I'm just assuming the last one is a satire about how wedding trends have changed so much so quickly and social media gives such a warped view that if you just look at these types of tiktoks and reels it seems like the 'traditional' things are uncommon and surprising now

Wanted to put out there that one thing I do care about as a guest is the date and location of your OUTDOOR wedding!! I've been to 2 miserably hot weddings in July and August (the August one was in Missouri!) and one 32° one where we were sleeted on in the middle of October in northern Wisconsin! We were invited to an outdoor wedding in Connecticut in the middle of November last year, but weren't able to go. I get that no one can control the weather and you may not be able to have the perfect date to be able to kind of count on good weather, but if you must get married during a time that is usually super cold or super hot where you are getting married PLEASE have an indoor wedding!!

Check prices. They are all over the board. We checked far and wide for the right venue. We thought moving the event out to the country would save, but it didn't. Then we thought moving towards the water would be way expensive, but it wasn't always. Everyone had different things included. I found doing the comparison to be overwhelming. I had to get prices of catering and rentals to make sure I wasn't making a mistake by booking a place with less included.

Good thing mine's just an affordable occasion dress from April Cornell. Drives me crazy how expensive "wedding" dresses are... Oh- and the weddings I've been to- I HATE SPEECHES.

All the guests want is food, liquid and cake.

I agree so hard with the jewel tones one. My husband and I had navy blue, emerald green, and ruby red as our colors with gold accents and I absolutely LOVED it then and still do!

Cultural things are so hard. In my extended family if you do not have a live band or an open bar people will ask if you are pregnant. ‘Well they tried to save money maybe the planning was rushed’ Personally an open bar is more trouble than it’s worth. A cash long way to control drunken behavior. A Cake. Several of my cousins have thrown out most of their wedding cakes. We traditionally make cookies. Large amounts of them too. No one eats cake. Even the in-laws families who arnt Italian usually end up only eating cookies.

I had the wedding open to children, but once we all went to the reception venue (a hotel) I provided a bonded sitter and a kids room upstairs where the kids could eat, play games, and watch movies. There’s always a solution bridey, the fact that she wasn’t willing to even explore one makes her the AH😖

I'm really enjoying your videoes, but the one thing that I HAVE to say is..... Please please stay away from narcissistic types. They will wreck you because you would give them the benefit of the doubt and take it easy on them and then nothing would change. Because you say that some of these reactions are too "extreme" or "intense", when they're actually not. If you had ever had a run-in with one of those types, you would know that it isn't extreme to make them leave your event. They do not think like "normal" rational people so a less "intense" response is completely ineffective. Please protect your people-pleasing heart from that type of being. I worry for you.....

Could you make a video about alternatives to large receptions?

Would LOVE a Cricut video!!!

PLEASE do a whole video on the jewel tones! I ADORE this trend and plan on using deep sapphire silver, black with hints of a dusty blue for ours!

On the hashing thing. Do you have any experience with the POV Camera website and QR code?

As for the outfit change. I spent a LOAD on my gown and matching veil. (Well it's a load for us anyway) So I am planning on bustling my dress AND bustling my veil. And why the extra expense? At least with one expensive dress you get to wear it the whole time. Why divide up the time you wear a dress for two or three times the cash?

I was on the same page regarding cake, don't care, don't need it. But then my sister had her wedding last Novemeber and she had a citrus and elderflower cake. We could not get enough. Did they take cake home? Yes. Did the venue not cut enough cake? Also yes. And did the guests eat all of the cake that was made available to them? You bet your bottom dollar they did!

Jamie, can you please do a VERY detailed video on how to plan an elopement with just the bride and groom. I need you to hold my hand. ❤

For all those in his family who were telling the groom in the first story to just send "Margo the ex" away and let Mom stay? I'd have kicked out both as he did. BUT if I had to choose to let one stay and let one go, Mom would be hitting the pavement. She's the one with the obligation to honor my feelings and choices, she's the one who received the invitation and invited Margo instead of her own husband, and she's the one who decided to attempt to ruin my wedding and insulted my new wife. She'd be dead to me. As would her new husband who knew of her plan and didn't try to stop her or warn me.

trying to decide cermony and reception at home (2 acres, big tree in front yard which is where we would get married) and reception would be in the next paddock with wetlands nature next to us, ) or the small church down the road and reception at home.

Can I be honest.. with the creation of social media and Pinterest and wedding dress tv shows… we all have wedding burn out. We don’t care

Yes things are okay now 🙂

They won't invite her to their wedding anyway

Fronk! Iykyk

As a guest & bridesmaid at several weddings we don't care about most of these things & we won't remember them. If they are important to you and you can afford them have at it. The most important things to guests (aside from celebrating the happy couple) are timing, please don't make us wait hours between the ceremony & reception, enough seating & shelter from the elements. Food should be good & plentiful. Drinks don't have to be alcohol but there needs to be a variety of choices. Don't be that reddit bride & groom who only planned on serving water, guests will remember that & not in a good way.

