremiahcrain7023]

The only thing stopping me from running away is my sense of abandonment, My asshole of a sperm donor leaves me with a verbally (sometimes physically) abusive mother who marries a selfish, abusive, critic that I have to a call dad. The only thing stopping me is being alone.

[@hdphonector8434]

Im 18 and she still says that

[@softlars6283]

I wonder why parents say that to literal kids. My mom told me the same thing when I was 7

[@Milo-hp9fw]

There was a phenomenon that happened in my house where my dad was abusive to my mom, and she therefore reflected it onto me. I was the "perfect" child, so if I stepped out of line, she had an excuse. Ever since we left him, she has been so much happier and nicer.

[@misscait4809]

my dad: 'your lazy' 'ur fat' /'your ugly' 'your usless' older him:why dose she not come around anymore

[@mirdav7954]

If you're fat, lose weight

[@OversizedSquare]

@@mirdav7954 being fat is better than hating yourself

[@mirdav7954]

@@OversizedSquare it's not. It's unhealthy and shows that the person is lazy and doesn't care about health. Unless there's an actual ilness, of course.

[@gummybear4073]

@@mirdav7954 you have a good point but as someone who is not even overweight something like that coming from your parents hurts more than being fat

[@mirdav7954]

@@gummybear4073 well then just ignore them. You don't need to bother thinking about something false and mean. Don't mind ttings they say to hurt you. If they're mad and they say it in the heat of the moment, it's somewhat understandable and you shouldn't judge them too hard. But if it was intentional, ignore it and keep going.

[@magenta8132]

The only thing my parents don't check off here is the "drugs/alcohol" one. Tbh I never really considered them abusive because I know they love me but... Now..

[@cutecookiegacha4439]

Same

[@vshradha22]

Same

[@LadyVader33]

Narcissism

[@kamryn2310]

My stepdad loves to drink bud light at night sometimes he drinks 4 bottles in one night. He seems more fun to be around cuz he acts goofy and less strict.

[@magenta8132]

@@Dots988 my parents beat me with wooden planks- but only cause back in there hometown they used to do that to them 👀

[@Venus-rp5jf]

Some things that my parents say to me on a daily basis: "You are too skinny" "Eat more" "Why arent you perfect?" "Get better grades" "You are so lazy" "Why are you so scared?" "Get better at ..... or no dinner tonight!" Just thought I needed to share this...

[@jooniesdimplesarelivinginm5398]

Relatable.. But my mom and dad tell me that for my better future Becuz my mom failed at maths and was not able to get a job thats why she always says study hard And she also tells me if i am too skinny then people will insult me and all that And she gets angry even if i make a small mistake she gets angry easily So there are times when i hate her But after she scolds me she tells me i am teaching u and scolding u for your better future So..idk Btw I'm an Indian BUT she never lets me sleep without having dinner Even if i am not hungry , she says Eat food or u will get sick and all

[@tudosaalessandra3405]

Same but at me is just a different parents " you're fat. ( and they're kidding about how I look ) " Me : * trying to lose weight * parents : "what is wrong with you ?!?! eat more !! " And I'm like what the......

[@parulparida8280]

I feel sorry for ur unhealthy parents mindset

[@Isabel-sr8ep]

This pisses me off no one is perfect only god himself is perfect humans make mistakes and that’s ok I’m sorry you have to go through this... Your beautiful just the way you are dude!

[@butterberryrblx5499]

Well, I can see how she cares about u with good grades, but the abuse is not supporting anything :(

[@Ma-tisthemantis]

My mother and father are exactly what you described. Unfortunately I'm still in this situation ...with my child whom they also used to control my actions. Its rubbish. But at least I'm cutting all contact with them once I'm out of this situation. My son and I need peace of mind and joy in our lives. Thank you so much for this videos. I actually like all your videos

[@alexteagle9782]

Signs of an abusive parent: 1. Physically abusive 2. Verbally abusive Damn this is truly enlightening

[@KurzedMetal]

This comment is also truly enlightening.

[@Vedangi_]

I never realised that my father was emotionally abusing me untill recently, my whole life feels like a lie.

