7 Signs You Should Cut All Contact with Someone

[@NarcSurvivor]

Once you recognise their manipulation, or them disregarding your boundaries after you’ve told them not to. You have to respect yourself by taking you away from them. They do not deserve you.

[@SEELE.LIMITED]

I need genuine answers to this So I have an online friend at genshin it's been a year since we are like friends since like 2 years and then suddenly she starts ghosting me and I was like heart broken since we shared a lot of things what should I do? I don't want to lose her and I like literally raised her in the game from lv 1 to all the way to 55 ( max is 60 ) I feel betrayed what should I do? I can't forget the memories we made

[@melt2947]

@@SEELE.LIMITEDI’m so sorry..you must be feeling so disappointed and sad. Maybe something happened to this person. Try to contact someone that knows them and find out if they’re okay. If they are ok, send a message asking why they haven’t spoken to you, that you care about them and would like to know why they pulled away. Put a smiley face at the end. That’s what I would do. I hope everything works out..but if it doesn’t, you’ll have to accept that this person is no longer in your life. If it’s really affecting you, seek therapy. I wish you the best 🙏🌷

[@williamsl798]

I wish I could have known this a year ago. Thank you for the simple explanation.

[@SEELE.LIMITED]

@@melt2947thanks for telling me that but I have been trying to contact her but she keeps ignoring the fact she used to get bullied and was the loner kid breaks my heart am just scared for her to not take bad decisions man

[@SEELE.LIMITED]

​@@melt2947but the problem is that she told me she used to get bullied iin the past and she's like the loner kid I am too scared to death if she takes wrong decision thanks for the suggestions..but I don't know what I would do if I lose her

[@Miiskl]

timestamps 0:34 - you’re guilted for setting boundaries 1:05 - they block your personal growth 1:45 - everything is always your fault 2:26 - the bad outweighs the good 3:09 - they don’t keep in contact 3:34 - they’re an energy vampire 4:22 - all roads lead to nowhere

[@Arctik_NL]

Thank you 😇😊😅

[@bowenorcutt78]

Aside from the not keeping in contact that DEFINITELY sounds like my Stepmother. Which is the one I'd PREFER her to do!

[@victorialaing4227]

It can be hard to not have friends and being alone can be hard cause we humans are social creatures and we long for connection with others. However, if the people in your life can’t be trusted, you know that you can still trust god. He will never leave you, abandon you or betray him, and even if you have no friends or loved ones, your never truly alone as long as you have god

[@Arctik_NL]

@@victorialaing4227 I’m a INFJ so I’m used to it but I can understand for other people that it can be hard sometimes to deal with loneliness…

[@debwycherley9138]

Thanks for the time stamp!❤

[@garchompelago]

I had a Narcissist friend back then. He always gives me back handed compliments He invalidates my opinions He manipulates me to do his bidding and guilt trip me if I dont comply. Everything is always my fault yet he never owns up to any of his mistakes. He speaks against me behind my back. He only contacts me when he needs a favor. He always stir up drama and always paint me as the villain. I didnt try to get revenge or anything along the lines. One day I decided to just cut him off.

[@di_xox4747]

@@garchompelago Definitely your best decision ever ✨

[@di_xox4747]

@goddess_of.harmony stop finding friends, true friends will come and stay

[@di_xox4747]

@goddess_of.harmony Stop finding friends. True friends will come and stay without being ask.

[@paba323]

Same things that happened to me ​@goddess_of.harmony

[@aloksrivastava7938]

If they conspire against you, manipulate you, always lie to you, cause you physical harm, demoralize you, or gang up on you, just cut off all contacts. Having no relationships is better than having a bad relationship. PERIOD.

[@EarplugEmpire]

This video has come to me at the right time. I've been contemplating cutting a toxic person off and I'm like "yeah, I'm doing the right thing"

[@darklab-8]

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[@EverettNightshade]

People who don't respect you or your boundaries are not worth having around. They're worth avoiding. If people want things addressed, they should address the issues themselves. If I cut off someone who doesn't respect me or my boundaries, I avoid them for a long time.

[@victorialaing4227]

Well, I did have some friends in my past who took advantage of my kindness. These friends were younger then me, and they were super toxic. They would walk all over me and if I needed alone time or space they would never respect my boundaries. They made me do things I didn’t wanna do and they wouldn’t take no for an answer. They were always taking everything from me that I gave, and didn’t have the same respect for me that I had for them. I wanted to get away from them but I was unable to cut ties and stay away from them because they were in the same place as me and the adults forced me to be in the same place with them, and I was forced to be around them, so I was unable to avoid them.

