7 Signs Your Relationship is Making You Depressed

Are you wondering if a relationship can actually make you depressed? Love can be a double-edged sword. Sometimes it makes us feel more alive than we ever thought possible, and sometimes it has us at its mercy. Sooner or later, we need to evaluate our relationships and let go of people who may be toxic towards us. The unfortunate truth is that some people are just not ready for relationships and may not have your best intentions in mind. Accepting that your partner is contributing to your depression is hard to face - especially if you desperately want things to work out
Credits:
Script Writer: Elliot Figueira
Script Editor: Steven Wu
VO: Megan Edwards
Animator: Ben Carswell
KZbin Manager: Cindy Cheong
References and resources used:
Depression Can Be Contagious
www.psychologytoday.com/ca/bl...
Women are twice as likely to experience depression as men, and abuse in relationships. abuse often goes unreported, and estimates state that between 18 and 36% of women have experienced relationship abuse. Abuse is strongly linked with depressive disorders in women.
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/arti...
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/arti...
Why People Stay in Abusive Relationship(s)
www.psychologytoday.com/us/bl...
How poor communication skills link to depression in relationships
sbs.arizona.edu/news/depressi...
Talks about how our needs change over time and the relationship needs to adapt to it. Anger and resentment can occur when partners fail to meet each other's changing needs.
www.psychologytoday.com/ca/bl...
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[@zuko1569]

No relationship: _depressed_ Have a relationship: _depressed_ Dang guess I'll just buy a pet

[@Tikitorch1947]

Buy a pet: pet depressed 😆

[@Dimitrija69]

that rhymed

[@kentmacalalad]

Damn your depression got depressed

[@sherenifernando97]

True that

[@corettahall72]

Kent Macalalad don’t do it I’m still depressed

[@ronieshagreen3287]

i was my happiest when i was single. i’ll just leave it at that.

[@CosmicEremite]

Same

[@angelinarinna5014]

Same girl, same!

[@jagicleopatra]

Me too.

[@moviesandmusicinsync7238]

Me too but iwas too alone bht i enjoyed myself.

[@cloverajazz6743]

Mee too..I hope your not my husband commenting here and im agreeing🤣🤣🤣

[@osse1n]

*SIGNS you are uncomfortable in a relationship* - You feel as if it’s a chore to meet up with your partner - You feel obligated to be in a certain way - You don’t get energised after a date - You are losing your sense of self

[@jennifernahomi9864]

Three out of four

[@osse1n]

@@jennifernahomi9864 You know what you have to do

[@lucydianepie7002]

But what if I WANT to be with my partner no matter what and keep working on my relationship?

[@xdanulicious4275]

2 1/2 out of 4. we’ve been dating for almost 3 years. i’ve been feeling this last one for the past 2 months. we recently went on a date and afterwards i didn’t feel energized....oh damn while typing this i realized i tend to act differently around her family. so maybe a little bit of the 2nd one as well. and the 1st to me i feel as if it’s on me. i don’t like going out much as i’m pretty introverted, but whenever we do go out, it almost feels as if it’s a chore sometimes :/

[@joanstapelfeldt8361]

4 out of 4

[@learningdaily1434]

To who ever needs to hear this. Your best memories are still yet to come

[@imankasthuri6527]

Thank you

[@naturale_appeal2790]

Beautifully said! ❤️

[@jafhio2284]

Im hurt.but i have to let go

[@gamer645464]

I hope so

[@ashinsahis0303]

Thank you ❤❤🌷

[@Paarthurnaxdova]

Been dating a man for almost three years. Good looking, artist, loyal and funny. He is absolutely emotionally unavailable, hide or won’t come home if I’m sad or upset, won’t talk about us, our future, finances or anything else emotionally related. Gets angry or frustrated if I try to ask him questions about our relationship. He won’t communicate about anything and has never asked me how my day is or how I’m doing inside. I tried in every way possible to show him my needs and how these things are vital for relationships to work and still nothing. He is chronically depressed and shuts down for several days a month. He made me so depressed I became suicidal. Even then he showed zero concern or love. I left him today and feel a weight lifted and can see the light once again.

[@makaveli2157]

How do you feel about this choice today? It's been a year now was it the right thing to do? I'm in the same situation and I'm about to break up with partner for the exact same reasons

[@kathreenkalaw8940]

I know its been a year but can i ask if he said something why he act like that? Im also in the sama situation. And idk what to do.

[@cookingkelly1192]

Good job I wish I could leave my husband you said exactly everything I have done to my husband just a tad more complex but the worst feeling is to be not cared by by your husband when you are sad and crying and he doesn't care .I am just so so sad I have wasted 11 years of my life with this man and have except all his apologies when he was abusive to me in every way but now it is worse he doesn't apologize and he blames for for his actions just heart breaking.

[@fmafan123456789]

Good. leave. I was that man and am leaving the woman now. It's so hard. I have love but not the right kind of love for her, to the degree that she deserves

[@relly8423]

never date an artist guys....

[@Zarghami]

A lot of people stay with someone because they feel sorry for them..

[@EchthelionII]

I don't like those people, the more I hear of a type (for lack of better word) of person, the more I realize how many people I don't like.

[@lilliampumpernickle4655]

Sadly. There's way too many people that im afraid are like that in my life.

