90 Day Fiancé: Bilal THREATENS Shaeeda After She HITS Him

ET's Melicia Johnson breaks down the must-see moments from season 9, episode 6 of ‘90 Day Fiancé,’ from Bilal threatening to kick Shaeeda out of the car after she repeatedly hits him on the head, to Jibri’s mom asking Miona to dress more modestly. ‘90 Day Fiancé’ airs Sundays at 8 p.m. ET/PT on TLC.
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[@sherryjennings9542]

If I was her, I'd be packing to go home. He handles her like he a mean step dad. No ma'am you can do better.

[@sjames5777]

Agreed! He tried to Lord over her!

[@sonyahuett998]

He is supposed to choose the The Lord Allah over her. She should keep her hands to herself at that moment, bc things are to serious. Now if they were playing and they played like that then I guess it's ok. But I am a Muslim and no matter what I wouldn't put my hands on my husband. And God comes before everyone.

[@mareek2007]

@@sonyahuett998 I’m muslim too and the way he demeans and disrespecting her is uncalled for and wrong.Too controlling. I would never put my hands on husband but the same applies to him vice versa.There needs to be mutual respect and partnership.

[@idkjess2677]

Facts!

[@valeriewestbrooke2813]

Absolutely, I would call a car service and head to the airport. They have a parent-child relationship for sure and it's not going to get better.

[@LexiBlack12]

Instead of dropping her off on the side of the road, Shaeeda should’ve asked Bilal to take her straight to the airport. Run girl… RUN!!!!!

[@daniajoseph3397]

Piarco international next stop

[@diamonddiamond2024]

She need that green card. She should play along and get status

[@kennyking5606]

Bw are the most bitter women on earth 🤣🤣🤣

[@samsimmons2831]

Leave her on the road, she'll uber for herself, don't tolerate disrespect

[@taniapolicepedro1173]

@@diamonddiamond2024 agreed ppl tellibg her to go home as if life in d caribbean easy

[@thehighclass3012]

Keep your hands to yourself. Is it okay for him to play hit her in the head? It’s disrespectful & degrading.

[@Susu-td7vg]

I love how this video basically stood up for bilal, but in the comments we all agree Bilal was pushing it

[@daniel-smokes-kush]

Bilal was purposely trying to make her feel insecure, by talking about that booger, then making a disgusted face at her for like 20 seconds, saying "it's green" , and keeps making a disgusted face without saying he's kidding and says "looks like it's got a hair on it" , staring at her all disgusted and WAITING for a negative reaction. My ex used to do shit like that all the time. I figured out he was a narcissist eventually , and I see the same exact shit in Bilal. He's disgusting and manipulative. Definitely has narcissistic tendencies .

[@lorigutierrez6899]

Agree!!!

[@jazzg2874]

Yeah mine too , talked about how fit his ex was and had a nice body while sitting at a bar despite being engaged to me and when i did a little very tiny harmless slap thingy to him n walked out, he said I embarrassed him, the fuck !!! Thankgod he is no more in life and married to some girl now who is actually fit though, but I couldn’t care less!!! (Also I was just 54 kgs, but had a little belly )

[@evaz1383]

Exactly.

[@abiolahector7737]

That's how a Narcissist behave, always try to make you feel bad about your self try to break you down for them to feel better about them self. My ex was like that

[@ammabthedigitallynomadic3385]

Yeah narcs want you to feel insecure. That is their goal. That’s how they start with you.

[@gillskeete7621]

He's a bully. She is playful he's just horrible the way he treated her.girl get put now he's unbalanced

[@aa-ng4ot]

I watched her face and the expression. It was definitely a playful little tap. My gosh! Why is he making a mountain over a Molehill? I would run from this "full of himself " guy.

[@DeeDiamond2981]

Very playful.. It's a cultural thing that he didnt get abt her. Go home 🇹🇹🇹🇹🌺

[@vivibuffy3352]

No. Tapping someone on the head is rude. There are certain areas that shouldn't be touched even when one is being playful.

[@De-bd3rv]

He is horribly disrespectful.

[@samsimmons2831]

Don't ever tolerate disrespect, good in him

[@karena6642]

Jibri is so disrespectful to his parents, especially his mom. I get the feeling from him that he believes they should be able to do what they want because they’re adults. However, when you’re living in someone else’s home you have to respect their rules even if you don’t agree. If you don’t like the rules, move out. His mother has been so respectful and approaches difficult conversations delicately but to the point. Jibri always says she’s out of line but he’s just mad she doesn’t allow them to disrespect her in her home.

[@NycBeauty]

YOU GOT IT ❗️

[@jadesmith7983]

Agreed!

[@MzBombshell06]

This is so true.! You have to follow rules in someone else’s home and if you don’t like it then move out!

[@angielov73]

I am from Jamaica and we play like this all the time. I can’t stand that man. He is disrespectful and low class. Everyone thinks that immigrants only wants a greencard. 🤦🏽‍♀️. Americans treats these immigrants like they are nothing.

[@kitkatgeegee]

Absolutely! She need fi lef him. He's going to make her life miserable. He's going to put her down to make himself feel better. Serious red flags wid dah man deh! He is going to suck the life and joy out of her.