[@user-gi4tw3ft4o]

Bullying someone and then stopping for a while and bullying again so that even the bullied person thinks of you they think you only bullied them sometimes sounds like a tactic someone like this might use

[@Unkownheart]

Whoa seeing this helps with clarification about doubts

[@Polza-sd1sm]

Ils sont cons ! Et surtout ils pensent que tu les aimes alors que tu n’as rien à foutre de leur gueule 😂🤣😂

[@machineamouille6533]

@@Polza-sd1smExactement!!🤣

[@tallajc-mt2zr]

Oddly specific

[@user-gi4tw3ft4o]

@@tallajc-mt2zr yep very specific

[@SilentOcean-f7s]

I once had a lot of friends who were only with me because i was a topper and an excellent student. After i lost my grades and my marks plumetted, they gradually started to ignore me, it grew to the time when they only called me for help with something. Maybe being alone is tough right now, but being with people who talk behind your back and who will never have your back at your worst is really bad for the wrong run. Being with one friend who actually cares for you is better. Even though seeing people laugh and smile with a bunch of people makes me feel like i am missing a lot, but i also know that i am missing a lot of betrayal, backstabbing and hurt

[@di_xox4747]

@@SilentOcean-f7s I hope that true friends will come to you. I hope your doing fine now. I also had this ex-friend who constantly seek for my help in academic. I'm also a topper but I would say not that very intelligent. When I recognize what she doing and how it impacted me. I literally stop being available for her just to help her. I distance myself because my mental health and hardwork is more important than her. I hope you find peace and self-worth.

[@melvynkays6627]

wow, it feels so relatable

[@SilentOcean-f7s]

@@di_xox4747 Thank you, yes i am a lot better now, been focusing on myself, my dreams and my aspirations. I have doing a lot better emotionally mentally and academically also, after i have removed the people who constantly validated me only for my marks, i have found better motivation to study and have been improving a lot. Don't worry, I am not intelligent either but hardwork, dedication and perseverance are much more important and influential for your academic record especially in college. Mental health is definitely more important than anything, do the things you love to do, and always treat yourself as the topmost priority. I hope you find peace too, and are able to find true friends in your life. All the best

[@jhoss0743]

Walking away from a toxic coworker or supervisor isn’t easy. If you are in a field you’ve wanted all your life, worries about finding another job or purpose can haunt you. Keep searching for a way out; never give up.

[@darklab-8]

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[@smoozerish]

Stay until you have enough experience to move to another employee. These days, 6 months to a year often enough time to get another position elsewhere.

[@DeusGamez]

its important for your health to learn to block out the negative things i've been in your very situation before and what i did was block their negative attitudes and feelings directed at me or the job/company and simply focused on my job because at the end of the day i am not there for them and i dont have to tolerate them if they make me feel uncomfortable or disrespect me. i was there to complete my assignments then go home an get a paycheck to survive off of.

[@Qween.w]

Thanks for this reminder why I cut off a toxic friend. It can be challenging as I do think about them here and there and miss them yet I gained so much energy after cutting them off which allowed me to reflect and eventually make better friends :) I also encourage others to do the same. It's hard to let go but when you do, it creates room in your life for better things.

[@praveenranjanlal3839]

I'm this person, so most people have walked away. I'm on the path to change and feel fortunate that i have a few who stayed in touch.

[@lucamelis9480]

This came at the right time

[@Jianruin]

Same , whole lotta love bro 🙌🏻

[@oezgedamla]

ikr

[@mwall5410]

You’re tellin’ me

[@WhileAKyle85]

You too?

[@Pronellyllon]

It is especially tough to cut ties when the person in question is your own parents or siblings

[@BlocksonAnimates4520]

I agree with that👍

[@AmpedReactions]

Just because a parent doesn't treat you the way you want is no reason to cut ties. That parent raised you and loved you in their way. Maybe they know no different. Maybe you should help them instead of harming them.

[@supbruh7793]

@@AmpedReactionskey word there is “love”. from personal experience, it really isnt uncommon for “other” parents to not love their children. a common one i’ve witnessed were people who’s dreams and aspirations were trampled upon by their own parents. one even opened up to me and said “my mother told me i had no right to pursue my dreams because i owe her my life, but she claims to love me”. well the mother definitely is attached to her child in this specific case. but to love someone means wanting them to be happy. her actions say otherwise

[@MakaylaWilliams-y3c]

And you live with them

[@Pronellyllon]

@@AmpedReactions​​⁠it's not about parents who don't treat you the way you want. It's about parents who also have these signs mentioned in the video. Believe it or not, there are parents who do have 5-7 of these signs. Cutting ties with them might eventually be better for your health... but it's already not easy to do that to a friend with whom you had a long history. If it is your own parent or sibling, it is all the more difficult. It's a given for any kind of relationship with anyone... having tried to forgive and mend the relationship is something you must have tried. If despite trying, the signs remain... then cutting ties will become an option

[@LunarEclipes696]

I needed this, because I’ve been trying to cut off someone for SO LONG but I didn’t see the signs so thank you for this.

[@Lizablue0608]

Sometimes ya gotta get selfish and don’t feel guilty about doing it. YOU can’t be there for someone who you really care about if you’re constantly drained and dread the moment you see them every time. We all need some type of space and you’re worth it. ♥️ If they understand and wait until you’re rested and ready, then they’re great friends. If they get self absorbed over it, throw the poor me tantrums, then maybe it’s time to lay those boundaries down and mean it. I wish you the best! 🥂

[@PrettyTasha-k8q]

Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for her, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.

