8 MAJOR Green Flags in a Man. (w/ deeper analysis)

[@farhansheikhahmad]

Target Audience: 👩 Actual Audience: 👨

[@dorjjodvobatkhuu6457]

Facts

[@ibereprof]

Good, these are men who want to learn how to be a good man to women.

[@klake12]

Hell yeah my dudes, keep it up!

[@socialdiving2305]

Aim: audience

[@ShadowZidan]

battle battle battleee

[@jamsawamsa]

1. Has firm boundaries n respect boundaries of others 2. Has attention to detail 3. Disciplined over emotions 4. Has good manners n basic etiquette 5. Consistent with words n actions 6. Grows n learns from experiences n relationships 7. Supports (with actions) yr dreams 8. Brings a feeling of safety

[@mephesh]

we dont do boundaries anymore, they can be a red flag

[@waykee3]

@@mepheshBoundaries are as good as not being in a relationship. Boundaries are only needed for “toxic” people to begin with. If both people are truly healthy, boundaries are not really needed per se.

[@mephesh]

@@waykee3 yeah, I agree. Its about having a healthy relationship.

[@waykee3]

@@mephesh Yeah. It’s a natural by-product instead of something that has to be strictly enforced.

[@elignore3307]

@@mephesh feels like boundaries with other ppl of opposite sex is more of a thing to be focused on now lol

[@mattxgill]

As a dude, thank you for posting this. It’s refreshing seeing someone post something positive vs negative!

[@greenteasister]

you're welcome!

[@Sayakvids]

watching this as a man for greenflagmaxxing

[@SuperRandoms.]

Fr man

[@DaadirHusseinRoorow]

​@@SuperRandoms.We're both GD players, what does that mean?

[@SatanIsBackBaby]

​@@DaadirHusseinRoorowthat u need kiss

[@briskyfrisky1737]

As a man, thank you for posting this video. I can finally strive to be the partner that a woman wants.

[@greenteasister]

absolutely!

[@arshie26]

I clicked on this because it was so positive. I always see "Red Flags", rare to see "Green Flags". Thank you!!!

[@greenteasister]

you're welcome!

[@JennaHasm]

​​​@@greenteasister You can have whatever parameters you need to determine what you look for and need in a man. I need to warn you that men have a different set of mental shortcuts in which mating box they will put you in. It becomes even more aparent on the extremes of the IQ and socio-economic sides of the bell course. Men, in general, look for women that do not ask for anything of them (including common sense things, or god forbid malnutrition pregnancy cravings like dirt), but still want to playpreted that they are contributing and that they are needed (like cheap tippers). Their behaviour is deeply baked in their biology and you WILL see it during hard financial/stressul times. He will want to force himself MORE and blame you if you don't. You are fighting millenias of sexual (maladaptive) selection. The man you are looking for is either a cheap (non provider, non-paternal) or is already fleeced by some supernormal-stimuli (top 1% onlyfans creator, or romance scam catfish). Most men are like the 420jon69 youtuber (he ethically is asian like you) - completely devoid of any paternal thought or instinct. They just use different justifications conjured up by the left brain interpreter. There is another asian guy youtuber, Jerry Liu, that explicitly talked about the fact that asian/chinese men value "neonatious facial features and beauty" completely ignoring any sense of common values, goals or interests. And he was dead serious, not trolling or joking.

[@darcking99]

I love it. It brings tears to my eyes to know that there are woman in this world that actually think like this

[@calebmclarnon6211]

Woman say what you want to hear lol. In reality, they'd swipe left on a man like this.

[@ronaldjrlarracas4243]

To the single men who think, "well I'm exactly what she's describing. Why am I still single?" The prerequisite for being given a chance to show your green flags is you have to look decent (not too fat, some muscle, wears clean clothes that fit well, good hygiene, etc) and you have to be visibly competent in any certain field. Otherwise, even if you fit the bill, no woman will even give you a 2nd glance.

[@danieldancer4065]

got those and still single. just short

[@StoicMiles]

I really appreciate a video like this. It’s not so heavy with expectation or filled with jaded emotion. I’ve had a few hero’s journey moments in my life and I’ve spent a lot of time molding myself into a good man. I haven’t found my person yet but I believe that even with all of this healing the wrong people won’t truly see you. Staying hopeful that the right person/people will see me. Also I hope for anyone reading this that you heal enough to see and be seen by the right people 😊

[@Tim666-o5n]

Keep at it and enjoy the process! As long as she is "good enough" and you 2 vibe, i would go for it. There is no perfect partner and every relationship is constant work. You either work against your loneliness as a single or work for your partner when in a relationship.