[@IbarraAlejandro]

That's true

[@arberasllanaj8878]

Yes and it's bad for both of them, but certainly more for the one who stays with that person for pity... if this person lets it go, the second person may find out as well he/she doesn't need the first person to be happy and will stop being so pitiful

[@kikaleek3897]

You don’t have to be so loud omg

[@dakoter7533]

At my age, everyone at school wants a girl/boy friend. But when they do it, it just turns into drama, problems, and sadness.very few of the relationships actually work.

[@TheLily97232]

Because they don't want partnership with another person, they just wanna use someone to feel better about themselves

[@TheLily97232]

Plus they're young and not emotionally mature enough

[@kipperthedog789]

EXACTLY.

[@KJ-pu8dw]

Well, I messed up studios Marcy Yep don’t do it .

[@marikomiyahara1417]

Not only at your age... 🤔

[@stefaan9218]

Signs your in a crappy relationship: You’re reading these comments

[@scruffy281]

😂😂😂👍🏻

[@AnimeGirl-fc1ni]

I just broke up a few mins ago...and yeah that is why I'm reading these.

[@matthewmartinez5021]

Anime Girl you got this 👊🏽

[@AlterRektMLG]

Not really, I have a habit of reading the comments on every video soooooo

[@cloverajazz6743]

...and all words get blurry bcoz your so depressed to read

[@Cthulhuhues]

Financial abuse should be addressed in these because that’s a big part of why people can’t necessarily leave

[@ellexoxo5436]

So me rn

[@benchmarkbullysuk2149]

What’s ‘financial abuse’???

[@geetrev4492]

This is my situation

[@Cthulhuhues]

@@benchmarkbullysuk2149 for example one partner being the ‘cash cow’ while the other uses their own revenu on frivolous things and leaves all their responsibilities on their partner like rent, bills, etc that they agreed to pay their half of and end up not paying so the other partner ends up in debt and unable to leave because of that

[@rosy6562]

@@Cthulhuhues I can sort of relate to this but it's not that I care about the money my worry is I spent my life being a housewife and raise our children and I have no where the go or no funds, he sometimes throws it to me my face and mentions he can do whatever he wants because he owns everything and he works so he deserves to drink 🍷 and be out with friends while I stay home with the children..it's just not fair. I left my life behind to be a mom and a good housewife for nothing. I don't have friends I don't have a social life, I feel like I wasted my time with this person who has no respect for me.

[@laager3223]

Bruh I swear KZbin tryna tell me something🤦🏽‍♂️

[@samreenbintezainab6382]

I feel this😂😭

[@Psych2go]

Do you think youtube is accurate?

[@tracigoode6973]

I agree. Legit I would talk about something to my friend or bf and then I go to KZbin and something related to that convo is there. Including this video.

[@likecheese8196]

Same

[@markmorales7982]

yea

[@mewo792]

„You‘re the only good thing in my life“ is so relatable. I love him but he makes me sad and I want to leave. But I also feel responsible for his happiness and if I‘d leave and something happens to him... I wouldn‘t be able to forgive myself.

[@ABar83376]

This is spot on. People ignore red flags until you make yourself sick.

[@alishacolon-jj1de]

And it hurts to accept the red flags when you really don't want to because you care but you can't let somebody manipulate you

[@sherenifernando97]

My relationship with my life is making me depressed

[@EchthelionII]

My current living situation is slowly turning me into something I don't want to be, however it's really difficult to change and/or escape it.

[@sherenifernando97]

Isaiah Albers I’m going through the same thing 🙃.

[@EchthelionII]

@@sherenifernando97 I think some of my family's stupidity is going to do that before the other thing, before I could handle stupid people, but now their stupidity knows no bounds and leaves me speechless. I have a younger sibling who has certain issues and has had terrible things done to him that made him how he is, (I can't elaborate, I'm even afraid I've said too much, and it's not my parents fault), but he is the issue.

[@sherenifernando97]

Isaiah Albers I’m so incredibly sorry that you’re going through this. Is there any way you can physically and/ or emotionally remove yourself from your brother? I have big issues with my family too. I’ve got a narcissistic mother. So everything is pretty much downhill for me. Thank you for sharing your problems with me. I pray that you overcome your situation in your favour. ❤️

[@EchthelionII]

@@sherenifernando97 Not really the best I can do is stay in my room, which I already do, my mom is doing her best to help me get my license so I can be more independent though, it's difficult because since I have 8 younger siblings (between the ages of 5 and 19) we can only go driving when my dad is home to watch the kids, and one of my siblings cries and throws a fit everytime my mom goes anywhere, including the bathroom. My only time of solitude is after 9PM, when all the children are sleeping. Sorry about your mother.

[@osse1n]

*If you are depressed in a relationship- it’s a sign you have to sort it out with yourself an what you want in life* Be truthful to yourself to be truthful with others.

[@elisagil8623]

O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me that’s exactly why I decided to breakup with my significant other

[@birdlover7875]

Best advice I've read all month...

[@ladennayoung2939]

Yep I agree!

[@TheKubbas]

Amen!

[@CatWoman6]

Elisa Gil are you happier for it?.. I feel depressed but am confused and unsure if I need to leave; plus not easy to breakup as share a home and have no job.

[@skittle2490]

I've struggled with depression a lot of my life. I have BPD so I am terrified of abandonment. Breakups are always terrifying to me. Sometimes I really don't know what's causing the problems in the relationship. If it is me or them. I struggle with conflict management and moving on once a disagreement has happened.

