8 Strategies For Avoiding A Life You Hate - Dr Gad Saad

[@ChrisWillx]

Hello you beauties. Access all episodes 10 hours earlier than KZbin by Subscribing on Spotify - spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - apple.co/2MNqIgw. Here’s the timestamps: 00:00 Why Has Evolution Allowed Us to Feel Negative Emotions? 06:33 What We Can Learn About Stress From Zebras 13:19 What People Get Wrong About Happiness 18:49 Key Factors for a Happy Life 27:54 Happiness Differences Between Political Orientations 32:48 Are Married People More Happy? 39:16 How Much Sex Should We Be Having? 41:43 Loving Your Work Vs Being a Workaholic 49:44 The Differences of Optimising for Pleasure & Optimising for Low Risk 1:00:00 Does Everything Happen for a Reason? 1:11:14 How to Be Anti-Fragile to Criticism 1:18:07 A Simplified Guide to Happiness 1:21:34 Where to Find Gad

[@jeraldmatters2389]

Chris is a superb interviewer not only for the pertinent questions he asks, but for his knowing how to get out of the way when the subject is on a roll.

[@Doutsoldome]

Agreed!

[@metamoonnn]

and laser focus + being present

[@TheSulross]

I know this is supposed to all be anchored by evolution science, but the discussion and principles all come off sounding more like the life wisdom principles and advice that one would get out of hoary old literature like the Book of Proverbs

[@villaespesa1]

The wisdom of old was based on natural laws and the deep knowledge of the polarities of the sexes. The sages , the wise men, and women of the ancient world knew all of these things. We're just rediscovering them.

[@F4ttym4n]

Mr. Saad is one of the few reasons i remain a proud Canadian. People like him and J.P. are carrying Canada on their extremely wide and capable shoulders.

[@conorooneill8671]

He shows his books as a way to advertise! It's smart! Plus if you go into most successful peoples office you'll see their awards etc are all sports starts who have a trophy room narcissists? I'm sure some are but some maybe be proud or sentimental! Gad saad is a great mind regardless if he is a narcissist! If I'm being honest then you could be considered narcissist because you're main driving force seems to be negativity! Plus the fact you respond to a positive comment about someone else which shows it irritates you when someone else is praised. Gad saad seems to focus on a subject which helps people while you seem focused on tearing people down! I think you need to go reexamine the definition of a narcissist. Can I ask you what evidence you have to call gad saad a narcissist?

[@F4ttym4n]

@@nathalieforest8497 its sad that you can miss-interprate jokes for narcissism. And obviousely he's going to advertise his own books. Even if that isn't the reason he put them on his wall. Wouldn't you be proud of the work you've done? I have my cirtificates from school on my wall, how is that narcissistic? Even J.P. advertises his own books lol.

[@fartloudYT]

being proud of your work is narcissism? hilarious

[@F4ttym4n]

@@nathalieforest8497 i have no idea what you're trying to say lol. But thanks for sharing your opinion, i'm more than happy to put then together in this particular context. Are they equivilant? No, but that's not what i was talking about so it doesn't change anything.

[@F4ttym4n]

@@nathalieforest8497 your english seems fine. (Im also french). "Why would i consider Saad as a joke?" I've listened to many many hours of both of these men over many years at this point. They both stand for robust scientific debate, and don't playcat to any one ideology. They stand their ground agains't the ideology plaguing our school systems and governments. I may not agree with everytging either of them says but i still respect them and believe they are a force for good. I find Mr. Saad to be hilarious, most of his videos are purely satire, if you judge his charecter as if his jokes are genuine then im not surprised you don't like him.

[@TheBswan]

25 minutes in and this is a certified banger. Chris is looking like a world-class interviewer here, and Gaad is the man

[@sergrum1082]

Gadfather 🙌🏻

[@ignoranceisstrengthpodcast3294]

Gad *Daddy 😍

[@mrsanthonybridgerton1747]

Brilliant 😂 👏

[@kevinle5460]

Gaddy

[@trax72]

🤮

[@gregvanpaassen]

"I have gone after some issue ... to a great detriment to me". Well done, Prof. Dr. Saad. Values are called values because they come with costs. If it never costs you anything, it's not a value, it's virtue signaling. No-one ever seems to point this out in so many words.

[@Uradamus]

Just something to consider on the topic of having a partner adding to life expectancy that I don't usually see being brought up. Lets say you are single and you have an accident, like a serious fall or a heart attack or stroke, who is going to call emergency services for you? That alone might account for a big portion of the reason why married people will live longer, as they have someone around to get them help when things go wrong later in life.

