5 Ways To Defeat a Narcissist without Fighting Them

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Danish Bashir

Danish Bashir

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@narcabusecoach
@narcabusecoach 10 ай бұрын
Register for workshop on "Break the trauma bond with a Narcissist" www.emotionalabuserecovery.com/eventbtb
@marziyak
@marziyak 10 ай бұрын
Danish make video now more on how to live with them in harmony if there is no way for you to leave them
@kelleighanthony-kearns2777
@kelleighanthony-kearns2777 10 ай бұрын
@@marziyakI’m ol
9 ай бұрын
Commercial! Oh you broke my heart! F*ck it up man!
@ingakorjus4236
@ingakorjus4236 9 ай бұрын
😮
@sarikapawar7467
@sarikapawar7467 9 ай бұрын
I have subscribed. But please use easy english words to speak.
@bonitajolie9341
@bonitajolie9341 10 ай бұрын
How do you defeat a narcissist without fighting them? 1. Leave 2. Get as far away as possible 3. GO NO CONTACT I know not everyone can leave, but those who can, should RUN!!
@joseenoel8093
@joseenoel8093 10 ай бұрын
Letting them know that you're, surprise surprise, in charge of your own life, can think for yourself, imagine that, they're bewildered, how ever will you get by without their hypocritical shoulders to lean on?!
@Raven4508
@Raven4508 10 ай бұрын
YOU CAN DISCREETLY PLAN TO LEAVE, WITH AN EXTREMELY TRUSTED FRIEND OF YOUR OWN ( NOT A FRIEND OF THE NARCS TOO)
@JustMe-uu3bh
@JustMe-uu3bh 10 ай бұрын
the thing the narc I am dealing with has repeated in each interaction where she blows up and freaks is that, "you have all these weird different ideas!" which is because I do NOT think like HER and I even said at the beginning, "well, sorry if you are so upset that I do not believe exactly like you do, but I do have my own mind". she HATES that I do not just worship her weirdness. name calling too.....all the while she screeches and raises her voice in high pitched outrage. I do not fight, all I do is say in a calm voice, "I don't mind if you think your way" and I leave the room. I don't argue because it will go circular, there is no commonsense only emotional irrationality due to her fear of losing control. that's all she wants is control over me and my life. not happening. @@joseenoel8093
@JustMe-uu3bh
@JustMe-uu3bh 10 ай бұрын
and hopefully that friend does NOT KNOW the narc......be careful and safe........that's what I am planning to do, all in secret and leave no trail whatsoever........@@Raven4508
@bonitajolie9341
@bonitajolie9341 10 ай бұрын
@@Raven4508 AMEN!!!!
@aflack1000
@aflack1000 10 ай бұрын
Be aware that the covert narc will assume the position of victim. Don't fall for it. I'm in the habit of saying, "You're not a victim", and walking away.
@maryglo1
@maryglo1 10 ай бұрын
"Too bad for self pity!" "Let me know when you stop feeling sorry for yourself." "I am not responsible for your self pity." "It all goes away when you solve problems rather than wallow in them." "Turn your stumbling blocks into stepping stones." "Better to build a bridge than burn it." "Let me know when you recover." "You're right!" "I know." "You should know." Why? "It's about you." "You and me" or "me" ______ fill in the blank "No " "Can't right now." "Got to go now!" Bye.
@olgasampis9745
@olgasampis9745 10 ай бұрын
The best is to ignore them
@whatisthat1585
@whatisthat1585 10 ай бұрын
​@@olgasampis9745actually true
@anouk1311
@anouk1311 10 ай бұрын
Yes, you are right. I knew standard narc as i have one in my family. And surprise: i meet a covert narc, which I noticed something is not right, but he was too weak, mood changes, and not paranoid at all. Just he had the blaming others thing and irresponsible in decisions and budget. So after 3yrs i was convinced he is ADHD mixed with a bit of Borderline. But then i discover Borderline is opposite in spectrum comparing with narc. And thats why is common that a narc may have temporary a little borderline traits just on short term , it fluctuates in between the two having main one narc. Same is with Borderline, they can get short term narc traits but it matters which one is dominant. I was a bit amazed and confused as this was completely different of what i knew from my family case. So I become currious and research. To find out he is covert narcissist. And has a bit of ADHD as he cant focus long time to a task or even to read or write long , even he knows how to do it and he is also not a stupid person at all. But he rely on other people to do this for him. Very manipulative, but this is just because he cant do himself. Due to health issue. He knows he is empty inside , and he also fluctuate to negative emotions. I dont think he has high emotions too often. Maybe he is kind for a transactional purpose. To get what he wants.
@olgasampis9745
@olgasampis9745 10 ай бұрын
@@anouk1311 get rid of him
@dwaynedixon7138
@dwaynedixon7138 5 ай бұрын
I learned from living with a narcissist that “Silence” is my greatest weapon because they “Narcissist” thrive off attention.
@raredour
@raredour 5 ай бұрын
yup the deprive of that
@EsterKashihalww
@EsterKashihalww 4 ай бұрын
Really does that really works?
@A.Alam-lg9ry
@A.Alam-lg9ry 3 ай бұрын
But if narcissists start beating to speak??
@ruthmichelle6623
@ruthmichelle6623 3 ай бұрын
Thank you I did that untill I left a narc last month.Am in my own place now and am feeling so peacefuly and happier.He was so provocative he will go as far as calling me a stupid.They trigger your emotions.
@CurlyTops25
@CurlyTops25 2 ай бұрын
True, and when they feel that you're okay, they will tell you bad things happened to them to ruin your mood
@simonpegg1196
@simonpegg1196 10 ай бұрын
1) Indifference 2) Strong boundaries 3) No-contact 4) Knowing when to butt in - calling them out. 5) Knowing when to back off - speak the truth and move on (physically and emotionally).
@wallymarcel1
@wallymarcel1 10 ай бұрын
And no fawning. They’re pieces of shit.
@maryglo1
@maryglo1 10 ай бұрын
One liners.
@simonpegg1196
@simonpegg1196 10 ай бұрын
@@caroleminke6116 Most narcs target people who are worth celebrating. So celebrate and treasure yourself, especially now that you are free of their clutches.
@MSSHARIII
@MSSHARIII 10 ай бұрын
​@@simonpegg1196Spot on!
@donnawoodford8145
@donnawoodford8145 8 ай бұрын
​@@maryglo1 Sometimes you have to repeat the one liner several times in a neutral tone, no emotion, before they "get" your point... not that they will accept it, but they'll know they can't continue to discuss that topic further at that time.
@savitah2109
@savitah2109 10 ай бұрын
Overall life is hell with narc
@OrthodoxChristian809
@OrthodoxChristian809 9 ай бұрын
They are sent from Hell to torment decent people
@tammywork1878
@tammywork1878 9 ай бұрын
That's a fact, my daughters boyfriend and father of her 2 little boys, I can't stand him, he's a narcissist in a bad way, he treats my daughter, my grandsons and me like we are trash, I'm so sick of being called bad names, I'm tired of his cheating on my daughter and I'm very sick of how he treats my grandsons, he mentally, emotionally and physically abuses all of us, where do I go for help to end this all and take my daughter, my grandsons and myself out of this awful and controlling situation, I'm so scared of him I'm afraid he's going to hurt me, my daughter and my grandsons. He has loaded guns in the house, he drinks a lot of whiskey and smokes major amounts of marijuana, it's terrifying!
