7 Warning Signs of Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse is defined as the repeated degrading of another person’s mental health and well-being through nonphysical actions. Even if a family member, friend, or romantic partner doesn’t get physically violent with you, they could still be emotionally abusing you. Emotional abuse, verbal abuse and psychological abuse are also harder to spot than physical abuse because the signs are generally less obvious than physical evidence of abuse. However, being in an emotionally abusive relationship can cause low self-esteem, PTSD, depression and other mental health problems. Knowing the signs is the first step to helping yourself or someone else who finds themselves in an abusive relationship So, we've made this video to help you identify the warning signs before it's too late.
We also made a video on gaslighting, which is also a form of abuse if you want to check that out too: • 10 Warning Signs of Ga...
If you relate to this video, we have also left a list of hotlines below you or a loved one can use to seek help for emotional abuse.
Resources:
National Child Abuse Hotline (US and Canada): 800-4-A-CHILD (800-422-4453)
National Domestic Abuse Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (800-799-7233)
TTY: 800-787-3224
Video Phone for Deaf Callers: 206-518-9361
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255)
TTY: 800-799-4TTY (800-799-4889)
Crisis Text Line: Text HELLO to 741741 (US and Canada) or 85258 (UK)
National Runaway Switchboard: 800-RUNAWAY (800-786-2929)***
Writer: Carley Swanson-Garro
Script Editor: Morgan Franz
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Virginia
KZbin Manager: Cindy Cheong
American Psychological Association (n.d.). Emotional abuse. In APA Dictionary of Psychology. Retrieved 11 June from www.dictionary.apa.org/emotional-abuse.
-(n.d.). Verbal abuse. In APA Dictionary of Psychology. Retrieved 11 June from www.dictionary.apa.org/verbal-abuse.
Crisis Text Line (n.d.). How to Deal with Emotional Abuse. Retrieved 11 June from www.crisistextline.org/topics/emotional-abuse/myths-about-emotional-abuse-2.
Dubrow-Marshall, L., & Dubrow-Marshall, R. (2017). When your life is not your own. Therapy Today, 28(9), 24-27.
Francis, L., & Pearson, D. (2019). The recognition of emotional abuse: Adolescents’ responses to warning signs in romantic relationships. Journal of Interpersonal Violence. doi.org/10.1177/0886260519850537.
Holt, A. (2013). Abuse in families: Commonalities, connections and contexts. In Adolescent-to-parent abuse: Current understandings in research, policy and practice, 15-36. Bristol University Press. DOI: 10.2307/j.ctt1t6p748.6.
Moulton Sarkis, S. (2018). Gaslighting: Recognize manipulative and emotionally abusive people-and break free. Hachette Books.

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.” ― Ernest Hemingway

[@martinluis1776]

Think Different - Thought Provoking Ideas i feel this in so many levels

[@stephaniestanley8041]

And Ernest loved soo many women.

[@stupidpieceofequipment]

im not special tho

[@ssskippy1016]

Nobody ever really showed a lot of kindness to me ever so I just see other people special

[@Soppingsnow_777]

Didn't he commit suicide

[@sopralto9234]

Summary: 1. They are overly critical of you. 2. They intentionally humiliate you. 3. They purposefully intimidate you. 4. They mean to isolate you. 5. They are rejecting of you. 6. They want to exploit you. 7. They have a harmful level of control over you. Still watch the video for more details! ❤

[@trinaq]

Thanks for the summary, it's insanely helpful! 😁

[@craig3714]

Sopratio going through all this !

[@sopralto9234]

@@craig3714 Oh no. I hope you get the help you need. ❤

[@idkutellme-rp9qe]

It’s scary how much I relate 😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@uuhbsj297]

The ones applicable to me: 1,2,3,4,5 Not quite sure about 6 and 7

[@Paarthurnaxdova]

Also emotional abuse: They ignore you They disappear when you need them They ghost you Gaslighting Not making you a priority

[@jadedeleon_]

No that’s wanting to be too clingy or dependent (in my opinion)

[@echfx9201]

They don’t have to make you a priority

[@jadedeleon_]

EchøFøx exactly

[@kristinreinke7918]

Gaslighting is the worst thing to go through! Definitely should be included in the list.

[@suzannesargent5534]

This is me

[@sullfleur]

1: “very critical of you and holds you to a higher standard” School teachers: 👁👄👁

[@kinomiuko]

And parents too 👁️👄👁️

[@sullfleur]

Kinomiuko oh yea- forget about those 👅

[@Bishop472]

👍❤️

[@Emmawow12]

and my stalker in school to

[@caucasoidape8838]

They might as well have put a dunce cap on me.

[@nicoleonfeels]

I hope anyone experiencing this right now finds happiness

[@user-yp2kp1mj2q]

thank you

[@a.cnugget0323]

Thank you but it's not... It only keep's getting worse

[@laluma6890]

Thankyou, yes I've found my happiness :) The best thing is to push all the negativity away and to stay positive. Then you will learn new positive people someday. That's my experience :)

[@toqa6735]

...soon when I leave my shitty country and abusive family

[@carlissiawilkins4432]

@@toqa6735 same. I can't live on this tiny, homophobic island anymore 😢

[@Fairyofthe_dragonflame]

I think emotional should be taken more seriously. It can cause self harm, suicide and more.

[@chloerabbitheart3129]

Nah bro mom doesn't give a s**t about my emotions that's why I watch how to be mature when you grow up and what to do as an adult i also but not always make noose ropes alot of them are just hanging in my room and I intentionally agitate my cat in order to scratch me in my arm (the cat is vaccinated) to cause scratches so it's not considered self harm and some good excuse to tell my mom

[@chloerabbitheart3129]

How's your life Friend

[@sopralto9234]

@Bacon Bandito Both are harmful. What is your intention in coming on this channel and being negative, invalidating people's feelings and illnesses, and just being a garbage human being? Seriously, why?

[@sopralto9234]

@Bacon Bandito I don't think it was saying that it should be taken more seriously than other forms of abuse, but it should be taken more seriously than it currently is.

