7 Mistakes Married Men Make| Part 1| mildred kingsley-okonkwo

[@mandytatenda]

Uncle😂,leading isn't bullying thank you Pastor Ma.This knowledge can't be ignored.I wish if every man could just hear this👏👏

[@mo_uduh3961]

19:04-" Leading is not bullying" For those at the back. Thank you so much Pastor M🥰

[@fortuneigben2023]

Love u Pst M. I am a Pastor's wife too, u hv been such a blessing to my marriage, my husband and I enjoy your teachings.

[@rissacarter1045]

I am suffering from this. I am bullied and disrespected by my husband daily. And try to manipulate me with bible scriptures as to why he have the right to deal with me so.

[@stephanielagares4817]

"leading isn't when you, walk into the house and everyone is hiding, that's not leading, that's bullying." Say it louder!!! ✊

[@amarauzowulunwodo3445]

Yes these are about just what causes problems in marriges. God bless you ma for this great teaching. I pray most men will drop their ego mixed with cultural beliefs and admit they need to change

[@MrVictorol]

I like that you do not just speak, but back it up with biblical passages. You got a new fan. Thank you for this.

[@daughterofgod3995]

Every man seems to know about submission but very few understand the concept of loving their wife the way CHRIST loves the church.

[@musiki9550]

I agree with you 100% about the way men understand the concept of submission. The real matter is this sadness is the result of the way they have been taught.

[@Nuwamanya87]

love is two way.... both women n men must participate... in understanding and loving

[@theteachingbusiness]

My woman sent this to me. It's amazing how much ignorance I reveled in. I'll do better going forward.

[@robk416]

Thanks for this message. It's a timely reminder for me to remain in the blessing of being single, free and dedicated to the Most High.

[@marvelouschukwu3817]

This is my first time seeing this lady's page. I love her already . Keep it up. Thank you

[@jonathansichula3129]

This is amazing continue pastor

[@nijaparis]

All these points are so accurate with my observations and it shows how common these problems are. I am happy you made this video. God bless you Ma.

[@jewel6646]

The minute PM opens her mouth, there is need for a carpenter o 🗣because tables will be destroyed😂

[@tranquilmomentswithme7643]

You're so funny 😂😂😂😂

[@daphnieozioma]

Even foundations are destroyed

[@TORITSEJUOYOR]

🤣🤣

[@tochiernest5284]

hahahaha you are here too lol, well she is the great table destroyer of all time.

[@tithemidozard2854]

I just love listening to You 🥺😍

[@graceimevbore]

May God continue to bless you ma! You are a gift to our generation.

[@aimeez0440]

Leading is not eating two meats when everyone eats one 😄😄😄 Pst M dishes out wisdom with great examples. God bless you for all you do ma..😍🤩

[@musiki9550]

Hey Aimeez, your so-called Pst Mildred Kingsley is a false pastor. A woman absolutely can't be a pastor. It's not biblical. This woman is a minister of Satan as well as her Husband. They are both false pastors. Please read the Bible carefully and always read it and God will edify you to understand that a woman can absolutely not be a pastor. It's a real seduction in the Christianity in these end times.

[@damikasim1576]

Iiikkrr soo much wisdom😁😄 I was incredibly blessed 🙏🏽❤️

[@adebowalegbenga4316]

Actually that your second mistake, Maam is a major reason I pity most Mr Romantic. I don't envy them at all, it's like digging your own grave. U kneel to propose, u do a lot of paparazzi on her birthday..blah blah blah. Can you sustain that? Is that truly who you are...?

[@photogenie7298]

@ #3. I like that "as Christ loved the church", we must also understand that Christ love is unconditional but the relationship is conditional it comes with expectations.

[@ntini101]

Then after wedding....I said uncle in advance because I saw it coming haha 😂I love you PM you’re character rubes off on me it makes me become Bold!

[@e.m.a.8862]

8:20 mins is a great point. It doesn’t mean anything to whom?

[@daughterofgod3995]

Every man seems to know about submission of wife but very few understand the concept of loving their wife the way CHRIST loves the church.

[@Jynx_Vivi]

That's very true.

[@myenne4136]

It’s begins with knowing Christ first

[@seunaina4132]

Thats why we must be intentional about who we choose as our head...confirming from God who knows our future that we are not putting our lives in the hands of a man who would not honor God first.

[@theworldviewers3586]

@@seunaina4132 , that is why the Bible encourage men to marry a virgin wife not a woman who knows too much or has 15 ex.

