Thank You Stephanie! 10:23 Baby steps. This was difficult to do at 1st specially after years of ruminating. I felt I wasted people time which I probably did, I’m Sorry. Please, Please, Get your levels checked, Primary Thyroid prior to excepting medications for mood.

She would never apologize for anything. Everything was my fault. Bad mouthed me to all my friends. Very sick.

Our youngest Caught him in an affair with a married woman 23 yrs younger than him. After denying it repeatedly, he then stated he wasn't sure he wanted to be married anymore and that he needed to "get me out of his head". Mind you over the years I said many times we need to divorce, we have nothing in common, our foundation was sexual nature (trauma bond) we couldn't parent together, we weren't a team, etc. and every time he talked me out of it saying "I'm not going to just throw this all away" but then promptly threw me away when the youngest was getting ready to leave for college. We were in "trial" separation, another narcissist term I learned later, so I promptly packed up all his shit and mailed it back to him at his expense. Our divorce was final this fall after almost 2 years. I'm free!

The moment we realise that anyone that we are interacting with is negative or toxic, best is to keep distance. Sometimes we are surrounded by such people and it might be difficult to completely cut them off. In such cases best would be to try and keep minimal interaction with them.

I can relate to it and my ex was a NPD. Not many understand and people advice not knowing what is NPD. Am on my healing journey

You can always tell who pick fights in the comments 😄

I realized I was making myself small for my mom and for all my lady friends

I have no idea how to enforce boundaries. My narc husband has zero respect for my boundaries. I don’t know what to do 😢…

What if he is not narcissist.. What if he is just childish with some past childhood trauma... He have issues.. i wanna help him but i feel like im being used... He just wants supply from me not me.. he says 'i want you to become beautiful so i can get immense pleasure from you' he says 'i want u to make me horny' he says 'show more skin, change ur skin color become like this girl' but i cant leave n deep inside i know this is wrong and dont want to leave... He also admitted he is toxic and will work on it and yeah i can see some changes which gave me hope to stay... i dont know...😢

What you are saying also applies to what healthy people also do and say when re-engaging in a relationship?

This was one of THE best videos I’ve watched on this topic. You helped me realize they are basically young boys emotionally. I’ve heard that before but this video reminded me of that and helped it really cement in my mind. And focusing on that is what I think can help break soul ties with these people.

This happened to me😢

You're helping so many people.

I know what narcs are "allergic" to . (criticism, accountability etc) Im curious how they react when these things come in writing, such as from a victim's lawyer.

I am 62 year's ancient. I grew up in this environment, all three ways of manipulation were used in building my character. The demonic three: shame, guilt, and fear. It influenced me in every way.😱I ran away from home @ barely 17. I'd been dating my boyfriend since 15 and I (ignorantly) thought, that'd be my escape from the TOXIC environment I grew up in..I suddenly married at 17 and realized I'd stepped into a deeper level of toxicity, and it was so overwhelming, (that in reflection) It was mindblowing 🤯! I began having what was originally thought and diagnosed as epilepsy by a neurologist. I've been spiraling down the HELL hole ALL my LIFE. I'm exhausted 😵🥵🤕. I've been trapped ALL my life. And I'm running out of time.

They love everything about you and want you to love them too. They push love and trust and security onto you and want you to feel and be the same for them. They promise you a world filled with love. They write and text and talk love. They give you their love, hope of love, a future full of love, companionship of two people in love, they buy you things you love, communicate words of love, take you out to places you love, they are amazing lovers and can love all night long or even DAYS….all in the name of love. They love you like no one has ever loved anybody ever. That is until you buy the love they are selling and you fall madly, head over heals in love with them. BOOM!! You are hooked and you are done. Hello devalue. Now, they reverse it on you. Now they are the ones who need convincing of loving you. They are the ones that are aloof and hesitate and on the fence about love. They sold you love, you finally bought love and now you are having to sell love to them. You try everything to get them to love you. You don’t understand how or why the love went away. You went from the damsel in distress being rescued by a knight in shining armor to a queen chasing an idiot in tin foil. They can now do what they want, and what they want is to show you no love at all and have you pinning for their love now that they got you to love them. They get to torture you because they manipulate love. It’s their manipulation of love and your true love that makes this horrible relationship possible. They use the manipulation of love from beginning to end, from top to bottom. They use the manipulation of love in every little crevice of this “relationship”. In my experience I do not believe he loved me at all. He was a great actor and mimicked loved. He was great at sensing my emotions and using all of them, especially my love for him to get whatever he needed and wanted from me. He knew how and when to take his love away so I would give more. He new that I loved him so much he could go silent and I would beg him back. He could do mean things and I would be the one apologizing. He could give me a tiny show of love and I would show him tons of love. He knew his fake love was better than any real love I’d ever known. He is a skilled predator and love is his bait. I will never fall for that shit again.Additionally, If you need to find out about a Cheating Narcissist; send a request to: MetaspyHub@gmail. com

It sucks so much more when ur being discarded 😢

You’re so sexyy I love uuuu

You are so good! Thank you!