@beautypablotamarini7315
@beautypablotamarini7315 9 ай бұрын
​​@@tammywork1878police, of course, then social service and prosecutor There is shedule of abuse behaviour. They are all same. All domestic violance offices know to recognize abuser. Document all. Take pictures. Save all messages, texts etc. Anything that can help. Videos. I did it without any proof. They took my all story as truth. Bcs it was disgusting what monster did to me and authentic.
@beautypablotamarini7315
@beautypablotamarini7315 9 ай бұрын
​@@tammywork1878I'm sure they'll yell on you why didn't you come sooner to prevent all of this.
@francalatona591
@francalatona591 8 ай бұрын
@tammywork1878 Everything you said is very serious. The authorities need to know. Take pics of everything if you can guns, physically brusing etc... Document everything! DO NOT LET HIM KNOW! All of you need to get away from that monster he sounds unpredictable! But plan it out about leaving. You may have to do it without him knowing and where you will be going. Find out the laws of your state about voice recordings, too. Your well-being and your families come first!
@bizzyb8734
@bizzyb8734 10 ай бұрын
My go-to responses: "I am not going to get caught up in a circular argument with you," , "You are entitled to your opinion, but I am not entitled to your opinion." and "You have every right to speak your mind, but I don't have to hear it." Then, I walk away-smiling to myself.😊
@francalatona591
@francalatona591 10 ай бұрын
Very,very good. 👍
@namitasubhash632
@namitasubhash632 9 ай бұрын
I do the same. Exactly the same.
@polinemwaniki8157
@polinemwaniki8157 9 ай бұрын
Good topics for day. I have learnt a lot. Danish be blessed. I now have a weapon on how to handle my husband who is blaming for all his failures and alienating me from my children and his people
@daumantsbrunins
@daumantsbrunins 9 ай бұрын
How does it make you better, If you walk away smiling. Because walking away is narcissistic trait and walking away smiling seems like vengeance which slso is narcissistic trait.
@gwendolynbien-aime1536
@gwendolynbien-aime1536 9 ай бұрын
@@daumantsbrunins Apparently, you don’t know or haven’t experienced narcissistic abuse. I walk away smiling to myself because I’m proud that I didn’t take the bait to argue with a narcissist, in which I would be demeaned, shamed and belittled. Not falling into a narc trap IS SOMETHING TO BE PROUD OF AND SMILE ABOUT.
@Gymuser7442
@Gymuser7442 3 ай бұрын
Its unbelievable the amount of work you have to do to just to live with a narcissist.
@vivekanandbs1348
@vivekanandbs1348 8 күн бұрын
What else can you do when your parent is a narcissist
@aviricky6026
@aviricky6026 10 ай бұрын
Danish. You have been a saviour for plenty of those people who had no idea what they were going through or what led them to their diminished state of mind and body after a narc abuse for years. We thank you. Keep on coming with the great work..👍
@stupensardi2783
@stupensardi2783 10 ай бұрын
Amen. Well said ❤
@Betty823
@Betty823 10 ай бұрын
You say it exactly right, for years i had no idea what i was going through. 😊
@randr5910
@randr5910 9 ай бұрын
A diminished state of mind! This is how I feel. I keep wondering if I need to get checked for a brain tumor
@aviricky6026
@aviricky6026 9 ай бұрын
@@randr5910 hey. We understand you. But you gotta take the power of life back to yourself again. We all went or are still in the same phase as you. You are not alone. As we are mostly empaths and we feel for each other. You gotta rise up again. You deserve a better life. A new and an improved one. A life full of happiness, peace and prosperity. A life where you can be the best YOU. 🧡🙏
@heatherpalaszek468
@heatherpalaszek468 8 күн бұрын
For real
@michaelreed9805
@michaelreed9805 9 ай бұрын
Excellent advice. I did these things ice cold without emotion. No argueing, no retaliation or name calling, if you get upset...be upset with yourself for allowing the narc to get under your skin
@Stubbornclarity
@Stubbornclarity 9 ай бұрын
Ok thanks! 😊
@crystalalexander2003
@crystalalexander2003 8 ай бұрын
It’s true I did the same ! The only way is ice cold n no contact
@DianeLindenberger
@DianeLindenberger 10 ай бұрын
JUST GO NO CONTACT....THAT IS ALL YOU NEED TO KNOW......THEY DO NOT CARE ABOUT YOU.
@CassandraHamilton-y3m
@CassandraHamilton-y3m 10 ай бұрын
This is a very good thing to do if you can. Many of us are co-parenting children with a narcissist, so going no contact isn't possible. However, anytime he tries to argue or shift the conversation to something that isn't about the kids, I shut it down. I tell him that his opinion has been noted but I disagree, and I leave it at that.
@D33Lux
@D33Lux 9 ай бұрын
@@CassandraHamilton-y3m Take your children and run, he will destroy your children when they get older.
@amber40494
@amber40494 9 ай бұрын
I've been lucky to go no contact. But then she got a new phone number and I answered it. Never answer if you don't know who it is!LOL
@deepadhania5921
@deepadhania5921 9 ай бұрын
Parents??
@AnaMaria-vg7tx
@AnaMaria-vg7tx 8 ай бұрын
Staying is poison.. Really!!
@JacK-qn4zh
@JacK-qn4zh 10 ай бұрын
From 6 years now in learning...No contact and No explaining yourself. Never answer their questions and move on! PS...Never go back!
@StelzDwnUndr
@StelzDwnUndr 8 ай бұрын
Stop running.
@exile8111
@exile8111 7 ай бұрын
Yes, Never go back. They can't change
@sheronsnethembancube2693
@sheronsnethembancube2693 6 ай бұрын
I really need strength on the never go back part....it's draining staying with one
@kushysmoke3690
@kushysmoke3690 6 ай бұрын
Don't go back it's not worth it
@kushysmoke3690
@kushysmoke3690 6 ай бұрын
​@@sheronsnethembancube2693just leave even if you've invested a lot of time and money at the end of the day it's not worth it I live with one but it's my uncle not a female or anything it's a family member and my life's been hell for 5 years im going to sleep in a tent for a month just to get away from the mental abuse. Sooooo draining 😢
@kimmie6138
@kimmie6138 7 ай бұрын
After the narcissist I was with beat me, I left him as soon as he was busy away from the house. We lived in an area he was unfamiliar with. I answered one phone call from him one month later. He started out saying we could be friends then it went to, everything would have been fine if you hadn't made me beat you up, I told him wrong and hung up. Praise God I'm free.
@Ffuhr
@Ffuhr 5 ай бұрын
Period
@LualhatiFlores-Mendoza
@LualhatiFlores-Mendoza 3 ай бұрын
Walk away
@reubenjames2248
@reubenjames2248 7 ай бұрын
So basically a narcissist is a demon
@ching6ay
@ching6ay 7 ай бұрын
😂
@hollym4175
@hollym4175 7 ай бұрын
Yes. Absolutely
@hollym4175
@hollym4175 7 ай бұрын
That’s why there is no reasoning
@clark.mellarke
@clark.mellarke 7 ай бұрын
Satan's spawn bro
@zeesims159
@zeesims159 7 ай бұрын
Absolutely, the devil!
