64 Common Autistic Traits You Never Realised Were Signs of Autism!

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@travisgraham8378 Жыл бұрын

If it helps anyone, I typed up some summaries of the 64 things: 1 trouble with making eye contact 2 trouble reading facial expressions 3 sensory sensitivities 4 social anxiety 5 literal thinking (not understanding figurative expressions) 6 difficulty with abstract thinking (understanding time, money etc) 7 difficulty with transitions - moving from one thing to the next 8 difficulty with change and especially unexpected change 9 need for following a routine 10 difficulty with social ques (not understanding when someone is communicating in a non verbal way) 11 difficulty with small talk 12 difficulty with sarcasm (particularly when ppl are being sarcastic with you) 13 difficulty with humor (challenge understanding jokes, puns) 14 trouble understanding or relating or identifying to other ppls emotions 15 difficulty with emotional regulation 16 difficulty with impulse control 17 strong interest / obsession with certain topics 18 difficulty with executive functioning (unable to plan out time or projects for example) 19 difficulty prioritizing projects 20 challenges making decisions 21 difficulty with problem solving (without others supporting) 22 difficulty in multitasking 23 difficulty taking turns 24 difficulty in sharing 25 difficulty with join attention (focusing on the same thing as someone else) 26 struggle with imaginary play or role playing 27 challenges with social activities (social play for kids). Do you struggle to know how to engage in these activities. You are more observing 28 difficulty with cooperative play (kids) or work (adults) 29 preferring to work, rest or play alone (alone time) 30 difficulty with self regulation (hard to control your emotions, behaviors) 31 difficulty with self awareness 32 difficulty with self monitoring / reflection 33 no or bad self esteem. lack of confidence 34 difficulty with self advocacy 35 difficulty initiating/starting conversations 36 difficulty maintaining conversations 37 difficulty ending conversations 38 difficulty with body language (struggling to both read body language of others and use it yourself) 39 difficulty with tone of voice (using correct tone for situation) 40 difficulty with inflection and varying in the tone of your voice 41 difficulty with volume control (speaking too loudly or too softly) 42 difficulty with pitch 43 difficulty with intonation (pitch or speed) 44 difficulty with prosody (using appropriate rhythm intomation or melody) 45 difficulty with articulation (make clear and distinct speech sounds) 46 difficulty with vocabulary (some it may be limited some may be a difficulty in retrieving the words) 47 difficulty with grammar 48 difficulty with syntax (order and arrangement of words in a sentence) 49 difficulty with semantics (meaning and interpretation of words and phrases) 50 echolalia - repeating words, phrases you have heard from other ppl 51 difficulty recognizing faces 52 difficulty with central coherence (struggle to see the big picture or larger context) 53 intense interests 54 sensory seeking behaviors (seek out sensory) 55 hypersensitivity (less sensitive to certain inputs) 56 lack of coordination 57 difficulty with fine motor skills (from tying your shoelaces to handwriting) 58 difficulty with gross motor skills (jumping, running) 59 difficulty with balance 60 difficulty with proprioception (spatial awareness) 61 difficulty to understand or navigate physical spaces 62 difficulty with visual processing (making sense of visual info) 63 difficulty with auditory processing (info that we are listening to) 64 difficulty with tactile processing (hard to process tactile information)

@sanyo8440 Жыл бұрын

Bump. Thank you

@Crystalquartz964 Жыл бұрын

THANKS Travis! Very helpful ☺☺☺

@LindaKayHolevas Жыл бұрын

What a helpful comment! Thank you so much!

@tinam761 Жыл бұрын

Helpful along with listening!

@gamingfreako7480 Жыл бұрын

This was awesome! Thanks!

@melh.1707 Жыл бұрын

I have recently made an appointment with a clinic that specialises in autism diagnosis. I was worried that I was just wasting everyone's time. But after watching this and relating to 58/64 traits, I feel slightly less worried about that.

@Ala13ManOWar Жыл бұрын

Funnily enough, imposter syndrome is another usual autistic trait ;-)

@Ala13ManOWar Жыл бұрын

@Gage Mate, I feel like reminding you the DSM V manual actually has a DSM V autism spectrum test, and there're 50 "questions" (they aren't question properly, they are statements you agree with, or don't). Positive in autism means 33 and over. There're no such 64 traits because they could be in the hundreds, but tests actually look for those traits, 50 in particular, not meaning of course there couldn't be more which actually there are. So, I don't really know what you're talking about.

@minagica Жыл бұрын

@Gage spoken like someone who doesn't understand what he's talking about, not even the basic fact that autism is a spectrum and that yes, everyone has some autistic traits, the question is how many

@minagica Жыл бұрын

I feel you, been there, IN MY CASE I ultimately figured that THEY were wasting MY money, because when I asked them if they could tell me what I did have if it wasn't autism, they said no. And my cPTSD is a complicating factor for an autism diagnosis so I abandoned seeking a formal diagnosis for now until I can find a place that could tell me what I do have not a place that might give me a false diagnosis. Best of luck!

@Ala13ManOWar Жыл бұрын

@Gage To start with, are YOU in the spectrum? No? Then I'm sorry mate but you haven't the faintest of what it is or what it isn't. Neurotypical point of view usually just "interprets" what they think they're seeing, not what they are actually seeing, they behave like they know what's going on inside our brains, but they just don't. That's why not any psychologist can treat us but a really specialized one knowing real autistic things, yet they don't know it all of course, but they treat you respectfully because they know and are quite aware of the things we go throw and they just can't see inside our brains (like DSM V, and other psychologists pretend, ahem). So, ARE YOU IN THE SPECTRUM? If you aren't (and you don't look like), you don't know a thing mate. Hence, what do you pretend to get commenting on an autistic video about things only autistic people understand and trying to tell us what we are or we aren't??? Don't play smartass, I know what it takes to get a diagnosis, I went throw it. HAVE YOU??? If not just shut up and get out of here mate.

@katie1353 Жыл бұрын

I don't have spacial awareness struggles, the doorframes do. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.

@orionkelly Жыл бұрын

😆

@artsylady3187 Жыл бұрын

I HATE DOOR JAMS>...if I could ever build my OWN house I would just have NO DOORS

@ml9789 Жыл бұрын

W comment 😂

@AstroParticle0 11 ай бұрын

In my defense, I have very wide shoulders.

@freetruth123 11 ай бұрын

This thread is the best! 😂😂

@DashValkyrie Жыл бұрын

I'm so with you on the "ending conversations" thing. Like how many times do you go "alright, I have to go now" before the neurotypicals get that I ACTUALLY HAVE TO GO

@DashValkyrie Жыл бұрын

my struggle with vocabulary is that I've got too much of it! I was hyperlexic as a kid, and built a large vocabulary, and I have to use the best word for the situation or it bugs me. so I guess I also struggle with semantics (in that I am a pedant).

@MissxLariz Жыл бұрын

@@DashValkyrie I had to redo second grade of elementary and speech therapy because the teachers said my vocabulary was lacking (apparently this was one of the signs i have autism). Now during my studies my vocabulary and grammar had been one of the best of the class 😂

@leviangel97 Жыл бұрын

It's not just word choice, but related actions and tone: in my experience, looking at your phone or watch and going "Oh! Sorry! I've gotta go, talk to you later!" As you gather your things and work on leaving is enough to inform the typicals that you mean it

@LilChuunosuke Жыл бұрын

YES! Or sometimes I don't HAVE to go but I WANT to & struggle to phrase it in a polite way, so I just end up giving shorter & shorter responses as I slowly inch towards the door until they grant me the exit I needed haha

@isimonsez Жыл бұрын

That’s strange I’m usually the one saying to my friend on the spectrum, “are we going to have a conversation or is this just going to be your monologue?” Or, “does this long drawn out story have a point?”

