5 Things Smart People Do When Falsely Accused

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@RebeccaZungEsq]

💪 Stop playing their games and start playing to win!

[@SarahCommensMindsetMastery]

Worst accusation so far was that I intentionally misrepresented my financial situation in mediation

[@cherierhynes8514]

No actually its helpful. He is telling on himself. ​@@SarahCommensMindsetMastery

[@deewitt8693]

No offense but you are not worth listening to, never mind paying for! There is FAR BETTER free help out there!!!

[@dennism8346]

@@RebeccaZungEsq I disagree. It's not about winning. That's a losing strategy. Find a way to get what you need and forget the rest. They have a supernatural sense for detecting you're going FTW and it's game on.

[@javaskull88]

Someone at work accused me of something ridiculous. Instead of reacting emotionally, I calmly said “If you really believe this is true, we need to stop this conversation and you need to discuss it with your lawyer.” Full stop. He was shocked, but backed down. That was the last I heard of that.

[@jamesglode7171]

mark and avoid them

[@DarrylRaymondLerette-g2q]

Well said. So many want to shift the attention. When you walk straight into the truth, they could run away in fear.

[@winniecash1654]

Excellent response!

[@jeanalice4732]

Really. They usually obtain a corrupt narcissist lawyer.

[@Harteo3917]

I dunno maybe you got lucky with that narc and he was the cowardly type and didn't want to take that chance, but others are seriously really cheeky, they laugh and just keep giving back chat like a childish teenager would do and take it as more attention. All the ones that target me do this and they mock the living daylights out of me.

[@dianalynn3453]

It’s very difficult to stay calm when they are alienating your children and turning them against you. They are so convincing.

[@alfredbenedek3398]

FINE, I UNDERSTAND YOU REBECA? BUT I WAS NOWHERE IN SIGHT, TO LET HER PROVE, ANY OF THOSE FALS ACCUSATIONS? AND THAT IS F A C T!! WHOHHH, SHE HATES THAT!! THAT IS MY 2ND. ADVANTAGE!

[@Stephani-u7m]

Go to court or go with the flow

[@karendixon401]

I know from experience that eventually if you stay calm and factual the kids will see differently. Even when you see/hear the negative feedback from the kids especially as they become older you could calmly say that is not what you do and point out your facts. Then leave it at that and move on so they have time to process it without any defensive upset getting in the way. Believe me you may feel it but it will only make it worse to show them any kind of upset reaction. My father gave me advice that he had to do when accused and that was to keep on keeping on and eventually people will see what was gossiped about you by that person was a lie and they are the problem not you!

[@surlif]

@@karendixon401 Thanks for this reminder for all who read this that it is best to stay calm. It is true and I need to hear it often. It is great if you can stay calm but my nerves are totally shot. My insides are about to explode. I am deep breathing, trying to form images of how much better things will be if I can just stay calm and not do an upset reaction. This is sooo hard. Thanks again for sharing. 💖

[@roar8693]

Its the hardest!!! I am going through this and have been for the past 3years.. praying you get released from their chains

[@cleanadnz]

The gaslighting makes you doubt yourself and you start believing the accusations.

[@YourNickIsTaken]

And it is used by anyone, not just narcissists.

[@cc1k435]

​@@YourNickIsTakenNormal people don't do things like that. No, really.

[@YourNickIsTaken]

​@ Are you sure about that? Please, define "normal", in "normal people".

[@YouHateLogic]

@@YourNickIsTaken your comment sounds like a narcissistic response. It's okay as long as everyone does it... even though everyone does not do it.

[@cc1k435]

@@YourNickIsTaken Sounds like you are surrounded by a lot of toxic behavior if you don't know that.

[@TBISYTC]

You have not lived until a narcissist calls you a narcissist. I feel extreme pity for these people.

[@Linda-f6f6k]

My narcissist did not inform me of the things that they were accusing me of. Neither did their flying monkeys until late in the game. I noticed some people would just cut me dead for no reason. I finally ignored the narcissist and borrowed the money to go to school. I worked part-time jobs until I got a full time job. IPaid back the loan. When he sued me for divorce I was able to borrow money and hire a lawyer to represent me. Prepare to save your life from lies, gas lighting, manipulation, disrespect, and mental and physical abuse. Praise the Lord for all He has done for me.

[@colmanlong1032]

The cut me dead for no reason is so true and these ppl know you fairly well,took me awhile to figure out that.have no time for them either now.

[@jajn2]

And this is exactly how they operate too! They know if they approach you directly you will get them together.

[@idid138]

They tell your mutual friends, that you talked horrible about them. 😢 it sucks. People get defensive & believe the lies.

[@dennism8346]

👏👏👏 their smears will not stop. you're one of the few people that get it. the relationships you referred to were built on quicksand. ***anything*** you do to Justify Argue Defend Explain is an enders game and you will lose every.single.time.

[@alfredbenedek3398]

MY SOME TIMES TOO OFTEN PHRASE IS, WHEN SHE & HER SISTER ACCUSE ME OF IS ; = =O - OOHHH NO! THTAT ISN'T SO = = AND THAT'S ALL! THEY ALWAYS WANT TO LET ME SAY MORE, BUT TO THEIR BAD LUCK, I'M DARN PATIENT AND QUCK WITTED! WHEN I CORRECT HTINGS ; O O O HH NO, NOT SO?!!! THAT'S ALL! NO FEED. . .

[@texaslovelylady]

They always accuse you of what they are or would do if they are you, but they're not.

[@Rabswood296]

Yes exactly this.

[@jerimalynn]

When 'they' can't manipulate U, they begin to hurt ur children and animals 💔 😭💪

[@DawnGreen-wn4hr]

My ex kicked my grandma’s cat.

[@kjmmcn7002]

One of my cats was poisoned😢.