[@andreaskeete5662]

That’s how Caribbean people “express” certain things. Like a sweet joke yuh wanna hit yuh friend and say girl and slap his/her shoulder

[@samsimmons2831]

Don't disrespect me

[@Peace704032797]

Sad, but true! Smh😔❤️

[@bahgitigray8307]

Remember that is in Jamaica not the places he came from 🤨 Hands to your self is the first thing you learn in KG! 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@blessedisshegroup]

These are not growin pains in a relationship, this is a man chipping away at the confidence of a beautiful, articulate, spiritually mature woman.

[@user-fl4vn9bm9r]

THIS

[@tabithahampton4496]

Yes

[@PatinaEdochie]

Exactly smh 🎯💯

[@samsimmons2831]

She lacks respect

[@3rdayesmokin657]

Lol mature?... because grown ppl commit battery against each other alk the time

[@abdikaniali7493]

He is just destroying her real personality 🤧

[@nyimamanneh6649]

I will just pack and leave, the man is toxic

[@eclecticinspiration5064]

well actually if she stays she's the one destroying her personality because she's far from a victim if she stays in this relationship and she dies in this relationship she allowed it it's best that she sees her red flags and goes back home to the people that love and respect her and then her personality will be intact!

[@Bbrock1984]

Why is he even living with his mama any damn way, the mother has the right to say what the hell she wants to say, and the goofy son needs to move out!!!

[@juggyoscar7698]

He dont live with his mom he got his own crib he was pretending

[@francesjeanlouis9285]

You lied from the beginning, Michael!!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@nokedjohnson8244]

Please Shaeeda go HOME!!!! He's not a good person I can tell that she's already starting to lose herself!😞

[@ursulagriest6991]

unacceptable! Agee !!

[@friedaconradie8369]

Yes run girl run he's going to make your life hell!

[@adrianabonitaaziz]

She should keep her hands ✋️ off him .

[@Overit1975]

He's a trashbag bandit. She needs to go home.

[@mrssheryltumai3757]

😂😂😂😂😂.

[@destaneehoward]

He’s been treating her like a pet since she got there . I really hope she realizes that this isn’t how to be treated by your husband American or not . And I haven’t heard him say sorry one time for the way he made her feel about anything he’s said or done

[@joanneclarke952]

Honestly, I don’t think those words are in his vocabulary 🤷‍♀️🤮

[@jamesjohn9183]

She won't because she loves the house she'll be living in and the car she'll be drivinh.

[@godc1109]

Nah, she did that to herself. The moment she acted the way she did wit the car & seeing the 1st house. She actually showed him how to treat her. She definitely wasn’t humbled. Even her mother laughed at her. Most of these couples don’t need to marry. Also we only see the parts of the show that the program wants us to see. Remb that

[@godc1109]

@MeS. God was looking at her like my child that’s how u act. 🤦‍♀️ I don’t kn what house u was looking at, clearly that house was not in that bad of a shape. New roof, new siding, landscaping, they could’ve even laid hardwood or laminate floors, went over the ceiling and smooth it out and later down the line they could’ve redid the kitchen in the bathroom(if it was his real house) but other than that, the house was still in good shape. (She praised a new build home on her knees) 🥱 Tacky. The house not GOD. It’s wood 🪵 😀 She turned her nose up an had an attitude over something materialistic that had nothing to do with the real reason she came over here ( to be happy in love & blessed), yet she complained and worried abt materialistic items she saw the man carry. That rt there is why some marriages fail. All abt crap u can’t even take to heaven or hell. That if the gov shut it down u couldn’t even access. Men & women show each other how to be treated. She was nasty periodt. Hopefully it was just all for the show ratings & check cuz if Thas truly her, then God be with her & many more materialistic, wanting to be with a mate cuz of money. Won’t hv no real love if so.

[@gstaar4life]

Somebody can say something to you and make you feel a type of way but that does not give anyone the right to put their hands in another person. By your logic if a woman insults a man and his “feelings gets hurt” does that give him the right to slap her? Plz make it make sence.

[@letarosario8236]

She was playing and he got very serious. Threatening to kick her out of the car was foul. How would he have felt if she had done that in her country?

[@3rdayesmokin657]

He wouldn't have continued to touch her and been an adukt and realized she was being serious... he never crossed a physical boundary

[@moniquedeshawn6765]

If you're in someone else's home, dress accordingly it's not going to hurt because it's "THEIR HOUSE" dress however you want OUTSIDE of their home or else just don't go to their house

[@daniel-smokes-kush]

Bilal is really manipulative and she doesn't see it yet. Annoying her and intentionally poking her when she was already in a nervous and uncomfortable state of mind. Then basically forcing her to feel bad for reacting, because now he is giving the silent treatment all day and night, refusing to introduce her to anybody, isolating her, and refusing to take her out for dinner. He was only happy when she broke down and stopped standing up for herself, and cried and said "I'm sorry, and i promise i will never do that again". He only stopped ignoring her when she showed signs of being submissive. He is a manipulative, toxic, gaslighter.

[@tatankyxoxox5414]

Gotta agree 💯 🚩 🚩 🚩

[@ladymacan7874]

You’re absolutely right, except I think Shaeeda does see it. She calls it out. I think perhaps she feels that she’s already waisted 2yrs on this guy and may not get another opportunity to have a child and family.

[@stefanias1485]

Exactly right!

[@trudieristich795]

Well if it was me I can see if he didn't like it but it's kind of like well let it go and he didn't let it go for a while making her feel bad all I know is I don't care who you are husband boyfriend whoever soon as you pulled me over to the side of the road and start talkingshit I'm truly out of there I don't care I'm not messing around playing around I'm out

[@X.3xit]

Facts

[@Noortje394]

His ex wife even wished her good luck with that man🤦🏻‍♀️

[@ilovegoodsax]

And she was Bilal's second wife!

