5 Things Trans People Want You To Know // Trans Awareness Week

[@Musictree16]

1.I exist 2. I exist 3.I exist 4 I exist 5 I exist

[@atmoak7063]

Well I don’t exist but lucky for me I have an excused absence from school every day

[@sleepin-bugz6452]

Natacha Smith that's the exact song i was thinking about!!!!

[@73_fin89]

I not cis but I have considered being Trans but it was to expensive

[@gamestreak2021]

yes u do and be proud!! and don't listen about hate comments

[@robbiemorris5305]

F l a t s o u n d Yay

[@jackisnotabird]

SOME CLARIFICATIONS: Some people identify as both trans men and nonbinary or trans women and nonbinary. I should’ve worded that better, but I was trying to debunk the idea that solely binary trans people are the same as nonbinary people, which is a misconception I encounter a lot. ALSO I’m not trying to conflate going through a Wham! phase with being trans. I was just trying to make a little lighthearted reference. What are YOUR top five things you want people to know about being trans?

[@MrFoxSays]

I appreciate your clarifications and this video in general. I identify as transmasculine nonbinary so it was cool to see this. Thank you again and positive vibes

[@frankie1465]

dude totally, my mom always does that and it drives me nuts as a trans guy

[@berryboi6913]

As a Trans Non-Binary guy, thanks for that!!!

[@JC-jd1us]

-That it's not hard 24/7 to be trans their are periods of life that are easier, like anything else in life -Black, Latinx, Indegious and other races of Transmen exist & their issues are also doubled w/racism, so we should help eachother out -Everyones body is differnt and that's a ok it doesn't make you less than trans person -There are resources for trans stuff -Its ok friend shit gets better

[@kevinlara1295]

@@JC-jd1us what is latinx

[@finn7435]

my pronouns aren’t preferred, they’re just my correct pronouns.

[@natex.x1955]

No. 1 Fander fanders are everywhere

[@alexmallett4373]

No. 1 Fander I know how that feels

[@Zoejo]

well hello fellow fander!!

[@tomtenisse823]

@@gooduH786 In the US being trans is no longer considered a mental disorder (it's still classified as one in lots of other countries). It shouldn't be offensive for other countries (or the US) to call it a mental disorder though, because of gender dysphoria. If it now is a mental disorder, the "cure" for it (for most people) is hormones and potentially some surgeries. It's nothing offensive about that, and I don't get why you're trying to use "mental illness" against people. Mental illness doesn't mean "insane".

[@TailsDollPrower]

dude, No one cares.

[@TimsVids1]

I'm cis, but I went to a gender clinic appointment with a friend this afternoon and one thing I think cis people should know is: it's so so so difficult to get treatment. Like, so difficult. My friend had her first appointment two years ago, and today she got asked exactly the same questions she was asked two years ago, but the person asking was a doctor rather than a nurse. She was fully interrogated, it was stressful even for me as an observer, and all she got was a diagnosis of gender dysphoria (which she obviously already knew she had) and the news that the waiting list for hormones is at least a year. It was intense, it was demeaning, it was very personal, and it resulted in no actual change to her life. She was so happy that she finally got the diagnosis, and I was absolutely fuming that despite now having a long overdue diagnosis she'd still have to wait at least a year til she gets any treatment at all.

[@ajaxtanner874]

Well it's awesome she can depend on you and I wish her luck in transition. Is it possible for her to get estrogen (I am guessing estrogen because of your repeated use of she/her pronouns) supplements or has she been using them already?

[@TimsVids1]

@@ajaxtanner874 she could go to a private doctor and pay a load of money, but if she wants oestrogen on the NHS she'll be waiting at least another year

[@infinitivez]

It's a pain in the rumpkis, Holly. It really IS. There's some advocacy agencies that might be near to you guys, you might wanna check. They're generally good about what sort of bypasses can be had, to hurry things along in certain circumstances. Especially if it's causing her significant distress. NHS has made exceptions in the past. I'm a bit out of my element since you're in the UK, but I'm very certain there must be a trans advocacy / social worker in your area that could help too. I'm very touched you are helping by going with her, that's like HUGE for us. Those appointments aren't fun. Especially since we're asked to constantly repeat ourselves. Many hearts to you!

[@TimsVids1]

@@infinitivez there are support services here but honestly they're not that helpful. Also ironically, according to the doctor yesterday, if it was causing her significant distress she wouldn't be entitled to any treatment, because a prerequisite of treatment is mental and emotional stability. Which I could go on a very long rant about, because that's ridiculous, but I'm sure everyone in this comment section already agrees. And luckily she's doing pretty well and doesn't mind waiting, but it's still ridiculous that she will have waited three whole years. I'm gonna write to my MP and anyone else I can find to try and increase spending in this area. Also, thank you for being nice but I'm just being a good friend. She's the one fighting to be herself in a world that isn't supportive

[@ajaxtanner874]

@@TimsVids1 aw man well i hope it works out in the end

[@dapperblues9861]

Closeted trans guy's top 5: 5 = We aren't trying to be snowflakes, and we didn't choose this. We know it would be easier to be cis, but we're simply not. 4 = Trans people really aren't scary. We're just people. 3 = Not everybody knew from when they were kids. 2 = Most of us won't be rude if you legitimately try to use the right pronouns and mess up once in a while by accident. 1 = A trans woman identifies as a woman. A trans man identifies as a man. Not the other way around.

[@Hmm...Whats-Their-Name]

Solid points.

[@MeSwanne]

You'd think the last one would be intuitive, but it really isn't and I don't get that :D Good points!

[@infinitivez]

How many times I get to have the discussion with people about number 1.. I think to myself every time I hear someone mention the topic, "oh my galaxy, please, get it right this time".

[@thelemondropgirl2140]

Atomicus Aquinas I know right, I mean like- TRANS MAAAAAN. MAN IS IN THE NAME.

[@ajvantas9618]

@Skyler Massey a transwoman is a biological male who identifies as a woman. A transman is a biological female who identifies as a man.

[@MySpareAccount36]

I told my friend that I'm transgender yesterday and they took it well and I feel so much better now that someone knows.

[@skyjaden2975]

that's awesome 💜💜

[@Grabbearjet]

Ha well now I know too and guess what? I think you rock! ❤️🤗💪🏽

[@ytsejam58]

I'm so glad that was a positive experience. I have a friend from college I still talk to. I know they have a close friend who's trans so they're used to the whole coming out process. So the name was changed on my Facebook so obviously I'm going by a new name. But I havent told him yet so I just started "hey. It's (dead name) from school" and we just had a normal conversation. Then I talked about how Ive been discovering myself and coming out as trans.