[@kimsnyder5456]

At five my mom brought me into the house because my dad wanted to talk to me. She dropped me off in front of my dad in the dining room. I noticed that my mom and two year old brother were as far from my dad that you could actually get in that room and my dad was sitting in a chair brought from another room... we didn't have a table or chairs in that room at that time. He instantly stated that someone had put their grummy hands on his pristine white walls and my toddler brother instantly said that Kimmie did it, (I now suspect he was told to blame me, )... I started racking my brain and could not remember ever touching a wall in my life, let alone that day. My dad droned on and on. As he did this I looked at the handprints, dozens and dozens of them, looked at my hand and realized that my hands were twice the size of the prints. I then noticed that the prints were all half way down the wall from where I would be touching the walls. Of course I interrupted my dad and told him of my revelations without judgement or accusations, I just told him the facts. That sparked what they call narcissistic rage and he screamed at me that of course he knows it wasn't me, he isn't stupid, but someone had to pay and he would not beat his son. He then grabbed me and proceeded in 'spanking' me. He actually was hitting me so hard that he broke my tailbone which is a part of the spine. I remember trying to desperately disassociate and knew that if I cried, fought or show pain he would kill me. In the end my parents never got me medical care for it and it was only a few weeks later he broke my tailbone again. The damage done to my lower back is extensive, according to a back surgeon who repaired another injury I had in my thirties. Believe me when I tell you that they know they are making false accusations and your life may actually be in danger.

[@winniecash1654]

@@kimsnyder5456 How horrific. I'm so sorry. I hope you are able to heal from this in every way. ❤️

[@redaliceholeden3941]

Wth is wrong with some folk who are violent to children. Sad story. Sounds like this "father" has some sick mental issues.

[@LoraLee-su6oc]

What an evil man, so sorry you had to go through that. I'm glad to hear you're away from him now. Please keep yourself far from danger. Always be prepared of your surroundings. ❤😊

[@butterflyfields314]

I hope you have been able to correct your back injuries, and in a better and safe place. Sometimes I wish the law in the courts was written differently, a longer window period like it is for child sexual abuse. In order to hold the adults/parents accountable for their children who experienced physical and mental abuse under their care. After a child is considered an adult, some states have a very short window period, to take action in court against their abusive parents. When the child’s brain is fully developed as an adult (25), and has the vocabulary and awareness to understand and comprehend what they experienced was abuse. Then in criminal court have them charged or in civil court of law the adult child is able to sue their abusive parents for damages and cover the medical expenses for therapy, medical expenses, and medical neglect resulting from their abusive behaviors.

[@Anafromparis]

How terrible! I’m so shocked and saddened for you. I truly hope that you find peace and happiness. Take care.💕

[@Andthisyounowknow]

1.Control 2.Distractions 3.Destabilization 4.Remain in control! Never justify, explain …respond don’t react! Remain calm. 5.Set boundaries 6.Maintain facts through documentation 7.Stop trying to convince them of anything 5. “I got this!”

[@julieponce3345]

Thank you

[@elainesmith5313]

I got this! My X Mother in law after my husband died, decided to tell me exactly what she thought of me, which was nothing but insults to my character. She had the audacity to do this in my home. I politely escorted her to the front door and showed her out. That was over 3yrs ago. I have never attempted to defend myself. No point, no supply end of story. We must become narcissist proof. Thank you!

[@cacatr4495]

Question: Did you say anything at all during or after their reviling session? If so, what did you say, including words of acknowledgement, grace, or "I see" ?

[@miguellogistics984]

Why apply power and eject them from the home? Why did you not just take notes and let them keep going?

[@cacatr4495]

@miguellogistics984 Why should they have done as you suggested??

[@miguellogistics984]

@@cacatr4495 My narcissistic ex escorted my parents from the house when they came in on the marital intervention. I believe what an adult does, if they have the time, is listen, take notes, and let the person throw down all of their cards. Get every single thing laid out for full consideration. They obviously want to be heard, they are speaking. The real question comes at the conclusion of all of the cards being played. "Wow, I sound like a really awful person...and why exactly are you choosing to be her in this abode?" - People never expect this. They want reactions and fights. I would try and record the tirade as evidence when they bother to try and return I would not forget what they actually believe about me. Or I would take notes. But the GREAT benefit is by allowing them to lay it all down, you do not spend further engagements getting a piecemeal picture of what is in their mind. Real or not. I am doing this with a frienemy right now. I let him text his abuse or leave abusive messages and thank him for them reminding me why he does not get a right to talk to me directly. Poor guy has 2x head injuries, but I do not have to take it. I just keep records.

[@nitawickham7048]

I was accused of molesting our child. No money, no laywer. But won the case.

[@leighjames4396]

My ex has done exactly this to me right now. We’re currently going through the court process

[@redeemed3856]

@@leighjames4396God be with you and give you victory 🤍💪

[@redeemed3856]

Thank God!! 🤍🙏

[@DebLeeMn]

I've seen that the narc usually wins with the friends and family involved. Especially when they are covert narcs. We need to give up on a lot of people and start developing new healthy friendships. And nurture the few faithful ones that have stuck by us ❤

[@Rabswood296]

Covert narcs are the absolute worst. They outwardly come across as such lovely people, they are master manipulators, first class victims and the most spiteful, vindictive individuals you will ever come across when they decide to turn against you for a reason only their twisted minds can comprehend. And everyone believes them!

[@Harteo3917]

It's because groups are far too easy to manipulate vs one or two people because most people are too easily influenced and will disown people over the simple possibility something could be true and too many perspectives in one room. These days after a group of narcs came after me i hate groups now too many complications too messy.

[@gregorydtrider8531]

I can't believe your faked your death Mom. That fucked me up mentally and emotionally. I'm such a mammas boy 😂 We had a love hate relationship. But, I am ME because of you. I love you and miss you. This riddle was long ago solved. I have premonitions. Like a minute into the past or future. Very scary

[@ML-nz6fr]

They don’t have productive conversations surrounding their accusations.

[@alfredbenedek3398]

AS I DO KNOW, HOLD ON DARLINGS?? PLEASE, DO PRESENT TANGIBLEOR ANY EVIDENCE? IF CAN'T THAT'S THTE WAY TO THE DOOR, THTAT'S THE WAY TO THE JAIL?!!!FALS ACCUSATION s IS / AR PUNNISHABLE TOO??! FOR WASTING THE COURTS TIME AND THE OTHER LAWFL AQAINTENCE'S TIME??!

[@jans724]

I wish more people knew about this! Especially in the legal system, law enforcement and social authorities. I was falsely accused and as a man you're guilty til proven innocent. It was a crazy wake-up moment and even though I was proved innocent (had a great female attorney with lots of experience), I also lost my trust in the system. No longer trust the police or prosecutors or family courts etc.

