9 ways to STOP caring what people think

[@ReneeAmberg]

which one of these tips resonated with you the most?

[@robertoromerro]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/b3fEenqhopekrs0 Her mother needs help

[@tiffandtheword]

The stop second guessing myself tip! I am so guilty of this and I’m such an over thinker! Really going to work on that this year. Thanks for the three questions 😊 This will definitely help 💗💗 Love you and your channel✨

[@katiswan3160]

Caring less about what people think.

[@montahachagour6493]

Not answering the teacher questions just because I am afraid and then realising I had the right answer I am absolutely gonna try getting over that :)

[@amr0506]

Honestly all of them. Thank you, Renee 🙌🏻

[@user-yz4oc7nc7v]

everyday i wake up and go to school feeling really insecure about myself, it’s affecting me so bad that i don’t socialize much anymore like i used to.

[@0opznotfunny120]

Same.. I have school tmr after a holiday and none of my friends will be there so I have alot of anxiety.

[@sacartimalsena8515]

Same here. I think i have developed anxiety

[@0opznotfunny120]

@@sacartimalsena8515 I hope it gets better for both of you

[@sacartimalsena8515]

@@0opznotfunny120 thank you and good luck😊

[@janna6104]

Same it gets so bad that i start to tremble when presenting stuff at school

[@lee-cl8td]

“afraid of being afraid" wow come to think of it this is literally what it is

[@TaniaMarie424]

lee that’s exactly what it is! Fear of the unknown is fear of the fear

[@oliviaverhelle1736]

The only thing to fear is fear itself

[@Daisyhstone]

This video was needed, new year, new us, let’s not give a 💩 what people think

[@alisag.1094]

thanks, that made my day, and yes, it is a new year so a new start😀

[@milliondollarlady]

"Even though I am afraid in the beginning, I realized it was't as big of a deal as my mind had made it up." Sometimes, our mind is the only thing that's stopping us from achieving things.

[@nomanabdullah8406]

Karina Molostova all the time

[@ErikaK]

The most important relationship you'll ever have is with yourself ♡ be who you want to be, the your authentic beautiful self regardless of what people say... be kind, be you, be free !

[@theweeknd8399]

this is exactly me 100%

[@ErikaK]

@@theweeknd8399 sending love and the best energies your way!!!

[@theweeknd8399]

@@ErikaK your comment is the best I've ever seen in my life

[@vintagejunktofunk4616]

Erika K it’s so hard though.. like my coworkers don’t talk to me so I always wonder what they think of me... idk how to stop thinking this way.. it brings me so much anxiety

[@ErikaK]

@@theweeknd8399 aaaaw thank you so so much it means a lot !!!! ♡♡♡ sending lots of love !!!!

[@GraceGuitar]

I just had a major realization because of your video and I'm literally crying. So thank you and I want to share my conclusion here so that it can help all of us who are dealing with fears and anxieties about our insecurities and fear of rejection. With the first point she said "question why"! So I did that. I said to myself "why am I so afraid to hang out with friends and be at social gatherings?" The answer was that I was afraid of people judging me and seeing me for my insecurities." Why? "Because then if they know that (in my case) I have an eating disorder, health issues, or am someone who is anxious and awkward= people would not want to be my friends, romantic partner, business partner, etc... and they would judge me." So then I thought... and what if they did see me for my insecurities and judge me and reject me? Then what? Then I realized that if they did see me or ANYONE who has anxieties, health issues, or is not attractive and then JUDGES and decides not to be their friend.... THAT'S ACTUALLY A GOOD THING FOR PEOPLE LIKE US! Because then you rid yourself of someone who judges you for your insecurities and your attractiveness instead of having compassion and kindness towards you and wanting to know you for your mind instead of your appearance, how much income you have, etc. So even worst case scenario is actually a blessing! If someone judges you and rejects you for the things you are afraid people will hate about you, then good riddance! It shows more about their poor character than anything wrong with you.

[@admirbarucija2018]

This is a video I really needed!! I struggle with pleasing people, and even though I know their thoughts don’t matter, people’s opinions of me still get to me sometimes. I hope you’re doing really well Renee 💜

[@DrBiohack]

Its totally relatable!!🙌keep at it!!😘👍

[@admirbarucija2018]

@@DrBiohack Thank you so much, you as well!! 🙌😘👍

[@lindsayfoster4759]

I think the most helpful is to remember “what’s the worst case scenario” type of thing! I always think people are judging me 🙄

[@mc_kristie]

I was inspired to create some affirmations based off of the six root fears that were mentioned at 3:09 Here they are if you want to use any of them: 🌟 I will not judge myself, I know I am great. 🌟 I approve of myself. 🌟 I approve of who I am becoming. 🌟 I approve of what I am doing. 🌟 I love myself. 🌟 I accept myself. 🌟 It is safe for me to be insecure. 🌟 I am stronger by showing my insecurities. 🌟 I am enough. 🌟 I am doing enough. 🌟 I am becoming the best version of myself. 🌟 I am the best version of myself. This was a great video, it was very helpful! Thank you for making it.