[@margaretmaeda2548]

Absolutely! In my family, a wife got her husband to emergency three times where he was resuscitated. His single brother died around the same age ( late 50s) of a similar condition.

[@arishillermusic]

Gad is a guru of truth and reason. Thank you for having him on!!

[@diogomqs]

Hi Chris! Long time watcher, fan your work. Can I make a suggestion? Your episodes are filled with great book references and it's hard to keep track of them if you are not able to jot them down, from being on the move. Would it be possible to list all book references mentioned in the description of each episode for ease of reference? Keep up the good work!

[@TheNheg66]

Second this

[@almost_harmless]

So. I have a relative who has lived through war, abuse, and hardships that should have broken her, but she is still kind, compassionate, and always looking at life in the most positive manner possible. I used to think of her as stupidly naive and innocent, but it isn't that. Her optimistic mindset makes her look at things positively and makes her not naive, but inclined to think the best of people. It is the mindset of someone who wants to survive. Sure, she gets disappointed, the world is not filled with people like her, but she does make the world a better place by purely existing. Edit: forgot to mention the lovely guest. Great interview - again.

[@Razear]

"Happiness is a positional emotion." "You mean like missionary?" Bazinga! XD

[@paulteske4735]

Never heard of him before, but his teaching experience shines through

[@ericgingras1]

Go back and watch his JRE appearances dating back to 2014. Remarkable insights applicable to the current times almost a decade ago

[@HappinessDIY]

Imagine being so lucky as to just discover him today and have all that new content to devour.

[@haycockjeff]

Read The Parasitic Mind….

[@lucynyagah836]

This conversation was the best I've listened to for the longest time. I can listen to Dr Gad all day long. In my country Kenya we had a man who went to school at the age of 84yrs. It was way back in 2003 when the then President introduced free primary education. Sadly he passed on after a few years.

[@joelmartin2826]

Love Gad Saad-cheers for having him Chris

[@jamilamed2676]

The government has really called things more difficult for its citizens, and we can't sit back and bear all the consequences of the bad governance. It's obvious we are headed for hyperinflation,it is always the poor who take the hit.

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HOW !! I know it's possible I would appreciate if you show me how to go about it.

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[@nathalieforest8497]

18:52 life partner is huge. Most decisive path. It often settles in the 20's with child. Leads to rocky road and if lucky and great amount of work, wonderfull path. Lucky because it is a leap of faith really.

[@robdielemans9189]

Don't fall in the pitfall that's called the pursuit of happiness. I am convinced that this is pathological. Rather strive for a life, environment, social circle, whatever, where happiness can occur.

[@_nebulousthoughts]

Correct it's a fleeting side effect of maximising other things.

[@ndndndnnduwjqams]

9:45 Stress, everything in moderation Stress inverted U outcome 19:00 Right life partner, right job Maxims: -assortative mating(same values) -incredibly driven match with male incredibly driven 21:00 Religion coincidence 23:30 Ambition compatibility for men particularly 41:40 Job 1:17:00 don't question who you are just assume it fully and let the chips fall where they may!!!

[@ambition112]

0:08: 🎯 The speaker discusses the relief of being able to talk about positive psychology instead of being involved in the culture wars. 6:53: 🦓 Prey animals like zebras experience momentary stress triggering a flight mechanism, while humans can have prolonged stress. 13:21: 📚 The speaker became an evolutionary behavioral scientist after reading a book and discusses the misconception of happiness. 18:53: 💡 Choosing the right life partner and ideal job profession are the two most important decisions that shape our everyday life. 25:44: 👃 Research shows that people are attracted to the smell of individuals with a different MHC. 32:04: 🔬 The speaker discusses the criteria for evaluating research and the importance of novelty and surprise in findings. 38:31: 😄 The speaker and the person they are joking with have a playful and lighthearted relationship, which contributes to their happiness. 44:47: 📚 Regret can serve as a motivation to pursue new opportunities and avoid future regret. 51:18: 🔍 The speaker discusses the differences in optimizing pleasure and regret minimization and how it affects individuals. 57:42: 🔑 The Delphic maxim 'know thyself' is about existential authenticity and making choices consistent with your true self. 1:04:27: 🌟 Cultivating a sense of optimism can be a transformative experience, as it allows us to choose a delusion that makes our lives better and more fulfilling. 1:10:38: 👨‍👧‍👦 The speaker values the pride and support of their children more than the admiration of their colleagues. 1:17:04: 🎯 The speaker reflects on the regret of not becoming a professional soccer player and wonders if being irascible has affected his career. Recap by Tammy AI

[@ericfurst6091]

Thx 👍👍👍

[@by7810]

Ayyyye can't wait to listen 💪🏻 when two goats collide 🐐🐐 love from Florida gentlemen

[@quietlistener7054]

Having the heater break and it's just you and your cats.... This hit home hard.