[@Noortje394]

@@ilovegoodsax oh really so this new wife is his third wife 🤭

[@FNJ720]

@@ilovegoodsax oh wow! I didn’t know that she was his 2nd wife!😳

[@damnpam4680]

@@FNJ720 me either

[@agnesmkhuzangwe7308]

That’s when u know

[@malakmuhammedzaid4914]

I was married to one similar to this Bilal. He treated me like a child not a wife, I was always apologizing, it’s a kind of abuse. This happens to me while I was in my early twenties, I needed up divorced with 2 kids but stronger that before. Girl run and never look back

[@empathicstarseed8860]

She shouldn’t walk around the house like that with her husband there. It is all about respect.

[@camrienjackson1614]

Definitely disrespectful

[@shantoriawashington]

that’s like saying she shouldn’t be wearing shorts just because her husband there ?? people should be able to wear whatever they want that is plain weird.

[@iStorm-my5fp]

​@@shantoriawashingtonnot in other ppls house

[@lisas5935]

Abuse is not always physical. Bilal does everything to make her feel insecure and belittle her. He speaks to her like you discipline a child. He plays "jokes" on her that no woman would find funny nor tolerate. I hope she sees what a controlling, abusive jerk he is and does not marry him.

[@WellnesspodcastTV]

Why is she so desperate? He has already divorced 2 women.

[@alfrednewman696]

Reverse the sexes and see how men feel. now realize the MINUTE a man hits a woman he is demonized. Western woman are so solipsistic its insane.

[@ImWorthy4Real]

Me too!! I feel so sorry for her!! She need to go back home!!!

[@WellnesspodcastTV]

@@ImWorthy4Real She has just been defending Bilal on her social media, claiming that people are unfair to successful black men. She claimed people were branding Bilal a "narcissist", and that what we see is not reality. I therefore think her tears are acting too. I doubt she is better than Bilal's 2 ex wives. My mind just changed about her and she deserves what she gets.

[@fluffy_minion_unicorn4117]

Technically, they’re already married. They’re marriage just isn’t recognised under laws of the U.S. so they have to get it legally recognised.

[@ladymacan7874]

Bilal is the type that does not take responsibility for his actions. He always manages to place blame on Shaeeda and he talks down to her like she is a child. Unless Shaeeda runs away now (and she should), I foresee a 3rd divorce in Bilal’s future.

[@NakyaMami]

Then they’re suprised once the partner finally have papers, that she/he is OUT

[@she_sings_delightful_things]

My ex did this to me throughout our almost 10 year relationship. He killed the joy I had inside with his manipand gaslighting, it cuts deep. She's in for a whole world of hurt with that egotistical man.

[@mpalmer7800]

Bilal is a manipulative person and is looking to get a woman he can break in

[@julietteoscaralphanovember2223]

They did get married. Now time will tell how long it doesn't last

[@LuvHuni]

Bilal was married twice before Shaida?

[@mm-px4io]

Why would you help a grown woman do her laundry? Show her how to work the machine and that's it! He likes it! The mom can say, not to dress like that in her home.

[@bamachic3084]

Bilal is a complete Prude. Life with him has to be like a strict job . Noone should want a home life like that . She’s beautiful and needs to move along!

[@evaz1383]

Bilal thinks very highly of himself. He should come down from his high horse. At that point, I would have called an Uber and taken the first plane back to Trinidad.

[@Wolfythecat2023]

Seriously if he wasn’t playing and she hit him he had every right to set a clear and healthy boundary such as THOUGH SHALT NOT HIT ME, had he popped her upside the head he’d be in jail

[@evaz1383]

@@Wolfythecat2023 She didn't hit him. She touched him with a little tap. I'm getting huge narc vibes from him.

[@gloreenmurphy2452]

He's a PUNK WICKED BOY

[@nadineflow]

Right .Until now he seems to be a real controlling narcistic guy

[@Miss-zr1rv]

No because she wants his money😂

[@fluffy_minion_unicorn4117]

I don’t understand why you’re always defending Bilal. It’s annoying. He’s rude, manipulative and treats her like a child not an equal or a wife. He doesn’t want a wife, he wants a dog. Someone he can control and “lay down the law to.”

[@sayla1996]

I was wondering the same thing. The below is what I wrote in a comment. Melicia you as an African American woman, consistently show favor towards black men and you're biased against black women. I think this is part of your culture for women to accept "Struggle Love"; long term stress from their relationship, for women to walk on eggshells while tolerating extremely hurtful things. In a previous clip, Bilal did something disgraceful. He broke the *ANCIENT LAWS OF HOSPITALITY*. When a guest/traveller arrives to your home, your car must be clean and tidy, your home must be clean. There can't be any structural damage to your home, the ceiling can't be mouldy or falling down in disrepair, the kitchen faucet can't be broken, the carpet can't be dirty etc etc. Shaeeda was exhausted from travelling, probably anxious and nervous as she's a foreigner in a strange country. Bilal didn't even bother to greet her with flowers just a dirty/cluttered van to test her true intentions. Melicia, you didn't consider that disrespectful or breaking boundaries. Shaeeda is to accept rude/disrespectful behaviour from Bilal in the hopes that she will be "rewarded" with love and affection once her loyalty has been tested is *"Struggle Love"*. Shaeeda is not African American and I'm not sure she will tolerate *"Struggle Love"*; unhealthy behaviour from Bilal kinda like a rite of passage that she has to endure in order for Bilal to value her. @Fluffy, I think Melicia as an African American woman was raised with the concept of "struggle love" where stress & turbulence is mistaken for love. Where loved is something that black women must scrape, fight, and suffer for. Where one partner (often the woman) must constantly bear the brunt of the other partner’s actions/inactions. This is a warped image of love that causes long term stress to the person who chooses to stay, and these relationships exist heavily in the African American community. You can see it in the music, movies, tv shows, reality tv, celebrity culture and so many more cultural references. Black women are raised to expect shitty relationships and being treated like bottom of the barrel trash and it's completely normalized.

