9 Things Women Should Never Do For A Man - Women MUST WATCH

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Thanks to all of you that have subscribed to my channel. It means a lot to me to see you want to learn about these topics.

[@victoryirhabor9734]

I appreciate all you are doing but what about gifting a guy you are datin? Or suporting him financially more like a loan??

[@integrityisnotforsale1531]

Great advice! Thank you! A number ten might be…that I’ve witnessed a lot with some friends…is “Don’t become a raging feminist”…where the woman refuses to let the guy do anything nice or gentlemanly for her and accuses him of thinking she can’t do things for herself. It really puts a guy down, from small issues like opening a door or car door for a woman, only to get the response “I can do this myself”…or….tit-for-tat, where she might sulkily or self righteously say “ well if you’re going out with the boys then I’m going out with the girls”…as though she only arranges to see her friends because he is seeing his friends….

[@StacyDevine]

Like that thanks 😊

[@JoyRayner-tv1iy]

So what does it mean when he pulls away from you and makes you feel like you have done something wrong I feel he still has feeling's for his X

[@LilyKhan-te8zc]

wow ❤❤ first you are handsome second very well explained man's physcology the way you explained was just awsome ❤

[@JRS888LOVE]

Women-never do this for you men 1. Do NOT become the female version of him. 2. Do NOT hide/down play your intellect. 3. Do NOT become mom 2.0! 4. Do NOT put your dream on hold. 5. Stop avoiding conflict. 6. Do NOT fully rely on him financially. 7. Do NOT excuse his behavior. 8. Do NOT isolate yourself from your personal circle. 9. Avoid uncomfortable intimacy. Bonus: never send him naked pictures!!

[@streaming5332]

Yuk only a dipstick would take naked pictures.... zero self respect.

[@vilmabock478]

Thank you 😊

[@aprilcollins8552]

Thank you

[@kellywade8275]

1. Most of us women can't be the female version of him, because, he's acting like a girl. 3. No matter how much you try to be his lover, he will take his mom issues out on you. 6. I don't know any woman who can fully rely on him financially...Nor, would want to...except lazy, entitled dummies. 9. There has to be intimacy for it to be uncomfortable and avoided. Bonus: Only a moron, needs to learn this. Send him a fake of body parts...Kim K, JHo, etc. ? Sebastian Soto, please school the masses on this.🤷🏾‍♀

[@Portia620]

Never send anyone naked photos!!!!

[@julieaskingforafriend]

#4. I put my life on hold for him. Married for 28 years, followed him around the country for his job. I had to keep starting over while he got transferred and promoted. Then when he finally started resenting me, I had to get a lawyer through the divorce because he was only going to allow me a third of our assets because I only made two-thirds of what he did. And after 28 years of marriage, I had to learn to buy a car, do household repairs, all the stuff that I, as "the little woman" wasn't allowed to do. After divorce, I bought a car, bought a house, finished two more college degrees. Moved across the country, spent time volunteering overseas... The first half of my life was lived for other people. I'm living the second half of my life for me.

[@0906blue]

I had to sign off on everything so I could get out alive. A life of poverty now, but I knew that leaving. Still I left.

[@rebeccapoisson6126]

Good for you @julietellsthetruth4811!

[@zikrakhan7655]

Woaw

[@hollyperrin7353]

@@0906blueYes. A lot of divorcées end up in poverty. The system should be fair. I don’t like it when I see men getting soaked in their divorces, either. Remember that your value does not come from worldly values. Your Heavenly Father loves you. Work hard and He will make up for your husband’s lack. Bless you.

[@marianamarques8070]

I have a boyfriend, he's great, we love eachother. Recently we're facing an issue. I want to move to US to get a nursing phd and make more money, and he wants to move to another country and become a dentist. Our plans don't align. I don't know what to do. I'm so confused and frustrated

[@Ivana_piranha]

“A grown man should be able to take care of himself.” Say it louder for the people in the back. 🙌🏻

[@SaveTheMessenger]

I'm glad you found my video helpful.

[@jacksprat429]

@@Ivana_piranha I know a grown boy of 37, who cannot even boil an egg, and expects to be waited on, hand and foot. Unfortunately, he has obviously been enabled to do this all his life. He won’t even wash a pair of underpants, or a shirt if he needs it in a hurry. He definitely will not wash his own cup, or plate. He dumps it with half eaten food, on the sink, and expects someone to clean up after him. I am actually surprised, he can even go to the toilet by himself, or even wipe himself without assistance.