@PaidforinFull
@PaidforinFull 10 ай бұрын
Defeating the Narc seems a lot like Thermal Nuclear War, “The only winning move is not to play”
@samuelsparling878
@samuelsparling878 10 ай бұрын
I brought this up when she was raging after trying to negotiate some non-negotiables around our break up. I've got the LOTR "you have no power here" clip queued up for next time she tries. 😂
@palapalak.8907
@palapalak.8907 10 ай бұрын
Thank you.
@DevineAmara
@DevineAmara 8 ай бұрын
💯💯💯💯💯
@helenedeutsch5407
@helenedeutsch5407 7 ай бұрын
He/she launches the bomb and it explodes in your territory.. i’m not sure how this qualifies as an appropriate analogy.
@jackilynpyzocha662
@jackilynpyzocha662 6 ай бұрын
Yes! I stopped "playing" this Easter and am holding strong, I am winning!
@Isabela2024-yr
@Isabela2024-yr 10 ай бұрын
Danish, you're exactly right. I actually did it without knowing the right tools to do it. He knows now that he can't defeat me. Every move he makes, I dose him with the right words. He knows now that he can't manipulate me. I can predict when he's in the mood to pick on me. His face turns black, and his eyes look like an owl. I asked him what's wrong with you? You look like an owl ready to prey. He was stunned and replied back, "What are you talking about? I told him to go to the mirror and check for yourself. His demeanor changed. Whatever he's thinking was aborted. I became a shrink. 😂
@rebeccamay6420
@rebeccamay6420 10 ай бұрын
We, as empaths and/or recipients of emotional abuse, can train ourselves to become "vibe readers," if not "mind readers." Once we recognize their behavior patterns, we can "play chess" and anticipate their next two or three moves and plan our own moves accordingly. From watching videos by Danish, Doctor Ramani, and others, I've learned how to better control my own responses to be less reactive. "Gray Rocks" are not as fun to play with. The abuser loses their control over you, and they become fearful. If they're smart, they're the rare few who'll recognize the error of their ways and work on healing the trauma that led them down the path that would lead to their own self-destruction. I hope that there are some who can still seek genuine redemption.
@annmutua638
@annmutua638 9 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@gb3776
@gb3776 8 ай бұрын
@teresitaekim2565 I love that I have to try it.”you look like an owl ready to prey”😂😂😂 You are so right the person I am dealing with gets ansi his eyes change like he is looking for something to attack.😂😂
@tishaturner8079
@tishaturner8079 8 ай бұрын
Good one😊
@RepentfollowJesus
@RepentfollowJesus 8 ай бұрын
Sounds possessed
@zaidarivas7152
@zaidarivas7152 10 ай бұрын
They are terrible. I have a narc sister. Damaged doesn’t begin to describe her crazy. I went no contact. Best thing I’ve ever done.
@kimhumiston2686
@kimhumiston2686 9 ай бұрын
Same here.
@felicitybywater8012
@felicitybywater8012 9 ай бұрын
Same here but it was my father.
@midnite4412
@midnite4412 9 ай бұрын
Same here as well.
@happyclappy1805
@happyclappy1805 9 ай бұрын
Same here. Two narc sisters and a narc mother. Best thing for my peace. I Iook and feel years younger they were sucking me dry
@s.fzahra4632
@s.fzahra4632 9 ай бұрын
​@@happyclappy1805Really tough.May god protect you and bless you
@SouthpawPatty
@SouthpawPatty 9 ай бұрын
If only there had been youtube when I was married. It would have saved me so much time, effort and sadness. I spent decades wondering what was wrong with me. I couldn't be right no matter how I tried. I could never be good enough no matter how I tried. I honestly was emotionally and mentally dead for so many years. At least now I can understand what, or who, I was dealing with. At least I know now that none of it was my fault. I don't think I will ever completely heal or be able to forgive what he did to me. Thank you for these videos. They are so helpful for understanding wtf was happening in my life.
@barbarastrayhorn4667
@barbarastrayhorn4667 6 күн бұрын
Me too
@mariposa1933
@mariposa1933 9 ай бұрын
Don’t engage at all! Do not react! It works! Do not take offense and do not defend yourself! Thats right!! 🙏🙏🙏🙏 They will warp anything you say! Ice cold is right, as hard as it is.
@Mochi-fc6uy
@Mochi-fc6uy 10 ай бұрын
Sir, i bow to you🙏. Being tossed around mentally in every possible way by the narc , having to deal with him for 20yrs, now i understand all the trauma i went thru, the questions i repeatedly asked myself, seeing the same pattern and not understanding what was going on, i was just soul , body and mind exhausted and gave up. Now through your videos i have peace of mind, clarity and answers. I now know how to handle myself so that i can still be there for the sake of my kids in this relationship but being more STRONG.I believe God made me find your videos.
@loujackson5649
@loujackson5649 10 ай бұрын
I was married into a relationship for almost 12 years before I even knew what a narcissist was. I can say that I recommend if anyone is on that type of relationship they should get out. Get away from them as far as you can, fast as you can and leave whatever you have to behind. Never look back and protect your children at any cost. They will most likely be used as a target for payback otherwise. It is a dangerous game and the narcissist enjoys it far most than you will. There is a lot of damage left to clean up after the break for all involved. It is better to break sooner than later. Know matter how broken they seem or how many promises aka lies look away and never believe them. It's sad especially when you love the person but they do/can not love in return. They hate anything that reminds them of you and if they can not turn a person against you, they will hate them also. Even if it's their own child. It's a sick and miserable life and the damage is very hard to overcome.
@aaronconners5570
@aaronconners5570 8 ай бұрын
Currently going through
@Zoya288z
@Zoya288z 8 ай бұрын
@loujackson your right.. esp the part with own child, but i never or can walk awag now i dont have route to take nd no 1 be side me... only can ask for prayers fir my kids nd I to who may read... thanks
@cathbelle5096
@cathbelle5096 7 ай бұрын
Hi Zoya....​@@Zoya288z..my best and positive wishes for you and Kids.. love...
@cathbelle5096
@cathbelle5096 7 ай бұрын
Go on listening to Danish, he 'll give you strength
@cathbelle5096
@cathbelle5096 7 ай бұрын
As he said, no arguing, no crying, no explaination, ice cold but no anger, no shouting..
@lonewolfmgtow7187
@lonewolfmgtow7187 10 ай бұрын
There’s one thing I’ve learned about narcissist over the years is that they’re overgrown children basically children in adult bodies real talk
@AnaM.F
@AnaM.F 10 ай бұрын
“ children “ in an old, crappy , disgusting, ugly bodies🤮
@rde4017
@rde4017 10 ай бұрын
Exactly. You treat them like the 3 year old toddler they really are.
@RM-qq5rj
@RM-qq5rj 10 ай бұрын
Except when they're your boss or parent and have control over your job, finances, or other aspects you need to live your life and they take their toddler tantrums out on you....
@rde4017
@rde4017 10 ай бұрын
@@RM-qq5rj Teach yourself how to lower that invisible brick wall between you and the narc. Always remember every accusation is a confession. Never take anything they say personally, they are always talking about themselves. When they start raging give them the 1000 yard stare, stand upright with your shoulders back and do not cower in front of them. Give them short, factual answers, nothing more. Despite their bluff and bluster and tantrums, they do not know what they are doing, and they do not know what they are talking about. They are utterly incompetent without the vaguest hint of wisdom, and are absolutely terrified anyone will find out. The very fact that you know they are a narc has given you the advantage, you can learn how to use it to your benefit.
