7 Reasons Why The Dismissive Avoidant Doesn't Chase After A Breakup

[@KatyaMorozova]

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[@Mebach10]

Hi Katya. I love your content. Do you know anything about the DA’s and being/feeling physically sick, constantly. High bloodpressure, headaches, dizzyness, and being in a constant mode of melankoli? Mette - Denmark 🇩🇰

[@somethinggood9267]

These people will distance themselves from you and then blame you for breaking up with them as if they had no part in the matter

[@oldkingpole876]

Dismissive Avoidants make pretty shitty lovers tbh. If they left you, you dodged a bullet.

[@charliebotzman6423]

So basically we should just keep moving forward, no matter how much we love/d this person and might hope they will one day find their way back to us. Got it.

[@Julesyoutoo]

@charliebotzman6423 Yep, you got it. Even if the DA loves/loved us the same way, we've just got to keep moving forward. "The only way out is through." as they say.

[@kellyseager8163]

@@Julesyoutoo I’m not entirely sure I understand what you guys are trying to say… Do you mean just keep moving away from DA ex, or moving toward them and hope they respond favorably?

[@plusone8015]

Don’t trip over what’s already behind you…

[@sandrabell1999]

Asked for a break as we both had our own family issues...pushed away and gradually ghosted. He's now distracted with other women on FB & MSGR

[@norswil8763]

Partner and attachment dynamics aren’t as black-and-white as that. Yes, you move forward with confidence and composure no matter how much you love them. But upon leaving declare this, tell them you respect their decision but make it clear that you didn’t want it. From there it’s NC, but if you can indirectly leverage friends and social media to subtly flaunt how good your life is, you can live well independently of them(very typically they felt smothered or threatened with what felt like a codependent dynamic) they’ll be attracted to that. If they loved you, if it was genuine and special, they’ll be back, hopefully also grown and hopefully also more aware of their attachment triggers and how to regulate the behaviours. This is what I have done, I have attracted my DA back, seeing her tonight actually and I can tell she feels comfortable again - I understand her attachment needs and she knows that, she had also done a lot of work. So it can be done, you both have to want it to work, just like any couple with any attachment style and dynamic.

[@Jackietreehorn-z5e]

There was no breakup...they ghosted me and act like nothing happened. So strange. Never had an argument. Got along great. They get close..they get scared, and then they run. Too much pressure. So f...d up😊

[@DoomKid]

Happened to me as well. It genuinely feels like she actively doesn't want love - but there's all those times she so clearly does.. hurts..

[@blaria95]

Dude same! That was my ending too. It sucks. :(.

[@JA99]

DA broke up with me during a fight in a store 2 months ago. Kept saying throughout the short relationship that we were "incompatible" but when i asked for examples they seemed more like flaw finding, picking me apart. We are extremely compatible, and i think that scared him as we got closer.

[@Julesyoutoo]

@JA99 Yep, it's pretty typical for a DA to end it with someone when they have strong feelings for them. The intense emotions can scare them silly, and so they run for the hills. Like you say, it's also typical of them to find faults. The fear drives them to pick on the tiniest imperfections in order to shield themselves from getting too close. Closeness makes us vulnerable, and an avoidant can't stand being vulnerable. After a 4 year relationship with a DA ended earlier this year, I am only just beginning to recover my confidence and get back to my normal, healthy self. The chemistry was there, the connection was there, the attraction, the intellectual compatibility, our values, hobbies and geographical location: they were all there. And it scared the HELL out of him. My recommendation to you? Get some help from Kayta before you lose yourself to this man!

[@roberttorres6552]

​​@@Julesyoutoo You have good understanding. As a DA, i can tell you they baby themselves when in survival mode(99% of the time). They were family mascots, black sheep or outsider. This is in their sub-counciousness. They are going to pick you apart to find out how you are going to hurt them. They are closed off. They need love, but reject the pain that comes with it. They need a psychologist more than a lover. But, be friends, this is safe mode for them. If you need an intimate lover go else where and save your dignity. Keep in mind, each DA is on a different spectrum of being a DA, so cracking the code on a DA will be different for each DA.

[@JA99]

@@roberttorres6552 thanks this was very helpful

[@roberttorres6552]

​@@JA99You are welcome. Do be friends with DAs they can be good friends. Getting into a romantic relationship without a strong friendship is a no no. My opinion. Honesty goes a long ways, so does consistency.

