5 things you should know BEFORE dating someone in the Military

[@BritCon2]

If you’re seeing this in 2021 I wrote a book! It’s called, Finding Joy in Loneliness - Experiencing True Joy in the Midst of Difficult Seasons. If you are about to go through military life or you already are, I would encourage you to read it! It’s faith based, but I truly believe anyone can get something out of it! Love you guys! ❤️ amzn.to/35qYr6Q

[@mirembeflavia7237]

Thanks for the book,let me get ready,l also need and want a military man read to marry me

[@soothingwithshenz8789]

I want to publish mines as well

[@ashtonjairo2063]

You all probably dont care but does anybody know of a tool to log back into an instagram account..? I stupidly forgot my password. I would love any tips you can offer me!

[@germainepuerto3444]

two years in a relationship with a navy guy and he does everything he could just to spend time/talk to me. I am so blessed to have him.

[@annappleeater]

Awww That's great. I love to hear it

[@nonhlanhlamaribe7050]

Im in lice with this guy im from South Africa 🇿🇦hes from Gorgia hes far bt we communicate like texting or calling, we love each other, so im waiting for him ❤️

[@yolandamzizi4138]

@@nonhlanhlamaribe7050😭😭omw, I’m watching this video cause I feel like the distance is too much for me, plus they undergo training at times and aren’t allowed to use their phones for a few hours, plus the time difference. How do you manage? I’m a fellow South African

[@pepe340]

@@yolandamzizi4138me too ..mine is in German and I’m in USA ..not sure right now

[@JennyMarsh-zu2zb]

I'm glad for you I'm so lonely all the time

[@YazooYazii]

I know what you mean... I was at a show 2 days ago.alone. the singer said "kiss your loved ones you're here with" everybody kissed and hugged. I sat there and hold the necklace he gave me. he's not here on my birthday I dont care about all that. I love him.

[@katielynn9909]

YazooYazii awww :(

[@nikkirivera7541]

Been on 5 deployments (infantry) with mine married 3 beautiful babies he is now a Drill instructor and comes home once a week! But couldn’t be any happier! Our relationship has come a long way. Ladies it’s possible, you both really just gotta support one another. Blessings to you all!

[@BritCon2]

Thanks for sharing your story!! Love hearing success stories! It is totally possible! ❤️

[@nikkirivera7541]

Brit+Con thank you! Also thanks for sharing a video about it not to many woman know what it’s like and how much more work it takes to be in a relationship with someone in military! Your awesome blessings your way

[@ellie2041]

1. Its gonnna be hard because you won't be able to have a lot of time together 2. Can't always text or call them all the time 3. You feel lonely a lot( need self-assurance/ confidence) 4. They are dedicated partners 5. They get stressed a lot you need to encourage them

[@elliot3751]

I don’t like the statement “As a Christian I don’t feel lonely, because the lord is always with me.” Because I am too a Christian and do believe the lord is always with us. But feeling lonely has nothing to do with religion, and I feel lonely all the time, and no it’s not “A faith test” it’s human nature. Everyone feels lonely, because emotion is human nature. But as for this video, it was good.

[@BritCon2]

Wappy Laughy Thanks for your comment! I 100% agree! This was 20 year old Brittani who was young and naive haha. In my newer videos I address my struggle with loneliness and how God has used that to deepen my relationship with Him. Also how we were created for relationship with the Father and so loneliness is a natural occurrence to our separation from Him. Thanks for pointing this out though. Wish I would have spoken this differently, but had no idea this video would be seen by so many people haha.

[@CRISMELY]

I could agree. I dont feel lonely because the Lord fulfills it. But I do miss him. But don't feel lonely. God has told me before, "You shouldn't feel lonely, I'm always with you." But of course we should or could miss them. ♡♡♡ But I love it. It is always blissful to see him. Known him for 11 years. Dated for 2 years. He just left back to the Fort today. 😍 I believe God can help with loneliness if we ask. Why wouldn't God give us that? He is the God of the impossible! But I still understand what you mean. Depends on the person I guess?

[@brandyyoung5085]

Amen to that x 2

[@bf1321]

It's very scary for me because I don't want to lose my boyfriend. We met in highschool and knowing he's going to be far is a concept that hurts me.

[@kalebmendez1460]

Same but for a girl because she wants to join the Army but I’m joining the Marines doing different jobs so it’s gonna be hard being away a lot of the time

[@aizamaesalazar9240]

Before I started dating a marine, I really had to ask myself if dating a military man would be for me. I finally decided, I could. I definitely can wait for him because I know it would be so worth it. As for anyone who literally just wants to date someone just cause their in a military please do not do that. It’s not a fairytale. It truly is hard when along the way you gotta learn that there will be times you won’t be able to talk to them every single day. I’ve also learned how much commitment, communication, and trust that’s needed. If you have God centered in your relationship you guys will truly last. ❤️ God is love and love is eternal.

[@pinzjoe17]

Hi Azia, I am a casting producer who is working on a military show about long distance dating. We are going through the ups and downs of it and my job is to find people who are going through it. Below is the casting notice for the series. If you are interested, just email me. Do you want to tell your story about the ups and downs of dating someone in the military? Have you only met each other face-to-face a handful of times or haven’t met at all? Do you want to be an inspiration to those who are going through a long distance love connection? Then this is the show for you A new TV series for a major cable network are looking for people in a long-distance relationship in the military. We want to go inside what it’s like to date someone stationed in a different part of the world. Whether you are both in the military at different locations or you are working a 9-5 job while your partner is serving, when it comes to matter of the heart, how does distance and limited contact impact your relationship when you’re in love with someone who isn’t always close by. If interested, please email [e-mail]

[@avogal3679]

Just sitting here crying haha I miss my boyyyy

[@thejazz338]

I feel your pain , we'll pull through and see them soon!! I hope your significant other already returned and you both are together already 😊

[@sheesh2358]

Same here...