[@JHavaJoe2-m1z]

I lost my faith in the legal system a long time ago. Its a big Casino. Sometimes, a lucky slot machine ( right judge) and sometimes not ( an over zealous prosecutor who has no problem sleeping at night after lying his buttoff). It's a Kafkaesque world. Luck and Caution required when walking through the snake lined path of life.

[@jans724]

@@JHavaJoe2-m1z Yes prosecutors especially are rotten people who don't care about either justice or the truth, just their own attention and career. I'm sure there may be exceptions, but most are trash.They prosecute without evidence or fabricate. Luckily I had documented a lot and was completely cleared but I'm sure there are many who are not so lucky. Female covert narcs. use the false allegations and the legal system just as R. Zung says. And they tend to believe the women. This should be more widely known.

[@nikkyk.k1705]

“As a man” I don’t know what you are talking about. Women who are falsely accused are way less likely to be innocent because somehow it always is that you’re just crazy and deserved to be falsely accused because you stood up to the “man of the house” who has the right do to you whatever they feel is necessary to keep you under control. And most cops subscribe to this stupid antiquated thinking because that is why they are cops because they believe they need to do whatever they think to keep “bad” people under control. It isn’t about protecting people it is all about trying to prove they aren’t the waste of space that they are.

[@EliAuer-y4n]

Seems most cops judges & lawyers are narcissists hence the term NARCS. Pun intended. Lol not actually funny.

[@joannvanarnam2267]

I almost got arrested the other day over laundry detergent . My brother "borrowed " over half of a brand new bottle. He decided to record the session and announced it. When i brought the bottle in front of me to ask yet again, he stood up and acted all big and tough, and yelled "hit me again!" Again?! My face said it all - dude i never touched you! Sure enough, cops came. One (female) talked to me, and her male partner talked to my brother. I could tell by his face the male cop didn't believe me, he wanted to believe the audio. But i kept cool and calm, described exactly what went down. No arrest. I admit i prayed hard, though. The next day the same male cop came by my house to serve my brother with a temporary restraining order filed by my roomie. So for riggt now my brother isn't at my house

[@DawnGreen-wn4hr]

Yeah, they’ll do some unbelievable things!

[@TonyGarrett-p1c]

Few things worse than toxic family members.

[@theresaduvall6857]

The most outrageous accusation that he has said is that he does everything and I do nothing and he takes care of me which is Bs, I take care of myself. I got this.

[@CaroRachelBenchimol-Olson]

I have been under attack for years by a narcissist in my community I never knew cruelty and hatred of this kind exists

[@mpat100]

blessings and strength for you.

[@PubliusUSA]

It all makes sense after studying narcissist behavior, that's my experience.

[@susanmcguire4664]

I strongly encourage you to stop speaking with them. Start ignoring them. Keep away from them as much as possible. Protect yourself from their negative energy, behaviour and mindset. They have nothing good to offer you. The more you do this the easier it gets. You need to make yourself, your health and your future happiness a bigger priority xo

[@pearlygrace7607]

I needed this forty years ago along with needing the smarts I was lacking. Listen up young women! And men.

[@rosieE121]

The "no response" is good and demonstrate to the world who you really are. Others will know and see through the accusations.

[@deewitt8693]

Dont count on it! The narc keeps them separayed from anyone who knows better. The narc's friends all reinforce to each other and the narc how (insert smear) you are. Smear campains can get you killed or put in prison.

[@dane3038]

Not as many as you would hope. The truth is, the narcissist usually wins, because people are stupid. Popularity trumps truth most of the time.

[@cw5451]

I’ve tried the no response method, and that made others believe the lie because I didn’t “defend” myself.

[@dane3038]

@ People suck at pattern recognition.

[@LittleKitty22]

@@dane3038 Exactly!

[@CrazyFreeCat82]

There's so many times and ways that I've been possibly manipulated and deceived by this person who I thought was my better half, and my own family..... I don't have any factual evidence but to many situations add up and point in that direction! .... I GOT THIS!!!

[@cherylhaskell9830]

False narratives and accusations that compromise your integrity and dignity = destruction of Reputation in community, in workplace, and among friends?

[@Goog250]

I just stay silent. Narcissist verbally attacked me at a party I just acted like I didn't hear it. In one ear out the other.

[@Zim2334]

This is highly effective just stay true to the method because accusations of you stone walling them will come faster than a snow storm when they notice that you’re unbothered

[@kimberlys.7097]

Best thing is to not say a word and let your actions speak louder

[@PaolaQuintana-i9z]

He’s said that I have mistreated my elderly parents and have stolen from them, which is exactly what he does to them

[@Patsanford220]

Classic projection!

[@schill1758]

I've had same from my mother about my children and so has my sister 🙄 classic projection

[@Captain_Commenter]

Same here, same thing.

[@rosieE121]

Projection is common with narcissist personality disorders.

[@marieldavison5121]

same sh*t different pile from my abusive sister

[@Ry-n8j4l]

4:30-4:36 I was working in a kitchen one time. I was washing dishes while having an amazing day. I was getting along with everybody- being very social but cordial. At the end of the shift, he accused me of having bad odor. His exact words: "I don't want you to take this the wrong way, but you stink. That's what they told me." Respectfully, I told him I have to call this a night and left a little early. I quitted but I able to tell the manager and related personnel about this matter, because I knew it was very false. This was the third time that this particular cook harassed me-probably in a foolish attempt to get me mad and riled up. I was doing the "S" and "Y" of the "SLAY" methodology: Strategize, Leverage, Anticipate, and Focus On You. I GOT THIS 🎉.

[@leraoliver5076]

He said I was “too close” with my dog and accused me of having a sexual relationship with it 😐 the insanity of a twisted & jealous mind. I loved my dog more than anything in this world & the narc knew it. My dog was the last thing I had in my life that was truly mine and not his, and thus couldn’t be taken away from me as “punishment”. He resorted to threatening to kill my dog or leave the fence open so he’d run away and get hit by a car He couldn’t handle any attention not being on him 100% of the time, 24/7

[@cc1k435]

Mine "accidentally" let my cats out, and I didn't know where one was for a couple of days. I was done then.

[@user-riseshinegrind]

wow!! I thought my ex saying that I SHoot up DRUGS was bad. #Gross

[@Isiah-d9v]

Damn , that's beyond cruel and that's not true love. I'm sorry you had to go through that and make a hard decision but leaving a narcissist is never a bad decision also choosing to be happy

[@idid138]

They can be jealous if you pet your cat. That's affection that should be theirs.