[@mkholom]

How did the people before Jesus do it? Really!!!

[@dianeareola5795]

Greetings from London. I like your teaching so I have subscribed! Bless u 💕

[@kasanical]

Women believe in FANTASY....and men know this so men give women FANTASY when they are dating. As soon as they get married, then men start giving women REALITY!

[@dreamz776]

Women believe in fantasy.... And men know this and men give them fantasy when they are dating. As soon as they get married, the men start giving them reality

[@chinyere2090]

😂😂😂😂😂 thanks so much pastor M, I honour the christ in you. You have been a great blessing to my mind and soul. Love you 😍, you are bless with all blessings

[@musiki9550]

She is not a pastor. A woman can't be a pastor. Please read the Bible and stop the seduction going on.

[@MRDOA66]

Thank you for inspiring message.

[@teejay5432]

Haha I always freak about my husband driving too close behind other cars and he insists the distance is fine. Then I count the 3 second gap and realise his estimation is spot on.

[@breeokhueleigbe1137]

This is so true!😂😂hubby says somethings and I have this blank look on my face. I’m always like please don’t be telling me things half half!! Be clear🤣🤣. He doesn’t understand why I just don’t get some terms🤣

[@LuziaSSilva-qx6qv]

Thank you Auntie! Someone really needs to talk to the men as well!👍🏾

[@ebuehidamilola6324]

Please, sorry to ask this away from the topic What is the hair on Pastor M called? I like the colour. It's so cool

[@aimeez0440]

Looks like passion twists

[@dalisobandatv3924]

@@aimeez0440 No it is Costa Rica... it is really nice 😍

[@chukwumaudokporo2586]

Quite interesting points you made. The amplified version you read did justice to the role of a man as the head. God bless you for such wonderful Godly counsels.

[@daveondiekaaron2204]

I Needed This One 🙏

[@chiomailoanusi9204]

God bless you for this Ma🤗

[@glamourvicky7585]

Thanks for this, they skip their own part always

[@VictorChukwubirmingham]

The moment she said, wife are you watching with your husband, look him in the face and ask "Are you cherishing me" 😂😂. Even carpenter will not be able to repair this table we have been protecting for long...

[@dadakeshinro6749]

Africa is really in CRISIS!!!🙄

[@johnsonoffeideh]

A woman's submission to her husband is a response to a man loving his wife as Jesus Christ exemplified. submission comes no other way.

[@johnsonoffeideh]

@@eniolaenioluwabo7784 not sure you caught my drift, all I tried to say is this: submission is the direct product of love, especially a man loving his wife.

[@futurepowerenergy8830]

Ephesians 5:22-24 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

[@mkholom]

Where did Jesus say this?

[@owenolowu9161]

If you read your Bible well sir/ma you would realise that one comes before the other and submission comes first. A sane man would automatically love a woman who submits to him. Love before submission is usually not guaranteed. But submission first usually leads to unlimited love. Read your Bible accordingly.

[@johnsonoffeideh]

@@futurepowerenergy8830 it's amazing how our completely ignore verse 25 where husbands are told to go all out in loving their wives (the message)

[@lesjean8530]

Married men only made 1 mistake. They got married.

[@lichanngullie5766]

: )

[@ubahakidiobiora5046]

Gbam. ..that's the only Truth.

[@shulestuff]

😁😁

[@oluchukwuobioma1127]

Oya stay unmarried and celibate

[@Oops202]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@joskyshams4758]

Wisdom is your other name

[@Rees-Howells]

"We are not averse to chefs" 😂😂😂😂😂. I hear you ma! God bless you ma

[@SuruLereinLasGidi]

Pastor M ❤️❤️. Always a joy to hear from you.

[@chinyereorji6686]

Hi PST Mo. Thank you so much for this message. Yes,I am guilty of point one. ( I am a woman ohh ,proudly!!!}. I repent and "will continue with what I started." Love you pastor😘.

[@Brendanimos]

My husband send me this link about 7 mistake married women make wow ihave followed you in all your pages

[@mikelantern148]

Hahaha made me laugh on a few pointers lol very true from my experiences with women. It can be frustrating sometimes.

[@chinwe5527]

The men will not now comment like the way they commented on Women's videos😒

[@taimakoanjugu4754]

Pst. M, tnx 4 sharing. It's true dat Some or most men discontinue what they were doing previously. But it's very pertinent to probe into why men do so. Don't forget dat even salivation can b lost. Very important !!!

