11 Parenting Mistakes That Ruin a Child’s Growth

[@BRIGHTSIDEOFFICIAL]

Hey there, BrightSiders, how many children would you like to have?

[@corrosivenanomagnet424]

umm...a long way until that happens.

[@cfataaxcxakiim9793]

12

[@mhazg6621]

5 in a year xD

[@florinavatavu330]

0 LOL

[@taniyasharma7451]

umm 1 boy and 1 girl👶👩

[@JackSmith-w1t]

Hello brothers and sisters. I would just like to recommend that everyone read the book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’. Reading that book was the best desicion I ever made.

[@alannaschaat7615]

I was heavily abused as a child, both mentally and physically from most of my family. Now I’m growing up realizing that this is not only affecting me but the way I treat others. So I’m sitting here educating myself, watching video after video so I don’t grow like my family. There is nothing wrong with re-educating yourself. I hope the person reading this and trying to be the best they can, I hope you succeed.

[@zanzan9041]

*hugs* may you heal and find love in the world. Learn to love yourself first, then learn to love others as well.

[@innerpeacefindings671]

Same childhood as me.

[@ravishanni]

i was beaten by stick on daily basis by mother and my father left us in childhood😢😢

[@soiree.mediaa]

i hope u feel better and i hope u will be the best mom ever ❤

[@KRmedfndllcARCwof81213]

Same

[@genaeyoung180]

My mom made everything magical. Even going to the market seemed like a great adventure. She taught us while we were out. She gave us clipped coupons and had us find the items in the market so we could learn to shop. She always hugged and kissed us. I love my mom and feel very fortunate to have her.

[@TheReetchou]

So beautiful. What a great idea with the coupon! Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@destineeramos8105]

That’s amazing that’s the kind of mom I’m trying to be for my daughter ❤️

[@Cvcyxt]

You're so lucky, I would always cry to sleep and pretend I have someone to tell my pain to. 😔🥲😭

[@mommyshreyaathena7121]

U r so lucky

[@alihesham8167]

i also love my mom, even if I feel the the supermarket is just a boredom station

[@glyzadelacruz2157]

"another toxic traits of a parent is when they are more concern on what others might say, rather than listening to their children explanation."

[@gaurigoyal5744]

RIGHT! Most of the times when I make a mistake my parents don't care about the mistake i made but rather they are more worried about what other people will say. And then they put out that frustration of what other people will think on me

[@grandma1516]

True, if I did my mum would say that I'm talking back and just get angry at me, so I'm not experienced with serious arguments....

[@fenix1977]

that was me w my mother

[@chandrashrestha6825]

Yeah right

[@christie2976]

Yup that's my mom she cares more about her reputation than me the younger child and said I'm not normal like other kids and cares so much about what other people will think of her when they see me......

[@flav6226]

My dad scolded me big time during my childhood and many yrs later I still haven't forgotten. As a result I am cold towards him, yes he tries to maintain a relation but I am just unable to feel a connection. Please do yourself a favor and let a child be a child and learn things at his or her own pace, show love and attention and great things will happen later on.

[@ineedtocleanmyroom1270]

Exactly, my dad yells and gets mad at me for the dumbest things. Both my parents make me insecure and confused about myself, so I don't really know how I feel about them. I know I don't like my father at all though for plenty of reasons. He also only got with my mom and had kids in hope of one of us signing his papers 😒 only if he treated me better then yes I probably would in the future. 😬😔

[@rashidmalik1625]

I just GIVE THEM DA SLIENT TREATMENT

[@hoeteadotjpg]

Same in my case also

[@Kinich-f2p]

Joana ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ same its bad those

[@muted5370]

Dad's are the worst to us ever.

[@IhAv3jUST]

I think another thing is patience. I've seen a lot of family members give up when they don't know what to do and just give their children a tablet or phone. Spending time with them and taking time doing things will definitely help raise a hally and fulfilled family.

[@elenaanish2008]

Another toxic trait of parents are they scold their children in front of strangers or their friends and they have no idea how embarrassing that is for a child. 😭

[@IamtheMan1111]

At least they got parents to scold and embarass you, you should be glad you are not orphans

[@OgBooder302]

A person can't grasp what they can't understand. Most of our reality is outside of people's perception. ​@@IamtheMan1111

[@Viieruxi]

​@@IamtheMan1111 dude how does that make anything better?

[@JessicaFletcher-nn5ss]

​@@Viieruxi😂😂😂😂

[@seanclarencesalipong7936]

​@@IamtheMan1111and that's not nice at all. Parents should treat kids in order to prevent embarrassment or scold.

[@nvmee8]

Too late for me, sadly I learned what NOT to do with my kids from my parents.. so far I think I’m on the right track ! Neglect and lack of interest was horrible but it definitely helped me understand how important a mother’s love and attention is to a growing child

[@Cvcyxt]

I never got attention, my mom would always be on her phone when I would say Mama, she would say Okay, I wish I wasn't lonely or ignored. At the park I saw a mother and a daughter playing with each other I was like awww I wish that would be me.

[@anarup916]

You need to learn the positive side too. You can't learn everything from the negative

[@chrismccaffrey8256]

Careful not to take it too far the other way and be too clingy and emotionally needy from them. Does just as much damage in other ways.

[@nvmee8]

Wow you are absolutely right, I need to take a moment and reflect on that one..

[@swatisucharita674]

Me too

[@tiananyakopaco9879]

I've been scolding my baby boy often but after watching this, I stand corrected. Thanks alot for this information.

[@amritha8414]

U r a great parent... 🙂❤️

[@idkyayyyyyy]

BABY!? *sloaaapppppp*

[@Jj-ec9rs]

I'm proud of you for watching a video like this and even taking it into consideration 👏🏽

[@qaiserraza7866]

i wish my mom can understand it 💔

[@birundhasubramanium1660]

@@qaiserraza7866 go talk to her

[@smrityclothstore795]

In my childhood once the dentist pull up my teeth and I was crying for pain and my father was holding me with his chest and he was also crying for my pain.. thanks to my Allah for the most precious gift He has gifted me.. my mom and dad.. ❤❤

[@FLHerbologistLaura]

🦷💙 😁

[@duck.quack_hi4126]

I had a dentist pull my teeth out before, nobody cared :)

[@smrityclothstore795]

Then the dentist was your gift.. 😂😂

[@yashbrar1831]

@@duck.quack_hi4126 That’s just sad:’)

[@rehammalek4306]

When I went to the dentist I always held my mother's hand when it hurt I would squeeze it tightly.

