Why you will never get ‘That Hair’. (I tried for 10 years, brutally honest)

[@Smokeycat12]

Not even half way through and I’m glad someone is finally actually being brutally honest

[@emmacaitlinlewis]

Another really important thing to mention, which I feel you may have missed out.. SO many people use hair pieces or hair extensions. Pinterest girls and celebrities. Pamela Anderson had hair extensions. Jennifer Anniston had them when she had that super long hair, but now stated she only uses hair pieces for fullness. Those perfect hairstyles we often see, are not achievable for the majority without a little bit of help. Love this video ❤

[@HorrorsOutspoken]

Celebrities, I understand. I just recently watched a TikTok claiming that Sabrina Carpenter’s hair is actually just extensions. It does make sense because her hair didn’t look the way it does now, in comparison to when she was a child. So, I get it…celebrities clearly are different than us. They have more money and resources than we will ever have. It’s when I get to KZbin and see “regular” girls with great hair that I start thinking maybe if I do all of what they’re doing that my hair will at the very least look better. I enter a state of literal delusion. I try so hard to tell myself KZbin has changed in the last ten/15 years. What you see from these “regular” people is not reality. But, it still doesn’t help. I’m not trying to hate on these hair girlies for just existing. If I had good hair, I would show it off too. I would want to share my “secrets” with people as well. But, these girls, man. Sometimes, they hurt my soul. 🤣 I see the same thing in other places like Reddit or TikTok. These “regular” girls showing their amazing hair. Celebrities, I don’t care. I can separate the delusion from reality. These girls, I don’t know what happens to my brain.

[@remainingembers]

Yes!! I follow a small-ish youtuber that was formerly mostly makeup content and she looks so flawless and her hair is so smooth and full but I have to remind myself she's wearing extensions and a lot of that hair is fake and highly styled. Without makeup and extensions she looks like a regular girl with fine bleached hair you'd see at the grocery store lol.

[@Lucy-nx7bx]

I know a girl who has the most perfect hair every single day. Why? Because she washes and heat styles it daily. Blowdries it with a very powerful blowdryer on the hot setting and uses a curling iron. Her ends get murdered by this and she periodically gets trims. It helps that she has good hair genetics but she didn't get the glossy hair sleeping with coconut oil on her head, she got it from styling it flawlessly. Haircare has its place for preserving the ends to grow long hair but it won't change the texture

[@mchobbit2951]

The thing is, if I did that to my hair, it would be fried as hell and look it too. So you most definitely need the kind of hair that can withstand that kind of thing to begin with.

[@sourgrape_s]

You have a really pretty face and I think your hair complements it very well because it allows your facial features to shine and doesn't distract from them.

[@S-mi5yi]

Indeed! Her hair texture does not matter in overall beauty since it can be maintained with styling, faces are hard to change and Isabella has a drop dead gorgeous face.

[@TheMsindependent123]

Agreed!!

[@auroraborealis13579]

Yeah. She’s so gorgeous!

[@essiggurklerl]

I am so torn because I love the honesty but GIRL you are STUNNING and your hair is beautiful!!! Even if it's not the hair you want. Look how long it is! And that amazing colour???? I hope so much that you learn to not just accept but love your hair.

[@mchobbit2951]

The thing is, I literally NEVER see that kind of perfect hair out in the wild. The next time you go outside, just to the store or to school/work whatnot, look at people's hair. You'll find that that kind of hair is rare if not nonexistent. Even the people with naturally beautiful, frizz free hair usually don't have that hair you see online or on celebrities. I hate heat styling and all of those elaborate hair care routines are also too much, so I do the minimum I can get away with. I also keep it medium length which is easier to deal with as the ends don't get as dry and it's just easier to wash and, if I do it, style, less hair. It saves me a lot of stress and money and I wouldn't have THAT hair anyway no matter what. The only way to get it would be to go the route of extensions to bulk it up and Keratin/Brazilian blow outs. And that stuff is expensive and could just leave me with worse (fried) hair down the line. Btw, I think your hair is BEAUTIFUL even though it's not "glass hair". AND you have absolutely amazing natural nails, which some people cannot seem to grow no matter what they do either.

[@vitalyaloves]

Yep, I’ve only known a couple of people with hair like that and their hair really only looked like that sometimes (probably like the day after washing and thoroughly heat styling) and a lot of the time their hair just looked like anyone else’s.

[@бронза.вафля.конус]

I've definitely seen hair like this out in the wild. Several times. Two girls are people I went to school with for 6 years, their hair definitely looked like this allll the time. It was a weird day if their hair wasn't perfect, and it happened maybe once or twice to both of them in those 6 years. And we were kids, so there's no way they were sporting extensions, not to mention I used to interact with their hair to practice braiding and I definitely would've noticed any extensions. Another girl was Middle Eastern so she genetically had super thick and dense hair including her eyelashes and brows. Perfect hair always, nothing could make it wild. She had like 2 flyaways and that's it lol. Blunt cuts and probably great haircare because she never had split or dry ends, but I never asked her for a routine. Obvious overnight curls on occasion, her hair was naturally straight when she didn't do anything to it. I don't think she used heat, but idk Another girl in high school who was Vietnamese, she had hip length hair and did nothing to take care of it. It was clear from her outward appearance and presentation that she didn't have the best maintenance routines for her skin, nails, or clothing, yet her hair was just flawless (sometimes greasy bc of not washing). She even said the only reason her hair was too long is because she was lazy to cut it. When I saw the girls like this on tiktok it was normal to me because I've seen it multiple times irl. It's unrealistic for everyone, but it's not impossible. For some, it's not even a lot of effort to have hair like that. I doubt any of the girls I know even spent over 50 dollars a month on haircare. The only thing I think they all have in common is extremely minimal heat styling and completely virgin hair.