@RM-qq5rj
@RM-qq5rj 10 ай бұрын
@@rde4017 thanks
@Pitchfrk_
@Pitchfrk_ 10 ай бұрын
Imagine coming home after a long day’s work everyday and turning into an investigative journalist just to get evidence instead of getting massaged, eating and sleeping
@maryglo1
@maryglo1 10 ай бұрын
You may never bet on the getter!
@joseenoel8093
@joseenoel8093 10 ай бұрын
No kidding, they're their own worst enemies, it's really like they're attacking you b4 you can catch your breath, how can you say your day was fun when it wasn't, they should entertain themselves as to be more pleasant to be around!
@bubbspelch1134
@bubbspelch1134 10 ай бұрын
Yeh how was your day hun? More like what did you do? Where did you go who did you talk to. Oh what's the smell in the house ect ect.
@angieblake3424
@angieblake3424 9 ай бұрын
Yes, it is hell. It isn't a true marriage. Just a hostage situation and the narc is the kidnapper.
@lorenzowilliams9566
@lorenzowilliams9566 9 ай бұрын
Man bruh. I love this comment.
@deborahnavarro9333
@deborahnavarro9333 8 ай бұрын
They hate the truth
@melisentiapheiffer3034
@melisentiapheiffer3034 6 ай бұрын
Yep. This is why they are all pathological liars.
@jackilynpyzocha662
@jackilynpyzocha662 6 ай бұрын
@@melisentiapheiffer3034 My narc dad lies to me and thinks I don't know, but I do. I am not in contact with him for my own well-being since Easter of this year. He won't be hearing from me on Father's Day! He can't be bothered, so I won't, he won't even notice!
@todddanforth8853
@todddanforth8853 6 ай бұрын
They remain in a deep state of denial.
@sarahmwangi5540
@sarahmwangi5540 4 ай бұрын
Lie is my mother's second name.
@memmemayer9622
@memmemayer9622 4 ай бұрын
& they hate to be unmasked.
@supriyapradhan3338
@supriyapradhan3338 3 ай бұрын
Narcissist can never change.. but u help urself to survive.. stay calm and agree with all the statements n remember them for future reference.. protect yourself from their lies and blame games.. learn detachment yet stay friendly.. u will surely survive
@streaming5332
@streaming5332 10 ай бұрын
Shouldn't you walk away if someone is screaming at you. Its damaging to absorb abuse.
@patlewkowicz6339
@patlewkowicz6339 9 ай бұрын
Can’t escape if in a car
@RepentfollowJesus
@RepentfollowJesus 8 ай бұрын
​@patlewkowicz6339 never argue with the driver of a vehichle. They can kill you both with driving crazy out of anger.😊
@Belluser-we1uc5cb2l
@Belluser-we1uc5cb2l 8 ай бұрын
​​@patlewkowicz6339 Get out of the car at red light quickly. Have a taxi app on your cell.
@Willowtheprariedog
@Willowtheprariedog 7 ай бұрын
Walking away doesn't work when they follow and keep at it to get a reaction from you. Silence is the best way to deal with them if you chose to stay with them!
@jackilynpyzocha662
@jackilynpyzocha662 6 ай бұрын
I'm not a sponge! I won't be harrassed! Hence, no-contact with my can't be bothered father(narc).His loss is my gain!
@kevinhaney293
@kevinhaney293 8 ай бұрын
Normal folks think, well when she/he comes to their senses they will see they are wrong and apologize. That will never happen with a narcissist.
@jackilynpyzocha662
@jackilynpyzocha662 6 ай бұрын
No-contact is my reality, Dad(narc) can't be bothered anyway, so no problems for me. I don't owe him anything! I never will!
@Ffuhr
@Ffuhr 5 ай бұрын
@@jackilynpyzocha662lucky still dealing w him n him spreading lies to other fam members
@BiggCole114
@BiggCole114 3 ай бұрын
Or if it does It's just a manipulative tactic to get what they want
@catherinewest7923
@catherinewest7923 2 ай бұрын
Agree he’s never sorry . Lacks empathy . Married 4 years and I’m exhausted
@JustMe-uu3bh
@JustMe-uu3bh 10 ай бұрын
I have let the narc I am dealing with know that I DO KNOW that she is a thief but I do not confront nor say this outright nor directly............I do not say it outright because she will scream and go crazy...so.....what I have done is.......I act innocent while asking questions, in one particular recent instance because I know how she has stolen a car and several thousand $$$ from our dead roommate instead of giving it to his son or wife (he was separated but not divorced) I merely asked ("innocently"), "Oh so is his son coming to get the car?" (*bats eyes innocently) and she went total silent........stuttering and stammering a response of, "oh, uh, well, it's ah, he can't just come here, he lives too far away"....(she was in total shock I would even know to ask that, like I was stupid) and so I merely (*again, innocently), asked, in a sweet voice, "but all he has to do is take a bus and then drive the car back, right?" and again, she (obviously freaked out that I would know the son would inherit all the dead roommate left here) and she stammered, and acted like that would be "impossible for him to do that" so I countered with, "oh, so you could then SELL the car and send him the cash, right?" and she was totally shocked/silent and so freaked out I would act like I KNOW it's the son's rightful inheritance (since his dad died) and she was keeping the car (and his cash savings) all for herself. how I found out about the $$$$$ in CASH is she slipped and told me the dead roommate had been saving ALL his money to move to Hawaii and (it probably totaled 40-60 THOUSAND in cash at least) and he had been stashing it into an envelope when he died....he had no bank account.....AND she forged his last 4 paychecks when he was laying comatose in the hospital *because as he was dying, she blurted out to me in frustration, "I can't get him to sign his last 4 paychecks!" and because he never became conscious again, I KNOW SHE FORGED HIS SIGNATURE and put them into her own account as he never had a bank account. she is so stupid but I DO know. I think this is why she doesn't push me too far although she does constantly do the SILENT TREATMENT like I do not exist to freeze me out (I am renting in her house) and so pretends I do not exist. this is to make me feel BAD. this is her favorite ploy but since I DO KNOW this is all she does to make me capitulate and to fawn and to be nice to her, I merely ignore it and I always THINK AHEAD OF HER. I also do periodically plant pieces of paper in the trash as she digs thru it to find out anything she can about me and to know what I am doing (I know, pathetic but I know for sure that she does this) so I PLANT stuff so she can find it - like she now has "secret info" on me. But I do this to keep her off my back and calmed down like "she secretly knows about me" all the while I am working on myself to GET OUT AS SOON AS I CAN.........I am praying and watching these videos to stay sane and also I do believe narcs are controlled by the dark side so I call on God to protect me and to guide me on healing so I can get out of this nightmare. sorry this comment is so long, hope this share helps someone, I got to vent, no one I know understands or cares about narcissism so this is my "go to" to stay sane, so thank you, Danish......God wins in the end, so I just need to heal and do my part...
