#50: Polygamy, Marriage & Masculinity (Ft.

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0:00 Coming Up
1:06 Patreon Sneakpeak
3:34 Advising Muslimas Affected By West*rn Ideologies
19:37 How To Open Up To Polyg*ny
21:44 Is A Polygyno*s Man Higher Value?
25:23 Why Liber*ls Dislike Polyg*ny & Other Islamic Practices
31:24 Where Can Reverts Find Good Spouses?
43:09 Milhan’s Favorite Qur’an Verse
46:50 Closing Statements
48:21 Outro
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[@The3Muslims]

🚨Our most INSANE ep with a MEXICAN EX CARTEL LEADER who found Islam ⬇️ kzbin.info/www/bejne/pIK3eImQg6qtb8k

[@stonerosesuk]

I think this was your most insane episode. Real eye opener.

[@zahraahmed7999]

I love how confidently this sister speaks about this 'politically incorrect' stuff

[@blackcatxiii7757]

Her mentality is what the ummah needs. She’s very knowledgeable on these subjects and able to connect the macro with the micro. May Allah continue to bless her.

[@realsoulja]

@@whatsupwhatsup9498 I've never seen a born muslimah or a female Muslim scholar speak so openly about polygyny and producing Muslim babies like this sister. If you know sisters/speakers like this, then please give us their names and maybe these brothers can invite them on their podcast. Also, if sisters don't speak the truth and stick to a feminist western mindset then they would never be valued. And Allah Knows Best.

[@uusmsmdeeb6658]

@@realsoulja well I have alot of reservations about the way milahan put her words ..we should have some hayaa about talking in those things especially when you talk with non mahram men ..Allah knows best

[@realsoulja]

@@uusmsmdeeb6658 I actually agree with you however the sister is a new Muslim and it will take time for her to unlearn the promiscuity she was exposed to as explained by her in the first episode. It's important to have patience with newly practising Muslims especially reverts coming from various backgrounds.

[@realsoulja]

@@whatsupwhatsup9498 If it's not true then could you give us some names or videos of some of these women who openly propagate polygyny?? Also, having the title of doctorate doesn't necessarily mean you they will always speak the truth.

[@Hellfire...]

Put your mothers sisters and daughters into polygamy marriages frist

[@samiraghostin]

her points on polygamy really changed my perspective COMPLETELY. Before I was always afraid to just think about it, I knew that Allah made it permissible but I never thought about it. Now that I think of these arguments like being a unit, spreading Islam faster and it leading to a healthy relationship. I actually have a very positive perspective about it now and I might even consider 😂😂

[@The3Muslims]

Alhumdulillah - Anghel

[@xS146roar]

Do hijab sister fear Allah

[@Dana7777]

@@xS146roar shut up!!!!

[@xS146roar]

@@Dana7777 Subha Allah.. Last hour is near .. Now Muslims are blamed for advising to do good deeds and warning from bad deeds

[@Dana7777]

@@xS146roar shut up you didn't advice her whats so ever

[@IbnMurrah]

“I want a scholar/imam type of guy” “I used to have bodybuilders in the past” Just shows that we need imams who are body builders at the same time 😞

[@The3Muslims]

^hypergamy. - Faiyad

[@aldoushuxley4078]

Who will eat all the rice & meat before everyone else at Nikah ceremonies?

[@almondlorden]

@@The3Muslims Bodybuilders usually abuse steroids and waste too much of their time on the gym trying to achieve unrealistic body standards. a religious Muslim lifestyle with a lot of nawafil fasting days and qiyam during a portion of the night is incompatible with that lifestyle. we don't need bodybuilder Imams rather strong, healthy and physically active Imams. preferrably on the leaner side which is more compatible with the sunnah.

[@alternativehistorypenguin2544]

@@almondlorden Nah the imams are leaders of the community and at least they should be fighting fit

[@Thebestoneever_]

Read rational male, this sister is in her 30s, between approx between 28-32 age where women start “losing their market value” they can’t compete anymore...etc so once they had their “fun” when they were younger now they want a provider...someone who will provide and more...it’s crazy man but may Allah save us all from cheaters or any bad women/men people who marry younger or older

[@eyadhajisa-i587]

Man i got BIG RESPECT for our honorable modest Muslim sister Milahan, may Allah please you all in this life and the hereafter ❤️

[@alimohammad7469]

I already watched her "I support polygamy" . I for the first time understood why Islam advocates it

[@Demurely.]

