7 Traits Of An INTJ Female | The Rarest Woman

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[@shaleywen2648]

We all know INTJs hate arguing with stupid people 😭

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Do you hate it as well?

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@@yourdad-lb4kh Why?

[@PsychologyRefresh]

@@yourdad-lb4kh Do you think you are logical all the time?

[@dianesamonte2641]

Truee

[@fernwe.h.ird.]

Not only arguing..

[@nimityaka]

The hardest part is to find a partner. If a man isn’t smart - bye. If he’s too emotional or too romantic - cringy. Doesn’t have sense of humor or doesn’t understand mine - adios. Also I was called cold-hearted and emotionless. Now it all makes sense to me. It’s just how I’m rigged, take it or leave it. So basically I’m doomed to die alone with 40 cats.

[@Itzayanae]

Ugh. I’m 25 now and have been having trouble finding a romantic partner. It’s frustrating.

[@iiooiiooiiooiiooiioo]

Been with all the types you mentioned here and said goodbye to all of them (in the most cold-hearted way, according to my family lol). Maybe we're made for polyamorous/open relationships, given that we like to go against the norm? Will report back how it goes.

[@imho2278]

Rent a man. Get a good professional partner. They converse well, look good, don't cling and do the sex you want. Why bother with unskilled amateurs?

[@olivy217]

It’s possible I’m married 17 years now don’t give up hope

[@user-rq8rh3si3m]

나는 아주 로맨틱한 남자만 좋아한다. 물론 그 남자에게 호감이 있을때만, 만약 호감이 없는 남자가 그러면 구역질이 난다.

[@nerdygirl430]

As a INTJ female, I finally know why I find inefficiency is so unbearable. This is really relatable.👍

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Absolutely!

[@danieljbruso]

As an INTJ man, yes.

[@snowflake33366]

yea frrr

[@dinorexEditzz]

Agreed bro@@danieljbruso

[@javaskull88]

Seriously yes. Just this morning I was wondering why spiders have eight legs, when they could get around on six or even four. It’s just so inefficient.

[@CupOfTeaSugar]

As an INTJ female teenager, I know the feeling of having friends but not connecting with them

[@moriodagiri788]

"INTJ women loves dark humor" guilty ...

[@PsychologyRefresh]

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[@Orangeblossom1239]

same, I have been told many times I have really dry humour and I love sarcasm but I really struggles with some type of humor, I cannot stand clowns and Mr.Bean. I also really struggle with magic tricks, makes feel uncomfortable as I am expected to find it amazing and I do not 🤔

[@ariannamcfarland4436]

Same.

[@AquilaLorelei]

I agree on the Mr. Bean and raise you a Monty Python, though Mel Brooks is amusing enough, if we're going for "that kind" of humor lol.

[@0xyGen_2.p0]

Guilty as charged!

[@madeofstarlight22]

The self improvement is 100% accurate. As an INTJ female, my whole 'life philosophy' / purpose of living is for 1. Personal growth 2. Societal growth Great video !

[@PsychologyRefresh]

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[@anonnnymousthegreat]

As also an INTJ female, i always had the perspective since i was a child to wonder what was the purpose of my whole existence on earth. So i spent my life really just trying find my purpose by improvement and exploring my talents on what i could do to better society while continuing to improve my personal life. People always described me as a child who is “beyond her years”. Meaning that i always questioned the purpose of things and never got emotional or upset about the truth while looking beyond the reasonings and purpose for things in life. I thought alot about the future as well trying to figure out how the future could play out based on what directions i could’ve taken hypothetically.

[@Peter-uo9km]

Wow intj male has growth in common with you. Except mines penis growth.

[@cami6086]

I'm an INTJ teenage girl right here. Im so happy to find other women like me out there!!! I felt like I was completely alone while I was growing since I thought I was weird. Now I feel like I'm just another type of the diversity of personalities in thw world, and im more confident about myself and my future. The video was fantastic, thank you so much

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thank you for bringing up your perspective!

[@diwakarpillay]

Same pinch

[@sylviaowega3839]

I am very skeptical about typing under 18 individuals, as they often don’t know who they are and often cognitive transition.

[@soothingwisdom273]

​@@sylviaowega3839 Came here to say this... I would even wait until 25 to be sure. Teenagers are still developing their personalities, maybe it'll remain INTJ, but it could change!

[@sylviaowega3839]

@@soothingwisdom273 Your hypothesis is correct her. Intuition is the personality trait that tends to develop the latest, unlike the introversion and the judging function.

[@MK32491]

As an INTJ, I'm confident about a lot of things, but when it comes to personal matters, not so much. I wouldn't call what you describe confidence as such, but more bluntness or honesty. I try to seem like I don't care about what people think, I like being weird, and I'm afraid to call out people for what I think isn't correct, but at the same time, I'm not as inwardly confident as you think. I can be blunt when I want to, per say. Otherwise, this is extremely relatable!

[@PsychologyRefresh]

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[@bilgeakaln6335]

Omfg you put my inner struggle into words wtf!

[@adelinejohn1094]

😅this is so meee 😂😂

[@theresah9050]

Not sure your age but I was the same when younger but as you get older you will care less and less what people think of you and hopefully your confidence grows. I always remember this “people think about you way less than you think they do” (remember especially for those embarrassing moments we all have. To make you feel better I once walked up to the front of a conference full of peers with my long skirt tucked into my granny panties). I laugh about it now. And yes sometimes I wish I could let other peoples actions not bother me but right is right and it’s hard not to judge them. Oh and I love weird so keep being you.

[@Hope-007]

For real couldn’t have said it any better! So accurate

[@Anticrystal88]

I'm an INTJ woman, and an older one at that. All of the traits of INTJ become even more intensified as you age. No, I don't care what you think of me. Yes, I want to know what you think about certain issues and why. No, I'm not overly moved by emotional displays. But yes, I am pretty empathetic, I get it, I get you. No, I'm not at all hard-hearted, but yes, you aren't going to see me react with a lot of emotion. I will put on my thinking hat and figure out how to help you.

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thanks for sharing!

[@LizInTheB]

This is exactly on point. I would add only that 'I have no patience for gossip or chit-chat', either. And regardless of how I might come off to others, I am *always* trying to help them. (They just don't see it that way because of my blunt/direct approach.)

[@CatCat-tm2cg]

you’re just like me

[@samsaranight]

Yes all this. I used to use social coding to fit in and got pegged as an INFJ but I never utilized Fe for anything and my true results are INTJ-T. Yes we are compassionate, just because we aren't crying at notable scenes, doesn't make us less feminine or cold. People don't even try to get it.