I 100% agree with all this list! I'm 64 so I've seen trends come and go lol when our son got married, we had a dj who made sure everything was taken care of, even though they weren't responsible for it. We had the best time! 8 years later, we still get asked about our dj experience. I have to think they aren't the only dj people as wonderful!

Men, DON’T GET MARRIED!!!!!

All of these are very cultural and trendy. Also, who is still using cheques? I had a ceilidh (a series of traditional folk dances that have specific steps). I'm struggling to imagine some of these things. For example, it would be strange to not have certain speeches at a wedding where I live. That would be remarked upon. I will say that we did have exceptional continuity with fonts and colours on everything from the invitations to the seating chart because it mattered to both of us. As far as the guest book is concerned, we had a polaroid camera, and people signed their pictures. We did have a designated person to take control of that because otherwise, I think people would have simply kept their photos or a child would have taken the camera. We also took the camera on our honeymoon and added to the photo album. In terms of flowers, so many people commented on our flowers, and they were incredibly affordable, locally grown, and lovely. I think in total it was something around £600 for bouquets, buttonholes, greenery, etc in part because the flowers were in season and I gave the florist a great deal of creative freedom as long as the colour pallet was right. The centrepieces included a hand-painted landscape (done by me), a stack of books (from my personal library) tied with a ribbon, a teacup and saucer with flowers, different wooden boxes/little crates for height variation, and the table name/number which was the location of the landscape.

Our flower girl (my then-six-year-old cousin) was SUCH a pro. Very dignified, very careful, very demure, very mindful, etc. Laid a perfect trail of rose petals down the aisle, scattered more in a neat little patch right where we would be standing (the officiant coached her a little, haha), and generally comported herself like a graceful fairy princess. Our ring bearer (my then-three-year-old nephew) tromped down the aisle like a grinning dinosaur, opened the box the rings were in, and very nearly lost them. Both of them were perfect, because their job was to be adorable children. Everyone loved them and the pictures were great.

Guests care when the flowers are tacky, hideous or fake

yes, Yes & YES to incorporating the interior design, art & fruit as centerpieces! My people aren't quite seeing the vision, but this is actually a good thing!!!❤❤❤

What is a branded wedding?

It’s honestly wild to me that so many people are defending the dad (prior to him deciding to give his daughter the money, which changes things). Sure, he’s not obligated to pay for her wedding, but there are plenty of things we aren’t obligated to do that we’d still be assholes not to. I’m not obligated to take my friend out to dinner on her birthday, but if I offered to do so, made plans with her, and was going to follow through until the moment she ordered an appetizer I didn’t recommend, at which point I refused to pay because I felt entitled to dictate her meal, I would pretty clearly be an asshole. Obligation has nothing to do with it.

So true to make sure the clean up crew knows they're supposed to clean up. At my good college friends wedding, I didn't know and almost left and the person who caught me was a but upset i was leaving. I had no idea and she was the 1st of us to get married. Also, a lot of her decor. To this day, we have no idea that happened to it. Then 10 yrs later at my sister's mountain wedding, i didn't realize how hard alcohol would hit on the mountain since i normally didn't drink hard liquor, and I wasn't of any use. Not my proudest moment.

Married in 2006 and I’ve always thought it a fail that we opted for no speeches. Honestly, I just didn’t want to burden anyone with the task. Maybe we were just ahead of our time. I feel better about this!

Bathroom basket in the last 18 months I see the trend of people emptying the baskets so when you go at the end of the night, there’s not anything in it.

For my wedding, we rented the community space at our apartment. We used it as a casual hangout for friends in the days leading up to the wedding, a getting-ready space the morning of, a place for my husband to play video games into the night with his friends, and a space for our little reception dinner the day of the wedding. $300 total.

For the record, “excoriating” is a word, but, in that context, they definitely did mean “excruciating”

Agree with all of the above.

Outfit change is cultural sometimes

That third one definitely saw those wish listings fraudulently using the same pictures as the actual seller of the dress they’re badly duping, fell for it head first, and is now mad his fiancee knows better

Honestly people prefer creative or minimalist decor over flowers. Flowers feel very outdated

I care about having somewhere to sit, eat and drink and a decent DJ. I don't care about anything else. LOL

I enjoy flowers a lot but I wouldn't judge a couple for not having them.

Your hair is ABSOLUTELY gorgeous!!! Do you use a curling iron?

You’re so witty and cute 😊 New to the channel, 2025 bride to be 🎉 Thanks for sharing your expertise.

Wait immediately have to comment again, bands are 5000% better than DJs, and I think a lot of my friends/family all agree here

Dance floor props are so weird, always make me feel like I’m at a Bar Mitzvah or Sweet 16

@ weddings I never cared for sign in photo booths..

There are some horrible parents about there! I don’t have instagram so no one knows about our lives. Is the best ❤

I have so much stuff from over the years in my bedroom junk drawer I could totally put together a bathroom basket for free 💀

For not being on their phones, they could have been out of the country and chose to not pay for international service so turned off text messages but could still connect to wifi for app use