This is how I see it about polygyny, Islam is easy, and polygyny is not an obligation. So, if a man finds himself able to be committed in polygyny marriage and that he needs more wives for whatever reasons that are legislated in Sharia and that he fears Allaah, then do so in shaa Allaah. For others who might think that they don't need more wives, and that they're content with monogamous marriage and that's what they're capable of, then in shaa Allaah that's good for them too. Everyone is different, we have different level of taqwa, different capability, and Allaah gives us choices. So, choose which one you think that will benefit you in this dunya and akhira. #Sharia

[@ilikefriedchicken6139]

This is what I am thinking too, but then I read about men saying that all men are naturally polygamous and being in a monogamous marriage is against their nature and will lead to adultery.

[@Demurely.]

Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) was married to Khadijah (May Allaah be pleased with her) for 25 years. I believe many from the pious predecessors were not in polygamous marriage. Even some of the Imams were never married. "Being in monogamous marriage is against their nature and will lead to adultery" I don't think it's that simple. What about them then, the ones that I've mentioned above and many other brothers who are in monogamous marriages? How could they manage to control themselves and stay away from adultery? Yes, maybe one of the primary instincts of men is to procreate and I understand why most men dream of having more wives. I think that has to do with the nafs, and in Islam we're taught to control our nafs if we fear Allaah. One can be in and is content with monogamous marriage. It depends on the individual. Maybe he doesn't have that big desire to do so (i.e. polygyny) and he's already occupied with his family, study, and work/business, or even overwhelmed by his responsibilities in the first place that he doesn't even think to have another wife or family.

[@ilikefriedchicken6139]

Eunoia yes thank you I totally agree, I literally thought this too but when I heard many men say it I was like how can I as a woman really know how men are when they say otherwise. But this makes much sense thank you for you explanation

[@Demurely.]

@@ilikefriedchicken6139 Yes, I understand that. Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “I have not left behind me any fitnah (temptation) more harmful to men than women.” It's sunnatullaah that we, women are their weakness. Surely, most men dream of having more wives and they will talk about it. The thing is whether they will make it come true or not, that depends on the individual. If a man said that he's afraid that it would lead to adultery if he's not in polygamous marriage, I think that's nonsense. Where's his taqwa then? How can he say something like that especially when he already has a wife? Why would he think the possibility of adultery in the first place?

[@ilikefriedchicken6139]

Eunoia Yeah I thought that that was nonsense too because many men say that the emotional and physical needs can be relieved by just one wife and that men marrying multiple women is not for lust. But then I read about men saying that men are naturally “wired” for polygamy. This paragraph I’m literally gonna copy paste from thedeenshow.com: Why are men polygamous by nature? The Answer is very simple. This may be a very bitter pill to swallow for many people, especially for those women that come from the Indian subcontinent. However, the reality is that men, by their very nature, are “wired” to be polygamous. If they do not get to practice polygamy in the correct, responsible and ethical sense of the word, they will practice an unethical form of serial polygamy involving mistresses and prostitutes.

[@seekfactsnotfiction9056]

_“If you want to destroy any nation without war, make adultery or nudity common in the young generation"_ - Salahuddin Ayyubi - The Liberator of Jerusalem.

[@phoenixcrown9966]

Any proof on that?

[@luqqy347]

@@phoenixcrown9966 Open your eyes, what more proof do you need?

[@phoenixcrown9966]

@@luqqy347 i want scientific proof.

[@IbnMurrah]

@@phoenixcrown9966 There are so many negative impacts on children that stem from adultery and formication.

[@phoenixcrown9966]

@@IbnMurrah I agree with adultery. Adultery leads to more single parent households which increases the chance of poverty, drug usage and many others. Nudity on the other hand... There is nothing wrong with it.

[@The3Muslims]

PLEASE SHARE THIS VIDEO! It’s your support that helps our small channel reach millions of lives in sha Allah! Although some videos run ads, youtube demonetizes most of our realest episodes (no revenue), which is very common on our channel. If you'd like exclusive content and to support us, please become a patron (link in description)! This episode is continuing on the dark side of the adult ent industry and the effects of going down that path as a woman. And no, it doesn’t have to involve you literally selling your physical body for some cash, it all starts with smaller actions. We then discuss polygamy, specifically polygyny (1 man marrying multiple wives) and marriage dynamics. - Faiyad

[@robera2563]

Assalamualaikum brothers. I want to help her out with her father since she mentioned that her father is a freemason. This american doctor named Dr. Omar Zaid was a doctor before he retired, but he was also a freemason for a while, but he left it. He converted to Islam around 20-30 years ago. He can help sister Milahan when it comes to having fruitful discussions with her father. This is his website and a youtube playlist of my sheik who lives in USA New York and he also well aware of the occult, but Dr. Omar Zaid is specialised in the Occult, please copy and paste this message to the brothers in The 3 Muslims so that they can send it to her inshaAllah. The website of Dr. Omar Zaid: zaidpub.com/ The youtube playlist with over 30 videos of sheik Omar Baloch and Dr. Omar Zaid: kzbin.info/aero/PLEa1xwdDGGymO-jeb1NBBL01GtrpzG8Sp

[@The3Muslims]

@@robera2563 what’s his contact?

