51 | Is it An Islamic Requirement For a Muslim to Forgive a Narcissist?

[@Taqwah_Tawheed]

We love you Dr Mona you really explain Islam in such a knowledgeable way, it helps all those who understand JhazakAllah May Allah Almighty bless you in abundance In’sha’Allah Ameen ❤️

[@amerhi751]

Ameen ❤

[@themuslimnarcissistbook]

I love you all too ♥️ so glad they’re helping alhamdulilah. Thank you for your support x

[@garybennett5645]

I person who doesn’t apologise with sincerity is a true narcissist and are the type of people who get enjoyment when someone apologies to them because it gives them a sense of control. Narcissists apologies are fake they do so if only to get you back so it benefits them as they can’t handle responsibilities. Thanks Dr Mona I always get a great deal and relief from your videos.

[@themuslimnarcissistbook]

You're welcome Gary :)

[@suhailmohmed661]

But if they have followed all the steps mentioned we forgive. But you don't have to take them ever back again. In local Muslim communities, they do it as a standalone where they can harass the Victim to forgive someone without the Oppressor following the steps. On top of that, they demand they take the Oppressor back too. And not finished yet too, because they can say to pray for them which is so wrong. It is all on the Oppressor to learn and follow the steps, to make amends via compensation but have it in is head too the Victim has no obligation from Allah(SWT) to take them back. The even worse if where they do sermons as Go to perform Hajj, and all the sins are erased. They actually say it you end up like you have just been born. What they do not say the teaching refers to the rights of Allah(SWT) and not the rights of the people. So dropping dead straight after performing Hajj does not delete 30 years of hell they have put someone through. Unless they followed the steps described and put it all right in this world.

[@freeyourmindfromtheswarm]

forgiving, does not even require talking to them. many misunderstand forgiveness... does not include continue having a relationship with this person. forgiving does not mean forgetting who they are ...

[@mattubaclig1203]

Subhannallah, you really got me in the end of that podcast. Why am I still allowing my narcissistic betrayer to control my life and my future? Thank you so much.

[@faatimah_m]

Always appreciate and love the Islamic aspect of your podcasts Masha Allah, especially all the Quranic & Hadith reference. Jazakallahu Khayr ❤️

[@themuslimnarcissistbook]

Alhamdulilah :) many thanks!

[@AsheeqArt]

Another amazing podcast - Mashaa’Allah what a wealth of knowledge you are. I hope and pray you get the recognition you deserve and you spread your work far and wide xx

[@themuslimnarcissistbook]

Jazaki Allah khair

[@zareentaj4386]

Assalamualaikum wrbh Dr. Mona...that was an amazing podcast, an inspirational one. Thank you Dr. May Allah swt bless you and grant you goodness in both the worlds.

[@suhailmohmed661]

As always another beautiful podcast. The problems can arise when we have put the time and effort in learning our religion guidelines and the ignorant Muslims harass the Victims to go against what Allah(SWT) himself wants us do in our situation. I know how much time and effort you have put in without you telling us. JazakAllah Khair. So this time one of my signs from Allah(SWT) was "do let Others deviate from my plan". I gave more chances, lost so much more including long-term arthritis condition from age of 39 and the same Muslims just watch again for entertainment having also ignored what Allah(SWT) and our Prophet Muhammad(SAW) have said on Oppression and Injustice - Quran and Hadiths. Even though it has been so tough for me and for now 30 years I am still a man and a Quran Hafiz too. I dread to think what my Muslim sisters could end up facing in their Muslim communities. The first narrative is to always silent the Victim. Even in my situation, 3 Muslim enablers used the local Mosque last year and just started shouting with ignorant and hurtful comments when I am in the right and they were supposed to side with me. They have only watched all the harm again. But can't have the mindset their dua's are rejected and Allah(SWT) is waiting for them. Such ignorance lengthens the healing process when already so different to normal abuse and for any Narcissistic abuse victim. Every local Muslim Community needs to have a champion like you who knows what they are talking about as a first port of call for Muslim sisters. May Allah(SWT) reward you abundantly in this world and the hereafter. You are saving lives!

[@suhailmohmed661]

I meant to "do NOT let Others deviate from my plan" - lovely sign from Allah(SWT). After having previous off it is on them and not me.

[@user-yj2ik5wd1c]

Thank you so much Dr mona

[@themuslimnarcissistbook]

You're welcome :)

[@Firdouse3737]

Thank you so much for this podcast, Dr.Mona. This has been an eye-opener Alhamdulillah. As one of your regular listeners, I want to hear your views on the following two topics. 1. If Allah puts an empath in a narcissist's life (for instance, a spouse) for the narcissist to see and learn the religion, character etc from the empath, what's the wisdom behind Allah letting a narcissist in an empath/co-dependents' life? Can you do a podcast on the wisdom behind Allah letting a narcissist into an empath's life? Your views on this topic will surely shed some light on helping the victims learn lessons from narcissists in their lives, too, so that they become better Muslims too inshaaAllah. 2. I'm sure you have counselled a lot of narcissistic abuse victims who left the marriage, especially the women. Can you share your views on how to pick ourselves up by putting our tawakkul in Allah after leaving the narcissist and moving on with our lives? If you share some of the stories of the women that you have counselled who are doing great in their lives now (with a good career, and a good remarriage), that would be very much encouraging for the victims who left the narcissist and will motivate us to do better in life as well after the divorce inshaaAllah. Thank you.