@Xanderj89 Жыл бұрын

It's definitely important to note that for every hypo trait there's a hyper equivalent. For every autistic who has difficulty roleplaying, there's an autistic who *thrives* on roleplay (it's a common escapist trait for masked autistics, diving into a book or media or fantasy to escape the NT world), for every autistic who has extreme taste sensitivity there's one who doesn't care about flavor at all, for every autistic who has problems with tactile processing there's one who is incredibly dexterous and loves the feeling etc. This one was important to me because the assumed trait of "can't roleplay/pretend" along with a general lack of understanding about masking are big things that leads to missed diagnoses. If anything, immersion/roleplay is one of my biggest autistic traits and fuels my special interests (immersing in music/books/shows/games etc. and just disappearing from my body and being in a sensory universe), full body/mind diving into whatever I'm doing until we feel one and the same, I can't even help it (I instantly AM the person I'm watching on tv or talking to for instance, I cry at 10 second commercials because I just imagine myself as the person without even meaning to) I'm very passionate about being able to fantasize at any given moment, my only tattoo even says Nucleus Basalis (the imagination center of the brain). I often forget people don't do that, and get confused when they watch a movie or play a game detached and aren't like, feeling the same thing as the actor and forgetting they exist irl. Or seeing themselves holding a controller moving a character on the screen and not like, *being* the character on the screen and forgetting you're even holding a controller.

@theaveragecomment1014 Жыл бұрын

Man that hits hard. I feel like you’re describing my experience *exactly.* damn. I love RP. I’ve been roleplaying with my friends for years, it’s awesome!

@RedRoseSeptember22 Жыл бұрын

@@theaveragecomment1014 I love RP too!!!

@unfortunatelebanese Жыл бұрын

I relate to this alot, heck I learned an entire language (brazilian portuguese) because I really liked a fictional character (José Carioca, the one on my pfp) and watched the films he's in repeatedly. My special interest would be animation since i view everything through the lense of it. For example I had to do a project about the USSR, and I picked the topic of media and couldnt deny the oppurtunity to talk about at least one soviet animated film. I remember a really long time ago, for my cousin's birthday I couldnt buy her a gift so i made a bunch of diy stylus for her and her friends to "do animations on their phones like me" Yah looking back at it now it may not have been a good move but, she seemed grateful, so maybe it's all good? I'm not sure if I am on the spectrum but I'm trying to figure it out. Edit: I realized I only talked about what would be my "special interest", without mentioning any other reasons why i think i may be on the spectrum lol. It's not just that, being obsessed with something obviously isnt all what autism is about. I also have trouble socializing, I dont understand people, idk what is the "norm" for doing anything. I have kinda awkward movements, and I trip easily lol. I rub my hands a lot, and rock left and right, which ig is stimming?? Im probably overdiagnosing myself though. If we're applying the scientific method here, there's no control group for me to understand whether or not I may be on the spectrum, if that makes sense. Idk how others live their lives basically. Idk anything, I'm always confused by what's going on and ask others. As for sensory issues, sounds can be too much for me. If there's too much going on i get overwhelmed, i either run away or silently sit there in pain. If im with friends i cant talk or listen to them unless it's quiet. Anyway this is getting long, I thought I'd share because i wonder about this everyday.

@ceekay3143 Жыл бұрын

I have autistic friends who keep on insisting that I too am autistic, which sends me into an existential crisis. Because I'm afab, already diagnosed with anxiety and depression, and can spend a lot of time in my own head dissociating and imagining or reflecting. I don't relate to a lot of the things on this guy's list: I've never struggled to understand how other people are feeling and what the social rules are. But I identify with nearly every sign of a Highly Sensitive Person, which has been described as a type of autism. I feel too much and am noticing how much I struggle with sensory sensitivities (bad clothing texture can make me feel sick or angry, I shut down in noisy environments, and can't eat certain foods because of their texture). Unfortunately, there is so much overlap and misunderstanding between autism in females and other diagnoses, that it doesn't seem worth pursuing a formal diagnosis. So I just make sure I give myself plenty of patience and kindness, alone time and downtime.

@theaveragecomment1014 Жыл бұрын

@@ceekay3143 It’s completely valid to not seek a diagnosis! Thank you for sharing!

@Obelov 9 ай бұрын

It was not until I was in my 20s that "nervous" feeling walking into a convenience store that only had one person in it, the cashier, is social anxiety. Everyone always thinks it means a crowded party. But is any time ur anxious about a social interaction. Even with family you know well.

@ambriasaunders1869 8 ай бұрын

I can make eye contact, but it's weird for me. Sometimes, I'll stare directly into someone's eyes, barely blinking. Sometimes I can't meet someone's eyes. Sometimes, they both happen, to the same person... In the same conversation... 😅

@user-bu4sz9pk9t 2 ай бұрын

For me I’m either staring into space while someone is talking or I have to mentally remind myself to make eye contact, then it’s like I’m staring into your soul.

@AgonySoup 2 ай бұрын

For me its like my eyes are burning or drying out when i make prolonged eye contact. It depends on how comfortable i am with the person too. Like my husband is diagnosed autistic and im not, but we both have eye contact issues. Sometimes we can look at each other but mostly we just dont lol, especially when we bring up the lack of eye contact.

@ChaoticAnswers Жыл бұрын

Normies have trouble with subtle sarcasm, which is fun they have no idea. But when I'm genuine they take it as sarcasm which is not fun.

@artsylady3187 Жыл бұрын

don't use sarcasm it is MEAN.....and no one will ever believe you cause you don't just say the truth clearly .....

@ChaoticAnswers Жыл бұрын

@@artsylady3187 it can be used as bullying especially in front of a groups which can be devastating, it can be used subtle even in defence e.g. someone mocks you and you flatly say haha halirous. With a friend it can be funny for both. It's the power balance between the giver and receiver is the key. I don't know you or your experience so I'm not saying your wrong. 🙂

@Brainman365 Жыл бұрын

So many of these apply to me. It’s somewhat scary. I’m undiagnosed but am now convinced that I have autism and ADHD, which explains what I have experienced for 50+ years.

@kellbing Жыл бұрын

I am 51. I am also undiagnosed, but am very sure I'm on the autism spectrum, and have no doubt that I have OCD. I have been resisting therapy, but probably should go to a therapist.

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

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@rickspringfield9394 11 ай бұрын

I’m 50, also undiagnosed, but 1000% certain that I’m on the spectrum.

@87gn199 10 ай бұрын

@@kellbing I dont know, I mean a lot of people have a lot of these traits.. I think after watching this video every single person would find at least a few of these apply to them

@guppy0536 8 ай бұрын

55 and female no doubt i have adhd&time management skills😢sounds bad we are undiagnosed struggled through life how is getting a diagnosis now going to help ?? Im not trying to sound mean other than our peice of mind how will that help us.

@hektorthebumblebee2111 Жыл бұрын

I am diagnosed but still I always find myself watching videos like this, cause „hey, what if they were wrong and you’re faking it.“

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on KZbin and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before

@DashValkyrie Жыл бұрын

I would add: difficulty with interoception: struggling to process and understand sensations from inside the body. for example, my entire life I've struggled to identify when I'm feeling hungry or full, until either I feel dizzy and spaced out (from hunger) or, I feel sick (from eating too much). Or I will put off going to the loo for way too long because I don't recognise a sensation until it's urgent. I think that's also related to identifying and processing emotions. With a lot of the speech and verbal ones, I think being highly skilled in those areas can actually be a sign. Because (for me) speech, grammar, vocabulary etc were a chance for me to learn all the rules, and the right way to say or write things, and then use them in a way that means that I kinda have a formula for success and can "win" at the thing.

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@daniwells4195 9 ай бұрын

THIS. This comment!

@Shnikey 8 ай бұрын

Yes this is so accurate!!!

@Styx771 8 ай бұрын

I feel like this is also something I experience as an autistic person.

@jessicabumstead7421 7 ай бұрын

Totally I didn’t get diagnosed till I was in my late teens and still struggle With this but can totally relate even ended up in hospital

@57K Жыл бұрын

The sharing thing got me. I really suck at social media because it's all about sharing with other people. I never take pictures when I'm on vacations or experiencing things because I don't care to share them. Not in a mean malicious way I just think in my mind, why would any one care to see this stuff? It feels like I'm just bragging or something. Also when people share with strangers stories about their kids or spouses. I have to force myself to share in those instances or I'll have a story or two logged in my brain for just in case I'm in that situation. I just always feel like why would a random stranger give a crap about these things? So it's hard for me to naturally do it.