[@robera2563]

@@The3Muslims Do you have an email i can send his contacts on? His life was in danger a while ago, so I do not want to put out his email to the public

[@The3Muslims]

@@robera2563 I have him booked for this Friday akhi jzk - Faiyad

[@robera2563]

@@The3MuslimsAlhamdulillah I am so happy for this my akhi. Wayyak it was the very least I could do. Allah swt put the idea in my head Alhamdulillah

[@marybaroudi8443]

The fact that she’s sat here talking to 3 men. She sounds very strong and masculine. I think it’s an American trait if their women.

[@tarek399]

Prophet Mohammed (peace be upon him) said: “Verily, the faith of one of you will wear out within him, just as a shirt becomes worn out, so ask Allah to renew faith in your hearts.” [Source: al-Mustadrak ʻalá al-Ṣaḥīḥayn 5] [Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani]

[@mimmss6556]

Jazakallahu khairan for this

[@moflow66]

Thank you for this

[@IbnMurrah]

Good point that the sister raised about their goals to reduce population. I’ve heard people advocate for homosexuality because of “population control” as well.

[@The3Muslims]

U kno it - Faiyad

[@ikmaster1232]

it doesn't even make sense when we have an ageing and declining population

[@Volt46]

@@ikmaster1232 A small population is much easier to control, brainwash, manipulate and track over a large one.

[@Mohamedxamza]

Shiek I found you again

[@illusionoftruth7091]

@@Mohamedxamza what a surprise seeing you here...

[@inciter0037]

This sister is such a huge asset for the ummah, i pray that she is encouraged and supported in continuing her dawah

[@udaykamel8973]

Can you guys invite Uthman Ibn farooq from the One Message Foundation please?

[@rahmatoullahbah5230]

That would be lit

[@owaisfazal21]

From the 'One message foundation'.

[@udaykamel8973]

@@owaisfazal21 right thanks for the correction

[@Xilver_]

@Festive Flower what are you talking about?

[@playerone9112]

@Festive Flower David wood fan lmao

[@user-tj3vj7lp5h]

She absolutely has many strong points about advocating polygamy, but as I kept listening, I started to think she also gone extreme about saying how it is easy for women to rise up above the jealousy, and how easy it is for women to accept the idea of polygamy when they reprogram their perspectives of men and when they think about it as a united team. There is much more behind the refusal of women to be in a polygamy relationship, one and the first reason could simply be ( the man is actually and for real is not capable of taking such a responsibility) mental, emotional, financial, and physical abilities in the man are things that are rarely to be found in one man so that he can be able to have a polygamy marriage life. This is only one reason Among other reasons that make accepting polygamy much harder than Milhan is describing.

[@havingfun462]

Exactly that’s my point, I my self not against polygamy but wouldn’t allow my husband to have another wife because of the reason u mentioned…! But if we as men/women as the way she mentioned then happily we could accept men to do polygamy, & I could be the first to accept from my husband to do so… But the thing is if the wife is good enough to accept the polygamy, the husband is mostly not capable of it, & if by chance the husband is capable then the second my corrupt all the things together and starts distraction of the family to begin .. and the reason I am saying this is we as Muslim society the knowledge and the understanding of the rules of Allah are soo low to us… We are mostly ignorant and don’t even know the real rules of marriage life… so the root is to educate pple and prepare and good enough generation who’s capable of the righteous things in order otherwise it won’t work!

[@hanaselimovic9014]

I haven’t really seen many comments from the Muslims sisters unless I skipped over them but as probably expected by all the Muslim men I completely disagree. Firstly I’m sure it does happen but quite honestly I don’t think many muslim women go around smacking their husbands and see them as worms so they feel the need to cheat. Secondly the whole polygamy thing if it works for you and your family and the husband can afford it and treat their wives EQUALLY then go for it. But most men can’t do that he will always favor one above another and if he fears Allah and he fears that he won’t be able to uphold his end of the bargain just marry one woman that is on her deen and that you are sure will be a good wife and mother for your kids. But if you think that just because polygamy is halal and that you can marry multiple women only for the sake of your own pleasure because you feel like you will cheat on your wife then I’m sorry but your so far off and remember Allah knows your intentions. The whole thing about we need to spread his seed so we can spread the message of Islam you cannot guarantee that your kids will spread the message of Islam raising your own kids is hard enough let alone raising another woman’s kids if she lives in the same household. It’s very rare that you will find all women to get along I’m not saying it’s impossible but it’s very rare. This sister makes it seem like it’s so simple and that it’s going to be rainbows and butterflies and everyone will get along lets be honest and real there’s a fat chance that will happen. As far as the healthy competition goes we all know it’s not a competition but jealousy that will get you to strive for your husband to find you As attractive as his other wives especially if those wives are younger and haven’t had kids yet. Which is why most men only marry one because once they see what it takes to be a father and husband one I enough. 😊

[@falsesectslikeshiaarejudeo6543]

No Marrying more then 1 wife for chastity is also ok because thats also how to spread Islam, because its not bad as long as you said he treats them equally, Men's intention is known by Allah as you said as well!