[@manuseal5983]

So sorry you went through that. Absolute Demons !!!

[@hauntedsalmon7931]

I got this. An ex friend who kept dry begging to me wishing that “someone” would buy her a car knowing I was to get an inheritance. Why this person felt entitled to this money was beyond me. Finally realized she wasn’t getting any of it then there were many accusations during a diatribe of tantrum throwing texts. The most outrageous gaslighting one was, You think you’re better than me because you had parents who loved you and didn’t disown you like mine did! I didn’t respond to this nonsense because my reality was, I had nothing to do with this. Amazing how everything is your fault in their mind especially when they can’t manipulate you to get their way

[@TopicalDelusions]

Good for you! Why would anyone expect a friend to buy them a car? A parent perhaps, a spouse perhaps. That's a bit too "friendly" of your friend.

[@Harteo3917]

I think they're always trying to get back at their parents by hurting other people but it never really works but they keep trying, it makes sense because of how they fly off the hook to anyone they view as authority. As someone who has always been more mature than anyone at any age maybe my own traumas with my family but i think it's also just how i am. Every time i'm targeted it was like i was some sort of authority figure just because i wanted peace and happiness between people, i was always the most reasonable and logical headed out of anyone with emotional intelligence beyond my years and they mocked me like oh you think you're the boss, and while i can be a bit bossy at times lol i have no idea what they're talking about or why they're viewing me that way. I mean it could be how i always want to be competent at things and i naturally know how to just sit down and reasonably negotiate lol but i have never been in any such authority positions because i can't stand difficult people either, but even in high school people treated me like this and it was like a child always back chatting to their parents.

[@AlmaMelvin58459]

as a fren should ask them if they needed some money

[@Harteo3917]

That's the sort of thing narcissists do and say, as soon as they latch on it's like controlling behaviors like that and they will do and say lots of things to try and manipulate and guilt or gaslight you. From experience they had their parents do everything for them and they can't cope when they no longer have that, if not they don't learn to look after themselves because of it which explains the ones that gets into relationships.

[@elenacooper68]

I got this! Too many outrageous ones to even comment. I could write a book. Thanks for all your advice Rebecca!!❤

[@jamesdodge7941]

Trouble is, i think it usually happens that its too late to calmly negotiate with a narcissist. By the time the average person, after all the bizarre abuse, realizes they are dealing with a personality disorder, if they ever even do realize, we will have allowed ourselves to behave in all the normal "reactive" ways. We assume we are dealing with a normal human being. We accept too much of the gaslighting. And the average person just isnt ready to lable and dismiss someone as irreparably broken. Thats the trap. They know they are dealing with a good person, and they eploit your strengths as weaknesses. Maybe after being through it once or twice we get better at identifying the abberent behaviors, but also run the risk of mislabbeling. I know i am more discriminating now. Thanks for your advice!

[@Harteo3917]

Yes initially that's the con it's what you don't know it mainly only works because of that and you have to be very passive that you can't ever say no. They know you don't understand their behaviors, how it works, how they manipulate you, and what it looks like nobody does not these days it's nobody's fault because we aren't taught these things when we should be, and our parents just let us walk ourselves into these situations like they want us to it's hard times. They know you don't understand many things and have many misunderstandings about a lot of things especially when you're younger because of how our world teaches us and the way we're raised is very unrealistic so sadly it's made us very vulnerable to narcissistic behaviors and abuse. But after you've learned to recognize these behaviors which you will because they give us no choice and there's a lot of very helpful videos, we can then learn how to deal with it and protect ourselves. Especially learning how to set boundaries which is our responsibility because other people won't respect our boundaries we have to uphold them, and other people don't know what our boundaries are either and we can't expect them to, but some people don't like boundaries which is unhealthy there has to be boundaries between people.

[@cassandraandrews6656]

So true. I think what helped me, (albeit. . . just in the nick of time) was that I tend to be logic driven. When someone consistently fails to respond in a logical, rational manner I know that . . . THERE IS A PROBLEM! In my youth I sometimes tried to fix it, but now I recognize that there are, and always will be, many unresolved issues in the world, but I prefer to focus on my own happiness.

[@schill1758]

I don't know if anyone else has a narc who can beat this: my narc mother says my son who died suddenly, recently, in his 20's apparently told her beforehand that he hated me, his own mother. She has repeatedly stated that all my kids hate me, which is strange because I hadn't noticed this as our relationships are really good... That's probably the worst thing she's said. Even if it were true, what sort of mother says that to her own child? 😮

[@someoneyoudontknow7705]

She obviously just wants to hurt you and I’d say with 99.99% positivity that it isn’t true. A REAL mother would keep that to herself if it were even true. She knows you have no way to truly verify it but you know in your heart it isn’t true. Honestly, she’s probably jealous of the relationship you have with your kids. I had a somewhat similar experience with my narc mother. My then 38yr old brother, who was a diagnosed schizophrenic and disabled, living with my mom, blamed me after he took his own life 6+yrs ago. And they lived in NY and I’m on the other side of the country in AZ. It still obviously really hurt and bothered me but deep down I know it wasn’t true and she probably blames herself but wanted to project it onto me.

[@schill1758]

Sounds so similar. Hearing others experiences confirms that npd is real. ​@@someoneyoudontknow7705

[@Loris88Angels]

@@schill1758 evil knows no bounds. They sold their soul. Take the high road ❤️

[@maxinemoo6972]

Your son didn’t like her.

[@rosieE121]

She is jealous of your close relationship to your son. I've experienced that accusation. Very destructive. I think it is out of envy for something they don't have.

[@crystalkay1988]

I didnt even get a CHANCE to defend myself. They had a full on trial behind my back.

[@gregorydtrider8531]

It will be dismissed. Absolutely. Ready for the challenge. Mental Health is NOT A CRIME. This is prima facie discrimination and devalues equality rights recognized is law , in Canada that is

[@cdgross5480]

Thank you. These things keep happening. It is all around us. We need these great reminders.

[@michaeleckert5877]

Thank you, Rebecca.Ive seen many narcissists over many decades,from all over.They want control because it makes them feel more valuable.They all certainly have their dream police ❤❤

[@MontanaMystic]

I got this! You have taught me to “Observe NOT Absorb”. Thank you !!! ❤❤❤❤❤

[@Tarsarian]

My worst false accusation at me is- My ex covert narc wife lied and said "The reason why I had four miscarriages is because my husbands domestic abuse!" She said this during a forensic evaluation she failed. Truth be told, I was having panic attacks from her and I would walk away from her all the time.