[@a.c.4732]

Exactly the same here Skittle, exactly the same .... I feel because our moods bounce from +5 down to -5 and then back up again , on a regular basis , we simply feel things much more intensely , whether that be in a good way or in a bad way ? I realise this is probably no help to you , but sometimes knowing you're not alone experiencing SUCH highs / lows ( plus that awful "terror of abandonment" ) can be somewhat reassuring , if even in a small way ? Completely unrelated : my highs always make my lows worthwhile 😉

[@deside4952]

Resonates with me...

[@mariaruning4919]

I have BPD as well❤ I really resonate

[@theresalives4973]

I also have BPD and have the same problem 😞

[@gloom_mental1761]

I broke off my dreams for him I wanted to be with him Now he's at the top And it feels like I'm at rock bottom Now I'm basically a burden to him

[@monishri4218]

I think it's mostly coz v forgot to care and improve ourselves...

[@shadowmomochiuchiha6839]

me too.......for a girl......

[@shadowmomochiuchiha6839]

@@monishri4218 she didint forget she just didint care..

[@geethagaming6625]

Same thing going on with me😊 i wish all this disappear like a bad dream but I love my daughter n I hv to go through it somehow

[@IDidntAskU]

Same here. 10 years down the drain.

[@studyme-selftaughtlife4958]

If you’re unhappy before, you will be *MORE* unhappy in the relationship.

[@Psych2go]

Is this based on your experiences?

[@studyme-selftaughtlife4958]

Psych2Go Not just me, but Eckhart Tolle explaining that if someone was to feel unease in the present moment, they would replace it with a relationship and later on blame their partner for it.

[@cookiegirl891]

BetterMints yup

[@NovalovesBookincoffees]

Agreed

[@justpassingby3409]

Facts

[@Zarghami]

Some people don't want their partner to grow because it makes them insecure. It's a RELATIONship not OWNERship. BIG difference.

[@Solrex_the_Sun_King]

Your Favorite Lifecoach then again, some kinky couples have one person wanting to be owned, to be fair.

[@azultrick9366]

@@Solrex_the_Sun_King yet that's unhealthy, and this kind of relationships will eventually fall down

[@Solrex_the_Sun_King]

azul trick have you ever heard of BDSM? Some people like that stuff. Someone likes being submissive and controlled, whether just for intercourse or for more of a lifestyle thing.

[@azultrick9366]

@@Solrex_the_Sun_King as a game it can be fun, but in a relationship I doubt it can last much

[@Solrex_the_Sun_King]

azul trick like I said, some people like that.

[@nicolenicole6325]

I felt the “You’re the most important thing in my life” Dated this boy for about two months, he had some issues going and he kept telling me this all over. During the last period i told him that the relationship was stagnant due to a lack of communication and willingness to do things together and if things continued going this way I would have preferred parting ways. It was so hard to break things off cause i felt so bad but realized he was guilt tripping me

[@amyvillarreal867]

This is another thing happening in my relationship but idk if its because we smoke weed and not end up doing anything & barely communicate . But I'm not blaming my BF cause I choose to smoke too. Or it could just be that we are not compatible.

[@Nikita-mw2jg]

Hey same here. That's like the only reason whyy Im not able to decide. he says likee.."I can't do without you, you're all I have..please don't ever leave me" he's a good soul.. I like him as a person.. but this relationship was when I was around 14.. and now I'm 18.. I feel like.. I don't even know myself enough.. like . I've been with himm all this while. .idk who I am ..and I beed tk focus on myself and my dreams .. urs he's supportive but.. I feel the need to be alone.. all by myself.. idk what to do... Can someone help me please

[@blasiomuhinda5913]

@@Nikita-mw2jg Go ahead and be alone. There is no problem with that. And also just move on. Dont be with him out of pity. And also dont expect him to be there later on in future when you feel you need a relationship. He might change as well and not want you, so you should be ok with losing him forever.

[@xiamtheminxx6197]

Yup I relate to nearly everything in this video it's a shame and I am heartbroken the man I see now isn't the man I fell in love with he turned in to one depressive big toxic mess and I stuck by and tried to help him with all of his problems but some people enjoy hurting and don't want help 🤷🏼‍♀️ time to let go At least I can say I tried 💔

[@ninarodriguez1394]

I was in your position a year ago. We broke up and a couple of months later I found a wonderful man who is now my boyfriend and I'm happy af ❤️

[@karinamontoya5533]

The last part hit me my ex would say things like “after you came my life has been so much better” I felt the need to keep him happy. While trying to do so I lost myself because I had to sort out personal things with myself too. I couldn’t keep up with it. I’m glad he broke it off and realized it wasn’t good for any of us and so we peacefully parted ways. If he wouldn’t had done that I would’ve never done it myself.

[@raymondtouthang1581]

Same thing happen to me with my ex gf. I was so confused what to do. I hope she is happy now.

[@lightbeingpontifex]

@@literaltrash2275 yee,,,

[@nakanopey]

Fr when my bf said it too 🥺😢 I felt responsible for everything he feels.. 🤧 I wanna leave the relationship

[@thymajasty1637]

This deep tho

[@taraarrington2285]

I feel like I was dealing with energy vampires

[@kentucky_ken]

6 out of 7. Now I have to gather all my courage to break up and move on. Thanks for the like and support. And I finally did it. Painful but still happy.👍

[@allisonsroom]

Mark Kenneth Villafuerte Best of luck to you. You deserve to be happy!

[@kentucky_ken]

@@allisonsroom thanks.😁

[@TheLily97232]

Stay strong ❤❤❤❤❤

[@kipperthedog789]

I believe in you

[@almond-tofuu]

Stay strong bud, you'll find the right one someday.

