Tan France in Conversation with Antoni Porowski

“Each of us is living our own private journey,” says Tan France, one of the stars of Netflix’s overnight sensation Queer Eye.
“The more we know about each other, the healthier and happier the world will be.” True to his word, Tan’s new memoir-heartfelt, funny, touching-tells Tans own origin story for the first time: what it was like to grow up gay in a traditional South Asian family as one of the few people of color in South Yorkshire, England. Join him to hear about how he came of age, found his voice and style, and finally came out to his family at the age of 34, revealing he was happily married to the love of his life: a Mormon cowboy from Salt Lake City.
Recorded on June 4, 2019 at 92nd Street Y.
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[@belenluttmer7626]

Antoni looks like he just rolled out of bed in the most glamorous and attractive way possible

[@n.s.2754]

His eyes always look like he never sleeps

[@aubreyklima1368]

The outfit do be lookin like pajamas tho

[@awesomeblaze44]

No matter what he does, he looks more attractive every time XD Gosh swoooooooon

[@mahuexvii]

Hahaha I didn’t even notice what he was wearing until I saw this comment

[@heilapaulino7602]

Strong Bowie vibes!

[@dindayangmanaya]

I need this in a form of podcast, everyday for the rest of my life

[@myrtomylona5286]

I truly do. These two give me life

[@elizabethgutierez5614]

yes please!

[@singer07872007]

100% agree

[@lauragnasc]

YAS

[@nottheone582]

omg yas

[@juni-ok838]

Oh my gosh.. I could hear both of them talking for hoursssss......

[@angelanikki14]

Same! Wish they had a podcast 😆

[@mazvitaselemani]

How is your comment from 4 months ago????

[@123brunasdo]

Wth 4 months ago?

[@margaretkorn5734]

@@angelanikki14 GENIUS

[@francescacastellammare6544]

Watching this was self care, this has been the most productive and well-spent hour of my life. Do yourself a favour and watch this, you won't regret it

[@annewanjiru413]

Every time I watch Tan and Antoni interact my heart sings. They have such a beautiful and pure friendship that just brings me so much joy. Truly the kind of love we all deserve. I could listen to their banter for hours. Plus they are very intelligent and charming. They need to start a podcast together or something.

[@michelleflood7225]

Exactly my thoughts . And tan calls antoni his brother so that’s sweet isn’t it

[@bmillan6010]

So much love and respect for this man. He's drop dead gorgeous, truly handsome. But Not only Tan is incredibly smart and considerate, he leads with so much politiness and at the same time you can feel his charisma, power and firmness in everything he does. He truly acts like a leader and works in way in life by being so honest and open.

[@KeevanNorton]

The fact that Tan was detained so many times just trying to enter the USA is so awful :(

[@AliCatt777]

i know, it makes me so mad. I'm Korean but grew up in the US and the american tsa were SO rude to me. Saying things like, "How do you not know what to put in the bin, do you not know english????" Meanwhile tsa in other countries were extremely nice. I can't imagine being s Asian/middle eastern and dealing with that.

[@edisone1]

They're about as stupid and rude to most everybody; TSA is not known for hiring intelligent people, to say the least.

[@noluso]

@@edisone1 My boss ( Caucasian) told me this enlightening story, everytime he comes back to the US after traveling abroad he is always question about why his place of birth ( Morocco), giving additional screening, asked weirdly by TSA what were your parents doing in Morocco at the time, why don"t you live there anymore etc etc I realized they are either pretty good at their job or pretty stupid.

[@zen_humankind]

Yeah. So blatantly discriminatory; it's disgusting.

[@JekkaG89]

"Marry a nerd" - a round of applause for Tan France everybody!!

[@margaretkorn5734]

Tan: we will take 2 more minutes *Takes 35 more minutes*

[@charlotted1321]

Tantoni = an iconic duo

[@hannahs8355]

Antotan? Hehehe

[@smartibrunette]

The way they look at each other and genuinely listen is such a beautiful friendship to see. Also, the way Tan addresses some of the audience questions and when he wraps up, looks to Antoni in finality and support for his answer. They have such a special friendship.