[@Ivana_piranha]

@@jacksprat429 sounds like my ex

[@jacksprat429]

@@Ivana_piranha 🤦‍♀️🙈😱😂🤣🤣

[@LesleyWarner-dt9il]

amen❤

[@Bubumauka]

My dad told me to NEVER call the boy back if he doesn’t return your call and he’s so right.

[@SarahBearah2023]

Don't chase anyone If the left THANK GOD & get through the heartbreak : learn the lesson. Don't over give & overdo (KEEP boundaries,!)

[@Manikarnika_.]

I do the same but nobody gave me this advice though, it is just that I have pride so I value my self respect more.

[@lilane259]

Your dad taught you well: he is a man and knows a man’s mind. When a boy likes you they will try and be with you, simple as that. Making excuses means he wasn’t that into you

[@amaliakonrad8133]

I am married for more than thirty years and according to my experience this young man is absolutely right.

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Thanks for sharing. What was the most challenging part for you?

[@lauracullifer730]

Yes

[@amaliakonrad8133]

@@SaveTheMessenger the most challenging point is to stay discreet😉

[@mrscalifdreamer]

Same here. Been married for 35 yrs. 6 children, 6 grandchildren so far. Biggest challenge is losing yourself. Always have a balanced life. I know it’s not always possible when you have little children but never lose site of this. If you do, you will become an empty shell and you’ll start harboring regret and anger and blame your husband and children.

[@relaxbebe]

Yes he really have been doing his research. I’m impressed so young and wise.

[@kathybieganski1258]

This young man has excellent advice. Over 70 yrs old/40 years married… he speaks the truth !

[@sandragray3951]

I was just thinking the same. 41 years of marriage and still going strong.Yes he gave very goid advice, take heed ladies.👍👍

[@louisebrigden9240]

"If you hide your pain from your partner, you may have peace in your relationship but you'll create a war in your mind". Wow! That has become my life, always protecting HIS feelings.. I've come to the end of it, and am looking forward to a new beginning, with or without him. God bless you Ismael.

[@sandramartin9784]

A therapist told me years ago to never do anything sexual you don’t feel comfortable with. Comfort equals trust. Listen to yourself and trust your gut if it doesn’t feel right.

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Great advice. Comfort equals trust 💯

[@AmyHarker]

That's very right. I strongly dislike, even hate, anal sex and won't do it with a man. I only like vaginal sex. The hype about anal sex is a huge lie.

[@lilyLily1824]

Why would anyone do that? It Means, It’s time to move on!

[@ninaelsbethgustavsen2131]

Always check if, and what sort of porn a guy watches...

[@LisaJones-k4q]

🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉​@@ninaelsbethgustavsen2131

[@ann5765]

My dad told me to never rely solely on a man. Boy was he right!

[@talenalewis1823]

He will control you and make your life a living hell.

[@ann5765]

@@talenalewis1823 yeah. Like my father did my mother and us kids.

[@annjohnson7644]

Unfortunately my friend is in this situation and now she wants to leave and is having panic attacks! You need to always have your own money and way out no matter how much you think you love someone

[@annemariesociety9605]

How sad for that woman who can’t rely on her man. A Man who will take care of her and protect her from the evil in the world. I’ve seen that women who don’t rely on a men are much more mannish (because they have to be.)They become less feminine and less attractive. What’s happened to “my hero” and “my knight in shining armor”? Sad..😔

[@jenniferhavlisch1940]

They're extinct

[@mnikaluza4]

I hit all 9 of these in my marriage … and he not only had zero respect but he became very cruel to me and walked out on me & our daughter… he’s my ex husband and I’m an ex people pleaser

[@raziakhankashmiriactress]

I can understand how hard it all must have been for you!

[@melissabryant2251]

Bc of narcissism.

[@ninaelsbethgustavsen2131]

Empath plus narcissist always ends in tears...

[@relaxbebe]

😢 I’m sorry that was my ex husband too.

[@anastasiabeaverhausen2660]

People can’t respect doormats. No offense. I dated one once and he was pathetic. He just wanted to make me happy. What about his happiness? You can’t exist solely for someone else. It will never work. It was ok at first. Then it just got on my nerves.

[@josutton7322]

It's really simple ladies. Respect yourself. Love yourself. You don't have to have a "man". Be who you are, do what you like, and if you meet someone you like, and he can't handle you being you, that's his problem. Single is best.

[@loriobrien7957]

Very well said!😊

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Love these insights. Thanks for sharing.

[@JWayne-ej4jy]

It takes a hell of a man to beat no man at all....

[@ninaelsbethgustavsen2131]

Tell any guy ; "As is" is what's on offer.

[@NotAStanAccount]

​@@JWayne-ej4jy Dude, this is aweaome. I think I may make this new mantra: "it takes a hell of a man to beat having no man at all."

