5 UNEXPECTED REALITIES ABOUT BECOMING A NEW MOM | WHAT THEY DON'T TELL YOU ABOUT MOTHERHOOD

5 unexpected realities about becoming a New Mom | Things they don't tell you about motherhood. After becoming a mum at such a young age- there were SO many things I didn't expect about becoming a new mom!
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If you were a young mom or a new mom of any age, you might know these common realities of life as a new mom. Even though I was personally a young mom (mum) I believe these are things so many new mums experience. If you haven't become a mom yet, let me know if any of these realities of becoming a new mom are new to you? Or if you've already become a mum, which of these realities of becoming a new mom and life as a new mom you can relate to!
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Hi my name is Ash Jackson and on this channel I plan to post all kids of how to videos such as ‘how to lose baby weight fast’, ‘how to organise your home’, ‘how to create DIY decor and furniture on a budget’, ‘how to eat healthy on a budget’ ‘how to be a stylish mum on a budget’, ‘how to meal plan for your family’, how to create healthy family meal plans’, ‘how to workout at home with kids’ and much more. I also do Australian Family Daily Vlogs with my Aussie Vlogging Family on our separate Young Family Vlog Channel.

[@NatalieStoj]

I'm not married or pregnant but I honestly love these videos! I love learning and hearing about other people's experiences! Please keep doing them Ash!

[@AshJackson]

Thanks so much beautiful lady!

[@leandrab6885]

I felt so bad that I didnt have the lightbulb moment. Sometimes we are just so overwhelmed to even react to your newborn. Thanks for sharing!

[@AshJackson]

Oh you're more than welcome lovely

[@keerthanajaishankar1883]

Who else isnt a mom?

[@AshJackson]

Props to you for watching the video even though you dont have any children yet! Thanks for the support beauty

[@lioness3967]

just had my baby at 20, emergency c-section and all. I relate to this 1000% thank you I thought I was crazy!!

[@TheSupermaia78]

Congratulations lovely!! 😘

[@lioness3967]

Thank you!

[@AshJackson]

Aww congrats on your bub lovely! SO glad you could relate!

[@lauraabley9329]

I'm 6months pregnant at the moment and 22yrs old and I am the having the same concerns or worries that you talked about.. this was a really great video. Thank you so much

[@AshJackson]

Aww congrats on your little bundle! You'll have to keep us updated when bub is born

[@jsizzle1863]

My mum suffered a lot of bullying and being put down by "breast is best" preachers after not being able to breastfeed, but now I'm really glad she didn't have to experience all of this excruciating pain and suffering. If you can't breastfeed, please don't worry- I turned out just fine.

[@paikeakehlani5392]

j sizzle yeah my mum didn’t breast feed because she wanted to be able to leave me with other family members so she could work. I turned out fine I guess haha

[@rutawalker5500]

That so sweet x

[@rachspeed]

you are such a good mom! I started watching your channel this year and I'm just so inspired by you

[@AshJackson]

Oh thank you so much for the love and support beautiful!! xo

[@courtneyrichard89]

This is so right on! have a 7 week old, born 9.5 lbs all natural! so nice to beable to relate to other mommas!

[@AshJackson]

Yes girl!!! Well done to you!! Congrats on your little bundle of joy

[@death2theworld]

A lot of parents I know of are missing the freedom they previously had especially in the infant stage, so I want to say your case is rather unique because most moms very often want to have a little bit of that carefree life back. Especially at 20 when most of your friends will be traveling, partying, wining and dining on regular basis and you are now limited as a parent. So for anyone wondering if they are a bad mom for feeling different you are not it's very normal to have a hard adjustment to the first years and wanting the freedom of your life back.

[@chloebouteris5331]

I am not a mother, but do someday hope to have children. But it's great to see people showing all sides to parenting! ❤️

[@AshJackson]

Aww thanks so much for supporting my channel even though you're not yet a mama yourself! Much love to you gorgeous! xo

[@ItsToya-]

Being a mom is hard work I remember my first time I was 17 and scared, but now I have 6 beautiful children.

