7 Things I QUIT Caring About (and You Should, Too!!) | simple living + minimalism

[@AtoZenLife]

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[@anniestumpy9918]

You made great points! 1. celebrity gossip - fully agree! 2. own weight in numbers - agree! 3. opinions of people who don't matter - I'm still guilty of that but more aware of it being unhealthy now 4. over-attachment to labels - absolutely agree! 5. following trends - proudly almost lost even the interest 6. finding the cheapest price - well, it can make sense _in moderation_ :) 7. receiving gifts - agree (if somebody wants to bring me a gift I tell them to bring some food I like) some of my personal additions would be: - ironing clothes - caring about what people think about my personal style

[@flonotflow]

I can relate to the ironing clothes. My iron and I are estranged.

[@emilianodiaz-page4233]

I agree and also practice your two add ons.

[@helllique]

Thanks for saving me 10 minutes of my life, kind stranger.

[@NorthernPear]

Haters usually don’t hate anyone as much as they hate themselves. They just don’t realize it. You help a lot of people through your channel. Thank you ❤

[@eileenalmeida]

Marissa, your videos are like a chat/visit with a good friend, for thousands of us across the world. Your home is beautiful, as are you! Please keep recording and posting your videos, we love them and we love you!

[@Davisvin-i9x]

She's the best ❤

[@ReneeDennis-x8h]

As you get older, you start to tune out the noise ❤

[@AtoZenLife]

So true! 🙌

[@Katie-v8z]

I remember when I was about 20 years old, walking through a mall wearing an outfit that made me feel really great, and having two girls about my age say snidely, "nice try". This made me feel terrible at the time, but many years later I have to ask myself why someone would want to say something that clearly has no intent except to make another person feel bad. The people who had negative things to say about your "empty" home, your weight, or anything else are doing just that. It's not easy to put these comments aside and refuse to let them get you down, but I hope you keep ignoring the haters and living your best life!

[@ProfMishelle]

I appreciate your advice and insights. Particulary: You save 100% of the money you don't spend, and the money was waisted when you bought it, not when you get rid of it. Keep it up!

[@antonianovoa6416]

First, I want to thank you for sharing your life. Some keyboard bullies don't realize how challenging this could be, as they just sit there complaining and sharing their grief. You are a great breath of fresh air, and I value your ideas.

[@Jer.616]

It hurts MY heart to hear the things those people said to you. How awful. 😞💔 Their opinions are not valuable. And they aren't true.

[@robynwells8249]

Gosh, those comments. Just wow 😮 My husband and I stopped giving each other gifts a long time ago and it was a wonderful decision. It makes our life so much less stressful.

[@homesickalways]

best gifts for me now would be a trip to the beach or country side in good weather, or to the cinema, or concert that i have really longed for etc

[@ckl5801]

You are beautiful…your house is clean, calm and pleasant and I’m thankful for your vlogs which are trying to inspire others to be the best version of themselves! ❤🎉

[@belardobunch897]

I’ve never left a comment on any of your videos before but I’ve been watching your videos for a year or two and I really enjoy your content. You have so much common sense and I love that!

[@bryanandchee]

i just want to say, for how many years of following you, I'm very thankful with all your wonderful insights/examples. it changed my hoarding disorder and I'm happy having fewer things now. I've learned so much from you. love you Marissa! ❤ You are doing a wonderful and valuable channel 🥹🫶

[@AtoZenLife]

Thank you so much and I’m happy to hear that I’ve helped you with with your journey along the years - glad to have you here! ☺️❤️🙏

[@SuseFishUK]

Wow, those comments! I suspect many of us would find your home a beautifully calm place to be and would kill for your figure. Keep on keeping on xxx

[@randomharts]

I agree with the gifts…I need nothing but time and more energy😉 a nice dinner with my family and a cupcake sounds like a lovely birthday!!!

[@robynwells8249]

Me too

[@mcanultymichelle]

Love your dining room table the place is coming together. I first saw your videos about two years ago when you were living in Europe (I loved that lounge room) well long story short, you inspired me . I sold my house, sold everything and walked away and bought a smaller house to fix up beautiful floors and painted all the walls white no paintings on the wall very minimal good quality stuff in it and I am so happy. just something magically calming about it. Thank you.