[@redwoods7370]

I am a 68 year old woman and I endorse every point he enumerated. Great advice.

[@Keekonuts]

Me too. They don’t make women like they used to.

[@gurinapsait8602]

Been there in my 20's and 30's.. I'm 68 and I love have friends with benefits but not having them around everyday..

[@teresamcmurrin8672]

I'm 68 too, and I agree 100%!

[@CynthiaSchoenbauer]

I will be 68 in 2 days and I love to hear about what I have always believed but didn't know it. A bad father talked me out of it.

[@stellamartin1145]

I’m a blessed happily married woman for 28 years, I’m 57 and you young man are 100% correct in your advice 🙏❤️

[@elinat7836]

Finally, someone who cares about women! Lots of great advice!

[@SaveTheMessenger]

I can’t express my gratitude enough.

[@arianahoule7223]

My first impulse about your video was not to like it. However, I made myself listen to you. I ended up agreeing with a lot of what you were saying. There are so many arrogant and disrespectful men out there doing videos on how to abuse women. I'm glad you are not one of them.

[@yankeedogg2212]

My wife and I married right out high school and this year make 33 years. We have similar like but we have dislikes as well. We agree , we have disagreements. It’s about balance and compromise. Marriage isn’t easy but, it’s not impossible. A good marriage is a beautiful blessing.

[@lyndak.3592]

Just like ya'll, but married 48 yrs

[@Riddhi3583]

Ismael, you are the elder brother that every girl needs.

[@zelmalang1695]

As a retired pastor I can say, right on bro. I have seen so many couples in trouble because they did not follow your list. And your recommendations apply to both parties in the relationship, not just the women. Good advice.

[@Veronica-nz5lk]

@@zelmalang1695 any pastor work so hard don't retire

[@writer1986]

Amen. I learned the hard way. I made excuses for my husband's behavior; made him my world; celebrated every birthday, unbirthday, and family event with his family, even though they never made me feel like part of the family. After 6 years, I packed up my kids and left. I didn't want this lifestyle anymore.... Now, my husband is finally showing up, making changes, and limiting contact with his controlling, enmeshed family.

[@RacilleAshley-sf7yv]

I'm GLAD that you WOKE UP, out of a DEEP SLEEP.. now you have your happy life BACK!

[@Nela1481]

Me alegro mucho por tu Amor Propio 💕

[@SaveTheMessenger]

We're all proud of you. Thanks for sharing your story.

[@rich-ard-style6996]

Congratulations. Stay independent❗️

[@camellia8625]

I hope he will be able to maintain the new healthier dynamic with his father.

[@rebeccav.3734]

Oh my gosh the last one made me cry because I'd been in a relationship where I did things that made me feel super uncomfortable and gross. Please don't let it happen to you, I will never let it happen to me again!

[@ajcraft-hello]

“…Being yourself is the ONLY way to be IRREPLACEABLE…”🐝🐑😘

[@maryforbes4277]

@ajcraft-hello I love that statement too!!

[@LisaJones-xk6xz]

​@@maryforbes4277wife back door not allowed ect

[@JRS888LOVE]

Yas!😊

[@lisadavis5442]

Amen!

[@cassandraknight8804]

No need for disagreement to be a “ FIGHT “ … I’m so glad how you explained that one at the end. It’s so scary and hurtful to have a man fully yelling at you.

[@kathybikadi9854]

Yes, believe me, I know.......

[@katelyncourtright866]

@cassandraknight8804 The amount of times iv been told my husband screaming profanities at me and insulting and calling me names in front of my kids was my fault (usually in different words but that was the point) bc I had a "bad attitude" or bc I'm "hard to handel" bc of my mental health disorders, or even bc "he's stressed" is insane iv even been told that it's OK bc "everyone looses their temper" even though it's a multiple times a week occurance. Society today literally teaches men that screaming and throwing fits is normal and it's sadly the women who try to love them who pay for it.

[@cassandraknight8804]

@@katelyncourtright866 He is targeting any weak spots in your self esteem ( we all have them) sometimes I’m not even sure they realise they’re doing it, it seems to come so disgusting naturally to them… SELFISH.. your to blame for all his feelings he is struggling to process, didn’t you know that? So he has very low emotional intelligence and low ability to regulate his tantrums… can’t seem to sort out his own values and worth….. and again it’s all your fault, hey your even doing it to HIS kids. I know tHIS type well … If you have the resources and or support, run and lawyer up fast. If not know he cannot destroy who and what you truly are…. And what he feels you are- BETTER THAN HIM!! what they fear and believe.. they create.

