7 Secret Behaviors That Women Do That Are Red Flags (You Would Never Know These!)

[@AdamA.Moorhouse]

Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without her. Despite attempts to purge her from my mind, I remain haunted by her absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.

[@vivian-i3d]

Its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 5 years ended, but i couldn't just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.

[@AdamA.Moorhouse]

Intriguing! I'm curious, how did you find a spiritual counselor, and what's the most effective way for me to reach her?

[@vivian-i3d]

Meet Suzanne Ann Walters, a renowned spiritual counselor acclaimed for her talent in bringing back ex-partners.

[@AdamA.Moorhouse]

Thank you for this valuable information.

[@abelsmith7040]

Hey my man. I was 4 days away from marrying my high school sweet heart. Im 23 now dated her when i was 15-21 so 6 years. And she admitted she was cheating on me. So i understand ur pain with the rug being ripped out from underneath your feet. But time will definitely help you. I remember when i thought i would never find another one. (I did) but i only found another one because i prayed about it my man. If it means a lot to you. Just pray.

[@missrell1224]

1) love bombing 2) nit picking 3) cutting you or others off when speaking 4) pressures you into drinking 5) uses body/sex appeal to get what she wants 6) stonewalling 7) put all men in a negative light

[@owowcherubim6948]

@missrell1224 8. Princess mentality. #3 is cutting you off during convo, or causing the cutting of your assocoations (such as ending friendships, causing enmity among relatives, etc).

[@alonzoneloms5651]

Always in Multiple Men faces! Seeking Validation. That's a Super Red Flag!! Flirt and take pics of them! Or possibly with them! Let that Female Great Dane go!!! 😂😂😂

[@markie_mark9950]

Well done, just needed a list. Could add number 8, when she just drones on. 😂

[@khompressor]

Lacking accountability, always a victim.

[@jbweld6193]

Moving goal posts, blaming you for stuff she did, putting you in situation that you cannot win.

[@marguskiis7711]

Moving goal posts is absolutely universal among women. 100%. Only very masculine women do NOT do it. Its obvous too bc there too many things which change in women's life entirely.

[@seowweetang2253]

Sounds like she's got a personality disorder.

[@peacelove4150]

Well said, exactly what I experienced

[@john7148]

Ahh...the double bind. I always let them know...I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't. No win.

[@jbweld6193]

@asharudlandlifeteacher oh I don't even entertain difficult women anymore. Never again. Don't need that kind of drama in my life.

[@TomFox1]

Being sneaky is toxic

[@raj-z8q3y]

Red Flag No1 is so real, and it hits you out of the blue and leaves you confused. Thanks for sharing this to us. :)

[@justinflores1620]

You have described things I’ve been experiencing perfectly with my son’s mom for awhile when we were dating, she’s shown me all the red flags you describe in this video

[@BowHunter55]

The love bombing and nit picking was spot on. The same things I was loved bombed about became the same things she nit picked and criticized. Talk about confusion. Once I came to the realization that she never liked me, I went no contact and began healing. Its amazing how people can bait and switch. When I stood up for myself I was too sensitive or took things the wrong way. (Gaslighting my own emotions)

[@garyreese1399]

I wish I had seen your videos years ago , would have saved me a lot of heart ache... Thank You.!

[@ApolloniaPonti]

You are welcome!

[@SantiagoA.Wright]

This is a great Video. This brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[@RoyJ.Tillison-tq5ed]

I am sorry about what you have been through. I have been through something similar and was almost depressed, till I contacted a spiritual counsellor who helped me get my ex back and hence my life back

[@SantiagoA.Wright]

Interesting. Who is this counsellor, and how do I meet the person?

[@RoyJ.Tillison-tq5ed]

Online, you'll find shelly renee white, revered for her expertise as a spiritual counsellor. She has the ability to reunite couples and promote holistic well-being

[@SantiagoA.Wright]

Thanks a lot. I just did. Impressive.

[@davidsisson2026]

Look up Corey Wayne. You really need a reality check. I don't mean to be harsh. But I've been through this.