[@chloerabbitheart3129]

Sup people

[@lunarEclipseDragon]

When i was in grade 8 i was emotionally abused by my teacher she gave me severe anxiety and depression and i still have it to this day years and years later. My anxiety and depression has gotten a little bit better over the years but it's always going to still be lingering behind me. most likely for the rest of my life. Anyone out there suffering with any kind of mental illness depression and anxiety You Are Not alone in this battle. I know you probably hear that all the time that You Are Not Alone but it's 100% true. One thing that helps me through the years was this ''Just remember you are freaking Legend because nothing is more terrifying then going to war with your mind every single day''

[@nottoday6732]

To whosoever reading this: You are the best human being ever, you don't deserve emotional abuse, you are kind, loving and caring.

[@crystalmendoza3411]

:)

[@vusiepayi8629]

Thank you ❤️

[@compactcontent1150]

Minty gacha, you are just as amazing. And I've also been through abuse

[@chandrikakumar4348]

😭

[@jenniferavery3257]

Thank you. Needed that.

[@urmom-pn7mx]

Can we just talk about how calming her voice is?

[@humanbeing3904]

ye

[@isimpformice9009]

It’s beautiful🌸

[@hey_this_is_a_handle]

Ya

[@650subsbeforetomorrow8]

yee

[@650subsbeforetomorrow8]

ya

[@jasgo1766]

It’s even worse when you as a victim have OCD. Once I start to question if what he’s doing really is emotional abuse, I can’t stop over analyzing the situation. It gives me anxiety and makes me feel like I don’t even want to think about it, which again makes me feel stuck in my own pain. Anyone else?

[@thatquietkid410]

having strict parent be like: will she be angry if I didn’t get A,will he be angry if I had a nightmare or will she be angry if I forgot to do my chores?

[@leftykeys6944]

@@haydensl23 -- I'm 70, by the way, and I can relate. At your age I endured being called "Knot Head" by a father who apparently couldn't remember what my real name is. I have not grieved for him in the thirty years since his death. Good riddance!

[@lizlyrics484]

At least they are fine with you getting A , when i got straight A's in my third semester the only thing my dad told me was: your grades are lower, and i may seem sensible but it really hurt that he told me that, it made me feel like it wasnt enough the effort that i put to get those A's especially cause he yells at me all the time and everything bad that happens it's my fault.

[@thatquietkid410]

@@lizlyrics484 I’m really sorry taht u have to go through this like I can’t even get a A so I think u getting one means ur smart

[@lizlyrics484]

@@thatquietkid410 thank u , youre really nice

[@thatquietkid410]

@@lizlyrics484 ur welcome bestie np

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow.” ― Alice Walker

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“Gaslighting are lies with a purpose to confuse and control.” ― Tracy Malone

[@fantastic_fern9135]

My dad gaslights all the time, it’s annoying and I hate it

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

@@fantastic_fern9135 If the situation meets all the criteria lf gaslighting then it's more than annoying. It's toxic. I mean over time people under such toxicity lose confidence in themselves and doubt and question themselves on every occasion.

[@fantastic_fern9135]

Question Everything - Thought Provoking Ideas I tend to doubt and question myself when I’m around my dad, but it isn’t too bad because I only go to visit him every other weekend and on Thursdays

[@zen_mindset1]

Oh yes I deal with that now

[@fantastic_fern9135]

More signs of emotional abuse: They try to make you feel less or inferior to them They try to purposefully lower your self esteem They pin the blame for everything on you and others If you ever get mad at them they try to make you believe you’re only upset because of something else that happened to you and now you’re taking it out on them for no reason When you bring up anything they’ve done wrong to you, they’ll say that they feel attacked or hurt They never back up what they say with their actions (if they say they care about you and the next day they completely ignore you) They talk to other people about you in a negative way (maybe sometimes even when you’re there) If you have a mental illness/disorder/disability they will try to use that against you, or if you don't they might accuse you of having one They repeatedly start talking about a conflict even after it was already resolved in order to spark it up again They will lecture you for hours on end when you did nothing wrong They point out any mistake you make and criticize you harshly for it They compare you to other people They act like they’re trying to be understanding when really they’re just attacking you They try to make you feel like you’re crazy (gaslighting) When you’re around them you have a feeling of anxiety but you don’t understand why One second you can be having a great time with them and suddenly they get angry at you out of nowhere They accuse you of things you never did (this could very likely be projection) They will never let you forget anything you did wrong, even bringing up a small mistake you made years ago When you get angry they convince you that they’ve done nothing wrong and they make you think there’s something wrong with you because you got angry They never admit they were wrong unless it’s in a way that benefits them They’re highly hypocritical If they apologize, they don’t apologize for what they did Ex: “I’m sorry you were mad” or “I’m sorry I used the word asshole” (instead of apologizing for calling you an asshole or apologizing for making you mad) They belittle you They’re unpredictable They act like they’re just trying to help when in reality they’re hurting you They try to convince you there’s something wrong with you They cross your boundaries with full knowledge of what they are doing and do not care about what they’ve done They will do things even after you’ve clearly told them no multiple times When they lose control over you it makes them lose. their. freaking. mind. It literally drives them insane They’re paranoid They will use your words against you They are inconsistent with how they act towards you, one day they might give you so much attention that you wish they would go away and the next they will completely ignore you for no reason (I might have accidentally said some twice with a slightly different wording, if I did, please let me know. I also know a bunch more signs of emotional abuse but there are way too many to list, so I might just add a few more later. Also, a lot of these might be manipulation and not abuse, but they’re pretty much the same thing) If you’re wondering how I know so many signs of abuse, I’ll tell you. I have experienced all of this firsthand through my father. My dad is emotionally and mentally abusive to me and my siblings. He was diagnosed with NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) and I honestly believe he has antisocial personality disorder (more commonly known as sociopathy.) All he cares about is control and when he loses control he loses his mind (he even went so far as to throw a rock through my moms window because he was so angry). My dad has caused me to have multiple panic attacks and I just don’t know what to do about him. I have to visit him every other weekend and in Thursdays and my mom is trying to figure it out so that I don’t have to anymore, but for now I just have to wait until I’m 18. I’m just venting right now, so I understand if you don’t care, but talking about it helps, so if you read all this, thanks, I guess

[@gregpilledd]

Skyler_ Stars Oh fuck.... my family does a lot of this to me :) Then they get mad at me when I try to explain I hate it

[@leannesmith1207]

Sending you warm thoughts and well wishes. I am in tears reading through these and can relate. You are strong and brave and seem to have a lot of knowledge on this and thank goodness you can see that it's NOT you that is the problem. You have so much freedom waiting on you on the other side of this. Keep persevering and remember there is so much support out there if you need it in the meantime until you turn 18. People want to help so please remember that when thinking about whether to reach out to them or not. Take care and KEEP BEING YOU.