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@SarafinaSummers 7 ай бұрын

Oh my god! You too? It's like "Who gives a shit that your kid took a giant mustard-coloured shit last Tuesday? Nobody. Nobody. Seriously, Linda, nobody. I promise, Nobody but you gives a shit. Literally." lol.

@StiffPvtParts Жыл бұрын

Holy crap, this hits hard. I only discovered I'm autistic a little less than a year ago, in my late twenties. I've been struggling with a plethora of these issues my entire life. It hurts.

@gtptvanbuuren3795 Жыл бұрын

Keep at it. It's worth it. You are talking about it. You are studying the situation. You are learning. Enjoy. (even the pain can be fun). We have a Unique Perspective.....Tim from Tea Tree Gully, South Australia.

@wisecoconut5 Жыл бұрын

You are so very lucky! Why? I am 55 and only figured it out last year. That could have been you. Now you know and your outlook will improve.

@bronwynlennox1240 Жыл бұрын

@Gage Granted, every autistic person's experience is unique, but I resonate with the majority of these traits. Could you explain your comment a bit further?

@StiffPvtParts Жыл бұрын

@Gage These videos help to articulate these issues for a lot of people. It's merely an exchange of information, meant to label and communicate some examples of these common problems. Just imagine, you could be struggling with many things pertaining to autism without the ability to effectively communicate that to others, or even worse, to yourself. They're a great help to me.

@bronwynlennox1240 Жыл бұрын

@Gage Aha, I think I understand now. You are absolutely correct, however, I don't think that this video is meant to be a diagnostic tool at all. It can help people in their journey toward a possible assessment and diagnosis in that it educates and informs. Both approaches have merit and are valid.

@ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy Жыл бұрын

Ah yes! Losing words! When I am planning to visit a family member, and spent the entire week thinking about how I need to say this or that to them (so that they can better understand my perspective (usually about a misunderstanding from our previous visit)). And then, me getting sucked into THEIR words instead, completely forgetting what it was that I needed to say. This typically happens when they ask questions about our previous misunderstanding, but completely twisting it in a different direction, where I get so sidetracked that I forgot where I was going. I feel strongly compelled to answer their questions though, and then end up going home and getting frustrated with myself for not saying what it was that I wanted to say.

@amayasasaki2848 Жыл бұрын

I have ADHD, not autistic to my knowledge, and this happens to me too.

@ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy Жыл бұрын

@Amaya Sasaki Yeah, I am very unsure as to whether or not I would have ADHD, because I have always completed work tasks, when given the time to do them.

@amayasasaki2848 Жыл бұрын

@@ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy ADHD and Autism have some overlap, and some things that are nearly opposite. This could be an overlap. I took an online evaluation for Autism out of curiosity and got a 90/200, which translated as strong indicator, but some non-autistics score as high.

@ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy Жыл бұрын

@Amaya Sasaki Yes, that is very true! I took the autism online AQ test and scored incredibly high. I should try to find a test for ADHD. I generally tend to have a good sense of time, but if somebody suddenly comes along and adds on an unexpected task, it is enough to throw off everything else for the next few hours that follow. And when I start doing a task, it's very difficult to pry me off of it, because I feel strongly compelled to complete whatever I am working on. I always think that my life would become more challenging if I had to keep switching tasks (or multitasking, as they call it in the workplace). First the boss would tell me, "You have LOTS of time; it's the beginning of your shift!" And I am just like, "Yeah but, all of the other regular daily tasks will take my entire shift to complete. And I don't want to be scrambling at the end of my shift, trying to complete multiple unfinished tasks." But this is why I am working for myself right now. I just hope that I will maintain financial stability in the future.

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@Stormbrise Жыл бұрын

One that you missed for us girls and some males is mimicking. It is not echolalia of repeating words, it is picking out someone that fits in better than us, and mimicking their tone of voice, their pitch of voice, how they stand, how they gesture, their word choices. I do this a lot with my stepsister. Also when learning Danish, I was told I did not need the speech course at night because I was mimicking the lady on the tape too well. I speak with a bad American accent otherwise due to my hearing problem.

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@andrewm3329 8 ай бұрын

I do that a lot mimicking other people to fit in , what would they person do

@Thilosophocl3s 2 ай бұрын

Mirroring, or mimickry? Mirroring behavior ends after the interaction. Mimickry is often more associated with adopted behaviors that continue without further interaction

@AgonySoup 2 ай бұрын

Im afab and i used to be a mimic. Recently been wondering if im autistic or if this was just a natural survival tactic. Id pretty much just pretend to be whoever i was with. Now as an adult i periodically have to list facts about myself to myself to get a grip on who i am, like my favorite color or food etc. Sometimes i wonder if something is really my opinion or if im just trying to blend in and appear acceptable. Its annoying to have to sit and think so hard about it, it makes me feel like im not perceiving the world around me correctly.

@morganbertolino 11 ай бұрын

I have never once in my life been able to pay attention to verbal instructions for longer than 2 minutes

@wiandewaal1790 Жыл бұрын

Diet. I can stick to the same food, same times eating it for months without changing it. I stick to the same routes exactly to the same places week after week. I drive my neighbors mad with constantly complaining about their noise. Closing a door too loudly enrages me. Dogs barking feels like total chaos/something is out of control. Yet dead silence makes me anxious for I don't know what's popping up next in it. I live and sleep 24/7 with earbud headphones in listening to something. ...and all of what you mention of course 😊

@starshine_lue5823 Жыл бұрын

Watching videos like this on autism is great. It feels like every one I watch explains another thing I have struggled with my whole life and it feels so good to finally understand why

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@unfilteredentrepreneurs Жыл бұрын

I laughed at the "not wanting to share things" part. I once was told "I could see you having a room in your house where nobody is allowed to enter or touch anything." This was before discovering I'm on the spectrum and I kept thinking "wow, that really does sound nice" 😂

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@dmgroberts5471 11 ай бұрын

I have one of those, except it's a number of connected rooms with a single entrance. I.e. my house.

@horriblekitty13 11 ай бұрын

I never invite anyone to my house except someone I'm in a relationship with. The thought of people poking at my decor makes me feel really uncomfortable.

@logicalchaos- 20 күн бұрын

I have that room in my house 😅

@Peckerwood-502 9 ай бұрын

Finally finding answers to why life has been a struggle. Thank you for getting information out here.

@Fireprincess161 Жыл бұрын

49 or 50 out of 64. But that sarcasm one. I FEEL that. I HATE the 'oh no, we ran out of [whatever it is I'm trying to order]' because I just assume they're serious. I'll just order something else or go somewhere that has what I want, but then they have to explain they were only joking. They feel bad. I feel bad. It's just a bad time.

@SophieBird07 Жыл бұрын

Eye contact seems so invasive to me. My daughter got in trouble at school for not watching the teacher as he spoke, though she got top grades. She explained that she would zone out trying to “look like” she was paying attention, rather than just listening.

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@jessicathompson2914 10 ай бұрын

This was me back in school. Only because I kept getting conflicted with people telling me "not to stare at people bc it's rude" and also "to keep eye contact at all times" kid me couldn't figure out the contradicting instructions, so I just kept calm and tried to get through the day.

@marshahanson5870 8 ай бұрын

My favorite way to improve eye contact is to look someone in the eye long enough to know their eye color.

@relentlessrhythm2774 Жыл бұрын

I am glad you mentioned struggles with self-advocacy. I want to stand up for myself but people do not correctly interpret me correctly. I usually get laughed at.

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@aaadhdd 8 ай бұрын

I am a teenager and decided to watch this video. There are many things here, the signs of which I notice in my behaviour. Thanks, it helps to understand myself.

@wisecoconut5 Жыл бұрын

On sharing: my things are important because others do not care for my stuff properly!