[@Shanieceflordi]

It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.

[@PrettyTasha-k8q]

Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

[@Shanieceflordi]

His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@Shanieceflordi]

he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

[@Shanieceflordi]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤

[@A55a551n]

Timestamps 1). You're guilted for setting boundaries 0:33 2). They block your personal growth 1:04 3). Everything is always your fault 1:44 4). The bad outweighs the good 2:25 5). They don't keep in contact 3:08 6). They're an energy vampire 3:33 7). All roads lead to nowhere 4:21 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[@kujo62]

I've pre-emptively cut ties with 99% of people I've ever known.

[@iliyanytbr9552]

Sounds sad ngl 😢

[@streetteamtony2672]

I here ya, like Sam Smith I've become way too good at goodbyes.

[@ogvelociraptor205]

Unfortunately it's a harsh reality, especially when You get older and realized they where just disposable friendships.

[@streetteamtony2672]

Have you sought therapy? Or counseling? I think my personal situation on why I do the same is a personality disorder. I'm what some refer to as a dark empath. At least I check out 8/10 boxes.

[@streetteamtony2672]

@ogvelociraptor205 well, people change over time. Some stay stagnant, while others evolve.

[@soul_light_07]

Things shared in this video is so true as this was literally my ex, it's been 2 weeks since I started calling them "ex" and ever since then I'm more happier, free and peaceful around people who I'm comfortable with. Due to the reasons mentioned in this video I realized I deserve someone who is not a burden on me instead makes the burden less. Thanks for the amazing video! Really helped me alot :)

[@OmniTarget13]

This comes at a right time as I just recently cut some toxic people out of my life, one in particular who I really thought of as a good friend really showed his true colors as he turns out to be one of those toxic positivity people who thinks there’s a one sized fits all solution to everything, as if a bandaid can simply heal a bullet wound. It’s hard to connect with those who always minimize your struggles and cannot come from a place of understanding of one’s mental health struggles

[@guruguru00]

After a long time with no contact at all, meeting them again made me realize all the behaviors that I used to see as normal and those weren't normal at all. Don't blame yourself for not cutting ties earlier, it's never too late❤

[@catluver]

i’ve had a toxic friendship, and while i know i did some unreasonable stuff in it too and the fact that they were going through a tough time, i talked about it to my sibling and they recognized the manipulative pattern that person had. i tried to leave before and send a message in hopes that they’d understand, but they’d tell me how much i was helping them so i stayed. but when i stayed, i still felt that draining feeling when talking to them. i do still feel guilty knowing i secretly didn’t like them yet i told them otherwise, but the point where i was absolutely done was when they pranked me with something very serious. i’m not going to get into that, but not too long after that i finally tried to leave again. they did the same thing and tried to get me to stay, but that was when i reached out to my sibling, and like i said, that’s when they helped me recognize that they were being manipulative so i finally left. that friendship was a mess, and again, even if both of us were in the wrong and even if i wish i did some things better i would rather not go back.

[@mpgibson6342]

I've been able to cut ties with a number of toxic people in recent years, and have strongly distanced myself from my 3 siblings. My family members and I see each other occasionally, but their core values are very different than mine. We maintain a superficial, pleasant connection but I don't trust them and know better than to delve into deeper or more personal topics. Let's just say I'm careful not to give my siblings ammunition to use against me. Some friends I've released because they were overwhelmingly negative at every encounter and I always came away feeling drained. I stepped away from one friendship of 40 years - that was difficult, but definitely needed to happen. I suddenly could see all the red flags of that person's narcissism, their lack of emotional maturity and their intense mean-spirited judgement toward everyone and everything. Whenever I needed their support - they backed away and criticized me for over reacting or being too sensitive. I'm so glad I have released these people from my life - I feel so much healthier and happier.

[@Vaudian55]

i normally don't leave comments that much on videos, but this came at a perfect time, as someone i already cut ties with was trying to come back into my life, and i almost let them back in since i missed them so much, but this video reminded me of how draining it was being around them despite all the fun we had together. thank you for posting this and helping me making such a difficult decision that i've been stuck on for over a week!

[@craigmerkey8518]

Thank you! Yes unfortunately this includes many family members! As an adult you are responsible for your behavior!

[@pete9063]

I learned to avoid arrogance, pride lies, and angery people.

[@seesaw41]

I usually don't like burning bridges, but if someone tells me I'm a stalker for noticing and pointing out a changed profile picture, I don't want anything to do with them. I felt good doing that. That person is but a distant memory now.