[@ii._.astn1717]

@Marcus Sengkhounmany Same buddy

[@owoartz6322]

same

[@sindachabbi8219]

I relate, both parents for me

[@editg121]

Its common esp in Asia.

[@samx-sr1ul]

Same I guesss

[@charlesroulette5296]

i'm 68 years old and my paretns, particularly my dad, violated all 8 signs daily. I am so thankful I overcame "most" of it.

[@Denken-b]

Im over 50, never miss my childhood, they were responsible and no alcohol or such things but they were violent

[@mariepigen08]

My dad has always had anger issues, and he has often attacked me with verbal abuse and personal attacks. Like saying: "Your autism isn't an excuse for bad behavior" or: "I know you're sad I sold your cottage, but...". He's even said: "I'm your parent, I'm allowed to educate you by telling when you stink". I don't see him as much anymore, but these remarks still hurt to this day.

[@lynnepaulocsak122]

Her voice is so calm. It's like she's showing empathy for those of us who have suffered.

[@tjgnkc]

It’s not just young children, it’s the same for adult children too.

[@okoroifeanyichukwu8762]

Exactly, I'm 22 here in Nigeria and I ain't tolerating that shit anymore! I'm an adult and must respected as one or else you take whatever you see!

[@artratengo]

​21 here from Romania 😢​@@okoroifeanyichukwu8762

[@Shyamanic]

FAX im 19(im not even a proper adult yet thats like 21 or whatever)and my dad is still SERIOUSLY abusive, to both me my brother and even my MOM.(and ill tell u secretly hes a drug-addict)so he doesnt understand the difference between discipline and parental abuse.

[@redotter4608]

I grew up with an emotionally and physically abusive alcoholic stepfather, and a narcissistic, codependent, withholding mother. Both came from similar situations in their own childhood. I vowed to break the cycle and believe I have. Despite my own wounds from childhood that I still carry , my adult son is happy, well adjusted, funny, and one of the greatest people I know. I am so proud of the person he has chosen to be. He is my greatest joy, and I love him with all of my heart ❤️

[@yourlocalsub.]

I'm so sorry this happened to you may Allah protect you (if your an atheist or other religion then may your God protect you)

[@namelessvq3404]

I want to send this so bad to my sister because she's so abusive to my nephew. She used to take out her stress and anger on me but now that I'm far from them and she now lives with her boyfriend and kids, she takes it out on them. I specifically feel so bad for my nephew because he always gets the worst treatment but I'm not free of my family's grasp myself and I'm not stable enough yet to pull out my nephew and niece out of their situation. One day for sure, hopefully soon, I'll be stable enough to take them and give them all the support they need and deserve.

[@madcatter576]

Thank you, thank you so much. I’m 23 and left a very abusive household at 18, and I’m still struggling to rebuild myself. After having reached out to people who told me none of those signs meant anything and it wasn’t abuse, this video broke down a wall that I had given up on breaking. Thank you so much for the reassurance that I’m not crazy and it’s not me

[@i_guess108]

**gives internet hug** you can't feel it, but it's there

[@ireejiang5597]

Your feelings are always valid because you felt it.

[@highspeedautosound748]

A lot of abuse is disguised as "discipline" and it's disgusting. The fact that people can build culture and stereotypes over this horrible topic is both horrible, because it's so common, yet magnificent that these people can push through this. Power to all of you and g'day. Edit: Oh and also my mom is "abusive" my dad is a goat) Edit 2: yoo i get more attention here then my mom gives me in anything other than an ass-whooping thats crazy

[@riyasingh2729]

Goat?

[@rileylovegood5740]

@@riyasingh2729greatest of all time

[@minervablake7573]

It often takes my brain a few moments to establish that slapping your child across the face is 'real' abuse and not 'just' corporal punishment, because my parents did that to me and everyone else treated it as if it was normal.

[@bartsimpsonnft4387]

It’s so ironic because “discipline ” literally means “instruction/knowledge” Yeah making your child insecure about everything and hitting them is totally passing knowledge…. The knowledge that ill never be like them.

