7 Mistakes KILLING Your Masculine Confidence (& How to FIX Them)

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One of the big misconceptions regarding confidence is thinking it's a destination -- as if you'll feel incredible and never feel insecure or inadequate again once you get there. But confidence is a very complex concept, and there's no one-size-fits-all solution. Confidence is an evolution where you constantly grow and change based on your environment, what you learn, what you do, what you don't do, and the people around you. Unfortunately, though, these mistakes can kill our confidence and self-esteem. Here's how to identify and fix mistakes that crush your confidence.
Being with the wrong people. Whether your partner or your spouse, if that somebody is not suitable for you, your self-esteem and confidence can be destroyed. Being honest with yourself may mean making some hard decisions and thinking about things. To be happy and confident, you need to be with somebody who uplifts and makes you feel good about yourself. Also, having friends who suck can crush your confidence. It's not that your friends are 'bad.' Still, you can't feel great about yourself if you surround yourself with people who aren't uplifting you or doing self-destructive things that can drag you down. Shed this baggage and outgrow them. You'll be amazed at how much better you feel and how confident you'll become.
Doing self-destructive things. You know what things are not good for you. Whether it's drinking, eating bad food, neglecting your body, or procrastinating doing something, your confidence can be beaten down by the internal battle. The longer you continue, the lower your confidence will go. You need to take care of yourself and stop doing destructive things.
Living above your means. If you don't have a plan or budget and spend money you don't have, you can be affected negatively. Worrying and thinking about money can destroy your confidence and rob you of joy. Everybody should create a budget and cut spending. The two areas that can be cut the fastest and easiest are your car and where you live. Also, do not purchase things on credit. If you can't afford it, don't buy it.
Not fixing insecurities. You can fix so many of the things that you worry about and are totally treatable, preventable, or fixable. You can go to the gym, eat better, have your teeth whitened, get veneers, use Tiege Hanley for your skin, pump up Big Al, and visit Bosley for hair loss. Don't wait to take care of your hair until it's too late. Do it now.
Waiting for perfect timing. Many people fail to start because they continue to wait for the stars to align. Whether asking a girl out or starting a business, realize failure is part of the equation. You have to get out there and try.
Worrying about what others think. Many people are so consumed with worrying about what others think. When the truth is, they're not even thinking about you. The world does not revolve around you. Other people are too self-centered and worried about their lives to be concerned about yours. The sooner you understand and realize this, the faster you will be free.
Not practicing forgiveness and gratitude. If you're living in the past and carrying baggage, it'll prevent you from truly feeling good about yourself. Set it down and let it go. Understand that we all do the best job possible and must learn from our mistakes to move forward. Don't beat yourself up. You'll never be truly confident until you set the sh!t down. And be grateful. Gratitude is an amazing thing that each and every one of us should practice daily. Too often, we compare ourselves to others, which is a confidence killer. We need to be grateful for where we are, what we've achieved, that we're healthy and breathing, and that we've accomplished incredible things. Don't worry about what you don't have as opposed to what you do. When you practice gratitude, your creativity will be facilitated and fueled, and your confidence will also be elevated. You won't have to put on an act for anybody because you know you're enough and that you're amazing. Be thankful for what you do, what you have, and who you are as a man.

[@alpham]

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[@ban2541]

Everyone could benefit from these wise lessons, Thank you Alpha

[@richardwaring3980]

An attitude of gratitude.....comparison is the thief of joy!

[@hailchristandmary]

I'm in my mid 20s and my hairline was already receding and thinning. I went with the shaved head route and I feel so much better. Its low maintenance and my friends and family tell me I look more younger, cleaner/well-put, and more masculine too with my beard. Plus I might invest in SMP which i encourage other men to check out here on youtube. Don't be worried about embracing the bald/shaved hair look gentlemen, women do like it. its a style that has been around since forever and will never go out of style.

[@xurx2838]

My favorite bald joke: 'Don't think of it as losing your hair, think of it as getting more head.'

[@johnrodriguez2438]

​@@xurx2838 Our hairline is not receding. Our scalp is advancing.

[@StriderRyu7]

If you don’t mind me asking…. What’s SMP?

