6 Signs A Break Up Might Be Good For You

Are you questioning the future of your relationship? In this video, we explore six powerful signs that indicate a breakup might be the right decision for you. By the end of this video, this video is able to help you gain clarity and find the courage to make the best decision for your emotional well-being and personal growth. Do you resonate with these signs?
DISCLAIMER: We are not telling or encouraging anyone to break up. If you are thinking about breaking up with a partner, talk to a trusted friend or mental health professional about your specific situation.
We also covered the seven stages of breakup here: • 7 Stages After A Break Up
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Brie Villanueva
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice : Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera )
Animator: Sunbiscuit
KZbin Manager: Cindy Cheong
#breakup #relationship
References:
Lamothe, C.(2019). “When (and How) to Break Up with Someone You Love.” Healthline. Retrieved from www.healthline.com/health/when-to-break-up-with-someone-you-love
Samios, C., Henson, D. F., & Simpson, H. J. (2014). Benefit finding and psychological adjustment following a non-marital relationship breakup. Journal of Relationships Research, 5.
Khaleque, A. (2004). Intimate adult relationships, quality of life and psychological adjustment. Social Indicators Research, 69(3), 351-360.
Miller, M. R. (2009). Growth following romantic relationship dissolution. State University of New York at Stony Brook.
Stackert, R. A., & Bursik, K. (2003). Why am I unsatisfied? Adult attachment style, gendered irrational relationship beliefs, and young adult romantic relationship satisfaction. Personality and individual differences, 34(8), 1419-1429.
Franklin, A. (2015). The role of positive psychological factors and coping strategies following a non-marital relationship breakup (Doctoral dissertation, The Australian National University (Australia)).
Tashiro, T., Frazier, P., & Berman, M. (2013). Stress-related growth following divorce and relationship dissolution. In Handbook of divorce and relationship dissolution (pp. 377-400). Psychology Press.

[@Psych2go]

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[@HiHi-hl3ki]

You’re always worried about our mental health but I want to know, how are you doing?

[@eggroll9766]

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[@Arwaa.M.Jarrin]

😵‍💫Why a Woman Should be Celibate: Since being homosexual has become a norm in this century, women should be wary in choosing a sexual partner in life, especially if they wish to be saved from great perils. It is this pending danger that could completely erase sanity from a woman because if she accidentally gets into a romantic relationship with a man who has a male lover, then her life would be a living hell, as that man would try to humiliate and torture her if she even indirectly seduces or tries to speak with the young male lover of her husband or boyfriend. Men who publicly declare themselves to be homosexual are generally soft-hearted and harmless, and do little to hurt or vex womankind, but the most vindictive and fierce stalkers of young men are those male characters who pretend to be violently straight and always remain in fulltime relationship with women in order to exude a macho force about their persona, but inside their heart, they are bitterly in love with a young man or young men in general, and would be prepared to destroy the world to secure the romantic affection or approval of a young man of their liking. For women, the advice in this century is simple. If you must marry, marry an openly homosexual men because they are generally kind and sweet, and almost effeminate in their mercy, so if you have to marry, then marry those official homosexual men and you will be far safer. Openly gay men are angelic in their sweetness, as many of my close associates are homosexual in public, but women must be very watchful around openly straight men who act very tough and proud and become offended with the slightest suggestion of homosexuality, when in reality, they are dying in love with a young male and is prepared to annihilate the womenkind to ensure the young lover of his remains single. For thousands of years, or at least, for centuries, homosexuality had existed in the world, but never had it been so socially prevalent and accepted as a way of life, and while sexuality is an individual’s choice, the real problem occurs when women get trapped into a relationship with a man they believe to be straight, but in reality, he is woefully attracted to men, but is only pretending to love her. Those brave and arrogant men who love other men sexually had not always been homosexual, but they had faced horrifying torment from a young age, and became broken emotionally, and when a young man behaved decent with them, they became overly emotional and decided to pursue the man and inadvertently fell in love, and their suffering caused them to become totally dependent on the young man and become the enemy of all women who could potentially take away his lover from him. Had that suffering turned their hearts away from humans and towards God, then indeed they would have become the greatest saints, the prophets and angels of God. But their suffering made them weak. Their suffering made them broken hearted and their suffering made them hopeless and their suffering made them heartless and selfish, and their suffering made them lose trust in every single human being in the world, and their suffering made them so sensitive that they ended up hating women and children and ended up stalking and worshiping a young weak man hopelessly for the next 25 years until they died, and in the meanwhile, they tortured unimaginably every single woman who came near him, because they thought that woman was hired and she was evil and she came to destroy him or hurt him or his weak male lover or seduce the youth away from him. This reminds me of a man of my acquaintance. He was the most soft-hearted, brilliant, intelligent, and caring men I have ever come across. He has prematurely grown old because of all the pain and suffering that he faced in his life. The story of his life is not even thinkable, even for the worst nightmare. The man was of Russian origin, but did not look Russian at all. His facial features looked extremely German. He might have had mixed blood in his ancestry, but nonetheless his father was a very high-ranking official of the Russian Soviet Union. He had an older brother, who was in the army fighting for Russia in Afghanistan. He was the younger brother and the favourite of the family, soft-hearted, handsome and womaniser, and he courted the most beautiful Russian girls near his house, and fell madly in love with a young woman. As usual, when a second born son, who is handsome and soft-hearted, fall in love with a woman, almost immediately, a man who is extremely depressed and a crazy stalker falls in love with him and destroys his life for the next 20 to 30 years, as we had established in the earlier chapters. This older stalker man immediately framed the young beautiful girl for the murder of her father. Her husband’s stalker came and stabbed and killed her father, most brutally, and framed her for the murder.

[@cory8242]

The worst part is knowing I need too but not wanting to

[@madhubala8632]

I am in the same situation right now and like I think my life is busy in the future as a medical student. We are like in the ending phase of our school and this time I have no time to talk to him and even in future maybe yes I have no time as well I want to know your situation..is it worth it or not ?

[@madhubala8632]

I don't want to but i think maybe I should and then again thought no i shouldn't and then second moment I think maybe this would be best but it will hurt him so much

[@sceneguro]

same. i felt invalidated throughout the relationship and he’d get aggressive during arguments, sometimes yell at me. now he barely want to change and fix things.

[@vintageragdoll1991]

Going thru the same with the same boyfriend, I've been with 18years... We were 14&15 when we got together. His behavior changed drastically earlier last year but then we were given a lifeline miracle! October of last, a family member invited us to live in their old trailer on their property. . . No rent just get on y'all's feet. SOMETHING we could only dream about the past 13 years living with him and his parents. We were already having problems before moving but he ....got worse with the hitting. UNTIL,he finally got a job after 6mo. Not having... But then... He lost in 2 weeks in because "he didn't set an alarm" even though....he had one for automatic every day of the week he worked. He says he doesn't want to leave (was actually kicked on in January by my step cousin but....he came back. ) literally walked right in my uncle's house, pouring himself a coke and me on the couch he sits next to... He was pissed and told me "I'll NEVER have the answers to that question" on if he came back for me or his electronics.... :/ he also brought me back to life in June... I was...not thankful at first... Then... He made sure I was not thankful when on our own. Lies, hiding, porn addiction, looking up his coworker on our anniversary, lack of respect for intimacy. He's definitely lost interest but I don't think I can do this without them. 😞 suggestions anyone? You should be much appreciated to have some questions in an attempt to talk to them. . .

[@MisterK9739]

Hey I don‘t know your current situation, but I just went through such a breakup myself a month ago. I knew our future goals were not compatible but after over 3 years it just felt .. wrong and really hard to breakup. So we kept going for over half a year. I finally managed to breakup, mainly because I had some really good friends I could talk to and that were supporting me. Otherwise I don‘t know how long I would have kept going. It was super hard but I already feel so much better and happier about the future! What I learned is: Ignoring a problem because it‘s going to be hard is not a solution, it usually just makes it harder

[@sabrinab3337]

I just ended my relationship of almost 5 years and all of this is true. It hurts so much, but it’s for the best. If you’re having doubts, listen to your instincts and your feelings. Don’t force yourself to be with someone because they’re all you’ve known. Life will move on. It’s going to be okay.