This was pure gold Stephanie, Thank you so much for this, Speaks volumes, These two have no Control over my mind, Emotions and reality :-) I trust myself, my intuition, my judgment, No more toxic abusive men and relationships and sneaky envious haters, I deserve way better, My self respect dignity comes first, I will remove these two they have no right, They know exactly what I'm talking about, Peace, love respect to you and all, All glory smiles to the most high :-) smile for miles :-)

I’m on 8 months no contact and there are some weeks that I fall into a depression. Then I pick myself up and slog my way through. Look at your ick list when you feel weak. We get nostalgic and that’s called euphoric recall. Only thinking of the good times. Be strong.

I love your video so much!😭😭😭😭 Makes me feel so bad about how i dont know the ways i wanna go about life or the main reasons i dont know all myself exactly..

Nah......I figure it's all pretty universal. No need for people to be overly sensitive about if it's "man" or "women" issue kind of thing.

Thank you Coach Stephanie. 40M here. Been through a few of these dynamics and yes, thank goodness I found this place. Thank you for your wisdom.

I needed to hear this. Can you do a video on when you know you are ready and have to leave the relationship but are struggling with an exit strategy? How do you end these toxic relationships?

Please talk slower!

Brave strong you❤

Thank you!

This was fabulous! Thank you!

Hello to everyone reading this. Right now, I'm inconsolable. My ex-partner left a few weeks ago, and I am heartbroken and saddened since this relationship is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Although I tried, I was unable to win him back. I don't know what to do, but I shouldn't be posting this here.

Their all obvious to me 😂 how blind can they be 😂 I never give in and I mean I never give in 💯 permanently

How is this fair to the person who is always having to be the bigger person?

Another great lecture, I know I myself was toxic until 40 Once I learned about narcies and the Karpman drama triangle n all that, I figured out why none of my relationships worked why my parents are the way they are (BOOMERS!) But I set myself up for it until I understood gaslighting and all that. Being genuine comes with a cost. Alone

Case n point. My mother hates children because the ideal of Children is so threatening to her fragile ego...u know the deal. She's that creepy old lady that wants to "tutor" in her home. See the red flag yet. I won't allow her to be alone with my kids.

Thanks Stephanie ❤

About a month ago I left a very unhealthy relationship with a narcissist. Went through the smearing campaign along with all the other signs after a break up.

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My ex only wanted "Sunshine.". When I got sick and couldn't work no more he entertained another women. Threatening me if I didn't get a job he was leaving. I needed support. He wanted me to change but not him. Naw I wasn't taking the bs grabbed his suitcase threw some if shit out in there. Told him to leave. Relationships aren't one-sided

Thank you for the video ❤

Remember folks, it's all about having no pity for yourself but instead taking care of the self. Time = healing.

Yeah right...they say just about anything to get you back...even out and out lie...ljke they change then turn around to attack you again...go away and don't come back!!!

I have heard this, I am going to change from NPD person and after a year of contact I could see they had not changed at all, so I have no contact with them all....forget it!!!

NPD is extremely bad to have a relationship with someone who has NPD or acts out of NPD...living with their dysfunction...they either don't acknowledge or just ignore and blame everyone else for their problems...

I mean, the main problem of it all is, that we as society were disarmed (by law etc) so the only weapon evil people have now is throwing hurtful words at you, that can NOT be convicted or reported. But the quill is mightier than the sword. A natural behaviour would be hitting them in the face (by nature I mean) but then you would be the (physical!) aggressor, and THAT can be sued and reported. And the narcs know that. It's an evil game. Back then, stuff like that was settled with duels, I presume.

The body never lies. Our bodies will tell us when someone is not good for us. I had sores on my scalp and chronic vaginitis

Words cannot convey the extent of my gratitude for your work, Stephanie. I wouldn't know where to start in agreeing with so many things you've said here, so, just THANK YOU.

I just went on my first date since leaving my exhusband/my divorce in 2022. And wow. Red flags everywhere. I told him I am not ready it’s not a good fit. And the texts kept coming. I haven’t responded now. For me that’s huge!

You can't help what you attract but what you entertain.

Hi Stephanie I’m a male I’ve been following you for a long time and you have helped me a lot and I am with a female narcissist I’m glad you made this video on female narcissists Thank you ❤ please do more ❤

Thank you Stephanie 😊❤