[@MeSwanne]

1. being trans is not a symptom of mental health problems (the causality is often the other way around, stop taking Freud to seriously) 2. It's not my "real" name, it's my dead name 3. the only person that can truly know I'm trans is myself and it shouldn't be in the power of anyone else to deny ones identity (and with that treatment or a legal name change) 4. sexual orientation and gender identity are different things, I'm trans and also gay, which means I'm also part of the gay community! 5. our anger is legitimate. I'm a very privileged trans person and I find it hard to navigate through society, I can't tell you how it feels to other people, but it's hard and growing up trans can be very traumatizing. Just don't be condescending, when we talk about our struggles, but listen and act accordingly

[@StarrySkyyyy]

number 4 is SO important to know about and yet there is vey few people i've met that actually know that

[@jeanams07]

@zane mccullah one of my best friends is Trans, and a nonbianary person he just met asked him several times what his dead name was. 🤦‍♀️🙄 Like I feel any person with just a little bit of compassion built in them, and some very basic common sense, would know that if a person changes their name because they are Trans, obviously they don't want to talk about it or be referred by it... EVER. It's called a dead name for a reason... It's fucking dead. I am a Cis White Female who is Bi in a Hetro passing relationship, so I have absolutely no experiences to even begin to understand how this feels, and I get it. Why is it so hard for others to? I feel like humans overall are too curious, yet choose to be too ignorant, for their own good, lol. Honestly maybe Western Medicine needs to take a break for a while so natural selection will get rid of the stupid ones 😅.

[@Twistedredlab]

Being trans is most definitely a mental health problem

[@MonsterShibaBoi]

1. i cant wear my binder all the time.. just cause im not binding does not mean my pronouns change.. 2. its fine if you slip up with my pronouns, just correct it and move on. 3. using "they" as a "comfortable middle ground" makes me kinda sad.. hearing He/Him makes me feel so happy and accepted.. please just use my correct pronouns 4. yes i realized i was trans late but ive been thinking about this since 2013.. im still just as valid 5. no you dont need to know what my identity means for my boyfriend. its our exclusive relationship, he loves me and i love him. thats all that should matter.

[@adrienuhhhh]

Yeah, I can relate to number 3 a lot. Some people just use they/them pronouns for me and it makes me sad, not as sad as when they use female pronouns but I still feel really uncomfortable with people thinking it's ok to use they/them pronouns as a middle ground

[@JetPak808]

How do you personally feel about people/places that have a "default" pronoun for everyone until told specific pronouns?

[@adrienuhhhh]

@@JetPak808 well in my opinion, I think using they/them pronouns as default pronouns are really good, I just meant that I don't like it when I tell people to use Male pronouns and they continue to use they/them pronouns for me

[@MonsterShibaBoi]

@@adrienuhhhh my feelings exactly

[@JetPak808]

@@adrienuhhhh that's fair. I've met other trans people who get upset about being asked once they hit a point where they pass consistently, and I understand it to a certain degree, but it throws non-binary and non-passing folx under the bus.

[@nikhansen8775]

I would like cis ppl to know that gender dysphoria isn’t some completely incomprehensible affliction that “normal” people could never understand. Most people experience dysphoria at some point in their lives, and gender dysphoria is just another variety of it. Also, it’s possible to be cis and experience gender dysphoria too! Perhaps from being misgendered on the phone, or feeling weird about wearing a costume that doesn’t match your gender. For trans people, it’s often just a matter of scale. I’d also like them to know that all trans people experience dysphoria differently (and sometimes not at all!) and it can change from day to day, or from situation to situation.

[@nikhansen8775]

Oh! And also that the social isolation and discrimination we deal with is often much worse than the dysphoria and you can make being trans 100x easier by just being accepting

[@infinitivez]

Swear, 90% of my dysphoria is due to other people and society in general. If it wasn't for expectations of them, I'd likely hardly have a single bout about it.

[@ConstanzaRigazio]

Hi Nik, I totally agree with you on this. I'm a cis straight woman and I have experienced dysphoria, I believe it can even be called 'gender dysphoria' because I have felt it when I was made to wear dresses or 'traditionally feminine' clothes, or when I think about pregnancy or breastfeeding. I not only feel uncomfortable with the thought. I feel disgust, anguish, goosebumps and like I don't recognise myself. I know I'm not trans, I like being a woman, I just wished more people talked about this type of dysphoria, I think it would be beneficial to trans folks and to other gender non-conforming cis people like me.

[@butterflypooo]

Nik Hansen as a dancer, I experience a certain degree of body dysphoria. Not as much as trans ppl but I think any athlete would become aware of what they don’t like about their bodies. There are absolutely cis guys who become addicted to working out and push ups so that they can feel more comfortable in their body and have it reflect more how they feel on the inside. It’s not at all as severe as gender dysphoria but I agree that pretty much all humans experience it at some point in our lives. It’s just more socially acceptable for cis ppl to talk about it than trans ppl.

[@pastorshaynaappel5]

Hey Jackson- just stumbled on this amazing video as I prepare for this Sunday's service of worship. (Yes, there are churches that do truly welcome all!) Thank you...for the video, your courage to be fully and authentically who you were meant to be, and for sharing that amazing journey with us! I'd like to show your video in church this weekend (Unitarian Universalist Congregation in Milford (NH)). We don't record our services so it would be a one-and-done but I wanted to make sure it would be OK with you. (FYI, I'm the minister and gender queer, so it's an overall supportive if not fully aware congregation!) Thanks again Jackson! Rev. Shayna

[@ajaxtanner874]

1. Shut up about how you don't accept me, I no longer care and if you have a problem, just go away and leave me alone. I want to be surrounded by people who care about me and accept me 2. Do not ask me if my friend is a he/she or a she/he yes I have trans friends but you don't need to know what their genitals are. I don't care if you are the least transphobic and most supportive person ever, don't ask about my friends like that. 3. For the love of god, do not deadname anyone because you're annoyed at them. There are too many people who use deadnames to spite people they hate, if you have a problem with a trans person, use their correct name and pronouns. It is inhumane and dehumanizing to the person. I don't care if they are a rapist, use the right name and don't sink to their level 4. If you are curious as to how to help you friend, ask beforehand if you can ask certain questions and how much they are willing to explain because some of us who no longer care will answer any question you want, but like Jackson said, not everyone is as comfortable talking about this and do not treat it like a spectacle. If you want to stop influencing your friend's dysphoria, respectfully ask but make sure you're not being rude. 5. If you are the parent of a trans child, do not turn discussions about your child into one about you. My friend is trying to get his name legally changed and his mother refuses to sign because she is dealing with her own issues. Obviously you can have your own issues but in a discussion about trans people, and especially your trans child, do not turn that conversation into how it is affecting you. The situation is not about you, do not make it so.

[@asaabrahamagulnik574]

I am having that issue too, not because of age, but because it is really important that I get my father's blessing; Mom has dementia, so that is why I have emphasized Dad.

[@infinitivez]

1) When/if you find out we're trans, please for the love of all that is in the galaxy, don't tell us how cool we are, or how much you support us and/or our "choices". -sigh- It's quite alright to go "oh" and move on. A subtle affirmation is better than a fanboy response. 2) If you misgender us, and we correct you, please don't feel bad. It's ok if an assumption doesn't match our gender. We don't want 1,001 apologies, or you to ask our friends if we're ok. It happens, move it along. So long as you aren't doing it on purpose or maliciously, you're fine!

