8 Ways Emotional Abuse Traumatizes You

Emotional abuse is defined as the continued and deliberate mistreatment of another person by means of psychological aggression, intimidation, coercion, control, and emotional manipulation. Physical abuse is a very pressing social issue being dealt with all over the world today, but very little attention is given to understanding and helping those who suffer from emotional abuse. Verbal abuse/ emotional abuse is one of the most rampant but also most overlooked forms of abuse. It’s elusive, misunderstood, and much more difficult to recognize, but the negative impact it can have on a person’s mental health and emotional well-being shouldn’t be taken lightly. So, in this video, we decided to talk about how emotional abuse can traumatize you to spread awareness on how any form of abuse is never okay and it’s something no one should ever have to go through.
If you can relate to this list but you're not sure what you've experienced is emotional abuse, we've created a video in the past about the signs of emotional abuse: • 7 Warning Signs of Emo...
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[@ChocoParfaitFra]

It’s so sad when you try to explain why you feel sad about the way someone treated you and people don’t believe you or think you’ve exaggerated...

[@isabelescobar912]

Exactly! I broke up with my bf yesterday and my mom basically told me not to break up because he shows he really cares and that he loves me and all he wants is me to be happy. I don't understand how my mom said that and did not support me because she saw me cry MULTIPLE TIMES because of this and now she tells me to not break up and give him a second chance

[@ChocoParfaitFra]

Isabel Escobar how... just how??? Sorry but is she blind?? If you think that breaking up is better for you then go for it It’s always better than remaining in a place where you feel not loved and not seen... even if your mum tells you not to leave him

[@isabelescobar912]

@@ChocoParfaitFra yes exactly! She really confused me but now that we're broken up I feel much better!

[@montacap]

Yes because you keep just really seeking acknowledgment .A simple I'm sorry.

[@montacap]

@@isabelescobar912 I supported and back to my daughter and rescued her numerous times throughout numerous abusive relationships and it did no good. So I don't think there's a winning direction no matter which way you go.

[@honeybeebebe3623]

when you’ve been emotionally abused in almost all your past relationships, you really start to doubt the idea of love and trusting anyone again.

[@Kayscastle]

That's where I'm at rn 💔

[@wakeup6778]

Yes to me it came to a point that im unable to feel the feeling of love anymore

[@angelacavon7305]

YEAHHHHHHHHHHHH, it's even worse than getting bullied by a kid your age! LIKE even worse!

[@abbeyjane5014]

It's gotten to the point where i don't trust anyone anymore

[@angelacavon7305]

@@abbeyjane5014 YEAHHHHHHH

[@person39]

When she said “It’s not your fault” i just bursted into tears. I’ve never actually heard someone say those words to me and it just really helped me

[@angelacavon7305]

same...😭

[@Currentlyhere7]

Same man

[@cactdye]

same lol

[@nfbwill174]

Yea that really helped”however it’s hard being emotional and physically abused…did I mention I’m a guy “she knows I don’t hit women.

[@Rozannna]

Same.

[@lilgoosey-lc9zg]

"You had it so good your whole life!" "I never hit you!" "Your generation is so sensitive!!"

[@angelacavon7305]

My mom: You're in a healthy environment, don't say such a thing! My mom: I NEVER HIT YOU THAT"S RIDICULOUS!

[@zebaa4277]

(Trigger warning) The third one is so common lol. Someone I know said, "This generations' kids sui**de over little things."

[@medallionvaliance5349]

@@zebaa4277 I’m not entirely sure how to put how fucked up a thing to say that is

[@zebaa4277]

@@medallionvaliance5349 😔😔

[@Marshiethemarshmallow]

I’m so sorry. May all of you get help and a better life. Remember it isn’t your fault and you should not let them bring you down. Your a good person who deserves so much more.

[@wakeup6778]

The one who emotionally abused me is being adored by others on social media. She played it really nice. Nice world we are living in

[@jqnnyb2676]

Know that there is probably a cozy place in hell for her.

[@cheryllai1399]

be more successful than her. excel in what you are interested in. i’m here with u 💗

[@Bluwolf-ib3qb]

Everybody does eventually. That thought brings me warmth when I think about my abusers

[@TungNguyen-jr3yz]

You're not alone! Probably the others are toxic as hell too. In my experience, just walk away and stop seeking any kinds of validation from those ppl. Understanding that you are free and have every right to control your life and to do what's best for you is also important. I've been there before, and I know it's easier say than do. But once you've found the courage to do that, it'll be a whole new world for you. Good luck and stay strong 🔥❤

[@emmanuelgaillard8778]

Same here: avoid her on social media. Focus on YOUR life. Social media is not real life and people tend to press the like button for anything. Trust yourself, listen to yourself, be proud of yourself.

[@edselsantoni6138]

I think the hardest thing is to convince someone that they’re being emotionally abused when they’ve gotten so used to it since childhood

[@Killua_Zoldyck3407]

"I was born unlucky it's just the way it is. I've lived with it so long now... I'm just used to it." - Killua Zoldyck

[@takeoats]

@@Killua_Zoldyck3407 He is my favorite hxh character for a reason I suppose. Lol.

[@Killua_Zoldyck3407]

@@takeoats he's my favorite to

[@takeoats]

@@Killua_Zoldyck3407 I can tell

[@Killua_Zoldyck3407]

@@takeoats lol

[@trishasword]

I’ve been in both physical and emotional abusive relationships. Emotional is 1000 times worse.

[@Psych2go]

Yes.. emotional is so much more worse.. whereas physical can heal with time and rest.

[@tocachicken8434]

How did you comment a week ago-

[@omarguevara6781]

GLITCH-

[@ladennayoung2939]

It is all horrible. Emotional, mental, and verbal abuse is more sneaky and subtle.

[@blakedout]

@𓅓 •glιtchy animatez•𓅓 Because this video was unlisted on KZbin and actually existed before this day

[@user-eu3uf6rw8c]

"stupid" "there's something wrong with you" I'll always remember

[@Tengo_una_polla_grande]

Hey..I may not know you but I love you and you are enough,I love you and there's a reason you are here!! Stay strong don't show those people right, don't show weakness to those people you will just show them they're right..and they're not you show them how strong you are !! You got this!

[@kerrellegall3530]

Same for me as well like for example when my mom tell me to do something and I made a mistake she would tell me you can't do anything good once in your life or is something wrong with you? I don't know how to you will make it in the real world etc it's so sad and I'm so fed up.

[@danielrierson6683]

My stepmom called me a pos and I didn’t deserve my father. As a teenager I could handle it. But the fact that my parents divorced and this is what I’m dealing with. Mind you this happened in my parents old matrimony home

[@nickjamesb2051]

For me it was "Im not saying your stupid, you're just ACTING stupid" Step father also used to mock me for having been unhappy in my childhood.

[@misteryudonnome]

me?!... see I feel you're saying this to me. That's how it fuksup your mind!

[@skrrtskrrt760]

As someone who is being (Possibly?) Gaslighted, the one and only thing I am genuinely scared of, to the point it brings me to tears is how I have a possibility of becoming a mental abuser myself, and I don't want that to happen, no one deserves to be abused.

[@devikaputti8723]

You wont be. trust me just heal ur self when u treat your self with love and care you treat others the same way I hope u have beautiful days ahead of you .💚 strength to u

[@Currentlyhere7]

If you properly heal from it and work on yourself you won’t I promise you won’t. If you ever need someone to talk to just reply to this comment and I’ll give you my snap:)

[@alysononoahu8702]

You only get one life, get outta there

[@1kingdomcome276]

I’m also now being accused of this after 10 years of going through it with the same person. Seeking divorce, finally.

[@elisasmith3766]

Same

[@christabeljoy2443]

I’m terrified of having a child because I don’t want to treat them the way my family treated me. : I

[@angelacavon7305]

Yeah, just think about how your parents were thinking. Maybe they were scared to have a child because they didn't want to treat you the same way there parents treated them. They couldn't control there emotions and feelings they just forced there anger out towards you. I just think of it this way and, it makes me feel a little bit better.

[@morelazystuff7733]

Same here... And whenever I say that I don't want to have a child because of that fear, my mother always respond: "That's because you are immature. Grow, you are already an adult!".

[@angelacavon7305]

@Maria Isabelle Villacorte YAS THEY ARE SCARY!

[@MrRizwaldo]

I so understand that same here i don't want kids for the same reason

[@emmad.176]

♡

[@meimikadzuki7149]

That's why I lost my communication abilities, I really can't have a healthy relationship

[@mjrussell414]

Mei .w You can. You just need to get away from the wrong people. Not everyone is a friend. Caring, loving people don’t behave this way. Those are the kind of relationships you deserve. And you will find.