[@rozz645]

I love this. Finally! Something that isn't about: 1) A guy should pay for meals 2) A guy should be tall 3) A guy should be funny This video does everything right 😁

[@kakao6125]

words doesn't mean anything, it's the act toward something that matters. There's a reason why halo effect is a true phenomenon

[@andre-ur6lf]

Nothing could be truer than this.

[@Nuurix]

Good video! I really liked the sentence: "Learn what good and healthy relationships look like, so that when healthy relationships comes around you are ready to receive it". This one is the most important advice, because most men and women can't even receive a healthy relationship even if it was given to them by fate. It takes two emotional mature adults to create 1 healthy relationship. You can have the most green flags in your partner, if you are the red flag, it will still end up in a toxic relationship down the line.

[@greenteasister]

Yes - being able to identify is one thing, but we have to be healthy (not perfect) individuals ourselves to maintain a good relationship.

[@wubbalubbadubdub6489]

Thanks for this. The world of social media and KZbin about negative things is starting to get annoying.

[@KR-ou2qo]

A very important one is: He accepts feedback

[@UseTheSupeRsonic]

Goes both ways. I’ve NEVER heard a woman apologize or accept feedback gracefully.

[@greenteasister]

100%

[@Mridul-mp3xl]

Don't even expect it. You will even have to sugarcoat and refine the whole feedback to girls. ​@@UseTheSupeRsonic

[@Mridul-mp3xl]

​@@UseTheSupeRsonicdon't even expect it. You will even have to sugarcoat things so much for them.

[@cyrool9447]

Exactly. I feel like the talk about what to look for in a man from womens' perspective is always self-evidently accepted, but rarely do I see women question, if they are even worth that man and try to improve themselves like lots of men do now in the self-improvement community. They usually just want stuff, but have nothing to be wanted about them, except beauty. Not meaning to generalize of course.

[@domovoi_0]

Great stuff sister. Love and blessings!

[@thunderrunner666]

Guy here and these flags are indeed very important to cultivate in oneself. thank you so matcha 🍵

[@greenteasister]

😂

[@anak_kucing101]

I feel I lack self-control and the respect of boundaries.

[@greenteasister]

self awareness is the first step to everything!

[@goodfella1605]

Notice how women rarely watch content like this. (not all) But a lot of young women would rather stay on tik tok where some OF attention seeker is telling them they are always they prize and don't need to change anything for anyone

[@n.k.92]

Cheers to you! Finally someone with some positive vibes, coming through all that negative red flag crap, we see all day on youtube. This is really refreshing. Much Love 🙏

[@greenteasister]

thanks for your kind words.

[@daleodorito]

I love how all of this just summs up to: he is not an asshole. He just genuinely cares about you, want to spend time with you and make you feel nice. And he is just chill, tranquil and considerate. I feel this is just like bare minimum. You also need the looks.

[@notconnected3815]

Sound's like a nice guy 😉

[@dorjjodvobatkhuu6457]

​@@notconnected3815did you even watch the video? Literally the first point she brings is one thing that nice guys mostly don't have or do

[@notconnected3815]

@@dorjjodvobatkhuu6457 Yes, but ... The Thing is, even if a man has boundaries and at the same time is polite, he will still be seen as one of those "nice guys". Because people judge too fast. So my last comment was a bit sarcastic ...

[@user67999]

​@@notconnected3815Nice guys don't have the first and last one.

[@txdang2009]

yet, alot of them still go for the assholes

[@kurochan04]

The girl that I'm dating right now had a traumatic past relationship where the guy has gone cold slowly over time and broke up with her after 3 years of solid relationship. She's having bouts of crying out of nowhere before we met. I only got to know this because of her social media posts. But when we met, she told me that she has no intention of going back to her ex or entertain any other guys. She told me that I am the only one she's dating right now. However, her posts of her being sad and broken are still going on. Sometimes some are hidden to me, I know this because I have a friend that can see those posts. My point is this girl is still in the process of moving on and healing. She doesn't want me to know about her breakdowns and will only put her best face whenever we are together. I have no idea what's going on with her when we are apart. But she told me that she is trying her best to fix herself and that I have nothing to worry about. Any normal guy would be worried or even just ghost her. In my case, it could have been worse because I initially have "anxious attachment style" in which my behavior revolves entirely on my girl. If I was younger, this kind of scenario would be unacceptable because my heart can't take the stress of always thinking that she might go back to her ex anytime. It's painful and I would do everything to break our boundaries just to make my feelings validated. But now at my current self, not gonna lie, I still feel worried and doubts, but these things no longer manifest outside my thoughts. I just told her that I 100% completely trust her and she affirmed me many times already that she is not wasting my time, and she don't want anybody else. I agreed to it and never talked about that issue again even though she's still going on with her broken posts. I made it clear to myself that I will not cross her boundaries that tries to move on. We are still going on with weekly dates and texts each other every day and it remained consistent so far. For other guys out there what are your thoughts? For Greentea sister, hopefully you see my comment and let me know your thoughts as well. I'm subscribing. Thank you in advance.