[@sushmajha857]

This video is being watched by more *children and teens* than *parents* . Hahaha.

[@inspired9191]

Very true.... Hope those people future will be bright..

[@fatmahosny7276]

Yea, -_- im 11

[@sharmiehm6643]

Yeah its true

[@sushmajha857]

@@inspired9191 Yes I J-Hope.

[@shamimmemon1280]

True and I am 14

[@estefani3793]

When your parents share your embarrassing moments to your relatives and always compare you to your cousins that they think are "better" than you 😣

[@galalsalah5936]

Exactly that so true they even compare me with my friends in school like why they do that if they really love us they really need to show us the real love and don't compare us with others

[@nasteha874]

🥺🥺🥺🥺as a young mom i won’t compare my kids to anyone but I’ll make them feel that I’m proud of them 🥰in anyway.

[@sughrapirzada5927]

That is very really true

[@amreentvandentertainment5580]

True

[@gtr12345600]

My mom does this saying"don't think I'm comparing" clearly her blind spot.

[@NIJA29]

My favorite childhood memory is the summer of 1988. I was turning 8 and it was just me and my mom. She bought me my favorite record album which was Lisa Lisa & the cult jam!!! She also bought me a stereo. We had the best time ever.. I remember really really starting at my mother and thinking how much I love this woman what would I do with out her. She’s my everything..

[@mrs.bartlett6047]

nini D 🥰 I think about giving to many material things to my daughter sometimes. I think to myself , she would remember a trip with the family more than she would remember a doll or something that I got her and she just throws down 10 mins after getting it. But after reading your comment I think that some material things can indeed be apart of a memory as well, especially if I show interest in it with my daughter. Thanks for sharing your memory and giving me something to ponder. Your mom sounds like an amazing mother

[@sumalife212]

My aunt woke us up at night and played wonderful songs from the old radio beckz she got the frequency and we danced loved her for that...same aunt once made unlimited omlettes and served us in leaves i wil always love her for thatty

[@Wildtooth-mg9sl]

I miss my old Jutebox

[@Deplorablehomemaker]

That’s a beautiful memory to have. She sounds like she’s an amazing mother.

[@missfaith5452]

You're such a wonderful child😊😊😘 😘

[@bellaolalo]

I hate about my parents is comparing me to someone..

[@bananaveg7373]

Same story

[@iamsunshine8697]

that is so wrong.

[@jayantiraj2164]

Me too

[@HawkSigmaTuah]

Same

[@drashtikamani3051]

I think everyone experience it

[@reenaghogale1822]

I am blessed to have wonderful parents and I always safe and secure with them. I'm in my 40's and I still ask for their advice. I haven't seen them in last 6 years as they live in another country, but there is hardly any day when we don't talk to each other. Definitely all the parents can not be perfect and I also had my share, but they gave me the best whatever they could. I wish them a long life and good health. Love you mom and dad. They taught me to become a good parent. My son is 21. We both argue, fight, hug and love each others a lot. My son listens to me and I listen to him. I advise him on many things but not try to force until I feel that is required, because sometimes we have to learn from the past experiences and no parents want their children to get hurt. I wish all parents get loved by their children and children get loved by their parents.🙂

[@adinamedrea5303]

I think it's so important for parents to have support from grandparents, aunt, neighbors or friends etc. in raising kids. When you have to raise a child by your own or just with the husband, the tiredness builds up and after years you start losing patience. When you have a community around you it's different. You can always take 30 minutes for a nap or even have time to take a shower without your toddler knocking at the door constantly...

[@moorliving2703]

Facts, it takes a village

[@MatrixOracle]

Hahahahahaha practise what you preach. Maybe this distopian dream will become a reality.

[@charissahenderson8747]

This confirms my belief that my parents failed me as a child. No wonder I'm so stressed and insecure as an adult. 😕

[@goonzaaleezz]

Charissa Henderson I could say that I feel the same way but I can assure that it’s not every mistake on the video and you have to remember that our parents were children too and only reflected the behaviour to us. So it’s up to us how we deal with this and either we let these things define the person and identify of who we are and at the end of the day behind all the egoism a parent can have they will still love their children unconditionally in their own unique way

[@eversince_9863]

Same here and It affected me alot.

[@priyatalukdar9926]

Mine too 😔

[@jaibharat131]

Don't feel bad....life is good...do good in rest of your life with your family and children....make friends.

[@mhanne02]

Same girl.

[@vrinjan]

#1- they scolded their children too often #2- they missed out on the most important moment in their lives #3- they didn’t play enough creative games with them #4- they didn’t take enough photos and videos #5- they didn’t take their child’s opinion into account #6- they didn’t enjoy communicating with their child. Communication with their children is the most important part of an upbringing #7- they didn’t educate them about money #8- they didn’t make their child happy enough. #9- they didn’t hug their children often enough #10- they weren’t consistent. Be consistent with them throughout their childhood

[@lizyfraguela1521]

thanks. saved me 10 minutes

[@jeraldNet]

#5 into account?😊

[@josephinesaddles]

You forgot #11

[@vrinjan]

Gina Lee mine too & I’m sorry to hear that.. but this presents a great opportunity for you to not repeat it with your kids or niece or nephews 🤗

[@JohnSmith-mp6is]

vrinjan thank you time saver! God bless you

[@Belugacat]

every parents should watch it

[@DKNex]

Are you a parent?

[@SolaceAmv]

Yep

[@user-fz6hj4zg6n]

I agree my mother is like that and my father is working abroad my mother is busy in her work and they have no time for me

[@Belugacat]

@@DKNex no i am just turn 24

[@BRIGHTSIDEOFFICIAL]

Health Care glad u liked it! What’s the most useful tip?