[@catherinep664]

Me

[@rhiannamackenzie4011]

Me too

[@sorakeke1442]

Saaaaame🥲

[@Brittvnylc]

Girl YES!!! my husband got deployed when I was 6 weeks pregnant and he Missed the ENTIRE pregnancy . Super hard

[@AnnaMichelle]

Hii! I randomly decided to look up "dating someone in the marines" and when I clicked on your video I could almost immediately tell you were a Christian :) I got so much out of this video and I just want to thank you because it explains a lot! I have a friend that I like who is in the marine corps and everything you said is 100% accurate. I try to encourage him in the Lord, pray for and with him and talk to him when I can but I am a lonely person, I wish I could talk to him all the time but this video taught me that I have to find peace in the loneliness, and maybe I need to talk to God more :) He is a great friend, and even if we don't end up more than friends I will still support him and love him no matter what, because when God puts people on your life he puts them in there for a reason :)

[@williamjones2340]

As a Army retiree and been married for 37 years a military relationship can work. My wife faced most of what you said. However I also told her that there will be times that I will be gone extended length of time. Not because I want to but it is duty. Also told her that I could deploy and come back really injured or in a box. On my deployments she wore out some carpet praying. Thank you for your service. Yours may be harder than his.

[@MinibiteTran]

Hi I have read your comments I dare to say this , but because I love my daughter so might to step up to ask Do you know any military man in about 35 to 47 that single my daughter just want to dating them man only yes serious lead to marry she is 32 Canadians VIETNAMES by the way THX for respond

[@iamkiaranicolee]

Having army gf/wives help a lot because they are experiencing the same feelings as you are

[@ImAFlirt839]

Girl... your videos are so great!!!!! When you talk about loneliness and having the Lord there for you which makes it okay, my heart feels that!! Thank you for making these videos!!

[@adorable1122]

I’ve been dating my military guy for about 4 months and even though it’s not traditional like civilian men, I can tell you, he is probably the greatest man I’ve ever met. Sweet, attentive, honest, mature, driven, a gentleman, and he has shown me that he makes it a point for us to have open and thorough communication. And he does all of that as I see him on the weekends. He’s currently on a sub for a week and this is my first time not being able to talk to him everyday like I’m used to but it’s not as bad as I thought. I’m a nursing student so I currently have enough to keep me busy but I can’t wait till he comes back so we can go out again, I really enjoy my time with him. If he asked me to be his lady/gf, I wouldn’t even hesitate

[@ViceN53X]

Only the weak and disloyal would betray a soldier's love. It sickens me to know that there are people like that out there. They may be rare, or at least I think they're rare, but they still exist.

[@aryllih.0311]

I’ve been feeling overwhelmed with my feelings lately. I’m engaged to a military man who I love so much. I’ve never done long distance before, so already that was something I didn’t know how to do and something I was inexperienced in. It’s been so so hard. The hardest battle of my life. If I didn’t see a future with him I would have raised my flag and left. But I haven’t and I don’t plan on it. I want to be with him and I see a future with him. A lot of things hit home while watching this video because I’ve felt and dealt with every single thing mentioned. Right now he’s out on the field and I have no way of communicating or hearing from him and vice versa. I miss him. He has another week out there. This is preparation for when he’s deployed in about a month or even less. I’m scared that I won’t get to see him before they send him off to the Middle East. I can’t stand when he talks about his will and whose names are on it. The thought of something happening to him while he’s out there brings tears to my eyes and I start crying. It’s the hardest subject for me to talk about or even hear about. I just want him home and within arms reach. I’m trying to remain strong. But it’s not easy. I’m just glad I’m not the only one who has gone through this and all the feelings it comes with. Knowing I’m not alone makes me feel less lonely. 🥺

[@keeleysarver9375]

God I needed this, thank you! My mans is in the Navy and underway right now, haven't spoken to him in weeks until he gets to a port at some point. The loneliness is hitting me but picking up a hobby definitely helps. The best thing to tell yourself is "this isn't (their) fault" and "(they'll) talk to me when they can."

[@BritCon2]

Thank you everyone who has watched this video and commented! This was the very first video that I made about a year and a half ago and I have definitely grown in my knowledge of military wife life! For those of you that have added additional positive commentary, you guys rock! Being a young military wife I can't possibly know everything, but you guys have definitely helped me a lot. Praying for each of you as I see a new comment, positive or sad. Military life is tough, whether you are serving or the significant other. Let's continue to support each other! -Brit+Con

[@probinsyanangexplorista9136]

Brit+Con i feel you :) my man is a military too

[@Sweetie_Bear]

Brit+Con my boyfreind just shipped off and this video caught my attention. Everything you say is so relatable and i one hundred percent agree with you. I am so happy fo your relationship and thank you for being the person to finally say what needs to be said about this.

[@Joy-tu4yj]

Brit+Con : WOW your video and the way you said on it are really amazed me!!! Especially when you said: I never feel alone because I’m Christian and I have God! This is the point that I was waiting for from your words! Yes! I totally agree with you! We have the big God that accompanies us 24 hours! Even comfort us and keep us safe and feel loved! To be Christian must be very loyal to our spouse and God! I’m proud to be Christian as well! I’m married a navy guy! I was in that situation as well even worst. I was in my country before he took me here. You can’t tell how difficult it is on having the long distance relitionship, with the different countries and time zones! But thankfully I have a Great great God that made everything work for both of us! God is really Good!!! Keep praying and believing in God. May God bless your marriage girl 👍

[@lanettacoppins685]

Hello Britt I have learned to deal with my husband delyopment we have been married for over a a year now have had some rough times in the past year a year ago I had a heart attack and had open heart surgery with the grace of God I pulled thru My husband has been always there for me and the best support system any wife could ever ask for Please never stop doing the videos they given me hope and strength

[@Joy-tu4yj]

Lanetta Coppins : Amazing testimony. God has blessed you with the wonderful husband. Keep it up and put your faith in God!

[@JamesSmith-co1kt]

Watch out for Jody. Jody is at home while your deployed. Jody is always tempting your wife/ gf. Jody is everywhere. Always tempting your significant other. If your weak, Jody will move in and then there is trouble in paradise. Jody is bad.