[@BeverlyDreammotors]

Me: i don’t care what others think! My anxiety: ahaha sure u don’t

[@curtwild7392]

that's insane, I was just reading about how not to fall into the trap of fulfilling other's expectations of you and now Renee's video!!! i have a good quote: They get frustrated when you don’t behave as they expect. That’s key to understand-it’s their problem, not yours.

[@michieljanssen599]

I think you are amazing for the fact you share your problems with the world. It really helps. Ican perfectly relate to you as a person. I’m 19 years old, goodlooking (yeah show off, but it is what it is), shy and caring too much about others. The past year I’ve had a kind of depression and two months ago I found out the main cause was my social anxiety. I skipped school and didn’t do other stuff just to not be around other people. I didn’t like myself at all and I knew it had to change. Finally I’m in the mood to confront my fears and look to myself in mirror. But I still find it hard letting go the overthinking and anxiety. I mentioned the fact that I’m good looking. And I really struggle with the fact that I’m good looking. Some people will say I’m a poseur, but I dont care atm. Sometimes I really hate myself for having social anxiety and a lot of insecurities. For me it feels like I have no valid reason to feel that way because I’m attractive. For the people who can’t stand this comment, I understand.. I just needed to share this. ✌🏼

[@theweeknd8399]

it's not your fault that you had a bad childhood which leads you to become social anxiety. just believe me and check out actualized.org(youtube channel) on how to stop caring what bitches think i swear you will change in a week and you'll be to bully these bitches that caused this until death

[@3m967]

I feel like I’m starting to have panic attacks whenever I go to school

[@itsemmi3766]

same I don't even feel like myself when going to school man

[@daniellemarieee5490]

As someone who CONSTANTLY worries about what I say and what other people think, this really helped me to relax. I always worry that people look at me wrong or judge me for what I say even in the most normal conversations, when clearly it’s me who is over analyzing it. I don’t revolve around them like I let my thoughts about them revolve around me. Thanks for the video 💕

[@arpitamishra2837]

Totally I do imagine a particular scenario before any event or party and end up being disappointed 😓😓😓😓

[@NenaLavonne]

👏👏👏👏😊 What a beautiful and important video! Thank you, Renee! In this world of social media where it can often feel like everything we are doing is being judged and scrutinized, it is so important that we are secure in ourselves and authentic to who we really are. The only opinion that truly matters is our own. Never let the opinions of others change who you are, how you behave, or what you believe. Sending out so much love to this beautiful community! ♥️

[@Liv-yr2wk]

THIS IS EXACTLY THE VIDEO I NEEDED. everything you said are my thoughts daily and now with your advice hopefully i will STOP caring so much what others think of me

[@Ca_1021]

I really needed this. I struggle with constant guilt and anxiety for no reason because i'm consumed with the thoughts of my friends and their judgments of my life and relationship. Trying really hard to focus on myself and not worry what anyone else thinks.

[@Ca_1021]

I really love the idea of an alter ego. I'm going to try that. We are coated with so many layers of fear and self doubt and if we could all just be Stacie we'd rock so many of our goals!!

[@lemon2639]

That top looks so stunning on you, the colour and the material both have a simple, yet beautiful appearance!

[@DailyMaddie]

This is so true! Thank you so much for sharing this, we should not care what others think! Let haters be your motivators!

[@NWgn-fr4jf]

you have no idea how much you have been guiding me into this new year. Your messages are speaking to me and helping me so much lately, thank you

[@wesdowty79]

When you realize that people dont care whether you live or die tomorrow, you will stop caring about their opinion of you and whats going on inside of their little brains.

[@Gleek2336]

A lot of my anxiety stemmed from being ridiculed by people on several occasions a few of which were teachers. I've been openly made fun of, had a teacher yell at me for wasting materials in lab because i made a mistake, been told that I dont have the right personality and that I'm not smart enough. So I developed pretty sever anxiety in college centered around the possibility of making mistakes and have been battling it for 6 years now. It's a constant struggle and it's sad that a lot of those instances were from peers, people who were ment to guide and help me

[@HarryThomasPictures]

This is one of your most inspirational videos ever Renee❤️✨. Absolutely love your new background, I completely agree it’s always best to be be honest and yourself on social media and not pretend to be something your not just to get people to like you!

