Queer Eye's Antoni: "I was most comfortable with my body when I was in relationships with women."

In our latest edition of GLAMOUR UNFILTERED Queer Eye's Antoni Porowski opens up to @JoshSmithHosts about how being with men made him more insecure about his body, the lessons he has learnt from therapy and how it's shaped his mental health. Plus Antoni talks about how he never wants to label his sexuality, why the rest of the Queer Eye cast are like 'the brothers he never had,' and his new book 'Antoni in the Kitchen.'
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[@joycep9385]

It's a bit sad that they used this particular quote to serve as click bait when he spends the whole interview talking about getting to a point of finding comfort in one's own skin and not having to label yourself. I'm sure if Antoni saw this, he'd be just as disappointed and felt like the whole point of his messaging was diluted by a quote that misrepresents the interview and was about his head space while insecure. Focus on the empowerment he's trying to precipitate and use one of his more inspiring quotes: "[learned to be] fully comfortable with who I am."

[@brandonhealthcare3046]

Joyce Prepis I agree. At least it got us here and he does such a good job of explaining himself in the video so he shouldn’t be too worried about it aye :)

[@Gam3r5t93]

It gets the clicks. You clicked on it didnt you

[@meaganleigh8577]

This was my thought exactly and you articulated it perfectly! Thanks!

[@user-sv3po6we3e]

say it again for the people in the back

[@brynawaldman5790]

But this is the nature of youtube titles It is the nature of all big business; to use manipulation to draw you in so you "buy" their "product." In the case of media the buyers are the advertisers, who won't pay a station unless ratings are high. So just by watching a clip youtube keeps their advertisers. It is the nature of all mainstream media. It is this dynamic that has empowered Trump cultists to call all news "fake." The news really does make profit their highest priority, unless you watch alternative media, and even then a business has to make some money just to continue to exist. So; get used to it. Unless we make laws that require absolute accuracy in any kind of news-like expression this is impossible to regulate without modifying our constitution and our first amendment rights of free speech. Free speech means it's usually not illegal to lie. (Myself; I would like to see youtube, twitter, google, amazon, and facebook to be busted by our anti-monopoly laws; but technilogical communications weren't on the radar when those laws busted big corporations in the past. How could the unions of the late 1800s up till the depression possibly foresee technilogical mass media? They could not.)

[@amyclaire3873]

Antoni: I would call myself fluid. All women: So there's a chance? 😂😂

[@Sare787]

The title of the vid is just the greatest clickbait for it.

[@lllllav]

SCREAMNING 😂😂 I thought the same thing

[@TheJazzy1980]

me 👋 😂

[@noramuldowney1286]

Haha

[@iposmosan]

i feel called out and super guilty and i don't even care because he's so yummy like a bowl of greek yoghurt with nuts and honey in it bye.

[@nikksterr627]

I love that when he feels like trash he eats well, and when he feels great he smashes a burger. What a way to live ❤️

[@Ram-Fighter]

I would've used so much weight that way

[@koffz-nl2118]

I think this is more revealing than one mightt see when hearing it for the first time. It tells you something about his character and nature.

[@zeddy2284]

@faridah hanum dam who

[@r0sebud91]

I had never thought how LGBTQ+ people would compare themselves with their partners bodies. That’s such an eye opening thought. Where you are constantly degrading yourself because of your partner and how that can seriously mess you up. I love that he can give himself that self care that he needs because he deserves it

[@MM-dq2pi]

yeah, me neither

[@Largestina]

I think it's more complex than just feeling more self conscious because there's a more direct comparison with you. I've heard more women would say they feel more comfortable and confident in their body when they're in relationships or intimate with other women compared to with men. There's a lot of different things that can factor in.

[@emily2254]

I think it heavily depends on the person. I absolutely feel better about my body when I'm with women, but my fiance said she used to feel self conscious because she compared herself to me. But we both agree that we feel less shameful and less pressure about our bodies- especially things like hair and periods- when we're with women, probably because other women understand our bodies.

[@humanormachine2936]

I'm a woman in a relationship with another female bodied person. I absolutely compare my body to hers and sometimes it does really get to me. But overall, I feel much more comfortable with her than with men, or at least the men I've been with. Men haven't hesitated to make their opinions known about my appearance, good and bad.