[@senseideidara650]

my brother and me grew up in abusive home (our parents would abuse us every day, sometimes physically, sometimes verbally, sometimes threatning..), now im almost 19 and my brother is 16 and what happens is that we are physically stronger than them (who are in their late 50s), and now we kinda abuse them back. Once my brother beated up the father really badly and yesterday i punched my mom when she started screaming at me. And im gathering evidence of my fathers threats and all that cuz i plan to put him behind the bars one day. Both of us have difficulty with our social life (hard time finding friends and never had been in a romanntic relationship. I personally dont want to get married or have children because im sure id be a terrible wife and mother), because they never took us to socialize when we were little. My brother can be a abusive in his highschool, but im only abusive towards them and i always feel like they need to pay for what they did

[@fayevibar7560]

Just had a mental breakdown earlier. How convenient. It's been 27 years since I was born and up to this day the effect of my parents' abusive behavior towards me is still incredibly raw.

[@TreyTruth619]

Same same

[@yourloveatlas]

I'm a minor and I've just realized that my mother is abusive, it probably started when I was about 7 or 8. Yesterday she got drunk and came home with an alcohol bottle in her hand. She of course, verbally and physically abused me. Growing up I thought that this was normal because my grandparents would never tell me that it was bad. (PS. My mother is a single mother so I never had a father to guide me or stand up for me) This video has made me realize that my mother is abusive, I'm truly grateful for this video. Thank you.

[@brittanydenise4421]

As a child I didn’t understand i was being verbally abused by my father and put down for every “mistake” i made, now i am a teenager and thanks to his yelling and constant mental abuse i am falling into a depression...idk what to do but every day i am trying to survive this household.

[@Samantha-wl5uv]

I know it's been a while, but it isn't your fault. Your parents are walking pieces of human excrement that have nothing to do with you. Focus on yourself. You're a teen, and you're almost out of there.

[@ritabotchway2710]

Don't let this behavior affect u. You just do you

[@Sootle]

I relate. My dad gets angry at me when i do something he doesnt like and throws a fit. Ill be praying for you and your family that it will get better 💕

[@thomasomahony6565]

@brittanydenise4421, I am so sorry I completely feel you. It's scary that one has to run from their own family and make so many completely useless decisions on the way that just make you more... lonely and depressed. I feel like it just... slowly eats you away... and... I've always felt alone my whole life,. for as long as I can remember. ... and angry all the time. I just... can't take this bull s*** for any longer! it just...eats away at you!

[@Nyxavyna]

My mom: "Why are you sad?" "No reason" "Tell me!" *"Tells her what she did"* "It's your fault/You're overreacting/Stop being a baby/ I don't care/You deserved it/ Suck it up. Yeahhh I got kicked out and went to my dad's office for safety.

[@maijjjjths]

What ro do if we are all the same I'm muslim I live in completely different society but I can relate to all what you have just said

[@_magic_.]

I KNOW RIGHT LIKE THEY KEEP ON INSISTING YOU TELL THEM AND THEN THEY MAKE FUN OF YOU ABOUT IT 💀💀💀

[@namenlosspamsr3245]

@@_magic_. Ye but it’s heartbreaking, because it happens to when I talk to people, the only person who did not make fun of it was the police, but that didn’t helped either :/

[@namenlosspamsr3245]

@@_magic_. you’re laughing about it but inside it hurts more than a blade

[@_magic_.]

@@namenlosspamsr3245 gurl why you exposing me like that 😰

[@grettalemabouchou6779]

Both of my parents were: selfish and did not give a damn about me or my siblings.....this was painful to watch but I can begin to heal myself I believe.

[@Psych2go]

Sorry to hear

[@thisismyname5317]

If you’re not away from them, then that’s the first step. I would say do something therapeutic. It can be something like listening to music or going to a therapist. I’m not a professional, but I think that’s what you should start with.

[@langyd4518]

me too

[@AronBlumkin]

My parents are not teaching me how to be a good parent, they’re teaching me how to not be a bad parent

[@ItsyagirlEmz]

'Kids deserve parents but not every parent deserves kds' -wise person

[@Martaxq]

*parent:* _shouts and threatens their child_ *child:* _cries_ *parent:* _says they will hit them or get them for adoption_ *The parent 5 minutes later:* _why is my child sad??_

[@xchara8869]

honestly

[@patheticgirl5919]

"says they will hit them" luckyyy, my parents didn't say anything and just hit me with heavy stuff..