[@pinnaclepottery635]

It’s so nice to be 67 and have worked through all this crap!! A book that changed it all for me was ‘The Road Less Traveled’. 😊

[@SaveTheMessenger]

I appreciate you sharing that. How did it make you feel?

[@Noora11_3]

I LOVE that book

[@darlenemstrommer7687]

Men are from Mars Women from Venus 2 good books to read

[@headstonelover]

my ex husbands wanted me to like the same things they did and I told them that's not good for a relationship. I started to lose myself because of this. I did forget my dreams because they kept calling me dumb. at 59 I am now continuing my life and what I always wanted to do. they relied on me financially. and NEVER MARRY AN ALCOHOLIC and if you date one or marry one get out

[@aheartofworship27]

@@headstonelover Exactly right. My dad was an alcoholic and he married this woman who now I consider family after being married for 30+ years when she finally ended the relationship she ended up with another alcoholic whom she tremendously helped get recovered, but he almost destroyed her life. When she finally had enough and walked out, she left him alcohol-free, and with money in the bank.

[@empressofenlighten5302]

​@@aheartofworship27I'm going thru the same time

[@elizabethcanterbury1507]

Thirty three years married….. MY HUSBAND IS A HARD CORE ALCOHOLIC….. IT IS BAD!

[@Selah1141]

So happy for you that you found your way ❤

[@headstonelover]

@@elizabethcanterbury1507 i know how hard it is t get out stay safe

[@pamelasimone5084]

I used to argue with a friend about dumbing down. She kept telling me to hide my intelligence because it scared off guys. I kept saying they would find out eventually. I think your advice is very helpful. I fall into the traps of avoiding conflict, changing my tastes to match his, excusing behavior, and dropping friends to be with him. These behaviors come from my own insecurities.

[@user-es9mb8wi3m]

I remember these feelings from my younger years. Some advice, not that you asked, btw. Spend time with yourself for awhile, no relationships. Get involved with a group whose purpose is to help others. Not to meet men, but to care about other people’s challenges. Grow spiritually. I believe in Jesus. Find your core values, discover your beliefs. Read books, limit social media, listen to calming music, learn something new. The topics/skills are endless.We live in a very interesting world. You will emerge a much more confident, stronger, more centered woman. You will begin to value your worth, and expect that a man should do the same. There are nice men everywhere. Take time to get to know someone, rather than projecting onto a new guy your wishes and dreams and rushing into a relationship. Make him prove that he deserves such an outstanding woman. Never stop learning and growing. I wish you many blessings.

[@maryforbes4277]

@@user-es9mb8wi3m So much WISDOM in one paragraph! I wish I had known (and applied) this as a young woman. It would have saved me a lot of heartache. But, in the long run, "All things work together for good for those who love God, and are the called according to His purpose." (Romans 8:28)

[@user-es9mb8wi3m]

@@maryforbes4277 Amen. I am a Mary, too!

[@maryforbes4277]

@@user-es9mb8wi3m Hi Mary! Happy 4th of July!! (if you live in the US-or even if you don't!)

[@staywellandstrong4199]

All good points for staying secure in developing emotional boundaries. Thank you.

[@deeveriamoore2205]

As a 45 year old woman this gentleman is 100% correct! 👏🏾👏🏾

[@ceecee811]

ISMAEL, YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY CORRECT. I ALWAYS STAY TRUE TO WHO I AM. I AM WHO I AM, & IF ITS NOT LIKED THEY CAN KEEP IT MOVING. WHAT THEY MAYNOT APPRECIATE ANOTHER CAN & WILL!

[@diamond6256]

GREAT VIDEO. I have separate bank accounts and some hid. Separate home space for doing my own thing, since I am retired. I have 2 self worth rule. You hit me or cheat on me I am done. In 2021 I divorced my husband after 18 years for cheating. I am an independent woman in Texas. I know how to talk to my guy and when to shut up. I don't want him like a toddler and I nag him. He is himself and I am me. We had different skill sets and we balanced each other. He just made a bad choice. There are consequences to your choice, he made his decision and I made mine.

[@nancymelloh4222]

Have been married 60 yrs. Realized after video, I made mistakes. My parents divorced when I was 9. My dad was everything and he left me, mother and sister. I thought pleasing a man would keep him from leaving me. I lost myself and should have demanded more from my marriage. Never have been left alone and not sure how I will adjust. We have a beautiful family, due to many sacrafices. Prayers everyday

[@isabellfox2915]

I have come to realise that in any relationship when a man or woman wants you to do something you do not want to or that makes you feel uncomfortable if they say "if you loved me you would" the only response should be - "if you loved me you wouldn't try to force me to do something I do not want to" and leave!!!