[@mariak7622]

I can never understand how people can be so rude and WRONG in comments! So glad you quit caring about that.😊❤

[@laurakalinski1286]

Thank you so much for creating these videos! While I am not a hoarder, we have accumulated so much stuff from previous marriages, our own marriage and 6 kids combined. And overspending on books, miscellaneous items I didn’t need. Your videos have helped me soooo much from motivating me to let go of items (why am I holding on to this?), to asking myself why before buying something, to creating a capsule wardrobe, to tracking expenses for creating a budget. As well as examine my online shopping habits and to change that. While I am in the early stages of this journey, sharing your story and watching your videos are helping me realign my values and habits that are actually a source of some of the chronic anxiety I experience. I’m very sorry that internet trolls like to criticize you, your lifestyle and content instead of simply scroll on by or unsubscribe. It’s the kind thing to do. Thank you.

[@christyprendergast4751]

Those negative comments say more about the commenter(s) than they say about you. Some people just have PROBLEMS…. 😕

[@deniser.m.7356]

Love this comment ❤

[@jordanxfile]

If someone is taking the time to type a comment that you're a loser, poor them, they must be really miserable.

[@courtneyashley7732]

I love that this channel is all information. Sometimes the music is so loud that I can't hear what is being said on others channels. Don't entertain me,inform me! That is real minimalism!😊🌾

[@jenniehaefner4808]

Forget the haters. Many of us really appreciate your straightforward, simple insights. ❤

[@annburnett9059]

I love your channel. Don't worry about those negative comments, they usually come from negative people that are unhappy with their life. For some reason they want to make others feel bad or uncomfortable. You are doing a great job. Keep up the good work. You are always a bright spot in my day when I watch your videos. Thank you!

[@bevanbuckwheatshea5520]

Totally agree

[@goddessmel8518]

My latest FitBit - and the 'connected' scale - are the next items I'm dropping! The Fitbit is getting glitchy and is no doubt on the way out (after less than 2 years of use BTW) and I've vowed I'm not replacing it with another device when it finally gives up. I've owned a few of these over many years and rather than inspiring me to be more active, they actually just add to my stress / sense of failure when I don't hit that 'magic' step or movement level each day and my weight refuses to shift (I'm looking at you, menopause!). I no longer care whether I hit a magic number - on my step count or my scale - but am focussed instead on consistency of (better) habits and feeling better overall. At 50 I think I deserve to quit caring about the societally-imposed beauty standards of others!

[@laurakalinski1286]

Im getting rid of my Apple Watch for the same reasons. I don’t like the electronic leash that it is reminding me that I should be getting up, get my steps in, etc. stresses me out too much. I just listen to body and if I feel like going on an extra walk I do. If I want to relax I do that too.

[@marianhunt8899]

Just concentrate on being healthy and mobile. We do not have to look perfect.

[@marianhunt8899]

​@@laurakalinski1286yes, the stress of having a nagging, stalking digital item in your life. I ended up hating it eventually. Don't use one at all now and am happier. Life is stressful enough without additional stress.

[@dawnsullivan6794]

Hi Marissa. I look forward to your videos every Sunday. Thanks! p.s. Ignore the haters. You’re doing an amazing job!! ❤

[@TXPrincessPaula]

Going out to eat, with all my immediate family's feet under the table, is my favorite birthday gift!

[@ChristysChannelYall]

Oh Lord, someone thinks you need to lose weight. THAT is nuts. You look great. I let my silver hair grow in and that is something ppl occasionally feel the need to comment on. Many times I get compliments, but conversely, I have been told how much younger I’d look if I colored my hair. Well, I love my hair like this and THAT is what matters ❤

[@ckl5801]

Yah…isn’t it hilarious that people, especially friends, think that it’s ok to make a comment about what they DONT like about your hair color, length or choice to wear makeup! 😂😢

[@dianasimplifies]

I've never colored my hair. Never plan to. Dont care what anyone thinks. Its less toxins going to the brain! 😅

[@BarbaraSobotta-i7q]

I always say that I earned my gray hair!🤣

[@DonnaP37]

You inspire me in every video! I love your house, wish I could get mine that minimal, am working on it! I love hearing your voice and thank you so much for sharing your story and your struggles and your life ! It takes guts and so much determination to do all that you do on your own. Very well done ! 💖

[@denisebunker6674]

I love your "streamline" house. That what I call my house. Its so calming. Thank you!

