5 Things CURLY Hair Influencers Have Brainwashed Us Into Thinking Are Normal But Aren't

[@skyegypze3982]

Thank you for being honest. Ladies, I’m old. Eat healthy. Drink water. Work out. Become a confident,kind, thoughtful person. Real, long term beauty starts inside and the ravages of time will never take that away. Find a few good cheap products that work for your hair. And a routine that takes little time. Time and money are too important to waste.

[@HolisticEnchilada]

Thanks for watching and sharing 💕

[@skyegypze3982]

It, took me longer than I would have liked, to figure it out.

[@MarienoelleOUABI]

🥰

[@brinta19]

Hip hip hurray!! Real Women still exist !!!!! ❤

[@Tangobutton]

Same here. If I want my wavy hair to be wavy, I leave some regular conditioner in it, spray it with water, scrunch and then spritz with hair spray and do it again. Scrunch again when it's dry. Works pretty good. Been doing this since 2010, when my middle aged hair decided it wasn't bone straight anymore. Now it is part time straight and part time wavy!

[@wanessaribeiro3965]

some infuencers act like they are trying to "fix" their curls (aka having no frizz, no different textures, mega shine, etc.)

[@unfilthy]

Some people's jobs are to work on their hair, or their makeup, or their skin, or their abs or glutes or whatever (same goes for having literally hundreds of plants, or perfectly manicured nails at all times, or a perfect vintage wardrobe). And that's fine if that's what they're into and they can make a living at it, good for them! The problem is exactly that people see it and start to think it's normal or that there's something wrong with them if they don't do the same things or achieve the same results as someone whose job it is to focus on, and then show off, these aspects of their lives, while for most of us, it's just one more thing to handle.

[@HolisticEnchilada]

Exactly this! For some it's fine, but it's not normal for everyone with textured hair to have these kinds of routines.

[@eliseraifman4766]

I prefer the more realistic influencers, like yourself. When I see what is normal and natural I don’t feel so bad when I have bad hair days. I stay away from TikTok and Instagram because most of the content is fake.

[@HolisticEnchilada]

Same! Social media is not good for my self-esteem.

[@Victoria-_]

Same

[@CobraDove1111]

Tiktok is rotting brains

[@kathyskurls]

Since learning how to care for my textured hair I have learned that I can make just about any product work for my hair depending on the outcome I desire. I have figured out that influencers will cost you a lot of money 😊

[@HolisticEnchilada]

This is true for me too. And probably the case for many influencers. I can make anything "work" but that doesn't mean it works better than other products 😜

[@HorrorsOutspoken]

I don’t have curly hair. My hair only gets slightly wavy at the ends. But, all my family has either curly or wavy hair. When I was growing up, my sister who always has had curly hair would literally just do this and get flawless looking curls. She would get out of the shower, grab any drugstore mousse, scrunch for like five minutes, and then put it in a bun with a bunch of bobby pins. She would leave it like that, until it dried and then she would let it loose. I’m not saying this is the method that would work for everyone. It definitely it wouldn’t work for me because I only have baby waves at the ends. My hair is more straight. But, it worked for her. You don’t need a lot of products, very specific products, or a ton of steps to achieve curls. You just have to do what works for you. Haircare is very personal, just like skincare. I don’t know if my sister watches these videos, but I wonder what she would think of them. She probably would be laughing at the craziness, lol. Another thing that bothers me is when someone tries the CGM and post it online, a ton of people will come like a hive to tell the person all the ways they did it wrong. God forbid, a girl with straight hair does the curly hair/girl method. That’s not at all allowed. So, someone like me who has wavy hair at the ends… isn’t allowed to do the curly hair method. I have straight hair. So, i have to stay straight, lol. It’s gotten pretty crazy. 🤪 Do what works for you. That’s it.

[@beyond.the.mirror.]

I love when my curls are poppin but honestly its soooo much work, and even then I can do the same routine and get different results. It's so wild to see the overconsumption in so many communities

[@HolisticEnchilada]

The overconsumption is just crazy and really bothers me. It's hard to be a content creator and not contribute to it.

[@anabelapronto4226]

I never refresh my hair. If is too bad, it’s better to wash it and style it again. And thank you for your honest content!

[@HolisticEnchilada]

You are so welcome!

[@technomusicrocks215]

i do the same thing !