[@GR-gk5xs]

I really needed this rn😭😭 A boy just called me weird just for being myself , which is just a quiet person . Anyway it really effected me for no reason

[@LOOTS243]

A weird quiet person calling you weird... You can not take that seriously. Maybe he likes you; he noticed you are different? Being different is good 👍

[@bodyfordays]

People are going to talk regardless! Continue to be great!

[@GamerGrade]

Thanks Renee loving these style videos on personal development and mental health, please keep sharing your energy 🙏

[@kadinewport5558]

I really needed this video and I am sure many others did as well! I have always been the type to worry way to much what people think and I obviously wish i didn't, but I just don't exactly know how to change my way of thinking. This video definitely gave me some good ideas as a start to changing my mindset of not caring what others think!!!!

[@DrBiohack]

Yes Rene!! Anyone else so inspired for 2020!?! 💟 I think this is such an important topic, the four agreements really helped me, people don't really care about what we are doing as much as we think they do!! 😘😘

[@dorothyjames7033]

It is so important to have a relationship with yourself first. Great video to get us ready for the new year.

[@prolificF8]

I would have missed out on some solid tips if I had clicked out of this video. Thank you Renee!

[@romz11khan]

I resonate with this so much, in the last few years I lost so much of my confidence and its gotten to a point where I hate leaving my house alone, or having a convo with a stranger because I'm constantly so worried about what they will think of me. I used to be someone entirely unfazed by people's thoughts about me, and now I feel like I'm constantly trying to people please complete strangers and if they give me a dirty look or stare at me my whole day is basically ruined. I really want to just break this cycle because straight up I have to do so many things on my own on a daily basis, and this is not a way to live.

[@ReneeAmberg]

you got this love xx just keep pushing yourself to do something once a day that gets you out of your comfort zone and try shifting your focus to the present and not let the past control your moment

[@romz11khan]

@@ReneeAmberg thank you so much for your lovely response. it's really sweet of you to take time out of your day to respond! hope things get easier for you too ❤️

[@taylaparlee4011]

frick you are actually adorable and such a real person. Thank you for making this video it helped me a lot!! & yea you're just cute as heck, my first time subscribing to an account

[@sarah.ohsarah]

I think this is the best video you have ever made! I loved every second of this. Thank you!

[@megangodbeer4920]

I’ve watched so many videos on this for help... this is the only one that’s hit home n helped me so much! Thank you 🙏 xxx

[@vismaya2740]

Omg renee u r the sweetesttt ..Luv u 😭❤ ( 1st comment yayy 💫)

[@LouiseNorth]

Hi! ☺️ I recently found your channel and you are now my favourite KZbinr! You have helped me become stronger mentally and physically by being so motivating and inspiring so thank you so much! Happy I found you at the start of 2020!💪🏼💪🏼 Happy New Year!

[@maritaybieber131]

Thank you so much Renee for this incredible tips . I always care what others think and I overthink so much, so I hope these tips will help me to change it.

[@wilcesabraham]

Girl I just found out about you, and I LOVE YOU ALREADY! 🥰🥰🥰

[@sarahsarinsky]

Everything you say resonates with me so much ! I love the way you talk about things so spontaneously . You’re so cute and sweet ( in Italian I would have said “ carina e dolce “) One of my 2020 resolutions is stop being a people- pleaser ... and I guess the hardest thing is to find the reason why , the root of this.

[@corybarwatt2952]

Renee, you're awesome! Your videos of improving yourself have given me more confidence and someone to look to for help. THANK YOU!

[@LS23111992MC]

Thanks for your series!! I find them so useful! Love you 💜💜

[@ChrisGaultHealthyLiving]

Great info, Renee, too many people worry too much about what others think about them. Need to be yourself! Great job!

[@gabbysafron4565]

What I thought I was first I clicked on the notification so fast😭

[@NenaLavonne]

Gabby Safron ♥️🦋

[@michellep9536]

"It's actually kinda freeing to know that nobody fucking cares!" so funny omg 😂😭😭😭 I agree.