[@Harteo3917]

It was obviously all the stress she puts on herself stress isn't good for the baby when a woman is pregnant.

[@truecrimecurator9874]

Glad I noticed I made a pocket thumbs down on accident - I changed it! This video is excellent with very practical and actionable information. Thank you!

[@paulatk44]

A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 6 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her , but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her .

[@JohnWicked-fx3cs]

Parting ways with someone you deeply cherish is an agonizing experience. I understand firsthand, having encountered a parallel situation at the end of my 7 year relationship. Driven by an unyielding determination, I explored every avenue to salvage our bond. Seeking guidance from a spiritual counselor proved pivotal, as their intervention played a crucial role in rekindling our love.

[@paulatk44]

That's fascinating! How did you come across a spiritual counselor, and what's the best way for me to contact her?

[@JohnWicked-fx3cs]

The spiritual counselor is Suzanne Ann Walters, she unite partners and families together.

[@paulatk44]

I'm grateful for this valuable information; I've just taken a moment to find her online.

[@ruthparks5120]

Did she constantly accuse you of cheating?

[@stegmonjurvinweirdt1834]

I was accused on multiple occasions that I was thinking or had feelings for someone else. It was so outlandish & unreasonable. The first couple of times she did this it threw me off guard (ridiculous) but, the more she did it the more guilty I felt. The first couple of times she did the endless ranting I called her out on it, "Are you trying to brainwash me?" After awhile I started to have thoughts of self mutilation. We finally went our separate ways . . . 6 months later the the self mutilation resurfaced and I thought "Wow that's odd, I haven't had those kinds of thoughts in awhile." Then it hit me and I was so angry at her for all the months of endless BS.

[@mandieevans218]

As I look back, the false accusations occurred almost daily (not going where I said I was going, flirting with other guys, telling lies about him, etc). But the one that really opened my eyes was when he accused me of being the reason 2 of his relationships had ended. I did not even know him when he was in those relationships! That's when the light came on that this was something very wrong with him and I could not soothe it away or fix it. I have not spoken to him since.

[@Harteo3917]

Yeah you have to understand in their heads they create a myriad of lies but each lie they make us they even genuinely believe it themselves and then it spirals each lie built up on each other or should i say each conspiracy theory. Then they end up blaming you for things they did even before you knew them and even will go as far as to why their parents abandoned them that you somehow made them do it to them which is the root cause of it on top of the abuse they put them through. They'll spiral into complete delusional thoughts like this though when they even so much as slightly sense you're starting to suspect and they're starting to lose you or rather abandon them like their parents did, even when they know everyone inevitably will. They can see when you start getting even a bit more distant they sense the shift including when you stop responding as much and they start finding it more difficult to get supply from you, but it spins them into a paranoia and then into delusion. Now i've realized this is one of the easiest ways to spot someone like them is to watch how they quickly spiral as they aren't getting responses from you to get supply, which immediately starts by telling lies about you because they make it up when they can't find anything. They make lies because they're starting to spiral because they're like a drug addict trying to get that rush to give them some relief from their pain temporarily so they need their fix, they feel good and validated for a short time.

[@Trueordie]

Thanks Rebecca. I’ve listened to a few of your videos and find them very interesting and helpful. I’m 62 years old and realize I’ve had 3 narcissists in my life. First one was little sister but has now moved far away so we just have very occasional texts. Second was my best friend for many many years. All stressful and hurtful years. I FINALLY completely broke it off like a divorce. She kicked and screamed and would not let go but I completely pushed away every effort she made. The third one, a sister in law, I believe will be out of my life soon. The only thing that connects us is her dad, my father in law who I’m very close to but is now 92 years old so won’t be around long. She very recently accused me of something really terrible but I found the evidence that completely clears me of her accusation. I’m waiting for just the right time when she’s with her husband so she’s accountable and I’m going to talk to her with the total calmness and confidence that you talked about. Thanks so much for your help!

[@christopherrosado6053]

I dealt with two individuals recently Long story short...I was proactive, email driven, time sensitive The issue was mine to fix, time and documents on all... Email method/ face to face... all involved / flying monkeys, too, and I gave time to conclude, issue which was at hand i.e., I have a schedule, too... not waiting on anyone... won't be dominated , nor jumping like a puppeteer on string My call....then I grey rock...if they don't reply / email..no communication is communication and in my favor/ time / place My situation so far in control Thanks for the videos. Peace

[@Shanieceflordi]

Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, I've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why I am saying this here.

[@QueenJessica-z5j]

Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.

[@Shanieceflordi]

It's interesting! How can I contact a spiritual counselor most efficiently, and how did you find one?

[@QueenJessica-z5j]

Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual counselor who has the ability to bring back your ex.

[@QueenJessica-z5j]

He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers.

[@Shanieceflordi]

I simply used your useful information to look him up online. Amazing I looked up Father Obah Eze online, and he seems like a sincere person. Again, thank you ❤

[@albertocontreras3312]

Rebecca is not only a beautiful young woman . She is brave , humane , brilliantly clever , helping people in danger and despair caused by narcissists . Her guidance really clarifies streamly important items that can get inocent people into severe troubles even with law , risking even jail in some difficult cases .

[@lukeparsons1187]

It's been a very long road so far, but my attorney/lawyer has been basically letting my ex-wife make mistakes and trip herself up rather than us taking actions. We just react to her, make her do all the stuff so we retain the power.

[@HotSeat17]

The hardest thing I had to learn and discipline myself is to stay calm, not react, walk away, go grey rock or no contact. I have a warrior gene, and when provoked, I am willing, able and ready to do battle. It used to get fierce! But nobody won. Now I prefer to think of myself as going stealth, and conquering the silent way. The Hunted becomes the Hunter. Works much better! Thank you for your terrific insights! 👍

[@thrashrattlehead4548]

when a toxic person introduces this to the workplace...setting you up for failure with intent to up themselves at YOUR expense....solid consistant actions and boundaries are necessary protect yourself and your employment are essential---this person was FINALLY transferred out of our location...thanks be to God. And thanks be to a manager who also found this behavior disturbing and informed me of things to do to protect myself from similar things in the future...