[@domino1999]

Same here. Ended a 5 year relationship because it was too draining. The emptiness sucks but I'd rather feel empty alone than feel lonely with their presence. Hope you're doing okay ❤

[@sabrinab3337]

@@domino1999 I feel your pain… I hope you’re doing better as well! We will be okay with time and mindfulness 💗 I pray you find peace and happiness in everyday!

[@pooper9292]

I want to end my 7 year relationship. I'm just scared of what's to come. I feel like I'm in this relationship because I'm comfortable theres a sense of security. Im scared to be alone but I know I need to take some time and learn and love myself. That way I'm not depending on others for that sense of security.

[@domino1999]

@@sabrinab3337 I feel way better now and with each day I'm realizing I made the right decision. I'm not gonna lie I do miss him sometimes and think about him, but I quickly regulate those emotions and remind myself of the reasons that made me leave. I hope you're feeling better too, sending you love

[@domino1999]

@@pooper9292 I understand how hard this situation is, and it may be scary to take the first step but trust me once you get the courage to do it, the freedom that comes afterward is the best feeling ever. Knowing you did the right thing for your mental health and happiness and knowing you deserve better are the things that will help you make this decision. So practice self-care and try to look at the whole relationship objectively rather than with your emotions, it may be hard indeed, but it will help you see things for what they truly are. Sending you love ❤️

[@koljava]

My thought that keeps sticking to me is ‚But can’t we fix this together?‘. It keeps me in the relationship together with loneliness and feeling like I lose everything, even myself.

[@Jellyfish7273]

im stuck in that right now, that if i try hard enough we can fix it, i wont feel this way froever but its just not happening and i dont know what to do

[@Veriska]

I feel exactly that, I wanted to fix it

[@Sayhoun]

yeah, I feel exactly like that. Maybe if I figure x, y, z we can fix or build something new..

[@remyxremus]

I can relate :( in my case it feels like we didn't even try to fix, just allowed each other to drift apart until she ended things.

[@nishitasaikia245]

Same here my ex broke up w me a couple of months ago we are still not able to move on from each other. Sometimes I feel like that we really weren't working as a couple rather we were trying on our own n not discussing n sloving the problem together. He tried his best I tried my best as well but as i said we were not working as a couple n so things didnt work out. He then broke up w me coz as for him it really wasnt working out n he didnt want us to end on bad terms, tho I completely understand his pov it still hurts sm feels like we just let each other go. Maybe if we did put in the work together we could have done sm better n it would have worked out.

[@Shiryd]

We broke up yesterday. Today was our anniversary and I feel a deep, somehow burning void in my chest. It all happened so fast. I feel like I did something wrong, even though we broke up in good terms and knowing it was the best decision we could make... I still feel like I "played the game wrong", like I wanna restart this level and try again...

[@aGiibb]

💔💔

[@Aylii1]

It will be okay. Just like how before you guys got close and together, you never expected it. Never expected it to be him/her. You’ll reach that point again. Life will lighten up but change is naturally hard when the thing before the change impacted your life so heavily. I know how it feels, but it truly does get better.

[@oldaswine]

You moved on now?

[@Shiryd]

@@oldaswine i partially have, yes. i'm definitely better. when it all happened, i cried a lot. i ugly cried. i even used to scream at some point, yelling "WHY ME" when crying while looking at the sky. now i just write. we have a child, so zero contact hasn't really been an option. there's always _some_ contact. we're on good terms, although she constantly reminds me why i don't want ever to come back, just by being herself... having said this, she still invades my thoughts way more often that i'd like to. i can feel myself longing for her attention, for her softness, not that i want to think about that anyway... it's weird to describe. i still find myself trying to look my best when i know i'll be around her, even though i know i just *won't* allow anything to happen. there's still much left to process inside me, but i haven't dedicated time to it :( rather than "moving on" i'm just distracting myself at this point, but i know i'm in need of therapy. for now though, heart is closed until further notice.

[@lukeangelides4705]

Dont regret theres no point in looking back

[@sunburstshredder]

I think that if you're ever on the fence, follow your heart and your gut feeling. It may be possible to salvage things, but if you feel like you're forcing yourself to continue for the sake of it, it's best to go your separate ways, as hard as it may be.

[@aminafahmy3711]

yes but sometimes it's so hard especially when you want things to work out...

[@Je11keng]

Im struggling 😢

[@valentynkhaman7688]

I forced myself for 7 month and eventually ended things. Started having issues with sleep, heartaches, headaches etc during these 7 month It is so hard to end things with the person you once were the happiest with.... And imagined your future But it is what is it

[@lazyb3e]

It’s been almost a month since my ex broke up with me and for a while I felt like I lost a piece of myself. Although I know it was for the best and we ended in friendly terms it still hurts… however this experience has taught me that pain is all a part of growing up and I can either hide from it or embrace it

[@Psych2go]

Breakups, even amicable ones, are often painful. But it sounds like you're going through it very well and in a mature manner. How are you doing now? Do you feel like you've been taking care of yourself mentally and physically?

[@amirajessemonda1835]

😢same

[@hottest_moomoo_aghase3105]

Same😭😭😭❤️

[@monoqhobia.]

same.. though its been a month already for me 🥲

[@luftpods4444]

im in the same situation right now and i want to move on and i try to think im better now but i want her back too and just think we might could fixx it, idk man im so confused and trapped rn, any advice?

[@artisticalex1206]

I didn’t deal with a breakup but I ended a friendship a few days ago and I needed to watch a video like this.

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for sharing something so personal with us.. May I ask how you're doing? What was the reason for ending the friendship and how did it go?

[@artisticalex1206]

@@Psych2go my friend moved up to Michigan a few years ago and didn’t bother to tell me before so I could hang out with her one more time and say goodbye and she promised me she would visit anytime she comes down but yet she only did it once and the last two times never bothered to tell me she was in town and when I asked why both times she said “A family member was in the hospital” and then the second time said “I went to a funeral” yet she hung out with other friends I didn’t know she had having the time of her life. I also found out from one of her friends she liked starting drama and lied about a lot of things so that was why I ended it. I also got rid of her and blocked her off my social media. And I won’t lie I cried about it for two days.

[@tamaraleon395]

I had a similar situation. I think I'm going to erased that number.

[@thisloop]

Yea same. Its already 3 weeks

[@wingoflife3140]

I am experiencing something similar. We were best friends but I don't think I can keep being best friends with her, but I won't cut my ties with her either, because out mothers are friends as well and we are actually neighbors. So instead, I will remain friends but nothing's will be the same as before

[@jamessmith-ds1ww]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

[@andrewvasilyev3540]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

[@jamessmith-ds1ww]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

[@andrewvasilyev3540]

Her name is Chamani White, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@jamessmith-ds1ww]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@frankgeary7574]

Hey man I thought that was my writing because I feel the exact same way! The exact same. My chest stays tight from anxiety and I feel an emptiness in my stomach. I can feel the fracture in my heart. I loved that lady so much. I am so scared to reach out to her because of the rejection. I can’t stand to get rejected by her anymore.

[@OliPop_Official]

I dated someone for only 2 months and we broke up 2 days ago and they already started seeing someone they mentioned they liked before. I am shattered.

[@sunandabiswas9213]

you dodged a bullet!

[@wovenwar8528]

I’ve been trying to justify a breakup for 3 years. I didn’t want to split with her. Very painful. But this video finally put it into words. Thank you.

[@letmein_5959]

Yes man me too and it's really hard I don't want to hurt her but I feel more alive and refreshed when I'm alone or with my friends. I'm still afraid to say something about it but it must happen 😢 because life is too short to be unhappy

[@gabrielmot2516]

I really can relate to you guys, i’ve recently just broke up with her and we have been dating for 2 years. I have been so afraid to do it and now the loneliness guilt and attachment feels too much to bare, but i know deep down that I too feel refreshed when away. I know i couldn’t commit to her either, but still i wish she was here. But going back and forward is not the mature responsible thing to do. I hope you guys have found some peace.

