5 Stages of Manipulation

If you’ve been feeling trapped, confused, or constantly questioning yourself around someone, you might be caught in the stages of manipulation.
It doesn’t matter whether this person is narcissistic, toxic, or even seemingly healthy-the key issue is how they make you feel.
Manipulation often works in cycles, like a hamster wheel you can’t seem to escape from. Without even realizing it, you find yourself going through the same stages over and over, feeling stuck and powerless to break free.
In this video, I’ll guide you through these stages so you can recognize the signs and take steps to regain control of your life.
Thanks for watching!
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[@ilovemelodyjane]

This is the type of video that denotes a shift in life. Before you knew this and AFTER you begin to apply it.

[@tsie_simba]

I attracted manipulative relationships both romantic and friends, because I was an unhealed giver and people pleaser. Manuipulators will study and know you better than you know yourself sometimes. Thank you Steph for these videos.

[@46810elevate]

Takes a long time to heal from being destroyed. The worst !

[@dixiebarker9043]

So true.....

[@CarolParsons-v5t]

I just broke up with my BF a little over a month ago. I had to go no contact, no talking, no texting, no seeing. It was the only way I could finally stop this. He left multiple notes, wrote letters and tried to get in my garage door one night late. I changed the code the day before. I have no idea what would have happened had he gotten in. I was scared to death. It's been quiet for about a week and a half. Keeping hope that it stays that way.

[@candyc6057]

Took me two years to heal after my ex he used my grief of losing my mom in 2020 during covid and me being an only child against me because I trusted him and allowed him in to the point I always was wrong til he I had a miscarriage in 2022 going thru two losses and having to heal from both is what made me wake up. I was told i was wrong or i was this horrible person until he finally admitted in 2022 "your everything Im not" . I really wished i knew the things i do know now. My mom was a people pleaser too and stayed with someone for many years who wasnt good to her. Thank you so much for this

[@bethpantazopoulos849]

Stephanie, when I entered the abuse stage and was desperately trying to understand, you were there. I moved through it to the other side, because of you. Will be eternally grateful to you. ❤

[@jagahua-dm7hj]

After watching your videos, now I feel lucky that I jilted a narcist one and a half years ago. I never understood she was a narcist back then. But my life was so ruined, and now I am gradually thriving in my career once again. Thank you very much for such truthful advice to innocent people like me.

[@emptynesters2520]

Sure wish we had Stephanie Lyn earlier in life! Super grateful for her now!💖

[@gloriadonahue7241]

They love to create a WHIRL-WIND in your life.

[@bethetruth6428]

they are the deranged vortex

[@juliantej]

Thank you. Im a father and this absolutely helped. Alot of what you said is what ive experienced/still going through

[@Mattheus281]

This is enlightening and profound, yet also despicable. It is terrible to connect with a person not to like them, build affection and friendship, but rather to use, drain, control, and manipulate them. To take their best, and to have no guilt or qualms for your abuse. That’s sick. And I have experienced it, like many here. Then when you confront them they call YOU the abuser, they heap more shame, guilt, criticism, bashing on you, say everything is your fault, etc.

[@jannamartens9806]

I’m watching this video because I grew up in a family with minipulative behaviour s and I’m trying to break the cycle of minipulation . I’m trying to gain as much knowledge as possible . I’m trying to put a stop to the head games. People shouldn’t do things for you and then tell you off this is a controlling issue . Which is why I’m trying to be more independent. Yes you have learn who is healthy for you and who is not . If there behaviours are not healthy to be around distance yourself.

[@richardlenz2655]

Profound. Thank you 🤭👍I have always problems with my narcissistic wife. I have married her 20 yeas ago. She is exactly like you say. Therefore it is good you give reminders, because the behavior of narcissists are really unbelievable 🤦💜

[@billdavis8615]

Thank you. I was married to a covert narcissist for 20 years. As soon as I left that marriage and dated someone, they turned out to be a sociopath and discarded me after I became addicted to her. In all cases I was not a healthy giver and thought I had a hole I needed filled by someone else. Well, that put a bullseye on me and made me an excellent target due to lack of boundaries and people pleasing. It hurts but I realize it’s not safe for me to try a relationship again with these issues.