[@lynndurbin9476]

A Christian woman...date for marriage. Be modest, be honest, be straightforward, and be in control of yourself. Save yourself for marriage, get to know who you're with.

[@bronwyn8110]

Christian men too, right? It had to go both ways.

[@gewfone]

There's no god, delusional rubbish, offensive to read that, keep your misguided beliefs off media

[@LisavonAustralis]

Wouldn't buy a car without a test drive or buy a house sight unseen. You need to know what you're getting into. "Save" yourself for marriage is some of the most harmful advice an adult can give.

[@Inquisitor2024]

💯 %....

[@lynndurbin9476]

Trust....trust God.​@@LisavonAustralis

[@CamiKaze22]

Had to learn all of these the hard way. I kept giving my energies out to the wrong people esp in romantic relationships. My ex of 10 years left out of nowhere. I had no choice but to rebuild myself. Now, I've learned to truly value my authentic self. You have to become the love you seek or else you will attract many unhealthy relationships with people who also carries the same trauma as you. Thank you for the advice!

[@SaveTheMessenger]

"You have to become the love you seek" Couldn't have said it better myself.

[@aheartofworship27]

@@CamiKaze22 Facts

[@GreySquirrel-xs5ki]

If you lose someone but find yourself then that's a wtn isn't it?

[@lindiwesibanyoni1029]

This is so true. I wish to be agreement with all the things that you just said. My personal experience is that some mature men love women who have high levels. Low class men are the ones who normally asks for naked picture which to me are a no no. However, in a relationship there are no textbook asymmetrical standards. If your partner consums alcohol, the real him/her will come out once he/she is drunk. It is at that point that you know the true character of who you dealing with 😂

[@Susie_86]

A financially independent woman gets a double edged sword. Men definitely feel relieved through actions if the woman doesn't spend his money. In fact when a woman makes her own money, men hardly take care of them but if asked he'll say she doesn't make me feel needed, doesn't let me provide. These are regular guys I'm talking about not the toxic ones. The discrepancies in how they feel and what they say will always remain a major contributor to failed relationships or miscommunication. Most of my friends are males and I've often seen these discrepancies. Perhaps I've gotten to know them too well that they've kinda lost their charm to me but I love them as friends.... hardly any drama and almost always a very breezy and great hangout! ❤

[@Kayprofessor]

They are sooo confused. Everything they say is contradictory. It’s always something the woman is doing wrong

[@fabianafran927]

I agree 💯 with everything you said. You pointed out some really important issues that are overlooked most of the times. Thank you so much! ❤

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Love these insights. Thanks for sharing.

[@L.Landerson777]

I asked my parents , why didn’t you tell me you didn’t like him ? They said “ You Would Not Have Listened “! Ladies , “LISTEN “ . This man is Right ! I’m 72 years young .🦢🦢🦢

[@CynthiaSchoenbauer]

Thanks!

[@SaveTheMessenger]

That's so sweet of you, Cynthia. I appreciate the support.

[@Godwins47]

My husband and I had a rift the other day, talking about having a landline (that he doesn't want to have) I said yes, we are keeping it, and if you have a problem with that, WE are going to have a problem. And he didn't say a word. We are good together, we have been married 37 years♡

[@tahiyamarome]

So you're stubborn and he just let's you have your way. I feel sorry for him.

[@maricrismendoza679]

“Don't give up on what makes you unique because being yourself is the only way that you can be irreplaceable.” This line makes me cry and I don’t know why it just I felt so sad for me.🥺😢

[@annhobson1975]

I intimidate most men because I am a confident woman. And you are correct about displaying your intellect.

[@esmemostert6476]

This is a great and interesting video. I have been married to my husband 57 years but know him for 😮 65 years We went out then broke up then went out again. I love him like I loved him since I first saw him. We are very much inlove . I still get flutters when he touches me with love He treats me with respect and I to him I really think what you give out you will get back and if it's love and respect it will be a match made in heaven. ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@pennyscott4474]

I am amazed at your advice. I have daughters that are 23 and I’m going to share one of your videos with them! This is good news for today’s young ladies! You speak with a calm and reassuring voice of wisdom!

[@SaveTheMessenger]

I appreciate you took the time to leave such a lovely comment.

[@dizzysdoings]

There's a difference between watching a movie with him because you want to spend time with him and acting like it's your favorite movie. I didn't really enjoy the Pirates of the Caribbean movies. But, my husband did. So I watched them. But, he'd come home from work, find me watching a movie and would watch it with me. It HAS to work both ways.

