9 THINGS "NICE GUYS" DO WRONG (INSTANT ATTRACTION KILLERS)!

[@CoachMelannie]

TIRED OF FEELING LONELY? LEARN HOW TO FIND + ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRL IN MY FREE MASTERCLASS 👇 coachmelannie.com/masterclass/ P.S. Which of these tips are you going to use first? 💭 Tell me about it in the comments!

[@brianbcpryor112]

Ladies!!!! Yallz' NEEDZ'-2-HEAR-UPZ'-WITNESS💥COACH👊🏆🌹❤💃MELANNIE!!!

[@brianbcpryor112]

1ST) B-Secure w/ma-SELF 2) Confront💋💃💔Tha' LADIES...Even if she _they_R_OFFENDED EVEN IF I'M TELLING THA' TRUTH💥👊🏆🌹👔!! 3) I MANNZ👔🌹💥 HAVE DIVISONS💥🇺🇸🌎🌋CONQUER!!!

[@charlieswank8820]

👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻💯💯💯💯💯💯 good job 💯👍🏻. Keep up the good work keep making more videos like that.

[@charlieswank8820]

God bless you.

[@charlieswank8820]

I PROMISE!

[@robertgilmour494]

Dress nice, smell nice and learn to say no and stand your ground ✌️

[@roopealho1515]

Say no to who?

[@robertgilmour494]

If something doesn’t seem right or ask to do something you don’t like. Just be brave and say no. To who ever you want to date. In a nutshell stop becoming a people pleaser. When it comes to a relationship. 👊

[@roopealho1515]

@@robertgilmour494 Well I'm not being asked to please other than that one occasion, what film and pizza I want. I'm just trying to arrange a nice day with a nice girl 😅, but I'm not getting yes or nos, just an interest but then not they're not available/interested the day or time I suggest.

[@roopealho1515]

Like why can't they just say, no I'm not interested but thanks for asking.

[@robertgilmour494]

Sorry to hear that! Sounds like they aren’t interested. No date no result. People have habit of leading people on just for attention. Be your self and move on to someone new. No point if your not getting an answer.

[@sifublack192]

You hit the nail on the head with three things "nice guys" typically miss: taking action, having boundaries, and having ambition. I was a nice guy in high school and continue to be a heartthrob since college. Learned the skills by taking action, became more attractive by setting boundaries, and became a heartthrob by having interests and ambition. This was a great video! #niceguy #bloopers 😉

[@CoachMelannie]

Thank you! God bless 🙏

[@sylvesterchatman6611]

I promise! It is so true that "taking the cat 🐈 out the bag" and saying how beautiful she is or pouring out your heart before there is a commitment is a big attraction killer. Great advice.

[@BalticLab]

7:30 Yeah, women "pursuing" is basically her giving you the opportunity to pursue her.

[@CoachMelannie]

That's a good way to look at it. God bless! 😀

[@czajnikzaglady6412]

@@CoachMelannie You say men should be confident, place boundaries and >>take action

[@chrismcevoy2503]

There was something in my eye. Medic! I think that’s funny Coach Melannie.

[@tangrui1992]

I'm not Christian - although spiritual - but I find Melannie's dating advices very much in line with my own values and styles. Thank you Melannie!

[@CoachMelannie]

Thanks for your kind words! I'm so happy you like my videos 🙏

[@Andy-dh2sv]

Same here

[@andre1987eph]

If you keep searching, you’ll find Jesus.

[@torturetuesday5191]

Why aren't you a Christian? I don't want you to end up in hell. I'd reconsider if I was you.

[@homiesenatep]

@@andre1987ephJesus does not accept only Christians. Spiritual people reject the dogma of churches

[@boyfromsingo77]

This video was so incredibly helpful to me, thankyou! I watched it in 2023, so late to the party, but I'd definitely be keen to watch more videos like this one. Thankyou for all of your awesome content 🙏😊

[@DIYDad1]

I'm 35 and giving up on dating. There's just so many of these things that I've tried with women, some of them take things totally differently,i had a girl who broke up with me because I did NOT express my feeling towards her quickly enough, like one of your points in this video, just as one example. It's really a tough dating world I feel bad for all the guys out there in this race trying so hard and failing.