[@riverwalkerproductions4891]

You can have a good relationship. It may take some searching or leavening the bad people in your life but I believe you can do it. I believe in you!!!

[@missrelaxed3872]

Exactly !!! I feel the same way too ! I feel like can’t communicate & that everyone is judging me

[@jhsemoxitha3821]

It's gonna get better you can heal you will feel better you are not alone *hugs*

[@butterfly-sky]

@@missrelaxed3872 same it’s exhausting !!!

[@KoolT]

Words can really beat you down until you feel like nothing.

[@clarebritton8245]

True x

[@rachelpiglet5590]

Yes absolutely right

[@melcol]

intro 0:20 what is emotional abuse. 1. 1:12 it takes a long time to recover from 2. 1:50 most people don't understand what you've been through 3. 2:24 it gives you a negative outlook on life 4. 2:56 it gives you a negative view of yourself 5. 3:28 it has long term psychological effects 6. 4:00 emotional abuse can also have physical side effects 7. 4:32 it puts you at risk for mental illness 8. 5:03 it puts you at risk of becoming an abuser yourself

[@hutao9661]

Thank you!!

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for the list and time stamps! Did you relate to any of these points?

[@melcol]

@@Psych2go yes , thank you so much for your videos! helped a lot!

[@charmaine7781]

I am actually scared of becoming an abuser now

[@heraturcoaz5131]

First I don't have friends second I can't ask for help because my mom is translating my words to strangers and vice versa and my grandma and my mom said I should avoid telling people what my family did to me because if I tell someone then that someone will try harm me cause they are liars and they don't actually care of me

[@marianneregalado2235]

My parents used corporal punishment to “discipline” me as a child. I never knew or remember the lessons, but I do remember the shame, guilt, and loneliness that I felt. Physically hurting your child never helps.

[@pcyforlife882]

My heart breaks reading these kind of comments..l hope you will heal n find true happiness some day..

[@notnoobyatgames3285]

Also don’t forget the skills of hearing foot steps faking tasks not crying after being whooped so you don’t get more and hiding all accounts you have with your friends so you don’t lose contact with your friends

[@montacap]

Our kids grew up in a military family and hated the fact that calisthenics was the discipline. But at that point the state wanted to say no to all forms of discipline but then wouldn't tell you what was okay. I feel there is no way to really succeed as a parent No matter what some little moment will come along and damage the psyche. Just some people have more of it than others. I had a pretty bad myself as a kid so my only goal was to potentially have children that weren't in prison that their parents actually cared about them and that their parents were there for them and that we only wanted them to be happy but that all didn't turn out either. So I don't know I think no matter what it's always going to be a mess. It's all about levels.

[@Choshako]

@Lily zzstu Lowhorn Your mom’s bf has no right to “discipline” you, he’s not your father or even your stepfather. If there actually is any behavioral issues, it’s your mom’s job to handle that, not whatever schmuck she happens to be dating. He’s really overstepping his boundaries by saying/ doing things like that, it’s not his place at all.

[@IsabeIIa.]

@Lily zzstu Lowhorn to u or the mom 😏

[@Rozannna]

I thought I was alone in my pain. I pray for everyone in the chat to break free from this trauma and live life to the fullest. I’ve been through all of the signs in the video. Sometimes I wonder when will I be able to break the chains and fly away free.

[@wessyde9476]

If You're reading this, I'm beyond sorry.

[@vocaberri]

Thank you It's really hard to cope but I'm really trying my hardest.

[@rembee341]

please give me a hug

[@thenachomagic8034]

Thank you

[@universgal6306]

Thank you

[@yokeobro]

Thank you

[@henaC07]

I was emotionally, verbally and physically abused by my parents for years, I didn't want to see my little brother go through the same thing so once I left and started living alone I seeked help and turned my parents in. Years and years I was planning for it so I had a lot of video proof of the abuse. Now my brother lives with my aunt. Call that success. (This is the short version btw.) Edit: thank you all for the love and support, and to whoever is going through anything I hope that you may find the strenght to fight through it! It takes absolutely nothing to say something good to another person and if you know someone who is going through some shit then support them, if you can't do anything then a few good words and listening to them really helps! My aunt was the one listening to me and even though she was helpless (since she lived in a different country before I helped her to come to where I lived) she still listened to me and gave me strenght to fight through it! May god help whoever is trying to overcome whatever it might be! Stay safe.

[@heideburge5602]

Wow! That is amazing. Touches my heart. Thank you

[@Sabrina-su8du]

I wish i was you 😥 my parents does the same but i cant arrest them cuz its not illegal in our country 🥺

[@niqmare69]

Wow..Atleast your brother won't feel that pain

[@owocrature7579]

@Selflovexstudy: Sakshi In my country,they will be arrest. But only for a few years...Then the suffering start again.Hope you guys will move to a better place.Are you living in India?Cuz I heard that theres a tons of child abuse and rape cases there.Sorry if you live there...Hope I can help you in some way.

[@juniorlewiskythatnigga7448]

My parents also emotionally abuse me but indirectly so calling them out is really hard

[@jqnnyb2676]

I was emotionally abused by my narcissistic sister growing up, and became the family scapegoat. Left me with little to no self esteem. Made me an easy target for crappy friends and partners. You can’t blame yourself for the way people treated you, You owe it to yourself to find peace and happiness. You deserve it. ❤️❤️

[@Thankyou_world]

So true shitty friends and relationships and we can't even lie about our life to them

[@laurenfaith4800]

I believe I’m going through something similar but i’m questioning because i don’t want to falsely blame my sister. She has talked badly about me, especially when i set boundaries. She has asked me for favors and acted like i was the worst when I didn’t have the time or didn’t want to - bullying me into doing it. And she has extremely fragile self esteem, and has become very emotionally aggressive. I’m curious if these are similar things you fought with. Thank you so much.

[@muskanmanocha8365]

I can relate

[@jacobyearout9654]

Same, but fortunately, I have an amazing girlfriend and the best BFF a guy could ask for

[@bethany08able]

@@laurenfaith4800my sister was like this. I cut her off and she had nowhere to put that negativity so she found other people to bully. It was really eye opening for me and my family to watch her turn it on other people.

[@themanthemyththeidiot.429]

I'm 12 I've been constantly told "why can't you be like them?" "You've had it good your whole life" "I'm not the reason your miserable" " I try to help but you won't let me" I'm sick of it

[@kitthefrickinkat9549]

I'm sorry, but try to hang in there. It will slowly get better, trust me. Also, if it's hurting your mental health, couldn't you maybe involve your school counselor in this? It's worse to suffer in silence than to gather the courage to say something, I'm learning this the hard way right now because I now feel way too much shame and guilt to talk about how my mom used to emotionally abuse me. Stay strong, you're an incredible person and never forget that! 💕

[@dxisyxo6518]

feeling like this right now.

[@Tengo_una_polla_grande]

I've gotten told im the cause of depression.. Lmao

[@chrissi975]

My father was exactly like that. Please remember that you don't have to be anyone else but you. You're not alone.

[@nonamezgamez4041]

PLEASE, as a person who has also been told these things, I'd rather you reach out and talk to me instead of bottling it up and letting yourself suffer. If, for any reason, they try to put their hands on you like my foster parents did to me, I want you to respond to this comment, type as much as you want, and make sure I hear about it aight/ (Btw I'm a 19 yr old guy, Kamryn's the name. I know what it feels like, so I gotchu)

[@acexx_vanity]

Oh wow, I just realized my life is so messed up after some of these videos.

[@theswiftvet7107]

1 week ago??

[@Psych2go]

How many points did you resonate with?

[@crismoncloud1157]

I know right?

[@nandarani4002]

@@Psych2go all😅 Edit: except the one that said u become an abuser urself I mean i do lose my fucking senses when i well lose my senses (btw cuz of insecurities i mean i guess i have never went to a counselor its just that i think that its it) *dont wanna self diagonose althought but how the hell am i supposed to explain the shit that i do to myself by calling it black magic or something which btw happens in our country and yeah u feel pity af on that but what can u do* but yeah i think so i am not an abuser Does screaming violently on your brain cuz of the constant annoyance and irritation of the person that triggered u without knowing the aftermath of u crying without breathing count as an abuse towards em? I do feel bad but i just couldn't say it (i am sorry for doin that plz dont hate me for this) Uk its very fucking shitty in our coutry(india) Its like u have a full fledged war of mean words and then dont even say sorry not bcuz u dont feel sorry i mean i feel it and i think my sister felt that too but u just dont say it And if u r bout to say communication issues well yeah it is thg and well more complicated cuz u dont say sorry u just start talking again and assume that if the person is talking again they r fine i mean what u did was wrong and maybe u realize it but u just dont say it and its basically judging that if they r sorry or not sorry so ur brain just goes all, " yeah u basically predicted that and she hates u". So its hard to deal with shit sometimes(actually most of the times)

[@carenboston2996]

Me too

[@ngocvynguyen7764]

When she said it’s not your fault and no one deserves to be treated like this made me burst out into tears

[@justkat9148]

I’ve been told “It’s your fault” before. I’ve been through emotional abuse and it still traumatizes me to this day.

