6 Reasons Why People Self Harm (understand and how you can help)

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[@jupiter_scribbles]

Thank you so much

[@SomeSortOfBeingg]

I'm not doing great, it's 6:05 am and I haven't slept. :( What about you ? How are you doing ?

[@TheBeaniestBean8675]

I’m learning here! Yay! Thxs Psych2Go!

[@NoPlus500]

Wish this was available to me 40 years ago

[@keiron.4612]

I subscribed to your new channel

[@amnaimran6641]

Sometimes self harm starts for one reason and continues for a million other

[@thisisnormal8531]

When I first cut myself I was happy and addicted that day and cut myself 9 times I threw away the blade for my friend tho

[@manaspoojitha7575]

So true I can relate so hard

[@legendcanary3916]

I feel like that's me

[@Loona_Fan01]

that's what has happened to me, I started for one now theres multiple. I'm not cutting to die, not even that deep, just for relief. if anyone is cutting to die, please talk to anyone. I will listen to you for hours, if you need that much time. Everyone is battling demons, some worse then others. Please talk if you need help, I'm willing to listen for as long as you need.

[@basma.gogogo]

I started because of some reasons, but now I also feel guilty for doing it and I feel like I've wasted my friends' trust (they told me not to do it), and that's a reason to keep injuring myself

[@starflight777]

Cutting is weird. It's a constant state of fear and relief at the same time. Fear of physical pain, relief from emotional pain.

[@yamandacat4725]

To me it feels like I'm having a cutting therapy.

[@zoeejackson9516]

For me it’s just the relief

[@lonewolfsuzaku21]

For me, it was kind of a release of the hurt i feel emotionally and in a way punishment for letting that situation affect me...

[@rebeccaeverett8957]

For me it’s just relief. I mainly do it out of anger, I don’t fear it whatsoever. I do it out of impulse and the anger takes over and take it out on myself.

[@sleepygriffin6027]

I used to feel no fear while cutting but now I feel a little fear bc a friend found out and they convinced me to stop, but later I started again in a different area of my body and I feel a little fear now because I stopped for so long

[@lexieboo8318]

I’ve grown up being told that self-harm was just cutting your wrists. So I have punched myself, grabbed my hair as hard i can, bit myself, dig my claws into myself, etc, and kept going because I thought it wasnt self harm. ⚠️WE NEED TO LET PEOPLE KNOW THAT SELF HARM ISNT JUST CUTTING⚠️

[@OuaisAmelie]

exactly the same with me, all through middle and high school I thought it didn’t count and was normal

[@joannethomson9667]

I sometimes also write abusive stuff about myself in a diary, which I think is just as bad as hurting myself

[@Toast1640]

Finally someone who also uses biting

[@kellyong3431]

Yay someone also uses punching!

[@shreyakrishnamohan8680]

I cut myself for 10 months.... It helps me deal with my emotions!!! Once I found out it was self harming, I stopped about a month ago..... Not even my parents or family knows, but! I'm determined not to hurt myself! I suffer from social anxiety and everything and everyone I love is being taken away from me...... I just, hope tonight isn't my last night..... God bless everyone in self harming situations or life taking situations....❤❤❤❤💔💔💔💔💔

[@bubblebuttz3218]

just came to see my reason to make sure I’m not just looking for attention from myself

[@nelmae6026]

Same 😔

[@balls1321]

Same. Im always really worried that I self harmed to get attention but the way I felt around that time really lined up with number 4 and 5 so that made me feel better about myself in some weird way

[@qai6753]

Same... ︶︿︶ My family told me I just looking for attention by self harm

[@sklorpo682]

same and i still couldnt find my reason-

[@qai6753]

@@sklorpo682 hope you find it soon! And I always hope all the people in this world can be understanding to each other... Oh, also, hope you get better

[@nova4476]

sending love to everyone who harms right now, has harmed, is trying to stop, or already stopped. i hope you all find happiness soon. you deserve it, even if you forget that sometimes💞💞

[@kolesdoodlesnstuff1691]

Thank you

[@tikkurilaboi6893]

Thanks, you rock.

[@user-bf7lb2sd9d]

♡♡Thank you♡♡

[@reptilic2080]

thank you

[@nxahsvidz]

Ty ❤️

[@Blusagi]

I once read about how healing process boosts serotonin in our bodies. Then it suddenly hit me - my self harming for "no reason" was actually a desperate attempt to get this sweet, sweet serotonin boost! Crazy!

[@YouTubeChannel-uw4bd]

Sometimes I feel like I’m a box. And there are all these books filling up. The books are all the things that I did wrong. The books never go away. The box is my life. Self harming tips the box, so all the books fall out. But, twice the amount of books come back. Sometimes I wish I can turn the box upside down. Completely let all the books fall out forever. But, then the books fall. They would fall onto everyone I know. Sometimes I have “panic attacks”. It feels like someone covered my box up, but the books are still coming in. The pressure increases and increases until I can’t handle it and I have to tip my box over by self harming.

[@TheBeaniestBean8675]

You just spoke my mind

[@sinfulmonarchweeb8826]

That was deep. I like your comment. You are deserving of love.

[@MelB868]

Your just being accused by the devil ask God to forgive whatever it was and He will not remember it and forgive yourself it will be okay.

[@Joyous.noncis]

That is a very good analogy! Hope you're doing okay, though!!!

[@a-lonley-box3657]

Sh--. That really does explain it hell lot better than anything I've ever seen... Wow.. I'm so sorry its like that, it's going to be okay... I think, personally, the best thing for you is to tell someone, like that...

[@jhopemoons13]

i thought my phone broke at the beginning

[@SomeSortOfBeingg]

Same haha

[@rainjackson3880]

Same.

[@taima6138]

l jhopemoons l omg same I was like "what is hApPEnInG?!"