[@noName-kn1lx]

@@Anticrystal88 i dont know about that. I feel i am more empathetic and forgiving-for an intj of course- then i was when i was younger. To an average person still not too much lol

[@anaclw]

I am an INTJ A women, still I have problems with ending relationships cuz I don’t know when I will or if I ever will find someone that understands me. I don’t mind being alone but NEVER having someone to talk to becomes a bit overwhelming sometimes. Edit: for all the comments asking, yes I did not kept undesired relationships in my life but that doesn’t make it necessary easier. For all the INTJ that pretends to be emotionless for the sake of looking cold, that doesn’t make you an INTJ. I have emotions. We all have. We are more reserved but we do have sense of humor and emotions. Being cold doesn’t mean that you are an INTJ, it only means you lack empathy and basic human connections. And for all the other INTJ, if you have a problem and if being extremely cold or distant is a problem try to improve that, personalities and people are not stuck to a single place, we are supposed to evolve and fix our flaws, so it doesn’t really matter your MBTI as long as you keep track of your goods and flaws.

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thanks for sharing this!

[@carolinagoldgirl8706]

I know exactly what you mean as an INTJ-T woman.

[@anaclw]

@@carolinagoldgirl8706 Happy to see that at least someone understands 😊

[@brendagomez5072]

woah, that is my exact issue as well

[@soursweet7044]

Fr tho

[@ladybugflv]

Being an INTJ mom is the hardest, especially in the early childhood years. Having someone who is totally relying on you and losing your independence are the worst. Also, having to be outwardly affectionate is something I still find challenging.

[@HereIStandbyU]

As an INTJ woman close to her forties I decided I didn't wanna have children because it would give me more anxiety, I wouldn't be able to have someone who's completely defenseless depending on me. Someone who will be attached to you for at least 20 years and might be your complete opposite. I admire your resilience.

[@shelbycurtis8885]

As an intj female the only people I've ever found myself being affectionate towards is my child and my cat

[@ahtemmathehun3506]

Interesting. I'm an INTJ as well and I had the opposite experience. Outward affections are easiest with my kids and husband. How wonderful that we're the same personality type and still so diverse within that demographic!

[@maanasa7992]

Hello, like many of us here, I am also an INTJ female (adolescent), and I appreciate your content. In my opinion, INTJs are very stereotyped personalities and our intricate minds are oversimplified in many ways. The intelligence we have has many facets. The points you have mentioned are very true as well, but I must say it's always a grey area for us. In defining any personality, labels ironically explain lesser than what we might expect. INTJs are logical, stubborn, competitive, and altruistic even. We question authority- school, parents, company, and people who take advantage of us. We grow up mature way before our time and see the world almost as clearly as an adult during childhood. In the teenage years, we connect to things more spiritually, try to find meaning in things around us, and identify what we're good at. We love balance. The first few failures for us are devastating and leave a long-lasting impact, but we adapt and learn at our pace. We can manipulate, but we never overstep boundaries, and we are morally sound people, which is why our hard work and intelligence are exploited, but we learn early in life how to protect ourselves. We are, indeed, funnier than people realize. We are criticized for thinking differently, and people our age and older think we are overly arrogant when it is only our principles that mean the most to us.

[@blikewat3r]

👍Spot on analysis, IMHO.

[@mymaybe8820]

@maanasa where are you from??

[@klvncj]

Classic INTJ analysis 😂

[@jodier.dillon5132]

I am certain the instructor that went over my final nursing school evaluation was also an INTJ female and so very thankful for it. She said that the other students (all girls) found me to be very bossy but explained that I was simply far more assertive than any of them. She went on to say that they also thought I was very arrogant but that was simply them not recognizing my strong self confidence and assuredness for what it was. She ended by telling me that she hoped that I would never let people's misperceptions bring me down because I was a rare type of nurse/woman that the world could use more of. Her assessment of me had a great impact and I will never forget it.

[@arizeliromo7075]

100% agree. I think we are the best at staying true to ourselves which I find is very hard for most people. I never liked being compared to anyone and also was competitive in my own way and stood my ground if someone wasn’t respecting me or if adults were trying to tell me what to do but the reasoning wasn’t sound. I would completely quit the sport if I didn’t like the coach because they kept talking to me a certain way even though I told them I wouldn’t stand for it. And I managed to get my mom to put me in first grade and skip kindergarten at such a young age because I didn’t like the teacher. 😂

[@fuzzy7766]

I’m an INTJ woman, now 64. Always knew I was different but I love it. I found out I was INTJ in my 30s and again on a retest at work in my 50s. I love being a woman but think like a man. That made me a very successful engineer and leader, retired early and loving it. Now I work “behind the scenes” to help my very smart, sexy, awesome husband grow his business….. buahahaha (it’s hilarious to pretend to be him and I made our dog the CEO). Life’s a blast as an INTJ woman. Enjoy the ride girls!!!

[@recherche4528]

Don’t really appreciate the comment that “you think like a man.” You may want to rethink that statement. It comes across as condescending and misogynistic. 😎

[@Happyheretic2308]

@@recherche4528bollards it does - it’s a perfectly valid statement. Stop with the PC nonsense.

[@recherche4528]

@@Happyheretic2308 It’s not “PC nonsense.” You are not the authority on opinions.

[@soniacanalla900]

​@@recherche4528you aren't INTJ ...it shows 😂

[@recherche4528]

@@soniacanalla900 You’re misinformed and it shows. 😂

[@Divinet7147]

As an intj, I don’t follow authorities blindly just because they are in a higher role than me. I live in a country where teachers or “older” people that are not well-qualified (if that makes sense), I reject everything they say unless they proved that they are the actual “professionals” or worth to follow. And it’s frustrating to watch them being unprofessional or unqualified and order me what to do and make me follow their stupid rules.

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thanks for sharing!

[@Pa1ntingdreams]

Accurate

[@whitepod]

happens to me at work all the time 😢

[@JazzyJ96771]

I'm an INTJ and it explains why I'm so misunderstood, given that it's the most rare personality type.

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thank you for bringing up your perspective!

[@soham4741]

The most heartbroken and traumatized personality type ever.

[@shepardcommander5174]

@@soham4741 where do you have this from? I alway thought there was a correlation between experienced trauma and me being intj

[@blue-phoenix115]

I'm a INTJ M. We would be too similar and clash. I need to be the manipulator, you just have to trust that I will manipulate you in the right direction, for both our well being.

[@Habubachu]

“Usually others need them” FACTS

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Definitely!