[@ujju7858]

The same thing has happened to me. One day she went on a trip with her ex and then I never turned back. Now as she is my ex tried to contact me many times. But she is blocked for ever. On top of that the horrible thing was the she used to compare me with her ex. Very loud and disrespectful behaviour. Bloody red flags

[@Spacemonkeymojo]

If she hasn't healed completely she shouldn't be seeing other guys. I dated a girl for four years, she ended it and I'm not ready to date anyone. It's unfair on the new person.

[@Wayer_Chrest]

Just take your time and you'll see

[@greenteasister]

Hi, from what you shared, it doesn't sound like she's fully healed or moved on from her last relationship. Knowing what you know about her posts, I think you can communicate how that makes you feel with her more directly and see how she responds. Ultimately I believe the ball is in your court whether you want to continue the relationship or not. Hope this helps.

[@cutekaraoke8]

She’s not yours, it’s just your turn I can see BU soon😈

[@LiveToFly-Br]

Good video in general. As a 56 YO man, I would say to you ladies to keep a very close eye on how he interacts with his family and, in special, with his own mother. The way he respects and loves his mother is BY FAR the best indicator of how he will treat you. (Same goes for girls and their relation to their fathers). (Note: Of course there are exceptions, but as a general rule, it works). Another point to look at is how he relates with money. How he manages his money, even if he is a 16 YO boy, that gets 100 US a week in a part time job. The way he sees and manages money since very young age is a great predictor of how he will take care of the family as far as providing goes. On the other hand, I believe that "good manners" and "good etiquette" we can learned. And by the way, if you start to get busy with small details, you will likely miss the most important green (and red) flags. Unless, of course, you are expecting the "perfect" super man. If this is the case I bet you will end up your days living alone with three cats and a Labrador. Also, PLEASE, by all means, do not expect a 25 or 30 YO man to be "mature" as the video [at least] appears to propose/expect. You will not find this level of maturity at this young age, except for the guys out there posing to be "mature" and "perfect" as a means to take you to bed as soon as possible. Also, do not expect a man to be the solution for your own insecurities and traumas from past relationships, etc. For this, instead of a boyfriend, get professional help. Put yourself together before embarking in a new relationship.

[@greenteasister]

hi, thanks for the comment. Agree with the last point on taking responsibilities for our own emotions. Nobody else can do that work for you, though a good partner can help you work through those issues.

[@Tim666-o5n]

You, my man, just gave the best and most succint advice to this topic i have heared to date. Thank you so much.

[@DaadirHusseinRoorow]

I'm watching this as a man, I have everything but I need to be able to provide for myself and my soulmate by getting money and an education. I'm still developing and I hope I will succeed and bless my woman with everything you've mentioned ❤️

[@greenteasister]

keep building and you'll be fine!

[@andre-ur6lf]

i never think of point number 1-3 thoroughly. Now I have something to improve myself to be a better guy.

[@dk13462]

I like the explanations behind the flags. They help me to remember situations close to a flag, validate they are close and check the flag color. And I like the red color if I see it. It marks my pieces to pay attention to, to analyze. So, the whole video helps to reflect myself very carefuly, thanks!

[@alananthony7053]

I think the real worry is not whether he's a keeper, but whether YOU'RE capable of being faithful for more than 5 minutes..

[@jasmines.6325]

Mwn cheat more than women

[@Zioni21]

Nice projection there bud. Got cheated on? AWWWWWW 😢😢😢😢😂😂😂

[@SuperRandoms.]

Underrated taking notes rn tysm💀

[@SL3DApps]

You described a guy that will create zero passion in a woman because they associate bad/spicy behavior with lust

[@Waldemar_la_Tendresse]

It's refreshing to hear a completely different tone on KZbin. And even though I won't watch the video to the end right now, here's a note in advance: Keeping emotions under control, yes sure, but only up to a certain point. Once someone reaches a certain, high limit, of negativity a fist helps to save a lot of time. The better alternative is to separate yourself from such people completely, but that is not always possible. And some people literally cry out for a beating, usually when they haven't yet processed something themselves.