[@alanteare1603]

D😅nt give up. Learn, study, accept. You are here for a purpose. Ying-Yang my dude. It will burn and refine you. It is about you. Shine.

[@deliverykp1]

Not having the right self-respect cost me 10 years of marriage, now divorce, and a lifetime of alimony payments. This will definitely be helpful for future potential dating / relationships.

[@CoachMelannie]

I'm so sorry you had to go through that!

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I’m enjoying this video.

[@joshuaferraiuolo2565]

Eeyore is my favorite Pooh character. Having a negative outlook on life isn't bad by itself, it's what you do with it. I am prepared for the bad and pleasantly surprised when things are good. Being an optimist and getting disappointed when thing go wrong sounds depressing.

[@bw5020]

Thats interesting. I figured being forward about interest would be a win. Thats curious

[@justinellis8864]

Hi, thanks for posting your videos, I was surprised how different they were to so many of the others on KZbin. Yours stood out to me because of their sincerity and the fact that they aren't about trying to hook up for one night. They 'really' mean something! You've a really good positivity and enthusiasm that makes a viewer feel that things can will change. Many thanks Melanie. great work

[@jeremylawrence3174]

This is straight forward and I appreciate your insight. This is something as a Christian man and been out of dateing game for a very long time. And am empowered by your approach. Thanks

[@jerrypotente872]

Great work, ‘love-coach’!!!!

[@CarlosIowa]

You are the perfect example of a person who is comfortable in her own skin. And yeah, STAR WARS, which like you havent seen in a million years ... A LONG TIME AGO ... Have a great day.

[@14kurtismiller]

Subconsciously, I believe that after getting to know a lady most men are in, I don't know about this mode. We can get stuck between she's cool to hang out with but..? At least for me that's what used to happen when I was dating. Today I hear stories of how difficult some women can be and I realise that despite being single maybe dating ain't worth the effort and the reward may not be worth it.

[@gregjohnson5738]

This is a great video. I’ve had the tendency to get serious too quickly. Knowing that about myself and hearing you emphasize it will help me tone down my approach to keep the woman I’m dating feeling safe.

[@Yppengasse28]

@Melannie Say you're in the 'friend zone' with an old love from the past; is it possible to get back to romantic love without being creepy? Someone's got to initiate, and there lies the 'creep risk'. Thanks.

[@expression883]

Bloopers! And today's epic bloomer segment... hilarious! 😂 P.S. Awesome, helpful advice - you somehow always deliver it so positively, clearly and kindly ✌

[@CoachMelannie]

I'm so glad it was helpful! Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏

[@wayneames8775]

Bloopers I really like them makes me feel happy.ty keep up the great work good bless you

[@CoachMelannie]

Glad you like them! You are very kind! God bless 🙏

[@Puff29646]

You are really someone special. I love watching you. Thank you for the knowledge and advise. ☺

[@mikioni]

with great pleasure I watched this extremely instructive and interesting video from which I learned so much. Thank you 😊🤗☺

[@CoachMelannie]

I’m so happy it was helpful! Thanks for watching! 😀 Have a great day!

[@nathananzaloneanzalone827]

I am grateful I found you or God put you on my KZbin. Either way. I need the tuneup cause I want my dreamgirl. Built to last

[@chrismcevoy2503]

Blooper! I watch the bloopers.

[@d-rokcruise6671]

THANK YOU FOR YOUR WISDOM , MELANNIE, MANY BLESSINGS TO YOU

[@maxialart]

OK, no problem I PROMISE to stop being the NICE GUY and rock the boat by telling silly BLOOPs about feelings. Great video as usual. Wish you the Best!

[@alexflips393]

Haven’t watched for a while but I’m happy you’re going into detail on things now and you make some really good points.

[@CoachMelannie]

Thanks for watching. 🙏

[@Newgrist]

Fellas, don't be afraid of the "friend zone." It's not necessarily a life sentence.

[@waudicas]

Applause!!!