[@weewooweewooee994]

I go through the same thing with my dad. Out of nowhere, he blames me for things I haven't done. He yells at me, curses at me, and calls me mean names. I just want it to stop. I don't know if its ever going to go away. He is very rude and always yells at me for almost no reason. I just hope I don't have to see his face again and I will go away from him for the rest of my life.

[@hauntedbabydoll2005]

I'm going through the same thing, only my dads never been diagnosed because hes convinced nothing is wrong. Hes put my siblings and I through so much pain and anger and we're all really sick of it. I avoid him when hes in the house and sometimes go days without talking to him. I really feel for you, and I hope things get better for the both of us and anyone else who can relate💜

[@fantastic_fern9135]

@@hauntedbabydoll2005 yeah, I also usually avoid my dad. It was also really hard to get him diagnosed, he wouldn't have gotten diagnosed at all if the courts didn't order he talk to a psychiatrist, and even then it took over a year for him to get diagnosed because he wouldn't stop lying. It's hard dealing with someone like that, and I hope that things will get better for both of us soon

[@lissaguilar9530]

When my mom's the one who's emotionally abusing me and I can't do anything about it

[@SassyKazzy]

Same 😭 I should move out

[@vusiepayi8629]

@@SassyKazzy Much strength 👏🏽❤️

[@lesanak5406]

@@SassyKazzy same

[@ArtSmart-lo4vi]

Same here

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“We accept the love we think we deserve.” ― Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower

[@trinaq]

My absolute favourite quote of all time, and it rings so true! 💖

[@ubilwilbur4775]

I watched the movie again recently. Aside from the abuse and the trauma, I feel like Charlie's dilemma (and Sam's, for that matter) is largely universal. So many of us are afraid to accept love, especially from ourselves, because we think we're not worthy of it. We settle for loneliness and anguish because we believe that's the best we can hope for. And some of us go to the extreme of disregarding our own needs to satisfy others because we can't realistically imagine someone giving us genuine compassion. Some people struggle with this more than others, but I don't think anyone is really safe from the pain of fear that Charlie exemplifies. We all fight the same war, just in different ways. And sometimes, we have to help each other fight. That's life, it seems. But after we fall, what shall be said for us? What stories shall be told of our efforts? I do not know. All I can say now is that this war alone does not define any one of us. We are not soldiers doomed to fight for eternity. We are not a sad story. *We are alive. We are infinite.*

[@gugushabalala1691]

Ah💔

[@PINKROUND]

*To the unique person that’s reading this:* *You’re a very intelligent and adorable human! Stay healthy during quarantine*

[@wannabeemo7422]

PINK ROUND thank you

[@Ari-pf9qn]

Youre the first one who called me adorable and intelligent😭 Thank you💞

[@PINKROUND]

@@wannabeemo7422 You are welcome!! ^^

[@PINKROUND]

@@Ari-pf9qn Thank you ♥♥

[@Psych2go]

This is such a great message to share! Thanks for sharing! What did you think about this video?

[@ProjectCreativityGuy96]

I am strongly 100% against abuse, especially if it makes the person do the most unthinkable horrors to themselves and others!!!!! Honestly, i can't think of the most best way to express how horribly wrong it is!!!! If you see someone crying more than they should, you reach out to that person and let them know that hope is alive and well! It's a touchy subject in many situations for us all...

[@funwithkyra2649]

As a survivor of post traumatic depression, sexual assault , depression , adhd and a survivor of emotional abuse...i love this chanel for what its doing my favourite chanel ...and it just so wow ...i respect this chanel so much ❤

[@curtistinemiller4646]

When people treat you like they dont care "Believe" them...

[@curtistinemiller4646]

@Jack Smith If they treat you poorly dont respect you ignore you lie,,treating you unfair.....

[@dailydoseofmedicinee]

Signs of emotional abuse seem unconfident or lack self-assurance. struggle to control their emotions. have difficulty making or maintaining relationships. act in a way that's inappropriate for their age.

[@vaibhavy1761]

I'm just that

[@fairyfellermasterstroke]

Why does this sound like me? I don't remember anyone abusing me...

[@AoRin002]

This is definitely define me

[@rainadatkween7959]

This is exactly like me

[@TrueChickenWings]

Inapropiate how, elaborate

[@mmangalisomasinga432]

["They intentionally humiliate you"] There's a reason why I avoid talking to my younger brother. Almost every second or third thing he ever says to me is another insult. He thinks he's being funny and I've made it explicitly clear to him that his words offend me but he just casually says that he doesn't care and continues like nothing happened. ["They want to exploit you"] Yeah, there's only so many times that someone could ask me to lend them money before I consider ignoring them once I'm able to move out (grandma). Also no, I will not help you buy that new game you want. I don't care if it's Christmas, I'd give you a lump of coal if I actually cared enough to make the effort of getting one (little bro). ["They have a harmful level of control over you"] I'm usually afraid to do just about anything in front of my grandmother because she seems to have dedicated her life to calling me out for every little thing I do "wrong" (or at least not her way) and most of these are just common mistakes that anyone could make. Actually you know what, let's add her to the "intentionally humiliate you" group too. Because, whenever she does find these mistakes, she lectures me as if I do this every day even if it was literally only the third time I had done this during that year. In fact, she'll even tell me word-for-word that anyone with common sense wouldn't have let that stuff happen as if everyone else in the world is supposed to have a spider sense for when a shirt on the other half of a clothes line, outside of your field of vision, decides to fall off because of a sudden gust of wind! Even when she "apologizes", she still makes it sound as if I was the reason for her behaviour. And you know what the worst part is? She makes her words sound polite at all times so I haven't noticed anyone else in my family showing any signs of discomfort around her in the slightest. Everyone loves her and since she doesn't sound like she's being rude or offensive, it's not like I could actually bring it up without looking like the bad guy of the situation. It's not that she's actively being malicious either, she genuinely believes that she has done anything wrong. Even when I've called her out on her rudeness before, she just redirects the blame to me like always. *Sigh* Sorry, I just really needed to vent.