[@myleenecepe6752]

When i was a child my mother always used to scold me in front of many and until now she still doing it to my niece and nephew which is very wrong and toxic. I said to myself I will never do that to my son.

[@bullymaguire8458]

Get out of the house your mom is toxic

[@hridaansworldlittlebunny8440]

Absolutely right👍🏻

[@funforkidsforever]

You are an amazing Mother.

[@peachytsunderpderp7682]

It's Saddening that I learned everything from the media at a young age instead of my parents teaching me :,)

[@Liza-st4ut]

Well same

[@ashleywu3161]

Same

[@RT_Podcast]

Yooo. Saame. It's sad tho

[@lexjen5736]

Same

[@anna-jz9ye]

I did too but i kinda like it

[@MelpyMelperson]

My grandpa made a "deal" with me and made Tuesday McDonald's night. It gave me something to look forward to and my health appreciates the limit he set for me.

[@anshranjanverma7213]

50th liker

[@cavemanzam3369]

Youre grandpa sounds like a really nice person

[@Mimisafricantales]

Thanks for this video. I'm a young mum of two kids, 6&4 so I'm glad to see this video and all these comments, so I can correct my mistakes and create fun memories with my kids.

[@kriscaldwell4476]

I developed social anxiety from my mom and dad yelling at me as a child, spanking me in front of guests, placing me in a corner. Ive worked really hard to break my social anxiety I’ve had to break through all the discomfort. I don’t yell at my daughter because of this.

[@parentingbeyondbehaviours6382]

Wow that’s an awesome testimony

[@akeemjackman9582]

Wow

[@crz8237]

Exactly my problem also

[@Rjvenu9911]

Exactly, first the parents lower your self esteem by constantly yelling at you and criticizing you in front of others, and then they compare you with other kids for not being extroverted and competitive like them.

[@AdrianJ]

Omg, such great points. I especially agree with the one about the hugs, you can never give your kiddo too much love ❤️

[@Moss_piglets]

11 PARENTING MISTAKES THAT RUIN A CHILD'S GROWTH: Having kids for the sake of having kids.

[@delightful999]

So very true!!!!

[@elaineg6909]

Yeah that’s true ..... at least as a Latina , latinos believe that having more than 2 kids is better for the kids and makes them feel comfortable but at the end all the struggle comes to the older son or daughter or the parents

[@stroNg2thaBoNe2thaMax]

Yep!

[@lopezfam6343]

YES

[@cheftekard7165]

Yes. Or having kids to save a marriage. Bad idea

[@jadesmith7983]

I am happy to take notes from this video as mother of a 5 year old boy. I'm always trying to do my best at raising him to be confident and feel loved.

[@funforkidsforever]

I'm sure you are a brilliant parent.

[@jadesmith7983]

@@funforkidsforever Thank you ❤️

[@lynignatius2395]

Thanks a lot! This will help me raise my only child better. I'm a single working mom and it's really hard for me to take care of my child as I wanted to. Many of these lists do really happening to me and to my child. As I am watching the entire video, it made me realize how I am lacking as her mother and feeling bad that it might happen to my child in the future if I keep doing those things, I'll regret it much! 😭😭😭 Thanks for really brightening me up!! 😊😊😊

[@jadesmith7983]

Hope you're doing better. Your daughter is lucky to have a Mom that is willing to learn and grow to take better care of her!💕

[@TheHooker5k]

I was never ready to be a dad but took to it well so glad I'm doing all these things love spending time with my son best thing in the world.

[@TheRealGuywithoutaMustache]

4:33 *Bye, dad. Thanks for nothing* So relatable.

[@joanaquino9597]

Just Some Guy without a Mustache i hate my dad

[@sunilmishra7284]

Centipede is a Maniac yes! Same

[@sollarized35]

I see u watch all kind of things as well

[@griffinlopez5957]

Big same

[@shining_in_slime8274]

Hey!!! Jellal nice to meet you here...

[@7mcandes]

I teach parenting classes and was skeptical when I saw this title. It was actually good! Thanks for putting this out. 😁

[@john0805]

Who teaches you to teach?

[@holaliquarshie9247]

Are you on youtub

[@paparudaruda656]

Colleen A so, you are the only one who knows how...

[@7mcandes]

john0805 I am trained and certified. Anyone can be a good parent.

[@ilsemontes1272]

It just reminds me of how much I missed to feel my mother’s love and acceptance while I was growing up but at least, according to this video, I’m doing a much better job with my child now!

[@danny_mizo]

As an Asian, i never got hugs growing up from my family. But I'm still a good man. 😆

[@melaniademeter9344]

This is exactly what a bad person would say 🤣

[@memerminecraft3226]

Ahahahaha I am Asian and I get hugs daily.

[@adrianasilitonga7335]

Ya, me too... No affection whatsoever, at all.. No praises, no nothing.. Just work, obey, etc

[@vicsy426]

Don‘T said that, those western/american mindset people will be angry at you. Only "They" know how to bring up your children.

[@khalidkhan-ld4gg]

@@vicsy426 hahaha agree

[@oliviadecey7115]

Unfortunately, I don't have a favorite childhood moment. I missed out on a whole lot of things😔

[@AbdulMajeed-dd8sm]

I'm really sorry:(

[@oliviadecey7115]

@@AbdulMajeed-dd8sm thank you😊

[@oliviadecey7115]

@@heixudbjesygzghshejsjzgsvs3099 poor us😢

[@abdulfatahyusuf7906]

You are not alone with this wish you the best

[@oliviadecey7115]

@@abdulfatahyusuf7906 thank you😊😇

[@ClaireHaire]

Bonus * having kids before you’re physically/mentally ready. Honestly, my main issue growing up was communication. When I was younger they were to busy to hear about my day but, now that I’m older they beg me to know about my life. This video explains why grandparents are obsessed with their grandkids, they want a “2nd chance”.

[@enjoylife4life]

People think I'm crazy when I say my kids opinion matters. They are capable of saying what they like an don't care for. I often laugh at people in their face when they say it because they dont have a clue. This video definitely shows how I parent. Thanks to my mom and dad. I love seeing my kids make important decisions.

[@funforkidsforever]

Those ridiculous people who say kids don't have a clue obviously don't have a clue themself.