[@stjabnful]

I think you are just wonderful! I’m still trying to declutter constantly. I donate many items and my husband and I sell many items. I enjoy your videos, they give me a lift! Thank you, Marissa! Hope I spelled that correctly.

[@19hen70]

I have quite all of those... my life is so much happier, I feel so much better, I have more me time, I sleep better, I saved money, my house is clean and always to the point thats give me energy and so on and on. But I think you have to get older to realise all of this. It coast me 54 years but I love my life now❤❤❤

[@zeitgeist888]

You are beautiful and are doing such a service to others in sharing your ideas and tips on minimalism as well as your experiences. The sooner anyone can recognize that caring about strangers opinions instead of those who care about them is the best realization a person can come to.

[@brittany6910]

#3: a quote I like is "don't accept criticism from people you wouldn't ask advice from"

[@lilnxthie]

Nevermind their opinion 😂 I'm actually inspired with your lifestyle, Marissa 🥺 Supporting and looking up on you since day one! ❤ Thanks to your videos, It helped me a lot! ❤

[@AtoZenLife]

Thanks so much and I always appreciate seeing your comments here 🥹❤️

[@RayTator]

People can be so mean. You are you and I think you are nice and have a beautiful home .if those people don’t like you just DONT WATCH Lynn.

[@trekkie-cat]

You're home is lovely and you are beautiful the way you are!!

[@erics607]

I'm trying to quit caring about my job, and all the demands that they all of sudden want, that have never been an expectation before. I have stayed with the job because it was a safe job, and it allowed me to do the things I love. Now the people in charge come across as toxic, and their actions show that they don't really care about us even though they tell us how much they appreciate us. I know it's not worth wasting my energy worrying about what they want, but I'm also a person who cares a lot about doing a good job. I have been trying to learn new skills so that I can go in a new direction, but it feels so difficult when I'm constantly mentally exhausted. I know that I am in control of my own life, and that living a positive lifestyle will lead to good things, however it's quite difficult trying to change from a more negative mindset to a positive one.

[@debbiematthews981]

Wow I feel like you have written my thoughts word for word about my work experiences right now. I also don’t know what to do about this as my job is also a safe option whilst I go through some medical issues as well. I hear you and feel for you and completely understand. I hope there is better for both of us around the corner as we both deserve it.

[@AlejandroSantiago-g3l]

​ So sorry about the experience you two are having It will be fine some day ❤

[@gloriayouchisonbrown7734]

Marissa, I love your list, makes great sense❤

[@ashleaspruce8185]

I agree so much with #1. It’s a waste of money glorifying these celebrities. They’re getting richer and we are getting poorer. And ignore the haters.

[@isKatKat]

Thank you so much for this level-headed rational approach to life, over-consumption and minimalism. I think a lot of people’s lives would benefit if they were able to truly understand and gain some of those insights. It is also such a great point that overly sticking to the idea of being a “something” or doing something a certain way can really hold you back. Going about anything in a level-headed and rational way really is key I think 🤗

[@isKatKat]

Oh btw, re. the part about caring less about what other people think of you: I fully agree. I once saw an article online titled “No One Cares About You -- And That's Great” and it made me realise, that most people are too worried about how they look to the people around them (literally and metaphorically) to really truly care about what you look like, and that was like a lightbulb-moment for me. It really freed me up to worry less. It ultimately also made me realise that when we judge other people, it’s really because we judge and restrict ourselves. So it helps me be less judgemental of myself as well as other people ❤

[@jandkhilbert]

I like that you use the baby blankets for wrapping gifts. I have discovered the items from the past are more valuable when used for daily living

[@gwenellison5386]

I completely agree with you about holidays and birthdays. I spent three years decluttering and the last thing I want to do is have more unnecessary crap lying around. Unless there's something specific I would like to have, I prefer not to receive gifts.