[@gabejaramillo7938]

I don’t know how people do it. I really don’t. I get really attached to people easily. I just had to leave a purely genuine girl for this reason because I knew I couldn’t handle a situation like this. And trust me when I say I feel like a complete asshole thinking about it. But I’m hoping one day she can understand that me being at home and constantly having to think about the love of my life being gone for months on end. All military couples I wish you guys the best. And I wish nothing but wonderful futures for you guys. Way to hold it down for one another :)

[@aienjamir89]

Never in my life have I ever listened so closely and so attentively to any video on tips as paid my attention to this video without blinking my eyes even once...it was like we were discussing in real life. So good. Waiting eagerly for my bae's arrival in January 2019.... Can't wait...

[@miamarie4402]

So I’ve been talking to this guy for 5 months and we aren’t dating yet cause we just haven’t made it official but he’s gonna be going into the military and so I’m searching for tons of videos about it so i appreciate this video cause i have no clue what I’m doing

[@shadeenah8791]

I dated the most amazing man for a month in person and then he deployed. currently he’s been deployed for 3 weeks. His job is super stressful as he works with explosives. I know a month is not a lot of time but from day one This man made me feel seen in a way no one else has but recently his work has had him busy and I’ve been hearing from him less. I know he’s not ignoring me but I can’t help feeling so neglected. I am trying to make a decision if I can handle this or not. I don’t want to hurt his feeling (part of me feels like he would understand). I also feel like I can’t come to him every time I feel like throwing in the towel otherwise he will make the decision for me. I guess I’m just here because I’m trying to decide if it’s worth it. 😢 this sucks. *edit* i wrote the post above in the morning. It’s the end of the day now and I decided he is absolutely worth it. 🥰

[@Boomy2nicce]

How did it go?

[@OnOurSleevesGaming]

I really love that you’re a Christian and have the same views on morale and love as I do. Life can be hard but it sure isn’t as hard with the Lord working in you. Great video! Stay positive, stay humble, and keep that child-like faith!

[@9yrsold526]

He will be leaving in 22 days for the training for 13 weeks. I dont think I can 'survive'. Pray for his safety thanks

[@graysondelong6663]

THANK YOU! When you said "If you're dating a military man, just date him". I've had friends that have dated guys in the military and both my friends got married to after dating for less than a year. they both married their boyfriends jess than a year after they started dating, right before their boyfriends left for deployment. I just hope my friends didn't marry those guys just for the benefits. This is a great video. You give great advice. I'm not dating anyone in the military (or anyone in general, lol), but I still think you give very good advice. Your advice would have helped my friend out a lot. You're awesome! I can't wait to watch more of your videos! You have a great head on your shoulders and you are so smart.

[@BritCon2]

OH no! Well definitely hoping there marriage turns out great! Thanks for the kind words❤️, Glad you liked it haha (:

[@KK-fj8qk]

I really needed to hear this today! The not hearing anything sometimes for days on end drives me crazy! 4 months can’t go fast enough 🙄

[@KK-fj8qk]

@Ragnar Odinsson I have no idea what your experience is but I have met plenty that are not assholes. I’m married to one, disciplined yes but no asshole .

[@NicoleJohnson-v7r]

I never wanted to be with a military man but right now I’m so deeply in love with one so I need all the tips I can get 🎉

[@MISSUNIVERSE1830]

you guys just wait until he comes back from a war zone. they come back different , war changes a man , a soldier, a marine, a sailor. They bring the battle home, it's very very hard life specially if he comes back home with ptsd

[@vikkeyzebra]

I’m currently talking to a guy in the military and it’s hard and it sucks but it’s also not as bad as I thought it would be. We started talking the beginning of November and he’s currently overseas. He came home for Christmas so we got to meet and go out and I can’t wait for him to come back this summer💙

[@pinzjoe17]

Hi Tori, I am a casting producer who is working on a military show about long distance dating. We are going through the ups and downs of it and my job is to find people who are going through it. Below is the casting notice for the series. If you are interested, just email me. Do you want to tell your story about the ups and downs of dating someone in the military? Have you only met each other face-to-face a handful of times or haven’t met at all? Do you want to be an inspiration to those who are going through a long distance love connection? Then this is the show for you A new TV series for a major cable network are looking for people in a long-distance relationship in the military. We want to go inside what it’s like to date someone stationed in a different part of the world. Whether you are both in the military at different locations or you are working a 9-5 job while your partner is serving, when it comes to matter of the heart, how does distance and limited contact impact your relationship when you’re in love with someone who isn’t always close by. If interested, please email [e-mail]

[@miyamonaee1577]

I text my babes everyday goodmorning paragraphs and goodnight paragraphs and scriptures to motivate him. Gives him inspirational quotes. To let him know that I’m still here with him through everyday bad days and hard.

[@kyriestone5850]

That's a really good idea my bf is going into the Marines in 6 months and that's scary but that a great idea thank you!

[@miyamonaee1577]

You welcome

[@melaniekull5609]

This definitely helped a lot. My boyfriend is doing training for a while, we dont know how long. But, I carry a flash drive around my neck with all our pictures, songs and videos for when I miss him

[@rachelvasquez7826]

I can sense that you are such a kind and supportive spirit. That's something that is beautiful to see in such a young woman. I wish you all the best.

[@maridimples1842]

I was talking with a Marine, and I know him since high school. We had been talking for a couple months now, and he had finally decided to ask me out but I was scared to lose him after he would get deployed. He said that wouldn’t happen, but just about a week ago, he decided to stop talking to me and he said he needed to focus on the marines and that I was a distraction for him. It really broke my heart. I was going to wait for him because I really do love him, but I feel like I already lost him. I feel like here’s nothing I could really do anymore. I’m really thankful that you made this video.

[@xxslimjamiexx1646]

Mari & Brenda I’m sorry to hear that 😭

[@UCMarioAvila]

We need more perfect girls like her! Honest, religious, in love, and committed

[@ambervandenburg4380]

This is such a great video. Some people don't understand how hard military relationships are. It's definitely not for everyone.

[@margaritegonzalez1169]

This really helps...Thank you for sharing this for those like myself going through what your saying missing him and wanting to share my life with him. But it's like you say if your going to have a military man in your life it's a different life. You have to be ready for what comes in their life. It's military life either accept them or dont! Patience , love , care, trust, is vital of what is required if your dating a military man .

[@shrlyc]

I’m new in a military relationship and it’s been rough, mostly because i can’t deal with emotional pain but I love him and I know that I’ll see him soon. I’m convinced that distance makes people realize how much someone means to them and I finally feel that.