[@demelzahunter8504]

I'm going to be my independent self no matter what my man does. It's being fake to take on his attributes. Always be you. ❤

[@LadyParisien]

Thank you so much for this! I'm only on point two but was immediately impressed by point 1. When I was a newlywed over ten years ago, information I looked up online and read in books for women told us to do exactly this - like what he likes and do what he does! I was also given other bad advice which really made my marriage uncomfortable and eventually learned on my own how to adjust to a healthier lifestyle. Really appreciate you are setting the record straight and helping us learn the truth!

[@_Lunalyrics]

Main point : Don't lose yourself for him/her. Keep it mutual. Don't overdo it. Manipulation is worst. Always remember If they wanted to they will.

[@ShopgirlNY182]

Omg I’m sad to say I have done most of these (except the naked selfies) … but never will I again! Thank you for such a helpful insightful video! Especially starting to like the same football team, doing too much wife chores at girlfriend prices, enjoying being around his family more than my own, I did so much for him thinking he’d value me more but he actually valued me less and I valued myself less. Now that we broke up after trying to date long distance for a year I now realized he was an avoidant attachment and I’m an anxious attachment, I have been on a journey to healing and working on giving all that love, time and energy I gave to him back to myself. Thank you for this reminder to just be me!

[@lindahandley5267]

I'm not saying that I'm 'Ms. Perfect', but I would never have been comfortable not being myself. It would have been the other way around. And, if a man is not in it for the same reason I am, loses interest, or disrespects me, I'd be SO gone. I taught my 2 sons early on that when it comes to relationships and marriage, you can NOT have love with OUT Respect. I read a great explanation of respect that has stayed with me: 'One husband said that receiving respect from his most intimate friend, his wife, reduces his fear of failure and being inadequate....it is like wind in my sails.'❤

[@sharitacash9318]

❤ respect is definitely important, in relationships and in everyday life.

[@lindahandley5267]

@@sharitacash9318 Oh absolutely. Respect is a 'life' thing...for other humans, animals and the planet.😊

[@aspadeaspade7163]

And in the words of Jordan Peterson, never agree to something you don't agree to.

[@jislanecarrasquillo9849]

Number one had to be the most surprising!😮 I genuinely cannot recall any other male coach who has given his female audience such crucial piece of advice. Not being into the same hobbies or interests as my man is still an insecurity of mine but I’m so glad that I’m hearing something so reassuring from another male. There truly is beauty & excitement in other people’s differences. This is why I love your channel Ismael 🎉 You give great wisdom that is not heard enough for your audience 🙏🏻☮️

[@SaveTheMessenger]

That's very sweet of you. Thanks.

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

A man will respect you most if you are just confident about being you. Men and women will always have different hobbies and interests. It's pretty crucial that they do have some separate time. You eventually live together and share so many things, that it's good to have some separate interests. Some women just lose themselves in a man. This can be compounded when they have kids.

[@lisanewman6065]

I wholeheartedly agree. Sadly it took me almost 35 years before I learned all of this. 😢

[@annettewestley7076]

Relationship is built on accepting and respecting the differences in each other. Learning about each other and enjoying each other's company. Laugh, talk, discuss subjects, ask for each other's support. Work hard together. Play hard together. Have a good argument and agree to disagree. It's not about winning. Wear what you feel comfortable in. See your friends and family when ever you want. Study as you wish. That is how you stay together and thrive.

[@SaveTheMessenger]

I couldn't have said it better.

[@hortencescott4056]

Sums up the whole subject

[@Marie-or8uj]

Just be you. Pleasing him will make you lose yourself. The saddest part is when he says “you changed” because he miss the old you how he met you first.

[@godsendization]

Wow, I was pleasantly suprised by your advice being in your mid thirties. I am a 50 year old woman and I thought "what can he possibly know at that age?" I would have to say, you are wiser beyond your years. You nailed it on the head for some of those. Keep up the good work!

[@colleenmolloy5244]

Perfectly explained. Having lived for 76 years and personally or through friends and family experiences witnessed the results of falling into the trap of giving their power away. Thank you for all that your doing to share this message

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Thanks for sharing!

[@loveshorses7]

Hi Ismael, I am guilty of doing some of these. I have a problem with #5 Because my previous relationship was very abusive when he didn't get what he wanted. Thank you so much for being here to teach us what you know. Your videos are wonderful.

[@rhondafowler7936]

Well done! I found this informative, comprehensive and succinct. Thank you, Blessings to you 👃❤

[@Purpurschnecke]

It's sad that these things even have to be pointed out by a coach. They should be natural to everybody

[@sharitacash9318]

I agree it's basically common sense.

[@Dalabombana]

…because love and emotions are rarely based on logic. Humans are imperfect, often inexperienced and vast majority carry baggage or unresolved trauma. It is what it is.