[@BeautybyMaria]

9:33 over the years I’ve asked people to please not to get me anything. I value time with family and friends.

[@robinjeree]

Words of wisdom!

[@quoththeraven13]

I’m going to love this video, I already know it. ❤

[@AtoZenLife]

Thanks so much and hope you find it valuable 🙏❤️

[@4eburawka18]

I love these sit-down-talk videos... Maybe it's your voice or overall openness, but I've been in a bad place mentally and somehow your videos have a nice calming effect on me :) Quite the opposite of that on some hateful commenters you mentioned. I guess whenever we put outselves out there, there's always going to be 'lovers' and 'haters'. That's probably normal because all people are different and it's impossible to satisfy everyone's tastes at once - and there's no need to. I think it's enough if you enjoy sharing your experience, then the others can choose what they take from it, and that's it. There might also be a bias towards negative comments just because when people agree they feel less need to write about it as opposed to when they disagree. P.S. I am about to bring in the 'no gift' policy this holiday season but my family is quite old-fashioned so I am worried that they a) won't understand and b) will still buy some random stuff making me feel guilty that I am not preparing any presents :/

[@amandah.6042]

I love when you put out a new video! I agree 100% with this list. I have found so much peace through therapy and minimalism. I grew up in two co parenting homes. My mother and grandmother are hoarders and keepers of all the antiques. My father, was excessively clean and organized. From a young age, I knew I didn't want to be either. My grandmother is no longer with us and I kept a few antiques to treasure. We use them every day! A dining room table + chairs, desk, console table, and trunk from my great grandpa. It came from Ireland with him. ❤ I actually didn't own a dining room table until I got that table. We sat on floor pillows.

[@olgabock-y7x]

According to Dale Carnegie, people who criticize you in a mean way are doing so due to envy. Your videos represent happiness and calmness which causes people to be jealous and hateful because they don't have it or do not know how to get it. I might not do everything that you recommend in your videos, but you give me ideas that I didn't think of. We are not supposed to be alike but we can learn from one another. I really appreciate your videos.

[@kathryngarcia8800]

Marissa, I've cried with you & rejoiced with you through the years. You are a favorite of mine! I learn so much from you. ❤

[@AtoZenLife]

Thanks so much, Kathryn, and I always appreciate having you here with me 🙏❤️

[@MadisonBriggsArtchick]

I was thinking how much I LOVE your new home and dining set as I started watching this video! Ignore the haters!

[@nyssahoerner6854]

Thank you so much! Your videos are very helpful and inspiring and have helped me change my life in small steps.

[@ms.schnapp7415]

Great tips! For all relationships. For those whose opinions you value, it’s still acceptable to have a different opinion.

[@jaqueline1]

I was just thinking how good you look... these haters are crazy 😮

[@AtoZenLife]

Oh thank you!!! ☺️

[@stephanienoble2926]

My thoughts exactly! I was like what weight does she have to lose lol 😂

[@Jamie-h5b]

Miserable people try to feel better about themselves by tearing down someone they're jealous of. Personally, I think she's gorgeous. Haters gonna hate. 🤷‍♀

[@lindascull6327]

Love YOU &YOUR CHANNEL ❤ I love this quote" to avoid criticism do nothing say nothing be nothing" or something like that❤

[@JD-de5mq]

I think we should talk about after you decluttered your house, start decluttering toxic people, media and entertainment

[@daisyrowaro44]

Thank you so much! Love your channel and content all the way over here in Papua New Guinea.

[@AtoZenLife]

Thanks so much and waving from a very cold 🥶 Chicago 👋

[@monicalmoss]

Every time you mention getting enough sleep I think, "Dang, what a flex."

[@patriciamondello3904]

Honestly, don't pay attention to any of all that negativity. You are great, you are funny and someone I see as a friend. People have nothing better to do. Clearly they are not happy people. Keep doing what you are doing!

[@connie6410]

Yes, yes, yes to all 7 things! Thanks for another great video 💛

[@TGYtco]

I used to do 1 and 2 as well! 😂 It seems so ridiculous to me now that I cared so much about things that didn't matter.