[@nikkirockznikkirockz8551]

@@sayla1996 Honeyyyyy, you totally took the words right out of my mouth!!!

[@kara1782]

@@sayla1996 She gives mammy vibes

[@ivylacy6585]

THANK YOU!!!

[@nonkululekongqola4568]

There is nothing wrong with anything Bilal said. He and Shaeeda are just not on the same mental wave length.

[@jonesgeorgita]

You can't walk around his mother's house half naked. Especially if she has her husband living there. It's a matter of showing proper respect. They need to move out.

[@sevenhunt3787]

When you live with the parents and say I'm not a child,I say move and be the king of your own.

[@danielareds]

Bilal seems like such a difficult person to be with.

[@ashleybibi1249]

You are so true no wonder his being single for so long

[@mssumerloving]

And exhausting... gotta walk on eggshells around this guy.

[@danielareds]

@@mssumerloving agreed!

[@kayellis5575]

I'll bet he's overly fussy about things like a silverware drawer that has a fork in the spoon department. Everything that upsets them is a major deal to them. Narcissists often have OCD because they have to create a persuasive facade. House, car, yard perfect...so he must be a special guy. Narcissists all use the same playbook. I dated one off and on spanning 20 years, not knowing what a narcissist was for the first 13 years. Once l did some research and checked the DSMR5:for symptoms, The rat scored, like 10 out of 10.

[@toriesout2702]

Threatening to kick her out of the car was disgusting. She is completely reliant on him with no local friends, family or income and I think he loves that power.

[@joanneclarke952]

💯👏👏

[@nanapance3116]

Yea I agree 100% it doesn't matter, she doesn't have anyone there. Even if she play hit him that doesn't justify him abandoning her knowing she doesn't have anyone. This is how ppl bring ppl to the States and then control them.

[@kr3wbb]

True I was in the same situation learn my lesson never go to a foreign country with our my own money and my own plan

[@femdivinemind7777]

How else is this small man going to feel powerful

[@youwillneverknowmynamelol7401]

@Jessika Kaur bs stop defending this narcissist

[@appleheadrobb3391]

Don't let anyone intimidate you to change if you don't want. Anyone who tries to control you, especially what you should and must wear. But if you're living under someone else's house, that person makes the rules. You don't like the rules, then move out.

[@YaYa-zm3wu]

The mom was right in talking about how her son's girlfriend about her clothing, but her approach was a bit off. when I was younger I've unintentionally been the "Miona" and didn't have someone honestly address their feelings if I security, but instead bash me behind my back...I'd rather confront the issue. Miona shouldn't feel bad that she's attractive, but sometimes you have to consider other people's feelings... And insecurities

[@jadesmith7983]

True, but how should she have approached it? Seems like that would have been a difficult conversations to have no matter the approach. Some people don't have self awareness of how their actions can actually affect others. Especially in someone's home. They are young but the lack of understanding is troubling. She should honor the request of being respectful at the Mom's home.

[@shantoriawashington]

no why can’t she wear whatever she wants ?

[@YaYa-zm3wu]

@@shantoriawashington she can, but that doesn't mean the mom was wrong...

[@nisa1388]

Bilal treats her horribly. I hope she does not marry him. He just always treats her like she doesn’t matter at all. It’s always about him. He’s a narcissist 🤢

[@afro_buddha4977]

She did marry him unfortunately. This is 3rf marriage

[@malakmuhammedzaid4914]

Can’t agree more.

[@islandgirlruby2750]

Classic narcissist

[@kennyking5606]

Always bw hating because a brother dated out

[@tonimartin8547]

@@kennyking5606 dated out? The woman in the video is also a bw. And it appears she was desparate for her papers.

[@aprilnelson9044]

I feel so sorry for Bilal's daughter. This man has no clue of how to deal with anything female, aside from trying to dominate and belittle. RUN, RUN, RUN!!!!

[@hrhprincessfifymo9037]

That is why the ex wife left him... He thinks he is the king and women are his servants... F*** HIM

[@rafaelmercado307]

Seriously.

[@Yocarisfastlike]

That’s Islam for ya

[@RobsVlogs]

He is a Muslim Black man. What else can be expected

[@dekev7503]

@@RobsVlogs OK racist troll, that's enough KZbin for today

[@hotdollbhm]

I feel sorry for her and I hope she moves on beyond this jerk.

[@frostytipsasmr]

there's nothing wrong with his mom politely asking her to cover up, Miona is over-exaggerating the story to Jibri.

[@kemsaigon1980]

He's not even treating her like a boyfriend. He's acting like is a dad who just adopted a daughter and treated her as such.

[@jeanroughley1126]

A daughter he's having sex with. Very creepy!