@priscillacriscitelli1544 Жыл бұрын

Some of my earliest memories (under 2 years old) were of learning to mask my overstimulation because I would otherwise be punished. My most recent mind blowing moment was when I realized that I was stimming almost constantly as a kid, and as a result I was regularly brought out into the hallway of my elementary school and paddled for being a bad kid. Fast forward and I’m a therapist treating adults with childhood trauma, and I’d estimate that about 95% of my clients are living with undiagnosed neurodivergence, or it’s been misdiagnosed as a personality disorder. I can’t tell you how many people I’ve sent to be assessed.

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@andrewm3329 8 ай бұрын

Hi is there a way of contacting you or know of anyone in Melbourne Australia that can assess?

@nidaladil4150 5 ай бұрын

This is interesting. I am really confused because autism to me sounds like NPD or Schizoid PD or even BPD with the emotional dis-regulation aspect. This needs to be clarified

@New-ye2fl 4 ай бұрын

You have memories being 2 years old? wtf

@logicalchaos- 20 күн бұрын

I've been told by my therapist that cptsd and autism have many overlapping traits.

@Marty656 Жыл бұрын

I’m only at number 35 and just paused to write that I feel personally attacked 😂 holy crap! I found out I was possibly autistic through one of your other videos late last year. Did some self-assessments, a lot of research and now going to pursue a formal diagnosis to settle the matter once and for all. I second guess myself about it quite a lot…obviously not when watching videos like this one, I’ve got no doubt 😬 thank you for what you do, Orion!

@DankMemer42013 Жыл бұрын

I can feel that you are autistic based off your handwriting alone, very similar to mine. Insane.

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@cupofteawithpoetry Жыл бұрын

Me in a job interview: "Yes I'm a team player" Me in my head: "Yeah right..." 🤭😂

@artsylady3187 Жыл бұрын

i love it....i was on a debate team in my speech class today and it was TORTURE ...LOLOLOL

@cupofteawithpoetry Жыл бұрын

@@artsylady3187 Even the mere thought of that makes me shake and shudder!! 🤣🤣

@Matthew-xo2mh 2 ай бұрын

I recently told my bosses about my autism and how it was not a realistic expectation for me to be "a team player with a can do attitude", then I found out that from their perspective I always have been. Depends on your job, but most teams need a goalie/quarterback... (Not a sport guy, so I hope that makes sense)

@user-xk2ig4tc3f 23 күн бұрын

Hahaha

@MiukiPT Жыл бұрын

My son had many autistic traits so I took him to a psychologist and she evaluated him, the result was she finds autistic traits in him but she told us he "didn't fit the profile" of an autistic person because he doesn't have all of them. Being that autism is such a huge spectrum how can she say he needs to have all of them to fit the profile? It makes me very anxious because I want to help my son the best I can and accommodate his needs. Sometimes I feel people with autism or in the spectrum are not validated or heard.

@boundlessaether392 Жыл бұрын

Maybe he didn’t fit the required amount of symptoms to be diagnosed as autistic.

@evebesser6149 Жыл бұрын

I would 100% get a second opinion

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@lydie1416 5 ай бұрын

Psychologist is not the best person to evaluate him you need a psychiatrist. In my country only a psychiatrist can diagnose with autism. We had to have ouer son looked by neuropediatrition, psyhologist, some specialist for sensory disorders, work therapy specialist, rehabilitator and psychiatrist. Only after ADOS test and opinions of many specialist he was diagnosed by psychiatrist as PDD NOS, level 1, they call it hight functioning. He didn't have most of the typical signs but had some so he got level 1. Some people on spectrum don't look autistic but for shure have autistic trades.

@tajos703 Жыл бұрын

Does anyone else find that in order to have a conversation with someone they either have to be really comfortable/familiar/relatable, or they have to be doing something at the same time like walking or something with your hands, or fulfilling a “role”? Also, do you find if in conversation you think of something to say, but then don’t say it, then your brain goes offline for the rest of being with that person? I find I end up interrupting people because if I don’t then I will be completely lost & also will forget the thing I was going to say.

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@christinelangin7209 11 ай бұрын

😮get outta my head!😂 sadly, yes! It’s only after decades of working on that very thing have I improved-didn’t know I was “on the spectrum” until my son found out he was & began querying me 😬

@tajos703 11 ай бұрын

@@christinelangin7209 Thanks for your reply! I’m glad you’re figuring it out!

@rhodakozak1205 Жыл бұрын

I've always hated wearing shirts or sweaters that have long sleeves; I can wear a coat or sweatshirt, but if I have to wear a sweater? Nope! I tend to bump into things. I usually have a difficult time knowing when to end a conversation, this frustrates people at work a lot. I have actually caught myself imitating what other people have said, in response to them! I HATE having a set routine, but actually THRIVE having one! That's a bit confusing! It's easier for me to write what I want to say to people, rather than verbally say it. I've always struggled with the whole eye contact thing. It usually makes me feel weird. I used to have a lot of difficulty with impulse control, as I've gotten older, it's become easier. As a teenager, I would randomly feel overwhelmed and never really understood why. A lot of times, I'll be talking to my husband, and he'll randomly ask why I am being so loud. Didn't know that I was! Change has always been difficult, but as I've gotten older, it seems less difficult. Sometimes, I'll have difficulty speaking; this is really frustrating at work! I usually make jokes about it, saying things like "Words are hard!" Relating to others can be tricky. Sometimes my terrible sense of humor kicks in, and I'll be the only one laughing. It's like that joke that no one gets, except you. Awkward! As a kid, I would randomly walk on my tiptoes. As an adult, I occasionally do this.

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks

@andrewm3329 8 ай бұрын

This sounds like me but I haven't been able to stick at a job unless I'm on my own

@bloodypommelstudios7144 Жыл бұрын

87.5%. On of the other things for vocabulary I would say is having an unusual vocabulary such as speaking like a professor or using old fashioned words for example.

@artsylady3187 Жыл бұрын

yup I am american and like to speak in BRITISH accents and use British terms / slang etc

@Grey_Warden_Invasion 11 ай бұрын

Most things are relatable but the imaginative play or roleplaying are things I definitely don't have a problem with. Not when I need to roleplay as soon as I leave my house. But I also have very little problems when it's a fictional world - playing video games or a tabletop game - to immerse myself in that role and actually become that character.

@BWV88 9 ай бұрын

I identify with about 60 of the traits you mentioned. . Gonna go through the diagnosis process so instead of being judged I can be helped. . Thank you for the extremely helpful information and may God bless you for it.

@electron2601 Жыл бұрын

I just want to let you know, your presentation delivery on these videos is top tier. Keep up the good work. I know doing these kind of videos is NOT easy to do!

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@tabbi888 Жыл бұрын

I live in Brisbane and ive found getting a official diagnosis as quite classist. My daughter and son as well as myself are so severe that we have all failed to be able to live in normal society. My son has already and my daughter is now failing school as they can't bare to go often for many of the reasons listed here and myself i 50yrs have never successfully held down a job. Also my sons verbal skills are affected severely and he can't even speak without a severe stammer, he's 21 and can't even shop without someone with him. As a result we are reliant on government support and yet can't get proper help without a proper diagnosis. Every time i try to get a diagnosis im told its not covered by Medicare and will cost $2,000 minimum per person to get a diagnosis ,thats $6,000 for all of us. How is a person with no income supposed to afford that,we can't and as a result we are just left to rot with absolutely no help available to us. If anyone k.ows a free clinic in Brisbane that can give a diagnosis it would be much appreciated ❤ as the only ones that ive been told about are unaffordable. It seems only those who are already rich can get a diagnosis and recieve help they could already afford. I bet there are so many suffering like us knowing that somethings wron with no money to prove it .any suggestions would help please.

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@ANDRALONG 10 ай бұрын

It's the same situation down here in Victoria

@MissxLariz Жыл бұрын

This random guy knows me more than i do myself... Im gonna show this to my parents we definitely learned something thanks!