[@eltaahiras-salafi7958]

Treat your wives not equally but with justice. Equality does not mean justice. Justice is to put everything in it's place.

[@Ace-rh4nd]

i’m a muslim woman who’s 15 , and i’m trying to get away from all of this fitnah and all of these people around me. i really hope i stay in the straight path because i fear the day i turn away and go astray. inshallah that never happens. these videos encourage me and distract me from the shaytani thought. May Allah guide me oven more and help me overcome the fitnah we are surrounded by. this was a great video and thankyou sister milahan for explaining everything so beautifully. i seek to become like her and even better inshallah. these kinds of people are very rare which is so disappointing

[@hazel_mvedits9082]

35:20 lmao i was dying when all of them were laughing 😂 by the way, Masha Allah this sister really knock some sense out of my mind because i used to think that polygamy is a bad thing but WOW this sister is really amazing how fast she has changed my view towards this issue, great talk😊🙏🏻

[@xS146roar]

Please sister do hijab .. Fear Allah

[@amirsamaad3509]

Alhamdulillah

[@klaw1425]

Allah is absolutely one and right

[@shannons6188]

She’s like the female version of brother Gabriel Al Romaani Mashallah

[@junaid2266]

Yea! She is, isn't she! Would love to see them talk about modern men and women some day

[@thenameisyaso4254]

Yes! both not afraid to raise their voice and tell the truth about matters that others shy away from!

[@Mohammad_Qunbos]

She is almost like Omar bin Al Khattab radhai Allahu anh. Once he converted he exploded

[@falsesectslikeshiaarejudeo6543]

@@junaid2266 They already did an interview...

[@falsesectslikeshiaarejudeo6543]

@@Mohammad_Qunbos capitalize A in Allah...

[@imaanadams5987]

At one stage in my life, just before a nervous breakdown or as it was happening; I told my husband to get a second wife. He said he knew at that moment that something wasnt right with me, and we laugh about it every now and then. But there are still times when I feel like having a cowife would be beneficial for all our us, if we are a unit she has to have my back, and I have to have hers. A younger scholarly wife with good akhlaaq and beauty I even have the person in mind, haven't seen anyone with such beautiful character like her in today's time, and she loves children. Today female friends can be cold and distant, I don't know how it works, but it would be nice to have a female companion to grow with, laugh with, work with and so on. Perhaps I'm just naive. This is why I always say, looking forward to Jannah in sha Allah, so that I can have good female companions to have wholesome conversations with. This Dunya isn't it. Milhana is very intelligent, I wish she could be my friend. May Allah bless her with a husband the coolness of her eyes and give her many children with Aafiyah. Her insight into the dark side of what young Muslim women today crave for on a much lighter level (male gaze and the likes), is much needed to show these young girls where the entry level 'exploration' could lead to. I'm also a revert, I can thank Allah for protecting me from shaytaan as a young girl who's father was addicted to porn as well. And when becoming a teenager filled with raging hormones. I'm grateful for the full niqaab and hijaab too, I donned that pretty fast and many had objections to it, Muslimahs mainly. Nevertheless, I really appreciate the modesty of Islam Alhamdulillah. Well done everybody ❤️🌹

[@wagamama8]

Hun, you don't need a co-wife, you need some good female friends. That is the missing thing in your life. InshaAllah you will be blessed with wonderful female companions soon

[@fathima.iloveallah.3853]

Asalamu aleykum may dear sister Milahan💎and May Brothers in Islam. May Allah Rabbul Izzah reward you bless you Protect you and grant you all Jannahtul Fardows all your Family and Friends Ameen 🌸

[@falsesectslikeshiaarejudeo6543]

Amin, and to you and your family too!

[@MurtazaAhmadZahid]

Yo Rami, the beard is looking amazing and I can tell it grew actually way more since the first episode of the podcast. Keep growing it👍👍.