[@AtoZenLife]

We live and we learn, right? 😁👍

[@SusanBame]

THE OLIVE CHAIR!!! This is what I'm trying to find RIGHT NOW!!! 😲 And I LOVE your dining room and all the blank walls behind you.

[@patwinker2267]

I was just trying to figure out what store it is in because one of my chairs is worn and uncomfortable.

[@julietannOsfan1972]

Thank you for this. Great tips. I especially agree with no 6. In the UK we have a shop called Primark which sells clothes etc. Some of the stuff is ok but I don’t always find the clothes very good quality. I’d rather buy it from M&S. Another example, batteries in Poundland are total rubbish. I’d rather pay more & buy Duracell etc. Even tho I’m single & live alone I still put loads of Christmas decs up but I don’t follow the usual trends of a Christmas Eve box, Elf on the shelf, gonks & gnomes & nutcrackers. Also, I put my decs up at the end of November & take them down around Jan 10th, whereas as some people take them down the day after Boxing Day. Dare to be different.

[@justn5424]

I needed this today! 😊 thanks

[@emilianodiaz-page4233]

Great video Marissa! I too have quit caring about all these things. I started my journey with these points you talked about when I was 19 and I’m 48 now. It has significantly improved and made my life better. ❤

[@mc5366]

Great list Marissa! Love all the windows in your house that brings in natural light and your dinning table! 💖

[@melissamoeller9608]

I appreciate your wisdom and vulnerability. You made some really great points.

[@denisebutler-bowen6426]

Your house is lovely. You inspire me. You are perfect just the way you are. Thought I would counter those 3 horrible comments. I Love your channel. Always learn something new. Keep being you. 🧡

[@wilhelmina8843]

I love your balanced and flexible approach. It really resonates with me. No one label fits everyone and no one label is able to encompass all that we are.

[@carrienikolaus3033]

When I saw what you shared on some of the negative comments I felt bad! People should not shame like that! If they don’t like what you share or how you live they should just not watch or just keep the comments to themselves! I appreciate your information! I don’t comment on anything, but that hurt my heart that people would say such things! I just wanted you to know I appreciate your content!

[@Smallworld2024]

❤ i love your personalaty and i realy enjoy your videos. İ've learned so many things from you🎉 ty so much for sharing 😊

[@awesomekarrot23]

Thank you, your videos are like a pick me up and healthy mindset shift for me everytime. May you continuously be blessed (from one of your Malaysian followers)

[@cate7777]

So many good tips on this video. I stopped buying magazines a long time ago, and stopped following celebs. The need to move house has meant that all those things have to be moved as well. It is an example of when you own it, it owns you as well. As for fashions stick with so called classics that never go out of fashion and therefore don't have to be replaced. My friends and I have an agreement that because we have most of what we want already, we don't exchange gifts. It's less fuss for all of us when birthdays and holidays role around.

[@RedRockingBird]

I’m a craftaholic 😂trying to take control of other areas of my life, glad your video popped up on my feed ❤ thanks

[@purpledonkeylover9988]

Thanks for the great video!! Some people are so mean and jealous!! You look wonderful. Love the ideas in your video. Have a great day.

[@goodenoughgirl8102]

Yah. Better help didn’t really help me tho. Then after I wasn’t happy and wanted to leave, they gave me a hard time about a prorated refund for what I paid ahead for and didn’t use. If you’ve got things to deal with beyond the average stuff, (such as a narcissistic parent or a mother who constantly envies you and tries to compete with you and sabotage you like a frenemy etc), they are not likely going to be adequate.

[@ElizabethCarter-v6y]

I love your attitude. I think you are a positive and encouraging voice.

[@whitneypencina6524]

Thank you so much for sharing your life with us, Marissa- you continue to inspire me and so many others!

[@suegray6387]

Thank you, what a great video. I strive to be a minimalist, it doesn’t look like your minimalism, but it really helps me be in control of my life. You have overcome so much, thank you for your great example and courage, keep up the good work.

[@janetmcgee4525]

❤..I still look for the cheapest price, but not the cheapest item. All others on your list I have either stopped, or minimized, or matured out of. Good list.

[@laurak.4918]

Such helpful insights. I needed this. Thank you!!!