[@PureWater-w7c]

I loved sitting on my dad's lap. I asked him a million questions and he tried to answer them all.

[@jenplate]

Me too! !

[@illicxt7480]

LOL

[@eliciaeldridge3452]

That sounds like an amazing parent :)

[@ralynisreal5342]

Sweet

[@revelationeagle5273]

That’s the kind of dad I want to be but of course as they get older learn how to slowly find out on there own to be excited to find out about things

[@sakinheart6220]

My favorite growing up memory is when my dad hugged me when I was teenage. It was the first hug I remember for long time.

[@angellim5503]

sakin heart x

[@dikshasharma4716]

My dad never hugged me :-(

[@sakinheart6220]

@@dikshasharma4716 💔

[@nightcrawler2659]

I understand if my mom can't attend any important matters like educational events. I used to be an awardee student but my mom is working outside the Country for me. I love her and respected her so much.

[@memerminecraft3226]

Yeah I know it is fine for me.

[@kcconsigo7429]

Another toxic parents is that they want you to control over your happiness and financial just to meet their desires for their own purposes but not yours 🥺🥺.

[@editzz.of.random]

like manipulating?

[@MiguelMartin-zp3fv]

​@@editzz.of.randomyep

[@kemilawal5905]

All true. God help me to raise my kids well. I want them to look back when they're grown and bless me

[@musicremixerlord6125]

Nah I think you just did it

[@jobaaronarciaga4285]

Kendall Derequesens what he/she meant is that his/her family was raised with God’s teachings.

[@savannahherrera8441]

Some of it may be true but not all of it just because you do or don't do some of the things on this video does not mean that you are a bad parent or Messing your kids up if you are a parent you should know by now that no two children respond and learn the same

[@anisewestbrook2197]

Kemi Lawal AMEN!!!🙏🏽❤️

[@DaicyMiaLuv2]

Yes me too Lord help me to raise my kids well...

[@bhoot1702]

I remember when a scammer called my parents saying your Bank Account is to be closed if you don't give us your Bank account details. I told them it's just a scam and my parents told me: "You will not know about it. If my accounts get locked will you be able to handle it, no right??" And when I went out thinking that nothing bad will happen my parents will handle it and came back all the saved money was taken by the scammers. Moral: try to take opinions from your kid sometimes. They might know some thing or two.

[@TheGamer2554_]

How old were you that time?

[@suneethakalluri3965]

Thanks alot for these information. My son is just 15mths old. I vl surely take note of all these....

[@mommyjho2952]

When i was a kid my father was working very far and coming home every saturday bringing us chocolates and fruits that always made us happy and excited. But it stopped when he left us with another woman and left us very sad and broken. Now i just have a baby and i wanna make sure to give him all the love and care i didnt feel before 😀

[@lucialuciferion6720]

When my dad came home in the weekend I would have to retreat to my room. He lived abroad all week and was only home during weekends. It was bliss midweek with just my mom, but when he came home I knew the fun would end , that I would be scolded for simply being in the kitchen, that he wouldn't want us downstairs basically period.

[@malina7944]

I dont remember any good moments from my childhood. There were no hugs, no love and no talking, the only conversation was comparing me to my cousin or to ppl that were better than me or yelling. I was 24/7 under some kind of punishment. Rest of the time I was alone. Now I'm 20 and I'm dealing with so many mental disorders, ilnesses and phobias that I cant even count. I started my theraphy 2 years ago and I dont think I'll be done with it for another 30years at least. This video was hard to watch for me. But I hope some ppl may take a lot from it and be better parents. Childhood is the most important part of our lives, it impacts our future a lot.

[@chihu98]

Stay strong buddy! Im here for you

[@MelB868]

That is abuse and your parents should be in jail.

[@Free2B3]

Also try meditation that targets the unpleasant memories in your subconscious mind and the one that helped me A LOT thus recommending it to you is called the the ho'oponopono method ..search it on youtube many people who have tried EVERYTHING and for MANY YEARS said this was about the only thing that actually helped. Enjoy :)

[@abhishekchoudhary0493]

Thnx a lot.

[@abhishekchoudhary0493]

Same with me bro.

[@caselynng7497]

I remember being a little girl and wanting my dad to hug me. He never would, and On the rare occasions he did when I was much older, he purposefully pounded my back with his fist. It was so unenjoyable, and inauthentic. Never did my father show any respect or affection when I was a child and yes you take it with you into adulthood. My son gets as many hugs as he wants, and most of the time I need them more ❤️

[@jessieniu4524]

In my memory, my mom picked me up and hugged me once , only once, when I was 8 years old, after we hadn’t seen each other for 2 weeks. She let go after 5 seconds, I wish it was longer! I still remember that hug so well, feel like yesterday. Now I hug and kiss my daughter everyday! She is also 8.

[@Justalbi]

They did all the 11 mistakes to me. Am still wondering why 😭 It’s really sad and sometimes I get depressed about it. Now am a mother of 2 ,I love 💕 them more than anything.

[@savannahherrera8441]

No two children respond and learn the same you should know that by now also when you see your grown children and they have a family of Their Own independent reliable functioning human being Society can count on and they call text and visit every chance they get that is how you know you didn't ruin your kids.

[@austincooper1958]

Well go to their house and talk about your feeling

[@Justalbi]

Austin Cooper 😂😂am on my way!!!

[@mariannakrini]

@@austincooper1958 It's too late now. They didn't listen to you at that time. Why should they listen and understand you now? If they could, the would have already changed their attitude towards you upbringing

[@НатальяШумейко-о1я]

Thanks for this very correct video I fully agree with all statements and advice, but when my son was a child, I didn’t know about some of them unfortunately. I think that permanent communication between parents and kids is the most important thing in upbringing, so all parents have to find enough time for it. And I want to add my own advice: don’t not require your child to meet all your expectations and don’t compare her or him with other children. Each child has own characteristics!

[@LittleMissRollerCoaster]

The part on hugging hit me hard! I can't imagine my kid won't hug me in the future!

[@ramonaghetu9880]

Don’t worry, if they hug us when they are young, they will always come for a hug.