[@LittleDoobyBoy]

#1 thing: it's not a choice, there is a biological basis for it. edit: LMFAO I work at the apple store AND I'm trans...double the amount of annoying questions

[@Bushwhacker-so4yk]

Millennial Max Do you have a beard? The last time I went to the Apple Store, it seemed like everyone had a beard.

[@LittleDoobyBoy]

@@Bushwhacker-so4yk lmao im working on it ok dont pressure me :) it is true tho the hipster beard culture is strong with apple

[@kittycatmaniac4684]

And what exactly is that bioligical basis? Seriously, I'm GENUINELY curious. Nothing I've ever looked at has given me any reason to believe that.

[@whitneybailey9021]

@@kittycatmaniac4684 Male and female genitalia develop at one point during gestation; the brain's development into a characteristically "male" or "female" pattern (yes, there are differences) happens later. There can be changes in the uterine environment between those two stages (sometimes related to testosterone exposure or other hormones) that result in people whose genitals, or assigned sex, don't match their brains--who they know themselves to be in an existential sense. Brain scans show they DO, however, match the expected patterns of the gender with which they *identify.* There are also chromosomal variations well beyond the standard XX and XY; people can be XXY, XXX, XYY, XXYY, etc. All of these produce different combinations of physical characteristics and gender identity. So when someone transitions, they're not going from male to female or female to male. No, they're literally bringing their physical body into alignment with the male, female, or nonbinary internal self they've *always* been (even if that firm sense of identity develops later in life)--ie, who they are in their brains. To be flippant for a second, think of a clothing style that is utterly NOT you, and then think of a style that's the ultimate expression of you. This is not dissimilar; just a helluva lot more difficult to change--and far more important. Think of it this way: if it weren't biologically based and were actually a choice, who on earth would CHOOSE to be transgender in a society that treats them as we do?! And why would 40% of transgender individuals attempt suicide if they actually had a choice about whether to be transgender or not? Being transgender is as biological and irrefutable as the color of our eyes or hair, as our height, as the shapes of our noses or hands. All our other characteristics exist on a spectrum (and we allow people to change the shape of their noses, jowls, necks, boobs, butt, etc. all the time). So why not with gender too?

[@user-op3lo1ru8d]

WE ARE NOT A FETISH!!!!

[@honeybadgerricc]

FRR

[@georgeanthony4834]

No!You have a fetish!

[@Gabrielisme]

I've had multiple cishet people say they are okay with me being trans because they have a gay uncle, what does your gay uncle have to do with accepting me?

[@tiffanyfoxworth4333]

I think that many people dont fully understand it, and it's kinda lumped under the same category with LGBTQ and more community. No disrespect but Imma generation xer and this just wasnt something I interacted with in school, work, in my community. I know now that the trans community were all in a certain part of the city back then or hiding. I understand and will comply with respecting how people identify.

[@LuanMerlin]

1. Wanna make me happy? Call me by my correct name and pronouns. 2. Trans People who take medical steps to look more masculine/feminine do not "become a man/a woman", they are just getting closer to what they already are. 3. Looking like a woman doesn't make me one. 4. Being Non-Binary isn't something I do for fun and because I'm a rebel, and it is definitely hard to either have to hide or constantly explain your identity in most situations. 5. The simplest argument for that I exist is me existing.

[@bookgoddess1969]

I really liked your book! As I cis woman, there was so much I didn't know. Thank you for educating me!

[@aj_the_alto]

I loved this video and I think your words are really wise. I'm gonna try to put transgender day of remembrance on the morning announcements at my school.

[@Abdullah-nv9uh]

1- It's not something I can control. 2- I know myself better than you. 3- It's not about being far from God (Allah). 4- I'm human, deal with me as the gender I'm transition to (Ftm, Mtf). 5- My gender isn't the only topic I can talk about.

[@cameronwarmerdam4251]

That being said with no 5 if you "compliment" me by saying that you like me because I don't talk about my gender (unlike other trans people) it will be the only thing I bring up purely because you are being a dick towards the entire community.

[@Abdullah-nv9uh]

@@cameronwarmerdam4251 Some people if they want to talk with me, they just talk about my gender and transition.. It's like there is no other topic we can bring, as me liking games, travel, languages etc. I'm a person after all so I have multiple interests indeed.

[@cameronwarmerdam4251]

@@Abdullah-nv9uh That's really interesting. I'm not out out but most people know that I'm not cis and it's like a forbidden topic. Whenever anything gendered comes up everybody just gets uncomfortable and then I get uncomfortable. Some people really like this and give me those comments which are really uncomfortable because I'm literally repressing my identity here and trying to pass as cis. If it's a first time thing and it comes purely from a place of ignorance (kinda rare) I will usually just send them some resources and say that it's not a compliment. If they know it that I will most definetly go into detail of top surgery or HRT (something a less personal than my gender) to try to break that stigma (and its funny ngl). For reference, I live in a very conservative area that is not accepting. It must be really frustrating to have that be the only aspect of you that people are interested in. Like they sensationalize your existence which really sucks

[@Abdullah-nv9uh]

@@cameronwarmerdam4251 I live in a very conservative country too (Arabian Muslim one), so it's really hard to find people accept or talk about it. But when they do, they ask a lot and personally I don't like that to be honest. I don't present myself as transgender publicly though, used to but now I don't because I feel it's a private thing in my life not anyone can know about etc.

[@cameronwarmerdam4251]

@@Abdullah-nv9uh A lot of invasive questions can be really uncomfortable. Some people think it's ok to ask really personal questions and I'm not sure why really. I cant really hide my identity at this time so that's always fun. I've never really thought about what being trans is like in a Muslim country, I only have experience in rural America bible belt (an area in the south know for extreme religion and white nationalists). If you dont mind me asking, how do you find religion mixes with peoples reactions to you? If you dont want to answer that's totally fine, it is a more personal topic

[@kittysunlover]

"Let people be themselves, and respect and love them for who they are, not who you want them to be." Advice for a lifetime!

[@alexbeckley1397]

“They’ve probably been thinking about it for a long time, before they worked up the nerve to tell you” It’s officially been a year and a half since I realized I’m not cis, idk why this sentence made me think of that

[@Emil-eq5vf]

I wish my parents would be better at english so they could watch this video lol But my school just now got a ''bathroom for everone'' so I'm good

[@adrienuhhhh]

@DeviousRC 66 no, it should be women's restroom, men's restroom and gender neutral restroom

[@butterflypooo]

Emil some of his videos are captioned. Would that help ?

[@jimmybobbananaheadk5994]

I actually added german captions, if that helps you

[@JetPak808]

Five things my transmasc enby ass wants people to know: 1) Being trans isn't "a white thing," we exist across races and cultures 2) Gender is a social construct, but that doesn't mean it isn't real 3) Most trans people don't have "preferred" pronouns, they just have pronouns. (However, some people, myself included, have a range of acceptable, correct pronouns and a couple favorites within that list) 4) We just wanna live our lives, dude 5) "Sorted" by Jackson Bird is f*cking awesome, you should read it.