[@shrlyc]

Brician my friends can’t relate cause they’re not in a military relationship so sometimes I feel isolated. I learned that you just have to get through day by day

[@shrlyc]

Brician where can I msg you? Yea I’m part of a few fb pages, it helps sometimes

[@shrlyc]

Gotchu

[@mayitapaz868]

What are the groups called? Mine left a week ago and I’m new to this experience and so far it’s been rough.

[@mayitapaz868]

Brician thank you!

[@weeballiance2138]

You can be alone and not lonely because loneliness is a state of mind, it doesn't matter how many people you have around you. I think feeling lonely is more or less an inside job. We need learn to be fine with our own company. We can be our own best friend, but also our worst enemy.

[@BritCon2]

Agreed! As this was my first video, I still had much to learn. We have to learn to love being alone, but also relationship is important!

[@martaborn9051]

Im dating a staff sergeant and he told me stories about when he was over seas. Scary stuff.... i cant relate at all and dont know how. So i appreciate you taking time to make the video. The stress part ive noticed is true. He seems always stressed.

[@lovemecom3832]

I idolized you for being tough you give encouragement to other women out there who marries a military. Wishing you happiness forever.

[@BritCon2]

Thank you so much!

[@littlelioness]

You had me at "the Lord is with me"

[@BauAshley]

Love how articulate you are and not stuttering. Very clear to listen to you. My neighbor was deployed and while he was gone his wife left him and took everything. How horrible. I think this a great video just for any relationship 👍🏼 Really encouraging

[@theblackknight9783]

I love my wife, we but we have three bank accounts. Her checking account, my checking account and our checking account. Never let anyone have full access your money, except in certain circumstances.

[@BritCon2]

Wow, how sad Ashley ☹️... Thanks for sharing and watching our videos!

[@Dimes..]

My girlfriend is currently on her 7th day of basic for the navy and we’ve been dating for almost 3 years and man is this hard during those 3 years we’ve spent almost every single day with each other and man I’ve been through some tough shit and this is one of the toughest things I’ve ever had to do I love her to death every day has been dreadful hopefully this passes by fast

[@chickamint4125]

Armani ಥ_ಥ is she in boot camp?

[@Dimes..]

Pluto Echo yes sir

[@chickamint4125]

Armani ಥ_ಥ cool! My boyfriend left exactly a week ago on Wednesday.

[@milinha665]

My bf left this Monday for the navy and I feel you, let me ask how long did it take for her to send you a letter and how often do you send/get letters. He hasn’t sent one yet cause he’s only been there for three days and apparently you have to wait till the sunday after you get there but I just haven’t heard anything from him and it’s so haaard after being used to talking everyday

[@milinha665]

Lets all talk here 😢 we’re all on the same boat

[@MiszLexiBaybee]

Omg, I am so glad I found this video. This put me at ease about my situation. I met a soldier memorial day weekend while I was out with my friends. Our first encounter he told me I would be in his girlfriend within 2 months lol. Everything just started from there, but after that first initial week he went back to his base and everything you said has been happening. Not being able to talk or text is a big one. We have only gotten to hang out one good time since. Fortunately, he isn't stationed too far from me but every time we have planned to get together work comes up for him or me. This last time I really felt bad about the whole thing. I thought maybe he's not that into me like he says but you explained everything to the tee of what's going on. We really haven't gotten to talk about everything yet which is why I was probably feeling clueless as to what was going on. I feel a lot better knowing that I'm not crazy and this stuff is common when dating a military man. Now I understand a lot better. Thanks!

[@denig2000able]

Exactly. I just learnt alot from the videos. When mine went on exercise only after meeting weeks before and telling me I was his girl I honestly thought he had ghosted me. And when he said on some exercises mobiles are not allowed until I saw this video I seriously thought he was winding me up. Cos as you know in the regular world when a guy wants to disappear he sometimes quietly reduces communication. I feel really horrible now I thought these things. He should be finished shortly so hopefully will see him as when he managed to get in touch a few days ago he ...said some really nice things to me.

[@SouthernBelle888]

It takes a special kind of woman to be a military gf or wife. I've been around Soldiers for the past 32 years, was a faithful Army wife for 23 years, and went through 8 deployments, very familiar with ptsd and their triggers and what to avoid, their were plenty of nights after deployments when i woke up with a knife on my throat, due to the flashback the ex was having... tbi and all the sacrifices the military lifestyle comes with, had plenty of long distance, weekend and cross country relationships, raising the kids on my own but wouldn't wanna miss it for the world.... I knew the military lifestyle was my thing the very first time I've ever stepped food on base when i was 18. And you also learn that no news are good news.... The military lifestyle isn't for everyone

[@elisabeths.5059]

my marine bf tells me he has ptsd and i dunno what to do since we are faraway. do you have any tips for me?

[@mwil15]

I really appreciate this video. I married my husband almost 2 years ago and now my husband wants to enlist, and he did not ask me. Whenever I talk to him about how I feel and about our plan as a team he just gets annoyed and acts like I am trying to hold him back. I am not, I am not trying to say that he should not go either. It is just a big decision and when I met him he did not want to be in the military. This is very hard for me to digest, and I really appreciate videos like this from military spouses, because I realize how difficult it is to be a military spouse knowing full well that your husband can be taken away at any moment. I think your advice about dating is spot on. I wish that I had known what I was diving into. I love my husband and he is the only person I could ever love. I am just full of anxiety over the whole thing because my job does not allow me to move frequently. I know people joke about marriage starting and ending quickly in the military, but many of these women knew they were marrying military men. In my position I did not know. This whole situation took me by surprise, and if anyone has any advice with how to deal with the loneliness I am all ears.

[@mwil15]

Being told by your spouse that you can "get a dog" and that should be enough to replace a husband's presence is demeaning and disconcerting in my opinion. But these things vary from couple to couple and based on situations.