[@joeymcconnell5519]

thankyou this really helped

[@amirahhh7118]

I’m sacred to get a hair cut. A new style and everything and being in school I’m scared about what everyone is going to think

[@kayleighanderson120]

oh you just gotta own it..i bet you’ll look great!! and, hair grows back!! don’t worry

[@Haru-jq5ct]

@@mrruntaraba5192 bro I do that wtf

[@cowgirlcrazed]

maxamed cabdi maxamuud ok this video is about not caring what others think, i don’t think the person really gives a shit about YOUR experiences.

[@larajenko2804]

I went to a hairdresser And she RUINED my hair And I was so anxious of what other ppl think so I stayed at home And was anxious the whole day

[@amylouise4811]

josie jacobson chill they were giving advice? no need to be so rude

[@merllove9159]

Lol We all struggle. We all have strengths and weaknesses and my point is no one is perfect. No one can make us fear of being ourselves , no one can make us feel like being ourselves isn’t good enough. No one is YOU and that is your power xx

[@stevengordon9365]

Loving your work..... I was needing this video today... Thank you ❤

[@DayanaDeHabana]

1:07 "What's it called?.... twinkles?" hahaha love it

[@bibliosapient9236]

Thanks Renee😊😘 I very recently came across your channel.. and I'm binge watching all your videos!! 🙈You're the best!! BE THE STAR OF YOUR OWN LIFE! Best advice to begin the new year with.. it's so crucial.

[@SuperSparkles143]

Love the alter ego idea 😍 I’m definitely going to implement this for my first day back to college 🙏

[@ruchitakadam8249]

Hello , Renee. I love your videos ❤️ everything what you just said in this video I go through this every day that was like much needed for me. Thank you so much for your words. Love you lots !!

[@joymae]

Renee I know you’ve been having a tough time with social media and the trolls lately and this old video of yours popped up on my home page! Omg. I had to share it with you.

[@camera0bsessedx]

this video was so helpful and informative, thank you Renee! I really relate to the making expectations for situations and creating how I want events and conversations to go which is so bad and I'm trying to stray away from doing it so much.

[@jimenaescamilla1167]

I’m LOVING this content!💕 Keep it going!!

[@anithajoishy5601]

I was just rewatching ur first day of 2020 vlog. It is so motivating and at the end when u said ull upload on Wednesday I remembered today is Wednesday and that made me so happy. I love watching ur content so so much. Love u Renee😙😙😙💖

[@ReneeAmberg]

[@hafizaliff7329]

one of my favourite videos on youtube

[@ilovemusic5177]

I could careless whether someone likes me or not... I'm always like "honey I've been doing good before I met you, and I will NOT stop doing good when you stop liking me" It's crazy the amount of people who get upset over someone who doesn't like them or stop liking them. You just gotta move on and leave them behind.

[@nolakhalid7745]

Soo happy these videos are back !!

[@alyssajones4368]

I use to struggle with this alot. My confidence was lower than dirt itself at the time. It took me years but I finally conquered my feelings of insecurity about myself. Of course folks will continue to talk shit, that's just life. Now I hold my head up with dignity and not give a single solitary fuck 😁

[@abhijitsingh5530]

Hey Renee. Its your biggest follower !!

[@zage5495]

I learned so much about myself in one video.... I love you you just got a sub

[@cutiepanda3654]

This helped a lot gurl ❤️ thanks 🙏

[@stellawaterway3928]

Omg the whole video I was getting so much anxiety from the drawer that was slightly open in the background. Ahhhhh my OCD

[@Life-jf8sp]

1) ask why when u fear. 2) fear the fear. 3) u are start of ur own life and same goes for them. 4) 5) stop 2nd guessers a) how bad would that really be? b)What are the odds of this actually happenings? c)ways to cope? Good decision comes from experience and experience comes from bad decisions... 6) alter ego ( make it for ur self not for others). 7) don’t put extra effort to please everyone. 8) hang out with people opposite of u. 9) slow down and relax ( no need of control, go with the flow not try to go again it)

[@thanushan3981]

Whenever i get looks from people i always see it as people giving me dirty looks so i always try to do something different with how i act which makes me feel like i have to try so hard all the time while when i see my friends and other people be themselves in public noone gives them any looks and treats them normally which makes me think that im doing something wrong but i cant seem to understand what it is. I dont mind being neutral with people but it always feels like in public people just dont like me on sight and I find it hard to ignore that because then I will just live on with the fact that people dont like me so I always want to fix things as soon as possible with my self so I can reinforce the fact in my head that people see me as normal and it works sometimes but then when I remember instances when people stare at me I start worrying again and I cannot ever put my mind to rest. Dont know if anyone can relate but if you do say so because i dont know if anyone understands this situation im in.