[@teacupglitterinfested1525]

"Taaaaannnnnyyyyy??????" - Antoni Oh wow

[@teacupglitterinfested1525]

19:14 UUHHHH

[@stephonix616]

“I know if you’re the problem, and I will TELL you!” Oh man, I love you Tan.

[@colamalfoy]

"Oh, is that more cake?" LMAOOO the shaaaaade being spat on this is giving me LIFE

[@bookishnymph8533]

Tan France: the queen of subtle shade throwing. "I'm picturing Johnathan running out here in heels with a baseball bat" "did you at least jerksies on face time" "I just remembered what I asked earlier" LMAO--love it! This is seriously the best thing I've watched all year.

[@beautyofcraft3258]

What is jerksies?

[@imakelonelinessworkforme9120]

@@beautyofcraft3258 I can’t tell if you’re joking or not but it’s jerking off/masturbating if you genuinely don’t know lol

[@theblondosonicshimmertrap]

This is such an underrated and wholesome interview, it's totally worth the time to watch !

[@Alan.Endicott]

Antoni did a very good job managing this conversation. If I'm honest, I've got some fatigue with some of the cast, but I can just imagine having a four-hour conversation over tea with Antoni and Tan.

[@benjaminroman916]

I can imagine having a 4 hour conversation with all of them except Karamo. He's too overpowering in interviews. Conversations are meant to be between 2 or more people. They are not monologues. And is not confident, fierce or empowering to talk over people and make a whole conversation about you. Sorry not sorry to his stans.

[@tenfourten8438]

@@benjaminroman916 I love karamo but lowkey you're kinda right 😬😬😬😬😬

[@Candice7]

Agree 😊😊

[@Janon48]

annascoop it feels like Karamo would talk at you instead of talking with you

[@lexlouk4025]

Bear in mind that scenes are edited, not all of their conversations is shown, but only the deepest findings on both sides. Concluding from people's reaction, they do feel very different about (talking to) Karamo than you guys. Though I also get the impression of a presumptuous, too rash, definite judgement sometimes

[@anastasiapedersen1]

✨TIMESTAMPS ✨ Topics: 3:48: Anything he regretted not putting into the book 5:28: Anything he felt like he overshared/said too much 8:19: Any rules he wants to pass onto his children, as a parent 9:36 and 11:29: Anything he wants to do differently raising his children 13:51: How he came out to his family/ brought up Rob 16:49: First boy he ever had a crush on 18:04: If he ever had unrequited crushes 18:28: Racism in England vs in America 19:35: Rob and Tan's first date 27:43: The retiring at 33 joke 37:00: His book chapter 'Never Forget', 9/11 and islamophobia 39:01 and 41:14: Experiences at airports 42:09: Which celebrity he'd do a makeover for 43:58: If he ever felt concerned going into a show with all-gay cast 45:18: The best/worst aspect of his first-gen immigrant experience 47:04: How he'd recommend being an ally to gay muslims 48:22: What he learned the most about himself while writing the book 49:19: Some of his childhood experiences 51:14: His dancing inspirations 53:34: How to be yourself despite hardship when you're in minorities 54:40: On muslim queer representation 56:17: Easy cheap ways to upgrade a work wardrobe 57:34: Advice for a transitional period in the mid 20s 58:48: On how being comfortable single can help your love life 1:00:34: Where his favourite place in London to get cake is 1:01:42: On how to connect + relate to anti-immigrant people 1:03:38: Final thoughts Sweet/Funny moments: 1:39: Tan's favorite thing about Antoni 9:46: Antoni asking Tan an original question and him being all cute 11:01: I'm gonna say something worse about you so wait for it! 19:17 He thought I was Mexican! 22:18: You know what a lady I am. 24:18: I married a nerd! 27:09: Oh is that cake? 30:30: (Antoni) You're gonna be a great dad. 30:44: (Antoni) The fun Gunkel 31:05: Tan and Antoni at the first day of audition 31:17: Tan's first impression of Antoni 34:00: Inseparable ever since 48:20: Antoni telling Tan 'I love you' after the speech 50:40: Tan's desire to do henna which was 'girly' 50:47: Now I'm free b*tch! 59:49: And I know if you're the problem and I will tell you! 59:55: Antoni and Tan joke about when Tan ever is wrong