@francalatona591
@francalatona591 10 ай бұрын
Wow! She is a out-right criminal! She needs to be reported. What ever state you live in find out about voice recordings and your rights. This is really serious stuff that POS needs to go to prison. Forgery can be traced back. A serious investigation needs to happen. That man's family has the right to know. Report that evil wicked thing to the authorities! She is dangerous! ...And get yourself out and away as soon as possible!
@queenesther4142
@queenesther4142 10 ай бұрын
Keep praying. God will keep and preserve you through it all. While you plan to leave. And also use the tips Dannish is giving you. Stay safe and keep moving forward. Don't forget to gray rock the narc too.
@Stubbornclarity
@Stubbornclarity 9 ай бұрын
Leave your devices behind! She's put spyware on them that will give away your location!
@onyxbellz
@onyxbellz 8 ай бұрын
Two questions on my mind, could she have anything to do with his death? And do you realize she could rope you in as an accomplice if she gets caught?
@Stubbornclarity
@Stubbornclarity 8 ай бұрын
Leave your devices behind or get them checked by a professional for stalkerware when you leave! She's definitely the type to be in your devices to see what you're doing! . You need to prioritize your safety. Seriously. You have knowledge of her criminal behavior and ppl have been killed for less. Reassure her that you won't say anything! For your own safety. Praying you get out safely. And turn off Find My Device and location sharing. This person may be a psychopath. I cannot caution you enough! Be careful, and keep her happy Please 🥺
@Sonzoul1
@Sonzoul1 10 ай бұрын
I have been in an extreme difficult situation for the last 2 years with a narcissist and I am realizing that becasue of my childhood trauma, I did not know when to back off after telling or exposing them. He got angrier and made a lot of lies about me and I kept responding to defent myslef and it literally took my health and my sanity. I learned however that my reactions were unhealthy and I had to know when to back off. I am not blaming myself but I know that as a survivor of complex ptsd, I have developped coping mechanism which are not healthy and I have to work on how i handle triggers or narcissists.
@ladyclairee2424
@ladyclairee2424 10 ай бұрын
Just know that you are brave and courageous for sharing your story and being so open about the struggles you faced and have had self reflections of your own. Going on 10 years for me with my daughters dad but I’ve only started the work of realizing it’s NPD these past couple years.. and then realizing it was also in my mother.. a devastating realization when the pieces come together. But I know we will all get through this and thanks to this channel it will continue to educate those like us who are survivors ❤️
@criminalconfidential
@criminalconfidential 10 ай бұрын
Same. Youre not alone.
@clintonnagy1662
@clintonnagy1662 7 ай бұрын
I read your post and I'm practicing coping skills also. I was suffering from PTSD and health issues from my covert narc also. Anxiety with chest pains and depression. The only thing I could do was leave to save myself. The gas lighting, blame shifting and guilt trips were common and destroyed my sense of self. I became unhinged trying to understand how someone I loved would treat me that way. It hurt me deeply but I fought a good fight. I'm trying to heal from that toxic experience. I miss her everyday and wonder what I could of done differently?? Idk? Maybe be nicer?
@poshperfect1393
@poshperfect1393 3 ай бұрын
As I’m finding out it’s common for a child of a Narcissist to marry a Narcissist. Sadly we do not see the toxicity within them because it’s our baseline “normal”. The Narc parent trains us to tolerate and accept abuse from our spouse. Getting out will feel near impossible, but I pray one day that we all can do it.
@lauraantic1384
@lauraantic1384 10 ай бұрын
They feed with every emotions ,they love fear that gives them more power
@jackilynpyzocha662
@jackilynpyzocha662 6 ай бұрын
Ignore them, their "supply" will be unavailable, their loss, your gain!
@davidngigi9843
@davidngigi9843 6 ай бұрын
​@jackilynpyzocha662very true. I'm half blind and trusted my wife of 18 years. She asked that I sign a scholarship for our daughter and I obliged. Little did I know I signed a quite claim deed for our home but I thank God I knew fast enough and filed for divorce. We are apart now and waiting for the verdict and divorce finalized.
@angelabell7326
@angelabell7326 24 күн бұрын
I think my son is going through this with a girl that may have had his baby she is a narcissist wants money doesn't care about his well being
@maryglo1
@maryglo1 10 ай бұрын
If you are constantly negative, people forget about you. Negative thinking is zero-sum-game thinking. Zero-sum games are they win/you lose games. Compromise is a useful art. Like Danish says, "Everything is a transaction with these people." - I dislike saying it - they are losers. And if you must be subordinate to them, what does it make you? Very much in a bad situation and only you can get yourself out if it. I like to call it the "super ball effect" when you escape. It really does outweigh any perceived negatives you nay have anout "abandoning" "Helpless". It is not that you simply leave in the normal sense. No, you escape and get gone. Do not disclose your location. It is a dangerous time! Be careful. Have copies of keys and important documents in an overnight bag stashed somewhere.
@jackilynpyzocha662
@jackilynpyzocha662 6 ай бұрын
I stopped being my narc dad's emotional ATM as of Easter this year, a huge improvement over hearing his petty opinion(unasked for!)
@triplemania5550
@triplemania5550 10 ай бұрын
They're giving you a confession: So true. In an organization, I had to work with this narcissistic woman. She ended up sending me an email, cc to a supervisor who she already manipulated. The letter clearly showed a bunch of narcissistic turds; The idealized self image, the rationalization she used to have no accountability whatsoever, gaslighting lies, and a bunch of accusations that looked like clichés which she did not substantiate, but I could substantiate how she did all those things herself! Supervisor wouldn't hear me but did want to keep me for the organization, which he described as a "kind of family", and came up with a "function elsewhere". Having boundaries can also mean having boundaries for myself and not crossing them. I won't do anything in an organization where I can't trust that I'll be heard when there's a problem. I'll accept no leadership whatsoever from a supervisor who gives his personal interests a higher priority than the responsibilities of his position. Let 'em eat their own stinkin' shit, it's their loss.
@asifhashmi3051
@asifhashmi3051 10 ай бұрын
Danish bhai u r a gem .far better thn professional therapists.U should have obtained a phd on the subject.UR presentation skills and emphasiaing on words to ponder over is remarakable .May God alimghty and his countless blessings be with u always.
@jackiepowell7513
@jackiepowell7513 10 ай бұрын
PhD like Jill Biden? It's overrated. It means: pile higher and deeper!!! Phd.
@maryglo1
@maryglo1 10 ай бұрын
I agree!
@maryglo1
@maryglo1 10 ай бұрын
​@@jackiepowell7513 Not like Jilly the Jilter!
@Lily-e8z8t
@Lily-e8z8t 8 ай бұрын
Thank you So MUCH , for these insights; I JUST BROKE a friendship with a narcissist, and this gives me yet more strength to break free FOREVER!!!! May God bless you deeply Sir!❤😊
@draganjagodic4056
@draganjagodic4056 10 ай бұрын
So true Sir. These egoistic psychopaths are utterly immoral, uncompassionate embodiment of Evil. Those are slimiest creatures, who use their logic only to hurt and get away with it. In fighting them, we are entitled to rip apart their weaknesses and make them face their own abyss. For their fear the truth, they fear their own monstrosity coming for them.
@draganjagodic4056
@draganjagodic4056 9 ай бұрын
@@CynderRose-jv5ri Thank You for the comment.