[@Thebhramedells1]

So I come here to get my sanity back , like no matter how stress I am I just need to watch or listen to PM then am okk .calm n ready again 🥰.love you ma

[@bukkyolukoya8626]

Thank you pastor M, me I think is just the African culture to be honest, I think the culture has taught them once they marry the wife that's it, that's all the the achievement they need to achieve. And that they don't need to lift a finger any longer, expecting the wife to do everything and just work it out. It's a culture thing! And the most annoying part is it is the older women who are supposed to know better ( the older women like the mum, the sisters, or just even some frustrated relative) that are culprit. Whereas as you said ma, marriage right from the beginning is not a job of just one person, in every aspect. So It is time that those men starts to adopt God's culture/ the Bible's culture, and not listen to what people or cultures are telling them. But to start loving their wives as Christ loves the church. It's a marathon, it's not a sprint. God instituted marriage it therefore has to be done God's way. Amen But first the man needs to submit to Christ so that his wife will also fall in line and then submit to him. Amen🙏 Amen

[@Thrivegrl24]

Hi 👋🏾 American (Caribbean descent) here it’s not just an African culture thing it’s a lot of these men thing .

[@seanregehr4921]

Woman and men are not totally different. How they chose to act is the only difference that exists. You say that woman are not good spatially; ie: with spaces/spacing. There is nothing to support this at all. It only has to do with familiarity. Of course someone who has plenty of experience in an area will perform better than one who has little to no experience in that same area. The example of driving and not thinking the same way has very little to do with this issue. It is simply an issue of the correct understanding concerning the context. If someone is taking the time to instruct you how to drive, then logically any instruction they give should be assumed to be in that same context. The real issue here is the remaining effects from a male dominated way of life over many years. I know you mean well, but unless people deal with the Truth then nothing else matters. The Truth is that in God's sight marriage is what people call sex, when two flesh, a man and a woman, become one. Knowing the Truth, any man or woman whether married or not, must treat all people well. There is nothing that changes after being married other than having committed yourself to another person. All the problems that reveal themselves in any marriage were always there from the beginning, prior to marriage. People make way too many excuses for themselves because it is always easier to blame something or someone than to accept accountability and deal with it. eg: A man that does not treat his wife well, does not treat women well in general. A woman that does not treat her husband well, does not treat men well in general. One major contributing factor is either a man or woman thinking they only have to treat some people well: ie: favoritism. This then leaves them free to treat others any way. The problem is the moment things are not going smooth and you face some rocky situations, their True colors come out as it becomes easy to not see their spouse in that light of favoritism.

[@sizwenxumalo3925]

Interesting thing you cite here man. This is the problem with accountability, responsibility, self-awareness and boxing genders up. What's more glaring is the difference between how she addresses 7 mistakes between men and women in her videos the subtle lack of accountability in women and more of in women. I guess this alludes to the common narrative of the 'difference' between men and women.

[@jultimpeter5788]

Nice one

[@erejo3274]

Yeah women and men are different in some sense. Read the book men are like waffles women are like spaghetti

[@musiki9550]

Hey Sean, I like your post. You are totally right some people run away from being accountable of their own wrong ways of doing things to others.

[@mariamajiboye1011]

90 percent of men won't watch this video, 3 percent won't even watch the video to 5 minutes. Egoistic set of beings 😂😂

[@adelekeakinlabi4408]

That's a wrong generalisation.

[@lovejoynleya5791]

My sister. You are qiute wrong in this broad n ignorant generalization

[@dejomolawoyin6402]

Ur statistics are out this 🌎

[@SuzetteKhiba]

I always enjoy your sessions pastor M. Thank you so much for the insight. ❤️❤️ #suzettekeybah

[@hadassahkasukumya3359]

Uncle lol

[@judahlawani7057]

I really like the way you talk. You're way funnier than Pastor Kingsley😁

[@chinwe5527]

I just loooovvveeee Pastor Mildred😍😍😍😍❤❤❤❤❤

[@SLImmt82]

Thank God my wife has not seen this yet. I hope so and that she never does because maybe it will become the bible of our home. But I have learnt alot from here though

[@AmaraLobe]

Marriage is to heavy for only one person to carry

[@yayahjabbie1897]

There are most men with the same attitude like women!

[@jonnybravo9485]

Marriage no easy oh, so all these are expected from me. Nkechi pls we go wait small. I can't kill myself

[@harrystylz8481]

Na so ooo. Only men will do everything

[@yummymumwithaurelia260]

🤣🤣

[@jonnybravo9485]

@@yummymumwithaurelia260 lol

[@puritykendi389]

From Kenya. I love your teachings

[@thendykrystyna8184]

🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪yes... always camping here

[@redeemed17]

Is it my AirPods? The voice doesn’t match the movement or gestures?

