7 Rules to Stop Hoarding Behavior Today!

[@coybi]

Alright now serious question: Why on earth is that lady staring at us like we're the best chocolate cake she's ever seen? I can't focus on what you're saying man...

[@manyou6614]

Dignity omg! 😂🍽😍

[@AnDitaLee]

🤣 you’re a nummy treat

[@irishladyjewelie]

Shebnem Dignity thanks for bringing attention to it. I didn’t even notice her at first. Now I can’t stop noticing it. Ugh

[@surfkroq1]

@@irishladyjewelie lol , exactly. Now I can't finish the video.

[@mensb1936]

she cute i like the gaze

[@notorious6959]

Why are you planning to sell kits to hoarders? Isnt that just going backward. "you have a problem with hoarding? Well here is even more stuff!" WTF!

[@sheriecooper4260]

I hope this helps someone but I don't think it is me .,and many others feel this way judging from the comments . Whatever your issues are you have found that hoarding helps in a somewhat soothing way to me it is about soothing What's going on in your life or your past that somehow the hoarding makes it better tolerable or blocks it out.Love to the hoarding community Someday I will be a minimalist.

[@michelelovell3172]

Whaaaat.... This is so unrealistic. You sound like so many others who haven't actually gone through hoarding - either personally or know someone who does. It is SO not an issue of how long you've had something. It is also not an issue of putting something where it belongs. If you're starting the process of de-hoarding, everything is everywhere! Designating a spot for something means cleaning out the area where you want it to go then where do you put all THAT stuff?? You HAVE to touch stuff more than once. I think I need to start making videos about the de-hoarding I have personally been working through for the last TEN YEARS and it's been totally worth it! But your ideas are waaaay unrealistic. TO ANY HOARDERS OUT THERE - DO NOT LET THIS INFORMATION DISCOURAGE YOU - KEEP WORKING ON IT.

[@vegasrichsave]

Michele Lovell yes. What are examples of the so call deep issues? I need help with h. I want to trash the stuff I have but seriously cannot because I might need it. My name's rich

[@cosmicallis7936]

I thought the fire example was abit extreme..lol I get where ur coming from😕 I'm in a position where I HAVE TO downsize because I'm having my first child and NEED the space to have a baby who will become a kid and so on in the blink of an eye👶😬 and my fiancé is also kind of a hoarder to, so as u can imagine it's crazy overwhelming for us!!!😵😵😵 I'm finally starting to throw stuff away but it's emotionally rocky..if u have any pointers i'v love to hear them gurl!!!🙂💚

[@getitdonewithsiobhan]

Thank you! I’m a hoarder and I’m trying soooo hard to not be and when people give simple tips it doesn’t help me. My house isn’t cluttered it’s hoarded. But they have great tips for people who have clutter.

[@way2muchNFO]

TheLazyHousewife me too. I hsve health issued too and being alone with a cat and struggling b it’s ain’t easy. Good luck. E

[@christiner6673]

Agreed. Its sounds more like advice for someone who has accidentally accumulated too much stuff and just wants to downsize. Not someone with a serious compulsive disorder. People who animal hoard will often have animal fecal matter all over their home. Its being compulsively drawn to the chaos and disarray hoarding creates, replicating the chaos and anxiety from childhood. Its replacing loneliness as most hoarders have an attachment disorder with other people and their initial subconscious instincts on how to relieve loneliness is scewed. Its not about rather or not items inspire joy so keep or toss.

[@offthewallproductionsltd6326]

I haven't touched my toes in a year, but I still want to keep them!

[@mitzielarocco]

Time for you to take a bath

[@QueenBee65194]

😂😂😂

[@getitdonewithsiobhan]

That’s so funny!! I love your comment 😄

[@BLUEISME42]

Your not helping lol

[@oshins4524]

😀😀

[@micheller6804]

These are guidelines for decluttering, not hoarding, which is currently recognized as a psychological disorder by the DSM. Your advice is like telling a suicidal person to just cheer up and sing a happy song. If you want to be of help, please educate yourself and respect the fact that this is a genuine disorder.