[@mchobbit2951]

@@бронза.вафля.конус To be fair, I said "RARE if not nonexistent". Isabella also mentioned that it's possible for some people, such as if your hair is naturally smooth and thick but got damaged by lack of proper care/bleaching. You've seen it, but it's rare and unattainable for most of us even with the best hair care. I sometimes see really great thick, completely frizz/flyaway free hair, but it's still not what you see online or on TV. That kind of hair is close to unreal. Also, please don't talk about 50 dollars a month for just hair care like that's low. For many of us, that's pretty steep in this economy when people are struggling to make rent and buy groceries, especially for students. I do buy only salon quality products, and that still doesn't add up to 50 a month because they can be used sparingly and last for many months. I know some of these hair KZbinrs spend significantly more than than, several hundreds every month, but that's not feasible for most of us. Hair is their income. Mine just needs to look clean and not like I just rolled out of bed for me to do mine.

[@annie_noname6]

My hair is thick and dense which most people see as “good hair genetics” but it’s naturally very frizzy, textured, and breakage prone. Hair care made a dramatic difference, and heat styling has saved me high maintenance routines during the week, but if I stopped the doing the things I do, it’ll go back to being the way it was. I know exactly what you mean by the 30% improvement. Having thick hair isn’t the end all be all. I’m grateful for it. But I’ve noticed the grass tends to be greener on the other side. Because fine hair to me, always looked more silky and low maintenance. Mine tends to look dull😅 I’m still trying to figure out how to work with it. I’m entering year 2 of my hair care journey. But I’ve definitely accepted that I’m just limited by my genetics.

[@itsshannon00]

You seriously deserve an award for how much research, time and energy you’ve put into hair science! Your observations especially into head and hairline shaping is impressive.

[@IsabellaDemarko]

Thank you so much, darling! It was hard to find any real data or research online about these points so I just had to go off my own observations! ♥️🙏🏼 xx

[@a49-n2o]

HONESTLYYY I WISH I WAS TAUGHT THIS! First step is accepting the truth, second is finding contentment and beauty in my fate

[@totallynot_zahra]

I thought that I was the only person with that type of hair type (dry, frizzy, full of split ends) but I’m so glad I found this video and now I know it’s not just me😅. As a teen this video helped a lot because I’ve tried everything and nothing seems to work.

[@sakinaali242]

im LIVING for the hair video comebacks!!!! would you bring back your old research style videos like back in the day but following more recent hair trends

[@stardewfarmer]

Your waist length hair is very similar to how mine looks now at my waist - I was self conscious of mine but seeing yours I am realizing our hair is still beautiful at that length, regardless of thickness and shine. I saw those pictures of yours and all I thought was "GOALS!!!" so thank you for this video for that

[@AunonnaQuaium]

Isabella, I've been watching you for 3 years now. I started watching you when I had dry, frizzy and short hair that barely grew. Seeing your videos made me feel related. Now I have thick, silky hair that reaches my waist. One thing I did that made a drastic difference is showering with cold water instead of burning hot water.

[@AunonnaQuaium]

And also scalp oil

[@AunonnaQuaium]

In some of your videos, I noticed your camera fogging up, so I'm guessing you probably shower with hot water. Super hot water can also be considered heat damage. I would know cause that's how I damaged my hair.

[@annaluciamangiacotti2646]

there's no scientific evidence of this :/

[@katosa100]

She made this video because she probably has tried all of that before and more.

[@mateafilipova8292]

Weekly dose of Isabella. Great video and let me just add: you and youf hair look amazing

[@calebdecamp2427]

I think something that we should push more in the hair care industry, is historical haircare. Looking to the past to see how people cared for their hair prior to modern mainstream hair products (shampoo, conditioner, leave in). That really helped how my curly hair looks and feels.

[@AnitaTapio]

Katherine sewing's channel

[@annikartdeco]

I found your hair content around the age of 16, and so began my hair journey along with yours. It has been... quite a while now😅, and I sure wish to have seen a video like this back then. I learned a ton from you and loved every second, but I do wish for some other 16-year-old to stumble across this video first. Who ever needs to hear it, your hair is just fine. It's unique to you (which is lovely) but also the least interesting thing about you

[@go-beyond_plus-ultra]

I started to learn this about my hair once my husband started to grow his out. He's part Chinese, and his hair is very smooth, sleek, and manageable, and all he does is wash it every day or every other day, no conditioner, no combing, nothing. 😫 meanwhile I've babied mine for over ten years, and it's still dry, frizzy, and increasingly wavy. I've been recently thinking about giving up on trying to get "that" hair and just cutting it shorter to enhance the waves, and this video is pushing me toward that. Thank you for this message 😊

[@ShaunaEleven]

This is so true! And something I learned long ago. You cant change your genetics, you can still however style and wash your hair appropriately for your type so it at least looks as good as it can! Your hair looks great in the video (all your videos) and that is what matters. I had a similar journey and realized one cant turn your hair into someone else's, but its also more relaxing realizing this

[@hajar4775]

I’m a very old follower of yours 🥹 randomly clicked on the notification, so happy to see you again Isabelle ❤️

[@gooseberries608]

Love the video!! I love how so many people are still giving you advice in the comments as if you haven’t tried that yet 🙄

[@susanchipman4459]

And as if it looks bad and she needs advice😆

[@IsabellaDemarko]

Hahahah thank you for noticing 😂😂😂💗💗💗🙏🏼 xxxx

[@miraera327]

What you’re talking about with Jennifer Aniston’s head shape is called high cranial top, if you look it up you’ll find a few other celebrities who have it like Jennie Kim. It’s basically how much height your head has ABOVE your hairline, which influences how much of the top of your head is visible from the front. If you look at me head on, you can obviously see where my part is but you can’t follow the line back on the top of my head, but on pictures of Jennifer or Jennie, you can follow their part toward the back of their even from head on. This makes a huge difference to how our hair looks, especially how voluminous it looks. And like so many other things, it’s 100% genetic and unchangeable :’)

[@phoebem.2586]

i think ur hair type is super pretty tho, like the fine hair type with no cow licks is rlly pretty, makes me think of russian models like vlada roslyakova

[@zekaay]

What’s crazy is that I’ve been through the same stages of haircare by now too, but I’m probably quite a bit older than you are and tbh I didn’t even know what conditioner was when I was in my early twenties (and as a teenager I only used a shampoo srsly don’t know how my hair didn’t break off) and I just didn’t care and my hair was waist long at some point (though it was not voluminous or amazing). After the age of 36 the natural brands and minimal haircare was no longer working, my hair would not get shiny anymore so I started watching people who know hair science and started using all the regular products with sulfates and silicones and clarifying shampoos and now my hair is better than ever. I also have wavy hair that’s medium density so sometimes I wear it “curly” but if I blow dry it the regular way and don’t diffuse, it gets somewhat just straight looking. Idk just thought to share. I think I really get your struggle, but at this point I’m convinced that regular haircare products are better than the “all natural” products. Thank you for sharing your experience 😊

[@Champagnemami27]

I stopped with the “no heat styling” trend last year when I realized after 2 years of barely using heat my hair didn’t look different . What’s the point of having healthy hair if you cannot enjoy it? My hair it to my waist now, long and healthy, I heat style it every time I wash and it has never looked better. As long as you dont so it everyday you should be fine.

[@mynamo12]

How often do you wash it?

[@oggtastic]

I did the curly girl method during Covid and it always looked horrendous. It's actually how I found your channel. My hair is very wavy, fine but there's a lot of it and it's ultra frizzy and no matter how many natural methods I tried, I couldn't get it looking nice. I'm an ex hair model so had it bleached white every six weeks, my hair took a POUNDING but it still looked really good. But the best thing I've done for my hair (and this is so controversial) is to put down the straighteners and curlers and use a Dyson Airwrap with the Olaplex oil and styling cream instead. Is it as shiny and glossy as if I were to straighten it? No. Does it have volume and life and in the best condition it's ever been in? Yes. I'm not sure many people's hair can take as much bleach as mine as had but my hair can't really handle straighteners like others can. I can only put it down to genetics.

[@fire_fox88]

I've been obsessed with haircare for maaany years and I can stand by this video full heartedly You summed up so beautifully the main problems with how we view our hair. Its not a well reaserched topic (scientifically speaking) The best you can do is understand your own hair and what it can and can't do Like mine would never have volume or hold a curl longer than a hour, but it has a nice shine for what I'm really proud and greatful You wont love your hair every day, its normal but you can focus on what makes it beautiful And I have to say, during the whole video my chin was down on the floor how gourgeus is your haircolor It didn't mattered if you left it natural or dyed it both looked amazing I think you will be my reference photo if I decide to dye my hair Edit: I just went through the comments and I was shocked how many people kept talking about what worked for THEM and what you should try.... not everyone got the message hah

[@IsabellaDemarko]

Ha ha, thank you so much for truly understanding ! especially in regards to the comments I still get 😂 I do have to ignore a lot of them, but I read the ones like yours! ♥️ xxx Thank you 🙏🏼

[@parjol9064]

So glad to see many other people come to this realization. Theres NOTHING that annoys me more than to see asian, pin straight hair influencers selling methods and promises to make UR hair look like what their hair looks like naturally. I have NEVER seen a person with natural curly, frizzy hair magically transform, no matter how many oils or rice waters.

[@IsabellaDemarko]

Right!! C

[@Attalli]

Your hair is much nicer than you think! It is no way lackluster it looks incredibly shiny for the most part. Depending on how you generally feel in yourself you could try seeing if you're deficient in something! Also blonde hair is naturally more prone to dryness my LO has naturally white hair that I have to care for the same way I did when I fried mine off with bleach😂 but it does slowly grow! All in all embracing what you got is absolutely the best thing for everyone. Massive props for improving the splitting compulsion!❤

[@amnicp]

A couple of years ago my hair went from being strong, super wavy and shiny to thin as fuck, brittle and dull, and it affected my confidence sooooo much bc I saw all these girls online telling me that I could get my hair back just like they did but no matter how hard I tried, the only thing that really worked was waiting for my hair to grow back again. So now, 2 years later, it's looking way better and the only haircair I've stuck to has just been regular off brand shampoo, Pantene conditioner and being gentle while brushing it. Acceptance and "it is what it is" sometimes do get you places hahaha

[@pennym.k]

I think this is a super important video and more people need to see it. Genetics are the biggest part of how your hair is going to look. I never had too much hair (I have very fine hair strands, i used to have more density when i was younger but its less now due to stress and medications that I've had to take) but my hair has always been naturally VERY shiny and VERY sturdy. Like I've been going to the same hairdresser since I was 5 years old (22 now) and she has never seen me with split ends. That's also why when I started bleaching and dying my hair (less now) it was always still healthy even if I didn't do much to take care of it. But at the same time my hair has a lot of downsides, like it doesn't hold a style too well even if I use A LOT of hairspray, and I can't enjoy a good style for more than a day because it gets oily too quickly no matter what shampoo I use (the only thing that has affected how oily or not my hair gets was consistent hair oiling, somehow it makes my hair stay clean longer don't know why). I feel I went on a tangent but yeah I love this video and I'm so grateful for you making videos like this which help encourage people to love their natural hair with all its strengths and downfalls. Thank you, you're amazing and your hair is beautiful even when it's not❤

[@S-mi5yi]

This will help alot of people. The number one to always feel beautiful is to look at yourself with flaws and all and find 1 thing you love the most, everyone has something- it could be the eye color, skin texture, nose shape, lip shape, hair etc. and always remember that.

[@auroraborealis13579]

Yes yes yes ❤ thank you for saying this!

[@chocohazel94]

This video is so important. I totally get your frustration, especially bec a lot of advertising seems to promise that if you just get this one product then your hair problems will go away. Nah, it solved the problem for a day, and that’s it. I just accepted that beauty is artificial and I will just have to work to make my hair manageable. What worked for my fine/medium hair is using a lot of rinse out conditioners with amodimethicone and blow drying everyday. Medium heat just makes my hair feel thicker and smoother.

[@leahmfranco]

thank you so much! i have fine dry wavy hair but i have alot of it and i have been watching your videos for some time now they have really helped me on my hair journey and this video is really eye opening i hope your doing well!!

[@fernandarocha6]

I think your hair is really beautiful and the color is so pretty, it looks so good on you. What you said is so true, I do a balayage two times a year, and my hair is still very thick and long, I've been doing this for years now. It's funny because we always want what we don't have, I remember being a kid and wanting my hair to be thinner, just like my friend's, I was so annoyed by how thick it was. One time I even shaved the nape of my hair so it would look thinner.

[@thexchemist]

the only reason i watch your videos is because you have realistic dry hair like mine (except mine is curly) cause i cannot STAND anymore that abbey yung and audrey victoria with clear as day genetically perfect hair but they still pretend it s due to products and refuse to say otherwise. my grandma says that if u have good hair u can even wash it with tide, it will still be good. and it's actually true. many women in villages in morocco (not the city) refuse categorically to use shampoo cause they swear that tide makes their hair long, strong and healthy. and it's because they have good hair genetically, period.

[@piyaliroyyy]

I agree 100 percent! My mom still washes her hair with tide and she has thick bouncy hair.

[@nicolecheyenne7937]

My hair fell off my head just by looking over at my laundry detergent lol 😆 I can't believe there are people that can wash their hair with that. I can't really use anything stronger than baby soap.

[@unikittyproductions2797]

I do like kayli boyle’s videos because she had short hair just a few years ago (I’ve found very few hair influencers have ever had short hair) and she’s very honest about the role genetics plays in her hair

[@mynamo12]

I AGREE!!

[@thexchemist]

also if you know victoria magrath from inthefrow, her hair grows like weed and looks incredible no matter how much heat and bleach/dye she uses. yet she says it s due to vitamins 😆😆😆 no comment at this point...

[@dees3179]

So correct. I baby mine to the enth degree. All I get for my trouble is that some of it is still on my head. The hair is healthy and it grows. , but there isn’t enough and it keeps falling out so I don’t dare do much with it in terms of style. Don’t even dare go to a hair dresser. I’ve seen how they handle hair. I’d be bald! Good luck Isabella. Hope yours is nice to you.

[@PP1208-t3w]

My god isabella. Watching you since your first viral video of hair journey and thank goodness I stumbled on your channel. Thank you for this video. Your channel has literally saved my hair and my mental health

[@xTishxBaybeex]

Insightful and detailed as always Isabella, thank you for the great care and detail you put into your videos

[@munaiscool2]

Sometimes its just the climate we live in! If you live in the uk where the weather is dry most of the time and the quality of tap water is not great your hair will be dry. I noticed when im on vacation to more tropical countries my hair becomes way easier to manage

[@0000rina]

YES! styling also has such a big place in making hair look healthy. i always had pretty smooth, strong hair (fine, low porosity) but i fried the shit out of it these past few years(it is still very fried, permed and bleached and dyed multiple times T.T) but managed to figure out what works for me. i went down a similar spiral, down the whole "clean/natural" products and everything. turns out, hydration is a bit bullshit, according to one article the more actual water content in the hair, the more damaged it feels because of cuticle swelling and the fact that higher porosity damage and damaged hair holds onto more water - i started using silicones again, hair drying with heat again, protective styling it at night and oiling my lengths when dry and my hair looks and feels better, even though the actual quality of it is still terrible

[@IsabellaDemarko]

Thank you for sharing ! X

[@thaisnadai]

What helped me was using products with a low ph (loreal has a good line, the glycolic gloss), it sealed the cuticles of my hair very well. But I’m latina and have thick and strong hair, so I’d guess genes play a huge part on the way your hair looks. Also, you’re gorgeous❤

[@0_0merry]

I'm so sorry you've had to go through this. My hair looked like that for quite a while, what worked for me was going back to washing it less often, and being more gentle with it in general, hope you find a solution and get the hair of your dreams ✨

[@monisiay]

Great video! And from a girl who naturally has straight shiny and frizz free hair - I always loooved the look of more Matt frizzy and messy looking hair. So much so that I used to torture my hair to achieve that look - perm, dyes, bleach etc etc. I feel like a lot of girls with „weaker” hair don’t realise that there are ppl who find their hair more beautiful than those perfect instagram looking shiny long hair that don’t even look real. It’s all really so subjective and in most cases we want what we don’t have.

[@IsabellaDemarko]

Haha it is the irony of life isn’t it ! X

[@lau4620]

Hiiii Isabella! _>). It's thin but very strong and silky (I’m guessing because of the oil), but I have NEVER managed to grow it past my waist (neither have my mom or sister). I’ve always wondered why, and then I found out that hair length is influenced by genetics and has a limit! Also, for anyone reading this with an OILY HAIR TYPE: not washing my hair or using less shampoo has NOT made my hair less oily. Oily hair, just like oily skin, is a hair type. You can manage to reduce the oiliness by about 30%, but it will never stop being oily :)

[@michaylataylor7478]

preach

[@jennabryan9368]

I love this!! Also for perspective as well, there are toooons of girls who would use YOUR nails as a nail goal picture of perfection. But same as hair, some people can use hardener and strengtheners and paint and they’re never gonna grow that long and strong ❤️ it really is just about accepting and loving what makes you beautiful and unique.

[@RStyles]

The shorter Lob cut looks amazing actually - timeless and classic!

[@NerdyMaiden]

Blast from the past! I love your hair videos, it's such good validation.😅

[@ematique4392]

Accepting and learning to love your natural hair and everything about it is the best thing you can do for your hair. When I was a kid my hair was pin straight now it's 3A curly. I love it now and it's sooo healthy and thick

[@Royalbliss206]

Seriously 🙄 your hair is gorgeous you will look back when your older and want your hair back exactly like it is

[@lavenzaa]

Dry and frizzy does not mean damaged. Ladies, I repeat: DRY AND FRIZZY DOES NOT MEAN DAMAGED My hair type is pretty much the same as Isabella's. Dry, frizzy, fragile. It may be a tad thicker, but overall it's the same. And yes, I managed to get it to being 100% healthy, I trim it only once a year and have zero split ends or breakage. My secret? Protective styles. As in, buns. Our hair gets damaged easily just from rubbing against our clothes, and you won't believe how much of a difference wearing it in a bun 99% of the time makes. Yes, it's extreme, but what can I say, it works.

[@l13x32]

Isabella thank you for this, you are genuiunely the most hardworking youtuber ever

[@aikuaic]

15:30 This is actually something that was trending on Chinese social media awhile ago. “High cranial top”

[@bellalobela]

Thank God for this video. I am so tired of watching influencers with genetically thick hair promote these extensive hair routines with all these different products, promising your hair will look like theirs in a few months. Even in their before and afters, you can clearly tell that they used to fry their hair with bleach and heat and that’s why their “before” looks so damaged. Their “after” video is ALWAYS back to their natural hair colour, professional lighting and heat styling. Like babes its not the $49 shampoo you got at Sephora that has the exact same ingredients as Pantene, its in your genes. They get defensive when people *correctly* point this out in their comments because they know its true, and you can’t sell genetics, but you can sell products🙃

[@Her_Maaajestyyy]

I have had the same issue for such a long time. I have fine curly hair, that use to break off just past shoulder length. My ends would always break off, I wasn’t able to grow healthy hair for about 10 years as well. Tried so many different things and nothing worked. I have been following Abby Young here on YT and have been following her hair care routine, and now my hair is past my bra straps and healthy as well. You should give it a shot if you haven’t already 😊

[@_synchrophasotron]

Same girl. Thanks for that video. Someone needed to say that.

[@vsb101]

Head shape impact is very very real, high cranial point is a blessing - not only in _hair_ field, but it gives cuter younger look overall

[@IsabellaDemarko]

Thanks for sharing !

[@zelda37245]

I have felt SO bitter towards tiktokers telling me to oil my scalp for perfect hair because I have been through the trenches of trying to achieve perfect hair just like you have. My hair was silky straight but puberty caused it to become wavy. I oiled it and it temporarily became silky smooth but not long after my hair became "normal" again. What I learned is silky hair usually comes from heat or products with additives that smooth the cuticles, giving that perfect look despite harming the hair anyway. Organic vinegar rinse methods wont get you there unless you are blessed with great genetics. I am a bellydancer and i have my entire life been envious of women with long hair and mine can only grow to my waist before breaking off. I have also earned that you must enjoy the journey and accept your hair, because at the end of the day you are contributing to a never ending consume of commercial products and i think hair care means to love your hair not change it and compare it to what you see online because we are only human!!! be patient with your hair and let it thrive and your energy and love towards it will completely transform

[@iambess]

I remember a video of yours in which you said that you saw a girl with very bleach-damaged hair and you said that your hair at its best is the same as that girl's (I'm heavily paraphrasing, sorry, i watched it a long time ago!), and that sentence truly changed my life. I have very dry, frizzy, coarse, curly/wavy hair that is wiry in a sense that if i do a high pony and then take the tie out, my hair stays in that pony shape. I don't use any heat on it at all, i can put a litre of hair gel in it and still the second I'm in a mildly humid environment my frizz goes wild (some strands are always frizzy). I got a pixie in the hopes that it would grow back "healthy", but my healthy IS dry and frizzy. Oils don't work for me at all, and if anything, skipping the conditioner makes it look better. A year ago I went and bleached my hair and dyed it green, and I have been doing that ever since, and guess what? Bleach didn't make my hair worse AT ALL. I lost my curl (thank god for that, it never looked good curly anyways) and that's pretty much it. I finally found some basic leave-ins that work and now I can get by relatively frizz-free (unless it rains and my hair goes full 80s). Can't believe I've been limiting myself from fun hair for 29 years just because I thought that I could "fix" my hair! There's no fixing genetics - I inherited my curly/frizzy/dry/coarse hair from both of my parents, I was doomed from the start 😂😂

[@IsabellaDemarko]

Thank you so much for sharing! Yes, I remember saying that it was a big realisation for me too. I’m glad that you were able to accept the way your hair is and have fun with it. Sometimes we just can’t change it and have to make the best of what we’ve got. 💗 xx

[@hiddenmutant]

I'm not sure if you address it in your other videos on haircare, but ultimately the quality of your hair can be influenced by your nutrition. Once hair is protruding from your scalp, it's dead and there's nothing you can do to really change it; you can prevent it from being damaged as much as possible (oiling, protective styling, silk bonnets/pillowcases, low/no heat styling, not letting your hair stay wet for long periods, etc), but you can't make it any stronger than it already is. If someone has particularly weak and friable hair, it could be due to a vitamin deficiency, and diet is the best way to address that. Many people turn immediately to Biotin (Vitamin B7), but it's actually a fairly uncommon deficiency in the developed world, so taking those supplements isn't really going to help the average person (and some people can even react poorly to Biotin supplements, developing acne). Vitamin A, D, and B12 are more common sources of hair problems, as well as low iron or thyroid issues. Consider asking your doctor for a blood test, or diversify your diet with more whole foods. Aerobic exercise can also help, as it allows your body to improve blood flow to your scalp (and everywhere else). And remember, no matter what solution you try, it will take months to see any results in hair growth; don't be fooled by products that claim to grow hair overnight, as that's not humanly possible (unless you're talking about relaxing curls lol, but that's not the same as actually producing more length out of the scalp).

[@IsabellaDemarko]

Of course ;) I’ve been over this in other videos. It’s not my diet x

[@fortunaburke2097]

ISABELLA IS BACK!!!!

[@FrostyFreya]

I’ve done it all too! Years of frustration! I have thin, fine, frizzy hair because it is wavy and wavy hair is dry. That’s all. I had high hopes too because I thought I was doing something wrong and I was doing everything in my power to have better hair. Yes, it did improve slightly but mostly because I stopped bleaching it. I did extensive hair care for about 2 years and prior cutting my hair short to start fresh without dry ends. I did curly girl method for another year too. I realised it was all for nothing and quickly understood that all the people with great hair do maybe 10 % if that of what I was doing or they do nothing, just wash it. It is all genetics and you can’t get that hair with hair care. Thankfully there’s hair extensions.

[@hebaBl]

yes genetics play a huge rule but i ve also noticed that hair care just improves my hair health i use scalp oils and cocunut oil on my ends before my hair wash and double shampoo and i also use a hair mask about twice a week i still use heat but i always make sure to use a leave in with heat protection and a serum or oil for the ends and of course mental health and physical health matters a lot

[@Animefairy02]

This last months I been struggling about this exact problem. Thank you for the reminder. Keep loving my hair while accepting it

[@IsabellaDemarko]

I wish you the best of luck with it cxxx

[@MrThomas1234567891]

Social media is so bad when it comes to these kinds of inspiration pics because you never know what you are chasing. It could be a wig or extensions, a keratin treatment or edited and you would never know. Its like a gym goer aiming for a picture of a guy on steroids while they are not on steroids but with no knowledge of it

[@VP-kw5rq]

Some people have a hair structure that is neither straight nor curly but kinda crinkly. I have it and I have made a routine to keep it straight an shiny. Just let a hair mask do its work overnight every two weeks. And rinse it out the next morning. For the last minute rinse with cold water. Now you should have a good base to work with. After towel dry your hair use a plex serum from SYOSS: 10 pumps for long hair. Very cheap but it works. And when you blow dry your hair always always make sure the hot air flows from your roots to your ends in a a 10 to 20° angle. Do not hold you blow dryer in a 90° angle to your lenghts and do not blow dry your hair upside down. 10° to 20° degree angle will smooth the surface of your hair. Now use 2 pumps of GOLDWELL Kerasilk COLOR Brilliance Perfector and work it throgh you lenghts and ends. Let me know if it worked for you. What I recognized...the inspo photos you showed are all styled and blow dried hair. It is not hair in its natural state. And the hair is mostly fine hair shaft while very dense (lots of hair) which is genetically determined. I personally have thick and dense crinkly hair which is much harder to handle than fine and dense straight hair. No matter how much hair care you use you cannot change your genetically determined hair structure. You only can style it a differnet way.

[@stacyy4362]

I see a lot of people being unhappy with the way their hair looks but I hope this helps you a little to love it. I always had a full, which were coarse and curly and a thick head of hair (asian genes) as long as i can remember and i used to hate it because every girl around me had silky, smooth, and straight hair which i always wanted. In 2020, when corona hit and all of us were isolated, I went into a very dark place and lost a lot of hair. Till then, I never took care of my hair but later, i realized how much I miss my big poofy hair. Now my hair has regrown, it's still thick but not as much as it used to be you don't realize what u have until you've lost it so i hope this helps everyone maybe just a little to be gentle and caring with themselves❤

[@IsabellaDemarko]

Thank you for sharing xx

[@rsireesha6468]

15:18 The head shape and how much volume that hair occupies looking forward is covered in asian beauty especially in korean beauty standards and some salons give consultation for what kind of bangs and hair cut would fit you based on that length...

[@rsireesha6468]

And I am pretty sure "Dear Peachie" has a video on that

[@foop9]

Ive always been complimented on my hair. I came across your channel at about the time you started your infamous hair series about 5 years ago. I was experiencing acute stress, rock bottom really, and had somewhat frequent episodes where i ripped out my hair. Like you, I also had a big chop. My hair grows well on its own, now more than ever I think .. but honestly I'm completely traumatized by the sound of it snapping off. I also have quite severe ocd separately, though it was never centered around splitting my ends. My point being, youre right. There really is no winning with hair. It quite easily becomes a burden to think about, and there's just always going to be something bothersome about it, regardless of how it grows, especially when you experience hair pulling or splitting. Wishing you all the best🩶🩶🩶

[@alejandrocervantes3552]

genetics, that is everything in most cases, I am from a family with good hair genetics, we have thick, abundant and long hair, the women in my family usually wear their hair quite long because it also tends to grow very quickly and does not It's like we worry a lot about taking care of it, we only use shampoo and conditioner and that's enough to make it look pretty. 💖💗

[@doctorwholover1012]

Hair is like 80% genetics, 10% diet, and 10% effort. I blasted the hell out of my hair on the hottest setting, used heated tools frequently, used dye, used bleach, and didnt start using oil, heat protection or anything beyond conditioner until i was in my 20s. I ate a restricted diet, frequently went hungry, and stayed dehydrated like it was my job. My hair grew like a chia pet, and was thick, glossy, and luscious. It likely still is. I have a buzzcut now 😅. I alternate between growing it out (last record length was past my waist!) And extremely short masculine cuts, bc i get overwhelmed by it. I have friends who love hair and are jealous of mine. All i can say to them is, if i could give it you i would, im not doing enough with it 😂

[@boleynanne]

this!!! And on top of it, I also have natural white hair (got it very early, I was total white at 30 as my dad) which makes my hair super super dry and fizzy. Luckly not thinner so far (although I have natual fine hair). Stopped dying it three years ago and at least now it is healthier hair than when I used to dye it, but still fragile and dry as yours :) but let me tell you that I really love your hair and you look absolutely stunning. Ps it may sound crazy BUT have you ever tried to put some intense hand cream on your hair ends and lower section? I do and I love the results. My fav: garnier hand intensive 7 days, Palmer's coconut oil formula, Boots' coconut and allmond

[@bananacreampudding]

i really want us all to move into the direction of people viewing their natural hair texture as neutral, including the “bad types”

[@lauraporto9508]

people seem to underestimate the impact of genetics on hair. My family has great hair genetics, mine is curly and my sister's is straight. I cut and dye my hair and have minimal damage, even after bleaching it's still very thick and healthy. My sister has the hair u want, straight, thick, glossy, with full ends down to her waist. All that with almost 0 effort, just regular washing and conditioning. Very unfair, but it is what it is

[@chhavimonga]

Not saying your hair won't be dry again but one thing you could do that really helped me out with the dryness issue was while your hair was still sorta damp and before you use leave in put in some pure hylauronic acid in your hair, it's one of the very few things that can be completely absorbed by hair and is capable of infusing moisture and not just preserving it!! It definately won't give you model hair or anything but just make it softer and less dry

[@cellgrrl]

Thank you. My hair is just like yours only a different color and I am about 50 years older. lol. But honestly I have struggled all my life to get a thick mane. I am grateful although my hair is thin, I still have it all, and my grey is very, very minor. Genetics on the grey as well, my dad had nearly fully black hair when he died at 78. Your explanation about head shape was such an eye opener. Now I understand.

[@IsabellaDemarko]

Thank you for sharing !

[@youtube_of_mine]

Hi Isabella, I don’t recall you mentioning this topic in your haircare videos (apologies if I missed it!), but I think it’s important to talk about how to layer haircare products, especially those containing silicones. For example, if a hair mask contains silicones, any leave-in spray, cream, or serum applied afterward may not fully penetrate the hair shaft. Similarly, if the leave-in also contains silicones, a hair oil used as the next step may sit on top of the silicone layer rather than nourishing the hair from within. Over time, the improper use of silicones could potentially lead to dryness or a lack of proper nourishment for the hair.

[@astrocat1013]

if it makes you feel better I think your hair is pretty stunning

[@aliplay5]

you looked so adorable in 2020 with the shorter hair, natural lips, teeth, and the freckles! how cute

[@IsabellaDemarko]

Oh thank you!

[@ZoeyBortner]

I love your hair videos soo much you make me feel not alone you’ve always posted the reality and I love that about you that’s why I always come back to your videos🩷

[@shannonjulie2278]

As soon as I saw the thumbnail for this video I'm like ''it's genetics'' lol. I wish girls with that kind of hair would say this when being asked about it, but I guess it's likely that they don't even realize it? Whenever we see this kind of hair, it's always on either celebrities who have people to style it everyday or from people who have the lucky genetics, and I so wish more people knew this as well. I think maybe haircare tutorials for example need to maybe preface more with what their hair type is and more of a ''this is what works for me with my kind of hair/genetics'' other than swearing by things and kinda giving the impression that anyone can do this and see the same results. It's just like anything with our bodies, everyone is made up differently and nothing is a one size fits all. It's great to share tips and tricks that could be helpful, but I think we really are missing an emphasis on the individual and we just need more honest videos like this is basically what I'm trying to say. xD I still wish you all the best with your hair journey! The head shape thing is really interesting! I hadn't thought of that... My hair used to fall quite nicely until I got a perm in 2022 (that went awful and I hated it) and I'm STILL so unhappy with how my hair is and it grows/falls in a different way now.. I've literally cried over it so many times. So I definitely feel the pain with long hair journeys and your videos continue to encourage. Thanks as always, for being real.

[@lobsterfr]

That hairline part really hits me, ive always thought my growth pattern was the problem with my flat hair but the thing is... The cowlick is the thing i am trying to get rid of lol, makes my hair looks thin rather than voluminous.

[@natasha8966]

Jennifer Anniston did have extensions in season 6 of friends that’s why she did cut it short in season 7.

[@Lollilenaa]

Feels like watching a video of myself... Same goal length, same commitment, same results, same conclusion😂 Sometimes, I still have some hope that if I'd tried only this specific routine, it would work... but no 😅 sadly, it's mostly genetics, and then there are my sisters with the thickest, lucious mane and they are so carefree with it...

[@Katputze]

Awesome video

[@nicolecheyenne7937]

I may just have to accept that no matter what, split ends will always be with me lol. My hair is also super fine and fragile. I'll never have that beautiful, luscious, and thick head full of hair 😔

[@anon-mx4jx]

Same story. I worked so hard to improve my hair and it didn’t do anything. I have to say though, I have PCOS and it makes my hair sparse, rough and fragile. This can also be caused by thyroid issues and nutrient deficiencies of course but it can also be genetics and if that’s the case you can do absolutely nothing to change your hair texture, quality and maximum length.

[@nia3934]

Honestly I would suggest you use a high-quality heat protectant and style your hair more frequently. Your hair type allows for the hair to keep shape for a long time and doesn’t need to be washed very frequently, so I would take advantage of that if I were you. My hair is the exact opposite - any hairdo falls apart in a few hours and the next day my hair is greasy beyond belief, so I resort to blow drying to keep it straight and oiling it for damage prevention. Every hair type has its own benefit!

[@Anonymous-gz9tr]

Hey Isabella, I tried it for many years. I would say 10 years. I loved long hair like you do, I was obsessed. I used to apply every possible thing in expect of getting that flawless dream hair. I gave up on sulphate shampoos, started using silicon free conditioners and what not!! But as a result I ended up getting split ends, dry ends, and so fragile hair. At the end I chopped off my hair to shoulder length and accepted that short hairs. And I think its looks cool because thin hair looks cool and thick when short instead if they are long they will look whispy and fragile. I myself have accepted that I am born with that thin hair and I cant do anything.😅 Talking about genetics Every single person in my family have thick and extremely long hair. 😅

[@IsabellaDemarko]

Thanks for sharing ! C

[@landracriswell437]

I have long healthy waist length hair! I use Redken Volume Injection S & C, leave in treatment, microfiber towels, silk/sateen pillowcases and WET brush! Trimmed every 6 months! It does take time-patience and good products to have nice hair. I only wash my hair 2xs a week, and double cleanse! Leave Conditioner on 4-5 minutes each. Hair mask 1 x a week for 1 hour.. Coconut-Argan-Black Castrol oils

[@rozennrd4802]

I have hair that is not as beautiful and strong as i saw, but fairly good. It's at its best and at its strongest when i wash it with a gentle shampoo, rince with vinegar in cold water, don't do too much with it and do a henna once in a while. I don't do that often right now cause cold water is cold and i am too buut yeah.

[@AnitaTapio]

Same issues as you and have gone through so much taking care of it and like you - barely any real change lol. Meanwhile I know someone with thick kneelength hair (the most beautiful hair I ever saw) despite a severe ED at the time. It's a painful realisation i'll never have her hair/kneelength hair but at least I can get it to my hips. Some can't even do that!

[@Rebecca640]

Sometimes it is the wrong hairbrush. Some destroy your hair. And you can se it only years later, this damage it did. And it could be a vitamin deficiency. Don't forget that hair comes from within. My hair was very thin for 15 years and I tried every shampoo or haircare product, nothing helped. But then I started to take supplements because my hair fell out after covid. This is 3 years later today, and my hair is the densest it has ever been in my life. Almost 3 times the amount as it was before. And it is more shiny. And stronger. I don't know which deficiency it was, because I take every vitamin, mineral and amino acid, omega 3, collagen....30 tablets a day😊

[@emmahallbacka]

I have dry hair like you, but thick and coarse. I have spent 15 years trying to oil it up, correct the color, skip heat, doing treatments and masks, eating vitamins... the ONLY way I can get it actually smooth is to boxcolor it (somehow the pigments makes it silky) and style it with a flatiron cream, a flatiron and excessive amounts of oil. The it will stay silky until I go out in the Swedish weather. My sister however, can't even put her hair in a ponytail because it slips out of the hairtie.... and she bleaches it and uses supermarket 2 in 1. 😫

[@icylana]

Try Taninoplasty! Is like a Brazilian keratin treatment but it’s actually healthy for your hair! I did it and lasted me over a year ❤

[@giwtaki2000]

Beautyklove was the first ever channel i started watching on KZbin. She tought me some pretty useful stuff about haircare (I was 13, so this was the point that i had just started taking care of my own hair and i knew absolutely nothing). It felt nostalgic seeing clips of her in your video😅

[@kimberlyxvo]

same here!! i was like waittt i remember her!

[@-xo_EB-]

Same! haven't watched her in years tho

[@JayeMallard619]

You are absolutely right about Jennifer Aniston having a high cranial top which gives the impression of more hair, as we see more of it at the top of her head. :)

[@overtremendouslyblah]

That hair is styled. That's why it looks so nice.

[@nibabi]

Omg! So I stopped using heat for about six months in 2003. The next time I flat ironed my hair in the fall it was the longest it had ever been. Now my hair will grow midback without too much effort other than no heat. It’s the freaking midback and longer that keeps me watching hair videos and tutorials.

[@StefaniaRomanoff]

The best approach is to focus on what works for your hair and promotes its health. Everyone's genetic potential is different, so what appears to be healthy hair for you may look different for someone else.

[@TheMsindependent123]

Wait so what actually works because ever since I was very young, I always wanted smooth, thick, long, shiny hair, meanwhile I have thin, brittle, dry, short hair. Only thing I've ever really wanted was long beautiful hair.

[@marlasinger8274]

there is no product or method out there that will make your naturally thin brittle hair into thick hair because you cannot change your genetics. the only thing you can do is take care of what you have and keep it as healthy as you can so it looks its best