[@shafanatoufiq]

وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته ❤🥰😘🌹 ماشاء الله تبارك الله 💗💓💕 جزاك الله خيرا كثيرا والحسن الجزاء في دنيا والآخرة 🎀🎈🤲

[@Nishful5]

Ameen 🤲

[@Nishful5]

Assalamu alaykum, Dr. Mona, should we forgive a part of what the narcissist has done to us if we need their forgiveness for times we wronged them? I have an elder family member who is narcissistic and very abusive. Recently, I lost my temper and was disrespectful to them, may Allah forgive me. This has happened a handful of times and, inshaAllah, is a very small fraction of what I have endured from this person. I asked their forgiveness, they said they forgave me - whatever that means. This person likes to list all the past wrongs they have endured and “magnanimously forgiven” during their rages over new perceived wrongs. They have never apologized to me or acknowledged any wrongdoing on their part as I am beneath them. I’m minimizing contact with this person as it is haram to cut ties completely. I’m hoping this will help me avoid losing my temper again. This person refuses any gifts or service from me due to their martyr/victim complex so I am unable to make up for my disrespect. I just make dua for them, I don’t know what else I can do.

[@freeyourmindfromtheswarm]

forgive everybody and everyone, it does not require to be in contact with these entities, otherwise you carry the anger around.

[@yosra3551]

❤ thank you.

[@shahnazbi8346]

Get a copy from your local library.

[@yosra3551]

I bought the book. Necessary knowledge in this world. To protect our very soul. Not many write this from muslim perspective and she writes analytical and with a good heart. I really hope I can thank her in Janna also. ❤ mashaAllah, Allahu Akbar

[@amarg7657]

Salam alaikum I back but people through my life, I asked Allah for forgiveness and I dont do it anymore but how do I avoid getting my good deeds taken on the day of judgment

[@sarahkhawaja9617]

She gave the very steps in this podcast.

[@Nishful5]

Assalamu alaykum, please check with a scholar but I was taught that for backbiting and for situations where you are unable to directly seek forgiveness from the person (e.g. you don’t know how to contact them) or seeking forgiveness may cause more harm because they are unaware of what you did (as in backbiting) - the alternative is to make sincere tauba and then sincerely pray for the person you wronged, ask Allah to forgive them and bring them nearer to Him on account of what you did and ask Allah to forgive you too. You can also give charity for that person or do good for that person to make up for it. Of course, ideally always try to seek forgiveness directly from the person if you can, especially if they are aware of what you did. Allah knows best. Hope this helps.

[@Khannajmah]

1:27:36, 15 years now my famly toxic famly didn let me marry ruined my rights respect

[@Truth4peace2025]

I feel I have definitely married the wrong person and no matter how hard I tried I have not been able to get away from it due to family pressure and emotional and psychological abuse...

[@Truth4peace2025]

Assalamu alaikum. I'm wanting to read your book but cannot afford it at the moment. Can you send me a copy for a discounted price?

[@assiyaq4346]

What about narcissistic parents?

[@themuslimnarcissistbook]

It’s the same for them too if they were intentionally horrible and abusive to their children rather than out of their own ignorance. You will know who abuses intentionally and who believes that abuse is normal, like slapping their very young children.

[@Truth4peace2025]

Who is the scholar you have mentioned? Please can you say who it is as I wish to know who woukd give such a mysoginystic response

[@themuslimnarcissistbook]

I don’t call out people by their names in my podcasts, it’s not the Islamic thing to do. Most people will know who I’m talking about.

[@thestrangers9530]

All started so positive and a breath of fresh air , until it's all about the husband husband husband , the age old 50 years behind the west in acknowledging women are just as evil, sad but it's about the abusive men ...would be helpful to know people acknowledge the abuse us men feel

[@themuslimnarcissistbook]

Podcast number 5.

[@khyberwatch19]

Up until now I enjoyed most of your talks but here you make a grave error. How can you say that only amazing men with great leadership abilities deserve respect and obedience. Otherwise she should leave him or treat him disrespectfully?? Wow I am disappointed Dr.

[@themuslimnarcissistbook]

That’s not what I said, that’s what The Prophet saw said :) To be a qawwam who is respected and loved, a man needs to to fulfil his duties as a protector, leader and provider. If he’s a Pharoah at home and doesn’t have the 3 qualities of a qawwam, women won’t respect him or want to obey him and will want to leave. I never said for a woman to treat him disrespectfully, but that’s how she treats a man who she cannot see as her leader because he’s an idiot. Harsh truth I know but it’s a fact.