[@tokyo4752]

same..

[@swirlingfizz9990]

Same

[@Lillyyss63]

one of my favourite people on earth started self harm lately and here i am in tears trying to understand her behaviour as i'm trying to be as understanding and as comprehending as i can be. she's my favourite person.

[@Demir_Sonmez]

Thats so cute 🥺

[@iya4016]

Reasons people self harm:/ ***self harm is injuring yourself*** 1. To feel something. They feel a strong emotion, depression, anger. 2. To feel anything, they might feel numb. It fills a void. 3. To have a sense of control..feeling out of control, self harm is their control. They feel in charge of their choises. 4. It feels like a relief. It can feel like relief..this is maybe why they do self harm. Self harming calms..but carried by guilt. 5. Form of self punishment...they may believe they deserve the pain. 6. A way to communicate without words. Hurting themself is probably then trying to get help without using words. This is very hard, anyone who has, or is self harming I am truely sorry, and I hope everything in your life gets better. No matter what you think otherwise, you are worth it and beautiful. I love you, and so many more people love you to believe it or not. I struggle with this too but I try my hardest to not self harm. 🙁💘

[@iya4016]

@Susan Ananda you're welcome 💘

[@ladennayoung2939]

I pray you feel better soon in Jesus name. People with any mental illness tend to suffer in silence.

[@iya4016]

@@ladennayoung2939 thank you so much🥺

[@orfaelia3636]

Thank you.. i have this one huge scar and i have to hide it every time i meet people, its exhausting and i wished people would stop asking. 😞

[@iya4016]

@@orfaelia3636 I totally understand this. I always have to hide up with long sleeves or either makeup it's so stressful🙁

[@vanillacream2383]

This hits hard. Back in the days when those methods were comforting.

[@iradessapearl6004]

I still do it XP

[@sld_gloccem]

Same

[@janetlandaker9913]

I use to say when I was young I can hurt myself more than you can hurt me. That’s when I started to hurt myself

[@Countrymansean]

I do it because I deserve to feel pain and I feel like I’m giving myself punishment. Edit: 7 months later, I don't self-harm anymore! I'm actually doing alright nowadays and I hope some of like people who liked/replied can say the same.

[@MegansRandomness]

same

[@buttgoblin9954]

Same

[@shreyawankhede3763]

Random artist on the internet i had the same exact emotion when i self harmed some time back. I wanted to punish myself for not being good enough for not being sufficient. But trust me just find someone to talk to or easier something to do when you feel the urge i used to draw however crappy might be but it helped me release over time... hope you jolt it down or draw it down or release it in any form so that you just dont harm the beautiful you. Take care💕

[@rockytanasichuk7981]

Same but no one should feel pain

[@laletraa8650]

When I make a mistake I usually do that but not that much

[@grreece]

Inserts “i’m, actually, president of the company”

[@fireflyfox2365]

I felt this

[@nonestanimamea9099]

I i i aiyayaya

[@cricketuhm]

Sammmeee

[@knives8014]

hey if you ever need to talk to someone i’m here

[@lufixu]

oh shi-

[@jazzycakes6294]

I started because I found out I liked pain. Even when I was pretty young, I liked certain pains. It was calming. I'd let myself get hurt on purpose just to enjoy the cuts and bruises. I didn't start officially self harming until middle school, and instead of just enjoying the sensation, it was to numb myself when I was feeling overwhelmed by something, oftentimes when I was angry. Instead of lashing out, I'd aim it at myself. I haven't in a while, now! I still like pain a great deal, but I don't seek it anymore, though I do enjoy getting tattooed a little too much.

[@hajidle]

You found bdsm yet

[@Hana-fq8vl]

How do u stop enjoy hurting yourself ?

[@baes001]

same xx i havent done sh tho tbh i think i might- rn my life is a pile of shit

[@jazzycakes6294]

@@baes001 I wouldn't, if I were you. It gets so much worse if it hooks you. Last year I tried to break my arm with a rock. It truly is an addiction.

[@Violate..]

​@@Hana-fq8vlits satisfying for someone who cannot control emotions especially anger, people who self harm also feels like they deserve the worse in life so there is that

[@knurdcantdrink]

I hurt myself because I am so afraid to be hurt by others. How ironic. :(

[@pieckgfinger]

Same gsdkkk

[@evelin6703]

She named it, for sense of control, this video really made me cry a bit bc I’m like that same the things I can’t control in my life frustrate me and I’ve been wanting to lash out my anger on myself but I always convince myself not too, try better coping mechanism, if your very afraid of people or too be hurt, then try breaking that fear rather then self-harm, take baby steps like maybe saying hi to someone new, either way I’m rooting for you and I hope one day you don’t feel the need to do that :)

[@bbrandumbb]

@@evelin6703 I cried for the entire video :(

[@dragonfly2577]

Same tho. I’ve developed social anxiety cause I don’t say stuff because I don’t want to feel like a burden or bc I don’t want to be made fun of.

[@vampcatproducer]

I hope some day you feel better and manage to heal

[@mikey_m114]

I’ve been having thoughts of relapsing lately, so I’m watching this to try and better myself - it seems like educating myself is time better spent than hurting myself

[@1lagarti]

Mikey M :D ahaha same... life kinda sucks

[@rockytanasichuk7981]

Same but it gets better right??

[@hansikadaswani7801]

I am relapsing

[@chip73731]

Life can be painful sometimes...I wish you good luck❤️💛💙

[@jennavivavavavoom8594]

Same but please try not to we come so far

[@stellaalemanno1932]

I know that many people fear that they are self harming for attention and I'm one of them but... what if we actually are? It hurts, and it's scaring, it's a terrible thing to do to yourself. So maybe we are doing it for attention, but it is because we need it desperately, because we want someone to see us and notice the pain we're going through and it is nothing to feel guilty about. What you're feeling is valid.