[@sakuraitonen5886]

Well, not everyone of the LGBTQ+ community will compare themselves to their partners. I never had. 😊

[@sophiewong9588]

I love when antoni’s voice breaks/squeals when he gets intense talking about something Hahahaha

[@twolf9376]

Hes so adorable when he goes high pitch

[@MM-dq2pi]

like Sheldon Cooper lol

[@jinyhan4978]

Actually hes cute all the time haha

[@josepha133]

It feels so reassuring to me that he experiences sexuality in the same fluid way as me, because I feel so alone in feeling unable to identify with any of the labels.

[@carly8526]

Sometimes it can feel like more and more labels come out to cover every feeling which is great but when you STILL feel like you don’t fit it’s almost like drowning. No matter how you might feel or how you end up building experiences off of those feelings just know that you can just be you at the end of the day and your name is the only real label that matters. ❤️

[@josepha133]

Carly thank you ❤️❤️❤️

[@josepha133]

Josue2018 I think that’s exactly the part that’s confusing me. I think I’m "functional" with a guy if I really like him as a person, but it just doesn’t feel the same. But then I’m left wondering if that’s "enough" to call it bisexual or pansexual or whatever or not?

[@carlystrang5101]

@Josue2018 That's really not true. Your statement is bi-phobic. From my persepective I can't imagine not falling for someone, just because of who they are: female, male, non-binary, trans, it really doesn't matter. Trying to get my head around someone only liking one gender, is like trying to understand the physics of baryonic dark matter. Your experience is just that YOURS.

[@carlystrang5101]

@@josepha133 Call yourself whatever you like :) Or don't, it's your own business. And ignore the "functional" bs, it's an awful statement that has been used in awful situations. If you are in love with someone you make it work. There are folks that don't have sex at all in romantic relationships, asexual romantics, and that is normal and healthy for them. The important thing is having healthy relationships, be that with someone you just want to cuddle forever, or bump uglies with.

[@roxana5490]

"If you're not practicing self-acceptance, then I don't know if you really know who you are"

[@jackfordon5532]

TBH don't really agree with that statement.

[@roxana5490]

@@jackfordon5532 Why's that?

[@perfumaphilia3246]

He's always so genuine and candid. I love how he speaks so openly about mental health. End the stigma!

[@joeagger]

I know he goes further in depth in this interview, but I must echo the title: as a bi guy, being in relationships with women and non-binary ppl brings me so much more comfort with my body. this doesn't mean I'm not attracted to dudes still. it's just that every person who has ever complained about my chest hair has been a man lol

[@dramatischegestalten]

I feel the same as a bisexual woman. Women that were interested never shamed me about my height/weight or anything else...

[@Gagoum17]

It must be something about the male gaze... I find the same too, much more body secure in relationships with women and non binary afab people than with men

[@dramatischegestalten]

@@Gagoum17 or that multiple men have told me awful things about my body and women havent xD

[@animalcrackers8880]

Ladies mostly just want to find a decent dude 😅 almost all guys I've dated have been blah looking. But their personalities are my type so I overlook it. I find most of my female friends having similar experiences, meanwhile guys who've been interested in me, half the time they've pick on my looks,clothes, hair,etc.

[@perfumaphilia3246]

I'm so sorry! I'm a female, but I've had the same experience. Men seem very comfortable openly expressing their negative opinions about other people's bodies/attractiveness level. I can't believe some of the things that men have said to me, whereas other women have always built me up and focused on what they like about my appearance, if they mention it at all.

[@Candice7]

They should have been given him a Corgi to cuddle with in this interview lol

[@jasg.]

My ex got me to watch this show (great girl, great taste hehe) and I liked this dude a lot for the way he carried himself. Good looking guy too, but wow what an eye-opener. Never thought about how tough it would be to compare myself, 1:1, anatomically or aesthetically to my other half! All the women I've been with couldn't really tell the difference between myself and those only I and a few of my male friends would truly know the structural, muscular difference of. I will make sure I'm more conscious/empathetic of this.

[@bookishnymph8533]

"If I walk into a room and see someone who's sad, I take on their feelings." My dear, sweet Antoni, that means you have HSP-empathic abilities. I'm HSP-empath, and walking into a room can really make or break your day by the emotions in that room. Meditation really does help this. You are so genuine and sweet, please don't change! 😊

[@Lil08103]

this is a tricky one. it can be a sign of empathy. but it can also be maladaptive responses to unprocessed trauma.