[@woah7465]

Mmangaliso Masinga aw that’s ok! Just know ur not alone so if u need to vent more I’m here!

[@childrenofthecorndog8851]

Damn that's rough.. i hope you get away from these people as soon as possible. everyone deserve love not this shit. i also have a brother that would intentionally misgender me a lot of time + gave me trauma etc. i avoid him as well, bc he make me feel like i'm not valid for no reason.

[@quatrsalmuttotabreabbitlec2417]

there's a reason why i try to avoid school as much as possible. toxic environment and is unpleasant to go to

[@Elitecommando501]

Try being humiliated by a cousin for 10 years since you were 6.. it destroyed my self esteem and self worth

[@ariavascathair]

Parents should really watch this kind of videos.....it will make them realize where they are going wrong in their parenting and will also improve many children's emotional health better. I hope my family watches this someday:'(

[@gymnastkristen5824]

the problem is that they never will see what they are doing wrong. No matter if you show them the video or not, they continue their actions and ignore what was shown to them (literally a part of the video).

[@ragejinraver]

@@gymnastkristen5824 Exactly abusers don't care . They will never have the humility to say . I messed up especially if they emotionally abused you as a child. Or by the time they figure it out it's to late

[@2LaneTraveler]

Emotional abuse doesn't just come from people in relationships. It also comes from peers in school and at work.

[@shwetanair4892]

Yes and it's so weird to explain it to people who have never been through anything like this.

[@elizabethnoel7103]

And your parents too 😪

[@2LaneTraveler]

@@elizabethnoel7103 Thanks, every so often I can use a reminder that I got on well with my father. My mother died of cancer when I was quite young. I suppose getting along with parents is a lucky thing, since I know a lot of people who didn't. My peer relations in school were universally awful, though.

[@laughoncomedy2923]

It’s everywhere that’s why we got safe guard our heart ❤️

[@elizabethnoel7103]

@mikasa gal and even family members

[@trinaq]

It's heartbreaking to think that the ones most likely to abuse us are our loved ones, and they might not even realize this. You always hurt the ones you love. 😢💔

[@laluma6890]

No.... my partner doesn't hurt me and I don't do it too. People who really hurts you don't love you and/or they are only interested in themselves. When you really love someone, you want the other person to be happy, so you care about him/her. That's my opinion.

[@TheCrowneJules]

The scariest bit is knowing that sometimes they mean well, and therefore don't raise that they're doing exactly the polar opposite of what they wanna do... I feel like that's why some parents are overly controlling and manipulative.

[@M1ruuk4]

Yeah, i just found out about verbal abuse a few months ago. No wonder I used to have very low self esteem.

[@judyainsworth2810]

No excuse, married for 52 years, I’ve called him out, yet still getting the same old crap, a narcissist, gets worse with age, backstabbing is the normal, no conversation and talked down. Things need to change, I’ve always supported him in his career, difficult too often, it’s no longer there for him for the last 17 years! About to time to stop living in the past, not much more I’m going to appreciate him, everything is always my fault 😡

[@bennu547]

@La Luma Fact. My mom says she loves me. But then it’s back handed compliments. Will go out if her way to humiliate me. Tells me “I need makeup to get a boyfriend.” Apologizes for saying that. Then says it again. And again. And again. That’s not love. That’s intent to hurt. It doesn’t matter if they also do nice things for you It’s like if someone does nice things for you and out of nowhere they punch you in the throat. You’re understandably upset but the person says “why are you mad at me?” I do all these nice things for you. I don’t understand what I did wrong. Clearly you have issues if you’re upset with me because I never did anything wrong. I just bought you lunch too and you’re upset with me?!” That’s. Not. Love

[@333plato]

just realized how much denial i’ve been in about my mom being emotional abusive

[@user-vn7sj5ig8w]

It is really difficult to get out of a relationship when you have your own family and partner that is emotionally abusive. They break you down until you doubt your own reality. I am learning boundaries and being more assertive to my family and partner now. They all need to know you won't let them do this to you. Especially if they know you won't fight back. It took me 43 years from therapy to finally realize enough is enough. Emotional abuse affects you physically and emotionally to the point where you have medical conditions. It erodes your self esteem and self confidence. It is hard I know. I am still dealing with mine.

[@tanishan3254]

Love how this channel is spreading so much awareness on mental health and other issues that aren't talked about often

[@Psych2go]

Thank you! Glad you have you here! We are trying our best to bring up awareness on different topics that most people aren't comfortable discussing. What other topics do you like us to cover?

[@SleeepyFish]

Yes. I wish I had known all these warning signs previously. :( I'm sad I had to go through years of it, but thankful that there's help like this out there for other people who were like me, and can recognize the abuse earlier...they might be able to get out of the abusive relationships sooner than I was able to. It's still very difficult to leave, but maybe it will help to know you don't deserve the abuse you are taking...

[@alidabarnard9198]

Still, we, on the other side, think, maybe there is something wrong with us....😢 This is driving me crazy!

[@N3croAc3]

Its not normal when your mother fits perfectly in almost every point of this topic.

[@bil5627]

my dad always yells at me, and then when i cry he yells even more asking “why are you crying?!” i deserve a lot better.. stay strong guys ❤️✨

[@SamSam-xq8cm]

My best friend was an emotional abuser. He would insult me, call me names, even when I asked him to stop. This affected my mental health a lot. I would question if I was good enough, if I would ever be as good as he was. Remember, just because someone is your friend, it doesn't give them the right to hurt you, emotionally, or physically.

[@nevel-luna5070]

Look, Doesn't anyone's Parents/Friends just tease you, but is kind of hurtful? Because same..