[@brentwilson9618]

Same thing happened to me, but she wouldnt even give me a reason. I met her kids and we talked about moving in and things were going well. One tiny argument over text ended it all. She ghosted me for 4 days and broke up via text. Honestly, at the end of the day its a sign this person wasnt ready for something real. DA attachment or not

[@ShaeZamm]

Some people don't do second chances, do overs, or entertain games. It's just silly to think you can play a game and have a former SO chase you. If someone didn't care enough or value you appropriately, they don't get to stay nor return.

[@MatrixGamingINC]

They initiated the breakup. I just accepted although i was hurt. I didn't beg or plead. She genuinely had a lot going on in life, I saw everything behind the scenes. She also has iron deficient anemia so she was always exhausted after work. She claimed that she was still in love with me, she just couldn't deal with the pressure of a relationship while her life was so up in the air so to speak. There's more complexities to her situation that i won't get into. Been no contact as of the day of the breakup. It's been about 11 days and so far I'm going okay. Still really think she's the one, just not sure if she will reach out. We had a great relationship, nothing but positive for the most part. Still pushing on.

[@nathancollins5822]

update

[@norswil8763]

Yeah, any update? It sounds like my situation.

[@lmart16]

I feel like you made this video specifically for me, so thank you. Previously, they let me go or we both decided to cut ties and they came back in 45 days. He was quick to set a boundary of expectations but it got fuzzy again. Then, when I finally snapped, I did it horribly and hurt him, I would imagine. After a few months, I did reach out and he rejected it. So I closed down after two attempts and cut all ties. Since, he's been the last to reach out twice and idk what he's thinking, but he didn't get a rise out of me either time. I think he's used to being chased and as an FA, I can only do it so many times before I give up - even if it's something I would really want. And, to touch base, I've noticed a lot of my exes who are avoidants (no matter who ended the relationship) have reached out just to set the record straight and ensure that I know they want to be "friends" or whatever. They initiate the chats, knowing well enough I might bite their heads off and might be angry or upset, and they express wanting me to know that it's okay if I reach out to them, or to let me know they think there's no hard feelings between us. I think a common way for avoidants to try to keep the door open for later might be reaching out to lower the stress or hostility in a lost situation. It's really weird. I'll tell you all about it when I reach out within the next few months. Love your videos, keep 'em coming!

[@KatyaMorozova]

Hi! Thanks for sharing. And I’m glad you connected to this video. I look forward to hearing from you in the future. 🙏

[@kellyseager8163]

Any news?

[@droflivelife]

4 months of no contact and I'm now realising she's gone for good. We were talking kids, rings, marriage, house, and she left one day to the next because we could not agree on her needing space and me being needy. I'm still traumatised but slowly healing. I won't reach out. I have only one thing left, my dignity. Thanks for the video, she knows I'll always be needy and not accept her micro cheating.

[@WillRedzOfficial]

Need an update in the future, happy thoughts your way

[@marks9948]

i think it’s important to remember neediness is not always a bad trait. it’s okay to be needy in parts. their problem is they are so far the opposite direction. i’d recommend reading into attachment styles, it’s helped me move forward with this

[@mk9199]

Your clearly incompatible if you can't respect or come to agreement over DA core need (space) and your neediness. Accept it and move on, DA don't actually want to be chased after split usually it feels icky and low-key stalkerish

[@droflivelife]

@mk9199 that was a few months ago, I've definitely moved on. But I know she use to stalk her ex before me, so it's a bit contradicting.

[@archangelelmo]

Did your ex ever reach out to you

[@hugorabe4395]

Thanks for the vid, I guess more or less all these points hit it with my DA ex, especially the fact that I always has been the one who chased her. But I am tired of it and she is in a rebound anyway and now she tells me that I trigger her trauma by not chasing her and just staying radiosilent. As a FA myself, I have the exact feeling of just not being good enough - something I think anyway though I am a highly skilled professional. But in the end, we both are just not meant for each other and though some aspects of our relationship were just amazing I will not show any low-value behaviour by chasing her even though she is in a relationship with somebody else. It is just crazy that the DA breakup with you and expect you to chase them or they will increase the distance with each passing day. Better to let them go for good.

[@robertadcox8419]

So they purposely damage the relationship even if its good because of fears of their upbringing. Understandable and I experience that. So after an odd sort of breakup they get even funnier in their views of you despite the fact you did nothing. So after the breakup, the wall gets even higher than the original relationship that resulted in a breakup. They don't like to chase because of what you said which is what I observed in my relationship. You have to read their mind because they are definitly not going to read yours to try to understand what you did to make them upset in the first place. I gave up on my three year relationship because no matter what I did, the relationship was great, that's right great but she was like always at stage one. Its like you'r in a relationship with yourself. I have ambivalent feelings for DA's but I couldn't do it anymore and walked away. The relationship still haunts me because she still wants me to be in a relationship with her and for the life of me cannot figure out why.