[@bevstrong3651]

Same. I was emotionally abused as a kid as well as bullied and my emotional abuser said that it was my fault that I was bullied among other things. It still hurts me today. I’m sorry that you’re going that.

[@acpiglet9059]

My ex would say that to me all the time

[@LoRo_Moon_Stars]

I still get told, "It's your fault."....then after I'm completely shattered then am told it's not all my fault, they're at fault too. Then give it a day or two, or a week...the same thing all over again.

[@sandrajdavis1236]

I’ve Been Right & Currently Going Through Right Now 😢

[@ellebee6712]

And me and I am 74 now

[@tanukii9251SnackboxAye]

The most frustrating thing is when you confront someone who had emotionally abused you ,they deny it and then manipulate you into thinking it was your fault 😔 Edit: Just wanted to say thank you for all the likes and most of all the replies and kind words ,I hope everyone is doing well, please look after yourselves :)

[@a.cnugget0323]

True

[@namjoonsjigglytiddies5334]

Mine told me that I imagined it and even if they did say something like that, I should've just forget about it like they did..

[@mitcherosemamingbugtay8842]

Yahhh😪

[@Neurodivergent_Nat]

True!

[@pcyforlife882]

True

[@DaanishAli-iz6de]

It hurts so much when it's ur parents

[@buttercup86900]

Yes but please don't believe their cruel words because they aren't true and it's not your fault 💗 love yourself and remember u are worthy of respect, kindness and love

[@strider3438]

😢

[@Crow_Lover07]

Someones who’s never experienced it wont understand the kind of pain

[@Smolvegito]

I go through this every day i try to ignore it but it just makes it worse for me i lost hope in everything at this point

[@rachelpiglet5590]

Yes !!!!!!!😭😭😭😭😭😖

[@papasscooperiaworker3649]

Honestly, I deny my abuse sometimes. It's because everyone I know thinks it's not serious. It's so hard to let myself be heard when no one's going to believe me anyway.

[@ladennayoung2939]

That is why you get counseling. Most people in your inner circle will not hear you.

[@willowthewisp2725]

I reckon it’s best to get therapy and counseling then. Most people who haven’t gone through what you have or haven’t studied it won’t understand it. But that doesn’t mean your issues aren’t valid! You just aren’t looking for help in the right places!

[@gnarthdarkanen7464]

The WORST is when these same people come and ask "What's the matter?" as if they care... BUT as soon as you tell them about it, they're all, "Awh... that's not true. That's not abusive. It's just a joke." etc... "S/He was only teasing..." and dismiss you completely. I got to a point where someone tried acting like a friend, and they'd done this exact thing before... BUT they asked me "What's wrong?" AND I retorted with a snarl, "What the F*** do you care?! You just want something else to laugh about?! You want some more salt to rub into the wound?! GO F*** YOURSELF!!! OKAY? B**** ! THAT'S WHAT'S WRONG!!!" At least, they didn't keep bothering me anymore. At the time, I was completely content with that. I would work it out as I could on my own, and I could finally figure it out when I was ready, and reach out to a better resource (like a guidance counselor) when I actually needed help. ;o)

[@a.cnugget0323]

Same,no one believes me cause my parents act so kind and shit infrint of everyone so nobody believes its abuse and that im lying and that there just diciplimary parents wich is bullshit

[@papasscooperiaworker3649]

Ladenna Young Yeah, I'm planning to talk about it with a counselor but I'm not okay with the repercussions I may have to face. I'm not necessarily scared of being separated from my abuser, I'm more so afraid of being separated from my cousin who just so happens to be on my abuser's side of the family (if I were to get my abuser in trouble or something and everyone in the family would distance themselves from me, out of spite). I know it's not easy getting people to believe your story... and while I'm going to have to live with that, I don't want to live without my cousin.

[@jupiter2609]

The scars never heal. Emotionally, physically, or mentally.

[@Psych2go]

Sorry to hear :( How many of these points did you relate to?

[@jupiter2609]

@@Psych2go Uhhhhh- 7 of them. I didn't expect you to reply 0-0'

[@generalhorse493]

"What do scars do, they fade I guess" -Po Kung Fu Panda 2

[@rolmodel12.]

Scars are proof that you survived. The trick is to be proud of them, don't wish them away.

[@jupiter2609]

@@rolmodel12. But what if you need to wish them away. What if you're ashamed of surviving, because I don't *want* to survive, when my sister didn't come out of that house with her happiness.

[@DylanArgentine]

If you’re reading this. Be strong, don’t listen to them haters. I go through the haters everyday too. You can get through this.

[@JinxRin]

I’m 26 years old. I’ve been fighting on daily basis, ever since I’m 16 years old due to a traumatic episode, to not relapse back to my impulsive suicidal thoughts. I tried to reach out but my friends thinks it’s a phrase and I’m overthinking. Watching videos from you, Psych2Go. Makes me feel that I’m not alone.

[@noone-bc5lq]

Man your not alone I have been thinking about committing suicide since I was really young .

[@JinxRin]

dont talk to me im awkward we will get this through, right? Gotta fight on!

[@siyanigavekar7776]

I've had the same experience as u 2

[@JinxRin]

Selflovexstudy: Sakshi Thank you for the supportive words

[@mjrussell414]

Rin Stark Would you please check out videos by The Crappy Childhood Fairy? You are probably suffering from Complex PTSD. There are people who know and understand what you are experiencing. I know. And I know it’s hard to get out of that cycle of thinking. She calls it disregulation. There are ways to combat it. Another tool I use now that helps is positive affirmation videos. It’s uncomfortable at first to say things out loud you don’t really feel in your heart, but then later, it’s hard not to get into it and start believing. No, you are not alone. You are not your trauma, and you are loved.

[@thatgayenby2554]

The fact that being emotionally abused by my mom is the main reason I don't want to have kids, because I'm scared of treating them the same

[@alexxw1697]

good parents don't think they're perfect, do-no-wrong parents. they worry and think about if they are raising and helping their children well

[@onyxdraven]

one of several reasons I don't want kids

[@Phoebe5448]

Me too. Also I just know I'd be a bad mum because I'd inadvertently emotionally neglect them. Plus I don't trust relationships with anyone since I don't understand love, always had a weird aversion to sex and I don't want to be like my parents. The thought of getting pregnant terrifies me and biologically it grosses me out. Plus I've never experienced love or felt close to anyone so I'd be a neglectful partner.

[@syretaboothe4543]

Same

[@mrinmoyeebanerjee2007]

Same like me too..😔😪

[@OneOnOne1162]

Emotionally abused throughout all of my childhood. Have never recovered. Have constantly had to battle low self-esteem, anxiety, depression and suicidality for my entire adult life.

[@Beauty88895]

I'm sorry to hear that ❤

[@MonsieurZemuya]

I’m still Emotionally abused and mistreated constantly. 😢 I just turned 31 and parents still have more control than me, however; My older sister is the lucky one. IDC if it’s a sexist culture thing, But I do plan to file a Permanent restraining order amongst them. This has been going on since 1996 since I was 3 years old until today, that’s literally 28 years of torture. Of course they won’t admit this, kind of like a rapist or a murderer, yet the Police Officers believes them which is why I want an attorney. I have a video proof

[@hillarybish4457]

I've heard the saying: Some of us spend our entire adult lives recovering from childhood. True in my case. Thanks for talking about this issue!

[@jasminesanchez800]

So sad:(

[@shlominaamat4787]

was there a childhood?

[@elvenleaf5589]

Teenage years also

[@friedaneal5533]

The most frustrating thing is when you confront someone who had emotionally abused you ,they deny it and then manipulate you into thinking it was your fault 😔

[@ainz2000]

Abusers will rarely take accountability for the abuse, please keep that in mind for your own mental health!!!!

[@user-up1ku4qz5h]

I’m abusing myself by eating chips and salsa then having burning hot diarrhea

[@fireguy4588]

The most frustrating thing here is to see that you didn’t even bother deleting the emoji from the comment you stole

[@fliemark3158]

Like my father

[@ljj2779]

@Frieda Neal I’ve learned that you may not get the closure you want from some ppl who abused. Sometimes moving on is the only choice but its hard.