@Gentleman_Jester Жыл бұрын

Omg! Is this what I’ve been struggling with my entire life??!! I’m sitting here in tears after watching this video. So many things are starting to make sense. My parents sent me for all kinds of testing when I was a kid. For learning disabilities, food allergies. I know for sure I have audio processing challenges. I’ve always been socially awkward. In order for me to interact with people I watched people greeting each other and interacting for years til I could imitate them. I’ve been fired from job after job. I struggle to maintain friendships. Because eventually everyone gets mad at me for something I’ve done that I don’t understand. Thank you for making these videos. I’m calling my doctor on Monday.

@theautisticpage Жыл бұрын

Great list! Don't forget ticing, introspection and palilalia and stomach issues which is universal for us as we have different stomach bacteria than allistics.

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@theageofgoddess Жыл бұрын

I have almost all of these except the first few, I have no problem with eye contact & I don't experience social anxiety, at all. Maybe when I was younger. What's really exhausting is to have to explain my challenges while simultaneously having to explain to neuro-typicals that having challenges does not mean I am an idiot or 5 yrs old, I can still reason & process information like an adult. Thank you so much for your very helpful videos.

@RedRoseSeptember22 Жыл бұрын

100%! I hate telling people my struggles because they immediately treat me like I'm some kind of idiot.

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@gabrielgonzalez4894 11 ай бұрын

Thank you so very much for your channel can you believe it took me 40 years to realize that I have autistic traits no one diagnosed me. The psychiatrists that I had access to couldn't even bring up the possibility it's has been n incredibly long and frustrating journey until now you have clarified so much for me I look forward to supporting you.👍

@user-ty9ro6ie1v 3 ай бұрын

You are such a great gift to me! I'm late diagnosis (60's), intelligent, have learned to be more appropriate and spent a lot of energy masking. I am relieved to know I am who I am. I'm OK 🙂

@AliceLytle 4 ай бұрын

This should be put into the hands of every adult on the spectrum. I’m so happy to find my people. Thank you Orion 🙌🏻

@tinabodel3454 7 ай бұрын

I just want to say thank you. I have a nine year old grandson who has been diagnosed with autism. You have helped me to understand how hard it is for him and me.

@diannakins7333 Жыл бұрын

I want to thank you, I enjoyed listening to you. For 15 years of my life, I worked with adults with learning difficulties. And hearing you go through the 64 items of autism brings back so many feelings and memories of the men and women I used to work with. But I also see some in myself. Thank you for sharing it in such a loving, joyful way.

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@charnellemonay 6 ай бұрын

didn't even get to the end of video .. I'm definitely autistic .... learned more about Autism once my son was diagnosed with Autism. love being alone really , bad sensory issued hate eye contact .

@bobsoldrecords1503 Жыл бұрын

My echolalia? Speaking with an Australian accent for hours after watching your videos 😁

@brainwithani5693 Жыл бұрын

"I prioritize the task I'm doing".... Best description of why I can't get all the things done.... And why I'm late... And why I'm tired...

@sammycharlie3681 Жыл бұрын

this video has helped a lot!!!!!!!!! in the last two hours i made a google doc and paused every time you said something that i felt i related to in some way and wrote it down! just realized a lot about myself...........

@littleyellowyarrow 7 күн бұрын

I’m nearly 70, just figuring this out. I suffered throughout my whole child and pretty much all of life, trying to fit in.

@lizardgirl797 7 ай бұрын

I can tell you totally hyper focused on your opening Orion Kelly logo on your videos. It so nice.

@AnneAndersonFoxiepaws Жыл бұрын

I'm 64, 62 of them undiagnosed but most definitely full of traits. I was in hospital for 4 weeks in the 80s and I remember thinking that I was inordinately comfortable with institutional settings. I think if I was ever put to jail, although I don't have a criminal bone in my body, I would be happy with the routine and lack of having to make decisions for myself. Its weird but I do like settings like that. I can talk over and interrupt like a champ! Alone time is my biggest concern as I am not good at even keeping in touch with family but, as autism runs in my family they know and even share the feeling of being left alone, the one thing that doesn't fall into my need to be alone is that animals are never a problem in this way and their needs override my alone needs. The volume control goes hand in hand with the talking over and butting in, oh lord! Don't get me wrong, I am female and masked it well for most of my life, but these things, nearly every one and we're into the 40s here, are something I know to a greater or lesser extent, looking at it now, post diagnoses, I wonder why anyone thought otherwise but I'm a kid of the late 50s and we all know its a boy thing...omg I have cousins, uncles aand my late fad who were diagnosed early or were high functioning to use an old expression, but were obviously autistic. I have my doubts about my younger son too but it isn't as obvious in him as in me but theres little signs as you probably know, that lead me, knowing what I know now, to think hes probably got a touch of an ASD. Being an autistic girl, I was either off alone with my animals or had my head buried in a book, my first several birthdays I wanted encyclopedias so you can imagine, no vocabulary problems here but this may be the first one in this video! The structure of language was very much part of my second favourite thing after animals which is books and English which I have read so much, I would have to be good at so this is number two. Echolalia may be a thing, I don't do it pyt loud much but repeat things to myself when I hear them being used, I don't know but I think I used to do this out loud and got pulled up on it when I was a kid. I have all encompassing interests which I will live totally, animals, horses were the big one, then theres something about miniatures that has me filling the house with models and driving my other half crazy! Unfortunately I have had lifelong problems with sensory seeking behaviours, enough said. I think the reason I got into miniatures was to overcome my natural clumsiness, I have always had great balance, been riding horses since age 4, but I had an idea that off a horse I was pretty much a bull in a china shop so I think the fascination with tiny models was my way of getting around that feeling, which, isn't flattering in a woman lol! The bumping into doors and stuff is exactly where I get the clumsy feeling from.

@briancolwill3071 6 ай бұрын

Check out The Onion autistic reporter goes to prison...

@tamika1014 Жыл бұрын

So I was recently diagnosed with autism. In my 20’s, and looking back on my life, it made a lot more sense to me than ever before. And to my mama, who is helping me a lot through life. Bless my mama, she has so much patience with me. But going through this list, it just makes me feel a little bit more comfortable knowing that I’m not alone and am not broken. Thanks for the video

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@Axqu7227 6 ай бұрын

Orion, I’ve got to say that your face is extremely easy to read. You project your expressions very “loud” and basic. It’s like large print books except for social interaction. I’m admiring the craftsmanship on your mask! My husband is a sweetie and he puts his expressions and tone in “large print” for me when he’s being sarcastic. He’s the only one I’m happy to share with 😊

@peterobrien1499 11 ай бұрын

I just typed a big comment but I don't think it made it on to the list of comments. Thanks for putting the light on this Orion. I am 60 and though the A word has been a big factor in my life, I left a functional life til about the age of 45. I can't repeat .y comments at this point. It is 350am and I am awake though fatigued. Guilt and failure. I wish i could have been more aware of my nature, for what it's worth. I have fought this problem all my life. Now I am confident that Autism has made my life challenging and I will seek medical help, for what it's worth. Thank you Orion. Good luck to you, your family and others in this unenviable situation.

@andreafitzgerald9777 Жыл бұрын

This was a great video, Orion. Thank you!

@brianmurray5232 Жыл бұрын

You hit the nail in the head with like 20 of these for me. Thank you for everything you do

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@sorchaOtwo Жыл бұрын

So much of this is me! Thanks for helping me understand what I've lived with my whole life.

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@alishamusk 10 ай бұрын

Very accurate thank you, you're also very entertaining to watch which helps with the auditory processing disorder! 😊

@jecicox7605 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for this video! I've done a lot of research over many years trying to figure out what is wrong with me. I'd arrived at the realization I'm very likely autistic but my family and most friends don't believe me. Conversations are SO difficult for me. Thank you for this! I can just play this and point to each issue and say THIS! THIS IS ME! Maybe that will get the point across to them. I'm immensely grateful for this!

@Songe467 Жыл бұрын

I counted 40 and I recently failed an Autism test. Which is why I am pushing to get a proper brain Imagery QEEG test because there is definitely something going on with my brian.

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@KatjaTheAutiArtist Ай бұрын

Every single one of these. Thanks for breaking this down Orion. I really enjoy your videos.