[@gnarthdarkanen7464]

There's a difference between playful teasing as the occasional activity, and outright tormenting someone as a chronic and ongoing form of abuse... My friends and I would engage in teasing each other. You couldn't get by with anything remotely embarrassing around us... BUT we did it constantly within our friend-group... and we did it to a different guy most of the time... I mean, there were only so many of us, so repeats happened... AND some of us were a bit more prone to comical antics or verbal miscues and embarrassing goofs than the others. We could even get outright vicious (to the casual observer) with some of the insults and harassments. BUT we'd just give the guy crap for a few minutes and find something else to do, or someone else would do or say "something funny/stupid" and we'd dog-pile on them... which ever came first. AND we were still friends. It wouldn't sound like it about half the time... insults and threats and trash talk ongoing... we often sounded like we hated each other... BUT let some poor bystander decide to step in and interfere with our "picking" on one of the guys... even the kid getting picked on would join the dog-pile... Sent my high school principal to his office in tears more than once, just for "sticking up" for the target of "verbal abuse" at lunch... haha Tormenting someone to tears... Picking one "unpopular kid" and creating a non-stop bombardment... Never letting someone "live it down"... Yeah, that's not just teasing. That's bullying and abuse. ;o)

[@adventurousbec]

Yup and despite asking them to stop they "think it's funny".

[@nevel-luna5070]

@@adventurousbec Ikr

[@blackpoppies2765]

Yea, But usually it's my siblings. I can't say anything around my sister or she'll just point out my mistakes. I truly thinks she hates me. I remember once I was doing this writer thing and I had to go on stage and talk. I remember I started crying while on stage cause of my anxiety and once I got off stage. I remember talking to my brother and sister about my meltdown and they fucking told me they laughed when I cried. I couldn't believe it, I thought the would have a bit of sympathy, but they didn't. Is it bad whenever I think of my sister, I feel like crying. I know younger siblings are suppose to be annoying, but I feel like my sister is taking it a bit too far. I can't even count how many times she has made me feel worthless. I'm sorry for rambling, I just needed to get some stuff off of my chest, I have plenty more experiences but that's all I share for now. I'm very sorry for this again.

[@nevel-luna5070]

@@blackpoppies2765 Don't worry is okay! I get it actually! Little sisters can be annoying, but sometimes they take things to far. My little sister is so sassy towards me and rarely listens to me

[@breevarra]

i needed this, wanted to see if my parents are actually treating me right

[@gavy4306]

:’(

[@silverchelsea3433]

Same, and they are. But I already knew this already. There’s nothing I can do about it anyways I am to young. 😭😭 and can’t go anywhere, mostly because of this pandemic going on.

[@silverchelsea3433]

Cøffəə Løaf The exact same thing I go through, it’s just my dad not mom. 😭😭

[@vaibhavy1761]

@Cøffəə Løaf Welcome to my life😔😔

[@carlissiawilkins4432]

@Cøffəə Løaf I'm not even sure but yesterday I asked my mom for a piece of something that she was gping to give my sister and she said to me to me that if i talked more then I would get more benefits. She already knows I don't like talking to people and I prefer my own company but she does things like these all the time. I'm wondering if this is a sign of emotional abuse or if I'm just making a big deal out of nothing. Btw I'm 14😔

[@Gumi_wumii]

Thanks for this video, I’m just now realizing i was emotionally abused and neglected when i was younger, my household is a lot better now.

[@rock1roll2girl]

Thank you for this video. I'm recovering from 10 years of emotion/verbal abuse. It's a hard journey of recovery.

[@ubaidshahzad1]

Used to be like this, not everything on the list. Regardless, was never okay. Anyone who watches these videos, before pointing at everyone else. Look at yourself and don’t beat up yourself about having these qualities. You can change and you will change. One way I’m trying to change is to become my younger self. A helper, so if this has helped anyone in the slightest, I’m doing what I should’ve done all a long. I’m sorry to the person I was like this to and I do hope she gets better. Take care.

[@sopralto9234]

Great advice.

[@KoOriCH]

Me too. If I might add, it's important to know that you might not be emotionally abusive consciously, nor would it occurs all the time. So you may not even notice that you're that kind of person before it's too late. Our brain is really good at tricking us into believing everything we do is fine/right, in order to protect us from facing our past trauma, protect our ego or even reduce the amount of work we need to do on our-self. The easiest way to figure out if you might be in this situation is to look at your closest friend, partners and family member. Those you really trust probably gave you some hints at some point in your life, that you might have overlooked. Last point, especially for men. As we grow up we tend to fit into a mold that is what we believe we should be like, as a man. The way we tend to associate "being strong" with hiding our true feelings behind physical strength, authority and anger is probably some of the most common and worst mistake we can make. Believe me, you will never feel weaker and more miserable than when you realize you've hurt the person that meant the most to you and that was one of the few to really love you for who you really are. So stop acting like "others" around you might do, educate yourself on emotional intelligence, learn how to truly love yourself and live your happiest life.

[@nothing2see315]

My younger self was an idiot... I'm embracing the new me and the grey hairs in my beard. I think I've heard people say grey is a sign of wisdom and maybe it's true because something changed in me mentally around the same time the Grey's showed up. Self doubt was one of my weakness and was used against me several times. That's the kind of mind fuckery and mental cataloguing normal people do not take part in and if they do it's not because they want to use it against you

[@leftykeys6944]

For forty years I have been happily married to a wonderful guy who is not put off by my volatile temperament. And I know I've got a short fuse. Whenever something sets me off or triggers me, I NEVER direct it at him. And after I'm done yelling and pounding the table, I apologize to him for being crabby. And am always forgiven, with a wink and a nod.

[@quatrsalmuttotabreabbitlec2417]

i can only fantasize about the day i can finally feel happy

[@ghostflowers1664]

Everybody says that they should get out of the situation when their friends are in that state but when they’re in that situation themselves, it feels like they’re trapped

[@kassiaactuallydraws9361]

@Bacon Bandito its not that easy

[@mmangalisomasinga432]

I don't expect anything from my friends that I couldn't do myself.

[@ghostflowers1664]

Bacon Bandito It’s not as straight forward as you put it. There are so many people in toxic relationships with people that they have known for since they were three and because of that, they feel they’re in they’re in the wrong since, they’ve known them for so long it shouldn’t be a big problem.