[@mallorykyes2976]

I feel like this helped me a little because I've been trying to find a reason why I even self harm. It's such a hard thing to explain since for me it just happened, it was like I lost control of myself and something took over. I'm still trying to figure out why I do it. I know I shouldn't, but it's not easy to stop. Please, if you are reading this, dont start, it will turn into an addiction that you could struggle with for a very long time. You might not even know why you do it, which makes it even worse when people ask why you did it. Please if you are having these thoughts, reach out and get help of some kind. It can be hard, but you can do it. I believe in you. And please keep going on with life

[@justalpha9138]

If you are able to admit your guilt and self hatred, that's a sign that you absolutely can recover.

[@a-lonley-box3657]

Oh my thank fckin god.... I thought I was alone! You are not alone! I know, its like some kind of demon takes over, those negative thoughts become you, like a bomb on self-destruct. Its crazy and even harder to explain... I'm sending my best of wishes and pray that you can break that addiction, it'll take time and it'll be hard but you can do it.

[@tin1724]

Same, it was just something that happend and kept doing and couldn't understand or relate to other people that would self harm, their reasoning I mean. I'm still trying to figure it out why I do it . I hope you keep safe 💛💛 wishing the best fo you.

[@yo8989]

You can't stop because when you're physically your brain produce healing stuff that makes you feel better mentally after being hurt (not while hurting though). And you are addict to to that stuff your brain release cuz it also makes you feel better mentally. So, you should work therapeutically on your mental health (internet is full of tips if you don't have enough money or bc of the pandemic). It's not easy to stop but you can do it gradually :) Good luck 💗

[@wanderingonionn]

Hey, I also self harm, and the reason I do wasn't mentioned here, so I thought I'd reply in case it was the same as yours. But I feel like it validates my pain, as if having the tangible evidence of scars/burns/whatever proves that my suffering is real, and without having those marks, I felt like maybe what I was feeling wasn't real. But the scars were the proof. For a lot of people, myself included, the reason why you start is usually simple - like "I heard it might help" or "I want to feel something", but the reason you don't stop is what you really have to unpack - and what makes it so hard to get help for

[@kenny-nk5db]

for me, i used to self harm as a way of punishment. as a way to punish myself for being who i am. i felt as though my feelings were invalid to everyone around me and that there was something wrong with me. i’ve never felt like a normal person ever since i was a child. i let other people’s words define me. i lived for them and not for me.. as of now, i want everyone to know that you are who you are and that’s okay. you don’t have to change for anyone. you’re beautiful and worthy of so much love. i know sometimes it may feel like you’re drowning, like you’re fighting a battle everyday in your head, and like there’s no in the world who loves you. but by me you are loved, and you are perfectly made. ❤️ be strong

[@happyneko8760]

😊

[@p1xel.1l]

video creator: “i hope this helps people to talk with their doctor..” reality: “i hope my parents never see this..”

[@baes001]

tbh I havent done sh but im act thinking abt it- its weird..

[@summero-my5in]

@baes001you should reach out and speak to someone in your life who you can trust, I hope you’re doing okay ❤

[@dontmindme5290]

TW: Mentions of self harm, suicide As a 13 year old who does/has self-harmed, it's hard to explain why you do it, unless you have just done it or are about to. I know I shouldn't do it, but it's hard. For some reason, the littlest thing's can make me suicidal or want to harm myself. Recently it's been getting worse these past 3 days, I don't know why or how. It got so bad that 2 days ago I constantly thought of suicide, and how I would do so either in the near future, or anytime soon. Yesterday, I harmed myself. It didn't quite fill the void. So then I attempted suicide. I was supposedly around a minute or 2 from being unconscious, but then I thought of my friend. I thought of the fact that they would never know I've done this, they would be concerned as to why I havent answered or seen any of their messages. Then I stopped, I stopped the attempt. I sat back and looked at what I had just done. That was when I started having a bad panic attack, one of the worst I've had. I couldnt stop crying, nor breathing rapidly. I grabbed my phone, I kept telling myself that I need to ask for help, and that I really was not ok and I needed to tell someone that. So I told my friend. They calmed me down, my panic attack stopped. I told them that I was scared, what if I did go through with it just because I wasn't in the right mindset? They told me that they're here for me, and to text them whenever I feel that way. The amount of guilt I felt that day was terrible. I felt selfish. The more I looked at my scars I regretted them like I always do. If there is anyone who feels like this then PLEASE remember, without you, reality will be altered. For example, if I had gone through with what I was doing then my family and friends lives wouldn't be their normal everyday life. I know it's hard, and sometimes you can't see or feel it, but people do care about you, they really do. People are there to support you. You can't keep it all to yourself, you need to ask for help, either of friends, family, therapist or anyone at all. Speaking out helps. It may be hard to find the right time to but trust me, once you've told someone and they help you, it's a huge weight lifted off of you. A relief that someone is here for you. Everyone is here to support you, no matter what you're going through. You are enough, you are amazing, talented, inspiring, strong and so many other things! Don't think that you're weak because you feel like this, when in reality you're incredibly strong. You've made it through your toughest days, you've pushed through them, and one day, all of this will get better. It might not completely go away, but you will start getting better. Just continue pushing through. You have everyone's support.

[@cidercake4373]

No one should feel guilty for asking for help, hope everyone feels okay💙💜💙💜

[@teenoush7489]

I really needed to read this...thank you so much...