@dmgroberts5471 11 ай бұрын

I've never met a rhetorical question I didn't immediately answer. I also try to "fix" metaphors to be more accurate to the situation the person is trying to describe. That might just be me, though.

@whitneymason406 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for covering all these Orion!

@orionkelly Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching Whitney!

@BaskingInObscurity Жыл бұрын

This comment is very long and only barely edited (I may have finally encountered the character cap for the text field), merely my processing of some of the 64 traits Orion recounts in this video. I post it only that others may compare and contrast their own experiences. Orion, you're my freakin' hero, having SUCH a similar upbringing and quite a few experiences, now here educating us on everything you've discovered. For the record, I am self-diagnosed and it was only a few years ago, around age 48 or 50, under the growing evidence as I performed research, that I capitulated to self-diagnose. Up to now (54yo) I have presumed formal diagnosis far too expensive to pursue (in the USA), but Orion's videos and my recent changeup of medications has me thinking I should broach the subject with my psychiatrist. After all, there's a great deal of overlap in generative and symptomatic characteristics of all my diagnoses of ADHD, Bipolar II, multiple CPTSD, autism, sensitivities and allergies, plus the addition of HIV. We may be over- or under-medicating and there are foods that also can interfere with metabolism of these medications (Tivicay deliberately slows the liver's production of the enzyme that clears a number of other medications, including SSRIs and Descovy; meanwhile SSRIs perform a similar function elsewhere). Hormones are complicated and plenty. Now a few of the 64 traits. ABSTRACT thinking I don't struggle with per se and I've often said that I think more conceptually and then have trouble putting it into language. Now, I've studied a lot of social theory and languages/linguistics, so it might be that I've serendipitously honed the conceptual thinking but not the ability to translate into speech. That's where the LITERALISM comes in. How hard it is to accurately describe what I'm thinking in precise diction; I get stuck needing the best word. Writing is somewhat easier because I can break the block by looking up synonyms until I find what I'm not extracting from my own internal lexicon. Speech puts me in the position of confusion and embarrassment created really only because of this need to be precise, not unusually resulting in pressured speech or stuttering. I don't even like leaving phone messages without writing them down first because they end up long with a lot of confused pauses. In addition, I've misunderstood comments that were NOT to be taken literally to some pretty serious consequences, including losing a few jobs. O.O I'd like to say it's all water under the bridge, but so far it's more baggage than water. This facility and preference for recognizable patterns likely explains why I have a freakish obsession with maps and charts, e.g. language paradigms. I get lost in them. I can lose multiple distracted hours in Google Maps when really I was just looking up the forecast or double checking the location of an appointment. I have drawn thousands of fictional maps, usually urban, in which I become so immersed that it can be meditative and I've inadvertently taught myself loads of urban planning principles. It's said that every autistic person has a forte, even though most of us don't typically resemble Rainman. Mine is maps. ROUTINE: er yeah. I have to develop routines down to the smallest detail. Otherwise I will forget to do things like brush my teeth. I get super confused when I perform my breakfast and coffee prep out of order. I'm not incapable. I just need these routines or things get left out-and out of sight out of mine. Speaking of which, when my housemates move my food or fresh produce gets pushed to the back of the fridge, or I put it in the garage fridge, odds are it's going to rot. ROUTINE for me also makes it harder to appropriately PRIORITIZE. I want to be efficient and I'll let it get ridiculous. I agree with your MULTITASKING take. In some contexts, however, I can interleave conversations and routines. Kids and pets have a way of forcing that upon parents/sitters/supervisors. :) As a camp counselor one must be able to keep track of a group while carrying on multiple conversations and possibly performing a task. I left thinking I was much more capable of multitasking than I am simply because the happiness and utility quotients were fulfilled and the different trains of thought were distinct within a common context.

@BaskingInObscurity Жыл бұрын

SHARING: I couldn't have been more private when I was younger and to some degree still am. When I came out as queer I lept out and learned how to open up. Becoming an activist encouraged me to be even more open. Given I don't read CUES and BODY LANGUAGE well, I inadvertently lost what boundaries I had yet still seldom understand others' well at all. Therefore I have often revealed way too much too fast, removing the comfort of mercurialism, and dramatically misguiding new acquaintances as to my character and experiences. First impressions are extremely important. Historically I have justified putting myself in this position as caveat to an activist personality-which is true, but not to the degree I try to assuage my own psyche. ROLEPLAY would be helpful in psychotherapy if it weren't so hard. I play World of Warcraft but never actually roleplay, though I do like to sometimes develop characters along a theme for consistency. Giving them a hint of personality, though, isn't really roleplay. I have played Dungeons and Dragons many times because my housemates all love it. I, on the other hand, find it exhausting and need a nap after playing-which can also partly be the social exhaustion, though they're my best friends so not terribly so. It's just so freakin' much work to become someone else when I already find it tiring just to be myself in the real, low-accommodating, neuronormative world. My compulsion to be precise, direct, and honest renders the effort maintain consistency in a character's actions and words, which in the real world would probably seem very foreign to me, quite strenuous. This fact is completely lost on my housemates-or at least the alpha housemate (best friend) who lives and dies roleplay and fiction writing. She finds it regenerating, to which I can relate none. Roleplay is a concept I like a lot that I find nigh impossible to actually enjoy. COOPERATION: from my earliest memories I was bossy or a cog, and generally preferred to rather work or play alone where I didn't feel the need to dominate or resent being dominated. Dominated is probably too strong a word in most cases. I also get perturbed big time when I see a huge flaw or way to vastly improve performance efficiency yet can't get heard. I can be extremely patient with persons who exert effort and want to learn, and in supervisorial roles I've even encouraged subordinates to develop their own routines-as long as it produces the appropriate results and within a reasonable time frame. However I lose my shit when I suspect complacency or disrespect for the task or rules. I don't lead online gaming raids require following the lead(s) and scoffing at that only triggers me, and I don't want to be the dick raid leader nobody likes. SELF AWARENESS and SELF MONITORING These are skills that did not come naturally to me and require a lot of work. As a middle-aged adult I'm now compulsively self aware at times to a fault. Medical and other professionals also don't take me seriously, presuming that I'm just another self-deluded patient who says one thing but actually does all the things he's not supposed to do to his body. Of course I also have that literal honesty thing going on where I'll say a lot of stuff, frequently coming off as resistant to a suggestion, when really I'm merely braindumping a lot of facts and data in hopes of elucidating my unique situation. As a kid, nobody understood me; yet I came to embrace that distance as a comfort, a moat around me, a buffer zone. My mother was psychologically abusive and would deliberately incite others to gang up on me "humorously;" so it also made it easier for me to compartmentalize all aspects of life. PITCH, RHYTHM, ETC I still have trouble with in ordinary speech, but much less MOST of the time (I think) as I've gotten older. Funnily enough, I can read books aloud, appropriate intonations and making voices distinct. I believe reading stories to my campers as a summer camp counselor trained me young. There's also the removal of all the peer anxiety and roleplay stress when reading that way. Quite the opposite, it wasn't until I deliberately practiced reading foreign language books aloud to myself that I finally began to understand passages I read aloud in formal situations, such as when a middle school teacher had students rotate through reading 2 or 3 inches of textbooks out loud. After all these years I now understand that it was anxiety, not neural pathways alone, interfering with absorbing the meaning of the words I spoke from text. FACES are a matter of pattern recognition, so that's always been a huge strength for me. Then again, ask me somebody's description and I'm at a loss beyond hair and skin color. Eye color? Hah! Oddly, I have figured out where I've seen persons before that there is no way I should have remembered. One was a guy at a party more than a decade earlier. Some turned out to have been customers at the book store or wine bar/bistro where I worked. One became my boss, and only after chatting for a few months did it dawn on me that I had voted for him to be Rubberman (a condom education spokesperson) eight years earlier in a very different context. Now names, good luck remembering. Names are an enormous weakness. INTERESTS I have galore, yet my passions drive me. ADHD symptoms and problems in prioritizing lead me to get in my own way completing projects, though. On the one hand I have my moments where I obsess and have stayed awake for two or three days. I have a Bipolar II diagnosis that is warranted for other reasons; yet when a hypomanic episode synchs with a project, I can get enormous amounts of work done (on the project and nothing else) in a short amount of time, then crash. This fact was GREAT for when I got my HIV diagnosis to prod me into quickly getting all my healthcare ducks in a row-and there are lots of them-before the crash led me to accomplish nothing for weeks. On the other hand having so MANY passions makes it very difficult to select one or two at a time for deliberate focus, PLUS I tend to hold myself to the standard of my performance during the rare project-hypomania synch successes, which is absurd, but I do it. Yearning is a powerful emotion. I'll lump all the SENSORY stuff together. I used to call myself the princess and the pea for numerous reasons though especially because the tiniest specs of crud or lint under me in bed will keep me fidgeting, unable to sleep, and even while asleep I will pick at skin discomforts, like acne. Then I discovered that there is a trait call Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), which once upon a time was subsumed into the first DSM's version of autism characteristics. I have an extremely low threshold for sensory annoyance, prone to sinus headaches, canary-in-the-coalmine levels of sensitivity to toxins in manufactured products, an overactive immune system that borders on autoimmune, senses of scent and taste that almost gave me a career in wine brokerage or could have made me a scent/perfume tester (were it not for the allergies and all the toxic chemicals employed as agents). While autistic, I frequently find the volume of other autistic persons overwhelming. I mean, my ears cringe and I lose the ability to pay attention. Yet for all my low thresholds of tolerance, I have a very high tolerance for pain. I didn't even realize it until I had cancer and spent weeks at a time in intensive chemotherapy. I came to realize that annoyance to stimuli and tolerance of pain are not the same thing. Mindblower, at the time. MOTOR SKILLS and PROPRIOCEPTION I still don't understand why I can drive really well and be so careful at most activities yet have horrible handwriting, drop things all the time, and like Orion, bump into everything, including those same bloody doorways that were there the previous 200 times I walked into them (that's my favorite illustration to make, as well). WT#? As I've arrived in my 50s it's really starting to hurt! Am I going to die to a corner-of-the-bedframe injury when I'm 67? VISUAL vs AUDITORY PROCESSING I experience such a huge difference in how well I process these two modes of perception that I bought into the fallacy that humans learn visually or aurally. It doesn't hold up under scientific scrutiny. So hopefully scientists will start working with autistic populations separately to figure out what's going on with our wiring; and that should illuminate neurotypical processing as well. Oh, and for me, I prefer visual. I love those maps and charts and paradigms and graphs and so on. Auditory input I can miss for a variety of reasons. Auditory and visual together (like turning on captions to videos I can understand just fine) can help me better absorb and retain information, though. I used to think I had a photographic memory before I learned what that really meant. I'm not THAT good at visual memory-if only! But I did employ similar tactics to best challenges like our vocabulary tests in honors English back in high school; I remembered where on the pages of my pre-exam homework that was basically the same thing and regurgitated the definition and exemplary sentence I had written.