[@skyinuri8868]

That's why people suck

[@theresah9050]

I always knew I was different from other women and for a while I worried I had sociopathic tendencies because i process emotions quite differently than others. I feel emotions but from a colder more logical side. Taking the Briggs Meiyers test saved my sanity. Researching my INTJ personality type was eye opening and I fit it so well. I stopped 20 year friendships when I had had enough and walked away with no feelings for them. Once I’m over you whether a friend or lover there’s no going back and I rarely if ever think of them. Over is truly over for me. Why would I invest another minute? I also seem to be in the single category which is something I’ve accepted as I’ve gotten older and older. Intj’s can’t fool themselves long term so if it’s not a good match you cut your losses and move on. I’m lucky most of my coworkers accept me for who I am and I’m very honest with them. I want them to have happy lives but I’m not the least bit interested in the details of it.

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thanks for sharing!

[@anonnnymousthegreat]

Same here. I never really was an emotional or affectionate person from even since i was a child. I was also very guarded in my emotions and am still not an affectionate person as an adult. To give an idea, those close to me would get shocked when the words, “i love you” came out of my mouth, because it was rare i even said that. If i let people hug me, they treasure it because they know i don’t like to be touched and hate being affectionate. What was said in the video about relationships was spot on for me.

[@Pyr0Mania2]

I agree, since i was a child i think that expressing emotions or telling how i fell is so umcorfotable, most of the time i tough i was some kind of coward or something, and knowing this makes me feel better, and i also pass by the same situation with the "i love you" thing

[@nimityaka]

OMG as if I wrote this comment! I agree on everything you’ve written. In a battle heart vs brain - my brain will always win. Emotions are buried somewhere deep.

[@Myria83]

I feel the same, but I consider myself to be very lucky, 'cause I found a person who's perfect for me and I haven't been in the "single category" for 17 years now. (I'm and INTJ, and I'm probably demi too, so I had a high chance of staying in that category for loooong time...)

[@nonnywinner5039]

As an Intj female, I prefer not to waste my time in argument, some people I ignore, some people I overwhelm, some people I raise my voice. In every situation my goal is to prevent wasting my time, because I prefer moving on with my life. I am always calm inside, outside I present persona that helps with desired outcome. I can be the sweetest person, I can also, be a nightmare if my path is hinder. I enjoy my peace and quiet. I normally do what I think is the best and ask for forgiveness later.

[@Myria83]

Same here. INTJ-A.

[@chanellovely2836]

So on point.❤

[@heibai1173]

I grew up in an incredibly stressful environment and my whole family was used to yelling, so I actually learned to be pretty loud in an argument. It felt like the only way to be heard. Since leaving home, I’ve really mellowed out and will only raise my voice on rare occasions. Also, when I’m talking about something I’m excited and/or REALLY passionate about, my voice will raise and I don’t notice it until someone tells me. I’m working on that.

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thank you for bringing up your perspective!

[@GT-ox3pe]

There are two things here for me too and one is the raising of a voice which I like this commenter have a tendency yo do on occasion for the same reason she does …previous home life yelling ….the other thing that was remarkable is the lack of support when a child has left me with anxiety and questioning myself worth in my head a lot

[@ccloveshellokitty]

I agree that environment can affect how us INTJ females react. I can keep my cool in many situations. But in certain situations… I am passionate; and will defend my point of view until I die. So, no, I don’t believe that INTJ females never show emotion. My bestie is an INTJ, and she too, will argue her point of view. We are strong-headed women.

[@MSHoneybee210]

Right, I’m like… doesn’t yell who??

[@catherinerhea6336]

"Lone Wolf" category suits me just fine. 🖤

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Perfect!

[@0xyGen_2.p0]

Same!

[@Pyr0Mania2]

As an intj woman, i can say that many people think im like a poker face/cold hearted when sometimes i can be even more emotive. I just not stupid to let my emotions lead my decisions

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thank you for bringing up your perspective!

[@blue-phoenix115]

Ever dated another INTJ? You either understand each really well and co-exist a boring routine life or become increasingly suspicious and out manipulate one another.

[@jennypepster1462]

It's not that we like to be alone, it's just better to be alone than to pretend to be something we're not. Freedom (from strife, stupidity, inefficiency, inauthenticity, disloyalty, frustration, narcissism) is happiness.

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thanks for sharing your perspective.

[@tiffanyd.8660]

I had a roommate once that came home and cried that she had a bad day at work. I was flabbergasted that she was crying in front of me, especially over a bad day. I stood there staring at her, unable to feel empathy, astonished that she was so emotionally ..weak. That's when I realized that I was definitely not like other women. I'm not emotionally weak (unless it's very serious) and I handle problems mentally, not emotionally. I realized that I can't place my trust in emotionally weak people because they are unpredictable.

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thank you for bringing up your perspective!

[@nimityaka]

Same. There’s no way I’m tearing over a bad day in the office or someone shouting at me. I’ve never cried because of work or studies. I don’t take this shit personally.

[@ladymire]

This is my case as well! I had a huge falling out with friends during my teen years bc they felt that I wasn’t as caring about their vulnerabilities and problems as they wanted me to be. They would call me after a bad day at work and I just couldn’t find anything to say bc I couldn’t relate.

[@H0lolo]

​@@ladymirethis is inspiring really as an infp man i really don't want to let my emotions affect me as much as they do now i did have an intj friend so i understand there must be someway to not let my emotions affect i will figure it out.

[@vep481]

This is so fucking funny

[@amamak4444]

I'm an INTJ girl n I love dramas. However, most of the time when I watch a drama, my non-intj friends cry so hard or put themselves into the shoes of the female leads. But for me, I couldn't help but analyse “why is that character feeling in such way” etc. 🤣

[@a.d.7922]

i cannot even watch movies normally without thinking about the plot and how it could be better, the extras playing roles in the background, the surroundings and visual effects.. this over analyzing of everything (as if I was a producer and a director) makes it impossible to enjoy movies for me.

[@blue-phoenix115]

So many women in the comments claiming to be INTJ because it's the rarest, coolest female personality type. I guarantee some of these claims are sheeps in wolf clothing. It seems like you're one of the sheeps.

[@2.Search-lp7wk]

As an INTJ Woman, it is extremely hard to find a partner . Especially a partner who is intellectually sound. And the worst part is girls around me don't even care about it.Well it is the most important thing for me.

[@Baybaybay]

100% agree with the personal growth point. As an INTJ, I feel like my whole life up to now is a story of continual studying and improving, and I really enjoy it. Right now, my future studying plan seems a bit packed: - Studying my second and third foreign languages, with an aim to be a polyglot; - Working on my second bachelor's degree; - Preparing Taking the lawyer training course for the bar exam; - Planing for two master degrees in the future; - Somehow still dreaming of getting some kind of online certificate on coding or data analysis out of mere interest and curiosity. Idk, I am tired and stressed (sometimes) but still want to improve myself. And I am listening to this video while preparing my Japanese flashcards. Anw, I wish you all luck on your self-improvement journey 😇

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thanks for sharing!