[@tochiernest5284]

women are really very different from men.

[@egbukwuprince]

Just the seven? 🤦🏻‍♂️😅

[@anthonydafenuneawoefe8770]

Lol typical women can do no wrong and a mans sole purpose on earth is to entertain serve take care off cater for a woman, grown ups thinking they are babies that need 24hr care

[@chibyk2008]

I kinda noticed any good message for men is also good for women

[@functional_Psychology]

is not people’s job to like you. That is your job. Stop getting upset when people don’t like you. It is like getting upset when people don’t do your job for you. It is a sign you have not learnt to love yourself. Self love is the very best love

[@rutendo_commentary]

Cant wait for this one

[@byrnenoel6317]

1. Thinking that men and women are the same. 2. Not finishing what you started 3. Wanting a wife, not ready to be a husband 4. Failure to lead 5. Loving your wife as Christ loves the church

[@naumewauda9467]

😂😂..unco just stopd...😂😂

[@danielchulu2198]

Not finishing what you started? Women shouLd also know that things are never the same always.Need to adapt to change. Foolish to ask why for any deviation. Sometimes change is natural.: Change in appetite, treatment, sex ,behaviour should be accommodated. Had an accident that changed my sexual performance, she sued me for sexual starvation.IS THIS NOT FINISHING WHAT I STARTED???

[@tauzin7]

I have also observed that quite a (lot) of women no longer dress or do things for their husbands. There is a lot of individualism being peddled by social media and popular speakers. Women like to lead and then clash head-on with men in the home. Sadly, feminism is now in the church. In our country a good number of families can afford maids (house helpers) and this has taken the load off the wives. But the wives still complain of being tired and busy. This is because women are also hustling like men because they are pursuing personal goals. The traditional family no longer exists. Children are being raised by TV and internet because there is nobody at home for them. These are the children who will become men and women who don't understand love, submission etc because they never learned it practically. The wife has a her own vision and has no time to support the husband (the reason she was created is to help the husband and society twisted it now wives are chasing their own dreams which may take them away from the husband and family). It's the same thing as women leading ministry. They are leading men and extend the same to their husbands. Divorce rates are shooting up because we have ignored Scriptures about family and marriage. We are emphasising happiness (selfish carnal happiness). Check how many prominent ministers have divorced - my take on the reasons for such is the breaking down of the traditional family. We have become more and more Westernised instead of growing in Christ. Marriage is no longer sacrosanct - it's more about me, myself and I. Happiness has been redefined. Scripture is now always conveniently applied, the hard verses are avoided instead of asking God for the grace to obey. Our environment is anti-marriage and anti-family. I believe these teachings will help us become better husbands and wives and raise children who will follow the same footsteps.

[@markowusuadjei8142]

they dnt appreciate every bit of it, so we too stop what we use to do

[@africanqueenmo]

Your job is to obey God not women

[@moeketsifephiwe5678]

Thanks very much for most of the things said they all make sense .I am impressed by the fact that you're practicing marriage. However ,seeing that you believe in prayer to solve problems. The question is too much devotion to church (prophet)by women had destroyed many marriages.

[@tauzin7]

Insightful and rich points there. I would like to understand if the statement that a (lot) of women are not happy in marriage is a direct result of men's mistakes or women are also unhappy in their singleness? If women are not happy it follows that men are also not happy in marriage. I don't know a man who is happy around a an unhappy woman. As a woman, be hungry for success as an individual and personally develop yourself and you will see that your husband can't but notice your development. Don't do it out of competition or to prove a point, but do it because it's a good thing to do. The same applies to men. We must focus on our own personal development and not give that responsibility to the wife. The wife can only help.

[@francisabdulpauldumbuya958]

well said. do you have a WhatsApp group where you share theses valuable advice.

[@onyiinyechukwu]

Thank you Pastor Isi😂😂😂🔥🔥

[@adoniamakukufoundation]

Your points are contradicting Mildred. 1. When you mentioned about 7 mistakes women make you talked about " women not being the main project" 2. Now you're talking about men finishing what they started. As men we can't do that cuz women are not the main project as you said.

[@aminyuurebenjamin9285]

Thank you so much. Very inspiring and insightful. I have been so much blessed

[@oluremilekunajayi573]

I have been waiting for this 👍👍👍👍

[@krayonnesilva390]

Women your problems are really so many. That's why many men die before their time. Thanks PM for the exposé.

