5 ways Narcissists Use Humor to Humiliate You

[@narcabusecoach]

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[@vacationeyes6430]

Oh my God! Thank you for doing this video. We need a whole book called "1000 Narcissistic insults and best comebacks".

[@Jackiewerkout]

He did this to me and the kids too “I was just joking” which apparently allows you to say whatever you want to people with no consequences 😢

[@Morpheus-pt3wq]

It´s only because people don´t know, how to react against such disarming and obvious lie. The proper reaction should be: "Sarcasm (or irony, depending on what was used and you should recognize them properly, otherwise you will be humiliated further) isn´t humor." Once you name properly his actions in front of others, HE will be disarmed. But unless you don´t care about his narcissistic injury, be wary of using it in inner family circle.

[@marshaaragon2336]

That one was used on me quite a bit as well. I learned to say " no you meant exactly what you said" After that he quit doing that one. I told him it was not a joke it was the truth of how he felt. I was not stupid I knew exactly what he was doing....guess I know now why I am the ex.

[@athena1047]

I find myself listening and then wanting to type out so much. None of it matters except for the fact that you are helping me and so many others. Thank you.

[@narcabusecoach]

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[@briandrake6881]

@@narcabusecoach As someone who who came from (and recovering from) a Narc family, your help has been an immense help. THANK YOU.

[@harsahibsinghsidhu3051]

masking their criticism with laughter is what they do all the time.

[@christinenoelle7568]

I have one incident that never goes away. When I was all ready to go to a wedding and about to get in the car, my neighbor said “wow you look good Christine” and my ex narcissist said “ya for once” and then when I told him he hurt my feelings he said to get over it, it was a joke. It actually ruined the wedding for me, and he knew it would.

[@Lyrielonwind]

They do that so you don't look good to others. That way the smear campaigns will run by itself just dropping insinuations.

[@AJ-jf2ui]

I'm so sorry

[@MaryDunford]

The art of the comeback is something everyone should learn. The real game is to make your biting sarcasm wittier than the initial dig (but with the sort of polite honesty that demands reflection from the listener). It's taken from the time honoured school-yard adage, "He who cannot take it should not dish it.". 😅

[@vacationeyes6430]

They often say the rudest things to people in the name of a joke and feel powerful for cleverly devising a strategy to abuse people while appearing innocent. 1. They say mean things, and then add "just kidding" 2. They interrupt you and derail conversations when you are making an important point about something. 3. Make up excuses and leave when the spotlight is not on them. 4. They crack jokes and invalidate you when you are addressing important concerns. 5. They are dismissive of your ideas, passions and use jokes to demotivate you. "Ha ha you could never pass the exams. Why did you even enroll? Ha ha. Come on, you are not that good. Do you think you can actually start a business? Ha ha" 6. They get triggered when you offer compliments to someone other than them and crack jokes to devalue the individual being praised. "Losers praising each other lol" 7. When you achieve something, they offer a backhanded compliment. "How long did you practice this? Did your Mom force you to study hard?" 8. When you offer great suggestions, they say "did you come up with it on your own? Or where in Google did you find this?"

[@Lyrielonwind]

They won't ever say you are a cultivated person or intelligent, you are well-read.

[@CrankyBarista]

Neither narcs in my life would use self depreciation as jokes. They would never dare to insinuate they were ever imperfect for any reason.

[@gopimukhi1130]

My ex used to do these always hurts my sentiments at the same time but in a very subtle way , if i dare to complain about it, she start gaslighting me saying im way sensitive and a cycle goes on But Im glad that i know everything about narcissist at very young age

[@Crimsonking2006]

Awesome video. You nailed it perfectly. I've met individuals who play these types of mind games and they are dangerous. If they make themselves ambiguous and hard to read than they cannot be trusted. Period.

[@positivepraveen9141]

Yes these animals do that....they don't have sense language skills education or empathy....

[@sharisimonehampton5434]

"I'm sick of people saying..." or whatever...when they mean you. Usually only me and the narcissist are the only 'people' in the room. Ok. Why couldn't the narcissist just say directly referring to me by name or as you? Strange. And wow, talk about avoiding...crazy! But yes, a lot is revealed. Ty for this video. 😉👍♥️

[@Lyrielonwind]

Using your name it would be like admitting you are a subject, not an object. It's just a way to diminish you so you lose your self esteem.

[@Fresh2day]

Great subject to cover! Thanks Danish! Enjoy your weekend.

[@narcabusecoach]

Will do. Have plans for resting

[@joycehagins9900]

Truth, ❤ and the light!

[@narcabusecoach]

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[@LoveSource1111]

The guy dated shortly after the narcissist would degrade my body and then say, "I was joking." He would say that his narcissistic ex girlfriend could take his jokes but I can't. He had narcissistic behavior. He even tried to change how I dress and style my hair and we only met a few months. I'm we are done. I was not well. He was hilarious because had some nerve to say the things he said because his ex spent all his money and his house was falling apart.

[@Lyrielonwind]

I bet his ex is not a narcissist. He's triangulating you with her. It's not the ex fault he's still using her to make you compete with her. Her ex is not a narcissist; he is a narcissist.

[@tarey05]

Danish, when referring to the narcissist's humor, you may want to put the word "humor" in quotation marks, as these snakes have zero ability to be humorous. Their jokes and "humorous" expressions always fall flat, leaving others feeling confused and creeped out. No, narcs are humorless, as they lack authenticity and a genuine personality.

