6 Things Nice Guys Say That Destroy Attraction

[@itsdannyvera]

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[@adrianramirez9981]

"it can be tricky..." LOL ! the modern female is a real piece-of-work for this video to even exist. Cheers Danny Vera !

[@colinreidcr]

thats why ive stopped talking to them its bliss and too much effort and dont care

[@scottverge938]

It's just women, not modern day.

[@Jaboukii]

​@@colinreidcr Sucks that I have to agree 😬 but, yhh

[@justinowens2465]

Currently trying this with how I interact with my wife on a daily basis. I do most of the cooking for dinner. I used to say, hey what do you feel like for dinner? She would say, oh I don’t know what do you want? “Hmm I don’t know that’s why I am asking you.” Then we l just go back in forth from there making the decision bigger and more important and annoying than it needs to be. So now I just decide what we are doing for dinner with no regard for her or the kids. If she actually disagrees with my decision then I will adjust if I feel the need. But if she disagrees then she must make specific alternative suggestion. None of this “I don’t feel like spaghetti and meatballs tonight, let’s do something simple.” Which is just an entry point back into indecision mode. In behaving this way I have effectively removed a source of annoyance and and indecision from our relationship. Thus boosting my leadership.

[@quantumpotential7639]

You are a great leader of this wife woman you speak of. You lead, the follower follows. The follower follows the lead of the leader. If dancing and you step on the woman's toes, step off the woman's toes and just keep moving. If you step on them a second time, say to woman wife "wow, you sure do got big toes. I keep stepping where there should be no toes, not even a big toe, but voila, there's your big toe ... again. Maybe woman you just have happy feet because you're with me and wanna keep up with Mr Suava Boilâ." This is wisdom. And this is leadership of the wife woman. Good Luck and may the suave continue to be with you. 💪

[@Popec48]

Share yourself honestly, action and speech. No matter what you do, 9 people out of 10 won't like you anyway. You just have to get lucky with the one that likes you for you.

[@gotinogaden]

Good luck with that. You're probably better off just playing the lottery.

[@N0rth.glo45]

💯

[@Bennyboy1985]

Point #2 is 100% spot on. And also why the whole thing about asking for consent is a massive shit-test to weed out the guys who aren’t adept at reading social cues/ lack confidence. If you need the cheat sheet, here goes: If you look into her eyes for 3 seconds and she doesn’t look away, you can absolutely reach out to hold her hand/ go in for the kiss. If she pulls back, play it cool and then try the same again later. Thank me later.

[@chadsensei-ue6jn]

So you're pawing at her. Creep behaviour.

[@JeanCharest-g8u]

Great advice

[@commonsenseisntcommon1776]

"Have you gained weight"? 🤣🤣🤣

[@davidgreene9282]

Hey, I get what you’re saying at the same time if you’re watching everything you do with a girl it takes away from your authenticity. I’d rather get rejected than have to walk around on eggshells… so anytime anything’s gone right with a girl for me, I’ve never had to watch what I say, better be your authentic self and make mistakes along the way…

[@Find555]

I am from India . Please see to my perspective . •Nice guy is nice to everyone except bad people.If he is not he is a hypocrite,not nice guy •If she rejects me only because I am nice to her, thank God she rejected me because intelligent women must always be preferred over fools. •Moreover if some disrespects me & friendzone me for being nice & lack interest in me for being nice,I must be avoid such girls at cost because fundamentals of any relationship is stability,trust, respect,love, equality emotional connection which will be lacking under such relationships .It will be master slave relationship. Superficial people are not to be entertained by anyone •Lastly, boys never give up your niceness for anyone. Being nice & kind is a virtue . A virtuous person will always be respected by virtuous people.

[@HumpaLumpaBiriBam]

same here. I can add on top of that... that I use my kindness as tool to validate people. It goes like that "I give you all my kindness" lest see how you gonna treat me, then I know what kind of person are you.

[@texanplayer7651]

So for you a girl friendzoning you is the same as disrespecting you, and you should avoid them and therefore stop being nice to them? That's what a "nice guy" is all about. You called it best: hypocrisy

[@iliyakuryakin4671]

As someone said, be nice, take no shit.