[@Grabbearjet]

Black trans lives matter💪🏽 thanks for helping me on my journey as a cis female to learn about the LGBTQ community

[@magickquill6724]

I am gender fluid assigned Male at birth and while i dont have a problem with people using any of the pronouns (as any could apply) want cis people men and women alike to stop treating me differently depending on how I Express myself. Ie the whole your so brave to dress in a skirt. Most of the time my attire doesn't indicate anything other then how much time I had to get ready that morning.

[@ichbinben.]

1. I'm not a library. I don't have every fact about trans people memorized. I only have my experience, if you want to know more than that, pick up a book or ask google. 2. If you want to hear about my experience, be polite. Respect my boundaries and accept that I might not be in the mood to tell people my complete life story every day. 3. Don't argue with me about my experience. You weren't there. You don't know, that's why you're asking me after all, so don't try to educate me on what being trans is "really" like. 4. It's not a phase, and even if it was, it's none of your business. Maybe you liking your new job is just a phase and you will hate it in a few months, but that doesn't mean I get to tell you that you actually hate your job, despite saying you love it. Sometimes things change, feelings change, and then that's just how it is, but that doesn't mean they weren't there for a time. 5. Being a man, being masculine and liking women aren't the same. Being a woman, being feminine and liking men aren't the same. Same goes for being non-binary and being androgynous. Nobody's identity is just one thing. I'm a man, I'm trans, I'm somewhat genderfluid (though I'm still figuring out that part of my identity), I'm pansexual/panromantic (though mostly interested in men), I'm a gamer, I'm a language-nerd, I'm a cat owner, I'm a vegetarian... Everybody's identity is informed by so many different aspects to varying degrees, we're way to complicated to be put in simple categories, and we've been complicated long before anyone came up with the term transgender.

[@lowestoflows2]

I have a non binary friend who while I respect and care about them, they are so mean and rude to me and when I have questions, they judge me by calling me dumb afterward even though I told them it hurts my feelings. :( Right now, we aren’t talking but I still want them to know I care and want to be friends with them. I’m very hurt and confused.

[@eustacia03]

Ok you're better than me because that Whamageddon road trip would definitely have changed that friendship for me.

[@MotoCat91]

Would have changed things for me too.. we'd be married by now

[@drummerstarboy]

@@MotoCat91 Pahahaha! 😂👏

[@AnnaRusson]

You know more trans people than you think you do. You know trans people who are closeted, and you know trans people who pass/are stealth, and you know trans people who you misgender without even realizing it. These people are all equally as trans as the trans people who have come out to you as trans or are otherwise visibly trans. We all deserve respect.

[@strawberrybaby4925]

Thank you for teaching people how to be better allies! Like you said, trans people aren’t obligated to constantly put in the emotional energy to help cis people out, so it’s really appreciated when someone takes the time to do so. Edit: this also goes for the trans people adding to the conversation in the comments

[@jbowie3928]

1. I'm not in the "wrong body" my body just isn't how it's supposed to be 2. I'm not an expert at the differences between men and women 3. I'm not your lgbtq+ lexicon 4. I'm not your "I can't be a biggot" excuse 5. I'm not just trans it's not all I am (just my personal ranking and thoughts)

[@deletedaccount910]

Being trans is so difficult :(

[@tylerene]

DeviousRC 66 Woah bro that’s so edgy 😩😩epic gamer moment

[@alexmallett4373]

Susho tell me about it

[@Twistedredlab]

Then don't be trans, see a therapist instead

[@Hauntingyoutube]

@@Twistedredlab wtf is wrong with you. Nothing is wrong with being trans.

[@TheEMG]

Thank you for this really helpful, clever video, Jackson. I’m going to buy your book now.

[@thatswhatshesaid8365]

I'm not trans, born & raised a woman lol but point is my twin got me a job with her a few years back, before I started she told me there's a trans woman there. I couldn't tell who that was until I knew the name. Anyway.. She was dope as hell, she would offer to make me coffee whenever I was tired, just so sweet.. etc just always mad chill. About 4 months of us working together and we took a smoke break together.. is when She mentioned she is trans. I said I know. "Wait how?" My twin! "Oh, I told her not to tell anybody" I reassured her that because I am my twin, that Im sure im the only one who she told. "It's all good, I don't see you any different. I respect you, to me you're still my amazing beautiful co-worker and your gender isn't why I love you.. " & Why I'm sharing this story is because this was the first time I actually met someone who told me they woke up in the wrong body, and I'm really happy I had her to show me that we are no different. Awesome video!! I enjoy the way you articulate your thoughts & feelings about whatever topic you are discussing, you have a way with words! :)

[@Astro_Terran]

It's not "preferred pronouns" or a "preferred name." It's my name and pronouns, and I expect you to treat them as such

[@butterflypooo]

UnusualPeopleStudios If a cis person asked to only be referred to by a short form of their name, like Amanda told everyone to only call her Mandy, ppl wouldn’t object at all. And yet it is so hard for cis ppl to properly name their trans friends and family. I get that slipping up sometimes happens but not even trying is the issue here.

[@greengrass1019]

No

[@teaspoon511]

1. not all my problems are trans related 2. i am not a lesbian 3. I can be successful 4. dont assume automatically that I will become a sex worker/drug addict just because I am trans.

[@liamwachsman2198]

1. Just because I might not fit your definition of what a man looks like, doesn't make me any less of one. 2. My pronouns are not optional 3.I'm still learning how to be "one of the guys" 4. My genitals/surgeries are none of your business 5. I'm a human, just like everyone else, I exist. although my experience may be different from the next guy, I'm still a human and I'm just trying to live my best life.

[@ethancorrigan1410]

I'm not trying to be a man. I just stopped trying to be a woman so that I could finally just be myself.

[@rowell669]

I'm a cis woman. I'm just here trying to understand because transgender people have been a subject of discussion so much, I want to know what I'm discussing and how best to lend my support. I confess, sometimes I do not always understand what I am reading, possibly because I have adhd, but also because the information can be really confusing. But i am trying.

[@boatsandcurrent]

The five things I wish cis people knew about trans folks: 1. It's really not cool to tell other people about a person's gender identity or sexuality! (Surprisingly, this one is REALLY HARD for people to grasp, at least in my personal circle of cis people I know) 2. It's difficult and costly to transition. Even if you're lucky enough to live around a clinic that uses an informed consent model, it's still possible to face transphobia when picking up prescriptions or talking with insurance companies. Many insurance companies don't cover the cost of hormone replacement therapy or gender confirming surgeries, and none of that is cheap. And don't even get me started on how much name changes can cost, especially if you want to get a new passport. Socially transitioning is difficult too--telling people about your gender identity feels weird and uncomfortable and it's anxiety inducing, even if you're sure they'll react well! 3. My humanity as a trans person isn't dependent on how you, a cis person, feel about trans people. 4. Those "I identify as a [random object]" jokes cis people like to tell whenever trans people get brought up in a conversation really aren't funny. 5. Pronouns exist and are used regularly in almost all languages whether you "believe" in them or not. And related to this, I've heard a lot of cis people use the language "I identify as he/him" (or other pronouns if they use a different set of pronouns) when they introduce themselves in a space where they're asked for their pronouns. Maybe this is just the language nerd in me getting all nit picky about this, but it's not possible to identify AS a set of pronouns--you're a person who uses those pronouns. Language that makes a little more sense is "I'm male identifying, so I use he/him pronouns" or even just "I use he/him pronouns." I see it as one of those "they a little confused, but they got the spirit" kind of things whenever it happens.