[@deshawngivens5883]

Yeah it iz bruh don't lie

[@Dman425]

@@deshawngivens5883 it is if you are being manipulative to your lady friend. You aren’t being nice if you do things for others. But, expect something in return

[@richardleetbluesharmonicac7192]

That’s because you showed interest. You do not want to be their friend because They probably have five guys just like you that they have a holding pattern and you deserve better than that.

[@richardleetbluesharmonicac7192]

Nice is needy and they sense that. Nice guys finish last. Do not be nice be kind and be firm and tell them that you want to be just friends with them that will spin them to the moon and they’ll want you like no tomorrow

[@tomcaldwell5750]

You keep leaning in (bloopers) iwhen you talk because you are attracted to me. LOL Coach Melannie, your videos are so helpful. You have sold me. I just purchased your Attracting Lasting Love Academy.

[@martinjones7246]

Knowing that as you say 'not to show feelings' to her early in a relationship? Or getting put in the 'friend zone.' This is something I keep doing without realising it. So to discipline myself not to do this will be hard for me. It is a revelation to learn that what I have been doing all these years is totally wrong! Wow! Women and Men are both on different wavelengths and agenda's! 😅

[@mustafashalapy4108]

I promise, i will keep these tips in mind .. thank you! :)

[@CoachMelannie]

I’m so happy to hear that!👍

[@whitewalker608]

These are excellent tips!

[@Jdizzle8507]

Thank you Melannie for the tips 😀

[@josephlepakiyo7559]

yeah ! to be a successful guy , you must have a positive attitude. Focused and to be confident in order to be competent. as coach Melannie advised. WOW!!

[@AustinNeaves]

I ain’t gonna lie this sounds a lot like me lol I appreciate the video I’m already feeling more prepared thank you Melannie . Oh yea and blooper 😉

[@blissurin8679]

I like u Melanni. And while u talking u lookin pretty awesome 😊 thanku.

[@silentcal275]

This video hurt but in a good way. Go get em' kings! 👑

[@klewis4377]

So many eye-openers on this one! Please keep them coming!

[@CoachMelannie]

Thank you! And thanks for watching 😀

[@25-8]

Can’t say how much I enjoyed watching your videos, thank God for the KZbin algorithm! I can’t watch videos longer than 8 minutes but for some reason, yours just glide past the time easily! I feel like I have learned a lot by watching them in just the short amount of days wether coming home from a long day at work and unwinding my usual hour time on KZbin as I relax just browsing or even on a bad day so please don’t ever stop making them! You are very helpful and entertaining, apart from not having any ego, your voice and style is just spot on for awesome dialogue if it makes any season lol I would basically hear you on an audiobook on some headphones if that makes sense lol! 😂 just sharing my thoughts

[@CoachMelannie]

Thanks for your kind words! I'm so happy you like my videos 🙏

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I’m tired of being the nice guy that no one wants to date Coach Melannie.

[@14kurtismiller]

I'm a good guy Melannie, I cross on the green, not in between. I also eat apples, stop to let butterflies cross my path, I shoo flies instead of killing them. I act like a confident man, I always look people in their eye when I ask for my change at the grocery store. I get pushed around Melannie, but in my defense I'm not running on those slippery floors at Macy's for no one day sale. Those people can have all of that.

[@CoachMelannie]

Sounds like you are doing great things! God bless 🙏

[@SteveHARDWATER]

Blooper reels are awesome fun. Did you know, Jacky Chan was the one to introduce outtakes at the end of films..?

[@kennethgross995]

Great advice for us Nice Guys - thanks!

[@shabbyjoe7877]

I don't know if you'll read this melanie. But I'd really like to hear what you have to say about how to not get caught up in the meetoo movement. A LOT of men aren't making moves because they're afraid of getting meetooed. Also with the huge rise in women empowerment, a lot of men feel it's the womens turn to make the moves. Just sayin. Hope to hear from you.

