#9 is the WORST | 10 UNBREAKABLE Wedding Guest Rules

[@midcenturygail]

Based on irate posts I have read elsewhere:, Rule Number 11: DO NOT make any announcement such as an engagement/ pregnancy at the reception without clearing it with the newlyweds. Wars have been started for less:).

[@chelseawhite7117]

Came here to say this as a bride whose brother announced a pregnancy on the one day in our shared lives that he REALLY should not have 💀

[@ashers2015]

As a wedding Photographer/videographer, I am not typically one to be petty. However, if you take photos on your phone during the ceremony after being told it was unplugged, you bet your A** im standing right in front of your view to take the photos I need. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Not sorry.

[@emilyboulter5978]

I would add to the RSVP rule, if you say you’re coming please show up! One of my husband’s friends said he was coming and then decided to go to a music festival instead!!! We had a small (35) person wedding so I was super upset. If he had told me I could have invited someone else. In contrast, my friend told me when she RSVPd that she might not make it because she would be 8 months pregnant. I ended up inviting two more people last minute people when she told me she couldn’t come 3 weeks before the wedding.

[@susancook1448]

Yes! I also listened to a lot of your excellent advice when doing wedding planning for my children. I agree about wedding guests RSVP accurately and on time! The worst when you have to call up your guests! One first cousin I had to call twice! Another niece kept asking if she could bring her 4 young kids(I finally said yes to keep the peace). And about 5 groomsmen said they were bringing dates and didn’t! Not just the money-we had one table with only 2 ppl sitting there!

[@jessicavalladares1932]

As a person who works in weddings. The average price per guest is around $250 for food and beverage in my area. Don’t bring extra guests and RSVP as soon as you can. And if you RSVP no, don’t just randomly show up! Kids count towards that price and most of our weddings don’t have kids other than during the ceremony portion, then they go with babysitters. Coming to the ceremony late is unbelievably rude. Stand outside and don’t disrupt the couple. It’s your fault you are late and people will notice you trying to sneak in. I even had a late couple ask us to bring in extra chairs half way through… omg. Dress codes are meant to be fun and for the people that don’t understand how to dress for a wedding type event, it’s helpful. Yes, don’t be the embarrassing drunk, drama guest, (it’s usually the parents lol).

[@crittaable]

I get married in 2 and a half months and I will throw down if I see someone with their camera out at my ceremony. I have an unplugged sign, it is written in the program, the celebrant will say it at the start and we're having a social media minute...but if I look up to see my loved ones as I make a life long commitment to my best friend and all I can see is my cousins phone above her head, I will legit stop the ceremony and let her have it. I'm not playing! It's so freaking rude! And if ANYONE posts photos on social media before we do...ooooh lord take the wheel!

[@caitlinwade2758]

Not gonna lie, I was so stressed about this we decided to elope. We’ll have a reception at a later date though!

[@eeyorestars]

Also have your officiant announce the unplugged part before you both walk down the aisle, some people really do need that last minute reminder in order to behave.

[@idollisbouie7388]

Girl I feel u

[@melodym3654]

Hilarious little anecdote, my best friend got married about 2 years ago, she is hilarious and very outspoken, in the middle of their vows she genuinely paused the ceremony and yelled at everyone PUT YOUR PHONES DOWN! WE HIRED A PHOTOGRAPHER FOR THIS VERY REASON, it made everyone crack up and so did their vows, beautiful ceremony

[@crittaable]

Got married 3 days ago...thank the dear god I didn't have to throw down! People did post shit though and maaaaaaan I was mad!

[@kelsco]

I’ve been wondering about this and would love to hear your opinion: when there is a color related dress code (like “please wear purple”) what is the expectation? If you’re wearing a suit are you expected to buy/rent/borrow a purple suit? Or is a black suit with purple shirt and/or tie acceptable? What about a black dress with purple shawl? How literal should it be?