[@Arden7one]

Thank you Chris and the entire MW team for inviting Prof. Saad! This is his second top interview a part from Tom's one ✨👌❤️ of course Dr. Peterson's one is a standout too 🌟💫

[@sidd4419]

The Gadfather is back!

[@TheNetworkangel]

Brilliant! Gave me a ton of stuff to think about. Thanks!

[@jakeflo8477]

Robert Sapolski on Chris Williamsons podcast?! that's a great news! I'll be looking for it!

[@IreneLyon]

Superb conversation Chris. I suspect Gad might be a future supervisory professor for you when/if you should ever pursue academia 🤓. Gut hit there.

[@thevegandragon4676]

I just love listening and watching Gad, he's such an interesting and engaging character, and funny too. So enjoyable.

[@stvbrsn]

You forgot tan and handsome. And honeybadger-like.

[@thevegandragon4676]

@@stvbrsn OMG! How could I have ommitted that? 😆

[@shookone568]

1:19:11 In other words, find a balance between order and chaos. Shout out to 12 rules.

[@tompatrick795]

OMG! I haven’t watched through yet, but the two of you together gets me excited enough for a preemptive thumbs up!😀

[@honeyflo88]

There is this Venn Diagram where Marketing (inclusive of Consumer Behaviour), Marketing Research and Statistics intersect which is extremely rare as disciplines held by an individual and highly sought after by the Marketing community. I dont have the Statistics one, consistently getting 51% in courses, so enough to interpret reports and talk around the subject. However, I got this book entitled Statistics for Marketing Research sitting on my desk for four years, so that will be a story for another day.

[@WhoFlungDung]

2:20 Thank you for explaining why my wife blows all her money on frivolous shite 😂

[@SirBoden]

We need to keep ourselves calibrated. Teaching our chimp what to react to. Keeping all of our dualities, calm, and in balance. 🙏☯️

[@Diane_Adams]

Saw Gad Saad in the title, froze everything around me, sat down and enjoying

[@MrGiffmoney]

Sad state of life

[@albertlevins9191]

Gad Saad!!!! I really like this guy. He is so smart, and so happy. Also honest to a fault. Truthfully, I wish I was more like him. But hell Chris, I feel that way about close to a third of your guests. Exciting!

[@peripheralparadox4218]

Not everything happens for a reason, but everything happens because of a reason.

[@robertoroy8840]

The video started great but I had to stop because of the commercials, way too many of them, makes it really annoying to listen to. :/

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[@DanielThomasArgueta]

Thank Gad! 🙏

[@rhettintaipei]

Gaad’s energy is really amazing.

[@the_wombat]

I hesitated to click this since I've seen Gaad on JRE plenty and figured I had heard his take on everything. Chris you unearthed and brought the best out of him. One of my fave episodes of yours 👊🏽

[@Milkydrummer]

1:30 - GREAT question.

[@basscataz]

I know it is stupid to point out exceptions of rules, but this is relevant to my life experience - My wife and I have been lifelong musicians. In our youth, we were both hard-partying and generally reckless. We listen to "pretty far out music" of all eras and styles. We have both been pretty stereotypically "right wing" in our views since before we even met, or even knew what the world of politics was. We are both much more physical and outdoorsy than most of our peers. We garden, we can, and we have reproduced. Because of this, we have an unusual group of friends. Interestingly, those friends, having met each other at gatherings and our wedding, etc., actually get a big kick out of each other and get along very well. Even around alcohol.

[@eddieneyman4035]

I would listen to this channel more often if there weren't paid advertisements every 3 minutes when a good speaker guest is on. Major turn off and frustrating if you're trying to have an efficient 1 hour while you have a break in the day that turns into 1.5 hours of ad skipping

[@craptor1234]

the regret is not I wish i didn't work as much, its i wish i didnt HAVE TO work as much.

[@mackevin6047]

pls expound

[@chairdewealth1663]

I set a timer and give myself a specific amount of time for self pity. It works. 5 minutes of straight self pity seems like forever!

[@randallf.4646]

I have read every book this man has put out, watched every podcast, countless videos of Gad....I'm so influenced by him it ain't funny.

[@swayp5715]

In the majority of cases being married makes you less happy if you are able to treat your singleness with intelligence

[@erikn54]

I get happy by listening to you two.

[@tantridewina3048]

I enjoyed listening to him on Jordan Peterson's pod. This is good too.