[@sirirs1581]

i need more one-on-one conversations between antoni and tan. They truly have such a dynamic friendship and its always so magical to see them together. The best 1 hour I have spent.

[@homehelpheart7440]

Only the very perfect person to interview our Tanny--our Antoni!! When I started the video Oh, I thought so it's an hour long that's a long time. But once I started watching it, time fell away and I just enjoy to the interplay between you and also between you and the audience. You're both such special people. And I just love that tan is so proper and yet will tell a b**** off in a second! LOL Love u both! ❤❤

[@jamiechu7]

Definitely teared up when they were talking about the night they spent 4 hours talking and got to know each other on such a deep level... 🥺😢

[@estopesto2647]

Omg Rob thinking Tan was Mexican 😂👌

[@xandermcn]

They are so funny, besides all the other adorable qualities.

[@artinverted572]

both are so intelligent and charming ✨

[@dblissmn]

These are the two cast members that really make me feel the most validated! Also, "Tan". "Yes, dear?" Made me laugh right at the start. Also a note to Tan -- it isn't just brown parents that are naggy!

[@gracegriffindor9352]

Asian parents. Urg, every damn time

[@Elijahrousseau759]

Jewish parents ughhh haha

[@athenapage5801]

I completely agree about being single for awhile and take time for yourself. You have to know what you want and be truly happy alone before you can be happy with someone else.

[@withalittlehelpfrom3]

It's funny how Tan is so self-conscious about keeping up with the comedians in "Dressing Funny," because he is so hilarious and improvisational in this interview!

[@kangmasprabu3523]

I want Tan's confidence level without hesitation!❤️

[@ashleys1411]

The respect for these well spoken, emotionally intelligent individuals is off the charts. They are my role models - they live their lives with bravery, grace, and acceptance. Bravo to Antoni and Tan!

[@lindaquon4370]

What a powerful statement that Tan made about "Never Forget". Takes guts. Kudos, Tan.

[@QueenofSnarks]

Thank you 92Y for letting them talk and not hurrying them off the stage. This was a joy to watch.

[@ronamorgan3514]

I love that your outfits are colour-coordinated xx

[@BN29monster]

I love the both of them even more after watching this! Wish this is longer, it's not nearly long enough!

[@kellypetrie3055]

I love all of the Fab 5 but these two are my absolute faves - so fun to see them together like this - great interview!

[@maftuna9354]

coming back to this (go to 30:30 ) and rewatching it now that we know that tan and rob are officially expecting their first child is the most emotional thing and i started tearing up and wow i'm just so happy for them

[@anniketimmermans1900]

I love both Tan and Antoni. Actually that goes for all five of them.

[@jikhyunahn2533]

antoni looks like he be in his jammies l adore him and tan

[@ananyachatterjee9883]

I love how genuinely they said I love you to each other in the middle of conversation :)

[@harryisamuggle]

The whole Muslims & never forget part - suffices every Muslim living in US's feelings

[@znycelondon5313]

I literally would sit all night in their company and enjoy a conversation. 🌹❤️🌹

[@FFigueira]

it took me so long to find this bc it was unlisted but I'm so happy this was lovely

[@uuesgirl]

The girl who talked crap about Tan online, for not taking a pic with her when he was being racially profiled, you're not a good person! Also, I love these two. They're just SO genuine and honest. I love their bond with each other, it's really special. I can't get enough of them!

[@anastasiiachepinska8302]

This video is more self-care than entertainment. Wholesome, pleasant, lovely!