[@ishythekid6716]

I agree with this. My favorite 2 was, taking more pictures and albums and not allowing strangers or other people to scold your children. Even as a teacher, I ask students what would your parents say or think before going off the deep end.

[@DevashriMukherji09]

Shariffa Martinez you are a nice teacher. Most teachers ruin the lives of the kids and they are the real reasons why parents scold kids so much!

[@dirons81]

I wish these kinds of videos were available when I was younger, I feel like the relationship between my mom and I is tarnished , she's kinda harsh . Even my kids notice

[@learningclouds6943]

@Teela Tequila Yes

[@hardbodytraining100]

Protect your kids from foreign or domestic threats

[@hardbodytraining100]

@Teela Tequila dont let your mom be harsh to your kids.. domestic threats. Get it now

[@hardbodytraining100]

@Teela Tequila well im a parent of five kids. 4 girls and 1 boy. The girls are 21yr - 18yr - 6yr and 7months. My son is 4. I know that some family members overstep their boundaries.. so grandparents uncles whoever will get checked when it comes to mine. So i was just adding my 2cents to you. Harsh is a strong description so i went from there.

[@ajantachakraborty6167]

My parents always made me feel that I was incapable of taking any decision and made all decisions on my behalf. As an adult I now feel that if I had been more assertive and made my own decisions using my own thinking power my life would have been different and taken a better shape. But at that age I didn't have the courage or confidence to defy my parents' decisions and/or wishes

[@lucialuciferion6720]

Same same, 100% relate.

[@ftse07]

*Was rarely hugged.... now I hug my kids all the time....I need it more than them*

[@teamthoth]

32ways me too. Plus, I’ve always known the day will come where they won’t want hugs so got to get them in now!!

[@balenciagalifestyle2361]

How about limit screen time/electronics and actually spend quality time! Don’t yell stay calm and before you know it your child will be an adult! Love, nurture, guide, teach, and be a positive roll model!💗

[@lynnesaricks1080]

Thanks those words are encouraging for me. I have three kids, am a single mom and in school. Sometimes just putting those things in front of them seems easy but I guess not bc they are not gaining that educational time with me.

[@Gumball-em6xm]

Lynnesa Ricks or just don’t give kids electronics! That’s a great idea!

[@marek.kostanty6921]

@@Gumball-em6xm I hope your joking. You cannot cut off your kid from the world only bc in ur times it was better without it.

[@Gumball-em6xm]

Marek. Kostanty uh I was born in the 2000’s so I had electronics lol. And I’m talking about kids. 0-12. Maybe 10 and up you can have iPads to play on. But little kids don’t need electronics. They have toys and TV. Then when they have electronics have limits on them. My little cousins had iPads from they were 1 years old, and my aunt complains about how they don’t play with their toys and hangs out with family... maybe you shouldn’t give little kids electronics in the first place!

[@shaniyajulie]

The first one is so true I remember when I was in the 5th grade and my mom worked really hard I wanted her to come home to a Clean apartment so I cleaned everything and me being young i cleaned a picture of her and my lil brother and the picture starting running with ink and I didn’t understand why the picture was doing that. She got home and I got a horrible whooping for messing up the picture on accident and all I was trying do was make her happy

[@fentybeauty9928]

awww I'm sorry same happens to me

[@arianagallegos4090]

Ok that made me cry

[@rehammalek4306]

So sorry.

[@catherinew8461]

I feel you

[@marjoryrainey287]

Awe! That's sad!

[@hassanahamiduahmed166]

These are things I can relate to, even though I am only a child. As a young kid, I always heard, 'What do you know?' 'I'm your mother' 'I know what's best for you' and now a few years later, it's funny how my mom doesn't understand why I'm insecure, pessimistic and have EXTREMELY low self-esteem and confidence issues. And she wonders why I'm always making mistakes, and never wanting to talk to her. These make sense, thank u Bright side

[@Pezled]

My favorite childhood memory? LEAVING "HOME". and, yes, my parents broke all of these suggestions and more. I chose at an early age to be opposite of my mother - now I have great relationships with my children and their spouses and my grandchild. Happy Ending!!!

[@saferarmd3098]

Pezled , u did great, planning to do that soon

[@heavenlysadist]

Same i want to leave home for college and live that country, I'm not coming back until they are on their grave beds, besides it's easier for them how everything can affect their children and teens, you can't expect your children to be that "someone" when you just don't know how to emotionally nurture and grow with them. If that's how my family was, I'm not gonna take that back just for my family needs. I'm 15 and I can't wait to graduate soon for college in Japan. Guess i had to study enough for my Waseda University.

[@Cvcyxt]

I already want to leave

[@kimshlongpoon3995]

Some parents do not discipline their children and eventually the child will be scolded by someone other than a parent.

[@anthonythorp7291]

Parenting today has gone to the wayside.

[@jl.4563]

Agreed

[@sadafnauman7598]

True

[@mydear6788]

I know too many kids that need scolding because parents are idiots.

[@salmanemohammadi2723]

@@mydear6788 hahahaha true!!

[@anuradhatamang8250]

I will try it! Hope this will work.... I hope I will able to give good parenting to my brother

[@areej3570]

I'm going to try it with my sister😂

[@Dilakshi.Basnayake]

Same with me...I have to take care of my brother

[@cfort27]

Grew up with my mother a single parent and although she messed up a lot and we no longer talk. She always gave me a roof over my head and always gave me a hug. Sadly those things alone don't amount to much. She sadly never made me her friend instead just having me around was enough. At 30 I tried to rekindle the bond only to find out she is jealous of how I live now married with my wife, child have my own house and living in a new estate. Instead of being proud she just resorted to her condescending nature and changed the topics and focused on small talk as that's all she knew. I know my mother is the product of her life messing her up so I dont blame her, but I will certainly not expose myself to her toxic ways. Burning bridges is sometimes best however sad it may be.

[@freepalestine8701]

As a young mother who had hard time understanding her Mom... all I can say is that you will never understand what is like to be a parent until U become one . I can’t imagine what some parents go through because they don’t know any better . Parents are not perfect but they give up so much for their children . They hide their pain from us so we can smile. Plz forgive your parents if u can . And let’s be better parents for our children inshaa Allah. ♥️ “you are not who the world says u are , you are who u choose to be “ -unknown

[@anarup916]

So true

[@jadesmith7983]

This is a great statement!