[@kjbkjhkjhjk7775]

yes, we have to heal before we date again. I had no choice but to heal, I knew it wasn't going to end well for me if I didnt.

[@ursulagates3106]

Wow… 😮 Everything stated in this video is so true. So informative….I saw all these phases in my ex- narc. When I realized he was not going to change I ended the relationship. Never going back. I’m so done. Thank you 😊

[@haylesm]

Ty, the way u explained boundaries is a gold nugget for me 💫 ❤ 👌

[@llucaguilocordero2112]

I am sure, i will not ever be capable of expressing how thankful i am to this woman for explaining human patterns in such perfect way for me to understasnd

[@shreyaindia4024]

Love You! I must say, I did feel in the recent past, you were going through something. But now you are back being YOU. and it is amazing. I love your videos. This was really informative and helpful. (I once saw your video on 'Manipulation', where in you were the only person who ever said that if someone wants to take something of yours, you have the courage to say No I don't want to give it to you. I loved that so much because the narc cousin in my life tries to steal my things using her kids saying that her kid wants it so I HAVE to give it)... Thanks for coming back!

[@stevensawyer5924]

I was conned by a narcissist emotional manipulator trauma therapist. 16 months no contact now but can't seem to break the trauma bond cord. Feels like swimming in an ocean of concrete.

[@richardosburn6152]

My mother for the 1st 18 years of my life used my trauma against me to keep me in her full control. Until God showed me her true self at age 18. Left home joined Arrmy, got married, and 6:34 had 2 beautiful children. And the next 24 years my spouse manipulated me, she cheated our whole marriage for months at at a time. I worked and worked and worked with and was the only person supporting my family. I sent myself to college, worked, and raised a family, and did with a smile. Never did I think she could be so evil.

[@jsensefi]

Thank you, Stephanie, for your courage and devotion to what you do! God bless You❤

[@matthewwozniak9138]

I clicked on this video because I like your videos. Your an empath, I can 🤳feel your 💗 vibrational energy through your 🗣voice.

[@yfam0655]

Thank you for your videos, I have a family member that’s a narcissist and your videos have helped me deal with them.

[@ericnorman7027]

Love your videos Stephanie, greatest couch ever😊

[@ChristinaComments]

I love your content, it’s helped me through some toxic relationships and find my own way back to me so I can pursue my dreams and calling outside of controlling and toxic people. Thank you!!

[@andreat1890]

Stephanie, you really know what you’re talking about. I can’t thank you enough for all your videos. Wondering about one on one sessions and would like more info on that. Thanks, Andrea

[@tommyparkerparker]

Thank you so much Stephanie! This video hits so close to home. Everything you said in the video is exactly what I have been facing for years.

[@JulesM101M]

I've been watching since 2018 and you have helped me cope so much, I thank you 🤗❤️

[@TruthandJustice-hz9nv]

Absolutely tremendous Stephanie, Thank you so much for this, You're a gem, For exposing their grooming, Manipulation tactics, I've watched your videos for years, Keep shining light on the wicked and exposing how these abusers work, Peace love and respect to you and everyone, All glory and SMILES to the most high :-) thank you universe :-)

[@jamesthompson222]

Deprogramming from the toxic female and doing the trauma healing therapy. I have totally started to comprehend I was an easy target / puppet for toxic female takers. Learning to set boundaries now and lost a lot of people in my life.

[@MelaniSingh-br3bz]

THANK U SO MUCH I APPRECIATE U SO MUCH... U HAVE HELPED ME UNDERSTAND MANIPULATION ..