[@aubreygammon902]

yeah but what if you cant let your self tell anyone i was talking to my today and she said she had done self harm once just to try and feel what it like i was thinking about telling her that i had been doing it for almost a year now to tell her to stop before she gets addicited like i did so she doesnt make the same mistake thhat i did i cant stop now and now i wish i never started but at the same time it feels so good after and now i have to wear scrunchies every where i go my mom has noteced some before and i just couldnt tel her i told her mamy the rubber bands were too tight -sorry bought all that i just needed t get it out

[@glassypunstm7080]

hope u feel better soon❤ today my mom saw it and asked me why i did it i was so surprised cuz i myself dont know i just dont feel ggod i feel a void

[@tillyashton9705]

sending love

[@abbzg]

i’ve relapse once in the first part of quarantine and ive been feeling close to relapsing again but this video somehow helped me. i guess it’s the fact that i understand myself and what i’m thinking so it helps me come up with something to prevent me from relapsing again. thank you guys for this video💕 and you everyone out there who are also struggling, you can get through this. please please please please pleeeeaaasssee find someone to talk to. don’t isolate yourself and don’t lose hope. life is worth living. life has its bumps but you are stronger. i believe in you💕💕

[@a-lonley-box3657]

Thank you for your comment... It was really comforting. I have to isolate those thoughts and actions because last time my parents found out they told me off for being selfish and ungreatful for the life I have. I haven't relapsed but I wish I could sometimes, my head gets too heavy and it feels like a deadweight sometimes... Stay strong ❤️💕

[@pao6207]

Aabia Aamir first of all you did not waste my time I chose to read your comment because I wanted to. I will not tell you to shut up because your feelings are completely valid and although it may not be good for you or your body you are still doing self harm and it’s for a reason. I have absolutely no idea what your life is like but I can tell you this. Please please please think about talking to someone even if you don’t mention the self harm part. You are not in this by yourself and you are not the only one experiencing these feelings. There are many different websites even that you could talk to someone if you don’t want to talk to a parent or guardian. Also friends or anyone in your family that you trust to you can talk to. You are not in this alone there are many people able and willing to help and people who love you. This goes for anyone reading this too and the comments above as well you guys are not alone. Talk to someone, find an outlet, or whatever you do don’t suffer in silence

[@AngelicBreath1111]

@@idkutellme-rp9qe Hey. I hate to say this, because I know it must be terrible to feel like you're going against your religion- but that is still self harm. If YOU are HURTING yourself, that is self harm. Cutting isn't the only way to hurt yourself. And, the quicker you notice it is self harm, the quicker you can stop. Don't feel bad for it, it's okay to feel this way. But, it isn't okay to keep doing it. No one will hate you or anything, don't feel ashamed for doing it. It just isnt healthy for you, that's why it isn't okay. I'm just worried for you. You have to stop self harming. It isn't healthy, and it doesn't change the pain. It just makes it physical and mental. It makes two problems. You have to tell you parents. I know you don't want to, but it's how you get help. Imagine if your dad finds out, he'll feel even worse knowing you didn't tell him. What if he finds you actively doing it? Point is- sometimes you have to do what's good for you and not other people. But, in this case, telling your parents benefits everyone involved. If you need help telling them, or anything else, I'm always here. :) Just reach out to me with questions and updates and stuff, and I'll help you. If you're comfortable with that, of course. And, also, I have a question. Why exactly do you self harm? Like...what is going on in life? Don't feel a need to answer it- don't even feel a need to have a reason. Depression is just a chemical imbalance. That's all Depression is. A imbalance. You don't need a reason to be Depressed. But if you do, I'd like to know, because it'd make it so much easier to help you over come it. Regards, Sunshine.

[@isabellivingston4445]

I've also relapsed since quarantine started. It's not a good feeling far from it. And I was also hospitalized again since quarantine. This whol e social distancing thing has really taken a tool in my mental health. I hope you get better!

[@ssyncc1729]

To all of you who relapse, it's okay to. It's part of the process to overcome the hurdle. Whatever happens I know you will all get through it because you are all strong. I believe in you all

[@i_am_jayce]

I stopped myself for a bit, but I have started again, and that's why I'm here, watching this video. I find it a better way for me to open up rather than talking to people, and so far it is working, I mean, I'm still here living, maybe not quite living mentally, but definitely living physically. Thanks for all the videos!

[@heyoitsjustme4240]

Me who self harms, watching this knowing it’s going to trigger me like 👁👄👁

[@hannahkohl6053]

Lol same

[@Kill2Kiss]

mood

[@sinfulmonarchweeb8826]

Lmao same

[@sodak3907]

Please Self love instead

[@cricketuhm]

Sammmee

[@patri_zzz5013]

Oh my god guys, I'm going through some hard times and the timing of this video couldn't be better... thank you :') 💚

[@Mii.2.0]

Be strong! 💪

[@whyyoulookin8770]

GOsh

[@patri_zzz5013]

@@Mii.2.0 Thank you, I hope you're doing well too!

[@swirlingfizz9990]

💚

[@Noname-i7k6f]

Wish you luck,be strong,i believe in you.

[@true_canadian1015]

Cutting is one of those things where “if you know you know” it’s almost like ecstasy and that you’re in complete control of the experience. The physical pain overpowers any emotional pain giving you something to completely focus on whether you want to or not, in that sense it’s similar to an orgasm. It’s not that I like the pain and it just cuts out the emotional pain so completely I don’t have to feel it as long as the physical pain is present

[@not_juice_man9867]

I have a girlfriend who does self harm, and this video is really helpful

[@lpshalfbreed5965]

I hope she gets better💕

[@shirleneng2647]

be there for her! it is very important :)

[@bellisimabebe0060]

wholesome that you watched this video for her :')

[@suprstaarzz]

I hope that she stops soon self harm isn't good, I've done it and it changed things

[@coffeelovermar]

@@shirleneng2647 You know that those words hurt a lot like a million bricks. My boyfriend told me the EXACT same thing and I do you know what the video talks about and my boyfriend found out. He got sad and then a few days later...he broke up with me and that made me worse than I was already. But everyone is different so I do hope that she gets better and that you help her.