[@wilvarosa9336]

DA's are a curse from the pit of hell 😒🙌🏽 move on. Its not worth it

[@marthawatkins7184]

Sad isn’t it?! Especially considering you know they really do love you and want to be loved but they just have this block!

[@dmitryisaev5955]

I was an AP and did chase. Now I broke that toxic and unfair pattern. Being secure I am sticking to myself - repair and chase is on their side… don’t care about her „mechanism“. The villain must repent seriously or else.

[@joelleweaver9609]

I initiated. I did think it was repairable.However they were not willing to communicate or work on the issue. I was very hurt that they were not willing to work on it. I felt used and foolish for getting so attached.

[@angelascott3055]

I wish I could talk to you. We experienced the same thing and I'm hurting.

[@durgaprasana5531]

So many men are in pain due to bad women.

[@DeeDeex007o]

I don't chase men because I find it pathetic. If you are chasing that means someone is running. Let Forest run free!

[@lindsay3793]

Hurting 💔🥺

[@KatyaMorozova]

I’m sorry to hear that. Hugs. 🙏

[@dusenstrahlverfahren]

I understand now she is gone.

[@nilesengerman8263]

You could basically make this video a whole lot shorter by saying these people are a lost cause.

[@coreyhull8658]

She is not chasing because of every single one of these! I am doomed!

[@bjohnson8820]

I feel ya. my ex doesn't have all these but a lot of them.

[@KatyaMorozova]

I’m glad this video resonated but sorry that you feel doomed. 🙏

[@coreyhull8658]

@@KatyaMorozova you are helping me a lot! Thank you!

[@plusone8015]

Doomed to dodge bullets ain't so bad... Avi: Why do they call him the bullet dodger? Tony: Because he dodges bullets, Avi. - Snatch 😇

[@droflivelife]

Can you do a video on how to communicate to an avoidant that they are an avoidant. No one does that.

[@jtothec1234]

Can anyone give me advice on my situation? My ex of 8 years broke up with me 2 months ago. We were engaged. I look back now, maybe it was the commitment that scared him? I was also being really clingy and needy the last 2 months before the breakup happened. He said he purposely avoided me recently and he was aware he couldn't communicate. I had fights with him about being intimate and not romantic (which now I know it triggered him). To make it CLEAR: he asked for a break at first. Said he didn't know if he wanted to be with me, that he needed space for a month, and that he thinks there is someone out there better for him. He also said we'll probably break up anyways, which is confusing cause i'm thinking well then just break up with me now? I gave him a week space, but called ONLY because of advice from ppl saying he was just mad and didn't mean it as usually I break up with him and he begs for me back (he rarely breaks up with me). Also, we've never been apart from each other for more than 2 days. I called and apologized and now knowing I also said loving things that probably scared/trigged/turned him off more. Like the comments i'm reading on here, we're very compatible and same values but said we're not compatible. My question is do you think he will come back? I heard DA's don't but some people say they've experienced multiple DA's come back and even some a few times. I also know some people say don't waste your time with them, they're so messed up which is true. But for me, i'm willing to work on myself to be secure and to put the effort and patience into the relationship. I know I should also have boundaries which I didn't before. It just breaks my heart he is the way he is because of childhood trauma and even though he hurt me, I know he doesn't mean too. It's just how DA's operate and they can't control or understand why they do these things to people they love. I also know they have to be willing to do the work and fix themselves because no one can except them. Sorry for the long paragraphs! 😂 I just helps to know i'm not alone and that people who know or date DA's can relate to what i'm going through.