[@jacquelinelorrain2344]

True !!!!

[@samsimmons2831]

She should respect him, he's not a simp

[@jeanroughley1126]

@@samsimmons2831 Yes, we all should respect our parents.

[@briannedd5851]

Well that's what happens when you expect an entire house and benefits without lifting a finger to work for it. Probably why she did not go back to Trinidad.

[@katrinabauelle9845]

AND THE FACT THAT HE SAID HE WOULD STOP THE CAR TO LET HER OUT……. WHEN SHE HAS NOWHERE TO GO AND IS RELIANT ON HIM. That’s just plain disgusting

[@maybememory1]

This is a form of abuse.

[@cynthiabates3807]

She need to go back to her family then.

[@aGwEENapple]

He said he would order an uber to take her back home. Why is no one remembering this? You think he'd send her back home without a key to get in too? You don't hit someone while they're driving!

[@krystaldaley5590]

Baby that's foreshadowing for what is to come. If she does not have her own he is gonna break her. He is gonna hold things over her head. He ain't no good child. He is a narcissist

[@barbarajanvrin6757]

As far as Miona is concerned...that is Mahalas house...her rules...got to respect...and that's her husband.. Got too respect.. Period

[@kittenbrave1003]

If you don't like my rules get out my house...

[@alanaquestelles6110]

I agree keep your hands to yourself he said stop stop

[@Scifi-eh8fw]

Bilal is a grown man with children, the bugger joke is not funny and something you might expect from a child. It came across to me as an attempt to belittle her and make her feel insecure. There’s something off about him in my opinion.

[@Ljounieh]

That's exactly it

[@charlyeellison2509]

Does she want to be with thissm that bad she takes his crap

[@idkjess2677]

Yes agree

[@prittyugly86]

He does it right before she meets other people.

[@lauriemadsen3786]

I'm disgusted with Bilal. She started out as a strong woman. Now with him treating her as someone who is beneath him. She's become submissive and now may feel stuck. Can't believe they are already married.

[@philippeschotte5330]

Married ??????????????????????

[@lauriemadsen3786]

Another channel I watch showed their marriage cert. We have to remember this was filmed months ago.

[@mariaoxyuk1278]

They are! So sorry 😢

[@victoriatracey6637]

Oh God!! Why did she do it.....

[@thesquid6149]

🤦‍♀️

[@martoyaparram-aberuagba8565]

1. Keep your hands to yourself 2. You don't have to touch to make your point 3. I see red flags with her putting on him after he told her to stop.

[@billwithers9357]

Equality, no one hits anyone.

[@MayRobyn]

He's a clown and she needs to go back home. He's petty and manipulative

[@Viewmyworld321]

A1¹

[@samsimmons2831]

He has boundaries, good on him

[@peterlovington8952]

Girl Bilal is crazy. You are walking around egg shells in a relationship where you have no where to run and source of support if you were to get married. Every time people call him out on his behavior he always blames her. The test was her idea and now his over reaction is a her idea. No accountability

[@ellepayne7906]

You don't put your hands on anyone, period. I don't think they are ready to get married at all.

[@MrAidooyaw]

tapping grown men in the head, is not allowed. Please dont do that, even when he said stop

[@rayrayndiema]

So it’s okay for BILAL to embarrass her about a fake bugger, she says stop stop stop and he goes ahead to embarrass her more about the bugger being green and brown and hairy but she can’t tap him?? THEN HE MAKES IT ALL ABOUT HIM!!!

[@hpoplick1]

exactly, he is mean and selfish

[@pozitivereinforcement]

Not while he's driving

[@hpoplick1]

@@pozitivereinforcement I get not messing with a driver and slapping. However, his behavior is cruel. She told him to stop because she didn't find his so called joke funny but he kept on. Psychological and verbal abuse is bad as well and more insidious and the effects linger a long time.

[@juliusbrewster]

@@hpoplick1 doesn't physical abuse effects linger for a long time?

[@juliusbrewster]

Are you telling me that a fake bugger joke is the same as putting hands on someone? If the roles were reversed and she said the bugger joke and he "tapped" her on the head, would you have thought that was OK?

[@Veryvery987]

He was using his leverage and punishing her by leaving her to wander aimlessly and be isolated at the service..that was terrible.

[@stephk1970]

Yeah and then asked HER to apologize when they got back... Yikes...

[@byrd813]

That was painful to watch. Imagine him walking in there with the camera crew, and this new woman, and introduce her to no one? I also thought it weird how they ex wife felt so hurried to make an excuse & leave.

[@Veryvery987]

@@stephk1970 AND is making her stay in instead of doing date night (her lil jacket was cute, too🥲).

[@Veryvery987]

@@byrd813 right?! The greeting was cold…her kids did a better job lol.

[@natjones4912]

@@byrd813 he's trying to break her. Any woman in her shoe would hv been crying

[@jamesmarshall4827]

there is a difference between being playful and disrespectful and she crossed the line. shame on ET for trying to turn him into the aggressor by using Melicia Johnson as example and not the rule. If he had popped her in the head no one would've considered that playful especially if she asked him to stop.

[@valhipkiss4011]

She wasn’t playing , she was seeing how far she can push him , BOTH , Partners keep their hands to them selves ,

[@irenekourvaras6167]

Take the Uber. Get home. Pack your bags & GO HOME! He's divorced for a reason! His ex is already married. When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. She gave him several shots. Overbearing, talks to her like she's a child & he's a control freak. GO back HOME honey. You're too good for this guy.