[@its_msk]

HSP is more common than people think

[@bookishnymph8533]

@@its_msk Yes, it is. 😊

[@dauser4]

or maybe he's codependant which is not a good thing

[@bananabrain2996]

There's a lot of things it could be tbh

[@holasarrita]

Antoni is so real and genuine. He’s a gem.

[@thatpiscesgal]

I don't know how the interviewer was able to breathe around Antoni.. I would be passed out because of his beautifulness

[@aaishasair790]

The way he says women just feels so respectful and it’s so nice

[@judekeefe6852]

100% of that 60% !!! such an important strategy

[@yonad4674]

OMG Yessss.🤗

[@hollyken3]

I love this representation of how labels can be great, but they're not necessary and they're not for everyone

[@dama_shares]

Watching Antoni is hypnotizing in the most refreshing way. The intelligence, the widow's peak at the hairline, the depth of his eyes and the upturn on the right side his upper lip. What a beautiful human being. Although he's an original...the bassist, John Taylor, of the British 80s musical sensation Duran Duran comes to mind when I look at Antoni. Yet, Antoni is fine in his very own right.

[@GadgetsGearCoffee]

On a technical side, the light pink backdrop isn't the most flattering for their skin tone? I find it's tone on tone and they kind of blend with the background

[@lolamar6064]

He is so well spoken and so chill, love him

[@MiracleWinchester]

What a way to title a video like you didn't even listen to him. 🙄

[@MegzGMissMeganne]

Give him his own show

[@xxrowtrave23xx]

I love how he is both different and relatetable at the same time

[@emmiga]

His point about self care is so important, especially these days where everyone uses this whole love yourself mentality to mask their narcissism and carelessly acts on their selfish urges. Yes, it's ok to strive happiness, but be sensible. People focus too on themselves these days.

[@antoniogloria8223]

I liked how he talked about comparing his body to guys he’s been in a relationship with, I never really thought about that, I’m 19yo and I’m interested in guys of all ages but I’ve only dated guys older then me, like OLDER then me. And the more I think about it, I can’t help but feel like it’s truly because I’m scared to see someone else’s body around my age. I’m afraid to feel even more insecure. I don’t want see a body I don’t have or see something different. For me when I’m with older guys I’m like well their older of course I don’t look like them and that’s okay but being with someone my age absolutely terrifies me.

[@teacupglitterinfested1525]

Antoni is so precious to me I CANT

[@Reddyeforty]

So sad to hear his struggle with being Polish. The long/weird name is relatable.

[@PHlophe]

well that's because the hierarchy of names puts anglo names at the top. its the tiniest of the struggles.

[@lisalisa4832]

In Virginia, not in Canada...

[@erintriesyoutube4619]

Such a wonderful person 😀 wish we could be friends

[@alexandraleever9772]

I don't know why but the way he looks in this interview reminded me of Christian Bale for a minute

[@Hnzuu]

It's his mouth. Also his hair a bit. He reminds me of young Christian Bale as Teddy in Little Women. 🥰

[@renata_144]

Christian Bale and John Mayer’s love child

[@Tonydev7]

Both boys who look like they haven’t slept in weeks.

[@Khymeira]

Yes. He did an American Psycho parody.

[@GabrielBaggiio]

he often looks like christian bale to me

[@gerardinecizmar]

For someone who's become so successful, he's still humble and sweet. Now he just needs to come out with a book called Antoni In The Bedroom.

[@sambokez]

This was a really good interview. Great job by the interviewer he asked good questions and actually gave Antoni the time to speak.

[@superyon5737]

He’s such a beautiful person inside and out 🥺

[@aliibilli]

I feel the exact same way about my sexuality and its so comforting to know that other people this so too.

[@hrddrvto]

I'd like to listen to Maggie Rogers and light some candles and chill out with Antoni any day. (But he'd have to be in charge of the food because I can't cook very well)

[@kellyv6075]

Wow I identify with SO much that he's saying. The food, the body stuff, the family stuff, how he loves people, the existentialism. Love you Antoni. I wish I knew you

[@christophersokolowski]

i love how he just yells his first 3 answers

[@PHlophe]

my BIL 's name is actually krzysztof Sokolowski , what a coincidence , we call him Sokosoko, he is from Gdansk , you've got to be a relative from abroad.The name is not that common it appears.

[@alext7500]

@@PHlophe it is a common surname, even in Russia. It means "falcon".