[@coldcloakmusic6630]

Bacon Bandito some people are conditioned to believe this behavior is normal, and sometimes this may be the person’s only group of friends...when I finally walked away from a friendship like this after being tired of being scapegoated the person proceeded to stalk me...watch my social media...and spread rumors to the remaining friends..it’s not easy dealing with people like this

[@coldcloakmusic6630]

Bacon Bandito because abusive people most times won’t change their behaviors when you set boundaries with them, a person can be as direct as they can be, but sometimes this causes the abusing person to become even more abusing

[@MariaGonzalez-yi3ew]

I used to cry myself to sleep with an extreme pain in my chest. Sure, your words stab me like knives but it's most likely what I deserve to hear. Maybe I'm just too prude or sensitive or weak. I should just wake up the next morning and pretend that the light in my eyes are still there 😞 You didn't lay one hand on me but you left me bruised with such pain it feels like you did.

[@aditimithun7625]

The worst feeling in the world is when your parents compare you to other kids

[@dayne6597]

Being emotionally abused for 3 and a half years was one of the hardest things I didn’t realize I went through... it’s hard to fully connect with someone ever again.

[@kissthetranslator4250]

I feel you...went thorugh the same hell for nearly 5 years. Still on medication and had some psychotherapy sessions. However, after a year, I still have a hard time doing everything. Hope you had more luck than me

[@kendalladdison3085]

You’re not alone. Me too me too

[@manzithegamer2563]

I'm deeply sorry 😔❤ hope it gets better friend.

[@calliethewolfcat2183]

What everyone forgets is that people can be unintentionally abusive. Both of my grandmothers were abused growing up. My mother's mom, didn't know she had continued the cycle. She can be very childish, especially when she loses a game. She gets upset, and often says, 'Nevermind, I don't want to play anymore.' Then no one wants to play without her, and we're all left miserable. I grew up with this kind of abuse, because no one was brave enough to tell her how badly it hurt all of us. My whole family is dealing with mental illnesses, and disorders, and sometimes she makes fun of being 'special'. I do love my grandmother, and she is trying to fix her broken relationship with my mom. But I do hope that one day, I'll be able to walk away.

[@Phoebe5448]

My parent's relationship was very emotionally abusive in retrospect. I never knew my dad bc he left when I was a year old, but my mum and dad were on and off a lot anyway. He was very emotionally abusive and is also a narcissist. I was born in 1992 and my mum has been an alcoholic for most of my life. All throughout my childhood. She was very emotionally neglectful and abusive and sometimes physically abusive when she was drunk. Even today, she can be very hurtful. Yelling, name calling, and recently, calling ME abusive when I yell back at her for constantly getting at me. I'm just trying to keep away from her but she barges into my room to continue calling me lazy and useless. It's not all the time though. But I do think that her relationship with my father affected her own personality. This has a knock on effect on me. Being an only child I could never reach out and talk to anyone. Even today I don't see myself as good enough as other people and even if I'm emotionally numb. It's hard some days but I get by.

[@ilikemantits6935]

This came on my recommend right after my dad was verbally abusing and threatening me... This channel knows when something is up

[@Shatha.T.Q.]

Thank you for uploading this, I've been emotionally abused my whole life. And I swear it causes a huge harm.

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for watching! I hope this helps more awareness on this topic. It is an important topic that isn't often discussed in the community. What do you think about the content? Did you find them accurate? What other videos do you like us to cover more on?

[@maris7457]

same

[@Shatha.T.Q.]

@@Psych2go Yes! It was so accurate and I strongly relate to all of it. I recommend something a lot of people struggle with ''Signs of faking a mental illness'' or "Signs Your mental illness is real".. I've been struggling with this my whole life as well! - still - Thank you Psych2Go!

[@VengefulPolititron]

me too. since age 5. thanks school teacher. students.

[@Harry_Potter959]

It does :(

[@selfhelpchampion9664]

The scars you can't see are the hardest to heal. Astrid Alauda. Let's stand up to Bullies❤️🙏,

[@moonchild66]

Deffo xxxx🥰🥰🥰

[@shambala888]

Stand up 🙏there are so much tears in my soul 💜💘

[@triciaforde8984]

Yes😢

[@mariaconiramirez6686]

This is how I felt in my childhood. I didn't think I was being emotionally abused by my parents but it makes sense now. I think my dad did this a lot with my mom. He still does and I never realized that was emotional abuse. I also have done this to my siblings when I was younger sometimes I catch myself wanting to do it to others like my niece and nephew to get them to listen but I know it doesn't work that way. I feel like I'm being like my parents and that's what stops me from even using the silent treatment or humiliation.

[@janethomas78]

Knowing this will always happen where ever you go-- the abusers know they can!

[@PINKROUND]

*I'M WORKING SO HARD EVERY DAY TO MAKE MY CHANNEL AS GOOD AS YOURS, I'M NEW ON KZbin BUT I BELIEVE IN MYSELF, thanks for being an example*

[@inkber8673]

Is it like looking for animators or something you're struggling with?

[@juliannealdana9843]

I was verbally, emotionally, physically, and sexually abused as a child. I don't understand how adults can be so cruel. 💔

[@telayajackson2.023]

My mom is too sensitive, overdramatic, and yells when things don't go her way. She's annoying, obnoxious, inconsiderate, inconsistent, rude, loud, disruptive, intrusive, mean and fake. She's also unfair and passive-aggressive. I can't. I'm just venting and don't think I'll get over it because that's who she is.

[@AliceHope78]

My mother too, the only difference is that now that I am a grown up I can put distance between us by living by myself. I know at least other two people who have similar mothers... It's very painful to accept the fact we suffered emotional abuse (my mother ticked all 7 the signs) from a parent, hopefully you'll get some distance and detoxing... You're not alone, take care 🤗

[@hyunyounghan7775]

Thank you for telling your story to us 😊 Hope you would get your happiness soon and have a good day ❤

[@kojoemama605]

@Lion Lyric im so sorry. i hope the future treats you well.

[@lem0nk3t]

Mine too and she is also an alcoholic, i told her to stop drinking but she said "i dont care im already old" this is always her excuse. Whenever i have a panic attack she just said that its all just in my head and im just imagining it but how can she not understand when she also have a panic attack sometimes.