[@jhouser972]

What I believe you're confusing is the distinction between a "nice guy" and a "good guy." A good guy is someone who is nice but possesses a high level of confidence and self-respect. He treats others well because he holds himself and those around him to higher standards. In contrast, the nice guy tends to be weak and lacks confidence. He often uses his niceness to manipulate women and others in order to get what he wants. Women can easily tell the difference between the two.

[@owaisahmed7952]

​@@texanplayer7651 , the guy didn't want to be friendzoned so he avoids the girl , he wasn't after a female friend he was after a female partner. So what's the problem with that?

[@andrewj10]

Asking for consent to hold hands or do something else…rejection is always better than charges. And the acceptance of one act is not a blanket consent for every else.

[@BlueGamerCast]

step 6 is so true. Just don't communicate, and it will save you from a bunch of invisible hazards

[@johnalexir7634]

These are all good points. For #1, self-deprecating humor is a bit like spice. Use it sparingly and it's a nice enhancement to a meal. Overdo it and you just get burned.

[@JeanCharest-g8u]

5:32 -Can I hold your hand? -I don't know, can you? She expects sufficient level of comfort and audacity to execute this. You set the frame, you convey your desire, even if someone doesn't reciprocate. You can always politely excuse yourself and carry on with the date, can't you?

[@realDys.]

Why bro doesn't have more recognition? Production is 100%

[@neeraj2878]

You are best coach out there !! You helped me alot

[@GuyVinmara]

Also self-deprecation can come off as covert narcissism.

[@ideasandtrucking]

Dating content is addicting and I think Danny knows what the hell he’s talking about but also there’s no better way to learn the ins and outs than to just get out there and get your hands dirty in the field

[@carlgonzalez3337]

it's amazing how many things we as men have to watch out for.. a million things we have to be carefull of saying or doing, or we'll lose the girl.. when, if the girl said or did the same things, most men wouldn't lose intrest... it's so freaking hard to build attraction as a man.. but girls can get away with ANY of this, and still be attractive for most men, just by being pretty or hot... and they still have the courage to say "dating is harder for them"... unbelievable...

[@jonsnow911]

1:20, 3:00, 5,:45 Ptáš se holky, co se ti líbí, co tě přitahuje, nebo se ptáš paní učizelky ve školce jestli se můžeš jít vyčůrat, 9:30, 11:20, 13:30

[@ModernDatingMastery]

*Build yourself up instead - confidence is far more attractive than unnecessary self-deprecation.*

[@DigiModelsdfz]

great content thanks

[@easter_sunday]

Women in this era are insufferably entitled. Many will reject a man just to stroke their egos. Some of these games might help, but at the end of the day, all you’re doing is putting out a ton of effort for a woman who will never respect you, and will never see you as anything other than a placeholder until a better option comes along.

[@Boatsandholes-n6p]

😂😂 I rather put that time into my golf game 😂😂

[@quantumpotential7639]

Good choice. May I suggest Milo Lines, a great KZbin swing instructor who helped me find the right moves which turned a 40 handicapper into a +3 inside of just 18 months and an invitation to play in a tournament where I opened up with 6 birds in a row, before getting onto the par train for 7 straight holes before cleaning up the round with 4 closing birdies and an eagle, putting me atop the leaderboard after the first round.

[@Boatsandholes-n6p]

@ Awsome 😎🏌️‍♂️💪

[@ideasandtrucking]

I talked with a girl working at a local store and we ended up exchanging number. We texted a couple times and set up a date. Very fun and enjoyable and I loved her green eyes. She ended up agreeing to come over after and I initiated some kissing which we did for a little while and things got passionate you could say and she was saying she DID want to have you know what but she doesn’t like to after the first date (not sounding firm at all when she said it) and she barely knows me-which was true. And I feel like I could have easily talked her into it but I myself wasn’t even sure if I wanted to and I also didn’t want to push anything. Anyways, she kinda was dry over text after that and broke off whatever we had going for a couple reasons 1 being a recent breakup. So I kind of feel like I should have struck while the iron was hot and I truly wasn’t desperate to do it w her so I respected her boundaries. What do you think Danny? Is that a situation where I should have “struck while the iron was hot?”

[@Jaboukii]

Hey, it's already in the past men. Maybe next time when another scenario like that comes around, give it a shot and see what happens 💁‍♂️

[@Thinker1985]

Tough one. I can't help but think you were being a gentleman and yet, at the same time, that "nice guys finish last". Maybe she was shit-testing you or she did not really know what she wanted... I think you did the right thing out of respect for her and, in a way, I hope she can recognize that. If she doesn't, however, then perhaps you did miss an opportunity to dip lil'John in crazy.