[@temmieKAT]

Yeah my BF has told me I’m “constantly watching him” when I literally get a notification when he gets on a game on steam, and has been ignoring me literally all day. He acts like me pointing him out on avoiding issues because I see / get notified his profile is online is “watching him”

[@avoca-dos]

I just want to say something... If someone in your life is pushing your boundaries, know that *its not your fault*. It's happened to me. And it has happened to people in the comments section. You are not alone. I once read a quote that went like "at least one person is thinking about you at the moment". Also, people cannot define who you are or what you do. GO BE YOUR OWN DAMN PERSON!!! nothings stopping you! And if you're having a bad day, then I hope tomorrow will be better for you. :3

[@finalninjadog]

Listening to each point makes me think of people who have behaved liked that around me. I’ve had to walk away and set boundaries from people multiple times. As the video says, it’s not the easiest decision, and once you have cut ties with someone I find myself pondering whether it’s worth trying to reach out to that person later on. But just because you had some good times and good memories with that person, doesn’t mean you have to try to mend things just for the sake of recreating those memories, because they won’t be the same and you risk them causing drama and the cycle repeating itself. So yes, it’s not easy, and you might find yourself looking back and pondering. But not everyone is meant to stick around in your life and you have to put your own peace and wellbeing above their company and drama

[@DUSKvsDAWN]

A former friend of mine (emphasis on former) did a lot of these things. People around me warned me about her continuously, but the people pleaser in me tried to make her happy, even though I knew I would not be the person who could help her. The first person who could help her was herself, but she refused and constantly blamed every little small thing on me. After I cut ties with her, she mocked me and ridiculed me in her status (that everyone could read), even going as far as mocking my dad's cancer and me after I made a status how I didn't want to lose him the day we got very bad news. She also made statuses like "people should act their age" (which is hilarious, because with those things she was writing, she was acting like a toddler who didn't get what she wanted) and how I was a leech of society because I don't work (even though I never told her why, it's a whole long list of things). When she started showing this behaviour after I cut her off I knew immediately I made the right choice. I don't need, and especially don't want, people like that in my life. I regret a lot of things I did, but that is definitely not one of them.

[@123domo8]

Makes sense, but the crucial issue, is I can't afford to survive otherwise.

[@mollyhooper8674]

Every time they agree to meet up they make you feel like they are doing you a favour.

[@unique09827]

My parents divorced and remarried, my step dad and mom keep on judging me, especially my step dad, for staying in my room. They also judge me when im out of my room since they never see me. My mindset has been, if im gonna be judged for staying out of my room or staying in my room, i’d rather just sit in my room all day since its more emotionally draining to be judged right to my face than just hearing them judge me in the house outside my room. And man, im just SOO done with them and their judgments, they cant see that their hurting me and they dont listen when i try to talk to them abt anything. (Sry abt my paragraph)

[@Retrospective908]

Cut my ties 18 days ago with someone already, and the points you gave in this video half i related to it and half goes to them

[@HarveyAgain.mp4]

Yet another video clicked on the moment I saw it.

[@fern35678]

I tend to notice a toxic relationship in the first few weeks, usually they start yelling at you or make it feel like you can’t say certain things or else you’ll suffer because of it.

[@XvXSpookyScaryvSkellyGhostXvX]

I guess walking away or cutting ties also doesn’t mean you are submitting defeat to the toxic or abusive people you are trying to get away from but helping yourself or saving yourself nor is it a sign of weakness despite how manipulative the other person might be. Thanks for sharing this video at the right time I really needed this with the abusive family and how gossipy some of them are and just like this video said the positives are few and the toxic family is … I’ve been so done with them and I’m even more done and ready to move on and walk away even more thanks to you so ty❤❤❤

[@escouleshaire]

Thank God I found this video,, I've been feeling this forever, I already have plans to cut contact but it's nice having my feelings validated

[@starscries]

After months of having my boundaries stepped on, that everything is my fault, and the friendship is making me nervous to meet this person, I finally had enough. You would think after years of therapy I would’ve recognized this behavior but nope. Glad I finally decided to let go.

[@JessLoveIV]

Thank you. I really needed this video today. It makes it easier to let go of something that I've been holding on to for waayyy too long (now realizing what it really was). It's time to grow and focus on myself. It's time to let go.

[@bowenorcutt78]

Well, I've already been wanting to keep my stepmother and stepbrother out of my life as much as possible, but this definitely makes me feel even more right for wanting to do so. As if I needed more reason.

[@thegrey8643]

It sucks when all your real friends die over the course of less than 2 years of unknown causes (just boop didnt wake up from naps) and you then realize just how many creatures you are surrounded by you need to ghost.

[@samanthakim5035]

My experience is the whole group itself. They were great when they are just sitting by themselves but when they will come together, the toxic energy is rising. I had to step off and I said it to them because I just can’t be with them if they are just going to talk other people or negative things in general.

[@ariannecote5799]

I almost feel like crying listening to this video. Recently, I’ve been realizing that my closest friend was draining my energy. She always talk about the bad sides of things. An easy and simple example: when we watch a movie, I’ll say that I liked it, but she will say : « but the end is so bad. The music is trash. » To what I can reply : « ye, well, I understand but the story was nice. » and she will reply : « nah. » You see, it’s alright to not like something or to talk about what is wrong and all. But ALL the time? It’s exhausting. And I truly feel guilty for it. But I wasn’t sure if it was normal or not. After all, we still spend good time together. But… after this video… I think I need to talk to her and see.