[@oonojoe]

Very Positive. Excellent Video. Green flag # 7 is the exact opposite that I've ever encountered in 30 years .

[@jakedasilva6847]

I’m a dude trying to grow , these are great 👍

[@greenteasister]

Thank u, love that you are trying to grow!

[@jakedasilva6847]

@@greenteasister Finding your videos especially this one in fact came at a very opportune time, God bless you

[@chelseafcfanisy]

Its a good thing to look out for. Thank you! 😊

[@KeenanWilliams777]

Thank you, my gaslighting will be on another level

[@theshowupguy]

I enjoy videos of this kind a lot. Thanks for the tips.

[@greenteasister]

Welcome! :)

[@joechang1958]

Very agree on flag 6, it is like a life experience, and in facts, it goes for both men and women. If both sides have a very imbalance life experience, that relationship can be chaotic. Life experience can allow us to see things in both sides, to be more empathetic and less impulsive etc.

[@Kaapalkeens]

Thank you for such a wonderful video, really a good guide on what to work on as a man!

[@greenteasister]

U got this!

[@holo2869]

"Intuition" and ego doesn't mesh well. There are delusional women who falsely identify fear of the unknown as intuition. When in reality they're just afraid to explore and they just made up a conclusion about a person without even knowing the person despite you giving your all to them.

[@cookie12932]

Sometimes, people don't recognize green flags even when they're right in front of them.

[@RichQ6666]

The last part is really spot on about intuition. I recommend the book "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker. I want all my friends to read that book, whom I want to be safe.

[@pat3147]

@greenteasister Thanks. Very refreshing to see a list of qualities people *should* be looking for in a partner. More constructive than the typical red flag list, and a much more positive message. Guys: take note. If you don't meet these, you probably have some work to do on yourself. Ladies: Don't forget, guys are evaluating you on pretty much these same green flags.

[@greenteasister]

you're welcome! yes,the green flags go both ways, but what women look for are different from what men look for.

[@olliepopAMV]

These are actually all very nuanced

[@alwayspete]

Thank you for sharing your very valid insights! Your English is really good! Pete ;")

[@xTotenkreuz]

The internet's been so rife with misandry lately it's nice to see something like this for a change. Noticed I tend to cut people off sometimes after this vid, but it's not from a place of disrespect, I just want to get the idea or thought out before I forget it

[@StevenThomas-mz8lb]

After living with both successes and failures for businesses and relationships, I’ve discovered more about myself and all the things I don’t like, and want to avoid and it’s given me a path to follow for my future thats better every day. Being 100% healed is the proper way to enter a new relationship. Don’t think a new relationship will fix problems from the past, if your not healed properly. Hope this helps.🙏❤️🙌

[@greenteasister]

Yes, we are all responsible for our own inner work. A partner is a bonus to our lives, not the solution :)

[@durandus676]

2:27 yeah like it’s crazy, it’s so bad I want to know how many stop lights she has on her drive to work or what roads she has to cross when she bikes to work. Or how many of her students stay after to ask her questions. Or how many times she was annoyed by a fly buzzing that day. Literally anything, I managed to get the more important info and burned it into my memory so now I’m just eager for anything lol

[@nobuna2114]

I love how when I showed this to my friends (male and female) they say I have all these green flags, yet no woman or man (I'm bi) wants to be with me. I only had two relationships not lasting more than 2 years (one cheated on me after just 5 months and the other left me after 2 years because I am boring). I am not super attractive or rich but I just don't get what I am doing wrong and I want to understand so I can be a better partner but every time I was just told: "It's not you, it's me"

[@tohmano5855]

They might be right. It might have been them.

[@KenlieroGames]

Good video. Very good points. I hope it makes men think about their own behavior and try to be better partners :)

[@greenteasister]

thank you!

[@mephesh]

The real 8 green flags, 1) be 6 foot tall 2) be 6 foot tall 3) be 6 foot tall 4) be 6 foot tall 5) be 6 foot tall 7) be 6 foot tall 8) be 6 foot tall

[@bithon5242]

Im 6’5 and I know Rust and C++ soooo yeah

[@Anthony_in_Bloomington_Indiana]

. I am 6 feet and 2 inches tall. Plus I lift iron. I am modestly muscular, not super muscular. 🏋️‍♂️ Honestly, the only woman who loved me being so tall was Janice, from The Philippines. I love petite women, and she was just 5 feet and 2 inches tall, and 103 pounds. American women never made a fuss about my height. 😕 .