[@getitdonewithsiobhan]

Michelle R THANK YOU!! Your comment is so true! Their tips are only good for people who just have clutter and no problem getting rid of things. I want to know how to really get better. Thank you for your comment.

[@micheller6804]

@@getitdonewithsiobhan There is a podcast episode on Psychology in Seattle available on KZbin which discusses hoarding disorder in great depth. It may be of help to you. I have clinical depression, so my house looks a bit hoardery, though in the strictest sense of the word, I'm not a hoarder since I have no emotional attachment to the stuff. It piles up around me due to general lethargy, and I'm trying to do better. If this sounds more like your situation, I would suggest the...sorry for the swearing if it offends you...Unfuck Your Habitat website. It has before and after photos and helps you break tasks into smaller, manageable chunks. Also good is the BBC show How Clean Is Your House for motivation... available on KZbin. Wish you the best in your journeys. Peace and love in the new year. You can do this!

[@otterwhitewaterider7812]

"Have issues with hoarding? Buy more crap you don't need!" Hi. I'm a child of a hoarder. This video actually pisses me off. it's as if you have no clue, yet you claim to do this for a living. Do you sell weight loss stuff, too? A "kit" is only going to be more fodder! Seriously! How unconscionable to sell hoarders anything!

[@katiegreer-janes8542]

I am also a child of a hoarder, I have to agree, I feel that they don't realise it's a mental illness and there is usually a deeper reason for doing this

[@ArtJourneyUK]

katie greer-janes amen! "If you haven't used it for a year, let it go..." Really?!? You guys know nothing about Hoarding Disorder. Those with this issue cannot think that rationally about letting stuff go. They need psychotherapy and a retraining of their beliefs. There's usually a deep seated, psychological issue that needs addressing so they can move forward and let stuff go (I'm also a child of a hoarder). This might be decent advice for someone with a "bit of clutter"... but it's not suitable for someone suffering from hoarding disorder.

[@mishim896]

I agree. This seems totally geared towards someone with a cluttering problem, such as myself, who can actually bring themselves to let go of things if motivated to go through them and maybe create some preventions against future "cluttering". They have used the wrong terminology in the word hoarding.

[@vegasrichsave]

What are examples of the so call deep issues? I need help with h. I want to trash the stuff I have but seriously cannot because I might need it. My name's rich

[@s.c.o.s4672]

I want my bed but I dont see myself running into a burning house for it

[@LazyDaisyDay88]

I'm almost sure that whoever wrote this program has ZERO/very little understanding of people who are genuine hoarders. This is more about managing clutter. Way too simplistic to cover the underlying psychological problems associated with serious hoarding.

[@cndgroff]

If we could do this we would do this. Dont you get it????

[@cndgroff]

Ha! I have stuff thats 40 or 50 years old that I still want to keep

[@pamelathomason6038]

The house fire rule is crazy...who wouldn't rescue any living being left inside and then and only then, the most important documents. Seriously? Everything else goes? SO not realistic.

[@resaboutb.9566]

What? Firstly, the way Elaine is staring at the camera is really off-putting. Secondly, have you two actually *ever met* anyone who hoards? My sister is a sufferer and not one of these "rules" even *touches* her mindset regarding hoarding! These are six and a half minutes I'll never get back. So much for coaching: I've already deemed your kit useless.

[@vegasrichsave]

Resabout B. Yes but What are examples of the so call deep issues? I need help with h. I want to trash the stuff I have but seriously cannot because I might need it. My name's rich

[@elainepagnani9980]

I agree the staring lady is really creepy. Eww. I am embarrassed to say my name is Elaine and I do not stare like that. I have a good friend who is a hoarder and I plan on helping her. I certainly will not use that foolish book.

[@luithemonkey4559]

This lady creeps me OUT!!!!

[@taraschmidheini5104]

yeah!

[@stevm7974]

LuiThe Monkey she's just looking deep into your soul.

[@jonnaosborne1832]

Ahhhhhh, the kit -- something new to add to the hoard!