[@chairdewealth1663]

Missing your children because they are grown. I had two, but considered not having them based on the fact that I knew that I would miss them as they grew. Each age made me miss the previous age they had outgrown.

[@mermiez1]

Hell ya! Looking forward to Robert Sapolsky!

[@shortcutDJ]

you gotta appreciate the gadfather

[@Brioshie]

Lately I've been pondering happiness in relation to wealth, and I've noticed that many super-rich seem to have a terrible fear of death. I don't know if it is because they are so "happy" that they want more life to enjoy it, or if they have lost meaning so much, that they want more time to find it. Personally, the fear of death makes me miserable. I believe that a good and happy life is accompanied by acceptance.

[@LilyGazou]

The billionaires can buy the tech to live forever.

[@pxblo84]

Such a wholesome interview! Thank you! 🏆

[@Retiredmagician1]

Love listening to him anywhere. Dope podcast as usual

[@jmmbuthia]

Looking forward to Sapolsky

[@NicholasMGlasson]

Great interview! It's a bit jarring to see Dr G without his fabulous brightly colored locks!

[@Sk0lzky]

I love the intro already, I'd argue it's actually better to fight someone physically than constantly in these ideological battles because usually when you delete the opponent he can't come back with buddies the next day and get you fired. 36:10 that's 5/5 for me lol Unless pets count?

[@toneylowery1166]

Jamie Farr is right. I had no idea he was so smart. Nice job Klinger.

[@tbobtbob330]

GREAT talk, but it's an interesting statement that zebras as prey animals don't have existential angst. As a hunter, deer, pigs and other prey animals I've observed in the wild act like they're constantly aware of and are frightened by predatory threats. I suspect the difference is that humans can ruminate about the actual consequences of being preyed on, while it's more of an instinctive reaction for animals, or maybe it's that prey animals evolved to tolerate the stress of constant threats while predators nearer the top of the food chain, are not. My uncle hunted zebras in Zambia or somewhere, and he said he's never seen a more paranoid and twitchy game animal.

[@grahamhobbs3501]

Chris is such a good interviewer

[@3rdGeorgesheets]

YESSSS but its not in person.... BOOOOOO but still YEEEESSSSSSSS

[@patrickshuck2795]

Thanks!

[@danepaulstewart8464]

Excellent talk! Deep diving yet also uplifting. 😎👍👍

[@migueld5227]

I think happiness and pleasure are confused too often. Many times they are at odds

[@fancypants90210]

The mental fight is REAL.

[@RodHayward]

Right job and right life mate. I achieved one, which made the other impossible. I was a regional journalist in the Northwest and West of the US. That meant that I fell in the 80 percent of US workers whose average annual incomes are $50,000. Apparently that wasn't enough for the professional women I dated who also didn't want kids. Well, several lied. Bottom line was that every woman I dated for 40 years wanted a daddy, and I couldn't afford that. If you think feminism solved that, you'd be wrong. It gave women equal benefits compared to men. But, most women never wanted equal responsibility.

[@bobafet5363]

I love that podcast. I’m gonna listen to that one again… because the exchange between the two of you was so good ha ha . I think That was a good show, not only for the debate but for the flow. I felt that one. For me that how an exchange must be between the human. Thank you for that one!!!!

[@aribailor3766]

"Some people are just born for greatness!" "Just grab some anti-fragility and climb back on the horse!" While which is it Gaadfather?

[@_nebulousthoughts]

It's both. Potential is real, but without the work is nothing.

[@heatfield4243]

Terrific conversation. Evolutionary theory could revolutionize psychology much more than the theories of Freud and Jung.

[@Flylikea]

Thanks 😊 great input and interesting conversation.

[@ericdraven3654]

Dr. Chris Williamson❤

[@AtomikGround]

1:06:30 Really, the imperative of perspective is so much more than a cliche. Think of the final penalty taker in a football shootout. I often hear commentators suggesting how horrrible the pressure must be... but think about the amount of people around the world who would sacrifice everything to be in their position, to decide the game in their team's favour. Or, staying in the frame of football, the young centre back who gets subbed on as the veteran suffers an injury. Once again, the commentators felt bad for the guy. But really, this is his great opportunity to show himself worthy and perhaps even wrest the starting position from the veteran, a chance he would have never had sitting on the safety of the bench. Pressure/stress is related to the risk of failure, yes, but just as inalienably points to tremendous opportunity.