[@slavikrybka]

You're wrong. 2) be rich 3) give her money 4) never ask about that "peter" in her Instagram or messenger 5) argee with her no matter if she is wrong 6) be good boy 7) be bad boy 8) prioritize her over everything other including your relatives who see her true nature and are getting out of their skin in attempt to save you

[@arterisdewberry9467]

Can you please stop with the 6 feet tall rich man with a six pack? That's not funny.

[@mephesh]

@@bithon5242 grats on the rust and c++, if I had to choose, c++ every time

[@Bael536]

I don't like the intuition part, but I think it goes both ways. If a girl says she wants to break up because her intuition is telling her that the man isn't good, then yeah, I agree-the man should break up with her. She could be on her period or have an unhealthy diet affecting her mind, but she decides to use a baseless claim to affect her judgment, lets emotions take control, and says it. That’s a sign of immaturity, which is a red flag.

[@EfraimNkengurutse]

12:45 you cant always trust yourself when it comes to a partner sometimes love does blind you. that's why you need to introduce your partner to your friends/family(those who love you and will tell you the truth) quickly because they might see something you dont see. listen to their opinions, and their arguments and see if they are relevant (they are not always).

[@greenteasister]

Great point!

[@superchill45]

the man always has to win

[@夜桜_神鎗]

Might not sit well with some but I honestly feel some points should be taken as a guide but not definitive. What I very much agree with is point 8. If you know how you feel around this person or how this person makes you feel, it will give you a better idea on how to deal with the other red flags. By deal with I mean to attempt communicating across these points to try work things out, to decide if its something you could live with or is a deal breaker for you. The supporting of dreams is one I would say is better of as a reference because the reality is, while many would want to support their partner's dreams sometimes these dreams could have consequences for the relationship. I'm not saying to shut it down but to really talk it thru, discuss the what ifs and be very honest with each other. Most important thing at the end of the day is how you feel - if you both feel that you want to be around each other then naturally you will find a way. If one partner has misgivings or doesnt feel as strongly, its down to the other partner to think about how much you wanna fight for it. Its not always sunny but the reverse is true too, it not always raining either. Just gotta weather it out.

[@SinergiasHolisticas]

Only..Love..Remains..After..All.

[@goodfella1605]

One thing that I don't like about this video is that you don't mention that women shouldn't disqualify a man because of a red flag. Rather she should view them as a problem that needs to be solved! The biggest green/red flags show up past the infatuation phase of a relationship, when you both see each other as flawed humans and try to be better for each other. A men's and a women's ability to accept criticism, navigate problems together, inspire positive change and alter oneself to be a better human; Keywords(Understanding and Adaptability) Those things are way more important! If you try to fit every human you meat under a list of perfect standards you'll be lonely and inexperienced for way too long.

[@huguesfereau1011]

❤ except the last one because it’s not about the guy but the lady. Some ladies never feel safe because of past trauma. The guy can be the sweetest guy in the world, it wont be enough 🤷‍♀️

[@falaksingh7699]

Every girl will friend zone this guy

[@viniciusbrunialti8863]

Cool! It must work the other way around as well i suppose

[@Guts6664]

Taking notes 📝

[@fox1actual]

This will only work with mature women which are too small of a group. For most women, this will get you directly to the friendzone. Understand what kind of woman you’re dealing with.

[@Invisibility397]

Well Stop choosing Psychological Traumatic Experiences over Stability and Healing Positivity. Boreing Right? And Mental Health Afflictions and Brain Damages similar to Blunt Force Trauma are the rewards of excitement and thrill. Freewill = Zero Excuses

[@Hon_cb1kr]

Good to the see some positivity in the world. Nice 👍

[@tonyv.1058]

Thank you for the tips, especially the boundaries thing, I’ve been tryna text this girl for a while, and she study’s abroad, hopefully when she comes by for the holidays, I can try to apply the tips you gave thx.

[@greenteasister]

you're welcome and best of luck!

[@ramendaisuki205]

5:30 But he was alrdeady out of the door... 😂unfortunate clip timing hahaha, great video regardless tho!

[@greenteasister]

good eye haha. that was the only clip I could find!

[@notconnected3815]

Why women do NOT want to have a good man: They are scared of falling in love, because they are scared of getting heartbroken. And they are subconscious convinced, that it will go wrong anyway, that there is something wrong with normal relationships, that they are not worthy of being happy. So they choose a partner who will hurt them. That's obviously not good , but it meets their subconscious expectations. It "feels right" for them. The solution here would be therapy.

[@user67999]

This happens with insacure and low self steem women, If a woman has high self steem It Will want someone like that.