[@1stworldproblems873]

​@@StriderRyu7a tattooed hairline

[@williamcarter9066]

U got guts dude and the bald head represented from a nuanced perspective is a raw biological thing that will drive women towards u believe me am 62 it’s still works like a charm and the fact my stomach is so flat it’s all but behind me doesn’t hurt either 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 62 years old men with a six pac is like finding a live dinosaur in the suburbs 😜😜😜😜😜😜😜

[@dlitt018]

I really needed this today! I’ve been lacking and not taking accountability for why I feel the way I feel. Cheers to renewed confidence

[@Joey21071]

When it comes to what your friends do, you don't have to. It's really that simple. If it's a Wednesday evening and your friend comes over asking if you want to get a drink, just say no. It's not really hard. But in my opinion, that doesn't mean you have to stop being friends with that person. I look at it this way. One of two things could happen. Number one, your friend stops coming over and you grow apart. Number two, your friend gets encouraged by seeing what you're doing and they start doing the same.

[@CagedRot]

Aaron is the man. Still one of the best channels on KZbin for mens wellness.

[@trappedunderice1649]

Great video!! You nailed it out of the park. Noone cares what you are doing, just do you!

[@LPhooligan]

yup learned just this year had a bad time and NO ONE NOT ONCE messaged me , if i was ok, now just focusing on myself not answering any messages unless its my from job or immediate family, now i have money in my pocket about to go on a cruise later this year instead of worrying about others its my turn to have fun

[@wilson6363]

Aaron, your mother must be proud

[@michaelodom182]

I've been fighting this stupid anxiety since I was 12 years old and it F-ing sucks. That video is what I need right now so I can get my confidences on track again, especially with women. Last thing I want is to be a loser going into my 40s. I'm going to start taking it one day at a time.

[@siyashilla6885]

Jelqing and pumping go VERY WELL together

[@TSierra]

Remember to surround yourself with good people. Get rid of all the fakes and keep the real ones. I would rather have a dollar than 4 quarters.

[@MYInteriorArchitect]

اللَّهُمَّ لا تَكِلْنَا إِلَى أَنْفُسِنَا طَرْفَةَ عَيْنٍ وَلا أَقَلَّ مِنْ ذَلِكَ

[@Cool-last-name]

Thank you for the video. I needed to hear what you put out there. I feel more confident and self assured already. In regards to hair, I have a full hair but I shave it off because of one thing ‐ finding a good barber is next to impossible around here. And when I do they give me the same average boring whiteboy haircut with no style; heck, a high and tight has more style than the damn fade they force on me ‐ and I am not a whiteboy. I just look like one - even more so if I do what everyone else does, including growing out my hair

[@jovan.petrovic]

I know the pump works! Alpha reported about it , i bought and used it for now more than 60 days. It‘s unbelivable!!! :)

[@74mykael]

Aaron is the best his advise has so much value he is legit

[@juanpicafi]

Thank for all your energy and positivity alpha you are awesome. I am glad I discovered your channel!

[@j.r.nvision-imagination77]

Thanks Alpha. Love your spirit brother.

[@KrosanBeast315]

Alpha M... I recommend you mention in a future video that people can go to their Bank and put a much lower limit on their Credit Card if they have no current balance on it. This way, they can limit what the spend and not get themselves into trouble. By lowering the Credit Card balance, it curbs impulsive choices and any really large purchases beyond the Card's capabilities will be automatically declined. This is good to have in case someone steals your CC info to try to make a purchase you didn't authorize. Also, by having a lower Credit Card amount, you can have a Card for emergencies but it's not going to get a person into trouble because the limit is one they know they can pay back even if they max it out.

[@StevenEagleEagleman]

Great video as always Alpha

[@Punicia]

Confidence issues are killing this young generation. We focus too much on trying to improve the world without improving ourselves. What’s inside becomes what’s outside!

[@forever_robust]

Quality of the video 🔥

[@RevengedScar]

Thank you, Sir!

[@iurikobakhidze9773]

Imagine alpha being your father, you would fking rule the world..

[@goldheart47]

Great advice sir 👍

[@CherokeeAquatics]

Thx

[@michaelleewagaman301]

Preach it brother.

[@sepulchair1479]

I'm definitely shaving my head once I'm going bald. I think I look pretty cool bald. I've tried.

[@jackpumpkinpatch2119]

Very good video

[@mauricefleming-hx9cb]

I appreciate you brother

[@azhaanebrahim4887]

Great video😎💯🔥💪🏽

[@robertbeer3876]

Thanks

[@Eddiedjvendetta]

The King of Thumbnails is back 😅

[@caytendelvin9600]

What's the brand of the t shirt you wearing?

[@Stavros_Meggos]

Yes

[@teamgert]

Totally bald and not wearing a damn wig alpha. Forced to own it and it sucks. And cancer forced me into a mandiblectomy. People say “you’re here” and “never knew anyone so strong”….doesn’t fix it. Suggestions? And don’t say therapy. Even that didn’t fix it.