[@iligalvan]

Add a mood board in your invite

[@directorMASC]

Yes, definitely check with the bride regarding the whole family. I double-checked with my cousin before reserving our room, and she was so upset that I would think my entire family would NOT be invited.🥰

[@emmaporterukulele]

My parents had to donate a grill they received because they were driving from florida to kentucky in an Altima.. and they lived in a 3rd floor apartment with no balcony

[@Inappropriate_auntie]

Hey Jamie I love your channel I got married 10/14/23 and your channel helped me plan the whole thing

[@nleem3361]

Thank you for making this videos. So many of these things sound like common sense, but as a person who doesn't think like everyone else, I've unfortunately made some big wedding equate mistakes in my life. I really wish readit and KZbin would have been around 30 years ago. Also, if you're a parent, check what your kids plan to wear for the wedding ahead of the day. As a teenager, I went to a destination wedding with my family, and I'd brought my only dress, it was white (I was a tomboy). I had no clue until I pulled it out of my bag and my mom saw, that it was a problem. Then because I didn't have another dress, my mom let me wear it... looking back, she should have had me wear pants and one of her blouses, or anything other than a white dress.

[@mikismith1574]

When my parents had their wedding my dads father and his new wife showed up super late and walked down the aisle IN FRONT OF MY MOM. The flower girl had already gone, eveyone was standing, the "here comes the bride" music had just sarted and they went in front of her. They walked down the entire aisle to take their seat at the front. My mom was furious. The wedding had already started super late because my mom was left at the hairsalon (people were starting to think that she ran away) so the fact that they were that late really says a lot. (Although most of it was the new wifes fault she was a horrible person but still)

[@giraffequeen9437]

Unbreakable rule #11: Don't advertise your marijuana business at someone's wedding when specifically asked not to.....yea that happened at my wedding. We don't talk anymore

[@nicoles2159]

Oh man... we only had room to extend +1s to people who are at least officially dating. Husband's cousin put his +1 in the "allergy and accommodations" section of the RSVP LMFAO Like dude, accommodations mean "infant high chair" and "ground floor bathroom for grandma", not "I want you to spend an extra hundred on a girl you've never heard of and will never see again".

[@kts8900]

Guilty here - I flew past the bridal party waiting out of view and nabbed a seat in the back of a backyard wedding that was starting ON THE DOT. I felt so embarrassed and had there been any chance of crossing the photographer's line of sight, I would have waited in shame in the driveway. Learned my lesson.

[@tiffanymarquez6708]

Hey there! I cannot even tell you how helpful (and fun!!) it's been to follow along as I plan my wedding! I have a circumstance (not really an "issue") with the wedding colors and I'm not sure if I'm being a total bride-zilla or not (and if so -- I need a reality check!!). Our colors are black and burgundy and our wedding party and parents (everyone who has a role walking down the aisle) in those colors. Well, I have an autie and cousins (who I am very close with) who have said they are wearing burgundy too so they "fit in" -- I don't want them to match the bridal party and I asked them to please choose other colors annnd now I feel like a total jerk. They weren't mad, but I feel blah about it all. Should I have said nothing at all?! I know people will inevitably show up in black and burgundy, but to do it planned to "fit" doesn't feel appropriate. Blah -- I dont want to be a Zilla Help! Reality check please!

[@kendallh.18]

I think it’s okay as long as you asked them politely! It doesn’t sound like they were upset so I think you’re alright.

[@misslyntheena]

This is always so fun to watch when you’re from another country. If you don’t rsvp in Germany (at least the circles that I live in) we take that as "I don’t care I won’t come". (This doesn’t count for old forgetful grandparents ofc, they might not even know what a RSVP is)

[@coopie624]

You are so much fun! Almost makes me want to get married again so I could hire you as my wedding planner! 💖

[@quirkycoastercouple]

Great video! Real quick, in your professional opinion, would it be frowned upon to have a link to this video printed on our wedding invitations? Asking for a friend. 😅

[@asana_awakening]

These could be true for other gatherings throughout life too like baby showers (currently pregnant here lol)… for example don’t say oh I need to add this person when invited to the party & just assume you can bring everyone… and also please just buy what’s on the registry 😩👏🏼 For these big life events often people spend hours curating a registry so buying other stuff instead while still thoughtful is annoying. Also, hear you on the small spaces thing! We currently full time RV, so we are definitely limited on space!