[@needsomesleep1051]

My dad emotionally abuses me and I tried to open up to one of my best friends and she hit me with the “well my dad left me before I was even born”. Like I get it that that’s hard but he’s not there telling you something every single say for the past 11 years I’m 16 but my dad was in prison for 3-4 years. She made me feel worse like I had no right to feel bad about what was going on and made me feel like her problems are above mine.

[@mariamendez6741]

Has it stopped? Are you doing ok?

[@emmav4579]

I hope you do not see this friend anymore !

[@goji5052]

@@emmav4579 you made the mistake of calling that person OP's friend

[@nerdygirlsavage2574]

That’s what my husband does to me

[@alysononoahu8702]

Talk to more gentle friends, and not all dads are mean

[@blakedout]

I know that I've probably been emotionally abused but I can't help to doubt..

[@Psych2go]

If you feel you have, chances are you probably were. Have you talked to anyone else about this?

[@Ruuma11]

Same here.

[@vanisharma3216]

why does this comment say "one week ago"

[@blakedout]

@@vanisharma3216 Because this video was unlisted in one of Psych2go's playlists and I watched it a week ago

[@badgerbadger-badger-Poppy]

If you doubt that you were emotionally abused, you might want to ask some one who knows a little about it. Your abuser can make you doubt that they're abusing you. It's good to talk to some one you trust (though both talking and trusting can be hard) to help you clarify what you've been through. I hope things get better for you.

[@rebeccajoyner3858]

I have been emotionally abused by so many now I'm just a big emotionally scarred mess. I cant see myself as worthy or important anymore. Emotional abuse is just as serious as physical abuse.

[@AerisSkyla]

*gives you Godly Powers*

[@jessi9605]

Same and yes it is 🥺

[@jessi9605]

@@AerisSkyla ?

[@nopcshere6097]

Amen to this! And it can be even worse than physical abuse, because the invisible wounds from emotional abuse DO NOT heal the way physical injuries do. They stay for a LONG time. I'm a man who was emotionally, verbally and financially abused by my former wife and her mother. By the time I escaped it I was ready to kill myself. Now, 4 years - and a LOT of counseling later - I am with the love of my life and living life again (as opposed to just existing). Know that you ARE worth something. You can have a better life. You sure deserve one. I know because I was there.

[@princesalifee]

More important idgaf honestly

[@bcwils801]

The feeling of loneliness was the most profound for me. It felt like my heart was screaming in mute.

[@Dk563-DK]

That’s how I feel today, don’t want to tell anyone because I’m not sure what’s happening to me

[@delaney5721]

Accurate

[@Fairy412]

Very true

[@bcwils801]

@@Dk563-DK I really hope things have gotten better for you 🙏🏾 Please be there for yourself first. It’s so hard to be your own best friend, your own best love, but once you get through the slow stages of loving yourself respectfully life can start to turn around. 🫶🏾

[@PatienceWithAnimals-be6uc]

Yes. Kaelan told me I was his everything yet the truth was that I was literally his nothing. Absolutely a covert narcissist and I feel so sorry for anyone who ever falls for him in the future. In retrospect, my other past relationships look like KINGS in comparison now.

[@MUSIC4TRUTH....]

I'm 55 and just talking to someone for the first time about the physical and extreme emotional abuse I got from my psychopath father.

[@homohabilis8579]

This video hits me hard.. I've been emotionally abused when I was young and until now I had this strange baggage which ruminates my past. And everytime I think of it, I hate myself and cause me to have sudden anger. I also felt that I was misunderstood by the people around me. The effects of emotional abuse are being agreeable all the time even if you don't like it and there's no room to refuse. Because it feels like you are manipulated and controlled. Another one is being apologetic even if it's not your fault. I am feeling that way. I'm traumatized emotionally because I've been bullied, controlled, and manipulated. Emotional abuse is somewhat hidden than physical abuse.

[@ВадимМоскаленко-и3л]

Hope you'll get better! It really breaks me to know there's so many broken people. I always thought I was the only one, because I live in the country where no one gives a shit about you, and there's stigma on mental health. But through years, I found so many amazing, but broken people. It's really sad, but we have to make it through. For ourselves! Send you virtual hugs and much love from Russia!

[@beaulieuc8910]

Thanks for opening up and talking about your experiences. I feel the same, no wonder I prefer animals. People just mess us up. It takes time to realise it is them not us.

[@angelacavon7305]

I agree with you, emotional abuse is hidden TO MUCH! When I'm at someone's house, I feel so broken, I literally wanna cry. I've been bullied, and emotionally abused. I feel like I can't own my own self. Sometimes if I try telling my mom how I feel, or tell her why it's wrong that she's doing this to me she says, *YOU SHOULD BE GREATFUL TO HAVE A MOTHER LIKE ME WHO TAKES CARE OF YOU AND FEEDS YOU AND DOES ALL THE LAUNDRY FOR YOU!* me: I'm trying to be, you're not making it very easy. My dad scares me when he yells at me because sometimes I think he's gonna hit me (at least he doesn't I can see it in his eyes).

[@LeapFrog_Radio]

"Assertiveness Training"

[@homohabilis8579]

@@beaulieuc8910 me too. They are adorable. Animals see you with no judgment, unlike people. No rejection just affection.

[@juliafernandez1100]

I have no more tears left to cry

[@oherix]

My ex was emotionally abused and he was emotionally abusive to me. I hate it because I know he didn’t realize what he was doing.. but I have to remember that does not negate what I went through and his past isn’t an excuse.

[@thehoneygrabberz]

Pretty much the same situation here. I have to remind myself that my reactions to the abuse are normal, that my ex was immature no matter how many people praise her, and that it isnt my fault.

[@ilovekeppu]

At a young age, I knew my mother was and still is emotionally abusing me, masking it as "love". Borderline gaslighting.

[@theveryplumdarcey]

It is gaslighting

[@buyerbware25]

She might think that saying "I love you" means she is not responsible for her actions or accountable for the consequences.

[@hopesoto4048]

I've been emotionally abused, along with my siblings, for years. We have tried to get help, but nothing ever comes from it. It has destroyed my family. There are so many hurtful things that have been said of me... and I will never forget them. I can forgive, but forgetting is impossible. It hurts. Deeper than any physical wound. I wish more people could understand that instead of just judge us. If other people felt what emotionally abused people felt... they wouldn't be so quick to judge.

[@ВадимМоскаленко-и3л]

I agree with you. It's been really same for me. I really hope you'll get better my dear friend! Just be yourself and be proud of who you are, because you're not like those people you're better.

[@hopesoto4048]

@@ВадимМоскаленко-и3л Thank you. I've been needing to hear that. I wish the same for you too.

[@katiejo6066]

I’ve struggled with my emotional problems for years. A lot of it was the roots of my sister. I felt like on some days she cared about my feelings and then on others was the total opposite. She’s pretty much bipolar. And she knows it but she’s letting her stubbornness get in the way of the problem itself. In arguments, I’ll never forget this. It was a time at our moms old apartment. Me and my sister was arguing about I don’t even remember what it was. But there is one thing that I’ll never forget...my sister told me “I wish mama and Daddy never even had you.” Those...those words cut me soooo deep. I remember I cried in the room that me and my sister were sharing at the time. At that moment, I felt so fucking worthless. For years I thought to myself if I was dead, everything would be less complicated. I felt like a burden on my family. I can’t even remember how many times I’ve cried myself to sleep. I still do...unfortunately. I’m jus now opening myself up about this shit because I feel secure. I feel like nobody’s going to look at me like I’m stupid. So therefore, I feel...idk what I really feel. But I do see a light at the end of the tunnel. It gives me hope that I’m not alone. Talking about this shit feels as if it’s reopening the wounds for me. It’s not exactly the best feeling to have...that’s probably why I caged myself in for years from childhood to now. I’m talking to my friends about my past. But It’s going to take me years to move forward with my family.

[@TabithaLeann]

This is probably why I always feel like I'm never enough for anybody.

[@JayBugi]

This is exactly one side effect that is me. If i never discovered this channel along with comments, like ir comment, i wouldn't have been able to see my psychological/emotional profile. Ur comment made me feel like i am finally understood! Thank you friend! I hope that we can achieve getting passed this. We all are equally worthwhile! Even the assholes. Good luck and God bless!

[@TabithaLeann]

@@JayBugi your welcome

[@MrJoon360]

"Refuse to inherit dysfunction. Learn new ways of living instead of repeating what you lived through" -Thema Davis

[@talithaleah6563]

Yes! I started in high school, and while I am not perfect, my children benefited from the work I did on myself.