@nighatjahanzaib8913
@nighatjahanzaib8913 10 ай бұрын
You are absolutely right danish when i became neutral, giving no reactions, giving no emotions my husband got angry and started teasing me so that i could start a fight but i didn't give him a chance to be satisfied in this way ☺ how people can be so cruel? 😕
@francalatona591
@francalatona591 10 ай бұрын
Right! I had the narc say one time, " We're always competing." No, they are always trying to get one-up no matter what it is. I just stopped playing those stupid games of miniputlation and intimidation. So they are going crazy trying to find the smallest, most mundane things to blow them up into big issues. It is insane to see it in action, so you have to laugh at this, like they are little children playing bully games. That's how I see them. And I say KISS-OFF!
@simonahandschuh6651
@simonahandschuh6651 29 күн бұрын
Mister You're so great. I found out, never being too available to them, weakens them and makes them angry, running after You, wanting to possess You to abuse You again😊
@rajnibhatia6581
@rajnibhatia6581 10 ай бұрын
Thank you so much Danish 🌹🙏 God bless you always
@bellamainini5457
@bellamainini5457 3 ай бұрын
Two weeks before I married my husband, his best friend in Santa Barbara stopped me as I was loading the “family dog Lily” into the nanny 1997 Box “y” Land Cruiser. He said to me with the absolute most sincere and serious emotions…“You shouldn’t marry Steve,” I paused and met his gaze. “Oh? And why is that, David?” “Because he’s gay,” David said I married Steve because he told me he wasn’t gay. I wish he would have told me the truth. My life was a book from 11/7/98 Until 2021 Married 13 years divorced him two children grown I didn’t remember any of it until 2021. True trauma. 2 years of ongoing therapy is the only way I figured it all out. He was the worst narcissist and he is out of my life but I am writing the book. 🎉 Healed “kind of” because we will never be fully healed for narcissism. True story
@PronounsAreHerMajesty
@PronounsAreHerMajesty 9 ай бұрын
Going to court with a narcissist?? LISTEN TO THIS!! You provide such clear instruction on how to handle a narcissist in the court system. I have been doing this for 15 years and only in the last 5 did I get smart about it. My daughter’s father is a vulnerable narcissist. Your insistence on objectivity and pointing out behaviors and examples of them is SO much stronger and smarter than calling them a narcissist in front of those at the court. Don’t tell, show. Power stuff!
@clintonnagy1662
@clintonnagy1662 7 ай бұрын
I was an outsider in my last relationship with my ex narc. Her ex was a narc also. Seeing the insanity between them was hell knowing I could do nothing but observe. It was like watching 2 adult children battle it out verbally when they used their son as leverage in the argument. It was embarrassing and immoral to do such a thing. He is 8 now, and I think of the emotional abuse he has to deal with everyday in a coparenting environment. Both parents aren't fit to raise a child. I wish children services put him in a foster home. The level of insanity I saw from both of them was toxic. She still sleeps in a bed with him and he is 8 years old. In less then 10 years she will have a incestuous relationship with her own son at this rate. Its sick.That child will be on drugs by 13-15 years old because his mind can't process his childhood. We broke up recently and she moved onto her new supply. Not sure why I care but I still do.
@wallymarcel1
@wallymarcel1 10 ай бұрын
Thanks for these videos, Danish!
@lightloveandawake3114
@lightloveandawake3114 10 ай бұрын
That’s interesting, Danish, to take what they are saying as a confession of their wrong doings. Thanks for making your videos.
@jas_love
@jas_love 7 ай бұрын
Just simply living becomes very complex with a narcissist
@JoeyJumper42069
@JoeyJumper42069 6 ай бұрын
I’m so tired
@דיהפלדמן
@דיהפלדמן 6 ай бұрын
We have only this life, a butifull gift, we can do it because we are very strung , tomarow the sun will shine again, and we will enjoy it. Good Luck ❤
@emmarae4322
@emmarae4322 Ай бұрын
You never feel.secure or loved.
@rebeccachichikorole
@rebeccachichikorole 8 ай бұрын
This is very helpful as we all figure out how to get out of this psychopaths. I realize trying to argue with them. It’s like feeding their ego. First, for you will never win the argument.. and honestly it’s not worth it
@pulengmokhele4933
@pulengmokhele4933 9 ай бұрын
That's true.They will make feel like you are insane.
@ChileeEmelda
@ChileeEmelda 5 ай бұрын
Silent is always the way out if you are staying with a narcissist
@ngozieze7826
@ngozieze7826 4 ай бұрын
EXACTLY 💯
@AlexisPage-vu
@AlexisPage-vu 10 ай бұрын
I loved this episode! Hearing examples of how I should respond to a narc is SO helpful. I have repeated these responses over and over and over until they come easily. I practice being emotionless and I am working on being transactional-- I don't give anything away for nothing. Thank-you, Danish! Also, I appreciated knowing why I get drowsy after taking caffeine. That episode finally solved that mystery!
@dv5019
@dv5019 9 ай бұрын
You don’t have to defeat anybody. If you completed your self love again, you are ok in any circumstances and no one can hurt you anymore ❤
@swagatag.mahapatra6377
@swagatag.mahapatra6377 Ай бұрын
What a thought ❤
@rde4017
@rde4017 10 ай бұрын
Always remember every narc works from an identical unwritten script. Learn what that script is and you can stop them from using it. Then you've got them.
@Rabswood296
@Rabswood296 10 ай бұрын
Very true, financial abuse, domestic abuse, they all do the same thing but put their own twist on it. They are also the hero or the victim in any scenario.
@DevineAmara
@DevineAmara 8 ай бұрын
💯💯💯💯💯
@brittneybrommels8497
@brittneybrommels8497 7 ай бұрын
Yes this is so true my friend wow I have been with a narcissist for over two years and it’s been a nightmare. Wow I didn’t know it’s a confession when for example my boyfriend says was someone here or did I cheat on him 😮😵 holy shit maybe that means he is!
@rde4017
@rde4017 7 ай бұрын
@@brittneybrommels8497 Every narc accusation is a confession.
@jackilynpyzocha662
@jackilynpyzocha662 6 ай бұрын
I can't read minds and dad's(the narc) opinion of me is toxic. I deserve better, all-around. No-contact since Easter of this year! I am doing much better without his nitpicking!
@crystalalexander2003
@crystalalexander2003 8 ай бұрын
Wry true Danish I was married to one for 40 years they never accept anything I just walked away finally - ice cold - wish I had seen ur channel 30 years bk I would have healed much quicker ! But I did n m thankful Ur channel will definitely help lakhs!! 🙏🏽
@cindyk4324
@cindyk4324 10 ай бұрын
Thank you, Danish, for your suggestions on organizing evidence about each type of destructive, manipulative and deceptive behavior. Seems useful, protective and grounding.
@Emefur1
@Emefur1 9 ай бұрын
Once I stopped arguing back the next thing was it being hard not to try to justify or explain myself. I have to deal with a narcissist elderly mother. What I am trying to do to improve things is 1. lower contact even more. Keep it brief. 2. Do not as far as possible speak about myself. Let them chatter in, encourage their boring monologues. 3. Keep aware when interacting. Relaxed vigilance as Danish says.