[@hannahwalters978]

You should redo the wedding parties videos (shower, Bach trip, dinner rehearsal)

[@Nthn2chere]

My husband has a coworker that he adores and EVERY SINGLE EVENT that we have had she has broken MAJOR social rules. She sat on the ISLE of our wedding and took video with her phone the whole time and is in the majority of our ceremony photos! She also stuck her chest in the crazy cool cake I got for my husbands birthday before we lit the candles.

[@nicoles2159]

i'm sorry, why is this person still invited to things??

[@26Sundrops]

oooooo no. That person would have been banned from everything. Husband needs to check himself, sheesh...

[@jr1252]

your husband might have a side piece or a jealous girl wanting to be you

[@triffgrl]

My husband and I had a dry wedding as 1) we are not big drinkers 2) we wanted to remember our day in it’s entirety (no artificial moments) and 3) our ceremony was at 9:00 am. However, there was a bar next store to our venue. Guest actually left our venue to go next store and drink -.- Rule number 9 for sure!

[@alymara8898]

Uninvited guests is the most important one for me. We have a very low budget and want to accommodate for everyone we'd like to be there, which means we already have more plus ones and kids than we're comfortable with. But it's a fair trade off, since we want them there we're also extending invites to plus ones/families. I also have social anxiety and get VERY uncomfortable with large groups of people so I'm probably gonna disappear at some point during the reception or bring some earplugs to drown out the sounds of screaming children. I also have an uncle who always ends up inviting all of his roommates or close buddies so we had to word our invitations very carefully to give him no room to interpret that as "bring whoever you want." Long story short I'm not a people person so if you're invited, you're really special to me. But I don't want anyone else there.

[@bibbaaah]

Jamie I have a question. As a bride, is it okay to ask for money instead of gifts? Can I just share my venmo to guests? I know it seems impersonal but my fiance and I already have a lot of things and don't really want more 'useless' items. I just don't want it to seem like a rude ask.

[@Chanayab]

Wedding coordinator here, that’s absolutely acceptable it’s more common than you think! Maybe put out a honeymoon fund box for the wedding or like you said send out your Venmo explains your situation to your guests

[@alyssacowan5050]

I had a $75 sign right by the entrance to my ceremony because I knew that my soon to be MIL has a habit of blocking the way with her ipad to "get the good shot". She knew that we had paid a VERY pretty penny for a photographer and yet there she was IN THE AISLE taking pictures the whole ceremony. No we did not have a 2nd shooter and we even assigned family seats in the front row to try and mitigate this from happening. Luckily the photographer was still able to take pictures and photoshop her out but it really bothered me. When I brought this up with her a few days later, she replied with "yeah but look at the photo I got of you guys" Also during the reception someone's plus one that we did not know changed into clothes that looked like they were from Hot Topic in the early 2000's... and you can see them in all of the dance photos... our dress code was cocktail for the record

[@donellewitter6076]

I link your video on wedding dress code on my website to help guest.

[@sylviaroan4307]

Today is my due by date for my wedding RSVPs most people haven’t responded 😅 going to hound them on facebook

[@lesliegallagher2682]

Assign someone to contact all no RSVP people 2 days before the due date. I was invited to a June 1 wedding and RSVP's were due Mar 15th. Wow! I missed that and was so thankful someone contacted me to remind me to respond.

[@susancook1448]

In following up it’s ok to say that the caterer expects a FINAL guest count by xx/xx. After that you can’t add anyone

[@adri.a15]

I’m so worried the tias and Tio’s won’t follow the unplugged ceremony instructions 😭😭😭

[@SeeShells79]

I’m so worried about guests not sending an RSVP and showing up on wedding day 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@s.a.4358]

I do not agree on strictly following the registry. Gifts are not a prerequisite and the registry is just a guideline to make it easier for the guests. Don’t get upset if someone buys something outside the registry, just be a graceful and grateful host. But likewise, the gift-given cannot be upset if the couple sells the toaster owner because they already have one. You have given the gift and it is now the property of the other person to do with it as they want.