[@StormyDay]

Thank you so much for this. Some are absolutely obsessed with frizz. Most are really sweet but I’m kind of tired of how not one single curl can be out of place. They want us to think their way is best while they spend so much time brushing it a lot and complain about why their hair breaks off. Plus they are obsessed with heavy gels, which I hate, as I prefer a more natural look and they make my hair break off. Needing to make a video every week makes them use many of the same subjects in the new videos even though it’s the same info over and over again. My favorite is the experts who think they can solve everyone’s problems. It’s nearly impossible to do. There are too many variants. It’s just trial and error on an individual basis.

[@HolisticEnchilada]

Yeah, the constant content creation means you need to get creative and use lots of products. It's good to be aware.

[@kianamoore5390]

It’s nice to have someone be honest about curly hair. I’m more toward the 3s, and if you went by people online, you’d think you’d have to do a multi-step routine with curls that lasted a week or more-it’s just not realistic. Trying to keep hair that long just leads to dryness, knots, and tangles, and splits. I also agree with the accumulation of products (hoarding). I love a new product as much as the next person, but I will use what I have up, then buy something new or something I’ve had my eye on to try. I think somewhere along the way curly hair just became so complicated when it doesn’t have to be. I miss the days when Teri Laflesh has the internet ablaze with her simple routine

[@KevvaPMcK]

And it's so much worse in a dry climate 😥

[@kianamoore5390]

@ yes! Especially during the hot summer months

[@HolisticEnchilada]

That's such a good point about stretching out wash days.

[@SandraDSH]

You speak from my soul! I've been trying to revitalize my curls/waves for about 2 years now, doing simple things so that I don't have to get up even earlier in the morning than I already do. I now swap care products with a colleague who also has curly hair. If something doesn't work for me, it works for her and vice versa. This saves us both money and nerves. And I don't care about frizz at all. It's normal/ natural 🤷🏼‍♀️. Greetings from northern Germany.

[@HolisticEnchilada]

That's a great way to try out products!

[@laurelynhead2435]

I completely agree with the five points you made. Thank you!! Alot of curly hair influencers show way too many products that are high end expensive. It's easy to get caught up in thinking that if you just buy one more product it will be the one that gives you the perfect outcome. Most of my hair care products are drug store brands and they work well. You'll have good and bad hair days no matter what brands you use. Enjoy your life and stop stressing so much about your hair ladies!

[@HolisticEnchilada]

Yes, we all have good and bad hair days no matter what! 💯

[@bellzchellz]

Facts!!! 💯 we need to normalize and embrace our curls in their natural state always ♥️ normalize the frizz normalize the messiness!

[@naomiri3837]

😍😍❤️ true sis

[@TanyaKatherine]

What you said at 15:14 is the whole internet. It's so hard to find anything from years ago nowadays as well as it's not easy to find anything on the popular social media platforms where you want to search content from years ago. This is done so purposefully so everything is buried and replaced/erased. They are trying to do this with everything. It causes so much chaos. I remember when google searches used to pull up quality information before 2020. Easier to research. I never thought it would change because the internet was somewhat stable since the early 2000's-2019.

[@Ingryd]

Facts. I feel like I can’t find any real information, is just ads and Reddit

[@TanyaKatherine]

@Ingryd You're so right! That is exactly my experience too. There's the google AI assistant's summary, then articles that don't contain both my search words just one the other and then yeah I get reddit sometimes too. I am glad someone remembers what it used to be like before it changed. There was a breadth of information before compared to now and I think it was done purposefully to limit information.

[@HolisticEnchilada]

As a blogger, I know all about this. My blog traffic has steadily declined over the years because of Google's search result changes. It's all about pushing products and instant answers, because that's what people like to click on.

[@TanyaKatherine]

@HolisticEnchilada That's interesting to hear from a blogger's perspective and that you've also seen a change in blog traffic. That shows there really has been a change and it's not just myself having a hard time with it. I notice there is less independent content from blogs and it is mostly the bigger corporations and bigger honchos, news sites etc on the first pages. All the independent sites and blogs are pushed back and those had the best information to me that wasn't watered down.

[@francesrogers6069]

I truly enjoy watching you and have learned a lot. I love your honesty about not going crazy and buying products. I have purchased way too much crap watching others who are always buying the latest and greatest products. I have stopped doing this. I always feel my curls don’t look as nice or are as frizz free as others. Just need to be happy with my own hair!