[@S04P]

I usually never wanna watch super long videos like this, but I loved this so much all the way through! Could hear these two talk all day! #TANTONI ♥️

[@evaniyathomas]

that one dislike has gotta be a glitch or a homophobe

[@Kirsten_is_cursed10]

Homophobes are human glitches

[@LadySKizo]

Kirsten S. Ooh.. I love that. Homophobes aren’t the only human glitches though lol

[@evaniyathomas]

@@Kirsten_is_cursed10 OMG THEY DEFINITELY ARE

[@aliibilli]

1 hour of tan and antoni? yes please!

[@rukhsarkanwal4574]

I recently found queer eye and then the most awesome person Tan( not to mention that the other members are great and unique too) who happened to be from my community. I am just obsessing over her work and he is such a good story to read. I am so proud of being human. Like yeah!!! Heck yeah!! There is always a way out. Loved this convo. Love from Pakistan. Thank you for writing that book.

[@kangmasprabu3523]

Guncle...Gay Uncle..😍😂 Antoni was funny!

[@vpombovp]

That was a great interview. I’m glad that an out and proud gay Muslim immigrant is giving wonderful advice on how to combat hatred and bigotry. Tan France says that using kindness and understanding as weapons against hate is more effective than fighting hate with hate. I’m sure any true Christian will recognize this as a lesson from Jesus. I’m not surprised; Google the role of Jesus of Nazareth in Islam and prepare for a shock lol

[@Chetan-ix8cs]

Why is this even unlisted!!!! This needs to be out there in public. Such a wholesome 1hour this was

[@mikilai8384]

antoni just put his leg like that the entire time

[@CharlieMouton...]

Fun fact: I’m french and when Antoni said « révision » I was like « what the heck I never heard an american with such a good french accent and then I remembered that he’s canadian, therefore he probably speaks québécois wich is an other form of french. And after listening to this part three times I can confirm he has the accent of a québécois ! And I love this accent, some french people make fun of it because it’s very strong but I find it charming and it suits Antoni’s nice personnality so well.

[@junbh2]

He grew up in Montreal and spoke both French and English as a child as a lot of Montrealers do.

[@estrellarouge]

I loved this conversation. I love their love for each other. It made me smile on my face and in my heart. Thanks lovelies!

[@ginalipkin4849]

What a lovely way to be, lead with Love and Kindness, enjoyed this chat, book sounds good too

[@aeris929]

Ignore me, this is just for me. 31:18

[@richyrich480]

Outwardly I am Tan, but let me tell me I say that inwardly I am a total Antoni 32:10

[@dblissmn]

Also, Thank You Tan for advising to marry nerds! I could use the help.....

[@yaravoss5747]

side note but I LOVE that tan calls someone out for being on their phone (around the 11th minute)

[@joeyritchie469]

why am i crying....? Im such a baby. Im tired. There was just enough touching moments to get me goin

[@inoki7]

Antoni Porowski I am madly in love with you!

[@anz10]

Theres so much to love about him! 😁

[@richardjeffrey8079]

@@anz10 back off! get ur own sandwich.

[@lyrastrseed3343]

@@richardjeffrey8079 lmaoooo

[@rowancoyote8330]

Where is the clapping after the representation comment?? That is SO perfect! Except I think people are asked not to clap till the end?

[@jaydinthomas3595]

50:27 tan speaking about doing his own henna ✨

[@pandatwee]

Antoni totally embodies resting bed face. 🥰

[@deidremauvais7841]

I could listen to them talk all day. I need so much more of this!

[@Jemppu]

Naturally Tan audiobook!

[@sarasantos3392]

Tan NEEDS to do a dating advice podcast and get guests on there

[@kh5709]

All the panels with Tan about his books have been SO WONDERFUL . this is also incredibly good. What I love about all these stories and how Tan tells them, is that he's unabashedly himself, he carries a strong, dominant, vibrant energy that you just feel twirled into. He's incredibly good looking and hot, smart, entertaining, fun, honest. He faced So many hardships and still came out on top. inspirational.