[@iamhdcc]

This is the sign that you don't love her, so, why start the relationship?@@letmein_5959

[@iamhdcc]

thank you@@gabrielmot2516

[@xLiLlyx98]

Just think of it this way: staying in this relationship that you've wanted to be out of for three years is wasting both of your time that you could be growing separately or with different people. Let this go and let her meet someone better for her :)

[@Momo2804.]

It is hard to leave an on- off relationship. I never thought I would experience it myself. It is so easy to say it to friends to break up until you are caught in your own drama. Both want each other, but both know it will be unhealthy. Breaking up because of cheating or loss of feeling is way easier. But being told to have feelings for you but can not have a relationship due to avoidant tendencies is hard, man. Always these push and pull situations. I now understand these people more. You have to experience it to feel the inner conflict that tears you apart. Update: After more contact and a sleepover, I thought this was a turning point. But I was wrong, I have been ghosted after telling her that this can not continue. She either says yes or no bc this shit is exhausting. I was really polite, and her reaction no to answer to my simple request of a yes or no, just showed me her true nature. She always played games and this was just a test if she could still have me. Sucks to fall for a narcissist person. I should have seen it coming. Now I will try to be cautious as hell. Sadly, I have attracted borderline and narcissist partners. They are related in their nature and have one thing in common, they use you to make them feel good, and then they toss you away with little regard for your feelings. Why? Because there is always someone new to fulfill their insatiable need of validation and self-love. Be aware if you are an empath and want to help people. A lot of people take but little return your goodness.

[@logout7491]

No, i rather not. Sorry.

[@devashrijoshi9079]

I am actually going through this. Idk what my guy wants at this point.

[@LifeExpert_]

Trust me its nit easier to leave after cheating. Im stuck in this realtionship. Everyone tells me to leave. Every video that i watch shows me the truth. But as soon im alone im back in that menthal state where i cant leave her because i still love her too much even she treats our love like dirt

[@Momo2804.]

@devashrijoshi9079 I am sorry. I finally decided to allow myself some distance. I announced that I need some distance to think about this relationship. I finally stopped the power dynamic. You are not powerless. This time will help you to decide.

[@Momo2804.]

@devashrijoshi9079 I have been cheated and gaslighted by a Borderline Ex with a friend of mine. Trust me, both cases are shit. But betrayal is so much worse that you don't want the person, bc you know deep down that they killed you consciously.

[@legionevo1137]

Been constantly thinking about breaking up with my partner, holding out on the thought of things getting better. There have been times when I have double thoughts of staying and leaving.

[@cheesethekoala8756]

Hoping things get better is a big one for my relationship. Could I ask, what have you ended up deciding if anything? How are you managing?

[@lolololololollol4793]

@@cheesethekoala8756me too. the good times keep me here but i know im truly not happy. ive never ever fought with any else this much my entire life. i have extreme resentment towards him because of the things that have happened in the past.

[@Je11keng]

Same I'm struggling 😢

[@drextinc.4509]

@@olemonqueeno8684 you switched up real fast 💀

[@rn2trappy891]

@@olemonqueeno8684haha i’m literally you rn! it was going so well last week and now we’re in a BAD place again

[@victoriamcelearney2788]

Just ended a relationship with an incompatible partner. It was so fuelled with tension and anger, it was the only time I felt anything so I couldn’t leave and deal with the loneliness. I know it’s better for us to be apart but losing someone you’ve made a routine with is so difficult.

[@kholsk8857]

This is exactly my situation, I'm literally crying as I read that. I think this is my sign. How are you doing now?

[@victoriamcelearney2788]

@@kholsk8857 I’m doing a lot better now! I found more time for friends and was doing a lot better in work. It might be time for you to part ways with the one making you feel so emotionally drained xx ❤️

[@DewyTrent]

Just broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years and this was my exact experience

[@careyhutcheson4473]

You were able to explain what I have been feeling perfectly. Thank you for sharing. Knowing I'm not alone in this situation is bringing me peace and comfort. I'm not just an angry, crazy person

[@aishatheashal]

✨Timestamps✨ Here we go again 01:12 That's not what i want 01:59 I'm "fine" 02:44 Emotional distance 03:17 The light switch relationship 04:13 Are you better with or without? 05:09

[@IssacLHunt]

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[@TheMissloverbabe]

I broke up with my fiancé weeks ago. It was a painful decision but I’m sure it’s good for me. I wasn’t happy in the relationship for a while but I couldn’t be honest to myself. Whenever he said he loves me, I would get back to him. You actually don’t need signs to tell yourself if a breakup is good for you. A simple question can do - are you happy? If the answer is hell no, there is no reason to stay in the relationship anymore.

[@katrinakaye7997]

that's me now... not sure why it's so hard to move on, although I guess living together has something to do with it.

[@TheMissloverbabe]

@@katrinakaye7997 You're stronger and braver than you thought! You can do it :)

[@katrinakaye7997]

@@TheMissloverbabe I definitely believe that... just have to work out my next steps!

[@lokeyz9449]

I found this video 3 weeks after I ended a 3 year relationship. I had been debating with myself if I made the right decision, constantly considering his feelings and everyone’s feelings but my own (I’m close with his family). I’m proud to say that I made the right decision.

[@ThatsShowbizBabyy]

Literally in the exact same situation right now. Best of luck!

[@jesslovesclips]

@@ThatsShowbizBabyy me too :(

[@Jahsandrea1]

@@jesslovesclipsme three😢

[@gabrielmot2516]

I have done the same, and the feeling of uncertainty is overwhelming. As well the attachment to the person makes you want to go back, but this all requires some deep evaluation.

[@_AntaraChowdhury]

You're strong. May I ask why you broke up?

[@nicole_g8890]

It’s extremely hard to see that most of these points apply to your relationship……. We’re long distance with the furthest distance possible and it isn’t even the distance that’s killing us but the bad communication, not feeling loved anymore etc. when we actually wanted to get married……especially the topic of “here we go again” hit hard

[@flansaphh]

Im sorry to hear, i recently broke up with my long distance partner and reminding myself this really helped me: You shouldn’t keep a relationship going JUST for the sake of the relationship („But we wanted to get married…But we‘ve been together for so long already) I hope the both of you get to be happy in the end and remember, the earlier you’re true to yourself the earlier you can heal!

[@faye2135]

i am going through the same ldr situation, thinking if i should wait for him or let go. it’s been 14 days since we texted each other 😢

[@nicole_g8890]

@@flansaphh thank you for your kind words 🫶🏼

[@CosiVlogs]

@@faye2135 same... we didn't text since almost 2 months

[@TwinkieReid]

@@faye2135 Wow. I’m sorry i know this is not my business but that is a long time. Of course you don’t need to talk 24/7 but at least a check in would help..

[@Danielle-dw5gh]

This one hit really hard... I'm 38 and I've been in a toxic relationship for almost 15 years. And just 4 years were decent. Turns out he is a narcisist that gaslighted me horribly. His family has been the worst influence in his life since they consider corruption and questionable businesses a normal thing to do. I've been so miserable...I had just broken up with the love of my life (who sadly cheated on me) when he presented himself like a knight in shining armor. I fell in love with him but he became such a greedy, offensive, secretive and lying person. When he was at his worst time I helped him but now that I'm at my worst because of health issues and depression he has shown his real dark side. I think he is bipolar like his mother was. I can't stand him anymore. The only reason I'm with him is because of our beautiful dog. I love him so much that I can't leave him behind. And because I don't want to be alone...but I am ready to leave. I just need to figure out how to force him to let me be with my little boy. I've endured so much. May God help me.

[@mirandacarrillo1654]

I hope you can leave as soon as possible, and like the video says, finally have all those benefits of breaking Up, I hope your health improves a lot within all those changes and that your dog can stay with you :)

[@BewitchedApocalypse]

Bless your heart and best of luck with everything 🍀 I hope you can get out with your furbaby soon

[@dliedke]

Use the same courage to disclose your personal life for thousands of people to change your life in this hard moment.