[@HolisticEnchilada]

It's definitely a mindset change because our expectations are the problem, not our hair. Hopefully you can be happy with your curls 🤗

[@joelyisdoingherbest]

Thank you for this video!! I’ve just figured this out after lots of $$$ spent on products, thinking I needed to own everything the influencers were using. I’m still playing with what products are best for my hair but I’m using what I have and simplifying my routine.

[@HolisticEnchilada]

This is usually the way to go. Hopefully it works better for you 💕

[@debbiewisdom8546]

Having the latest products does not mean they will work any better than what I currently use. i would rather learn about what works for whatever type of hair than to just buy and waste money on products that don't work

[@HolisticEnchilada]

same!

[@mrsbinkbonk]

I use 2 products and people ask me all the time what I use.

[@HeleenBuckle]

So, what do you use? 😁

[@mrsbinkbonk]

@ For YEARS I have been using Suave Professionals Almond and Shea Butter conditioner as a “leave-in.” After I shampoo and condition I will rake a small amount of the Suave conditioner in my hair and squish, then I will either add Ouidad Climate Control gel (usually in the summer) or OGX Coconut Curls mousse (usually in the winter). That’s it. No more products upon products upon products.

[@HeleenBuckle]

@mrsbinkbonk ooh, I will have to try The coconut curls! Thank you!

[@NadiraJamal]

I bought WAY too many products while I was figuring out my routine, and I learned that you can donate them! I sent mine to Project Beauty Share, which takes products that are at least 75% full (with some exceptions for sanitary reasons) and distributes them to shelters and other orgs. I know some other folks have donated them directly to womens' shelters, etc. My stylist also said that the local high school's cosmetology program could use them. Also: Thing 4 bothers me the most because the super high definition influencer look is the hardest to maintain. I'm lucky that a fluffier look looks better on me, since that evolves much more gracefully. It develops more frizz and loosens every day, but it's way less noticeable in a "turbulent cloud" than in "shiny ribbon curls". I get 5 good (but different) days with no refreshing - I just use a wide toothed comb every morning and dry shampoo or leave-in conditioner as needed. I think part of the reason why the super high definition look is the influencer norm is BECAUSE it's not realistic. Not everyone's hair can produce that look, and even if you achieve it, it's a ridiculous amount of work to maintain. So if you can be convinced that that look is what everyone should aspire to and anyone can easily do it, then you will keep consuming content to figure out what you're "doing wrong" when you struggle with it. It's a variation of "steal your self esteem so they can sell it back to you" advertising, except nobody has to do it intentionally - the algorithm will automatically favor content that feeds that cycle just because it produces more engagement.

[@shelleytrevino3699]

It’s so refreshing to see relatable and honest content. I so appreciate you speaking about the realistic expectations you’re talking about. I have to remind myself each morning when I finish my hair that I need to be nicer to myself and not over critical about my hair by comparing it to the perfect curls I see on social media ❤

[@HolisticEnchilada]

Yes, be nicer to yourself 💯 People are usually way more critical of themselves so it's good to be aware of that.

[@karlafevang7898]

My hair always looks like shit and I have never learned how to cars for it. I keep buying all this crap that doesn’t seem to work. So glad I just found ur channel!!

[@TobiSosa-zu2yn]

I love your videos. You are so down-to-earth and make me feel like it’s ok to not have perfect hair. Which I never do 😂

[@HolisticEnchilada]

Thanks! 🥰

[@CurlyEm]

25 seconds into the video and I’m hitting the like button….. perfect hair is for content creators not always for those that have a normal life

[@Lisa13439]

What a fantastic video! Thank you so much for laying it all out there for us.

[@HolisticEnchilada]

You're welcome. Thanks for watching 😊

[@merrysmith3638]

You are one of my favorite influencer, besides mains by Mel and curlie sue because you make it real about curly hair ,thanks so much

[@HolisticEnchilada]

Wow, thank you!

[@beanie2315]

Your contention is relatable and realistic. I have a ton of products but actually only use a couple of them so it’s really wasteful having so much stuff I will never use. Also I am a 1 product girl so my routine is very quick and simple. Most of the you tubers with long routines have long thick hair so not at all relatable.

[@HolisticEnchilada]

I hear this a lot. I feel the same way. Not a lot of content for our have type.

[@gogokrista]

My hair went from straight when I was young to curlier as I got older. I tried all the curly methods/tricks and a bunch of products, and I finally decided I was going to embrace the "Stevie Nicks/Robert Plant love child look." i.e. a natural '70s look. I don't have the time or desire to spend a ton of time and a ton of money.