@BaskingInObscurity Жыл бұрын

@Gage I will look it up, not familiar with it.

@BaskingInObscurity Жыл бұрын

@Gage That was very interesting, although next to none of it applied to me. It does sound like a neurological disorder, though. The obvious criterion that appears to apply is my dumping into comments like I do, and of course not knowing who's reading does leave me unsure of the register to use. Not saying people don't think me weird, just that it's not been for these reasons.. :) I've never had temendous difficulty sorting registers in person. I do tend to tic most or all checkboxes on autism of the more Asperger's type, depending on the diagnostic tool. My experience parallels all but a few of Orion's 64 traits. I can't even convince most people of my autism, only that I'm a little eccentric. Masking is exhausting, though.

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@Charlie-re9ok 2 ай бұрын

I'm autistic and I have 40/64 ! It's really so interesting to see how people can have the same condition yet experience so many different symptoms

@jackavery7179 3 ай бұрын

This is a good explanation. More people and communities need to be made aware

@Books_on_the_Brain Жыл бұрын

I couldn't count anything in the language/word/grammar section because that has been my life-long special interest! I've always hyperfixated on using correct grammar, pronouncing words correctly, all those things.

@StiffPvtParts Жыл бұрын

This has been an issue for me since childhood, so I obsess over my grammar being mistake-free. It's equally as challenging in both my native language and English.

@kate-lt7lk Жыл бұрын

Bring diagnosed as an adult, I really appreciate you helping 💜

@gerlinderosensteiner8250 Жыл бұрын

Where did you go to get diagnosed?

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@gemmamills973 2 ай бұрын

Wow !! Thanks for this wealth of information. It has helped me to understand autistic persons so much better.

@sleepingroses761 11 ай бұрын

I love watching videos with closed captions because I can read and hear the words at the same time.

@Rain-nx1ym Жыл бұрын

I don’t know if it’s my tone of voice? 🤷🏻‍♀️ but I made a few phone calls before this and they always sound so weird on the other end no matter a doctors office or wherever like as if I’m ending it in the most awkward way possible 😂 I should just be like my aunt. Now I know why she doesn’t even say bye and just hangs up 😂😂

@monicahicks4337 Жыл бұрын

I learned with my Asperger's adult son voice changes are usually related to muscle tension rather than acid reflux. GI issues result from Vagal tone as well. For me, visual stimuli overrides auditory input. Seeing is believing/believing is seeing. I think you covered this subject very well!

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@gregoryburne5251 10 ай бұрын

Thank you sir. So many epiphanies here, and I’ve been hoovering these Chanel’s for years. If someone gives me verbal directions, I’ll close my eyes and become a drone and see the direction ill be going as the person keeps directing me. I take the verbal instruction and turn it into a visual map. I’ll also do it from a driver’s pov, visualising while driving. So I remember by visualising what I heard.

@y26op Жыл бұрын

When questioning if you possibly suffer from autism... It's not easy, since a lot of the symptoms, are things that just occur with any stress or anxiety, that's ongoing.

@Popper_Drop Жыл бұрын

I've suspected that I was autistic for close to 3 years now, just recently the therapist I've been seeing (for other reasons) has suggested that I go for a screening because she thinks I very well might be. I only just came across your channel but I'm very happy that I did because I feel like I can never learn enough. Not to mention it's super refreshing to hear a familiar accent!

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@passacaglia28 Жыл бұрын

I'm 43 and I have always wondered about being on the spectrum. I checked a good many of the boxes when it comes to your material in this video. Back in the eighties and nineties, specialists only ever diagnosed me with ADD... which is still pretty accurate. I am so currious now, but I fear that getting tested might be an expense I could do without, or it isn't the biggest priority in my life currently.

@Xanderj89 Жыл бұрын

There’s a pretty big overlap in things like executive functioning and emotional regulation between the two, plus they are very common comorbidities (if you are one there’s a larger chance than normal you are the other as well, and having both often throws off diagnosis as one can naturally mask traits of the other, such as a need for novelty overweighing a need for routine etc). You can find this combo labeled AuDHD sometimes, to me it has been very informative to hear other people like me describe their internal processes and relate to them (often things I’ve never heard anyone else seem to experience). Some people do seek a diagnosis, it can be extremely validating, but to me being told I am autistic didn’t actually help me with the practical aspects if that makes sense (but learning from other autistics/adhd/audhd definitely has). Official dx also has some downsides to be aware of, not trying to put you off seeking it if you want to, but it can lead to medical discrimination (they can deny you care if they decide you won’t have ‘good quality of life’, which when paired w/ ableism around looking down on autistic folk has led to denial of organ transplants etc), and it doesn’t offer much in the way of support unless you’re a kid. I’m 34 and I’ve been dx’d for about a year now. Honestly just keep following things you relate to, and if you are able don’t worry so much about the label or the dx, but just try things and introspect and see if it fits, and if it makes your life better or easier to manage that’s fantastic!

@passacaglia28 Жыл бұрын

@@Xanderj89 Thanks for the reply! I very much like learning as much as I can from people with similar traits as myself. I get the whole ableism thing too.