[@asaabrahamagulnik574]

I identify with #2 so much, and it is really difficult not passing; I also feel like I am part of a marginalized group within a marginalized group; for whatever reason, transgender women tend to dominate conversations and inadvertently discourage the transgender men from talking about their own topics...it's like gender reversal in the world of transgender people within their own community.

[@alex-hehim-1413]

Really glad to see so many people mentioning that it isn't preferred pronouns, it's just pronouns. One thing I would add: trans men can have "feminine" interests like knitting and make-up and skin care and whatever else people think is "only for girls". Trans women can have interests that are perceived as more "masculine" too. JUST LIKE CIS PEOPLE. A trans guy that likes pink isn't any less of a guy. I know so many trans people that delayed coming out because they didn't think that being a trans girl that also lifts weights or works on cars could be valid, even though they completely agree that cis girls can be into whatever they like. This is obviously a whole extra sexism issue, but it keeps me up at night and I am sick of it. Trans people can have whatever hobbies, faviourite colours, opinions, hairstyles etc that they damn well please. Just like cis people. Trans people are no different. Also, a lot of trans people have in-jokes about names. I only really know about the FTM and nonbinary ones, but I am sure there are similar ones in the MTF groups too. Just because we have jokes about our names, doesn't make it okay or a random cis person to laugh at our names too. Sure, you might know 20 trans people called Alex, or names that rhyme with Aiden, but those people chose those names for a reason and it's not okay to laugh at them for it. If you have something you are self conscious about, you might joke about it with your friends but also feel terrible if a stranger says the same thing. Trans people are no different. And finally: Yes. I am trans. This does not mean that the only thing I want to talk about is gender. When I was just working myself out, I may have talked about gender identity more than your other friends, but I HAVE OTHER INTERESTS. I am not just my gender. There are so many other interesting things about me. Talk to me about my plants, my sewing, what I have read lately, any of my 200000 hobbies, what I think about the world. I am more than my gender, just like cis people. Trans people are no different.

[@asaabrahamagulnik574]

Also, it might "become my interest" if I need to constantly push to be recognized by my pronouns and name, as well as if insensitive /inappropriate comments are being made. It "becomes me" when you don't validate my existence.

[@nos5915]

1. My name is my name. The name on my birth certificate is not my name. 2. My pronouns are they/them. Not she, not he, please. Stop. (you're ok though, 3rd-period teacher. You're trying, and that's more than most people can say. I love you.) 3. Just because I came out at thirteen doesn't mean it's a phase. 4. And if it is, does that even matter? 5. I love you, even if you hate me. Because the alternative is hating you, and that doesn't work. I only hurt myself.

[@Dizzy_frog]

I realised I was Trans when I was 14 but I was very ‘girly’ as a child and I thought people would think it was a phase. I’m now 17 and I’m still not fully out. I find myself with an amazing group of friends and a GSA that support me but my family is a grey area. I think my Dad would be more accepting but my mum has always made comments about how short my hair is and my clothing. My life is a sliding closet and I really need to open the door.

[@ajaxtanner874]

hey man or lad if you're enby, good luck on when or if you come out to your parents and I hope that if you do you mom will support you or be fast in learning to accept you

[@Tail472]

I am a trans women. I suffer from mental health issues. And I'm considered lucky.

[@butterflypooo]

Jessika Summer you are beautiful!! A lot of ppl have mental health issues and don’t even address them. It takes courage to reflect and be honest w urself. You are part of the solution.

[@robertrist2300]

I am glad you are doing ok good guy and wishing you happy holidays till your next video

[@OoOcíon]

1) don’t talk over me 2) I already know that thing you saw on google 3) if I’m being misgendered pls speak up bc I won’t 4) don’t talk about my body/ height 5) mistakes happen it’s ok

[@Vic2point0]

Transgenderism remains a wholly incoherent worldview. One in which people confuse gender itself with gender roles and norms (or appeal to circular reasoning). One in which they insist others are incorrect in using terms like "man" or "woman" while being unable to provide workable definitions for these terms themselves. And one in which they often equate disagreement with hate, which is not only illogical but dangerous.

[@margotk6184]

PLEASE READ AND HELP A BIG SIS OF A CLOSETED TRANS BOY hi i'm a cis girl but my "sister" (?) recently came out to me as a trans man (?) and i have like a loooot of questions TT 1. they (i'm gonna use they cos well the reason is in the following) just came out to me and no one else knows so idk if i should call them a girl or a man already in front of them AND others . they didn't explicitely told me they want me to use he/him pronouns but they told me their new name... 2. is it bad that i told some other ppl? like i told my hs friends but like they barely talk to my sibling once in a year... i really needed to talk about it to someone bc i'm unable to keep my mouth shut when i'm excited about smth and i have quite a few worries so i needed to talk about it but i kinda feel bad about telling my friends? but like they know about my sibling being trans and about their new name and the process of preparing their coming out and all... idk i feel like i outed them? but at the same time they will prob never know and i trust my friends and the chance they meet is low but the chance they have a deep enough convo for this to be mentionned is well... 0% 3. i don't have any trouble calling trans ppl by their name and using their pronouns and when the passing is "good enough" i don't have trouble considering them as their experienced gender like in my head, but with my sibling it feels so hard... like when they tell me too i will call them by their new name and correct pronouns without an hesitation (although a few mistakes) but i still struggle to realise that they're a boy? and accept it but not like respect and being okay with it but like... detach myself from the vision i have of my sibling as a girl bc i saw them grow up as girl.. 4. i don't fear that my parents will still love my sibling and respect them after they come out, but i think it's going to be a little hard for my mom bc she often tries to make my sibling wear dresses and skirts not to look as a girl but bc they would look pretty in it, and i'm scared she might have a little trouble getting used to it... and my sibling is 14yo and idk if i should help with that or let them fix it together? bc i feel the need to protect my sibling from everything, even more now that they came out to me bc ik how hard this world is to trans and i don't want them to get hurt, but at the same time ik i tend to see my sibling as a child, like in my mind they're still 11yo, so i don't really know if they're young enough that i have to help a bit or if they're old enough to take care of it by themselves? 5. i think it's the last question i don't really think of anything else sooo.... i want to give them a lil present when they will come out and i thought of a banner with the colors of the trans flag but like it would be small patterns instead of just plain trans flag, so it looks discreet and it can pass as a basic blue pink white banner when in fact it's the trans flag but i really can't find any idea :( if you have any lmk you're probably gonna tell me to ask them about it but i'm not really sure... it's still smth they seem to struggle to talk about and i don't want to push them so i prefer asking someone else instead of overwhelming them with questions when they probably have enough questions in their head...

[@LuanMerlin]

I have some things to add to my 5 things: 6. I understand if you need time to get used to my new name and pronouns (especially because I changed my name like 2 or 3 times) - if I correct you, I am most likely not angry with you. In fact, I am a very patient and understanding person, who needed some time to know that it's totally fine to want to feel as comfortable as possible. 7. Just because I don't correct you doesn't mean I am fine with being misgendered. Sometimes I am just exhausted from correcting others. 8. This still doesn't mean that you're allowed to misgender me on purpose.