[@ceetiger]

Thank you for this!! I have enjoyed your channel for a while now. I have felt very “unworthy” because my hair is ornery and doesn’t behave. And like you I just don’t have the time (nor energy) to do a complex routine. Thank you “for the permission” to be normal. A fan in Nevada

[@HolisticEnchilada]

Happy to help ☺️

[@susannahfriesenofficial]

heyyy! LOVE THIS! 💛

[@maureenporter2967]

Have you thought about making more videos around different ways to use what you already own? Kinda like “shop my stash” but in a more minimal way? I love that you aren’t pushing products on us.

[@elizabethheim1130]

I am someone who has a long routine, but I stand by it, and I’ll die on that hill. In fact, to her point about not doing treatments weekly or back to back, I STRONGLY disagree. Deep conditioning weekly has literally SAVED my curls and, when I do protein treatments, if I don’t deep condition after do a protein treatment, my hair is SO DRY it’s not even funny

[@terrineumann5223]

I do love my long routine. It just works best for me. But it's not for everyone

[@HolisticEnchilada]

Long routines do work, I didn't say they don't. Just that not everyone needs them. And of course, same for the treatments. There isn't a specific way that works for everyone with textured hair. But it's great that you figured out what works well for you. 💕

[@marleyhill34]

@@elizabethheim1130 I deep condition every week but I don't do a bond building treatment or a strong hard protein treatment or a lamellar treatment every week. I don't use Ayurvedic or DIY treatments at all. Some influencers would have people believe that they need to do multiple treatments all in one day. The label on my strong hard protein treatment says to use a protein-free deep conditioner after so I'm following the instructions of the manufacturer and not am influencer. A lot of people don't follow the manufacturer's instructions. My longest routine is: 10 minutes Olaplex 0, 45 minutes Olaplex 3, 5 minutes Olaplex 4 and 10 minutes Olaplex 8. I do that once every 6 weeks.

[@tappingflamingo]

Thank you for your honesty. Another one that I’m not sure you mention is a lot of these influence like to use way way way way too much product. They use handfuls and handfuls of product.

[@ruthlyons1466]

Thanks for the honest reminder.

[@johncena04101]

dude youre awesome i just recently started taking better care of my hair but ive been very mindful of finishing the products i have and making sure if im testing something out i give it a chance and dont go buying a bunch of products at one time. Putting a little more thought into my hair has helped but I am not doing a bunch of crazy stuff. Your hair looks great by the way! II loved the message of this video.

[@HolisticEnchilada]

Thanks for watching 💕

[@betsysloan4619]

Thank you for this video! I appreciate your authentic videos!

[@HolisticEnchilada]

Glad you liked it! I try to keep it real.

[@betsysloan4619]

@HolisticEnchilada I learned alot from your videos!

[@aitzagalarza-hernandezphd1019]

Thank you so much for keeping this process real. It is very refreshing. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!

[@HolisticEnchilada]

You're welcome 😊

[@danaharris14]

thank you so much for your honesty! we can easily get influenced into thinking our routines and hair should look a certain way. i’ve felt like a failure just from my hair not lasting 5 days like it seemingly does for influencers. your transparency is very much appreciated 💕

[@merrysmith3638]

Thanks for making it all real !!!

[@HolisticEnchilada]

You're welcome. It's important to keep things real!

[@emiliaescobar7652]

Great video, I agree with the over consumption, I'm 63 love/ love watching beauty videos, I learn so much from you young girls, get great tips, hear about new products & hear about products i've been using for years, that work! I don't have curly curly hair, but it's waivy/flat w/some frizz, I use good shampoo/conditioner & a heat protectant product, I know some of these girls use multiple products, like the girl on the 1st video w/that long beautiful curly hair, but that may work for her, some of us girls do take our hair serious, it's like a skill of art, I for one, use up what I have & try something new, but I thank you for your time!

[@HolisticEnchilada]

Thanks for sharing your experience. It's good to get your info from a variety of voices in the community.

[@lb8822]

Totally agree. Keeping it simple. Better for our time, wallet and the environment.

[@HolisticEnchilada]

💯 thanks for watching.

[@katiboomgarden7096]

I absolutely love this video❤ don’t change a dang thing! You’re amazing

[@HolisticEnchilada]

Thanks for the support 😊

[@jeniferwrighte5946]

I really love this. You are so genuine. I watch some other influencers and after a minute. I can’t help but think another add for this brand and it upsets me!