[@wendyfouillard3543]

My thoughts exactly. By the time a person purchases all these clutter free books....the hoard is addded to!

[@JoseMartinez-df2db]

The wife is just STARING!! 👀

[@remainfocused7290]

😂

[@lisagibuu498]

🤪

[@mariekatherine5238]

What? Selling a kit to hoarders? House fire rule? Well, if I were naked and my house went on fire, I'd leave that way if getting dressed meant burning alive, but this is hardly a way to live! Truly, not much help. And who's the lady? She's creeping me out, just staring.

[@Tamatakie]

Again, people try to make money with the weaknesses of others without knowing the subject.

[@rp338]

This is useful for people like me who are probably a level 1 “tendency” people. For a true hoarder a kit won’t do it.

[@notahoarderorcollector.dep8819]

For summary for myself and deaf people: 1. One year rule, if not touched for a year, 2. what you do with it, throw away, keep and put away, recycle or give away 3. one touch rule, only touch it once, throw away, keep and put away, recycle or give away 4. waiting rule...if shopping, wait two days before buying something if you still want it, have to get rid of something from the house 5. If house was on fire, you would not go in after it.....not worth saving. (Do you need it) 6. Living space rule, when going through stuff, there is always a living space....a place for everything. 7. Procrastination rule: build momentum off of small items, doing laundry, don't put in laundry, molds............No....follow through...should be your skill set. Kit has more information.....to help someone or yourself. www.HoardNoMore.org

[@henryst19]

Don't look at her eyes. you will get hypnotized.

[@fondaflamingo]

That's their secret tool!

[@sarahnorment]

That lady is peering into my soul 👁👁 😨😱

[@acedaws4987]

Was looking for this comment 😂

[@evolvetravel1]

helpful, thx. Im trying to help my friend so we can have renters upstairs- but im so scared the stuff will just pile up again. i will keep on his habits.. in a nice way.

[@karlashmeedavlasta6365]

Why are these comments so negative? He speaks out of experience and really tried to help.

[@sunnie734]

"Rule number 8: Buy our crap so you can hoard that too." These guys have clearly never dealt with hoarding in their lives and obviously don't have the first clue about it. Exploiting a serious problem and making it worse just so you can sell your shit? Disgusting.

[@openwaysociety]

This was so helpful

[@susanjohn6506]

I think this is more of a how not to become a hoarder or keeping things up after a clear out plan. People criticise the lady but it is hard to stand in the background, looking pleasant but not creepy. Might have helped if they had taken turns giving tips. Also, if he had things written down it might have helped him as it was rather a jumble & not clear what he was meaning.

[@2167PhillipM]

I am a hoarder. So im told by my therapist. You do have so good ideas but many bad ones. The first being the "wait two days" i know id dont buy that certain thing or item when i leave the store? Its gone for good! Rarely is it there after 2 days. In a fire? Naturally its my clothes shoes wallet ipod touch. What about "rainy day" things? Say you have two sets of cookware? And one is put in storage for the day what your using breaks? Isnt that not a smart investment?

[@imenehaddad2860]

Your camera angle is so weird. You look like you got abducted

[@CJ-jr4eo]

To keep and put it away is just feeding my problem. No thanks Also, stop staring at me lady.

[@user-pb2kg1ng4g]

'Throw away is an anathama to environmentalists.' (First port of call : RECYCLE. Followed by Return items to original owners, GIVE AWAY to charity, SELL. REPURPOSE. Over all : DIVEST LARGEST items FIRST - that fress up space. If you genuinelyneed to bring an item into your home, remove TWO TIMES the quantity before hand. As a last resort - dump/'throw away'.

[@newdawn1968]

I don't have room for a book or a cd

[@martianleader1]

Is there different categories of hording? I know some are extreme. At least I can throw some things out. Not everything. Guess I am trying.

[@KrazyKats39]

I LIKE THE FIRE RULE.

[@pasta3166]

Is that lady being abused by him? She looks terrified or just not right.