[@freshfalcon3996]

Play at 1.5x speed. You're welcome.

[@naineshkhanjire]

Nice vid ❤

[@kylez5921]

Danny, what’s your thoughts on explicitly asking to kiss a woman if it is in a moment that isn’t super romantic? I understand if you’re sitting super close to each other on a date, but one time I asked a woman while dropping her off at her house. Was that bad?

[@BloodyHeck]

Can we please stop using the description of being as a nice guy as an insult? We’re supposed to try to be nice. Some of us are just nice guys and could never take on the role of a bad boy, it’s just not in us. Why is treating a woman like crap celebrated but being nice is ridiculed?

[@765lbsquat]

So 4 No is ok, but 5 NO is a no-go? Ok got it.

[@scottmaki6126]

Could you do a topic where you debunk what you think is true and false about Black Pill Ideology?

[@FlyingSoulworld]

"There aren't unattractive male behaviours, there are only unattractive men." Alexander Grace

[@skyhawk00787]

I completely disagree. Unattractive male behaviors can make even the most attractive men unattractive; the same is true vice versa. This black pill nonsense is telling men that they're not good enough simply due to their genetic predisposition rendering them less-than. Seriously, if you keep telling yourself that you're not good enough, you'll affect your own confidence, and this negative mindset will act as a deterrent for women. On the other hand, if you're a man who has genuine, independent confidence; if you sincerely think that you're good enough for a beautiful woman, that'll translate into a positive vibe, and women'll pick up on this. When you go through life, you'll meet all kinds of people; some of these people: Are either more physically attractive than you, have better physiques than you, are smarter than you, make more money than you, have more status than you, or have more accomplishments than you... but not one of these things make these people inherently better than you. *You* are the only person in the world who gets to determine your own value; the most "beta" trait that one can exhibit is to allow other people to dictate your worth. Your humanity gives you intrinsic value. You *are* good enough; you just need to believe that! Not society, not your peers, not even your own family has the right to put a value label on you.

[@FlyingSoulworld]

@@skyhawk00787 The best blupill propaganda I've ever read.

[@skyhawk00787]

@@FlyingSoulworld M'kay, buddy. By all means, continue to live a miserable existence.

[@StrangeTamer178]

That's not accurate

[@FlyingSoulworld]

@@StrangeTamer178 of course is not. But the key point is looks (genetics). Whoever says it isn't lies or has interest to sell you shit

[@raphacooljohnson3469]

K

[@carlospita6442]

Again remind me all of that work for what in return? You have to play all of this games but at her pace. No thanks

[@Energetics95]

When she leaves you, make sure to give me her number

[@scottverge938]

What work? He's simply telling you not to do things that kill attraction. How is that work? What do you get in return? Companionship, sex, someone to share activities and your life with.

[@Thinker1985]

I suppose it is fine if you enjoy the game. At least when you're dating, you can call it quits whenever you want. When you're married, however, she will still shit test you and there's often no reward at the end of that road.

[@scottverge938]

@@Thinker1985 I don't think of it as game once you're in a committed relationship. I'd never recommend actual marriage. I considered myself married to my ex but it was simply an agreement between two people and we called each other husband and wife. It was incredibly easy to dissolve though. Because there was no paperwork.

[@Thinker1985]

@@scottverge938 For women, it is the game of life, married or not.

[@nick-nj2gt]

Attractive men can do any of these things

[@xxczerxx]

Rather than these ridiculous 'rules of romance' type videos (I admit they plague my feed now I've watched a couple), I really think the best approach is just to 1. Be yourself as much as possible. This might be a fundamental block if you actually don't know yourself. In which case, you're putting the cart before the horse and you should be focusing on that rather than dating. 2. Do NOT put women on a pedestal. You have to realise she is just another human with flaws and hangups. This is necessary for step 1 to exist because if you don't realise this you're engaging in a fantasy/delusion and you'll either scare her off or actually become disappointed yourself when you realise she isn't perfect like you thought.

[@scottverge938]

Being yourself is terrible advice if all of your mannerisms and personality are highly unattractive. Men have been told to be themselves forever and tons of men have little attention from women. Being themselves isn't working. Completely agree with you on the second part.