[@abrico.sans.t]

Antoni: Ah "révision" in French I'm French and I juste FUCKING LOVE when Antoni speaks french

[@melissagalvez6563]

Took me over 2 hrs to watch this because I kept replaying every part 😍

[@tanisha4996]

MY GOD I LOVE THESE MEN 😭😭😭😭

[@tiakalasangtam2643]

Omg !!! This 1 hour went like a breeze ...I so love both of them !!!

[@Cfaerify]

I thought aye I'ma watch the first 5 mins.... I'm still here an hour later

[@melaniewren3552]

I could listen to these two talk forever, the friendship and love between them makes me jealous, such a fantastic conversation ♥️

[@LarissaFay]

30:20 - 31:00 Awwwwwwww LOVE IT! 🥰

[@jolene.chaule]

friends that hates each other at first usually stays together the longest lol I seriously believe so

[@danielcastro6035]

One hour long video Me: No way. I'll just check what's this about Me after 1 hour: Just 4 minutes left? WHAT?

[@FractalSpace888]

Literally have watched this 3x just for the serotonin it gives me 🥰

[@Nicky1026]

my brown parents always say revision. I also used to think that trolley was the Punjabi word for shopping cart it was much later I learned it was yet another word in British English that influenced Indians and inadvertently me.

[@PirateWanderer]

That TSA part really hit home for me. Whenever I am traveling with my father, or whenever he travels, he gets pulled away/searched just because he is who he is. Even when our whole family is with him, he gets pulled away for no reason, and it is terrifying.

[@jeanney2878]

I keep coming back to this video when I’m bored lol

[@samakroyd9807]

PLEEEAASSEE sort out this microphone situation I'm begging you

[@michelleflood8220]

We call it revision here in Australia as well by the way tan

[@girllawrin]

Tan talking about long distance makes me so happy. My hubby and I started out with 3 months apart state's away... a month later we were separated by family injury.... another month together and I had to stay somewhere else for a job.... long distance and time apart isn't a deal breaker. Thanks Tan.

[@myrtomylona5286]

I NEED more of this. I love these two and this interview just made me love them even more.

[@titania5825]

i have such a crush on antoni, he’s so so sweet and hilarious

[@TheChrisDemo]

Tantoni is my favorite pair up of the group. Theyre both such sincere, empathetic, intelligent men and their connection truly shows.

[@margaretkorn5734]

Usually its annoying when people say "like" as much as Antoni... But I could literally listen to it all day!

[@Lord_Shmesh_The_Squishy]

I could seriously just listen to these two guys talk for hours. I absolutely love these guys

[@sweetfossil]

the only thing on my mind while watching tan in this video: this might be the most cleverest man ever

[@cascamiddlemiss1167]

"Taaaannnnyyyy!"

[@midnightsoup333]

This is taking me forever to get through because I keep rewinding and replaying haha. Love these guys so much :)

[@lane6963]

They love each other and I love them.

[@onkar2173tiwari]

Okay there’s definitely some sexual tension between these two! 😍

[@nottheone582]

two of the purest sweetest charismatic humans ❤️ love them and could listen for hours

[@bahamutskingdom]

When Tan spoke about being detained.....it hit hard, and it hurt. Tears.....why?

[@TheBlaqb2st]

34:50 "we don't have time" goes on for another 30 minutes. 😂♥️

[@jaeyoonin]

FYI, Tan's dating advice starts from 21:22

[@hoangthuctrang98]

Ughhh i LOVE Tan (and Antoni) even MORE after this wholesomd hour of listening to them speeading WISDOM!

[@avremke24]

Tan, you are fabulous! I'm also from England :) you can't tell you love cake, don't worry about it.

[@damselflew]

Love Tan's laugh so much.

[@ai-man212]

That was truly epic. Felt like 5 non-boring hours.

[@SMAnthonyW]

@33:30 was sooo cute