[@BritCon2]

Maria Buenano Hi Mariah! It sounds like your husband isn’t validating your emotions and being really selfish in my opinion. Marriage is an equal partnership where communication is key! ESPECIALLY in the military. If he can’t properly communicate with you or acknowledge your feelings then that is an issue. However, sometimes as women our emotions can come off as an attack and they can get defensive and put up a selfish wall. I would approach him first by affirming his decision, because this is something he wants to do, but then saying, however, I need you to understand my feelings. I don’t want this to seem like I’m upset, i don’t want to argue, I just want you to hear me. And maybe ask... can you do that? Then state your feelings. Take into consideration that when you state your feelings, it’s not to change his mind over the military, if you come from that point, he may get mad. Just state your fears, anxieties, personal struggles that you want him to help you in. Overall though, he needs to start learning how to listen and communicate with you.

[@jasmineberry4578]

Very helpful! My boyfriend is leaving soon and I’m trying to prepare my mind as much as possible.

[@meganhunter5874]

Hi, I just want to Thankyou so much for this video. It really has been an encouragement to me. My boyfriend is going to be leaving for BT soon. we met working at a Christian Camp together. We are both Christians and we are both very committed to our relationship. I was feeling so nervous about the loneliness factor but I wanted to Thankyou for putting the reminder in your video that as Christians we have Christ and we don’t have to feel lonely. I’m so proud of my boyfriend for the decision he made in joining the Air Force and I know that God is gonna use this time apart to strengthen us individually and as a couple. I’ve been watching so many videos about what it’s like when he leaves and all that, but your videos are the best I’ve seen and the most encouraging and I appreciate that so much!!! Thankyou again!!

[@shermanwiggin]

i am in the army and i live in Germany and my girlfriend is in the us it is the hardest thing GOD has had us go thru. I had her watch your video it has really help us so thanks

[@JuniorJr_23]

You are a perfect human being/wife. Your husband is so lucky.

[@holographiccowboy5271]

My boyfriend is in the army and I love him so much but it’s getting really hard and don’t know what to do. But I’m glad that You posted this because it makes me feel like I’m not alone, so thank you.

[@bradquinn4500]

Awwww best of luck to you guys

[@holographiccowboy5271]

Brad Quinn thank you :)

[@heyst13]

Thank you so much for this. Most posts online have been about how your partner is 100% gonna cheat or something incredibly depressing and discouraging if you ever date a military man or woman. It's great to finally find a positive video that's honest and just... real. I appreciate this so much and I feel a lot better about going now. Hopefully she and I can stay as strong as you have with your man

[@BullDogAU]

I’m an Australian man who is engaged to a female medic in the US Air Force currently serving in yamin as we speak and I have no intentions of going anywhere and will wait as long as it takes until she returns. If you love them, you will wait that’s exactly what I’m been doing.

[@bigoofinthechat5496]

Sheesh man I wish y’all the best of luck, but please update me when/if you get cheated on. Them Airforce medics are for the streets.

[@xoulmannn]

@bigoofinthechat5496 He don't need to update you on any of that stuff. Respectfully, that's his business and you probably don't even know the lad.

[@deselby9448]

There is a reason why so many military marriages end in divorce. When you are young your love can get you through the deployments while he is away. When you get older you will realize that you are alone. Most military marriages are lonely marriages and that is why so many of them end in divorce.

[@theblackknight9783]

Depends on the couple. There are young couples barely making it out of a year before getting divorce.

[@macadamia668]

It takes a special specific mentality and maturity to date someone in the military. Someone that can handle keeping themselves company, busy and take care of the house/place on they're own, while their spouse is gone away periods on end. (Basically you run the show) And same is applied to the spouse in the military. Usually your successful military spouses have likely served in military or were raised in a military family setting. I'll be honest. Those who fell to being "Jody'd", emotionally/intimately starving or just dying to "run away" cause they aren't "free" are either really young, or are really dumb and naive to think things threw realistically. If you've met someone in the military that you like. REALLY think things threw and trust your gut. What may seem like all heavenly and great in the first month, may turn out to be hell few months later. And I can say the same to men and women in the forces. Make sure you think things threw yourself and don't be bargaining with "benefits" to lead them in.

[@wchase1969]

My wife and I were both in the Army at Ft Bragg when we met. We were young 20/19 we we got married after knowing each other for 5 months. Statistically we were doomed. This fall we will be happily married for 28 years. I don't know the secret to a happy marriage. I just know they exist. Good luck to all. Airborne All The Way.

[@BritCon2]

wchase1969 I think it's the awesome commitment y'all have for each other. Congrats on the 28 years!

[@chandrapolleys5351]

I havent talked about MY story to anyone, because i feel pathetic talking about it and no one understands...but the comments here are making me feel better, so here's my story. I met my best friend four years ago, online. ( i was 14, and he was 16) and... We were close, and wanted to be together... But we were far apart. So... We didn't. I didnt Think id ever have a chance with him, so i found other relationships to be in and all was fine right? Well.... Not exactly. There was something about this guy i loved, even at fourteen years old and i never fully moved on. We of course still talked, and he made a huge impact on my life. He helped my self harm... And how i saw myself. But Yanno, hes far away living life...i assumed he didnt love me like i always did. Why would he? A caring, smart... Just perfect guy with so much life and love to give... Could find someone for him. But at the same time... Why stay around, if he didnt think we ever had a shot at anything? Like...even friends. I would assume friends would want to eventually meet. Anyway... about 2 years ago, during one of our many conversations he said "hey... I should just warn you... Im going into the Marines soon. " and, that scared me. I was selfish in thinking like "oh my god...now theres no chance of me seeing him, or having him to talk to!" But, i couldnt stop him from doing what he wanted to, and i didnt want to. I loved him, and wanted him to do what he wanted, and if the marines is that.... Then so be it. I wont stop loving him, and supporting him because its scary for me. And besides, i had been in a different relationship. I should focus on that. It had to be scary for him even...but i didnt think of that. Our talking got shorter, the everyday talks weren't a thing anymore, and when we did talk it just wasnt the same...and i had MY life to live too. Until about two months ago. That's when everything changed. He was back "home" for a little bit... And was at a hotel. He got... super drunk and told me how he really felt about me. How he loved me, but didnt think we could be together but didnt want to let me go fully...so he kept me around. He knew i felt how i did too, but couldnt be with me. Selfishly i was furious. I felt led on, and lied to...until the next days, and weeks. Over the next few weeks, he told me how he felt towards me, and how hard not talking to me was.... Which i didnt understand because i thought for song long things were different. That i loved someone who didnt feel the same. He had told me we did have a chance now, because his contract is nearly over... So we could meet, and try something. My heart felt so comfortable with him,and... I was excited. Something i didnt realise i wanted, will finally happen! We continued to talk, and we seemed to be in a relationship already so I asked him " why not be official now?" And he told me, Becuase he was going to he leaving again 2 other times. One in October, and getting deployed in December. And he didnt want to cause me any pain, because he was gone. Which, i mean I understood.... But didnt agree with. Still don't, but i respect his mindset. Well... If you know time, you know it is October now, so... Hes gone again. (Only for 4 more days!!!) And as you can imagine... Getting So close to having something that makes you happy just leave with no way of talking to them is very, very hard. And i won't lie, I was very depressed and just slept my days away hoping time would speed up. I would read or conversations over and over again, regretting things i said.... Because i dont want him thinking he did anything to hurt me. Now. I can say i am finally out of my dark depression and doing things. And i can happily say, i will hear from my best friend in about a week! Friends, this can be hard. Not having someone you care for, but things always end. There will be a time you can hold their hand again, hug them... Tell them you love them. Everything eventually comes to an end, and if any of you need a friend to talk to i am here. Because i understand it is very hard. And i would have loved a friend when i needed it. Anyway , i hope my story kind of helps, so you dont feel alone. You are loved, and beautiful!!

