6 Lessons Every Well-Dressed Man Must Learn

[@ailo4x4]

Spend 4 years in the military and you will learn all these skills and more. As a Navy senior NCO I have helped raise hundreds of young men and women. Just before one particular inspection, I had a small knot of African American servicemen in a huddle struggling with their neckties. I needed them to get finished and in formation and in a hurry. I saw what was going on and stepped into the middle of them, spun one of the young men towards me, and started to help him with his tie. "Sweet Jeezus, men, didn't your fathers or uncles teach you how to tie a tie?!, I said with a laugh. The young man in front of me looked at his shoes in shame and whispered, "I was raised by my grandmother, Chief. I don't have any uncles." I felt like I had just been kicked in the nuts. I had just embarrassed not only him but all of them. None of them had been raised by fathers in their homes. "Well, I'm your Sea Daddy now. Right! All of you line up and do it with me. The rabbit goes..." Once I had them squared away I sent them off to get in the formation. I then took myself off to a corner and had a little 'Come to Jesus meeting', with myself for failing to remember that not everybody had the opportunities I did growing up to learn what it meant to be a man. Being a gentleman also includes sharing these skills with others, in a nurturing and uplifting way.

[@ailo4x4]

@@jheagy1234567890 Sadly, that is often the case. It is an unfortunate legacy of racism in the US where African Americans were excluded from municipal pools. Fortunately, that form of institutional racism is no longer the case but the sociological damage has already been done. It will take generations to remedy.

[@delwinmartinez1575]

I enjoyed reading this thank you for sharing

[@kingofcastlechaos]

I still have many skills from my short time in the military. I also learned a lot about how easy my own life had been by hearing others share their stories. Even the simple act of waking up on time is a skill many people were never taught. It's a gut punch for sure. I now mentor young people and always keep in mind that I know nothing about their real situation, so just always be kind and respectful and they will come around.

[@JJDSports2012]

Catholic grade school - about 10 years old. Ties every day. I don’t understand men who hate wearing them. They raise your game a notch.

[@Rasasrich1]

You have helped me progress so much as a gentleman in today's age! Thank youuuu

[@Gent.Z]

Glad to hear it, thank you!

[@antinancy]

God knows why I'm watching this. I'm an old lady... At first I was just curious about the idea that young men were interested in gentlemanliness. But I'm realizing that many young men haven't been taught these very basic things about courtesy and presentation, so Gent Z is providing a service that is sorely needed. Good for all of you for countering the persistent drift towards ignorance and vulgarity that has been spoiling society for so long. Please just don't take this advice as superficial manipulation to make yourselves look good. Please try to BE good.

[@joeavent5554]

Keeping spare shoelaces in glove compartment have saved the day with friends and family.

[@laniersmith1798]

I learned to tie a tie at age 10 for Sunday services at my church, the year was 1960!

[@IgorMikeshin]

Old school gentleman. Respect to you, sir

[@MM-vv8mt]

An iron is important, but at the current stage of my career, spending even 20 minutes ironing a shirt is a waste of my time when I can have my shirts cleaned and pressed for $3 a shirt. I have roughly a dozen dress shirts in my closet and so always have 6 at the laundry and six to wear, with a Saturday trip to the cleaners to pick up and drop off. I use my iron more on restoring a crease or eliminating wrinkes on a pair of trousers that I have previously worn. Also, neuroscientists now suspect a connection between the fumes of shoe polish and Parkinson's Disease, so wear nitrile gloves and even a vox mask if you shine your own shoes. They can be had at most diy shops for @$30. That's a small cost to protect your most valuable asset, your brain. For the same reason, also air out a suit that has been dry cleaned before you wear it so it can outgas the nasty chemicals used in the dry cleaning process.

[@latinboy906]

I wore a tie while attending a Catholic grammar school, but it was a clip on. I grew up without a father, so I learned how to tie a tie from a GQ magazine illustration when I was in my teens.

[@Nick.Brough]

For sleeve rolling you can't beat the Master/Italian roll which is to simply unbutton, slide the cuff inside-out up to the elbow then roll the remainder up so the roll is under the elbow and the inner material of the cuff is showing, I have a few shirts with contrast lining which looks great when rolled like this. Granted your method is easier/quicker.

[@ABC-rh7zc]

Interesting, I fold my sleeves like that with the difference that I keep the first fold on the outside. Make it easier and faster to do. The second fold should cover the first anyway so I doubt there is much visible difference but I am curious to try your method at least once :)

[@bellathereader1328]

I consider myself a “gentlewoman” and have tried to live an elegant life for the past 40 years. My sons were taught the principles reviewed on this channel. Two are gentlemen and one is an educated, yet uncouth slob. I love your channel and thank you for promoting this lifestyle.👔💼

[@Gent.Z]

Thank you for your comment, I appreciate it very much.