[@notconnected3815]

@@user67999 Yes, you are right 🙂 So what i want to say is, that everybody already knows what makes a good partner. This video provides no new information. There are thousands of vids like this. She should make a video on how to be in peace with ourselves, so that we can love others.

[@arterisdewberry9467]

Thanks for giving us men who we are! Also i think you're beautiful.

[@greenteasister]

@@arterisdewberry9467 thank you! 🙏

[@arterisdewberry9467]

@@greenteasister You're welcome

[@kjwong4730]

Real green flags: 1 be rich 2 be good looking 3 be rich 4 repeat the above 3

[@Lakshmekanth]

Ok, so iam a green flag 🟢 , never knew this, thanks 😂😂😂

[@enkayar718]

Wurd wurd wurd wurd WURD. What's great about your video is these aren't things people (men and women) can easily "perform". These are all character-based. The best way to avoid red flag people and relationships is to focus on character (behavior).

[@greenteasister]

100%

[@battleshipyamato8505]

don't mind me i'm just taking notes

[@huha123]

I am surprised, I actually got 1 green flag. No wonder she hates me. Just waiting for the moment to be told to disappear, I have most of my stuff packed in the bottom of a closet. I can be packed and gone in less than an hour.

[@DrChekhov]

Green tea flags ❣

[@greenteasister]

😂😂

[@Vengeful_Goan_spirit]

Good luck trying to find a man with such high expectations

[@wechosenfew7622]

Which one can you not do?

[@robotjesus555666]

I do! But i also have self control, i get super frustrated some times, but i control that because i dont know what others are dealing with. I also know when to reflect and change accordingly, to actually look inside and understand who i am and why i feel the things i do. I create my own path, without thinking about how it might look to others. I do things, not to post about it online or to impress anyone, but because I like doing those things. Now i have these standards because i truely love myself, and all the things that made me who i am today. I forgive my past self for being so wrong, and i know how to forgive those around me. I have peace, and i won't let anyone take that away from me. I will take responsibility for my own actions, so now if you cant walk the walk but can talk the talk?? I wont want anything to do with that, however i can understand it, and i will ALWAYS still show respect, forgiveness, and civility. Not because i like them, but because... how else will others be able to grow??

[@DaionCook]

I definitely have to work on my boundaries I tend to let too much go since I'm always keeping an eye on my emotions, I've let my cool go a couple times in the past in arguments I didn't want to be apart of I never want to run away from an argument so maybe asking for space when I'm getting hot may be good I just don't want to resent my partner so I just tell her I'm not going to argue if it's getting nasty. I definitely never want that to lose my cool so going to work on my respecting my boundaries more and setting healthy boundaries. I'm not sure if I'm too passive after alot of past experiences but I'm going to try to be better

[@greenteasister]

Hi, love that you are trying to change. One thing that helps is to see boundaries as something that will help your relationship rather than hurt the relationship. I recommend a book called "Boundaries" by Henry Cloud. It goes deeper and gives you practical guidance on how to set them.

[@RomashkoYa]

Guys, men, share your stories of when you've seen at least some of those green flags pointed in your direction?

[@susanooalarichard]

It's weird. I like what you're doing, but at the same time I'd walk away at the first sign of being analyzed like this by anyone. Guess it kind of explains a bit about me to myself. I'm not willing to put up with people acting as though they're in a place to judge me. Might just be my age. Maybe. Could also be I've too much to lose from someone still in that mindset. Guide and reassure my kid, sure. But, she's a kid. She needs to learn resilience and I have to make certain she's learning to learn herself. An adult approaching me like that...I don't know. Do know I don't have time to be thinking about this stuff with people. Anyway, it's important that one knows what they do and don't want. It's also important to remember that all humans are humans. One starts getting caught up in judgement and I don't think they're actually going to really get alone with anyone. After all, that's kind of a sign they're not really accepting the person for who they are. Idealized or devalued. That just isn't for me. It's probably just an age thing. Not about to give dating advice anyway.

[@Ishitaa2004]

The fact that my ex had all of these qualities except of the 'criticising ex' one and still cheated on me multiple times makes it really difficult. What to do? Am I missing something here

[@greenteasister]

I'm sorry about that. Green flags are general guidelines, but they are not definitive. Also, some people can put on a mask to get what they want. We can't always predict what will happen, but when they show you who they are, you can determine then which course to take.

[@raphaelanyie5140]

Same goes for ladies too...

[@jeffnaval4894]

6 foot tall, 6figure income, 6inch D size, 6pack abs 😂 thats what women wants.