[@lefish5277]

Thank you for this. What hit home with me is the worry that I won’t be able to bond with my baby or that I’ll get annoyed by the crying, as opposed to letting my instincts drive me. Currently 36+5, both excited and very nervous lol

[@jen___b089]

Good timing I'm due in 10 days with my first ❤️ my biggest fear is things changing between me and my husband. We have been together for 9 years and I absolutely adore our relationship so that scares me

[@AshJackson]

Congratulations beautiful! Honestly I don't think you have anything to be worried about. Bringing your first baby home is such a magical experience and I think you'll find that if you think you love your partner now, wait until you see him holding your child, it just puts everything into perspective

[@kimberlypettit2038]

I'm so grateful for this video! Honestly, I thought I was weird for having such thoughts (thinking breastfeeding wouldn't hurt) 😂 Not pregnant but I am planning after my wedding next January

[@AshJackson]

Oh congratulations on your upcoming wedding gorgeous! You'll have to keep us updated with how things are going! xo

[@EveArtie]

Thanks for sharing this information.I am 2.5 weeks Postpartum and experienced similar pains with breastfeeding...pain started around day 10. It was soon after that i bought an electric breast pump and ever since have been exclusively feeding her expressed breast milk. Best decision for me and bub...she gets 100%breast milk and i get no more pain!!I also agree with the parenting styles and advice receiving....learning every single day!!! Really loving your Vlogs! X

[@raisingmysunny1446]

I love the honesty in this video. I wish I had watched this before I had my Sunny, because these were exactly all of my fears. You hit the nail on the head though with everything. Love this, thank you.

[@ladybocknite5120]

I had most of these fears. I had my first baby at 20 via emergency c section also! I had the instant connection though. my son was a rainbow baby. so I feel like that helped with him. I cried soo hard when I saw him and finally got to hold him 3 hours after birth. soo amazing!

[@AshJackson]

Thank you for sharing your experience beauty! Motherhood is such an amazing journey

[@ladybocknite5120]

Ash Jackson you're welcome. yes it is!my baby is 10 months and I can hardly believe it! I so related to the advice thing. I have been trying to hold back and wait for ppl to ask me for my advice or opinions.idk if this is an American thing or not,but when I was pregnant everyone made parenting sound like a nightmare! when it really isn't.

[@AshJackson]

It goes too too quick doesn't it!! And yes! I remember that well! Everyone kept talking about how they had no time to themselves and how they haven't slept properly in years... nobody seems to mention that its not that bad, you do it willingly and its totally worth it

[@ladybocknite5120]

it does! I want to be in denial,but I can't unfortunately. omg yes! I don't mind it. I try to be honest,but positive to others when they ask about parenting. I let them know that there are bad days,but there are soo many good days too. you also make your own nightmare or your own happy life.

[@mollywright7921]

I totally relate to some of these points and I loved that you talked about some things people wouldn't usually, like not feeling like a mother at the start. I had my girl a month before my 21st birthday, emergency c-section and i lived in a regional town so she ended up having to be flown to a city 5 hours away from me to a neo natal unit. I didn't even get to see her until several hours later when she was rushed passed me on her way to the helicopter, they wouldn't let me go to see her until 2 days later. She was then in the intensive care part of NICU so i didn't even get to hold her until she was 10 days old. I suffered a little bit of PND because of this and was constantly worried that because I didn't get to hold her straight away that I didn't have this bond that every other mother had with their child.

[@AshJackson]

Oh my goodness I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that! Its not fair for a mother to carry her child for so long only to not be able to hold them once they're born. I don't blame you for suffering PND as a result. How are things coming along now lovely??

