5 Simple Ways To Become A Better Listener (Communication Skill Part 7)

[@SeanJung]

What I Have Learned From This Video: 1. Eye Contact with Certainty and Conviction - People will sense that spiritually 2. Take The Notes - Constantly ask questions to pick their brain as well as finding about how I can add values to their lives or businesses - It will make the listeners feel more special and they will try to provide more value in return - Make sure to use pen and notes to take note 3. Allow People To Finish Their Own Sentences - Don't fking interrupt while they are talking! 4. Indicates Them You Are Actively Listening By Nodding or Saying 'Uh Hmm' 5. Ask Core Questions - Question That Goes Deep Into A Particular Subject - For example) "How did you get into that?" or "You know, why do you do that?" or "Huh, Why is that important for you?" or "What are your goals and dreams?" or "What is stopping you?" or "What's preventing you from getting what you want?" or "How can I help? How can I serve?" or "Who do I know that could help you?" - I should not be memorizing this; just focus on creating values to listeners - Asking these open-ended question will open them up so they can open the part of themselves where I can help. 非常感谢, 师傅!

[@sam_joshua_s]

You save our time

[@leyaabdulah9596]

My saYL in life You about me single Do

[@that1cooluncle]

"Complex is the enemy of execution." I love this quote Sifu. • always bring a notebook and pen with you and take notes • it shows respect • don't finish their sentences • ask them for permission to ask questions • hmmmmm...Very profound. • ask core questions: that goes deeper into a particular subject On a serious note, it's really profound. Thank you Sifu.

[@garrettmckellar269]

That statement made me pause the video to soak it in. Wow!

[@leyaabdulah9596]

Very ting you self

[@inhabitantofearth]

I wish you could have a course for college professors all over the world to teach them how to keep students engaged and awake. You're SO good at that. Taking college classes as an adult, I start getting sleepy within 10 mins of a lecture once they break out the power point presentations and start reading from it. Even though you use presentations, it seems like you only use it to remember your main points/ideas, but your attention is in engaging the audience, and I think that's very important.

[@eisha5184]

I need to work on letting them finish there sentences, that's a bad habit. This is an informative video Dan!

[@bodeajay]

same here, i'll learn to allow people finish there sentences

[@kenishacoleman3857]

Girl, me too. Big bad habit of mine.

[@genevalivingstone1929]

Women do this lots because it's truly how we communicate. It's soooo terrible for men because they think in straight lines!! Saturday night I am going to try this with my guy!!

[@wendyberger8892]

What about when there are no visual cues like when you’re on the phone?

[@bz6304]

+1 😅

[@dayswithbrandon515]

I have noticed that the reason I get to the deepest level in HTC when training is when I listen with my heart, taking notes, and asking core questions WITHOUT the script. All the questions I know already, so if I focus on their needs and pains, the questions will come naturally.

[@ayowaleoloje8557]

Profound! Asking core questions makes the speaker feel more connected personally.

[@MrKockabilly]

True, those five tips indeed make you LOOK like you are listening. But there is only one tip: Be REALLY interested and DO listen. Then all those five acts will just come naturally.

[@Lastmomenttuitions]

thank you so much dan for sharing huge valuable amount of knowledge

[@wendycoffman3659]

Be a good listener is important in any relationship.

[@olafspronk540]

Active listening is a rare quality! Going to work on it even more!

[@OverallFoods]

You makes me amaze the way you speak every words you speak, it's show how confident you are

[@erikaotoole9170]

As someone who struggles with knowing how I'm bad at listening, this has proved more than helpful

[@RUNNINGWATER]

- Keep Eyes contact at the right amount (give full attention) not too much staring will not connect just good amount - take notes: jot down when meeting with successful ppl. Record voice - listen actively listen and don’t interrupt until they are finish - ask permissions to share your opinions - listen attentively responding, i see, aha, um...., that’s profound, hmm, (action) shows you are listening, i wish i could do what you do, be sincere - ask core questions: series of why sometimes how, why you do that, why is it important to you, how could i serve, who that i know that could help you, why is it important, ask why ask how - be good listeners

[@apacur]

Thanks!