[@gsav1320]

😂😂😂 gosh he must be quite unhinged to warrant such a comment from his own mother 😂

[@bellathereader1328]

@@gsav1320 you are exactly right! Our children when they grow up are going to make their own choices and they may not follow what they were taught in childhood☺️

[@JosephMoore-gc8me]

If channels like this, as well as Gentlemen's Gazette and Real Men Real Style, help men with conducting themselves like gentlemen, what are some channels and sources you like for women to conduct themselves as gentlewomen?

[@Andoy12]

Tying a tie is easy .. another critical skill men are not learning .. you can't live your whole life in sweats. The guy with the tie will eclipse you.

[@tomdiprose4354]

My recent discovery of your KZbin channel has been one of my best finds in a long time. If you haven't done it already, I'd love to see a video about your advice on starting a men's style (and other related things) channel for other people considering doing the same. Thanks again for all the wonderful videos.

[@yourvision4986]

Fashion Pro-Tip Gent Z, please 🙏 keep giving value. Can we suggest instead of and iron for approximately the same price we suggest purchasing a clothing steamer

[@kevin-jg5nq]

Where is the notification bell? I’m a subscriber but I never receive notice of videos.

[@Gent.Z]

When you hit the subscribe button it should be there with a few different options for the notifications

[@michaelbetz520]

Your well on your way to a million subscribers! P.S. I miss the red head......

[@KRW628]

My father taught me to tie a tie when I was about 12 (he taught me to tie a bow tie the next year). Then I attended an all-boys Catholic high school (secondary school) in which we wore ties every day I was wearing a tie today. Navy. Knit. Four-in-hand. Dimple. The pocket square was a medium blue foulard. And I pressed my shirt with my iron.

[@MrMelonMan96]

I can’t live without an iron. Attention to the details is what makes you stylish. When I was staying in airbnbs around Europe last year and they didn’t have an iron I realised how much I rely on one, even for my t shirts going to the gym

[@lhughes6656]

Get yourself a handheld steamer. Much easier to travel with and your done in 1-2 minutes. Changed my life.

[@MrMelonMan96]

@@lhughes6656 I’ll look into it

[@eugeneshcherbinin4569]

I first tied a tie at 18 when I found my first part time job at a small finance firm - during my school times, I hated anything formal, but coming to an environment that appreciated dressing nicely was great. I started enjoying making the tie, started experimenting with windsor and half Windsor

[@davidgsolis]

My father taught me how to tie a tie around the age of 10. Whenever we had an event on primary school my classmates always asked for my help to tie their ties, it was something I enjoyed doing and felt very proud of.

[@darbythornton9471]

If my tie knot is not to my satisfaction, my day does not go well

[@oscarhall124]

Simple how to do’s, but many times overlooked in this day and age😢 Appreciate the refresher.😊

[@robertwoods6856]

Learned to tie a tie at 9 years of age. Have defaulted to the half Windsor knot as it looks symmetrical, but doesn't use as much length as a full Windsor. I still wear a tie about three days per week.

[@michaelalan1270]

this guy judges people by the way they dress- so superficial. I am a gentleman, well educated, worth millions-and I live in shorts and t-shirts. I want people to judge me by my behavior and accomplishments. And I live a low key lifestyle and never had a problem being attracted by women.

[@frasierfrasier1769]

Gent Z, you match the pocket square with the shirt! And even then, it should only rhyme. Matching the pocket square with the tie makes you look like you work for Vodafone. C`mon, man.

[@poxyclypse]

I really like your content. However, I become very distracted by your choice of knit tie, and, especially that you let the skinny back of your thick tie show. Would you do a segment on the proper use of a tie-bar or tack? And, even, other necktie accouterments?

[@jordanwhite6293]

Great video. As a side note, im loving the martini and Manhattan station. However, can you do me a favour and put your dry vermouth in the fridge. This will help its flavour and life expectancy.

[@christophneuschaeffer7489]

Here is a pro tip for #4 when it comes to cleaning your shoes: Spend money on a good shoe polish! The result will be remarkable. Here is a little story I want to share with you: I once had a pair of leather boat shoes that I thought were ready for the dust bin. I had them for years and took care of them regularly. But the tooth of time does its part. But then I bought a really really good shoe polish and took care of them one more time. It was like spending 10 bucks on a shoe polish that saved me a 120 bucks for a new pair of boat shoes. And you know that these are just a casual type of footwear. The result on more expensive shoes you need for more formal occasions is all the more stunning. You can see the leather smiling at you with gratitude. Avoid cheap polish, go for the right stuff. And don't forget shoetrees.