[@HolisticEnchilada]

I'm glad you can tell the difference. It's very important to me to be transparent and authentic.

[@katie405]

Thank you for making this video ❤, you are my fave curly hair creator for my low density, fine hair, you helped me find what works! Over consumption is definitely a problem. Especially these creators tempting people to buy things they really dont need. You have to be careful with who you watch, not all there intentions are good and maybe even be unaware of making people spend on things that makes them think they need.

[@HolisticEnchilada]

This is such a good point. I don't think it's all intentional on the creators' part. T I think many think they are helping and don't realize what their content does to the consumers. Thanks for sharing! 💕

[@Nemisha17]

Delilah I reallt struggle with not getting sucked in to buying the latest products promoted by influencers. How can I stop myself? I just bought a curl cream and somehow my brain forgot that curl creams are very heavy for my hair (usually)

[@HolisticEnchilada]

It's hard! I am a very strict budgeter (now) so I can't just buy stuff for no reason. It's really helped cut down on impulse purchases like that.

[@Sloane27]

I’m new to this and just had to accept that I could not keep up with all the products people are telling me I need. I have a few things, some work better than others and I’ve got an appt for a haircut with a curly specialist and hope she can share her insight on what I need and how to use it. Thanks for your video- I don’t feel so bad now.

[@HolisticEnchilada]

That's awesome! I hope your appointment goes well and you get the information you need!

[@bluefroggy99]

Thanks for this video. I was overwhelmed when I started my curly hair journey with all of the things. I’ve settled in and found what works for me. I like to try new products, but now I’m waiting until I really need them. In the beginning I felt like I needed all the things because of some of the influencers I follow.

[@HolisticEnchilada]

I feel you! It's easy to get caught up in the hype. 😊 Glad you found what works for you.

[@francesrogers6069]

I need easy routines😃

[@HolisticEnchilada]

I'll be working on some more soon

[@francesrogers6069]

@@HolisticEnchilada Great, thanks for all you do!

[@Mirela50208]

Thank you for being so honest in this video. I never put more than two products in my hair and I never refresh because it never looks good.

[@dena-mo118]

What an enlightening video. I so appreciate your candor regarding products. It is always tempting to purchase that new "miracle" product. I've got too many products partially used, due to a recommendation on a video, to find these don't perform as well as I what I already have. Thank you for sharing your view on purchasing new products. I'm trying to be strong! 🤣

[@HolisticEnchilada]

It can be hard!

[@Heather-nq4rv]

Great info! 😊

[@ItsNotMorgan]

I have not touched my hair with anything but water, a wet brush, a wide tooth comb, some product, and a low heat diffuser since before Christmas and I’m loving the journey. I’m a 2b and I’m 47 years old and am just figuring all this stuff out and it’s wild and weird and scary but very freeing. I really like your channel. Thank you for your content! ❤️

[@HolisticEnchilada]

Thanks for watching. Glad you're enjoying it 😊

[@naomiri3837]

Btw thank you so much! This video gained me some more confidence! I hope you see this. You helped so much people with this!💝

[@raynay9389]

Love your video, thank you for your honesty❤

[@annadonville8331]

Wow! Thank you for making this video. I’m so sick and tired of seeing people diffuse their curly hair with Dyson! I’m in my 50s and I grew up in a long period of time where straightening your hair wasn’t a thing and people had gorgeous curly hair without todays curly girl method.

[@marleyhill34]

I have 4c penspring coils..My refresh is to use a daily Leave in conditioner spray, fluff with my hands and go about my day. lol! 5 minutes. I'm a busy person. Even if I'm on vacation and swimming daily, I use gentle cleanser, 5-10 minute conditioner, leave-in conditioner and go to evening dinner. these people need a 12-step recovery programme for hair addicts. Lol!😅🤣😂🙈 You know since they like multiple steps and long routines..Lol! At least we know 12-step programmes give added benefit since it has been around since the 1930s.

[@HolisticEnchilada]

Haha, a recovery program for product junkies! love it! 😂

[@beepbeep2526]

I didn't know I needed to see this - thank you for the wake up call. I don't mind frizz, but I was questioning why I couldn't extend my washday to once a week like the influencers could - and look just as well as day 1!