[@mynameisriyailikecheese2217]

Everyone in the comments like “oh just try to be happy and keep going you are loved etc.” And as a 13 year old who does hit, bite, punch and ‘use’ scissors sometimes I just wanna say honey, no matter how much you comment that stuff it is not that easy. But thanks for trying.

[@yamandacat4725]

it still doesn't fix me.

[@a-lonley-box3657]

I'm in your boots right now. Its a sweet thing to say, but it's not exactly doing any miracles...

[@felixthelemon978]

It's all just stuff people have said a billion times before that they think is the thing they're supposed to say, but it isn't like hearing that it'll get better for the 101st time will help any more than it did at 100.

[@cidercake4373]

I really do hope I at least helped a bit, I know it won't work like a miracle, but I do hope, all that I know was I tried.

[@lilycreason1774]

Exactly, I hate it when people try to guilt trip you into not wanting to hurt yourself. I dont want them to talk about what we 'SHOULD' be happy for (such as family, friends, and education) ,but rather make us happy with the things that ACTUALLY MAKE US HAPPY. I wish they would understand that guilt just makes us feel worse rather than more appreciative.

[@brianmaxwell8615]

Number five is why I've cut from the age 13-32. There have been bouts where I've gone 5 years without self punishment, but it always comes back around. I've learned that a part of my depression cycle is self punishment. For me, it's a cycle that I can only embrace until I understand enough to move forward. One day I will not punish myself for "bad" actions or misdeads. I'm still working towards that day and I know it will come, but I can not punish myself for punishing myself.

[@vitortave]

I frequently want to self-harm due to loneliness. When im feeling "touch starved", i start to self-harming.

[@nash121]

This makes me a little sad

[@Psych2go]

It's definitely a sensitive topic :(

[@TheBeaniestBean8675]

Yeah. I agree...sensitive is definitely the word for it

[@axelbratz]

I feel nothing while watching this

[@Couldntcare_bear]

“Don’t be afraid to speak up” that hit me hard cause when I tried to tell my parents that I wanted to talk to a therapist about it and the fact that I self harm cause it’s not normal or oaky, my parents told me to move on that its just a phase and that its normal for a teenager. It hurts a lot to hear that, at least ell me that everything is okay or try to help me :(

[@fahimsafi9867]

same bro and one dsy when i'm no longer in this world the will get to know that it wasn't normal but

[@WolfDaughterOfApollo19]

my parents don't like self harm.they just say love yourself,or treat yourself well any time i even bring the topic up.i'm a damn 11 year old,by the way.i don't want to go to therapy,becouse my parents are financially struggling at the moment,though the won't admit it.i don't even have a reason to harm myself either.not one i can see,anyways.i even do it in public alot,and no one bats an eye.

[@reginawidya7599]

I can relate. I cut myself to distract me from my emotion, and to punish myself for having such a bad thought. But whatever it is, don't harm yourself. Talk to your loved ones. Distract yourself with positive things. I know it's hard, but you'll figure it out.

[@UnlicensedThinker]

We have a society that lacks purpose and control. I have learned to take those back for myself and am teaching others to not need the crutches we are so used to.

[@kneecaps3892]

I've had experience self harming but I'm officially getting therapy 😊 so I hope to get better soon (Edit) For everyone wishing me luck I just wanted to say thank you. Thank you for all your kind words and wishing luck. I wish you all luck on your journeys getting better! I hope that one day we can finally be free from any pain that we are suffering from ❤

[@youremostage9217]

I also hope you get better

[@name5599]

Good luck hope it gets better

[@kneecaps3892]

Thanks :)

[@thatgirl5630]

So happy for you bb ❤️

[@user-yl7dd4qq7g]

I started because I thought if there was a physical representation of my pain it would be more tangible, and prove that there was a legitimate problem and that it wasn't all in my head. I continued because I didn't have the will to stop

[@1_evexo]

I had used to hurt myself to get attention, and love that I had never gotten. I got help and now I'm better. 😌🥰

[@jupiter_scribbles]

Thank you for clarifying this. I've struggled with this for a long time and haven't even known the reason why. This really helped me

[@j.r.stringer5852]

I’ve been self harming since I was 8 and y’all I have been clean for about 9 years now and I’m 22, this video was spot on.!!!

[@ssnowee6144]

Glad to hear you're clean! Keep it up! 💖💕🌟

[@Aiko_63194]

That’s one hell of a streak! Glad to hear!💖

[@keiron.4612]

Since you was 8 realy you self harmed at 8 I find that hard to believe

[@name5599]

NINE YEARS my goodness that is Fantastic i'm so happy for you

[@j.r.stringer5852]

David Parkinson I knew what cutting was at a very early age when I was diagnosed with depression fairly young I knew what it was please don’t invalidate my experience because you don’t know me personally and obviously there are ways of self harm that you and I maybe talking about

[@NekoChanSenpai]

I used to do it because it felt like the right response to things. In the moment, it would force my brain to switch focus and I would stop feeling anything.

[@Mel-tx6in]

me :sees title :0 yes I need this do bad for my online friend he's struggling trough anxiety and depression like me im finding a way to be happy so he dosent hurt himself and dosent try to die edit: it's 3 in the morning and after five hours i get 35 like this is most I had if anyone is struggling through anything im here to listen you can aways talk to me and please dont be afraid to seek for help

[@rockytanasichuk7981]

Same Your a good friend

[@iiantixsocial]

Same.