[@Danielle-dw5gh]

Thank you. It takes courage and a very strong will and health to get out. I am taking legal actions to have custody of my little one. That's all that matters. God bless

[@Danielle-dw5gh]

By reading your message I can tell that you love your furbaby too and that you understand how deep that bond is. Thank you for your kind words. I am taking legal actions to take him with me. I wish you the best in life since it's obvious that you are an amazing person. Bless you

[@brooklynntoombs2265]

ended things with my ex partner a couple days before our 1 yr anniversary and its the first time in a long time I've felt physical pain after breaking up. Even tho we ended things on good terms I became emotional distant over the past couple months and our disagreements always revisted the same root problem(his trust issues) and I've come to realize its easier if we split truly I don't want it, because its easy to stay where youre comfortable rather than be uncomfortable having to adjust and grow okay with being alone. but its important to remember when they no longer choose to love you its okay because you'll always love yourself and don't stay where you aren't happy

[@jimmyhingst4163]

Holy crazy this just happened to be and my girlfriend.. ex girlfriend Except is was the guy with trust issues

[@butteredshrimp5359]

i can't believe my first relationship had every one of these factors. just proves that we both weren't the right person for each other.

[@jordanrintoul-thomas722]

Left a toxic relationship last year. So happy I did. I'm rediscovering myself, I have a better sense of what I want, and I've been so much more loving and positive lately. You can still have romance in your life when you're single.

[@walkerharris7625]

I needed to see this video.. I was trying to hold onto us and it wasn't worth it.. She was never the one for me but I always put her on a pedestal, she couldn't even respect my basic needs with reassurance & quality time. We got into the same arguments over and over again and I could feel her slowly pulling herself away, spending more time with friends & prioritizing everything that wasn't me. Better times are ahead, and we'll all find a partner that truly loves & values us the way we want to be.

[@shiibiii]

EVERY VIDEO YALL RELEASE IS THE EXACT SITUATION I AM IN AT THAT MOMENT

[@thisisnerdi]

FOR REAL!

[@dead_channe1]

I broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago and needed some reassurance that it's better this way. This video helped me a lot. Thanks Psych2Go.

[@Psych2go]

We're glad that the video gave you some assurance about your breakup. How are you doing since?

[@A55a551n]

Timestamps 1). Here we go again 1:13 2). That's not what I want 2:00 3). I'm "fine" 2:44 4). Emotional distance 3:18 5). The light switch relationship 4:14 6). Are you better with or without 5:10 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[@IssacLHunt]

⚠TIMESTAMP VIRGIN ALERT ⚠

[@Chemist_Tea]

I decided to break up with my boyfriend a little over a week ago (haven't broken up yet because I realized it not too long before a big trip we were planning on going on and I figured it would be better to wait until after the trip), but I keep on wondering if maybe I'm just not trying hard enough, maybe I just need to be a better communicator and that will fix things. But watching this video and realizing that I meet 4/6 of the conditions listed helped me to be certain that I'm making the right decision, even if it hurts. The hard thing is that I know it'll really hurt him because he thinks the relationship is going fine, but that's the whole problem with the relationship: I keep making myself and my wants smaller to make room for him, and whenever I try to speak up, it feels like he doesn't hear what I'm saying. I just know that I can't stay in this relationship any longer, but I feel really bad whenever I think about actually going through with it and ending the relationship, because I don't want to hurt him.

[@andiepanagaris5028]

Same situation here. But when you think about it from another perspective it’s kinder to let them go if we’re not feeling the same feelings as they are. It’s kinder in the long run

[@zacharyfarrell9654]

These are great reasons. You guys need to be a team and if you can’t be on a team due to different values then there really is no point in being together. Also, how nice they treat you is another factor too.

[@azucena4747]

This made me feel so much better. Thank you for this video.❤ Going through a breakup sucks but it’s a good opportunity to grow and get to know yourself better.

[@164starman]

I've been in a relationship for the past 10 years, and for the longest time it was a wonderful relationship. But about a year-and-a-half ago, she moved in with me. And ever since, I've been feeling my passion for the relationship waning... The worst part is, she's not really even doing anything wrong, nor has she really even changed. The two of us rarely ever argue, and we're both pretty good at supporting each other emotionally. Yet when she comes home from work, I'm not excited to see her anymore. These days I find myself thinking "Well, she's home, I guess my alone time is over. Great." I almost wonder if a live-in relationship just isn't for me. I've always been extremely introverted, borderline asocial. Part of me thinks that a bigger living space would do me good. Like if I had an office I could just hide away in when I want to be alone, which I don't have in the studio apartment we're currently in. But that's a big commitment. Best case, I find a good sized apartment and sign a year's lease. Worst case, I have to buy a house and now have a mortgage to deal with. And what if it doesn't help? Then if we split up anyway, one of us is now stuck with a living space that we might not be able to afford alone. I feel guilty for thinking about breaking up. Like I've just been leading her on, for 10 years. As far as I can tell, she's still very much in love with me, which just makes it even worse. But it's not like I could've known I was going to turn out like this. Earlier on in the relationship, all I ever wanted was for the two of us to finally get to live together, and not have to spend so much time apart anymore...

[@Ashley-og9ti]

😯 you are me, I am you. It gets hard to explain because the partner is not a narcissist; didn't cheat; is not abusive, etc. They are actually funny and charming. No one really understands why you want out, not even you. The feelings slowly subsided. Maybe boredom and irritability occurred. The excitement to be in their presence and have their company just diminished. Then I just feel like really cruel 😔 what's even more worse in my situation I ended it but, I let the guilt take over after some time, and the knowing the other person wasn't doing well. I went back. Only to be in the same miserable position and unhappy. It's exhausting 😮‍💨 I hope you get the strength and courage to do what's best for YOU 🤍

[@rachaeljackson3759]

⁠​⁠​⁠@@Ashley-og9ti Yes I feel this 100% my current bf is so kind and loving. He’s supportive in pretty much anything I do. He makes me feel wanted, he makes me laugh. I do think I could see is getting married for sure, but at the same time I feel like we need to some kind of break, mostly of which has to do with me and my insecurities I guess. One, I’m not big on his family, but he is very close with them. There is a cultural and language barrier that makes things difficult. In family gatherings of his I just feel so alone and out of place and self conscious. I just feel like I don’t mesh well with them and that they don’t really care to get to know much about me. It doesn’t help that we both still live with our parents so I feel like we’re always around his family because we spend most of our time at his house. Sometimes I wonder if I’d feel the same way if we lived in a place of our own. But aside from that I also feel like I need to be more established in my life before settling down. We’ve been together for almost 3 years now, but My insecurities with my current job situation and finances also put a strain on the relationship. He’s always paying for stuff because he knows I don’t make that much but this just makes me feel bad, more insecure, and like I can’t always give my full opinion because I’m thinking, “well he’s paying for it so…” Then lastly, I feel like we bring out the laziness in each other. Too often we stay up late watching TV. We always eat out. We try to sit down and make plans to better ourselves but we always end up in the same place and it’s been 3 years now 😩 Idk, I think I’m going to tell him how I feel tonight. I don’t necessarily want to break up with him. Like I said I think I can see us married. But I also think we need time apart and if it’s meant to be we’ll find each other again

[@Ashley-og9ti]

@rachaeljackson3759 Wow! Trust me you are not alone, it's kind of bitter sweet almost a relief knowing others can relate, but sad and frustrating to go through these emotions and uncertainties. I felt like I was reading my own words hearing your concerns. I too don't care much for my bfs family, and certain friends I avoid being around as much as possible. We also are different in many ways - he's so outgoing and has this aura everyone is drawn too (which is awesome!) I'm a homebody and would rather not deal with humans at all lol. At the same time, I strive for a better future, short and long term. Our disagreements most often involve finances. 😮‍💨 It's okay to give yourself time and space to figure what you want. Believe me, it will also make a huge difference when/if you have your own space (living wise). Give yourself grace. It sounds like you are really trying and want the best. Don't ever stop moving forward, whether alone or with a partner. I feel you on the making each other lazy! Shows and movies all night, eating junk food and heavy comfort foods rather we eat out or cook at home. Sad to say, even though I should have discipline and discernment (I don't want to cry victim), I find myself less focused in general when we are together; putting off work towards goals skipping the gym, drinking more. I hope you all can figure it out, work it out if possible, or separate peacefully to better yourself and in time it will all make sense and you have clarity of what you need and want to do. Talk to him, like you said let him know how you feel and maybe you guys can come to terms on things. If you ever want to talk about how it's going, I'm here!