[@fatimagarciagarrido4338]

I couldn´t do it, even if my hair looks nice all the way through 5-6 days without washing it (wich it doesn´t), I can´t stand more than 2 days without washing my head, I don´t know how thay do it

[@truckart]

Excellent video. Things like the curly girl method are for those who are single and extremely vain that they would waste so much time trying to look pretty. People should try leaving their hair alone for some time, does wonders. All anyone need is oiling hair once a week, a natural homemade shampoo+conditioner like our grandparents used to use, and maybe a leave-in conditioner. I stopped using commercial shampoos 2 years ago and make my own shampoo, and the change in my hair has been phenomenal. My natural waves which had become limp because of commercial shampoo have become so enhanced. My hair is soft and tangle-free and has more volume. And i only wash once or twice a week, never use heat or chemical products. Use homemade hair oil before a shower. My shampoo has conditioner mixed in so dont need to add another conditioner. If you have a haircut suitable for your hair, then that is enouh for hair to look good. I have fine hair so i get layers cut. That enhances my waves even more. One KZbinr to check out for curly hair is Katherine Sewing. Definitely recommend.

[@meganeprodeau3273]

Is it possible to know your shampoo recipe please (sorry for my English I am French)?

[@daniellewithey6154]

Thank you for your honesty, it's appreciated 👏

[@naomiri3837]

Thank youuuu. A curly sister here. Using too much products and following all those routines actually made my hair worse lol. I use the same leave in conditioner, hair oil and shampoo and this is it. Wash day takes 20min. My hair looks messy after one day even when I put it up at night. ❤️

[@jenniferskinner2572]

Thank you! I have been wanting/needing to hear this. I get overwhelmed with all the suggested products, tools, etc. it is normal, to be minimalistic!

[@MadAboutBrows]

I don't really use product on my wash & go. Day 2 is my best, but I can definitely refresh a time or two before needing a wash! I do put it up as i go on, but im still presentable by day 5 or 6!

[@amyspurlin1439]

Great advice and thank you for your honesty

[@chezamoonangelaiemma497]

I always loved my crazy frizzy cruly wavy tailbone length 😅❤ thank you for your honest video ❤ I used in total 4 or 5 products at most😅

[@Krysb107]

Yes the overconsumption is crazy!

[@riccijustis2361]

So grateful for your video!!!!!! Thank you for being REAL! I’ve been rocking my curls for decades. Tried lots of different approaches. You are speaking truth!

[@gasparinha]

We have similar hair types and live in similar climates, and I always love what you have to say! Oddly enough, my hair looks better on days 2-4 than on washday. I think it's a combination of finding an effective refresh method (scrunching with minimal water or very diluted styler, air dry) and being bad at diffusing! Maybe I need more product? 🤷‍♀️ Its a journey!

[@HolisticEnchilada]

Some hair types just naturally look better those days, but it could be a combo of things.

[@Aimee0206]

Thank you for this video! I've seen a lot of TikTok overconsumption video essays, but they mostly focus on skincare or the latest trend (Stanley cups or hello kitty blankets). Not yet seen anyone make a video on hair care. I stopped focusing on getting ultra defined curls around July last year and instead focused on hair health, and it honestly saved my mental health as trying to get ultra defined curls and then not getting "good" results was so mentally draining. I LOVE my frizzy curls!

[@TanyaKatherine]

Yes, you're right. You're so right.

[@ceystal]

I may be an exception but I love my long hair routine. I do the whole "reset" with prepoo, clarify, and deep condition/bond builder every time I wash my hair which is only 1-2 times a week. My hair type does need multiple leave in products especially because of the weather but honestly I love playing around with the many products I have. Some people spend money on clothes or makeup and for me it's hair. I love hoe informative your channel is and how you don't follow trends and you do what works for you. And yes frizz is so normal! There is absolutely nothing wrong with it and it should become more normalized!

[@HolisticEnchilada]

It’s refreshing to see people enjoy their hair care routine! You're not alone in that, but more often I hear from people complaining that it's too complicated.

[@pollysshore2539]