[@lessismore8533]

Yes. To this day I’ll never understand my moms personality and why she does what she does. But I still love her anyway

[@Kat-pr7qc]

So toxic.

[@aladeyelulatifat5242]

Thank sis

[@TheRealGuywithoutaMustache]

Number 1-11 Literally all of this is my father unfortunately.

[@ethelcook3251]

Just Some Guy without a Mustache 😢

[@shulzcomps3788]

Just Some Guy without a Mustache I’m so sorry

[@shanubag6785]

Same to me 😢

[@-_-GLOSS]

How come.. that so sad but can you recall any moment of him smiling with you or doing something that he says for you're own good?

[@hjpalmer8]

I'm sorry😢

[@Wickedersombody]

I have 2 son's a 4 yr old and a 10 month old, I work a lot so when I come home I'm really tired from being out in the heat but thanks up this video I think I'm going to try harder and spend time with my oldest son

[@danielpoot7275]

Keep it up

[@d9gepro2]

It's actually saddening that i can't remember the best time with my parents, it's actually like your own parents left you, making you depressed

[@krishnarathore9807]

My mom does half of these. But still I love her😘

[@davidr3987]

Great to see you are better than 99% of commenters here, who just blame their parents, and demand everything, without trying to understand their parents are humans.

[@goosegooseismylanguage6582]

The older I get, the more hugs I want... 😂

[@duck.quack_hi4126]

XD

[@memerminecraft3226]

I know because when I was 5 I hated being hugged but now I’m 10 and I love being hugged.

[@mgs.1003]

the older i get the less hugs i want.

[@flordelizatagud6407]

When I was younger too, I don’t want hugs. Now, I want to get hugs every second( yes, I know it’s weird but it’s true.)

[@youresinningtoo3996]

The older I get the more hugs I want, the less people will hug me 😭 so now I don't want

[@Aeiouxz17]

This is sad. I don’t remember any good childhood memories.

[@helloautismiloveyou5991]

Mine are limited too😩 So, I make up for it with my children

[@dallaswilliams1002]

My best memories r when I would have the house to my self for a month at a time.

[@77DAdams]

"I'm an adult" "I make the decision s bc im an adult" IM SICK AND TIRED OF HEARING THAT

[@solomonstello]

Or "I'm the DAAAAADDDDDD"

[@electraenterprise2690]

Or, ' You're the younger one that doesn't know anything about the OUTSIDE WORLD!!' ' I had the experience.'

[@Turtle6897]

Mine is, because I said so

[@danielpoot7275]

@@electraenterprise2690 Someday you'll to tell yourself " Dad is right!"

[@kickapoo6651]

Grow up, have kids & see what u babies have to say.

[@duchi882]

*11 Parenting Mistakes That Ruin a Child's Growth:* 1. Fortnite

[@crystal-he2jo]

Lol

[@SomaliComedyChannelhanadali]

A need subscribe help .elme

[@ramnmar1774]

True lol

[@vanshjaipuria5805]

2. PUBG

[@ramnmar1774]

@PurpleRoseYT nah I play roblox it's fun !

[@aditimukherjee8420]

I guess I don't have any good childhood memories, all I remember is dad scolding, dad arguing, dad not listening to me, dad being a dictator, dad not loving enough. Thank you dad for nothing

[@ieshiaaa]

😔

[@MelB868]

John smith no one blames you

[@Network126]

My mom abused me psychologically. I didn't talk to her for over 5 years after I moved out. Then I heard she was dying of cancer.

[@gaild.tucker4690]

Sending you am hug...

[@gaild.tucker4690]

@John Smithy Forgive and take control of this area of your life. Call him tell him how you feel calmly... before someone dies. He will not be the person that you may want .He may listen or He may not. But do call and forgive. This way you take control. This is for you...to have peace. What ever he did or did not do or what he said.or whatever it was. Just forgive.. replace pain with peace and strength and let it go ! Pastor Joyce Mayer forgave her father for the unthinkable. You can do it! Be the better person...before someone dies..

[@priscillaanbazhagan9590]

I wish my parents see this and I want them to redo everything .. the things they say about bad parenting is all true.. I'm one such kid cos my childhood was very worse than anything.

[@dipalisonar5779]

I'm sorry 😞 for you

[@wynwin.]

Cheer up

[@duck.quack_hi4126]

What happend...?

[@danielpoot7275]

My Childhood isn't entirely bad, because I had cousins and friends that helped me forget I had a really messy family.

[@greenywantssub8367]

Same

[@nobodylikesyoutomioka-san7429]

My parents didn't give me their undivided attention but i guess i'm fine with it... Teaches me how to be independent and living without them I grow up not needing them They don't appreciate my talents and hardwork but i'm okay with that, because of their ignorance i learned how to live without love, i learned how to not get hurt when rejected, i learned how to get through the pain. I'm done crying, that was eight years ago, i've grown numb now so i don't care. But i will promise this to myself I'll make sure that i'll do the things they never make me feel in my childhood days to their future grand kids, i'll make sure they grow with love and happiness into their adulthood, i'll make sure they'll never turn out like me... A failure of a human being. I'll teach them things i learned and support them to the fullest, because what a child need is only their parents' love and affection.

[@heavenlysadist]

I feel the same way

[@TNZKN]

Exactly me

[@lalabeez]

Same

[@bedi09]

Road trips with family. Most important reason of our strong bond. Blessed.

[@DNYLNY]

My mom didn’t attend my graduation. And I was valedictorian :(

[@ohoratchogiwa7121]

That's very sad 😔

[@zoogyd]

This is horrible! I'm sorry

[@jenifierce6517]

Wow-I’m so so sorry! If it helps IM PROUD OF YOU 💁🏽‍♀️💜

[@senoritaartistica1999]

That is so sad.

[@TotallyYari.]