[@ModernDatingMastery]

*Sometimes, ignoring these signs leads to bigger issues later - better to spot them now and keep your peace of mind!*

[@johngonzalez4298]

Stonewalling, I dealt with this with my ex girlfriend, which is why she is my ex girlfriend. Also, the princess mentality where she expects me to do a a lot for her but did very little for me whenever I asked for anything

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Ouch.

[@JeffersonRah]

Stonewalled and then needed space then said I was pushing it. A month later, still no response.

[@Ziplinz]

Narcissistic people often do this and it is very annoying and childish. My ex girlfriend would stonewall and give me the silent treatment. Would completely shut me out for nothing.

[@Jumpmaster1990]

My ex-wife was in love with the idea of being in love. She didn't show red flags until after our son was born. It was down hill after that. I endured physical, mental and emotional abuse to stay near my son. All this while working as a first responder and battling PTSD caused during military service, 20 years of hell. I've been divorced since 2012, she of course immediately started dating but I'm sure that was going on while I was working late shifts or overtime. I've been alone 12 years, and have been getting better. Looking forward to retiring this year. Don't intend on sharing the rest of my life with any woman. I've learned that once they gain your confidence, they will do what they can to destroy you. Now, I don't care about women who aren't related to me. Flat tire, change it yourself, hold the door open, you don't need a man, help I'm being assaulted, you're a strong independent woman, Not my circus, not my monkeys. Not my problem. Women complain about where are all the good men? You made us stop being good. Congratulations.

[@unclefester6033]

Yup consider yourself lucky! I been divorced since 2001

[@matthewwilliams5201]

I'm so sorry you experienced that. I can hear your pain. But maybe listen carefully again to point 7? 12:07

[@Jumpmaster1990]

@@matthewwilliams5201 I see the point that you're trying to make. However I believe that men love deeper than women. Men are logical, so when they allow the emotion of love to come forth, they are all in. Women are constantly changing their emotions, they lead with their emotions, therefore they don't love as deeply.

[@alonzoneloms5651]

I couldn't have stated that! Any perfectly put! Wake up! Wake up! Men start thinking about yourself!!

[@alonzoneloms5651]

​@@unclefester6033 Since 2006! Peace of Mind. Is everything! Young fellas keep having Birthdays! And relationships! You will Fool Around and find out! Passport Bros are a real thing.

[@jsmith9298]

I had an ex who told me we had t go to her mom on Valentines Day because it was also her Moms birthday. I said ok great. 15 minutes after we got to Moms house, her ex husband walks in with flowers for her mother. My ex noticed I got very q uiet and pleasded with me to tell her whats wrong, that I looked like something was bothering me. I said if you dont know why I look bewildered, you will never know. I ignored it, but a few years later, I had to walk away. To her, being friendly with her ex and his family, and inviting me to all her ex hubbies family functions was completely normal. If you ignore the red flags in the beginning, those red flags will be the reason you walk away in the end. Trust your gut

[@Veins1]

You walked away because she was inviting you to parties with her ex husband? It's not a red flag to be friendly with an ex, unless she cheats on you.

[@jsmith9298]

@@Veins1shes still single, go marry her 🤣

[@MrTracyLow]

Stonewalled for me.. I stopped the situation-ship after the second time I was stonewalled. This video lets me know I did the right thing in calling it off after 2 months.

[@peacelove4150]

You’ve outlined everything I have witnessed in the last three months, then was told I need a break and I knew the end was near. Guess what, she decided to end things with me this week exactly a year after we met.

[@Papistemce.]

First time visiting this channel

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Welcome!

[@GaryPhillips-zf6eg]

I've been seeing someone for five months but recently realised she was addicted to painkillers. I found them in my car. It explained a lot of unusual behaviour. When I confronted her she immediately blocked me on all socials and my phone despite us never having argued about anything. So disappointing.

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Yes, this typically can happen with an addict they withdrawl when they do these things in secret. I'm sorry this happened and I know its not easy. Give yourself time and also understand that it's a good thing you saw this but it's up to her to heal herself in order to have a healthy relationship with herself.