[@benjaminchima3052]

Thank you Dan Lok. This is awesome. It is very revealing of all the weakness I posses in listening to people and also why I should be better if I am able to adopt these key points. Very lucky to have stumbled on this.

[@Justflyingtrucker]

SO MUCH GOLDEN NUGGETS here. I see where you are coming from Dan. I wish I could do what you do Dan. With this I can start with my role plays, my day to day relationships and more. Thanks so much! Definitely AHA moments. So simple too.

[@EmmaCaitlain]

This was so, so useful. I’m great at taking notes when others talk but I often talk over people or interrupt (not trying to be rude, just really enthusiastic) I’m working on communicating better and listening more

[@exfoliage]

Dan Lok videos are invaluable. Most appreciated. 🙏🏾

[@keikofay9804]

I would like to add a suggestion that extends from Dan talking about allowing the other person finish speaking. ALLOW A BRIEF PAUSE. Silence, even momentary, can feel rather uncomfortable, but I personally think it is key to allow a moment for your engagement to sink in. I am often challenged to be present-minded and I overly engage. Several years ago, I started implementing the note-taking as a tool. For me, it tends to help all these other components to which Dan refers here fall into place like puzzle pieces. I use it for any business conversation, be they job interviews, agenda discussions with peers or people to whom I may report. By channeling my eagerness to share into the physical act of writing, I remove the temptation and it forces me to wait. Getting into the psychology of all of this this, I would like to venture out on a limb and suggest that what may seem like simple steps in communication to someone like Dan may not necessarily come as easily for those who may come from larger families with a competitive dynamic. Now, I could be 'way off, but think about it. In our family for example with the exception of disciplinary moments from our folks, we interrupted each other pretty regularly. And we lived next to other large families who were similar. The thing is, habits and mindsets like this can carry into adulthood and inadvertently sabotage important business or even social relationships. If the brain is not re-wired or trained otherwise, a person can come off as aggressive, or uncertain, without even realizing it. So if this sounds like you, please, please take heart! Dan's suggestions ESPECIALLY apply here. In modern society, the brain cannot exist in potential battle mode. Re-training the brain like this is NOT easy, but with practice, it can become easier. New habits, new relationships! Peace and prosperity to all those striving to do and be more!

[@michaelmalel2288]

I feel connected..you have a way of presentation Dan

[@prashantaroy3750]

He is talking about very basic steps with profound effective way .

[@angelgodplace]

I really like these tips and they are definitely things I need to work on. These really are common sense. And I believe success lies in common sense. We like to think there's a trick or secret codes to success. But I think that long lasting success comes from mastering the fundamentals!

[@oudomchan2227]

Why I really like to watch your videos???! 🛠 I’m gonna spend every hour for every morning to watch all of your videos.

[@workoutsavage508]

Taking notes is one thing that I always do

[@peterfichna7194]

Some profound advice on how to be the best listener they know! Some fundamentals that only so few people really do. I will make sure to do all o these. Thank you SIfu

[@molimba]

Wow, these are so simple, yet powerful, and barely anybody uses them, including my self. As always, thanks Dan, notes taken.

[@marioronci5338]

taking notes is a standard of mine inn business, every time i meet a client I do this. But I like the idea of doing it informal settings , dinner, etc.

[@mtbiker4life918]

This was great! Taking notes, and let them finish. Two things I will work on.

[@joshuaigodo2520]

Wow! Amazing teaching Dan. I am hooked on your teachings. Thanks for this very insightful lessons on active listening. Much respect from Nigeria!!! 💯

[@Bushcraft242]

As a personal trainer we must be good listener at all times empathy caring

[@bz6304]

Dan, love your teaching style, entertaining and profound! Thank you 😊🌸

[@vanessamortier3802]

I learned a lot from you, so thankful for you, thank you Dan

[@miquettedobros7273]

When face to face meetings I need to work on waiting until they finish their sentence. Asking questions is about finding out what's important to them. While socializing - a great opportunity to practice deep listening, and asking questions that go deeper... Like the 3 levels of pain...I must get a bigger bag so I can carry a note book to take notes.