[@maryforbes4277]

@@sharitacash9318 Unfortunately, common sense is not that common.

[@sciencenotsrigma]

Social behavior that works in not obvious to everyone. I’m autistic, so I know it’s not obvious to me. That doesn’t mean I’m not capable of learning. I think a lot of other people are similar to me, and that’s OK. I think that, at certain points in history, this information was handed down by parents, relatives, schools, friends, religious leaders, etc., and was learned by repetition. Now, many of us have to seek it out. I don’t take offense to your comment, or anything. I know what you mean. I think there could be means employed to make sure people know these things well enough that they become automatic. I agree that it would be a good thing!

[@Maoma-mp4sp]

The young ones these days dont think like this... they are super selfish, and that is why so many fail...

[@lilolmejusayin8671]

Great suggestions. I did all of those things and am married to the same man for 30 years and still going strong. Nothing is totally perfect but we always work things out.

[@anitta_Ima]

Ismael Gomez Godbless You for this Particular Post, Iv Learnt a whole lot from your Channel, You're Brilliant. Kp doing great 👍👍

[@Jasminepsalm]

Loved how you called out those toxic behaviors with real passion. It’s great to see someone genuinely care. Keep doing your thing

[@SaveTheMessenger]

I appreciate your comment.

[@childearth4039]

Shows you dont have to be a woman to understand how women should treat themselves. Thank you Mr Gomez from all women.

[@maryforbes4277]

@childearth4039 I whole-heartily agree! Mr. Gomez understands how women should treat themselves better than a lot of women know how to treat themselves.

[@connieshutt3863]

That was good advice. People don't always have a place where they can get advice that will be helpful.

[@virgoddess3456]

Thank you 🙏🏻 and respect ✊🏻 to you for 9. Sex without love and respect for women and our bodies is less than zero; it is repugnant. Men who break up with women over this are not men and do not deserve women. They are no loss.

[@annstar2793]

This is also highly applicable to men with women or anyone in any relationship. Thank you!

[@G.G.8GG]

I confess I thought this was going to be another one of those arrogant videos where a guy tells women how they need to behave and what they need to give and give up to have a chance with guys. But this is right on. All us female oldsters can vouch fir this advice.

[@reneehigginbotham6200]

Love your videos, I've only watched two so far, but you are so on point.

[@qiggle788]

Thanks for everything ❤❤ It will help me in the future while i choose a partner 😊

[@4seasons546]

Love❤ good list thank you 🙏

[@The.W.O.W]

I see so many male "relationship coaches" give such toxic advice to both men and women. Thanks for breaking that trend. This was such a breath of fresh air ❤

[@domingacanilang2929]

Thank You for Sharing Your Beautiful Advices ❤

[@lillieknight]

I think your best tip was that little snippet at the end when you said when your relationship changes, you need to change.

[@Witty-n-Wild]

Let me appreciate you first.I found all of the points so accurate because I have lived this way since two decades and this really works although it becomes quite difficult to maintain your identity sometimes when the other person is too dominating and controlling.Listening to this felt like going back in time.Saw your video for the first and subscribed already.Thank you and keep it up.👍

[@brand-newfitmebyjuls]

Just got the validation. Thank you for the tips Ismael!

[@natureandclimatechange6990]

Helpful video thanks 😊

[@sonamsingh5874]

Now I came to know,I was doing this mistake everytime. Thanks now I am aware.

[@nelsonudeme]

I’m not married yet but these has been my mistakes over the years of dating. I usually get scared of losing people and so I please them to my detriment and of course they really took me for granted. Thank you for this great insight. I guess listening to you has made me a better person and I’ll so work on myself, love and respect myself

[@marshareed1438]

I never change my plans for a man. If he’s trying to get a date at the last minute I assume that he was waiting to make sure something better wasn’t going down. I do have one exception. I planned to cut down a tree after work & my guy friend wanted to take me go dinner so I said yes bcz he offered to help me cut it down. We took care of my tree & then we went out to dinner.

[@BarbaraAntoinetteVeronica]

You are absolutely correct with all your recommendations. I divorced the man I tried to make happy simply because I understood why he was cold (mother issues transference/insecurity from his parent's awful marriage & parental skills & his personal escapism with drug & alcohol abuse & more.) He hid this from me for years.

[@belleiccm9801]

Thank you very much, Ismael! I am learning a lot about myself and relationships in post-break up and your video helped me learn more.

[@eileenmcmahon6269]

Very good advice. I needed this years ago..