[@IAMJhonnyBravo]

Wowwwwwwwww bro!!!! You dodged a HUGEEEEEEER 50 CALIBER SHELL TO THE HEART BRO. THANK GOD!

[@justingayle7299]

Thankyou Apple! You’re always on time with true wisdom to help me think things through.. You’ve helped me so much!

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Justin! Thank you love that I see your comment. I'm so happy to be part of this journey with you. :-)

[@theculturebrewingchannel5619]

I was on great terms with a woman, she was the one asking me to meet and we were having a good time. We had an argument because she kept saying things and asking things about my previous relationship that was hinting that I was the bad guy and my version wasn't true. I called her out on it and we argued over messages. No bad words were used and I simply said that if you dont think I'm a good person then why would we continue hanging out. She accused me of threatening her and went silent. I followed up apologising for any miscommunication and that I care about her not the argument. Silence. Silence for 6 months now other than her liking a message addressed to me in a group message. It's very strange, but I won't reach out because the silent treatment stuff is super abusive behaviour to manipulate me into capitulating and letting her off the hook.

[@jaxbchjim]

Sounds like she has major trust issues and self-sabotaged the relationship bc she thinks all men are monsters. Seems like you handled it perfectly but unfortunately she doesn’t have the emotional intelligence to have a discussion rather than just accuse. I’d say you dodged a bullet in the end.

[@IAMJhonnyBravo]

At least your learned! Never say SORRY! ASKING FOR FORGIVNESS is way different than saying sorry all the time. I repeat a big turn off is saying oh I'm sorry...I'm sorry babe etc....

[@john7148]

You dodged a bullet there...

[@derwoodhamburger]

Number 7 stands out to me alot in todays world. When I see a woman blame men for everything, I run. Eek. Great video Apollonia

[@terrytawhai2886]

Good morning from New Zealand 🌞😎, thank you so so much this helps so much,now I have a greater understanding of the red flags and I have been through this recently,but thanks to you ma'am I can now recognise these signs and act accordingly....

[@ApolloniaPonti]

You are so welcome

[@comitosway]

This happen to me. It sucks together almost 2 yrs. No other woman had shown me that much love before. Then I fell hard for her. 1.5 yrs in said she needed space. She felt smothered. I said, “I am just reciprocating the bar that she set.”

[@kurtissimms5523]

You've REALLY made a good point, especially for me right now... 🙌

[@josiahlara7216]

Thank You so much for making this video. Opens my eyes that much more. 😊

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Glad it was helpful!

[@unclefester6033]

Having kids by a few others is the biggest redflag😳. No SNAGGLEPUSS FOR ME😯

[@KojoLove7]

You did very good with this video; every point is critical

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Oh wow, thank you for watching my red flag video. :-)

[@joeds2692]

Thank you for that! 🙏

[@ApolloniaPonti]

No problem 😊

[@A.nasierkhan]

Wow thx a million. Your advice is gold😊

[@ApolloniaPonti]

You're so welcome!

[@divyanshudhiman8493]

Can you give some content on trust issues? How to deal with them?

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Oh I love this! Yes, for sure. Thanks for the idea.

[@frost9974]

It's also a red flag if a woman tells the man to just not be so sensitive about bringing up a situation with a friend that hurt him and then worst of all, she tries to make excuses for that friend's behavior and ignore her mans feelings.

[@jacknjill3000]

Love the fact a women is calling these red flags out, ba defending women at all costs and having the mess we now have. Meaning trying ng to call it out to help ppl. no matter what sex they are and trying to help humans

[@jacknjill3000]

When I was younger, I kissed all these so call red flags on women. Now since I no longer try so hard to get women, I see all the games women plays and their tactics and easier to see women at work. Meaning I can connect the dots and see what and where they’re going with their actions

[@jacknjill3000]

Also when women are bossy and want to take the lead and you realize that was not a great choice and didn’t help the situation. So don’t follow dumb women, unless you are lazy or just as dumb and go along. Oh and I see this bossiness from not very attractive women and I’m thinking who do you think you are?! Delusional.