[@Betuelvalladares]

I and rose had 5 years together. It was amazing. We met at church and our first date was at church. Everything was going well until her mom met a guy that became her lover. They keep their relationship secret from the public even tho they do know. So only they and me and gf know in terms of telling us. Out of these 5 years. The past half of the year I seen her act different towards me. In other words she acts less affection towards me and more towards her mother. At first it didn't bother me but then it got worse. She always wanted to be with her mom even when I take her out she is always on a phone call with her mom or texting her mom. So it's when I started to discuss the situation but my ex never wanted to admit or open her eyes on how it's affecting our relationship. Then her mom started leaving her home alone while she stays with the guy for days. And I had to be there for my ex because she would cry. Of course all I can do is hug her and say "I'm here for you" I would go buy her something to eat and we watch movies until It was time for me to go home and I would call her until she sleeps. Somtimes she would call me at midnight because she can't sleep. I was always there for her. But no matter what I do to be there for her I feel like im not enough for her. Because when she's with her mom her affectionate side is more loving towards her. The mom knows this and uses her to get what she wants. And it hurts me seeing things like that. Seeing my ex being so blind to the situation. And yes I would tell her and we would end up arguing almost all the time about it. At first when she would ignore me I would think she is cheating. But it's because I'm a guy. And I would accuse her because I would get so frustrated. Yes I know im not perfect and I would always apologize about it. She would end up hurt and I would always feel bad about it. 5 weeks ago I reached my limit. At this point I would be doing anything my ex wanted so she can remain happy. And well she of course always wanted to be with her mom. I find myself in a complicated situation with my girlfriend of nearly five years, and I could really use some advice. Lately, she seems to be unable to acknowledge her mistakes and prefers to make excuses rather than engaging in meaningful conversations to resolve our issues. It's frustrating because she's become so focused on her mom, who doesn't treat her right and consistently prioritizes her boyfriend over her own daughter. Sadly, my girlfriend either accepts this treatment or is blind to it, leaving me feeling neglected. I reached a breaking point when I suggested taking her out for a meal after church, but she insisted on going with her mom and her mom's boyfriend instead. I pleaded with her to spend some quality time alone, but she brushed off my request and ignored my emotional distress. Unable to hold back my tears any longer, I broke down in front of her, hoping it would make her understand the depth of my feelings. But even then, she continued to make excuses, leaving me feeling lost and unsure of what to do next. A day later she ghosted me. She turned off her location and I would send messages about what to do with the dog but to this day no answer. I got worried it's boy of her to do that maybe something has happened? That Wednesday I went church to help out at a choir. I saw her mom come to the mass but not my girlfriend. So after mass I went to go say hi to her mom but she acted wierd with me so I asked If we can talk outside. She said yes. And so we did. She then told me that my girlfriend doesnt want to talk to me anymore that she doesn't see a future with me and wants me out. And at first i didn't believe it because it's literally not like her to act this way. So I told her mom respectfully she can't be the one to break us up. That my girlfriend has to come and do it for the respect of 5 years. Her mom then bluntly said 5 years is just a number and it doesn't matter. I got offended and I told her it's not just a number but years of me taking care of her daughter with love. We came into an agreement where her mom said she was gonna call me in her phone because my girlfriend will not call me in her phone. And that her mom has to be present. That was outrageous but it's the only hope I had left to see if my girlfriend means what she wants. I got a phone call later that night will the mom was yelling at me putting images on my girlfriend making it seem like if I force her to call me. Then I told her that's not true that is was her plan. So then I spoke with my girlfriend. She told me she doesn't know what to do and that she is just tired of what's been happening. And I told her we can fix this and she said there's nothing to fix anymore. I told her it's been 5 years that she can't just throw it away. And her mom cut me off saying to stop confusing her and that I'm hurting her. I ignored her mom because her mom already had a plan to make things worse. I told my girlfriend that I love her so much and she told me she does too but that she is just tired of the problems. Then I said if she needed space and she said yes. So that was the agreement. We hung up. That night I kept crying and couldn't sleep. The next day I decided to go to her house and when I got there I knocked on the door and told my girlfriend to just hear me out and to talk. She didn't answer. Then I told her she didn't even need to open the door that all she has to do is listen to me and I can leave. To just give me 3 minutes of what I have to say and I will leave. Then her mom comes home and said what's going on. And I told her I just wanted to talk to her. Then her mom threatened me with the cops and told me I shouldn't be forcing her out of the house. And I told her that whatever she is thinking is not true I told my girlfriend to just hear me by the door that she didn't even need to open the door. And well her mom ignored me went to the door and yelled at my girlfriend to get out of the house. My girlfriend did and then she told her to break up with me ASAP. then that's when my girlfriend looks at me and says "I'm done" then I told her to please not to do this to us and she said I don't listen to her and that she has no choice now. Then I said are you serious after 5 years you're gonna leave me just like that? Then her mom cut me off again and said 5 years is just a number. Again I ignored the mom. I told my girlfriend Okay if you want to break up tell me then. She then said she can't tell me that because it's hard for her to get it out of her mouth. Then I said okay then give me the promise ring. And she refused to give it back. After a while of talking and crying. I left. The next day I went to disconnect thier phones because they were under my name. Yes I was upset. I help these people for 5 years and they left me like trash? So yes I disconnected the phones. My mother found out and guided me with the process in canceling the phones. We found out my girlfriends mom owes money to the phones so we went to where she works to leave the receipts. Doing that my girlfriends mom gets upset and starts ranting on what happened. My mom defended me telling her how much I been helping them behind thier backs and how much of a good man I've been to the both of them. And that it was very disrespectful the way they humiliated me in thier house. My girlfriends mom kept fighting and my mom kept defending me and well my girlfriends mom ended up crying. We left. I felt bad for her making things worse than how they are. Later that night I get a random number text. It was my ex. She says I owe them 400$ for all the years I "borrowed" money from them. That's ridiculous honestly because in that case they then owe me more than 3 thousand dollars. But I kept quiet and I wanted to show them the respect they did not show me. So yes I put the money in an envelope with a long letter of me apologizing how things happened and that I love her and to remember the memories we made. That she is the love of my life. I also left a booth picture we took. When I handed her the envelope my body reacted and I said "I love you"... she didn't say anything and I feel like she acted like she didn't hear me. Days past and at church I would see my ex like she's fine but I look into her eyes and I see she looks guilty and or upset. We don't talk. She doesn't even come near me. Last week I left a gift at her car. And her mom gave it to her grandma. And my ex refused to look at it. And since then I started no contact.