[@annearintowati5907]

Your not alone

[@mimisart]

I walked out of a 13 year (mostly emotional) abusive marriage. I can totally relate to these signs. Deciding to leave was tough but by far the best choice I’ve made 🌸💙🌸.

[@julia_biss]

i’m sick of worrying that i’m just too dramatic and that i’m ungrateful for looking this up

[@maris7457]

This is everyone in my life right now. I keep trying to tell myself I shouldn't let it affect me. I'm trying to learn to love myself before it's too late 😔

[@NenaLavonne]

♥️♥️♥️🙏

[@coldcloakmusic6630]

I’m sorry to hear this, please surround yourself with healthier people and set boundaries with the abusive ones, you don’t deserve to be abused, you deserve love ❤️

[@woah7465]

Dang u precious human being. Just cut bad people off and if you can’t then I recommend you do some good mental stuff like.. exercising, eating healthy (and have a cookie once in a while ya know?), meditate, hobby, etc. These keep u in check! We’re here if u need us ❤️ 🙏

[@terryjaye2131]

I'm going through the same thing it hurts like hell when someone you love tears you down, my bully uses my past bad relationship against me. You think you're confiding in someone who cares for you but every chance they get they throw it all in your face so it's like going through all the bad memories again, he says I'm worthless to society because I don't want to give him children, he says that's all women are good for. Thank God I have sense enough not to have children with this evil hurtful person.

[@theblackbutterfly888]

1. Yes. Sometimes, it's too hard to just ignore. 2. YES! Relatable. 3. Definitely. 4. They used to do it to me all the time, now I'm doing it to them and I'm not just returning the favour 5. Yeah...I hate fake friends. 6. Oh, that's annoying. 7. This is *the most* relatable one. People used to try and take control of me all the time and I hated it.

[@babypanda1618]

I was emotionally abused by my mom growing up. Now as an adult I'm messed up because of it I have anxiety major depression ADD and PTSD because of it.

[@ninabonita1129]

starting to think I’m in an emotional abusive relationship with an ex friend and they came back in my life. I’m scared of them but I still want to be friends with them and I don’t know what to do. this helped me finally realize that I am in a emotionally abusive relationship. thanks guys

[@jauharahsassy4477]

I guess my bosses are emotionally abusing me

[@shwetanair4892]

So have I and it been hell. 😔

[@molliemay_16]

The 3 dislikes are my toxic family members o__0

[@edhead76]

This video caused me to have a mental breakthrough. Very straightforward and honest video. I truly appreciate you putting this out there. I feel like a free man rid of the toxic baggage where I could never draw closure. Today, I absolutely can. No one deserves emotional abuse!

[@kristinreinke7918]

If you’re reading this, know you are amazing. Stay strong! I was in an extremely emotionally abusive relationship. Once you point out the parts that aren’t normal, you can’t unsee it. Wish I had seen this years ago!

[@SuperBlessedKing]

As a victim of emotional abuse, I’ve been put through all of the things discussed in this video, I’ve survived the emotional abuse. This must be very great strength from myself.

[@maxifrance6736]

When the video has just been released a minute ago and there’s already one dislike

[@potatohuman-6738]

Thank you for this video. A few years back I went through emotional abuse and it would’ve helped me if I saw this video sooner. I hope for others struggling with this problem see this video and recognize what is going on so they can seek help. My heart goes out to everyone out there who has/is going through emotional abuse ❤️

[@schaffs2]

I have a cousin who is autistic and needs to be around other people, but since we have to be inside now he isn't doing well

[@VengefulPolititron]

he's acoustic? just plug him in... jk

[@aryasarang557]

Unfortunately the perfect description of my childhood award goes to......

[@desi_athena]

I've just realized that my ex-best friend(whom I left her cuz of her manipulativeness) has emotionally abused me more than I actually thought. I have to keep these tips in mind for the future and friends. Thank you so much for making this video!

[@lizlyrics484]

when i got straight A's in my third semester the only thing my dad told me was: your grades are lower, and i may seem sensible but it really hurt that he told me that it made me feel like it wasnt enough the effort that i put to get those A's especially cause he yells at me all the time, and everything bad that happens is my fault.

[@fairymairah]

My family literally does this to me everytime I can visit !

[@Subscriberswithoutanyvid-dm2zc]

Fun fact: *everyone else including me who is commenting right now hasn’t even watched yet*

[@lyniepie]

Like you

[@PINKROUND]

*true*

[@origumi456]

HHhhmmmm

[@anotherperson7362]

I have

[@jasperschuurman8654]

I just found out my dad is abusing me, well thanks for making that clear

[@madhu_sheyy6687]

the fact you searched for this says it all. take care stranger 💕

[@apollowebb6723]

From the age of 5 until 15, i have been emotionally abused throughout bullying and toxic relationships. Throughout growing up i have been doubting myself in everything i do. It may sound stupid but the bullying i induced for 10 years has emotionally scared my mind. These videos help me understand what i went through and what i am still going through. So i would like to say thank you for releasing this video.

[@buzzbee3339]

I'm thankful to psych2go for this accurate video! Timestamps- Here's helping fellow viewers out as a token of gratitude 1) 0:47- They're overly critical of you 2) 1:28- They intentionally humiliate you 3) 2:11- They purposefully intimidate you 4) 2:39- They mean to isolate you 5) 3:03- They're rejecting you 6) 3:38- They want to exploit you 7) 4:03- They have a harmful level of control over you

[@rae9886]

Some people underestimate just how damaging emotional/mental abuse can be to someone until they see someone they love experience it.

[@ThePanPanda11]

Your voice can really help when I'm lost in thoughts and anxiety

[@innerworthprojecthealingso2538]

Always be kind and patient with yourself - healing takes time but I promise you will get there.