[@narcabusecoach]

Sure, Will keep that in mind

[@izawaniek2568]

Spot on! You have hit the mark. Thank you

[@tamasitarod3176]

Oh yes they do. The one I knew also had an evil laugh to go with it. I can still hear him...

[@sherylo994]

thank you, my Mother i so insecure this is her favorite tool she will never say what's she really means, how come narcs are so insecure? I guess she is covert?

[@narcabusecoach]

Insecurity is why narcissism is created at the first place.

[@angelnewfoundlife812]

Great Content 👍💯

[@Lillyflower-J88]

Danish Basir - you have great insight into how these peoples minds work, and say it so eloquently. Your perfectly right when you say "Ambiguous humour gives an easy escape route from being confronted about the real meaning behind the words and always claiming the comment was meant as a joke or that they were just misunderstood and can be used as predetory information to be used as a tool for future manipulation. " Which is precisely what I experienced with a close relative couple of days ago. I was flabergasted, and didnt know how to respond because of the ambiguouty, yet I knew they were testing my reactions. and I knew what they said was completely wrong and sadly abusive in a subtle way..

[@briandrake6881]

Narcs will never allow their target to have their own sense of humor. And even if they do, the target's humor will later be used against them by the narc. Been there!

[@CrankyBarista]

Or they will steal your jokes and use them as their own. My ex narc would pretend my jokes weren't funny, and then use them later to other people right in front of me. Then, when I would point out I made that joke, he somehow would make me look like I was being jealous.

[@leticiamilo4387]

Thanks Danish!!❤⚘

[@alimccreery755]

I’m sorry but the fire alarm really made me laugh 😂😂😂😂you are too cute

[@fidgetflea1091]

Thanks!

[@dZeNa.]

„You just let them play and get money for that“-his answer after I told him about my das with my cool students as a Highschool teacher 😰 wouldn’t read cards from my students for my bday! He would say „my coworker is 35 & works in a bar, he’s so old & such a loser!“ I’m 35. 5 years younger than him

[@gessrinky9129]

Just Saturday I wore some ripped jeans, my MIL asked if I needed some money. While in the car she made a comment that I must have farted. Awful person. She ALWAYS points out faults in others.

[@Dipti339]

Pls share a video of Narcissistic texting pattern

[@learngain2659]

So sad is that they they criticize their children in front others to show that they are good humans

[@KleeKaiBreeders]

Narcs idea of a joke is plain old sick. Bye bye narcie🙋🏽‍♀️

[@sweepapawahpaxtan2274]

they do wrong things intentionally and show fake empathy to feel strong and powerful

[@olyooshka]

So true..

[@aprildawnsunshine4326]

Joked about how he was only marrying me for the inheritance, then dumped my disabled butt the moment he realized he wasn't getting anything. 🤦🏻‍♀️ And I feel like the idiot bc he'd said it so many times but I kept believing it was a just a joke

[@ddajani45]

Watching too many of thoes vids is starting to make me feel like a narcissist..i make fun of my weight and my flaws but im truly confident im comfortable in my own skin

[@petra473]

So, so true!

[@countrystud1986]

One of the very few videos on the channel I disagree with. I have very, very rarely ever seen any narcissists use 'self depreciating' humour; even doing it as a 'joke' does too much harm to their perfect self image; they'll make tons of humour and depreciating comments to others constantly, but themselves? Not hardly ever. It immediately takes them out of the 'power' position. They want everything to be flawless.

[@undercoverbird8592]

I have seen them do this. My ex and his Narc mother had a way of putting themselves down. That’s a whole other mind trip…. To get me and the kids to feel sorry for them. 🙄 playing the victim.

[@dennisruga8603]

Exactly right.

[@jackilynpyzocha662]

Dad nitpicks at me and doesn not care about my feelings. I am not in contact with him.

[@SaraX2024]

When you text with them, pay attention to the many "lol" and "hahaha" to lighten their self-depreciating comments. They're not kidding, they're telling you the truth of who they really are.

[@sweepapawahpaxtan2274]

their s is stupid behavior all the time ,we should free ourselves from such people otherwise they will make us like them

[@benyameenyitzhak1036]

So narcissists would say something like: "Hey Danish, thanks for giving us this information - I'm glad I could actually understand you from your thick accent?"

[@exitrade]

so Joker is a narcissist? 😁

[@Lyrielonwind]

TLP

[@janeoxley4829]

Yes this is true, Narasstic think they are being funny, i.e my ex husband thought it was funny to make fun of my mother, when she was asking my father for help with a meal she was cooking, and imitating her voice despite her being deceased for nearly 26 years and it's not funny in fact it is contemp.

[@TexasBarnRats]

Dude, this description would also label as a narcissist, every truly kind, good and caring person who also happen to be a mischievous prankster and jokester. Hell, this description would apply to 85% of military veterans. Put on a helmet and toughen up. (btw...very happily married 35 yrs to the world's most awesome wife w/5 children).

[@G.T.muzika]

You have wrong chapters' titles.

[@narcabusecoach]

Corrected them. Thanks

[@G.T.muzika]

@@narcabusecoach you are welcome.

[@nicholasotto3282]

Bro idk about this one. This video seems kinda a full broad blanket statement. Just to get some content out

[@angelique-hu9cc]

I guess everyone is a narcissist

[@komarac55555]

"Learn to take a joke..." ~ "No, learn to make one."