[@Twistedredlab]

No one needs time, if you were a guy transitioning to a "female" you're still a male! Take a blood test and it will infact come back as male DNA, nothing changes, you just had a surgery thats it.

[@asaabrahamagulnik574]

Also, there is a difference between misgendering because you don't try and those who make the effort but get it wrong.

[@cottoncandy-clouds3756]

I really appreciated this video and thank you for your contribution to help educate cis people. I'm transgender and pansexual - two mind blowing topics to attempt to explain to anyone outside the transgender community.

[@lucascrow348]

I'M SO MAD I'VE WATCHED A FEW OF YOUR VIDEOS IN A ROW AND JUST REALIZED YOU WROTE THE BOOK I'M READING RIGHT NOW 😂 epic fail from Lucas over here

[@amethystloucks]

I so wish I could make it to your event, but I'm working at another NYPL branch at that time!!!!!!!!

[@butterflypooo]

Congrats on ur event!! I wish I could come. Your book was amazing and I’m going to recommend it to as many friends as possible. Thanks for making a space online for ppl to feel accepted and have a good laugh ❤️

[@danielutzon4870]

Trans day of rememberance is on my birthday, and im turning 20 as well. My parents really said trans rights huh List of stuff cis people should know: 1. Im not a 3rd gender, im a guy. Also dont do that "she/he" shit just say he when you're talking about me. 2. Not trendy, not fun, id prefer not o have to go through this 3. No, im not doing this because im a lesbian who is ashamed. Shoutout to my neighbour for saying this 4. Please dont ask me "how does that work then?" when i mention having a partner, what the fuck man 5. Being misgendered isnt just something we find annoying, it makes us deeply uncomfortable

[@xyrilria]

“Cis” is not a slur. Like, bruh. No.

[@MissiveCauseIMissYou]

I know this one is obvious, but gender=/= sexuality. My parents actively avoid talking about any lgbt+ topics (the one time I WANT to educate and answer questions, of course I can't..." but the one time I was able to have a proper discussion with my father he kept somehow conflating me being nonbinary with me being ace, and it got to be all kinds of confusing and awkward

[@Em-df4ww]

I am privileged with lessons of empathy with my trans loved one. Thanks for your channel.

[@fatimarahman6395]

Your book's really helpful for people with misconceptions about trans people . This is really a way to change the society's perspective of genders...

[@sunmarsh]

Is it just me or is Jackson looking more qt that usual? 👀

[@kirstinsandblom9788]

Thank you for this! (From a cis person trying to learn how to not be accidentally mean)

[@lightlozabow]

The main thing I want cis people to know is that gender is not a choice. I didn't choose to be an enby. I don't want to feel this way. In fact, I often hate it. But I can't change it. I can only choose to accept myself and hope that others accept me too.

[@atmoak7063]

1. “I’m a trans boy” “So you have a pp?” “No I want pp” “I still don’t get it” 2. Everyone experiences dysphoria differently: mine goes through phases of absolutely horrible to just fine 3. Everyone’s transition looks different 4. Don’t doubt my identity (I’ve thought about it a lot over the past 4 years) 5. Show some respect for trans people, especially trans women of color since they’ve been targeted so much recently

[@SarahM-lw2gd]

I heard someone say their pronouns are "he, she, and they." How would I know when to use which one? Would they tell me?

[@stonedimmaculate2942]

u can try to use them interchangeably!

[@Cosmiccaturn]

Yea using them interchangeably is good, or you can just ask what they prefer for that day. It never hurts to ask :) And if they get pissed at you for asking that's probably on them

[@SarahM-lw2gd]

@@stonedimmaculate2942 Thank you!

[@SarahM-lw2gd]

@@Cosmiccaturn Thanks for the help:)

[@kazfreedman9964]

Hey I just want to say this to someone, I’m Ash I use they/them pronouns and I’m non-binary. One day I’m going to say that I’m real life.

[@silasgarcia6810]

i think i saw you in salem mass a week before halloween. i wanted to say hi but i didn’t haha i hope you had fun!!

[@Noah-yj9uu]

Hey, just a heads up: the link to the info about tdor doesn’t work. It just leads to an unclaimed website? Great video tho :)

[@jackisnotabird]

Whoops, fixed. Thanks!

[@FurryEskimo]

(I know this is long, I’m just trying to improve. Skip to the end if you like, my last sentence or two probably surmise this fairly well) So I’ve attended a lot of events for trans people, gays, minority races and religions, etc etc etc etc, but as a cis guy I find a lot of people assume I know very little, or a difference in opinion leads to confrontations very quickly within these communities. I have foreign friends, those in different industries and parts of the world, friends in different political parties, etc, and generally find socializing in different groups helps educate myself about those perspectives that are not my own. Trouble is, LGBTQ+ communities often come across as some of the most, unexpectedly hostile I’ve come across.. Differences in perspective often result in accusations of ignoring what the other person’s saying, or are interpreted as attacks on the other person’s safety. I’m looking for references to improve this, but none of the resources I’ve found have been very useful and I’m looking for feedback. Part of the issue is the resources I do find often make claims that those who oppose the LGBTQ+ community fear them or make other similar claims about the other group, but if I talk to those groups they rarely seem to align with the accusations being made about them, instead there’s usually a general tone of frustration, not fear. The desires of the trans community are also often worded in a way that seems to accidentally (but consistently) cause friction, such as “trans women are women” while also agreeing that “trans women aren’t claiming to be naturally born women.” The term women comes up so often, but what the trans community wants it to mean doesn’t seem to align with the way most intend the word to be used. I heard this come up recently regarding a medical group that treated women but a trans woman wanted treatment there. This was an issue because the disease did not affect her body the same as a naturally born woman’s, and then fighting ensued. If at a biological level they need treatment for a man’s body, why can’t we just give them what they need and move on? I hope my tone sounds polite because I’m genuinely trying to listen to the trans community and understand the reasons people are upset, but the arguments I’m hearing don’t always seem to make sense.. The most common example I hear is allowing trans women into female only spaces. I don’t care, but I understand why others get nervous, because someone with male DNA and supposedly male instincts is perceived differently, regardless of their own self perceptions. Judging people based on their sex to determine their dangerousness has never been a practice I agree with, but I understand why it worries a lot of people. So, is the trans community’s goal to allow people into the safe spaces they feel/are most safe in? I’m fine with that, but then we need to ensure that system isn’t abused, right? But I hear this line of thought also makes people get really mad since they think it implies trans people are dangerous. How am I meant to discuss this politely and make people feel heard if a seemingly normal line of questioning is constantly being interpreted as attacks on their community?

[@philliphandshoe4801]

Im not trans im gay and 22 but i still support you all the way.

[@leannedixon1044]

I wish I was ready to come out to my parents :( but I’m so scared

[@carmelahudson1683]

Okay too the first one my favorite thing is intersex and trans butterflies! Trans caterpillars will be a caterpillar in one sex and then when their butterflies they’ll be another! I’ve seen it myself with my monarch butterflies!