[@mollywright7921]

Ash Jackson It is what it is hey. things are fantastic now, my little girl just turned 2, she is sick a lot and is prone to febrile convulsions every time she spikes a fever but that is something she will grow out of. Other than that she is happy and healthy and that's all you can hope for i suppose :)

[@HarrietFitzgerald580]

My baby is 13 mo and I sometimes still feel weird about being a mom. She was planned and I was 26 when I gave birth. I don't think it's an age thing. It's just bizarre, you're you and then you're still you, but you're also a mom; takes a lot to wrap my mind around it. Breastfeeding, there simply is no preparation for it! The first 6 weeks were simply hell for me and no one tells you it's going to be this hard, many 3 am meltdowns occurred in those first weeks. How you think you'll parent and then how you actually parent are oftentimes worlds apart, as you said, you meet your child and respond to their needs and personalities. I still struggle filtering opinions and "advice." Loved the video! 💕

[@Hello-oe2oy]

I love your points. I have watched so many of these videos but I feel like your outlook is so different and I appreciate it thank you!

[@sophieturner2889]

I love watching your channel, I've watched you for a while now and I love the advice videos or your DIY videos, I find them so relaxing , I'm not pregnant but I love watching your baby advice channel for the future, you're an amazing mother, please keep doing these videos xo

[@AshJackson]

Aww thanks so much lovely! xo

[@saracanuto2650]

Seriously this is my fav type of video! Thank you Ash ily 💚

[@AshJackson]

Awww I love you too! Thanks a bunch sista

[@newheartchurch9964]

I love your authenticity. This was very helpful for me. Thank you!

[@hajat1821]

You are such an amazing mother, Ash.

[@AshJackson]

Thank you so much beauty thats honestly one of the biggest compliments

[@shanedawson4everr]

100% realated to this vidio, please keep puttning out videos like this it made such a differents to my life

[@AshJackson]

Awww thanks a bunch lovely! I so appreciate the love!

[@kristymcnamara9251]

i had a 6 kg baby via c section when i was 21. Great vid by the way

[@AshJackson]

Wowee! Power to you lovely! Thanks so much for sharing! XO

[@jemmapreston4627]

I vibed with everything in this video! My Bub is six weeks and everything was so accurate!

[@AshJackson]

So glad you could relate beauty! Congrats on your little love!

[@jadewhitfield5345]

- this video is everything !! Thanks so much for sharing ❤

[@TheSupermaia78]

Love your really honest view!!

[@AshJackson]

Thanks so much beauty!! xo

[@paikeakehlani5392]

I’m so terrified of being a bad mum. I’m only 15 but my absolute worst fear is turning out like my mum and treating my future kids the way she treated me. I’m scared it’s in my DNA to be an abusive mother. I love kids and I really want to have my own some day but I’m so scared.

[@themackies9925]

Arghh BEST video. Very well explained you nailed it xx

[@AshJackson]

Thanks girl!!

[@aislingchepi11]

This is comforting and reassuring.

[@laurak5724]

You look so gorgeous in this vid!!! Like always ;) I am nowhere near becoming a mum but I still enjoy watching your vids!

[@BreeahnCarter]

Love it! So so much truth, especially number 1 xxx

[@Playmate5384]

Seriously love this video. I have these same fears, I'm due in August. Thanks Ash

[@ChloePerkee]

Loved this. Been doing fertility treatment for 2 years now so hopefully will be pregnant soon xx

[@desireeseah2093]

this is so so true ash !!!

[@AshJackson]

Glad you could relate!

[@azhrayharris8]

I have a bit of an odd concern about my future kids: My family looks the exact opposite of my husband's. Everyone in my family is very tall, thin, blonde hair, blue eyes, with very sharp facial features. My husband's family on the other hand are all very short, curvy/heavy set, black hair, brown eyes, and very soft features. I'm worried that because all of the traits from my family are recessive and his are dominant that my kids won't look anything like me. I know that that is the definition of superficial, but I can't help but want my kids to resemble me. Does that make me a bad mom to be?

[@bobbyvankooten6659]

You and your kids are goals😍

[@AshJackson]

Awww what a lovely thing to say! Thank you so much!