Congratulations on being valedictorian!!! Proud of you 💞

[@RayMak]

This is very important information

[@angelmusiclover1]

Ray Mak Hi, I saw your comments in a couple of Blackpink videos! Who is your bias? I’d love to know💗

[@gxpnik]

EVERYWHERE

[@micahwilson4445]

Bot

[@khalidnaji0011]

نعم

[@anshranjanverma7213]

69th liker😈

[@lillybomb9397]

I’m so blessed to find out my parents raised me just the right way

[@kay-wj3jx]

you’re lucky

[@xoli.8780]

Your really lucky. I'm seeing how it can affect you as an adult and doing better for my kids

[@lillybomb9397]

@@xoli.8780 I know you will do amazing as a parent to be and your children will be grateful for you ❤️

[@lillybomb9397]

@@kay-wj3jx being a parent is a hard job, especially being a parent for your first child when you have absolute zero experience, but i know you’ll be an awesome parent in the future ❤️

[@MorsHeller99]

*Being this lucky should be illegal*

[@princeofcharm]

My parents never teach me how to say "sorry" and "thanks". I rarely heard them saying those words.

[@kronercyisotp3403]

I don't get it... Whenever I accidentally broke one of my moms glasses I used to faint like 7 times out if fear before she came home😂😂😂

[@postagirl26]

😆

[@JesusLovesYou530]

😅😅

[@cavemanzam3369]

Wow you must have been a bad kid then

[@trinnocent8646]

Sad and funny, but more sad, cuz i experienced it and i understand you😫

[@pi2053]

😄

[@AmbyJeans]

#1 scold children too often 0:23 #2 missed out on important moments in child's life 1:10 #3 didn't play enough creative games 1:56 #4 didn't take enough photos or videos of childhood 2:40 #5 they didn't take their child's opinion into account 3:22 #6 they didn't enjoy communicating with their child 4:18 #7 they didn't educate them about money 5:00 #8 they didn't make their child happy enough 5:50 #9 they didn't hug their children often enough 6:36 #10 they weren't consistent 7:20 #11 they often followed someone else's advice 8:12 In conclusion: no matter what you do as a parent, you are wrong

[@fentybeauty9928]

@Niharika Guleria water if she's only seven -^-

[@hutao7994]

my father doesn't come to my graduation even tho im the top 1 😞 my grandma is always with me

[@YCbrawlstars]

Those dislikes are probably from parents who did all those in the video LOL

[@sebastianstan9655]

Brawl Stars Player?

[@YCbrawlstars]

@@sebastianstan9655 yes but my 9k tro acc got banned so i Quited

[@sebastianstan9655]

@@YCbrawlstars why did it got banned?

[@YCbrawlstars]

@@sebastianstan9655 cause my friend quited brawl stars and he gave me the acc than after that idk how supercell know and they ban me

[@griffinlopez5957]

Lol

[@_Junior_Jesus_]

this made me cry and changing my life slowly now. i want everyone to share this video itll make the world a better place.

[@Diva_style]

🌹🌹🌹

[@chistiazahan5963]

My happiest childhood memory is my mum huged me & cried because i'd got a junior scholarship..

[@teeheee888]

you got what?

[@tannyaguaman1297]

My favorite memory was when my family lived together.

[@50M30N3]

Awwww that’s so sad! I’m so sorry for you

[@gangotri4793]

Even when my family lived together, it’s only pain. For now I just want peace.

[@dexie6299]

Ouch...

[@uopeson1259]

Mu favorite memomiry will be when I grow up and move out and never talk to my family again

[@jenifierce6517]

😢💜

[@fr4nc15gaming3]

My parents do all of that sometimes i feel they aren’t my parents anymore…🥺 sometimes i feel they’re just stranger in the house

[@stellabella0984]

Mine do the same and don't trust me to do anything. My mom has the password to everything. Snapchat, Instagram, my phone, email, etc.

[@stellabella0984]

@G Rose Thanks! It's hard when I'm still only 15 though :(

[@jeresa7968]

That’s so sad

[@dianebrady6784]

@@stellabella0984 At your age....she needs to have that this information. You may think your grown up but you are not. If you want to throw out how grown you are then don't use words. Use actions. Get a job and your own way to work. Save up money to get your OWN place and pay all your own bills. Then change ALL the passwords and codes.

[@anujkumarbaraik6475]

I m 18 I don't even have a mobile. Though it's not about gadgets. I am beaten up every day.. and have to work from 4:00 am to 12:00 pm. I feel rediculous. Ok that's life, probably I have to be happy

[@elianasmith6330]

I always wait for your videos as they are so informative and effective. Thank you for always sharing the correct information. Keep posting.

[@broccoligang5456]

Well my parents broke almost all of ur rules sooo no happy memories R.I.P. MY HOPES AND DREAMS

[@freeflyingangel1321]

But don't stop to dream

[@ChannelYeh]

Don't give up hopes and dreams buddy💐

[@elizabethwahyuni9364]

But you can learn from your parents' mistake...and you will be a better one for your (future) children

[@sabitrigiri1007]

He’s saying it in. A comedic way

[@hylinedistributionchannel7695]

My happiest children's moment is when my father tie my hair. Only that. I want he tie my hair again

[@titamartinez162]

My happiest children moment was when my dad would pick me up in elementary school since my mom picked me up everyday, once in a blue moon my dad would pick me up. That meant the world to me.

[@aboudijawhari1432]

Ask him for grammar lessons next time. I think its better

[@morocco.insider]

@@aboudijawhari1432 it's*

[@B.Mega.D]

Me too Dhevito...I was about 6 and we were alone over the weekend so he had to do everything. I could've combed my own hair by then but i was still small and he made a perfect 1and a half foot long braid for me! I sat so still, and smiling the whole time. I love my dad...even though i realized that he is also very flawed....so are we all...that is one of my fave memories.

[@brianmarquez3279]

Batmaner Bruh...you should too it's means it is so you want his sentence to be "Ask him for grammar lessons next time. I think IT IS better

[@Marc-wz5pv]

The number 1 is accurate 😈 Also the reason I can't even greet my parents Happy mothers day or fathers day.

[@Antique803]

Without your parents, you would have never been. Get over it whiner.