Everyone’s needs are different. I cannot do leave in + gel or mousse. My hair will immediately start unraveling and become incredibly dry rather quickly. My hair does better when I use a leave in, a curl cream and a gel or mousse. I don’t have to do weekly treatments at this point but weekly treatments have saved my hair more than once when it was damaged. My mom was a beautician in the 1970s and she is the person who taught me about the importance of treatments as needed. Most drugstore products make my hair feel like straw. There is something in them that my hair cannot stand. When I was a kid my mom quickly realized this and bought all my products from Sally’s Beauty Supply. She didn’t go high end but she knew I needed different ingredients that most drug store products lacked in the 1970s - 80s. I switched to salon brands in 1989. I was getting highlights done at that point and needed additional moisture. I still prefer salon over drug store every day of the week. Can I use every single salon product? No. I do have better luck with them on average? Yes. Do I still appreciate some products at Sally’s and other mid range lines found at Ulta, etc? Absolutely! I’ve only found 2 drugstores products that do not make my hair a mess so it’s needed. I love my natural frizz. I’ve never had a desire to entirely eliminate it. I have big hair, I love big hair and frizz is part of it. I’ve had horrible frizz due to damage that I have needed to approach differently. It’s good to know the difference. I don’t have time or energy for an incredibly long routine every single wash day. That said, I’ve also been entirely too lazy with my hair for the majority of my life. I can spare 30 min once a week. I can shampoo, condition or do a treatment, apply my products and brush style in 30 - 40 min start to finish. 20 - 25 min of that is my shower time. Brush styling works better for me right now because I am going gray. Your existing hair does not turn grey. New growth is gray. I have 13 billion grey hairs coming in that are shorter, are a different texture and have a different curl pattern. Brush styling helps clump them with my other curls. 100% agree that people have way too many unnecessary products. It started with the revival of the “curly girl method” and went down hill from there with influencer brand recommendations. The CG BS resulted in a phobia of sulfates, belief in an excess of pseudoscience and an explosion of scalp issues. Everyone needs to clarify their hair, but many have different schedules they use to address that need. Many people with textured hair benefit from reducing the number of wash days. Several people with textured hair benefit from a treatment before they shampoo. It’s been around forever and 3 days and can be done with something as simple as a hair oil that you let sink in for 20 min. It makes it easier to quickly finger de tangle before you shower. If you are using a stronger clarifying shampoo you often need to follow it with a good conditioner/treatment that has a mix of protein and moisture. If you do it once a week, weekly treatments may be needed. Nothing too extreme. There are masks with a good balance that work in 1-2 min and can be used in the shower. I prefer them. I do full on deep conditioning/protein treatments with heat, outside of the shower, sparingly.

[@sheilafleshner2428]

So refreshing thanks

[@belindachappell9875]

I think your hair looks so pretty in this video and I prefer watching your channel because I can identify with your hair and more realistic routines. Thank you ❤

[@emmflowers5227]

I wash my highlighted curly hair twice a week, too much washing strips my hair and then it’s dry/frizzy af which sucks. Satin hair bonnet.

[@kellieknight2561]

THANK YOU!!!!! Seeing the walls of product or the half day routines - what time do they either wake up or clearly that is their job and aren’t having to get out the door in the morning! I’m manifesting the 2025 curly wavy trend of frizzy soft curls 80s style - let that be a thing!!!

[@laetitia4567]

Thank you for this! I have curly hair and would love for the shape to last longer or be more shinier etc. but I just can't be bothered to do long routines and I don't either think putting multiple products in your hair is good for you. I can't justify to myself the amount of time and products it would require to get little bit nicer hair.

[@DLRS1]

Yes thank you so much for telling the truth. I just got my hair cut last week and my stylist told me that’s it’s mostly about the cut, if it’s cut properly there will be far less frizz. He’s right 😊. Just need a good shampoo, a good deep conditioner and you’re good 👍

[@TWS1977]

Please remember that any rules are hair specific.

[@HolisticEnchilada]

💯

[@x49nightshifter51]

When I was 12/13, I discovered I had wavy/curly hair and I was so upset that I didn’t have perfect hair like everyone on these curly hair videos. I bought so many hair products because I thought that’s what was going to make my hair perfect, but I really just wasted a bunch of money. Over the last few years, I’ve realized that it’s so unrealistic and difficult to have “perfect” hair all the time, so I’ve definitely simplified my routine and realized it’s okay to have hair that’s messy and not follow all the popular rules. I only refresh every once in a while now, whereas I would basically refresh every day in the past…Once I’ve finished all these products that I’ve bought, I’m just gonna stick to a couple products for my routine in the future.

[@centumvir]

Finally someone normal! Thank you for that!