[@agatsuma22]

THE NEW VOICE OF MUSLIMAS MASHAALLAH! Pls do more episodes with our Sister, inshaAllah! A true inspiration she is, barakaAllahu feekum. #motherhood #sharia #polygyny #knowledge #dawah

[@mubashirck2369]

Great video, Thanks Y'all

[@afzalhossain1429]

The best podcast i have ever seen Allahu Akbar May Allah Protect Our Sister Make dua for her guys

[@afzalhossain1429]

This live podcast need to be viral

[@umme5501]

It's about time you have brought a sister in your show and she is very intelligent sister. We 💘 her very much. May Allah protect her. Ameen

[@hnhn7959]

As a sister, I love everything sister Milahan said she really is someone I can relate to 100% Amazing sister may Allah protect her and grow her in wisdom &knowledge

[@survival5866]

Milahan thank you soo much! This is the first time I’ve e actually thought to myself... wow i completely agree. I feel like since its coming from a fellow muslim woman, i can somehow connect to it more. I wasn’t completely against it but, i wasn’t completely on it either. Jizakallah and may Allah allow you to find the spouse you are looking for! Amiin

[@shamaselahi5606]

Top host.good knowledge...practical points moving forward thanks

[@sarhan5568]

You guys discussed some solid points about polygamy for 50 minutes but ignored a very important point. It's the financial side. A lot of men are struggling nowadays to marry one woman and raise kids. Rents and house prices are skyrocketing everywhere. You want 4 kids? Oh now you need a bigger apartment that you can't afford. So it's less likely for an average man to say I am gonna have multiple wives and many kids. Our grandparents married at their early 20s or maybe yonger than that despite having simple jobs and low income. But now you get people graduating at 24 ,crawling with a crippling dept and barely able to make a living on their own. And even those who can afford it at younger age they will take the concept of quality of quantity. Like thinking, I'd rather have 1 or 2 kids and guarantee them good education, food and quality of life than having many kids and start sacrificing their wellbeing. Kids nowadays have many needs to fit into the criteria of our modern society. For some reason society is forced to shift in this way whether we like it or not.

[@Tislyfe]

That why living simply is better. I told my husband to have less expenses and u would be able to afford another wife Insha’Allah

[@addy27712]

WORD

[@sarhan5568]

Btw I am not suggesting we submit to this lifestyle. But to solve a problem we should acknowledge the reasons behind it to find solutions.

[@The3Muslims]

This is facts - Anghel

[@cissejr7695]

There are also lot of working woman who are single who pays expensive rent on their own. It is doable if there is a strong will. Most women want to continue working anyway

[@SS-dr9tq]

Great episode really enjoyed it 🙌

[@Abdullah34610]

Very beneficial. Just one comment regarding the man that chooses monogamy - the Quran states that if you fear being unjust, then marry only one. As much as I may desire having more than 1 righteous wife, I fear Allah in the matter. I fear showing up on the day of judgement with a lopsided body.

[@redohdawood4307]

Remember fear of not being fair to one wife is a genuine fear as well because you could fall into temptation.... So being fair to more than one can be just as challenging either way

[@nasraqaali7050]

I think the type of men who are more likely to be fair are the ones who fear doing injustice. Many men take this matter very lightly.

[@basmalasaad3039]

Why would you desire more than 1 wife?

[@redohdawood4307]

@@basmalasaad3039 because I am man with broad shoulders, and I like variety, and I prefer people witness the beauty of Islam personally through my actions..... Allah is the most wise and he knows us better than we know ourselves...... Maybe you should try it to get your answer?

[@sarhan5568]

You earned a sub for this quality discussion. Looking forward to know more about you guys. I will try to watch old videos inshallah. 👊

[@IbnMurrah]

You should check out the most popular EPs, #12 is one of the most interesting episodes as well.

[@sarhan5568]

@@IbnMurrah thanks, I will indeed

[@DarkKnightDad]

Jazakum Allah khairan for this amazing eye opening podcast

[@seeYacine]

beautiful fam love it

[@alialnuaymi841]

No one can say she forced or doesn’t understand. She speaks English and knows the dark side of the non Muslim lifestyle.

[@loux.]

You guys deserve more subscribers May Allah reward yall and allocate a place for you guys in Jannah Firduas Ameen

[@ahmadkhan-bx7me]

that was so good

[@iia2839]

Honestly thank you all for this Powerful video

[@user-bj9sy8gd4w]

Thank you for your kind and beautiful effort. I wish you all a good life

[@hasanasif7622]

We need more this types of mentality in our women like this sister in our society.

[@TheMimoata]

I think they are some but they are in darck

[@tahirajeanpierre]

MashaaAllah I love how this sister explains things, she just makes so much sense

[@v.koromareactionchannel2554]

Wow guys thank you! We need more Muslim babies. I am 27 years old Muslim living in USA parents have 9 children including myself. My dad want more kids but my mom’s tired she’s around 47 years old I told her if she doesn’t want to she doesn’t have to because I don’t want her to risk her life at that age. Now she told my dad to get second wife I was very angry at my mom for mentioning that to my father. Out of my anger I told my father if he get another wife that will come and disrespect my mom I will cut off your monthly expenses. Inshall Allah today I will call my dad to ask him forgiveness for wanting more Muslim children. I appreciate you guys topic of today. May Allah (SWT) reward you guys for your efforts. ## polygyny# 🙏🏾🤲🏾🕌

[@cissejr7695]

Alhamdou lilah bro it is always time to n.v learn and grow. Allah doesn't make the bad halal.