[@yomiada]

me also always stressed because of my constant need to keep on going, also on my path to be a polyglot 😌 being an intj is hard

[@sienspire]

Omg same I'm studying Chinese at the same time keep learning German plus focusing on my exams to make my GPA as higher as I can. I have lots of things inside my head and I can't if I don't plan at all or do to do list at least

[@aira_iyya]

as an intj woman, when i was a teenager i got depressed because i had too high standards for myself and i was so much of a perfectionist that when i didnt get what i want i would feel disappointed of myself. during those times i was so isolated from everyone and i stopped talking to my friends and family. im so glad i got over it now.

[@Lee._.AnnLee]

I'm a teenage INTJ, people around me sometimes think I'm cold or scary. Sometimes it's hard because I don't look like other girls my age. But despite this, I'm glad it's me. I look different than others, and that's what I like, despite what people say.

[@jays7259]

4:05 it’s in reverse . We have to smile more , not talk too much , and not be so opinionated and direct . We have to dumb ourselves down . Not only for men but also for woman who see us as graceless and rude .

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thanks for sharing!

[@nina1996ization]

I agree completely!

[@zullahaabdullahi9408]

Exactly

[@Happyheretic2308]

No we don’t. Stop trying to people-please.

[@jays7259]

@@Happyheretic2308 it comes with having your weakest function being extroverted sensing (giving others a good experience)… so if you don’t feel inclined to people please then you might not be an INTJ ..

[@MetaSiren]

As an INTJ female, the arguing without yelling is true unless we are very stressed and feel out of control. When I am pushed to my limit, I blow up like Mt Vesuvius. Also, I didn't find a partner that is an intellectual like I am. He has more street smarts. But I fell in love with his soul. We've been together 19 years and have 5 kids together. Dark and dry humor are not the same thing.

[@RajanyaBiswas-qe6hl]

As an INTJ female I am mostly hot headed because I cannot stand stupidity . Also I not afraid to show what I feel. Also I am not good with making mistakes but I am always open to learn. Also the most important thing is we always want to be perfect because we can't stand imperfection in us . We have a deep personality . Rarely people understand that

[@blue-phoenix115]

You've just described most women I know lol

[@leafdaleaudiovideoengineer4763]

As and INTJ male, much of what is presented is true regardless of gender. What was not explained was, at least in my case, my confidence or self-esteem, was/is based almost completely on what I know or my skill-set. INTJs are keenly aware of what and how much they know and the limits of their skill-set. I might be orders of magnitude better or more knowledgeable than others in the room, but if I don't know as much as I think I should, you won't see my confidence. Asking INTJ pre-teens and teenagers to display confidence where they don't feel it is warranted is a steep hill to climb.

[@Lucky-vu6hw]

I'm an INTJ female and my childhood really fell short, like . In my early teen years too , i was already mentally matured and yess i definitely not come under general stereotypical norm of a woman and sometimes it feels strange that I'm kinda weird but at the end I don't care if I'm weird or not , it's just my true self ✨

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thanks for sharing!

[@hey_u_its_steph8320]

Definitely misunderstood and I do have a dry/dark sense of humor. Was called "Cold-hearted" a lot growing up and my family thought I was strange wanting to stay home learning how to do different things and enjoying my time alone. They are all extroverts. I preferred working and going to school. Intelligence was a big part when I was looking for a partner. I needed someone I can converse with. Always thought I was an "odd-ball" but it is nice to see there are others out there like me. If even we are considered a Rare personality type.

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Interesting comment!

[@missinterpretation4984]

My family called me cold hearted my whole life. Once I grew up and discovered the personality types it helped me explain myself to them. Like I love you, I’d give you a kidney if you needed it but no I won’t care about your hydrangeas. M’kay. 😂

[@a.d.7922]

same here.

[@abetterlivedlife]

I am an INTJ woman with ADHD. It's a mess. Everything here is pretty much true except that I have do not have the level of emotional control that I wish I did and I do not finish everything, at least not in a timely manner. It can be very hard to have such high standards and constantly struggle with them myself. It does make me more compassionate to those who are trying but struggling though, because I get it.

[@Danceswithfishes]

Same boat. I understand 💯

[@jodier.dillon5132]

INTJ + ADHD = Potentially the worst combination ANYONE could try to manage, live with, and still succeed. I have control of my emotions but I rarely manage to finish anything (then mercilessly crucify myself internally - constantly!). I'm sorry that I can't offer any help - just wanted you to know that you aren't alone.

[@MetaSiren]

Same. I feel like I'm constantly at war with myself. It's probably why I end up blowing like Mt Vesuvius because my personality keeps my emotions in check then my ADHD makes it explode when I'm overstimulated.

[@nikkireigns]

Same here. It’s hard knowing my potential but not being able to grasp it.

[@Carla-hq6yp]

😢😢😢

[@ashleeedb]

Oh man, that comment about being considered "coldhearted" during teen years is SPOT ON. I am highly empathetic but I am also very direct, and I want to find solutions. I'll sympathize but only to the point where people are willing to help themselves. If someone is continually complaining about a situation but make no move to correct it (or even to accept others help), I start to feel frustrated with them. The logical course isn't doing the thing that is causing you grief repeatedly and expecting different results. I've also been told that my confidence in doing what I want without caring how it will be perceived is intimidating. I don't care about looks (other than being decently presentable). I'm not into makeup - it's a waste of time. I don't care if people think I'm attractive or not, as long as I don't look like a hill troll, I'm comfortable. It definitely made it difficult to relate to other girls when I was younger. Boys and fashion were BIG DEALS... and I did not care.

[@terezasimunkova2995]

I got INTJ and I think it suits me. I am really competitive and ambicious. When there is a group project I take the possition of a leader and if someone is already in this possition I am trying my best to convince others that my idea is worth it (if I disagree with the previous one). I was also doing speeches for my class when there was a chance. I love being viewed as smart and independent. I love studying. On the other hand when there is a party I do not want to be the center of the atention. I love to listen to others conversations. People say that I have really high standarts for people that I want in my life and yes... that is true I am picky. They sometimes say that I am weird, not really empathic and I agree. But I am not emotionless. Also my dad was surprised that I do have my life planned for another 15 years and I thought that it is not weird. It is hard to be an INTJ but I love it.

[@PsychologyRefresh]

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[@smitaax]

damnnnn you're so much similar to me!