[@eramfida9139]

juzzt kittyy i want to ask you a question im very anxious about being a navy girlfriend...my question is that does navy guys get girls on every port...as everybody has body needs so do they go for those girls as their is abstinence of sex life for months in their life...!!!! I dont know im just so worried about this

[@maricelcano7292]

Thank you for sharing your story! I really missed him, he's my first boyfriend and It really finds me too difficult to handle this situation since we are just 1 month lovers. And just he stopped replying my messages.I though he ghost me already but I'm wrong..hehe

[@lopezchristian05]

Hi I just started dating a military guy thanks for making this video I wasn’t really sure what to expect all I know I’m whiling to wait for him until we see each other sometimes I don’t know anything about him but when he text me it’s like 5 times straight with messages sometimes I missed them because I’ll be at work and I never know when he will text me even though I’m always waiting for he’s text 24/7 so I replied when I see them this situation is so hard but I know he’s a dedicated, intelligent and loving man and I know what he’s doing for this country and for me it’s hard for both of us but he takes care of me something that some of my ex’s never did so I think it will be worth waiting on him because he’s a man that keeps he’s promises and a man that keeps its promises it’s a real man thanks again I won’t give up on him he tells me baby don’t give up on us

[@pherr24]

Just a males perspective. What also helps is the wife or spouse being self sufficient. It's something that never mattered until I joined and became so self sufficient myself and used to that mindset with everyone I worked with. It's also important come deployment time too. It's easy to focus on the task at hand down range if everything is good to go at home and knowing it's being handled. Good video!

[@BritCon2]

Totally agree! Really like your perspective!

[@YasminYoruba]

Love conquers all. I don’t care what anyone says.

[@sonohrina2012]

I actually always avoid dating military men because didn’t want the misery of no knowing if my husband would one day not come home that huge fear made me not pursue many guys specially cuz I live between I used to live near an Air Force base. Little did I know that the guy I dated for 4 years would end up wanting to join the Air Force. We got married and now I have to go through what I avoided cuz it’s too late I’m already too in love with him to ever leave him.

[@EmilyLxxxx]

My boyfriend left for basic this past week and my life has seriously felt like it was upside down, and your video has pushed me to smile and know I am going to be okay. Thank you for making the video

[@shayanderson8842]

_emilyyy_xoxo mine too and it's hard really hard like a part of me left with he did 😓sucks

[@emmamcmahon1738]

I haven’t been able to see my partner because of corona and it sucks seeing couples online not social distancing despite not living together and not having friends to be there sucks. But I knew what I was getting into and I would never take it for granted. I’m lucky enough to be able to call them twice a week and those days are the best part of my entire week and I can’t wait to see them😊 A few more months it’ll be hard but I’ll be strong and you can to.

[@razatvofficial2386]

I feel the same I don't feel lonely because I have the lord

[@jackymarie9759]

I don't know how I ended up watching this video. My boyfriend is going to be leaving soon too, this is an encouragement for me tbh. thank you so much.

[@ajaykaranveer2069]

I don't know why I am watching this I am Single and Lonely 😭🤦🏻‍♂️

[@BritCon2]

haha you are welcome on our channel anyways😀

[@ajaykaranveer2069]

Brit+Con today I told my crush All I could she said it was cute and sweet but said it won't work out since I am enlisted and leaving but she still has high school

[@892guns]

+Ajay Singh I feel your pain bruh

[@ruthpablo3588]

I also live in Marysville, just started dating my boyfriend in the navy. Really happy to have someone online to watch that’s gone through what i’m going through.

[@beautyxpash]

Same.

[@courtneydawson180]

Love love love this video! Seriously, I connected with everything you spoke about here. My fiance is currently deployed and seeing couples being all lovey when your man is half a world away can be so hard when all you want is them there. I've really had to rely on my faith to get me through this deployment. You're never alone with Jesus! Thank you so much for this video.

[@BritCon2]

You got this girl! Praying for your husband and you!