[@makkahcadey]

Ma Sha Allāh. Do help him though because it’s not just about the more kids you want him a good wife that is religious and will respect his 1st family. So help him select in Sha Allāh and let him pray Istikharah prayer before marrying her.

[@v.koromareactionchannel2554]

@@makkahcadey inshall Allah I will help and support him.

[@WantedGarden]

May Allah Bless You And Forgive you Brother, lets avoid using the christian prayer emoji In sha Allah

[@botladola]

As long as your father will financially provide for them

[@WhiteDove3511]

Polygamy might sound nice to someone who has been mistreated and slept around all her life, but to women born in conservative Muslim families, who wait until marriage, it's a seriously disappointing and demeaning area. Why? Because of one basic fact mentioned in the Quran: men cannot do justice between wives. Infact, it is the only halal act that is openly discouraged in the Quran, something that doesn't even apply to divorce and slavery. IT IS MUSTAHABB (MERITORIOUS) TO HAVE ONLY ONE WIFE ACCORDING TO THE MAJORITY OF SUNNI SCHOLARS OF JURISPRUDENCE. This is the standard ruling in the Hanbali school. Al-Mardawi al-Hanbali has said in al-Insaf: ‎(وَيُسْتَحَبُّ أَيْضًا : أَنْ لَا يَزِيدَ عَلَى وَاحِدَةٍ ، إنْ حَصَلَ بِهَا الْإِعْفَافُ ، عَلَى الصَّحِيحِ مِنْ الْمَذْهَبِ ... قَالَ ابْنُ خَطِيبِ السَّلَامِيَّةِ : جُمْهُورُ الْأَصْحَابِ اسْتَحَبُّوا أَنْ لَا يَزِيدَ عَلَى وَاحِدَةٍ) “And it is also meritorious to not exceed one (wife) if he can ensure his chastity by that according to the correct opinion of the (Hanbali) Madhhab... Ibn Khatīb al-Salāmīyyah said: The majority of the companions (in the Madhhab) are upon the opinion that it is meritorious to not exceed one (wife).” And according to many scholars, having one wife is actually Sunnah. In al-Rawd al-Murbi`, Imam al-Bahūtī expounds upon the principle in Zād al-Mustaqni` “It is Sunnah to marry one”: ‎(ويسن نكاح واحدة ، لأن الزيادة عليها تعريض للمحرم، قال الله تعالى: {وَلَنْ تَسْتَطِيعُوا أَنْ تَعْدِلُوا بَيْنَ النِّسَاءِ وَلَوْ حَرَصْتُمْ} [النساء: 129]) “And it is Sunnah to marry one (wife) because more than that exposes one to harām. For Allah the Most High has said: {And you will never be able to do justice between your wives no matter how bad you want to..} [Qur’an, al-Nisa’ 4:129]” The harām referenced here is injustice to one’s wives for which we would be held severely accountable for before Allah. But this view is not limited to the Hanbalis. Imām al-Shāfi`ī said: ‎(وأحب له أن يقتصر على واحدة وإن أبيح له أكثر؛ لِقَوْلِهِ تَعَالَى: ( فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلا تَعْدِلُوا فَوَاحِدَةً.. ).) “And it is preferable to limit one’s self to one (wife), even though more is permitted. This is due to (Allah) the Most High saying: ‘And if you fear that you can not do justice (to more than one), then (marry) only one...’”

[@wagamama8]

You're so right. But ultimately men are weak when it comes to women so they will find all sorts of justifications as to why polygamy is an amazing thing.

[@BKS0]

It’s hard to say marrying 1 wife is the sunnah, when the prophet (PBUH), Abu Baker, Omar, Othman, Ali (RA) married multiple wives. To say it is demeaning to women is not something any Muslim should say. We need to be careful from the ideas that slip into our minds from the media that promotes Feminism and other ideas. If we don’t understand something in the Deen of Allah we say: “we hear, and we obey” And Allah knows best

[@WhiteDove3511]

@@BKS0 our Prophet pbuh, abu Bakr and the rest of the companions were already late in their lives and had already married multiple wives when the ayah limiting to 4 was revealed, and Allah swt made it permissible to keep what had already occured. And the opposition to polygamy is permitted in Islam as its not fardh (mandatory) or even mustahab (recommend), rather it is mubah (lowest of permissible with severe punishment if conditions are not met). Our Prophet pbuh himself forbade polygamy on his sons in laws as he said it would hurt his daughters, and it became a part of nikkah that any woman can forbade her husband from taking another wife while married to her if she chooses to.