@susanneh.7652
@susanneh.7652 9 ай бұрын
I’m in a similar situation with my old narc. mother and try to do the things you mention. Especially the thing about not telling her anything about myself works really well 👍🏼 Then she has less to criticize and slander about. I still have a lot to work on regarding keeping away from her, bc I feel somewhat sorry for her, since we lost my dad a year ago. But it’s so much calmer in my life when I do avoid her. You seem to be doing quite good 👏🏼☺️
@MeCynthiaAnn
@MeCynthiaAnn 10 ай бұрын
Thank you, thank you like always, dear Darnish, Video is amazing and amazing, but actually all your videos are amazing. GOD BLESS YOU bunches and bunches always. From JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA
@kulanifernandez3668
@kulanifernandez3668 10 ай бұрын
That was very clear and helpful. Organizing what he does helps me get out of confusion because he keeps me in the state of hypervigilence exactly as you say. I can’t think and revert to yelling at him I am so frustrated. Even with the facts, it’s impossible to get him to acknowledge his behavior. He’s been so awful to me that just seeing me triggers his reaction, I think to self loathing. I don’t think he even knows why he does what he does but not willing to look at any of it. Thank you,❤
@kerrytaggart8206
@kerrytaggart8206 10 ай бұрын
This one is outstanding +++ and most useful. I am going to save this one. Plan on taking notes and using it to help me in court opposing my narc sister. Also plan to use these strategies to deal with the covert narc I am working with. Thank you.
@gypsyblaik9702
@gypsyblaik9702 3 ай бұрын
You are the only one who has given me the tools to deal with my neighbour ❤❤
@Emefur1
@Emefur1 9 ай бұрын
Very true what Danish says. Keep aware and conscious. Relaxed vigilance sounds perfect. Listen to your body. Helps stops flight and freeze.
@likenootha
@likenootha 10 ай бұрын
Thanks for your content I am struggling trying to figure my life out and can't seem to do so. Appreciate your efforts truly.
@LisaCPerry
@LisaCPerry 9 сағат бұрын
I was a victim of narcissistics in the workplace and most recently a personal relationship I had no idea what I was dealing with. As someone who is on the opposite end an empath, I was hunted. I am currently healing and learning strategies now in how to deal with them as they are everywhere. My teachings are starting with you. Thank you for your service❤🙏💯
@FrancineTageant
@FrancineTageant 10 ай бұрын
I did that with my counselor. He stopped me. Asked me to give examples. He then told me that I was married to a psychopath. Yes I knew that. That was why I carefully planned my escape.
@kimmie6138
@kimmie6138 7 ай бұрын
I had never heard the word psychopathic narcissist before til my sister in-law said it so I looked it up and everything they said was on the dot my husband. And so after a beating from I pretended to agree with him that it was all my fault, realizing he was extremely dangerous. First open door to leave I took it. He wasn't familiar with our area so he couldn't track me down and zero contact got me free.
@01splitpea
@01splitpea 10 ай бұрын
Excellent! Thank you for sharing this!
@ursularose3270
@ursularose3270 10 ай бұрын
Thank you, Danish! You are a blessing and a calm and authentic anchor for anyone lost in the rough seas of narc abuse. Your insights go so many levels deeper to highlight the fundamental truths of the narc-codependent dynamics. I can't imagine what you've had to go through to reach such depth of understanding but at least you are able to use it now for the good of humanity! I thought divorcing the narc would free me but he is still causing me uttee chaos through upsetting my daughter. I'm in the midst of a court childcare arrangements battle with him so your advice here is just what I need. He brought an entire court application of nasty and baseless lies against me which are quite easy to disprove if the court will listen. My solicitor challenged the narcissist label which upset me as I felt he wasn't fully on my side but you've explained why so well. I'm going to document the abusive traits now with text message history to friends and family of the abuse. Thanks again!
@MsPriya89
@MsPriya89 2 ай бұрын
You know each micro atom of what a narc is built on. You're great. Thank you so much for unraveling my decades of bewilderment
@13Maverik
@13Maverik 10 ай бұрын
Explaining yourself leads you into their trap of mental conditioning. Then your words are never enough and lose all value. Is a terrible side affect.
@sandranyashashayamano2181
@sandranyashashayamano2181 9 ай бұрын
This is painful. The more you explain yourself. The more you are trapped
@RepentfollowJesus
@RepentfollowJesus 8 ай бұрын
They lead you down one rabbit hole after another never stating on one subject until it is fixed.
@Kath26124
@Kath26124 6 ай бұрын
Can confirm. The more explaining the worse it gets.
@ericarobinson6639
@ericarobinson6639 4 ай бұрын
🎉 so true
@1welshman
@1welshman 10 ай бұрын
It ain’t easy, they’re masters of their own dissonance in those situations but you can own your own opinion and response.
@edithali1263
@edithali1263 4 ай бұрын
Pretty good advice. My father is a narcissistic cult leader. I unwillingly became an expert in narcissism, in dealing w him and his family. I know it will all be used for my good one day.
@shilpishrivastawa2426
@shilpishrivastawa2426 7 ай бұрын
I pat my back for dealing with a narcissistic husband for 30 years......couldn't separate for kids and source of livelihood....I pray to the higher power .. God my savior. ..he's powerful professionally and socially and threatens me regularly.
@virinderbrar7576
@virinderbrar7576 6 ай бұрын
Same here 😢
@queensnonprofit
@queensnonprofit 5 ай бұрын
Stay prayed up! Prayer works on them developed strong prayer life. Copy paste scripture and insert the narcissist’s names and Gods word will get them trust me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Read all Bible scriptures where God delivered his people from. Make those scriptures personal as if GOD IS talking to you and your enemies who’s being mean to you. This works because God’s word will never come back void! Stay consistent and persistent in your prayer life. It’s your K-5-47 I pray you get strength peace love joy and happiness in Jesus name 😊
@ZínZømbie
@ZínZømbie 4 ай бұрын
One year ago I never knew what a narcissist was. Now I know it all to well. He is a narcissist and he is sadistic he takes pleasure in the pain suffering and humiliation of other humans.
@AskIvy
@AskIvy 6 ай бұрын
You are, hands-down, the best speaker on this topic.
@daniheinckel6908
@daniheinckel6908 7 ай бұрын
Thank you, Danish. Thank you for what you do. Thank you
@augustasimone9323
@augustasimone9323 3 ай бұрын
Thank God for your channel ! You do a better job at how to realistically deal with these people. I agree 100%. Keep your peace of mind !
@3Mores
@3Mores 9 ай бұрын
Go DEEP with a narcissist. Don't Defend, Explain, Engage or Personalize.
@myFloweryLife
@myFloweryLife 7 ай бұрын
How to go deep ?