[@mothercoyote351]

I'm living in a relationship like this right now

[@lunababy662]

Ur not the only one

[@DomThaBomb64]

Same here.

[@paduadaviejohns.714]

Same

[@cfaz6763]

Same

[@eli_479]

Did you stay with them ?

[@Jvsminevx]

"Youre the only good thing in my life" Think positively "Youre the one i want and all i need. I can never ask more from you. Youre perfect just the way you are" There is other good things in life like friends, family there is no point of being depressed in a relationship if you think positively.

[@duchi882]

*7 Signs Your Relationship is Making You Depressed:* 1. When your partner is more toxic than your teammates

[@ahouse5278]

If your partner is more toxic then the people you're playing OverWatch competitive with then it's time to make a change.

[@NiecyYoungTV]

My bf is more toxic than overwatch comp players so i guess it's time for me to dip..

[@wolfy9187]

True

[@aurorajipa9802]

Ouch , that's true

[@BayOfWulf]

If they’re worse than little Timmy who keeps calling you gay during a match, leave

[@haru4328]

Last week I broke up with her Lack of communication devastated me, I tried really hard, but she didn't want to talk about anything important for the relationship Then she got cold, and we started spending less and less time together. I know I did the right thing, but I miss her, and her smile, and the way she blushed when I wrote her poetry. The past hurts more than the present right now.

[@chitrikart2328]

The present shall be past one day, move on..

[@pk4701]

maybe past memories would be hard to forget but think about the future if u were with her that might have been more difficult ur too much of love care might have been hard for her to keep up with. in future u might get someone even better than her would blush for ur poetry and along with it would understand the depth of it and ur love

[@killerqueenjazz8794]

Dude I'm still with mine but he got cold and it hurts

[@chitrikart2328]

@@killerqueenjazz8794 enjoy yourself

[@xwzzzzz4795]

My partner doesn’t comminuted with me neither, he doesn’t get cold, he does listen, but there is not much I get back. It’s making me feeling lost. Am I being too demanding and sensitive?

[@MiaCarter7]

The hit it gives you at the beginning compared to the major low it gives you later in is something I’m afraid to even risk repeating again

[@pomrowik_bagienny1089]

"Love can be a double-edged sword" ..in my case it was a double-bladed chainsaw.🙁

[@paigewaldrop2993]

Thought chainsaws were bladed all around on all sides.

[@sparrowhawk5673]

0:48 1. You don't work together with a common goal 1:19 2. You can't connect emotionally with your partner. 1:55 3. Your partner's depression might be contagious. 2:40 4. The relationship is starting to get abusive. 3:30 5. A total lack of communication 4:01 6. Your relationship has evolved and your needs have changed. 4:58 7. You feel like you're stuck in the relationship even though you know its not working out. Your welcome

[@thipimotsoare4228]

Date a narcissist and you will experience all the above mentioned

[@mave143]

Thank you!!!! I didn't have time to listen to the whole video. 💖😇

[@taraarrington2285]

I couldn't even get a text back in 24 hours forget emotional connection

[@RamiaAnimorphis]

This hit home with my longest relationship. I felt emotionally dead inside when we finally split because I put everything into that relationship only to be greeted with basically all of these things.

[@irongloves89]

Sadly right were I am now

[@RamiaAnimorphis]

@@irongloves89 I will let you know that it does get better. It may take time, but with time and lots of self-compassion, it will get better.

[@Seraphim7]

Codependency. Meeting their needs but neglecting your own. It’s one-sided…..Glad you got out 💞 You are Worthy God Loves you💞

[@AeroStark]

Did you feel more whole, like yourself again, afterwards?

[@JM-kz5if]

Anyone suffering with suicidal thoughts just know you mean a lot you are meant to be here and cannot let negative emotions consume your life and happiness you got to keep strong no matter how hard it may seem

[@kmarieking12]

I hope everyone struggling with these issues finds themselves and becomes a better person that’s makes them happy. Put your happiness first. Figure out what you value and stay true to you. Sending love and positivity 💕✨

[@benjamindanielsen5204]

I just broke up with my girlfriend literally day before this was posted and there were a lot of the same issues in the video I dealt with. I don't hold anything against her because a grudge is the heaviest thing you'll ever carry, but I couldn't be what she wanted from a relationship and I just couldn't see us having a future together. I suppose that in a way this video gave me some validation for breaking up, and I don't regret my decision. I wish her well and that she heals, and I want to share one of my favorite sayings to anyone who may feel trapped in a toxic relationship: Don't light yourself on fire to keep them warm. Peace out Psych2go-ers, hope you all have a good day out there wherever you are.

[@anchir4927]

Maybe you couldn’t be what anyone wanted from a relationship. Maybe you have offered what she likes at the beginning and couldn’t keep it up.

[@holographiccowboy5271]

I like that quote you said, thank you for sharing it

[@qweenofheartz2]

Thankyou

[@StefTechSurfer]

Deep. Did you want a to be in serious relationship?

[@benjamindanielsen5204]

@@StefTechSurfer well, it was more that she had an anxious and clingy attachment style and needed constant reassurance, which at first I didn't mind because my previous two girlfriends weren't all that affectionate with me. However it quickly got to the point where I was feeling pressured from constantly having to reassure her and it was really just becoming an unhealthy dynamic between us. Eventually I had to break it off for both our sakes because she was refusing treatment for her depression (she wasn't taking her medication or taking very good care of herself for even the most basic needs like brushing her teeth, drinking enough water etc), and I was getting emotionally drained from always having to be the rock that propped her up and I was at a point where my own mental and emotional health was beginning to erode (no pun intended). It was difficult for me to do since I knew how much she adored me and relied on me, but it was one of those situations of "do I put a dying animal out of it's misery as painlessly as possible or do I just try to drain every last bit of life out of it in the hopes it improves" and I chose the former.