[@jitendra098]

Dan...no thanks will me enough, for what you shared with me..i learn a lot from you..and everyday..thank you

[@eisha5184]

I'm so glad I'm not the only one who sometimes looks down as I take things in!

[@philcarnage1152]

I dont need a mentor now, i already have one, and im watching his vlogs here in this youtube channel. 😁👍

[@diamonds5855]

I always take notes when watching one of Dan's videos.

[@hankezhou2032]

This is great advice, thank you! I'll try out the "mmmh" first.

[@ChetnaIngle]

I am the lady walking with the notebook, my red leather journal everywhere. And now I know why my clients are impressed with me. :)

[@ChetnaIngle]

And I only started asking core questions today after going through week 3 of the Dan Lok's HTC program. I did not realize before HTC, that I was not paying attention to the REAL pain area of my clients. I was only swimming in shallow waters. HTC is actually the game changer.

[@K3nU1983]

This is so profound. Do you mind if I take some notes? I wish I can do what you do Dan. Love this ! Thank you.

[@jerrythefisherman94]

Dan Very Good Video -- Such important information that can be used in ALL aspects of life!! Very important part of the communication process.

[@justmushinaround]

This was incredibly helpful, and I took notes!

[@AlhanRahimi]

Your method of eye contacting is what I prefer. When I'm looking at a person's face, my focus stays below the eyes level because it's just very hard for me to look at the eyes! But I still try if the person seems comfortable with it.

[@Mike-ev2eb]

Thanks Dan

[@kenzito101]

Thanks Dan you helped me finally realized why psychologists take notes during sessions.

[@BumpaZangpo-n4q]

Many thanks always.

[@honganhnguyen8589]

It's profound, Dan. I will practice right now. Thank you.

[@kemarricketts9835]

Quality information Dan. You're an online mentor to me man 👌👍

[@DanLok]

Keep it up Kemar.

[@leyaabdulah9596]

Very ting SayL i loveu sowyou Yes maybaby you still need single Do

[@jerwinbarcelona-ue7be]

Very impormative!! Thank you Dan look!

[@locobobo367]

The student surpasses the master on some Levels. Dan Lok & Dan Peña.

[@stevenc7571]

Good observation. And every student has to start somewhere. Start with a millionaire mindset getdanondemandnow.danlok.link

[@Bernini-design]

Extraordinary simple and effective great recommendations. Mr DAN, I always have something to learn from you! Thanks.

[@victoriacaropreso1506]

Thank you for your insight on being a better listener!

[@a.m.aravind]

Very nice lesson. Thanks, Shifu

[@julesg5916]

This reminds me a lot of Carnegie's advice in How to win friends. Thank you Dan for your videos!

[@40subscribersnovideos37]

I came here from the book

[@TimXMan1000]

@@40subscribersnovideos37 I came here from the book also

[@funanimalsounds]

Love this

[@SatyendraKumar-oq5pp]

Great video sir keep it up

[@Dbulkss]

Gold!

[@sickbeatsproductions6664]

Wow I got some great tips from this.🙏🙏🙏

[@shafeeqtgr9053]

Very informative. And a GREAT sense of HUMOR 😆. Could you give an talk on how to react when someone is not listening when we are talking/advising something very important to them.

[@ibrothebro6864]

2:05 'Whatever they do, you mirror' In School: *Teacher tries to talk student* Student: (On their Phone) Teacher: (WIPS OUT PHONE) MIRROR!

[@abdullahrizwan6569]

If someone wants to 'follow' then definitely he/she concentrates and listens.

[@mktabhi3852]

You are Awesome

[@paultembo1477]

Why I didn't find your videos sooner? Very educative and fun...