[@jacknjill3000]

That’s the key, women working on themselves. I work on myself everyday to become a better person and I’m a man.

[@Yosef_Maharat]

Thanks!

[@jonathanfactor6688]

Great video thanks

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Thanks so much!

[@Titanium516]

Cutting someone off from talking falls under what insecurity ? Does it have a name ?

[@tanziha]

Some men do this to us women too. It's not a gender thing, it's a character thing. If you find yourself not finding a good woman, its cause we are staying/hiding at home from all these 7 red flags from men we've dated 😢

[@ronquinton7470]

So, my girlfriend cuts me off when I talk, no big deal right, well, if I do it to her, she jumps my ass. But when she does it, it's okay. Yea, I know. We are both wrong for interrupting the other, but it's only wrong when I do it. We are at the point where I rarely speak to her and a go out of my way to to NOT speak to her. Yup, this relationship is over. Just waiting for her to get mad at me and tell me to leave.

[@yourijevriend730]

Just leave yourself why wasting your time with her. And waiting for her to make the move to end it

[@CaseyFahey]

Trust me get out

[@Ace.0.0.0.]

Why wait? Just do it. Be polite, honest, & direct. Even when it's tough. That's all that you owe her.

[@IAMJhonnyBravo]

Bro are you INSANEEEEE!!!!!!! YOUR WAITING FOR HERRRRRRR TO BREAK UP WITH YOU! WTH??? DUDE...knock it off and writ a letter so she can't interrupt you and make it about you and NOT HER FOR the break up. Always be a gentleman and do NOT cry! Walk away from her and cut all contact in EVERY WAY!!!!!!!! AND DO NOT BE A GIRL AND UNBLOCK 3 DAYS LATER WHEN YOUR FEEEEEEEEEELING LONELY. ALL FEELINGS COME AND GO. LETS GO BRO!!!! YOU CAN DO THIS!

[@ronquinton7470]

@@IAMJhonnyBravo You're absolutely right, but there's "logistical strategy" to my madness. I already know this relationship is over. I'm just waiting for her to figure it out...the devastation will be epic.

[@JewishKeto]

So… I dated a woman who I think didn’t respect me and looked down on me., I never met her friends and she had wacky rules… total control freak

[@inspirationalguy81]

Don't blame men or women for making the wrong choices and consequently getting into bad and toxic relationships. Blame your selection process for willingly choosing to get into relationships with such people in the first place and completely ignoring all the red flags because of your low self worth and naivity. Learn from it and start valuing yourself and find someone that truly aligns to your values and principles in life. The first step to moving forward is acceptance.

[@martineastland2455]

I concede that is not a person’s fault for making bad decisions in choosing partners - its their bad decisions in not vetting them for a prolonged period first, or leaving them if red flags are raised. People are frequently deceptively love-bombed to hell, lied to etc to get into a relationship, and if they knew what these people were really like, I don’t believe they would have entertained them. But I still say they should have left them at the first sign of toxicity.

[@samodamir264]

Almost everything that been said is facts.

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Thank you so much for watching!

[@talltree8697]

Being a woman is the red flag in itself what comes with it is all about having boundaries

[@davidsisson2026]

I've e got a friend or 2 who cut me and others off. They also talk and talk very loudly. Its annoying to say the least. So i also need to watch myself and concentrate on listening. I don't need to instantly reply.

[@kwc7391]

I would say red flags for my ex is: 1, 2, 3, 5, and BIG 8. But I also think that she is a female covert narcissist. Broke up with her last year.

[@DarynSmith955]

My big red flags are when woman love bombing and cutting off everytime when I talk and clingy needy controlling

[@jaxbchjim]

All of those being controlling strategies that come from an insecure place

[@DarynSmith955]

@@jaxbchjim I remember my ex girlfriend was doing all theses things it was very much like oh wow but during the time I didn't know about red flags because when someone is young high school basically it was like that makes me very much turn off and step far way from them but I agree 👍

[@RobbiJamesVogt]

Mine blamed me for her sleeping with someone else… Told me I didn’t give her enough space …

[@oh.boi.keepyaheadup]

octopussy from octopus band just put me in solidarity confinement

[@lexserr]

Hello Apollonia. Love your videos. I need help

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Thank you. You can visit www.apolloniaponti.com and go to coaching and we can see how I can help. xo

[@jamesmakume2630]

1. Breathing

[@Thelivinglifeshow]

The love bombing is what hit me.