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@nicksothep8472 6 ай бұрын

Again, I check a lot of boxes, not all of them, but many, and I find it very intresting. I had huge social anxiety for years, but fought it tooth and nail and I'm now perfectly fine in public even though I still hate it, I'm a solitary soul. Definitely no problems with sarcasm or humor, which falls into the abstract thinking umbrella anyway, something else i have no problem with. The obsessive research is something I absolutely do, I have a few topics that take turns relatively regularly that filled years of my life with reading, writing and other related good things, all rather complicated topics too, and all still in my life, a lot of proud moments came from these passions. I'm shit at prioritizing, definitely suffer from uneven productivity and I'm not good at all at managing time, but I never interrupt people or don't understand when it's my turn. Hate role playing, not my thing, I'm no narcissisist, AT ALL, but I like myself how I am and don't feel the need to dress up. I struggle working with other people only if I find the job stupid or useless, if it's a good project I'm a great team player. Anyhow, overall it seems I'm on the clear, as the more severe simptoms seem to be absent, I might actually have adhd, something else I've been told might be my "problem", but also, I've been on a constant, introspective spiritual journey for many years now, which helped me enormously to figure out my problems, psychoactive substances helped a lot too, they open new doors and fix broken patterns, but of course you need to take them on the right settings, like at home with a comfortable atmosphere cut out from outside chaos, or in nature following the same principles, you won't get any benefits from a party setting, unless there's a constant repeating bass coming from a speaker or a drummer, in that case you will, as it's an old spiritual practice in many ancient cultures, Sufi being one, but many other eastern philosophies recognized this practice as enlightning many centuries ago, focusing on the beat allows your mind to travel and focus on itself almost canceling the body, it's difficult to explain, but truly liberating. This said I'm not a doctor, so if this intrests you in any way, do the right research first. As a final note there's one thing I'd like to add, I feel as if society forces us to fit into a specific box, we should all dress the same way, have the same intrests, have a day job, support a political party, have a hobby etc.. and offers us a number of options for each point to give us the illusion of choice, and based on the option we choose we get a label, we're boxed and catalogued, and I propose that tought patterns, the way we think and act, are viewed from the system in the same way they view our other traits, we better conform and fall into a preset box, or we're bound to be considered as outcasts. "normality", if we wanna go philosophical, doesn't really exist, it's just the product of conformism, or rather its symptom, conformity and normality are pretty much the same thing, the product of a world that seeks to eliminate any variable from the equation in order to minimize the number of unexpected factors from everyday life, while good ethics and a strong sense of respect should really be the only things to regulate our life, it's the "safety vs freedom" argument. Of course, it's a given that people with severe behavioral problems caused by a condition should receive help, but in general I feel like it's the world itself being autistic, trying to box human behavior into yes and no categories as if we all have to be the same, a practice taken to the extremes in our western world setting, and even though the results seem to be the exact opposite of the wanted effect, this practice keeps going on. I mean, anybody with two brain cells recognizes that the current colored 🌈 revolution is not healthy for either our bodies or our spirits, and anyone with an actual, proper diagnosed condition should feel disrespected by these kids playing victimhood by pretending they are autistic or have multiple personalities, many probably convincing themselves, and instead of helping, institutions affirm their delusions. Anyhow, I'm going on a tangent so I'll stop here, it was great hearing you and clearing some doubts, all the best 👍🏻 🖤

@rileyjjarrett 8 ай бұрын

I love this video, really helped me understand who I am, keep up the good work :)

@CixiaKyrrah Жыл бұрын

Having ASD and ADHD combined, a lot of these traits overlap between the two.

@joeflores378 7 ай бұрын

I recently did a full genome analysis by a company named sequencing DNA and they gave me the run down on genome and it turns out that I am genetically Autistic I never thought that it was genetic i thought that it was the mother doing drugs nutrition that made a child come out that way... so started to research on U-tube and everything that I heard him say hit me like WOW I've gone through life like that.

@AeraYoo 10 ай бұрын

I am going to get tested for autism because I feel I have so many traits (60+ of these and other things I notice) and it would help me understand myself better 🌺🤙🏽 Thank you for this video and explaining some of the traits!

@GuitarTunings33 9 ай бұрын

I have hyperempathy. In between my normal quiet stoic self is my overwhelmed with emotion or empathy self that looks differently. All my thoughts are 3D visions, too.

@mtndew9427 Жыл бұрын

62/64 traits and i just got tested about a week ago. i get my results soon and i already have a really good idea of what they might be

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@melanieforrester7689 9 ай бұрын

I work great with others as long as they'll leave me alone while I do my part 😆 bonus if they compliment my work. I totally have trouble being the first to end the conversation. I also feel like I have to fill in any quiet moments during conversation. I worry people will think I'm rude or uncaring. I grew up in a family of musicians & entertainers (might have something to do with that) Thank you for doing this video - I've been concerned about my kid, but several of these could apply to us both. I heavily suspect ADHD, also. So I'm not sure what or which thing causes the other. Also, along the lines of, echolalia is echopraxia.

@AmandaBridgland-Swan Ай бұрын

Yes, yes and yes! You describe it all so well. I'm finally learning about myself at the age of 49.

@jennipeltonen3076 3 ай бұрын

Very good summary and niecly explained! Well done. This is very useful :)

@dessyred5785 Жыл бұрын

I'm autistic and there is nothing more annoying then telling someone you don't like change and then being compared to. Having them say they don't like change either, but with you change could trigger a panic attack.

@izzythefreak Жыл бұрын

people will tell me the most random things and then fall silent, so I’ll guess the reason behind the statement, and I’m always wrong and miss their point

@alanjamest83 8 ай бұрын

wow many thanks great channel and content / I relate to 34 of these but the number one (STATE WHAT TO STATE AND LEAVE) :)

@tomjones1506 7 ай бұрын

Out of all the great things in your videos like your advice and your perspective - the very best bit of your channel has to be your choice of shirts!! 😄

@laurelmentor404 Жыл бұрын

The part about difficulty with syntax and semantics was really interesting. Personally, I struggle with syntax, even more now, after studying foreign languages in college. It's funny because syntax is much more flexible in latin, and even in languages like german. Syntax is so strict in English that I find it more natural to use other languages. Unfortunately, I think I'm starting to write and sound like Yoda. Many of these traits I do have!

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@ExInferis. Жыл бұрын

Another brilliant video! It'd probably be easier for me to write down the things I'm *not* affected by! One issue for me is that I'm hearing impaired, so quite often people (usually my Mum if I'm honest as I don't go out much!) will tell me I'm shouting, or I'm too quiet. It's really difficult for me to know when to speak up or quieten down. Now I know it's connected to autism that really makes me wonder if all the surgery I've had over the past 30 years might have been avoided, and that maybe I was misdiagnosed as a kid. I'll never know. I can paint a Games Workshop figure, but I keep walking into walls! BTW, who's putting z's where s's should be in your subtitles? Australia uses proper English doesn't it? I suppose we call it the King's English now. It's incredibly distracting, I keep mentally correcting those words!

@bolinhong2598 Жыл бұрын

@feliciapillow5860 Жыл бұрын

First of all. Thank you for this channel. Second!!!! Spot on dude!!!!

@JosephPratt1986 9 ай бұрын

Fantastic video! I was first diagnosed with Autism when I was four years of age.

@VenomVsTRex 8 ай бұрын

I was diagnosed ADHD early this year at 31 and self-diagnosed autistic soon after (professional assessment for autism is pricey af), and I tick off enough items from this list to make me wonder exactly which neurodivergence I struggle with more. In most instances I didn't realize these things were actually autism traits.

@peteracton2246 Жыл бұрын

I scored 59 out of the 64. I'm not surprised. Well at least I'm good at being me.

@marcbourassa 29 күн бұрын

I have wondered for a while if I might be somewhat autistic, but have never really done the legwork to dig into it. Your wonderful video offers me the perspective that I am most likely just an introvert who has a few autistic traits. So, maybe ever so slightly on the spectrum but really just someone who prefers to do things on my own. Honestly, very helpful!