[@Snackaboy]

I wish there were more people like you

[@aidenorsomething4002]

wow you are a good friend...when my friend noticed that I was self harming she was like " You are a teenager it is your hormones"

[@Mel-tx6in]

@@aidenorsomething4002 well im not a teenager yet but my friend is 13

[@eryn1837]

TW: ⚠️ i’ve never actually self harmed with more sharper blades i almost did but i stopped myself. i always did end up digging my nails in different parts of my body of scratching my legs because i was always so stressed, frustrated whatever. i get episodes where my entire body turns dead cold and my hands won’t stop shaking. doing something to my body helped and that’s most likely not good 💀

[@name5599]

What you doing is still damaging i hope everything gets better also good on you for not cutting with shape blades.

[@alanatrene]

Exactly me to I can't explain the feeling. Like I would hurt myself with scissors and there is this feeling I get that makes me wanna do it

[@Isabel-sr8ep]

@@alanatrene pls don't cut yourself anymore ❤🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@sarawatson8756]

What you are doing is still self harm, there are more ways than just cutting. I hope you feel better soon 💕💕

[@kaseyactis7848]

That’s still a form of self harm. I hope you get through it. Lots of love ❤️ ❤️

[@petramagyar9217]

Reasons why i like psych2go: 1. They understand emotions and stuff 2.Helps me (idk how) 3.Its always really calm and never mean and stuff like that

[@thisuser1728]

I am talking to everyone who self harms. I can feel what you are feeling, I have seen the dark side too. But please, do it for yourselves, for those whoove you and you love, for me, just try. I know it is not easy to stop right now, but seek advice, search for ways you can stop, and make small steps and progress. Just don't be alone in this. Talk about it. It is NOT a shame. I promise, when you finnaly manage to stop, you will feel so proud, and you will have the whole life ahead of you to live free of this demon. Just discuss it, as hard as it may be, accept help for people, you will feel great, see a professional so that it can be more efficient, pray. I will be praying for you. You have strength and we all know it.

[@NenaLavonne]

Just sending out so much love. We forget how difficult life can be for others, and it is important that we seek to understand them and to help when we can. It can be really rough out there.

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for the kind message and energy Nena!

[@NenaLavonne]

Psych2Go ♥️♥️♥️

[@SkylerDragon]

thank you so much. i know im late to comment but it helped me understand more about myself. i feel like the worst person every day of my life, but since i love knowledge, just watching your videos fill me with joy. thank you

[@angEl.dust.13.]

i hope you find peace one day ❤

[@SkylerDragon]

@@angEl.dust.13. Thank you so much. I am doing better now!

[@angEl.dust.13.]

@@SkylerDragon im glad to hear that

[@itsvintage50s57]

I relate to this video so much. I've been crying, yelling, and overall feeling terrible over multiple things that are happening to me. I haven't harmed myself and instead do things that are more productive like walking but I still have those days where I feel like giving up even though I'm staying strong.

[@glassypunstm7080]

❤

[@ryfrymush]

I just want to say that your voice is super calming and it really adds to the video.

[@Psych2go]

Thank you! We will let Amanda know!

[@isabellivingston4445]

I can relate to 1,2,4, and 5. I'm currently in the long road of recovery from self harm. I've found that journaling and art help me to express myself and find another way to vent through the pain in another way. I wish I knew before I started self harming that the urges never go away. I have heard alot of people trying to spread the word about preventing suicide, and I understand because suicide isn't something you can come back from. But I also think more people should be spreading the word about preventing self harm. Thank you Psych2go for your videos.

[@MamzelleRylo]

As a concussion/brain trauma survivor... I would let (way too) hot water run on my hand, just to feel pain somewhere else than my head. And I suddenly understood why people would do that. Luckily, it didn’t grow into a habit, and I was well supported for the ptsd that comes with the tbi. Wishing everyone a good week, and reach out to someone instead of those harmful tools. You deserve to feel wellness, not pain, no matter what.

[@duchi882]

*Next Video:* How to prevent other people from doing Self-Harm

[@nem0men_901]

I don't think you can

[@jam8493]

Try to calm them down before they actually do it. As someone who does self harm, it all started when my friend was ignoring me and I thought I wasn’t good enough for her. I hit myself in the head. And it only got worse from then.

[@yamandacat4725]

Y E S N ' T

[@Psych2go]

We might do a video if we can on our new channel by inviting a professional to cover the topic or someone with experience. You can stay tune for it.

[@Mel-tx6in]

@@Psych2go I love you your content is very helpful

[@user-gh2ow4sg7u]

I never knew people did it to feel satisfied, if always done it as a punishment to myself

[@noatmealcookie02]

also it's important to remember that though physical injuries are the 1st thing that comes to mind when you think of selfharm eating disorders, starving or sleep-deprivation on your own will is also self-harm~

[@tolerance711]

...

[@sketchead6616]

1. to feel something 2. to feel anything at all 3. to have a sense of control 4. for relief 5. its a form of self-punishment 6. its a way to communicate without words i relate :,) edit as of 2021: ive healed :D edit as of 2023: ^ idk why i said i've healed. it still occurs to me haha, a lot less often but yeah

[@jja120]

i relate to number five, i’ve been feeling a tremendous amount of guilt, so i feel that if i punish myself, that i’ll become a better person, and that it’ll atone for the hurt i may have caused other people.

[@sketchead6616]

@@jja120 im here rn if u want someone to talk to about it :)

[@vvvnokk8309]

0:10 look out if you're wearing headphones

[@Biggu9-]

Thx 😂

[@SamDguez]

When I'm angry and feel I'm about to exploit, I bite my right hand, and that boiling rage disappears... Until I remember what makes me angry and bite myself again. I've been writing down my anger instead of biting myself... and there's a long way to go.