[@rachaeljackson3759]

@@Ashley-og9ti Hey thanks for that reply! Like you said, it helps knowing other people have been in your shoes 😮‍💨 I just have to make the right decision for myself and know that whatever decision I make, it will be ok and the world will keep spinning 😅

[@RNZTY]

@@rachaeljackson3759this is crazy. For a second when I was reading your comment I had to stop and make sure you weren’t my ex 😅 we really all be going through the same things in life

[@Ksobro]

I NEEDED THIS VIDEO SO MUCH. Going through a break up and was doubting myself but almost all of these I checked off. I feel so relieved and validated. Thank you so much

[@meowwmwoww]

it's so hard for me to let go. to accept that the person, who meant the world and more to will no longer be here. and you have to overcome this, but without this person. all on your own. i can't believe i won't talk to him again. it was me who left. but it was for the best. when i remember his last words such as 'i will always remember you and i am very proud of you to make this decision. please, know that with time the pain and the void will feel less intense. you will have a happy life. i will miss you'. saying goodbye is very hard, dealing with those feelings is so much hard, missing is insane but realizing that you no more have rhis special person is just killing. i don't know how i will cope.

[@rayshafi2855]

you’ll be okay :) im just getting out of a long term relationship (4 years) but the truth of the matter is we simply grew into different people time heals all wounds my friend we’ll get through this together

[@meowwmwoww]

@@rayshafi2855 thank you for those words. it got slightly better, but sometimes this emptiness covers me up.. wish you luck and strength to cope

[@cat_bowl_]

i broke up with my boyfriend a week ago and i feel this so much. he was a wonderful person and i love him, but deep down i knew im not 100% commited. we were just too different and i felt like he often just doesnt get me. i didnt feel this passion and knowing this is right that i know i can feel. i broke his heart terribly because i was the one to him. it feels awful. but i felt unfair to him, and we both deserve better. i miss him so much. i try to be busy but every time im alone it hurts so much.

[@meowwmwoww]

@@cat_bowl_ so true.. I'm makinf myself no time to process because it's scary..

[@hummingbird4934]

It doesn’t sound like you broke up for the right reasons. I pushed my partner away after going through something deeply traumatic and I regret it everyday. It’s been over three years now and I’m still not over it

[@stephen-waswong5099]

I would just like to say that I really appreciate this channel. I am still in school and I just had my first REAL heartbreak 4 days ago, and just at about midnight today, I found out that he broke up with me for a reason he wasn't completely sure about, and that he just didnt feel happy. At first I felt that I was to blame, but then I thought about how he made me feel for the past 4 months and how his actions often caused me to question my self-worth. (I often tried to think about what he would like, rather than what I also like, if that makes sense) I refered back to this channel, and considering this video was posted pretty much right after I found out, it has helped me so much. This channel does great things and I am glad I found it. To whoever runs this, I hope you know you are doing wonders and have helped me so much; you have really pulled me out of some dark corners. Please know you are loved and appreciated ❤️ (p.s, sorry for spelling/grammar mistakes. Haven't been sleeping well as of late)

[@tearsonpages_]

Hey, are you doing alright?! I'm sorry that you've to go through it, I got dumped 3 weeks ago so I get it, and the fact that he didn't give a clear reason either. Just wanna check up on you!!

[@stephen-waswong5099]

@tearsonpages_ yes thank you so much! I didn't see this til now because I don't really check youtube haha. But yes I am doing so much better! Looking back on it he was not the one for me. He never said anything to my family, we didn't joke around, and lied multiple times whilst failing to communicate. I did a whole self love journey and realized I need to stick to my standards this time. I met a boy and we are becoming friends and both like eachother and he does infact fit my standards. Also, I am so sorry you went through that as well. How are you holding up?

[@21stcenturyninja64]

I actually enjoy watching my fiancé play video games. While he does tend to occasionally put things before my needs like nearly missing my lunch break at work because of an internet argument, he always brings it back and does something special and selfless for me the next time. He was there the next time I worked and helped me get through a lot of emotions that were weighing on me.

[@nerd26373]

The pain of having to endure immense heartbreak is just temporary. Do whatever's best for your own good.

[@ishna2023]

I just had my first break up from a relationship of 2 years, this is exactly what I felt, especially fights on the same topic.

[@NeraNotes]

I watched this video ten months ago, while I was in a relationship where we needed to breakup but I couldn’t face that reality properly. Now I finished watching video as a newly single person who’s never felt lighter in spirit and happier. People tell me I sound better now too.

[@me1cqt]

i love this art style! the timers of each section are super helpful too :)

[@LoLaLyTV]

It's crazy that it's 2am and my breakup 2 months ago is the reason I'm awake 😢 ughhhhh 🥺🥺🥺😫

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for sharing something so personal with us. Are you having trouble sleeping because of your break up? Have you been taking good care of yourself in the aftermath of the breakup?

[@LoLaLyTV]

@@Psych2go I've been trying but not staying consistent. I never thought I'd be almost 30 still letting relationships break my heart. I just have to be single now because I just can't picture myself crying over someone at 35 or 40

[@Psych2go]

Not at all! I think breakups affect people regardless of their age. So I think it's completely normal that you're having a hard time over a breakup even if you're almost 30 years old. We hope that you're still taking care of yourself and that you're able to recover from your breakup soon..

[@luckyguliver]

One of the best “break up” videos out there. Simply Big Thank You

[@Abc123z1000]

My partner and I broke up 9 days ago today. Unfortunately, I could relate to all 6 of the signs 😢Though I still love her a lot, I knew that breaking up with her was best for us... It was such a hard thing to do, breaking up with her and going our separate ways while we still loved each other. As much as it sucks, even if I'm not in her life, I still want her to be happy. < 3

[@aGiibb]

Same thing is happening with me

[@snOags]

One of the best and most coherent videos I've seen on looking within yourself to see if you should break up. Thanks for the good video. It's helped me put the blocks together and to move forward with my decision. I noticed several of my feelings came up in this video. I loved th examples provided.

[@jemmyoti9602]

"You made my heart break and that made me who i am"

[@EZM7]

Your voice is literal perfection. So soothing

[@EthanG298]

It's weird seeing this video pop up in my sub box gave me a jolt of anxiety, almost because the truth was staring right at me. My ex of a serious long term relationship actually broke up with me two years ago now and at the time I couldn't understand and was devestated by it, watching this video now and being able to reflect more objectively makde me feel like I could really resonate with a lot of the points, mainly 3 and 6. My emotional needs weren't being met at all but I told myself everything was fine because I had invested so much into the relationship and put my ex partner on such a pedestal that I felt they could do no wrong, but looking back they were barely even trying to participate in the relationship anymore. And although I never felt like I couldn't chase dreams or be open about certain opinions, I do feel I was putting so much focus on the relationship that I had accidentally started neglecting my friendships, family and career, now all those needs are being met far more than they were and my happiness is far more spread out amongst many needs, rather than all my happiness being dependent upon my partner. If anyone reading this is going through a breakup or feels it's time to breakup then please know that it really does get better. I thought my whole world had ended when my ex broke up with me and now I'm really happy again, and the things that are making me happy are much more healthy and sustainable than the happiness from the relationship was. I still miss my ex and hope they're doing okay but you can miss someone and still know that breaking up was the correct thing to do.

[@gingerqueen820]

Going through it, ex broke up with me last week and my heart is shattered in millions pieces. However, deep down I knew we weren’t a good match to start with, for some reason we stayed together for 4 years because we got along well on other aspects, just never wouldn’t have a future because of our core values are fundamentally different. I can be rational about the whole situation but the pain is still unbearable. I am moving out next month 😢

[@mihirjoshi8934]

@@gingerqueen820Yes it’s the time and emotions we invested and also the memories which makes us feel hurt and sad. But from my experience, time is the best healer. Realizing all the Cons of that relationship helps get over it comparatively faster.