[@JOEYDEEZ369]

Never ever chase a guy it’s just so uncool - never commit to any old man just so uncool - never hurry love just so uncool - never look for your validation from a relationship or from a man just so uncool - never be so desperate for a relationship that you ignore red flags just so uncool - never online date just so uncool - never change who you naturally are for the sake of keeping an already dead relationship just so uncool Move on love yourself above all others (except your children of course) be happy - live by the ‘Im gonna show em’ rather than tell ‘‘em’ mantra… all of the aforementioned works/has worked for me just fine thank you ! Cheers Ttfn;)

[@toddrick916]

Cool!❤

[@JOEYDEEZ369]

@@toddrick916 hahahah yessir… many thanks for your cool reply Mr Cool ;)’

[@mhill88ify]

Regardless of attachment style, you should never expect someone to chase if you break up with them....I know it happens, but those people have low self-esteem. People who value themselves won't do that. As someone who leans DA, you can count on me (or other DA's) not reaching out if you break it off...it's pure foolishness to wait on that, if that's what anyone here is doing. It's your job to reach out if you end it, or you won't get us back.

[@uniquedavenport]

Lol such a avoidant response bless ya heart...

[@mhill88ify]

@@uniquedavenport Because I don't chase and honor/respect someone's wishes? Because I give someone what they ask for? Pshh, whatevs dude.

[@ryk7296]

I ended things with a DA, he got aggressive even tried to hit me. Then after a year and half he came back, begging me to take him back.

[@tarkov666]

Apparently wanting to talk more than twice a month about anything other than a car is incompossible

[@TheWritersBlockPodcast-ql4dc]

i can say i feel like I'm growing from being Anxious to more secure. however I'm dealing with what seems to be a DA or fearful. For me at this point i don't want anyone to chase me. i just don't want to end up a doormat either so i offer them what they seems to ask for. i still love her though.

[@myriampatriciarobles]

Katia, I said bad things to my avoidant ex, taking your comment about if he grew up in a hostil environment with a father who treated him with rejection all the time. I infere that must be the reason why my ex doesn't chase me at all, he's afraid to be rejected by me. What can I do in this case, cause I miss him. By the way, I've already sent an Apology to him. He only answer "Give it time".

[@Julesyoutoo]

This sounds to me as if he just wants a little bit of breathing space to recover from the things you said whilst upset. Hang on in there and give him his space, is what I say. I'm kind of an expert on attachment styles since I came out of an insecure relationship earlier this year, and am certain that, if you stick to what he's asked you, he'll reach out to you again when he's settled down. Sending you my best wishes.

[@myriampatriciarobles]

@@Julesyoutoo thank you for your advice.

[@jadegarner3357]

Any updates? My situation is similar to yours but I had broken up with him, said some mean things, and then apologized. But he ignored my apology. Did guy ever hear back from your ex?

[@myriampatriciarobles]

@@jadegarner3357 "happy Thankgiving" and "Merry Christmas" that's all. Haven't heard from him since then.