[@archiemb6510]

I never know the LGBTQ+ dates XD this one caught me by surprise yet again!

[@masens.9010]

1. Trans people can be binary OR non-binary. Not everyone is a man or woman. Please stop saying things like “ladies and gentlemen”. Non-binary trans folks are constantly left out of the most popular phrases. Don’t “ma’am” and “sir” strangers, either. I know you’re just trying to be polite, but when you work at the LGBTQ+ clinic’s pharmacy and are calling me “ma’am” when I’m picking up my testosterone prescription, it makes me more than a little bit upset. 2. You already use singular they/them pronouns (maybe every day) without realizing it. 3. A lot of non-binary trans people medically transition too. Non-binary doesn’t translate to “doesn’t have body dysphoria” and binary doesn’t translate to “medically transitioning in a single, uniform way”. Dysphoria can be social and physical. A lot of binary trans folks don’t medically transition, and a lot of non-binary trans folks do! Some of us take hormones and get surgeries that you associate with binary trans men or trans women, but that doesn’t make us any less non-binary trans. Dysphoria is complicated and different for everyone. 4. If you’re a cis person who misgenders me multiple times after being corrected, I’m going to misgender you back- so you can get a little taste of what it may feel like for me. It doesn’t even scratch the surface, but sometimes it gets my point across. Pronouns are not a “nice” optional thing that you use only for people you like or respect. Do we (as a society) misgender cis criminals? Nope. Not even the worst of the worst. So don’t misgender trans people that you dislike, for whatever reason. Pronouns are pronouns; just use the right ones for us. They’re mandatory (not “preferred”) unless we state otherwise. Some people are cool with multiple pronouns, some people aren’t. 5. Realize that when you say “trans people always make everything about gender”, that we are literally living in a world that was shaped by cis people who are obsessed with gender. Just because we know who we are and what we’re comfortable with does not mean that we’re “obsessed with gender”. If anything, most of us would probably prefer that you stop gendering every article of clothing, every scent, every color, etc. It would also be great if we stopped equating anatomy/genitals with gender. Gender reveals are NOT gender reveals. You can’t know someone’s gender before they do, and especially not before they’ve even been born. Wait for your kid to tell YOU who they are! Whether they turn out to be a trans or cis girl, trans or cis boy, or a non-binary trans kid, their self-awareness should be praised and encouraged, not punished. Whether you realize it or not, trans people (binary & non-binary) have always existed, and we always will.

[@joshuagregson1055]

super articulate--thanks!

[@fasad195]

Thank u for your video! I never get to hear from binary trans people, only other enby and cis people.

[@outcastforever1876]

I would like it if people would stop using my death name. Because it hurts my heart Everytime they use it.

[@IceKreacher]

D chan same. I've always hated my name. My mum calls me by a nickname which I hate most of all. I started using my full name in grade school and into adulthood. She still calls me that nickname I hate. I've changed my name to something completely different now - socially. It's on my resume and everything. I don't expect her to use it. I can't change it legally yet because where I'm from you can't change your name if you have debt and I have debt.

[@emmetgraham466]

Today I'm hoping to come out to my dad as a boy, not a girl. I'm hoping I will be accepted, though I know I won't. It's just not his thing. I'm hoping I will be able to do it. And I'm hoping I won't be kicked out of the house in the future becuase of it. Just becuase I'm gonna be 15 doesn't mean it's none the less different if that it's a phase. I've been feeling this way for a long long time. 7th grade summer I felt wrong in those skinny jeans I forced myself to like. 8th grade it felt wrong to wake up to go to school and put on eyeshawdow. Now it's freshman year and it feels wrong to be me. I hate my body and my gender and I hope my parents will still accept me as me. The girl the raised not knowing she would soon be a he. I hope and hope this reaches you jack, a struggling trans woman, the depressed trans man, the confused questioner. I will update you all if I follow through

[@emmetgraham466]

I came out to my father and he told me I'm not trans and I'm to young. That's what they all say. I'm not even upset just dissapointed. I'm tired of him controlling my life. The second I have a opinion or choice is wrong. I'm wrong. I'm not even crying becuase I'm used to this. Anyways, have a good day

[@ab5truse]

I am an aromantic man (still figuring out heh) and I constantly misgender my friend and other people, and I feel so stupid and bad after I do. they always forgive me, but still, I hate it and it hits me hard. It's a problem I'm working on and I don't misgender them any longer.

[@Lisuje16]

One I feel like needs shouting from the rooftop: TRANS PEOPLE DIDN’T CHOICE TO BE TRANS NOR ARE THEY DOING IT FOR ATTENTION OR TO “BE SPECIAL” Many trans people (but not all) experience gender dysphoria and it’s awful. That (and transphobes sour attitudes) make us feel anything but special.

[@gamestreak2021]

Believe you exist nd don't believe in hate comments. Also for every hate comment you MUST SAY a good thing about yourself!! :) and take those compliments about yourself deeply. ILYSMMM!! lets go LGBTQIA+!!

[@ytsejam58]

1. I'm not trying to pretend to be something I'm not. Being trans. The things I wear, the way I carry my body, move, and talk make me feel more like me. 2. Trans is a blanket term to say anything that's not cisgender. Every trans persons level of transness varies 3. Crossdressing is not the same as drag. Drag is an artform. Crossdressing is buying clothes that werent designed for your birth gender. If clothes weren't segregated by gender, there would be no crossdressing. 4. People have abused and perverted the idea of what a trans person is. But don't let the bad extremes define a people. We are for the most part just like anyone else. 5. And this is just me personally speaking. I'm not trying to jump the fence, I just want to be able to comfortably float in the middle of the fence.

[@andrewheibeck5728]

Okay so this is a legitimate question about the 4th item coming from a straight, white male. When you say trans women are women and trans men are men, you're just saying that they should just be referred to as such right? Like they are either a man or a woman depending on how they identify and should not be referred to as a "trans male" for example? I'm sorry if this is a silly question, it was just kind of the way you worded it that threw me off. Thanks in advance for the reply.

[@IceKreacher]

He said trans men are men and trans women are women because some people are confused by the terminology. Thinking that trans men are women in a man's body who transition into a female body and vise versa. But it is in fact the opposite. A trans man is a man who was born into a female body and takes (or doesn't take) steps to transition into the body that matches their gender identity.

[@IceKreacher]

Andrew Heibeck Or, as some cis people might incorrectly ask what their "real" gender is, meaning their assigned gender at birth. Thinking that a trans man was assigned at birth a man and a trans woman was assigned at birth a woman. Which, clearly doesn't make sense. Which is why trans men and women were born as the gender they are but assigned at birth the opposite.