[@LawDescendant]

As a lifetime Christian, a martial arts instructor and Personal trainer. Your super right man it's dicey out there and they have a lot of power on both sides of the coin so to speak. Thank God I don't do dirt because I have had 3 false accusals from women I never even saw outside of work/the gym or wherever we had a forced togetherness. My reputation and being very smart about documenting things for proof of innocence saved me. Pretty sad because this evil world has made it that if you are good and genuine most girls don't believe that you are and if you try "too hard" to prove it you come off needy or weird. The juice doesn't seem worth the squeeze anymore especially when you can lose everything you've worked for in a moment.

[@Butterfly07949]

Wow, you have just said something that I have told so many of my friends (all my friends are born again and married bar one) I tell them this is why the church and one has just closed down because it didn't grow and that is waiting for God to do it when scripture clearly says that we are to go out into all the world! The Greek word for "go out " is the word Ek-bolo means to cast out or throw out. Jesus used it to describe casting out demons. We, the church, are commanded to go out with the same force. Yes, I totally agree with you, coach Melanie. we are to go find her. There are so many single Christians in the church who have waiting years unnecessarily for their dream guy/gal!

[@iamsobeautifulomg]

I just wanna say this to guys who have no clue about the friend part. What she means to say is that women are damaged and they don't like organic friendships. They don't have time for that. Unless you're around her somehow (class or work or whatever), if she's in public, she doesn't have time to get to know you and even if you get her number. Even if you're extremely charming and attractive, most will not respond and even if they do, they won't continue because they think you want a fwb thing. So they want to know for sure that you are romantically into them so you have to kinda get into your bedroom voice instead of a fanboy voice when you talk to them and try to act like a Chad rather than someone sweet. You have to act a bit like a player for a moment (but keep it clean) to get them to believe that you're not just looking for a fwb relationship. They have been burned too many times in the past by aholes so they don't understand what nice guy means. They think you aren't looking for a relationship if you don't get let them know in some way that you're interested in them as more than a friend.

[@jdivitt]

I'm the definition of a nice guy! Almost everything that you said I have done with the girl who's my dream girl of over a year. I do date I just can't seem to get her and she definitely knows how I feel about her!!! She's a special case! LOL I love those bloopers at the end!

[@CoachMelannie]

Let me know if you have any questions! Thanks for watching! 🙏

[@timgillenwater5989]

Thank you so much Melannie you spot on once again, may God bless you and your ministry

[@CoachMelannie]

My pleasure! Thanks for your kind comment!😀

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I can be a confident man in who I am.

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I think I’m attractive in my own way.

[@mr.goodwrench8273]

NICE GUY . Which of these tips am I going to use first ? Establish boundaries. This is a must especially for a single INFJ Christian man like myself. I attracted a few toxic women before. Not fun. Lesson learned, it's water under the bridge. I'm currently taking the main paid course. Almost finished. A very well put together course. Thanks and God bless you Melannie.

[@CoachMelannie]

Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm so happy the program is helping! Boundaries are so important. Good men deserve to be loved and treated with respect! Have a fantastic day! 😊

[@mondomikeg4921]

Love your videos, Keep up the good work Show me your Bloopers... = )

[@CoachMelannie]

Thank you! Will do!

[@terryblackburn6073]

I love your BLOOPERS!

[@CoachMelannie]

Thanks for telling me and thanks for watching! 👍

[@edwinvsgio9212]

Thank you for the helpful tips 😄👍

[@CoachMelannie]

Happy to help!

[@TheOriginalWB]

Love those bloopers. So, holding their pet hostage is ok? 😁

[@anthonybanks8814]

Great advice!

[@pkf81366]

You're a treasure, Coach Melannie!

[@CoachMelannie]

Thank you, that’s so kind of you to say!🙏

[@tapanmishra6666]

Very helpful guidance Thank you Madam .

[@grahamcahill4505]

Melannie I find your advice very helpful.

[@CoachMelannie]

I'm so glad!

[@georgew.5639]

When I don’t let people walk all over me, they get angry with me. I’m tired of the ulterior motives. When the ulterior motives aren’t met, it’s over.

[@CoachMelannie]

It's important to set appropriate boundaries.

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I would use appropriate boundaries first.

[@thomasbohlander789]

Thank you Coach Melanie all the info will help immensely.

[@CoachMelannie]

My pleasure! Thanks for your kind comment!😀

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I believe in mutual pursuit.