[@jadegarner3357]

Well, it isn't ideal, but you heard something back from him.... how do you feel? Or have you already moved on with your life that it doesn't phase you? @@myriampatriciarobles

[@seancallahan7426]

My ex broke up with me when i made it known i was frustrated by the lack of true intimacy. We were together 1.5 years and bought a house together after our first 6 months. After breakup i moved 12 hrs away and now she breadcrumbs me once a week. Last breadcrumb was a picture of a Christmas ornament with an inside joke. Is this her attempting to reconnect? Should i even respond? I miss her but she needs to fix this.

[@Julesyoutoo]

We can't make someone fix something, especially if they're an avoidant. Sounds to me as if she's playing the DA game with you: she can't do the intimacy thing but wants to keep you there. If your relationship was anything like mine, then I'm sorry to say that things won't get better. If I were you I'd book a session with Katya. I wish I had done so four years ago!

[@francoostolaza618]

The indirect/direct approach is common on DAs

[@tonyalee5257]

Does that mean I will have to reach out after he just ignored me when ask him to work things out with me and stopped communicating. This coming Monday will be 2 weeks. Or do I let him come back or not. His last message to me was for us to work things out I need to not be so bossy.

[@DeaDellaFortuna]

well, I wanted couple therapy but my ex didnt want to as he doesnt trust therapists! He prefered to break up... several points seem to suit, esp. that he feels, he is not good enough. After the break up, I kept contact but mostly he didnt want to asnwer. He said that he doesnt want contact as he is frightened to come back together with me. After three weeks we met (I wanted him to have contact to his child but he avoided it- he didnt hug or kiss him). On this met up, he explicitly said that he doesnt want a relationship. First he wants distance and than maybe friendship. I said no to friendship. I told him that he urgently needs therapy, and he actualy is now going to a therapist. After that I went to no contact. I dont mind if he doesnt chase me but I would like him to reach out at least. I didnt contact him as he seems to want to have space and I wanted the therapy to work on him first. Somehow I thought that he will reach out after some time of therapy. I wanted to stay in nc for almost two month and than reach out anyway. Somehow I have the feeling that he wants me to reach out, but all videos say, that I shouldnt diminish my value by "chasing" him. There are only three weeks past. I started to communicate with him after the break up via email. He normally didnt look in his email box for days, but since the break up, he looks in it every day. Every time I send an email he immediately response! I send him during nc on a Sunday evening the child support contract to sign and he immediately answered! I only realised it way too late as I already did other stuff and it was already late (about 20 h when I sent the mail). I know immediate answers have no value as it also can be politeness... but on a Sunday evening? I wanted to reach out immediately, however I try to stay in no contact for a couple of weeks and than reach out.... well, these videos give me a glim of hope.

[@myriampatriciarobles]

I break up. What should I do? Expect avoidant to chase me? Or should ai chase him.?

[@PsychotherapywithNichola]

Interesting - I wondered why I don't do this...

[@Abo18LouLoua]

I initiate the break up .. while she attached to me ,... now after breakup she doesn't want to get back at all

[@DoomKid]

That's going to be hard to undo, since you broke up with her. In my experience you will never get her trust back at all if you have broken up with her before. I'm afraid there's a 99% chance that one is over..

[@Kivlor]

_"I broke up with my SO and went No Contact. Why aren't they chasing after me, pining and trying to win me back?!"_ Well, this doesn't sound like a super manipulative, abusive, toxic behavior pattern at all, does it?

[@BillyT531]

Men don't chase women...women chase men.

[@KatyaMorozova]

Interesting idea.

[@hangloosejanjuc]

I think your Corey Wayne ideas work only for women who don't have many options or are anxious attschers. Dismissive avoidant women , especially attractive ones, won't chase you buddy

[@joykorshiwor699]

Funny idea😂

[@kellyseager8163]

@@KatyaMorozova Not very interesting, at all. 😂

[@Lukearthwalker]

@@hangloosejanjuc I was chased by an attractive dismissive avoidant women, certifiably. That's what led me to this journey of learning about relationship styles. What a fantastic learning experience it's been, it was almost worth the frustration of seven months during 2023.

[@2017phattang]

我很多次我的帐号被背后控制取代,不能或簽署,这是盗贼用遊戲的代表性控制我的步骤。

[@Nola5427]

Now.that I have met and experienced an avoidant in the past I know what one is I know the signs, it is beyond difficult and VERY one sided, I will NEVER deal with one again, I Love and value myself to much for that toxic chaos. I choose my Peace and well being 💗❤🩷