[@SquigglesFluffystuff]

Everytime no matter what type or is it just not their type? Sounds like they're pretty narrow minded when it comes to their opinions, or just stuck in negative thinking. It's okay to protect your energy.

[@ariannecote5799]

@@SquigglesFluffystuff It’s not about a certain type. Whatever we watch, whatever we do, she will always talk about what’s bad about it. I can understand it. But it’s exhausting because I feel like I have to bring the good things in what we’re doing. I feel like we’re not doing things that she likes, but in the same times she doesn’t seem like she’s bored. It’s really a strange thing and I decided to just ignore it now. And, in the meantime, I talked to her. She thinks I don’t like her anymore, which I never said nor will I ever say. I tried to explain that I don’t feel confortable in certain situations, that I needed time, but she just said « are you done now ? Because I don’t want to talk about it anymore. » So yeah, I don’t know. I don’t think she’s a bad person, but I decided to make some distance.

[@ariannecote5799]

« Always » is a exaggeration from my part. But it’s a lot of time, to the point I don’t clearly remember when I heard a good opinion or recommendations from her. And if someone is like that, I think it’s alright. We are just all different and some people just don’t match with some people.

[@maliksmith1204]

The fact this showed up a day after I finally cut someone off. I originally felt bad about it despite all of their actions. But after they lashes out and blocked me for not responding to their question because I was driving, that feeling went away quick. They had a friend of ours reach out and ask why I'm cutting them off and I layer out nearly every problem I've had with them and everything they've done that lead up to that point. Don't know what happened to once they saw the messages, but it's none of my concern. They'll either change or dig themselves deeper in a hole while dragging everyone down with her. Never again

[@SuperTrucker2019]

I cut all contacts with my "family" at the start of this year, and it was the best thing I've ever done. Now I have a found family of fellow trans people like myself. We support each other, and build each other up. Whether that's having dinner together, doing each other's nails, voice training sessions, or piano practice, it's WONDERFUL. So unlike everything David(my old self) put up with on a daily basis. And now, I'm happier than ever!

[@rizkyrayhan2000]

Thanks to this video, I think I can reaffirm my decision for NOT going back again into this certain online group chats that drain my energy. I have no idea where the hell did I get an intention to join back to the group where it has some members tend to gossiping or stirring up a drama I've never heard of. Having no room to just talk casually and got ignored. Should've known this already, oh stupid me.

[@togasimphehe]

thanks for validatin my decision to cut contact wit one of my "friends" :)

[@JMAssainatorz]

Ive personally had one of these in my life. In general a guy that needed care and emotional support a lot because of his strong autism but because i was his feel good charm and he couldn't exist on his own he was extremely needy and hard to be around at times. My understanding of his needs and lack of ability to understand me made me basically emotionally responsible for him to preserve the peace. Like a parent child dynamic, and having to cut him off was one of the hardest things I've ever done because i knew the level of suffering i was going to inflict. My gf was right in the end though... The safety i provided was also what was keeping him in his security bubble and not seeking therapy. Last time i heard from him he was indeed in therapy.

[@matthewmyers7167]

I know someone that acts like she's not important and she was manipulative and controlling and I'm glad I cut our friendship off.

[@DragonMan5643]

2:27 Jeez, I feel especially called out here. Maybe it is about time...

[@J03XYY]

I low key hate my bsf. #1 is the biggest for me. I cant hang out with someone without her getting mad at me. But because #1 is the biggest im way to scared to cut her off.

[@LovelyBunny-uv7gx]

I feel guilty about setting boundaries. It's really hard. But I've done it for some people. Nice voice.

[@DeusGamez]

be kind to yourself and learn to love yourself, its okay to show mercy and compassion and its okay to care about others. but when a person especially some one you know or are associated with has done everything in their power to make you feel miserable or feel bad about everything you do with or without them then the best thing to do is to rebuke them in a calm and collected manner no matter what hurtful things they may try to say or use against you let them know how you truly feel and if its not good enough for them then let them go and move on with your life and state to them that you are going to do so.

[@mysticalgypsy17]