[@RiqochetRoseTarot]

Leaving unhappy relationships of any kind is beautiful freedom ❤️

[@rudeegruenberg9184]

freedom has nothing to do with love

[@Windows-1995]

I’m only 5 months into this relationship and feel as though I’m stuck in it because they always tell me I’m their only source of happiness and they constantly tell me how much they love me. They are so emotionally dependent on me i am growing depressed because all my time is being taken up and I’m not taking care of myself. They are sucking every last bit of energy out of me. I am doing everything i can to work up the strength to leave them as soon as possible....

[@Rosie-ou2eg]

Feel the same😪

[@Windows-1995]

@@Rosie-ou2eg sorry to hear that 😔 im still in the situation but trying everything i can to grow stronger. good luck to you.

[@laceyhines1939]

I was in a mentally abusive relationship I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder during the relationship and the relationship I was in made my depression so much worse

[@monaebreak561]

It seems like in a relationship one is loved and one loves. 😭

[@paytabear12]

Accurate

[@lunababy662]

True

[@kirstenandrews3964]

sad as hell forreal

[@Definitelynotabot4]

Accurate lol

[@artyraven]

2:20 okay.. does everyone want to know what a depressed rat acts like on actual video now or is it just me?

[@EchthelionII]

I'll bring the snacks, you bring the chairs, deal?

[@artyraven]

Isaiah Albers gotcha

[@Rose_Butterfly98]

Alright, let's depress some rats and film them while we eat snacks.

[@artyraven]

zeus lim spot on ;)

[@lilianawood9957]

Oddly, I'm in

[@jkj4582]

Speechless.... tears rolling out watching the video... Kids cannot understand that their parents are going through these roller coaster moments in life...

[@realdelgado8189]

My former relationship is the one where I feel pressure to make them happy due to myself being the best thing in their life. It’s hard to see it like that. I also believe that depression is contagious

[@bobvincent2251]

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[@jenniperkins4260]

Happiness is an inside job. Joy regardless of circumstances.

[@CatWoman6]

J P yes and part of the inside job is having the power to fix anything that's not right on the outside. It all matters really.

[@TheMCzorro]

The only conspiracy theory I believe (sorry, the words "inside job" made it sound like a conspiracy)

[@JoiDior]

Agreed! But you definitely don’t want someone hanging around if they’re not adding to your life.

[@demitriustron8802]

Ten years it took but I finally yeeted out of there yesterday.

[@violettelovesjesus8888]

Gemini?

[@floppa3252]

I'm currently in a relationship.. And I feel like there is no communication she get all pissed off at nothing her mood changes a lot and she says she's happy with me but doesn't act it. I feel very depressed and am lost... She doesn't talk about how she is feeling and it hurts. I just want to help

[@fixinfkinsandwiches6183]

Great video! Hate to admit it but I was pretty clueless as to why I was so unhappy in prior relationship. Wish I had seen this video long ago!

[@sakuyakikimo7477]

"I can't live without you" really struck me, I've felt "stuck" in this relationship for a long time, I only just recently brought myself to "take a break" and reevaluate the situation and... I've come to realize, I wasnt just unhappy for /no reason/. The relationship had become unhealthy, very unhealthy, but I had ignored some very big warning signs, and even not realized some abusive ones... I found the courage to ask for my stuff back today, I'm currently looking for someone to go pick it up with me because.. I'm afraid to be alone with him. And for me... this isn't normal, I'm always the first to offer to break someone's nose, or hit them where it hurts, I can verbally destroy anyone. But... in this situation, with this kind of person, I feel powerless

[@bradtike6728]

Sakuya kikimo it’s gonna be alright keep your head up and stay strong

[@google1030]

I hope you're doing okay 😔

[@veenareddy5275]

Angie Ton I can’t believe so many people are going through the same thing as me..Take help from your close friends and family. I hope you could get out of it, I’m trying my best to get out of something similar.

[@matsurijg1]

I always felt unhappy too... I always wanted to help her.. And I gave her all that she wanted.. But I ignored the BIG warning signs too.. My mother warned me too.. But I didn't believe that.. I didn't realize the warning signs of abuse... She hit me 3 times and left marks in my arm.. But I forgave her.. I never raised my hand to her... Because I believe that if you love someone you never should hit.. I can hit and destroy anyone.. Because my martial arts teacher told me that I have good punches... But when I'm with her I feel powerless, I can do nothing.. Now in this time of quarentine she left me for someone else.. I have always loved her... But now I realize that she only played with me..

[@sakuyakikimo7477]

@Angie Ton I feel you there :( I'm sorry for the late reply, I really hope you're safe. I'm not the best at advice, but o can day for certain, it's one of those things where you just have to put yourself first. More often then not, they wont actually do what they say they're going to do. However even if they do harm themselves, you have to know that its NOT YOUR FAULT. For the sake of your mental wellbeing, please, please separate yourself from people like that

[@wethefearless497]

"I can't live without you" "You're the only good thing in my life" yup, I hear that daily.

[@IIITamerlein]

Thats toxic.

[@xPossibly]

My partner is like this. Why is it toxic?