[@MaiNguyen-td9ls]

This is so like me 😂

[@bellegraves]

INTJ female. I have always felt like I don’t fit in with most women. It’s unfortunate, I envy people with close knit friend groups. I just can’t stand all the details. I can’t do small talk without wanting to tear my eyes out. I don’t give af about your family, kids, or really anything that involves me having to remember names and details of people I’m not concerned with. That’s like, at least half of female friendships 😅 Oh well.

[@blue-phoenix115]

Hmm... I'm Judging you to be: Not INTJ Just look at the comments, it appears every single one of you are INTJ, the rarest personality type. You okay with this, as an INTJ?

[@pinklyran]

@@blue-phoenix115 no we female INTJs do not care. the more female INTJs the better bc we don't have many women to relate to

[@floydblandston108]

Some tips for parenting the INTJ teen female; 1. Make sure she has access to peer social groups outside of her immediate school environment. 2. Provide competitive activities that are not 'team sports'. More obscure individual fields with their own social structure and community like cycling, ski racing, swimming, etc. are excellent choices. 3. Intellectual enrichment is a must; if they show interest in music, provide access to multiple genres and practices (performance, composition, appreciation). If literature, then classic film or the theater will interest them. (etc.) 4. Above all, make them aware of their fundamentally 'different' social and mental orientation, explain its appeal along with clear explanations of its potential limitations, and provide examples of other INTJ's for their own comparison and review. 5. As their Parent- and as you are also likely to be an INTJ yourself- be very aware of their tendencies towards perfectionism and self-criticism beyond levels that are healthy for a developing young person. Teach them the *value* of failure when it is tied to its corollary and twin; persistence. Unless they learn to embrace failure, they may close themselves off from both effort and experience, leading to long term difficulties. 6. Let them go; when they choose something inexplicable to you, or persist in directions you don't necessarily understand- make your own case clearly, reasonably and directly, then respect their own ability and degree of self-knowledge.....and let it go. Except on evidence of the most dangerous levels of self harm, allowing your INTJ to reach their own conclusions is the best way for them to learn. In cases of purely preferential matters- after expressing yourself- remind them that you respect their autonomy. 7. Don't be too proud or afraid to seek help. You have been given a rare opportunity....

[@CitrineFaeryFire]

I am an INTJ-T. I worked in the Homeland Security Field. I loved it but with that said, my male coworkers didn’t like me due to the fact I knew exactly what I was doing.

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thanks for sharing!

[@Lon.BedStuyforLife]

My goodness! Now I know why I have always felt so out of place even among my immediate family. I'm definitely an INTJ.👍🏽 💯

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Glad to hear!

[@_.AmorUtMors]

i am an INTJ teenage female and this video really cheered me up because now i know i'm not the only one with this behaviour and that likes staying alone enjoying a book and a cup of tea.

[@Arina-er1fc]

As an INTJ-T female, I relate the most to number 7 (personal growth) as I always think to become the best of what I am doing in my life. I feel like there's a thrill when I try or learn something new especially in academic because I really believe that knowledge is power. Learning something new for me is a big change on my personal growth and it grows you so that U become a better person that can contribute to society.

[@lindad.c.3693]

eso de que las mujeres INTJ prefieren estar solas que tener una relación disfuncional es totalmente cierto, me sentí identificada escuchando el video

[@PsychologyRefresh]

;)

[@alicemoller]

Thank you. As an INTJ woman, this is spot on I enjoy my own company dealing with others wears me out.

[@shineekebabybuff1452]

*I just know that I'm INTJ after college, and realize thats why I being bullying by other girls when school and just comfortable to join with boys only* 😢

[@blue-phoenix115]

So many women claiming to be INTJ even though it's the rarest, coolest personality type. All these women claiming to be INTJ like women claiming they're all 10s.

[@randomchik62]

I am an INTJ female and this video was suuuper relatable! The only thing different with me really is that I do love to argue and tend to get really passionate and yell/talk very excitedly. Also I don't loose track of time necessarily but I am a procrastinator haha

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thanks for sharing!

[@hannahduke968]

You are probably an assertive trait - on the test it rates if you are more assertive or turbulent as well!

[@randomchik62]

@@hannahduke968 I did get turbulent when I took the quiz!

[@romyhols]

Omg same, apparently the love to argue is still part of our personality but only when we are put in certain situations... This lady tries explain our 4 different personalities in various situations

[@aceofspades9503]

INTJ here. One of the things I find the hardest is that people don't really seem to believe that we struggle. They see what outwardly appears to be a cool, calm person progressing a planned series of actions. They never see the hyperactive mental struggle, the plans gone awry, the things dropped or lost, and the massive trim down the project underwent in order to succeed at all....they just see that it worked out and assume its easy. And this is something that just gets worse as you get older and get more responsibilities.

[@gold_beaked_flamingo7526]

Damn it, as an INTJ male this seems like the perfect personality type. Now I find out that female INTJs are the rarest personality types really sucks. To meet a woman who can equally challenge my thoughts and ideas seems perfect to me

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thanks for sharing this!

[@covfefemaga7918]

I support INTJ-INTJ matches! Get out there and find her. You can do it! Lol, wait what am I saying... I don't go out hahaha.

[@whitearies1050]

i think intj female and intj male relationship wont go well together. as an intj female, I don't speak much when I'm upset. an intj male won't try to talk to me if he thinks I'm being unlogical.

[@covfefemaga7918]

@@whitearies1050 The resulting physical and emotional space can be nice. I'm avoiding an INTJ male currently. I just don't feel like we're serious enough for me to really be involved or pretend to care about his family troubles. I need more investment for that.

[@LizInTheB]

I always chuckle when some of the content creators here claim to personally know "many" INTJ women or "several" INTJ women. I always think--'that's impossible: there aren't that many of us out there. What are the chances/odds that you actually know many of them?' 🤔(Logic: it's our jam.) :)

[@fandujapon]

I've never saw a video so right about myself. Kinda scary how accurate this is haha. Except for the fact that my confidence is not that high and depending on with who I am and where I am, I'm not holding back my anger this easily (but I guess it can be explained by my social anxiety and traumas). In fact I hate when people tell me what to do or order me around, I hate following people blindly and the people who follows too easily. Even though social anxiety makes me scared about what other people think of me, my personnality is above and I won't hesitate to speak my mind. It's true that I take work seriously and I do like dark humour the most. I also didn't felt comfortable around other teenage girls and tended to take some distance with them : I managed my teenagehood because I'm quick-witted. I was also very competitive even though there wasn't competitiveness in my school. Actually everything's so true ! I'm amazed by how much you were able to figure out about me xD

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thank you for bringing up your perspective!