This video really hit home with me! It can help you come to terms with reality & helps put things into perspective. To those that are struggling over a break up, I know that it can be heart-wrenching & hard to deal with bc I've been thru it before & am currently going thru it again. The worst part is missing them & letting them & their actions constantly occupy your thoughts. But you have to find a way to get in control of those thoughts, distract yourself & have faith in yourself that you are stronger than you think! Put all of the energies that you are putting towards them or wanting to regain that relationship, back into yourself. Try to focus on things that you enjoy & what you can do to make your life better, more enjoyable & satisfying. Be mindful of who & what you still have in your life & appreciate them. It also helps if you can be honest with yourself & ask yourself if you're still truly in love with who they are now or with who they were or who you wanted them to be?? 🤔 Once I am able to realize that I am no longer truly in love with who they actually are now (or how they actually were to me), it helps me realize that I don't really want them anymore. And that is very empowering! Then I can disconnect, let go & slowly but surely move forward. If you are meant to be with them, they will come back on their own & see & appreciate the positive changes that you have made in your life & see that you can be strong without them - which is much more attractive than hanging on, being needy or clingy. In the meantime, don't put your life on hold any longer while they're living their life however they choose. It can be tough, but accept that their chapter in your life is finished. Your paths are meant to go in different directions now. Learn whatever you can from it & officially close that chapter of your life. Then force yourself to start moving forward with yours & to grow towards being a stronger & happier person for yourself & for your next chapter. Hopefully it will be with someone worthy of you, who truly loves & values YOU & wants to be with you. No matter what, try to make the best of things, keep a positive outlook, believe in yourself, be strong, use your capabilities to improve your own life, get whatever help you may need & learn to love yourself! This is YOUR life & remember that you only get ONE. So do your best to make it great! You may not get everything you want, but you are the only one that can make yourself happy! 💕 ...Sorry for the length, but I hope this helps whoever needs it!

[@polkadots2823]

I did this. I preferred peace than being in a toxic " friendship "

[@ardellolnes5663]

Ive cut sooo many people the last few years... and it hurt, because I liked them. But my life improved so much, and non toxic people have taken their place❤

[@annaoddi2257]

That third one hit home, I was blamed for everything, scapegoat. I put up with it until a message that essentially asked me since when did I marry my stepfather in response to a quality in my husband that my stepfather never had. It didn't matter what I did, I could not get anywhere. It was not easy, I felt guilty for months after, but after at least 4 years, I can now heal and retrain my brain to think, yeah, but it's over now. 😊

[@RT65CB-SWL]

Been there a few years ago! My ex is/was an alcoholic. Some days downing up to two bottles of vodka in one day.😮 If she did not get her ‘fix’ then I was beaten up physically, mentally, verbally and financially.😖 If I was going out with family or friends (male or female), she wanted to know who with, where was I going, why she was not invited, what time would I be home, what time am I free, could I buy a bottle of vodka, etc. Even staff at a few local off-licences/liqor stores refused to sell/serve her. Best move I made was when I stopped seeing her and/or answering her phone calls/messages.

[@keip4568]

If only it was that easy for those to "let go" of barely anyone they had. Also a lot of people let people go or cut off so easily. Especially via social media. It is nice for those to have healthy relationships. For some, barely any exist to begin with. So many take their superficial relationships to good people for granted. The literal block button is abused by many with so many labels even false ones.

[@bitrunner3886]

Yep , college was an awful reminder that for the “sake of their well being” people will cut you off in a heartbeat. I understand for things listed in the video. I get told I make people uncomfortable then they block. What does that even mean ? No explanation either. I don’t have many friends but whenever I see people who cut me off like this they never look me in eye so idk. It very frustrating because your the bad person for trying to have a conversation

[@vncoverssssss4355]

I needed this reality check thankyouu😭‼️

[@nanalyo3696]

I feel really undervalued in my relationship. Today is my birthday and my boyfriend didn't remember it. I told him last week, and he still forgot. I'm really disappointed, specially because it's not the first time he acts like that. I probably should take this advice and go ahead without him in my life.

[@Hadesrools56]

Thank you for this video. I needed this to clarify yet again that I'm not wrong for taking space from my sister

[@di_xox4747]

Y'all should cut ties to someone who only message you to continuously ask many favor and also emotionally manipulates you not to say NO to her/ his favor being asked. Like this if you have this kind of friend ( or ex-friend)

[@zenfrodo]

And family members who do the same, as well.

[@MakaylaWilliams-y3c]

​@zenfrodo what if you live with them and rely on a place to stay

[@di_xox4747]

@@MakaylaWilliams-y3c I'd say put up with their shits then if the time will come that you're capable of having a job, you can move out.

[@jasonhernandez619]

​@@di_xox4747 for some people with disabilities (including "hidden" disabilities) that day may never come.

[@sampas07]

This came out at quite literally the perfect time

[@limee_natchos]

I would but I can’t cut ties with my irl friend because she is the only friend I have irl, like literally the only one… which makes it harder 😢

[@rayflopped]

Trust me it’s better to leave them basically it’s better to be alone than to have fake friends.

[@iliyanytbr9552]

There’s always people that are gonna like you and those who are gonna treat you bad. Search for what’s the best for you now, and go do it. It will only get better. Have a nice day! :D

[@fairlyknute]

I agree, that's the hardest because I feel like if I try to break away, I don't have an excuse, and I don't want to be alone. The thing I'm trying to learn right now is that strangers don't have to be avoided because that's how to make new friends. It's hard because I have to completely relearn how to look at people, but if the current friend is against that, it helps me see them as the problem to get courage to leave.