@andreakeener6378
@andreakeener6378 8 ай бұрын
I am saving this video to watch again! My last phone call ended with being told everything I say he did and said never happened. Thats when I said he was right. He asked what I meant. I simply repeated what he had said. This isn’t going to work. Hung up. No contact is my peace. I’ve documented, saved texts, voice mails and the bills he denies he ran up. I walked away returning to my safe space and took care of me. Mr. Bashir wish I’d had your help 5 months ago. I’m one day at a time farther into my life again. 🙏🏼
@karenlynch8348
@karenlynch8348 9 ай бұрын
Very insightful ❤. Sigh I wish I had your advice 10 years ago. I’m losing in court- judges DONT care & NO ONE enforces any of their own Orders. It’s a joke
@lindylufromoz5111
@lindylufromoz5111 9 ай бұрын
Yes, very insightful. I admit to having sometimes lost it by responding when my narc daughter wants & uses brutality as savage ammunition against me. I practise not losing it, but there has been a two times I've regretted that I lost it. She videotapes me losing it to show to other people. Ohh, it takes practise & it's super hard. I need to learn how to not be triggered by her brutal accusations. It's my triggers that I have trouble with. I had to even take out a legal violence intervention order against her & I expected her retaliation to come in the worst way. Yes, it came, even to the point of banning me by showing our family that I was unstable & would ruin my mother's funeral. She had me banned from my own mother's funeral only 3 weeks ago! So cruel. That was a trigger I found the most difficult to handle. I would love it if you could do some videos on how to not be triggered when under brutal threats. Thank you for your work with us Danish. x Linda.
@jeevithadc6198
@jeevithadc6198 10 ай бұрын
Thnq soo much Danish 😊… u are such a wonderful coach …… Got a lot of information from u and loads of love ❤
@MichiganMuse
@MichiganMuse 9 ай бұрын
Sounds so similar to how you train a dog - praise & reward the good behavior (which is hard b/c it's SO RARE!)
@rishidhumal1449
@rishidhumal1449 10 ай бұрын
Appreciated 👍...these tricks are helpful
@dr.sachinraut6085
@dr.sachinraut6085 3 ай бұрын
It really was a practical way of dealing with such demons who take away of ur peace of mind.
@mpb207
@mpb207 10 ай бұрын
Thank's. Again very valuable Information's in this Episode.
@johnkarl8921
@johnkarl8921 6 ай бұрын
I love this videos advice! If you've got a full blown narcissist in your life you've probably realised that no genuine change ever happens, apart from fleeting episodes of " acting" because they've an agenda in current play. Eventually you just get so tired and bored of them you leave . Perhaps you can't physically leave for various reasons, so just leave emotionally! I've been no more than an odd job man and friend with benefits as there's absolutely no commitment from my so called partner , nor any genuine love for me, only love for what I give and do. I've stopped expecting any form of reward and only do what I do for my own satisfaction ( D.I.Y. jobs around her home) I stopped talking about subjects that interest me as she's not listening anyway so now only talk about the weather and what's on TV, ha ha. yawn yawn. I've stopped calling out the devaluing dismissive behaviour because that only created a backlash of mind games, drama and upset plus more devaluing and dismissive behaviour. Actions speak louder than words Narcissistic types are just so so Boring.
@HorabelSacnab
@HorabelSacnab 9 ай бұрын
What goes around it comes around IN GOD WE TRUST
@anonymousnation5235
@anonymousnation5235 3 ай бұрын
Sometimes, it doesn't change bad people. They only become more hurtful until they're completely ruined. And their victims cannot afford to wait that long. We gotta life to live.
@CriterionCollector
@CriterionCollector 2 ай бұрын
The narc in my life is a devout Christian
@Anj-se2iu
@Anj-se2iu Ай бұрын
This is so true. Every statement you say , I have heard it If you cannot run now , the only option is go ice cold , detached and when the time comes , RUN
@angellove-i2z
@angellove-i2z 10 ай бұрын
I liked it a lot very smart approach I found u few days ago and found ur topic and the way u r showing it and bringing it to us very easy and simple I’m basically listening to almost every previous topic waiting for the new one Thank u so much
@luzvasquez5912
@luzvasquez5912 2 ай бұрын
Thank you for this advice ...I was wandering what to do , because I am tired of the yelling very loud ,and calling me every name in the book , and always blaming for our arguements...I just started walking away quietly and not giving in to the argument that he started...all of this got way worse after getting married , as if I owed him something every time...Last week I told him that I don't need him , I want him only...
@Nonono-qs7im
@Nonono-qs7im 9 ай бұрын
Depends On your definition of winning, because simply getting away from them without being harmed is a win!
@jandee74
@jandee74 8 ай бұрын
Let them go and don’t look back! I have been dealing with this myself and still even today right now I got this random crazy text and I read it and deleted it and didn’t reply . Sometimes hell call and hang up to see if I call back but I don’t… It’s a strategy he uses that I don’t fall for anymore… It’s been a tough two month now but I feel wonderful emotionally and mentally! Walking away and letting go has been the best thing I did…. It took me a while to do it but one day I said NO MORE …..
@annedas2726
@annedas2726 10 ай бұрын
Thanks Danish- another valuable informative video about how to make conscious choices when dealing with NPD people especially those we cannot get away from by going far away or going no contact. Regular Humans can work with people with mental issues. Only God can work with narcissists who have very demonic SOUL issues. May god be with us all and salvage the narcissistic souls so world can be a better place
@Thenextperson
@Thenextperson 8 ай бұрын
Thank you for your wisdom on this difficult topic ❤ God Bless you and all here dealing with this horrible thing called narcissism 😢❤
@unknownentrappment_ed3522
@unknownentrappment_ed3522 10 ай бұрын
Thanks D.
@najwaadargo3590
@najwaadargo3590 Ай бұрын
Your videos really helped me in my recovery. Thank you
@cyny6305
@cyny6305 10 ай бұрын
This is very helpful. I appreciate the insights and will try to employ your practices. Thank you.
@itsthetinysistersshow327
@itsthetinysistersshow327 9 ай бұрын
This channel is really helping me. I’ve been trying to wrap my head around this break up I had 3 years ago. These videos are showing me so much and teaching me so much. I feel like I’m letting go of the blame I’d put on myself.
@Dee-mj3pu
@Dee-mj3pu 10 ай бұрын
Yes, relaxed vigilance!!
@bobbyphilip3076
@bobbyphilip3076 9 ай бұрын
You are so resourceful !! And deliver so much wealth of knowledge in such a patient way helpin so many people who are clueless !!!
@stupensardi2783
@stupensardi2783 10 ай бұрын
You made me laugh when you used "the wet noodle" analogy. Very good 👍😊❤️
@payelpatel6134
@payelpatel6134 9 ай бұрын
Your talk is an eye opener,25 years with a n spouse has been a sheer trauma...now that I am slowly dissociating I am scared deep inside. I have feed my children and they are studying abroad. I am scared now.
@lindyc.2552
@lindyc.2552 6 ай бұрын
My father may have been narcissistic. I don't feel that my mother was, yet, growing up my brothers and I didn't get alot of instruction while transitioning from kids, into our teen years. Also, the car trap insight is so true. Several times my narc husband has done this to me. He would just rage at me for some "offense" I committed, while he drove fast and reckless, like a maniac! Once, he was mad at me for something and I was driving him in my car. I was wearing flip flops, and he mashed my foot down on the ecseletator with his heavy work boot, to cause us to speed. And it hurt my foot too. They are MISERABLE BASTARDS!!!!
@PhoenixFlyHighfly
@PhoenixFlyHighfly 10 ай бұрын
Thank you so much. 🙏🤗 Gathering evidences and documenting their traits will be very much helpful. Its like preparing for a tough exam. Its the basic preparation and highly required to get pass mark in living with narcissist at sane. And this will be helpful while explaining our conditions to wellwishers... By not going blank and confused where to start how to finish. 😅
@TadiwanasheMushonga-c8l
@TadiwanasheMushonga-c8l 10 ай бұрын
Thank you so much .
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