[@msg4869]

Some very good points, and yes I am in a half relationship with a for sure red flag girl lol. Really at least in this video she has only tried one, using her sensually. And was very surprised when I laughed and stepped away for the evening. She has used it her whole life I know. At least for now she is in a mess, will we end together maybe but maybe not, time will tell.

[@n.m.3760]

When she has an entitlement mindset.

[@dwaynebronk]

Had the exact same thing happen to me😂

[@fernandoreyes6336]

Do selfish/ narcissist realize there doom no matter what they do in life ??

[@22rapper]

Love bombing is hard to recognize cause im naturally loving all the time and romance for me it is sustainable i done in year long relationship and 2 years relationship each day without fail and supportive i was raised that way in church treat your spouse like god love the church so somw cases can make people miss out on somthing genuine that what make some people un replaceable

[@FreshBeatles]

yes

[@georgevossen3846]

I'm starting to feel like shallow Hal the harsh reality is the hippo or the giraffe

[@jimmieaxe2431]

The first point think it's form a woman's prospective cuz we men fall in love fast and it never fades but women are different thts why men fall for it some many times cuz we think women are just link us.

[@apositivechangeisjustadaya7848]

Breadcrumbing is another one.

[@jimmieaxe2431]

Also we men don't grow into luv. If a man isn't in love early on he will never love u no matter wht u do even if u get pregnant your just end up being a single mother

[@johnnycalderon9951]

Omggg i should of watch this 2 years ago. She checked off at least 5. Specially the last one yes i lead but damn she did absolutely nothing

[@rennrodriguez8909]

#1>Her Phone.......

[@GregoryDennis-wr7ky]

Why the fuck would they even entertain the idea? I never failed any psychological evaluations.

[@goku360100]

Oh my goodness the last 4 especially 5 and 6 are extremely common. It's so freaking common that it's extraordinary. Don't nobody wanna deal with that extremely toxic behavior. all of them especially the last 4 are extremely ugly.

[@cewilliamsable]

The love of many has waxed cold fellas... save yourself the time, heartache and headache, because its not worth it.

[@matthewwilliams5201]

This is more or less the red flags for a narcissistic personality style, isn't it?

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Yes. These can fit in there. But also non narcissistic people can have some of these traits.

[@rogerward3390]

Do you ever change the content?

[@ApolloniaPonti]

What else would you like to see? I'm open to ideas.

[@ashmac4732]

dickhead comment.

[@jamesmccusker2260]

Watch out for those narcissists ppl

[@kirkstewart-vf6hg]

Dogs cats maybe my father was right.😅

[@NJM4279]

No, she is not a red flag. She is a red rag"

[@chrisbarnett40]

Phnx pried

[@tgmjrtgmjr8221]

Hi, I love our videos. Some advice, since you are basically public speaking, you need to stop mumbling and speak up, increase your volume and fix your microphone also or mix it properly, it is not picking up your voice. This is a common problem I see across online platforms. I am extremely computer proficient, have built two desktops that I currently use, so no it's not my computer or any software related issue on my end. Yes, I can turn up my volume, but obviously that is not a solution, turning it up to such extremes does pickup some of your speaking too loud actually which is an indicator the issue is on your end, not mine. Thanks!!

[@IAMJhonnyBravo]

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaa

[@joelombardo9346]

Why don't you try speaking to women, instead of men to help them instead real men like me don't need your advice, we have great mothers, sisters, girls we go out with or woman friends!!!u need to concentrate on woman not real men, print out a instructions booklet for fake men !😊

[@ryandomalesky4079]

💯

[@antokent]

None of these are sneaky. All very clear and obvious red flags. Lol

[@jagjag513]

Thank you!