[@wethefearless497]

@@xPossibly Love, at least in our modern culture is about being with someone that makes you happy, you love simply because you want to, and they love you in return. No gimmicks or catches. However, as soon as their love and happiness become solely your responsibility, it's not just love anymore but dependence. It's an unhealthy connection because one cannot be responsible for another's emotions. Don't get me wrong, if we're dating/married I expect that we'd love one another, however to be responsible for your significant other's emotions to the point where they'd be helpless without you is toxic. You're a team, but are held back from being your own person. That's mental health 101.

[@vibrantcolors255]

Yikes. Edit: Remember that you are NEVER responsible for another person's emotions or life. Others have to take care of themselves. You have to take care of yourself first too. You can care for a person who doesn't give back because you love yourself enough it doesn't hurt to know they won't give back. However, if you can't do that, you will end up getting hurt if they one day have to leave you uncared for.

[@carolreyesify]

Cameron Davidson never heard it from him ☹️

[@Sansfanboyin]

I love my partner so much, but I've been feeling bad about being with them. They're sweet to me, and so so kind and deserve the world, but Im just not mentally stable enough for a relationship.

[@iamgoddessoflove]

There should be no excuses for staying in a relationship with someone that puts you through more stress and pain over love and joy. 💙KZbinr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

[@Rose_Butterfly98]

I guess one reason people stay together is that they'd just rather have someone to do stuff with . Like going out , catching a movie , stuff that isn't really fun to do alone. Or just to have the motivation to actually do stuff.

[@nikauleeneandrews3002]

I feel like you hit the nail on the head.

[@bluestars7421]

You mean that They're afraid of being alone

[@greeneyedpixie2]

I have one, sits and plays computer games all day long. I just want to go out into nature, He's not interested I'll have to find someone who wants to.

[@oldman2477]

I am forever lonely... at least I have myself.

[@lilliampumpernickle4655]

Same. But I hate myself.

[@Psych2go]

When you are your own best friend, loneliness is the least of your worries :)

[@nimeris.]

@@lilliampumpernickle4655 same

[@jessicaevans4107]

I am experiencing every sign so far and explains a lot of what I am feeling.. I wasn’t sure if I was depressed and just listening to this I need to seek professional help.. thank you..

[@nurainafarzana4652]

Number 3. 100% agreed. I got into a university a year ago and rented a room and I have to share the room with two strangers. We got close as time passes. Both are depressed (I’m not sure self diagnosed or medically diagnosed but they told me they are depressed). They are always sad and mean to their partner and that kinda got contagious to me. But after I parted ways with them, I feel much more happier and I’m no longer mean to my boyfriend too. I’m glad I decided to keep a distance

[@kristinak2930]

Every single second of this video perfectly described my previous relationship of 4 and a half years. The last year of our relationship was a complete torture, but it was extremely hard for me to leave my ''highschool sweetheart'' and move on. Leaving is much easier said than done. It damaged me a lot, though, and I wish I had left sooner. You should always take care of yourself and prioritize yourself - you are NOT responsible for another individual's life, life choices or actions. No matter what they say or do, you are not obliged to stay in a relationship that is abusive and that only makes you unhappy.

[@vanessaatwood3017]

7. You forgot financial codependency

[@Psych2go]

How are you currently dealing with that?

[@vanessaatwood3017]

@@Psych2go trying to get published so I can have a nest egg. Or else wait out the last 5 years of our mortgage. Its a long story but I don't think I'll ever want another partner again so waiting won't kill me

[@vanessaatwood3017]

I realized I'm probably not Pysch2Go's target audience, I'm almost 40 and am at the 15yr mark on my relationship and your content seems to be advice needed at the onset of a relationship. However I'm sure there are plenty of young people who would benefit if you did a video on exit strategies. It might of been what I needed before I had a house payment and a kid.

[@CatWoman6]

Vanessa Atwood I'm 15 years too.. but decided that nothing is more important then feeling happy so I have to sacrifice the house security etc and more because crying everyday is no life. I can't do it anymore.

[@HighlySensitiveHealer]

Abuse can also be financial abuse.

[@moniquefacey5760]

My relationship sucks my energy, I feel depressed when he comes around.

[@moniquefacey5760]

@QualityRock Productions OK, thanks

[@deadlydoll3153]

I’ve experienced a few of these signs myself, and after my partner and I separated twice, we’re finally at a point where our depression is being managed and we are healthy enough for a relationship. ☺️

[@marishasookdeo8578]

7 signs why you should RUN

[@Psych2go]

Lol! Imagine if we did do a topic on this.. people would be like run away from what? haha

[@tom8340]

Get to know the person first before you can act that way. Just because they are cold on the outside doesn't mean that they dont have a good soul that only has to be revealed

[@kitszh6317]

This is exactly what i’m going through, thank you for making this video.

[@shaunmazzocca]

Almost all of these were present in some respect in my last relationship. It was a quiet, sneaking depression. Neither of us really even realized we were depressed - we just kept living the lie.

[@thespraybottle7619]

Let’s not forget that men can be victims of domestic abuse too

[@rainpooper7088]

A Person They’re not. At which point were they implying that in your opinion?

[@thespraybottle7619]

1 in 4 women will, are, or have been victims of abuse by their intimate partner. 1 in 7 men will, are, or have been victims of domestic abuse

[@tristyncoffey839]

Yeah it’s a slap in the face to men who are abused by women or other men :/

[@TheCc064]

Who cares

[@senp.6960]

@@TheCc064 People who have morals.