[@Myria83]

You must be an INTJ-T...

[@karolinavolkova8064]

Exactly, I'm in my teen years and I am absolutely confused about myself. I think, that I'm different from others and I don't fit in everywhere.

[@taeeun300]

Knowing myself makes me feel more confident with who I am. I enjoy being unique, being different from others, being myself at all times. I am an INTJ-a..!!

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Love that!

[@DesiLu4Life]

Pretty accurate, especially with the dark humor and intellectualism. 😜💘

[@nemotheghost9196]

Almost all of this is me, except I’m very hot tempered and can easily yell at someone when they piss me off.

[@PsychologyRefresh]

:)

[@azardp7688]

Me too!

[@danielperry8532]

I'm an INTJ male and dated an INTJ female. I'm single now, but man, out of all my exes, she's the only one I still miss. She had a son, and I was 19 in college, and she was 24. Anyway, we were in the same biology class and that's how we met. We both had the top marks, and she had 99%. I had 98%. She was always smarter than me, but we never argued, and her son loved me. Our first date was playing Left 4 dead while eating Dorito's and drinking mountain dew. For the true *gamer experience*. We didn't touch or nothing. She even said she was thinking about not coming but decided to go. So we usually hangout together and got coffee till one day we just kissed and that's how it started. So if anyone wants tips on an intj treat her how you would want to be and let her come out of her shell at her pace when she's ready she will happily make it known trust me.

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thanks for sharing!

[@user-rq8rh3si3m]

나는 intj남자와 호기심때문에 만나 본 적이 있었는데 최악이었다. 그는 메타인지 능력이 없었고 자신을 과대 평가하고 무례했다. 자칭 intj였지만 솔직히 맞는지 지금도 의문이다. 나는 mbti 검사를 신뢰하지만 intj라고 주장하는 사람들이 진짜intj이거나 intj인 나와 비슷하다고 생각지 않는다.

[@peachesbunny]

As an INTJ, being in a relationship is no easy feat. Especially when your brain is stubborn on being independent and self reliance. Although difficult, I managed to work things out with my ESFJ partner. They may not be book smart but definitely street smart and very romantic. My partner also managed to stay strong and use logic to reassure me whenever I get frustrated and anxious of staying committed to a relationship. To all my INTJ sisters, there is no easy way if you want a partner but remember that your partner is not your opponent. That's the biggest lesson I've learned and wish to share.

[@kayliebot]

I'm an INTJ woman and I relate to most of these signs. However, the one I don't relate to is being super confident and independent. I'm turbulent, not assertive. I feel like this mostly describes traits of an INTJ-A woman.

[@alainamuaw]

So happy I’ve found the comments filled with other INTJ women 👋

[@blue-phoenix115]

A bunch of you are wannabe INTJ because it's the rarest, coolest personality type.

[@KHX274]

@@blue-phoenix115that is a lame attitude. Hopefully you’re a bot.

[@blue-phoenix115]

@@KHX274 Filtering out INTJ wannabes like you. This ain’t some horoscope, you don’t get to cherry pick specific INTJ traits and claim to be INTJ, you either are or another personality type. INTJs would appreciate my line of questioning. INTJ Females are the rarest type for a reason. A bunch of you insecure about your real personality types trying to hop on INTJ bandwagon, give me a break. It’s about as cringe as all the Beta introverts claiming they’re all Sigmas.

[@revina8868]

I'm an INTJ woman and I remember once during my university lectures while speaking about personalities I was asked if I'm emotional. I said I might look cold and emotionless but I'm emotional inside. My university professor told me it can't be this way and I'm not making sense to her. We're all different. I hope other people try to understand that there are different people out there

[@BenjaminAlternate]

It seems to me that your professor made the mistake of assuming feelings = emotions. Emotions are how people express feelings, but lack of emotion on the face doesn't mean any given individual is unfeeling or not kind on the inside. However, I can see why people make the feelings = emotions all the time is because unless you communicate through words, the only way to tell how somebody else is feeling is via visual ques like emotions. So, if one doesn't take the time to talk to their INTJ loved ones, then they might get an inaccurate assessment of what that person is feeling.

[@celineSharma]

as an INTJ woman , one thing which annoys me the most is how my brain goes restless and just sometimes cant shut up debating with me . Untill i satisfy myself with with the bug in my brain asking certain questions , there is no sleep or rest .

[@ladykarin691]

I'm actually an INFJ-T woman, but more on the logical side. The feeling/thinking result is always 50/50. The INFJ traits describe me pretty good, but there is like another side which has more INTJ traits. I think that some people might have some kind of "in-between" personality idk.

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Okay!

[@aira7892]

omg same

[@tinabennett501]

Until I was 40, my F/T scores were almost identical. Since then, my feeling score has increased a bit, but I think that's because my work depends on being attuned to others' feelings. In some ways, INFJ describes me, in some, INTJ. It's good to know I'm not alone in that.

[@user-rq8rh3si3m]

no 다르다 중간영역은 없다 타고나는 성격이다

[@nodoboho]

Yes! Whenever I take the test (about every 5-10 yrs maybe), I will choose the "Thinking" answers over the "Feeling" ones, almost exclusively. But when I read the descriptions of behavior, I find a lot of the NF in me IRL. I'm an Introvert at heart, but I learned to be pretty Ambiverted years ago, so I sometimes test as XNT_ (50/50 Introvert/Extrovert). And because I am contrary and just straddle many lines (logical/creative, masculine/feminine, reserved-awkward/affectionate-passionate, lead in business/follow in intimate settings), I've always been on the line between P and J. So XNTX is what I've tested at the last couple times, if I remember correctly. How's that for "in-between" personality? LOL. Now imagine being in _several_ "tiny minority" groups and wanting to find friends and romantic partnerships with People Like Me...the odds are incredibly small. I've never actually found someone I really wanted to be with long-term, so it's been just me and my cat(s) for long stretches. Luckily, I'm good with that...most of the time.

[@itisprq]

I'm far from an INTJ, but I just watch videos to learn more about them and copy their traits. I love their brutal honesty, confidence and rationality.

[@blue-phoenix115]

You're the only honest one here. You're more INTJ than most these wannabes. I get it though, everyone wants to be the rarest, coolest personality type.

[@habaduhabadi6984]

Summary: I don't care, I have my own world

[@-bitzy-]

Over the years my mbti has changed a few times from info, intj, to now intj. At first I wasn't sure if I took the rest right but this is so accurate to me

[@adoria3830]

Love how it all slapped my whole personality. Like i was nodding all the time

[@ysadalawatatloapat5]

INTJ here, i just wanted to ramble about the stereotype in which we're portrayed as robots. it's just annoying; we do have morals and emotions! we just don't let it show often. pretty proud to be a part of the rarest type for females group.