[@sheriecooper4260]

There are seven rules for people that don't hoard, just guessing that is true

[@brendamalloy5117]

I need help

[@eileeneclark9011]

8/24/18.....Older YT video but lots of useful---but simple---info. I have "paper" problems---I get my mail/go thru my mail/trash what I don't need or want or just ads & such..... THEN I have problem----I DO put statements/bills with checkbook immediately.....BUT I tear out recipes & put them in a stack--- save coupons & put them in a stack---tear pix/articles out of a magazine/newsoaper---put store receipts/old paperwork with personal info/cancelled checks in a stack for shredding---tear/cut out ads/write ups/special offers from newspaper & put them in a stack. Then I end up with so many piles/ stacks that just grow & grow & grow as I forget expiration dates/ special offers/openings & shows & clearance sales & store closings. REALLY NEED TO FIGURE OUT HOW BEST TO KEEP MY PAPERS & PAPERWORK SCHEDULED & NOT MISS DEADLINES/EXPIRATIONS.

[@fivedee5D]

Elaine with that facial expression. What happened?

[@stevm7974]

These rules are stupid. Just live minimally with things you know you NEED. Nothing more, nothing less.

[@mikecotton3125]

the problem is you go back ..and the item is gone....then you are depressed.....

[@chriswrey8899]

Oh You are Funny Selling to a hoarder!!! I bet this is an easy sell!

[@FrandyCodes]

I love this! thanks for the video! I'm in the process of cleaning my home and will definitely use this tips! (p.s the woman in the background is really freaking me out lolol, next time she should probably speak if she's gonna be in the background xD)

[@dedemaz3349]

Frandy Codes ubcv

[@isaspinoza8600]

i have problem with CD? what can i do?

[@RLDLewis]

get your money back

[@fernpeck]

You can throw them away.

[@Julie-7605]

House burning rule is Awesome! That is the best piece of advice to a mild hoarder, like myself. Thanks. :)

[@seymorestuff235]

This is so shallow and trite it's useless as a solution to a complicated problem.

[@stellahsgroove]

house on fire rule is amazing!!

[@lynntruong5940]

Thank you Steve and Elaine for posting this great video with very helpful tips. I'll share them with those I know and whom will appreciate your book and other useful resources.

[@ExtrovertedCenobite]

Elaine is freaking me out!

[@shanalee8469]

This makes sense.. i ready to get organize but how do i get rid of all the papers

[@themadlibrarian2933]

Have you tried a document shredder? A cross-cut shredder is preferable. You should keep your tax returns for about five years. The IRS can audit three previous years, longer if fraud is suspected. The downside of a document shredder is that the amount of paper waste will fluff up at least 3-4 times in volume. Processing mail in a timely way is important. I love magazines, but I limit my subscriptions to three or four, and I need to read them within a month. Seeing uses for things that may or may not exist hurts and slows you down. A useful guide is what you ACTUALLY do. This got me away from using coupons for groceries.

[@ronpaublo4eva]

Shana Lee I recently came across a tiny book called "The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up" by Marie Kondo. She recommends scanning all documents...naturally have a folder in a safe place for birth certificates etc....SO many great tips in her book...even better, almost every page has a sentence in bold, basically representing the clif notes version of the whole book. Check it out!!

[@violet32makingit64]

So there is something awesome at a thrift store, and I’m supposed to wait to go back & buy it for 2 days? .... hmmm, what if someone else bought it first, because I waited ??!! I’m aware, that this comment is not heathy & not helpful or those in need ... I’m just being real here 🤷‍♀️ lol.

[@garybowler5946]

Ya'll have never met a hoarder. You're talking about organizing for normal people.

[@newdawn1968]

The only thing that I would save in a fire is my animals pictures and maybe some shoes and clothes otherwise it can all go depending on how severe the fire is . Fire rule x out

[@brandenburg2388]

Rule No. 8. : get rid of your credit cards.....

[@kathrynmarie1232]

Rule #1 should be stop bringing stuff in. I always liked to shop, but not at garage sales. For those that do, tell yourself that those items have the ebola virus on them. That might convince your brain to stop shopping.