[@SquigglesFluffystuff]

This is so sad. You don't have to stay just because you'll be alone. There are plenty of groups in your community that are hobby based. You'll meet new friends once you find a hobby you enjoy. ❤

[@limee_natchos]

@ i have a problem that stops me from making friends sometimes, but now I changed schools and now I’m in a friend group

[@elmerroyjaimes5203]

honestly my whole family has been neglecting me my whole life, wanting to change , wanted there support and love but neglected me , i tried talking to them but all lead to arguing , seeing this does this mean cutting ties with my family will change my mental health

[@_moni_cat]

I got disowned for setting a boundary, I get seen as evil or the black sheep but I’m okay with however I am perceived cause my peace is more important

[@TJsAbsoluteBasicSocialSkills]

That is good stuff, thank you. Never heard the term "energy vampire" before; that is a good way to articulate it.

[@cafezo87934]

Yup even if its family. Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do

[@ihopeitsnotasamsquanch]

I entrusted my narcissist mother to take care of my dogs until I got a place. More than 7 months after I get a place, she now says they're hers and will not return them. She's also trying to steal my house. I swear she wants to get a violent reaction out of me. I raised my dogs from the days that each of them were born, they are my children.

[@jasonhernandez619]

Gather evidence admissible in court, then contact a lawyer.

[@ihopeitsnotasamsquanch]

@@jasonhernandez619 When all is said and done, I am going to start a website dedicated to exposing her for the irredeemable piece of trash that she is.

[@Dumb__Weeb]

I have a bsf who matches everylast one of these.. i love them dearly, but they take everything to far... once when we were 15 they started guilttripping me calling me rude and horrible because I got mad I blew up eailer that day when i found out they had ben hiding C0k3 in my room for months, hell over a year without my knogldge, i knew they had ties to people with it, but i was more mad they didn't tell me, and after i confronted them they said they forgot where they hid it, if i alteast would've known were it was i could've hidden it for them or hid it somewhere safer! , i had strict ass abusive, parasitic, narastic, controlling parents who wouldn't let me leave the house unless for the school acitivy of their choice, if i had gotten caught i would've been legitmely beaten to death. and i had my 5 younger sibling stay, sleep, eat etc in my room all the time since I was basically their parent, (age ranging 2-13 at te time) and i was scared they might find it, then eat it or smell it when I'm not around and get hurt or worse.... my bsf now blames me for blowing up at them... but i do wonder was I in the wrong for getting mad at them?...

[@Hellqueen135]

the 5th one feels like it calls me out. I almost month of the time, don't talk with my friends, bc they aren't really in my sight. U know the saying "out of sight out of mind", that is literally me with my friends and family. I don't do it intentionally, my brain just forgets everything and everyone if they aren't in my line of sight.

[@nightcore_girl_178]

it's a sad truth, but i see myself in this situation with my mother 💔 she's exactly like this. and i even feel guilty about feeling like i need to cut contact with her, but it's necessary. she drains my energy like no one else and i can't stand that anymore :/

[@agentoforganization6622]

I was very close to the person, but in the end everything went awry, because I did not understand the person, his certain moments in behavior and wanted to talk to her about it, in response I received silence and ignoring. this made me even more desperate and I got an irrational breakdown. as a result, all ties with me were severed. I understand that I was obsessive (I thought I was serious about the problem) and I still feel guilty, I've been thinking about it every day since then. other people say that she's a bad person, but I give up hope, because for some reason she was also nervous from that's why, apparently, she broke off communication and now ignores it. I want to talk to her, discuss all these problems in a calm atmosphere and understand each other that I don't want to hurt her and don't start hating her myself as a result. It's very hard. It seems to me that I am selfish and think only of myself

[@luistopete19]

I thought this was a video about knowing when to stop being friends with someone, not because they are bad for you, but because you no longer feel like they fit in your life I'm living that right now and it's lonely and sad to still want to be friends with them, but I feel like we don't match anymore

[@georgelawton9075]

I have done that with several people in my over the years. I’m glad that I did 😅!

[@tylertoorres3825]

I just prayed to god for the first time in 6 years. My mom has led me into a depression that feels inescapable when i’m around her. After i prayed, i found this video. Please tell me if this is a sign, and what should i do if it is.

[@strawiiberriiCandiz]

Someone I know always make me seem like its my fault and I do everything wrong, why do people do that.

[@VPI_desu]

My hardest decision in life is keeping my mother away from me. Every choice made by me always makes my mother angry because it is not her, even how much benefit that choice can give me.

[@andrewmilton7272]

This video is very useful and helpful. It revealed to me the truth about my surroundings. I absolutely agree with you. Thank you for video❤ Also, I really like this voice.🥰

[@inkydemon2773]

Two people I know show a lot of the signs explained, I’ve already kind of knew this and I just keep reminding myself… 4 more years, just four more years until I can free myself from them

[@theredguy8746]

I have a friend who has a friend that is always such a hard time being around. Conversations with him can get exhausting and usually uncomfortable. He also moans an awful lot, usually at other people. The worst thing though is what I found out recently. He tried to take advantage of my friend in a romantic/sexual manner when she already has a boyfriend, and then he called her a slut. The problem however is that my friend is reluctant to cut all ties with this guy because he has autism and my friend is very naturally forgiving. Sure being forgiving is a good character trait to have, but I worry that she doesn't know what's the best thing to do so she just endures this guys abuse.