[@peterhearle874]

I like your video of the well-dressed man. I learned to tie Windsor knot in the British Army. Also how to polish my boots and Iron my shirts. I wasn’t allowed out of the camp unless I look like a gentleman I carry this to this day I am 88, I will never go on holiday without a tin of polish and iron spray, starch I always spit and polish my toe caps On holiday, I was sitting on my own. I’m drinking a glass of wine properly dressed, looking straightforward not using my Phone lady beckoned me to come to her table. I looked around and I couldn’t see anyone else except me, so I went over and met them. I have a lovely Time with Her and her family . I asked her why she invited me to her table with her family, and she said I look like a very approachable gentleman She asked me for a dance, her husband took some video of me dancing with his wife You can see the video on my KZbin channel.

[@macjeffff]

I cannot imagine buying any shirt without a placket button on the sleeve, but wearing a dress shirt without a placket button would be unthinkable.

[@Jase989]

I learned all of these skills when I joined the British Army as a junior apprentice soldier 🫡. It’s was then I realise my family had not prepared me at all 😅

[@chrisblanc663]

I make sure to wear my bow tie at least once a month to keep the skill sharp. When I first learned, I wore it 2 times a week until I felt comfortable tying it.

[@delvesdg]

I learned a basic four in hand from my mother when I was rather young. The Marine Corps introduced me to a half and full Windsor.

[@kletts42]

I don't know the name of the knot I learned. I only recently learned the Windsor. I do bow ties a lot. At least once a week. I iron my own shirts many times. My wife does it well, but I want to do it myself to get better at it. I am just starting pocket squares. Matching ties and pockets squares make me cringe.

[@ginopagnani7286]

My father taught me when I started Catholic grade school in the late 1950’s.

[@randy74989]

A Half Windsor Knot is what I was taught and I like it. It's classy and easy to tie. For shirts, I always go with a button-down collar, which is elegant as well.

[@ImYourOverlord]

On average, it takes me four tries to successfully tie my tie in a Windsor knot, which is the only way I know.

[@stephendownes6331]

2 rules in life, buy the best iron and ironing board on the market and secondly the best mattress you can afford even at a stretch or if you a have to wait to do so. Any cheap bed base with good mattress is a game changer and a good iron and board makes what could be a chore a bit of fun, like owning good tools, they are just more fun.

[@EdAlv-w4y]

Hi, I live and work in a Chalet with garden, I don't need to dress up, however I have my clothes and shoes ready to go places. I recently learnt that my grandfather used to sew his own suits and that my father's first job was in a taylor's workshop...how wierd Is that? Even when it's not my call, I do care

[@stylishoversixty9459]

If I recall correctly, I must have been about 10 and learned to tie a necktie from my Boy Scout handbook the four-in-hand knot!

[@lowerquadrant4647]

Very nice jacket!🙂

[@cameronvallejo4157]

My dad taught me how to tie my tie and polish dress shoes when I was about 10 years old as I needed to dress up for either performing at the local orchestra or simply attend to an opera part

[@ImYourOverlord]

Convenient shoe care kits are widely available, and we owe it to ourselves to gear up with one.

[@Yong_Goh]

dammit its been 2 years maybe since i wore a tie... gotta practice again... it was only when i was in my late twenties when i had it down to a T...

[@05Rudey]

I wore ties from a young age, but It was from 11 when I needed to wear one for school and I had to learn to do it for myself and then as a young teenager as other activities took my time like sports (Cricket Cross Country), Cadets (best dress) and the Marching band other ties (as well as club or specific uniforms) were thrown into the mix multiple times a day (Marching band introduced the bow tie on a weekly basis), even after leaving school and thus the before mentioned activities having upto a 5 year perhaps longer gap of not wearing one, the skill never goes away the Windsor Knot is the one knot i can do without really thinking about it, the Bow Tie, I have to think about it for a bit ;)

[@stevenwagner7520]

Tying a real necktie means that when it is late in the day, you can loosen it a bit and undo the top button of your shirt and still look good.

[@tempestandacomputer6951]

I feel there is hardly a need for an iron nowadays with steamers. A steamer is easier to deploy, is more forgiving with technique, and is more packable.