[@yousramahdy550]

*7 signs your relationship is making you depressed* 1-you don't work together towards common goals 2-you can't connect emotionally with your partner 3- your partner's depression might be contagious 4-the relationship is starting to get abusive 5-a total lack of communication 6-your relationship has evolved and your needs have changed 7-you feel like you're stuck in the relationship even though you know it's not working out

[@haveagoodday629]

THANK YOU! 😄

[@alleswatikkan]

Thanks

[@dianelunn-parsons7340]

How true. Succinct, incisive, excellent comment.

[@scruffy281]

I could add #8 through ??????????❤️

[@xwzzzzz4795]

It’s the second one for me

[@The23metz]

I genuinely appreciate all your videos, thank you so much. ❤️

[@dechenlhamo9485]

This is so my relationship, its making me sick for so long I don't know how to get out of it.

[@CatWoman6]

Did you leave?

[@aishwarya1567]

I hv also gone through mental abuse and was helpless. It's sad that most girls/women choose to remain quiet when such things happen

[@zoereecie]

depression definitely is contagious. in my last relationship my boyfriend was constantly talking about his depression and making me feel like it’s my job to fix it. it caused me to become depressed, he didn’t try to support me at all, and i was supporting him. when i finally broke up with him i felt free. in my current relationship my boyfriend makes me feel like we’re supporting each other and it’s not just one sided.

[@ErinSmith-jo8td]

16 Years, 6 in therapy and 4 different therapists finally got me to see its not going to work with my husband. I just worry for my kids, growing up now with two depressed parents. I can’t change him, but I can move on. I don’t stay depressed because I keep moving, make goals, and work to find purpose. Wish you all the best, glad I’m not alone with this experience.

[@mach533x]

remember, the future is all we have. My parents divorced when i was young and totally gutted who i was and ruined me as who i could have been today. break the cycle. Im not saying stay in a abusive relationship but its worth while to stay and be a whole unit for the kids if it isnt abusive. food for thought

[@bluwzen]

it’s ok to let things go, it hurts a lot but it will be so much better for u. it’s important to know ur worth.

[@prunebvlt]

wow like 4 signs are in my current relationship. sick, i was wondering why i always felt so heavy

[@j.h170]

Me too, but I just dont know how to break it off.

[@Birdeyes192]

I dated someone for 3 almost 4 months and after watching this video we lack communication and I couldn’t go up to him and tell him how I feel and it did made feel depressed

[@karinasugiarto4630]

I can relate and I know it isn’t working out but it’d be bad if I broke it off

[@weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006]

Write him a letter where you can pour it all out and not have to worry about his feedback. Then leave it somewhere where he can read it at his own time.

[@007vix]

I agree with the people changing part. I wanted to change and go forward in my life during my last relationship. I tried to get things to move forward and grow, but he was so set in his ways from the start and would avoid pursuing things further. He would constantly ‘stick his head back in the ground’ and ignore everything going on around him. It wasn’t easy for me to put up with that. I know I’m not perfect either, but, I tried so hard. Over time he became more and more clingy. I would repeatedly have to nag him to do things he had offered to do and it was usually me chasing after him. It got to the point where it was draining me so much. His almost childish behaviour and inability to comprehend how I felt over time and do things on his own (he constantly wanted reassurance and me to do everything with him especially socially) just pushed me further and further away. I felt like I was his babysitter or his emotional blanket. We pretty much spent the last two years (out of five) behaving as friends with nearly a year of that hardly talking. Which only made me more unhappy and to resent him. He had no guts and hates confrontation of any sort (despite always saying that talking in a relationship is important) to come to me and talk about how things just aren’t right. I was stuck in the position of seeing the obvious signs and having to handle it. Do NOT let yourself get in that situation ever. It’s not going to end well.

[@SinnerAndSins]

I’m experiencing 100% of this video. Thank you for the clarification.

[@aadhiaddz1]

Exactly the reasons for my recent breakup... Thanks for the clarity.

[@Psych2go]

Hope all is okay!

[@NovalovesBookincoffees]

Same but mine isn’t recent

[@UnknownGamer-gd6kh]

Woman are a waste

[@RubyHammervold]

Same

[@JaelGuerrero]

Same

[@sarahtorreros4119]

It’s been a month since me and my ex split. We could not connect emotionally. It hurts when you realize you let yourself become so vulnerable to someone you care about just to see they do not care for you in that way. Feeling alone in a relationship but not having the strength to leave. I’m suffering from depression and anxiety due to this but I try to stay posted because I know we all deserve to be with someone who will value and appreciate the energy, effort, and love we give to them and they will return it as well.

[@Rosie-ou2eg]

Is everything good now?? He is not stalking you or doing anything dumb?

[@-tristen]

I just wanna take a moment for abuse on men in relationships. Getting hit or slapped by a partner really sucks. And getting out of a toxic relationship is really hard after your free will is drowned out by abuse. Nobody takes you seriously as a dude either. And its not like I could hit her back. Idk thanks for the vent youtube

[@Youve-Got-This]

Sending healing and compassion xx

[@Jiemaimah]

It is better to stay single if you don't want to get married.

[@angelorozco8682]

I was depressed, but she was so into me that she didn't mind even though I warned her I wasn't my very best. I told her I would try very hard to improve but it would be a process and wouldn't fix itself overnight. In the end I had figured out how to end my depression and she had been hiding depression all along but she didn't want to fix it. This prolonged my depression for a bit. Eventually it ended (on good terms) now several months have passed and I'm in a much better headspace.