[@__Krystal__]

The timing for this is crazy! I'm planning to break up with my bf this weekend, but it hurts being the one to break up. Especially when all of my stuff is still there. But I'm 33, want a family and kids, and he's flip flopped on kids so many times (I've known him for 9 years) and doesn't believe in marriage, that I don't want to keep wasting my time before I get too old and cant have kids anymore. It sucks because I still care about him, but we have way too many different viewpoints in life and what the future holds. Any advice for how to break up with someone, before moving all your stuff out?

[@angb6616]

🫢it’s the situation I’m kind of in now. He’s a great guy sometimes but we have too many things that aren’t compatible now and yet we live together, share a bed etc and just signed another year lease in this crazy economy. With little savings and no one to go to, my best friend lives in another state with a very full house, I just have to continue this until I’m financially more stable, which may take another full year to do. I can fake it but my feelings just aren’t what they should be in a loving relationship though I do value him as a friend. I can say that when I get closer to that time, I’ll be packing and moving when he’s not around. He’s fairly clueless on seeing subtlety so he most likely won’t notice much is missing until it’s close. Most of my stuff is in our storage unit anyway so the things here won’t be as noticeable. Good luck in your journey.

[@seber7376]

Best thing I can suggest is to be honest with him, don't sugar coat anything. Have a plan in place (where you're going to go/how you're going to afford things). Tell him exactly why it's happening. Since you're not married and don't have kids, anything in his name is his and anything in your name is yours - even assets like house, car etc... (at least in Canada). If both your names are on it, then it's 50/50. Eliminate all communication, unless you need to do so to decide logistics. It will suck at first but maybe the time apart and immediate stop in communication will allow you to at least be civil with each other down the road. Too much arguing, greed and back and forth during the break up will just create resentment. It's going to suck no matter what and you can't control what he does/the way he feels about it, all you can do is be sure with yourself. Best of luck to you (and him) if it needs repeating, don't sugar coat anything, tell him the truth and don't make it harder than it needs to be.

[@patriciapat2106]

I've thought about breaking up with my bf because of my mental health, or rather lack thereof, thinking he'd be better off and happier not having to deal with me. But time and time again, he showed me that he truly loves me and doesn't want anyone else. It's hard having these feelings 'cause even if he did break up with me over that, I think I'd absolutely lose it and off myself. And I hate it when I hurt him because of the way I think and process things, the last thing I want is to hurt him and when I inevitably do, I break down and feel so shit, but he just holds me and tries to calm me down saying its okay or nothing happened, even though something did happen and its my fault. Sorry, i just needed to rant

[@Selly_]

I feel very sorry for your current mental health issues. But in my opinion it would be the best for you to openly communicate your worries and insecurities. Your bf sounds like a guy who will understand. I think breaking up would be the wrong choice. Maybe invent a ritual in your daily life that you guys do to reasure that no matter what happend (eg. a fight, insecurities), you know you have each others back. This could be something simple as touching your arms when you sleep or words of affirmation. Eather way, I wish you the best!

[@patriciapat2106]

@@Selly_ thank you Selina, we do communicate and he helps me a lot everyday. I told him about this and he supports me, and he said he doesn't see breaking up as an option, that also made me feel better. It's just intrusive thoughts, I wouldn't be able to break up, I don't think.

[@dollbunhun]

​@@Selly_ my problem is me and my bf truly love each other. But it's so difficult. I get really mad, hurting and angry. While he will shut down and stop talking all together. So we both usually trigger each other. I called him today. At first we only wanted to break up because we were both so mad. But then the anger washed off and we cried. It's super hard because we love each other and he's such a sweet boyfriend. But when things get too rough, he vanishes and I get super hurt because of that. It's a vicious circle.. He doesn't want to hurt me either but we both can't just break out of these circles.. Now we sort of made a step towards each other again...

[@Selly_]

@@dollbunhun Well, from what I've heard in your comment is, that your bf has more or less an avoiding attachment stile and you are more on the anxiety attachment stile. I could be wrong but it sounds like it. If you are both willing to work this situation out I would recommend informing you about the different attachment stiles together and sort out what could work for you, where this "blocking" comes from and if necessary get professional help to cope with the relationship and sort the childhood trauma out. But it's up to you and I don't have the full picture... But it's an direction. Hope it helps and good luck ☺️

[@deadbanana829]

This video helped me describe or point out the main reasons we broke up. Things I was not able to convey or even admit. Anyhow, I loved her and she will always be an important memory of my life.

[@dinogrl4102]

man youtube really on it with the timing of suggesting this video. i got broken up with the other day. and it hurts a lot. the second day hurt the worst so far. today i was mostly fine until i reminded myself of them and broke down into tears. i knew the relationship wasn't really good but i loved them and i'd do anything for them. i still would. i still care about them and want to do so much for them still despite how it went. we're not really on talking terms and i don't know if we ever will be again

[@PsycheUp617]

Wow, this video is incredible! The visuals, the music, everything is on point. I'm amazed at the talent and creativity showcased here. Well done!

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for being so "psyched up" about our content! :)

[@thecorrupted3217]

Had my break up 2 years ago, and i am still not ready to move on and accept it. Its just painful cause the breakup didnt happen cause of anything bad. We randomly lost feelings.

[@pokeman316]

Why do you think that happened?

[@dea9381]

Try to see the relationship as it was. I always had struggles moving on and that was because I only remembered the good times. Not remembered how it really was for me. It can be harder if it was a lovely person and it just didn't work out. Maybe you have missed someone who would treat you good and love you in your childhood? When I was younger it took me over a year to get over someone who ended it after a couple of weeks. Later I realized I wasn't grieving about them. It broke my heart because I was confronted what I was missing all my life. After I realized and took time to grief, it got way better. I hope you find what makes it so hard for you. And that you understand yourself and find ways for you so you can move on 🙏

[@thecorrupted3217]

@@pokeman316 i was bipolar, I needed medical help and I was dangerous by the time I recovered and got better she had lost feelings. I am still her best friend and we hang out. I just been single still don't feel like moving on and I don't bother her with it. She barely knows She is the only person I properly trust and she is still the kindest person I know. She always there so yeah Its hard we are friends so I am happy about that still

[@thecorrupted3217]

@@dea9381 thanks alot. My past is umm not so simple I am raised different cause culture and religion so it impacts me alot in moving on.

[@thecorrupted3217]

@BurningPhoenix still she's the kindest person I know. So I trust her

[@Renikee]

I really like this timeline for the points and the subtitles, it really helps. The timeline seems like a new thing, it would be nice for other videos as well.

[@Renikee]

@@Pycho2Go. go away bot

[@katrinakaye7997]

Def on the fence about all of this but deep down I know I need to leave. NOT because he is a bad person, just because we are both incompatible and always arguing. It makes it harder when you live together though, and renting is already so expensive. I hope that in 6 months time everything has worked out ♡

[@parisfran]

I was so just about to convince my friend that she needs to break up with her bf-

[@rosebudg]

Same... I fimAly convinced my 2 best friends that are dating to take a brake bc their relationship is killing them mentally

[@godsnotdonewithyouyet6955]

That's tricky ,and most times they ilk think your the villain,I would stay out of it ,after I give my opinion if I were you 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 goo luck 🤞🏾

[@Psych2go]

How come? Why do you think it's in her best interest to break up with her boyfriend?

[@parisfran]

@@Psych2go It has only been a month since they became lovers but they have too many problems with their relationship , her bf doesn't show much effort and only does when she asks if he wants to break up with her as well as taking out his anger on her all the time , and not to mention that both of them keep secrets from each other like her bf talking to a girl who obviously likes him and my friend always having to put up with all of that and never really mentions the issue to him. I can't take it anymore , watching my friend suffer from this to the point she wanted to end her own life just two days ago because she saw that he was flirting with another girl yet she doesn't want to leave him , like her bf literally told her that if they broke up he would be the first to move on because it wasn't that hard for him

[@EmmanueliAdzoh]

You’re weird af. Convince your friend? Like she can’t make her own decisions? Some friend you are & to blindly take everything your friend says at face value is naive. There’s always 3 sides to a story. Mind your own business

[@qamarbodaka5979]

It hurts realizing all that

[@pixelmorgaming398]

The more I watch the videos on this the more I realize I pushed them away, and they probably felt all the signs of falling out of love, and wanting to leave.