[@angelrickel2074]

This video will helped me out

[@itaalwayslove]

Tq❤️

[@therealsechs]

Only person I know that knows these rules by heart are my father. wish I listened to him when I was a kid.

[@mingzhenglim3697]

I love this guy

[@sheldonwright9826]

How do I present myself in such a manner that customers/prospects definitely want to work and buy from me? I love these videos.

[@akshdeepsingh9156]

Really helpful video

[@j.martinez111]

Love it, love.it

[@tonyg1296]

Very informative

[@CheriLexvold]

Good information

[@inhabitantofearth]

I am SO guilty of finishing other people's sentences, and half of the time I do that, I am wrong and they have to correct me. Sometimes I do it because I'm excited and engaged about what they are saying and I want them to know that I understand,. But other times is because I am impatient. It's a bad habit that I am currently working to fix.

[@DanLok]

Good to admit Yellie. Now you can fix it.

[@aryanravishankar1126]

Same. I had a discussion with a college professor a little while ago and he was trying to explain his work and I would butt in with my own (often incorrect thoughts). I thought I was being a good listener but I was doing the opposite.

[@kellyboegemann8786]

Hmmmmm That's very interesting. That's profound. Would you like to know what I think? These are great tips! Thank you Sifu!

[@jeanalexandre1105]

The secret to listening is very simple. You have two ears one mouth listen twice as much as you talk. Also use your eyes to Envision what's being talked about

[@shubhamvishwakarma6403]

This helped

[@jamesshaw3850]

Thank you dan

[@nicholasmirante1020]

Very simple but Good Advice. Thank you Sifu Dan Nick Mirante NY

[@zimzum67]

Wonderful.

[@akm5289]

Complex is the enemy of excution. Fucking hallelujah!!!!!! Yes!!

[@PauloMucache]

thank you

[@cjennings6179]

What is a CORE question?

[@T19-c7b]

Nice

[@cac3479]

GREAT.

[@lajigeorgethomas9812]

Maintain eye contact Make notes Allow people to finish sentences Ask for permission Response for the other person listening Ask core questions

[@arongnanathikkam1332]

good

[@TheNefertitibrown]

i get it

[@muhammad_333]

sir please! assign or fix subtitle on video.i can't understand English very fastly.

[@umr14ansari]

Hello Mr Dan. Thanks for Sharing this valuable piece of information. I just have one query. You said that dont complete the other person's sentences but sometimes what happens is when we complete the other person's sentences they tend to get more connected with us. By completing I mean repeating the sentences with them. What's yours opinion on this ?

[@sonvo8788]

Great video, Sifu! Listen more and talk less. When you talk, asking the question!

[@DanLok]

Exactly Son Vo.

[@LJermaineRussell]

I live for eye contact!! Eyeball to eyeball

[@Cortnieamber]

What if your not comfortable with eye contact, and you hold someone’s eye for s good amount of time and then get distracted and in turn they follow whatever you’re looking at?

[@apacur]

Just go back to the good eye contact . It's kind of like a dance-- but you're in control. You're not going to be staring at them indefinitely--- just use your good judgement and don't feel intimidated by them. Everyone appreciates someone with good eye contact in general.

[@Sim-Sim20]

I never interrupt the other person while speaking.. i hate people who do that

[@okeawgrumn9758]

How do I deal with those people who don't want to listen to what I'm saying

[@j.martinez111]

Serial entrepreneur... Awesome

[@RonioFOX]

"Don't even blink"... me hahaha

[@tanveermohamed3209]

How i learn English speaking

[@kevinabrar1945]

You remind me of jalaludin rumi advice

[@emmanuelohale7770]

My takeaway: one way is to feel the person out first, then ease in to whatever way is most comfortable for that individual in front of you. Thanks Dan.

[@kcgmdusa]

Listen. Ask core questions. Ask open ended question.

[@DanLok]

Kim Goh, exactly. Continue to watch and apply my videos.

[@rthomsable]

Mmmm...that was profound. I wish I could do what you do!