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thanks for sharing!

[@gbabyEnglish]

I am an INTJ woman. I wish I would have discovered my personality type when I was a toddler. So many memories have flashed through my mind from a child. It all makes sense now as a thirty year old woman. Everything was relatable. INTJ's are the rarest personality type. Only 0.8% exist yet I am overwhelmed by all the INTJ females comments below. Amazing.

[@a.d.7922]

these are global - from the entire planet Earth.

[@Hollyucinogen]

Ni-doms (INTJ, INFJ) are more likely to be interested in MBTI than other people are, so we're disproportionately more likely to be represented in the community despite how rare we are in real life.

[@name7844]

Being an INTJ and a teenager living in a society that worships common norms and then finding yourself as elder sister who everyone expects to be a superhero since childhood is difficult.

[@lavenderfairy3446]

I have never felt this understood before omg

[@NarsilRenewed]

I guess this makes me the rarest kind of human, then. Been VERY hard to fit in all my life pretty much anywhere. An employer once, having confirmed my MBTI (which hasn't changed since university) did not want to hire me based just on my type. People sense you're somehow different and tend to avoid you or be uncomfortable around you. It can a bit of a lonely life, though I don't mind it at all: always wanted to just be left alone and only have a select few friends and not much contact with the outside world.

[@NM-ok9wb]

I kept getting INTJ when i was a kid. I developed anxiety and agoraphobia (stress induced, fainting and panic attacks when I went outside or when I was alone, tried to ignore it and it didnt work). My love for being alone and independent pretty much got destroyed within the span of a few weeks, I lost confidence, I'm more insecure, I suck up to people more as a result and I really hate it. I'm still trying to recover that part of myself that I lost and I completely fucking hate being reliant on people, but I needed to do it because I had to babystep my way out of the whole anxiety/agoraphobia bullshit or else I risk not coming out of it at all because I literally couldn't do it alone. I dont know how you'd fix fainting outside by yourself??? I tried and nothing was working aside from "get some support". Anyway, I retook the test a few years later because I didn't feel like an INTJ anymore, but still got INTJ.

[@สlส-z2q]

Honestly speaking.... i did related to almost each and every trait but here's a thing that , most of these traits are used when in need depending on the situation and we know how to be extrovert and also being secretive within our emotions and thoughts....well everyone is unique in there own way so we should be happy for that within our selfs 😊❤✌🥂✨

[@EmilyRoman]

As an INTJ, i feel like I’m more spontaneous, but still logical. Like with romance and sex, im spontaneous but calculated? Idk just me 😂

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thanks for sharing this!

[@soham4741]

INTJ have inferior Se so yeah

[@romyhols]

This makes sense because it means you have tapped into other elements that are not part of our core personality... This lady tries to explain our other personality types dependent on our situations kzbin.info/www/bejne/pnPMpYRspMmKa68

[@wiegraf9009]

Yeah I'm the same, relatable!

[@farfaraway4285]

The project comments in point 2 made me chuckle. My boss knows how vocal I can be about projects that are lead by incompetent people or are just dumb.

[@hassanaziz2622]

Dark humor is greatly just my trait

[@PsychologyRefresh]

;)

[@BasicLullabye]

Oh gosh! The dark humor part! My jokes *always* fall flat with new people. But as they become friends, they realise I’m making jokes more than half of the time and they finally get me. I thought this was simply me being socially awkward, I didn’t know it was an INTJ thing!

[@keirafrost474]

Same, I have an extremely dry dead pan/ gallows sense of humour laced with a heavy amount of sarcasm which I guess doesn't really go down well so I just attempt to amuse myself with it. It's beautiful when someone actually picks up on it. My BFF tends to describe me as the most laid back and calm control freak she's ever known ^^.

[@rosepicquenard6433]

1:27 I'd like to add some nuance here: think it depends on the developement of the INTJ's functions. As an INTJ, I occasionelly yell during arguments and grumble a lot. Correct me if I'm wrong but I think this is because of my Fi. Ofc, INTJs differ by their own function development so I'm sure that a few INTJs won't relate to me.

[@ANGELSVEN]

I never heard of INTJ personality before today! Wow, it explains me about 90% and helps me to understand even further that I'm just different. I tell people "I'm just different" but sometimes cannot verbalize just how I differ from the "average woman." "Lone wolf," indeed (I actually used to own a wolfdog). Yes, don't waste my time and no drama! I can cut people out of my life with surgical precision. I've had my own business successfully for 29 years. No children because I never found the father of my children (although I never wanted a baby doll when I was a child...I had Barbie/Ken). Doing great on my own but I do very much miss intelligent conversations with a handsome alpha male. ;) This video has actually given me comfort. Thank you for posting.

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thank you for sharing your experience!

[@kykypi3a]

I love how they make us look like super extra rare alpha vampire wolfly rare

[@PsychologyRefresh]

;)

[@stranger.in.a.strange.land11]

Being unable to accept the help and service of a devoted man was something I struggled with for a long time as an INTJ, fortunately, I have made so much progress in rediscovering my more-feminine side. Keeping it balanced is the key.

[@Stranger_Strange_Land]

It seems more logical to have someone close to you help you answer some of the questions.... i can think of myself in one way but the world will see me in another. So, while my results said INTJ-A, my husband or my friend could have answered some of the questions and I would have ended up somewhere else.... I think the idea that this type is "rare" is also a gimmick. No one is "special", and I'm sure a fire not "better than" anyone else. The whole world experiences life differently, no 2 lives are the same. But it's fun listening to the traits and hearing that i can relate to some of them. Kind of like Horoscopes....

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thank you for this comment!

[@thedeathwatcher6571]

I am not an INTJ nor a female. I am Just an INFJ male but in relationship with an INTJ female.

[@PsychologyRefresh]

How is your relationship?

[@marianipawiro5978]

Same here, I'm INTJ and hubby is INFJ. Don't forget to have a good telecommunications infrastructure when seeking secluded cabin. That strong WiFi connection is important for an INTJ.

[@tonytran07]

They sound beautiful. This coming from INTJ. No bullshit, little to no irrational choices based on emotion Wish I'll meet one one day. It'll be fun breaking through their defense and getting to know them.

[@KatrinaKatress]

Excellent video!!!! On point, thank you!!!

[@PsychologyRefresh]

You are so welcome

[@worwantube]

I'm very suprised about the self growth fact because I recently found a tiny card that I wrote my wish in my freshmen year. My wish was "I want to keep improving myself to be better."