[@EfraimNkengurutse]

Unfortunately ,there is so many relationship where the man (can be a woman) dont respect his(her) partner... the fact that he cut you off is a good example, or the way he talk to you or about you , little remarks etc it's subtle, but i cant be with someone that doesn't respect me.

[@zeliph]

What happens if they're scared to talk about their past relationship? Is it ok to ask in a later date?

[@HoDoBoDo]

As a man I'm sure I have all these qualities, I just need an opportunity to show it haha.

[@dariostabletopbastelecke4846]

Would love to see the Timestamps be NAmed properly. Would really up the Video. You would retain more. You scroll over them... you see ok, there is value here. Otherwise people might leave.

[@greenteasister]

thanks for the feedback.

[@justinJ689]

watching this and realizing i got zero green flags

[@MallorcaDuck]

Don't matter if you are 6 foot tall

[@benrex7775]

*_Green flag 1:_* I agree. Boundries are important. *_Green flag 2:_* I agree with this to a point. If a guy is interested in you, he shows interest in you. If you are just one of 100 women he goes on a date with, it takes tremendous skill to still keep up with all the details. But I want to give some pushback here. One thing that is pretty common among engineers is that they love topics and have a hard time remembering names. For example I have to actively learn certain things by heart so that I can memorize it. And that includes names. So if you use that criteria to stringently then you may exclude certain guy who may be quite good people. Another thing that may be problematic is if you assume that showing interest has to look a certain way. Men and women think differently. And each individual thinks differently. So if you assume that if he were interested in you, he should have asked this specific question, but he asked another question instead, you may reach the wrong conclusions. Him showing interest may not look to you like he showed interest. A man will usually not be one of your female friends. He won't share all the same interests as your female friends. If he doesn't show interest in the same way as your female friends, then don't jump to conclusions prematurely. If you apply this flag with a bit of humility then this is a good green flag. If you have too many expectations then it is a bad green flag. *_Green flag 3:_* I don't actually know any guy who behaves in the way you described. The thing I have seen is withdrawal in bad situation. This is also not great. But yes, that is a good green flag. *_Green flag 4:_* This green flag requires maturity to correctly apply. Sometimes someone was just raised in a different environment. If you apply Green flag one here and communicate your boundaries clearly, then that will help you judge green flag 4 better. But don't overwhelm the other person. Do it in small steps in the important places. Also communicate it in a way that the partner actually understands it. Don't just tell it and assume he now knows your entire history and thoughts and emotions. Change in habits require a lot of effort. *_Green flag 5:_* Failing this flag can have two possible reasons. First possibility is that the man is not mature in that area. If that is the case then I have two question. - Is it a big enough deal that it matters? - Are you superior in maturity? Sometimes we forget that the statement "if you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best" applies to both sides. Both men and women are humans with flaws. If we expect perfection and expect that we are treated nice despite our imperfections it will lead to no relationships or failed relationships. The other possible reason is that you are just in his sleeper category. He likes you enough to call you for sex, but he doesn't like you enough to ever consider you as a relationship partner. You will only get a call when he wants you for the moment or when no better option is available. If you are in that situation then I recommend to just leave that guy. After all there is zero chance that you will be his sole and permanent partner, unless you force him to do so with the law or whatever. The other option is to willingly be part of his casual harem. If you do that you should be aware that once you don't fulfill his standards anymore, for example due to better options or your age, then he will drop you. And by that time your chances of being capable of having a healthy relationship with a great partner will have dropped. *_Green flag 6:_* I agree. How would you deal with that when the guy/girl doesn't have any exes? *_Green flag 7:_* I agree. Small little caveat. It may happen that the man views things from a different angle and thinks some idea will mostly bring drawbacks with little benefits. Or it may be that he doesn't understand at all, how that could be appealing or important. Understanding another person is a skill and since it is a skill it is possible to be bad at it or to make mistakes with it. And it is still possible to have a great relationship with someone, even if they don't understand your interests or they just let you alone with certain interests of yours. *_Green flag 8:_* I never understood the concept of having someone in a close social circle when they want to tear you down or make you feel bad feelings. But perhaps that is because I'm just a master of the grey stone method and all the social activities are initiated and upkept through my effort. If someone is a drain I just stop putting effort in it and the contact breaks down. *_Comments overall:_* This is the first video of yours I've watched. So I made my remarks the way you stated them in the video. Some women are very delusional, some are very down to earth. Based on some of the remarks you did during the video you seem to be on the down to earth side. So I'm pretty sure you treat those green flags of yours with nuance anyways. And in that case my comments would only serve as an extension of your stated thoughts. Or as a male perspective on it. Thank you for making the video and have a nice day.