[@BKS0]

If you refer to authentic sources you will find out that Sahabah kept marrying even after the Ayat limiting the numbers of wives to 4. As for Imam Ali (RAA), it is true he didn’t marry anyone while Fatimah (RAA) was alive, but he married a total of 8 women after her death (not more than 4 at a time obviously). My point is that Islam and feminism do not go hand in hand all the time, and any Muslim should be careful about over committing to feminist ideals because it eventually can lead the person to leave the Religion if he wasn’t careful. Salam Alaykum

[@WhiteDove3511]

The sahaba were REAL men, who faught wars, defended territories, learned skills such as archery and personal combat, and were honest and successful businessmen with highest standards of moral values, in addition to being exceptionally strong and endurant. When any of their companions died in war, they married his widow regardless of her age n number of children Any woman would marry a man like that. But the males of today aren't even a fraction of men they were supposed to be. Hence the disgust.

[@TheGloriousQuran6236]

Another point is that smaller populations are easier to control.

[@seekfactsnotfiction9056]

_Masha'Allah Milahan's courage reminds me of the great women warriors of Islam like Khawla bint Al-Azwar, Nusaybah Bint Ka'3b Al-Ansariah (Umm 3ammaarah), Sumayyah and Hafsa (RA)_

[@burimzhdrella2280]

Selamun Alejkum. Good topic and conversation!

[@berwaasbl1981]

Thank u for this honest video 😊

[@afzalhossain1429]

We want more sis like her. She brings a lot of strong logic & she has the capability to debunked the so called secular thoughts. Make Dua for our sister. May Allah Protect Her.

[@fuadboahey6120]

amazing video

[@user-zs2qv1fm8v]

très bons idée merci beaucoup pour tout les vidéos bravo et bon courage canal ''The 3Muslims'',,,MACHA ALLAH,,,

[@bestofyoutube9319]

watched the whole ting bro

[@amrininspired8942]

Asalaamu Alaikoum Brothers Amazing podcast Masha'Allah really inspiring listening to sister Milhan 🙌🏽💫💥

[@nmekari17]

I agree with the sister and would like to add that her personal view seems like polygamy is a must, whereas it is not. Its totally fine for one man and woman to build a strong relationship and family with eachother if they choose to do so, I also believe polygamy should be discussed by man and woman before they decide to marry so they are both clear and there will be no shocks later on.

[@unreal-forms]

باسم الله ماشاء الله ! love this. i enjoyed every bit of it, thank you all

[@user-wz4vo8ku9u]

Awesome content 😅

[@Morpheus77677]

That would be great to see Mohamed Hijab and Sister Milahan exchanging ideas here.

[@simoiachraf1250]

Cool podcast.

[@ayeshaali2837]

I really need to hear more about polygamy , I love the sisters story, thank you for sharing.

[@sj4695]

Can you start asking guests what they're looking forward to most in Jannah please

[@nisreena5930]

Salaam alaikum brothers and sisters, Firstly, would like to say Jazakum Allah khair for this interview. As is outlined here in the video we need like-minded people to come together as a force to repel the secular infiltration of our ummah (and by proxy human family) with wisdom, faith, compassion and knowledge. Let us connect with each other and continue the conversation and if our intention is right, Allah will bless and do the rest. Your sister in Islam, Nisreen

[@iamyou6555]

So many Muslim females need to see this gold mine of a video, I will try to spread as much.

[@TdRepresent]

Sister Milahan is incredible my most beautiful discovery, her spirit, her way of taking the speech is just magnificent. Allah protect you my sister

[@rashidm9454]

Enlighten👍

[@mimmss6556]

May Allah bless this sister Allahumma Barik Laha, may The Almighty guide her continuously and grant her with utmost goodness in this life and the next. Jazakallahu khairan brothers for this beautiful, honest and powerful podcast alhamdulillah. Watched both parts in one day which is rare for me.

[@JamesBond-wv9xz]

Wow bro this woman knows what’s up. She explains things super well. May Allah guide her always.

[@redaben2998]

keep up the hard work sister Milahan , may Allah bless you .

[@bronzePower]

Massive respect for the sister. Wow. I'm beyond impressed.

[@Sam.j235]

MashAllah exactly, we ladys have to say what we want, I know I want be mairred to a revert who is disciplined inshallah, getting mairraged is getting hard everywhere, may Allah protect all Muslim

[@bestofyoutube9319]

commenting so that algorithm goes on

[@seekfactsnotfiction9056]

_"Don't use a broken latter to climb to the Power hungry male domination mentality! broken latter doesn't take you anywhere! Broken ladders take you down to the gadder"_

[@tuahar1117]

Alhamdullillah. Keep up...all of you... "New Voices of Muslims". May Allah give me and other old men like me n the young muslims hidayah, courage, wisdom n strength to formulate strategies n act on what hv been suggested-- An Uphill Battle. InsyaAllah we will progress. . *Be not afraid of moving slowly but b afraid of standing still. *Be a tree that give shade. *If there is no shoot, then use the root for medicine. Thank you so much brothers n sister Milahan. Allah hu Akbar.