[@MrMelonMan96]

A steamer doesn’t get the same results as an iron though at least not the ones I’ve used

[@bellathereader1328]

I think the point is that clothes should not have wrinkles. A steamer is a great tool but to have a crisp look, you still need to iron

[@umaiar]

I love my steamer, especially with synthetic fabrics. But you still need an iron to get/enhance the crease in slacks. I also like a crease on the top of my shirt sleeves, but that might be "out of fashion" now 🤷‍♂️

[@MrMelonMan96]

@@umaiar I think for synthetic fabrics / silk a steamer would be perfect. My experience using a steamer was very wrinkled linen, so maybe it wasn’t enough for that

[@umaiar]

@@MrMelonMan96 Oh yeah, linen is like a master class in wrinkles. 😂

[@benjackson103]

That is a great looking shirt! Where is it from? Brooks Brothers?

[@hernanibarsmombelli946]

Most of those things, I learned them during my time in the Army.

[@joshuang6896]

I've learned how to tie a tie also because of my school uniform, and my mother was the one who taught me how to do it!

[@ManlyHK1]

I learned to do my tie from my sister who was 3 years older than me. We were at different Primary Schools and both required us do the tie. I think men look best in a suit. Wall Street is evil in many ways and getting rid of the tie was one of them! BTW I used to watch Gentlemen’s Gazette but now your channel is my favourite!❤️

[@mauriceholden9238]

I was 23 years old when I learned how to tie a tie

[@Sko71]

Learned to tie a tie at 13

[@vinziisaac2889]

I learnt to tie the tie when I was 32 !

[@luiscals]

Eight years.

[@FFS704]

" closet " ?

[@joshKozak]

Oh shit here we go again.

[@umaiar]

I think I was probably 11 or 12 when I learned to tie a tie. I learned the Windsor and Half Windsor knots. That was nearly 40 years ago, and it didn't seem special. It was just something guys were supposed to know. I worked a few years in a retail job that required a tie and a long sleeve shirt, though we were allowed to roll the sleeves up. I've tied the Windsor so many times that I still do it on autopilot without a mirror, though I do check it before leaving the house.

[@luiscals]

Bravo !!

[@jeremiahbok9028]

That new blazer suits you and you look sharp and bold, it can be hard to be both and you're both. 👏Ha, I'm only recently learning to tie a tie, following a video by Raphael Schneider. I've only worn a tie a few times a year for the longest time and I'd like to wear them more often. So I've been practicing periodically, I'm attempting to learn within a few months, and so far it's going well enough. ^-^

[@SeanA.Skeete-wd4vi]

Invest in a can of " heavy duty" spray starch or wrinkle releaser such as from Downey. I discovered this years ago and many times there's no need for an iron😊❤🎉💯.

[@ImYourOverlord]

Public schools in CA didn't have uniforms, so our dads usually taught us how to tie ties and shoelaces.

[@peaceonearth8693]

I think you should comment on which tie knots work best for different types of ties. For example, with a knit tie the knot you're wearing is best. For a skinny tie, for a silk tie or for a polyester tie , different knots work better. Also, this in relation to the shape of the collar opening and collar dimensions, pair with some knots better than others.

[@matthewclark2941]

Where did you purchase that suit coat? Thank you

[@mikehess4494]

Informative...TY...My mother dressed me till I got married now my wife picks out my clothes...Life is simple and effective.

[@betweenthedimensions8315]

“Wether your a fan of the tie or knot” i see what you did there 😉

[@AdrianxNB]

First

[@Manuel421]

I definitely do hope to get a pair of Wingtips but what are your thoughts on wearing Cap Toes casually? I understand that they tend to be more formal but mine do feature a bit of broguing so I feel they can be appropriately dressed down with Chinos at least rather than jeans. Once again I know your channel is aimed at younger men but even those of us in our 30's can still learn how to dress better so thanks again for your content.

[@3581tossit]

Cap toes with sport soles or white soles paired with chinos are a great casual look. Most people don't know which style of shoe is more formal. They see all the ugly stitching on a wing-tip and think because of all the busy design patters they must be the most formal.

[@Manuel421]

@@3581tossit I definitely agree with you. While I'm not a complete expert I understand that a Wingtip is considered more casual by design right away. Sanborn is the color of my Cap Toes just to clarify so while most of the time they'll be paired with trousers whenever I feel like dressing them down further it'll definitely be with Chinos as stated above. I don't remember how the soles are so I'll have to examine them again. They are Johnston and Murphy so while perhaps not the highest quality they should at least last for quite awhile. Thanks for your response.

[@Adwnpinoy310]

For awhile now, I’ve been think that you look familiar and remind me of someone. I finally figured it you. You remind me of the Maitre’d in Ferris Bueller’s Day Off (yes I am old)

[@Kingleonidas623]

Would a steamer be a suitable replacement for an iron

[@aelfredrex8354]

Tie is a garrote. Grab at both ends and pull. Strangulation. Never wear a tie.