[@name5599]

But hay you are improving good on you for finding a good way to cope

[@PINKROUND]

*I'M WORKING SO HARD EVERY DAY TO MAKE MY CHANNEL AS GOOD AS YOURS, I'M NEW ON KZbin BUT I BELIEVE IN MYSELF, thanks for being an example* ♥♥♥

[@Chelaysiahsaturn]

Ill subscribe

[@Aiko_63194]

Do you really have the audacity to self promote in the comments on a video about people self harming? Shameless.

[@driphearts8035]

I do this frequently. No other coping mechanisms work. I know it will ruin my life and end in me either leading a miserable life for decades, or an early death due to severe injury, but I have earned this. I accept my fate. I understand the consequences, and due to the lack of punishment from my parents of my previous actions, I will punish myself in its stead. I will whip my back with my belt until I am fully scarred.

[@JGProductions6581]

I feel this. I sometimes do this when I remember that time I bit my classmate in 6th grade. I even do what I did to him to myself.

[@simp3851]

I started doing it for all of these reasons, eventually I just used it so I wouldn't feel sad or numb, it helped what I was feeling in that moment, I also used it as a punishment. It's still something I'm working on, but it's gotten alot better. I'm 2 months clean 💓

[@lexeemaine2823]

I’m so happy for you. I wish I could do that.

[@daydewi]

I do it for the relief, but sometimes also for punishing myself because of self hatred. I honestly used to think I was a little attention seeker but seeing so many people that actually can relate makes me feel a litter bit happier and more relieved. Stay strong whoever reads this, your not alone in your suffering. There's people out there that feel for you. I love you

[@euchiron]

I find your voice so immeasurably calming while describing very difficult topics. Subscribed!

[@rosexfletcher]

I have been clean from self-harming for almost a year and I'm really proud of myself

[@ArcadeEraBeats]

That's awesome! I'm happy to hear that

[@lucidlucille7972]

For me, it makes my emotions feel easier to control when I feel pain caused by myself

[@terminallyelleofficial]

I know this sounds dark but sometimes knowing I COULD end it all, can get me through the day...

[@inDarknessiShine]

That's how I am, just knowing that I can kill myself at any moment comforts me :/ I hope you get through whatever it is you're dealing with

[@nina-go2vi]

Thank you so much for making this. My parents can now better understand my depression.

[@lizard5426]

I stopped self harming 2 years ago. It was really hard to quit but I'm so proud I could do it :D Nobody in real life cares about this and I wanted to tell someone. So here I go

[@metra8604]

I'm proud of you! 😁

[@cidercake4373]

I'm glad you are okay now! You are very strong and I'm proud of you! 💙💜💙💜

[@laineysisson108]

I am really glad you made this video. I often feel misunderstood in the fact that people think that self harm is just a tension relief but to me most of the time it’s the self punishment. I’m so ashamed of it obviously but I am relieved to know that it’s not just me who does it for punishment. Again I’m so ashamed of it and hate myself for it but I really appreciate this video and it helped me feel not quite as alone knowing that I’m not the only one who does it for the reason I do. Thank you Psych2Go.

[@MASKACID]

I love your channel so much 🧡🧡🧡

[@Mii.2.0]

Thank you!!

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for the support! Are there any other topics you would like to see?

[@Synthetic113]

What do I do about random negative thoughts? I could be fine one minute and feeling like I'm despised by everyone the next

[@name5599]

Distracts your self with things that make you happy that are not negative (hope this helps)

[@Psych2go]

Distractions is definitely one of the many strategies if you have things like hobbies, work or friends/family to keep yourself busy. Maybe you can give this video a watch Owen and see if there's anything useful? kzbin.info/www/bejne/i3LalHageN-DodU

[@glassypunstm7080]

@@Psych2go i agree! i distract myself a lot but once in a while that day comes when im just laying down and think about how pathetic my life is and what a useless dumb human i am and then i overthink and start crying. but yeah distraction helps! i read books and watch movies for distracting haha

[@thaliamalherbe2368]

I am so glad that a channel is tring educate people.

[@theangryblonde00s]

I've been self harming for 7 years now... and although these 6 things were the reasons I started.. The reason I can't stop, is because it feels like a part of me now... It's weird seeing my body without cuts and it's so hard to stop....

[@akuto5341]

Irk I cut my hand when I’m bored for some reason and because I like the pay. The bad thing it that some kids at bug me about it

[@distinguisheddorito754]

I have been free from self harm for about a month now... in case anyone is currently self harming, I would like to share what got me here: I went to a doctor, he prescribed medication for my severe anxiety, (this does not mean I have no anxiety, It just means that my anxiety is much more manageable.) I started to learn more about mental health and I started exercising every day and eating healthier...these things won't necessarily work for everyone, but you WILL get through this, I believe in you.

[@printedpropscreations3017]

Just wanted to say that these videos along with others are great- one of my friends was cutting frequently but after he sought out help with us he’s been much happier and hasn’t cut since which is really encouraging🤞☺️

[@rennysartst]

I had a moment in my life I actually thought in doing this to feel something different. Then I understood why people self-harm. But I never did.

[@cidercake4373]

That's very good! I hope you feel better now! 💙💜💙💜

[@teddybear_cloudy6864]

I love this thank you for sharing I want to make sure my friends don’t harm themselves I have depression but I don’t self harm I have gloves on 24/7 but I don’t do self harm

[@dylanbrowne262]

I used to self harm when I would get super sad over something (usually a person) and it kinda made me calm down but regretted every time I did it

[@Inamichan]

I don’t even remember why I started in middle school but I kept doing it until 11th grade when a teacher finally noticed. I just remembered it feeling like a release. Like emotions were building up and it felt freeing I guess. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Devinfrbs]

A lot of this video could be valid if you swap "Self harm" with "Binge Eating" or all kinds of other coping mechanisms. It's hard to get out of a pattern.