[@Nikicchi6363]

I've been told my coworker is manipulating, threatening people and lying to them. Then it became clear to me why others are increasingly reaching out to me for help and avoiding communication with him. I couldn't keep this to myself, so I went to HR and now management is looking into it...

[@Isiah-d9v]

I finally realized unhappy people aint willing to focous on creating own stories so they'll focous on you and let you be everything in the book , but the writer

[@Gersberms]

I don't know if you read these comments... but I've been in a relation wondering for years if they are a narcissist. I always thought I was wrong for thinking this. But now, I'm watching your video because I'm expecting a shitstorm. And holy moly, half of what you're saying sounds like stuff I've already been through! I have literally just two days ago been called the worst person ever. So thank you for this.

[@tim4-p3f]

My brother lives in fear of me telling people about things that he has done throughout life that show how bad and dishonest he is. Slandering me makes him feel safe from the truth.

[@patriciarobertbish5937]

Thank you for your helpful advice. Although I am constantly under verbal attack by a daughter who suffers from paranoid psychosis and grandiose delusions, rather than narcissism, staying calm and not engaging in a emotional dialogue has always proved effective.

[@Captain_Commenter]

What I've got is a relative who's telling the world that I'm a mentally unstable elder abuser, while all along they are a probable narcissist (a mental condition). And they sold my elderly dad's house out from under him then had him declared incompetent so he cannot fight back, what is this hypocrisy that stands before me?

[@idid138]

Sounds like you need a lawyer

[@nightdrive2646]

OMG!! Thank you Rebecca!!! This video is exactly what I needed. A narcissist is going to be gone from my life, and am in the middle of the last smear campaign, and is intense, but I am ok.

[@Zer0ne-Infinite]

After everyone blocked me on everything and people continue to do it to this day, ive accepted it. Moved on. Got better friends. Know what to avoid.

[@scottrawlins8165]

My now deceased grandmother would slander me to my mom and aunt..she would accuse me of stealing and hiding house hold items like sheets, my mom's dolls.ect..this went on from the age oof 12 thru 35. She killed many feeling I had for her

[@robinsondavidmartinez8054]

Brilliant metaphor: be a reporter reporting. Thank you 💪🙌

[@nikkyk.k1705]

I do got this! The narc is gonna pay for his false accusations against me for sure! He falsely accused me of abuse and got me put in jail because he got scratched while I was attempting to get my phone that he stole from me and was threatening to break because I was going to call the cops on him for breaking my wrist. The police wouldn’t believe me because they are narcs too. Inevitably, I will be taking civil action against everyone who was involved.

[@JamesKennedy-tw2jl]

One of the best ways a narcissist manifests is to go pseudo philosophical as a means of demeaning you, through projection of their shortcomings onto you. But, in a seemingly lofty and sophisticated way. "Well, you know that they say that you shouldn't stoop to the other person's level. Aren't you supposed to be better than the person that you are dealing with?" "If you have peace and forgiveness in your heart, then small things like this won't matter to you. Perhaps you need to work on being more understanding and compassionate and you won't find yourself in these awkward angry situations. But, I do forgive You for not being a better person!" This is a reflection of a scenario that I dealt with simply with a shrug and laughter.

[@kimberleepike6482]

I was physically attacked by someone who had done something horrible to me 2 years ago. I have known for a year and was working through healing the trauma. It was my new years resolution to just let it go. While leaving a celebration, I happened to glance back and see her face and the rage on it. I poked my head in to see if everyone was getting home safely and was grabbed from behind. She started telling everybody that she did it bc I was telling people what she has done. I never said a word but definitely told my truth after that. I saw pure evil that night and walked away. I have spoken my truth to a few trusted people but let my lack of response be my truth. It is so very hard to stay silent when I wanted to shout from the rooftops and social media blast, but have said nothing. People are not stupid and the truth is still the truth no matter what.

[@mariarichards5221]

So glad you are here. Thank you 🙏 🌹 🕊

[@stevec3892]

My father who abused my mother, did nothing with me and my sisters denies it ever happened and of course he’s so nice and public .

[@MadewithColor]

My ex accused our oldest daughter of being a predator and groomer to our oldest son who is younger than her. It has caused tremendous damage. Thank goodness it only made the bond with all the siblings stronger against him.

[@AlmaMelvin58459]

he was projecting

[@Kim-nl1ql]

I’ve gotten looks from people like I was the worst person to breathe. Because he’s hacked my phone, & more, for example, he knows my appointments : lawyers, abuse resources…..& gets to these people before my appointment. What he’s said about me, exactly, I don’t know. And, what he tells people is different depending on who they are. It’s insanity! This is how he’s completely isolated me.

[@UnfilteredTruth7]

They said I was a dark witch and put voodoo on them through bracelets I made. We went to the same church for 13 yrs. Its behind me now. I have a very close relationship with God and He led me to do all the things you listed here. Now I have grown and glowed yp so much! So much has leveled up in my life since then. I started a podcast where i share my testimony without disclosing specifics that would identify them. I also graduated with my doctorate degree last month and met my person. Those former friends, along with others from the church lurk on my social media so now they can all see how wrong they were. I never spoke about it until they got the elders to interrogate me. Thank God for bringing me through, and Im thankful for this confirmation. I'm so grateful. 🙌🏼

[@susanmiller7560]

Voodoo? Seriously, that some superstitious stuff there. Incredible.

[@stevec3892]

50 years of being the youngest and scapegoat of narc family . Nothing you can do when it’s family , I called them out and called me crazy

[@christinaackerman7734]

So horrible and my anger ferls over the top. You help me so much too kerp my power.Doing pretty good at keeping my power and not respo di g

[@JillPenton]

I had a manager try yelling at me about the accusations of a co worker and I just calmly asked her the 5 W’s (who, what, where, why and how) and she herself hasn’t asked any of these questions herself! I knew who it was, but stayed calm and replied that the problem was I wasn’t doing my work and hers anymore and if management had a problem they could check the last months tapes and see who was hustling and who was screwing around. I never heard a peep after that. Take a deep breath and get cold

[@lorimullen3680]