[@Elvisfan12345]

it is not ok to ask what's our equipment below the belt

[@Trangents]

My 5 Things: 1. Be wary of using the term “transgenderism” as it suggests that being transgender is a philosophy a person can adopt or discard. Usually, this term is wielded by transphobes who don't “hate” trans people but just want to abolish this “philosophy”. 2. Unless a legal name is required, you can generally relax and let people go by the name they wish to be known by. Not being able to use your name can stunt your social, academic and career growth in ways that might be difficult to parse for those not experiencing this barrier. 3. “Trans” is an adjective. Just like a woman can be fast, smart, tall, pretty, she can also be trans. And just as tall women don't take womanhood away from short women, trans women don't take womanhood from other women. 4. Being trans and transitioning are not the same thing. Transitioning is an approach that can provide a trans person more comfort and joy in their life and less of the bad stuff. But whether or not they transition, a trans person is still trans. And there isn't one way to transition. 5. The pronouns you use for a person let them know how you see them. That's why it's so important. It isn't a frivolous thing - it's deeply telling.

[@gasstationsnack]

WE'RE NOT BOTTOMS THANK YOU

[@poweraverage5773]

I'm not a boy who wants to be a girl I am a girl.

[@omnichrome9784]

Alexa Turner 👍🏼☺️

[@mr.trashpanda842]

One ❤ equals a moment of silence for all the trans lives lost

[@masens.9010]

Oh and whether you want to accept it or not, non-binary trans people ARE trans, if we say we are. I’m sick of non-binary trans rights being left out of conversations about “trans rights” more broadly. I experience transphobia on a near-daily basis, I’ve socially and medically transitioned, but aside from that (and more importantly) I don’t identify with the gender I was assigned at birth. That makes me trans! I was assigned female at birth and I’m not a woman. The literal definition of trans is: “across or BEYOND” your gender assigned at birth. You can be anywhere along the gender spectrum and be trans. Binary trans people aren’t “more trans”, or vice versa. All trans people are valid and deserve basic rights. We all belong here. We don’t need to have childish fights over “who is more trans” or “who is more valid”. The fighting inside our own community has to stop. If you’re in the position to do so, please lift up the voices of trans people who are marginalized the most. That includes non-binary trans people, disabled trans people, and trans people of color

[@asaabrahamagulnik574]

I also don't like that people only are referring to women when talking about abortion rights; just say that the pregnant person gets the choice of what they want to do with their pregnancy.

[@naomigreen2147]

Trans women are not drag queens, and we don't all want to be drag queens. Some drag queens do go onto life as full-time women, and there are things we have in common, but that is not a necessary or sufficient condition. I personally want to be Katniss Everdeen, not a contestant on "Ru Paul's Drag Race." Being transgender is not a sexual orientation. I am a gay trans woman, which means that I am a woman, and I only fancy women. Gender is who you want to go to bed as, sexuality is who you want to go to bed with. We did not all know when we were toddlers. We did not all used to play in our Mums' dresses or shoes. Fighting against misogyny and fighting against transphobia (and also homophobia) go hand-in-hand. All three prejudices are based on the absurd notion that the stuff between your legs should somehow dictate who you are. Trans women need women's spaces just as much, if not more so, than cis women, and likewise for trans men. Nobody's personhood or identity depends on their genitals.

[@asaabrahamagulnik574]

and nobody talks about internalized transphobia

[@Kartracer95]

I'm a trans Man. I started out as a man and want to transition into a better man.

[@AleesatheIsraeli]

Yes...

[@Clowngoeshonk]

Hi am 13 and am trans my mom told the school whitout my permission and I hate her for it but it fine but it was my thing to tell if I was contable

[@asaabrahamagulnik574]

Maybe she just wanted you to be treated like the person you identify as? I totally understand the conflicted emotions that you may have involving her telling the school. (Were you going to the school before you identified, or is this a new school?)

[@beanoneya]

Enby here, on T, afab, and use she/her. So one of your different weird trans umbrella folks.

[@viviannichols3582]

I completely disagree. “Last Christmas” is an unforgivably godawful song, and that “friend” should have been stopped.

[@jesseberry7521]

1 dont ask me what parts i have 2 respect the pronouns 3 im not a pedophile just bc im a boy in a girls body 4 im not a what im a boy missing parts 5 when someone tells you their pronouns use the right ones so they dont want to off themselves

[@asaabrahamagulnik574]

Also, transgender women have just as much right to participate in sports as their gender identity.

[@findingtheo17]

1. Stop asking me what’s in my pants 2. I’m insecure about my chest…stop asking about it 3. Not every trans person is the same 4. Just respect my pronouns…it’s cruel not to 5. I’m not trying to make you trans (people legitimately think that)

[@greengrass1019]

I'm straight

[@roannix2101]

So apart from the basic exist THE WAITING LISTS when I came out I got asked again and again if I was on T or had top surgery..... yes I wish it happened as quickly as I you think it happens TRANSGENDER ISNT A DIFFERENT GENDER dont put male female or transgender on forms DONT ASK ME ABOUT MY GENITAL I dont ask you DYSPHORIA IS HARD TO DESCRIBE

[@haideefernandez8757]

Thanks so much for this video. I have learned so much about transgender.

[@victoriahades8310]

One if their child is actions and emotions where they are round specifically what gender identity what they feel comfortable for a simple for a trans woman someone call her she see the motion and in the face expression when she called a she refers to a transgender male and seed the same concept and if the parents will lather kiss to wear the clothes what makes them feel comfortable tohow they see the self what gender they see their self as loud to kiss to express it and you'll see how happy that they will be

[@KarutoZoaldyeck]

1. Please man Im trans realize

[@flittedacrossmybrain8584]

I’m male. I’m not cis anything; use the term if you like, but I consider it invalid: If you were to attempt to apply to me in person, you’d be talking to yourself; I’d simply not acknowledge you. Not ALL cultures have trans people; I’m a member of a Native American tribe wherein homosexuality was virtually absent, historically, and there is not a single instance of this phenomenon you speak to. It’s important that you understand that even ONE exception to a sweeping generality invalidates it entirely. Trans men want to be seen as men but insist on being recognized as trans men. What is it you really want? You can’t have it both ways; sorry, pal, but it’s just not going to happpen. Being a man has a hell of a lot more to it than simply believing you’re one on the inside, and desiring to alter your physical apppearance. Furthermore, what right do you think you have to demand that men the world over-biological males only-don’t have the right to guard jealously every aspect of what they share among themselves, and legitimately keep it from you-or from women, for that matter? You demand this same level of respect for the intimate aspects of who you are. You can knock and knock, and keeep on knocking, and you’re never getting into the club. Wanna hang out in the men’s locker room? Ain’t happening. Wannna be one of the boys? Nope. What you seem oblivious to is guys like me: I can trace my patrilineal descent perfectly-father; grandfather; great-grandfather; and so on-all the way back to my original forbear, who set fooot in this land 16 September1738. And from there the record continues in Germany and France backward in time for ages. My mother’s people, the Native American side of my DNA, have been in this land for 30,000 years, and we have a proud heritage of men who warred, hunted, and made little copies of themselves, with the agreeable consent of our wives, naturally. Who are you to challenge that? I don’t condone violence or discrimination, but it’s folly for you to expect to serve as a caregiver to children of men such as I. I don’t hate you; I just disagree with you in the strongest posssible terms. Be yourself? By all means. But if men such as I say , “Be yourself, by yourself,” you’d do well to believe we mean it. We do.