[@joanofarcxxi]

This was really good ❤

[@wintersparklex2265]

Thank you sir for sharing this information

[@Theancientninja]

I don’t think it’s that women become a sponge, it’s that we are mirrors and multipliers. So often if we love someone or they mean a lot to us, we will mirror them in many aspects. So I think it’s important to understand there is a balance we must keep in that

[@gborowme]

Smart talk

[@lindahandley5267]

I think that's true of everyone to a point. We seem to mirror the people we love and admire in subtle ways. God made men and women different in obvious ways, but in ways to balance each other out. Thank heaven for men. He knew what He was doing!

[@MizrahiChick]

I used to watch my love addict cousin morph into her partners. She would even dress as they did, take on their interests , beliefs, values, friends and troubles...their ENEMIES even.... Money...sure , 50 grand, live with me right away, no problem, Ignore my famiky , sure. She would disappear and his girlfirend was left in her place . Took me into contra independence , absolutely . I deprogrammed and have been single since widowed .

[@lindahandley5267]

@@MizrahiChick It is laughable, embarrassing and ridiculous!

[@annemariesociety9605]

Regarding #6 How sad for that woman who can’t rely on her man. A Man who will take care of her and protect her from the evil in the world. I’ve seen that women who don’t rely on a men are much more mannish (because they have to be.)They become less feminine and less attractive. What’s happened to “my hero” and “my knight in shining armor”? Sad..😔

[@ladytamara1503]

Bcos the men don’t want to be men anymore, if you ask them for financial assistance, they just disappear

[@bettyjohnson7457]

Now these were very tight and very helpful for me. I am older and I met this guy and we have been talking for 4 yrs and I feel he loves me but never shows me, I have told him this and he claims he does. I have never received any flowers, cards, jewelry or anything of worth, but he expects me to shower him with things. I am trying this one more time with him and if there is no change I am done.

[@SheritaLee]

My uncle told me never give a man wife benefits and you are just a girlfriend and he is acting like a boyfriend. When he becomes your husband then he gets the wife benefits.

[@Mariam-zoe]

This is so right

[@sharikavenugopal]

Single me watching this at 2 am for God knows why😅

[@Mridula613]

Same here but at 10pm😌🤦‍♀️

[@Angel-light.]

Exactly me, its 2 a.m 😂

[@betterme8412]

Same..2.29am now

[@theresaavril8274]

It’s 2:19am😂

[@gborowme]

Haha me too 😅😅😅

[@cindynichols1342]

Thank you so much for this!!!! So many young ladies need to know these things. You could add one other thing: don't expect your man to be resonsible for your happiness!!

[@shirleytamburano6256]

Two things, first, the doing what he is interested in stuff, that's what magazines tell us from the time we're 12. 'How to keep a guy...find out what he likes and like it too'. Second, us French people, we swear in French. 'Pardon my language' would be better. It's like saying, pardon my Italian, or pardon my German...and then swearing in English. Doesn't make sense, feel free to tell your friends. Totaly agree with everything else you said, 67 years younge female here. One thing to add, don't dress provocatively, he already knows you've got boobs.

[@LeratoMopeli]

I lost myself while trying to impress him. I chose him over myself and now I feel like hiding myself in a dark room

[@susanbissell6319]

Turn a light on. Start doing things you like to do. Go find yourself. He will say you are boring, he may even leave you because you are so boring. Read the book The Joy Luck Club. You will find a woman in that storyline like you.

[@clarissacu6364]

Excellent video!!

[@MartineHubbard]

Thank you ❤. This really helps!

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Glad it helped!

[@priyakumarigaur1137]

Last 2 points are really valid

[@carolynbarlet1665]

Absolutely right on all of it.

[@denellesalcedo2524]

So informative❤ love this

[@KaiyaKN26]

Wow. That was so interesting. I can thankfully say I don't do most of those things. I have always spoken my mind and I truly believe if you don't have respect for the person you're with you can't love them. For me my respect is very important. Your video has validated my thought process and I am so grateful for it. You always make things so clear and provide great examples which are relatable. Thank you😊

[@SaveTheMessenger]

I appreciate you took the time to leave such a lovely comment.

[@DarcelleBishop]

Thank YOU ✨🙏

[@bigmama2918]

Not depending on your man is sometimes not possible. Especially if you have children....

[@carolpowell2199]

All of these lessons are great until children come along. It’s not about you and what you want to do, it becomes a priority to take care your children. Your lives change completely. I put my career on hold to tend to my family. My husband traveled with his work and I cared for the family, house, meals and driving to school. Daycare was never an option (nightmares that have happened there), so I don’t know if this guy has a family, but he really seems out of touch.

[@bigmama2918]

@@carolpowell2199 absolutely

[@sylvia5361]

Good advice. We are taught this information as my mother didn’t know. Had to learn it for myself.