[@getitdonewithsiobhan]

Kathryn Marie Lol I wish it was that easy! 😄💕

[@sharonmcnair6461]

Oh no! Hoarders do not abide by rules or care about anyone else. I have a hoarder in my house now, she's making me lose my mind. This video has little to do with a true hoarder and how they destroy your life and theirs. 😕

[@Tina06019]

Almost all good, except for that silly “house fire” rule.

[@aceraj1624]

Oml, the lady

[@Ssm19494]

Lol just get rid of it wtf lmao 😂🤣

[@pamelagarrett3754]

This is the most idiotic advice I have heard. Who runs back into their house to save anything other than people or pets?

[@christinerobinson9372]

Your rules may work fine for people who just need to get into the right habits. They are ridiculous for people who have hoarding disorder. I can not follow your rules. Everything I have hoarded HAS VALUE to me. I have a reason for keeping it, a use for it. I have plans and designs for it. But I never get around to working on it because how can I work on a project when the dishes aren't done and the laundry is still in the washer? The dishes aren't done and the laundry is still in the washer because I can not find the motivation to do repetitious, meaningless, boring tasks. I have isolated days where I find the motivation, but it dissipates because my efforts produce so little result. I lost sixty pounds and had a lot of clothing that was too large for me. I was able to bag them up and take them to the donation center because they were going to do somebody some good. But I still have two or three bags full of things I really liked, and I want to take them in so I can wear them again. But I never get around to it. I can't give them up because I really did like them. But taking them in is just for me, it's taking care of me and I have no motivation to take care of me. I have more books than I can ever read, I used to love reading, but I hardly read at all anymore. I have more yarn than I can crochet in a lifetime. I made some things to sell but I have not attempted to sell them. As for the house-burning rule, there is nothing in that house that I would try to save, including the house. If a fire ever starts, I will walk out and let it burn. If I could save my grandmother's piano and sewing machine, I would do that, but I know I wouldn't be able to so I wouldn't try. I would save my cats, so I don't have cats anymore. When the last one passed I said that's it, I'm done taking care of pets now. If you see something you want in the Goodwill, you better pick it up right now because tomorrow or this afternoon it will be gone. If there is anything I really hate, it's needing to use something I no longer have because I got rid of it, and now I have to buy another. I've stopped buying things to hoard (except books) so now I hoard garbage. I hoard tin cans because I saw directions on how to produce solar heat using tin cans. I hoard boxes because I like to keep things in boxes. Then I saw directions on how to build furniture from cardboard boxes, and I convinced myself that might be a source of income for me. Money is part of the problem. I could use more money. I could sew this, build that, make this and sell it. Only I never do. And on another level, my stuff is company. I live alone and would feel alone in empty rooms. As annoying as it gets, my stuff keeps me company. And it keeps company away. I have never been comfortable around people. I prefer to be alone. People are difficult. Your rules are for simple housekeeping. Hoarding is a much bigger and broader problem. I don't know what the solutions are but it's not "bring one in, throw one out". And here is one more thing: if I was rich and lived in a mansion, I would have separate rooms for each category of my junk, and people to organize it for me. I could own ten super yachts (you all know who I'm talking about) and no one would consider me a hoarder. They'd consider me successful.

[@maggiehaines2203]

Hoarding is an emotional disfunctional disorder that breaks apart families abilities to nurture you with Love and kindness Please stop the insanity and accept the help Respect others

[@richardzielinski652]

That's why when the house caught fire I left my girlfriend sleeping in there

[@lenamcgonigle7043]

stop hoarding .Learn to be clean

[@soonhingchan5824]

Vvvvg

[@haveyougotyourtowel]

What beyond your loved ones, pets, and POSSIBLY keys and wallet would be worth grabbing in a house fire? Why would a second-hand item be there days later? More realistic would be how to decide in the moment about a one-of-a-kind sale item, to point out that people are more important than things, and including ideas for how to cope with limited energy--a major cause of clutter--to do things in small segments that don't leave piles behind.

[@mishim896]

Well said.