[@dreamer_33]

They have so many tricks in their bag that it is insane to deal with. It feels like they spend their entire life of coming up with ways on how to do evil to their partners. And when they see their partner is getting aggravated, they will back off for some time just to only repeat their abuse in some other time. How can something like this be overcome??? Help

[@7iscomplete818]

By the blood of Jesus 🙏

[@dreamer_33]

@@7iscomplete818 Thank you so much)

[@SavedbyGrace461]

​@@7iscomplete818Facts ❤

[@nualabb]

My mother guilt then raged for the 100th time. I drew a line. This caused more rage but I wasn’t going back. No apology, just fauxpology. There is no way of having a two way discussion. No-one should have to live like this. They just want to break you down till they get what they want. It has taken a number of weeks to extricate myself emotionally from this enmeshment. I had to do it and hold the line to learn it. No-one should or needs to live like this.

[@Dani-jo9yr]

Well finally we disagree on one thing: Seasons 🫨😂🤣 Winter girl here 💯😅 💓💓💓

[@giovannarealtortampa]

Great info !! Thank you!!

[@drewjcomo]

Your videos and advice is wonderful! I was in an abusive relationship with a narcissist and your videos taught me a ton after I was discarded.

[@dianeward595]

Your video makes me stronger. thank you.

[@ameliasavage4307]

Thank you for everything you do. thank you for the video I appreciate you.

[@JpeterZoom-gt3pn]

I got the rage phase from her after I did not react...with help..from a friend...she had not changed at all...in decades...she learned nothing...still the same blame others...everyone else is crazy...but her...please...I really hope she can get free from the garbage she imposes on other people...

[@JoeVellaMalta]

Helpful. Thanks

[@YD-uq5fi]

Always remember to send videos like this TO the narcissist via email. That way they realize that you are on to them, and are in fact learning how to counter them. It will also drive them into a rage, but they will leave you alone and find other victims after that.

[@nualabb]

Possibly, I find they don’t care. They aren’t interested in how you feel.

[@lynjames4306]

Excellent Podcast, So Very True 🤬 And will charge your life forever 😢

[@motowngirl5891]

Very difficult Because if you love them It’s hard to break away

[@nirobytobias]

This hit home

[@RashaunMichelle]

thanks

[@rapstar4575]

Cut ties. Only way to win ❤

[@AmenKonjo-s2n]

Amazing ❤❤❤❤am tired of people do this all over me

[@bluesteel6796]

What is it they actually want? What is their goal in all this? Just the thrill of manipulation? Just trying to understand their motivation.

[@grilledcheese-]

I think they are deeply insecure and have to feel like they have some upper hand over others. I think it starts in childhood and runs deep. They will always feel like they have to belittle others to elevate themselves.

[@YD-uq5fi]

One or more of the below : i) Scamming people out of money ii) Relationship manipulation for gain; remember, women ARE attracted to men who do this to them iii) Channeling their own insecurities outward in order to feel good. iv) Just plain no idea how to be any different.

[@VergonaSucia]

Wish i heard this 4 yrs ago. Why are people like this? Do they know theyre doing it? Or is it natural to them?

[@MMaria1515]

My husband did exactly this... in the end the rage was very hurtful and scary. I still told him I' was done and I'm leaving and then it got bad. I was the worst human ever.

[@LadySaundra]

I find myself to be a smart person in certain aspects of psychology. It made me frustrated, when I would point out what my husband (soon to be ex) would argue when I explained about the shame the kids were getting from how he was acting, or even other behaviors and effects I pointed out. The way he would argue would make me think he thought I was ignorant, and didn't know what I was talking about; when I knew better.

[@rivkaabrahamson8103]

Hi Steph, my name is Rivka. I have two roommates that are toxic and manipulative, but i live with them so i can't really uproot them from my life, no matter how much i would love to.

[@1jw298]

Gorgeous woman! If you haven’t already, I hope you find someone that takes very good care of you.