[@shaleywen2648]

This is so accurate 😭😭😭

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Check if those things are accurate ---> kzbin.info/www/bejne/hoPKl3iqebRsgcU

[@kali_uchis7635]

the point about Intj's not following authority blindly clears SO MUCH up for me. I was raised christian and when i was around 12-13 I started realizing how stupid I found that people would let themselves be governed by a pope or priest that claimed to be speaking to god or god's representative on Earth. (I know thats catholic but still) I was raised in a good, open minded christian community where luckily, they were happy to see I was thinking about Christianity and what I believe. They let me ask questions and form my own belief system where I realized I wasn't Christian. Grateful they helped me learn about myself more at a young age.

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thanks for sharing!

[@thevioletoracle]

I think I am quite emotional, but when it comes down to it, I just have to go the logical route. I don't think it's healthy to absolutely align my whole soul with a test result, but I do relate a lot to these. I absolutely can come across as "cold and aloof". Socializing can be really difficult at times because I really am not a fan of super emotional and whiny people. I made a cons list of all my icks for dating to help me sort people before I become more emotionally attached and understand why I suddenly lose interest in people. A lot of them are overly emotional, helpless behaviors. I want my alone time, I don't need you. I want you. I am autistic though, and a Capricorn. I feel these could both easily be similar identifiers people could use to sort me this way. I'm 0% intimidated by anyone, and I'm not worried about authority at all. I don't like following rules just to follow them. Anyway, I'm seeing another autistic capricorn intj ironically, and I feel extremely myself and comfortable with him. Highly recommend, not mine of course.

[@jodier.dillon5132]

I don't think that we are truly emotionless but rather experts at suppression/denial of them - however, it could definitely be said that the things that cause other people to be emotional don't affect us in the same way. If we feel emotional about something then you know it is something we care about very deeply. My mother and sister would cry over episodes of Little House on the Prairie and call me 'cold & emotionless' because I didn't. I barely heard them because I was too busy trying to figure out how I was related to these ridiculous sobbing idiots.

[@sylviaowega3839]

Btw, it is not true that INTJ women never yell, or get angry. I have experience at least two situations where I have been door slammed and yelled at by INTJ females, because they got offended on sone of my opinions. They still failed to understand that as an INTP female I am more interested in telling certain truth and that I do not care so much about sparing feeling at the expense of achieving certain truths.

[@user-rq8rh3si3m]

나는 소리지르거나 물건을 던지지 않는다. 다만 화가 날 때는 있다. 그럴때는 왜 화가났는지 설명한다. 상대를 굴복시키기 위해 최선을 다해서 설명한다. 그 와중에 약간의 고함을 지르기도 하지만 드문 일이다.

[@ry9348]

🙂👍, except I always lose track of time because of work. 😬

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Do you work a lot?

[@jesssss12]

@@PsychologyRefresh yes. we’ll what is work. actually no, maybe. maybe not

[@PsychologyRefresh]

@@jesssss12 Alright!

[@silenthunter6901]

as an intj female, i agree with everything that was said in this video. but i can say that due to my mental health issues my confidence a bit lowered, i am still not afraid to say everything that's on my mind and i'm not really agreeable though. i've heard so many times from people, especially my mom-esfj, phrases like "what you said is mean, you should apologize, you egocentric bitch" etc, but i can't really understand what mean things i said, especially i don't like when people offend bcs of it with no explanations. for me it's quite hard to comprehend and predict people's emotions, but this doesn't mean i am unempathetic and cruel. in fact, though i'm mostly logical, i am very empathetic towards certain people and i try hard to understand their feelings, but i usually have to ask them to explain their feelings to me so i could understand them better. so yeah, dealing with emotions is not really my thing. i'm trying to deal with this emotional dismissiveness to be more successful and efficient, bcs i find it hard to understand people's feelings sometimes, so i thought "if i could understand this, would it be easier to work with people". personal growth is what i definitely love! and yeah, my first priority is me, my job and career, so i'm not looking for any closer relationship, but when i think of it, i notice that my ideal partner must be intelligent, curious, inquisitive, open-minded, quick-witted, logical, confident, ambitious and we must have the same views on life, so we could be a perfect team!

[@smilesmile1237]

as an INTJ male I find it interesting, that you picked a name which sounds male, while mine seems to sound female a bit xD I wonder, would a partner who can handle emotions also interest you?

[@hoax7765]

As an intj,i believe that mbti is bull

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Why do you think so?

[@hoax7765]

@@deadly_creature same

[@hoax7765]

@@deadly_creature but tbh there are also so many other personalities that i find myself relating to.

[@PsychologyRefresh]

@@hoax7765 Which ones?

[@PsychologyRefresh]

@@deadly_creature Which traits are accurate?

[@Shahzaibamansoor]

Honestly, as an intj, i HATE when other people dont admit they are wrong its like I am pounding my head on a brick i just wanna slap them hard.

[@lavinder11]

Woman. Woman. INTJ Woman. And we do make decisions based on emotion, we tend to weigh what's rational vs what is emotionally satisfying and make a decision based on which yields the best result. Yes, I realize that this is a "logical" way of thinking, I'm just being pedantic.

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thank you for bringing up your perspective!

[@mrs.w8193]

At 41, I am still called aloof, cold hearted or direct, unemotional by people. I’m not cold, I just don’t feel the need to please anyone and I am very very slow to open up or show emotions.

[@nbee6217]

This is so accurate!!!

[@PsychologyRefresh]

Thanks!

[@elizabethreynolds3934]

I’m an INTJ-T, both in teen years and now in my mid 30’s. I identify with everything they say about us, however, I’m not confident at all, and tend to people-please to my own demise. My only guess as to how this happened is trauma/PTSD stemming from my past. Alone in my thoughts, I’m a total INTJ, but can’t find my own in public. I’ve taken the test dozens of times, and still get INTJ. Any others feel this too?

[@raulramirez4734]

I am also an INTJ and not very confident on myself I think it has to do with having parents who would get mad at me a lot for no reason.

[@Hmmmm-l4f]

Good list, very accurate for me at least

[@PsychologyRefresh]

All the points?

[@supermcfly3103]

​@@PsychologyRefresh Can agree. Finally a list which is very much accurate and not too idealistic.

[@PsychologyRefresh]

@@supermcfly3103 Thank you! Check, if this list is realistic ---> kzbin.info/www/bejne/imezhpdsh5eHqNk

[@mangasarelife12]

As an IN-TJ Female I truly agreed that I don't usually show facial expressions when someone insults me I just stay calm and Still until they are out of the line.