[@TrishaandJeff]

Thank you for your good advice.

[@dinaloomis150]

I’ve truly enjoyed your videos for a few years now. You do you, girl! Continue inspiring others ❤️

[@kristenFish-j2z]

Thank you!

[@thebrydons7777]

Love your channel Marissa 😍🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

[@Danilyn_Livao]

This video is so empowering! I’m definitely going to take a closer look at what I can let go of too-thanks for sharing and encouraging others to do the same! ❤

[@Queenyco]

Im inlove to all your videos Marissa😍😍always excited to your channel🥰🥰🥰an inspiration😘watching from ❤Philippines❤

[@mydakhan3994]

Superb content 🤩

[@TheMennomilist]

I don't like these negative comments you get! I don't understand why people do that. You are awesome and have made such great efforts in your life, and I appreciate you! I was told recently on a video that I am not a minimalist because they have less clothes than I do, after my video explained how I have more than I have had in ages because I keep getting in between sizes since being pregnant and postpartum plus hoping to get pregnant one more time before I age out since I am 41 now. It is awful when people don't fully watch videos and just go BLAH BLAH BLAH!!! I watch your videos all the way through and always love them! Keep it up!

[@Ang3lofth3abyss]

I feel like I'm still looking for the cheaper price, because I'm still trying to lose some weight after birth (it's been a year and a half since). I end up wearing whatever I bought, because I feel like it would be a waste, even if I'm not in love with the item. I definitely need to work on this, because everyone should be happy with themselves, no matter their size or what chapter in life they are. Thank you for the inspiration ❤

[@milak1691]

I love your videos, you are such a breath of fresh air!

[@avh1474]

Always look forward to your videos. Thank you! ❤

[@ACTS1979]

Quite frankly - when it comes to opinions regarding your own life, almost nobody should vocalize anything. It's your life and just you can decide what really matters and makes sense. Sometimes even well meant advices can be very toxic especially if you try to make changes to a "better you" and it feels off all the time. I think we have to respect each other with our flaws. We shouldn't be each other's projects which need to be fixed. I never understood how anyone thinks they know better how someone should lead their lives anyway. That's such a distructive thinking. Each person has it's own skills, limits, expectations, interests, etc. How should someone else but the person itself, know what's best? I'm a huge advocat of respecting people as they are as long as they don't do disruptive things to other people. No opinions needed.

[@blackforestwanderer]

Hey Marissa, I find your videos very inspiring, and I have to say, I LOVE your new house. I also really like your interior design choices! I hope we get an updated house tour some day 😊. I admire how far you've come in your life journey with all the painful situations you had to deal with, and now here you are being positive and helpful and vunerable on the internet. Great work! I wonder how miserable people must feel inside to hate others online. I hope they find peace and love some day🙏🏻. Why did you choose to put the sofa in the "glass room" to face the wall instead of the window? Do you get more sunlight that way? Greetings from Germany 😊

[@johannathorisdottir2456]

Love this video very good content! You always have such good stuff to talk about

[@christinequintana881]

You are beautiful and confident. They are jealous and unhappy in their own life to feel the need to bring you down. Not really a minimalist but use your channel to help on my decluttering journey. You have wonderful, practical ideas. I love your vibe. Thank you for sharing your light and don't let the haters put it out! ✨️ We all need to support each other and build each other up to be our best selves. We don't have to all be the same. What a boring world that would be. ❤🫂

[@AM-bm2xw]

Great video Marissa, thank you. I always learn so much from you :)

[@dinapre-k4223]

First off your house is amazing and clean, second off your beautiful and who in the world would say you need to lose weight?! You are an amazing mom and inspire me to do the same. I have body image problems and you made me feel normal. I am 5'7" 120 lbs. I feel at times that I am not comparable to these models. As a mom of 6 and a teacher I try hard to show my kids material things are just that. Those magazines are garbage and you learn nothing from them. Thank you for inspiring me!!

[@trekkie-cat]

I never cared about celebrity gossip!

[@jvalderas4011]

I'm with you on this list! Except for #2... I get weighed every 6 months at my job and I have to stay below a certain threshold for my height. It's much harder to maintain now that I'm in my 50's. 😢