[@michaelstevenson5883]

I’m a busy guy -- good looking , plenty of money , healthy ... but too busy for serious relationships , so I prefer the friend zone ... if they don’t put me in the friend zone , I definitely put THEM in it , & I’m good with that 😁👍

[@seandalejackson2525]

Don't be sooooo busy to take care of you Brotha!! It's a good thing having a hand to hold

[@andre1987eph]

Hobbies?

[@jarvisyoung8350]

Damn ! 70 years old attracted to a 66 year old that looks 45. And, you just struck a major chord. It's been said that old dogs don't learn new tricks... Well, I'm a rabbit owner and (unlike dogs) old bunnies do learn new tricks....okay, cue the TRIX commercials. 😅 Thank you for this.

[@martinjones7246]

I'm 65 this year, and to me Melanie's teaching feels like a real revelation I feel like I am just 'waking up!' I could have benefitted from this advice decades ago!

[@barryturnbull1955]

good advice thanks, nice guys,

[@captainawsomeist]

Being a genuinely nice and kind person is fine, but being an assertive man is what makes her attracted to you.

[@jackvauvau3245]

Blooper in the end of the video is so funny 😂. Well that's so cute showing your true self 😄❤

[@CoachMelannie]

Thanks for watching. 🙏

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I’m guilty of not taking action.

[@brandonruggles1715]

Don't stop believing! -Journey

[@dennisexplorer487]

Sometimes God answers prayer. I've been single for 20 yrs. I didn't believe I would ever find some one and I went to my Doctor and she put me on Testosterone, after a blood test, within 2 weeks I met a young women and I'm 60 and she is about 30, I'm scared about this is even happening. But we spend some time together and it was like magic, I was walking home and she works where I do, but she has this big smile and I walked her home and it was great.

[@chrismcevoy2503]

Nice guy!

[@jonathans.9713]

Hello Melannie, Thank you for good ideas and tips on things we already should be doing to build attraction. I will like more ideas on what nice guys need to be aware of. I promise not to say I have feelings for her or like her before we have been dating a few weeks. Bloopers. Have an excellent day and God bless you! In Christ, Jonathan 😀

[@jessiekamau3026]

Nice guy -thank you for the advice Coach Melannie

[@CoachMelannie]

My pleasure! Thanks for your kind comment!😀

[@shawnmcleod7231]

I can say I’ve never been arrested. My ex hit me during an argument and I didn’t respond. She went to jail. Unfortunately I hung on. I’m fine being alone. I walk into peace and quiet every night.

[@deancwatson]

Im interested in what you said about don't express feelings too early. I'm in a complicated situation with a friend of mine who I have a crush on. I've known her for a year and liked her for a long time but I was married. She was my wife's best friend but my wife died at the end of last year. So now I'm ready to considering I should pursue my friend. I have hinted by text with flirting and with compliments. But not sure what to do next. Don't want to freak her out.

[@deksper]

Outer appearances are only skin deep. Who is the heart of the man?

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I promise!

[@johnryan3374]

Guys... set and hold your boundaries! If you don't, she will walk all over you, and will lose respect for you.

[@dannyphillips8094]

I do enjoy your work

[@CoachMelannie]

I'm so happy to hear that! Thanks for watching! 👍

[@tomedgerton9603]

So there’s this girl from my church that I really like and I was looking at her during the service and when it was time for communion her and her family got up and they walked up to get communion and on the way back she went down the isle.I had an isle seat and she walked down my isle instead of the the isle she was supposed to go down.Is she checking me out? She wasn’t even following her family when she did this it was just her walking right by me I was the only boy that was on that isle. Am I reading to much into this? Did I mess up because I did not look at her when she did this? BTW she was also not going to the bathroom when she walked down my isle so It seems like maybe she was trying to get a good look at me.I mean why go to an isle that is far away from your seat just to walk in a half circle?