Thank you for this information, Rebecca. You are looking fabulous in this video. Your eye shadow is perfectly done! I love it! I haven't watched for a while, ONLY, because I have to take breaks from hearing about these kinds of people. Experiencing them is hard enough!😢 The problem I have after getting sucked in often in my lifetime is if someone feels clingy, I start to feel PTSD. Even if it's a lady trying to be a friend, if they get clingy, my skin hairs perk up & I have to shut it down immediately because it feels dark to me. (I know I'm experiencing those feelings due to how the patterns of Narc's suck you in quick. So, when anyone is fascinated with me when they meet me & over do it with poor boundies, I have to schedule with a therapist session & write, write, write in my journal until I get the frustration out of my system! All because their poor boundaries feel threatening to me. Example... I took a Thai lady & her husband (new neighbors) delicious cake. The next day, Thai lady visited my home six times (short visits, but kept coming back & knocking on my door, all in the same day😢). I still get mad when I talk about it🤔! It is not normal to knock on someone's door six different times in one day to chat just because they did something nice for you the day before! (Even my therapist mentioned, it's a cultural thing to be close with one another) I was thinking that Thai lady is a psychopath and has abandonment issues. Is it not weird for someone to come to someone's house 6 times in one day? 🤔

[@lorimullen3680]

Sorry, I'm off-topic, but I have to get it off me because it felt SO DISRESPECTFUL!

[@jossgower]

Get them to put their CLAIMS in writing. Making accusations and claims means they testify against themselves. Only respond by asking more questions . Never explain or testify against yourself.

[@robbpowell194]

This is a good summary, Rebecca. You may want to reconsider asking people to share how they have been falsely accused. For a variety of reasons.

[@C_A_1000]

My manager accused me of some violent act against her, I’m under investigation for this insanity.. I am so disgusted how this organization has handled this manager. It is absolutely bizarre.

[@Lisa_Isom]

My ex falsely accused me and had me arrested. It's been 6 years and it's ruined my life. I nearly went to prison, though I ended up spending only about 80 days in jail. Altogether, that is, because I was arrested like 4 or 5 times. Fricking nightmare and I wish to God he would be held accountable for what he did. I've never recovered. I lost everything tangible and then my hope, as well. Devastating 💔 I hate narcissism!

[@NarcissistHex-nf9eq]

Yikes, as a self aware narcissist I would definitely be afraid to face someone like Rebecca, especially in court. These are straight facts.

[@karinturkington2455]

My ex-partner accused me, in court, of denying him access to our children. I think he thought I would be outraged, but I remained calm because I knew the truth and I spoke the truth to the Judge, telling her that he can see the children as often as he likes, but he had never asked. It was the first time I witnessed him lying directly in front of others. Usually his lies were revealed in a more clandestine manner. My calmness caused his lawyer (female) to redirect our case to mediation which was the nail in my coffin. Mediation was calculated, manipulative, corrosive, and collaborative between the mediator, my own lawyer and my ex-partner's lawyer. It took me years of research to figure out how mediation should work and what I experienced.

[@adkmtnguy]

The worst accusation against me by my ex-wife was just over a year ago. She falsely accused me of child sexual abuse. She made a complaint, which even the low bar for DFS to investigate didn't follow up on, until she made a second complaint in February, which she got a child therapist, a friend of her attorney BTW, to get on-board with this and put her license on the line, the police department investigated, and figured out this was all about trying to get custody of our son. DFS also figured this out too, and I was finally able to see my son again after going through all of this for several months.

[@moemoleta3410]

Was in the shower while she was in the house, she tore down the shower curtain, shower rod, everything because she said she heard a woman in the shower, the rage was unbelievable & just pure scary

[@horustwohawks]

Thank you, Rebecca, you really do get it, and you mapped it out excellently. I had to learn all these things on my own ...you really do get it. I have to deal with pnarc/s on a regular basis in my business. Either deal or walk away is all one can do. You have to master not only being the adult in the room but also more-than-healthy boundaries (and I do mean "more"). I could not handle it as a younger man (took me years to figure out what was going on -that it was even "a thing"), and admittedly it is (can be very) dangerous. Thanks again.

[@deborahwilkerson8103]

I was accused of being an actual witch when I volunteered to help in the church nursery. No one was volunteering and they really needed help. I don’t have children and so I had no obligation to help but I like kids and was in school to become a teacher. The person who accused me was a mom who never volunteered. She said I was manipulating people into liking me and I was practicing witchcraft. I don’t know anything about witchcraft and I responded by being the best nursery volunteer that I could possibly be.

[@estherhirsch4460]

Accused of being emotional . Humans have emotion. Responded calmly to a provoking comment.

[@LittleKitty22]

Yes I got accused of that recently by a narcissist, though by far not the worst narc I've ever come across. I've dealt with far far worse... but he accused me of being "emotional" for suggesting we just stay friends when he told me he didn't fancy me because I'm "too ugly" because I'm slim and he wants a big lady with huge b... you know! Outcome of the story: he ghosted me, I blocked him everywhere and I'm finally rid of his manipulations and gaslighting... and constant lies!

[@kjmmcn7002]

Happened to me twice. I was deeply hurt, packed my bags and never looked back.

[@signespencer6887]

My narc said, in court, under oath, that my father had been convicted of fraud against him ( my now ex-narc). didn’t happen. My lawyer said, “ oh, which court was that? Who was the judge? The prosecutor? “. And of course the narc couldn’t answer. Later he accused me of preventing him from seeing the kids. I had documented where the kids were every weekend for two years and why….. he had either ghosted the kids or found “reasons” not to take the kids on his weekends such as his travel, or their flu, or they had a birthday party to go to. If he asked ahead of time to trade weekends I generally would, but not after he had ghosted the kids. He dropped the suit against me when his lawyer got my analysis of that data. I GOT THIS

[@thereschenschwarzer]

@@signespencer6887that great!! A little bit of victory. oh man, this documenting EVERY stupid thing is driving me mad but helps so much ('his word against your evedince' is better than "his word against yours")... It will most probably never end. The cycle continues..

[@olliefoxx7165]

I have seen far to many ex wives use access to the children to hurt/punish the father. Even if access does happen, Ive seen them use every imaginable excuse to make the fathers time as uncomfortable as possible. It's truly despicable to use the children to punish the other parent.