[@BritCon2]

Courtney Dawson sorry fiancé! Lol

[@sydneymatterson408]

Sometimes, I get whiny and act like a baby when he can't message and chat with me for the whole day. But then I understand he's doing his job. He's busy & I know that he loves me. Awesome video

[@sophiesomers4150]

does anyone else have fears of their partner finding someone better in the army? i don’t want to be THAT person but I am always so scared and I trust him but I wouldn’t even know since he could be deployed or anything. We’ve been going out for years and i’m just so scared this could be a breaking point :(((

[@ianneleoncio390]

I think we all have that fear.. and I want to say that it's okay to feel that way since it's a rational feeling most people does. It's alright to be scared from time to time but let's remember we all have priorities and the key is trust, communication, and acceptance.. I know it's hard but if you both believe in each other.. there's nothing we can't do.. fighting!! Edit: and when I know he loves you truly and dearly there's no need to worry because you will know and feel it

[@julianaj6335]

Hi Sophie, I completely understand what you're going through. I would always compare myself to other women my boyfriend knew and I would criticize myself for not being as nice as them or as confident as them, etc. It really took a toll on my mental health and there would even be times where I would be withdrawn from our relationship because I thought he would be happier with someone else. I eventually broke down and told my boyfriend everything and we talked about it. And ever since we had that conversation, I have absolutely no doubts in his commitment to me and I trust him wholeheartedly. What I'm getting at is, if this is a continuing concern for you, don't hold it in like I did. You'll only end up ruining your mental health and your relationship slowly. Talk with him. Voice your concerns. If he is genuinely committed to you then he will make sure that you understand that he is committed to you and only you. Its natural for self doubt to arise but if it ever gets to a magnitude such as this, talk about it. Even if it's the same concern. It may take some time. It is hard. But the ending result is so, so worth it. I wish you luck!

[@alexisb829]

Yes mine is in the Air Force and just got to his duty station for 2 years in Japan.. I have that fear every day and he just got there..

[@ivieslife]

My husband is us army. We been dating for 3 years and 1 year married. I swear to God is so hard. They always don't have time. They always gone. And everytime you wanna talk to them or tell something you don't have this someone whos always there for you. The fact we love each other. But I didn't know that I signed for this which is really hard for me.

[@summerslider2487]

All this makes me happy to see that I am single at 22 and never dated.

[@sorryforcallingyouanelonga1766]

Why?

[@imjustsayin34]

@@sorryforcallingyouanelonga1766 men are exhausting

[@jessem7990]

My boyfriend left today for the Navy. I haven’t stopped crying since he left and it’s been 12 hours.

[@BritCon2]

Jesse Medler Totally normal! Let those tears out, and know you are not alone! ❤️ My husband and I did a video on getting through bootcamp that I recommend!

[@amibabyy]

my boyfriend of 3 years is starting his marine training tomorrow im so excited for him!

[@lhingpinenghangshing8792]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years but those three years we have been in a long distance relationship..we meet once in a year I should say every Christmas.And now he is leaving for the military training the day after tomorrow i.e 14 march 2019 ..I know it's going to be harder than those few years.I could not even sleep now, i started feeling lonely and came across this video..then I realize I am not the only one who is suffering.i am glad I have gone through all the comments and it hit me hard.Let us be strong and supportive.Fighting!!! May the lord keep watch between you and me,when we are apart from each other.Genesis 31:49

[@saltymint6697]

I know ur feeling so well. My boyfriend will join the army in 3 month and we wouldnt be able to talk for 2 month plus that we have a LDR.(For 1 year now) You are not alone with ur feeling.

[@lhingpinenghangshing8792]

@@saltymint6697 thank you so much..You are so kind.love is worth waiting

[@saltymint6697]

@@lhingpinenghangshing8792 You're welcome. You will do this! Cheer up!♡

[@saltymint6697]

@@lhingpinenghangshing8792 If u need someone to talk I will be here ^^☆

[@lhingpinenghangshing8792]

@@saltymint6697 I am grateful for that.. Let's be friends 😁

[@MadebyMadelyn]

My bf is in bootcamp and he’s going to be gone for 6 months it’s so depressing not being able to talk and see him

[@desperado8960]

u got this, keep ur head up

[@_vs100]

I love your little rant at the beginning because I 100% agree. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for 9 months and she is coming back from marine bootcamp in three weeks and I can’t wait! Thank you for the video ❤️

[@be246]

how long bootcamp lasts?

[@_vs100]

bia 13 weeks!

[@be246]

@@_vs100 hahaha fuckkk, and they cant communicate with us during that time?

[@saalll5772]

I heard of a girl who was dating a military man two weeks and then got married. It freaked me out knowing people do that. Me and my husband were dating two years prior to getting married so I suggest everyone date for awhile and really get to know that person first before making a big step into marriage.

[@gladisisneidavalenzuelamel5774]

I dated a Marine for a couple of weeks, he asked me to his girlfriend and after a month of dating he left for deployment. I was so committed to the relationship. At the beginning we were doing great and then suddenly he became distant. He asked for a break, after that we haven’t talked. He said he would keep in touch. I’ve tried sending txt to encourage him but he simply ignores me even when he in online. I just decided to move on. I feel he doesn’t care.

[@luckyme6566]

It's possible he found another person. I know what it feels. 🤔

[@BenjaminIce2003]

Hey there I understand that it wouldn’t be easy for anyone in your position to move on the fact that someone ignores you. I would suggest you ask him for a coffee sit, have a drink and talk.. Maybe there is something he is dealing with or it’s something else.. But don’t give up just yet. If it didn’t or won’t work for you then I’m sorry about it and I wish you all the best.

[@gladisisneidavalenzuelamel5774]

Benjamin Ice he is still on deployment. I’ve tried many ways to send a hello! It breaks my heart that he in online and he just doesn’t reply. Maybe he found someone else. Or maybe he is just not ready. I feel he just doesn’t want to be totally honest and I have to accept that. I can’t push him if he doesn’t want me anymore I can’t continue begging. I love him dearly but I also have to live myself

[@BenjaminIce2003]

Gladis Isneida Valenzuela Melendrez Well then do whatever you think is best for you. Don’t just worry about what I or other people might think. Everyone is grown up and they can make their own decision. Anyways do whatever you think is good.. the decisions that makes/keeps you happy. Take care and have a lovely day. And I’m glad for the decision that you’ve made.

[@neilcatbagan9687]

Just my point of view, move on if he’s not on a combat deployment lol he has all the time in the world. Now if he is on an actual deployment, just live your life and let him make the move. He’s probably using the only data he has left for beating his meat lol

[@22s22a]

Don't date anyone in the military... you will save yourself a lot of time... a lot won't listen to me but sometimes experience is the greatest teacher

[@pequenaesposa3286]

Agreed, i've married 2 and it's so hard...