[@inawinchester]

You're amazing, thanks for this! ❤ I will share this if I see someone gets lost in the "online world". I was on my way there, so I definitely needed this. I'm glad you're looking out for your mental health and try not to force yourself to keep up. I wish you all the best for your future ❤

[@yousured]

Yea those 100 steps is annoying I was like that’s way too much work where’s my straightener lol ahahah and lots of those products don’t blend well and you end up with white residue and now you have to start all over again lol 😅

[@HolisticEnchilada]

I'm right there with you! 😉

[@rowantheo809]

thank you for this video, i struggle with frizz so much, and no matter what "guaranteed" tips i follow it's still there, so im working on accepting it. i have a question that may be a tough ask 😂😂 im training to be a surgeon, so my hair needs to be put up AND smushed under a cap for a good chunk of time. do you maybe have some advice on how to attempt saving my curls from stretching out, or is the only solution keeping it in a very short bob probably? women in the field are still expected to be very put-together! thank you 😂

[@wanessaribeiro3965]

also i really dislike this trend of showing (even in ads) wet or damp hair as the final result, where is the dry hair?????

[@labb592]

I hate too many steps b/c I feel it's all for the views

[@curlydi6677]

Keeping it real , 💯 ❤

[@stacyrabinovitz7317]

Thank you

[@claudettewatkins4237]

Its crazy how bad its gotten. Everyone just wants to sell product. I do deep condition every week but thats cause i have afro hair. Also i only wash once a week. I deep condition every wash because i dont use regular conditioner. You dont need both a deep conditioner and a regular conditioner

[@AW-zp7od]

Unpopular opinion but a lot of these influencers make their curls look so glossy or rather crunchy and separated it actually looks greasy, and going natural no-product or just a non-crunchy leave in to allow your curls to be fluffy and thick looks way cuter.

[@HolisticEnchilada]

I also like the fluffy and thick look. Makes for a more natural appearance.

[@user61696]

You must be lucky to go out without applying product at all😢

[@DeathPetalArt]

I suspect you're right. Some hair textures aren't meant to be "shiny" either, lack of shine does not automatically mean the hair isn't healthy & moisturized! Soft fluffy hair can be healthy hair ❤

[@DollfieEyed]

I have a long ish routine but I have a lot of time so I enjoy doing that routine. Still takes under an hour though, probably because my hair is not long. I don't enjoy refreshing my curls, I just wash every few days to keep my scalp from getting itchy. My hair looks almost straight right before I wash it. I don't need a ton of products. I also think the hair types and people getting so crazed about their hair types is a bit much.

[@SaseiMoon]

The obsession curly hair humans have with frizz free curls needs to be studied.

[@jenniferguevara2809]

Hahahaha for real.

[@snackymcsnackycakes6556]

I have a couple of different products and I don't buy anything new that I want to try until I use up something else. I swap products with another curly hair friend if something doesn't work for us, and I also donate things that don't work for me to my local school system, as they give hygiene products to students in need. Just a thought if you or anyone else have things you don't want/need!

[@CurlyCrowie]

You just randomly appeared on my feed. And you are so right I have been wearing my natural curls fo longer than most influencers have been on planet earth. I refuse to buy a whole shopping cart full of products. It's unnecessary. I went down that road and mu results didn't warrant the cost. I don't use special curly hair products and my curl is just fine. I wear a bonnet but I never ever had day. 2 hair. I just do a water rinse in the shower. These influencers have th curly kingdom bamboozled. The only one I have heard whose method I resonate with is Anthony Dickey. I did his method since about 1980 .... Long before it was a 'thing'.

[@lpgilber]

I love when people on social media tell the truth. Now is not the time to be spending arbitrarily.

[@happygoluckyme6926]

I love the name of your Channel

[@Willowy13]

My "routine" takes 10 min. Influencers created all of this to produce videos and later for making money from brands/videos (PR).

[@rosehunter7788]

Excellent

[@TheRealCoachNicole]

Refreshing is NEVER worth it (in my humble opinion). And thank you for acknowledging the bias toward certain curl patterns. Products and strategies don’t work the same or give the same results for everyone.

[@gdevin100]

I don’t think it’s rare for your hair to look as good on day 4, mine looks the worst on wash day bcuz I don’t spend a lot of time on it but it gets more volume as time goes on so from day 2-7 it looks the best. Of course I regresh it a tiny bit around the roots and bottoms but that’s it, but ya I have type 3b curls

[@sandrametcalfe7483]

I use shampoo- conditioner and hair oil. That’s it! It takes me 10 mins

[@littlecenoura]

I just don’t understand how people can go 5 days without washing their hair. That’s crazy.

[@emmflowers5227]

No hair frizz hair is the skincare version of no pores/skin texture

[@earthmamma85]

To be honest with you, my hair looked so much better when I was in high school, using the strawberry suave.