[@quatrsalmuttotabreabbitlec2417]

it's easy when you're not hsp

[@Sergio-yv5uo]

My first girlfriend used to understiamte my feeligns. She would do nothing to make me feel better. Then she started saying that it wasn't the right moment to talk about my feelings so I postponed it for the following time we'd meet. The last day before I left her, she slapped my face several times to make me shut up, not letting me talk about how I felt. Before that, she even faked being pregnant. The result of this: I didn't eat for days, I barely spoke to my family, I failed exams, I got seriously ill and I thought It was my fault and I wasn't enough. Boys and girls out there, stay away from people like this, I specially say this to those who tend to give a lot in relationships. No matter what they say, pay attention to their actions. Because even "I love you" means nothing when they keep acting like that. Thx for reading and I hope you are doing great ❤️

[@Sergio-yv5uo]

@@rebeccadalton7956 thank you! I'm finally going to therapy :) Have a nice day!

[@Selsmittenxo]

I'm so glad that you're away from toxicity like that! Good on you for recognizing it. You deserved better. How you feel better /safer❤️

[@herrada8872]

I feel bad for u...i went through similar situation

[@elle-vv7bw]

hope you’re doing okay

[@Sergio-yv5uo]

@@elle-vv7bw There are ups and downs, but I am better than ever, thank u :)

[@carolynballerina5342]

So great to listen to this, it validates my experience entirely, thru the chronic fatigue, confusion about why my body gave up on me, when I was super-fit! Thru to CPTSD, isolation, no-one listening to my thoughts, being expected to get over it (with a snap of fingers!), when the lingering voice keeps telling you you aren't good enough no matter how many trophies/successes you achieve... used up & neglected... It takes a long time to get a bit of a bounce back... It takes work to love yourself, & be alone with yourself, to heal those wounds. Mindfulness, silence the self-critic & replace with loving kind thoughts about yourself, build self-confidence up by setting small & larger goals & achieving them, exercise, be in nature frequently, breathe, be grateful for all you have, everyday you are alive be thankful.

[@thingswillbeokay8098]

Hearing that 'it wasn't your fault' really hit me hard. God, I spent years thinking the problem was me, that because I was weird everyone hated me and I deserved what they said to me. Thank you

[@rednblack301]

'know how that feels,

[@Unknownuser-mw8td]

Omg same!!!

[@Psych2go]

Do you remember the kitten we posted dancing to KPOP a few week ago? Well, here's an update of it just licking itself.

[@Psych2go]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/jZPVZaGoi5JngKM

[@shazzzz]

omg

[@satanswife2546]

Thanks for trying... to be make us feel better after such heavy video but it's not making me feel uplifted... :|

[@seungmongi]

@@Psych2go that just made my day better so sweet

[@0Iive]

Lmao 😂 ty

[@thrineshen]

The worse part about this is that I had a "friend" who I had to walk around eggshells for because of her mental health issues yet she never gave a damn when it came to emotionally abuse me in front of others to make herself feel better. I never felt so hurt and betrayed. The sad reality is that we can never build a time machine and change shit. And you have to always be quiet about it because then you become a burden to people who expect you to get over your emotional trauma, and not talk about it. And make you feel shit about yourself because it is always on your mind...but some shit hurts you deeply and triggers you so it plays on your mind...the world is such a miserable lonely place.

[@sarolta6422]

i just wish my parents would love me the same way they did when i was little again

[@siyanigavekar7776]

Same here

[@RosyRecluse]

They do, but you just know that what their love was like isn't good anymore

[@shrutipriya3176]

Same

[@niqmare69]

Same .like the way of loving us changes while we grow which kinda sucks cause then you feel like not important as you used to..

[@animefreaknalu4497]

This hit hard because its so true

[@MalkiaPenelopeN]

Im always in denial of my emotional abuse but i also know it affects how i behave in trying to make friends

[@a.cnugget0323]

Im glad i found someone who'se going through the same as i am I really cant take it anymore and nobody will listen

[@MalkiaPenelopeN]

@@a.cnugget0323 aaawww we can talk if you want to. Nobody even seems to understand or think its serious. It can be really damaging.

[@ChristinaProticMotivation]

Thank you for this nice and helpful video. I am going through a lot because the guy I've been dating almost 3 years has recently become very verbally abusive towards me, saying I make him angry, calling me names and saying very hurtful things. I developed a lot of depression and anxiety and struggling to be okay every day. We are not talking at the moment, but it's hard because he used to be nicer and we have a lot of good memories and loved each other.....but he is not apologizing anymore or seeing this behavior as wrong.😞

[@Kana-tq2jz]

1. It takes a long time to recover from 2. Most people don't understand what you've been through 3. It gives you a negative outlook in life 4. It gives you a negative view of yourself 5. It has long-term psychological effects 6. Emotional trauma can also have physical effects 7. It puts you at risk for mental illness 8. It puts you at risk in becoming the abuser yourself

[@simoneroyston9306]

空白 every single point has effected me. Sadly I was always under the radar, so no one noticed and now when I try and tell my experiences to people, no one believes me.

[@Kana-tq2jz]

@@simoneroyston9306 I'm sorry to hear that.. I would give you hugs if I could.

[@ВадимМоскаленко-и3л]

@@simoneroyston9306 for me it's the same. But we have to make it through. For ourselves and no one else, because in the end we're all alone. I hope you'll get better, and just know that I understand you and I'm in the same situation with a lot of mental health problems. In the country where I live there's a stigma on mental health and all this stuff, like it's all bullshit and you're weak, but then a lot of people kill themselves and no one cares. Send you virtual hugs from Russia!

[@emuriddle9364]

#2 and #6 especially. When other people haven't gone through that: It's easy for them to dismiss it. Which hurts your sense of trust in others. Got to the point where I would get sudden Heart Palpitations, whenever I was scared of something. Turns out I had 3 diagnosis: 1. Anxiety 2. PTSD 3. Uncontrolled panic I walked away from the world. And in a way: My condition improved.

[@ВадимМоскаленко-и3л]

@@emuriddle9364 I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. Just know that you're not alone fighting with your demons. Much love to you!

[@traceymateer7251]

My emotional abuse started when I was just a small child from my narcissistic mother. I'm 58yo now, and still carry the scars. Its caused me to choose poorly in many aspects of my life, especially relationships. I seem to attract the same type of person that my mother is. So new hurts become piled on to very old ones. Sometimes I can manage alright. Other times I wish the earth would just open up and swallow me whole. I think its finally time for a therapist, as I don't wish to go thru the remaining years of my life feeling this way.

[@gi_ec]

i have been trying to forget about my abuser and the pain he caused. I just ran into him driving and he was chasing me and trying to get my attention so here I am reliving the pain. we got this guys❤️

[@piyushsrivastava5581]

Is there any legal action against mental abuse?

[@ventimulattolatte9091]

youtube knows me WAY to well.

[@Psych2go]

KZbin knows us better than we know ourselves.

[@ventimulattolatte9091]

@@Psych2go You have helped me more than my therapist. i don't know if you are going to reply again, but i thank you guys for helping me, and millions of other people.

[@brothertn708]

Me too 😿

[@rainbowgoddessasmr6071]

you mean the government listens to over what you actually want to watch making you believe its KZbin knowing you well nah man we just all being watched lmao

[@nealobryan]

FACTS

[@antoniaweathers8483]

My mom constantly yells at me about any and every little thing I don’t/do wrong. Especially in public when there are large crowds of people. It makes me cry but I don’t feel comfortable letting strangers see me upset so I sit there and take it.

[@shenko-612]

Same and it makes me cry easily and makes me triggered...

[@simpd2928]

it's nice to see that in this world there are some people able to understand

[@deatheater1204]

This really helps because I just went through a break up

[@deatheater1204]

kodiak yes

[@zeevhaskelavshalomstefanus7469]

@@kodiak9079 Yez i think

[@Psych2go]

I see! Hope this video helped you in some way and hope you're doing okay! How many of these points did you relate to?

[@deatheater1204]

Psych2Go like 4

[@DrLizListens]

Sending you all the kindness, strength, and resiliency during this time. You are loved. You are worthy. You are whole. 💗 Dr. Liz

[@jeffvarley9792]

I hope these victims will be ok.

[@swearitjustajuice63]

Thx

[@angelacavon7305]

Thank you......

[@iiCounted2134]

@@babi_gurl life is always hell for me man I just wanna hang myself

[@mandylevi2177]

@@iiCounted2134 are you okay?

[@Artinasmr]

It’s really hard living a life full of negativity and hardship. I’m a 15 yr old with ADHD (soon to get meds) and OCD (haven’t been tested yet) and dealing with a dad who has ADHD and OCD (he exerts many of the symptoms and signs of both) is very hard. I’ve always had a hard time fitting in and now looking back it has been due to the way I’ve been constantly criticised and this need for change I’ve come to believe would solve all my problems. To those out there struggling with emotional abuse, I wish you find your way out of it ❤

[@sam.l285]

I’m a victim of past emotional abuse, but I very often doubt myself and just brush it off as exaggerating. My main problem with coming to terms with my abuse is the fact that everyone seems to talk about how they’ll never forget the things they were told, but I can’t really remember it at all, just extremely vague ideas. I had the same issue when it came to bullying and why I could never seem to get any help.

[@nyxesnoxlandsis8333]

"You're more likely to become an abuser yourself" Guess i'm not gonna keep any kind of close relationship then. Never. Ever. Nobody need an abuser in their life if i can spare a few i am willing to make this sacrifice.

[@belairmp3130]

Bro I'm a duchbag like the girl that left me two years ago. This year i met the sweetest person in the world which loved me and cared about me and i just ruined her life by controlling her and putting pressure on her. You can't imagine how it makes you feel seeing that you bacame the same shit that destroyed you and seeing that you emotionally destroyed someone so perfect to the point the leave and still feel sad. I hope she grows to be okey but for the record i hate myself. I don't want any relationships if it's to hurt another person that truly loves me

[@katierenee5699]

I appreciate that both of you can see this in yourselves and know that you don't want to hurt others, but just becoming isolated isn't going to help anyone. If you're really worried about this, try to see a psychiatrist. You've already done the hardest part, admitting you have flaws. If you can admit that, then you can and absolutely should seek help. Because despite any flaws, you deserve to be happy too. Please don't forget that.

[@DivingHawker]

I think you overlook one crucial thing : you can change, you can heal your traumas, your wounds. It will take time and effort, but trust me when I say it's worth it as you end up feeling so much better about yourself and about the world. Don't be afraid to reach out for professional help, it can be a literal life changer.

[@DivingHawker]

@@katierenee5699 Very wise words!

[@mr.unlucky2675]

You don't have to, you just need to train your mind, trust me, I try and it helps, at least a bit xD

[@jessicanoble1834]

Due to the manipulation, it still feels like my fault. I can’t get the person’s voice out of my head.

[@StudioGhostUtah]

I have some advice I would like to give for people who only now realize that they are victims of emotional abuse. When you realize what was done to you, you may experience a wave of emotions. Sadness, fear, anger, all of the emotions you downplayed during the abuse will come to you. It may be in small bursts, or it may come in a large wave that is almost too hard to control. The best thing to do is acknowledge these emotions, allow yourself to feel them, cry if you need to. Most importantly, show yourself some compassion. What was done to you was not your fault. It will be hard, but that's the thing about pain. It demands to be felt.

[@angelacavon7305]

art lets my emotions out, I wanna write a book or a some music.

[@americafirst1282]

That is some of the best advice I’ve ever heard. Thank you Ghost

[@anandibreen2819]

omg thank you so much for stating this, I realized this has been happening to me. I almost starting repressing my emotions again and almost made myself sick. Thank you!

[@okay5488]

Thank you so much for sharing this ❤️

[@oulani]

I really, really needed that. Thank you!

[@annona718]

My parents are emotionally abusive, but I don’t blame them for it. They were raised with it, especially my dads family. So I know they are trying their best. Everyone has more to them then meets the eye. But the scars are with me forever.

[@Star77760]

I'm sorry to hear this. I see really deep what you mean

[@palomalopez8179]

I used to think the same about my mother, to justify her, till I realized she has not the PTSD I have, so she has not being abused the way and intensity she did to me. No panic attacks, no need for validation, no ppl pleaser symdrom, no imsomia, no nightmares, no depresión, no social anxity.

[@brandonmaddox4862]

I was emotionally abused, not from my family but from people that were my friends, so I basically chose to be around the source of my abuse. I didn’t realize this until later when I started having nightmares and anxiety attacks when my memories would bring up all the times they belittled or humiliated me.

[@izawaniek2568]

Emotional abuse is a very serious problem. We should protect ourselves and others from emotional abusers. There are many people who are emotional abusers.

[@julieornelas3787]

My dad is a emotional abuser! Mom and I had to leave him! She didn’t want me growing up in that environment but it’s taken a toll on me. I shove away anyone from getting too close to me. That’s why I don’t make friends or relationships. It’s just better to be alone. No one can hurt you and you can’t hurt anyone else.

[@palomalopez8179]

Lots

[@CourtneyBoling]

When i was younger, i thought this was just normal when people were upset with me. It took me over 12 years to even understand it was actually abuse. I think that's the scariest part about it, its just so easy to dismiss.

[@jojoshua6430]

i also thought that it was normal as well, but thing is as a curious child who was exposed to the media and the internet at a young age i, of course, immediately found out that how my family was treating me was called emotional abuse through searching about it. but of course growing up i still overlooked and dismissed that it was abuse and thought 'hey, this is totally normal discipline that i definitely deserve' even though i knew myself that it was actual emotional abuse :/ i guess my tween mind just couldnt believe it back then and just lied to myself that it wasnt abuse because how should it be? my family loves and cares for me but there were only certain times that theyre also the ones that hurt me immensely. took me several years as well to finally believe it and now im trying to ask for professional help for my fucked up mental and emotional state lmfaooo i hope that if ever, you get the help that you need from all the trauma that you faced from being emotionally abused,, you didnt deserve that :(( lets all heal together slowly but surely!!

[@NullCantHandleFreddie]

I haven't been able to stop crying after the end of this video. Because it shows, how many years I endured this pain. Thinking that there was something wrong with me. When in reality, it's my father who's been making me feel this way. I never been abused physically (unless you count whoopins as one, usually get it for behavioral problems like lying, stealing, or getting an attitude) it's hard to ever talk to my mom about this though, because she doesn't think he's a bad person. I don't think he is either. It's just the way he raised me. He made me think that the world is never going to care about you. And I felt that way for a very long time. I've even started to harm myself because I was so miserable with my life. But my mom talked me out of self harm and I thank and love her everyday for that. Despite not knowing much about mental health because in her generation there was no such thing. Which is sad really. I just want my dad to realize that emotions play a big role apart of our lives. I can't function. I'm now going to therapy, I just started. But I haven't told the therapist much about how my dad treats me at home. Thinking she'll just think the same way as my mom. I'm so stuck on this mindset but I'm slowly getting help for this. I'm willing to work myself out of this rut, so I can start looking forward to better things in life

[@ragingraichu219]

My mother emotionally abused me without even knowing it. I often took my frustrations out on her (not physically) because of it. As I grew older, I locked away my emotions, and to this day I feel absolutely nothing emotionally.

[@arielm1374]

Growing up, I was physically and emotionally abused. I'm 24 now and still dealing with the consequences.

[@Atria636]

29 and still suffering from trauma, anxiety, depression and self loathing. Even moving out didn't help. I've been scared for life. Seriously considering suicide before I hit 30..

[@arielm1374]

@Atria hey, I posted this a year ago and I just wanna say don't lose hope 🤍 things have gotten a bit better since I posted this. If it's available to you, please seek out some trauma-informed therapy or someone you can confide in. If therapy is not really your jam, look into what brings you peace and be gentle with yourself. Maybe even look into alternative therapies. I'll be getting the SGB injection in April for PTSD and I'm hoping to get some relief with that. Please hang on, you are not alone, life is truly always surprising me so you never know what could happen and by ending it, you lose the chance to see what could've been. You are worthy. 💗

[@Atria636]

I'm glad things got better for you. Unfortunately, therapy or seeking help isn't possible for me. One, I'm male and male mental health is shunned in my country, you're supposed to deal with everything yourself and never complain. And two, I had too many bad experiences with people abusing me for my disability and doctors trying to downplay or disregard my health problems, so I don't trust anyone to ask for help. I've got my long distance boyfriend to talk to and get support and love from at least.

[@heather4089]

Is a life healing, I was abused by my ex for 9 years verbally, emotionally, physical. Seven years after I still struggling with it, I can’t ever hear males yelling on the street, I walk away from places if I see a lot of males in there talking loud, is a trigger for me and u start shaking.

[@deemissy430]

I cant handle how all these videos I have watched thus and so far, i have so much in here inside of me that's screaming for how accurate this lady has been so far. And so I thank you

[@DrLizListens]

We all have experienced trauma at one point or another. Let's be kind to each other. You never know who's struggling. 💗 Dr. Liz

[@HHHH-kb8je]

I want to learn English, if you can help me, I will be happy

[@HHHH-kb8je]

If you know English well, can you help me? ، I want to learn English

[@Lily-zu1ln]

You should get the Duolingo app. It can help you start learning more English.

[@HHHH-kb8je]

I have an app, I want to communicate with someone who is fluent in English, so that I can practice well

[@HHHH-kb8je]

@ぐ〈ツ ベーー ー ー ー ー I am from Algeria, I am learning English for about a month now, I love cats, and I hate negative people in society 😓, I love a lot of progress and challenge, the biggest crime committed by a person is not feeling a person’s gender and what he is going through

[@chibigirl8545]

I would say my mother is emotionally abusive, but she's really clueless about what she does

[@privatepage4670]

What is her star sign?

[@jazmineblankenship5792]

@@privatepage4670 ik it's not a question for me but I wanted to see what u would say if I told u my moms an aries

[@Crowswhat]

@@privatepage4670 Why does it matter?

[@gimmekromer1151]

@@privatepage4670 uh signs are not a real thing yk

[@wwexstans8183]

My mom is the same exact wayyyy. She has no idea how she treats me and my sisters and worse she treats my dad this way too. And she swears up and down that she’s not abusive. She once hit me on my left shoulder(my bad shoulder) and told me “I’m not abusive.” And she said I lied on her…. -_- Me and my mom alone have been going at it for months until I decided to avoid her by working overnight and not seeing her through the day. She told me a few nights ago that we haven’t seen each other in forever…. Yeah it’s because of you🖤🖤 I’ve been avoiding your narcissistic abuse Mom!🖤

[@deirdrestuartneurostreet8170]

As a survivor of physical and emotional abuse my safety blanket is the empowerment of retraining my brain through these much worth while audios thank you I could never be an agresser or try to take down any one's life by such horrific unstable personalities God bless those of us who just want human equality and to breathe walk in nature and keep a heart beating .

[@Shivxngee]

To whoever's reading this: you DESERVE BETTER. Find help, love, support and empathy. Treat yourself well.

[@cockatootledo]

I probably do...

[@KillerQueenforblood]

I hope so

[@KillerQueenforblood]

Idk, I feel hurted

[@xrenegade87xchannel88]

Go away

[@Killua_Zoldyck3407]

Im a worthless piece of shit 💀

[@rosacatspajamas]

I liked a boy my sophomore/junior year of high school who was very narcissistic and emotionally abusive. At first, I thought he liked me, he would text/message me often and he even kissed me at one point. However, he was embarrassed to admit he liked me, and would deny it to other people. He was friends with some of my friends, and would constantly criticize and belittle me in front of them and other people. He tried to make others dislike me or make fun of me too. He would make fun of my appearance, calling me fat and ugly. His behavior turned increasingly hostile, and would call me a "bitch" or other demeaning names. On several occasions, he would harass me from his car when I'd be walking home. He made me feel so bad about myself and caused me so much anxiety. I would fear walking the halls and running into him. At one point, I stopped going to lunch at school, just so I could avoid him. I was afraid of him. He had a squeaky clean appearance, and people talked so highly of him. He ripped my self-esteem away from me. No one defended me, or reprimanded him for his behavior. This lasted over a year. For so many years I wondered why I couldn't just get over the harassment and abuse I endured. I tried to hold him accountable years later, he gaslighted me, and made me feel bad for demanding an apology. Truth is, I'll probably never get one. I just wanted to share my story because the hurt is still there and I'm still trying to heal from that point in my life.

[@camilajimenez9575]

You're not alone honey. You're strong and brave, you will thrive I'm sure. We're not the problem, we're not responsible for other people problems and how insecure and shitty they're.

[@urmum8753]

i went through the almost the exact same thing, glad to know we’re not alone 💕

[@hopem365]

#2 is so relatable. I'm amazed that there are so many people in this world who are not willing to show others that their feelings are valid. When others get upset at something that we wouldn't get upset about, it's so easy to downplay their feelings as overdramatic or too sensitive. When in reality, everyone's feelings matter. Regardless of whether it's technically abuse or not, if someone was hurt by someone else, that person has the right to be heard and loved in their pain. It's a basic human need to feel loved and respected by others and it is powerful when we choose to love people in their pain rather than judge them for it. Can I get an amen?

[@medeismerlin9476]

I was ignored and repressed most of my childhood(even now, somehow). I am not allowed to be angry, sad, scared or have any negative emotion. I was not allowed to explain myself 'cause they'll say I'm talking back at them or that I'm lying. Always compared to anyone who's better than me at anything. I was always thought to be lazy even when I was the one doing almost all the chores and shit then say it isn't what they think of me but their actions(& words) afterwards says otherwise. They only see the tiniest mistake, suddenly the effort I put isn't acknowledged, also forgotten. This all led to me being sooo insecure, self-loathing, frustrated(at myself), feeling useless, extremely moody, afraid of trying, afraid of strangers and paranoid about what people are thinking about me. TRIGGER WARNING Below!!! Also, leading to multiple suicide attempts while still having suicidal ideations whenever I'm left alone with my thoughts. Self-harming myself in multiple ways. Now, I can't go outside without feeling ridiculed or laughed at. Undiagnosed still(diagnosis, medication and therapy here is costly).

[@diannafrazier2091]

Medeis you deserve the biggest hug. I sew you and I even see your heart in your words. Sending you love.

[@gilliangelig8686]

We share the same experience. From being repressed to always compared to the effort not acknowledged and forgotten to self-loathing to attempts, ideations and self-harming. And sadly, to undiagnosed (cos it's also expensive here). But I'm looking forward to seek help. There are lot of times I thought about giving up but there are also times I imagined what my life would be if I have help for my mental health. I think after all the self-loathing and insecurity brought by how others treated us, we owe it ourselves to have a "make-over mental health edition" (I only made that up). I know it's easy to say "hold on" but really, hold on. Here's my hand. 💛

[@isabelescobar912]

I understand completely as I went through the same thing. Nobody really acknowledge all the work I put in everything I did, they just saw my flaws that created some insecurities in me. It is okay to feel your emotions when you need it and if you want or need someone to talk to, I am here and this will be a non-judgemental environment ♥️

[@TeamCat1128]

YOU ARE NOT ALONE.💖 As someone who struggles with similar issues (not as bad as yours tho), I know how much better I feel when I talk to a caring person. Is there a free hotline you can call or online resources you can use just so you have someone to talk to? Getting diagnosed and receiving medication is important, but not as much as having someone who supports you and can listen to you. Best of luck.

[@medeismerlin9476]

@@TeamCat1128 in where I live hotlines like those are there but no one will answer(idk why). Most of my family members are my triggers, my older sister cares I guess but doesn't care enough to research on what I may have(used "may" 'cause I'm undiagnosed). She'd always say she's trying but she has resources to research but ain't doin' it. Asian family so we stay in the same house. My friends on the other hand cares also BUT they are all busy with work and that's normal to not talk to them for long time. I don't wanna bother any of them since they are busy. I know I'm not alone in having mental health problems but in fighting/keeping myself alive, I am unfortunately alone. Edit/PS: for all the ones that commented and showed they cared, sincere thanks to all but in my current state I just can't feel any positive emotions.

[@jasminc.arcilla2232]

so glad i came across this vid. I feel invalidated talking to my friends because they can't see how much i am suffering inside and are taking things lightly when I'm feeling the weight of my past on my shoulders.

[@potatosoupgirl]

I believe I was emotionally and mentally abused by a close "friend" about 2 years ago. Every time I see them in school, every time they try to talk to me, I just get reminded of what they had done to me. This video helped me realize that I was being emotionally abused by them. Thank you.

[@exactlyyoudumbass1533]

My parents don't understand mental health, depression, low self esteem, therapy, or anything. I hate my dad, he is out of the question I don't even trust him. But when I tell my mom, she calls me a psycho and she says I am over-reacting. It hurts. I don't trust her that much anymore. When I told her my friend is suicidal and an adult needs to step in, my mom laughed like it was a really funny joke and said that she was being dramatic. I fake-laughed with her as I was scared of crying in front of her. My dad gets annoyed and angry when I cry. He gets really mad and acts as if I am not allowed to cry. I have no freaking privacy I am not allowed to lock the door or EVEN CLOSE IT. He considers everything I do as "disrespectful". He says I act childish. He says that girls should not run around. He says they should not play sports. "Why do you talk a lot?" "Why do you laugh so much?" "Stop smiling so much." I hate my dad a lot, he judges my personality a lot. Sometimes when I am upset about these things, I feel like I am a drama-queen and I am doing it for attention. Sometimes I feel like I am trying to act like those wannabe depressed teens in high-school films. But then I think that I am over-reacting. I was even suicidal before at the freaking age of 10. My parents didn't care. One time the thoughts hit me like a giant wave. I couldn't sleep. It was like 1 am. I was tossing and turning. I felt like I was going insane. I kept repeating this one thing in my head, "YOU ARE OVER-REACTING. STOP IT. SHUT UP." At this point I was kicking my bed-sheets and blankets because I felt like I was crazy. It was awful to say the least. I still feel like that sometimes. If you wanna talk to me about your issues or about what I just said, I have a discord account. Diamond Eclipse@/2607

[@muktasp30]

😥😓😭 I have gone through it ALL. my parents are the same. It is so hard for me to trust anyone. No healthy relationships other than family members. I still live with them, love them but hoping to get a job and shift to a new place so that i get privacy.