[@roadrollerda9113]

Just avoid relationships untill you get used to it. That helped me escape the pain. Actually I avoid EVERYONE.

[@jazminhdz8073]

You always get that in relationships

[@CatWoman6]

Yeahhhh.. I can relate

[@harmony9154]

My ex was very very toxic to the point that whenever I achieve something, he will just treat me like I'm not his girlfriend or does not even care at all. I even tried talking to him about what I feel about the way he treats me, and says that im only overreacting lol. And even physically hurt me. Eventually i got very very depressed. Still healing from it tho. :/

[@torillatavataan143]

Well, this is the most accurate video I've ever watched. I see all these seven things in my current relationship AND my doctor thinks that I might be depressed... Time to get out of this horrible situation to heal. But it's difficult. I desperarely love this person even though this will NEVER work out.

[@GB-ic1im]

Once I heard, "The quality of your life is based on the quality of your relationships (romantic and nonromantic)"... My motto ever since! ❤

[@cazzledazzle]

Oh my gosh you have no idea how much I needed to hear this! I’ve noticed my relationship is becoming one sided and while it’s not making me depressed, it does feel unfulfilling and unsatisfying. This video really helped me realize that it’s time for us to go out separate ways. Thank you SO much Psych2go for helping me see this! I really needed it.

[@normsportillo]

I rather be single now that im depressed and stuck

[@toninj71]

I'm married to a freaking narcissist, I'm working to get out of the 14yr living nightmare.

[@foggyxskies3915]

Hope ur doing better

[@nataliefoster8871]

join the club

[@rainh.1792]

Yes, some of these signs have led to depression for me awesome video as always!

[@violaterrz]

Im beginning to realize that im having trouble loving myself after my ex cheated.. Im in a new relationship and i he made me the happiest.. but whenever something comes up that reminds me of my insecurities its jst hwickwgdjwjdvej fml.

[@niag7273]

Are things better?

[@_angelicr]

Wow it's crazy how much I can relate to this. All of these signs are true & that's why I'm no longer with my ex. Thank you for making this video 💘

[@korinnalynn3675]

This video really pointed out so relatable key points.. I completely understand why I feel this way.. honestly I feel like my boyfriend & I aren’t compatible like we used to be.. we have a hard time understanding each other now.. we are long distance & with these issues it’s been very hard for me to cope with.. I’m so sad all the time.. it’s very disheartening to try to figure this out.. we’ve been together for 3 years now & I feel as if I’ve invested in it too much to give up..

[@jrdnkndsn00]

My ex partner has severe depression, I knew how to cope with mine but he didn’t. He told him I saved him and that gave me extreme amounts of pressure to stay with him. The depression felt contagious

[@messicomps344]

Sometimes the reason we hold on to what's making us sad, is because it's what used to make us happy. I'm in love with a girl who ghosts me out when she feels like. She's done it 7 times this year, each time for at least a week and to a max of 3. In total I think I've had two and a half months of 2019 without talking to her. She also blocked me on Instagram because I asked her to open up about stuff in her life that bothers her. She said she overreacted and blocked me again soon afterwards. I still love her. Still care so freaking much about her, I let her hurt me like this all the time. There's so much I wanna talk about, she's toxic tbh, I still love her though. Dunno why.

[@EchthelionII]

That actually makes sense, I guess the only solution is to let it go and/or forget about it, which will take some time.

[@blasiomuhinda5913]

She is toxic to say the least. Get rid of her

[@explorerwillgo]

Nostalgic for good times makes you sad. Find new good times with someone similar that isn't toxic.

[@sarahcouture24]

This is a great video! Very illuminating and sadly quite relatable

[@lidette711]

I've experienced some of these in the past, but overcame them because we kept communication open, even when the truth is hard to say sometimes. We've also accepted that we're both changing, and that we grow together. We try to "sync" our growth so nobody feels left behind.

[@Chinix]

wat if you're depressed even without relationship

[@EliteEpicGamerz]

Then you have depression

[@j-hopelover8467]

Im in one but, true.

[@whatismyname8483]

Lol

[@Chinix]

Like gaming & music? Check me out!

[@blueandpinkpizza]

working on self love will help

[@michellegirau8136]

Reason someone stays in an unhappy relationship. Guilt, pressure from others, kids, financial, and the list goes on.

[@FloraUmassor-ox7yi]

Kids and finance 😢

[@lilshaunin6637]

I just got out of a relationship that was making me depressed and wow... These are all so true. Even I did some of things to him. So it makes sense be was getting depressed too. We made each other depressed.

[@xxzombeanzxx3537]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for what's about to be 7 months, and we've both had our moments together where we've had to stop and talk for awhile about what we've been feeling and explain ourselves. We've gotten a lot better at being vulnerable, and couldn't be any happier together ❤

[@verdabay105]

I was thinking about relationships when this popped up, this is really helpful.

[@Psych2go]

What was your take away message?

[@verdabay105]

@@Psych2go I may be making my partner depressed or anxious

[@NahNo-xy2kq]

@@Psych2go All I got from this is that my depression and I ruin everything. This honestly makes me want to isolate myself more so I wouldn't have to bring people down.

[@josevelez7539]

Unfortunately, I experienced this with a lady I dated for several years. She drastically changed from the beginning of what it seemed a perfect love. I had to let her go as our goals and values didn’t align.

[@Hazeleyez88]

My relationship is dull and boring

[@Chad_Hart]

You're spot on about lack of/no communication destroying relationships. If one doesnt know how to effectively communicate both people suffer