[@lorigutierrez6899]

Perfectly said !!!

[@cheekeebandito]

1000% ! Him demanding an apology from her , but offering none , for his own behaviour , tells you all you need to know about this manipulating A-hole Bilal .

[@ladymacan7874]

TWICE divorced

[@irenekourvaras6167]

Oh. I had no idea twice divorced. Red flag times two.

[@NinaSimone3]

Period

[@amybharadwaj3573]

It’s not Bilal, it’s planet Bilal. He is high and low multiple times a day, he does not care what others feel because of him or due to his actions. Being in a relationship with someone like Bilal is being on another planet - it’s all up to the visitor to adjust to all the extreme atmospheric and terrain changes - u die or get kicked off if u don’t adjust.

[@nikkyrg3328]

"Planet Bilal" 😂😂😂😂

[@barbarade6004]

he literally just called his relationship with shaeeda a catch-22

[@jonquils1]

Spot on

[@janetmatthews7973]

Agreed show more respect for your self and other people and their house!.. the Mom had every right to ask her to dress appropriately. He’s not ready

[@donnabanks7656]

NO BILIAL DIDN"T OVER REACT. No one should be hit on the head.

[@jennymironuk6169]

This is how abusive relationships start, if that's how he treats her in front of the cameras I'm scared to know how he will treat her behind closed doors a year from now ... Girl run !

[@sooverit3376]

Bilal is a controlling jerk, pure and simple. I’ll bet he treats his kids better than he would ever treat her, or any other woman, for that matter.

[@dustinfarley]

Hell yea my kids are coming before any woman! Wife or not. If he was a woman with kids and treating them better than a man/husband you probably wouldn't mind that I bet.

[@torib9075]

Who Wouldn’t treat there kids better?!! My kids come before a relationship

[@susanfarrell7314]

Makes you wonder why his first wife divorced him. I'm also from Trinidad and we are a fun loving people. Shaeedah girl my advice to you is go home girl. Go home. It's never going to get better. He uses his wealth as power because he has Napoleon syndrome. Also his skin is short. When he closes his mouth his behind has to stay open and vice versa. Run 🏃‍♀️ girl. RUN 🏃‍♀️

[@alejandranunez3301]

Dumbest comment ever lol ofcourse u treat kids better than ur significant other

[@Grendygirl]

nah i'm sureeeee the kids will have to put up with the same crap

[@briggsneal1016]

That is weird because she is a therapist

[@veadair]

She hit him at the head. I won't let anybody hit me on my head. He said stop, she's so disrespectful

[@kevin041189]

As a guy I found nothing wrong with that tap on the head and him saying she's a violent person and make her feel so little is absolutely disgusting..he's a narcissistic person who think he's better than everyone...she should get outta that relationship quick...

[@jamaicanjoyh6883]

thank YOU!!!! fr...

[@BlueOwlsFly]

For some reason there’s some men in the comments who are adamant that what she was doing was violent when it was clearly a reaction of playfulness. I can’t help but feel these men defending Bilal are covering up their own abusive nature. Thank you for seeing Bilal and his narcissist behaviors for what they truly are.

[@bellaapple2166]

I agree Kevin. Also if he didn't like when she tapped his head. He could have just told her, not to do it again. No need to threaten to put her out on the side of the road.

[@Itsbritt_22]

@@BlueOwlsFly it’s because she is a spicy Trini 🙄🙄 Annoying AF.

[@julietmathias9170]

Thank you sir

[@lvanasse2]

He’s so toxic. That booger comment was aggressive and unnecessary. His attitude at the gathering screamed of his indifference to her. Run girl, run.

[@gazastripmad]

Everybody wants a slice of the American pie come on ,she ain't going nowhere.

[@cbgbstew4072]

Aggressive? Come ON 🙄🙄🙄

[@lvanasse2]

Not aggressive, I meant more of a passive aggressiveness

[@juliusbrewster]

The booger comment was aggressive and unnecessary but the constant hitting him after he asked her to stop and she continued anyway was OK!?!?! ARE YOU SERIOUS!?!?

[@lvanasse2]

I never said that was ok. I said that he is toxic and his booger comment was not necessary. He knew she was very uncomfortable and nervous about meeting his ex wife.

[@MichelMawon4982]

I love your natural hair, it's styled very flattering for you.

[@leannerollingalong6342]

She pushed it!!! He told her with words that that isn't acceptable

[@mikhailjohnson1670]

Girl run!!! This will not end well. Find yourself a decent Caribbean man.

[@assata922]

Exactly

[@catherinegarnett-santiago8500]

Yep, she needs to run for the hills! This man is trash …she would be better off with a Trini like herself.

[@TRINIGIRLHANNAH]

Yes American men are terrible !

[@adele5895]

Find a nice Trini, leave this idiot!!!

[@simonejuneau2143]

Bilal, is one of thee most toxic men I think that's been featured on TV, in a very long time!! I'm beginning to wonder what the hell she was attracted to?? It had to be that LV Luggage!

[@jadesmith7983]

The mom wasn't wrong for her request. It's her house. Now if they don't like it they should definitely move out..I wouldn't walk around half naked in somebody else's house with their spouse around either. It just common courtesy.