[@eethal7481]

I've enlisted into the USMC Infantry and I want you to know I appreciate the video. I know that God has called me to service, and I want to better myself while also providing a more financially stable future for me and my significant other (whoever that may be). I know a military relationship is extremely difficult, but it is reassuring to know that there are faithful and loyal women out there.. God Bless.

[@abbae2308]

this was absolutely amazing. before he was my boyfriend and in the Marine Corps, we had been best friends for 5 years and never told each other how we felt until recently. he's been stationed in Washington for a year now, and it has been very hard to find peace knowing that i can't talk to him everyday or see him, but this video helped me so much! THANK YOU!

[@althearoache2234]

I love your points. They are very helpful to me although I am not married. I'm 19, and my boyfriend is in the military and sometimes it's really hard for me. He just got on his first deployment and I already feel the stress coming on because he has to be away for 9 months and he has to cope with being alone..... He's already getting frustrated, but I am trying all I can to be a solution to his problem instead of the cause. And that is why I am watching this video because I love my boyfriend and I can't always know what he's doing but I am committed to him and I am willing to walk with him through this till we meet again.

[@UrWifiIsSlow]

Im currently just finishing my service in the swiss air force and i can assure you its just as hard for him

[@MakaveliThaDon444]

I am not in the army or the marines but I am dating a first class military girl who is living in Canada. She is a very kind and sweet I met her on a christian dating app and we got along quite well and we have only been chatting on Skype for just two months now and both of us are getting along quite well. She is planning on retiring this year and hopefully to settled down in Texas with me and get married raising a family together

[@bmo3522]

This all is quite true...I’ve never dated anyone in the military until now and it’s really interesting...it’s not so bad. You definitely have to be understanding for sure and have your own life in between I’m learning

[@DanielDwightMusic]

my ex gf was a Combat veteran in the Marines ....she survived an I.E.D blast in a vehicle. she was awesome as a loving woman but tried to play both military and just 2 civilians relationship and I broke up with her. she is still my friend and will say that she is still an amazingly beautiful and brave woman inside and out. it's worth it

[@nicoleboutin7566]

Luckily I dated my husband for almost 2 years before he decided to join the military and then we got married after he got back from bmt and tech school and then we moved out to Colorado! I totally agree with you I’ve seen so many people get married just for the money or just because they want to get out of the dorms and then some get divorced shortly down the road!

[@ItzDijah]

My Boyfriend And I Have been together for 2 years Now, He Left For Basic Training the summer after we graduated from High School, It has been really hard for me because he says we should break up because he knows I'm going to miss him too much but I know I love him so much and I want to fight for us. Your Video really gave me an insight on things i know I'm going to go through and i just want to thank You so Much For Posting This video !!!

[@flowersoftarot]

I just started dating someone in the service, and this really helped…because the stigma is definitely out there about military men. But I just want to date him, and for you to say that clarifies the approach of how I pursue this. And he just left for deployment, I’m so glad I found your channel.

[@444lovexpain]

The constant texting was so real , he was on break and we were chatting so much then all of a sudden it stopped , but I definitely understand he has a job that is his priority

[@J-in-Japan]

Yes, that makes potential dating hard. I’m the one in the military and have a hard time connecting and messaging any guy since there are times I’m cut off from my phone.

[@crazykitten4845]

Recently started dating someone I've known for a LONG time but he is in the military but I'm getting used to not being able to talk to him all day everyday but it really is an adjustment. Honestly he is so worth it though 🥰🖤 I care about him so much and I'm working through any lonely feelings

[@jonesusa1111]

I miss him so much. Your post has been a great source of comfort and support. Thank you for sharing it.

[@breathlessstorm8458]

My boyfriend has decided to go into the Navy, he’s leaving for camp after May. Ive talked to him almost every single day and I know it’s going to be hard when he leaves. I just want him to be happy. I’ll survive. If he’s happy, I’m happy.

[@theblackknight9783]

I'm in the Navy I started bootcamp in November and graduated in January. The 1st two to three weeks will be the toughest because he won't be able to make phone calls. But then after that every other Saturday he will be able to make phone calls for one hour. After he graduates you both can speak all the time then because he'll have his cell phone back.

[@superboyprime4893]

Dont cheat on him

[@crypticmystic6917]

Lmao deadass

[@jo_5147]

I'm really glad I found your video. My boyfriend just left to boot camp, and your video really helped me understand/ answer few of my questions . Also I SOO agree with about the friend topic. I had no one to talk to, I didn't know who I was able to relate too or even talk to and know I wouldn't annoy with my sadness.

[@lucanton2088]

What a great speech dear.....i wish all the best. A divorced vet here. Hugs to you and your man.

[@estherl3902]

Love your Christian perspective on this 💙

[@toddmeyers9605]

Thanks for the video. I recently graduated from the Naval Academy. I am now a 2nd lieutenant in the Marines. I went to my five year reunion, sounds silly everyone pretty much just got out of college. I spent most of the time hanging out with the girl I dated. We both agreed that we should stop dating because we were going to be in schools across the country. I'm stationed in San Diego. She has family there. She actually asked me to get married. It through me for a loop. I told her that being married to someone in the military is tough especially to a marine. I have been deployed once for six months. She still is excited to be my wife. Her brother is a Private in the Army. She tells me to give him a hard time because I'm an officer. He actually tells me if I hurt her his entire platoon will make me disappear. I take orders from him. We both have watched your video. Please keep them coming

[@rockyzrockyx917]

USNA? Awesome!! Just one question, if you don't mind. What is the obligation that military academy graduates have once they graduate and are commissioned? Is it still five (5) years?

[@BritCon2]

Wow, that is great to hear her excitement! Sounds like a keeper haha. Glad you guys are enjoying the videos! Will definitely keep them coming! Let me know if yall have any video suggestions.

[@isabelle2873]

Todd Meyers thank you for your service

[@Gushing69Granny]

Todd Meyers calling bullshit.

[@rockyzrockyx917]

Uh-oh!

[@jennifermoore9267]

I can relate to what you are talking about. I'm talking to a military man, he is an officer. I noticed that he texts me in the morning and we get to talk through out the day sometime. Other days, it is one good morning and not hear from him until late at night. I really like him so far tho and he is super committed, like you said, and loyal which I love that quality. I will definitely keep in mind to take things slow and not rush getting to know each other.