'90 Day Fiancé': Statler Tells Demspey She’s Still In Contact w/ HER EX

In this exclusive first look at “90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days” Statler tells Dempsey she wants to move in with her. But Dempsey says they should take things slower, and then Statler admits she’s still been in contact with her ex. “90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days” airs Sunday at 8pm PT/ET on TLC, MAX and discovery+.
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’90 Day Fiancé’: Statler Tells Demspey She’s Still In Contact w/ HER EX
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[@leahtravieso5447]

It’s always the ones that accuse their partner of cheating who end up cheating !!!

[@shac9131]

Once a cheater always a cheater. I don't get it why people simply don't just break up before cheating or immediately after. It's obvious it isn't meant to be

[@Jcoronado9093]

Yup!

[@whatsthetruth_review]

Exactly

[@pudgie011]

Yes yes and yes!! My ex accused me of being with his friend and it turned out he cheated on me!!

[@colettespencer3357]

Same...my ex accused me of cheating...he was awful,...abusive toward the end....he was cheating. Married someone months after discarding me out of the blue. I thank God for it every day.

[@truthhurtz19]

Dempsey is a smart girl, she sees the red flags and little Miss America stays toxic asf

[@raymond9716]

Dempsey is too sweet and honest to be corrupted by Statler, who is immature and rushes into major life decisions without planning and thought. Please slow down and spend at least 2 years getting to know each other in mundane, daily ways before moving in together. Statler is way too casual about stuff Dempsey treats much more seriously.

[@cabayern9416]

Stattler is a narcissist who is a financial user.

[@plot267]

They shouldn't spend 1 day, why waste two years when it's so obvious she can't be trusted

[@LordMesa]

2 years is too long. minimum 6 months dating IN PERSON. 1 Year is the sweet spot. 2 years is the opposite of Statler. Too indecisive.

[@MsIsrael48]

Statler cannot afford her own place in the UK and is losing her old lease in the States. She is desperate and made no back up plan. Dempsey and her father are spot on in not letting her move in so fast. Statler has a terrible past history of moving at 100 mph in relationships and has even said the Love word to Dempsey already. Dempsey needs to send her home to the USA and they can visit each other to test the waters. This relationship will not work as Dempsey's dad doesn't like Statler

[@Gonzokeywest45]

💯 How do you know she can't afford her own place? Buzz online is she comes from a wealthy family. She mentioned her job in the first episode. But it doesn't sound like she's much concerned about a job or a career.

[@shac9131]

Lesbians are common to rent the U-Haul immediately after dating.

[@ShellBAtoms]

@@shac9131 It's a stereotype that was born of real life patterns.

[@mariamhadalittlechannel4601]

I think Statler having ADHD, which she mentions on the show, has alot to do with her impulsive decisions.

[@nincure]

@@mariamhadalittlechannel4601 I wonder if she's just not on meds, or if they don't work for her. She reminds me a lot of my fiancée, when she doesn't take her meds. I'll be like "do you need your Adderall?" And most of the time she's like oh yeah I do. She has a lot of brain damage on top of a few psych diagnoses. We actually met on a random comment thread on Facebook. Started private messaging. Learned we have a ridiculous amount of things in common. Mostly good, but some not so good. We'll have been together 3 years on Dec 2. We started talking Nov 30 2020, 2 days later we both said "I love you". She said it was like, "boom, here's your soulmate!" We were long distance for over 2 years, but thankfully I was able to go see her a couple of times for about 3 months each. And she came to visit me a few times, but couldn't stay as long. She would have to go back to work. Since I'm on disability, I don't really have a schedule. Fast forward to almost a year ago now, (Sept 18, 2022) she moved here to be with me. I said she needed to have her own place for a year or so until we can move in together. We're barely ever at her place, unless it's to feed her cat. So, she basically lives with me already. She wants to get married on our anniversary. I'm not sure if that will happen though. Especially if she's not mentally well at the time. So, I would like to wait until she's more ready. But she will be moving in with my dad and I in Nov. And then we can hopefully find a place that's not too expensive. Long distance CAN work. In fact, pretty much everyone I've dated, I met online, or I met them through someone else that I met online. (and then met in person, most of the time I would travel to meet them.) I had met a really cool person on LiveJournal (if you remember that. Lol) I looked at her pics in this one group, and I was thinking "damn she's cool" but I didn't say anything to her. Well.. she commented on MY picture and I was like ok, obviously I'm supposed to talk to this person. She lives in Melbourne, Australia, and I'm in Dallas, TX. This was in 2006 that I went to see her, and she doesn't talk to me now (actually for quite a long time now, maybe 10+ years). That's her choice, not mine. I would have been happy to be a friend. Although I wouldn't change anything about my trip, it was awesome!

[@laurenr9659]

Notice how Statler couldn't even look Dempsey in the eye. There was definitely much more going on with her ex than she was willing to admit.

[@ladyluckslots1489]

Exactly! Not trustworthy! She is likely still playing with the ex….

[@Ljounieh]

She never does, it's so off putting

[@andreahudak8744]

Dempsey is a class act - Don't get serious with Statler. Dempsey has a life, Statler does not.

[@kaycie471]

I love Dempsey ❤️ she's a beautiful example of a lady

[@historyloveriii2949]

Statler is below Dempsey. They are not a good match.

[@rileycoyote8275]

​@@historyloveriii2949To be fair, Statler is below pond scum, and is as twisted as a pretzel.

[@sugarplum1120]

She's like, well.. my lease is up in a month and I thought I could move in with you and become your responsibility. Heck NO!!!

[@isabellavalencia8026]

Exafuckenactly

[@Emily_Paris]

I admire how Dempsey can hold her own after everything she’s been through.? She is smart, responsible, reliable,and has her own place.

[@findpurpose6300]

She has a good dad, very supportive. Obviously it made her stable and grounded.

[@daniellelevine9638]

I am over the moon for Dempsey. She is such a gem.

[@tammycavalier8685]

She deserves so much better than statler

[@vikkiipele]

Did anybody else notice how Statler was hiding a grin/smirk whilst talking about communicating with her ex and how her ex wanted to meet her at the airport and stay in a hotel together? Dempsey needs to send Statler packing first thing in the morning..

[@GLeon-ov9yu]

The smirk is called “duping delight”. She’s pleased with herself and she is toxic.

[@sugarplum1120]

Yes!!! That was so disrespectful . I like Dempsey, but statler is childish and entitled. When Statler was talking about her ex, she did have a grin. I wouldn't trust her as far as I can throw her. And why did she even bring up her previous girlfriend to Dempseys dad. What was she thinking. She's a leach.

[@johnsilva1225]

Statler cannot be trusted

[@asabovesobelow7981]

at allllllllllllllllll she's a snake in the grass!! shifty!! arghhhh

[@courtneyboudreau4284]

Jezebel spirit

[@fifisdlo6079]

Get your own place girl... you can still date

[@jacquiandp-dog7755]

Right, like if they were both living in the same country originally, would they be moving in together after 6 months? Probably not. If Statler wants to move to England she should just do it on her own.

[@grandmascreampie5372]

@@jacquiandp-dog7755 lesbians move in with each other after 1 date, they are insane

[@Julia36D]

@@jacquiandp-dog7755the way statler is she’d probably want to move in after two weeks. I know people who do this. Crazy if you ask me.

[@fifisdlo6079]

@jacquiandp-dog7755 You are spot on. She's having unrealistic expectations. It's good to see on social media that they don't have any post of each other, could mean this didn't work out , which is a good thing.

[@Julia36D]

Statler is nuts. Run Dempsey, run.

[@westoftherockies]

dempsey needs to move on from statler, statler is not all there.

[@glorias.2930]

Statler is a walking red flag. How on earth does she expect someone to want to live with her after a week?! She needs to take some time from dating and get therapy.

[@leonaober8849]

Dempsey run!!!

[@jag5014]

Statler was 100% projecting when she accused Dempsey of cheating, because that's likely what she would have felt compelled to do if she were in the same situation. Maybe she even tried to convince herself that Dempsey was cheating so she'd feel less guilt about whatever situation she had going on stateside.

[@Gonzokeywest45]

Dempsey may appear sweet and soft spoken. She grew up in carnivals, works hard on a farm. More than that she chooses things she doesn't mind working for if the result is worth it. Staler is a 180°

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

Growing up in the carnival probably hyper accelerates people skills. Carnies are always selling, need to read the audience, probably a lot of them are scammers. I imagine its a life where you either figure people out quickly or perish.

[@Gonzokeywest45]

@@Aaron-kj8dv that's what I thought about her dad

[@Jen-zb3mn]

Dempsey is so sweet. Statler complains about everything Dempsey is to good for her.

[@MichelePernerBlum]

Statler is cray

[@DesertBluebells]

Several times Statler looked like she was about to laugh.

[@Kelly-mi1yz]

She needs to call home and renew her lease

[@julieannesimms981]

Dempsey is too nice for her😮😮😮😮😮

[@boosqueezy2418]

statler is nuts

[@AyeAyeRon11]

Not everyone that dates lives together!? Is she serious? What a wack job. Dempsey needs to be single and enjoy her nice happy life on that farm/ resort type place. It’s beautiful and peaceful she seems to have good friends and family around her that care a lot about her. I think Statler looks at Dempsey like she NEEDS her more than WANTS her and that’s dangerous. Dempsey is looking at Statler like she don’t NEED her but does she WANT her? That’s the right way to look at this. I mean Statler is nothing less than the equivalent of a creepy pushy controlling stalker boyfriend…

[@cous516]

Statler feels very entitled to anything and anyone she wants until she met Dempsey…😏

[@carolynblack9897]

Dempsey.. be smart girl.. Statler is looking for free rent!!

[@EvieK12]

Run Dempsey. Statler is used goods. Loving others is not about hurting people. She’s Ben tainted and corrupted into someone else’s sick perversion. The ex was wanting more than “closure”. I would touch someone like Statler. Abuse is all she knows. Dempsey’s innocence and gentleness cannot fulfill Statlers sick needs without walking away bruised herself. Get out Dempsey.

[@saiyajinbeard]

Stantler looks perpetually panicked and confused

[@santefeaster460]

Statler, we got a word for these kinds of people. 😂

[@kikaworld5713]

Statler is beautiful, but Dempsey is more beautiful and in every way out of Statler’s league.

[@cat-alina8139]

Who invented her to move to UK ??? 😂😂😂

[@princessjen99]

She just wants to get free rent

[@Lzrdman91]

Dempsey deserves better

[@chanfitts5151]

That wouldn't sit to well with me. Red FLAG 4SURE

[@DCrawler]

Don't these couples even watch the show they are on? Statler made it perfectly clear she doesn't mind being labeled a whore. She actually said she was proud of it if memory serves? Statler and Dempsey will never work out. The only question is how long and with how much pain it will take Dempsey to figure it out?

[@randycooper9022]

Where is Dempsey's mother???

[@makathanassiou8415]

She seems like she would be the type to do this lmao

[@tartinomiel]

We saw this happening. Dempsey is so cute, but Statler is bonkers

[@heidipowell7388]

And now she’s saying all kinds of things about her after convincing her to immediately live together

[@GlamourGhoul]

I thought that was Casey Anthony for a minute

[@VikkiLynn]

Run Dempsey! Run! Red flags everywhere!

[@TheSykoManz]

Yeah Statler is wild like damn girl chill! Dempsey just send her packing is all I got to say. 😅

[@jb-ze1yh]

Statler is a walking red flag 🚩 she needs EMDR or plant medicine to heal her abandonment wound and trauma. She is going to sabotage everything until she really heals . Been there done that .

[@cat-alina8139]

No needed really... She can learn is she just find what she really wants in life

[@julia-ex7im]

What happened to her?

[@wendymuani]

Dempsey is soooo precious , I loveeee herrrrrr❤

[@Koko-bx5ww]

Statler seems like a player

[@joycewalbert1413]

And proud of it.

[@Afmedic85]

She's been with every Chad and Tyrone in her town and has moved on to women

[@cjmiller3686]

@@Afmedic85😂😂😂 oh dead god that’s funny shit, VERY typical of bisexuals……No offense 🤷‍♀️ I’m a gold star

[@findpurpose6300]

Dempsey has a good dad, that helps her see trough people. Statler is impulsive, she meets someone for the first time in her life and wants move in with Dempsey. But she also expressed she doesn't like her place, no hot water, no toilet, etc. Also Statler talks to her ex still. Hmmm... Why? 😅

[@grazita77]

Statler is a user !

[@sefapasoni3776]

Dempsey, run. Don’t even continue with this nonsense. I’m cutting it off as soon as she said told me about her ex wanting to meet up. Hell no! Are you crazy? Whose to tell me she won’t try to meet her ex behind my back? Smh Statler needs help!! Dempsey was living peaceful in her farm. And Statler is just bad vibes all around. Lying. Accusing Dempsey of cheating, etc should have renewed that lease!!!

[@missfigs5255]

Statler is one giant red flag.🚩

[@deathblade909]

So wtf does she do that she can just up and leave

[@kmold0033]

This girl needs to run for the hills. Red flags everywhere

[@Nipponi]

Dempsey is best. God bless her!

[@Lovebugg444]

Statler is so immature

[@gina1433mhrj]

Statler is so confused 😕.

[@ladyluckslots1489]

Wow, liars and cheaters never change. I’m sure she’s talked to her ex over there, probably net up. She says a month ago, not likely she’s probably still talking to her ex. I know this type they always have a backup.

[@cjmiller3686]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤!!!!!! TOTALLY AGREE! She’s gives me MAJOR player vibes (the brunette)

[@michelleallred8521]

Statler is moving pretty fast, but Dempsey shouldn't hold her past mistakes against her

[@ShellBAtoms]

Nor should Dempsey completely ignore Statler's past behavior.

[@julief2830]

Statler is still proving she is untrustworthy by talking to her ex in the past month then admitting the ex wanted to stay in a hotel with her. If you are in a relationship, having those kind of conversations with your ex is totally inappropriate. These are current mistakes, not past.

[@lillidaisyASMR]

@@julief2830yup

[@Undefinedcreature394]

Dempsey couldve been good for Statler, shes hurting and just needs to be loved BUT with guidance which Dempsey could give with her knowledge and maturity. they both get along they just need to take things slower and get an even deeper connection.

[@VinnyWilk]

Statler doesn’t want to pay that rent!

[@lolaispure4296]

Statler is like her first name?

[@AiressNoir]

Statler made such a big deal about being betrayed by her ex and being heartbroken only to do this🤣 she really is just like a dude.

[@nathalielefebvre900]

Get away from her!

[@goodthoughts2252]

Starker is sort of girl will do what she wants at what ever price then put on her dumb smug smirk and blame everything and everyone for her choices.

[@cynthiagerold2340]

DEMPSEY IS RIGHT NOT TO LET YOU MOVE IN WITH HER, YOU WANT TO LIVE IN THE UK GET YOUR OWN PLACE AND DATE BESIDE HOW ARE YOU GETTING YOUR PAPERS TO STAY IN THE UK

[@brackenrobertson799]

And statler wants to move in😂 walking red flag

[@lindagraham3777]

Please Dempsey, be strong and hang on to your convictions, don't be railroaded.

[@courtneyboudreau4284]

Because she doesn't want you to that's why

[@Emerance_]

Starler is moving wayyyy too fast

[@theteleisewilliamsexperience]

Wait she cheated and was talking 2 her ex or she cheated by talking 2 her ex?

[@kimberlybenton1286]

Slater is a just a hot mess

[@user-ej3rb5cv1l]

Statler ist eine unangenehme Person!

[@deathblade909]

Dampswy need to run quick

[@danasandoval624]

Statler seems to have forgotten about a very important thing: work/money!! Is she wealthy or something? I don’t think so but she can’t work for awhile if she moves to England and I was told not even for an online company, that in am not sure about but I can see her moving in with Dempsey and not thinking about where is her money coming from. She says her last relationship was the most important up until this one (probably says that every time) and the breakup was horrible. Yet here she is less than a year later with once again “the love of her life “, & “the one”. Why does everyone anymore think every person they date are the one & the love of their life, they ridiculous. I hope Dempsey doesn’t let her push her way to living with her, it is way too soon!!

[@Samira1760]

Stater can not be trusted Dempsey she smart beautiful she doesn’t need this headache from Stater !

[@danni6257]

Statler is basically another Daniele

[@Basic190]

But didn’t she come to the UK without telling Dempsey?

[@carmeliaoquinn2441]

Dempsey needs to walk away or she's gonna get her heart broken. Statler got too many red flags already & Dempsey needs to RUN.

[@mrblacknifi61]

She being smart not to let her move in. First she comes to her country, leaves her things maybe a job and place behind to meet a woman she been talking to only by telephone a little time a year maybe and yet without even revealing she had a ex there once and that she planned to just move in with her once she arrived to her home. Who does this but a person who has a poor sense of planning by acting too abruptly. Why would she get involved with a person who lands there with secrets all to be reveal once she met her the first time in person on what suppose to be just a visit to meet. This girl is super irresponsible. She moves to fast and fails to think of other people life and situation. How inconsiderate. I thought the woman Dempsey would be the problem with her abandonment and or evasiveness issues and need for space with emotional trauma but its seems to clearly be Statler whose the actual problem here. This may not work for a woman whose been through what Dempsey been through already and thanks to her senses and her Dads input to put on the breaks and slow down on any decisions with Statler as she too much a fast jump from situation to situation. Plus she seems little needy. She after all could be dodging yet another situation that leaves her hurt in the process. I don't see Statler as a mature being from the way she moves. Also who comes in this manner she has than has the audacity to complain about the person living arrangement settings. But you plan to ask her can you live with her because you letting your lease expire back home. Absolutely NOT. This is a example of a person whose just plain irresponsible disguised as a free spirit nomad. I would not be surprised if she tried something similar with the Ex English woman before Dempsey as she said she got a type and she revealed she even cheated.

[@ArleneRodarte-ye3pm]

I love Dempsey ❤

[@jennylee8571]

Statler is definitely a Scorpio

[@dontworryitsdi]

when someone with no-self respect tries to have a toxic relationship with a self-respecting person

[@kathleenquinn8787]

Don't rush things

[@diannashuster5594]

Statler smirking as she talks about her ex is sickening. She's so toxic.

[@ang_ro]

I hope she trusts her instincts and makes her go home!!

[@lisascott1347]

Because it’s too fast! That’s why you don’t move in together .. get a life of your own in the UK then move in with each other ..

[@Lizbeth7799]

She is totally right, without trust there is nothing!… and her girlfriend saying: I am telling u everything!.. doesn’t mean is right what she is doing!…

[@DHJones-hg3gm]

Run Dempsey! Stapler is a train wreck of her own making……..

[@donnawentz2221]

Statler needs to go home, grow up and become a adult with a job and her own place, and search 👀 for bugs 🐜 🐛 🐞

[@aanon5716]

isnt it ironic that statler questions dempsey abt cheating, & meanwhile statler is communicating w/ an ex ( thats pretty much a no no in most relationships, lets be real) & didnt bother to tell her new 'love' that shes communicating w/ her 'old love'. shes says its not a big deal, but she should ask herself if the tables were turned....??!!! anyway. statlers got issues. if i was dempseys friend, id say not to move in together yet. let her get her own place near her, get a job & continue to really get to know each other. theyve "dated" online...VERY different from seeing each other in the live every day for an extended period.

[@estherbedigian2399]

Dempsey,don't let her move in listen to your pop you to good and she's not is a fabulous de Esopo conejito blanco me prestas tu casita de palma luego no la puedes sacar.

[@hellekimery9537]

Why I she pushing SO hard to jump in to her girls friends living space? It’s going to be a disaster ! What’s the rush?

[@sookie4195]

Because she won’t sign the lease and she’s broke, and she needs a place to live.

[@hellekimery9416]

@@sookie4195 good point ;)

[@adriasorensen2249]

Neither are necessarily bad people. We all have faults, right? Perhaps, the fact that Statler kept pushing after dempsey said no, might be an understandable reason why Dempsey brings up statler's cheating to make a more "in your face" valid point of why they shouldn't live together since Statler wasn’t listening to Dempsey's reasons for not living together yet. Statler may need to work on pumping the breaks and listen to what others have to say & respect that rather than jump into what she wants & assume others will give her what she wants without asking. Dempsey maybe needs to work on not holding people's past or their mistakes constantly over the person's head.

[@kimberlybenton1286]

I think Slater is on the spectrum

[@donnawentz2221]

@kimberlybenton1286-She said she has ADHD but she also seems autistic.

[@shihtzuluvrtwo6386]

Interesting that Statler questioned Dempsey about cheating while in Thailand, yet Statler cheated! Projection of a Narcissist. Dempsey is a sweet young Lady with a good head on her shoulders, Statler is insecure and neurotic and demanding.

[@carolwoodruff7990]

maybe its a one way street here. statler is desperate and dempsey is not. thats why dempsey wants statler to live seperately. i would send statler home packing. move on dempsey you are worth more than that

[@saradigota7201]

stippy and dummy

[@lourdesespinosa4940]

I LOVE DEMPSEY

[@crissysmart]

Statler is a snake

[@kimberlybenton1286]

Finally a women not willing to just accept someones BS on national tv all these roxic relationships on this show nd ones like it women always seem so desperate the love me love me syndrome it really just shows so much insecurities and being gay that joke on hoe do you know its a lesbians 2nd date because the uhaul is in the driveway is no joke happened to me and ws horrible experience financially emotionally broke me 💔 Dempsey is a gem and has her stuff together

[@bulk2win]

Just ask yourself will you stay forever with a person that is all over the place you can have anyone what is special about her aside from her mental i issues

[@daromamargret1643]

They are endgame. I'm rooting for love only.

[@GrigoriyNoviko]

They both hawt 😊