[@hopeless_turkey2735]

Eating disorders in general are considered self harm if I'm not wrong ^-^

[@ENNEARTS]

Stuck in the starve binge cycle since April. I feel attacked

[@LeyaRumsteen]

This was hard to watch because it hits so close to home for me. I had to take deep breaths just to get through it but thank you for posting

[@mannyflo209]

I love you everyone please be safe and knew that we are all here together and to help each other I love you all 😌

[@Lisabpp]

💕✨🥺

[@strangeentities]

OMG I just relapsed about an hour ago...I feel like the universe is trying to tell me something.

[@monarchberry1107]

"Ya shouldn't have did that" -Vegeta, Prince of all Saiyans

[@Dirpinations1234]

I started selfharm as a way to punish myself. I told myself I would do it once, and never again. But it was fun. Fun to go through the pain. The emese pain brought on by hating myself, freed for a moment. I continued. I still selfharm today.

[@caz7363]

You missed one ☝️ Boredom - u hate where u r and wat you’re doing so much that you just want to get out of the situation. That was my take on it anyways. ✂️

[@13DarknessGirl666]

This may be my life right now...but I will never go back to those times. I have too much to live for. I refuse to be that person again. I don't like who I am right now...but I know I'll like who I am in the future. The pain is worth it. It's all worth it.

[@joemama-nm4sf]

exsctlu

[@why-do-i-breathe8359]

whenever I want to feel pain, I use duct tape and not an actual blade

[@TheBeaniestBean8675]

jess the lesbian Very clever. You don’t leave marks with duct tape

[@TheBeaniestBean8675]

And it hurts less...

[@luisamunoz5601]

I self-harmed once. I remember that for some reason the Shaver didn’t work so I started to bite, scratch myself and starting to pull out my hair. Also since I think I have a eating disorder I started to make myself vomit. I thought that I was unworthy of everything in my life, that I deserved to suffer, that since I wasn’t intelligent enough or pretty enough at least I would be skinny enough. The next day I didn’t went to school because “things couldn’t be bad at school and bad at home” and I knew that if I went to school that day I was going to cry all day. My psychologist told me that she could talk to the school and tell them I had a anxiety attack, but my mom already told the school that I was sick because she didn’t want them to know what happened the night before (she didn’t know about my thing but things have gone wild last night). No one ever trusted me again because the teachers thought that I was some lazy girl that didn’t wanted to go to school( I had a test and a presentation of a work) and my friends thought the same. I still haven’t told anyone at my school but I do want them to know that I’m not a bad student and that I was ready to take the test if it wasn’t for the events of that night

[@taqi5675]

I almost self harming today due to extreme pain in chest and mind for weeks now. But bashing your head with glass cup wouldn't be a good idea hoping to have a good relief or just faint.

[@cidercake4373]

Please don't hurt yourself, it's not good, and I hope you are okay, feel better soon, I wish I could hug so many of you all. 💙💜💙💜 You all deserve so much love, please don't hurt yourself, whoever you know and trust, they're there for you.

[@rockytanasichuk7981]

Please don't do that please stay alive...

[@s0le457]

I’ve been having those symptoms lately though, sometimes I expect life to be perfect though. I’m becoming toxic and arrogant including the news, media, and school what so ever. It’s probably because these platforms including news and media all think that we have the feeling to self harm or have suicidal thoughts that I’m currently feeling right now. Toxicity and self harm or suicidal thoughts can come in any package. I’m sorry I am not keeping this positive because this is just what I’m getting of my chest and express my thoughts through text. But that being said though. Stay safe and healthy we’re all in this together. - Aidan Riley Shimizu

[@ArchmageAU]

This is all so true to me on ALL items listed. It is still a struggle for me today. It has been for the last three years (and even longer). I have self harmed in the past and still feel at risk of falling back into old habits. I am continuing therapy in the hope that one day I will feel better (or at least something).

[@sharonc5778]

Dang she really be attacking us-

[@Psych2go]

Who's she? LOL

[@sharonc5778]

Psych2Go Oml you replied!! Ahh I always loved your channel it’s amazing 💕💕

[@zahraabdullah3947]

Lol

[@papermache5605]

Love this channel

[@Elissey-nf4jo]

When my mom found out I had did it to myself she told me she was uncomfortable with me. I have never felt so alone before, I did it for a cry of help just for my signs to be ignored.

[@stevencoolboi]

damn bro, im sorry 4 u

[@Zimt_Hase]

I am so sorry, that is tough. I hope you're a little better now. Please know, you're not alone and there are people that can and will help you. Feel hugged. 💛

[@M4ximum_pow3r]

I do it for a few reasons. 1. I like the feeling of pain. 2. It calms me down when I have a mental breakdown or panic attack. I also kinda want people to know so they don't treat me so badly.

[@heaterpastel9997]

Your skin isn't a paper, don't cut it Your face isn't a mask, don't cover it Your body isn't a book, don't judge it Your life isn't a movie, don't end it Your heart isn't a door, don't lock it Copy and paste this to others that sad Edit: this is copy and pasted

[@nothumanalien7984]

I video like this would have been really helpful when I was self-harming. I thought i was being selfish, attention seeking and so on but I just wanted someone to help me or notice me but I didn't know how to express my feelings which lead to a lot of pain. I'm glad there are now resources and help for kids now

[@BlessedDog]

Anyone else here intentionally triggering themselves?

[@kryptonimuz]

chuckles *im in danger*

[@Endwidgeon]

for me it’s definitely 3. our family just moved out of my childhood home, i’m afraid of losing my best friend, i’m behind on all of my schoolwork, and we’re in the middle of a pandemic. everything feels out of control and self harm makes me feel stable, at least for a few minutes

[@Toonlesia]

1:23 Empty, detached, or *lethargic.*

[@mylamkk]

Me: