8 Japanese Parenting Rules All Kids Need

[@BRIGHTSIDEOFFICIAL]

Hey there, which of these rules surprised you the most? Here's a video on TOXIC behavior of parents that can actually ruin a child's life: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jp3ap6uQrLVneJI&

[@MichaelRei99]

You forgot the rule about being a Kamikaze!

[@MillerMillion2011]

BRIGHT SIDE Mov

[@onemercilessming1342]

@@MichaelRei99 Perhaps you thought that was funny. There was no "rule" about being a Kamikaze pilot in WW II. It was the military of Japan who promoted that.

[@paulap8170]

BRIGHT SIDE my mother was Japanese and my father was African-American. My mother came to the United States in 1956. I have two sisters and one brother and a half brother. Looking back in younger years, now, I understand the discipline in private... and the closeness between mother and child, etc. 🤔😊

[@hlltwin]

The idea of a community getting involved with the raising of children, enforcing the rules... that would never work here. I casually told (didn't even raise my voice) a bunch of kids (teenagers) that they couldn't be wandering around causing trouble in our church. They should either be in the service or else with us in the nursery with the children and got screamed at by their mother that it wasn't my job to tell her kids what to do. No, parents won't parent their own kids and they don't want help from others either.

[@sisonkekhwaza2992]

saw a lot of this in South Korea, children are so respectful. I mistakenly stepped on a 5/6 year old girl foot in the subway in SK, she didn't even cry but I could see the pain in her beautiful eyes I apologized like 10 times and she just kept on saying ok ok ok with teary eyes 😭 I'll never forget this

[@sumitjagga8116]

In India they don't cry but you have to say sorry and they are okay until they are smal like 3/4 say sorry we won't cry in India people don't hurt a person on porpose

[@justarandomj261]

.....

[@ybbal8640]

Aww the little girl must have been trying so hard because of the way she was raised...😭😭😭

[@Soloskater-r2b]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Soloskater-r2b]

@@sumitjagga8116 same im 8 years

[@SakuragiSayo]

I’m Japanese, born and raised in Japan. Have been living in The United States for only 2years. I’m fluent in Japanese and English. I made the majority of my lunches while I was in school. Cooking is very relaxing and very enjoyable to/for me. BRIGHT SIDE, I really appreciate you sharing a bit of my country’s culture. ありがとう。

[@dem0_o14]

Y did u leave japan?

[@balangovender704]

Sayo Sakuragi thank you

[@SakuragiSayo]

DeM0_o Family made me. My father's job moved us to America. I have moved back home though

[@latiremo9133]

すごいですね！２年だけで英語がこんなに上手になるのが

[@dem0_o14]

Sayo Sakuragi Sad u left. I would love to live in japan more than any country

[@lc237]

I am quite sure that Japanese parents take their children's education very seriously. I have also noticed that Japanese children seem to excel at talents such as music and other talents.

[@sarangjams9721]

Indeed. This is also because ivy league schools don't only focus on accepting students with perfect grades. They look for students who are interested in many skill inducing activities and feel the need to give back to society. Schools such as Harvard and Brown don't only try to teach smart kids, they want to teach kids who will be willing to use their knowledge to change and help the world. Japanese parents understand this and want the best education for their children not only so they can financially support themselves, but also so they can better society. I 100% agree

[@ashmit_loner_]

Yes I seen japanese movie you lie in April and kuchisake ona, japanese parents are scolding, slapp, and beating

[@trashemail3065]

I am Japanese, raised in Japan for 9 years before I moved to US. Here are somethings that I analyzed as true: The story telling. Strong mother-child bond: Although true, it's also due to the strong gender role that is placed on women. They will be viewed in society as "shameful" if a woman with a child ever have a relaxing night to herself. The bathing and sleeping part is true. Funny enough, the close bond disappears in our teenage years because so many children have a terrible rebellious stage. Rules: OMG. The American parents don't seem to punish their children at all. In Japan, we have corporeal punishment. It's practically guaranteed if you break the rule. Sometimes, the more traditional teacher does slap the students hand too. Respect: We really do respect our elders. On any public transport, children are to give their seat up for the seniors if there are no more seats available. Nutrition: Yup, we have a balanced meal. No one skips breakfast. And our cafeteria's food is made by a degree earned nutritionists. Independent: Yup we are. I walked to my school since I was in kindergarten. In 3rd grade, I rode a 1 hour train ride to school by myself everyday. Punishment: Kind of true. We don't yell in public. We get slapped in public and get whispered yelled. Here is what's wrong: The song used is sounds more Chinese than Japanese. lol Children must think of others: Ok, we do act VERY polite. But that's a facade. There is such a severe bulling going on in Japan, often so severe that students turn to suicide. I too was a victim of one, not that it's rare. I was pushed into the road, shoved down the stairs, and have had huge rocks thrown at me. And I was in SECOND GRADE. That's how severe it is. And it's not a story unheard of.

[@tadashihatsudai]

Yeah, the music really bothered me throughout the video. It sounds like traditional Chinese music because I recognized the sound of the erhu. Traditional Japanese music is slower and tends to pause a bit between notes.

[@robroberts1473]

My mother is Japanese and when I was a kid we visited my relatives in Japan. I did notice than the bigger kids did bully smaller kids, one tried to bully my brother I intervened more so to protect the kid trying to bully my brother because he was about a minute from having my brother wipe the floor with him lol

[@susanrequina593]

Trash Email I see. I'm sorry to hear that. As someone who wants to travel to Japan someday, that is a good tip. Thank you for telling us

[@vangelfury]

I am soo sorry to ear about this extrem bullying... 😢 is it as bad as children killing another children? And if it happens, how does the autorities deal with that?

[@parists5455]

Thanks for sharing that! I was always curious to hear first hand about Japanese upbringing, because I admire the discipline part and the thinking of others in Japan, things that generally are characteristics of civilised societies. Regards from Greece and much respect to your county, which of course I know it's not ideal.

[@ellalarkin1016]

I am Irish, and that is exactly how I brought up my children, except for the walking to school alone part, I always brought them to school when they were small. They turned out to be lovely, happy, stable,well-mannered, very popular and independent young people, so it works.

[@JennyLouRN]

Same here.

[@stellah6981]

May I kindly ask what kind of rules you put for them?..I'd like my kids well behaved one day

[@Taiyo_Jingu]

Aye.

[@naomibites7725]

discipline in the philippines - slipper, hanger, belt etc. 🤣

[@EnzoGervacio012]

Yep.

[@allenjesse5358]

In Asia Country will use the same thing, the most is either a hanger or feather duster

[@smokey64.]

And America

[@columbia999]

Don't forget the ting-ting! 🤣

[@sum3204]

Or anything in the proximity will be used as a weapon to discipline... I am an Indian and went through same mechanism...:D

[@g.j]

When I'm gonna have a child. I will raise my child this way. 😊 Such an art in raising a child.

[@Senator107]

It is a sacred duty.

[@jrmerced]

@Decanon why not?

[@shubhankarisantoshi4791]

All the best 👍😄

[@kirbylink1992]

All da best!

[@Karmas-edits]

Same I’m gonna raise mine this way too :)

[@freespiritable]

Mother child bond is important in every culture.

[@nevayesilkayaytplays4479]

@Kiki but mostly Japan.

[@agonicole]

No in Denmark they are sent to daycare at a few weeks just like American moms

[@lindabella2594]

If this was true, America would have a law requirement for parental leave after a baby is born. But instead, there is no law, and a lot of mother's are forced to leave their newborns with a babysitter/daycare, so they can work and financially support their family

[@jessicaenglish205]

@@lindabella2594 I agree with you on that. I wish America would require that mothers , and fathers too , could have a full 12 weeks paid leave for the birth of a child. Sweden has some of the best maternity/paternity laws in the world. Most countries do realize how important it is for a newborn to have constant contact with their mother , and father. America is so greedy that our Government, and private employers have made it impossible for parents to be able to take the recommended time off to bond with their children after delivery. It is truly a saddening situation here for new parents.

[@gunlovingurls9200]

I've never spent a night away from my little girl and Im American. I agree with you.

[@hlengiwezungu8152]

I may be black African but I raised my children almost exactly that way

[@manasarajukolkar5541]

Happy for u man

[@emmanuelmakoba6085]

This is how we are in South Africa, Hlengiwe

[@Mamake6]

Same us Tanzania 🇹🇿

[@Katharsis540]

True Africa have similar priorities like mother and child bond and staying at home for at least 100 days after birth.

[@sehermir3466]

Happy fr u man....

[@rickpicone9751]

Most of the kids I've seen that were that well behaved in the US are usually home schooled.

[@FreeTheTrolls]

That’s because most U.S. parent’s work full time, and use schools as a form of daycare. They also do not properly discipline.

[@lindeelalepcha4386]

@@FreeTheTrolls yeah u are right....

[@hydrolito]

Amish are generally well behaved not exposed to main stream media.

[@Tona天嵐]

I was a well-behaved child, as were many of my friends, and we were educated in public and DoD schools. I am also Asian-American and a military child, as are many of my friends, so the Asian and military influence had an impact on our discipline. My point? I think that what happens in the home has more to do with disciplining children than where they go to school.

[@laurahoyle485]

Wow. That has not been my experience at all.

[@robingloves6557]

Surely I’m not the only one who always got the... “Just wait until we get home.” From my Momma. And as a kid you already know once you hear that. Game over dude.

[@alexisnyambura9419]

Lol so true or that.... " wait until the guests leave " when you start misbehaving 😂

[@StephanieHalim27]

that's my childhood's most dreaded line :D

[@richardyoung4616]

How about "just wait until your father gets home". That met the razor strop😣😣😣😣😣😣

[@acerozaki]

Yeah and my parents used to say "if you can't behave we are going home" when at the stores etc. Although I was raised and born in the Netherlands.

[@felicityjohnston9276]

I got that and from my mom " do we need to have a private moment?!" With an icey glare and seriously angry tone. Which meant being dragged into a bathroom and beat and yelled at, if we were in public at the time. Wasnt all we got but thats all i will say.

[@climjf]

If we left something valuable at place and forgot about it, for eg: mobile phone, we can come back after several hours and it will still be there.. That is the most amazing thing about the Japanese.

[@sashavjs]

That happened to me in South Korea. It was 45 minutes before I was able to get back to the train station where I'd left my wallet, passport etc. And my bag was right there on the railing where I'd left it despite there being so many people around.

[@ivettegutierreztorres4272]

I live in Mexico, most of the time it ain't like that haha

[@eyelashmurah]

I live in indonesia, the moment I leave something valuable the next a half second ... Disappears!

[@erxnz_mxtro]

@@eyelashmurah same as Philippines but it never happened to me

[@theincarnateofkurro]

same thing in malaysia-

[@leabell5763]

I'm British but my mum followed all of these rules and always got told us 6 kids were so well behaved. She had 6 girls, I'm a triplet so she followed extrem discipline with rules. I'd follow the same rules because I know they work. My youngest sister is 3 and I parent her with the same rules if I'm around 😂 she literally is so disciplined. No hitting or smacking of children is needed if you teach them right! ❤️

[@HealthySelfNThrive]

I don't have any children but I grew up in a extremely opposite culture. Which is why I take it upon myself to teach my siblings as the older sibling to be better humans. I'd love to visit japan one day

[@lovely_betzy]

Sameeeee

[@PDandan70]

I wanna visit Japan too

[@KimSearch865]

I’m 55 and my parents basically raised me the same way. I walked to school in first grade. I played OUTSIDE most of the time. I respected my elders. My mom cooked 5 days a week, but we were allowed McDonald’s once in a while. A very important issue I think that’s missing here is that children were not listened to in my era. I was not allowed to express anger, and everyone else’s feelings were more important than mine. This has done me great harm in my adulthood. I’m still trying to overcome these issues. I’ve heard Japanese people say that’s a huge issue in their society as well. It’s soo bad for your mental and physical health to bottle up of feelings of anger, disappointment, or hurt feelings. No one way of parenting is perfect. It also depends on the child’s temperament, sensitivity, ability to understand... etc... We’re all out here just trying to do our best.

[@azabujuban-hito-dake]

Im living in Tokyo ( been living here for almost 11 years ) and I part-timed in local schools. Yes, this video is quite true. The first time I taught in here; I was surprised that students serving lunch to others, washing the utensils together AND clean the classroom ( along with the teachers ).

[@darassylmoniakam]

terrible life

[@darassylmoniakam]

@@tabletari8922 because you live to imitate the others, until being like some kind of mechanical zombie. Many of senseless rules to follow without asking a single question and you pass your time to work hard instead of enjoying life

[@darassylmoniakam]

@@tabletari8922 you can't know if they're really your friends they never share their feelings and thoughts. They are just polite. you mexicans are clearly more outgoing than any japanese. you don't have to behave like robots or soldiers all the time

[@success4u521]

Hey bro what is your instagram id

[@unleashingpotential-psycho9433]

The Japanese are so ahead of the times.

[@majinvegeta7674]

Lol i've seen you in the dragon ball legends video coments.

[@SakuragiSayo]

UNLEASHING POTENTIAL - PSYCHOLOGY VIDEOS Yes, we are the most technologically advanced country/people on the planet, that is true.

[@SakuragiSayo]

Normal EU4 player That’s your opinion. I’ve never met any North Koreans who weren’t overly violent and rude. Also haven’t met any I found to be good-looking

[@droppedinbase5777]

@@SakuragiSayo wait so your the real Wakanda

[@SakuragiSayo]

Halimat Mckibbins “Wakanda?”

[@vidhyasubhashsubhash7548]

I live in India but i love both India and Japan they are so unique. Thank u BRIGHT SIDE .

[@Wigconic.]

TIMESTAMPS: Storytelling is a top priority 0:46 The mother-child bond is very close 1:35 Rules are more important than punishment 2:23 The community is involved in parenting 3:02 The child's nutrition is spot on 3:56 Children must think of others 4:54 Children are highly independent 5:38 Parents discipline their children in private 6:21

[@sahil-06-11]

Thanks for TimeStamps

[@ekindemirkaya465]

Thanks captain

[@CloseThatBackdoor]

hmmm

[@kalpanajain4308]

Thanks

[@sloththegreat4602]

I love Japan and it's culture and it's nature and it's people and......Wow! They go to school alone!!!When I was in 1st grade,my mom was very late to pick me up from school. Then,I saw one of our neighbor passing by my school and I decided to follow him. I followed him and eventually reached home. I was very happy that my theory worked. Although my mom was shocked😂!

[@lorieakin1771]

Your a very smart person!😄🏆

[@sukhqazmi5837]

Sloth turned into tracker xp xD

[@TraceyMush]

Following the neighbour - that's cute!

[@congtrinh5133]

Same here

[@rivertam7827]

Apparently I was raised Japanese, though I'm Australian. Most of these things apply to those of us who were raised before the 90s.

[@cynthiafuhrman544]

Me too, growing up in the '60's in the U.S. It was a different country back then.

[@H3ARTSF0RL1VVY]

I'm a Japanese girl and I was raised by my Japanese parents they were so kind to me and moved to New York City with my Japanese parents It was great

[@blume0121]

Japan is higher developed in every way. Culture, social system, technology

[@nicorobinson_538]

Kids in Japan are so lucky, I could walk to school if I wanted but it's just not as safe as in Japan

[@sachaabreu4704]

It doesn’t mean things don’t happen we live in a very imperfect world bad things happen everywhere. No matter what people want to project.

[@kshmr3k3ziah]

I'm a rookie Mom and I love every part of it. SURELY they are a race of who we look up to, promoting culture, discipline and respect to others. I AM AMAZED how Japanese people incorporate these things in their daily lives. 😊🥰

[@Levon9404]

I think the whole world should learned from Japan how to discipline children properly for they become useful part of the society.

[@kizmack68]

It's not just the discipline for children. Most importantly, respect for others and being mindful of others. That's why even children can travel on their own. They can ride a bus or subway and get home safely. Adults care for the children regardless if the child is kin to them or not. At the stores, people serve the customers with respect. And children sees that gesture all the time therefore mimmicks it.

[@peteryanes9339]

Yup that for sure

[@manasarajukolkar5541]

Hello man then its not called parenting called making robots out of human Every humanbeing is different its their perspective

[@daniellamoreno3616]

US needs to learn from them as well as far as lunches go as well. Some school have a decent lunch and others give food that's not nutritional or to sugary.

[@jocelynflinchum2707]

@@daniellamoreno3616 yeaasss

[@itssjustbr3145]

I’m 14 and wish I was raised like this😭

[@Nia.s.Care.]

Same

[@loanthebank9820]

Nah you wouldn't handle it

[@senamilemgenge6607]

I'm 13

[@Vincent-yx7tg]

I'm 14 and i will raise my kids like this! No disrespectin' in my house

[@darassylmoniakam]

bad idea. they're not soldiers

[@memesry3701]

I love Japan

[@BRIGHTSIDEOFFICIAL]

What do you love about it?

[@asielmilian38]

Same.

[@whatismylife3226]

@@BRIGHTSIDEOFFICIAL I love Japan too. It's culture is so intricate and interesting, and it is very different from many other cultures. I think the rest of the world has a thing or two to learn from Japan.

[@shanadesquire9158]

I live Japan too

[@sparkIejumprope]

Sometimes I wonder if part of people loving Japan comes from Manga and anime.

[@MomoKajiwara]

I was born and raised in Japan, and currently living in the US, raising my own children. I realize that I took so many things for granted growing up in Japan, which I wish the US would adopt. Thank you so much for making this video. :) It was fun to watch.

[@Ninisecilia]

I’m from Sweden and my parents never yelled at me in public or when we had company but with her eyes, she made me sure that I knew what was waiting.. 😂

[@s.b.8258]

My mom would even pull my hair in front of my friends and her friends. That got me so upset at her. When I grew up I simply moved as far away as possible

[@vixikie]

I'm from Sweden but my parents have never yelled at me or my siblings. I think yelling at a child and making them scared is wrong to teach children. It is never the childrens fault but the parents. I hear a lot of children scream in public - especially grocery stores - but mom have said that me and my brother never screamed and we even as teenagers we never had that annoying teenagers phrase and got angry. I don't know if it is because of parenting or just our personalities or maybe both.

[@TheT74]

Some have trouble with honest communication too. I do all this and was raised in the Black community. I do like that in elementary they’re focused on teaching their children how to live and focus on testing later.

[@imgriizzly4179]

Hello random guy scrolling through the comments 😄have a nice day

[@sokal__835]

Thanks, you too

[@山丨丂乇凵爪丨丂乇尺]

DID YOU JUST ASSUME MY GENDER!?!? *unhealthy screeching*

[@nxx4872]

imGriizZly so u aren’t gonna wish women a nice day. Racist.

[@youdontknowme1257]

@@nxx4872 that's sexist not racist

[@yukichan4132]

DID YOU JUST ASSUME MY GENDER!!!! 👿👿👿 JK.. have a nice day/night random person on the internet!

[@megmarie6]

My mom thinks I need to be more passionate in music but I am passionate in a lot of other stuff she doesn’t see. She wants me off my phone and practicing music every single hour of the day but I just don’t want to. She doesn’t see that I love making videos and cooking also sewing. She only sees what she wants to see not what I want her to see, she is focused on one way and doesn’t want to look at the other ways. So what I’m saying parents focus on what your child loves, not what they don’t.

[@Xelliana_edits3]

I am half Japanese, and fourth generation, born and raised in Hawaii. My great grandparents would do the same to my grandparent. And my grandparents and parents did instill few of these rules. It does work. Of course walking to school at that early age is different in our society. And Japan has a zero tolerance rule. I wish our public schools would let kids wash and clean the classrooms like the Japanese schools too. That would really show responsibility and cleanliness and care. Thank you for the video extremely helpful.

[@socalautisticman1975]

After learning karate & dabbling deeper in Japanese culture ,their discipline & morals are so inspiring to self motivation on self discipline

[@Misdamas]

Being raised by Mexican parents was almost the same. Respect and honor were a top priority in our home. My kids were also raised to be respectful and kind.

[@kxkxkxkx]

Most Mexican kids I know were raised by their oldest sister 💯

[@g.j]

I do that story telling, when a kid don't want to obey me. But I tell the story in a subtle way without pointing out the bad behavior of the child. And without asking the child to obey me after a finish the story. I just let it go. And Lo and behold the child follow me and volunteer to do what I want her to do- without asking. You just have to be really patient with this kind of approach and better not expect it will work but just be loving and persistent. We are planting seeds and takes time to grow.

[@MikachuAi]

I lived in Japan for a year to teach English as a conversational assistant and the kids were very well behaved and loved their extra curricular activities and always went because they were expected to go everyday unlike clubs in my country if people don’t feel like it they don’t go. They eat very healthy there too which I wasn’t used to but I got to like it because of the way they cooked it was really nice. It’s very safe to walk places alone too At the school they took turns preparing lunch and we cleaned the school every week and every month we had 6am chapel cleaning where we cleaned on hands and knees but it didn’t feel as weird as you think because everyone did it.

[@gingerstoys8412]

I just like the mindset of the Japanese they usually teach the kids to be honest and work hard

[@heliosash4675]

I really like the responsibility, care for others, and independence that they are taught. In the US, if kids had to clean the school and serve each other lunch I feel the atmosphere would be a lot different.

[@lucysmall3082]

When I get chicken nuggets i scream for vegetables 😂

[@smogfry2005]

When my daughter is served chicken nuggets (which only happens if we go out to eat and someone mixes the order up) she flips out, she starts shaking her finger at whoever put nuggets in front of her and gives a whole speach about how theyre not even real chicken with tears streaming down her face..she started doing this around two years old. Cracks me up internally everytime.

[@lucysmall3082]

@@smogfry2005 ooooh wow!!

[@sukhqazmi5837]

Gotta have IT ALLLLL xp xD

[@chronic3116]

I would say Japan would be the most peaceful country

[@chriss7466]

Remember Pearl Harbor

[@namenotimportant4372]

HiMrBob Are you just gonna believe at the internet and research? Why won’t you come here in Japan *and see for YOURSELF.* Instead of relying through research kay m8?

[@minmin20196]

Nope

[@vangelfury]

@@chriss7466 Pearl Harbor is not their fault. They warned USAs to remove their fleet from their water in a certain time limit, but USAs army decided to ignore their warning and did not share this info to evacuate the area, (except for some VIPs of course!) and when was the time of the attack, the japanese would look like the bad guys in this story. "Attacking without a warning"

[@vangelfury]

@@chriss7466 I forgot to mation that the japanese would attack the USAs if they where not removing their fleet within a certain time limit. (A few days)

[@InvestingHustler]

Is that why they’re so smart 🤓

[@kirstixxx6536]

They also are great at video games a 3 year old could destroy me in any game

[@susanrequina593]

Investing Hustler they are smart because they grew up matured by their parents

[@ssjup81]

They're not that smart. It's just like other places. I mean seriously, up until high school, which isn't mandatory to attend, the kids can't fail and the kids know this. Some study some don't. So the smart thing is a stereotype.

[@ssjup81]

@@eddiev.223 Yes this! For the most part that's all it is along with rote memorization. This is also why they have trouble with language study as far as public schooling goes.

[@user-ik8wd9vm7r]

Do you know that in Japan if a little children is crying or screaming or being loud. The parent as ultimate consequence come to whisper in his/her ear. I've seen it, discipline is private not public, the child stops being loud immediately. (This happens even before the child start going school)

[@misternobody2257]

The best Parenting method is that, go to Japan and make your child to live there!! 😅 Japan is a great country!! They know how to mange there life and also create a good image about them for others!! I love japan since i started seen Japanese Animes!! Then Researched on them!! Japan is the Best place to live then any other!!❤😍😍❤❤I LOVE JAPAN!!😍❤❤❤

[@vaidehi_n]

True

[@misternobody2257]

Its better to contain radiation then containing the disease of disrespecting others or being manner less!!

[@misternobody2257]

And it is up to your body!! Your health must be good!! So you will not suffer from radiation and peoples also live there!! They didn't look like having Radiation!! They are nice! Is all that matters to me!!

[@misternobody2257]

I also i love japan very much bro!!❤😍😍

[@ruthferry7047]

All of them are great. Very structured and healthy. I love how they make and serve lunch at school and help clean up afterwards.

[@Mullet-ZubazPants]

When my sister visited Japan she was shocked that so many young children were out and about unsupervised. I said to her it's probably because child abductions are rare in Japan. It was like that when we were kids I reminded her. Also our media over-hypes the threat, frightening parents

[@christinesmith9993]

I used many of these parenting ideas. It made our home a calmer, happier environment.

[@tamlyonly]

Hello. We have even this rules in my country India. But now a days, the new parents try to do things in their way. And bring things down. But as I am grown up in a large joint family. We,me , my cousins and siblings are used to of both old and new rules. We were grown up with all those rules you just spoke about. When me and my sister started going to school my mother finally stopped working from home. We kinda have to force her to do . As she was not ready to.So, I remember me and Di, we stayed with our grandparents when ever our parents left. It was our habit to listen to a mythology story before going to bed. Maa always took us to religious occasions and cultural Festival. She used to show us things and say, "You See that... It has a history... " and tell us the back story. And the real essence of the festival. Me and Di used to come back home together by ourselves. Sometimes we were accompanied by classmates. But hardly we were ever picked up by our parents. Di and me, we attended all the acc that our relatives thought was good for the young ones. Even their kids went to classes that our parents admitted us to. And sure enough growing up with those batchmates, we learned the true essence of moral values. We were even to do our work by ourselves. Like every little things. But this days when we interact with new people, we see they are so different than the way we are. And the reason, over pampering of parents. We are even quite loved by our parents. But they never thought that help someone or giving your seat to the older person. Or touching their feet (an act to show respect to elders)was way too much. Or can hurt the interest of the kids. It's astonishing how new parents are spoiling the upcoming generation. People usually say that me and Di are exceptional in our behavior. The parents of our friends put us as an example to them. My answer to them, "we could also be like your kids. But our mom was not afraid of putting us out to the extral world. Or sit up with us to narrate the history. " I wish to become a Maa like the one we have. PS. Di is what we Indians call our older sister. And Maa is what we call our mother. Edit: if I even think to hard when was the last time Baba brought us a fast food pack. I still can't remember. Yes , we didn't have very good and healthy school lunch. But Maa and Kaki made sure that all the kids ate healthy and took home made lunch to school. I forgot to mention this.

[@lorieakin1771]

Thankyou for sharing your story. 😄💖

[@tamlyonly]

@Lori. Eakin pleasure is all mine that you liked it.... Thank you...

[@kirti______258]

Exactly indian parenting goes the same way...

[@fouziaqureshi6531]

I was born and brought up in India and was about to mention these things.agree with everything.i’ve recently been to India and was very disappointed with the changed attitude towards parenting. Even though I live in UK now,I still follow most of old ways we were brought up and am a proud parent of two well behaved,polite and kind children. Thanks for sharing

[@Shardulee]

It all reminded me of my childhood.. 💕 And am happy to raise my kids same way 😊

[@lilbluridinghood6296]

*Story telling is a top priority.* Me, a writer: *inhales* *_Y E S ._*

[@sagarambuwani6801]

I love Japanese culture, the story telling is great thats why the Japanese animes are so awesome.

[@Internet_user777]

Raising a child is not just about loving them and providing for them. You need to give them skills to be a productive and respectable member of society and give them space to do so. Being a good example is best way to set the tone for how they should behave...

[@bailey125]

The thing with this is, for this to work the whole area or society of the city, region or even country needs to adopt it. A child doesn't like the be the odd one out, even if properly disciplined. The reason the children of Japan are contempt with their lifestyle is because they would be the odd ones out if they didn't follow it.

[@jennroyale2348]

Yeah, that makes sense

[@maryd6506]

I think you mean “content,” not “contempt.”

[@bailey125]

@@maryd6506 lol yes you're right.

[@happyharper5494]

The world should run like Japan, they are amazing people!!! 🇯🇵

[@bayamonrican]

We've been stationed in Japan for four years. Loved every min of it. I love love the idea of how attached baby and mama is. However, babies and toddlers are not required to be in a carseat as theg believe the child is safer in the mother's arms... Gave me anxiety to see children bouncing in the back seat or trying to mess with the steering wheel while mama drive... not very safe in my opinion.

[@emmaformanova9808]

6:00, I live in Canada and I'm a country kid. For me walking to school was only for crazy people that didn't mind walking 4-5 hours, but i'm always suprised many of the city kids walking together, some as young as 6. Many elderly people take it upon themselves to wear bright vests and use a stop sign to help kids cross the street. It's the most adorable thing ever. I've also never heard about anything bad happening which is comforting.

[@mariabardo6420]

The major problem in the US is that people leaves everything to the government and cell phones has become children's babysitters. Everything in the US is "child abuse" but there's no law in any state that draws a clear line between discipline and abuse.

[@juliopliego3232]

So true

[@prathibabhaskar8466]

Not just the US sad indeed.

[@kindspirit-mo9nm]

The government is corrupted from what my friends told me because they said spanking is not discipline. We whoop our kids, we're hurting them. To me that is nonsense because we spanking them to correct them and teach them right from wrong. I'm not a parent but I used to work with children and I used to babysit

[@sarangjams9721]

@@kindspirit-mo9nm very true. A lot of children think that they can get away with things because they know they can't get hit. I know the rule is there for the safety of children, but the behavior they are developing will only be passed on. Please let people lightly discipline their children.

[@kindspirit-mo9nm]

@@sarangjams9721 I always allow people with children to discipline them the way they need to. I don't condone child abuse but I would not recommend using a belt on a child that's 2 and 3 years old. My friends whooped their children with a belt at 2 and 3 years old. I do feel that if the parents don't discipline their children especially at a young age, they will end up paying for it later on as they become teenagers. Let alone the streets might line them up. I'm only going off by what my mother said and what my friends have told me.

[@oluchionyemachi3287]

I live in Nigeria and everything said about Japanese parenting style is totally similar to my culture's parenting style especially the one about respecting the elderly people . Over here 4yeae olds and even 5 years go to school without their parents I totally love your videos Brightside 🤗🤗🤗

[@alanaalbarado2357]

All the rules in the Japanese culture are awesome! It’s a great idea to look into other cultures-we should allow the differences teach us and bring us closer together. Japan has a low crime rate.....America has many acts of violent crimes everyday....🤔 we need to change something....❤️

[@learningstuffwithriverrizk4552]

on the first point, exposing children to "horror" in graduating amounts is a great idea. not only is it a part of reality but it is something that can be shown in a context and together with reason and instruction

[@mythiliraghavan3418]

I would choose to do Japanese parenting rules

[@jdzspace33]

I am not Japanese though I am learning the language and me and my Chinese wife are having a little girl in a few months and I plan to teach her Japanese (my wife will teach her Chinese) and English. And I plan on raising her in a very Japanese way so videos like this are very helpful. Neither of us want to raise our child in the way typical Americans do, and both have great respect for the manner of Japanese people and hopefully can raise a child who behaves in a similar way.

[@wilmamieremet]

Say what

[@jdzspace33]

@@wilmamieremet - we are raising our daughter in a multicultural way leaning more towards Asian influences. Because in our experience, and in our eyes Asian children behave and act better than the typical American child.

[@gabicaviedes7906]

The fifth one is SO important and is missing SO badly in Western culture! If you are having trouble with your son or daughter, people around look at you in a recrimonatory way: either because you're trying to discipline your child, or because you're trying to follow the "discipline your child alone" rule. In a word, the education motto in Western culture seems to be: _it's your problem, not mine, your kid just annoys me_ . Individualism at its best.

[@rmb7247]

This is the way it just felt to raise my daughter. Food and the private discipline are crucial. Open mindness along with your mindfulness creates a happy life.

[@chainsreacting]

Unfortunately in the U.S. some of these methods of child rearing gets you a visit from CPS. Especially letting your children do things without supervision and discipline. Saying things like "wait until we get home" nowadays is considered a threat. Kids behave the way they do here because parents either raise their kids full of entitlement or in many cases are too scared to discipline in case Someone calls on them.

[@sussbob]

Or you known you just don't mention your gonna openly discipline them and just wait til u get home so u don't get stares

[@Starseed_Artist18]

I was an online english tutor for Japanese kids. Most of them knows to play one instrument and plays a sport. Besides that they have time for English class and other activities. I know how tired they are, yet they still shows utmost respect to their teachers.

[@koy3050]

Japan is so ahead from other countries every country should do this

[@casar6891]

I love the way the Japanese think of respecting elders, the community raising a child and the rules Beijing respected more than punishment has a driven focus.

[@nattamused9074]

I’m a white American mother, but I do most of these things the same way. I wish I were better at keeping healthy food a priority though. I will say, that I have received plenty of criticism for attachment parenting and out of age level reading, (like reading The Bible, The Hobbit or Corrie Ten Boom’s The Hiding Place to the whole family including young children). Choices like this are counter cultural. It doesn’t matter, I’m glad we followed our conscience. The result has been kids who have greater than average self control and patience. I’ve often noticed a difference in their maturity compared with other kids their age. I think another important part of raising thoughtful kids is limiting screen time, and encouraging outdoor free play and reading instead.

[@grny28]

The most important thing we need to instill in our children is respect. If they can respect themselves they will respect others. I know most will disagree but a majority of problems started when the mothers started working outside the home. The mothers made all the difference in the nurturing that these kids lack today.

[@bonteg3848]

Unfortunately I agree with you. How I wish the average man would rise up and provide fully for hus home and come home in the evenings to help out AND make enough money to afford a house helper. . Oh well.

[@chisomompezeni6650]

I agree....mothers should stay home a take care of the lids atleast until they are 6 years old. But these days a mother leaves a child as young as three months old coz of work.

[@suonatar1]

I don't know about your country, but in Poland an average family can't survive on one salary.

[@gavrillatanjung7806]

I don’t know where you are from but in my country lots of mothers still work instead of staying at home, yet they still enforce respect and similar teachings like the japanese and it works. It’s more of finding the balance between work and raising the child, and a mindset that the child comes first. in fact it sometimes help with the childs sense of responsibility and independence.

[@janiesippel225]

I am not Japanese. I have an Irish/German heritage and this is how I was raised, and how I raised my children. This used to be common in the United States but sadly not so much.

[@dwnkaomwn3953]

Thanks for the information. I just put it in my knowledge playlist. This will be useful later on.

[@whatismylife3226]

I have a playlist titled 'Interesting' that is basically the same thing. I put this vid in that playlist

[@smyrnasstory]

“True, no discipline seems for the present to be joyous, but it is painful; yet afterward, it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it”

[@bigstone17]

I am Japanese got education in Japan, thanks Brightside for reputation(^^) this video made me proud of being Japanese and reminded me of childhood. Oh by the way this video is mostly true but there are some shortcomings too. We are polite to others( especially foreigners lol) but that means we care too much about how we get seen by others, that can cause depression or other problems.Japanese are too obedient and no originalities, not having our own opinion . maybe we can memorize things more than foreigners and get good grade in school because obedient to teachers and parents but poor at outputting in society. Not only good side.... And WE ALL HENTAI.😂

[@afifayousaf2466]

こんにちわ

[@bigstone17]

@@afifayousaf2466 ムハンマドさんこんにちは〜

[@kkcake5771]

What do you mean

[@bigstone17]

@@kkcake5771 i'm just saying "Hi Mr Muhammad". lol

[@kkcake5771]

@@bigstone17 I don,t Japanese I have been seeing stuff I don't know what that means so I look it also konichiwa

[@gambeliangambelian7224]

I guess it’s universal value was born & raised in Ethiopia the one thing different was I was whipped I’m now a mother of a 3 yr old in the US except for letting her walk to & fro school & not whipping her like my mother did I’m doing everything else. Beautiful culture thanks for sharing we can always adopt beneficial values from any society.

[@AB-wm6hp]

9. They're taught life skills 10. They're taught social responsibility and what's ok/not ok to say and in what situation

[@aprilvilliar7907]

Oh I love this so much. Great tips! Thank you

[@malachi__]

I literally eat fish, vegetables, fruits and rice literally every day and I have to admit...It’s healthy 😁 Yay~

[@blume0121]

Germany has a lot in common with Japan. I dont know with which country you compare Japan, but this other country you talk about gives me a big culture shock. Raising children independent, giving them healthy food, respecting elders and respecting feelings of others is completley normal to teach. Thats the basement of a developed society

[@daisukegori2112]

So basically the old style of parenting is the best. People will try to argue it but I don't care.

[@wendyshoo3476]

I once visited Korea and met with a holiday Japanese Mother And Child Girl. Simply awesome, the girl was so polite, kind, caring, respectful and friendly. Simply awesome well mannered people.

[@sumralltt]

Need more values like this in the US - Serving Others is Great!

[@kristinemayor4443]

I’m here in Japan , teaching in three Elementary schools. I personally agree all that is mentioned. Kids are totally amazing.

[@jussayinmipeece1069]

discipline in private and having rules for everything. I grew up with those and even though i have no kids all my siblings do and they all live by those rules. In fact one of my brothers will ask his son to tell him the exact rule he broke and why that rule is important

[@kaylasrainbow]

This is universal. The most significant privilege Japan affords their citizens is a true community, with uniform and standard cultural beliefs and practices. I pray that my people will be blessed to have our own communities again.

[@servanlloydarnailc.9507]

My Grandfather died 🤕 Can i recieve some prayers please?

[@shan4289]

no

[@zionnam6943]

@@shan4289 that is really rude🙄😒

[@exe7435]

@@shan4289 How rude 😫

[@littlemissrandom9510]

I pray that you feel better from your loss

[@exe7435]

I'm so sorry your Grandfather died mines died and I was 5 months

[@LightBringer.Karyn23]

Oh wow, it's amazing that different continents, different cultures and mom's are Mom's. Nice video, I feel that everything on this list is very important. ❤️

[@brookrowland9538]

I mean for the most part I was raised up to respect all but I've had slip ups myself. I'm not Japanese and never got treatment like Japanese children but I was always too terrified to act out in fear of how I might be punished later. I want to raise my children up knowing that they can talk to me about anything and that i will love them no matter what. As well as want them to respect all without having to face punishment for bad behavior all the time. It's important to enforce rules and let your children know when they slip up without going off on them.

[@yukobrash3749]

Ok, so…. I’m Japanese and I have lived almost my whole life in Japan but before, I was living in Scotland which is why I can speak English and know both cultures very well. I was surprised to hear this video being pretty accurate. But they did make Japanese children sound a little to much like angels!

[@luluflowers9277]

You really don't know how how how hard to handle kids outside your country......

[@hmos1855]

I totally agree with all of these rules, except the one about sending them to school alone so young; unfortunately, ppl kidnap children way too often in America, it’s scary. I actually do all of these and it truly does work/help.

[@manin1]

I accept that storytelling is top priority

[@milfordstevens5801]

I'm using all of these when I have my own kids in the future

[@theprowitzproject9403]

My husband and I had strong ties to our extended family growing up. Unfortunately our children don’t have that same opportunity due to circumstances beyond our control. We vowed to be very active in our grandchildren’s lives when it was our turn. Kids need that!

[@belamitaguedes5962]

Love this style of parenting .😊

[@spring7643]

I like about 80% of it, but I think children and everyone should be able to express themselves, all their emotions "good" or "bad." I know a mom who lets her kid cry, and as a result the kid cries less now because they are able to let go of all the negative feelings by crying frequently. How parents react to their kid crying has a huge impact on how the kid will think of themselves, their parents, and the world. Validating a kid's feelings will make them grow into a better person.

[@1bobby460]

This is soo amazing and educative 😍😍😍

[@ltom6019]

I’m not Japanese but I’m Dad tall me story every night and it gives me a lot of life lessons with having to experience in real life and it helps with certain situations in real life to

[@ShervyseSmiles]

I guess I’m a Japanese Mom 😂 I have a similar parenting style. In black culture there are similarities as well like storytelling and respecting elders. I have boys and we raise them as the men they will one day be. Major thing I do is teach my boys to communicate how they feel and to be considerate 👍🏽

[@laceyperoni13]

I love this! I’m having a hard time w my little boy lately. I would love more info on this please. More tips and tricks. Thank you so much.

[@noemoralesmora5665]

Japan the best country to visit 🙌🏼

[@liza8136]

I think every country, community, family or society must follow the parenting rules of Japan due to which a country wold be generous and well-behaved. It might also help any country to make relationship with other country. I wish my country would also get rules like Japan but in following our culture.