[@agstinacueva1673]

The way he explains it is the best and most freeing way to enjoy sexuality and relationships

[@roxana5490]

Such a wise man. I love how introspective he is

[@lizzierrussell]

So Pisces it hurts

[@thatpiscesgal]

too true

[@WickedWolverine]

dude, yes right

[@reginagerrits3598]

Wth, how is this possible to pinpoint personalities to an astrological sign so accurately? I don’t believe in astrology but I am a Pisces, too, and I have the exact same mindset, beliefs and even mannerisms as Antoni. At least from what he shows in Interviews. Or is this because people are all quite similar?

[@WickedWolverine]

@@reginagerrits3598 the astrological chart is an extremely detailed and layered system of information. People share mannerisms, features etc in varying degrees for sure but every chart is unique.

[@Camila28]

OMG I did not know he was a Pisces until this minute. Life changed...hahaha March 8th ovah here.

[@roxxylala26]

When I heard him talk about being sad long after taking on that from someone in the room, I said he's got to be a Pisces and sure enough after looking his birthday March 14..he's definitely a Pisces.

[@lainalouisa7806]

when antoni says trick tricky my hearts goes 💘💕💖💗💞💗❣️☪️💖💕💓💔💔💔💞💘💓💕💗❣️💔☪️💔💗

[@AisheKaise]

He's so soft...love you Antoni! Your passion for food and Corgis always makes me laugh and feel joy! 💙💚

[@kaymaceachern]

This was such a great freaking interview. I love Antoni so much more now, what a guy! Though I do think the title of the video is very clickbaity and doesn't accurately represent the most significant parts of the video..

[@_missmarissa_]

Kayla MacEachern you should check out jonathan van ness’s podcast “ getting curious” antoni was on an episode and you learn a lot about him!!

[@cindyvdl6135]

Antoni is so open. Thank you hun. Youre fantastic💗

[@d.e.t4147]

I resonate with Antoni on such a large scale. It’s refreshing to hear someone else articulate my feeling probably better than I could.

[@Vishnu6]

One of the best interviews with him

[@kirstyw14]

Josh is a great interviewer and Antoni is so sweet and open. Fellow HSP! 👋

[@lola1987fudgeyouu]

This was such an honest beautiful interview🤗🤗

[@batirtzeurkiaga4973]

This guy is the real deal. 💌💌💌💌💌💌

[@elizabethkelsey8087]

I’m a fellow pisces like Antoni and feel a lot of what he’s saying, esp when he talked about feeling emotions intensely and for a long time. Meditation has helped me to not dwell and to let go. I appreciate him talking about his struggles with confidence too. I wish him the best, he’s such a beautiful human being!

[@jelatinosa]

I love his answer at 5:10. That's how I feel about all the boxes and titles people feel like they have to put themselves and others in. It's always been strange to me, and although it can be helpful to a point, it seems like it can very harmful, especially because people take it too seriously, define them too rigidly.

[@lightawake]

Woah the electricity between the two. Plus some of the best interview content and life advice...thank you :)

[@galev3955]

This guys seems to be so wholesome and genuine.

[@magatrevino5269]

great interviewer ! and lovely interview as a whole :D

[@jamesjuarez1252]

We may never meet, but we'd be besties! You are AMAZING. Thank you for being so open and honest with us. Love ya!

[@cayceef252]

For me finding out I liked girls did the direct opposite. It helped me see that all the small things I picked myself apart for are things I either don't pay attention to when meeting women or adore the most when I come to see them.

[@oliveira_valeria]

I know we all gush about how he is handsome and etc but I love how cute and N I C E he is. He is inspiring and honest, it's always a delight to hear him speaking.

[@growingwithem]

This interview is lovely, it helped me a lot. Thank you so much 🙏

[@sagecrops7368]

Whay a misleading title, watch the entire interview people, don’t jump into assumptions

[@laurfromthegrove]

I really needed this!

[@MM-dq2pi]

great interview!

[@julias3162]

I love love love his laugh and his pitched voice ❤

[@elisanobody]

Such an amazing human ❤️

[@annelisedugas]

Just for everybody’s sake 4:55 is the cutest part 😆

[@KosodkaLimited]

Antoni king of the birds

[@laurahigson8192]

I GET THAT REFERENCE :D

[@kuraisaurus]

SQUA

[@annepilgaardchristensen738]

I love Antoni and everything about him omg

[@karolejnaa13]

His existence makes me proud to be polish :''')

[@user-yf6hb8oj7w]

yes!

[@cannoliluvr]

Same!!!