[@dashleyrosa]

I wish I can cut it contact with person, but I can not because they are in my family and I have no nowhere to go

[@kurigaru]

3:45 I desperately need new friends that actively work on their mental health and aren’t a complete drain to be around. It’s all about balance, putting in the work to heal yourself while actively maintaining close connections with those you claim important in your life. We shouldn’t use each other as just sounding boards or therapists either, that’s why professionals in this field exist. It’s one efficient way to push people away, whether or not you notice

[@coastguardghost2190]

One of my longest friends (female) that I ever had became my worst nightmare. I had known this girl since I was in 5th grade (it all ended our senior year of high school). We did so much together for so long. Took a lot of the same classes, hung out sometimes, even our parents were (and still are) good friends. There came a point in our junior year when she decided to date someone for the first time. He was terrible to her. Both me and several of her friends told her that he was a bad idea. Eventually she listened after much prodding. I learned later that she was really missing what she had in a relationship, and tried it with me for a while. I hate the idea of dating (hence why I never asked her out) so I resisted for the remainder of the school year and much through the summer. Somehow I ended up giving in late August (about 10 days from now will be a year since this went down) and I kissed her. I thought that we'd end up dating after all this time and people insisting that we should. I can't explain all of this here, but long story short after this she ghosted me, then she called me up saying this wouldn't work because I wasn't a Christian like her. She started to immediately hang out and eventually date this other guy and talk about him with me all the time. Eventually I told her how I felt which was extremely angry, and that'd when I knew it was over. She started to berate me all the time. Talk behind my back. She asked me once why I bother living if I don't believe in an afterlife. She said she hung out with me all summer because I was easy convienent and always available. She trash talked me to her friends all the time. Called me sad lonely and pathetic for working on an audition that mattered a lot to me. Her friends started to just ignore her she did this so much. I let her go when she told me that I didn't know how to be a person, and that I just wasn't important anymore. It wasn't hard. It was easy. After that day I haven't said a word to her. Even in classes I sat next to her in. (This time line is messed up) I wish the worst for her. I don't care that it's rude. She essentially told me I should just kill myself since I'm not Christian. She hasn't even told her parents yet. I told her dad toakensure she didn't show up to my eagle scout ceremony which I wanted her to beat for years. She was the first person to make me understand why people kill themselves. She made me feel so worthless and unimportant. Never have I understood depression until I met her. Let people go. You deserve it.

[@nazhao3156]

Although I don’t agree with any of this statements made in this video. My childhood best friend did cut me out of her life. Because she said that we could never see each other in person, because she said she was too busy with school and chores. In real life.

[@damnablethief]

As an ex drug user, I have had to cut alot of people out...not all of them were people I wanted to cut out, and some of them aren't here anymore. That part still hurts.

[@SomeRandomDude7]

I got to say, I would love to see a video or short of selective mutism from you guys. I have this myself and would be very nice to see if someone like this channel to acknowlage it as I don't see it happen very often. It is something I was looking a lot for when I was diagnosed and found your channel with social anxiety but never touched selective mutism.

[@Unkownheart]

Really needed this clarification

[@debwycherley9138]

Needed to hear this!

[@Noah-kt4tv]

I cut ties with a friend since school because he was bully to me gave me a lot trauma in life with his bad habits kept him going and going on in his life.

[@Pally356]

I had to do this to someone a few years ago. They would constantly gossip about me about what other people said about me, and tried to say he had the right to help me even when i told him not to. When i confronted him about it, he think it was his right to 'help me' and i even told him what he said wasn't helpful and never apologized. And then when i told him to stop, he just said that he would stop inviting me to things if i didn't let him. Now he still tries to make me out as the bad guy saying things like "I dont know what to say to him, and i dont want to make things awkward." according to my other friends. Its like, dude, if you dont want to make me feel awkward, apologize. I kinda feel bad for him though, im not really sure if he has any deep or meaningful relationships, and has trouble understanding social cues.

[@VaiCreator]

Sometime could you do signs an online friend is toxic?

[@di_xox4747]

She ask too many favors and emotionally manipulates that she badly needs help so don't have any choice to say no.

[@TheNonameHousehold]

I haven't cut contact, I'm still sharing a house, but I did cut her as family, she's just a roommate now.

[@titorex]

its much harder if these things are being made by your parents and or loved ones

[@MegaManNeo]

These contacts sound exactly like my ex and also my mother's aunt, among many others from my childhood and teenage years.

[@noonegirl]

I swear this channel is stalking my life, this vid had come at the perfect time

[@fuze3522]

Yeah.. I just broke up with my bf of 9 months.. he did every single one of these things. Im just glad to be out now.. but im still having a hard time feeling happy. But im trying my best, doing all i can.

[@tmannintendo]

The everything is always your fault hits hard for me. Mom always flips stuff to where Im the bad guy. Even though all I want is to be left alone so I can figure out how to live life as an adult.

[@ralimba1778]

It’s important to walk away.