[@joshhigh5538]

I'm truly impressed with how ambiguous the title was that I had no other option but to click it

[@Exodus26.13Pi]

Nothing made stuff and that stuff had the will to create life. That's true faith! -The Scientific Method

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[@dvntlife]

My GUY its crazy u got cited for Male Sedation Hypothesis. Amazing

[@dfinma]

18:48 Choosing the ideal life profession. As lovely as this sounds how many people really get to choose? I know all the responses to my question but given the choice how many people would work in the fields, clean toilets, work in a kitchen, drive a taxi, work in a shitty store/restaurant/hotel/office/etc.? The point is our institutions prohibit this idea from being reality for almost everybody.

[@Tj930]

Had my Achilles sewn back together. Perfect job on the back of my ankle 👌 However, 10 weeks on crutches, you wouldn't believe the muscle wastage! And my knee - even now, 20 years later - is still not quite right 😑 So, if it's a light twinge, I would suggest to follow Chris' advice..

[@notsure1135]

5:30 it’s less than 50/50 odds of getting that right, Gad. Obviously, if it works out then the benefits are great but if it doesn’t?

[@annieodowd6066]

Fantastic interview!

[@millertas]

Brian Epstein went to Recording Studio to Recording Studio with Decca saying "I'm sorry Mr. Epstein but bands of just guitars a nd drums is a thing of the past. He was successful in convincing EMI to give the fledging band from Liverpool a try. Later EMI took over the originally larger Decca with one of the most successful bands money (The Beatles).

[@TomasPböckerlyftningschack]

Dave Allen (watch his show, it´s on youtube) has this story: A guy in confession say "last tuesday I had sex with my wife five times." on wednesday we had sex four times. Then on....The priest interupts him and say: You do not have to tell me that, having sex with your wife is no sin, it is to fulfill the holy matrimony. The guy say:" I know, but nobody else will believe me".

[@kimeldiin1930]

Like this however my PTSD sense of impending incipient doom takes takes over all the time....

[@LilyGazou]

This why I’m never without a fine bourbon.

[@kimeldiin1930]

Was molested by a drunkard the mere smell AND behaviours by alcohol makes me queasy

[@robinlee28]

Robert Wright - The Moral Animal. Yup me too

[@dirtysprite_]

Linda out here copping strays

[@AetherialSatori]

Personally worsening. Tryna figure out the antidote. Not much luck thus far... Vice grip

[@Elmucaroarrebatao]

The public educational system and monopoly will never change if most citizens become pessimistic about it. So pessimistic has a positive application and result in a lot of things in life. But most people will consider you as a negative person just by being pessimistic in a specific manner.

[@J_The_Colossal_Squid]

Maybe, maybe Spielberg's antifragility only grew stronger during his rejections and in growing stronger he became strong enough to be the filmmaker he is now.

[@venturecrew06]

I'm so disappointed that this beautiful mind didn't narrate his own book. I was really looking forward to listening to him speak his own words. But no I won't be buying the audiobook 😭

[@manchesterNic1985]

I got stung last time with the parasitic mind, although even without his narration, whilst frustrating, I still enjoyed it immensely. Would be nice for him to put in the extra effort and im sure it would help with extra sales.

[@LilyGazou]

Ai can do this.

[@Ivftinianvs]

How many interesting professors does Canada produce, per capita? (‘Per capita’ always makes Canada look super important).

[@stormbringer_7774]

The Gad Father!💪🙌🇬🇧

[@down_under_dog]

the Dali museum in Figueres, Catalunya, is worth a trip to Spain (in case you needed another reason)

[@Tweston3ny]

Personal anecdotes as evidence is disconcerting

[@chairdewealth1663]

Agree. If my child died of cancer. "it happened for a reason." really?

[@hanwen5748]

No sex for you, Linda! 🤣

[@tensevo]

wallowing in self pity, great phrase needs more use

[@thesingingfiddler]

Thank you for finally talking about Dali Also, surrealist*

[@Viclevicking]

This show is awesome

[@steviejay9245]

The boys probably messed up causal chain re: marriage/longevity. Status is one of the biggest factors of longevity, low social status kills you faster than smoking, IIRC. Social status is also the biggest attractor of women, and by a huge margin. There might be a small factor of causation in there like Gad mentioned re: his wife doing his diet policing for him, but it's very unlikely to be the main cause compared to the correlation between logevity and marriage via their shared massive connection to status.

[@Pst103]

Nice video

[@0num4]

As an old flame of mine said: Happiness is a strong cocktail. This is obviously up for interpretation. I like to think that it means happiness is a fleeting thing which we should appreciate while we have it, yet it is not an ultimate goal unto itself.

[@edl8248]

I don’t think it needs to be fleeting. It may not be 24/7, but if one just chooses and conditions themselves to be a happy person regardless of external circumstances and events, then happiness need not be fleeting in my opinion.