[@bulletsolar_]

Did you know? People can actually die from a broken heart, broken heart can happen when the person goes trough trauma,anxienty, and deppression.

[@Bobo-Nose]

I heard that it could cause a physical broken heart too.

[@shywolf3968]

😭😭😭

[@shywolf3968]

Can you prevent it?

[@BloxxerBoi_m134]

I couldn't stop thinking of stabbing myself in the eyes with a knife

[@eerincabanilla6714]

Yeah like me 😥

[@lovelystarchild]

This video less than mildly describes my childhood. My parents were verbally, physically, sexually, emotionally & mentally abusive. They made it clear they did not care if anything they did hurt me or made me feel unloved. Truth is, they WANTED to hurt me. They WANTED to abuse me. I cut ties with my entire family, and I did what I felt was best for me. "Family" is overrated, so is that bullsh*t called "love". I am better off & happier on my own. Therapy was the only place I received any form of kindness.

[@QuestieAxolotl]

We should not live with our parents, we wanna live happily in our own with our friends. Friends are not that actually abusive to us cuz we trust them so much more than parents.

[@cuddledozer42]

What if everyone in these comments just shares a really big house it would be so much better that way :(

[@bubbles9329]

@@cuddledozer42 ohhh myyy goddd... I felt do happy after reading this🥳🥳🥳.. Hope that this could happen ☹️☹️☹️

[@sarahhawke5729]

Take action when you're in a abusive parental relationship nobody not even your parents have the right to hurt you both physically or mentally

[@zereokami7008]

That would be so much better for me, I'll probably move out of my parents house in a few years and I'll live with my best friends and I can't wait =]

[@rainy4036]

Yes, unfortunately, we can’t pick our family, but can pick our friends

[@rylee260]

I’ve struggled since I was young with trying to explain my parents behavior, because I was so afraid of labeling them as abusive. But I want to take this moment to validate my experience and hopefully encourage others to validate their own. My parents were abusive. That doesn’t mean I don’t love them or value them. But it does mean that I was hurt and that abuse has affected me my whole life and will continue to affect me on my healing journey. I want and need to do better for the future generation because everyone, myself included, deserves to feel safe and be properly cared for.

[@amyjones7920]

As being a 13 year old in the UK, I've been called many horrible names by my parents, I've been shouted at and blamed for things I've never done. I've been bruised, scratched and hurt. Making me even scared to leave my room to get something to eat or drink. I cry in my room for hours and hours not knowing what to do

[@Opticalillusions870]

I relate to you both of my parents are abusive first off my mom drinks a lot (good thing she doesn't drink anymore) whenever I would tell her to stop drinking she would slap my face and leaves the house every month she takes my baby brothers and ttakes them to the party (there are usually bad people there) so I get worried because I want to know if the babies are ok whenever she wants to come home my dad forces me to call her and he said he would slap me if I don't my dad gives me bruises and whenever my mom isn't drunk she is nice to me And my mom hits my baby brothers Edit: I told my dad to stop being rude and he said: stop being an idiot

[@amyjones7920]

@@Opticalillusions870 I get it, my mum and dad are an alcoholic and still is to this day

[@МионаКоролија]

I have had an alcoholic father so I feel you and I can relate to what you're going through. If you need someone to talk to we are here for you ❤

[@sethallison5682]

Just remember it’s not you, it’s your parents. They’re screwing up and it’s not right. You have every right to be upset at them because they aren’t always going what they should. YOU have a correct sense of right and wrong. Don’t let them make you feel crazy. I know I’m kind of saying generic things that maybe other people have said to you before but I really want you to understand. I know how it feels and you do deserve to be treated well.

[@veggalamjayaprakash8233]

I will leave the house

[@killers_lol4327]

7/8. The desire to cry from impotence at the moment, because for a long time I will have to live with all these problems and with them. Every day it kills me emotionally, and every time I want it to end as soon as possible

[@ebenlizaneizer5954]

My parents are African, all these points that they made are true. I really want to die but I want to be there for my sisters. I just really feel like screaming and crying.