[@greenteasister]

These are great points. Yes, these green flags are general overarching points to detect healthy individual (not perfect!), and not to be applied stringently. You have a good point for #2. I'm aware that men and women think differently, and it's prob wise to take into account how they show interest can look different from our expectations. These are to be used as guidelines, rather than "end-all-be-all" answers :)

[@benrex7775]

@@greenteasister Thank you for the response. I know there is probably quite a bit of overlap, but could you also make a red flag / green flag of what you can do yourself. In my opinion a lot of this dating advice is about how to judge the person one goes on a date with but one thing that is probably just as important is if you are actually the person your ideal spouse would want to marry. Another topic that would fit is, how can you make yourself visible so that you find healthy people. Sure, dating apps can have some merit, but usually the people you meet in real live are more healthy.

[@greenteasister]

@@benrex7775 green flags to develop in oneself, you mean? Thanks for the idea, I will consider it!

[@benrex7775]

@@greenteasister yes.

[@marguskiis7711]

@@greenteasister But there are no green flags of women. None. Only red flags.

[@Waldemar_la_Tendresse]

How could it happen that I didn't notice the cute dog when I first watched the video? Was the topic the reason? Or was it the eyes? Regarding point 4 (opening doors and other attention): Yes, of course, very much. If the woman receives me with a different kind of attention every now and then. I share 0% of the current idea of ​​men as “everything givers” and women as “everything takers”. A good relationship should be well balanced in this regard. Regarding point 5: There are words that don't come out so easily. And there are people who spend their entire lives unable to say what is obviously necessary, unfortunately. I also see a lot of points here about green flags. But what happens after that? Because the green flags only help in the initial phase. For me personally, for example, the topic of raising children would be the most crucial of all topics. I think I'll probably want to look at more content on this channel, and not just for the eyes. Can we get more content please? ... With the dog. 😁

[@Roz_FJ]

당신은 한국인 맞죠? 영상을 잘 봤습니다😊 7월부터 동갑 썸남 있는데 저희 관계가 진짜 그린 플랙이라 정말 편하게 느낌이요

[@hyperion752]

More money more GREEN flag 🤣😂🤣 he is a keeper😆

[@Dominique1991]

Liked! How about women green flags, as well? :)

[@greenteasister]

will think about making one!

[@Dominique1991]

@greenteasister thanks, miss green tea 🍵

[@DamaiIman]

Why doesn't anyone say that men will learn from their first love?, This content is only looking for men who have experience in love

[@DamaiIman]

This is proof that love really needs patience, I understand her saying that if a man says bad things about his ex, he will definitely be labeled like that too.

[@izumijojo]

Don't talk to other men Girl: no...😢 You are so toxic Once my ex told me that about you

[@zsi]

I'm looking for a man in finance. Trust fund. 6'5". Blue eyes.

[@socialdiving2305]

I have all of the green flags

[@wildboy3937]

Never take advice from a fish On how to catch a fish, I laugh when she said being a stalker Like knowing everything about her is a green flag.

[@chan90s]

Hey, do you think its a concern for girls if you are past 25 and never been in a relationship deapite having most of these green flags ?

[@greenteasister]

Not necessarily. People remain single for various reasons, some choose to stay single.

[@phoenix0110]

You just have to be perfect! Easy

[@01blksheep]

Thank you

[@Littlefighter1911]

2:55 Eeeeevery one knows that You've got ulterioooooor motives.

[@weehc]

So can date the youtuber? 😊

[@markpaladiy5748]

In all the cosmos, we know of only one special world: ours. the Earth. It's the only place we Earthlings know of that hosts life. For, it's the only place we know of that has an abiding open wealth of liquid water, and the kind water cycle that supports life-as-we-know-it. 1. The general cosmos and the special Earth (Gen 1:1); 2. The Earth, as its own general subject, and its special kind of material wealth: its abiding maximal abundance of open liquid water (v. 2); 3. That water, in general, and its cycling (the water cycle, vs. 3-10); 4. The water cycle, in general, and its beneficiaries: biological life (vs. 11-12); 5. Biological life, in general, and its special category, animal biology (vs. 20-25); 6. Animals, in general, and its special category, humans (vs. 26-29); 7. The general human and the special...woman (Genesis 2:7-25).

[@s_215]

What is that blue mace thing on the back?

[@Tutterzoid]

Leave the terrible music while you are talking, Drop the music completely while you are Talking, as this is not a music video :(

[@greenteasister]

thanks for the feedback.