[@sadhoe7298]

My mom abused me mentally for years and I started to be abusive towards her too but I don't wanna be a toxic person.

[@piyalichowdhury4438]

I don't even know where to start. Nowadays, I feel like listening to a kind song can even break me down into pieces. All those years of manipulation and gaslighting convince me that I do not deserve any kind of affection,attention. Now, abuse doesn't effect me but the kindness does. Kindness makes me wanna cry.

[@sabrescupin06]

Anyone reading this, there is a path to recovery, I’m living proof. I was severely emotionally and psychologically abused in a relationship for a year and a half. There is only one cure. Copious amounts of learning to love yourself. I achieved this through exercise, therapy, meditation, and learning to process my emotions. By no means am I “healed”, but I can at least control those feelings of misery. My heart hurts for anyone that had to endure this hell, but there is a way back. You don’t have to be a victim. You are worth it.

[@ljj2779]

Thank you for this. I needed this. 💙

[@maureenbanks3702]

You're absolutely right! Add walking to your great list of recovery ideas! Self care is of utmost importance. I'm 55 years old & 29 years later all my hard work is finally starting to pay off. It took that long to finally see some big rewards for all the self help I've done. I was severely abused as a child. I've spent my whole adult life recovering from it. Had to. I'm a truth seeker. Thank God.

[@shrutisingh4316]

I don’t know how to do this at all cuz currently I feel helpless and lonely. I have no control over myself now in those situations and it makes me go crazy. I am weak and a mess now

[@cinemakisses]

in my last relationship, i would tell my ex that the emotional abuse was the most hurtful. he told me that emotional/verbal abuse wasn't real, he always made me feel crazy for even mentioning it. he believed that words were just words, but here i am 3 years later still not fully healed of the emotional trauma n it's so frustrating bc ppl belittle it so quickly

[@bevstrong3651]

I’m sorry to hear that. I’ve been emotionally/verbally abused too so I understand. I agree that it’s frustrating because people think it’s no big deal and we should be over that already. Emotional abuse is a lot more damaging and traumatizing than most people think.

[@darkdanzel3097]

this is the best way i have seen this explained. my boyfriend gets so frustrated with the symptoms but he always trys to help sometimes its just hard to let him.

[@sarahl3275]

I’ve been having a particularly bad depressive episode. Sometimes I get mad at myself for even thinking about things that have happened to me in the past, but this video was really validating of my emotions. I tell myself to not ruminate, but emotional abuse really takes a toll on your mental state and it can be difficult to communicate to those who have never experienced it.

[@lukem3720]

this voice actor is so amazing I want to fall asleep to her voice but she always narrates the saddest vids😭 like goddamn i’m just tryna drift off to dreamland without having a nightmare about childhood trauma

[@HHHH-kb8je]

I want to learn English😓

[@Lxnarblade]

@@HHHH-kb8je How’s your English now?

[@HHHH-kb8je]

@@Lxnarblade I am writing with a translation app, I am looking for someone to help me learn English

[@monstersoob]

@@HHHH-kb8je try listening to English music and watching English tv shows and movies! It helps alot :)

[@azryxthefolf6331]

I've been emotionally tormenting/abusing myself for a really long time.

[@hritikadutta8320]

Same you aren't alone

[@saragasmi88]

Same 😔

[@ieatbread9435]

Me too.

[@angelacavon7305]

same.

[@fairymystonight1783]

Number 8 really hit me hard I was abused by my parents and now I did that with my first relationship. When I saw my dad again and saw how he treated my mom more than just physical abused, it was also emotional. It made me have flashbacks to my past relationship. It was eye opener that , (like my therapist told me) I was doing some stuff subconsciously. Therapy really helped unlearn more toxic habits and I learned to forgive myself and will do better for my next relationship.

[@kalycamaegan]

I was diagnosed with Mixed Anxiety and Depressive Disorder. Thank you for everyone who have emotionally abused me through out the years 🙃

[@lindaeasley5606]

My sister used me as an emotional punching bag when she verbally attacked me the other day 😥 Words can hurt worse than fists

[@wwexstans8183]

Omg I’m so sorry! You didn’t deserve that!!😭🖤

[@refreshyourpage._.0]

a lot of people are being really aggressive nowadays.

[@annasfandoms7781]

my “best friend” since childhood was abusing me like this the whole time. it’s only been 6 months and i’m struggling to heal, and sometimes i feel like i haven’t actually been abused. i’m getting there, though. i’ll be okay. 💛

[@charlescornell2951]

If you're reading this. You're taking steps to heal and be a better person. I'm proud of you (and proud of me) for just trying to understand. X

[@Hannah-cf2uo]

Wow, I never realized how much I was/am being affected by the emotional abuse I faced from my parents. Thanks for this💗

[@Zanarkand_0]

It dawned on me recently that even though I am so against emotional abuse, I am the same as the person who did it to me. I lose my temper so easily and want revenge when people hurt me. Realising this has hurt my self esteem so much more. I can't ever have a relationship with someone because I will probably do the same when things get hard. It hurts. Why is life so unfair..

[@Kaitou1412Fangirl]

I don't think you can't ever have one. Part of it might just be a case of being open and removing yourself from the situation if you feel you're about to snap. I'm no expert on friendship though: all I know is having someone there is important for issues like these. Also, had to add that I love Final Fantasy X!

[@Zanarkand_0]

@@Kaitou1412Fangirl Thank you very much. I'll try to remember this the next time I get frustrated with someone. And yeah, Final Fantasy X is amazing!

[@gnarthdarkanen7464]

I grew up "a guy in a toughen-up culture"... Tears weren't allowed, and I'll just spare you the slurs and insults about who or what "tears were for". As a result, I found comfort in my Rage. I learned to use violence as a crutch, and that there didn't need to be an excuse. Most of the problems could be satisfied by bludgeoning the "complainer" to the ground unconscious... It's not a good way to function as an adult. There are little pockets of civilization where this kind of horrible behavior is still encouraged and even rewarded, but I finally got a belly full and decided I didn't want to be "that guy" anymore. It's hard to change. It doesn't happen over night. There are still times when I'd give anything to have an enemy I could punch or shoot in the face... BUT I can tell when my temper is getting ahead of my brain. I've had "that talk" with most of my friends, so they understand when I have to walk out... get fresh air... or a cigarette. They understand and don't give me crap about chain smoking like a freight train sometimes. They get it. I'm my own work in progress... The thing is, there's no shame or dishonor in saying things like "That's enough of this conversation. I need a minute." AND just walking out. Damn anyone who says any different... I think you CAN build a life... and relationships. I think you still have hope, and I'm damned if I'm giving up my hope. I've still got a long way to go, but I am better than I used to be... still no saint. Life just sucks... Get a helmet. Everyone has a "cross to bear". They won't admit it, most of them. They hide it the best they can, but they have it. You are NOT all alone... no matter your cross. Finding supportive friends is the big key. They can understand when you need a minute, and will have your back when you ask. They'll stop the "fat mouthed moron" from following you out the door after you've called a halt to the conversation... AND sometimes, they'll escort him (none too politely) out the front door and down the road, before things get ugly. BUT as cruel as the world can seem to be, there IS always hope. ;o)

[@Zanarkand_0]

@@gnarthdarkanen7464 Thank you so much for sharing this with me. I'll do my best to try and apply this to my life. I'm glad to see that it is working out for you!

[@pcyforlife882]

Heal your inner wounds n forgive that person who made your life difficult. Forgiveness will free you from your pain . happiness lies in ur hands . Remember that.

[@heyarnoldsgrandpa6165]

Here because I'm still healing after a year and a half out of an emotionally/severely mentally aggressive relationship. Once he started the physical threats, I dipped. It was easy to leave, but extremely difficult to forget. That's not always the case for all people in abusive relationships though, it's not always easy to leave. When I started thinking to myself, "Wow! He didn't scream 2 inches away from my face today! We're doing so well", that's when I realized something was very wrong and loving relationships aren't aggressive, threatening, demeaning, deliberately manipulating or physically threatening. When I told people, nobody believed me, they still don't. That's the hardest part, it's so painful to this day. I hope everyone here heals.

[@seanhemrick8195]

I've been emotionally and mentally abused most my life by my dad. When I was young, I was so blinded by his lies and thought kids who go through what I am right now was normal. But I finally realized it's not. And no one believes me at all except my mom, friends, and a teacher of mine.

[@bri4823]

It’s going to get better I promise. No one deserves to go through this. And I believe you.