[@ithseem]

Same, but I'm Bangladeshi and my parents don't abuse drugs or alcohol.

[@A_ldo..]

Same position as you but im asian and my brother is the only reason why im still here. I dont want him to suffer the way that i did

[@Christian-97]

I'm an only child, I wanted a brother or a sister; but I just fear that they would probably turn out just like them.

[@oopsididitagainimgoingtofail]

Same here im holding on for my mom because my dad physically and verbally abuses her

[@notCinnamonroll]

Im African lol.

[@violinflowerbot3677]

It always stings to be reminded that parents are supposed to love their children, because mine never did and I spent my entire life thinking that it was normal

[@avishiktamitra9103]

Same here

[@wut6251]

My mom: **beats me tf up because i get "low" grades** Also my mom: why you have so many bruises and scratches in your face? Me: **visible confusion**

[@Beanssss_]

If ur still a minor call cps or get a trusted adult and tell them

[@hdphonector8434]

I hav almost half the stuffs listed here in my family But whats weird is i dont feel like calling hotline or anything coz... 1. I feel like my problems r small ... 2. Im 18 years old and have been dealing with this since 9 years old..

[@azbukaamm]

Oh my god... That's not okay, how are you doing right now? Are you alright?

[@wut6251]

@@Beanssss_ i told my dad about it, he said "she's just disciplining you", my aunt said the same thing.

[@nii-sand7396]

I hope you're doing well, dude(;ŏ﹏ŏ)

[@seraafnn9102]

when I was kid I often experienced physical violence, such as being beaten by my parents. At that time I was very scared, I was traumatized

[@taeraagaamee3605]

I find it funny that my mom said "oh you can always talk to me" even though the other night she said really offensive things to me and my little brother and he ran out crying.I tried telling her that she was hurting our feelings but she was saying good and when I tried telling her she kept getting really defensive

[@PEAK__]

Same with my dad....

[@lgbutterfly08]

@M1ddleBroth3r oh sweetie do you want a virtual hug?...

[@KeizerHedorah]

it's so absurd, a parent feeling good about hurting their own child's feelings, even more so for them to say it out loud to their child. Geez Louise, people are crazy

[@pollytheparrot8929]

Yea same here.. They have no accountability.. Pathetic narcissistic people 😤😡

[@bradyryan5105]

If your mum refuses to hold herself accountable, that's enough to warrant breaking ties with her

[@PyroAceros]

I’d rather die than becoming my dad.... what a piece of crap he is. If you read this I hope your situation will be improved asap❤️

[@macdonaldscocacola210]

I rather be a hot babe rat then be sloppy, obese, sorta lazy and homophobic like my dad

[@bubbles9329]

I wish the same.. That is the biggest motive in my life actually.. (Including my mom)

[@terrabyteghost932]

As do I

[@emorexo]

my mom: *literally picked me up and threw my across the room when i was 8 bc i pinched my brother, constantly threatens me and shames me, hates everything i do unless it benefits her, and is overall toxic and drunk most the time* also my mom: why are you scared of me 🤨

[@mr.wicksnamelessdog3202]

🥲it's painful

[@eireannmccullagh5339]

Same and she always askes when I stay in my granny’s, everyone’s always fighting it’s so toxic I get the blame of everything I step into a conversation to help my mom bc my brothers screaming in her face then she ends up shouting at me and taking my phone of me she’s always just so so angry and puts my little brothers and me in a bad mood and wonders why we’re in a bad mood like what and my granny’s very grumpy to so I’m scared I might be like her when I’m older like terrified

[@prateekbhattarai5516]

BC SHE IS ABUSIVE

[@taeluvsjk7884]

Same happened with me too. My mom literally picked me up, slammed me on the floor and scratched my cheek when I was five years old. I can never forget that day. There is never a day where I haven't cried for hours or cut myself. My parents are literally so toxic they teach us to be racist, homophobic and sexist and that's why my brother is becoming toxic too😔. I hope you are okay . Please don't give up. Stay strong 💜💜