[@Bella-cw1us]

Ping Removed LITERALLY that’s exactly how I feel when I go in public, like a ton of people stare at me which makes me think I’m doing something wrong!! And then I look around and they aren’t looking at anyone else so then just like you I do something different with the way I act/what I’m doing!!

[@CookieNYC]

I know this was meant for this year but I’m going to use this for 2021 🤞🏽 We have many similarities and this video has helped me see things in a different perspective. Please continue making videos like these🙏🏼❤️

[@loveinatincanclintericka]

Thank you thank you THANK YOU for this. Super honest and so incredibly helpful. Can’t wait to read that book. 🧡

[@kimberlyrepe6672]

Your videos are so relatable 😂💕

[@DrBiohack]

totally agree🙌💟

[@laurajstevens9009]

What a fantastic video this couldn’t have come at a better time, thank you 😊 you’re amazing as always ❤️❤️

[@fabianateixeira3514]

Loved this video! Resonated so much, thank you Renee 🙏🏻

[@antidelusionalpeeps]

I often practice the 6th tip, it has helped me a lot!

[@thebeestwin]

Hey Renee ! In the vein of constructive criticism, I may be the only one, I don't know, but I got very distracted by the background music, which is a shame cause I loooooove your "tips" videos ! I really enjoy listening to you, on pretty much any topic, you always find ways to make it fun and interesting (and I'm usually very easily bored). Love that you're trying out new things with your content though, it's very inspiring. :)

[@katiswan3160]

Thank you Renee for creating this wonderful ❤️ video ♥️ and giving me some tools to use.

[@nomanabdullah8406]

I think everyone had this from childhood and then as we are human

[@souleo1417]

Such a helpful video. Exactly what I needed to hear right now, thank you 💜🙏

[@wtrtowine]

so helpful. loved ALL THE TIPS

[@aradhyachauhan1614]

This video is soo helpful. Thank you so much.

[@iloveclothes666]

love this video. please make a video on your insecurities and dealing with them x

[@JessicaBurgo]

I struggled so much with this in the past and some days it still creeps up on me

[@terribleitch9526]

😝🐷🎥🎥🎅🗼🎠🗽

[@terribleitch9526]

📷🏰💽🗼📷📀🏰🎅💻🐣

[@terribleitch9526]

I do

[@terribleitch9526]

yes

[@sabrina3138]

Ok... I dont know why but I can relate to you so much. Its getting a bit scary.

[@charlestackett7137]

Slightly long tonal sustains and up-lilts in every phrase. Ahhhhhh... Oooooh... Tighten the bulb into the base. Liked the presentation. Didn't watch it all (no time). Good work. Thanks for honesty.

[@EvaAntonia1]

Thank you for this advice!:)

[@Morgan-tf7px]

Yesss me too overthink too much

[@rihanatosato3321]

This video really helped

[@nayana_4483]

Liked before watching ..coz i know it's going to be worth it!💕

[@asthaverma6859]

Loved the video. Totally relating to it.

[@mariedavtyan371]

I literally loved this video!

[@ashleyblanton8395]

wow this whole video i was just like same same! SAME so ya lol but love you girl 🖤🖤

[@SofhiaHannah]

Love the background and the topics ♥️♥️♥️

[@jjayallan]

Great video great ideas that I'll try & YOU ARE SUPER PRETTY💐( the alter ego resonated with me)

[@helenjones3515]

What if it’s not in your head some people actually don’t like you due to someone unfairly affecting your reputation? And them influencing people in your town

[@marissaalarcon190]

My reputation as a big effect on my mental health. My biggest problem is I opened up to people about a very personal thing that I have and I’m scared there gonna tell other people and it’s gonna come out and I don’t know how to deal w it’s it if it does🥺 like how do not care ?

[@sirendipitybritt]

I love Interstellar ✨ 🤩.Great Video! 👍🏼

[@tianadavis9540]

I love this thank you!!

[@xonglalo4702]

SWEET BUT PSCHO!!! 😁 DO YOU EVER FEEL LIKE YOUR A MISFIT!!! LIKE YOUR DIFFERENT!!! LIKE A OUT CAST!!! ITS OK!!! SO I AM BY AVA MAX!!! 😁 I TRULY LOVE THOSE TWO SONGS!!!😁 ITS IN A POSIVATE AND TRULY IS MY OWN INSPIRATION TO MYSELF!!! 😁

[@bhavnas1696]

Loved the intro 😄😄