[@PokemonMaster436]

Currently going through a break up, lasted 7 years and I dearly miss her and As much as I hate to say it, the break up is good because it brought up alot of issues I didn't get over or didn't realize we're a problem, and I'm working towards bettering my mental state and I hope one day she'll give me a chance again

[@neofulcrum5013]

I still think about my ex from high school. We had a great thing going. But it was clear we were going in different directions. I would’ve just slowed her down anyway with how my life went for a time. But the connection? To this day I haven’t found anyone like her. I truly think she was the one who got away. And I’m just so unsure of if I can ever muster the strength to approach another girl when I don’t even know what to say to get her attention or keep her interested. That’s the effect of low self esteem I guess…

[@PeterWhite7]

Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser,i wasnt going to let my marriage of 18years crash

[@user-er9hv4pl2u]

amazing,i am kinda in a similar situation,how did you handle it?

[@PeterWhite7]

@@user-er9hv4pl2u well not the orthodox way but i was referred by a friend to a spiritual adviser and healer

[@user-er9hv4pl2u]

@@PeterWhite7 please how can i get in touch with the spiritual adviser?

[@PeterWhite7]

you can look her name up online and you will find all you need.

[@user-er9hv4pl2u]

@@PeterWhite7 thank you, .

[@annelise1412]

Just, THANK YOU SO MUCH ❤ I really needed this

[@hopesjourneyVA]

I've counted. I've been through about 12-13 of them... I'm 21 years old now, so... I truly hope this healthy relationship will be one we can heal from. I'll take notes of these. We only got the "Emotional Distance" one right now since we're a few states away today. Trying not to end up like their parents is a lot of pressure on them, so we've gotta make sure we're communicating 100% on our schedules so we can make time for each other even online.

[@Aftsov]

13 relationships at 21 years old? Jeez you sound ran through, damaged, and loaded with baggage! lmao

[@Rose_Butterfly98]

That's a lot of relationships, how did you keep going? I'm like 25 and I've only been in 1, after that, I just didn't want to try again.

[@starchild6067]

13 relationships by 21 🤣 bro your the problem.

[@hopesjourneyVA]

@@Rose_Butterfly98 I'm happy you took your time! There was always that one relationship that changed my life so I can get help for my actions. I've had to slow down because after realizing I was going through abandonment in my childhood, I developed attachment issues in highschool. Flew in and out of relationships like flies. I learned more and more about myself from each relationship.

[@hopesjourneyVA]

@@starchild6067 Obviously, I was the problem 🗿 my phone be trying to tell me something with this video

[@typicalghost6930]

I get this video on my recommendations the day I lose my first relationship 😭

[@Psych2go]

😭 Are you doing okay?

[@itismetotori]

I'm very sorry, hope you are doing okay

[@banelesibindane7145]

The voice just sounds angelic 😊❤️

[@grsfhhytff]

All that the breakup I've just been through (where my partner cheated on me after 5 years) has taught me is that absolutely nobody can be trusted and we are always, always alone.

[@fable_enthusiast]

I 100% agree, It's hard enough to trust someone, I'm in a 6 years relationship and even tho I know he would never cheat, I know that if anything happens to him I'm alone, but I'm okay with it, I've learnt to love myself first.

[@grsfhhytff]

@@fable_enthusiast yeah, you never know what horrible surprises life has in store. Mentally suiting up to be alone is the most sensible approach.

[@ultilinium8]

My dude that is a horrible way to live. And I'm not speaking as mr.sunshine talking out my ass. I'm speaking as someone that's lived that way because of my own life trust issuses. You say you need to armor up. And again I get it bad shit, happens, the thought is scary, the actual event hurts. But armoring up isn't going help the way you think it will. For example, my grandmother is over 100 years old. I know that any day, any mintute I could receive news of her passing. If I chose to armor up over that then like a real suit of armor I'd just be adding weight and strain to myself, restricting me from fully enjoying whatever time we have left. As for your dating situation I fear I that it would keep you from finding love. Your partner cheating on you sucks, but that wasn't your fault. That's part of their journey on being a better partner (should they choose to accept). But if you're sitting there trying to armor up and saying you'd be better off alone, when deepndown you do want someone, then that's you standing in your own way and being the mistro of your own misery. I don't have an ultimate answer here. Again, I've been there and know it's not great.

[@grsfhhytff]

@@ultilinium8 I get what you mean but I'm more referring to learning to actually like being in your own company. I'm never happier than when I'm sitting up the hills on my own. So much so that I wouldn't want to allow another person into a position where they could hurt me and ruin that again. Not to say I don't need anyone else in my life ever.... I'll just be keeping them emotionally at arms length. All the most enjoyable times I've had with women were when neither of us were too emotionally invested. The past few months has been Hell on Earth. I'd never hand someone that power over me again.

[@Aylii1]

@@ultilinium8Not everyone feels the same bro. It’s that simple.

[@jcvillamor0221]

Me and my partner broke up not too long ago, we broke up due to unresolved problems getting piled up one after another. I was feeling very devastated at the time mainly because I still wanted us to fight for each other. Not long after we broke up, my now-ex partner found someone new to start their story with and I'm left alone questioning where we went wrong.

[@ashcension253]

I don't know if this would be helpful for you but Clay Andrews and Matthew Hussey have great content that help people work through break-ups and relationships in a more meaningful way, I have personally found it really helpful in working through things myself, whether I was in or out of a relationship.

[@mihirjoshi8934]

You’ve put it up very nicely there. We miss our ex-partners coz we’ve put in time, emotions, energy and what not into the relationship and so we have that feeling that you both should fight for having each other back again. But analyse what went wrong and the Cons of your relationship if it had went forward if the break up had not happened. Lastly, time is the best healer but realising those Cons would help you get over it comparatively faster. More strength to you

[@Christylove2000]

I needed this, it helps to get advice when you need it

[@Psych2go]

We're so glad that this video was uploaded when you needed it. Which advice was helpful for you?

[@ronmontoya3673]

In lovelife heartaches is a proper tool to produce a new chance to love a better person 😍

[@timtravasos2742]

Superb analysis and presentation, narration and anination.

[@hinatagurl626]

thank u for this. i honestly had a really great bf 9ish months ago, but our future goals & values just didnt align. i still think he’s the nicest/sweetest person i ever met but it just wouldnt have made sense if we kept things going. i was heartbroken to break ties. but this video reminded me that i’ll be okay and he & i will one day find our own partners that will suit our fancies.!! :))

[@akoaykilalamo]

Thanks i needed this

[@TwilightJedi]

I did this a long time ago now and I know I had to, but it still destroyed my spirit. I don't know if I'll ever truly recover from it. My life is still a roller coaster of ups and downs and I know I had to do it at the time, but I don't know if I'll ever love again to be honest. I can't even get my own damn life together and I don't want to ever drag someone else into my own uncertainty. I don't know there's so much uncertainty in life that I doubt I can ever be certain about anything ever again. All I know is that alone at least, the only one I can hurt is myself, and that I'm at least comfortable with...

[@mihirjoshi8934]

Well you probably won’t love “blindly” again but isn’t that good? And why won’t you recover from it? Everyone does at some point and you will too! It takes time to recover but analyze the Cons of that relationship and why it didn’t work. In that way you’ll get over it comparatively faster. Work on yourself and your goals and stay happy! Strength to you❤

[@suniverseastro]

Thank you PS2 It is quite a hard time I don't want it happens Bless peace, sympathy and still happy and good emotion to each other after this period ❤

[@soram7549]

i just got out of on as soon as this video... i still love my ex but as a friend right now. thank u for being such a helpful channel to help me be clear and remind me not to go back just because im lonely

[@jasonfanclub4267]

What do you think, how many couples will break up after watching this video?