[@VlKTOR]

i just broke up with my girlfriend because of this. thank you baby❤ i just want you to be my good bbg

[@lylehenkeman9978]

Where is the link for Big AL?

[@mauricefleming-hx9cb]

God bless you

[@sachinpraka]

You saved me

[@DanielZambrano]

can anybody tell what does t-shirt is wearing alpha m?

[@timothyberg7720]

Quick question here...I noticed your earrings. Got the same type, when I was young, put them out about 3 months later because everybody was looking at me funny (not just friends and family...I mean like on the streets) . How do you deal with that?

[@johngonzalez4298]

Let's go!

[@donovansavio6297]

Alpha you the best❤

[@AshUkihime]

I noticed your background started changing.

[@franciscoavila2356]

THANK YOU

[@timr1627]

Bald alpha in the thumbnail is a vibe. Big jason statham energy

[@MrAndrewaaa]

This video proves that little loud men and also be alphas

[@hampushofflander6837]

Love you alpha

[@WEANDK]

Time flies make your move whether it's business or with a member. Opposite sex

[@SasukeFan21]

Amen 🤜🤛

[@bullyyy]

the alfa 🥰🥰🥰🤩🤩🤩🤩

[@symonekelly4274]

Throughly enjoyed this video I think women can take tips as well. I'm taking notes✍️ I think a dude confident enough to shave his head oozes sex appeal.

[@HH-il3vg]

💯💯

[@ghlocal1]

Wait did you say you went to Bosley? I wonder what the treatment is for a Norwood 0 😂

[@soulflyprophecy]

Alpha, are you from Philly?

[@alpham]

Yes I am!

[@soulflyprophecy]

@@alpham oh man. One of my friends said he saw you and I was wondering if u r from Philly as well or not. I live in Phila too, moved from Chile 5 years ago. I watch your videos since 2016. I hope I can see you some day to say hi!

[@joshuarellama8515]

❤️❤️❤️

[@chrishiggins4965]

Hi Alpha, I can appreciate your video and its content. However, you talked about living within your means and living within a budget. I'd love to go to Bosley, whiten my teeth and get dental braces etc. But theses things costs alot of money and you said if we have to charge it we cant afford it. I can not afford these things without financing or charging them. So your message is confusing -self improvement is doable in some measures. But upkeep on expensive procedures like these kind of throw your message off. Especially the older we become, these procedures can become more necessary and needed. But I find it also a conundrum because of the money aspects of it. Maybe some of your viewers make a better income than myself; and that's understandable. But as follower of your content, its hard to connect with the message if your in a different income bracket. No harm, and all love; just a comment for whatever its worth. Thanks for all you do! Chris

[@JACK136620126]

Super long promo 😂😂

[@IYAOYAS24]

Get veneers like that shit don’t cost as much as a car

[@matyasd007]

Get veneers? One of the most expensive cosmetic procedures on earth. Ain' got no money for that

[@shashwat4577]

Am i the first comment?

[@skorpia7807]

are you recycling content? i remember watching the exact video days ago

[@Lizard1582]

I came here to check what youre up to since I watched you years ago. Its crazy how much more useful a random 10 min videos of yours is compared to an entire year of Andrew Tate & friends' garbage. Im so grateful that you were the premier self improvement guy in my days being a young adult.

[@dplunkettffgaming7683]

😮

[@michaeld954]

I'm Financially fucked so cant go to bosly

[@whendidyoutubeswitchtohandles]

First!

[@gamalielcenteno4801]

👍👍👍🫵🏽👍👍👍

[@EmreY25]

Alpha, are you really on finasteride? Like what do you mean by ''I fixed it'' Your hair hasn't changed in the last 15 years, or ever for that matter.

[@MidMedic-oj5fd]

Maamz you said don't live above our means but want bald guy's to go to Bosley when it's financially expensive and we all not larnies like you.

[@albundy7794]

Nonsense. Bosley can't fix guys that are 'completely bald'. Shave it and hope you look good.

[@robertgreene7879]

I used to like your blog but ever since I saw your blog on your new house I thought , that's where all his prophets are going. I've since stopped making purchases to you businesses because you shouldn't flaunt your good fortunes. Anyone can tell you that. No longer will watch your blog. Big dissappointment.

[@oofooh]

Alpha's hair looks too greasy in every video! Less product, please!!!

[@sw1tchk1ngz27]

Firsy

[@Fatal_N_Felony]

this weird ass thumbnail

[@iurikobakhidze9773]

Imagine alpha being your father, you would fking rule the world..

[@Khaos969]

You think he’s an alpha? 😂 a lot to learn kid