[@picklepoppers8223]

Keep your hands to yourself ladies. He told her to stop and she instigated it more. If you are not feeling him just leave him simple. He made it extremely clear that he did not appreciate any of that. Despite that she was being an idiot and did it anyways. What is the guarantee that after marriage she does not physically assault him and as a result he hits back and he is the one getting inside bars. I am glad he set boundaries.

[@yolandachristian1571]

Has anyone else noticed how uncomfortable Shaeeda is in that house? Seems to me she'd panic if she spilled something on the floor. She had to ask Bilal's permission to drink while sitting on his chair. She said it was because she knows how OCD he is. Bilal cares more about his material stuff than he cares about her. To me he only wants her as his eye candy. He likes her the same way he likes his expensive material possessions. I don't for a minute believe this man knows how to really love another human being. He loves things, not people. My heart goes out to Shaeeda because it seems she's in love with a man who is only capable of loving himself. We are yet to see any loving gestures from him towards her and this makes me sad for her. She's beautiful and accomplished and deserves so much more than this egotistical narcissistic man cares to give. He's a sad excuse for husband. Run Shaeeda, run as fast as you can. You deserve so much more

[@hillaryedwards567]

Yes, i notice that she can't even drink a cup of coffee comfortable. I agree, she needs to run🤔

[@lisastarr6481]

He uses his nice possessions to be abusive to her he knows it's important to her. So he dangles it like a treat a pet has to jump threw hoops to get over & over. It's not worth being treated bad or get excited over his stuff if you're name isn't on titles. Don't wait expect s.o. to give it to you, work towards treating yourself to a home other things you want in life. A woman like that he would feel threatened by that can survive well without him.

[@letsglowuptogether7778]

That’s why he put her on the test because his true self was reflecting

[@juliusbrewster]

I 100% agree with you! After she hit him on the head he should have turned the car around and drove back home. Have her pack all of her stuff, drive her to the airport and purchased a first class flight back to Trinidad where she can do better and live her best accomplished life!

[@brigetteng4622]

Bilal reminds me of my ex husband he acted the same way loved to lecture you and belittle and makes it seem like everything is in your head. Girl you deserve so much better go run save yourself. He is a toxic person you don’t need that

[@user-ox1cx8sh2c]

I understand that hitting someone even in joke is taboo in some cultures but Bilal is thin skinned for a macho man. Lighten up bro

[@michaelheath5719]

Keep your hands to yourself!!! Period!

[@clairefisher3132]

Bilal literally cannot stop talking down to her, being condescending, he treats her more like a potential servant in the household than a wife or partner. He goes on and on with his little “pranks” but when she’s playful with him he says she’s disrespectful. I do not like him at all. Over and over we’ve seen her apologize to him and he’s never apologized to her or tried to change his behavior to stop offending her.

[@samsimmons2831]

She was disrespectful, keep your hands to yourself, he should have love tapped her aswel

[@eve1297]

She said, "You act like your punishing me." That was the very first thought I had. He's trying to "train" her the way he wants her to be.... This is not going to work. I see no joy in their interaction. He's acting like a disciplinary. Not good for coupledom.

[@So_Sag]

Yup! That’s exactly what it is. That’s why he hasn’t entered into a another relationship with a woman from the US.

[@Armed-Forever]

yh train her to not engage in domestic violence ? lol spastic

[@cebilendwandwe6857]

asking a woman to covr up in front of your husband isnt a huge or strange ask.

[@mspalmer5781]

Some people don't take play fighting well. You have to Respect the boundaries. You never know what's a trigger for anyone.

[@nicholasgarrick8855]

Bilal is the most toxic person, and he is literally breaking shaeda down step by step right in front of our eyes. Her light is literally getting more ,and more dim every episode, and it is heartbreaking.

[@denisecaetano5072]

ChernoBilal ☢️🆘

[@she_sings_delightful_things]

That's what my ex did to me. It's difficult to find joy in things I used to love. Gaslighting and other emotional manipulation led to the downfall. Sad stuff, for sure.

[@keyia1983]

Yeah. It’s hard to watch 😞

[@samalama9692]

Because She's giving him that power, it's like a bully . A bully stands Tough and Strong because the victim Let's them , you have to be Fierce and unapologetic to these type of men . Equal treatment in a relationship, if not get out .

[@_roninshinobi_7989]

You’re an incel. She’s wrong. Period.

[@donnawilkinson2151]

He is the materialist one. His OCD is to cover the mess underneath that high dollar suit. I'd get back to Trinidad ASAP. She was playing not assaulting Bilal.

[@j.cutrone]

All of this!

[@sda1225]

👏🏽👏🏽 This!

[@DeeDiamond2981]

Thiss

[@sheislove0179]

Lmaoooo that scene with Gino. I died

[@DrWuDoc]

I don’t know where women think it’s ok to hit people! Keep your hands to yourself & verbalise your issues! Well done Bilal for setting boundaries

[@larrymyers5989]

He forced it. She was just playing. He didn’t have to make her feel that uncomfortable

[@karyssecd1393]

She apologized for the play hitting but he did NOT apologize for joking with his disgusted face about the booger in her nose! Sis RUN! In his mind, he does no wrong.

[@3rdayesmokin657]

Not the same thing... she literally commit a crime against him.

[@Babybaby228]

He seems really manipulative and mentally and emotionally abusive. I think she should break up with him. She seems like a really sweet person and deserves to be treated better.

[@agymahsworld360]

Noooo....Bilal was 100. Keep your hands to yourself!