[@etoiledelamer_______1535]

I honestly could not love this human more.

[@rosemarygilman8718]

Wonderful! I love Antoni! What a good person he is. Thank you!

[@itsallaboutya]

Im literally in love with Antoni

[@harlequin5664]

food being the one thing to connect the family, that hits deep

[@dp9828]

He's really relatable - Id love to be able to talk with him

[@Slappys]

Lol this clickbait title is so funny to me! Are we supposed to be surprised he’s talking about being with women? Everybody already knew that. You didn’t have to try so hard. You already had Antoni in the thumbnail. We were gonna watch anyway. 😂

[@iisa8342]

Loved the interviewer!

[@kubby6129]

Well when you’re with a woman their body type is completely different and expected to be so. When you’re with a man, you both have to compete for the “ideal look” for a body. I still prefer to be with men though :)

[@Nynke_K]

Yeah, but nobody should compete like that! It makes total sense that many people would though, what with all the societal pressures on our bodies.

[@drys3136]

I don't think it's just about competition, it's that resembling the thing you're attracted to makes you much more aware of your own body. Especially if you don't think you live up to that other person or ideal

[@kubby6129]

J P I 100% appreciate this comment. Great additional thought

[@lb8141]

He is so lovely.

[@eileenmulhall218]

Plus the end smolder is everything.

[@joystudiokimmayberry]

Yes! I feel the future is fluid too

[@brandonhealthcare3046]

Loved this. Subscribed

[@UntangledCoaching]

100% of the 60% - love this!!

[@chelsboo]

I relate with antoni the most when it comes to sexuality

[@beko____]

Great episode.

[@arxsyn]

I had no idea he is/was Canadian! all the sudden he got even more appealing ha

[@q.8965]

How does this not have more views? It's ANTONI!

[@amyjager4936]

I wish we talked more about his cook book and inspiration for the recipes rather than his sexuality.

[@imogensears9326]

I love how his voice jumps around. The mic can barely handle it

[@victoriaruiz4672]

He's so handsome

[@scorsesesgirl]

I feel like he's so tired, this poor baby chick

[@vanessahanns3211]

scorsesesgirl I agree! I’ve been worried about the dark circles under his eyes for a while. I don’t think he had them season 1! 😔

[@marissagurney5285]

@Vanessa Hanns Dark circles are genetic for some people. Antoni has spoken about this before. I will admit that he does seem drained though.

[@hwwh8145]

@@hammerheaddummyface this comment is so snarky and insensitive, yikes

[@eileenmulhall218]

The tomato, peach recipe is delicious. I imagine that the recipe with it’s variation is delicious.

[@dominiqueeden]

The cabbage an essential part of Polish culture? 😂💙

[@LaraDorren1]

Yeah, in fact the cabbage are essential to Polish day-to-day cuisine ☺️🥦🥒🥕

[@L0veepanicc]

he's slightly reaching to victimize himself imo

[@noanastasia222]

@you're arrested for first-degree clownery luv I don't think you know much about Polish food. Plus, in many ways Polish food is similar to German, only better.

[@noanastasia222]

@you're arrested for first-degree clownery luv In general, Eastern European food is considered much tastier than German, which doesn't have a very high opinion in Europe. Schnitzel is really a Viennese cuisine not German and Vienna food has always had a strong foreign influence because Austrian Empire was so multiethnic.

[@npiontek]

@you're arrested for first-degree clownery luv What are you on about? I live in the UK but I am German with Polish heritage. And guess what, I go to Polish shops here to get some of my German cravings fixed. There are differences, yes but cabbage, Sauerkraut, potatoes etc. are identical. Even some of the sweets. So stop hating on yourself. Just for good measure, I'll have some Sauerkraut.

[@MM-dq2pi]

nice one Josh

[@KristineMaitland]

Points to the @JoshSmithHosts for the interview. Good questions and dialogue.

[@LauriXjane]

I....have....such a huge crush on you...beautiful to hear Antoni is fluid, it is the future.

[@angie4755]

That's because he is literal perfection! 😛

[@princesssolo1197]

He’s beautiful

[@samanthabrigida2499]

I have never related to something more in elementary school, I would never ask to go to the bathroom.but now I do but I still put myself in discomfort but not that way anymore

[@vanshikathakur]

Love him ❤️

[@Sentientmatter8]

Yes! Polish represent! 😍

[@emilybeaulieu999]

He is so beautiful