[@godwinobozuwa7731]

Thanks for the message. Mind including the word SOME MEN or MOST MEN instead of just saying MEN cos some MEN are close to perfection as you teach. Some men or most men are making these mistakes and not all men or MEN. No offense Ma, it's just a minor observation 😁😁😁

[@duncanlumadede8450]

Listening

[@thechroniclesofbecoming]

All the women say Amen😂😂🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️

[@kamauthiongo7710]

Hey dear... great content. But would you mind having a male guest on such a segment given that its targeted to men. I believe that would add more value

[@vivianolima8487]

You never dissapoint pastor M.Cant wait to hear what you have in store for us

[@Matthew-hh6ex]

If a man say something a woman will remember until until, there where does she put this 1 Corinthians 13, provided she is a believer ?? If she can tell me things I will forget, why can't she do the same since the word of God is noth for her and I to obey?

[@solomonbalogun6545]

1)Men and women are same 2)Not finishing what she started 3)Wanting a wife but not being a husband.

[@danielkoranteng5227]

It's easy to say these Ma, but how about women who don't want to change and see attempts to make them better, as you are rather not appreciating them for who they are? It gets disappointing when all the investment you are trying to make in your woman is not taken as serious as it should.

[@itunuadeyemo-ft1hp]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@victoredeh2479]

This table doesn't have leg at all. Mummy you can know how to shake table ehh

[@chinemeremeze4918]

😂😂😂 Mama said there's a roasting to be done.

[@dalisobandatv3924]

Elders know how to talk to us... Long Live Pastor M we'll start Roasting..😍😍😍

[@georgenyasudi4060]

@@dalisobandatv3924 and processing 😂😂😂

[@LivingLight]

😃😃 you are so funny hey...Uncle are you willing to die for her😅🤪🤣

[@kaibtr1083]

Am I the only person looking down the comments to glance through the 7 common mistakes .

[@tonywaema3839]

Isn't it selfish for women to give what they can't take?

[@annariji3385]

Hahaha finish what you started... Really they are confusing 😂😂😂😂

[@the_tejumade]

But what happens when a man cheats, confessed & apologized. What should the wife do?

[@ebonyelevation7705]

Follow the leading of the Holy Spirit on that as well as Christian counseling, human wisdom is wasted on this. Per the scriptures, the woman has an "out" of the relationship. Seek the face of God on what you want to do, every situation is unique, the Holy Spirit is the one to provide clarity. The question is what do you want to do? Shalom dear....

[@the_tejumade]

@@ebonyelevation7705 Thank you. Actually it happened to someone close to me. And it's causing big issues in the family. The husband thought the wife had forgiven him but everything is escalating now. They are both believers. The wife says she wants out. But the husband still believes in them.

[@the_tejumade]

@@ebonyelevation7705 I don't understand how she has an out option based on the scripture. What if this man didn't confess, what if she never gets to know. The man confessed & apologized out of sincerity & openness not because he wants to continue to make the same mistake.

[@Abishaiah]

@@the_tejumade Greetings dear lady. Irrespective or regardless of whether the person confesses or apologises, the Bible mentions adultery as grounds for divorce ( Matthew 5:31-32, 19:9) but does not require it. So the choice lies with the betrayed spouse to decide whether to stay or go. If you Google a phrase like "when does the bible allow or permit divorce" you will see a ton of biblical material. Every woman has thier limit of what they will or will not accept and if she decides that her trust in him is too damaged and the pain to deep. It is best to let her go in peace rather than remain in a marriage she will fill with resentment, quiet unforgiveness and anger in her heart towards him

[@augustacookeygam5579]

@@the_tejumade it depends on the gravity of the offense

[@TOPSYCURVEY]

Point number 1 as been my struggle for the past 6 years.. I’m not a MAN and don’t expect me to receive corrections harshly and pointing of figures as well.. I have decided not to talk about it again and be quiet for the rest of the marriage.

[@Jays_tribe]

I feel your pain 😞

[@mwebazechristy5063]

I love how you speak to me

[@victoriaogunsanya9074]

Keep reigning Ma

[@functional_Psychology]

Great mistake men make indeed. I think Women should learn to understand men.

[@Jelaskingdom_]

Enh hehh! Nothing but facts being spoken❗️

[@redbunnyclassic]

14:35 "You will roast her"....Is she suya of love? 🥰 Asking for a friend.