[@novo4101]

Me, realizing my mom is emotionally abusing me. And kind of phisically, 'cus she likes to slap me

[@abbeyjane5014]

@Bacon Bandito that shouldn't be acceptable just because it's your mothers culture doesn't mean it's right to abuse you

[@abbeyjane5014]

@Bacon Bandito it will over long perperiods of time and the damage can be subtle it's wrong to hit someone period

[@iiCounted2134]

me realizing my own sister is emotionally abusing me

[@natwalsh2710]

What a bully. I really wish she wouldn’t abuse you. She needs to stop. I’m sorry you’re going through this

[@mochiminyoongles3245]

I just ended a friendship with a very emotional abusive friend and even though I finally feel free, her tactics are still an influence.. Well. At least I don't need to ask for her permission to do the things I love

[@loveyourself6459]

I hope you know your value and love yourself :D have a good day/night.

[@mochiminyoongles3245]

@@loveyourself6459 Thank you❤ You too☺🤗

[@moonchild66]

Love to u xxx

[@mochiminyoongles3245]

@@moonchild66 💖💖

[@justapersondoesgachaandoth5094]

my dad and his girlfriend. my dads girlfriend threats me and my little sister. she said that shell kill me, yells at me for no reason, mocks me, ect. the only excuse my dad has is that "she was blowing off steam" or "she never grew up with other kids" or "she dident mean it" it really hurts when my dads does not stand up for me, and talk to his girlfriend about what she does to me, i already told him how it makes me feel, he brushes it off completely it hurts more than it should lol.

[@eliza5290]

If this is still happening, record what she says. Try to talk to a counselor or adult you trust at school about it then because they could help

[@christinashaw1859]

Thank you. I think I just got out of an emotionally abusive text conversation, so this helped validate the awful feelings I’ve been experiencing over the past couple days.

[@noahmothapo4648]

Greetings from South Africa ❤️

[@cloverazlin7357]

Thank YOU for helping us and raising awareness 💝💖💖

[@Psych2go]

We are glad you enjoyed this content. This is another important topic to talk about in our community. What other topics would you like us to cover?

[@sumreenhussain3371]

@@Psych2go talk about everything.

[@Strawberry83736]

My dad would yell at me literally over the smallest things. Even when I didn’t understand something he would yell at me. My mom was never happy with who she was dating. I was a only child so my friends had to help me. My parents didn’t understand what they were doing to me. I had to pretend everything was ok at home and at school. They put me in to a deep stage of depression from 12 to now. Most people don’t understand how serious mental illness can be. Remember to love yourself ❤❤❤.

[@annmorgan676]

“My mom’s been emotionally abusing me for years,” I realize as I watch this. 😳 No wonder I rarely speak to her now that I’m at college

[@FrogFennel]

Thank you for making these, they're super helpful ♥️

[@stephieelainestylinson2825]

Hmm, i can relate to this. My aunt is doing it to me. She loves to embarrassed me in front of my uncle. She interapks me if i’m talking to my uncle. Just so ya know, i’m blind from birth, i’n not here for that, though. I’m staying here for my studies i’m taking ged. She loves to insert if i’m explaining something to my uncle. As if my explanation is no good. I’m fine with that, as soon as i’ll finish my studies i’ll go back to my parents. This is my temporary home. Thanks much for this.

[@johnvictorjames8213]

Toxic people call me "immature"... i do not know if it is their way of attacking me for my weaknesses but hey?? If being "immature" is one of my flaws?? I am proud of it! It makes me PERFECTLTY IMPERFECT.

[@redbean9412]

My mother does all of this to me... And once she had been called to school because my friends noticed and told the teachers.. When she came back home she started shouting at me saying I deserved it and it's not abuse...

[@catchonk18]

You read my mind again! Whenever I want to know something, you guys always post the right thing at the right time! I love it!!

[@ch3y3224]

Love your content. I really needed this

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for watching! You got this! :)

[@london6275]

i just wanna say that this kinda stuff can sometimes be disguised as "jokes" or them "just playing around", after a while these "jokes" they can still affect your mental health

[@LizaLavolta]

Here are some I've experienced: Paranoid, projecting, make you walk on eggshells, name calling (even subtle), putting you on a pedestal then knocking you down, subtle comments that just feel really *off* - hard to explain but you'll feel it in your gut. Covert attempts of control, you feel like you're so close one day and hanging by a string with them the next day, but you haven't changed or done anything. Heavy mood swings, crazy making, words not adding up with actions, double minded (say one thing then the opposite later), suddenly threaten to leave, unwarranted jealousy, gaslighting, changing details in their past ''story' and the whole relationship feels like you're walking on a moving floor. As a result of this I have experienced nausea (when this person had an outburst) sleep issues, and pressure on my chest...none of these did I have when they weren't in my life. These things take a physical toll on you. These ppl don't understand healthy relationships or boundaries, so when you try to do normal healthy things like ..walk away from arguments or negative convos, take space, be silent (not trying to speak angry words) they will get very upset..bc it makes them feel out of control. I hope this helps someone.

[@india1846]

thankyou. I resonated with this 100%

[@kanatapaw]

it's happened to me, thank you for sharing this. it's nice to slowly be myself again ♡ stay strong everyone 🙏

[@janicegarrett2866]

I've just realized I'm being emotionally abused. If I'm treated like this when I still have my senses, I know what to expect when I'm totally dependent on my son

[@onshaywalker3754]

as someone who has been mentally abused by 2 people...this is a great video to help out people before they get mentally abused!...

[@rebeccacruse9163]

I read many many books on emotional abuse especially after the Nicole Brown case. I never was taught or knew any kind of abuse but My Great Aunt was abused by her husband. He ruined her life. she was petrified of him and couldn't leave. I felt so bad for her. He stressed her out so bad he gave her a heart attack. But she was one tough lady. And in this book The author said She Said " If they verbally abuse you they can hit you if they can hit you they can kill you" That sent chills down my spine and I never forgot it. MY poor Great aunt lived with it all God rest her soul!!! I miss her so much. Not her husband so much but her. She was the typical battered woman. Made light of his abuse. There is no excuse for abuse. In any relationship My poor grandma her sister witnessed his abuse. she was so upset by it she couldn't go back to their house. I am so glad I educated myself.

[@piabulgado506]

Thank you for making me feel better.

[@SamElle]

This sounds like my boss ...

[@yaeslover]

Quit ur job

[@s.nicole.]

Thank you so much. I just ran from someone today, thank you for your support.

[@laurawallace4345]

This voice is like a hug 💜🌱 so healing