[@Chelseabee55]

Logistically that doesn’t sound right. So if the couple registers for toaster A and you get them toaster B, toaster A is still on the registery so someone else buys it for them. Now they have two toasters and you’ve wasted money

[@susancook1448]

I do not agree about the registry only idea-there may or may not be items in their price range. Also you might receive a vintage crystal vase or Lenox wedding plate much more long lasting. Also asking for cash is rude.

[@Chelseabee55]

@@susancook1448 why is asking for cash rude? It’s practical. And nobody wants your crystal, they want the items on their registry. You don’t know what they want better than they do

[@s.a.4358]

@@Chelseabee55 if someone wants to waste money, that is not my business. Also maybe toaster B is better in some way but I did not know about it. And if someone buys me something that is not on the registry but they think I will like, I will feel grateful that they put thought into it. Or if it’s something handmade, that is also nice.

[@lizRomrell]

I disagree. Please buy things off the registry. You don’t know what all my preferences are and the decision making that went into choosing items. I also completely disagree with the money thing. That must but a cultural thing. Modern Asian weddings ONLY give cash gifts

[@victoriajohnson3034]

Drunk and disorderly is the worst!!!!!

[@nleem3361]

I regret getting toasted at my sister's wedding. I was in my 20's and thought a reception was a party. Looking back 15 yrs later, I was pretty annoying, and also, I was supposed to help with cleanup, but by that time, I was way too drunk and needed to go get sick. Not a fun way to end the night either. I never have liked letting people down, especially those I love. Plus the event was awesome, even without drinks, I would have had a ton of fun.

[@victoriajohnson3034]

@@nleem3361 I did the same at my brother's wedding, excepting I was giving the toast! I don't even remember what I said, but I know it was obnoxious!

[@AJ-rr1js]

Unpopular opinion but following the dress code has to be my least favorite. For my brother's wedding, I have been asked to wear a formal pastel dress (basically a bridesmaids dress), and I will never wear it again and I am not a bridesmaid. I think it is ridiculous to expect a guest to buy a specific, and expensive, clothing item because it is your special day. On top of that, not every man owns/needs/can afford a suit. I can understand more general guidelines, but some are plain ridiculous.

[@kts8900]

Strongly agree. I understand that this is to create specific aesthetics, but at some point I feel like reminding them that I am NOT the background chorus to their musical. I'm wearing formal wear in June in the South already, please cut me some slack!

[@hannahphilips3875]

In my opinion, dress codes are not for “you”….they are for the people that will show up in jeans and a t shirt that says “I love video games” or a person wearing a bright red body con dress with their ass hanging out lol. I think it’s fair to want your guests to dress their best and look nice, but to not be too controlling about it.

[@nriamond8010]

I think it's selfish from a couple to demand that their guests buy special clothes just for a pretty photo (if they totally want a photo with people in the same colour to hang on their wall, they can get it photoshopped). A dresscode in general is fine because the way the guests dress shapes the atmosphere of the event and it's not a tall order to own ONE piece of formal clothing. Especially nowadays when you can get things for very little money secondhand (because nearly everyone owns way to much clothes and the market is flooded with even unworn secondhand clothe).

[@Chanayab]

I think it’s a bit selfish for people to think asking for guests to wear something specific is too much. The couple getting married is basically throwing a party on their dime all you have to do is bring yourself and wear a particular type of clothing. They’re spending quite a lot of money to make the wedding happen, so if the couple wants a dress code so be it. If you don’t like it don’t attend. If you attend don’t buy anything outside of your budget and make sure it’s something you can wear again .

[@AJ-rr1js]

@@Chanayab it's one thing when they ask for a type of clothing. It's another when they ask for a type of clothing, specific color, and want to approve it and what they want you in is nothing you will wear again. I understand a dress code but some brides are taking it to the extreme.