[@rakeshiyer5637]

@sunsettvu Better be not born than being born to toxic parents

[@gatecrasher0380]

@@rakeshiyer5637 can you prove that? They can always give the kid to a good home.

[@Marc-wz5pv]

@@Antique803 well I wish i wasnt born

[@rakeshiyer5637]

chris cardwell thats your belief. You obviously havent been in my shoes. Had u been, you'd have realised what I said above is true. There is no need to show any proof.

[@shawnam3581]

I'm realizing now as an adult with my own child, that my parents did all these things to us, and still do. It makes more sense as to why I am the way I am... it's actually quite scary. I want so much more for my baby, and I'm going to try my best every day

[@dannmarii7110]

I don’t have any childhood memories with my parents 😂

[@rodrozil6544]

U r not alone

[@abuhannimaryang1035]

ME TOO

[@roseyep3968]

Same

[@THEF1GUY]

F in da chat

[@Aafreen9753]

@@THEF1GUYvc

[@adaschannel2350]

Soo lucky to have the mom tha I have , she’s the best mom , couldn’t say the same for my father tho, that hurts.

[@randomlyboring8358]

May she live long and healthy, I'm sure ur dad loves you

[@guineapiglover1702]

my dad loves me but.. he doesnt really love my mom so they broke up. i love who my mom loves (mostly not everyone)

[@emmalayla8373]

@@guineapiglover1702 OMG you are so loyal to your mom. Kudos to you. I wish my son can say that one day. I am doing so much for him, I hope one day he will realise that.

[@guineapiglover1702]

@@emmalayla8373 thanks emma, im sure he is and he _will_ realise it someday . and he loves you for what youve given him when he might not have realized it yet. :D

[@emmalayla8373]

@@guineapiglover1702 Thank you so much. I hope so. He is still very young. He is 9 years old. Take care of yourself and your mum. 💕

[@asisinmama6275]

A lot of ungrateful kids in this comment section A kind reminder pls! Whatever your parents does to you pls forgive them, it is not easy to be a parent, some of them are raised the way they are raising us, we can never repay them for being our parent. I so much love and respect them for bringing me in to this world. Pray for them. Whatever happen nobody loves you more than them!

[@nkwb88]

I can forgive them, but I’ll never be able to have a relationship with them.

[@meimei9532]

Finally someone who thinks Exactly like me.....

[@whapakkouch2132]

I get you, that's why I'll never have kids, I might make the same mistakes. A human being is a big responsibility.

[@cowardlycrow]

We all have our own opinion. Forgiving is easy but creating the bond isn't as easy. Don't simply judge everyone here just because they tell what they've experienced before. That may be their way of coping.

[@rcgawayon]

True. Our parents also have their own unresolved trauma :)))

[@alexandratan1727]

this is so true, I've been insecure my whole childhood because of wrong parenting,... even thought me to lie.

[@RedneckJimAdventures]

I think my folks did a great job, they were never around and I raised myself. Lived out in the sticks on about 100 acres with 60 or so of that heavily wooded. My old man drove truck and was never home and my mom worked full time. I can't remember a time in my childhood when I didn't wake myself up, get myself ready, cook my meals, etc. They got me a German Shepherd though, later in life my old man said the dog was to keep me safe from coyotes and bobcats since I never stayed out of the woods like I was told. Good times, really good times. I miss my dog rooster though, he died when I was 15 we did everything together.

[@vicsy426]

Finally, someone who did not whined about their childhood.

[@mohsinsangha1729]

@@vicsy426 lol. Yes he is being sarcastic.

[@jannetteramirez8873]

I've been a parent for 3 years and according to this video, I'm doing a pretty good job I think haha. One thing I liked best on this video was doing activities together. I have 3 paintings my daughter has painted. One for each year. They're so messy but each has a fun memory. Like one of them has a big smear on it cuz the painting fell on her face when she tried bringing me her masterpiece 😅😂

[@savannahherrera8441]

I've been a parent for 13 years and let me tell you a little something just because you do or don't do the things on this video the way it states does not mean that you are a bad parent or "ruining" your kid/s no two children learn and respond the same. For example we get after and scold our eldest child constantly it seems and we hardly ever get after our second child however we have a great relationship and bond with the both of them and they were both wonderful kids! Ps. That was 2 kids out of 6kids.

[@jannetteramirez8873]

@@savannahherrera8441 right. that's why I said "according to this video" 🙂

[@travisjones5576]

I think the video is trying to get parents to do basic activities with the kids to prepare them for adult when they can come to you more often for advice or just have something routine for guidance. Kids are different and learn and experience things differently mostly by what they seen or heard from other people outside of family.

[@joyireneireri4528]

Very very heart warming

[@achiever9560]

Jannette Ramirez this sounds cute😂 and that "Masterpiece" part hahahaha😂😂😂

[@saloni379]

#4, #5, #8, #9, #11 Also, its important to have bigger age gap between two child, so, elder child doesn't feel neglected Edit : my parents are best, i hates if someone other than my parents acts as if I'm their daughter

[@marnatchi]

Same nickname

[@BRIGHTSIDEOFFICIAL]

sam sam do u have siblings?

[@marnatchi]

But ur right

[@angelique707]

Can’t help it with twins though. I do my best, but my mom plays favorites. I try not to have her around too long since one of my boys always ends up sad when she’s around. I was her only child. I never knew she’d be like this.

[@dwnkaomwn3953]

I have a older brother who little over 9 3/4 apart from one another. Does that count?

[@RegularInvader]

I recall my earliest childhood memories consisted of both my parents going to work while my maternal grandmother was the babysitter all day. It often made me feel left out because my classmates always had their mom or dad take them to school and pick them up while my grandmother was the only one available. There were also moments where my grandma ended up bringing along my cousins to my house because my aunts and uncles couldn't get a babysitter on their own time and asked her last minute to watch them. It was one thing for my parents to not be home due to work, but it was so annoying how those moments made my house feel like a play area because my grandmother pretty much allowed them to do whatever they wanted just so she could keep up with housework. My parents always paid her to do so but never my aunts and uncles.

[@loj2307]

One thing : love your baby !!! Loving your baby will help you to do everything was the best for him !!!