[@taeluvsjk7884]

@Rod Francis That must be so painful. I feel so bad that you had to go through that. Seriously I don't understand what's wrong with our parents, they first hurt us and then when we tell them their fault they start denying it. Please stay strong and remember that you are not alone and I hope that you are alright. Lots of love from me 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

[@noobmaster69426]

When I was a 5 yr old, my parents often beat the shit outta me by slapping me whenever I made a mistake. And they made excuses to justify it saying “it’s a punishment”. They should have known better not to physically abuse their children. That is still abuse. But now, they’ve grown up, they realize it’s wrong.

[@liznickerson4890]

Literally. I don't get parents just because we're you kid, we don't have to do EVERYTHING YOU SAY Like we do stuff we have to do but let us draw or do what makes us happy. Like they only act happy and kind when they're around other people, but when they leave they be like "YOU SHOULD'VE DONE THIS" or that

[@aesthetic_blssom9521]

"Help is just a phone call away" My parents will ask me who I'm calling.

[@thesaddestdude3575]

Listen, do you need help? I will listen if you need that. No parent should threaten thier child like that.

[@aesthetic_blssom9521]

@@thesaddestdude3575 Tw: talk about s-ic-de/ending it yes,i do The only thing thats keeping me from ending it are my friends,my relationship with my friends decreases eveytime i talk,except kuromi,she was the one do told me not to do it,so i didn't when i was about to. But i seriously dont know how much longer i can take it. /srs

[@thesaddestdude3575]

@@aesthetic_blssom9521 Listen, i know how you feel, i often feel like that aswell. Actually i feel like this right now. Honestly i think about ending it almost every day. Ive been going through some though times and somtimes it feels as if things will never get better. But your friends care about you, even if you feel as if they are drifting away, taking your life now would mean you never get to know the amazing things that might come. Somthing life changing could be around the corner and you would never know. I can almost guess the lockdowns has made it difficult for you to see your friends, but know that this will come to an end and that soon enough you will be able to see them again. But even if your friends truly are drifting away you must know you are still worthy of love and care. It's not uncommon for people to lose contact and somtimes it happens for no particular reason. But you have to find strength in yourself. Not that it isn't okay to feel as if the world has got you in its claws, or to feel down, i feel that all the time and i know what its like to be lonely, most of the people i knew have drifted away but i met new friends, new people. Even though it can be though at times. If you end it now you would never know what is to come, and even though the future might seem bleak now, your mind clouded by darkness, beams of light will shine through eventually. I will be here if you need help, i will listen. And i'm sure Kuromi will too, you don't have to feel guilty about these thoughts at all or feel as if you are a burden, somtimes life can just be so hard and exhausting, and reaching out to others is just somtimes what we need. If just one person cares about you its worth staying in this world for them, Kuromi cares. I can't say your life will be better but it probably will! I can tell you that one day you WILL feel better, one day you will look yourself in the mirror and thank that you that you are today for not giving up. Somthing more amazing than what you could imagine now, might come about and you would never know if you end it. I guess since you are on this particular video, is your home life safe? If not help IS one call away, it might not seem like it now, but if its safe for you to do so, calling a helpline can mean the world. If you are not treated well then KNOW that you are worth so much more than what they tell you, there are people out in the world that you don't even know now that will come to care for you in time. I promise. You deserve to be happy.

[@aesthetic_blssom9521]

@@thesaddestdude3575 i dont even have s im card,i cant call for help

[@snxwie8261]

Me: *doesn't have a phone number to do so*

[@tonia1397]

I am coming to the slow realization that my father was mentally and emotionally abusive growing up. What hurts most is that I still love him and I feel guilty for that. --- Thank you so much for this video!!

[@danielwolfman9419]

Same

[@serily4524]

That is pretty much attachment...

[@anya34579]

Same

[@reece6235]

Same

[@Siss2012]

I have come to hate my father for the abuse he inflicted on me when I was a child. And I wasn’t even a boisterous or unruly child, but quiet, introverted, and terribly lonely. I never loved him, I feared him, and now I just despise him.