[@CoachMelannie]

It's hard to say why she did that for sure. These videos will help you a lot with this! kzbin.info/aero/PLsQq0KK7pJ-WjotkCVLvYKp30QhuvcKDN Let me know if you have questions after watching! God bless 🙏

[@evertonbrome2539]

When I saw my wife who lived 6 miles away i got on the bus went to her town knocked on the wrong door and found her family only to learn she was sleeping at her sister 6 miles in the other direction. I went and found her to be married for 40 years. I called myself a predator pursuing prey. If you like this girl, get up, go and get her. Don't let another man get there first. Write a short letter and give it to her or her mother. That may sound brave but fortune favours the brave. Good luck.

[@tomedgerton9603]

@@evertonbrome2539 This girl goes to my church? How do I talk to her?Or give her a note when the service is over Everyone leaves right away and I can not talk to her before the service. And she is always with her family! What should I do to pass her a note or talk to her?

[@RetroCaptain]

@@tomedgerton9603 If I were you...I'd pay attention to what the Sermon is about, and say 3 key points. Act like you are getting your jacket or off to the washroom, or say on your way back from washroom, and stop and tell her what you learned from this Sermon. Her parents will find it hard to tell her to "Pick someone else" as you (obviously) were not playing on your Device,... YOU of all the boys were taking notes! She will appreciate that as well. Now, if you go all slouch after she says yes, then you'll run into the "What happened to the (Tyler/Adam,etc) I met 5 months ago"? They all expect consistency.

[@CrossfitCarlos]

Your videos are the best.

[@CoachMelannie]

Glad you like them! Thank you!

[@Fiskerfraholtaas]

Hi. I have a female friend and we've been getting quite close lately. The other day i said i wasn't worth anything. The she said "you dont know that" or something like that. And on valentines day she said(when we where walking alone just to be clear) "Now you have an opportunity" What should I do😭 Oh And i forgot to say that I think im in love with her.

[@Coolman13355]

As for the 3rd thing. I had a mentor tell me once that waiting on God is an active thing.

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I think I have drive and ambition.

[@darkpoetik5375]

There is a girl i'm interested in. She rejected me, but i'm still interested in her. I don't want to do anything creepy, but I do want her to know I'm still interested in her...

[@stanleed.harold5457]

Great video

[@CoachMelannie]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@gregjohnson5738]

Can you do a video on how to make a long distance relationship work? We live about 50 mi apart.

[@alanmills-rw2pp]

I promise, nice guys!

[@seikholenhaokip524]

Hello Coach, I'd like you to make another video on type of guys in girls status (especially whatapp status).

[@dcvariousvids8082]

Bloopers show humans are not always at the top of the pile, no matter how we view ourselves. Which is a good thing. They ground us to the world, both the known and unplanned for alike. And nice guys bloop the same as everyone else. Only they endlessly apologise about each and every one.

[@christophermartin4383]

You should do instant attraction Killers for women on the nine things that women do wrong. Or at least nice women do wrong. I can guess the very first one on that list lol

[@smokeyfreestyle22]

I like your channel alot :P i bet you know why XD it helps me alot to understand this crazy aliens called woman :D And I laugh my @ss off here XD :P Thanks peace one love !!!!

[@fabianmartin3146]

Don’t sound like women need to do anything. Damn those ladies!!!

[@mikevilla5120]

You should make your very own blooper video that would be hilarious. Question, how do I get a woman that I work with closely to go out with me when she is afraid of what others we work with think if they see us together. I've asked her out twice but she turned me down twice because of this little problem. Personally I dont care what other people think if she and I were to date it's not any of their business if we're seeing each other.

[@CoachMelannie]

If you'd like to email me I can help you with this. coachmelannie.com/contact-me/ Thanks for the blooper idea. I have an old one kzbin.info/www/bejne/kJiTpneKhryjqrc I should have my editor make a new one. Have a happy day! 😀

[@thelegendkillersshittyduff1335]

This is like a damn math college course lol

[@CoachMelannie]

I'm so sorry it feels that way! I promise it really isn't! God bless! 😀

[@thelegendkillersshittyduff1335]

@@CoachMelannie thanks

[@shawnoleary6031]

"Add So Much to Offer" = He must have money.

[@CoachMelannie]

It's important to remember that a high quality women has her own money. She doesn't need yours.

[@roybeach102]

I promise.. Nice guys