[@malysquade3698]

I can’t figure out how to not stab my mouth with chips but I have to figure out how to keep my baby alive when she gets here. #panic

[@katrinakat8798]

Can you do a parenting video tips, please, from your own experience

[@saspridham8850]

Great tips! So totally superficial but am loving your eyeshadow and lipstick can you share the details? 😘

[@Helena-nk9bv]

YOUR AMAZING ASH!!!!! 😘

[@AshJackson]

No, YOU'RE amazing beauty

[@elenaep703]

Hi Ash and thanks for your videos!! I'm pregnant and I'm completely terrified! Every doctor I went wants to do an episiotomy to me and I'm afraid my vagina will be destroyed forever!! Also about breastfeeding, I have read that it is not supposed to hurt if you are doing it right! Why did it hurt for you ,and why did it stop hurting afterwards? You did something different? Did you use nipple shields?

[@ritapita8150]

I was wondering why moms would say that breastfeeding hurt, so i looked up "how-to" videos. I found a heath worker training video series to help mothers know the correct and painless (or less painful--for better words)way to help babies latch on and get more milk. It was very educational. (I am neither a mom or pregnant yet)

[@elenaep703]

SummersJoy are those videos on youtube? can you tell me how to find them? Thanks!

[@Amalikaon]

I am glad I found your channel ❤️

[@LightMeUp04]

I am not a mother yet but I am curious about one thing... say you dont like your in laws or something, and your baby looks like your husbands side of the family, does that make the mom feel less bonded to the baby, or is it that no matter what he or she looks like you genuinely dont care? It sounds superficial, i know

[@AshJackson]

I'm not sure I can't say I've been in that position to be able to understand what it would be like sorry! I think a mother loves her child regardless

[@azhrayharris8]

LightMeUp04 I have a similar worry concerning my kids. My family looks the exact opposite of my husband's. Everyone in my family is very tall, thin, blonde hair, blue eyes, with very sharp facial features. My husband's family on the other hand are all very short, curvy/heavy set, black hair, brown eyes, and very soft features. I'm worried that because all of the traits from my family are recessive and his are dominant that my kids won't look anything like me. I know that that is the definition of superficial, but I can't help but want my kids to resemble me. Does that make me a bad mom to be?

[@breannaa9455]

One thing I’m terrified of is resenting my baby. By the time I give birth I’ll be 21 but this journey so far is overwhelming. I want to breastfeed because ‘breast is best’ but I’m scared I won’t be able too 😞. Ughh

[@laurakiss582]

I love you so much 💜

[@AshJackson]

I love you more!!!

[@angelacuibin5745]

I'm 15 and I have a lot of mixed emotions

[@GodIsGracious112]

2 weeks and 5 days with her. I love motherhood . It’s like college with no sleep but a baby... and it’s totally worth it 💯!! Way better than being pregnant LOL

[@BarbieandLana]

Thank goodness haha

[@2110289707]

Just curious is it a Trend to let regrowth grow out that long? That would drive me nuts 😂 no hate, love ya ash

[@AshJackson]

I tried to explain in my last video that I'm sort of going back to the balayage look but got my hairdresser to bring the blonde up a touch higher and I think she missed the mark so I'm letting it grow out

[@evelungwitz6690]

i had my daughter 5 years ago and breastfeeding was extremely painful, i only managed 2 days of it while in hospital. i had the nurses come in a 'milk' me to at least give her colostrum and when i did have her on the boob it caused cracked bleeding nipples. I was in pain down below from giving birth to a 9lb 4oz baby drug free and tearing that i couldnt handle the pain of breast feeding as well. Before she was born i was determined to breastfeed but it just didnt work out. I hope with my next one i will be able to breastfeed a bit longer

[@vintagemoon7815]

Your really pretty

[@TheFlychick2222]

If it was hurting your baby was not latched correctly, breastfeeding should not be painful.. & if you are experiencing bleeding / cracking you should relatch baby

[@katielouisechurchill7750]

early for once !❤

[@AshJackson]

Yas gurl!!!!

[@NatashaPrincipessa]

Mom? Aren't u Australian?

[@AshJackson]

I am but I have a predominantly American audience so sometimes I alter my spelling accordingly :)