[@The3Muslims]

Love you for the sake of Allah akhi! Barak Allah feek - Faiyad

[@medicoma8649]

Nice

[@HKR77]

The beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) ensured that Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) did not marry any other women whilst Fatima (may Allah be pleased with her) was alive. I'm sure Ali would have been mindful of the same thing by himself . Just thought I would add this in for some context .

[@sarimanwermufti5809]

Masha'ALLAH sister milahan should create a network of like minded muslimahs Insha'ALLAH this is truly inspiring Alhumdulillah

[@nareshvasishth4034]

I married once 65 years ago. I am 90, and my score is 1. I am not a dog. Prime Minister of Pakistan married 6 times, and Bankrupt. Think about it. That much for Koran and Imams that determine what is Halal and Haram. In Iran you can get married in the evening and get divorced in the morning. For a small fee, the Imam makes it Halal. Enjoy.

[@ka.powered8328]

Amazing video, Rami! Speak more often please. Missing your intellect speech.🙃👍

[@ka.powered8328]

@@whatsupwhatsup9498 Honestly I have no problem with Faiyad,it's just I would like to hear Rami a little more than he already speaks...

[@TheGloriousQuran6236]

@@whatsupwhatsup9498 They made it clear that they each have their own type of insight on certain issues and on some topics, one of them can be more passionate than the others. There’s nothing wrong with what Faiyad says anyways. I don’t understand why you can’t see it.

[@Haseeb_Tariq]

Wish you could invite Abu American and brother Gabriel in this episode. 😅 She's full of energy, fierce like a lioness MashAllah and everything she said make sense.

[@_Abdussalama]

May Allah keep this sister firm in Islam and and grant her Aljannah.

[@craigthebrute8658]

Money printing & house price inflation has made polygyny almost impossible. Buying one house is hard enough, let alone 4 houses.

[@botladola]

But once you bought one house, the other houses can be bought very easily.

[@cupcake3215]

@@botladola really? How come?

[@botladola]

@@cupcake3215 equity, lenders are more willing to lend to you, higher credit score etx

[@cupcake3215]

@@botladola I guess that makes sense

[@mohammedkhatib4337]

good podcast

[@azeemmubarak4373]

if you don't come from a healthy family make sure a healthy family comes from you. may allah bless you all

[@mahmoudhassan6882]

the sister has a great understanding of women role in islam

[@Ali-xq9hc]

mashallah thanks for uploads very well presented people need to talk and debate more for the sake of Allah. may the almighty bless you all.

[@Sh4d0wl3ss]

MashAllah much respect for this sister may Allah swt protect her and all the muslims ameen

[@criterionrecitations8960]

I absolutely loved these episodes. May Allah help us stay upon the way of the Salaf-us-Salih (Righteous predecessors). Nothing will rectify the last part of this Ummah except that which rectified its first part (i.e. the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ). Imam Malik (rahimahullah) [Reported by Ibn ‘AbdulHādi, in Tanqih at-Tahqiq 2/423] BarakAllahu Feekum.

[@redohdawood4307]

Masha Allah.... I think you all are right.... She is a Leader..... May all Muslim women appreciate her wisdom.... I have been in support of the sister before she became Muslim because she had a large Muslim following.... It was a sign alghamdulillah

[@TheMimoata]

it will be great if you create this netwok Really we need to !!

[@ShirkFreeKashmir]

Wisdom ❤️

[@zahrah1644]

Nice discussion. Anyways why does it look like brother rami is trying hard to not fall asleep?

[@danaeskandarani4251]

MashAllah BarakAllahu fikum Great episode #motherhood #Sharia #polygyny

[@ShareseWoodz]

Yes maybe I will go on a run! #healthyCompetition

[@seearyari]

She need to spread her message mashallah she is a fast learner.

[@iAmeer]

She's a little sketchy tho, I saw her say it's a must for every Muslim to read every single piece of hadith ever. (on Hamza's channel)

[@alihourag5070]

May Allah bless you all. Incredible work

[@kingsentertainment786]

I wish the video never ended

[@Diawarrior]

Tabarak ALLAH. May ALLAH increase all of you in guidance.

[@ahmadfared1204]

True what you are saying because in today society, people sees women as angels . They will give hours of lectures on how to treat women and how trash men's are. But the true is that women/girls are not angels. They cheated a lot or sometimes a lot will get married while being in haram relationship to get his money and leave him . Plus , they don't talk about on how women should treat their husband or about women responsibilities