[@signespencer6887]

@@olliefoxx7165 that is true but here the father was repeatedly failing to show up without notice, failing to provide adequate food, sleep and supervision, declining his visits on the flimsyist of excuses, driving recklessly and so on

[@olliefoxx7165]

@signespencer6887 I have seen with my own eyes the ex wives of friends and brothers use those exact same excuses. Maybe your situation is different and the guy was genuinely as you say. However, I have seen my own sister use the same excuses as the ones you listed. She made everything as miserable as possible and blamed the ex husband. In my own EXTENSIVE experience the ex wife is the one constantly interfering with the ex husband's access and time with their children. To any men reading this post you need.to realize that divorces and child custody issues are stacked against you. Social media has made things worse. Don't get married. If you want kids have them with someone you have vetted in every conceivable way. There are women that have no problem destroying a child's father just to spite them. Then they will go on social media and blame.you for everything and 90% of women will accept her slander without question.

[@indivisible885]

I was accused of "attempted sa". It was a long time ago but it destroyed my life. I could have used this advice back then

[@KcPenguins]

Wish I had heard this two years ago. Glad I am hearing this now. I am a surviver. Thank you 🌹

[@dmcsunshine1]

I was falsely accused of destroying our multi million dollar business. He sued me in a civil court action simultaneously while in the mist of divorce court case. The cases were joined and unjoined. It was chaos. He was able to bankrupt the business. He lost the civil case but financially destroyed us.

[@Jim-fe2xz]

"Cast out the scoffers and strife and contention will depart!"

[@kdlofty]

Thank you for this Rebecca, it's just what I needed at the moment.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

So glad!

[@valentine1713]

The response is the same to any accusation 9/10 which is denial so if they are innocent they will deny it if they are guilty they will deny it. Make no accusation without evidence and circumvent all that.

[@idid138]

They will even deny evidence. And if they do admit guilt one day, they can flip and deny it the next. Maybe even the next minute.

[@RC-no3dr]

@@valentine1713 They will still deny it and still manage to make themselves out to be a victim!

[@valentine1713]

@ let them it’s not them you should be trying to convince and the confrontation is not to get them to finally own up or anything it’s to have catharsis for yourself and closure so you can move on.

[@stephaniemillsaps3626]

THANK YOU REBECCA FOR YOUR WISE LEGAL COUNSEL, 🙏 🙏 🙏

[@barrybark3995]

she rang the police-i apparently was at her door with an Axe kicking the door -police rush round to my house just as i was arriving home from a beach walk, carrying a big bag of sea shells i had just collected.Those seashells were my alibi ! how lucky is that!!!

[@michelleg.285]

I was falsely accused of domestic violence stalking. This man took me to court and we litigated for almost a year. He and his lawyer who is probably narcissistic as well. They used false witnesses to testify, it has been the hardest thing to endure because the entire time we were in and out of court the stalker never stopped. The judge RULED AGAINST ME!!! He got away with it!!! I’m heartbroken

[@JenniferBryant-j5f]

The NARC knows having a relationship with our daughter is why I went to court. Most outlandish, our daughter feels unsafe in your care because I asked the same question 2x and my facial expressions. This unsafe was the new term after court started

[@FieldArrow-s7v]

I wish i had you in my life 😢 earlier and in a nightmare. I lost everything and thank you for your truth

[@RozlandNickelson]

I got it. I know I have to get this in but, once I start I don’t stop until I’m done. And I’m emotional right now. Yeah that’s fine. Got it

[@the1972bulldog]

It's Amazing how you can lift someone with depression and all that and get in a relationship and give them 110% and build them up.only to find the Police at your door after 12 perfect years or so you thought . Then the accusations in Court when they've been cheating for the last couple of years. It's pretty hard to take

[@evebellydancerr]

You have no idea how much I thank you; you saved me. I was so scared a few months ago. People, please listen to her! My ex-sister-in-law, who falsely accused me of domestic violence, ended up making a fool of herself, and the case was dismissed and closed. The judge ruled it as 'Dismissed because it does not involve domestic violence.' Let me tell you, the judge acted like a total jerk, a moral idiot. She tried to intimidate me in every possible way, as if trying to get me to confess to something. I showed up in my psychologist's uniform because I had work that day, and the judge got intimidated and even accused me of 'being imposing.' That woman was paranoid, and she got even more scared when I started taking notes as advised in these videos. But despite all of this, I was able to prove that it was a false accusation and just a distraction tactic against me, since my ex-sister-in-law is negligent with my nephews and, as a psychologist, I’m the only one who can expose her.

[@tiffanyannhowe1712]

I GOT THIS! 💪 I’m a liar, cheater, thief… all the typical… But then he says weird ones…like I don’t allow him to wash his laundry or making him leave his belongings in the garage. Then frustrating things about the kids like I’m a poor excuse of a mother. Don’t JADE, don’t go DEEP. The DARVO is real so why bother.

[@liliaaaaaaaa]

Thanks for your video.. I've been subjected to so much gaslighting & false accusations as part of a continual blame game the last 3 years in a toxic relationship I've now ended, this advice is really useful. I'm able to be neutral, objective & curious to diffuse tension with other narcissistic individuals I've dealt with. My ex really got under my skin so badly however, using intermittent reinforcement, lovebombing me then discarding me, then using the false accusations out of the blue to antagonise me & trigger me, using my trauma wounds against me, causing me to experience the confusion of trauma bonding at the same time as dealing with the gaslighting & accusations. Last time I saw him he went on a long tirade against me accusing me of having falsely accused a random actor of certain crimes, then escalated saying I was wrong & deserved to be punished on behalf of mankind. It's the last time I've seen him. He had a crusade against women complaining about men, & has been accusing me from day 1 of being the same as his exes, various TV actresses & film stars or continually accusing him of crimes I didn't accuse him of but told him I'd been a victim of myself which was really confusing & disturbing. He accused me also of being the same as his neighbours. Trying to defend myself & define my own reality to him was a waste of time. So no contact & making arrangements to move my property out with the help of my family are my only options.

[@Jarman-y3b]

Please thank you for your time and🎉wishes 🙏 blessings 🙌

[@ZordaanTelevisioN]

Thank you! In the space of this single video, you've been of more help than the culmination of the many hours of Les Carter videos I've listened to.

[@AdamAlcantar-v8j]

Thank you I thought i was. Alone with doing with such an individual I was a accused of doing drugs refusing to go to work and drinking all day until I pass out. She alienated me from friends and family with no resources I just don't know how to handle it . I just found a organization that deals with victims of domestic violence. It's incredibly difficult for me to come to terms that I was a victim of physical, mental and verbal abuse