[@MoonGlow22]

0, people are mostly too blind to see Red flags in their relationship. Most People already know Red flags, they just ignore

[@cariocajin]

This is what breaks up a relationship: Unforgiveness, lack of care, immaturity, change in moral standards, mental health, change in financial situation, greed, pride and lust. If you can be the same person as you were when you met your "chosen one" AND that person also remains the same, then both will remain in the same relationship until they die. People change and most don't know how to deal with change. The body will grow and mature on its own, but the mind matures differently. "And stop being molded by this system of things, but be transformed by making your mind over," - Romans 12:2

[@m.l.7558]

There are people who get better in a relationship, so the change sometimes is for the better (happened to some friends of mine)

[@kavihan9699]

Thank you.. This convinced me that I took the best decision ever. So I’ll heal and be better soon.

[@sakuracardcaptor4709]

Here we go again fits me and my ex friend perfectly, this applies to friendships not just romantic relationships.

[@thunderblossom8114]

I actually had it where I broke up with my ex last year. I went on a Disneyworld trip last May. I got back, and my ex said he didn’t really have time to miss me or notice much difference. Yes, he wound up saying they weren’t the right words, but they were said. I also got to a point where it was stale, it was all routine and the same thing. I actually wanted to hang out with my current fiancé more. Summer of last year, I went out to the fuel station at our grocery store because I got the impression I was causing my ex stress by being at work (we worked at the same place). I also had it where in 2020, my chocolate lab Leroy passed. I was telling my ex what happened and he actually texted me to stop because he was hanging out with his friend and it made him cry. Finally July 3 of last year (2022), I broke up with him. I gave myself a week before starting dating my other coworker, who became my current fiancé. I actually have gotten out of my toxic parents’ house, live with my fiancé, and I’m actually doing a lot better than i have in a while. My fiancé and i have created a safe space for us

[@crazygirl6242]

I'm thinking for break up from last 4 months but my feelings doesn't let me do this 😢 it is very Hard

[@user-xe9bf8vp9j]

Her voice is so soothing

[@carelessislanders]

thanks for sharing about mental health my friend love it

[@megustare8337]

I should've broken up with my ex-boyfriend sooner, but I stayed and kept going back to him. This led to a 6-year long toxic relationship until we broke up for good last February. We were on-and-off in the first 2 years of our relationship, we always argued about his dishonesty and how I wanted him to get his GED and go to college, and I want to move out and get my own place and maybe move to another state while he wants to continue living with his parents. He was also emotionally absent because he always kept looking at his phone whenever we were out together. We finally broke up when he cheated on me. I was crushed to let go of him, but suddenly I stepped out and discovered my true self. I became more inspired to write more song lyrics for my band's potential music, I started attending more concerts and music festivals, and I became a part of the alternative community. I feel so liberated now that I can be the real me!

[@Hussianskp]

Hii I wanna talk with u !!!

[@ifyifylaza]

The only thing I can say yes to is that the goals between my ex and me were différent. We’re both moving away and I struggle with it every day since she ended it. I’m constantly asking the question of whether or not things would be better with or without her and I can’t imagine anything would be better without her… feeling so stuck and lost because I don’t feel like this should end :( thanks for the lesson though Psych2Go

[@osmnbaran]

thanks for this.. i really needed it.

[@rashikapokharel]

I broke that on-and-off relationship 8 days ago. It just cried my eyes out and has been crying for the last 8 days but at the end of the day, I realized it was for good. We argued about the same thing repeatedly and it seemed like I lost my value for him. It was exhausting and draining and had to let it go for good. Even though, I miss him a lot I have to realize that there is someone out there for me who is more compatible and life is fun being single too. I hope time heal us.

[@yxnnii]

my reaction: ohhh also me: single

[@fynmerkyYTL8134L]

thank you for this video❤going through it rn

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for sharing. How are you doing right now? Are you able to manage your emotions well?

[@fynmerkyYTL8134L]

@@Psych2go I've been going over everything I did to contribute to how things ended and how I could've done better. not beating myself up, but critically analyzing and trying to change 1 step at a time.

[@Psych2go]

Self-reflection is one of the best things you can do for yourself. We're so glad that you're taking the time for yourself to heal and manage your emotions. And yes, take it one day at a time and everything will be much better slowly but surely! :)

[@Createssence]

currently going through a break up right now and it’s tearing me apart from the inside and out. i loved him a lot. but i know that good things that are meant to be , will be 🖤

[@roziebean8378]

It felt like a breath of fresh air when I broke up with my toxic ex

[@Foundlilly11]

What if you are in an on and off again relationship because you both just really want it to work? There is no avoidant, you both really want to build something together, but the circumstances always get in between. It's tearing me apart. My ex and I have had a break before and now we are broken up again...We always got back together. I just can not imagine myself with anyone else. I want to make him happy, but somehow there is always something that I do wrong according to him. I just want him back and things to work out :'(

[@yourhapanextdoor]

Omg how did it work out eventually???

[@RoseBeariess]

I was watching this hoping a breakup was what was best for my recent relationship but we didn’t really have any of these signs. Maybe parts of these signs but nothing so drastic the relationship couldn’t work. We broke up because my family didn’t approve and he didn’t want to tear a family apart…. I respect his decision and the breakup was somewhat mutual but this sucks

[@kumalalakumalalakumalalasa6055]

it was really good you're KZbin channel helps me a lot😊. thanks a lot you've really helped me with changes.

[@Makayla_Johnson]

I needed this ❤

[@satou22_]

This is the moment I'm glad to be single

[@Airsoftgoat47]

I just broke up with my girlfriend and this video popped up right after. What a coincidence

[@Psych2go]

:( We hope the break up isn't too hard on you. Are you taking care of yourself? How are you doing?

[@Airsoftgoat47]

@@Psych2go I haven’t been well or taking care of myself. Iv been so confused and wondering if I should get back with her but I’m slowly realizing that it was a bad relationship

[@mangos2376]

@@Airsoftgoat47 I'm no expert but maybe with this small context in mind, make sure you take better care of yourself. It's hard to do anything if you haven't taken care of yourself and given yourself time to heal and reflect. I hope you have people in your life that are trustworthy and that you can talk to them about this. With the right people, it really helps gain perspective. I wish both you and her the best of luck.

[@Airsoftgoat47]

@@mangos2376 thank you so much. It means alot

[@Psych2go]

I think @mangos2376 said it very well. We hope that you're able to find rest and heal during this time. And the hard thing about breaking up is that there is no timeline for when somebody will get better. So it's best to not worry about when you'll get better but rather start working at it little by little everyday. Thank you for your reply and thank you @mangos2376 for the insight.

[@monetorr8498]

Going through a break up right now but i still live with him, but he cheated and he lied for 2 years about it until he finally admitted it when i needed a break. Now he is sweeter than ever and every day says the right things and how he wants me and no one else but i know I cant go back their is no trust. I might forgive but i dont ever forget and it will haunt me every time he is gone, I refuse to torture myself and crush him with his past mistakes every day so he cant ever fully heal or live without guilt. I needed this video because I would question and do pros and cons lists constantly because the good times were amazing but the bad were so horrible it was soul crushing. I hope one day I will feel the love I deserve.

[@RayPeng-07]

The light switch relationships are awful. Sadly all my 3 serious ones were like that. So yes, even if it hurts, it's better to end them and go away instead sitting in an unhealthy circle. So.... maybe here can be a tip for a new episode? For example how to get rid of the trauma and how to start to want get involved in a new relation? Maybe you guys can make a video about if if you hadn't yet?

[@dea9381]

I love this idea and a video about this topic could be really helpful! 👍👍

[@RayPeng-07]

@@dea9381 I'm happy you do! :D

[@dea9381]

I just wanted to support your idea 😊👍👍

[@lyntex001]

To all the guys, wish me luck, I'm doing this.

[@redfish7683]

Good luck, I'm with you.

[@mizzytaylor6164]

I’ve been trying my best to justify him leaving me in some sort of way that made any sense, when all I could see is that we had problems based on circumstances that could have been fixed. This video helped to realize a few things.

[@sricb3639]

such an awesome video. thanks alottttttttttttttttttttttttttt for thiss!