[@veronamarie]

Bilal is something else. The whole time she’s been in America he has not once treated her as his future wife. Hey this is heartbreaking to watch because it just seems like he only does what he wants do doesn’t care about her feelings. I could never date someone like him The relationship would be very exhausting.

[@dainapronk7139]

Bilal is wayyyyy too sensitive! So cold. Big ego.

[@kayesmith9781]

She pushed it....

[@foxyc3202]

I feel like he went overboard. That little tap was not that serious. Boy bye

[@Desysworldoffun]

There's a reason why a successful not bad looking man doesn't find a woman in the US. He's ridiculous

[@TSR228]

Truth

[@ilovegoodsax]

Shaeeda is his THIRD wife.

[@ClearandHealthyBoundaries]

Trust me, Trinbagonian wo en are NOT easy! We have a mouth on us and are very stubborn. Right now our men are hooking up with Venezuelan women migrating here to escape their economic and political crises. 🙄

[@janaelopez5533]

I think it’s disgusting how he threatened to kick her out of the car and then he ignored her at service. He’s all she has in this country and he put fear in her head by doing that.

[@paulybluenose]

If he acts this way while being filmed can you you imagine what he would be like when the cameras are off.

[@prittyugly86]

The ignoring her at the service is a classic text book narcissist move.

[@tinajohnson6713]

@@prittyugly86 ACTUALLY he didn’t leave her Muslim men and women worship separately

[@samsimmons2831]

You want him to hit her back or something

[@tauriandeveaux4457]

Jibri's mom is not trying to shame her she is trying to protect her marriage and good on her for that

[@divadeb1907]

I agree no hitting anytime. You are grown adults. That's so disrespectful.

[@aprilnelson9044]

"hit him up side the head"??????? Gimme a frickin' break! She was KIDDING, and he's a total jerk.

[@Nikkeishajk]

The host is bissed

[@Nikkeishajk]

Biased*

[@juliusbrewster]

If he would have tapped her on the head multiple times and grabbed at her face while she was driving you would have thought that was OK? Furthermore suppose his argument was saying that " I didn't hit you in a serious way". Then he goes on to say "now I am going to give you a serious hit" and then does it again you would think that behavior was OK?!?!?!?!

[@dzudzijuliet6341]

I honestly don't see anything wrong with Mahala not wanting Miona to wear revealing clothes, they are staying at her house so if she feels uncomfortable with that she voiced it they should follow it or move out. But she is rude in other aspects though lol.

[@analea6531]

Right and she said it in the nicest way possible but it’s not enough for the host. I hate how she made it sound like Malala is a bad therapist and she’s judgements and even maybe jealous of Miona. The lady just said she doesn’t want a half naked woman in her house and that’s totally fair

[@jadesmith7983]

@@analea6531 Exactly!

[@alexisk4407]

Asking someone to wear more clothing while inside your house is an acceptable conversation to have with her. Asking her to dress up because she doesn’t want her husband to look is a conversation she needs to have with her own husband lol

[@celinesbubyvelez761]

Yeah but if she had someone at her own home half naked and younger no matter what she definitely wouldn’t like it men and men they’ll look sometimes it isn’t harmful but loo

[@malenahernandez9377]

Say what you wanna say. She's disrespectful too. If someone tells you don't do it and you continue, you're provoking. That's trash.

[@lightningmcqueen9310]

I would GET OUT of that car immediately!

[@juliusbrewster]

and go where?

[@whowhatwhen7977]

Melicia might want Bilal to herself because she's always making excuses for him. Bilal clearly watches "dating coaches" and "image consultants" on KZbin. He uses the same manipulative gaslighting techniques. Shaeeda shouldn't have hit him. Yes, that is abuse. However, Bilal has been emotionally abusive since Shaeeda got off that plane. Run Shaeeda!

[@hoodmystic55]

ahahahahahah u can't do this ! I swear. the min I thought hey is she single cuz melicia giving me I want u for me vibes and why she have someone like him and I dont and she can't see how SHITTY of a person he is . and scroll a comment down and there's urs looool it was just me overthinking but now u confirming and it might be intuition not overthinking lmaooo

[@SLUBUG]

No it's not abuse. Oh my god. I live in trinidad and I am married to a Trinidadian. She is clearly being playful. Abuse? A playful tap is abuse? He is clearly emotionally abusing her. Breaking her down little by little in order to control her fully. It is hurtful to see this young woman say she feels like she is being punished because she really is being punished. It's sad. She is not a pet.

[@monas]

​@@SLUBUG I'm from Caribbean Jamaica too and a tap is seen as playful. Americans blow things out of proportion.

[@yusuka4ev830]

That is not abuse. The way yall characterize abuse is problematic.

[@giab.3411]

@@SLUBUG Proud Bahamian here and this is true Caribbean people are a jovial and happy by nature. we have close bonds with each other to the point where we play fight and to many who think like this jerk Bilal when its actually very sentimental between usually people who trust each other. So when he responded like she actually assaulted him or acted with malice what he did was actually destroy the cultural connection she was trying to have with him. I hope she runs tho.

[@Aprilforevergreen]

.....but she's a guest in your house - one should treat one's guests with respect and kindness.

[@ejc1692]

One can never be too controlling when it comes to one's personal boundaries, irregardless of how anyone else feels. Controlling another person's actions which have no direct effect on said person or another person who cannot protect oneself regardless of the relationship or lack thereof is completely different and unacceptable. Anyone who does not like someone telling them to respect their boundaries can respect themselves by simply leaving.