[@Doodlefisher]

I usually wait for the manipulation to happen almost like being a product manager for human farming through controlled bad relationships. Magnet for narcissists

[@freelancerwaves2123]

Great Content. I tried to give a thumbs up. But youtube wouldn't let me, thus the reason for the post. Keep up the good work 💪🏽

[@shadowsbruther]

Good video

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

Thanks

[@rrowFernando777]

Interesting tell me more about that Stephanie😏

[@nicolectheesthetician9235]

It’s crazy - what are all the games for ? It’s exhausting. These people are hurt and they just want to hurt others

[@TonyArroyo-b5n]

Hello thanks for the information by the way you look really beautiful God bless you love you forever

[@AshwinRamdin]

You're not getting any pussy with that amount of simping.

[@Armstrong1781]

9:26 so true

[@ChrisGroggyCreaser]

Wow,your right!!... :)

[@ejparker13]

I was a single father wanting someone to be present. That was my void. I see the signs. But now she's a single mother and I have two kids. I feel like I'm just as bad as she

[@j0hns0n33]

The person I know is very nice and when I called out her manipulation. She would claim not realizing that. She also states having a lot of issues and most of it is trust. I think it’s mental illness. So I feel bad about the whole situation.

[@wtbofnc7880]

What I noticed most is how when they (the Narc) learned about Naricisism, they used their own narcissistic tactics against the empath. Saying it was the empath who was the narcissist. Then, the Empath is like, hey, wait! Im the victim here! Then the Empath realizes the Narc has actually programmed the Empath to have Narcissistic traits. Furthermore, the Empath realizes they've allowed the Narcissistic abuse the entire relationship.

[@pippipster6767]

And, to top it all, they tell you they are the one walking on eggshells 🙄

[@emmarae4322]

I got that too.

[@emmarae4322]

They are grooming you at the beginning by making you feel loved and secure so they can pull it all away later and make you fight to get the good feelings back. They should be in prison.

[@Jim-Jam69]

How to be a tough empath. I feel like I’m a magnet for toxic people

[@trxdude8171]

So opposites do really attract

[@AmenKonjo-s2n]

Yes ❤

[@AmenKonjo-s2n]

The most is Famly

[@LadySaundra]

Oh my gosh, my husband (soon to be ex) would pretty much never respond well to be using boundaries or keeping literally anything to myself. Any info that maybe I almost said, but would change my mind; he'd bully me into saying.

[@sanatero]

Queen 💗🌸

[@tmking7483]

I only know takers

[@JG-qu5vk]

Do these kind of people change? For example, the manipulator I know is the nicest person ever to everyone else except me. There are moments when he’s very nice to me and other times he’s cruel. Everyone loves him. In his family he treats everyone with kindness. In public he’s adored by everyone. Could it be that I’m the one who triggers it in him? Perhaps he’ll be different to someone he truly loves? Can this kind of person change towards me?

[@emmarae4322]

That's a covert narcissist

[@shaheemaabrahams-styger9085]

🙏🙏🙏

[@linahome1417]

👏👏👏

[@AmenKonjo-s2n]

I am tired of manpleshen

[@mightywarrior119]

Weight are you talking about people who are normal or people who are alcohol addicts or drug addicts? Does that change this whole storyline?

[@Martin-bk3sp]

Is it possible that a narcissistic person sends anonymous WhatsApp messages to manipulate the couple? (blaming on the couple)

[@rapstar4575]

The beginning stages are fake and phony ❤

[@damianmarvay5480]

Im detecting npd in this Stephanie person... heavy. Paranoia? ... dont think so The first clue... the constant rate and tone of speech. 2nd clue... "i almost start to cry" when i get your emails. Super masking. Something is off This is just my opinion

[@emmarae4322]

"Stephanie person?" I'm sensing a narcissist troll.

[@Pocketpowerplant]

Fml

[@stever507]

Be anxious for nothing but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God and peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your minds and hearts in Jesus Christ -Philippians 4:6-7

[@emmarae4322]

That is zero help

[@stever507]

@@emmarae4322 well it doesn’t hurt . You have any other suggestions?

[@kat-75]

[@amibauer547]

What is your email?